TW: This story contains descriptions of modern slavery, forced prostitution, spiritual and emotional abuse and mental health issues. Please take care 💖
My sincerest sympathies to anyone who has experienced any of this. My personal history includes a stint renting a room from a landlord who turned out to be pimping a trailer trash neighbor and her own t-girl girlfriend. When I moved out into a tent, I considered that an upgrade.
I had a series of toxic friendships for about 10 years. They were always such victims, and everything that happened to them was never a consequence of their own actions.
I don't know much about Kat Torres, but I know what people do in the States with someone who keeps committing crimes, shows no remorse or empathy, and is incapable of even conceptualising themselves ever being wrong. They elect him president.
Well it's either that or use the case as justification for why enforcing mental health care standards is a waste of time. Both negatively affect people.
But I guess we're now all supposed to never call him a narcissist, and be understanding and sympathetic about the challenges he faces due to his pathology?
Am from Texas, the way they were handling that gun fills me with so much frustration. From a young age I was taught you always treat a firearm as if it's loaded, even if you know it's not. Rule number 1 is not to point it at anything. Fuck them pointing the gun at the cat like that. It's a weapon, not a toy.
Yep, my dad is a gun nut in Arizona so I grew up with them and he always ingrained in us, "Never point a gun at someone you don't intend to kill." Loaded or unloaded. Gah, thank heavens I live in a country now that doesn't allow any rando to have guns. Was shot at too many times in Arizona, for being a lesbian.
According to FBI and ATF statistics well over 200,000 guns are stolen every year, largely from people's homes. The gun owners are "good, law-abiding citizens," and their guns are used in crimes across the country, including murders. Unfortunately many of these "good, law abiding citizens" would fight tooth and nail against any law that forces them to store their guns and ammunition safely so that the thefts are more difficult. The claims of people being responsible gun owners need to be regarded with skepticism. I don't doubt some are, but hundreds of thousands obviously aren't. And we shouldn't be relying on their willingness and ability to do the right thing. We need laws to protect ourselves.
Here in Brazil, there's a whole investigative podcast series about her. Even her beginnings are a sham: she was elected "miss" of a small town by appointment, not by participating in the competition, and that's what she used as a platform to get into another "miss" show and to get modeling contracts
@@jamesrule1338A 100 percent tax is kinda wild don't you think, why can't they keep like, 35 or 40 percent of it. Just seems a smidge ridiculous to take it all.
@@jamesrule1338 Who would it solve problems for? What about the people who end up with nothing through no fault of their own (it happens) for whom an inheritance would mean the difference between having a roof over their head and being homeless?
I really need unearned wealth ! I would love to see the effect on my brain ! Oh who am I kidding no matter how much it would be I would spend it all quickly and return to the natural order of the Universe !
That was hilarious indeed! And I already have IBS and PTSD... so no, thank you very much! I'll have the cup of tea and a biscuit anytime though! Sounds lovely!
Some drugs have the hangover after, other drugs have the hangover before, others have the hangover during. Some people would rather pay the price up front, others would rather pay later. Smart people recognize the hangover as their body being poisoned and avoid being poisoned.
Ayahuasca diarreah syndrome.This DMT plant drug mixture has produced countless ego led psuedo-shamans persuaded by their experiences that they have special insights into Life that you cant possibly have...
As somebody with a cluster B personality disorder, who was also in an abusive relationship with someone with a cluster B personality disorder, thank you so much for that PSA. Really it means the world for people like me. And yes i 100% agree that it's important to be able to name abusive patterns but not demonize disorders. Personally i've been using words like "self-obsessed abusive behaviours" instead of narcissistic abuse and "emotionally manipulative abusive behaviours" instead of borderline/bpd abuse. It's not perfect by any means, but hopefully it's a starting point for talking about these things in a more humanizing way.
@@WilliamBrowningput down the crack pipe sir. Try reading the statement again. If anything they're saying calling people a narcissist doesn't require an official diagnosis. In no world is that a defense of narcissists😂
@@WilliamBrowningNot defending malignant narcissists here, but according to mental health professionals, not everyone with narcissistic behaviors has NPD; furthermore, not everyone with NPD is a malignant narcissist. It's easy to think they are, but apparently that's not the case. Also, not all narcissists are sociopaths.
Thanks for the preface. I have a personality disorder. I never thought all of the chaos in my life was my fault in any way. It took a lot of hardship and therapy and medication to get to a point in my life that I can accept my own responsibility life. That said, my actions are mine. I'm still responsible for what I said and did in my life, regardless of the fact that my development and mental condition isn't the same as most people. I didn't choose to have this type of mind, but I did choose my actions. My personality disorder is why I think different, not why I act different.
Do you know the story of the Three Christs of Ypsilanti? In the late 50s and early 60s, three male patients at Ypsilanti State Hospital in Michigan were under the delusion that they were Jesus Christ. Psychologist Milton Rokeach had them interact with each other in order to see if they could cure each others' delusions. It didn't work; initially, there were physical altercations between the men, and eventually, they each concluded that the others were mental patients and/or machine-operated corpses, still believing that they were in fact Jesus Christ. All three would spend the rest of their lives at Ypsilanti. As Rokeach would later conclude, while he couldn't cure the men, "[The experiment] did cure me of my godlike delusion that I could manipulate them out of their beliefs."
Your segment on NPD is so, so much appreciated. “Narcissistic” becoming the new buzzword has made my own brain just a horrible place to be for a while - I swing between “omg everyone thinks I’m the worst thing that ever exists,” which then over corrects with “actually no, I’m the best” - and of course logically I know people aren’t talking about *me,* but y’know. There’s a reason it’s a diagnosable mental illness. EDIT: One thing that’s very important to note is that “narcissistic” as it’s used in popular culture is very different from NPD. Other words that people should probably be using are things like “self-obsessed” and “manipulative.” Not every abuser is a narcissist, and not every narcissist is an abuser.
In regards to your EDIT, yeah, I've stopped using "narcissistic" as a descriptor many years ago for this reason. Someone above wrote in a reply, something that I don't agree with, that "But a person can absolutely be narcissistic without having NPD." which proves your point.
Yes. People can have narcissistic traits without being a "narcissist" in a clinical sense. I think many people do to some degree! I think we need to stop referring to anyone who behaves badly as narcissistic or as a narcissist. It's incredibly harmful, imo. Things you can say instead when someone is being a jerk: -self centered - selfish -arrogant -unreceptive to valid criticism -emotionally unavailable/withholding -manipulative -avoids accountability -emotionally immature -takes advantage These name the specific behaviors without broadly labeling someone or further stigmatizing an already stigmatized serious mental health condition
Narcissists aren't disordered. They are perfectly fine being who they are. Their environment struggles with them. I don't get this 'narcissists are poor people' attitude. Yes, narcissists think that, but if you only think that you're worthless, then you're anxious and have low self esteem. If you are a narcissist, you say that to other people to get the pity and support you think you deserve for being the hero you are. And then you go to therapy to get the confirmation you need to know that the negative longterm reactions of people around you aren't justified and you're misunderstood because you have a disorder.
One of the defining traits of any mental health disorder is that it varies greatly from the social norms. Culturally, we are all becoming more "narcissistic" and self-absorbed. We tend to pick up clinical terms and diagnose ourselves or others, and use the diagnosis to blame or excuse the behavior. Diagnoses are for informing treatment. It's good that you took a moment to cut that off before it became a huge thread full of blame and excuses that ultimately helps no one.
Hey now, screw you. I’ve been doing tarot since 1997, & when I do it for people I CARE & actually contact the angels & give it my ALL, & do not answer dumb questions. I no longer do paid readings bc answering important life questions (especially for so cheap), was way too stressful & took way too much of my time. But I’m not a performer-I really do channel Spirit for people. Some of us are REAL-it’s just so hard to tel with all the fakes online these days. I NEVER contacted ANYONE either! & had so many people coming to me from all over the world, but I had to stop.
Hey now. I actually CARE & put my ALL into readings when I did them. Been doing it since 1997, but I had to quit bc it got too stressful answering important life questions for people, especially for so cheap, & it took way too much time. Some of us are REAL, it’s just hard to tell these days with all the fakes online. & I NEVER contacted ANYONE, & had so many people come to me from all over the world. I can’t stand people who DM people asking if they want a reading. That’s a dead giveaway that they’re no good.
I've been thinking how good these 2 would be together for ages! Their videos stop me from shouting at the telly, becuase they research everything so well I don't need to scream about lies - Emma and Müne do it for me
3:32 re. Narcissism. Thank you, Emma. This is so true! Leave the diagnoses to the medical experts, and that includes diagnosing the people in our personal lives. If somebody is making your life miserable, find a way to keep them at a safe distance. It isn't necessary to label them.
I agree one has to be careful with diagnoses.. but if a person clearly shows many traits of narcissistic personality disorder it's not unreasonable to think "if it quacks like a duck, there's a good chance it's a duck." I found the behavior of a certain person at previous job very questionable so looked it up and she had almost all the traits. In that case it was "vulnerable narcissistic personality disorder", which is more difficult to spot than "grandiose narcissistic personality disorder."
@@dannyvanhecke The DSM is just a guide. Its not the end all be all of diagnosis. There is a reason why you need a fair few sessions before you can get a diagnosis. The psychologist has to get an idea of the entirety of you, not just when youre at work. Because everyone acts a bit differently at work than they do at home or out in public.
I live with someone with diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder and psychosis (from using Datura once) and hidden alcoholism as a roommate right next door to me. It's terrible. It's so much gaslighting, lying, manipulation. It took a year for another roommate to figure out that she was being manipulated and only after he lost it once because she didn't agree with him. It's a struggle and hurts. Sadly i can only keep bare minimum distance but i also can't move because of health reasons at this time. Every day is draining. But having one roommate realise she was being manipulated made her talk way more with me, being the only one left in a flat of 4 people who doesn't drink and tries to take distance from those other two.
‘Life coaching’ is such a scammer’s paradise. I know of a person who until very recently served a Christian parish as its pastor, who went off the rails during the pandemic with a men’s group going shooting in the woods, then taking liberties in a Joseph Smith kind of way with the women of the parish until someone finally complained. He was defrocked straightaway by the bishop whom he served and moved away from the coast to some red state where he immediately put together a new vocation as ‘life coach’ hoping none of his clients recognize him by his former identity as a religious leader. He aims to continue to exert influence over people, he can’t help himself, even though he ruined his own life and family’s reputation, he’s undaunted in the business of telling people how to live.
Thank you for the so called "Long boring interlude". As someone who is studying psychology and counseling, it's a breath of fresh air to hear a creator address these issues in the manner you do here.
@@eideticexI think the joke is that the top comment must have been describing Emma, which is unfair because she is not only beautiful but also intelligent.
I just wanted to say that I really appreciated your break in the video early on to really break down the armchair diagnosis and harmful demonization of anyone with a particular mental disorder. As someone who has struggled with ADHD and who falls somewhere on the mild end of the narcissism spectrum but has been through a lot of therapy to make sure that I understand the tendencies and issues that would otherwise negatively affect those around me, I really appreciate it! I put in mental and emotional work on a daily basis to make sure that I am minimizing the trauma and negative effects of my disorders on my family and it is REALLY appreciated that you took that time to make that "boring interlude". I love your channel, and this is one of the reasons why I watch so much of your content. You are really genuine and try to make sure that you are balanced and reasonable in your approach to literally almost everything. Keep being awesome Emma!!
"I just feel like you can have spiritual experiences without shitting yourself in front of people," may be the best thing I have ever heard on the internet.
@@camfields7685 I'm the Holy Spirit. Neither of you would be able to communicate anything to humanity with any clarity if it wasn't for me. What? You're accusing *me* of a lack of clarity?
Thank you for yet another nuanced and compassionate take on a serious issue. Your point about how we 'deal' with people like this - i think our current model of 'justice' is far too focused on retribution rather than rehabilitation. It is about attempting to right a perceived wrong by harming the party who wronged someone. The problem is, these actions will never undo the harm that was caused, and they don't stop the events from reoccurring. We need far more emphasis on rehabilitation and support services. This woman, if we are to take her at her word, that she believes what she is saying, is clearly unwell, and is not able to hold a consistent view of reality, and as such she needs help and support for that, and until she has recovered, she has shown she is dangerous to those around her, and could cause irreparable harm and should not be allowed unsupervised, to engage with those she may harm.
If offenders commit crimes and are (partially) not accountable because of their mental state, in The Netherlands they can be submitted into a forensic clinic, which can last a lifetime if the patient is deemed untreatable.
America is pretty similar. To plead insanity, it has be shown that you didn't know what you were doing was wrong, and IF you're proven to be "insane", you're hospitalized until you're healthy enough to know the difference between right and wrong, then you have to do serve your sentence after that. If you ever get to that point.
yeah, if one is unable to comprehend what were the negative consequences of their own actions/crimes, they need to be isolated from the society for the rest of their lives 🤷
Same in Ireland - people deemed mentally unfit but who carried out horrendous crimes don't go to prison, but they do go to the Central Mental Hospital. They never leave. They end up in the main asylum for life, literally the rest of their life, not serving a prison sentence amidst the general prison population.
@@cozmo840 So, If they were able to proof that they weren't able to understand and stop their crime, they get treated and then punished for their crime they didn't have mental responsibility over?
@@lethfuil I think so...? That question mark is doing A LOT of heavy lifting, mind you. I know that the "insanity plea" is tossed around here in the states a lot, because a lot of people incorrectly assume it gets them out of prison or any "real trouble", whatever that means. If it's a case of someone having a condition where they hear voices, hallucinate, or have severe breaks with reality, they'll go to an institution where they would be treated and also punished. If someone, for sake of argument, became very inebriated from drugs or alcohol to the point they weren't in control or aware of anything they were doing, it's not viewed as an excuse and they're usually charged and sentenced as if they were sober at the time. Sometimes with charges added. For example, if I were to get blackout drunk, get in my car and cause a fatal accident, I would be charged with some form of vehicular manslaughter, and driving while intoxicated. My sentence would probably depend upon if I had a history of drunk driving or not. If I murdered someone because I heard voices telling me that this person were a threat, I'd probably go to a hospital to treat my condition, and probably have some punitive time added on. For the latter it seems to be a case by case situation. Was i being treated for my illness, but stopped taking my meds? Was I taking meds that just didn't work? Did I even have a diagnosis before the incident? This would all come into play when I'm being sentenced. I realize I spoke very broadly and probably out of turn in my first reply, and I know this one isn't very definitive, but hopefully it clears some things up. A better initial reply would've been "it's similar here in the states, but a lot of people get the wrong idea about the insanity defense."
You are the FIRST ever RUclipsr I've heard speak out about calling non-narcissists narcissists. Thank you. Sincerely, Someone with NPD Edit to add: instead of calling it narc abuse, call it what it really is. Emotional abuse. You wouldn't say a depressed person abusing you is committing depression abuse. It's emotional abuse.
7:31 when I was in highschool I knew girls at my school who were instagram models. Like, it’s so harmful for the kiddos when your childhood friend is already living online & presenting the perfect life before yall are even of age…
Thank you for the "long and boring interlude", I haven't heard anyone on RUclips talk about NPD, or heard anyone at all anywhere have such a nuanced view on NPD and people who have gone through what the mental health community has unfortunately named "narcissistic abuse". Everyone I come across either doesn't care at all or is on one extreme or the other and angry (usually justifiably) about it.
Emma, i'm so glad to hear your long aside about narcissism. It's a word that is thrown around so casually these days to mean anyone who is a selfish asshole. Same thing with gaslighting. I ended a relationship with a friend for over a year because she claimed i was always gaslighting her. Low and behold, it turns out she just didn't like me telling her that i thought she was wrong. She thought THAT was what gaslighting meant. And it took over a year to figure that out. Be careful with your words, because they can have real consequences.
I’m a Christian but I like watching Emma’s videos because I like seeing other perspectives and I agree with you how the Bible Ai videos are shameful as a Christian and true religion is helping the poor not making money. And on all the bad examples of Christianity…if that’s all it was I wouldn’t be a Christian either.
The most cruel, abusive, and genuinely evil people I have ever met were all bible-quoting, churchgoing Christans. That's my lived experience. Take it or leave it.
@albin2232 I am sorry that some "Christians" were horrible to you. In Christianity, though, we must treat each other with the utmost respect and honor our parents. God bless you.
I’d seen headlines about this and I assumed calling it trafficking was clickbait, but holy shit, this really is just straight up trafficking. What a horrible, terrible person. I hope she rots in prison
Ugh. My dad is just like this. He has not ever, that I can remember, taken responsibility for the grief he has caused me, my mother, my siblings, or literally anyone else in his life. It’s exhausting.
I have a feeling she's just a person who was horribly sexually abused, maybe human trafficked herself, and this is her brain's reaction to the trauma. I wish there was a solution. I don't have one
My mom has personality disorder (or whatever it is that in current psychology is described like that) and she has quite many narcissistic personality elements - but not all. Having lived though and being raised by a person like that can be like living in hell or much, much worse, at least in big chunks of your life. It is unfair for a child that has no choice but to bare psychological torment (whatever intentions are behind it). I think it's very important not to demonize but also not to sugarcoat NPD. Majority of people and of course, children and teenagers are absolutely not equipped to deal with a person who has NPD (or other personality disorder) and does nothing to alleviate all and any negative influence they may have onto others, especially most vulnerable ones. If one is on the very far of the spectrum, they may be too far gone to even realize they're hurting anyone. That's the sad truth but also I try to understand people with NPD who honestly work on improving their relationship with others or at least minimize any damaging influence they can bring on others and themselves...
The worst part is that many people on the NPD spectrum wouldn't want to even admit they have it because their disorder makes them think they're ABOVE it. Unfortunately that was the case with my father. But even though I've lived with a person who 100% is a narcissist, I don't like to demonise the disorder on its own. At the end of the day, people can't choose whether or not they have it.
@@thecolourfulpill I can't be a narcissist, I'm the best guy! The best I tell you! There's nobody better than me! Literally nobody! I can't possibly be a narcissist, I'm just too great!
Actually, you can choose not to have it. It’s called caring for other people and the realm as a whole while being keenly aware that all is intrinsically connected. As far as going from narcissist to balanced person, my little brother has made significant progress in this way. But if one does not consistently choose the way of compassion and awareness. It does not take root.
@@jonhawthorn746 cool, then you can choose not to have depression by consistently finding the positives in life, and making a choice every day to be happy. NPD is often rooted in a bunch of childhood shit that no one would choose. Saying you can choose not to have it is as wrong as saying you can choose not to have any other mental health issues or personality disorder. (Note: saying people can't choose whether or not to have NPD doors not excuse harm they do. Having a reason for your actions doesn't absolve you of responsibility.)
@@sarahr8311 The medical establishment wants you to believe in their label and that you can’t do anything about it except take their b.s. drugs. In the meantime, there is a malignant mode in American society spreading narcissistic behavior like wildfire by promoting selfishness and overindulgence while often rewarding people for bad behavior. You won’t escape this type of labyrinthine situation by giving into such glaring pitfalls as victimhood and psycho-babble. I suggest going beyond the mainstream medical establishment for assistance on such things. For they are incentivized to keep you in bondage.
@@allanleslieanderson1858 People are just smart enough to know that deception exists, not smart enough realize how silly it sounds to be casting giant nets with their words. People don't even know their own neighbor's last name and they think they know the world and how it works.
Firstly, it really helps your cause if you spell it correctly. Just fyi. Physics and psychics are two completely different things. Quite important not to mix them up. Also, there are some legit psychics. I know two, one quite well, who have done some work with law enforcement, one has been instrumental in solving a cold case (they actually found a body thanks to this guy's work). Law enforcement sometimes works with people of ability but it's not common knowledge because of the (probably rightly placed) sceptical stigma attached to that particular line of work. Needless to say, these legit people do not have Instagram accounts, they don't solicit business based on their abilities, and the one I know well doesn't even tell people about his ability. Most of his other friends and family don't even know he does this. Obviously he's privy to some criminal stuff he can't talk about, so there's that, but regardless, he never talks about his ability openly. Sadly the alternative medicine industry is largely unregulated and there are some con-artists and charlatans giving the entire industry a terrible name. That doesn't mean everyone working in it is a crook though. Keep that in mind.
I appreciate the talk about armchair psychology and acknowledging the truth about narcissistic personality disorder. I'm bothered by how trendy the topic is, to the point that anyone who is selfish or abusive gets the label stuck on them by armchair psychologists who fundamentally misunderstand the disorder. Its a disservice to everyone, the person being mislabeled, people who struggle with the disorder but aren't abusers, and the audience who is now preconditioned to label all kinds of abuse as symptomatic of a complex and nuanced disorder.
But with her it's verry likely she's got at least elements of it. She clearly sees herself as a victim in a situation, where she used people to and hurt them.
You make a really good point about what kind of punishment could possibly be effective for those who aren’t capable of feeling empathy or remorse. I’ve been really into the psychology of trauma recently, and it’s worth noting that the vast majority of personality disorders are caused by early traumatic experiences (this includes emotional neglect, shame-based family systems etc.) It’s led me to believe that we can’t ultimately blame someone for being a product of inadequate parenting, BUT we can definitely blame them for not doing anything to rectify their harmful behaviour. People can - and do - realize they show signs of a personality disorder, and then commit to doing the inner work required to be a healthier member of society. How possible this is for someone on the extreme end of NPD though… I’m still on the fence about. I’d love to find out more about whether the “I’m never wrong” line is genuine belief or just a defence mechanism.
Emma, thank you for the “long boring interlude”. It’s the kind of nuance that is hard to find these days. I think about it all the time….how do I open up about my narcissistic-related PTSD without painting with too broad a brush? It’s difficult.
@@Lonesurvivor256 I guess... Specify its the experience you had with the person? Its what I do when talking about the allistic people who hurt me because Im autistic. Because while there are common threads, the specifics are. Well. Specific
Someone called me a narcissist once because sometimes I'm serious and eloquent and sometimes I'm silly and joke around. That's kinda messed up and it bothers me. But it make you wonder who pulls out a word like that, because it's not a word that I would throw around in day to day conversation, nor would I try to dissect someone's personality. See what I mean by it bothering me? I could go on about trying to understand someone else's mind set or why they felt the need to say that. Nasty.
I think a NPD person who has been diagnosed and works with proper needed support to better themselves is unlikely to take offense. They probably would be the first ones to encourage understanding and caution towards themselves and understand why people react the way they do. There might be legit reasons for them to take offense, but thinking of my father I can't think of many that come from a healthy place.
Having someone say that they cannot get better and only are pretending to deceive people would be a legit and healthy reason to take offense But that is one very specific thing
A lot of malicious mentally ill will never get diagnosed but their victims are the ones that end up therapy. Those people have a full understanding of narcissism & other disorders, they learn a great deal about about these disorders through their therapists.
I love to take pictures of my family when they're not aware I am doing it because of this need to "strike a pose" every time they see me holding my camera. It's as if my daughters practiced their best looking angles in front of a mirror to look like models on social media as soon as they realize a camera is pointed in their direction. They hate it when I don't warn them, but I want to gather pictures of real life to remember and not Instagram moments.
I'm pretty sure the thing Kat was spending all her money on was drugs. I mean, if she basically wasn't sleeping (as evidenced by Desireé having to sleep in the gym because otherwise Kat wouldn't let her alone long enough to sleep), it would suggest a pretty huge coke or stimulant problem. I've also seen others in the comments liken her to Trump in her speech and behaviour, so it could be an adderall habit. For someone whose whole career revolves around her body, she would not be the first model who developed a huge substance abuse problem to manage an eating disorder.
Yeah, my father did a lot of this type of "I can do no wrong" behavior and still does now but ive removed myself completely from his life. Its a horrible thing to be trapped by and i hate knowing others go through it as well
Thank you for talking about how NPD is talked about it. Personality disorders are demonized, and that can make it hard for those with them to access help. Even healthcare professionals will believe NPD isn't treatable, and this will affect the care these people receive. (AFAIK, therapy involves becoming aware of narcissistic triggers and reactions, and then working to manage them in a healthy way.) The abuse associated with NPD is often horrific, but the way we characterize NPD makes it less likely for people with it to seek help. People with NPD tend to crave status and praise - so it seems counter-intuitive to make the process of seeking help humiliating, and will leave the person with a label that lowers their status. I became interested in NPD because I kept finding dicussions online asking if there's a difference between narcissism and pretty much any other disorder or neurotype. It's a hard topic, because there's so much pain on all sides. But I hope eventually more people can access early interventions rather than crashing later in life.
This is the type of thing that pisses me off about the whole psychic/new age/paranormal/spiritual... scene, there is nothing to clearly draw a distinction between predatory and "harmless" practitioners until someone gets busted in criminal activity Putting aside the money questions, real or fake, people can charge what they want for their time
This according to Wikipedia, in part states: "Multiple women alleged that they were sexually exploited, enslaved and imprisoned by Torres, who had encouraged them to leave their lives in Brazil and join her in the US. Torres was found guilty of human trafficking and slavery in July 2024, following an FBI investigation into the whereabouts of two women who came from Brazil and lived with Torres, and was sentenced to eight years in prison."
Thank you for PSAing your PSA about narcissistic personality disorder. As someone who was victimized by one for the first 28 years of my life, the PSAs that are so common these days drive me batty because I personally want to know immediately if someone displays those behaviors so I can steer very clear. You did good, Emma. I appreciate the nuance.
Most narcissists don't even know that they are narcissist. I have way more sympathy for people being abused by a narcissistic person and calling them out for it, than the narcissist who is abusive. If you've never experienced a narcissist you are very lucky
Well that is not true. Evil cannot create but Corrupt. Just read Matthew 6:5-9. You can see the actual words of Jesus Christ saying religion is an Individual thing you must do alone. It is evil that corrupted it and turned it into Group Think mentality. "But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you."
There is a whole theory that connects religion to around the time in our history as a species when we became aware of our own inner voice. Our own thoughts being a voice in our head. Before that, the theory is that either we had no internal voice, or some thought it was a god or gods. So as a species, we had an intimate relationship with our gods / voice. So when as a species, an understanding of an inner voice was wide spread, the idea is that some felt we had lost our connection with god / gods. So around then, some people started using that feeling of disconnection to control others.
It's hard to decide whether someone is responsible or at fault for their actions, because responsibility and fault are social constructs, not physical states that have boundaries. There's no line that can be drawn between being and not being at fault that's not artificial- its a continuum.
Okokok. I keep hearing that "taco bell gives you diarrhea, lol" stuff from Americans. But, that's a meme, righ? You DO have some regulations regarding food still, so a place that'll give you diarrhea couldn't exist?
It is difficult to say exactly how a person should be treated if they don't have full control over their actions. But I think most people agree that if a person is doing harm, regardless of the reason, they need to have their ability to commit that harm limited.
Emma i'm really glad you brought up the nuance about NPD. i think overall you said it well and i really appreciate your bringing it up. my personal experience with abuse is from emotionally immature parents, and imo NOT from parents with NPD, but it does get quite frustrating the way people are SO quick to diagnose my parents with NPD just because they were emotionally abusive. its definitely not fair to the majority of people living with NPD and its also just incorrect. you would think me, who lived with my own parents and know them best, would have the authority on whether or not i believe they have untreated NPD. i don't think they do so i've ended up paying attention to this whole situation of people armchair diagnosing it and using the term narcissist way too loosely, bc it is rampant in communities that discuss child abuse/estrangement from parents. in terms of the kind of abuse that happened in this video, its definitely different than what i experience. i can't say its entirely wrong for someone to bring narcissism up in a case like this but i do think your disclaimer was a really good thing because its definitely not something those of us just watching her on the internet can just definitively diagnose her with. i also personally don't like to police the language of victims, so if someone says their abuser is a narcissist or has untreated NPD i'm not going to say they are wrong. i just draw the line at when people insist practically any and all emotional abuse is perpetuated by someone with NPD. a lot of victims who do claim their abuser has NPD get really defensive of this but just as i personally feel like i can say my parents do NOT have NPD because i know them better than strangers on the internet do, i also do not claim to have more knowledge of someone else's abuser than them. its more about painting all of it with a broad stroke. because people DO do that and its a real problem imo. i think you said it very well, i would probably only add, in response to your question about how best to discuss abuse, is that if no one is using the term NPD or "narcissistic" definitively already (such as the victims or a licensed professional) its definitely safest to just not bring it up at all. there are plenty of accurate words to describe emotional abuse, manipulative tactics and behaviour and also people can be incredibly selfish without actually having NPD. there can be so many factors that contribute to someone's behaviour and cause abuse to occur. in my parents' case, i personally believe the main issue is alcoholism that is possibly a result of untreated adhd and that both of those things contribute to their view of the world, their view of themselves as well as their view of me. i also grew up undiagnosed autistic (and possibly also adhd) so that contributed to how i experienced my childhood as well. i think its incredibly unhelpful when someone insists my parents "are narcissists" lol. anyway, hope that makes sense for any kind of future reference! i do not have NPD and am not close with anyone who has it, but the way i see it, any undiagnosed and untreated condition can influence someone's behaviour and may contribute to the abuse. but thats true of so many conditions. like, i definitely don't believe adhd causes people to be abusive parents, but i do think it contributed to how my parents treated me. i think the same can be said about NPD. in general i would think someone who is diagnosed with NPD is likely aware of the way they experience things and how their behaviour can affect themselves and other people. its also probably good to remember that most personality disorders like NPD are usually a result of experiencing trauma. so those with NPD are likely also victims of abuse. i do understand that when you are a victim of abuse its not easy to look at your abuser with any kind of understanding because what they did was so awful but i do think that can be part of the process of healing. if there are things that may have contributed to how your abuser acted, such as them also being a victim, it does not excuse anything they did to you. them also being human does not mean their abuse was justified or understandable. in SOME cases, i think understanding certain things about them and how they came to behave the way they did CAN help you move on. not for everyone maybe but still. and regardless, it still gives no one the right to armchair diagnose other people on barely any information. ok sorry this got long im done now fr. tldr thank you Emma for mentioning this nuance i really appreciate and im sure anyone watching who has NPD does too!
OH just to add bc i feel this is important. not just to Emma but anyone reading. LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO ARE DIAGNOSED WITH NPD. stop making assumptions about them and actually listen to what they have to say. not "everyone" with NPD is unaware, they literally would have to be aware of it in order to have the diagnosis and to identify with it lol. many of them ARE aware, and the stigma can hurt them and isolate them too just like it does for any stigmatized condition. please don't just take my word for it and listen to people with NPD about their experiences and their feelings there are places online where you can find people discussing it. its not hard to learn!! thats why i emphasized *undiagnosed and/or untreated* conditions, including NPD. being diagnosed is literally proof they are being treated for it or at least have sought help for it. that does not mean they can do no wrong ever it just means stop painting them all with a broad stroke of "evil bad not human" bc thats BAD lol thats a bad thing to do smh
I suppose the Cara Delevingne comment of her having a rags to riches story was made sarcastically, right? Because Cara Delevingne grew up filthy rich and it's a well known fact, like part of her persona... generationally rich old money ... Getty family style
Great video! I appreciated your insights. The fact that these things actually happen this day in age is terrifying! Also, I'm going to buy silly little guy, my first influencer purchase ever!
There should be a horror movie based on this event. To heighten awareness, hopefully the way Schindler’s List allowed us to sense the magnitude of the crime and some insight into the impact on the innocent.
Good idea. When the US military entered Germany at the end of WW2 they brought film cameras with them. There is film footage of them entering the concentration camps after the guards had fled, leaving the victims behind. This was all filmed and it's all available online. We can see, first hand, the horror of what was happening.
New subscriber from NM USA, due to your fun interview of the nice Old Testament scholar with the bow-tie 🎀. I really like the skull-face houndstooth dress today. 💀 I’m so very pleased with myself for commenting before there are already 2k others! Peace and love ✌️❤
I was abused in a religious family and now I follow my own religion. It makes me so sad that people ruin the name of Christ. Even “Christian” fundamentalists and evangelists. So sad.
The way you did this segment was fantastic! The disclaimer, your POV, and you were direct. I'm not saying the other segments were bad. I really did get what you are saying. Whether I agree totally or not. I am open to listen to other people's POV etc. Please continue to use this type of format. Ever thought to do other RUclips channels, and discuss this and other subjects. You should.
This is what psychological treatment facilities are for. The disconnection between her actions and the consequences of those actions is a major red flag for delusion IMO
Damn. Kudos for the radical empathy with regards to people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. Good to remember we aren’t in a work of fiction. Life isn’t a tv show, book, movie etc. There are no villains. Just people.
As a sociopath, I'm not capable of having remorse, nor do I have a conscience. A lot of people mistake this, thinking that we have the capacity for a conscience/ for remorse and choose not to employ it. But, "No," the truth is that I lack the capacity for a conscience and lack the capacity for remorse. If I had a co-morbid diagnosis of narcissism, I'd be a right terror to those around me but as it stands, I'm not that different from a neurotypical. My personal behavioural standard prevents me from taking harmful actions against anyone who's ever called me a friend and also place a high value on honesty - on doing what I said I'd do. Because I'm high-functioning, I'm easily able to ape normal human expressions and emotions, so it's not often that normal people are able to notice that there's something different about me. Because I'm not a psychopath, I'm not entirely of flat affect, so I'm much more genuine in my portrayal of expressions. In other words, rather than giving people "the creeps," people instead find me very charming. But don't get me wrong - If this Kat Torres had paid me to keep those women locked up, or to silence them, as long as I felt that she was paying me what I was worth, I'd have done the job and not felt the least bit bad about it. Not by choice, but because I lack the ability to feel remorse. Although, I have to admit... It's been over a year since I've had to go to court, so I've probably mellowed somewhat recently...
Damn, the weird sleeve design of the dress Emma shows at 18:28 broke my brain for a few seconds. If that pic doesn't prove you're a silly little guy, then I don't know what will.
If you worry like that you'll not have a good trip. Relax. Be in a safe, controlled environment with someone who's not partaking. Don't eat beforehand. You'll be just fine! Its a ride. It'll end.
I had a friend that sounded a lot like yours. I thankfully had a way to break ties with her by moving.Then years later, I actually got to tell her that I want nothing to do with her because she's toxic. To which she said "I haven't been toxic in a decade!" Now to be fair I haven't talked to her within a decade, however, I can't help but notice how she appears to acknowledge that she was toxic at some point. And yet didn't even apologize for how she was in the past or even try to reconcile. Still, I had a guilty feeling when I did that. I wasn't sure if I did the right thing. My husband and my one friend were proud of me though.
TW: This story contains descriptions of modern slavery, forced prostitution, spiritual and emotional abuse and mental health issues. Please take care 💖
Damn
oh. yeah i'm gonna skip this one, see ya later
My sincerest sympathies to anyone who has experienced any of this. My personal history includes a stint renting a room from a landlord who turned out to be pimping a trailer trash neighbor and her own t-girl girlfriend. When I moved out into a tent, I considered that an upgrade.
she looks like a american horror story villan
I had a series of toxic friendships for about 10 years. They were always such victims, and everything that happened to them was never a consequence of their own actions.
You don't see faith healers
working in hospitals for the
same reason you don't see
psychics winning the lottery.
Id hate to be that guy but hospital chaplains are a real thing.
@@thagoat4951True but they don't try too replace medical treatment.
And they effectively do nothing... Your point is?@@thagoat4951
@@thagoat4951a Chaplin is more for religious support not healing
@@thagoat4951 yeah, but hospital chaplains aren't doing the rounds every hour in hospital wards like a doctor
I don't know much about Kat Torres, but I know what people do in the States with someone who keeps committing crimes, shows no remorse or empathy, and is incapable of even conceptualising themselves ever being wrong. They elect him president.
Or judge or any other office.
I spent this entire video thinking how much she talks and behaves like trump
Well it's either that or use the case as justification for why enforcing mental health care standards is a waste of time.
Both negatively affect people.
But I guess we're now all supposed to never call him a narcissist, and be understanding and sympathetic about the challenges he faces due to his pathology?
@@allanmason3201 you can do that while calling someone out for their bad actions, those things aren't mutually exclusive.
Am from Texas, the way they were handling that gun fills me with so much frustration. From a young age I was taught you always treat a firearm as if it's loaded, even if you know it's not. Rule number 1 is not to point it at anything. Fuck them pointing the gun at the cat like that. It's a weapon, not a toy.
Even as a Brit, I knew that! Fired a gun in a range in Texas and hit the release on the mag and still pointed it downrange while looking for the mag!😅
Yep, my dad is a gun nut in Arizona so I grew up with them and he always ingrained in us, "Never point a gun at someone you don't intend to kill." Loaded or unloaded. Gah, thank heavens I live in a country now that doesn't allow any rando to have guns. Was shot at too many times in Arizona, for being a lesbian.
bad news for you, you are outnumbered by texans who would do exactly the same thing and see no issue
According to FBI and ATF statistics well over 200,000 guns are stolen every year, largely from people's homes. The gun owners are "good, law-abiding citizens," and their guns are used in crimes across the country, including murders. Unfortunately many of these "good, law abiding citizens" would fight tooth and nail against any law that forces them to store their guns and ammunition safely so that the thefts are more difficult.
The claims of people being responsible gun owners need to be regarded with skepticism. I don't doubt some are, but hundreds of thousands obviously aren't. And we shouldn't be relying on their willingness and ability to do the right thing. We need laws to protect ourselves.
You don't need to be from Texas (or the US in general) to think that. But I fully agree!
Here in Brazil, there's a whole investigative podcast series about her.
Even her beginnings are a sham: she was elected "miss" of a small town by appointment, not by participating in the competition, and that's what she used as a platform to get into another "miss" show and to get modeling contracts
Funny how these cult of personality types always have these sham origin stories. Elon musk, Donald trump come to mind.
Primeira vez que escuto falar dela. Nem sabia da existência kkkkk. Qual o nome do podcast?
@@dianasosa1301 "A Coach", é do Chico Felitti.
@@nerd_moré muito bom, também recomendo. Eu já sabia dela há um bom tempo, o Física e Afins já denunciava ela há anos
Também nunca tinha ouvido falar da maluca. Brasileiro quando faz merda, faz um rebosteio inteiro, né?
“I just feel like there are ways you can have spiritual experiences without shitting yourself in front of people” ❤ Well said Emma. Well said.
I don't know. Is it really that spiritual if you maintain bowel control?
@@kelpiekit4002That's why most babies are more holy than the Pope.
I mean, doing that in a room with people reviewing their entire lives in a psychedelic high in a jungle is next-level shit.
@@Virjunior01 😆😂
@@Virjunior01 and next-level shitting? :P
Receiving a bill for the magic someone's secretly done for you is pretty hilarious.
I've already mailed yours.
"Insta-guru".. Just add boiling water and stir. Contents: Pinch of salt. Another pinch of salt. Also contains salt.
Just add all the salt
I see a profitable product in the making.😎
@creamwobbly the serving suggestion is "with a pinch of salt."
@@desperadox7565 You beat me to it. Inb4: Salt Sponsorship
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Unearned wealth seems to irrevocably melt people’s brain.
Earned wealth also seems to do that, at least once you get to above the 1%
100% inheritance tax would solve a lot of problems.
@@jamesrule1338A 100 percent tax is kinda wild don't you think, why can't they keep like, 35 or 40 percent of it. Just seems a smidge ridiculous to take it all.
@@jamesrule1338 Who would it solve problems for? What about the people who end up with nothing through no fault of their own (it happens) for whom an inheritance would mean the difference between having a roof over their head and being homeless?
I really need unearned wealth ! I would love to see the effect on my brain ! Oh who am I kidding no matter how much it would be I would spend it all quickly and return to the natural order of the Universe !
"I feel like you can have spirital experianceswithout shittingyourself." Girl! I snort laughed!
lol I just posted that one too 😂
That was hilarious indeed! And I already have IBS and PTSD... so no, thank you very much! I'll have the cup of tea and a biscuit anytime though! Sounds lovely!
Some drugs have the hangover after, other drugs have the hangover before, others have the hangover during. Some people would rather pay the price up front, others would rather pay later. Smart people recognize the hangover as their body being poisoned and avoid being poisoned.
When she said that I super sarcastically thought "but where's the fun in THAT?"
Ayahuasca diarreah syndrome.This DMT plant drug mixture has produced countless ego led psuedo-shamans persuaded by their experiences that they have special insights into Life that you cant possibly have...
As somebody with a cluster B personality disorder, who was also in an abusive relationship with someone with a cluster B personality disorder, thank you so much for that PSA. Really it means the world for people like me. And yes i 100% agree that it's important to be able to name abusive patterns but not demonize disorders. Personally i've been using words like "self-obsessed abusive behaviours" instead of narcissistic abuse and "emotionally manipulative abusive behaviours" instead of borderline/bpd abuse.
It's not perfect by any means, but hopefully it's a starting point for talking about these things in a more humanizing way.
For a funny little guy, you cover some very serious topics.
Good for you!
Also, loved your Instagram photo!
EMMA, ARE YOU A GUY??
@@delulu.Eczema She refers to herself as "a funny little guy", which I think came from a commenter using that term for her.
I think it’s important to acknowledge that many people can have narcissistic/aspd tendencies without meeting the requirements for the disorder
And even then, most people who are diagnosed do not go into a life of crime.
@@advorak8529 very true however they do other things ......
Ah, defending narcissists against bullying. Peak virtue signaling.
These people destroy the lives of those around them and notoriously Don't Care.
@@WilliamBrowningput down the crack pipe sir. Try reading the statement again. If anything they're saying calling people a narcissist doesn't require an official diagnosis. In no world is that a defense of narcissists😂
@@WilliamBrowningNot defending malignant narcissists here, but according to mental health professionals, not everyone with narcissistic behaviors has NPD; furthermore, not everyone with NPD is a malignant narcissist.
It's easy to think they are, but apparently that's not the case.
Also, not all narcissists are sociopaths.
Thanks for the preface.
I have a personality disorder. I never thought all of the chaos in my life was my fault in any way.
It took a lot of hardship and therapy and medication to get to a point in my life that I can accept my own responsibility life.
That said, my actions are mine. I'm still responsible for what I said and did in my life, regardless of the fact that my development and mental condition isn't the same as most people.
I didn't choose to have this type of mind, but I did choose my actions. My personality disorder is why I think different, not why I act different.
First Hbomb tells me horses aren’t real, and now Emma drops this birds thing on me??
I can’t even.
We discovered a long time ago that birds aren't real. They are government drones. Please do your research on this subject!
The question is, why is she in prison and Trump isn't.
Easy, she's not a billionaire. She's also an immigrant.
tick tick tick
She isn't politically useful to the Ruling Class as a stalking horse for their monstrous ideas.
He's a trust fund brat, she isn't.
She's not important enough to be actually immune from consequences
How many Jesus are there - “there can be only one” - get the swords out
Always two there are, no more, no less. A master, an apprentice. Oh wait that's Sith lords. Never mind.
Do you know the story of the Three Christs of Ypsilanti? In the late 50s and early 60s, three male patients at Ypsilanti State Hospital in Michigan were under the delusion that they were Jesus Christ. Psychologist Milton Rokeach had them interact with each other in order to see if they could cure each others' delusions. It didn't work; initially, there were physical altercations between the men, and eventually, they each concluded that the others were mental patients and/or machine-operated corpses, still believing that they were in fact Jesus Christ. All three would spend the rest of their lives at Ypsilanti. As Rokeach would later conclude, while he couldn't cure the men, "[The experiment] did cure me of my godlike delusion that I could manipulate them out of their beliefs."
"Heeeeere we are! Born to be kings! We're the princess of the uuuuuniveeeerse! YEAH!!"
Connor MacJesus of the Clan MacJesus...
I'm the real Jesus and so is my wife.
Your segment on NPD is so, so much appreciated. “Narcissistic” becoming the new buzzword has made my own brain just a horrible place to be for a while - I swing between “omg everyone thinks I’m the worst thing that ever exists,” which then over corrects with “actually no, I’m the best” - and of course logically I know people aren’t talking about *me,* but y’know. There’s a reason it’s a diagnosable mental illness.
EDIT: One thing that’s very important to note is that “narcissistic” as it’s used in popular culture is very different from NPD. Other words that people should probably be using are things like “self-obsessed” and “manipulative.” Not every abuser is a narcissist, and not every narcissist is an abuser.
In regards to your EDIT, yeah, I've stopped using "narcissistic" as a descriptor many years ago for this reason. Someone above wrote in a reply, something that I don't agree with, that "But a person can absolutely be narcissistic without having NPD." which proves your point.
Yes. People can have narcissistic traits without being a "narcissist" in a clinical sense. I think many people do to some degree!
I think we need to stop referring to anyone who behaves badly as narcissistic or as a narcissist. It's incredibly harmful, imo.
Things you can say instead when someone is being a jerk:
-self centered
- selfish
-arrogant
-unreceptive to valid criticism
-emotionally unavailable/withholding
-manipulative
-avoids accountability
-emotionally immature
-takes advantage
These name the specific behaviors without broadly labeling someone or further stigmatizing an already stigmatized serious mental health condition
Narcissists aren't disordered. They are perfectly fine being who they are. Their environment struggles with them. I don't get this 'narcissists are poor people' attitude. Yes, narcissists think that, but if you only think that you're worthless, then you're anxious and have low self esteem. If you are a narcissist, you say that to other people to get the pity and support you think you deserve for being the hero you are. And then you go to therapy to get the confirmation you need to know that the negative longterm reactions of people around you aren't justified and you're misunderstood because you have a disorder.
One of the defining traits of any mental health disorder is that it varies greatly from the social norms. Culturally, we are all becoming more "narcissistic" and self-absorbed. We tend to pick up clinical terms and diagnose ourselves or others, and use the diagnosis to blame or excuse the behavior. Diagnoses are for informing treatment. It's good that you took a moment to cut that off before it became a huge thread full of blame and excuses that ultimately helps no one.
@@RiesenWuschelno. They are very much disordered. Being disordered isn't necessarily a bad thing and that the part you have to accept.
"Tarot performer" is probably a pretty accurate description, actually.
Hey now, screw you. I’ve been doing tarot since 1997, & when I do it for people I CARE & actually contact the angels & give it my ALL, & do not answer dumb questions. I no longer do paid readings bc answering important life questions (especially for so cheap), was way too stressful & took way too much of my time. But I’m not a performer-I really do channel Spirit for people. Some of us are REAL-it’s just so hard to tel with all the fakes online these days. I NEVER contacted ANYONE either! & had so many people coming to me from all over the world, but I had to stop.
Hey now. I actually CARE & put my ALL into readings when I did them. Been doing it since 1997, but I had to quit bc it got too stressful answering important life questions for people, especially for so cheap, & it took way too much time.
Some of us are REAL, it’s just hard to tell these days with all the fakes online.
& I NEVER contacted ANYONE, & had so many people come to me from all over the world. I can’t stand people who DM people asking if they want a reading.
That’s a dead giveaway that they’re no good.
Please start a podcast with Münecat. It would be the most thoroughly researched and funniest thing of all time.
I've been thinking how good these 2 would be together for ages! Their videos stop me from shouting at the telly, becuase they research everything so well I don't need to scream about lies - Emma and Müne do it for me
3:32 re. Narcissism. Thank you, Emma. This is so true! Leave the diagnoses to the medical experts, and that includes diagnosing the people in our personal lives.
If somebody is making your life miserable, find a way to keep them at a safe distance. It isn't necessary to label them.
I agree with the diagnosis/disorder part of it. But a person can absolutely be narcissistic without having NPD.
I agree one has to be careful with diagnoses.. but if a person clearly shows many traits of narcissistic personality disorder it's not unreasonable to think "if it quacks like a duck, there's a good chance it's a duck." I found the behavior of a certain person at previous job very questionable so looked it up and she had almost all the traits. In that case it was "vulnerable narcissistic personality disorder", which is more difficult to spot than "grandiose narcissistic personality disorder."
@@dannyvanhecke The DSM is just a guide. Its not the end all be all of diagnosis.
There is a reason why you need a fair few sessions before you can get a diagnosis. The psychologist has to get an idea of the entirety of you, not just when youre at work.
Because everyone acts a bit differently at work than they do at home or out in public.
I live with someone with diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder and psychosis (from using Datura once) and hidden alcoholism as a roommate right next door to me. It's terrible. It's so much gaslighting, lying, manipulation. It took a year for another roommate to figure out that she was being manipulated and only after he lost it once because she didn't agree with him. It's a struggle and hurts.
Sadly i can only keep bare minimum distance but i also can't move because of health reasons at this time. Every day is draining. But having one roommate realise she was being manipulated made her talk way more with me, being the only one left in a flat of 4 people who doesn't drink and tries to take distance from those other two.
@@meloney Hope you can find a way to get that person completely out of your life. You can't chance a narcissist so that's the only real solution.
‘Life coaching’ is such a scammer’s paradise. I know of a person who until very recently served a Christian parish as its pastor, who went off the rails during the pandemic with a men’s group going shooting in the woods, then taking liberties in a Joseph Smith kind of way with the women of the parish until someone finally complained. He was defrocked straightaway by the bishop whom he served and moved away from the coast to some red state where he immediately put together a new vocation as ‘life coach’ hoping none of his clients recognize him by his former identity as a religious leader. He aims to continue to exert influence over people, he can’t help himself, even though he ruined his own life and family’s reputation, he’s undaunted in the business of telling people how to live.
Thank you for the so called "Long boring interlude". As someone who is studying psychology and counseling, it's a breath of fresh air to hear a creator address these issues in the manner you do here.
It's wild how being attractive is a job now. You can make vastly more money just by being hot and posting pics online than by actually working.
Thats not fair... Emma is very bright too! *this was a joke...just to be clear ;o)
@@cannavaras Sorry but "bright" is in no way a synonym for "hot". It just doesn't make sense.
but of course that's not new
@@eideticexI think the joke is that the top comment must have been describing Emma, which is unfair because she is not only beautiful but also intelligent.
That's been true for a while now. Very pretty people have gotten money for posing for pictures for a long time.
I just wanted to say that I really appreciated your break in the video early on to really break down the armchair diagnosis and harmful demonization of anyone with a particular mental disorder. As someone who has struggled with ADHD and who falls somewhere on the mild end of the narcissism spectrum but has been through a lot of therapy to make sure that I understand the tendencies and issues that would otherwise negatively affect those around me, I really appreciate it! I put in mental and emotional work on a daily basis to make sure that I am minimizing the trauma and negative effects of my disorders on my family and it is REALLY appreciated that you took that time to make that "boring interlude". I love your channel, and this is one of the reasons why I watch so much of your content. You are really genuine and try to make sure that you are balanced and reasonable in your approach to literally almost everything. Keep being awesome Emma!!
She said she was a god. Why would anyone lie about that? I`m a billionaire, by the way.
"I just feel like you can have spiritual experiences without shitting yourself in front of people," may be the best thing I have ever heard on the internet.
she cant be jesus christ because i am
Please, take my hard earned money and my soul.
I'm Yahweh. I think that makes us related or something.
@@camfields7685 I'm the Holy Spirit. Neither of you would be able to communicate anything to humanity with any clarity if it wasn't for me.
What? You're accusing *me* of a lack of clarity?
And I’m Lucifer. No one would need you if it weren’t for me, you’re all welcome 😊
I'm Brian and so is my wife.
Thank you for yet another nuanced and compassionate take on a serious issue. Your point about how we 'deal' with people like this - i think our current model of 'justice' is far too focused on retribution rather than rehabilitation. It is about attempting to right a perceived wrong by harming the party who wronged someone. The problem is, these actions will never undo the harm that was caused, and they don't stop the events from reoccurring. We need far more emphasis on rehabilitation and support services.
This woman, if we are to take her at her word, that she believes what she is saying, is clearly unwell, and is not able to hold a consistent view of reality, and as such she needs help and support for that, and until she has recovered, she has shown she is dangerous to those around her, and could cause irreparable harm and should not be allowed unsupervised, to engage with those she may harm.
"That's because you're in prison...for all of your crimes..." Best response
If offenders commit crimes and are (partially) not accountable because of their mental state, in The Netherlands they can be submitted into a forensic clinic, which can last a lifetime if the patient is deemed untreatable.
America is pretty similar. To plead insanity, it has be shown that you didn't know what you were doing was wrong, and IF you're proven to be "insane", you're hospitalized until you're healthy enough to know the difference between right and wrong, then you have to do serve your sentence after that. If you ever get to that point.
yeah, if one is unable to comprehend what were the negative consequences of their own actions/crimes, they need to be isolated from the society for the rest of their lives 🤷
Same in Ireland - people deemed mentally unfit but who carried out horrendous crimes don't go to prison, but they do go to the Central Mental Hospital. They never leave. They end up in the main asylum for life, literally the rest of their life, not serving a prison sentence amidst the general prison population.
@@cozmo840 So, If they were able to proof that they weren't able to understand and stop their crime, they get treated and then punished for their crime they didn't have mental responsibility over?
@@lethfuil I think so...? That question mark is doing A LOT of heavy lifting, mind you. I know that the "insanity plea" is tossed around here in the states a lot, because a lot of people incorrectly assume it gets them out of prison or any "real trouble", whatever that means. If it's a case of someone having a condition where they hear voices, hallucinate, or have severe breaks with reality, they'll go to an institution where they would be treated and also punished. If someone, for sake of argument, became very inebriated from drugs or alcohol to the point they weren't in control or aware of anything they were doing, it's not viewed as an excuse and they're usually charged and sentenced as if they were sober at the time. Sometimes with charges added. For example, if I were to get blackout drunk, get in my car and cause a fatal accident, I would be charged with some form of vehicular manslaughter, and driving while intoxicated. My sentence would probably depend upon if I had a history of drunk driving or not. If I murdered someone because I heard voices telling me that this person were a threat, I'd probably go to a hospital to treat my condition, and probably have some punitive time added on. For the latter it seems to be a case by case situation. Was i being treated for my illness, but stopped taking my meds? Was I taking meds that just didn't work? Did I even have a diagnosis before the incident? This would all come into play when I'm being sentenced.
I realize I spoke very broadly and probably out of turn in my first reply, and I know this one isn't very definitive, but hopefully it clears some things up. A better initial reply would've been "it's similar here in the states, but a lot of people get the wrong idea about the insanity defense."
You are the FIRST ever RUclipsr I've heard speak out about calling non-narcissists narcissists. Thank you.
Sincerely,
Someone with NPD
Edit to add: instead of calling it narc abuse, call it what it really is. Emotional abuse. You wouldn't say a depressed person abusing you is committing depression abuse. It's emotional abuse.
Depression and NPD are fully different things, it's a crap idea to compare them like this.
7:31 when I was in highschool I knew girls at my school who were instagram models. Like, it’s so harmful for the kiddos when your childhood friend is already living online & presenting the perfect life before yall are even of age…
I'm so glad I grew up before all that existed and remember a world that was not "connected".
Trafficking is the most horrific atrocity plaguing our planet
Love your messy background. I can see you've already got your Ukelele in case of emergency Internet Drama apology. 😆
Thank you for the "long and boring interlude", I haven't heard anyone on RUclips talk about NPD, or heard anyone at all anywhere have such a nuanced view on NPD and people who have gone through what the mental health community has unfortunately named "narcissistic abuse". Everyone I come across either doesn't care at all or is on one extreme or the other and angry (usually justifiably) about it.
Emma, i'm so glad to hear your long aside about narcissism. It's a word that is thrown around so casually these days to mean anyone who is a selfish asshole. Same thing with gaslighting. I ended a relationship with a friend for over a year because she claimed i was always gaslighting her. Low and behold, it turns out she just didn't like me telling her that i thought she was wrong. She thought THAT was what gaslighting meant. And it took over a year to figure that out. Be careful with your words, because they can have real consequences.
Yes I find Rich tea☕ biscuits as a gateway drug to harder stuff. Before you know it'll be Garibaldis and jammy Dodgers 🍪😂
I’m a Christian but I like watching Emma’s videos because I like seeing other perspectives and I agree with you how the Bible Ai videos are shameful as a Christian and true religion is helping the poor not making money.
And on all the bad examples of Christianity…if that’s all it was I wouldn’t be a Christian either.
The most cruel, abusive, and genuinely evil people I have ever met were all bible-quoting, churchgoing Christans.
That's my lived experience.
Take it or leave it.
Praise Jesus.
God bless yo7 Scubatastic!
@albin2232 I am sorry that some "Christians" were horrible to you. In Christianity, though, we must treat each other with the utmost respect and honor our parents.
God bless you.
Nope, religion is a scam first and foremost
You're in a cult
I’d seen headlines about this and I assumed calling it trafficking was clickbait, but holy shit, this really is just straight up trafficking. What a horrible, terrible person. I hope she rots in prison
Ugh. My dad is just like this. He has not ever, that I can remember, taken responsibility for the grief he has caused me, my mother, my siblings, or literally anyone else in his life. It’s exhausting.
Sounds like my brother, very exhausting. Wishing you the best in dealing with the situation.
I have a feeling she's just a person who was horribly sexually abused, maybe human trafficked herself, and this is her brain's reaction to the trauma.
I wish there was a solution. I don't have one
The main driving force should always be tea and biscuits, imagine how much better this world would be! 😉
My mom has personality disorder (or whatever it is that in current psychology is described like that) and she has quite many narcissistic personality elements - but not all. Having lived though and being raised by a person like that can be like living in hell or much, much worse, at least in big chunks of your life. It is unfair for a child that has no choice but to bare psychological torment (whatever intentions are behind it).
I think it's very important not to demonize but also not to sugarcoat NPD. Majority of people and of course, children and teenagers are absolutely not equipped to deal with a person who has NPD (or other personality disorder) and does nothing to alleviate all and any negative influence they may have onto others, especially most vulnerable ones. If one is on the very far of the spectrum, they may be too far gone to even realize they're hurting anyone. That's the sad truth but also I try to understand people with NPD who honestly work on improving their relationship with others or at least minimize any damaging influence they can bring on others and themselves...
The worst part is that many people on the NPD spectrum wouldn't want to even admit they have it because their disorder makes them think they're ABOVE it. Unfortunately that was the case with my father. But even though I've lived with a person who 100% is a narcissist, I don't like to demonise the disorder on its own. At the end of the day, people can't choose whether or not they have it.
@@thecolourfulpill I can't be a narcissist, I'm the best guy! The best I tell you! There's nobody better than me! Literally nobody! I can't possibly be a narcissist, I'm just too great!
Actually, you can choose not to have it.
It’s called caring for other people and the realm as a whole while being keenly aware that all is intrinsically connected.
As far as going from narcissist to balanced person, my little brother has made significant progress in this way.
But if one does not consistently choose the way of compassion and awareness. It does not take root.
@@jonhawthorn746 cool, then you can choose not to have depression by consistently finding the positives in life, and making a choice every day to be happy. NPD is often rooted in a bunch of childhood shit that no one would choose. Saying you can choose not to have it is as wrong as saying you can choose not to have any other mental health issues or personality disorder. (Note: saying people can't choose whether or not to have NPD doors not excuse harm they do. Having a reason for your actions doesn't absolve you of responsibility.)
@@sarahr8311 The medical establishment wants you to believe in their label and that you can’t do anything about it except take their b.s. drugs.
In the meantime, there is a malignant mode in American society spreading narcissistic behavior like wildfire by promoting selfishness and overindulgence while often rewarding people for bad behavior.
You won’t escape this type of labyrinthine situation by giving into such glaring pitfalls as victimhood and psycho-babble.
I suggest going beyond the mainstream medical establishment for assistance on such things. For they are incentivized to keep you in bondage.
A gun is ALWAYS loaded. First rule of firearms safety.
People say "fake physic" as if there are any real physics
Lol I knew you were going to say that 2 days ago😊
Well, if I glued a horn to a horse's head, that would be a fake unicorn, even though there aren't any real ones...
it is spelt 'psychic', not 'physics'.
@@allanleslieanderson1858 People are just smart enough to know that deception exists, not smart enough realize how silly it sounds to be casting giant nets with their words. People don't even know their own neighbor's last name and they think they know the world and how it works.
Firstly, it really helps your cause if you spell it correctly. Just fyi.
Physics and psychics are two completely different things. Quite important not to mix them up.
Also, there are some legit psychics. I know two, one quite well, who have done some work with law enforcement, one has been instrumental in solving a cold case (they actually found a body thanks to this guy's work). Law enforcement sometimes works with people of ability but it's not common knowledge because of the (probably rightly placed) sceptical stigma attached to that particular line of work. Needless to say, these legit people do not have Instagram accounts, they don't solicit business based on their abilities, and the one I know well doesn't even tell people about his ability. Most of his other friends and family don't even know he does this. Obviously he's privy to some criminal stuff he can't talk about, so there's that, but regardless, he never talks about his ability openly.
Sadly the alternative medicine industry is largely unregulated and there are some con-artists and charlatans giving the entire industry a terrible name. That doesn't mean everyone working in it is a crook though. Keep that in mind.
I appreciate the talk about armchair psychology and acknowledging the truth about narcissistic personality disorder. I'm bothered by how trendy the topic is, to the point that anyone who is selfish or abusive gets the label stuck on them by armchair psychologists who fundamentally misunderstand the disorder. Its a disservice to everyone, the person being mislabeled, people who struggle with the disorder but aren't abusers, and the audience who is now preconditioned to label all kinds of abuse as symptomatic of a complex and nuanced disorder.
But with her it's verry likely she's got at least elements of it. She clearly sees herself as a victim in a situation, where she used people to and hurt them.
You make a really good point about what kind of punishment could possibly be effective for those who aren’t capable of feeling empathy or remorse. I’ve been really into the psychology of trauma recently, and it’s worth noting that the vast majority of personality disorders are caused by early traumatic experiences (this includes emotional neglect, shame-based family systems etc.)
It’s led me to believe that we can’t ultimately blame someone for being a product of inadequate parenting, BUT we can definitely blame them for not doing anything to rectify their harmful behaviour. People can - and do - realize they show signs of a personality disorder, and then commit to doing the inner work required to be a healthier member of society. How possible this is for someone on the extreme end of NPD though… I’m still on the fence about. I’d love to find out more about whether the “I’m never wrong” line is genuine belief or just a defence mechanism.
Emma, thank you for the “long boring interlude”. It’s the kind of nuance that is hard to find these days. I think about it all the time….how do I open up about my narcissistic-related PTSD without painting with too broad a brush? It’s difficult.
@@Lonesurvivor256 I guess... Specify its the experience you had with the person?
Its what I do when talking about the allistic people who hurt me because Im autistic. Because while there are common threads, the specifics are. Well. Specific
Someone called me a narcissist once because sometimes I'm serious and eloquent and sometimes I'm silly and joke around. That's kinda messed up and it bothers me. But it make you wonder who pulls out a word like that, because it's not a word that I would throw around in day to day conversation, nor would I try to dissect someone's personality. See what I mean by it bothering me? I could go on about trying to understand someone else's mind set or why they felt the need to say that. Nasty.
I think a NPD person who has been diagnosed and works with proper needed support to better themselves is unlikely to take offense. They probably would be the first ones to encourage understanding and caution towards themselves and understand why people react the way they do.
There might be legit reasons for them to take offense, but thinking of my father I can't think of many that come from a healthy place.
Having someone say that they cannot get better and only are pretending to deceive people would be a legit and healthy reason to take offense
But that is one very specific thing
A lot of malicious mentally ill will never get diagnosed but their victims are the ones that end up therapy. Those people have a full understanding of narcissism & other disorders, they learn a great deal about about these disorders through their therapists.
I want more long videos please. You are one of the few i can put on and just listen and chill, you’re brilliant
I love to take pictures of my family when they're not aware I am doing it because of this need to "strike a pose" every time they see me holding my camera.
It's as if my daughters practiced their best looking angles in front of a mirror to look like models on social media as soon as they realize a camera is pointed in their direction.
They hate it when I don't warn them, but I want to gather pictures of real life to remember and not Instagram moments.
Agree - I loved taking candids on my photography course, the personality and expression in people's faces are so fascinating and unique.
I'm pretty sure the thing Kat was spending all her money on was drugs. I mean, if she basically wasn't sleeping (as evidenced by Desireé having to sleep in the gym because otherwise Kat wouldn't let her alone long enough to sleep), it would suggest a pretty huge coke or stimulant problem. I've also seen others in the comments liken her to Trump in her speech and behaviour, so it could be an adderall habit. For someone whose whole career revolves around her body, she would not be the first model who developed a huge substance abuse problem to manage an eating disorder.
Yeah, my father did a lot of this type of "I can do no wrong" behavior and still does now but ive removed myself completely from his life. Its a horrible thing to be trapped by and i hate knowing others go through it as well
Thank you for talking about how NPD is talked about it. Personality disorders are demonized, and that can make it hard for those with them to access help. Even healthcare professionals will believe NPD isn't treatable, and this will affect the care these people receive.
(AFAIK, therapy involves becoming aware of narcissistic triggers and reactions, and then working to manage them in a healthy way.)
The abuse associated with NPD is often horrific, but the way we characterize NPD makes it less likely for people with it to seek help.
People with NPD tend to crave status and praise - so it seems counter-intuitive to make the process of seeking help humiliating, and will leave the person with a label that lowers their status.
I became interested in NPD because I kept finding dicussions online asking if there's a difference between narcissism and pretty much any other disorder or neurotype. It's a hard topic, because there's so much pain on all sides. But I hope eventually more people can access early interventions rather than crashing later in life.
This is the type of thing that pisses me off about the whole psychic/new age/paranormal/spiritual... scene, there is nothing to clearly draw a distinction between predatory and "harmless" practitioners until someone gets busted in criminal activity
Putting aside the money questions, real or fake, people can charge what they want for their time
This according to Wikipedia, in part states: "Multiple women alleged that they were sexually exploited, enslaved and imprisoned by Torres, who had encouraged them to leave their lives in Brazil and join her in the US. Torres was found guilty of human trafficking and slavery in July 2024, following an FBI investigation into the whereabouts of two women who came from Brazil and lived with Torres, and was sentenced to eight years in prison."
Thank you for PSAing your PSA about narcissistic personality disorder. As someone who was victimized by one for the first 28 years of my life, the PSAs that are so common these days drive me batty because I personally want to know immediately if someone displays those behaviors so I can steer very clear. You did good, Emma. I appreciate the nuance.
There's no such thing as a good narcissistic
@@Evan-k Emma: Lets practice compassion and nuance
You: I didnt hear that
@@elvingearmasterirma7241 I heard it, I just don't agree
@@elvingearmasterirma7241 I refuse to be an apologist for horrible people
@@Evan-k Then maybe don't post it. Emma made very clear to not make unkind comments.
Most narcissists don't even know that they are narcissist. I have way more sympathy for people being abused by a narcissistic person and calling them out for it, than the narcissist who is abusive. If you've never experienced a narcissist you are very lucky
Jerry Seinfeld deserves to be called a pdf. He was 38 when she turned 17.
I personally prefer no filters. If it sounds too easy it's a scam
Religion was invented when the first con man met the first fool.
To paraphrase Rust Cohle, "it started when one monkey looked at the sun and told another monkey 'he said for you to give me your fucking share'".
Good ol' Mark Twain
Well that is not true. Evil cannot create but Corrupt. Just read Matthew 6:5-9. You can see the actual words of Jesus Christ saying religion is an Individual thing you must do alone. It is evil that corrupted it and turned it into Group Think mentality. "But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you."
@@WillMuny Or you can just do what I say because I have Jesus in my username. The choice is yours. The consequences are eternal?
There is a whole theory that connects religion to around the time in our history as a species when we became aware of our own inner voice. Our own thoughts being a voice in our head. Before that, the theory is that either we had no internal voice, or some thought it was a god or gods. So as a species, we had an intimate relationship with our gods / voice. So when as a species, an understanding of an inner voice was wide spread, the idea is that some felt we had lost our connection with god / gods. So around then, some people started using that feeling of disconnection to control others.
It's hard to decide whether someone is responsible or at fault for their actions, because responsibility and fault are social constructs, not physical states that have boundaries. There's no line that can be drawn between being and not being at fault that's not artificial- its a continuum.
Vomiting, diarrhea, AND paranoia...? You had me at vomiting!
Vomiting, diarrhea, and paranoia are also side effects of eating Taco Bell at 2am.
😂
Don't say that I'm about eat a soft taco no lettuce but pssst that's when you the diarrhea
Fourth meal confirmed for religious experience
Okokok. I keep hearing that "taco bell gives you diarrhea, lol" stuff from Americans. But, that's a meme, righ? You DO have some regulations regarding food still, so a place that'll give you diarrhea couldn't exist?
@@lethfuil It isn't food poisoning, I think people who have that get it because of the spice. I've never had it myself, so I figure it's a meme.
The mental health provision in that prison really needs to be improved.
Just like every other prison.
It is difficult to say exactly how a person should be treated if they don't have full control over their actions. But I think most people agree that if a person is doing harm, regardless of the reason, they need to have their ability to commit that harm limited.
0:17 That’s because you’re in prison. For all of your crimes. 😂😂
She's a model, alright. A model of things not to do.
Emma i'm really glad you brought up the nuance about NPD. i think overall you said it well and i really appreciate your bringing it up.
my personal experience with abuse is from emotionally immature parents, and imo NOT from parents with NPD, but it does get quite frustrating the way people are SO quick to diagnose my parents with NPD just because they were emotionally abusive. its definitely not fair to the majority of people living with NPD and its also just incorrect. you would think me, who lived with my own parents and know them best, would have the authority on whether or not i believe they have untreated NPD. i don't think they do so i've ended up paying attention to this whole situation of people armchair diagnosing it and using the term narcissist way too loosely, bc it is rampant in communities that discuss child abuse/estrangement from parents.
in terms of the kind of abuse that happened in this video, its definitely different than what i experience. i can't say its entirely wrong for someone to bring narcissism up in a case like this but i do think your disclaimer was a really good thing because its definitely not something those of us just watching her on the internet can just definitively diagnose her with. i also personally don't like to police the language of victims, so if someone says their abuser is a narcissist or has untreated NPD i'm not going to say they are wrong. i just draw the line at when people insist practically any and all emotional abuse is perpetuated by someone with NPD. a lot of victims who do claim their abuser has NPD get really defensive of this but just as i personally feel like i can say my parents do NOT have NPD because i know them better than strangers on the internet do, i also do not claim to have more knowledge of someone else's abuser than them. its more about painting all of it with a broad stroke. because people DO do that and its a real problem imo.
i think you said it very well, i would probably only add, in response to your question about how best to discuss abuse, is that if no one is using the term NPD or "narcissistic" definitively already (such as the victims or a licensed professional) its definitely safest to just not bring it up at all. there are plenty of accurate words to describe emotional abuse, manipulative tactics and behaviour and also people can be incredibly selfish without actually having NPD. there can be so many factors that contribute to someone's behaviour and cause abuse to occur.
in my parents' case, i personally believe the main issue is alcoholism that is possibly a result of untreated adhd and that both of those things contribute to their view of the world, their view of themselves as well as their view of me. i also grew up undiagnosed autistic (and possibly also adhd) so that contributed to how i experienced my childhood as well. i think its incredibly unhelpful when someone insists my parents "are narcissists" lol.
anyway, hope that makes sense for any kind of future reference! i do not have NPD and am not close with anyone who has it, but the way i see it, any undiagnosed and untreated condition can influence someone's behaviour and may contribute to the abuse. but thats true of so many conditions. like, i definitely don't believe adhd causes people to be abusive parents, but i do think it contributed to how my parents treated me. i think the same can be said about NPD. in general i would think someone who is diagnosed with NPD is likely aware of the way they experience things and how their behaviour can affect themselves and other people. its also probably good to remember that most personality disorders like NPD are usually a result of experiencing trauma. so those with NPD are likely also victims of abuse.
i do understand that when you are a victim of abuse its not easy to look at your abuser with any kind of understanding because what they did was so awful but i do think that can be part of the process of healing. if there are things that may have contributed to how your abuser acted, such as them also being a victim, it does not excuse anything they did to you. them also being human does not mean their abuse was justified or understandable. in SOME cases, i think understanding certain things about them and how they came to behave the way they did CAN help you move on. not for everyone maybe but still. and regardless, it still gives no one the right to armchair diagnose other people on barely any information.
ok sorry this got long im done now fr. tldr thank you Emma for mentioning this nuance i really appreciate and im sure anyone watching who has NPD does too!
OH just to add bc i feel this is important. not just to Emma but anyone reading. LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO ARE DIAGNOSED WITH NPD. stop making assumptions about them and actually listen to what they have to say. not "everyone" with NPD is unaware, they literally would have to be aware of it in order to have the diagnosis and to identify with it lol. many of them ARE aware, and the stigma can hurt them and isolate them too just like it does for any stigmatized condition.
please don't just take my word for it and listen to people with NPD about their experiences and their feelings there are places online where you can find people discussing it. its not hard to learn!! thats why i emphasized *undiagnosed and/or untreated* conditions, including NPD. being diagnosed is literally proof they are being treated for it or at least have sought help for it. that does not mean they can do no wrong ever it just means stop painting them all with a broad stroke of "evil bad not human" bc thats BAD lol thats a bad thing to do smh
I suppose the Cara Delevingne comment of her having a rags to riches story was made sarcastically, right? Because Cara Delevingne grew up filthy rich and it's a well known fact, like part of her persona... generationally rich old money ... Getty family style
Oh, THAT'S why you posted that goofy pic! It's one of my favourites too!
Great video as always, you’re such a lovely person. Take care
The hell is wrong with my species? Someone being beautiful wields so much power from that alone.....
Beauty is subjective. I certainly wouldn't be able to tell she was a model.
Great video! I appreciated your insights. The fact that these things actually happen this day in age is terrifying! Also, I'm going to buy silly little guy, my first influencer purchase ever!
There should be a horror movie based on this event. To heighten awareness, hopefully the way Schindler’s List allowed us to sense the magnitude of the crime and some insight into the impact on the innocent.
Good idea.
When the US military entered Germany at the end of WW2 they brought film cameras with them. There is film footage of them entering the concentration camps after the guards had fled, leaving the victims behind. This was all filmed and it's all available online. We can see, first hand, the horror of what was happening.
Thing about your Silly Little Guy course is we all damn well know it would work exactly as promised
What if an entire country is threatened by a narcissistic sociopath?
3:16 I appreciate this SO MUCH. Thank you for including this
This is amazing, thank you
New subscriber from NM USA, due to your fun interview of the nice Old Testament scholar with the bow-tie 🎀. I really like the skull-face houndstooth dress today. 💀
I’m so very pleased with myself for commenting before there are already 2k others!
Peace and love ✌️❤
The question is: was she ever sponsored by Scentbird?
I was abused in a religious family and now I follow my own religion. It makes me so sad that people ruin the name of Christ. Even “Christian” fundamentalists and evangelists. So sad.
Emma, Cara Delevingne didn't have a rags to rich story. She grew up incredibly wealthy
The way you did this segment was fantastic! The disclaimer, your POV, and you were direct. I'm not saying the other segments were bad. I really did get what you are saying. Whether I agree totally or not. I am open to listen to other people's POV etc. Please continue to use this type of format. Ever thought to do other RUclips channels, and discuss this and other subjects. You should.
This is what psychological treatment facilities are for. The disconnection between her actions and the consequences of those actions is a major red flag for delusion IMO
In her defense, Jesus also sounds like a cult leader.
Damn. Kudos for the radical empathy with regards to people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. Good to remember we aren’t in a work of fiction. Life isn’t a tv show, book, movie etc. There are no villains. Just people.
In general, more empathy is good.
But there definitely actual villains out there too.
As a sociopath, I'm not capable of having remorse, nor do I have a conscience. A lot of people mistake this, thinking that we have the capacity for a conscience/ for remorse and choose not to employ it. But, "No," the truth is that I lack the capacity for a conscience and lack the capacity for remorse. If I had a co-morbid diagnosis of narcissism, I'd be a right terror to those around me but as it stands, I'm not that different from a neurotypical. My personal behavioural standard prevents me from taking harmful actions against anyone who's ever called me a friend and also place a high value on honesty - on doing what I said I'd do. Because I'm high-functioning, I'm easily able to ape normal human expressions and emotions, so it's not often that normal people are able to notice that there's something different about me. Because I'm not a psychopath, I'm not entirely of flat affect, so I'm much more genuine in my portrayal of expressions. In other words, rather than giving people "the creeps," people instead find me very charming. But don't get me wrong - If this Kat Torres had paid me to keep those women locked up, or to silence them, as long as I felt that she was paying me what I was worth, I'd have done the job and not felt the least bit bad about it. Not by choice, but because I lack the ability to feel remorse.
Although, I have to admit... It's been over a year since I've had to go to court, so I've probably mellowed somewhat recently...
"Now I feel like a prisoner."
"That's because you're in prison."
Damn, the weird sleeve design of the dress Emma shows at 18:28 broke my brain for a few seconds.
If that pic doesn't prove you're a silly little guy, then I don't know what will.
Birds aren't real? Are you serious. That's just what the penguins want you to think. They control everything!
ah see that's the trick though- penguins aren't birds, they created birds as a cover story!
If you worry like that you'll not have a good trip. Relax. Be in a safe, controlled environment with someone who's not partaking. Don't eat beforehand. You'll be just fine! Its a ride. It'll end.
I feel like your top is an accurate representation of how all cults end.
I had a friend that sounded a lot like yours. I thankfully had a way to break ties with her by moving.Then years later, I actually got to tell her that I want nothing to do with her because she's toxic. To which she said "I haven't been toxic in a decade!" Now to be fair I haven't talked to her within a decade, however, I can't help but notice how she appears to acknowledge that she was toxic at some point. And yet didn't even apologize for how she was in the past or even try to reconcile. Still, I had a guilty feeling when I did that. I wasn't sure if I did the right thing. My husband and my one friend were proud of me though.
Well, those cults aren’t going to lead themselves are they?
The 'long and boring interlude' is thoughtful and considered and convinced me to subscribe
this is what happens when you normalise delusional ideas like pyschics, energies, crystals and astrology
"Those who can be made to believe absurdities, can be made to commit atrocities." - Voltaire.
Or changing genders
This is the first time I noticed your Sly Cooper cane in the background. I just started replaying part 2.