"Force creates resistance but relationships build autonomy" GOLD 🙏 These parents deserve awards. This is by far the best parenting advice I've ever seen.
This is a message for improvement for our generation, to make things better. Do not need to be like "I wish my parents followed these". In reality they always did the best they can from the information and experiences they had back then, which in comparison is miles better from their previous generation. And that is good, it's a proof of evolution.
Yes, it is evolutionary and parents are really trying their best. I mean look at what they have to work with...education in shambles, jobs won't give you time off, and salaries are abhorrent. The environment just keeps getting worse.
Some parents actually did not do the best they could. Some do not care about thier children. Man, I just can't with humans anymore... everyone acts like they know everything.... billions of ppl living thier own individual life and so many able to say something is THIS way and THATS HOW IT WAS. HOW IT IS.... The only thing we know.... IS NOTHING! HUMANS....... ugh......... I am never surprised anymore...
@@Kathrynlove you avoid giving the rest to the one's who matter the most. Yes not everyone can have your BEST but giving it to coworkers and friends or sometimes even a mistress is the problem. People's grandmother's die alone while they drink at the bar. People's children get ignored while friends get the attention. Even social media gets more attention from children's parents then they do. Give the people that wait at home for your hugs the attention. Your boss won't mourn your death like those little faces will .
Parenting is one of the best management training programs there is. Having a child is like getting a tattoo on your face, so you better be committed. The aim of good parenting is not to raise a child to become a good child. The aim of good parenting is to raise a child to become a good adult 🖖
I think as a person that's watching this video depending on your age you can make changes if you wanted to and if you can. Sometimes it's not all about the parent changing it's also about the child accepting to change too.
That's my goal! My parents never display any sign of affection for me. I know for sure, my dad loves me. He's just a shy guy and had it bad as a child. As for my mum, she's pure evil. Well...I did notice some positive changes in her as she's getting older but I never felt loved by her and never felt I have a mum even if she is still alive. I came to accept this reality and promised I would not be that kind of mum to my future child. I am now 2 months pregnant and I freaking out :D. I just want to be the best mum to the new life inside of me.
@@annkelly8613 I think you will be an amazing mum because you aim to move away from the trauma you experienced as a child and shield yours from growing up that way. That's a very important step to cancel generational trauma. Good luck throughout your pregnancy and parenthood. Kids really do change your outlook on life 😊
My child isn’t my easel to paint on Nor my diamond to polish My child isn’t my trophy to share with the world Nor my badge of honor My child isn’t an idea, an expectation, or a fantasy Nor my reflection or legacy My child isn’t my puppet or a project Nor my striving or desire My child is here to fumble, stumble, try, and cry Learn and mess up Fail and try again Listen to the beat of a drum faint to our adult ears And dance to a song that revels in freedom My task is to step aside Stay in infinite possibility Heal my own wounds Fill my own bucket And let my child fly Shefali Tsabary, PhD
For someone who became a mother at 18 I sure made a lot of mistakes trying to raise my kid with what I want them to be and not allowing them to be who they are, am glad this video has come to my rescue and I really hope it's not too late to fix things 😭. Thanks
Dont be hard on yourself that is every parent and will be for generations we all create some form of mistakes from not knowing & working with what we knew at the time you should be proud for becoming self aware keep it up your doing great keep learning 💜🖤💜
“If another life has chosen to be with you, please cherish that.” ❤️ As someone who has worked with so many youth and adults abandoned by the families they love, wiser words could not be spoken. Parents and guardians who support their children in figuring out what this thing called life is to themselves, not their adults; we need more like this! The assimilation without analysis adults have concreted themselves in is killing each other and the planet!!
I love the comments about how their parents before them should have watched this or done better. Now that you are the expert you can show all the parents before you how great of a parent you are. Watching a few minutes of video is not going to change who we are. Unfortunately many think they have found the answer and can condemn those who came before them. Talk is cheap and parenting can be tough. No rhyme or reason for what can happen in life. I came from an abusive home but I know my parents loved us despite their shortcomings. They had lots of good in them too. It’s now my turn to look in the mirror and try to be better for my daughter. All the best and should anyone come across the parenting manual please send it my way. I have a wonderful 14 year old who is challenging me to be a better parent.
Agreed....there is no point in finger pointing or looking back at how our parents should have raised us. Every era has norms and values of that time. No one can claim to have the best recipe for parenting.....it's about doing our best
Funny you should say that. I think all parents do the best they can with the toolbox they have, either through own personal experience, or even the 'expert' advice of the time, and times change. If you are better than the generation that came before, at least you are heading in a positive direction. Xo
@ExportedImport i'm sorry, I guess the parents in the old days think that they are the king or queen of the house..they have rules and not complying with what they want they punish by hitting or spanking their children..I remember when we were small our parents will hit us with a stick if we do something they didn't like..and say something that really hurts emotionally, I remembered I just cried and even wish them to die😢 but I already ask for forgiveness from God for cursing my parents then...you are not alone...but please look at the brighter side, if you can go away from your parents, do it and strive hard to change your life, remove all the heartaches your parents have caused you, forgive them and move on with your life without them...and when the time comes that you'll have your own kids, treat them well and show them unconditional love...I hope you'll have a bright future ahead. God bless you.
@ExportedImport I'm so sorry to hear that. No one deserves that. I hope you will be able to turn your life around in spite of all that heartache you have experienced from them and endured. My parents aren't perfect too, and if there's one thing I learned, it was to parent myself (be the parent to my own inner child that I wish my parents were to me) and give myself what I needed and the love that I was seeking and looking for since no one else was going to give it or do it for me. Wishing you better days and a beautiful life ahead. Sending you love and light. ♥ 🌈
"Another life doesnt belong to you" then why is abortion legal? By very definition abortion is the act of terminating life for a mother convenience.... =/
Once I was thrown out from the home cz I wanted to stand on my feet and free from being the slave. Now I run my life with all ups and downs yet I am happy.
I'm all for creativity & curiosity from my kids! I struggle with the clean up though. They're never as excited about tidying up after the experiment. Point being, maybe loving parenting is a balance of both order and chaos, teaching & trusting. Bless our efforts 🙏
Parents are the picture of the world when the children comes into it, they learn from their parents every basic value of life which they carry all their life. And what impact they got of their parents speaks their position in the society. It's a Gen gap between a parent and a child but we still can fill that gap with love, pateince, understanding the age, and behaving accordingly with each other.
I had horrible parents, and was a horrible one myself with my oldest. Now that I've had 2 more later in life, I've learned that by explaining things instead of spanking or forcing them, they respond SO much better. My 7 and 8 year old are so smart and well behaved. They're appalled by all the brats around them on a daily basis, and it makes me feel great when they complain about how bad all those other kids are. I'm really proud of myself and them. Everyday I hope to become a better parent so that they'll be perfect ones.
The fact that you acknowledge you weren't a good parent to your first child shows what an introspective person you are. Your kids are lucky to have you
I have so much more patience with my younger boy compared to how I was with my oldest. I'm better now. For sure. But I can't imagine being happy for my child to complain. It's good to acknowledge between right and wrong behavior, I get that. But ultimately people who complain are not happy. Gratefulness is so much more healthy. My son and I were abused for years and we're still recovering, but one thing I can say is that he never complained which would not have helped the situation
Yes l agree that we need to accept each child for the unique blessing that they are and to celebrate this, however if a child is going down the path of destructive and negative behaviour they need guidance to help them find the confidence in themselves to make positive life choices, self love and respect are key from an early age, humans are always a work in process but love must be paramount.🙏
All think like this. But believe me when u become a parent, u respect and luv ur parents more. Cause thats when u realize how tough it has been for them
Relax Jesus, you'll prob end up a shitty parent just like the rest of us. Ppl think its so sad easy to raise kids until you actually do. THAT'S when you realize of terrible you are at doing it and wake up.
One of my boys asked me "Mom, can I use swear words". My response "Of course you can. You make your own choices. If you want others to think you are unintelligent, vulgar and disrespectful, then use swear words." Parents are supposed to give them the guide book not take the wheel.
Yeah, until this child is being unintelligent, obsene, vulgar and disrespectful in the home, around company, in school and out in public; then actually everyone will look at YOU. Yes they make their own choices and its not about taking the wheel, its about parenting and those kids actually having direction and an understanding of consequences, natural and parental from those choices they make.
I feel like that approach is setting your child up for failure. Say they go to school and use swear words the consequences are going to be more than just thinking they’re vulgar. Train a child in the way they should go and when they are older they will not depart from it.
Nah that just sounded sarcastic and some children won't care and say well my mom said I could. It would be better to say, "do you want others to view you as....." and then let him answer
This really just reminded me of why I get anxiety when I hang out with my child and my family. It's really about their idea of how my child should act, knowing very well that I have a very good relationship and understanding of how my child is.... I still fall in the trap of wanting to be accepted by them and for them to see me a good parent. All in all, I say all this to say, that I will do better in advocating for my child when I am with him. He is deserving of the freedom to be accepted just as he is. I love these speakers and am very happy to have heard this on a Sunday Morning. Blessings to everyone watching
I'm a parent on here looking for parenting advice from a genius. I mean if they're smart in every other subject they gotta be smart at parenting as well. Thankfully I'm learning this now while my two children are very young.
Chanakya...the great Indian philosopher... says this about parenting... Adore your child till they are 5 years of age, discipline them from 6-15, once they are 16, treat them like your friend! What an awesome advice! It also coincides with modern science which says most of rapid brain development and character formation happens till age 7...and this advice above gives us two windows...till 5 give your kid your unconditional love...and next 2 years falls under 'discipline' period with utmost impact! How brilliant!
I needed this, as a mother of 2 babies that are still less than a year old. They're at a stage where they're already playing with staffs around the house and I constantly have to remind myself to let them play as longest it's safe.
Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Look to the heart ❤️ of the child look for the good.😊 give him the blessing. Then the child within you 🤔 what you wish your Father would or could have done to you.✨️
Parenting can seem so difficult at times, stressful nonetheless. These tips are simple and logical once we really think about the reasoning behind each of them and their final outcome 🙏
I thought all these 5 things within the past 24 hrs... I can't explain the where's our how's I learned this, but I have. Hearing these from these 5 individuals reinforced the ideas with a refreshing point of view.
Excellent all around.... Judges in the family court system need to internalize this message because they remove fathers wrongfully every single day they are active. Fathers are critical, so many kids living without dads by force of the courts, not absent by choice
This was probably thee best thing I have come across on social media! I watched it, loved it, saved it, shared it, and commented. This is a huge relief, and incredible top drawer material, to have encouraged me to continue on with how and want to be, and raise the child I created. I know they are there own people! And they learn through play, and very experience, is a fundamental tool for there over all well being. To help navigate a whole person. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
There is such a thing as right from wrong that is important to teach to help protect & preserve life. Also certain things they do can bring a positive out come and wrong things they could enter into that is dangerous that definitely do exist in this world that can end their life or cause great suffering.🤷 All make a point but Simon Bailey said it best. Peace.
I don't mind any of this except that as a parent who teaches, leads, directs, guides and supports, promotes and learn from my children (if I had some), I have to share with them what I myself have experienced and learned of life, in life for life, because of life. Telling me that they should become who they are doesn't explain to me as a parent what the world does and how it plays against me allowing that. Which means simply that these very same people may know my children. What *they* say to them, what a 1000 other adults and 50,000 others say to them - what books, quotes, propaganda and false knowledge and worldly wisdom will say to my children will and or highly influence them to become something else other than who they really are. It is my and my wife's work to learn them as they age, to help their mind grows beyond their age. That is the key.
Raising children is like cooking food. You start on high and end on low otherwise you'll spoil the food. At first you enforce rules, regulations and values. Then you let go so that they can implement their own otherwise you will spoil the child and your relationship with the child. We all learn from experience and to prevent exposure to bad values will weaken the resistance to overcome it.
I was the first born, a daughter. Several times my mom said the minute she first saw me she said she wanted another one. After years of mistreatment from her and seeing how she worshiped my brother, it makes me wonder if she wanted another one because she was disappointed she had a baby girl. Unlike my brother, I was an over achiever in school work, developing my talents, and always trying to win her over. Part of the problem was I was a tomboy, and she wanted a Shirley Temple she could control. She died last year at the age of 91, and I feel nothing... No guilt, no sadness, no remorse,... Just a big fat nothing.
@@llkg9 The graph of maturity doesn't go that way,it's always advancing as we mature with age till at a certain age,we are like a village library. Those whose graph go horizontal or zigzag were puppets ,doing copycat parenting.You can even be a good parent even without your own children.
i just realized how toxic my parents are… everytime i was going to ask my dad a math question for my homework he would yell at me and i would say “im sorry father ill ask mom” my mom did the same thing and i had to rely on knowledge i didnt know, this kept happening and i decided to not ask for help anymore because i thought i would get yelled at, hit, or anything negative.. ended up getting a bad grade in math but others were all As and they started asking me “Why did u not get an A? and yelled at me” i was left alone and thought it was normal, this has been happening since second grade
Yelling in response to asking for help is not a normal response. That behavior was toxic. I don’t know if the people (your parents) were defined by this behavior, but I am sorry you had to go through that experience. Do your best, and consider asking for help from a teacher, guidance counselor or tutor. Keep striving!
My 10 year old son wanted to make lemonade. I told him to keep it simple we just use the powder, you can have yellow or pink. He wanted to use real lemons. I told him for that to taste good we will have to add lots of sugar. So let’s just drink the powder lemonade.Not more than two minutes later I hear the loudest scream I’ve ever heard in my life. I ran as fast as I could to the scream. I see the half cut lemon and knife. He tells me I’m sorry, I’m sorry I said don’t be sorry it’s ok, you had to learn this way. But now I have to see your finger. He uncovers his finger, and it’s the tiniest cut, very little blood we both see it and he screams again even louder than the first scream. I gave him the napkin I had in my hand because on my way to the scream I grabbed it knowing what happened. I told him to press this napkin into his finger as hard as he could for 10 seconds. I asked if he could still feel the pain of the open cut, he said No. I told him to remove the napkin and let’s see the cut again. It stopped bleeding and stopped hurting. We put a bandaid on it. Wiped away all the tears and sweat he had all over his face. He says to me, I’m never going to cut another lemon again. I told him next time we make lemonade I’ll show you how to keep your finger away from the path of the knife. He likes the pink lemonade powder the most.
When a human being is born, is born with all potential. One who has observed mind and body capacity from owns childhood to adulthood definitely understands you just need to provide a good environment for the mind and nourishments for the body to the child and at the same time don't take off any genius from him/her because she will eventually meant to blossom. That's all.
I accept my child, but sometimes he makes not so good decisions. We then talk about what we could do next time around. He’s four and he is amazing…the best gift I could ever ask for. I have to be careful with who I share that info with because others have cut him down because I’ve made remarks about him being smart, etc. I found out these same childcare workers grew up in families that didn’t accept them and cut them down. We need to do better for our younger generations.
This video is short, sweet, informational and full of the best advice when we have children. Thank you for this amazing video, by the way, I am curious of your family rules. I need to come up with mine for our family. Thanks again, I am a parent of a tween.
There is no one rule and one recipe. Growing up is like learning to drive. In that process, knowing how you make decisions, the parameters and benchmarks to make those decisions, knowing the body, knowing the mind and knowing who you are. And it's the child's journey. We are here to ensure the child is equipped to take the decisions for themselves. So all we need to provide is for them to analyse any choice and the suitability of that choice for themselves. Sometimes, we may have to share our experiences. But it's our experiences. But a few things are truths that can't be altered, like the presence of God. It's not a dichotomy weather the god is present or not. It's a fact that there is a force that establishes rule for every being to function. And with that knowledge, one has to know certain things whether they are good or bad. And as a fact that can't be changed.
Amazing speakers! Didn’t align with Dr Coulson. I believe we educate and support our children with the skills to know what’s right and then how to make the right choices. Trusting your child to be able to make those choices and being there if they make a wrong choice without judgment is my way. I can’t be there forever to regulate them.
if you look more into Dr Coulson's work, he is actually very in line with what you're saying. I know he mentions rules, but he is definitely not a controlling, authoritarian parent. Quite the opposite
I certainly wished my parents got to watch this video
@Lezerock sorry but you don't understand her comment.
Same
But at least your future children will be grateful that you got to watch the video 💕
I just forwarded my parents the video 😛
So true...💜
"Force creates resistance but relationships build autonomy" GOLD 🙏 These parents deserve awards. This is by far the best parenting advice I've ever seen.
There parents deserve award? Because they tell a story? You easily persuaded 😂
This is a message for improvement for our generation, to make things better. Do not need to be like "I wish my parents followed these". In reality they always did the best they can from the information and experiences they had back then, which in comparison is miles better from their previous generation. And that is good, it's a proof of evolution.
Yes, it is evolutionary and parents are really trying their best. I mean look at what they have to work with...education in shambles, jobs won't give you time off, and salaries are abhorrent. The environment just keeps getting worse.
Some parents actually did not do the best they could. Some do not care about thier children. Man, I just can't with humans anymore... everyone acts like they know everything.... billions of ppl living thier own individual life and so many able to say something is THIS way and THATS HOW IT WAS. HOW IT IS.... The only thing we know.... IS NOTHING! HUMANS....... ugh......... I am never surprised anymore...
“You give others the best of you and give us the rest of you” applies to other relationships as well and is something we should try to avoid
Why avoid that? Not everyone gets my best...I can't give to everyone...
@@Kathrynlove you avoid giving the rest to the one's who matter the most. Yes not everyone can have your BEST but giving it to coworkers and friends or sometimes even a mistress is the problem. People's grandmother's die alone while they drink at the bar. People's children get ignored while friends get the attention. Even social media gets more attention from children's parents then they do. Give the people that wait at home for your hugs the attention. Your boss won't mourn your death like those little faces will .
@@alissahhodges5854 wow. So true
Parenting is one of the best management training programs there is. Having a child is like getting a tattoo on your face, so you better be committed. The aim of good parenting is not to raise a child to become a good child. The aim of good parenting is to raise a child to become a good adult 🖖
Goosebumps!
Exactly.
I tell my kids that… you’re practicing to be an adult 🤔
Morality is and always will be the cure to your "good adults". You want good adults then create selfless children.
Parenting is one of the best management training programs and there is. Having a child is like
@@chyibegbunam incomplete thought? It just kinda was left unfinished.
I doesn't matter if our parents saw this video or not but we can watch this video and treat our children way better than our parents did.
I think as a person that's watching this video depending on your age you can make changes if you wanted to and if you can. Sometimes it's not all about the parent changing it's also about the child accepting to change too.
That's my goal! My parents never display any sign of affection for me. I know for sure, my dad loves me. He's just a shy guy and had it bad as a child. As for my mum, she's pure evil. Well...I did notice some positive changes in her as she's getting older but I never felt loved by her and never felt I have a mum even if she is still alive. I came to accept this reality and promised I would not be that kind of mum to my future child. I am now 2 months pregnant and I freaking out :D. I just want to be the best mum to the new life inside of me.
@@annkelly8613 I think you will be an amazing mum because you aim to move away from the trauma you experienced as a child and shield yours from growing up that way. That's a very important step to cancel generational trauma. Good luck throughout your pregnancy and parenthood. Kids really do change your outlook on life 😊
@@Ashtarot77 Thanks! That's very encouraging and heartwarming. :)
@@Ashtarot77 g.
My child isn’t my easel to paint on
Nor my diamond to polish
My child isn’t my trophy to share with the world
Nor my badge of honor
My child isn’t an idea, an expectation, or a fantasy
Nor my reflection or legacy
My child isn’t my puppet or a project
Nor my striving or desire
My child is here to fumble, stumble, try, and cry
Learn and mess up
Fail and try again
Listen to the beat of a drum faint to our adult ears
And dance to a song that revels in freedom
My task is to step aside
Stay in infinite possibility
Heal my own wounds
Fill my own bucket
And let my child fly
Shefali Tsabary, PhD
this is so beautiful thank you for sharing this with us here 💜
For someone who became a mother at 18 I sure made a lot of mistakes trying to raise my kid with what I want them to be and not allowing them to be who they are, am glad this video has come to my rescue and I really hope it's not too late to fix things 😭. Thanks
Dont be hard on yourself that is every parent and will be for generations we all create some form of mistakes from not knowing & working with what we knew at the time you should be proud for becoming self aware keep it up your doing great keep learning 💜🖤💜
“If another life has chosen to be with you, please cherish that.” ❤️ As someone who has worked with so many youth and adults abandoned by the families they love, wiser words could not be spoken.
Parents and guardians who support their children in figuring out what this thing called life is to themselves, not their adults; we need more like this!
The assimilation without analysis adults have concreted themselves in is killing each other and the planet!!
Parents mold the children like clay.
Be gentle yet firm. Your impact is significant
Yass....children require an invest of our time and attention. I feel strongly the time and attention after 18🤔😊 but that is a topic for another day.
I love the comments about how their parents before them should have watched this or done better. Now that you are the expert you can show all the parents before you how great of a parent you are. Watching a few minutes of video is not going to change who we are. Unfortunately many think they have found the answer and can condemn those who came before them. Talk is cheap and parenting can be tough. No rhyme or reason for what can happen in life. I came from an abusive home but I know my parents loved us despite their shortcomings. They had lots of good in them too. It’s now my turn to look in the mirror and try to be better for my daughter. All the best and should anyone come across the parenting manual please send it my way. I have a wonderful 14 year old who is challenging me to be a better parent.
Agreed....there is no point in finger pointing or looking back at how our parents should have raised us. Every era has norms and values of that time. No one can claim to have the best recipe for parenting.....it's about doing our best
Funny you should say that. I think all parents do the best they can with the toolbox they have, either through own personal experience, or even the 'expert' advice of the time, and times change. If you are better than the generation that came before, at least you are heading in a positive direction. Xo
"another life doesnt belong to you" that hit home
@ExportedImport i'm sorry, I guess the parents in the old days think that they are the king or queen of the house..they have rules and not complying with what they want they punish by hitting or spanking their children..I remember when we were small our parents will hit us with a stick if we do something they didn't like..and say something that really hurts emotionally, I remembered I just cried and even wish them to die😢 but I already ask for forgiveness from God for cursing my parents then...you are not alone...but please look at the brighter side, if you can go away from your parents, do it and strive hard to change your life, remove all the heartaches your parents have caused you, forgive them and move on with your life without them...and when the time comes that you'll have your own kids, treat them well and show them unconditional love...I hope you'll have a bright future ahead. God bless you.
@ExportedImport I'm so sorry to hear that. No one deserves that. I hope you will be able to turn your life around in spite of all that heartache you have experienced from them and endured. My parents aren't perfect too, and if there's one thing I learned, it was to parent myself (be the parent to my own inner child that I wish my parents were to me) and give myself what I needed and the love that I was seeking and looking for since no one else was going to give it or do it for me. Wishing you better days and a beautiful life ahead. Sending you love and light. ♥ 🌈
A child belongs to you until they are of age, they teach you here they are not are bollocks
Lance they do not BELONG to you, they are their own human! We are here to love and guide them, not own them!!
"Another life doesnt belong to you" then why is abortion legal?
By very definition abortion is the act of terminating life for a mother convenience.... =/
Once I was thrown out from the home cz I wanted to stand on my feet and free from being the slave. Now I run my life with all ups and downs yet I am happy.
I'm all for creativity & curiosity from my kids! I struggle with the clean up though. They're never as excited about tidying up after the experiment. Point being, maybe loving parenting is a balance of both order and chaos, teaching & trusting. Bless our efforts 🙏
I totally agree.
Parents are the picture of the world when the children comes into it, they learn from their parents every basic value of life which they carry all their life. And what impact they got of their parents speaks their position in the society. It's a Gen gap between a parent and a child but we still can fill that gap with love, pateince, understanding the age, and behaving accordingly with each other.
Well said thank you
I had horrible parents, and was a horrible one myself with my oldest. Now that I've had 2 more later in life, I've learned that by explaining things instead of spanking or forcing them, they respond SO much better. My 7 and 8 year old are so smart and well behaved. They're appalled by all the brats around them on a daily basis, and it makes me feel great when they complain about how bad all those other kids are. I'm really proud of myself and them. Everyday I hope to become a better parent so that they'll be perfect ones.
I hardly let my kids do there own thing and I am so glad that I am changing now thanks for this video
The fact that you acknowledge you weren't a good parent to your first child shows what an introspective person you are. Your kids are lucky to have you
No one is a perfect parent, but we have to be humble and grow.
I have so much more patience with my younger boy compared to how I was with my oldest. I'm better now. For sure. But I can't imagine being happy for my child to complain. It's good to acknowledge between right and wrong behavior, I get that. But ultimately people who complain are not happy. Gratefulness is so much more healthy. My son and I were abused for years and we're still recovering, but one thing I can say is that he never complained which would not have helped the situation
Honey, no such thing as perfect person, child or parent. We're all at school on this planet. N sometimes learning really hurts us hard.
Yes l agree that we need to accept each child for the unique blessing that they are and to celebrate this, however if a child is going down the path of destructive and negative behaviour they need guidance to help them find the confidence in themselves to make positive life choices, self love and respect are key from an early age, humans are always a work in process but love must be paramount.🙏
That's true
I am going to be the parent I never had. 💔❤️
All think like this. But believe me when u become a parent, u respect and luv ur parents more. Cause thats when u realize how tough it has been for them
Same here. I am a child abuse survivor so breaking the cycle is of immeasurable importance not just for myself and children...but for generations.
@@meghamann1734 Doesn’t matter how tough it is, parents shouldn’t beat their kid until he’s black and blue.
Relax Jesus, you'll prob end up a shitty parent just like the rest of us. Ppl think its so sad easy to raise kids until you actually do.
THAT'S when you realize of terrible you are at doing it and wake up.
One of my boys asked me "Mom, can I use swear words". My response "Of course you can. You make your own choices. If you want others to think you are unintelligent, vulgar and disrespectful, then use swear words." Parents are supposed to give them the guide book not take the wheel.
Love this 💯
Yeah, until this child is being unintelligent, obsene, vulgar and disrespectful in the home, around company, in school and out in public; then actually everyone will look at YOU. Yes they make their own choices and its not about taking the wheel, its about parenting and those kids actually having direction and an understanding of consequences, natural and parental from those choices they make.
Mine would go right ahead anyway. They r 5
I feel like that approach is setting your child up for failure. Say they go to school and use swear words the consequences are going to be more than just thinking they’re vulgar. Train a child in the way they should go and when they are older they will not depart from it.
Nah that just sounded sarcastic and some children won't care and say well my mom said I could. It would be better to say, "do you want others to view you as....." and then let him answer
This really just reminded me of why I get anxiety when I hang out with my child and my family. It's really about their idea of how my child should act, knowing very well that I have a very good relationship and understanding of how my child is.... I still fall in the trap of wanting to be accepted by them and for them to see me a good parent. All in all, I say all this to say, that I will do better in advocating for my child when I am with him. He is deserving of the freedom to be accepted just as he is. I love these speakers and am very happy to have heard this on a Sunday Morning. Blessings to everyone watching
Now I'm starting to love my family's rules coz even tho I don't like it but it mold me to be a good and better person.
90% of parents won't see this video. We need these type of video as TV commercials like seriously😓
I'm a parent on here looking for parenting advice from a genius.
I mean if they're smart in every other subject they gotta be smart at parenting as well.
Thankfully I'm learning this now while my two children are very young.
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Absolutely! I have a 3 year old, I cried watching this !
Too true, too true
@@abbyadda1 me too!!
We can't go back and start all over but we can make it better from now on. ❤️
True - Your children are not FOR you, they are merely FROM you!
Chanakya...the great Indian philosopher... says this about parenting...
Adore your child till they are 5 years of age, discipline them from 6-15, once they are 16, treat them like your friend!
What an awesome advice! It also coincides with modern science which says most of rapid brain development and character formation happens till age 7...and this advice above gives us two windows...till 5 give your kid your unconditional love...and next 2 years falls under 'discipline' period with utmost impact! How brilliant!
I needed this, as a mother of 2 babies that are still less than a year old. They're at a stage where they're already playing with staffs around the house and I constantly have to remind myself to let them play as longest it's safe.
I hope I don’t ruin my 5 year old like my parents broke me.
Help me God, I just want to be the best parent I can be for my kid.
Peter 4:8
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Look to the heart ❤️ of the child look for the good.😊 give him the blessing. Then the child
within you 🤔 what you wish your Father would or could have done to you.✨️
I'll cherish this video with me forever throughout my life. After watching them, I doubted whether such people exist in the world?!
Saving the best for last! Hard hitting Sadh Guru! Great advice by all!
Parenting can seem so difficult at times, stressful nonetheless. These tips are simple and logical once we really think about the reasoning behind each of them and their final outcome 🙏
I thought all these 5 things within the past 24 hrs... I can't explain the where's our how's I learned this, but I have. Hearing these from these 5 individuals reinforced the ideas with a refreshing point of view.
Excellent all around.... Judges in the family court system need to internalize this message because they remove fathers wrongfully every single day they are active. Fathers are critical, so many kids living without dads by force of the courts, not absent by choice
This was probably thee best thing I have come across on social media!
I watched it, loved it, saved it, shared it, and commented. This is a huge relief, and incredible top drawer material, to have encouraged me to continue on with how and want to be, and raise the child I created.
I know they are there own people! And they learn through play, and very experience, is a fundamental tool for there over all well being.
To help navigate a whole person.
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No parent is perfect. We all do our best, we will forever doubt ourselves. Ghats what makes us better.
Doubt doesn’t make you better. Acknowledgement , accountability, and change makes you better.
Personally when I doubt I search for solutions therefore making me better.
"Force creates resistance". True words.
There is such a thing as right from wrong that is important to teach to help protect & preserve life.
Also certain things they do can bring a positive out come and wrong things they could enter into that is dangerous that definitely do exist in this world that can end their life or cause great suffering.🤷
All make a point but Simon Bailey said it best.
Peace.
I don't mind any of this except that as a parent who teaches, leads, directs, guides and supports, promotes and learn from my children (if I had some), I have to share with them what I myself have experienced and learned of life, in life for life, because of life.
Telling me that they should become who they are doesn't explain to me as a parent what the world does and how it plays against me allowing that.
Which means simply that these very same people may know my children. What *they* say to them, what a 1000 other adults and 50,000 others say to them - what books, quotes, propaganda and false knowledge and worldly wisdom will say to my children will and or highly influence them to become something else other than who they really are.
It is my and my wife's work to learn them as they age, to help their mind grows beyond their age.
That is the key.
This was definitely one of the best pieces i watched on RUclips! A must watch for all parents ❤️
These videos are amazing and teaches me new things. Thank you for the motivation 😊
Something I am glad my parents always did 😊I always feel so close to them and an exceptional relationship
Great lineup. Gabor Mate also helped me become a better parent.
Sadhguru Rocks 💖💖
What a great video! Wishing all the best to all future parents on becoming great and Wonderful Caring Loving Parents!
Raising children is like cooking food. You start on high and end on low otherwise you'll spoil the food.
At first you enforce rules, regulations and values. Then you let go so that they can implement their own otherwise you will spoil the child and your relationship with the child.
We all learn from experience and to prevent exposure to bad values will weaken the resistance to overcome it.
Beautiful Insights on parenting by the world's best Experts. 🙌💖These are wonderful pointers for inner child healing as well. 💗
Oh my god those are so good parenting advices!!! Thank you
I was the first born, a daughter. Several times my mom said the minute she first saw me she said she wanted another one. After years of mistreatment from her and seeing how she worshiped my brother, it makes me wonder if she wanted another one because she was disappointed she had a baby girl. Unlike my brother, I was an over achiever in school work, developing my talents, and always trying to win her over. Part of the problem was I was a tomboy, and she wanted a Shirley Temple she could control. She died last year at the age of 91, and I feel nothing... No guilt, no sadness, no remorse,... Just a big fat nothing.
I want to be the best parent.
You will be 🥰🥰🥰
You will be, until your kid becomes a teenager. Then you'll be "the worst ever." Then when THEY have kids, you'll be the best ever - again!
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@@llkg9 The graph of maturity doesn't go that way,it's always advancing as we mature with age till at a certain age,we are like a village library.
Those whose graph go horizontal or zigzag were puppets ,doing copycat parenting.You can even be a good parent even without your own children.
@@justinamusyoka4986 My comment was clearly written to reflect a child's PERCEPTION of the parent, not the actual performance of the parent.
I have 4 daughter's. I hope that they grow up to be just as strong as I am. Thanks for the video
Powerful words from great minds. We have so much to learn
i just realized how toxic my parents are… everytime i was going to ask my dad a math question for my homework he would yell at me and i would say “im sorry father ill ask mom” my mom did the same thing and i had to rely on knowledge i didnt know, this kept happening and i decided to not ask for help anymore because i thought i would get yelled at, hit, or anything negative.. ended up getting a bad grade in math but others were all As and they started asking me “Why did u not get an A? and yelled at me” i was left alone and thought it was normal, this has been happening since second grade
The word toxic is overused. Maybe your parents didn’t know the math and were frustrated?
Yelling in response to asking for help is not a normal response. That behavior was toxic. I don’t know if the people (your parents) were defined by this behavior, but I am sorry you had to go through that experience. Do your best, and consider asking for help from a teacher, guidance counselor or tutor. Keep striving!
i am sorry to hear that, but at least you got a chance to have parents. please cherish that, i guess they did their best
Every little bit of this video is PRICELESS.
This brought tears to me eyes! 💚💚💚
I make myself watch this video every few months just to keep it fresh on my mind .
Awesome I enjoy parenting my Son and Daughter wish I knew some of these 🙏❤️
wisdom at it's finest
My 10 year old son wanted to make lemonade. I told him to keep it simple we just use the powder, you can have yellow or pink. He wanted to use real lemons. I told him for that to taste good we will have to add lots of sugar. So let’s just drink the powder lemonade.Not more than two minutes later I hear the loudest scream I’ve ever heard in my life. I ran as fast as I could to the scream. I see the half cut lemon and knife. He tells me I’m sorry, I’m sorry I said don’t be sorry it’s ok, you had to learn this way. But now I have to see your finger. He uncovers his finger, and it’s the tiniest cut, very little blood we both see it and he screams again even louder than the first scream. I gave him the napkin I had in my hand because on my way to the scream I grabbed it knowing what happened. I told him to press this napkin into his finger as hard as he could for 10 seconds. I asked if he could still feel the pain of the open cut, he said No. I told him to remove the napkin and let’s see the cut again. It stopped bleeding and stopped hurting. We put a bandaid on it. Wiped away all the tears and sweat he had all over his face. He says to me, I’m never going to cut another lemon again. I told him next time we make lemonade I’ll show you how to keep your finger away from the path of the knife. He likes the pink lemonade powder the most.
When a human being is born, is born with all potential. One who has observed mind and body capacity from owns childhood to adulthood definitely understands you just need to provide a good environment for the mind and nourishments for the body to the child and at the same time don't take off any genius from him/her because she will eventually meant to blossom. That's all.
Wow! That was some good stuff! Definitely what I needed to hear/learn. Now it's time to put it into action!
Then i got my mom who tells me that she doesn’t trust me . My dad also isn’t in my life so great .
I am working towards being a better mom to my boys 6 and 2
This almost made me cry. I definetly want to do better.
WOW ❤This was a Very nice Important Broadcast!!!
I accept my child, but sometimes he makes not so good decisions. We then talk about what we could do next time around. He’s four and he is amazing…the best gift I could ever ask for. I have to be careful with who I share that info with because others have cut him down because I’ve made remarks about him being smart, etc. I found out these same childcare workers grew up in families that didn’t accept them and cut them down. We need to do better for our younger generations.
Man this is powerful stuff!!!!! I'm very glad I came across this video. Thank you for sharing!
This video is short, sweet, informational and full of the best advice when we have children. Thank you for this amazing video, by the way, I am curious of your family rules. I need to come up with mine for our family. Thanks again, I am a parent of a tween.
Ok....FACTS....Well Recieved....
Great message, The background music is too much
I love what they are sharing, I SUPER HATE the pretentious melo over dramatic background music!!!!!!
Yep, unfortunately i am learning through pain. But i am learning
Thank you!
It's Painful cuz I wish my parents could,,bt Thanks I learned how to for my kids
Sent watched and shared.. Thank you
Aww, this was HEARTWARMING... 😊👏👏💗
“Another life does not belong to you” ❤
I wish my father was a lot more like him!!!
I’m glad I have come across this video. I agree with the opinions.
I'm glade I found this video. I wished I found this video years ago. Hopefully this helps me with my 2 youngest children.
I believe "Creating Champions for Life" is the one program that has all the answers for parenting....
This is literal perfection 🥰
I love this....absolutely wonderful! Thank you for sharing.
This video should be shown to all parents with kids in middle school
Man … this changed my life!
Thank you very much.
Sadghuru! 👌🏾
If I will be able to raise my kids just like my parents raised me
I will consider myself the best parent
This is amazing and exactly what I needed right now. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for this.
This is powerful. A million likes!
The dislikes are from all the parents who even now didnt understand and feel that how it hurts when u degrade ur children🙃
Thank you for sharing this ❤🙏🙏🙏
There is no one rule and one recipe. Growing up is like learning to drive. In that process, knowing how you make decisions, the parameters and benchmarks to make those decisions, knowing the body, knowing the mind and knowing who you are. And it's the child's journey. We are here to ensure the child is equipped to take the decisions for themselves. So all we need to provide is for them to analyse any choice and the suitability of that choice for themselves. Sometimes, we may have to share our experiences. But it's our experiences. But a few things are truths that can't be altered, like the presence of God. It's not a dichotomy weather the god is present or not. It's a fact that there is a force that establishes rule for every being to function. And with that knowledge, one has to know certain things whether they are good or bad. And as a fact that can't be changed.
Thank you so much! The best advice I’ve ever heard.
Amazing speakers! Didn’t align with Dr Coulson. I believe we educate and support our children with the skills to know what’s right and then how to make the right choices. Trusting your child to be able to make those choices and being there if they make a wrong choice without judgment is my way. I can’t be there forever to regulate them.
if you look more into Dr Coulson's work, he is actually very in line with what you're saying. I know he mentions rules, but he is definitely not a controlling, authoritarian parent. Quite the opposite
Brilliance ❤️🔥
Sadguru nailed it
Really wise words 😇
This is Gold
Yes!!! Let us keep elevating 👏🏾 One Love🙏🏽
Love this