Oh he came back in his 50's trying to prove how good life was. He'd gained about 80 lbs, had had a heart attack, high blood pressure and diabetes, etc. He was a hot mess. But I wasn't having it. I was and still am happily married and had moved on. When he left me for another woman in the car I bought him I was devastated. It was the best thing he ever did for me. No one ever got me there ever again. I picked myself up and with God I made a good life for myself. Success is truly the best revenge.
I🙋🏽♀️. I didn't give him a chance. I blocked him.on everything and moved on. Our last time was just that. After letting him go, all my blessings came flowing into my life. Now I'm living happily ever after with my husband.
@@1010QUEEN7 Sweetheart he's not blocking anything, you're still holding on to a memory, you're blocking yourself. You have to let go of what you thought you had, allow yourself to heal and forgive him and yourself. Many wonderful things are waiting on the sidelines for you. Proceed ahead and don't look back.
When you get to a point where you get tired of trying it's time to walk away and never look back. If they can't see your worth he isn't worth your time. Let go for self love.
For real...my first bf could have married me. We could have had kids by now. But he messed up badly...was immature and unreliable. I did love him. But i closed the chapter. I prefer my sanity.
This is funny! I just got a call from my ex doing exactly this. "I've changed", "there is nothing/no one else out her for me". Told him No. I have no energy, inclination, want/desire to go back to that mess... thanx Derick, you always on time.
I walked away last Friday and I am not looking back. He fumbled me like no other ever has and even if he doesn’t regret it I don’t care- I did this for me. Because I love me
No one should have to walk on eggshells in their own home. Home is where peace should be waiting on you not turmoil and toxicity!! It takes a strong person to walk away!
Aware woke people, male and female, know that nasty abusive people exist on both sides. They are also aware that anyone who abused them crawls back saying they feel guilty, without showing true remorse AND making amends, showing growth and improvements, is just lying. The problem is nobody makes the abuser responsible for their actions etc so they keep doing and get worse.
It is very hard in the beginning because you’re walking away from a part of yourself. And it does hurt because it needs healing. Let it heal in your time, space and single reality and all the love, time, and attention you gave him or her should now be given to yourself. Peace and blessings to all ♥️🙏🏼🕊
I ended the relationship with him because this is too much for me I put him first and I’m always the second so I’m making a right decision in my life thank you Jesus for putting me away from this relationship 🙏🙏🙏
I and I did let go......just yesterday. I finally see the pattern with him. I'm tired of the hot and cold crap. I know my worth and I deserve to be loved because I was made by God who loves me.
I am walking away because I love him so much, I did not realize I no longer love myself. Loving yourself first is very important, you would know your worth and value. You will never ever settle for less & most importantly no one will take you for granted.
I knew he wasted our time. He refused healing, is a happiness hater & a blessing blocker. I left, the drama follows him, peace & success follows me. Living my best life!
I've leveled up and living better!!! No time wasted only growth . My time won't be wasted by another. God's Guidance . Healed, & fulfilled. Moving forward to the Prize, keeping my eyes ahead not looking back Christ is my Prize and what/who HE has for me and my life.
So true I remember I used to text him even though he left me I used to reach out seeking an apology and maybe a possibility to fix things.But things have changed all of sudden I fee so I’m control.I feel so much better He sends me pictures of us and he was around my school and he texted me telling me that he’s around so he thought I was around (what a joke)and he went to a party and he bumped into my friend and he asked where I was imagine and he showed up with his girlfriend he left me for .I decided to block him forever now!
When I was done completely, I was don't call me, don't txt me, don't go by my job, don't come on my property, leave me alone, go in peace and I never want to see you again. Period and I never looked back. It took 15yrs, several breakups for me to go for good. We were young when I met him, and it felt like he killed our love by his disrespectful, selfish, childish behavior. I wish 39 yr old me could have warned 22yr old me. I have peace now.
I'm in the process right now of losing him. today he sounded like his reputations was at risk than recognizing his disrespectful towards me. Your videos had been helping me to get through the day. He block me on everything like I'm going to contact him. I told him to leave and left in silence
I'm doing so much better and left for my peace,he was toxic, constantly talking about an ex from 20 yrs,ago,ghosting,and I couldn't be myself,and his privates didn't work, I'm glad we left each other alone,its for the best
He fumbled!!! Left me for someone 13yrs older than him now the grass not greener.. she can have all of him!! I am trying to heal my soul. I choose me. No coming back.
This applies to my ex husband....we married young stayed married one year...I left and thirty years later when I ran into him I can tell he wants me to regret it and disgusted that I don't..😊
I'm just gonna said that after my experience, men who are go away and came back. They not came back because they appreciate you. They came back only bc he need attention. Only bc those hot dates or babes on dating sites doesn't give then the attention that their want it. I don't blame men who behave like this. It is the time we are living in. Instant gratification. And ego. All of those. But one things is for sure. People who disappear and suddenly reapers their doesn't care about you. When their other hot babe or date reapers, their disappear again So don't fall for dudes who disappear or not reciprocates. Chances are theres other women in their life too
Yes, no he doesn’t pull his weight Pretty sure he’s been with others Going to just fade out He’ll have a haaaaard time finding another me Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏻
Iv been with my boyfriend 10 years no marriage. I have helped him a lot he lived with me for 6 years and now that we have our own in every argument he throws me out next day he’s nice. I’m very tired of that and now I’m planning an exit move I will save on the down low and leave. It’s crazy because he does admit that I’m the one who’s love him for real. I’m 😔
I was in a similar situation too, but left because it was clear I was being used. I hope you find the strength to do what's best for your own wellbeing.
No he don't love you. It's Guilt . It's not love. I know the difference. Love your videos. No communication is not love. Sex is not love. One in the relationship is not love. Aye.
Derrick I didn't tell you anything, but I'm glad the holy spirit spoke through you to speak to me. Every time I leave he comes running back! I left again, please help me to keep him away. Help me please 🙏🏾🙏🏾
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Understand and overstand that Women cry first but Men cry longer......
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🔥🔥🔥🔥This right here.
When a woman is psychologically and emotionally done with you, just know there's no turning point!
When a women's fed up, there's nothing that men can do about it❣
Were done done🤷
Oh he came back in his 50's trying to prove how good life was. He'd gained about 80 lbs, had had a heart attack, high blood pressure and diabetes, etc. He was a hot mess. But I wasn't having it. I was and still am happily married and had moved on. When he left me for another woman in the car I bought him I was devastated. It was the best thing he ever did for me. No one ever got me there ever again. I picked myself up and with God I made a good life for myself. Success is truly the best revenge.
Good for you ❤️💪🏾
I'm happy for you and it is a learning lesson for all BW. Coddling BM will get us no where.
Well done you 👏🏿👌🏿🌹
❤️❤️❤️
@@ILoveUs_AmericanBWandGirls AMEN 🎯
….A woman’s silence, speaks volumes-.✌🏾
IIIIIII
🎯🎯🎯
YES!
I again
IIIIII
I🙋🏽♀️. I didn't give him a chance. I blocked him.on everything and moved on. Our last time was just that. After letting him go, all my blessings came flowing into my life. Now I'm living happily ever after with my husband.
He is blocking all my blessings
Still .. why you here?! Doesn.t make sense
@@1010QUEEN7 Sweetheart he's not blocking anything, you're still holding on to a memory, you're blocking yourself. You have to let go of what you thought you had, allow yourself to heal and forgive him and yourself. Many wonderful things are waiting on the sidelines for you. Proceed ahead and don't look back.
Similar to mines boom
We are together
You can't put a price tag on peace of mind. It's priceless.
You can say that again.
Don't worry if she mad. Worry if she tired
She shouldn't be worried or tired.
Mmmph...
@@ashm676 You're missing the point. Being "mad" is temporary; being "tired" or "fed up" means she's out the door and not returning!
I'm both mad and tired
Very well said!
I walked away! I'm at peace.
I realized he was wasting my time
Wasting ya time and be so envious of you
Similar to mines
Same
I just did this tonight… no more
Thank you
I got tired of being disrespected and devalued, so I cut off access to him. I knew that the best thing to do was to walk away.
I bet it was hard to do at first? I’m in the same boat. Every day gets a little better.
God will bless you with better!! Shalom, sister!!
We are in the same situation here and yes walking away from him is one of the best decision I had made for myself. " The one that got away"
When you get to a point where you get tired of trying it's time to walk away and never look back. If they can't see your worth he isn't worth your time. Let go for self love.
💯💯💯💯💯✅💜
Amen 💯
For real...my first bf could have married me. We could have had kids by now. But he messed up badly...was immature and unreliable. I did love him. But i closed the chapter. I prefer my sanity.
"The hardest relationships teach us the best lessons.". That's got to be the best sentence I've heard in a long time.
I……Learned that I LOVE ME enough, to not SETTLE for less than I deserve. I DESERVE THE BEST, because I AM THE BEST asset to ANY man’s life.
Okay!
Oh WOW, Very Well Said Sista!!👍🏾
oh no. best asset to my own life.
Yes yes and yes
That PART!!!!!! 👆🏾👆🏾
I let it go and let God...🙏🏽It hurt but I moved on...Silence is the silent killer. No contact was the best way for me to heal.
Yessssss Hunti
Same 🥰🥰🥰
True
Me too
Going through this now
Once I peeped the game, I went no contact. This decision encouraged me to be in a period of solitude. The absolute best moment of my life.
Amen💜
Amen
Amen!!!!!!!!!
Same here
I walked away and he’s still calling like he can’t remember WHY i walked away. It’s a new and PEACEFUL day.
Exactly!!
They always have selective memory!! Smdh 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I don't take men back...I definitely know my worth and values....I don't bargain ...
You can do bad by yourself. Find someone who adds value to your life. If you decide to get in a committed relationship, you should benefit
👏
Yes indeed because he never added to my life he tore it down
Real Talk 💯🙌🏼
You can do Good by yourself. 😉
My nana tells me this all the time
YESSSS!!!!! And I'm STILL living my best life without him...like my granny says peace is PRICELESS!😎
Amen
Yeap
Yes indeed 🎯
💯 % agree my peace is priceless
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💜
This is funny! I just got a call from my ex doing exactly this. "I've changed", "there is nothing/no one else out her for me". Told him No. I have no energy, inclination, want/desire to go back to that mess... thanx Derick, you always on time.
All words no actions, you're better off without the stress and drama. Bad for your health, literally.
7million fish out in the sea...you don't need that mess.🥂
@@ashm676 this they love using words
@@ashm676 💯💯💯💯
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I was in that situation, but never again. I moved on 3 years ago. I have been single since, but at peace with myself.
The stress and drama they create would kill a person. Not worth it.
I🙋🏻♀️ But I refused to take them back, despite all their tears and attempts. I give WAY too many chances so when I'm done, I'm done.
Exactly
Stay strong on your life journey 🌹. Make yourself number one if no one else will.
@@annstewart8506 ladies should stay strong together too
Yep- when a woman fed up. That is it.
The tears never stop
I walked away last Friday and I am not looking back. He fumbled me like no other ever has and even if he doesn’t regret it I don’t care- I did this for me. Because I love me
Yep!! When a women fed up. Nothing you can do about it. When the respect is gone I'm through.
💯💯💯💯
I ….I had to let go. You hit all points. Tired of living in a negative situation and not being a priority or having peace.
"Not being a Priority" is a deal breaker, when they kept giving to others and don't have time to visit and spend time with you
No one should have to walk on eggshells in their own home. Home is where peace should be waiting on you not turmoil and toxicity!! It takes a strong person to walk away!
Aware woke people, male and female, know that nasty abusive people exist on both sides. They are also aware that anyone who abused them crawls back saying they feel guilty, without showing true remorse AND making amends, showing growth and improvements, is just lying. The problem is nobody makes the abuser responsible for their actions etc so they keep doing and get worse.
this is true absolutely. later the facts are overlooked, and victim is even blamed.
💯💯💯💜
Yes, nasty mess.
It is very hard in the beginning because you’re walking away from a part of yourself. And it does hurt because it needs healing. Let it heal in your time, space and single reality and all the love, time, and attention you gave him or her should now be given to yourself. Peace and blessings to all ♥️🙏🏼🕊
The best response
Peace like a river
True
🙏🥹❣️
I…
I!!! Best thing I ever did was walk away!! 🙏🙌🏻💪
Slowly rebuilding myself again..💗🤗
Good for you.
N🚫 Contact is a superpower!
Definitely awesome move.🥂
This message was sooooo accurate!!! Just had my time wasted!!! Never again
I ended the relationship with him because this is too much for me I put him first and I’m always the second so I’m making a right decision in my life thank you Jesus for putting me away from this relationship 🙏🙏🙏
I never go back. You had your chance and so did I. Always moving forward.
I and I did let go......just yesterday. I finally see the pattern with him. I'm tired of the hot and cold crap. I know my worth and I deserve to be loved because I was made by God who loves me.
Amen to that!... God's work... healed yesterday too😅...First time having watched Derrick...(yesterday)
Mine was hot and cold too
Thats me, its been 12 years and hes begging, i wont give him a chance. He made my life hell. Im never going back.
He effed up big time point blank. he lost a real one.
i can relate, divorced 2 yrs, after 7 years in family court, thank you Jesus!!!!! freedom and peace is priceless, thank you !!!!!
I am walking away because I love him so much, I did not realize I no longer love myself. Loving yourself first is very important, you would know your worth and value. You will never ever settle for less & most importantly no one will take you for granted.
I am at that point now. I am not turning back.I’ve done so much and I was taken for granted. Thank you for this chat. 🙏💐
Don't wait for the catastrophic event. Let go and start healing. 💞
I knew he wasted our time. He refused healing, is a happiness hater & a blessing blocker. I left, the drama follows him, peace & success follows me. Living my best life!
I attended your masterclass and that's when I got that wholly Jesus slap to find forgiveness and walk away!!!
I've leveled up and living better!!! No time wasted only growth . My time won't be wasted by another. God's Guidance . Healed, & fulfilled. Moving forward to the Prize, keeping my eyes ahead not looking back Christ is my Prize and what/who HE has for me and my life.
Unfortunately many women n men cant exist alone. Find n love themselves before a new union
Leaving was the best decision
I ever made for my own self.❤️🙏
You spoke well.. just wanted to clear their guilty conscience.
but Karma didn't forget...
Ayeeeee 🥂
Yes 🙌!!! So true ….. integrity is everything …. They ( meaning men ) never learn till it’s too late .
There’s a saying… girls care too early while boys care too late
So true
I remember I used to text him even though he left me I used to reach out seeking an apology and maybe a possibility to fix things.But things have changed all of sudden I fee so I’m control.I feel so much better
He sends me pictures of us and he was around my school and he texted me telling me that he’s around so he thought I was around (what a joke)and he went to a party and he bumped into my friend and he asked where I was imagine and he showed up with his girlfriend he left me for .I decided to block him forever now!
All of my toxic exes tried to come back to me, but I never went back to them.
When I was done completely, I was don't call me, don't txt me, don't go by my job, don't come on my property, leave me alone, go in peace and I never want to see you again. Period and I never looked back. It took 15yrs, several breakups for me to go for good. We were young when I met him, and it felt like he killed our love by his disrespectful, selfish, childish behavior. I wish 39 yr old me could have warned 22yr old me. I have peace now.
I’m going through this exact same thing right now. This is crazy how accurate this is!
They always come back !! If you don’t respect or value my time you don’t respect or value me!! Stop going back to what broke you ... for years !!
I was in this situation. He swears I be doin this and that yet still was messing with me. I had to let him go.
I changed my number and moved on. Till this day he orbits me!
I, have MOVED ON! 🖤
I'm in the process right now of losing him. today he sounded like his reputations was at risk than recognizing his disrespectful towards me. Your videos had been helping me to get through the day. He block me on everything like I'm going to contact him. I told him to leave and left in silence
I.... I'm healed now and successful. Thank you for your wisdom. 😇
Yup.. that happened to me.. now he trying to ask me out to dinner again... 🤦♂️😞 Smh..for me that boat has sailed. Well spoken Derrick 🙏❤️
Once I'm done, There's never no Coming back!!! And that's a fact!! They all tried to come back! But No dice. I don't go backwards!!!😊
I'm doing so much better and left for my peace,he was toxic, constantly talking about an ex from 20 yrs,ago,ghosting,and I couldn't be myself,and his privates didn't work, I'm glad we left each other alone,its for the best
All we lose after a relationship with a bum yes it haunts us because we never want to do it again
I was in that situation. But thanks to you and God. I
Have walked away from
Him
God has a new kingdom
Spouse who will
Love me for who I am
Let go.
Not staying it's gone be easy.
Saying it's necessary.
I have been taken for granted for 4 years and have now walked away
He fumbled!!! Left me for someone 13yrs older than him now the grass not greener.. she can have all of him!! I am trying to heal my soul. I choose me. No coming back.
Spot on 100%.🎯Wen a decent woman leaves for herself..She really WONT be back..FACT..!!..
Yeah that was me, he fumbled me. He came running back, but this time into a brick wall..
WOWWW feel like he’s speaking directly to me
I’ve been fumbled I just left never contacted him again
This applies to my ex husband....we married young stayed married one year...I left and thirty years later when I ran into him I can tell he wants me to regret it and disgusted that I don't..😊
I, after 16 yrs I finally asked for a divorce.
I'm just gonna said that after my experience, men who are go away and came back. They not came back because they appreciate you. They came back only bc he need attention. Only bc those hot dates or babes on dating sites doesn't give then the attention that their want it. I don't blame men who behave like this. It is the time we are living in. Instant gratification. And ego. All of those. But one things is for sure. People who disappear and suddenly reapers their doesn't care about you. When their other hot babe or date reapers, their disappear again
So don't fall for dudes who disappear or not reciprocates. Chances are theres other women in their life too
I finally left a toxic relationship and as much it hurt to let go I know it was the right thing to do
I 🙋🏼♀️
I swear you speak to me, directly, in your videos. Why can't all men have your knowledge and understanding!?
Treated like a door mat.
Yup.
Yes, no he doesn’t pull his weight
Pretty sure he’s been with others
Going to just fade out
He’ll have a haaaaard time finding another me
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏻
exactly, with the other me.
some men do not understand it.
I loved him but he will never have another chance with me. He ruined what we had with his insecurities.
I definitely went through this before & I'm normally the person that goes ghost. He still be contacting me till this day.
You should never ghost anyone! Its an awful disgusting thing to do to another human
I… it was 8 years ago. I blocked him every where. Best thing I ever did. He wasted 12.5 years of my youth.
I wish I had heard this before my marriage lasted 16 years!?!?!
Me too !
I. Life is full of Lessons. 💯
Your like the Big Brother that I never had. Thank you for looking out 🙏🏽
Change is good but peace is better
I'm watching your videos almost all the time and each and everyday I realize that I haven't met the one and I continue to grow thanks, from SA.
Love is giving, pleasant, seure and protecting and calming.
This is brilliant! Thank you
Thank you Derrick! I will attend your masterclass
You have NO IDEA how much I needed this right now!!! Thank you sir!!!
Love you and your message. Thank you 🙏❤️
Iv been with my boyfriend 10 years no marriage. I have helped him a lot he lived with me for 6 years and now that we have our own in every argument he throws me out next day he’s nice. I’m very tired of that and now I’m planning an exit move I will save on the down low and leave. It’s crazy because he does admit that I’m the one who’s love him for real. I’m 😔
I was in a similar situation too, but left because it was clear I was being used. I hope you find the strength to do what's best for your own wellbeing.
No he don't love you. It's Guilt . It's not love. I know the difference. Love your videos. No communication is not love. Sex is not love. One in the relationship is not love. Aye.
I...! That definitely happened with me. This information is very helpful. Thank you for this insight.
Omg this is absolutely 100% on point! The truth!
Thank you I left two. Thank you again I felt I did the right thing for my peace, balance and self esteem.
Derrick I didn't tell you anything, but I'm glad the holy spirit spoke through you to speak to me. Every time I leave he comes running back! I left again, please help me to keep him away. Help me please 🙏🏾🙏🏾
U are so correct about what you are saying. Thank you.❤
Great video, Derrick. Thanks!
BEEN THERE DONE THAT!
PRAISE GOD FOR PROTECTION AND CHANGING ME TO HEAL & WAIT PATIENTLY FOR MY KINGDOM HUSBAND IN JESUS NAME AMEN AMEN AMEN 🙌❤️
Thank God I ran in to your videos 🙏
this is one of the best videos i’ve watched on this subject - thank you 🙏🏼💖
Derrick, you on fire! ✨🔥✨
I....and you are 100% right on the conscience clearing.