Self Sabotage: How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself
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- Опубликовано: 5 окт 2019
- Let's talk about self sabotage. You may or may not realize you're doing it. Today we explore all the ways we hold ourselves back, why we do it, and how to stop doing it. Comment below with examples of your own self sabotaging - once you're aware of it, you can begin to change it!
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Recently I just realized I'm sabotaging myself through :
-procrastination
- unhealthy binge eating
- sleep at odd hours
- and occasionally skipping my skincare routine.
BTW, thanks for the informational video.
Same
Same because I am unemployed with no security with the fear of not being worthy of finding something else to do.
I procrastinate because i hate collage and the animation career im perusing i want a simple job animation is too exotic and risky
Very well explained!!
How do you fix ?
It took me a year to cure myself from these mind blocks, to stop thinking about "what if" and just go after my dream. I was overthinking things, I was constantly stressed out. But I found something that worked for me: I've listed all my fears in a notepad, and once I've read them out loud they sounded so ridiculous that I was not afraid anymore. :))
I didn't accomplish what I desire yet, but during the last year I've learned to enjoy the journey. :)
Enjoy the journey is sooooo important! Thanks to that, you can enjoy each one of them. 😉
With a positive mindset, you can achieve anything! I recommend you to create your own vision board, it helps soooo much to attract everything you desire! I've done mine, and put it next to my desk, so my eyes see it every time I'm working. This + positive affirmations really changed my life, 'cause I really enjoy the journey without any pressure... And you know what? Since you truly, deeply, understand how life is beautiful every single day, you totally let go. You trust the Universe. And since I'm being grateful, look at my vision board and really believe that my dream life is possible and start taking actions, so many possibilities have come up to me, and signs of the universe! (for example, I put blueberries on my vision board 'cause I looove them, and yesterday, I' ve found some on a store! It wasn't the case before! *wink wink from the Universe *
Wish you all the best, and you know what? Maybe this positive response from an unknown person is actually a sign from the Universe, and also for you, human who's reading it 😉
Edit : The Dream Life Series by Aileen is priceless! If you have one day when you're sick, stuck at home, or whatever is the reason, just watch it! It will help you beyond your expectations, believe me. It was the case for me. ❤️
Think Citric oh I love that exercise :)
@@aimielisa Ohhh yes I love those Dream Life Series! I found them last year when I was just thinking of changing my life, and that was really like a sign from the Universe. :) I've watched every single episode, taken action, and now 1 year later I have no regrets at all! :)
Vision board it a great idea, I didn't try this exercise before, maybe it'll make things even better! :)
I wish you best of luck on your journey, and keep that positive mindset and energy! ))
@@ThinkCitric thank you! Wish you all the best ❤️🎊
That's so cool!
1. recognise when and how you self sabotage
2. believe that you deserve whatever you're working towards
3. Learn to manage your fears and do it in spite of them
4.know that you're stronger than you think
I have been always that girl who is scared , afraid of pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Couple of months ago I came out from a one sided relationship with my husband after almost 13 years. Moved with my mother and sibling. Got a job and trying to finish my degree.
Go for all that positive change, Karmun. Invest in yourself and thrive :-)
Wishing you all the best! You can only go up from here!
Good job! You can do this!
you’re doing so amazing! 🌿🤍
Good luck girl. U should be super proud u had the strength and confidence to leave and understand your worth. You got this xx
Ways self-sabotaging myself
- negative belief systems
- being victim
- procrastination
- fear of failure and growing out of my comfort zone
- doubting myself
- being too nice
Thank you for your video 😊 it helped me alot on my journey to transformation.
You have the power to change how you lived in the past by what you do today and practice it 💯 I'm currently learning. Good to know I'm not the only one growing out of this.
The irony of me watching a video about self sabotage while self sabotaging 😂👏
sameeee omg
But you are learning something new. Maybe just how to be kinder with yourself. Anything you desire, you deserve it :)
@@cybrog6461 this is sweet ! Thank you :)
Exactly the same ✌
same
This is so important! I think we hold ourselves back a lot in life because we don’t believe we are able to achieve what we truly desire and would rather not know than see ourselves fail. I’m always trying to push myself out of my comfort zone because of this, and remind myself that I can do anything I set my mind to! ❤️❤️
It’s all in what you believe! ❤️❤️
Heeeeee😊
Be aware of your thoughts, words and actions. Have a positive self-talk, create a positive and strong relationship with yourself and never give up on your goals and yourself. You can do anything, you just need to believe yourself worthy of success and love and believe yourself capable of reaching your fullest potential.
But why it so hard to believe in myself sobs
I feel like my biggest self sabotage is taking on way too many things at once. Then I get overwhelmed and start procrastinating, and can’t give my best to all of the things I’ve taken on. I just get excited about too many projects at the same time🙈
Omg I’m so guilty of this one too 🙈
Courtney Nicole I do the same exact thing 😖
I also have the same problem, I hope I won't go through it again this year by working on self reflect and journaling!
Are you me? I feel this in every way 😣😣🌈♥️
I thought it was just me!
I sabotage myself by eating more when I want to lose weight, developing a unhealthy mindset with food and body image. I feel like the more I want to reach my goal, the more I let myself lose control. I found out, with your help, that by breaking my goal into small tasks and focusing on one at a time I can make small but firm steps. I also procastinate a lot with certain homework/exams so I :
- make a list of the things that I have to do (the more detailed the better)
- make sure that I have enough time to finish each task ( I only let myself take breaks, but: no leaving things undone).
-treat myself with something I like/ is good for me when I finish something.
Treating ourselves is very important.We need an incetive to push ourselves to work harder. Sometimes we don´t see results inmediatly and we get fustrated.We(or I) need to learn that great things take time, and that time is never wasted.
I also found out that when I procastinate because of boredome, I tend to do other productive things and forget about that task.
The only thing that helps me is making priorities and trying to be more persistent with it.
Hope it wasn´t boring :) I love your videos and I hope this helps someone else.
Love from Spain
That's great ! Congrats on your progress💜
pie_ari love that you’re learning with each step! Keep going 💪🏼✨
You just 100% described my situation!
Thank you for sharing this lovely.
I almost self sabotaged myself out of a great job opportunity. I had a friend at my job that told me about this new position opening in her department. I was 3 yrs in my current position in another department. I really got the hang of my work flow and could do it with my eyes closed. Yes! I was comfortable. It was a dream position. It offered better hours better pay better benefits than what I was receiving. So what was my problem. FEAR and PROCRASTINATION! Those are my main sabotaging traits. My friend asked me a whole WEEK late if I submitted my resume and I told her NO. She was like WHAT ARE U WAITING FOR😩😡😂 I simply said IDK 🤷🏽♀️ so that day I asked myself that question again and I took a leap of faith and submitted my resume. I didn’t hear anything back for weeks AND THEN! right before I was getting to leave work a couple of weeks ago I get a phone call to set up a phone interview 🤗 and was offered the job the next day. I have learned a valuable lesson about self sabotaging and that is DONT DO IT!!! You will miss out on great things. Thank Aileen for this video🥰💗 First day on new job October 7, 2019🤗
Lynnice Carter aw thanks for sharing your story!
Thank you Aileen for giving me the platform to share🤗
Oh wow! Well done, love a happy story! Joanna xx
That’s my situation rn I’m so afraid!!
Yess early again! I feel attacked 😂 this came right at the moment when I stated procrastinating my studying. Much needed 👏
Samihah Ebrahim 😂 it’s a wake up call with love
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sometimes Lavi’s videos are like a punch in the face, like i’m “waking up for reality”... it’s hard to admit i’m doing all this with myself, but i’m so grateful for being aware of my mistakes, that’s when you grow! love u Lavendaire, thank you
maria fernanda we’re all here to grow together! 💪🏼❤️
She in no way means it like a punch in the face, so hug yourself because you are wounded. Or hug someone. Because they are wounded also.
I am literally the root to all of my problems. My consistent self sabotage has encouraged me to start lashing out at others, lashing out at myself. I’ve spent so much of my life living in fear, I’m going to enter the adult world lost because I spent so much time hiding away trying to find comfort. This video really helped.
this video reminded me of a great quote ive been loving recently- “its always wise to ask yourself whether you’re failing on purpose to avoid failing at your purpose” definitely a quote that gets you thinking!🤔 thought you might like it ♡
Love it! xx
*“I’m not good enough”*
When we care for societal construction and try to adopt a characters that benefits others beliefs. The path is unique, follow the inner voice.
bro why are you on freaking every video existing on youtube?
@@tabassummohona1965 he's watching good ones so! 😁
I like ur comment 💟, I have seen in other videos also. U write really nice.
I wanna ask why do we care what people think and why even being aware of that fear we get anxiety
@@tabassummohona1965 lmfao I was thinking the same thing
As someone that has anxiety disorder I constantly relearn and repeat these steps but that also teaches me new things every time. Great video, Aileen!
self sabotage for me happens when I have a bunch of homework and deadlines due for college, which leads to procrastination, which leads to me feeling awful for not being productive and for not doing the things I need to do in order to reach my goals. I think it's something I'm dealing with right now, but I wasn't aware of it. I'm not attending college as much as I should, I skip a lot of classes, and I'm not keeping up with my to do lists. And because of that I feel like I'm not doing anything good, because all I do is lie in my bed. Thankyou for this video!! ❤
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I'm a big offender of this. I have to really push myself to keep going and to realise my value and self-worth. I take a big leap forwards and then sabbotage myself little by little until I'm back at step 1. Thanks for this video.
Gary Swaby been there & still working on it! But awareness is the first step to change 💪🏼💪🏼
Same with me bro
I needed this video today! I self-sabotage by listening to the negative thoughts in my head and fearing making mistakes. Sometimes by fearing making mistakes, I unconsciously make mistakes. For example, I sing off key because I am afraid to give it my all and then make a mistake and be judged for it. This is because I go into singing a song with the expectation that I have to be perfect from the start.
Joan Pack ahh I see. That makes so much sense!
I procrastinate, when I get that success that I wanted it's so big I do not know how to handle it and move forward. That is when I push it away and not working harder. This month even when I'm scared I'm pushing myself in a direction and I'm so proud that I'm doing it. Thanks for your amazing content and what you give to us, helping us grow and let us see more about our selves.
This is so true and I know that it's only me telling myself “I'm not worthy like him/her. And I’m not gonna do well anyway” but I’m too afraid of the failure I predicted in my head or maybe responsibilities that will come with it or some other people’s eyes or whatever
Maya Sakuramoto So meeee other people eyes we care so much what people think of us
I be sabotaging myself all day tomorrow's midtest but im still doing it anyway thank you for uploading this aileen! lots of love from Indonesia🖤✨
I am the queen of procrastination and giving up even if I see the beneficits.
I just wrote today in my journal"why do I not allow myself to be the person I want to be" .
You help me understand that I am sabotaging my self. Thank you.
For so many months that I have observed from my behavior, I even wrote the things I feel and do but I still couldn't connect the dots and patterns to why it happens. This video helped me to figure out what I was doing to myself. I can finally understand why I tend to feel anxious whenever I try to do something different from my regular routine. Just the discomfort of change. Thank you Lavendaire! without this video of yours I wouldn't still understand why I keep distracting myself from pursuing a goal.
*Identifying the root cause of your self sabotage cannot be skipped or might never be resolved*
Thanks for structuring this video this way 💙
When I started working on self development, I felt on top of the world. Soon after, I started to miss how my life used to be, so I tried to go back, causing me to CHOOSE to fall back on self development. This video reframed my perspective and reminded me to go forward.
This is so insightful! Especially the part about not letting yourself feel too happy/proud, I am definitely doing that. It’s great to remind yourself of things you already know but still don’t implement. ❤️
I feel like I’m not good enough for my goals, yet I have my family and my friends telling me that I could do so much if I pushed myself to reach these goals. I think I’ve been afraid to be happy because I had been in such a toxic place for so long, I struggle to reset and start over. It’s been something I’ve been having such a hard time with for almost 5 years.
This video was so helpful!
Work on building your sense of self worth & self love ❤️ where do these thoughts of “not good enough” come from? That’s a good place to start. Good luck with your journey dear!
Same! Over the last few weeks, I've seen my goals and 'golden reality' all starting to fall into place and, I've been in a toxic, judgemental and chaotic household my whole teenage life. Now I've lost weight, grown up a lot more mature, spiritual and emotional wise and people just keep pushing my buttons. Now, being happy happy is so foreign to me at this point because I'm so used to chaos, you know? Sorry for rambling
Presently, I am self sabotaging myself.
I am not focused on what I am doing,I don't want to grow and educate myself , emotional and mental disturbance which leads me to believe that I am not worthy to achieve my goals and dreams even if I have the inner strong voice saying that I could, which dies soon and I get back to the same state as earlier....
Thank u so much for letting me know that this is totally normal,as I had been thinking that I was the only one who was facing such problems...
This is absolutely what happens to me, I don't feel like I'm worth it, whether it's love or accomplishments. I procrastinate so much because I also don't wanna be the center of attention :(
Thank you for this! For me it happens in the form of procrastination, emotional eating, and backing away from friends each time I grow closer to that friend/ person.
Right after she said that happiness was a choice I just told myself “I feel really happy,” and started smiling like a lunatic, and sure enough the dopamine shot through my system and now I honestly feel really happy. Mind over matter.
I watched two of your videos one night (this one and time management tips) and followed your advice the next day, the results changed the quality of my life almost immediately. I really needed that push to keep working on what’s most important to me. Thank you, Aileen! ❤️
Thank you so much for all the helpful information in this video! I've been blocked with keeping a consistent exercise routine and getting back in shape. Every time I start a new exercise routine I get sick. Then it throws off the momentum I had and makes it harder to keep going. I appreciate all the tips you shared!
The gap between knowing and doing resonated with me so much! You are totally right! I actually have seen this recently since trying to stop snoozing when I try to get up early. When you actually get up when the alarm goes off, and actually stay up, you kill the anguish period! Turns out it’s actually easier to not snooze. Great video.
I realize that I was self sabotaging myself in my career and in my health. I always go back because I’m afraid of change. Thank you so much for share this video. Going to rewatch it when I feel this fear. ❤️❤️
I’m autistic and have been looking into theories of how I self-sabotage. For me, self-sabotage is probably a coping mechanism to the constant change happening in the world and a way to avoid meltdowns/shutdowns. I’m an engineering student and this cycle has really been affecting my grades this past semester so this was something that I needed to keep going :)
This video saves me. Now I realize the reason behind my procrastination. I always fear of beginning doing many things because I though it will fail. And deeply I don't think I deserve success and happiness that comes with it. So that's what holding me back.
Thank you Aileen. After watching this video I feel I am courageous enough to get start doing something that I want to do.
Love you so much
Good explanation. Thanks for sharing. Concerning our comfort zones; I heard Ralph Smart say this "Extend your comfort zone" which is cool because it reminds you that although the process feels uncomfortable; ultimately you are adding more comfort. That's how I interpret it anyway.
Great points! Gotta push through that comfort zone! "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage"
I love her!! I listen to her in the mornings when I woke up!! She is amazing!
i think u r a mind reader..whenever i stuck in some situations u always giving your hand to lift me up through your ideas and your videos..thank you...
I love how you said this and phrased it! This is a really important life lesson for everyone no matter what the age is. Thanks for another inspiring video!
Thank you for this video. It really talked to me. My self sabotage is most "i don't deserve happiness". It's hard to change my mind. It's good to know i'm not the only one struggling with that
i’ve never felt so heard. right now at the start of my senior year of high school, i’ve reverted back to old self-sabotage habits that affected me and my grades during junior year (time management, procrastination, excuses, etc) and this video game at the perfect time. this couldn’t have come at a better time for me while i’ve fallen behind in school and been stressed for college applications and SAT. thank you for reminding me of the potential i have. i cannot thank you enough aileen. ❤️
Thank you! I always love your videos. I have definitely been self-sabotaging myself with my ultimate purpose. I’ve been making excuses and I’m done! I deserve it all.
A friend sent me this for loosing weight, but I needed to hear this! I self sabotage my painting! I’m an artist and I love painting and want to do it more - everyday! But I make up excuses not to like I have to clean, do bills, laundry, shop, even watch tv instead of doing the thing I love! I don’t know what I’m afraid of? People not liking my paintings? Me not liking my paintings? But the more I do it the better I will get and I am very talented!
I have walked away from people that expected more of me. As past a leader, I might or might not have disappointed them. Dealing and settling some stuff that is related to those people makes me think more than twice, then leads me to procrastinate my work because maybe I' m trying to avoid them. I just miss the sparks that I used to have in me; the braveness of going out of my comfort zone to face reality. Thank you, Aileen, for the reminder!
i just fell into this video and this was the best thing that happened to me this week, seriously i really needed this sm
This is the video I’ve been wanting to listen. I’ve been having problem with my procrastination. I often have this plan in my head what to do but all of the sudden I’ve got caught with this negativity to just use social media. That’s really holding me back. I can’t thank you enough! You’re the best!
Thank you for this Aileen, I've been holding myself back for months because of fear and anxiety and listening to this video yesterday made me take the leap today and finally tell my family something I've been wanting to do. It's just a training I wanted to take but I've been really afraid to tell them fearing I might get rejected but they didn't and they're willing to support. It's such a small thing yet it gives me anxiety, I feel anxious to meet other people, learn things, and be independent but this video pushed me. Your videos are always so helpful.💜
Thank you sooooooo much for posting this! Ive been thinking this for a but now. Because after I did the reaserch and created the level for my business Ive been procrastinating at taking that first real step ,frankly, because I dont see myslef as an entrepreneur and am actually scared of attaining sucess and not being able to sustain it. But anyhow, youre so right! There's no reason for me to be doing this to myself doubting myself even worse than those around me. Funny how I get angry at them for doubting me yet I dont even let myself take the chance out of unfounded fear. Ive set myself a two week start date where I can gyst and just go for it! do as much as I can now and building on it as soon as I can later. Thanks, Aileen 💐
My self-sabotage mostly looks like not doing what I want to do out of fear of losing friends / being judged. I convince myself that approval from my environment is more important to me than chasing my dreams. Or I convince myself that whatever I want to do won't work out anyway. It can manifest in many different ways, but it all comes down to: I convince myself that expressing myself is not worth the possible conflict/judgement it might generate. Definitely something to work on...
How are you doing today?
@@shanaesmith112 much, much better on this front 😉
I love how you structured this video... the lilac flowers are beautiful and the crystal
Thank you so much for the reminder Aileen!❤️ I think personally for me, self sabotage happens when I get too comfortable and also when I’m afraid of failure or a negative outcome, Its useful to remember that we are not aware of all the great things that life has to offer and we NEVER WILL BE if we dont take the chance!💖 Thank you once again🌸
girl i put off watching this video for 5 days because i knew you were gonna drop straight facts. glad i finally watched it bc i definitely needed to hear this! thank you for putting things so positively...i don’t really benefit from people who just yell at you to do better/stop procrastinating/whatever. once again, thanks for always sharing awesome vibes and helping me push myself to be a better person 🙏🏻
OmG this was right up my alley today... as a teacher I noticed that I will focus on one of my students with bad behavior. I focused on him instead of my future lessons for the afternoon or even the week. I wasted a whole day focusing in one this situation and found that this is one way I self-sabotage! I didn't even realize it!! Thank you so much!
You're my everyday inspiration Aileen, Love you 💞💞
I love how people express themselves freely in your videos' comment box
I think this video just changed my whole life. I'm so glad I ran into your channel. You make me understand what has been going on with me for years now. I remember crying so much because I couldn't figure out what was happening and why it was happening. So thank you, really, new subscriber here.
you're so wise and have such a calming, positive vibe! everything is either rooted in fear or love, therefore all these self destructive and sabotaging habits are pure fear, as you mentioned! I self sabotage with procrastination and overwhelm bc I have to juggle university, my new business (learning allll these things! and failed but keep going+investing time and money!) and my mental health. I allow myself to rest and slowing down; I have this problem with wanting everything at once and figured out... I consume a lot of content around this topic as I work towards my dreams and it's just a matter of time + having patience and faith!
Everytime I watch your video I am like how does she know so much about feelings, thoughts, connecting the dots reading between the lines and much more. And your style of presenting those in such an easy, simple, thought-provoking, sweet, and understanding way. Plus I like the pastel, soothing and earthy hues of your outfits and backgrounds, I really appreciate your choice of colors.
I think this is one of your most insightful videos ever. You described this is just the clearest, best way and I enjoyed listening. This has totally helped me.
You just made me face what I've been running away from💛
What a great video to end my weekend! Thanks for uploading this type of video from you, it was a much needed one.
Thank you for putting this video up!
I really needed this! I have been struggling with self sabotage for a year now and still on-going. I have dreams and goals that I want to achieve but there's always a voice inside my head telling me that I'm not good enough so I don't even bother trying knowing that I will fail anyway. I have this fear of failing because I know that I will get hurt, I'll feel unhappy so I procrastinate to escape reality to prevent all that from happening. For a couple of months, I felt like I'm stuck and unable to move forward. Part of me feels like I should just stay where I am because it's familiar, comfortable and less painful but there's also another part of me that really wants to move forward and create a better life for myself. It always feels like there's someone trying to pull me forward and another trying to hold me back.
I never knew what all of this is about, I really thought I was losing my mind. But this video helped me to discover what I'm truly going through right now.
This is so good. I needed to hear this!! ❤️ I love that you talk about taking a few steps back because you're chillin after you do well.
After watching this I realize I'm doing WAY better than I thought. I've been breaking out of my comfort zone and striving for success relentlessly. I've been breaking old thought patterns, focusing on affirmations and mantras and being my own best friend. I got this! Success and abundance is on its way ❤️
Great examples of self sabotage. I agree that sometimes we don't realize we are even doing it. Fantastic advice on how to recognize and move past it. Cheers!
Weight Loss Journey: I've constantly struggled with my weight from a very young age, especially since I was always compared to my sisters. Even now, when I'm in my late 20's, I'm still struggling with this journey. I will set my alarm for the morning, pack my gym bag, and go to sleep early.. then the next morning I find myself dragging my feet around the house until I watch the time go by until I've missed my fitness class. Then this overwhelming feeling of guilt & shame overtakes me. That's my self sabotage. Thank you for this video Eileen! I really needed this.
Whoa! I feel I've been self sabotaging myself for a few years now, that makes me kind of sad, but I can only hope I am able to overcome it 💖 thanks for this video
Had to listen twice cuz it’s so mind opening. The comments are so uplifting too!
This couldn't have been uploaded at a better time - this is exactly what I needed to hear! Its nice to be more knowledgeable about what I've been doing. Now that I know, I can change my behavior and work towards my goal. Thank you so much for this video!💕
HEY AILEEN! you are helping me a lot. i feel blessed for finding you. thank you very much.
with gratitude and love
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I don't really let myself be happy. Like, there are some good things happening to me, but I don't let myself fully enjoy these things because I remember the reason why I'm not happy.
You have been posting topics I need the most on those days for a long time now, thank you Alieen, love your videos!! 💖🤗
Wow...I fight with myself about what I need to do to get it together,but I always find away to talk myself out if it. Thanks so much for posting this,its nice to know I'm not alone in in self sabotaging but equally as nice to know I can break this down and be who I need to be.
Wow congrats for the quality of this video, this is just so well articulated! :) I couldn't put words on that feeling, but that's exactly what's happening to me since a few months, after making a big step towards what I want, I could not understand why do I block myself and feel so anxious, I don't feel good about atteining goals anymore, more guilty cause I don't beliebe it's deserved and that I need to work harder… that's definitely going to be some big work on myself, but now that I heard it from you that way I finally can put words on it, thank you!
Yassss gurl i literally realised how much i am procrastinating myself ,it is holding me back from my goal ,i will do everything that's possible to reach my goal, i , one of my goals is i want to love myself as who i am right now ,sis you're helping me a lot ,lots of love 💗💗💗
After spending about 9 hours studying and making very little progress in my to-do list (very frustrating) yesterday, I slept at my usual sleep time. I woke up early but I had no will to actually “get up” from my bed and continue studying. I kept going back to sleep and waking up and this went on for about 3-4 hours. I finally decided to stay awake but instead I go on RUclips and watch this video. I know realized that what I’m going through is self sabotage. After I watched it, i decided to finally get my day rolling. Now that I’m aware of it, I feel I can now work on fixing it. Put simply, I just want to say thank you for creating this video.
The way you deliver a message is just magic ❤️
Wow I love the depth of insight you provide with this topic!
I thought I was alone in the pattern of doing quite well or reaching a study/ grade goal at uni but then I get complacent, then I struggle to stay on top of my desired grades again.
Thanks for this video!
I am slightly moody, I get a little fussy when it comes about working and getting up to physically move myself in order to receive my desires. I tend to block myself from getting happily along with my family and friends and kind of like fall into that track of depression it's all the frequency of depression once you are there you just keep going in the depth to this feeling of never wanting to get up. But its all just matter of self-sabotage what I do in such mental condition is to work towards what I love, like painting or writing morals etc. And be my own sun not wait for it to rise to get up and work, have a positive attitude towards life. And be my own inner-fighter to fight my Insecurities. Thank you so much Aileen. ❤️❤️❤️
The part you said about finding a little bit of success and then back tracking really made it click for me. I started a new job and I was so happy about it, and really like it. So this whole time I’ve been wondering why I’m having so much anxiety and procrastinating and just sabotaging myself with self-destructive behaviors after starting off so good, just regressing myself. Thinking about what i deserve and what’s uncomfortable really puts it into perspective.
2020 is almost over and I am so glad this video was suggested to me. I did not realize until now that what I am going through is called self sabotage. Everything you said is absolutely true! I am working at home during quarantine and we have goals and metrics we need to achieve and I am always at the bottom of the team. I know what to do, I know that I can but I just don’t do it because I feel comfort in procrastinating. The next thing I know I am about to get fired. I always wait until I get a final warning before I do something. Now it is giving me depression and anxiety.
Congrats 🎉🎊 on 1m thank you for making these videos 😘😘
This is so brilliant , girl. This was the video that I needed for the past month . Thank you so much for this video , I needed to hear this . You hit the nail on the head for me . Can’t wait for your video about fear because fear is the #1 reason I’m self sabotaging myself from reaching my full potential.
Complacency is the enemy of progress for sure! thanks for the video Aileen I'll be sure to use your tips when I catch myself self-sabotaging.
Thank you,
You help me so much and I feel more peaceful every day while watching your videos💜
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Hi. Do you have time to talk? I really need advice.
@@ruffymapano1982 did u try looking online or talking to the therapist ?
So accurate. I needed this Lavendaire, thank you so much!
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I have been sabotaging myself by not committing to myself and putting energy on to other people and situations. I also KNOW what I’m good at, and I’m also talented at it, but Im still afraid of judgement and my own judgement and part of my prodcastination is deffinetly being a perfectionist and wanting to do everything perfectly because my goals matter a lot to me.
But then again it takes the fun away so I got to learn how to be more light hearted about all this and remember why it is FUN for me to create and be authentically myself. Thank you for this video ❤️
I have had several self sabotaging behaviours whereby I procrastinate a lot and I almost unconciously push myself hard and then procrastinate again all to keep me at the same comfortable level. I know that I am worthy of being my best and the version of myself that is the most excellent and outstanding that I can be. Life is short and full of wonder and growth and opportunities and from now on, I will know this and I will do something about it.
Perfect timing for this video! Thanks so much❤✨
My mind felt lighter watching this. I'm feeling emotional and less anxiety after watching this
Thank you so much for this video!
The way I held myself back once was when I thought that I don't deserve love and relationship and I was so scared to reach out to my crush (I know, it's silly example) but then I did it anyway, I believed that I need and deserve a relationship and it turned out really well - our relationship is growing now and I feel so much more loved and worthy. But still, I have some limiting beliefs in other areas of my life - for example when it comes to my self confidence or my goals, I often doubt myself but I'm trying to fight with this and your video is really helpful, so thank you again for making it
I tend to not make eye contact with people or talk or always avoid being seen because I don't want to feel uncomfortable or seen or humiliated. I feel like it's a part of self esteem and our ego or the fear of unknown. But thank you this really opened my mind thank you so much 💮🙏♥️
Thanks for the wonderful Video!!!
Fantastic. I needed this!
I needed this video at this exact time of my life so much, it’s haunting. Thank you!!