8 Signs You May Be Codependent
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- Hey, Psych2Goers. Today's topic will be about codependency. What is codependency? Are you wondering if you're in a codependent relationship or friendship with a narcissist? Codependency is defined as excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner (or friend!), one who typically needs a lot of support. Codependency can put a lot of strain on both the relationship and the individuals involved in it. So how can you tell if you are codependent? If you find yourself being the codependent individual, the first step is recognizing those signs. What solutions would you give to a friend who might be codependent? Comment below. Share this video with someone who might need it.
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summary:
1. Constant reassurance seeking 0:44
2. Feeling responsible for problem solving 1:12
3. You can’t say “no” 1:41
4. You need to avoid conflict 2:17
5. You’ll do anything to hold on to the relationship 3:18
6. You only feel valued when you’re needed 3:50
7. Too concerned with others feelings and needs 4:25
8. Struggling to identify your own needs and emotions 5:05
Recommend watching to learn more 🖤
Thanks!
it would be nice if Psych2Go put these kinds of summaries along with time stamps in their description so that it would be easier for us to find what we are looking for if we don't have the time to rewatch the video.
idk just me tho
Carissa Jenkins you’re welcome and yes, i agree with you, that would be very helpful!
Y E S. I hate that I'm this way, and it got so much worse after my husband left for basic training and AIT for the army. For half a year, I suffered SO MUCH. Only in recent weeks/months am I trying to herd all my cats.
Thank u.
Thanks for putting this together! It's great that we have individuals like you doing this for us :)
I recently discovered, in my adult life, that I'm codependent. The entire time I thought I was just "kind hearted" and cared for others - little did I realize that I cared for others more than I did for myself. I thought this was self-less. I suppose that it's actually more dangerous than I thought. I guess it's better late than never since I realize this now and am trying to fix my own issues...
I also used to think that I am a good person untill I grew up and realized how unhealthy my thinking was
wow you put it into words! i feel you on that.
Me too. I was taught at s young age to put myself last, because that was virtuous and godly. But growing up, people took advantage of that and I had to cut a lot of people off. It's been hard 😔 but I'm trying..and I've learnt that it's okay to take up space and make mistakes and keeping myself first. Anyone who's offended by me doing these things can fuck off cus they were the ones benefitting from me not having any boundaries in the first place. I need to protect myself now
@@_wingedknight_ yes sir ✊🏾🎯 ur learning I've been doing the same it's much harder to heal these wounds in adulthood
I feel the same. I thought im kind and to give up myself and make others happy or relief but it might be unhealthy. I hope psych2go will have more tips about this. I find it hard to fix myself that I tend to self-sacrifice to the point others may take advantage. Hopefully we get through this
Alright, now a video of How To stop being Codependent 😂🙃
Yesss 👏🏻😂😅
Yesss🤡
Coming soon!
Psych2Go thank you!! love your videos 💛💛
@@BenTheSkipper 💁🏽♀️Soon
When you think that your being kind and caring when you really just co-dependant 😬
Shit shes waking up!!....End the Simulation!
hahaahaha but an empath also suffers from codependency as well
I don't know about that always applying, though. Sometimes you really are coming from a place of kindness and it's other people that mistake that as a codependency problem. Especially when the need for validation isn't there, and you truly want them to seem happy because you know how important it is to bring care and compassion to people that you love who deserve it.
But the key word is to deserve, because sometimes it's best to make judgement calls on who you'd be wasting that kindness on if they're only going to further enable themselves, take advantage of it, or even distract you from the kindness you need to show yourself.
I have a bit of a nihilistic leaning friend that always thinks that kindness is just a desperate codependent ploy for validation and feeling good about oneself. Reading this reminded me of what he said, and I had no problem telling him that I could give less of a shit about self-validation and more about how important it is to show kindness when I just want to see people I love happy.
This is definitely me. Except, I give people their space and don't cling. But on the inside, I thrive off of human connection and if it's not there for a while, I feel so alone and broken.
Same, wish you all the best!
@@julem.2439 You as well, mate. :) Wish you nothing but the best in life.
I'm so sorry
I really feel this one- it’s another attribute of people pleasing where you seem fine to them in giving them the space they need but while they’re off feeling free, we are left feeling so broken.
I’m realizing how much I seek physical reassurance so when they’re away my mind automatically thinks they’re gone forever. It’s crazy. Cheers to healing we will get through this
I relate 100%
I was extremely codependent. For the longest time I always bottled up my feelings and never talked about them to anyone ever for years. So when I got into my first relationship it was such a turning point because now I had someone who I felt comfortable with sharing my feelings with. Since I had so many bottled up I started to completely idiocies and become overly infatuated with her. I started to cling to her as much as I possibly could. Especially during lockdown when I didn’t have anything else to do. She recently broke up with me and I felt like my life was over. It was only then when I finally learned to reach out to many other people and not be afraid to share my feelings. The break up was really really harsh and it pains me to think about it. I really miss her, I still love her and I’ll never forget her. But it at least taught me how to be more open.
Do you think you possibly drove her away, with the constant reassurance and suffocation?? I’m so scared of pushing my current partner away by being like this :(
So you have your identity tied to her?
Aside from it not being my first relationship, I could have written your post. Hang in there, friend. I was with my ex for 4 years and did everything from pay for nearly all of our expenses, do nearly all of our chores, and even moved to the other end of the country with her when she wanted to go back to her old uni. I was too scared to say no or cause conflict, so I bottled things up until the resentment grew so much that I'd explode, causing emotionally abusive episodes every couple of weeks, after which I'd break down and try to bottle things up even harder. It's been nearly a year and she has long since found somebody else, but I'm still a wreck and miss her every day. I hope I can overcome this about myself and build a healthy lifelong relationship and family one day. I wish it hadn't cost me the most meaningful relationship of my life to reach out for help.
just went thru everything u just said as soon as i expressed myself i instantly knew that i was dtm buh i fell in luv wit her for the same exact reason u did we still good tho definitely still hella chemistry between us
@AverageJoe I Will never, in my entire life, relate more to a single statement than this😂
Healing co-dependency comes from knowing your own worth and placing less weight on external validation. Things like working on yourself, having goals and also loving your body through acts of self care slowly builds self-esteem. Remember that this is our life we don't live for others
Exactly! 👏🏼👏🏼 easier said than done but is worth the hard work
Thank you, I needed this. :’)
This is a perfect how-to-guide for avoiding close and meaningful relationships. A... how to die alone for dummies.
Everything listed in this video is perfectly normal human behavior. It's Normal.
Some care more or less than others. You aren't in a special club for identifying with this generic video.
ha..ha, ha.
Yes, this is me! Constantly asking my friends if they’re okay, constantly feeling the need to apologize for things that aren’t my fault to keep other people happy, always stressing that people will leave me if I say no or cause conflict. It’s horrible to feel like you have to tip-toe around everybody!
😔😔😔😔
This is exactly me. It’s exhausting
That's me😔
You might find they like their toes stepped on.
My mind/brain: why u watch this?
Me: it's interesting and just in case
Same
Hahahahahahahahahah
With me it's like:
My mind/brain: why u watch this?
Me: Bored
Me after the video: k I'm defenitly codepended
priyanka c could you share a link? Please like this comment so I actually get notified
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Do you find yourself or someone you know guilty of some of these signs?
I have a few..sometimes
@Emma Heavner Okay! LOL
I want the magazine though it costs money for some reason.
My daughters father is so fucking annoying with needing a pat on the back 😒 Im not going to so 'Hey im so proud of you!' for doing something that's an average adult responsibility
Nope.
Lone Wolf
the "feeling like you bring no value" made my chest feel heavy :/
Mine too...
Same
Identified 100% :/
When you have narc parents and adult child of an alcoholic yes this is so true and common ! When you been gas lot you keep asking for re assurance u can’t trust ur self . It’s sad
Seek therapy! It's the only way. I'm starting to think poor parenting is way more common than we know. Abuse, alcoholism and abandonment, that's what I grew up in
The good news is you out grow it eventually and develop a voice, and boundaries...
Thanks doc, I need out of my parents control
I grew up in the same kind of family so I know how you feel 😢
I- this proved that I am codependent... can we have a video of how to stop being codependent, please? I love your content, thank you for making this channel!
We can make a video on that!
@@Psych2go thank you so much!!!!
@@Psych2go I'll wait for that vid 😁
@Psych2Go Yes please!! How to stop being codependent, not only just in romantic relationships or friendships but with family as well. Parents...
Psych2Go thank you so much!
Oh God this was 100% me with my ex-best friend. I'm so glad that friendship ended. I'm in a much better place now.
Dont you feel FREE?🌈🦚🦄🌌🛸
Same happend with me...
Me too.
I think i was the codependent one.
But she ended it badly than she should have. But,definitely, a lesson
In life, we need to come to a point where we know our worth and we stand our ground. While we may need "extra" support from others, we shouldn't be fully relying on them. We're all capable of growing and what we have and are now IS ENOUGH. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
I struggled a lot with codependency in a relationship, with friends and family. I was trying to not bother others and that held me so much.
I have improved a lot, I kinda struggle with that but I am putting myself first in things that I should be first.
any advice so far?
I’m so guilty of this. I hate myself for it. I turn to my partner when I’m stuck, when all I’m asking for is help, not for her to do everything for me.
Definitely feel like I'm some of these...I'm usually the last one standing in any relationship and I never want them to end. When I sense people need space I give it to them but inside I am wanting them closer 😭❤
*To the 1 person who's reading this: You're very intelligent and adorable human! Stay healthy during quarantine.* 💜
Tysm! You to!
Thanks man!
Thanks! Same to you!
Thank you and you too. I have had a shit day today and you have made it a bit better. Thanks so much 💋
Im soooo not adorable 😂
The thing I really like about this channel is the right videos pop up at the right times thank you psych2go 😂
Hope it was helpful! I guess the topics are always just relatable!
for those who are asking about how to change codependency behaviors, i found these tips to help a lot :
1- start to discover more about your true self and try to love it the way it is because at this point your self image is most probably distorted or you will need to do more act of self love
2- start to cultivate positive thinking and positive imagination of events , codependency root cause is the fear that future events are going to turn out just the way it did in our past. but that is not true ts in your hand to look for and expect positive things
3- learn to manage stress properly, as codependents usually gets stressed easily , learn of healthy habits that will reduce stress instead of falling in traps of addiction which will make fighting codependency more harder to fight
4- connect with as many people as possible .
5- Read a lot about this topic or go to therapy if needed , knowledge is power and this change is really a journey that will require time and effort
6- exercise and have a balanced diet, you need to be on top of your mental health in order to heal and fight anxiety and other mental disorders that usually accompanies being codependent
7- finally do some deep soul searching about what makes you feel alive and what is it the purpose you are here , for someone it might be to be a doctor treating patients and saving lives , for another it might be being a musician to bring art to life and make people happy , for me it is to help people who are mentally ill and in need and to help people have better life in general. the higher your mission in life is the better self worth you will have for yourself and meaning to your life.
I wish all I had to do to stay on top of my mental illness was eat three times a day and exercise. Bipolar and can't afford my meds. If walking was all it took, I would walk until I dropped from exhaustion. Imagine every day having the emotional intensity of the worst and best days of your life, and you never know which one it's going to be.
Never realized how codependent I was until now, I’m toxic asf damn 😔
Eric Rodriguez 😔
BIG SAD 😔😔😔
Work on yourself! You got this, I'm on a healing journey too. Read books about it, seek therapy, and find your beautiful self! We got this! ❤
I used to think a good relationship was when your partner needed you as much as you needed them.
actually only where are responsible of our own well being...otherwise codependency can make you miserable, specially if the other person leaves you or die
*To the person who is reading this:* you are beautiful, strong, intelligent and kindhearted. You can get through anything if you put your mind to it. You are here for a reason even if you haven’t found that reason yet. You are wonderful and if anyone tells you differently, well... there soooo wrong. I hope you have a good day, good evening, or the sweetest of dreams (depending of time zones) you are you and that’s more than enough for me and for plenty of other people in your life even if you think that’s not true. If you have no one else just remember I am here and so are many of us. You can do beautiful things. You can be whatever you want to be. Don’t feel ashamed to be you because life itself is the most precious gift ever, I am suffering from depression but slowly creeping out of it. Even if you think this world doesn’t deserve you and even if you think this world sucks, well... once you get out of the thing that’s causing you to think that way you will most possibly see the beauty of the world and how kind you are and how beautiful you are. So lastly, stay strong, stay unique, stay safe and sane. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL ❤️💋🥰 Luv ya lots xoxo
Thank you so much for this. It made my day😄
I appreciate you for writing all this ...ps.hope your doing better with your depression #your a beautiful soul we’re all in this together 💪🏻
Aww, I gonna send this to a friend as well. :)
ja nein aww that’s great
Geoh Deals yeah I’m doing a bit better.
I’m currently in a relationship and I’ve known that I’m codependent. I’m thinking of leaving now because I’m drained emotionally. I always apologise, always get anxious when I don’t get a “good morning” text. I often feel like I need to walk on eggshells to avoid making my partner angry. It’s scary because I feel like he’s used to me always apologising and hardly ever tries to be the bigger person whenever we have a fight. I’m just tired 😔😔
Definitely me right now. Did it get better for you?
@@ShawnieEllis nope. It didn’t. Got married to the guy last year, I suppose things did get better but the silent treatments still continue. We are separated now and I am trying to be independent, still deciding whether I wanna continue with the relationship or not.
My ex told me I was codependent and it "ate him alive" and that I was a horrible person bc of it. I tried everything to fix it, it made me hate myself. My now boyfriend is very very clearly codependent (while I'm not anymore), and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I love him. I have no problem reassuring him because I care for him. I try to make him understand he is loved and secure so he heals little by little but even if he doesn't, I don't care. I am happy by his sides, I love him.
If you are codependent, and you want to "fix" it, ask yourself why. If you want to do so, do it so your heart is healed, so you are loved by you, for you. Don't do it bc someone made you feel bad about it. You are not a bad person. You are just a person with emotional wounds that need patience and care to stop hurting.
Be gentle with you and your big heart because you are a 100% worthy of it.
Every single point you said was applicable to me. So, halfway through the video I thought "wow, what if I had seen this video sooner?". I check the date. It was published on the same day that I was broken up with.
This is crazy.
I am profoundly sad. Never did I imagine I'd relate so much to this. I need to change. Thank you so much
This video basically described my entire friendship with my best friend. But I still feel trapped in the sense that even though I understand that it’s unhealthy, I don’t want to stop because I don’t want to lose my friendship.
How are you now
He probably is not your friend..
My ex and I were both codependent in the worst way possible. It was miserable. But then again if we never entered that relationship we would never have learned anything about this. So I'm still thankful for that.
Love your content, but I miss the “X ways to deal with...” videos. Maybe doing mini series on specific topics? “X signs that you are codependent”, followed by “Y ways to deal with codependency”, and lastly, “Z signs that your fight against codependency is working”. Anyways, keep up the good work, guys!
Oh my god. It’s crazy that the animation portrays how I feel perfectly. codependency is definitely the root of my anxiety order.
It’s never that simplified. Usually, better said generally, it’s multi factorial. Anxiety, depression; you can never put too fine a point on the root cause. It’s usually a host of things
I'm actually too independant, and this make me noticed, nothing is as good as we idealise. Glad to acknowledge the meaning codependancy and the effect it could do to people, if the person stay comfy in the constance of this habits.
I straight up stopped myself from calling my mom and friends to discuss how I'm exhausted being strong. Then I realized "this may not be an external conversation w/friends rather w/myself". Big gulp. And took a shower, started cleaning & having an inner dialogue.
I find that physical activity also helps
Okay this hits close, I've been unlucky when it comes to having friends so most of the times I become insecure when they don't talk to me much often and my mood sometimes depends on if my friend talks to me or not. She is a really good friend of mine and she knows that too, it's just that I feel that she doesn't prioritize me as much as I prioritize her, or maybe I'm just overthinking this. I have done most of the things mentioned in the video here so I don't know what to do now😔
You don't know how much you mean to the other person, you can only ever know your own thoughts. "She doesn't prioritize me as much as I do her" is just framing it wrong. Instead try telling her this: "I feel like you don't prioritize me enough." Now weather or not this is true is irrelevant, This Is How You Feel.. and the only way to move forward is tell her how you feel. All relationships ebb and flow, sometimes you need them sometimes they need you.
You don't have a personality disorder.
@@mgntstr Thanks for replying, I really needed that today. I'll talk to her about this and maybe everything will be alright. Thanks stranger from the internet
This pretty much describes my relationship with my mum for most of my life. Thankfully I eventually realised that it was unhealthy and set up boundaries but it took a lot to get there.
Youre not alone. I was a victim of my mother. Did me more damage than good but I am on the rise. She cried heavy tears when I left her. I don’t hate her but she was manipulative and so much more. I have a ZERO contact with her because she won’t ever change but I will always love her
I feel so related to 3 and 4.. It has been so difficult for me to fight against these.. But every day is a new opportunity ❤️ thank you for this list.
My GF is highly independent and she pointed out I was co-depended. I valued her soo deeply, with my overthinking and emotionally attached to her. I tend to lose it at times and she gets pissed. I always rely on my dad while growing up and never received love from my mom or my dad. My GF understands my problems and issues and does try to remind me of the issues I need to fix. And I'm getting better and improved a lot while my GF does her own thing. Everytime we argue and I fixed my problems? She falls in love more and more knowing I'm being a man in our relationship and fixing my problems! Co-depended is a serious thing and get some help to recover before she or he gets tired and move on from you!
how'd you manage to recover? Just spending a lot of time alone?
@@alysonwong3682 apply myself to grow up and mature, with her guidance. She worked with me and helped me be a better person. I did this, cause I truly love her and don't want to show the one I loved the most fail. It was a hard battle but now we're happier and very healthy together.
You're lucky to have a gf like her. But try not to get emotionally too attached.
Hello Psych2go Community! I hope with all my heart that we all grow internally. Here's to healing emotionally, mentally and physically I hope you all find inner peace!!!😘❤
Out of all the Psych2Go videos ive watched this one hits hardest
Codependent dealing with a narcissist. Anxiety level 1000%.
Totally relatable mostly in terms of friendships! Please make a video on how to stop being codependent.
That moment when you watch a video wondering if someone you know is co-dependent.... only to realize that you're actually the co-dependent one.
This video actually relates to me a ton and kind of explains something I’ve gone through recently with a friend. We were really close but after I accidentally said the wrong thing to her, our relationship shattered into a million pieces for a number of different reasons. It happened about a month ago and the effects are still living on. I really needed her support as a friend which is what lead to me being a bit too honest with her. It has been worrying me so much, I need a hug
Honest heartfelt apologies go a long way. Even if not everything's fixed all at once it opens the door for growth.
@@ed-mh7zl that’s the thing, I already tried a heartfelt apology and actually, my friend was barely affected by what I said so that’s nice. The problem is her mom. She doesn’t trust me anymore. One thing that I honestly don’t like about being a kid is that not only do the parents dictate what we can and can’t do, but they get to say who’s trustworthy and who’s not. For instance, my friend, she trusts me a whole bunch but it doesn’t matter if she trusted me with her life, how trustworthy her mom says I am is all that matters in the end and it’s messed up because almost all of my friends have overprotective parents and they secretly don’t trust me and see me as a threat to their daughter. I’ve tried to prove that I’m trustworthy but I guess the stereotype that all teenage guys are rapists overrules anything I try to say or do to prove that I’m trustworthy. It’s quite sad because you couldn’t pay me a million dollars to harm one of my friends physically or sexually, I’m mentally incapable of doing it. Sorry, I went on a bit of a rant there but it is quite frustrating
Ok virtual hug to you💙🥺
@@isaacdillon630 go search a girl with no overprotective parents and can stand on her own. Probably her parent sees your friend as incapable yet to not trust people too much. Or withstand you (or someone like you). If you’d still like to convince them, though. Go ahead. Try to stay calm and find reason to be self assured about why you are dependable. Believe in yourself.
And also accept the fact that the word you said are a result of one of your blunt nature and it might happen again. Be clear with her about that.
I'm breathing a sigh of relief, i try to fix everything, I'm always putting others first ECT.... Thank you so much this was a big big help ❤️
video: *uploaded 23 seconds ago*
comments: *4 months ago*
me: **visible confusion**
Yeah..RUclips IS DRUNK AGAIN
the video was unlisted this whole time. and they have just publicly released it
ヘ（。□°）ヘ
Y'all gotta stop making these comments, it's very annoying. It's not that weird when Patreon exists
@priyanka c Do you have a link for it please? Thanks ahead
I think there was a point in time where I could have been co dependent but instead just embraced loneliness and found my self feeling happier alone than with someone else
I really wanna say this to you:thank you for making my life better
I’m glad there is a video on codependency... I needed this to help myself to see if I do have the traits of codependency and I relate to the last 3 more than anything... now just need another video XD to how to cope or stop it
A lot of these signs were with me in the past and some of them still are now. Since lockdown happened I became aware of them and actively working on gaining a balance between codependency and independency. You cannot solely depend on others all the while you cannot solely go at it alone every single time. There is a time and place for reaching out as well as solitude
Now I’m scared lol this is accurate
How can I prevent it to happen in my next relationship?
What are your thoughts on relationship coaching?
Bruh you a time traveler?
Psych2Go it’s useful, I guess I need to watch some videos to remember how to behave
Mythmaster111 no, I was looking for a video and I went to their playlists and I saw this and I watched it. Then I realized it was hidden, they made it public only today
I've looked at a lot of psych2go videos, but I've never related to one so heavily before! I'm pretty sure I fit every sign of codependency, which is relieving because know I can work through it now! Thanks for that!
So this was super helpful and I'm really glad I've finally figured out why I'm so unstable... Thanks so much
We become emotional care taker in a co-dependent relationship. Co-dependent No More is a good book to understand more about co-dependency. Thank you, good content🙏🙏
@priyanka c That's amazing, please let me know the blog details.
For relationships I recommend The Human Magnet Syndrome!
Chill with the uploads!!! Please, I have them all on watch later I just don't have the time 😂
Is there a video on "Codependency or Social Anxiety?"
We have one on social anxiety here: ruclips.net/video/MpovjH-06Uc/видео.html
How?
How did you?
4 months ago? 👀
@Jéssica PS they have early access
@{Da Insomniac} they have early access
My best friends really cared about communication until I heal from codependency.Them not judging and guiding me a bit helped me really overcome this.
I can relate to everything that was just said to 100%.
I’m so afraid of people leaving me, that I don’t do the first one even though it’s what I actually want to do.
The opposite is happening, I isolate myself, because I feel like giving too much love, so that they would find me annoying and leave.
Outsch.
I'm literally all of these 🤦🏻♀️
Same!!! We evolving from this through God tho🙏🏾
@@thekiramorris Agree! 🙏🏻
I consider it a sign that this popped on my recommendations this morning. Thank you :-) Now to fix it....
Numbers 1 and 4 is definitely me. I’m getting help with that.
Great book in this subject: codependent no more by melody beatie
One lesson I learned from this book is that I’m not responsible for others thoughts and feelings. And I’m only responsible for my own thoughts and feelings
The more I watch Psych2Go, the more I realize I have issues.
Here to learn more after today’s therapy session.
Codependent people are such gifted lovers, full of big hearts and kindness. The problem is they don't think they are good enough, gifted lovers and full of big hearts and kindness alone. They need someone else's approval to see it in order for them to feel loved and valued themselves. People from the outside most of the time see it. Their are two types of people. On of them will return with love and will help them love their self by telling them that no matter what they do whether they say yes or no, they are loved and they are valued. Or, you have one of those who are sent by the devil, those who will take advantage of these people and use them then throw them in the trash (especially narcissists). If the codependent person learn to be independent and also depend on the right person healthily, knowing that whether that person reject them or not they are still awesome and amazing people who are lovable and valuable, and loved and valued by others no matter what, if you are a faith person most importantly by GOD, then the codependency will go away. Love yourself. Love others, and if you are a believer, Love GOD. I promise you are beautiful and no one can replace you
I was watching some vids about building relationships, and they said that being needy is a bad thing, but it is sooo hard not to be when you really are, there were moments when I was forcing myself to not texting one person for some days, that was extremelly difficult, feels like sugar addiction, when you try not to eat it, but desire is so high
You're not alone. I have a colleague who I got to know a little bit over long-distance recently and the fact that she happened to be "my type" and seemed to show more care and affection than any other regular friend before, made me so overwhlemed to the point where I was having panic attacks for days, could barely one meal's worth in 24 hours, and was sometimes struggling to breath. I felt so guilty and hated myself because I hadn't even met them in person, had barely known them for two weeks, and it was completely taking over my thoughts. Not a great feeling when you're already in a relationship and this has happened at least three times before. I ended up telling her and while she seemed to take it well, she thinks it's best I don't talk to her often out of consideration for my girlfriend, which is rational but I can't help but feel crushed that it had to come to this. I guess it's good that our friendship hasn't turned completely sour yet, but this feeling is always so painful and just makes me not want to be around anyone out of fear that I'll hurt them.
Is it weird that i can relate to each and every video psych2Go uploads? Is it only me?
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Wow, I can't believe how much I relate to all of these .
Thank you. There’s a lot I have to work on. This helped me realize how codependent I am. ❤please keep making informational videos like these. Someone brought this to my attention. But never too late to make a change for the better for myself.
Thank you so much for your videos! A lot of the time, I never spend time trying to figure out who I am and what my feelings are. This channel makes express my emotions
Same here.
I am so guilty with this video, one time we had an argument with my GF that she said she's being choked, she said "You just love me too much". Like my entire self is revolving around her, my happiness is too reliant on her. I always seek validation and love from her. Sometimes I can't control myself that every situation we face is such a big deal to me. I always overthink that she might leave me, don't love, and just using me. Man believe me, the struggle of being a codependent person is so frustrating. I am so disappointed on myself sometimes.
Hang in therapy, and please consider therapy if you can afford it. I'm codependent too, and when my GF left me out of the blue after 4 years together, it absolutely broke me as a human being. By getting help before something like that happens, maybe you'll be able to prevent the breakup or at least make the pain more manageable if it's inevitable.
As a leader, I'm fully relate to this video :( Thank you so much, it helps me identify that there is really a problem in myself😃
I love the voice of the person who narratives these videos
Well this definitely sounds like me. It explains so much
It does seem like codependency is being projected negatively, but it’s not always the case. We need each other, as human beings.
I was originally like this. I went through boot camp at my previous life and later got into a lot of hobbies that helped me develop a sincere sense of identity in myself.
My codependency caused me many problems, I was far too obsessed in a way with my friends, I don't want them to reject me and worse, abandon me. Now, I realised how it really makes it so hard for me to live. Especially if I can't even ask for the reassurance I need. I've been quite closed off and distant. I can't ask if they're mad, sad or disappointed so I guess everytime. In online friends, my worries gets more stressful. I worry, everyday. It makes me cry everytime. I give them all my heart, and my codependency of reassurance again- rises up. I still don't ask. "Am I enough?" "Am I good?" "Do you need me?" "Am I your friend?" and I apologise so much. Right now, I've distanced myself so much, I don't even know how to open up as it's gonna overwhelm them. I'm not sure how to help myself, and therapy is a long way in money for me.
I've always been pretty independent and confident in myself, which made me easy to be my true self in relationships. I've noticed I've dated people who were extreme people pleasers and I guess what people would now call "simps". I never understood why I found it such a turn off (maybe because I don't like when everything is done for me because it makes me come off as incompetent of taking care of myself and I didn't like that). I've tried to explain to friends but they've always thought that it was a dream to have guys like the ones I've been with. This video made me open my mind up to reasons why they were the way that they were. A lot of them were in fact very insecure individuals, which I guess is what turned me off because I want someone who is confident in their thoughts, and feelings and not just agree with whatever I say/do.
As someone who was with someone who was a simp. I started out as codependent on him then went independent and avoidant REALLY quickly
@@theamvgirlx the same happened to me until i realized that be dependent of a codependent can be as toxic as well
No offense, but you low-key sound like a narcissist.. 🤷🏾♀️
100% agree with you. My girlfriend and I have been together for a while now, but I’ve realized that she is so codependent on me, and it’s not kinky a turn off, but I feel bad because I know she can be a better person than that. I want to tell her to stop being like that, and to get help, but I’m not trying to ruin her life because she basically sees me as this god who saved her, how should I bring it up? Any ideas?
@@strikeobama9071 I'm in the same situation and I feel stuck. Like I know this person needs me but I need to not be needed so much.
If your Bella from twilight there’s your answer
Lol so true 🤣
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Lleucu Jones it’s bc I just binged the series so it was in my head
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There is no words to describe this channel I LOVE YOU GUYS
I didn't even know what codepedent meant i just clicked and i relate to all the signs 😞
you learn something new everyday
Co dependent: The perfect woman
She was a caretaker with a narcissistic/ abusive mother and we were codependent. Our friendship of 8 yrs was built on this and lots of trauma bonding. It ended badly when I decided to end things but it made me so much stronger and better than who I was before. The key to working off codependency for me was learning to value, trust, and love inside of myself for who I am, not relying on fixing/saving others to fill in those holes like you need a purpose to keep up existence. You are enough as you are.
Sometimes the niceness that you show to others comes at the expense of your own happiness and well-being. Sometimes being nice attracts people willing to take advantage of your kindness and use your good nature against you. Don't be so nice that you start to resent others.
What worked for you for overcoming it? The building resentment cost me multiple long-term relationships and I don't know how to fix it.
@@RicochetOcelot I started working on myself and boosting my self-esteem via self-forgiveness and shadow work.
why are these videos connect perfectly to my life events lol i have psych2go on notification so, im blown away how accurate and useful the content is
Yay thank you so much!! For the video and the magazine!! Woohoo so happy for you guys 🎉🎉❤❤❤
Is Her voice very soothing
Or is it just me?
Thank you! Do you want ASMR from her?
@@Psych2go lol
@@Psych2go please
Psych2Go maybe, like a guided meditation or something
I thought This too While scrolling down :D
Me:*Reads the title* No way I am going to get all of these signs
After I saw the whole video
*Gets all these signs* 😭😆
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Same
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I just got 1, 2, 6 and 7
Let’s go XD
Cool thanks @psych2Go for making this video making codependency which is a huge unknown thing aware. I already recently (7 months ago) identify been codependent & went to a CODA support group, & I learn a lot from seen your videos content!!! 😊
Thank You Psych2go for an AMAZING topic! You guys hit topics that are harder to come by on other RUclips channels. I love how you all lay the topic out, in a way that's easy to follow. ❤
How coincidence, I also watched a video about Codependence yesterday.
Was this one helpful?
This sounds like Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
1. Reliant on others for approval
2. Controlling {Whether it be consciously or not}
3. Avoid Disagreement
4. Tight grip on other individual
5. Not feeling valued when the other person can live without you
6. Difficult detecting emotions
I’m not saying that they coexist. I’m simply noting the similarities between the two disorders, which are often thought of as polar opposites.
Not all codependents are narcissists? I have BPD and it causes me to be codependent
Valirixal I’m not saying that they coexist. I’m simply noting the similarities between the two disorders, which are often thought of as polar opposites.
@@fournsevenhzerofive7617 plz say that in the main comment above
Yeah, emotional parasitism, I know codependents cant help it tho
Whaaa whaat? How is this 4 months ago? I’m so confused.
I showed a lot of these signs with a friend and I'm working on it.
I literally felt like this video described me in its entirety. My codependency and jealousy issues have put me and my long distance girlfriend into having a rough relationship so many times. I could never explain how or why I felt like how I did; but this video put my exact thoughts and emotions down to the T.
Hey, I just wanna tell you a suggestion of a video:
“Signs That You Are Afraid Of Someone”
Sign #1: You feel fear towards this person
Sign #2 - Feeling intimidated when nearby him/her.
ok that’s enough of signs in the replies thank you
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Lol bruh
@@fredericmoresmau4303 You know, society. It's like History repeating itself again.
Welp, it's either they stalked me or they just made a perfect description of who I am...woohooo lowselfesteeeem
You are not alone 😂😥😭
I never understood why everyone say codependency is so bad treating it like a decease... I see it as a good thing and completely normal to trust rely on your loved ones. It is only a problem when when egoistic psychopaths takes advantage of it. It is not the codependent that is sick, it is those the take advantage of it and abuses the codependent...
This channel has inspired me to study psychology , it's like they know more than I know myself-
no one:
half of the comments: 4 months ago
Time travellers
@@Psych2go I feel special now that you replied
priyanka c ok
Hello. I am a codependent partner, I can relate to all 8 signs from the video. I was not like this before until a traumatic event happened which made me into this. I am pretty aware it's stressful, but I cannot control my anxieties. Any suggestions are welcome. I work 12hrs everyday, I want to take care of myslelf but can't.
Did you see the videos Physch2go has made about anxiety? I hope these will help you. I was in depression and the videos about depression made by Psych2go really helped me.I didn't seen the videos on anxiety but I hope these will help you. Also,I hope you will get better soon!😊
videos, audiobooks and therapy helped me...and then you have to work on yourself and take action (the hardest thing)
That's so me, thanks for pointing that out ♥️
I needed this. I rely on everyone but my own self. I have driven people away. Its sad.