Spot on!! Thankyou for this reminder....of myself 😢 It truly is terrifying doing this I know....& terrifying also when being abandoned again when triggered....trying to heal this for soooo long....feels impossible at 55 😢
It definitely feels overwhelming at times, you're absolutely right! That said, the fact that you're working on it and learning about it in order to grow says to me that you're not the kind of person who will give up easily! Even being able to recognize your own patterns is such a huge step in the right direction! It's important to keep growing but also remember to look back at how far you've come every so often too! :)
Thank you for this video! It's so hard to listen to it in a way cause it is like a reflection of all our struggles... it can feel so overwhelming. I want to give myself a hug so badly cause she def. didn't deserve to feel that way about herself but it is also my responsibility to heal those parts of myself...
whish my mother wasnt that anxious when she take care of me. now as a 23 years old i watch these videos to fix my abondenment fear and anxious attahcment..
Andrew great video my childhood was lonely and passed around because of my parents work and social life I think that's the reason for my insecurities I've been married to a narcissist then went into a relationship with avoident and suffered some horrible abuse but still tried to fix them and took me ages to walk away and stay in toxic relationships I've tried to heal my inner child but still fall into bad habits
Thank you so much. Really going through it after she stopped messaging back and realizing that this is exactly why. It hurts so much and I want to explain to her everything I'm feeling after this but I wonder if this is also part of that anxious attachment.
Man, you don't know how accurate this video is. This has turned into my GoTo when I feel down next to another video by Margarita Nazarenko. Thanks for helping us heal. Cheers, man.
People who are genuine are being themselves, people make small mistakes etc. Its the cause of autism and narcissism. Then we all use stupid rules and assertions. The narcissist uses the rules as manipulation to autistics. Some people with emotional regulation and suport end up just like being nice to everyone, not having these assumptions about other people being a specific way. Like its normal to think people will need emotional support, not emotional enmeshment. Your feelings are yours. Anyone who states boundaries deserves them to be respected. Just becausr they might be "Autistic" and have this insecure attachment style migt lash out, as any human who is in a survival attachment style would. Ask questions. Idiots with degrees are still idiots. The most important part about this anxius attachment style is its prone to sensory overstimulation both internally and externally, ive had these regressions of every skill. Not fun when youre always in unstable relationships and housing, all of it is absolutely normal. Everyone works the same. Degenerates take advantage of the less fortunate and make "Autism" some kind of scourge on the earth. Narcissism is exactly the same as "Autism" but wholly consumed in their unrelenting pushing, demanding, emotional draining, physically draining demans in the name of "get a job you lazy bum!" Like, i would if i didn't get diagnosed on thd downlow even by the psychologist as an "autistic", with ABA therapy which is teachig narcissistic emotional rules including enmeshment and manipulation, also people pleasing due to these. It's gross. People are aggressive toward the autustic but the person who actually feels badly and wants human connection is punished for being pushed into dysregulation. Then you figure you've become a "tax revenue generator" and told "no, thats ridiculous." But never helped or given the correct tools ro figure life out besides going to a damn job that never alllows you any stability.
I was bf skinnerized maximally as a child. Amplified operant conditioning where my father would come home from work in a tornado right in the door. Then immediately shred everyone in the house unless you were smart like me and hide in a dark recess so you might not get it as bad, then zero rewards ever. Only getting destroyed when you fail.
Compare autism with narcissism is stupid. Many autistic people have some sort of intellectual disabilities,lower IQ, except Asberger, who has very high IQ. Narcissists have average IQ and can do harm intentionally to harm somebody,autistic people don't do it intentionally, they act like that because of their disability and their capacity, its not intended to harm other even if it gets harmed. It's unconscious.
Quality content !! Andrew what's ur take on Doers vs Thinkers as many a times analysis paralysis prevents from taking action but sometimes Deep thinking may help & also suggest some books around this topic to know more about the methods needed to adopt for taking calculated massive action..
You talked about the malady of anxious attachment.. 90%... I was waiting for the solutions re the headline. You could have mentioned more affirmative language
How to heal from an anxious Attachment style? Well, heal your inner child. HOWWWWWW!!!!??????? Instead of explaining how to work on the emotional level. you describe the symptoms!!!!!! You just explain that rationalizing won't solve it, and then you proceed to explain how to rationalize...... I am so fed up with this shit, can someone EXPLAIN ONCE how to work on the feeling level, and not the rational level.........
@@CarlosMartinez-tj9ju thanks, never thought of that… 🤦🏻 The reason I posted that comment is because I am tired of people clicking baiting for the sake of views. Especially on sensitive subjects like this one ( healing inner traumas ).
I can’t speak for everyone but what changed the game for me as far as healing was plant medicine (mushrooms, ayahuasca) paired up with daily practices (medication, breathwork, stillness, gratitude) ultimately requiring my awareness in the here and the now. Rewiring my brain. Understanding that healing my inner child will take a lifetime and as u chip away at her/him in time you’ll realize that you’re ways ahead from where you started. It’s becoming curious with your feelings and seeing where they lay in your body and tending to that part as gently as you would a baby. Understanding these feelings are a part of you but they do not define you. Feelings are a part of the human experience & they can be very telling if you become curious with them instead of trying to get rid of them. I hope that was helpful, i can’t say everything id like to say because it truly is so much. Healing is not linear but it can be so incredibly beautiful 🌱 I would definitely try out breathwork/meditation or grounding exercises on RUclips & see what works best for you. Day by day ✨
@@solymarfontanez7650 Thank you, is a wonderful thing you did to write this information for me and others to help. God bless you. I did start working with some breathing exercises and trying to ask questions when I feel specific emotions. Thank you again, it did helped. 🙏🏻
Im def this 😢. Whole life n relationships explained. We need to teach this in schools.
It feels so pathetic putting so much control into someone else’s hands, who never even asked for it😞
I never said thank you for changing my whole perspective and saving me... So thank you man... I fr appreciate this
Spot on!! Thankyou for this reminder....of myself 😢 It truly is terrifying doing this I know....& terrifying also when being abandoned again when triggered....trying to heal this for soooo long....feels impossible at 55 😢
It definitely feels overwhelming at times, you're absolutely right! That said, the fact that you're working on it and learning about it in order to grow says to me that you're not the kind of person who will give up easily! Even being able to recognize your own patterns is such a huge step in the right direction! It's important to keep growing but also remember to look back at how far you've come every so often too! :)
Think you've cracked it. Thankyou
You broke this down in such an excellent way. Thank you!
Thank you for this video, it's truth told gently.
So your solution is just “heal yourself”? Thanks so much for your insight, very valuable information.
This helps soooo much. Thank you so much for explaining it. I have been struggling with this for many years.
Thank you for this video! It's so hard to listen to it in a way cause it is like a reflection of all our struggles... it can feel so overwhelming. I want to give myself a hug so badly cause she def. didn't deserve to feel that way about herself but it is also my responsibility to heal those parts of myself...
whish my mother wasnt that anxious when she take care of me. now as a 23 years old i watch these videos to fix my abondenment fear and anxious attahcment..
thanks for video btw. your videos helps dude
Andrew great video my childhood was lonely and passed around because of my parents work and social life I think that's the reason for my insecurities I've been married to a narcissist then went into a relationship with avoident and suffered some horrible abuse but still tried to fix them and took me ages to walk away and stay in toxic relationships I've tried to heal my inner child but still fall into bad habits
Best vedio on anxious attachment 🎉
Thank you so much. Really going through it after she stopped messaging back and realizing that this is exactly why. It hurts so much and I want to explain to her everything I'm feeling after this but I wonder if this is also part of that anxious attachment.
Man, you don't know how accurate this video is. This has turned into my GoTo when I feel down next to another video by Margarita Nazarenko.
Thanks for helping us heal. Cheers, man.
Just hearing the I understand started breaking down
This is was spot on🔥🔥🎯🎯! Thank you for posting this, I believe it will help a lot of people.
People who are genuine are being themselves, people make small mistakes etc. Its the cause of autism and narcissism. Then we all use stupid rules and assertions. The narcissist uses the rules as manipulation to autistics. Some people with emotional regulation and suport end up just like being nice to everyone, not having these assumptions about other people being a specific way. Like its normal to think people will need emotional support, not emotional enmeshment. Your feelings are yours. Anyone who states boundaries deserves them to be respected. Just becausr they might be "Autistic" and have this insecure attachment style migt lash out, as any human who is in a survival attachment style would. Ask questions. Idiots with degrees are still idiots.
The most important part about this anxius attachment style is its prone to sensory overstimulation both internally and externally, ive had these regressions of every skill. Not fun when youre always in unstable relationships and housing, all of it is absolutely normal. Everyone works the same. Degenerates take advantage of the less fortunate and make "Autism" some kind of scourge on the earth.
Narcissism is exactly the same as "Autism" but wholly consumed in their unrelenting pushing, demanding, emotional draining, physically draining demans in the name of "get a job you lazy bum!" Like, i would if i didn't get diagnosed on thd downlow even by the psychologist as an "autistic", with ABA therapy which is teachig narcissistic emotional rules including enmeshment and manipulation, also people pleasing due to these. It's gross. People are aggressive toward the autustic but the person who actually feels badly and wants human connection is punished for being pushed into dysregulation.
Then you figure you've become a "tax revenue generator" and told "no, thats ridiculous." But never helped or given the correct tools ro figure life out besides going to a damn job that never alllows you any stability.
I was bf skinnerized maximally as a child. Amplified operant conditioning where my father would come home from work in a tornado right in the door. Then immediately shred everyone in the house unless you were smart like me and hide in a dark recess so you might not get it as bad, then zero rewards ever. Only getting destroyed when you fail.
Compare autism with narcissism is stupid. Many autistic people have some sort of intellectual disabilities,lower IQ, except Asberger, who has very high IQ. Narcissists have average IQ and can do harm intentionally to harm somebody,autistic people don't do it intentionally, they act like that because of their disability and their capacity, its not intended to harm other even if it gets harmed. It's unconscious.
Thank you Andrew 😢🙏🏼
what a great video! thank you!
can you please share more about your experience. would really appreciate it!
Best video about this subject! Thank you so much!❤
Thank you so much for making this video.
My pleasure!
Quality content !!
Andrew what's ur take on Doers vs Thinkers as many a times analysis paralysis prevents from taking action but sometimes Deep thinking may help & also suggest some books around this topic to know more about the methods needed to adopt for taking calculated massive action..
You talked about the malady of anxious attachment.. 90%... I was waiting for the solutions re the headline. You could have mentioned more affirmative language
The darkness of this world consumes and rapes and tortures and haunts me. I'm so lonely I could die.
You have great videos and you're adorable :)
How to heal from an anxious Attachment style? Well, heal your inner child. HOWWWWWW!!!!??????? Instead of explaining how to work on the emotional level. you describe the symptoms!!!!!! You just explain that rationalizing won't solve it, and then you proceed to explain how to rationalize...... I am so fed up with this shit, can someone EXPLAIN ONCE how to work on the feeling level, and not the rational level.........
Jeez just go to therapy man
@@CarlosMartinez-tj9ju thanks, never thought of that… 🤦🏻 The reason I posted that comment is because I am tired of people clicking baiting for the sake of views. Especially on sensitive subjects like this one ( healing inner traumas ).
I can’t speak for everyone but what changed the game for me as far as healing was plant medicine (mushrooms, ayahuasca) paired up with daily practices (medication, breathwork, stillness, gratitude) ultimately requiring my awareness in the here and the now. Rewiring my brain.
Understanding that healing my inner child will take a lifetime and as u chip away at her/him in time you’ll realize that you’re ways ahead from where you started. It’s becoming curious with your feelings and seeing where they lay in your body and tending to that part as gently as you would a baby. Understanding these feelings are a part of you but they do not define you.
Feelings are a part of the human experience & they can be very telling if you become curious with them instead of trying to get rid of them.
I hope that was helpful, i can’t say everything id like to say because it truly is so much. Healing is not linear but it can be so incredibly beautiful 🌱
I would definitely try out breathwork/meditation or grounding exercises on RUclips & see what works best for you. Day by day ✨
@@solymarfontanez7650 Thank you, is a wonderful thing you did to write this information for me and others to help. God bless you. I did start working with some breathing exercises and trying to ask questions when I feel specific emotions. Thank you again, it did helped. 🙏🏻
@@petartparadise so incredibly grateful to read this 🌱 i hope your journey ultimately guides you back to yourself 💫