Kelly resonates because she almost doesn’t seem like a celebrity in a sense that you can connect soo much with her. She doesn’t sugarcoat her experiences and I love that.
After my marriage and divorce, freedom felt so good I didn't want to get married again OR have a domestic partner. 20 years happily single and counting. Go Kelly!
Kelly is one of the most amazing human beings on the planet. And the fact she didn't trash talk her ex is really amazing as well. Most people stay victimizing themselves. I know she will find true love because she is a walking example of it
Chris Lmx, that is not her style, just because he wasn't there when she spoke about him, doesn't mean she hasn't said what she felt to his face. Kelly doesn't seem to be a backstabber.
Kelly is a great person and she has a great career. Not everyone has a wonderful career for what ever reason. Some people only have themselves, and struggle in a system that gets harder to deal with.
I think the settlement is ridiculous. As a man does he even work? Since it’s joint custody and both parenting equally, shouldn’t he be forking out some form of payment? If the man is asking for equality I really do not see it here. I cannot understand American legal system
He was a talent manager and actually used to be Blake Shelton's manager (Blake fired him even though he knew his manager longer than he knew Kelly). He apparently quit that industry to become a rancher (it's likely no one wanted to hire him because Kelly is the darling of the music industry).
Like I told my niece when she got divorced, "Your children are worth everything you had to put up with." Because she knew her ex would make trouble for her, she has chosen to remain single until her children are adults. Which is in just another couple of years. Her oldest is 16 now, and can drive herself and her sibling to their dad's house and back. He has always trashed my niece, and our family, trying to turn the kids against us, but we don't talk about him at all, unless the kids bring him up, and even then, we don't say anything bad about him. We gave them a space free of the drama. So, they rolled their eyes whenever their dad claimed they told him BS about their Mom, and never let him turn them against their Mom or us.
I did tell my niece once her father "wasn't ready to leave his mama yet" when she was about 5, which in retrospect probably wasn't the most generous thing I could have said, but he hasn't called yet, and she was 5 in 1998....
@@KittyKittyBangBang249 - Thank you. Yes. The children need a safe place free of the drama. Doing that will show them that the trouble making parent isn't the one to put your trust in.
Been divorced twice and been single for more than 20yrs and I never thought I can live alone but oh gf, I love it and getting stronger it's amazing...best wishes to ya!!!
Dating in today's world is perilous anyway. Unless you find a man or woman from God like my mother did, I think if I were to lose a husband, through death, because I don't believe in divorce, I'd rather stay single forever
Hate to say it but the divorce for my parents was the happiest day of my life. But, I never thought my parents belonged together. So it was different for me.
I mean, just wow! Coming from a divorced family as well, I WISH more people would prioritize their kids like this and say; I'd rather just be alone (not lonely, just alone) and focus on giving my children the best I can give them to heal this - and NOT bring another step parent or step siblings into this still open wound. I can honestly say that the best thing for my parents was the decision to divorce. However, that doesn't take away from the fact that you grow up feeling like you've missed some part of your life, not being with both of your parents growing up. At least that's how it was for me.
One of my friends told her fiance she wouldn't marry him till her kids were grown but she would be his farm manager. She told him as his employee, he would have no right over how she spent her money raising her kids, and she'd never allow him to think he could tell them how to act. As soon as they were grown and on their own, she married him. But it wasn't going to be "his money" as long as it was "her kids."
If I your friend's fiance, I would've dumped her. If she truly loved him, she wouldn't care if the kids were grown. She sounds like she thought of herself first! That marriage won't last
I felt the same way as Kelly about remarrying after my divorce. I was content to be single and couldn't imagine getting married again. Then I met my fiance and can't imagine not been with him for the rest of our lives. Kelly will meet the right person eventually and have her happily ever after.
This is one of the many things that I love about Kelly Clarkson. She’s the real deal. She’s open and transparent and truthful. Divorce rips your heart out, you think put going to die and it’s worse than a death in the family. Everything she’s just described is so true. I’m praying for Kelly that she finds peace.
I was in an abusive marriage that I was able to escape from after nine years with my son. It was hard because so many people felt like I shouldn’t be upset because I got us out. But, I needed to grieve for what it was before things went bad. When we were first together he was sober, and the first man I ever really loved. It was later that the drinking and abuse started. I grieved the man I thought he was. It was hard going through a situation where it wasn’t just divorce, but legal matters happened because of the severity of the abuse. Suddenly, I was a single mom to a child with autism, dealing with my own very serious medical situation, and then having to deal with the trauma from the abuse and the testifying in court. It made me feel like I couldn’t trust another man again. He had spent so long telling me I’d lose my son because I’m in intestinal failure and don’t have a lot of help. That was his way to keep me there. So, I lived in fear of every time I had to be at the hospital or leave my son with a sitter. The court gave me sole custody of my son, and he has never paid a dime in support even after he got out. Right now it’s just me, my son, and our dog. And, we are ok. I still worry about babysitters and help if I have to be admitted. But, mostly it’s just me taking care of my little family. I was able to get my son in a school for autism, and proved to myself that I could survive on my own, that I was so much stronger than I was ever given credit for. I believe one day I will be in a healthy relationship again, but for now, I’m happy where I’m at.
Find someone you can make godparent(s) and legally make them next of kin on your medical record. Arrange now that they be custodial guardian whenever you can't be at home. There's a lot you can and should arrange now, and it will ease your mind.
Stay strong stay independent and hold your head high We never realise our strength until we need to use it to stay afloat Be proud of yourself Wishing you all the best 💕
I can totally relate Kelly! You are a strong woman and yes the kids come first!! You are a great mamma bear! Maybe someday love will show up for you again! Never say never!1
She is one of my all time favorite celebrities. I love that she tells it like it is. In a world thats so intent about showing & sharing every aspect of their perfect lives on social media its refreshing to have someone as genuine as Kelly sharing her lower points in life as much as the highs. Shes relatable on a personal level. We all know life is a lot of things, but perfect isnt one of them. I hate that anyone has to endure the lows that all too often life brings us, but by honestly sharing with others ( who maybe experiencing something comparable, past, present or future) it can help others relate & cope with their own situations. One thing for sure it reminds us we are not alone.💟
My 1st husband passed away after a car accident. I was 28 with 3 children 5 & under. I had a long term relationship with someone who was awesome with my children, in 12 yrs he never once raised his voice at one of them. If we had a disagreement he made it clear it would never happen in/around my kids. He did things that imo were unacceptable when in a relationship, bars on the wkend etc & he certainly could hv been a better provider . I stayed bc I knew my children would not be subjected to violence. After 12 yrs we split up. 3 yrs later ( my children all graduated) I remarried. 6 months in , he flipped the script. If I mentioned a man, I was belittled. If I didn't answer the phone ( wtf was i doing?) He picked his adult children over me in a very blatant obvious disrespectful way. He would scream at me until I was crying then out of nowhere 1 of his adult children would appear. It was humiliating. I left after 5 yrs. There were great times in those 5 yrs there were also horrible times. I can't imagine being married again. I thought I knew this person, we'd been friends for 10 yrs b4 dating/marrying. I nvr saw a single red flag until we were married. He hid that part of himself. To this day I'm not sure people would believe mr happy go lucky was verbally and emotionally abusive behind closed doors. It makes you doubt your judgment. You doubt someone's authenticity. No thx I'll stay single .
Same here, lived with him for 3 years and totally changed after marriage. No one would believe what he was like behind closed doors. These types are very good at hiding who they are because they know you would have nothing to do with them otherwise. There is no way of knowing; nothing you could have done; they are that good, that manipulative. Sorry you went through that but we are free now!
@@SunnyCarnivore it changes who you are. Atleast that was my experience. I was a glass half full person. I was the boisterous laughter in a room full of people. It's like it was beat out of me w/o the physical abuse.
@@numbernine3436 I understand this; it happened to me too but I learned something; that this is what they wanted to accomplish. I don't know if it is jealousy or what but this is what they wanted to do to you; whether with you or not. Even after I left, for a long time it was all still in my head as I relived it, all the hurt and fear; they call that PTSD. You might as well still be with them still right, cause they are living rent free in your head? Everytime you think of him, the situation, how he hurt you; switch your thinking. I found i would be in my head about it for awhile by the time I even realized it. I could be doing something else but this was running in my head like a bad computer program. I learned through therapy to catch myself and when I did to switch my thoughts to something else, something from the past of happiness or something of the future where I could see myself being happy. It is not so easy to do in the beginning. I could not think of anything good, everything brought me to sadness but as you do it, it gets easier. The brain during trauma will make a path, a neuropathy, like a path in the woods, as you are forced to go down this path more and more (as the trauma continues) you wear a pathway in your brain and you easily go down that path now; it is trauma, sadness, fear. Now you have to stop going down this well worn path and start another path of happiness, positivity, of goodness but it is hard because it is new and not worn down like the other path, the other pathway is comfortable to you even though it is painful. I still practice this today as I still have trauma from that relationship but it is much better. You will get yourself back, you are still in there. I learned this in therapy and it has really helped me; I hope I explained it well enough. You are still in there, that happy go lucky person. You just had to hide it, he made you hide it because he was so jealous of your shining loving soul but that's who you are and I think this practice will allow you to get back to who you really are; it did me. ❤️
@@SunnyCarnivore so true. Crazy thing is maybe its not crazy I think it may be his conscious. He voluntarily gv me half of his 401k. Pd alimony for years w/o being ordered to. No strings attached. Or maybe it was so I could go back to thinking he wasn't so bad after all. But boy oh boy do I remember .
I love Kelly! She's the most natural, sincere, beautiful soul! Her personality is so humble and gracious. She loves people, and that's what makes her so lovely inside and out. She deserves so much happiness. Wish her well, God bless her and her cute babies 😊 🙏🏻✨️🩷🩷
Or don't marry at all 😮 No good ones came my way. I won't be yoked to an unbeliever or a phoney Christian man and as a woman we are under a man in marriage as unto unto God- so no way. I'll just pray to be a happy single and serve God with all my heart- unless He brings someone- He will make it clear. Peace Maranatha
Had to comment on the settlement incredible just how unfair. Shows how cruel he can be guard those children. He and his dad have shown real people how cruel they are no excuses for their behavior
Divorce can turn someone into a person you never thought they could be! I'm so sorry for everyone who has had to go through it . Noone deserves to feel the pain and stress of it. Especially with kids! I feel for her ❤ I pray she gets through it and becomes even better woman then she already is!
I'm just so so happy that emotionally she is on an 11 right now because she deserves to be so happy! She is such a good person and so insanely talented I love her so much, and will be supporting every side of her career!
Love lost can be feel so disastrous. And then divorce feels like personal failure and rejection. But you are strong and are moving on so much. I admire all the modern parents coparenting so hard! We want certain outcomes but I’m glad you get to mother first with more peace of mind!
My husband and I almost divorced and we separated for a little bit and it was very hard for me and our girls but we got through it and are back together still trying to do our best to work things out. It’s a very scary thing as my parents divorced when I was a teenager and kept getting dragged in their drama but things heal over time. Btw I just want to say, Kelly is absolutely beautiful without makeup!
I feel what you are going thru! There was one time that it had been raining there was mud everywhere and I used to roll in the mud trying to express my pain It was the most horrific challenge I'd been thru since I have become an adult Afterwards I had a breakdown and my oldest daughter had to take care of me Thank you Jesus I am well Tina in Tennessee
Kelly you might be broken but not destroyed no one can take the inner you that makes you the beautiful amazing person you are and you are amazing, beautiful on the outside but most of all that inner beauty that counts the most and makes us what and who we are. You are a strong survivor and like the Phoenix rising from the ashes you are better than ever before and are a shining star and angel to all.
The hardest thing is to see how your partner wants to hurt the other partner. It’s truly amazing how they can change a turnaround of mean. I’m truly sorry Kelly for your pain. You are loved by sooooo many people! They, We, are for you. Our best wishes to you🕊️ 🙋♀️🐶🕊️🙏💙
Sending Kelly love and that the most loving path for healing opens for her (going back to her pain with her Dad). Not any easy process to navigate but necessary for health and life!
@@mitzkitty but time doesn't usually heal. Changing the energetic connections to the emotions and patterns does. That's why people spend years in therapy without making much progress because talking only reinforces pain but doesn't change the associations in the body and brain. When someone knows how to address the energy of emotions and patterns, that's when things heal. That's when people have success unhooking from the trauma and pain instead of just coping with it.
@@JoanneJaworski yes talking has it's place but we have to redo memories sometimes to replace triggers that are day altering. Replacing negative feelings for certain places or memories with more upbuilding ones to draw on.
@@blueseptember2174 often you have to change the emotional energy holding in the body along with beliefs before triggers will change but not always. That's been my experience working in this field.
This was and is a stupid, stupid, and selfish man. I feel horrible saying that because of the kids, but Kelly has a heart of gold. And she’s just a beautiful person. She deserves happiness and love for sure.
She's a smart young lady and a good mama. I love that she's real. God has definitely blessed her with a beautiful voice and she's so beautiful. Now she has two beautiful children and she's right. They're the most important thing in her life. You know, God puts us through things we don't understand sometimes when we're young, but then it makes since later on down the road. My kids grew up having a better life than I did and I'm not talking about money either.
It far from destroyed Kelly. She and her babies will be fine. She is strong and able. My daughter is around her age and is going through it all too ATM. My girl will be fine too. She is loved and knows it.
After my husband died I said I would never remarry or be in a relationship again!…I love my freedom …no asking someone else what they want just have to answer to myself! Yes I grieved for what was but I would not put myself in that position again!
I love her because she’s real. She loves people cares for them. I got divorced 34 years ago and later married the man of my dreams and we have been married 32 years in November. I had two kids and he had two kids now together they are ours not his and hers. If you love your spouse you will love their children.
Kelly , Gwen Stephanie went thru a very hard break up with her children's father Look where she is now! She definitely came out of a bad situation only to be Blessed tenfold with Blake Sheldon.. Kelly anything is possible for you! When you least expect it, God will put the right loving man into your and your children's life Have faith! ❤
Kelly is such a wonderful person. I feel like she's going to meet a really great new man in her future, who's also a wonderful person too. ❤ wishing much love and support to you Kelly! Whether you're single or ready to mingle! 💖
When I heard she was marrying a man that had already had a family I felt that was a flag. Most people get into another relationship without working on thier own stuff and the likelihood of divorce goes up with each new marriage. She deserves happiness but glad to hear she is going to focus on herself and her young kids for now.
If this happened to Kelly, Shakira, Miley, christly Brinkley, Shania, it has kinda happened to me and it can happen to anyone. All I can say, is to always be proactive in your marriage, be present, be aware of every aspect so you’ll never be blindsided by the unthinkable ! Gettin blindsided is the worst !
I do agree.. many times there is one side that has the toughest.. and typically it’s the person that hurts the most is usually the one that has the heart of the relationship… which is Kelly.. you are amazing.. and you will find another maybe someday…it will never be the same but that is okay.. I hope you truly know how you may help so many.
I so admire how she is dealing with this. Coming from divorced parents (long story short...it was b very public as well.).....it was truly traumatic and I still deal with the effects. It almost broke my mother ....the sadness and grief is real and life shattering. I admire the grace and honesty she is showing when she is breaking inside. I pray she gets to the other side with her children to find happiness and peace.
She's not wrong. I'm just a regular person and that's exactly how you feel, the utter failure that you couldn't make something work.. I really wish people knew the reality of how hard divorce is before they got married. They might change there mind.
Kelly, divorce did not destroy you, quite the opposite, it set you free. Now you can make the bacon and decide what to do with it. You are doing well on your own. Trust and believe, you are smart to divorce and you are doing well. You are doing great. Take care, love you
Divorce sucks. Did it once after 28 years. Decided I needed to focus on my mental and physical health, my future. It was a decision many years in the making. My life is better for it.
Kelly when strangers look up to you girl just imagine how much those sweet babies of yours look upto you….. I always find you on the high road Clarkson and the sky is the limit Lady, you go! 😘🇨🇦
I really like the way she thinks I agree with her with not remarring for the sake of the children coz I can relate it's really not a good position to put your children on
Kelly divorce is a horrible situation for women. But one thing is for sure now you have all the responsibility for your childern, till college. I hope they have some contact with their dad. My daughter had very little contact with her dad. Just live with someone, put him out in a little house or just date. After having all that heartache, it is very hard to trust. My stalker, who everyone denies, has hurt me too. This is unacceptable behavior for anyone who thinks they want a real relationship with another person. Thank you for all your kindness.
Yes like a death for sure stay strong. Faith will help nothing fixes it but you do the best you can. Follow. Your gut. do not let other people rip u apart or tear u down. U r doing A perfect job.no one can the your place with those children many people love all of you. Life is not perfect. Stay strong cherish the good times.
Kelly resonates because she almost doesn’t seem like a celebrity in a sense that you can connect soo much with her. She doesn’t sugarcoat her experiences and I love that.
She stayed down to earth.
What a true class act! No posturing for attention, she is who she is and displays that every day! I admire her character so much!
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger....💜
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Stand aliitle Taller ❤
Realest thing said ❤
After my marriage and divorce, freedom felt so good I didn't want to get married again OR have a domestic partner. 20 years happily single and counting. Go Kelly!
Single women are not happy
Happily single too. People ask if I get lonely, and honestly, I don't.
@@rosiered3403 Same!
My dream. Marriage is overrated
Your Cold like your Name
Kelly is a such a strong woman bless her ,and the kids love her voice ,and her standards.
Kelly is one of the most amazing human beings on the planet. And the fact she didn't trash talk her ex is really amazing as well. Most people stay victimizing themselves. I know she will find true love because she is a walking example of it
How do you know that? How many people do you know and do you really know her or just what's shown online.
She has to take a accountability for marrying down. She married a a beta male who needed and relied on her financially and used her.
She bashed her father publicly. He didn't have a platform to defend himself.
Chris Lmx, that is not her style, just because he wasn't there when she spoke about him, doesn't mean she hasn't said what she felt to his face. Kelly doesn't seem to be a backstabber.
Kelly is a great person and she has a great career. Not everyone has a wonderful career for what ever reason. Some people only have themselves, and struggle in a system that gets harder to deal with.
Kelly is a strong, loving woman who hets better in all ways every year. What a talent and gift to the world. ❤❤❤
😢 I hope she knows the substantial love & support that we have for her 🙏🏼
Can I ask why divorce? Did he do something
@@freedom4063 He cheated their entire marriage.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 omggosh
We've always loved her vulnerability and transparency 💕🙏🏾
I think the settlement is ridiculous. As a man does he even work? Since it’s joint custody and both parenting equally, shouldn’t he be forking out some form of payment? If the man is asking for equality I really do not see it here. I cannot understand American legal system
He knew exactly what he was doing, just like his father did to Reba.
He was a talent manager and actually used to be Blake Shelton's manager (Blake fired him even though he knew his manager longer than he knew Kelly). He apparently quit that industry to become a rancher (it's likely no one wanted to hire him because Kelly is the darling of the music industry).
The judge is a terrible
@@victorialopez9717 didn't really fire him he was never license to be a talent manager
@@victorialopez9717 or maybe he just didn't have the best reputation
Like I told my niece when she got divorced, "Your children are worth everything you had to put up with." Because she knew her ex would make trouble for her, she has chosen to remain single until her children are adults. Which is in just another couple of years. Her oldest is 16 now, and can drive herself and her sibling to their dad's house and back. He has always trashed my niece, and our family, trying to turn the kids against us, but we don't talk about him at all, unless the kids bring him up, and even then, we don't say anything bad about him. We gave them a space free of the drama. So, they rolled their eyes whenever their dad claimed they told him BS about their Mom, and never let him turn them against their Mom or us.
That's how to play it. It is frustrating as he'll in the moment, but the silence becomes worth it.
I did tell my niece once her father "wasn't ready to leave his mama yet" when she was about 5, which in retrospect probably wasn't the most generous thing I could have said, but he hasn't called yet, and she was 5 in 1998....
That is the only way to go!! Great job family!
@@KittyKittyBangBang249 - Thank you. Yes. The children need a safe place free of the drama. Doing that will show them that the trouble making parent isn't the one to put your trust in.
Been divorced twice and been single for more than 20yrs and I never thought I can live alone but oh gf, I love it and getting stronger it's amazing...best wishes to ya!!!
Dating in today's world is perilous anyway.
Unless you find a man or woman from God like my mother did, I think if I were to lose a husband, through death, because I don't believe in divorce, I'd rather stay single forever
Your right-divorce is like a death and people do not understand unless they have gone through that.
So true. Been there twice, but God wiped away every tear and turned my sadness into joy.
Hate to say it but the divorce for my parents was the happiest day of my life. But, I never thought my parents belonged together.
So it was different for me.
I mean, just wow! Coming from a divorced family as well, I WISH more people would prioritize their kids like this and say; I'd rather just be alone (not lonely, just alone) and focus on giving my children the best I can give them to heal this - and NOT bring another step parent or step siblings into this still open wound. I can honestly say that the best thing for my parents was the decision to divorce. However, that doesn't take away from the fact that you grow up feeling like you've missed some part of your life, not being with both of your parents growing up. At least that's how it was for me.
One of my friends told her fiance she wouldn't marry him till her kids were grown but she would be his farm manager. She told him as his employee, he would have no right over how she spent her money raising her kids, and she'd never allow him to think he could tell them how to act. As soon as they were grown and on their own, she married him. But it wasn't going to be "his money" as long as it was "her kids."
If I your friend's fiance, I would've dumped her. If she truly loved him, she wouldn't care if the kids were grown. She sounds like she thought of herself first!
That marriage won't last
I felt the same way as Kelly about remarrying after my divorce. I was content to be single and couldn't imagine getting married again. Then I met my fiance and can't imagine not been with him for the rest of our lives. Kelly will meet the right person eventually and have her happily ever after.
It's been over ten years and I'm still single after my divorce..
20+ years after my divorce. Still happily single.
Where’d you find him?
Working on year four and happy as can be. No interest in even trying to look. Happy for you though!
@@BrooklynBaby100 I know, right! The good ones are scarce.
This is one of the many things that I love about Kelly Clarkson. She’s the real deal. She’s open and transparent and truthful. Divorce rips your heart out, you think put going to die and it’s worse than a death in the family. Everything she’s just described is so true. I’m praying for Kelly that she finds peace.
You can't say divorce is worse than death.
I was in an abusive marriage that I was able to escape from after nine years with my son. It was hard because so many people felt like I shouldn’t be upset because I got us out. But, I needed to grieve for what it was before things went bad. When we were first together he was sober, and the first man I ever really loved. It was later that the drinking and abuse started. I grieved the man I thought he was. It was hard going through a situation where it wasn’t just divorce, but legal matters happened because of the severity of the abuse. Suddenly, I was a single mom to a child with autism, dealing with my own very serious medical situation, and then having to deal with the trauma from the abuse and the testifying in court. It made me feel like I couldn’t trust another man again. He had spent so long telling me I’d lose my son because I’m in intestinal failure and don’t have a lot of help. That was his way to keep me there. So, I lived in fear of every time I had to be at the hospital or leave my son with a sitter. The court gave me sole custody of my son, and he has never paid a dime in support even after he got out. Right now it’s just me, my son, and our dog. And, we are ok. I still worry about babysitters and help if I have to be admitted. But, mostly it’s just me taking care of my little family. I was able to get my son in a school for autism, and proved to myself that I could survive on my own, that I was so much stronger than I was ever given credit for. I believe one day I will be in a healthy relationship again, but for now, I’m happy where I’m at.
Find someone you can make godparent(s) and legally make them next of kin on your medical record. Arrange now that they be custodial guardian whenever you can't be at home. There's a lot you can and should arrange now, and it will ease your mind.
Stay strong stay independent and hold your head high
We never realise our strength until we need to use it to stay afloat
Be proud of yourself
Wishing you all the best 💕
Blessings to you and your boy 💙🙏
Havent heard his side of it.. shes famous so she gets the sympathy.. n going public with ur personal life is a huge drama flag
God bless you for telling your story. We are stronger than we know and we only find this out once we step out in faith. God is with us AND for us!
I can totally relate Kelly! You are a strong woman and yes the kids come first!! You are a great mamma bear! Maybe someday love will show up for you again! Never say never!1
She’s so awesome.
Raise your kids first. Your heart is in the right place.
She is one of my all time favorite celebrities. I love that she tells it like it is. In a world thats so intent about showing & sharing every aspect of their perfect lives on social media its refreshing to have someone as genuine as Kelly sharing her lower points in life as much as the highs. Shes relatable on a personal level. We all know life is a lot of things, but perfect isnt one of them.
I hate that anyone has to endure the lows that all too often life brings us, but by honestly sharing with others ( who maybe experiencing something comparable, past, present or future) it can help others relate & cope with their own situations. One thing for sure it reminds us we are not alone.💟
My 1st husband passed away after a car accident. I was 28 with 3 children 5 & under. I had a long term relationship with someone who was awesome with my children, in 12 yrs he never once raised his voice at one of them. If we had a disagreement he made it clear it would never happen in/around my kids. He did things that imo were unacceptable when in a relationship, bars on the wkend etc & he certainly could hv been a better provider . I stayed bc I knew my children would not be subjected to violence.
After 12 yrs we split up. 3 yrs later ( my children all graduated) I remarried. 6 months in , he flipped the script. If I mentioned a man, I was belittled. If I didn't answer the phone ( wtf was i doing?) He picked his adult children over me in a very blatant obvious disrespectful way. He would scream at me until I was crying then out of nowhere 1 of his adult children would appear. It was humiliating. I left after 5 yrs. There were great times in those 5 yrs there were also horrible times. I can't imagine being married again. I thought I knew this person, we'd been friends for 10 yrs b4 dating/marrying. I nvr saw a single red flag until we were married. He hid that part of himself. To this day I'm not sure people would believe mr happy go lucky was verbally and emotionally abusive behind closed doors. It makes you doubt your judgment. You doubt someone's authenticity. No thx I'll stay single .
Thanks for sharing I have also had similar bad times
Same here, lived with him for 3 years and totally changed after marriage. No one would believe what he was like behind closed doors. These types are very good at hiding who they are because they know you would have nothing to do with them otherwise. There is no way of knowing; nothing you could have done; they are that good, that manipulative. Sorry you went through that but we are free now!
@@SunnyCarnivore it changes who you are. Atleast that was my experience. I was a glass half full person. I was the boisterous laughter in a room full of people. It's like it was beat out of me w/o the physical abuse.
@@numbernine3436 I understand this; it happened to me too but I learned something; that this is what they wanted to accomplish. I don't know if it is jealousy or what but this is what they wanted to do to you; whether with you or not. Even after I left, for a long time it was all still in my head as I relived it, all the hurt and fear; they call that PTSD. You might as well still be with them still right, cause they are living rent free in your head? Everytime you think of him, the situation, how he hurt you; switch your thinking. I found i would be in my head about it for awhile by the time I even realized it. I could be doing something else but this was running in my head like a bad computer program. I learned through therapy to catch myself and when I did to switch my thoughts to something else, something from the past of happiness or something of the future where I could see myself being happy. It is not so easy to do in the beginning. I could not think of anything good, everything brought me to sadness but as you do it, it gets easier. The brain during trauma will make a path, a neuropathy, like a path in the woods, as you are forced to go down this path more and more (as the trauma continues) you wear a pathway in your brain and you easily go down that path now; it is trauma, sadness, fear. Now you have to stop going down this well worn path and start another path of happiness, positivity, of goodness but it is hard because it is new and not worn down like the other path, the other pathway is comfortable to you even though it is painful. I still practice this today as I still have trauma from that relationship but it is much better. You will get yourself back, you are still in there. I learned this in therapy and it has really helped me; I hope I explained it well enough. You are still in there, that happy go lucky person. You just had to hide it, he made you hide it because he was so jealous of your shining loving soul but that's who you are and I think this practice will allow you to get back to who you really are; it did me. ❤️
@@SunnyCarnivore so true. Crazy thing is maybe its not crazy I think it may be his conscious. He voluntarily gv me half of his 401k. Pd alimony for years w/o being ordered to. No strings attached. Or maybe it was so I could go back to thinking he wasn't so bad after all. But boy oh boy do I remember .
I love Kelly! She's the most natural, sincere, beautiful soul! Her personality is so humble and gracious. She loves people, and that's what makes her so lovely inside and out. She deserves so much happiness. Wish her well, God bless her and her cute babies 😊 🙏🏻✨️🩷🩷
If you marry the wrong person, it can ruin your life. Choose wisely ❤
So true.I hand on for 26 years and once my kids were grown I couldn’t stay in that marriage any longer.
@@rondanatan6198 I am in your past shoes. 16 years in. My son will barely be 11 this summer. Pray for me 😭😭
Or don't marry at all 😮 No good ones came my way. I won't be yoked to an unbeliever or a phoney Christian man and as a woman we are under a man in marriage as unto unto God- so no way. I'll just pray to be a happy single and serve God with all my heart- unless He brings someone- He will make it clear. Peace Maranatha
@@lisaberchtold2248 you said a whole word 👏
@@blueseptember2174 I appreciate your encouragement. We need to help each other finish strong. Peace my friend
Love Kelly Clarkson! She is so real! And truly genuine!! And she can sang!!❤❤❤
As if her insane talent wasn’t enough she also just so happens to be the most down to earth relatable and REAL celeb there is! ❤
Every time I think I can't love Kelly more...she just Kellys more and I do.
Thanks for being so open. We are all human and you also, are NOT alone. ♥️
She’s a kind human being. A sweetheart
Had to comment on the settlement incredible just how unfair. Shows how cruel he can be guard those children. He and his dad have shown real people how cruel they are no excuses for their behavior
ironic that she wrote Piece by Piece about "how he never asks for money, he loves me". he turned out to try and get every dime he could
Divorce can turn someone into a person you never thought they could be! I'm so sorry for everyone who has had to go through it . Noone deserves to feel the pain and stress of it. Especially with kids! I feel for her ❤ I pray she gets through it and becomes even better woman then she already is!
She asked for it, screw her, always playing victim,
Love you Kelley 🥰🙌🏼stay strong & continue your life with your children. One day the right guy will come around, only if you want
As the person who was served, I was devastated.😢
I love Kelly and I ready to sit and sob and sing to her music
I love Kelly...she's such a beautiful person
She is so honest
I'm just so so happy that emotionally she is on an 11 right now because she deserves to be so happy! She is such a good person and so insanely talented I love her so much, and will be supporting every side of her career!
Love lost can be feel so disastrous. And then divorce feels like personal failure and rejection. But you are strong and are moving on so much. I admire all the modern parents coparenting so hard! We want certain outcomes but I’m glad you get to mother first with more peace of mind!
She has the BEST line on wayfair right now. For people who like a traditional vibe she is killing it.
My husband and I almost divorced and we separated for a little bit and it was very hard for me and our girls but we got through it and are back together still trying to do our best to work things out. It’s a very scary thing as my parents divorced when I was a teenager and kept getting dragged in their drama but things heal over time. Btw I just want to say, Kelly is absolutely beautiful without makeup!
She has such a sweet disposition. Be happy.
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I feel what you are going thru!
There was one time that it had been raining there was mud everywhere and I used to roll in the mud trying to express my pain
It was the most horrific challenge I'd been thru since I have become an adult
Afterwards I had a breakdown and my oldest daughter had to take care of me
Thank you Jesus I am well
Tina in Tennessee
Kelly you might be broken but not destroyed no one can take the inner you that makes you the beautiful amazing person you are and you are amazing, beautiful on the outside but most of all that inner beauty that counts the most and makes us what and who we are. You are a strong survivor and like the Phoenix rising from the ashes you are better than ever before and are a shining star and angel to all.
I wish nothing but the best for Kelly. Much, much love❌⭕️❌⭕️
For me, I never pictured myself walking down the aisle with anyone. 👰 I rather keep my independence and just have friends to hang out with…
Wishing kelly all the best .
I felt for Kelly Clarkson when I first read what she was going through financially with her husband and him stealing her money!!!
💯 agree with her … I myself am taking my time enjoying being single and getting to put myself put together …
I love Kelly. Her music always takes me back!
Putting your children first, what a concept! 👏 👏 👏
Men can be jerks. I’m so sorry she had to deal with that
The hardest thing is to see how your partner wants to hurt the other partner. It’s truly amazing how they can change a turnaround of mean.
I’m truly sorry Kelly for your pain. You are loved by sooooo many people! They, We, are for you. Our best wishes to you🕊️
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I loved this interview/ conversation
She is right, divorce/separation can be awful/feel like death, but glad she moved forward!
Sending Kelly love and that the most loving path for healing opens for her (going back to her pain with her Dad). Not any easy process to navigate but necessary for health and life!
I think that is why she has been more affected by the divorce😢, her issues with her bad father 😢but time heals everything ❤
@@mitzkitty but time doesn't usually heal. Changing the energetic connections to the emotions and patterns does. That's why people spend years in therapy without making much progress because talking only reinforces pain but doesn't change the associations in the body and brain. When someone knows how to address the energy of emotions and patterns, that's when things heal. That's when people have success unhooking from the trauma and pain instead of just coping with it.
@@JoanneJaworski yes talking has it's place but we have to redo memories sometimes to replace triggers that are day altering. Replacing negative feelings for certain places or memories with more upbuilding ones to draw on.
@@mitzkitty unfortunately time doesn’t heal everything for everyone.
@@blueseptember2174 often you have to change the emotional energy holding in the body along with beliefs before triggers will change but not always. That's been my experience working in this field.
I want little more than someone worthy of the best of Kelly Clarkson. I hope she finds the right person for who she is now.
This was and is a stupid, stupid, and selfish man. I feel horrible saying that because of the kids, but Kelly has a heart of gold. And she’s just a beautiful person. She deserves happiness and love for sure.
I agree kids come first
She's a smart young lady and a good mama. I love that she's real. God has definitely blessed her with a beautiful voice and she's so beautiful. Now she has two beautiful children and she's right. They're the most important thing in her life. You know, God puts us through things we don't understand sometimes when we're young, but then it makes since later on down the road. My kids grew up having a better life than I did and I'm not talking about money either.
It far from destroyed Kelly. She and her babies will be fine. She is strong and able. My daughter is around her age and is going through it all too ATM. My girl will be fine too.
She is loved and knows it.
After my husband died I said I would never remarry or be in a relationship again!…I love my freedom …no asking someone else what they want just have to answer to myself! Yes I grieved for what was but I would not put myself in that position again!
I love her because she’s real. She loves people cares for them. I got divorced 34 years ago and later married the man of my dreams and we have been married 32 years in November. I had two kids and he had two kids now together they are ours not his and hers. If you love your spouse you will love their children.
Kelly , Gwen Stephanie went thru a very hard break up with her children's father
Look where she is now! She definitely came out of a bad situation only to be Blessed tenfold with Blake Sheldon..
Kelly anything is possible for you!
When you least expect it, God will put the right loving man into your and your children's life
Have faith! ❤
Kelly is such a wonderful person. I feel like she's going to meet a really great new man in her future, who's also a wonderful person too. ❤ wishing much love and support to you Kelly! Whether you're single or ready to mingle! 💖
Never say never Kelly. I hope she falls in love again and WANTS to get married someday, and that her children love whoever it is , too,
My ex destroyed me. I will never ever get into another relationship.
I love this woman! She is amazing!!!
When I heard she was marrying a man that had already had a family I felt that was a flag. Most people get into another relationship without working on thier own stuff and the likelihood of divorce goes up with each new marriage. She deserves happiness but glad to hear she is going to focus on herself and her young kids for now.
Girl, divorce is the hardest thing I've been through yet!
I'm so glad to see a woman speak about the heartbreak of divorce.
What a nightmare, i hate when people with kids break up or cheat so sad
wow she is so beautiful without a makeup
She's so amazing & a good mom .💜💎💎Kelly 💜
When taking psychology classes in college the three most devastating things in life were #1 death #2 divorce & #3 moving. ❤️☮️🙏
You're not destroyed Kelly,you have yourself and your children.
If this happened to Kelly, Shakira, Miley, christly Brinkley, Shania, it has kinda happened to me and it can happen to anyone. All I can say, is to always be proactive in your marriage, be present, be aware of every aspect so you’ll never be blindsided by the unthinkable ! Gettin blindsided is the worst !
I do agree.. many times there is one side that has the toughest.. and typically it’s the person that hurts the most is usually the one that has the heart of the relationship… which is Kelly.. you are amazing.. and you will find another maybe someday…it will never be the same but that is okay.. I hope you truly know how you may help so many.
I got divorced and honestly I have never been happier.
I so admire how she is dealing with this. Coming from divorced parents (long story short...it was b
very public as well.).....it was truly traumatic and I still deal with the effects. It almost broke my mother ....the sadness and grief is real and life shattering. I admire the grace and honesty she is showing when she is breaking inside. I pray she gets to the other side with her children to find happiness and peace.
Love you Kelly, can’t wait for you new songs and they’re bound to be hits!
She's not wrong. I'm just a regular person and that's exactly how you feel, the utter failure that you couldn't make something work.. I really wish people knew the reality of how hard divorce is before they got married. They might change there mind.
Kelly, divorce did not destroy you, quite the opposite, it set you free. Now you can make the bacon and decide what to do with it. You are doing well on your own. Trust and believe, you are smart to divorce and you are doing well. You are doing great. Take care, love you
She does so well putting on a friendly, smiling face even when she’s hurting inside.
Yep. Like a lot of people do. That's why it's refreshing to hear honesty.
she's just so beautiful without make up IMO
It is like a death. It is the death of a relationship. It really does suck.
Kelly's so cute. I love her personality which makes her beautiful
down to earth Country gal!.... (that's why we love her!)....
She looks beautiful bare faced
You are a wonderful woman and great mom! You deserve something better than this!!
We are just too selfish in this society. So, marriages don't last now a days. That is very sad especially when there's children.
Nah. Marriages lasted back in the day because women didn’t have options.
Divorce sucks. Did it once after 28 years.
Decided I needed to focus on my mental and physical health, my future.
It was a decision many years in the making. My life is better for it.
Love Kelly and wishing her and her kids the best ♥
Kelly when strangers look up to you girl just imagine how much those sweet babies of yours look upto you…..
I always find you on the high road Clarkson and the sky is the limit Lady, you go!
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I really like the way she thinks I agree with her with not remarring for the sake of the children coz I can relate it's really not a good position to put your children on
She's a good person
Brandon is like his father! Kelly is amazing person
Now if Kelly took that money from him you wouldn’t say a word this is why feminism will never be taken seriously because of all the double standards
Kelly divorce is a horrible situation for women. But one thing is for sure now you have all the responsibility for your childern, till college. I hope they have some contact with their dad. My daughter had very little contact with her dad. Just live with someone, put him out in a little house or just date. After having all that heartache, it is very hard to trust. My stalker, who everyone denies, has hurt me too. This is unacceptable behavior for anyone who thinks they want a real relationship with another person. Thank you for all your kindness.
A horrible situation for women? 99% of the time its men getting legally screwed in court. Divorce is a free meal ticket for most women
Yes like a death for sure stay strong. Faith will help nothing fixes it but you do the best you can. Follow. Your gut. do not let other people rip u apart or tear u down. U r doing A perfect job.no one can the your place with those children many people love all of you. Life is not perfect. Stay strong cherish the good times.
Kelly, you are beautiful without makeup!
This was a good interview. I love Angie Mar.
I love her!!
I love her honest.
This was me after a breakup it’s very hard 😑