You don't tell your beloved to go and fight a war for someone else. You tell them to get as far as possible while you fight for them. Sun Tzu is an over rated cliche.
My dad was a military field officer. Long after his death, one of the men in his command said that while serving with him there was no doubt who was in command, as long as everyone was doing their job it was like being on a camping trip with your favorite uncle.
That's the best kind of leader. One who encourages positivity and the whole team spirit thing and how doing your job well is the number one priority. And reserves scolding and harsh words for those times when someone really fucks up, or worse, shows lack of willingness. The rarer they are used, the more effective they are. It's very easy to respect such a leader. Gladly I met quite a lot of that type during my service, and tried to emulate their style when I became a sergeant and had to handle subordinates myself. It worked rather well, because I had good role models to learn from.
I think I know your late father’s secret (offering my belated condolences by the way). I have no doubt that he wasn’t shy with cracking the whip when it’s due. I mean this is military you don’t sweet talk correcting a behaviour which can get people killed in the future. I’m a teaching doctor and I am no smooth talker myself in the face of such an occurrence (those who think that scolding on tv shows are the real thing have a rough awakening for them in case they land in a training clinic but they’ll get the idea in med school anyway). But I’m think that he also gave genuine praise for every job well done. A curt, short, but genuine one. Rewarding accomplishment creates respect and authority. Correcting and reprimanding when it’s due defends it.
If your dad would not be an officer in the army, that dude would never have to obey your dad. The rank in the army does the trick and not natural leadership skills.
He's talking about charismatic leadership, the most powerful of all. People will obey a strong figure until he fails, but charismatic leaders inspire insane levels of devotion
When I was a supervisor, my manager would tell me to go out onto the production floor and "twist the arms" of the team and tell them OT was mandatory. I'd just ask them to do some OT, and they'd ask if it was mandatory, and I'd say "Kinda.", and they'd ask "What'll happen if I don't?" and I'd say "Nothing...well, I'll get in trouble." and they'd think about it for a moment and finally say "Ok, I'll do it."
The worst kind of superior. The one who makes mid-level management enforce the unpopular decisions and hides behind their backs from the fallout. I've had so much of this stuff in the last couple of years, I'm seriously considering quitting next year if everything goes as planned.
@@rh_BOSS bro, you don't even know. That place was a nightmare. - Ok, today I need you to roll out to the teams we're not doing 15 minute breaks anymore. - Ok, today I need you to roll out to the teams we're cutting their vacation packages down by 2/3.
Unfortunately though, the youth of today don't have respect for authority and they just don't care. Not sure what that says about the leaders of the future.
I've seen this (and I'm sure many watching this video) have seen this in the workplace. I've seen an excellent cohesive supportive engineering team with decades of experinece across various disiplines destroyed by a poor, insecure, bullying manager. Those he feared were better than him (and I feel 90% of us were) and might challenge for his position were left go. Other were intimidated and their work criticized, and they left. This contrasted with other managers I had who had my back whom I would walk through fire for. Even after I no longer worked for them any request from them was actioned the same day.
This makes sense. I can think back to many awkward situations where not feeling cared about and not caring about the leadership caused chaos in the workplace
Respect must go both ways. Your subordinates aren’t stupid they will see right through you if you don’t care, respect them, or are a selfish individual.
Respect must go both ways, except then you've launched into a rant that goes just one way. Fact is, subordinates are exactly that, first and foremost. It's often the arrogant, stubborn, smart-ass who shows a lack of respect because they think they know better. Especially with the youth these days, there's absolutely no respect for authority.
@@vladcraioveanu233 "show them you. know better" - Show 'who' you know better? If a manager has worked in the position from the grassroots and is now in a position of authority, what's there to show? They know more than the subordinate. "Is good they QUESTION authority" - Yes, it's good to question authority but only when it's with good intentions and the right motive.
@@thepsychologist8159Ah I know what you mean, but someone being a manager doesn't always mean shit. A lot of times, people get installed as a manager without knowing jack shit about what they're managing by higher ups that also don't know shit about what actually goes on at the ground. That's where I'd question authority, especially if I'm the boots on the ground actually doing the work and know what's going on.
@@EdBoi18 Yes, I totally agree with you there. Many times loyalty to a business (or those who are just 'yes' people) is often mistaken for leadership and managerial skills. I reckon I've only worked under one manager in my entire life who I would deem as a genuine manager with true leadership skills. However, what I would also say is (and now being a manager myself), it's easy to criticize a person when you've never been in the top job and it's easy to think you could do it better. Perhaps you could, but the basic principle of 'respect your elders' or 'have respect for authority' in recent generations seems to have been lost and it's why we now see such unruly behavior displayed by they youth of today. Let's face it, traditional moral values started eroding from society over 40 years ago, and those who were the first generation have now raised their own children, and the weaker and weaker these principles have become. But no doubt, a good leader is someone who demonstrates sound reasoning in the decisions they make (even to question their own decisions) and is easy on people if they make mistakes, while still being strict if the situation arises. This leads people to feel comfortable with and trusting of the manager as not being some 'hard head' who thinks they know it all and never takes responsibility for their own mistakes.
I know a lot of "likeable" leaders. I found that their "likeability" was something purely subjective and in terms of skill and character, most "likeable" people don't even measure up
You need respect over likeness to be a great leader. Niccolo Machiavelli said that to be a great leader, in some instances (not all) you must show acts of ruthlessness and cannot be overly nice and loving. This way the subordinates don’t see you as weak and try to overthrow you later.
Good leaders create a culture of trust and empathy where you focus on understanding what the organisation does and what your role is in it in context to others. That creates purpose, safety and support
Its funny that the 4 unethical methods are exactly how military basic training operates. You are sleep deprived, isolated from your family except for mail and infrequent brief phone calls, made to feel guilty for failure while also constantly having failure induced, all while you are taught to respect your instructors as a hero who is using their experience to light your path to success.
paging Michel Foucault ! now where's my copy of Discipline and Punish? schools, jails, mental health facilities, the military all use the same methods as "total institutions". I have a PhD, published by peer review 5 times, taught university courses on this topic for 11 years, and my brother is a Lt. Col. in the USAF so dont call me a hater.
The times in life that Jocko Willink has had any true authority, it has been based on one or more of these factors. His kind are all the same. They gain power in a situation using manipulation techniques and then gaslight you into thinking they're doing it to help you realize your true potential. This goes down to the most micro of levels, even in a simple conversation they will always need to maintain that leverage and control through intimidation or degradation. But they will make it seem like you are the weak one and you need their help to overcome it.
The Tao Te Ching says that the worst leader is one of whine the people are afraid; next is one the people respect; better is one the people love; best is the one of whom the people are barely aware. I think these aren’t mutually exclusive, and Jocko’s nailing a description of someone who’s got 2 & 3 down and transcended into the last category, where the team already does what’s needed of them and more, often without even having to be asked.
I’m a 45 year old Mom to two grown daughters and I have always praised them in public & punished them in private. I worked in HR for a decade & treated my 198 employees the same way.
That's what I was thinking too. There are very many cases where care & empathy by themselves result in DISrespect, contempt, ridicule, betrayal, becoming exploited... NPD 's thrive on it. One must have boundaries and watch for red flags of NPD
as a narcissistic person the only way a person can get through to me is leave me be and let me learn the hard way. So if you are trying to lead a narcissistic person give them space and ignore their negative ways. act as if it doesnt bother you at all. That right there gets me all the time is when im being ignored. Im telling you this because im learning a lot about myself lately and want to change.
The idea that people will do more for you when they care about you resonates deeply with social exchange theory, where relationships are built on mutual benefit and emotional investment. I once worked with someone who found that when they shifted from trying to control their team to genuinely supporting them, their team responded with greater loyalty and effort. Your insight into how care creates authority within a team captures this dynamic perfectly. It’s such a valuable reminder that leadership is about connection, not command
Alot of time, people are frustrated or angry because they dont exactly understand why you said what you said or why you want something "ridiculous" done. Ive found that explaining to them what I'm dealing with and what I'm being asked and why helps a lot. Dont be scared to share your world. If you think that maybe it will get you replaced... good or do better.
This resonates strongly with being a highly effective math teacher. Unpacking how is too long to type in a comment. But the end result is that authentic and transparent teachers don't have discipline issues with students and students work hard to learn because it's requested of them to do so. Thank you Jocko for outlining respect and leadership so clearly.
It’s great knowing that someone has your back no matter what, whether it’s you looking out for your leader or someone looking out for you as the leader. Respect is reciprocal and it makes for a well oiled machine.
A few things I learned throughout my IT career over the past 20 something years that earned respect: - Know what you are talking about and how to articulate it. If you appear knowledgeable, people will listen - Be the example that people would want to be - Spend time helping others before you spend time on yourself - Never talk negatively about a teammate around other teammates. - If you know something other people don't know, share it. They know something you don't as well - Admit mistakes big or small and don't blame someone else - Take other people's mistakes lightly. Help solve the problem first, then you discuss how the mistake can be avoided later - Let people have their egos and don't allow conflicts over it. It only causes divide, kills morale, and fosters hostility. Have management deal with those things.
"Admit mistakes big or small and don't blame someone else" - this one is the most important for me. A lot of times, even if it wasn't your mistake, taking the mistake upon you can have a powerful effect on the group.
It starts with credibility. If the leader is not resting on their actual authority but has demonstrated or has a well known reputation for competence, reliability, fairness, being reciprocal, open mindedness, dedication... this is the type of person you would like to follow. Managers and bosses tend to rely on the fact that they are actually empowered to command but their priorities center around self promotion, self protection (cya), personal enrichment and ego stoking. Leaders act from a sense of responsibility to the mission, the organization and the people working within it. It’s easy enough to figure out what you’re dealing with. When a person’s thoughts, words and actions match, particularly under pressure or stress, you are dealing with an authentic person. When there’s a disconnect then their words are meaningless, their agenda is hidden and their credibility is suspect.
@UnitedStatesofAmerica1984 I can like and care for someone but it doesn't mean I will follow their lead. I care for all my partners at work but theres only a small handful who I would respect enough to follow in a leadership role.
There is nothing more satisfying as putting a team together and everyone one knows each others strengths and weaknesses, yet we all come together as a super cohesive Team/Unit. We think and react as one.
Thanks Jocko. This message is an answer to prayer this morning. I’m failing as a leader and honestly, the simple truth is that whether you care or not is written all over your forehead.
The problem we have is because Most people always taught that " you only need a good job to become rich. These billionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't even know exists.
It is remarkable how much long term advantage people like us have gotten by trying to be consistently not stupid, instead of trying to be very intelligent.
The wisest thing that should be on everyone mind currently should be to invest in different streams of income that doesn't depend on government paycheck, especially with the current economic crisis around the world. This is still a time to invest in Stocks, Forex and Digital currencies.
Many individuals report success in investing in stocks, forex, and cryptocurrency (Bitcoin), yet I continue to struggle. Can somebody help me out or advise me on what to do?
Even with the appropriate method and assets, some investors will still outperform others. As an investor, you should already know that nothing surpasses experience, and that is final. Personally, I had to seek advice from a stock specialist, which allowed me to build my account by over $35k, extract my profit just before the correction, and now I'm purchasing again.
If your social skills are lacking you may end up trying to be good to them in other ways like always doing little favors and people will quickly take advantage of this.
Great message! The French Soldiers I worked with had caring down pat. They weren’t leaving one another. I wish the teams I belonged to in the military could have stayed together longer.
Leadership is a delicate balance of several factors. In the military there is a unique drive toward a common mission in a successful unit. As a senior leader in several-many units I had a saying - “If you have to run around in front of your people and tell them you’re in charge, you aren’t!”
It's been my experience that when I start new businesses the people closest to them are the the one's that want freebies and don't want to support. It's been my experience that when I launch a fundraiser for money that it's surprisingly strangers that donate more than those who are close to me. Maybe I have a shitty circle of people that don't actually care but it seems to me that when they are close their actions show the opposite.
Thanks, I did not know care & empathy is enough to get respect. This is my first video seen with Jocko Willink & it was useful. 1 332:2. 03/07/2024. 1:08. 32 169.
But it is NOT enough. You truly must add BOUNDARIES to the list. There are extremely many cases and instances where care & empathy by themselves result in DISrespect, contempt, ridicule, betrayal, becoming exploited... NPD 's thrive on it. Don't feed the monster.
You still have to be feared if you're loved, because if you're loved then other people will want you to kill yourself. It's pretty easy for guys like Jocko to get away with using words like "respect" because he's a tough-looking guy, he looks really intimidating. Fear is not respect, it merely creates the illusion of respect. Respect is acknowledgement of other people's personal boundaries out of human decency. It is NOT fear. You can respect people who have no ability to intimidate you. You do not "command" respect. That is fear. Respect comes from the other person.
@@devilsoffspring5519 I kinda get what you are saying however when someone loves you then the person doesnt have a motivation to kill, on the contrary, when you are feared, people hate you deep inside and one day they will try to kill you, but this doesnt concern “normal” people, but more rulers, politicians, soliders, gangsters etc. Thats why i am saying for a “normal” person which is working, living and enjoying life there is no need to be feared by people around you, but to be loved is the best. Remember fear creates hate and hate creates violence and death
@@richardglatz8309 That's not what I meant though. Many people will always "create" violence and death, they will "create" WASTE because waste is their nature. If you're loved, then other people will want to ruin it. If you create something you like, or what other people like too, then people will want to destroy it. Frank Zappa said something like "People love entertainment, but they hate musicians." What he meant is that if you create music that people love, other people will hate you for it and want to ruin your life. It's human nature.
First one in, last one out. Learned that as a child from an old book about the French Indian war. A group of soldiers had to cross a river so they made a human chain, their commander was the first link in the chain and thus the last man to leave the water. As an adult with employees I never ask anyone to do something I haven't already done or wouldn't be willing to do.
True leadership: Don't follow me, I might not be able to lead, Don't expect me to follow, I might go astray, But I can walk beside you and Be your friend - Albert Camus
When you express the interest of concern for the improvement and success of others, and you have proven it to be consistent, others begin to realize you have concern for their best interests, and will respectfully acknowledge authority over them. Napoleon also knew the best way to get anyone's attention is with one word: Their Name.
This has nothing to do with a team, or a business, or military buddies....but this reminds me of my girlfriend. I live in Thailand with her, a Cambodian lady raised as a farm girl. As Jocko spoke i thought, "I'd do anything for her", which is true. And it occurred to me that why I feel this way is that she has demonstrated that she will do anything she can to help me in my life. Most recently my elderly mother moved to an assisted living facility near me in Thailand. My girlfriend adopted her like her own mother, cares for her, bathes her, feeds her, holds her arm when she walks. 100% of the time. After 2 ex wives back in the US, I never imagined that someone could genuinely care so much. She has my respect, and my devotion. Caring, man, what a concept.
I was in a great team, we all cared about each other, no egos, just got on with things and got sh*t done. New management came in, ripped the heart out of the team, brought in their own people. I left the team but stayed in the company. That team now has all new shiny qualified people. No spirit, no trust, dysfunctional, no-one likes each other in the team. Other teams don't trust them either. And most important of all, they deliver NOTHING and the company owners are starting to notice.
In story-telling, authors write about a character making choices you admire to make you care about them. The choice to suffer in dignity. The choice to be brave. The choice to be kind or generous. And if they want you to despise a character, they have them make choices you despise. If you consistently make choices people respect, they will respect you. If they don't respect you over time, you own it. You've been doing something they despise. Complaining, shirking, lying, something you need to remedy if you're to gain their respect.
When I was a young private, my CO was CPT (now General) Michael Flynn. Yes, that Michael Flynn. He went out of his way to really push us and inspire us. We loved that guy. We would follow him anywhere. Decades later, he's one of the few people that I remember from my time in the service. Don't believe the lamestream news. He is a great guy and someone I look up to.
I’m 6’3 270 lb combat Marine, tried MMA for years as a hobby fighter but could never command respect. I’m a class clown type and learn that no one will take me serious but I can’t (and won’t) change my personality. Just accept I’ll be one of the guys but never the leader.🤷🏻♂️
To command authority, you just need to sound like you are competent and know what you are doing, and be absolutely serious about it. Men naturally sort themselves in hierarchies based on perceived competence, particularly in situations that are dangerous or serious, with a common goal. Naturally, you submit to the authority of someone you recognize as more capable or competent as yourself in that situation. If you are not seen as the leader, it's because you fail to sound more competent than the other guys, either because you are not more competent and should not be in charge, or because you just don't speak with the seriousness and security necessary. You need to be the most secure and serious guy of the group and have the most knowledge about what you are trying to then, then people submit naturally when they are in need.
The challenge is to genuinely care about them before they care about you. You can't fake it. That takes a mindset change, a leap of faith, and living with the risk that it won't work, because it might not.
I’m 58 yrs old. I’ve been at my job 30 yrs. My brother was a cop for 30 yrs, retiring as a captain. Yes, it’s great to have a team around you. I venture to guess most places run and most kids were brought up believing deep down that you have to take care of no 1 and to manipulate. Give the impression you care-of course. We still demand that that’s the public position. But his insight, which is nothing more than what our parents used to teach us, is nothing more than at best what we pretend to do. It’s a shame.
This guy has been in a thought loop for all of his life which is based on one core notion - his physics work normally. When he mentioned sleep deprivation I just completely checked out and questioned every bit of authority he might posses. I have had ankylosing spondylitys for over 20 years now, it's often extremely painful. It makes sleeping extremely difficult the older I get and I have cumulated a sleep deprivation from the whole time I have been sick. At the same time my natural rebellion against authorities has just grown exponentially. If I don't get enough sleep, I get angry and when I get angry I basically give the finger for everyone. Another thing is the pain, even though not mentioned directly. How do you torture with pain someone who can have basically the same ache all over his body, which people have in severe tooth ache cases? The nerves in the spine can get so pinned that you literally can't move due to the white heating pain which shoots through your brain each time you move a muscle - and you can't ask someone to stop doing it. You just have to endure it and wait for a clearer time. It makes you accustomed to pain in ways guys like him, who trust in their physic, can't even imagine. I have also been blessed with some sort of tolerance for pain - I can switch off the caring. I still feel it but I can choose not to care about it. I have a few scars in my body to prove it. I had the ability before I got sick. So how do you apply subjugating pain to such a person, who lives in pain every day? Incidentally, pain makes me want to be alone very often because I'm tired. How do you isolate that kind of guy from friends and close ones? Despite my medical condition, I still take care of the rest of my health. I work out 3-4 times a week and ride bicycle rounds weekly from 20 to 40 km per round. I work out and lift weights even with 4-5 hours of sleep.
You win people. It's different to different people. My pastor once told me that it took him 10 years to win his wife. He said his wife thought he won her when she married him. He was talking about something deeper. When you have won a person, they will want to follow you. People have their own will. Even God chooses to win people. It's one thing to accept forgiveness. It's quite another to choose to deny your own will and follow someone else's will.
"Care about your team" is a nice concept. In theory. In an enterprise setting though, the management will only empower people who side with the management.
I am an atheist and I think all of what you just said is BS to me, BUT it seems like this belief of yours has really helped you and since it made you feel loved, I can't be one to deny it. It won't work for me, but I'm grateful it works for you.
Grew up with a single mom who undermined my masculinity. Had teachers who tried to abuse. Went through long periods of friendlessness in the social structure of high school. Worked at jobs where the pass time of management was to abuse and degrade the employees. Now I live alone and work alone. I’ve never seen a good leader. It’s best not to need a leader. Martial arts saved my life. Taught me self-sufficiency and self-discipline. Even though I had one of the great instructors of the time, I also learned when you’re in the ring, you’re alone. Even with great trainers and a great instructor and a great team in the gym, you’re alone in the fight.
My grandfather told me when I was young there will always be a man behind you willing to do what you won’t. This taught me to lead by example your no greater then the lowest man on the totem pole because they’re the one holding everyone else up.
We care about people we respect. We don't care about people we fear. We don't respect people we fear. We don't fear people we respect. If we treat people like we want to be treated like, while we don't have to, we earn respect. Being magnanimous permits to earn respect, as the ones who benefit of it understand we don't have to, and even think they might haven't acted like that in our position. The aim is to have the power, and to show no abuse, to earn even more and real power this time. It would also help if we later lose this fist power. If people don't forget when we are mean with them, the opposite is also true. Being kind with those who deserve it in general pays back. First payback is about having a good conscience.
As Machiavelli said, it is better to be loved than feared. However, as Machiavelli also said - which is what makes it Machiavellian - if you can't be loved, then be feared.
these days a huge amount of people try to destroy people who are good hearted and are trying to build up good things for everyone, due to jealousy or bitterness that we are liked etc so this video does not really help deal with HOW To build that respect and caring etc
Makes me think of my wife and kids. Boys are all grown up now. Been married 25 years. And they would all do anything for me. Kids never went rogue on us during their teenage years. Wife couldn't be more supportive. They sincerely care about me.
I used to always do the bare minimum until I changed how I viewed the people around me. Not for selfish gain but because I wanted to be better, and I genuinely care about those around me. Can't be a leader without learning to follow first and now I'm in a leadership position.
You don't need techniques...you need experience. ...And a willingness to share your skills/experience to those that are not there yet. That's it. Most don't actually want to do what you can do....they just think they want to.
From my perspective, the idea that empathetic leadership gains authority through reciprocity doesn't always apply, especially with people who lack empathy, like some narcissists. They often use victimhood to take advantage of empathy, seeking more benefits without giving back in the same way. Thus, empathy isn't always the best approach with everyone.
Nice idea! And I can see that we do things for people because we care about them.. But how the hell do you get people to care about you??? And why would you care about your officer? I care about my family, but I don't care about my bosses or my colleagues or my doctor or anyone else. And with that in mind I wouldn't do anything for them.. So how do you start caring about these people or get them to care about you??
This is psychology. Basic psychology. And it's not weird at all. I'm not in the military but in my work life I've had managers I've hated working under. I've had managers I was glad I got away from the sections or departments they managed. I've had coworkers who acted like managers and at times I outright wouldn't do what they asked because they were not over me and I've had a few managers I'd go to battle with because they were such awesome people. They want day off work? As long at they are there, sure. no problem. Name when and where and I'll be there to help out!
I did that to a 40 year Chief Engineer at the end of his career, but they kept him around as "just a license" to serve out the last few months of his career.
Might work in a combat situation where you have to rely on each other for your own life. But in a work environment its rare that people do things because they "care" for their leader. There is also a difference across cultures. Some cultures people fight for their team and leader, some will do the bare minimum and happily coast and let the team suffer.
"Treat your soldiers as you would your beloved sons and they will follow you into the deepest valley." - Sun Tzu
"Never put yourself in a position where you can take from these men" - Major Richard Winters (506th regiment 101st Airborne)
@@galaxytraveler5779 "Lead me, follow me, or get out of my way."- General George Patton
@@writerrhino166 bs they never speake to soldiers
You don't tell your beloved to go and fight a war for someone else. You tell them to get as far as possible while you fight for them.
Sun Tzu is an over rated cliche.
@@galaxytraveler5779 Did he actually say that, or was it just scripted for the character which Lewis played?
People think leadership means power but leadership is service.
Very well said. And Christ is the preeminent servant leader. Philippians 2:3-10
Mark 10:44 : " whosoever would be first among you, shall be servant of all. "
Lead to serve. Serve to lead.
Actually it’s a combination of both, using power responsibly, make people feel powerful and lead them to thrive as a team but personally as well.
Exactly. You sacrifice the most.
My dad was a military field officer. Long after his death, one of the men in his command said that while serving with him there was no doubt who was in command, as long as everyone was doing their job it was like being on a camping trip with your favorite uncle.
That's the best kind of leader. One who encourages positivity and the whole team spirit thing and how doing your job well is the number one priority. And reserves scolding and harsh words for those times when someone really fucks up, or worse, shows lack of willingness. The rarer they are used, the more effective they are.
It's very easy to respect such a leader. Gladly I met quite a lot of that type during my service, and tried to emulate their style when I became a sergeant and had to handle subordinates myself. It worked rather well, because I had good role models to learn from.
" no one cares what you know, until they know that you care ".
Teddy Roosevelt
I think I know your late father’s secret (offering my belated condolences by the way).
I have no doubt that he wasn’t shy with cracking the whip when it’s due. I mean this is military you don’t sweet talk correcting a behaviour which can get people killed in the future. I’m a teaching doctor and I am no smooth talker myself in the face of such an occurrence (those who think that scolding on tv shows are the real thing have a rough awakening for them in case they land in a training clinic but they’ll get the idea in med school anyway).
But I’m think that he also gave genuine praise for every job well done. A curt, short, but genuine one.
Rewarding accomplishment creates respect and authority.
Correcting and reprimanding when it’s due defends it.
If your dad would not be an officer in the army, that dude would never have to obey your dad. The rank in the army does the trick and not natural leadership skills.
@@vladislavovich100 There's a vast gulf between just "being in charge" and inspirational leadership.
Napoleon taught a lot about this concept. Admonish in private, praise in public. Inspire greatness as well.
The modern corporate way is to do exactly the opposite. Shame in public, give money in private. I'll take the money.
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Napoleon also said there is one word that everyone wants to hear: Their Name.
@@christopherbuckley7544 he clearly knew what he was talking about 😅
That's not what Jocko is talking about.
He's talking about charismatic leadership, the most powerful of all. People will obey a strong figure until he fails, but charismatic leaders inspire insane levels of devotion
they are the most dangerous leaders and can get promoted above their abilities
"A team is not a team unless you give a damn about one another"- Best of the Best by James Earl Jones. Born in 80. Still a good movie.
Great quote!!
James Earl Jones is such an icon for the connoisseurs.
RIP James Earl Jones
And he said that….. only ONCE!
When I was a supervisor, my manager would tell me to go out onto the production floor and "twist the arms" of the team and tell them OT was mandatory. I'd just ask them to do some OT, and they'd ask if it was mandatory, and I'd say "Kinda.", and they'd ask "What'll happen if I don't?" and I'd say "Nothing...well, I'll get in trouble." and they'd think about it for a moment and finally say "Ok, I'll do it."
Your boss is twisted
@@samdumaquis2033a lot of them are.
It works
The worst kind of superior. The one who makes mid-level management enforce the unpopular decisions and hides behind their backs from the fallout. I've had so much of this stuff in the last couple of years, I'm seriously considering quitting next year if everything goes as planned.
@@rh_BOSS bro, you don't even know. That place was a nightmare.
- Ok, today I need you to roll out to the teams we're not doing 15 minute breaks anymore.
- Ok, today I need you to roll out to the teams we're cutting their vacation packages down by 2/3.
100% and this creates a future generation of better leaders. It only takes 1 toxic leader to destroy a team.
Or a country.
Unfortunately though, the youth of today don't have respect for authority and they just don't care. Not sure what that says about the leaders of the future.
I've seen this (and I'm sure many watching this video) have seen this in the workplace. I've seen an excellent cohesive supportive engineering team with decades of experinece across various disiplines destroyed by a poor, insecure, bullying manager. Those he feared were better than him (and I feel 90% of us were) and might challenge for his position were left go. Other were intimidated and their work criticized, and they left. This contrasted with other managers I had who had my back whom I would walk through fire for. Even after I no longer worked for them any request from them was actioned the same day.
Better in the future? LOL
@@glenliesegang233 Russia?
This makes sense. I can think back to many awkward situations where not feeling cared about and not caring about the leadership caused chaos in the workplace
Respect must go both ways. Your subordinates aren’t stupid they will see right through you if you don’t care, respect them, or are a selfish individual.
Respect must go both ways, except then you've launched into a rant that goes just one way. Fact is, subordinates are exactly that, first and foremost. It's often the arrogant, stubborn, smart-ass who shows a lack of respect because they think they know better. Especially with the youth these days, there's absolutely no respect for authority.
@@thepsychologist8159show them you. know better. Is good they QUESTION authority.
@@vladcraioveanu233 "show them you. know better"
- Show 'who' you know better? If a manager has worked in the position from the grassroots and is now in a position of authority, what's there to show? They know more than the subordinate.
"Is good they QUESTION authority"
- Yes, it's good to question authority but only when it's with good intentions and the right motive.
@@thepsychologist8159Ah I know what you mean, but someone being a manager doesn't always mean shit. A lot of times, people get installed as a manager without knowing jack shit about what they're managing by higher ups that also don't know shit about what actually goes on at the ground. That's where I'd question authority, especially if I'm the boots on the ground actually doing the work and know what's going on.
@@EdBoi18 Yes, I totally agree with you there. Many times loyalty to a business (or those who are just 'yes' people) is often mistaken for leadership and managerial skills. I reckon I've only worked under one manager in my entire life who I would deem as a genuine manager with true leadership skills. However, what I would also say is (and now being a manager myself), it's easy to criticize a person when you've never been in the top job and it's easy to think you could do it better. Perhaps you could, but the basic principle of 'respect your elders' or 'have respect for authority' in recent generations seems to have been lost and it's why we now see such unruly behavior displayed by they youth of today. Let's face it, traditional moral values started eroding from society over 40 years ago, and those who were the first generation have now raised their own children, and the weaker and weaker these principles have become.
But no doubt, a good leader is someone who demonstrates sound reasoning in the decisions they make (even to question their own decisions) and is easy on people if they make mistakes, while still being strict if the situation arises. This leads people to feel comfortable with and trusting of the manager as not being some 'hard head' who thinks they know it all and never takes responsibility for their own mistakes.
In other words, to be a leader and to have authority over others, be liked and likable. That’s actually spot on I think
It’s not just about liking. You like because of a reason.
Jobs was a great leader, the workers idolised him. He was an exceptionally dislikable individual. As are many great leaders.
I know a lot of "likeable" leaders. I found that their "likeability" was something purely subjective and in terms of skill and character, most "likeable" people don't even measure up
You need respect over likeness to be a great leader. Niccolo Machiavelli said that to be a great leader, in some instances (not all) you must show acts of ruthlessness and cannot be overly nice and loving. This way the subordinates don’t see you as weak and try to overthrow you later.
@@Michael-4 Jobs was idolized by people who never met him personally.
Good leaders create a culture of trust and empathy where you focus on understanding what the organisation does and what your role is in it in context to others. That creates purpose, safety and support
Its funny that the 4 unethical methods are exactly how military basic training operates. You are sleep deprived, isolated from your family except for mail and infrequent brief phone calls, made to feel guilty for failure while also constantly having failure induced, all while you are taught to respect your instructors as a hero who is using their experience to light your path to success.
I'm absolutely speechless.
paging Michel Foucault ! now where's my copy of Discipline and Punish? schools, jails, mental health facilities, the military all use the same methods as "total institutions". I have a PhD, published by peer review 5 times, taught university courses on this topic for 11 years, and my brother is a Lt. Col. in the USAF so dont call me a hater.
And 3 of the 4 unethical methods are exactly how current identity politics operate.
The times in life that Jocko Willink has had any true authority, it has been based on one or more of these factors. His kind are all the same. They gain power in a situation using manipulation techniques and then gaslight you into thinking they're doing it to help you realize your true potential. This goes down to the most micro of levels, even in a simple conversation they will always need to maintain that leverage and control through intimidation or degradation. But they will make it seem like you are the weak one and you need their help to overcome it.
Lol the military makes sure you are loyal even when under a bad leader
I'm so tired of toxic team leaders and toxic management here in cape town south africa...Bertrand from cape town south africa
The Tao Te Ching says that the worst leader is one of whine the people are afraid; next is one the people respect; better is one the people love; best is the one of whom the people are barely aware. I think these aren’t mutually exclusive, and Jocko’s nailing a description of someone who’s got 2 & 3 down and transcended into the last category, where the team already does what’s needed of them and more, often without even having to be asked.
I’m a 45 year old Mom to two grown daughters and I have always praised them in public & punished them in private. I worked in HR for a decade & treated my 198 employees the same way.
That is the only way to manage!
women are not leaders, they are followers, where is their dad, he should be leading you and his daughters
I've found this works with psychologically stable people. For example, this won't work with narcissists, in my opinion
That's what I was thinking too. There are very many cases where care & empathy by themselves result in DISrespect, contempt, ridicule, betrayal, becoming exploited... NPD 's thrive on it. One must have boundaries and watch for red flags of NPD
Or high anxiety people with no motivation do you have to care someone about your job?
as a narcissistic person the only way a person can get through to me is leave me be and let me learn the hard way. So if you are trying to lead a narcissistic person give them space and ignore their negative ways. act as if it doesnt bother you at all. That right there gets me all the time is when im being ignored. Im telling you this because im learning a lot about myself lately and want to change.
@@MrLex87 appreciate your wisdom
@@MrLex87 thank you sir. Much respect - wishing you well
The idea that people will do more for you when they care about you resonates deeply with social exchange theory, where relationships are built on mutual benefit and emotional investment. I once worked with someone who found that when they shifted from trying to control their team to genuinely supporting them, their team responded with greater loyalty and effort. Your insight into how care creates authority within a team captures this dynamic perfectly. It’s such a valuable reminder that leadership is about connection, not command
Love one another as I have loved you. -JC
John Cleese
@@agamemnonhatred lol
By this, all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another
It's just lovely to see a square cut, military guy named Jocko loudly tell people that power comes from being a likable person that people care about.
Alot of time, people are frustrated or angry because they dont exactly understand why you said what you said or why you want something "ridiculous" done. Ive found that explaining to them what I'm dealing with and what I'm being asked and why helps a lot. Dont be scared to share your world. If you think that maybe it will get you replaced... good or do better.
This resonates strongly with being a highly effective math teacher. Unpacking how is too long to type in a comment. But the end result is that authentic and transparent teachers don't have discipline issues with students and students work hard to learn because it's requested of them to do so.
Thank you Jocko for outlining respect and leadership so clearly.
I see this in my team. There’s authority everywhere because we care about each other.
Love and respect from me. I wish we had leaders like him in charge.
Just banter
He's a traitor.....so, what are you hoping for? ANOTHER traitorous president?
It’s great knowing that someone has your back no matter what, whether it’s you looking out for your leader or someone looking out for you as the leader. Respect is reciprocal and it makes for a well oiled machine.
A few things I learned throughout my IT career over the past 20 something years that earned respect:
- Know what you are talking about and how to articulate it. If you appear knowledgeable, people will listen
- Be the example that people would want to be
- Spend time helping others before you spend time on yourself
- Never talk negatively about a teammate around other teammates.
- If you know something other people don't know, share it. They know something you don't as well
- Admit mistakes big or small and don't blame someone else
- Take other people's mistakes lightly. Help solve the problem first,
then you discuss how the mistake can be avoided later
- Let people have their egos and don't allow conflicts over it.
It only causes divide, kills morale, and fosters hostility. Have management deal with those things.
"Admit mistakes big or small and don't blame someone else" - this one is the most important for me. A lot of times, even if it wasn't your mistake, taking the mistake upon you can have a powerful effect on the group.
... Love your neighbor as yourself.
Yes but now days this doesn't work people are selfish
I tried that and it backfired hugely.
This is the whole of christianity, known to everyone but christians.
It starts with credibility. If the leader is not resting on their actual authority but has demonstrated or has a well known reputation for competence, reliability, fairness, being reciprocal, open mindedness, dedication... this is the type of person you would like to follow. Managers and bosses tend to rely on the fact that they are actually empowered to command but their priorities center around self promotion, self protection (cya), personal enrichment and ego stoking. Leaders act from a sense of responsibility to the mission, the organization and the people working within it. It’s easy enough to figure out what you’re dealing with. When a person’s thoughts, words and actions match, particularly under pressure or stress, you are dealing with an authentic person. When there’s a disconnect then their words are meaningless, their agenda is hidden and their credibility is suspect.
I've never heard anybody (except maybe Goggins) call this out. Subscribed. And bought your (audio, lol) book, based on this single video alone.
Jocko is so profound. I knew him for his movie breakdowns but the last clips i've seen are just wow... what a psychologist
I was in a situation not too long ago with all the things that were mentioned at 0:27 occuring. My eyes are opened.
There has to be a level of respect as well. I can like/care about someone but if I don't respect them I will no follow.
You might be right
@UnitedStatesofAmerica1984 I can like and care for someone but it doesn't mean I will follow their lead. I care for all my partners at work but theres only a small handful who I would respect enough to follow in a leadership role.
Best 3 minutes on the internet! Wholesome.
There is nothing more satisfying as putting a team together and everyone one knows each others strengths and weaknesses, yet we all come together as a super cohesive Team/Unit. We think and react as one.
Thanks Jocko. This message is an answer to prayer this morning. I’m failing as a leader and honestly, the simple truth is that whether you care or not is written all over your forehead.
The problem we have is because Most people always taught that " you only need a good job to become rich. These billionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't even know exists.
Money invested is far better than
money saved, when you invest it gives
you the opportunity to increase your
financial worth.
It is remarkable how much long term
advantage people like us have gotten by trying to be consistently not stupid,
instead of trying to be very intelligent.
The wisest thing that should be on
everyone mind currently should be to
invest in different streams of income
that doesn't depend on government
paycheck, especially with the current
economic crisis around the world. This is still a time to invest in Stocks, Forex and Digital currencies.
Many individuals report success in investing in stocks, forex, and cryptocurrency (Bitcoin), yet I continue to struggle. Can somebody help me out or advise me on what to do?
Even with the appropriate method and assets, some investors will still outperform others. As an investor, you should already know that nothing surpasses experience, and that is final. Personally, I had to seek advice from a stock specialist, which allowed me to build my account by over $35k, extract my profit just before the correction, and now I'm purchasing again.
Treat your team good and they will care for you and return that goodness
If your social skills are lacking you may end up trying to be good to them in other ways like always doing little favors and people will quickly take advantage of this.
Great message! The French Soldiers I worked with had caring down pat. They weren’t leaving one another. I wish the teams I belonged to in the military could have stayed together longer.
Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and confidently. Good communication shows that you value your own perspective and that of others.
Solid tips for scaling a business. Consistency and adaptability are the keys to growth!
You’re a Saint . We need more men like you
Very homoerotic comment....
You haven't had many decent role models in your life, have you?
@@rh_BOSS your moms my role model Steve
Leadership is a delicate balance of several factors. In the military there is a unique drive toward a common mission in a successful unit. As a senior leader in several-many units I had a saying - “If you have to run around in front of your people and tell them you’re in charge, you aren’t!”
It's been my experience that when I start new businesses the people closest to them are the the one's that want freebies and don't want to support. It's been my experience that when I launch a fundraiser for money that it's surprisingly strangers that donate more than those who are close to me. Maybe I have a shitty circle of people that don't actually care but it seems to me that when they are close their actions show the opposite.
Wow thx. Using the word care instead of earned respect. Puts a new perspective on how to lead.
Thanks, I did not know care & empathy is enough to get respect. This is my first video seen with Jocko Willink & it was useful. 1 332:2. 03/07/2024. 1:08. 32 169.
But it is NOT enough. You truly must add BOUNDARIES to the list. There are extremely many cases and instances where care & empathy by themselves result in DISrespect, contempt, ridicule, betrayal, becoming exploited... NPD 's thrive on it. Don't feed the monster.
Better to be loved than feared.
You still have to be feared if you're loved, because if you're loved then other people will want you to kill yourself.
It's pretty easy for guys like Jocko to get away with using words like "respect" because he's a tough-looking guy, he looks really intimidating. Fear is not respect, it merely creates the illusion of respect.
Respect is acknowledgement of other people's personal boundaries out of human decency. It is NOT fear. You can respect people who have no ability to intimidate you.
You do not "command" respect. That is fear. Respect comes from the other person.
@@devilsoffspring5519 I kinda get what you are saying however when someone loves you then the person doesnt have a motivation to kill, on the contrary, when you are feared, people hate you deep inside and one day they will try to kill you, but this doesnt concern “normal” people, but more rulers, politicians, soliders, gangsters etc. Thats why i am saying for a “normal” person which is working, living and enjoying life there is no need to be feared by people around you, but to be loved is the best. Remember fear creates hate and hate creates violence and death
@@richardglatz8309 That's not what I meant though. Many people will always "create" violence and death, they will "create" WASTE because waste is their nature.
If you're loved, then other people will want to ruin it. If you create something you like, or what other people like too, then people will want to destroy it.
Frank Zappa said something like "People love entertainment, but they hate musicians." What he meant is that if you create music that people love, other people will hate you for it and want to ruin your life. It's human nature.
First one in, last one out. Learned that as a child from an old book about the French Indian war. A group of soldiers had to cross a river so they made a human chain, their commander was the first link in the chain and thus the last man to leave the water. As an adult with employees I never ask anyone to do something I haven't already done or wouldn't be willing to do.
Brilliant concept yet sophisticated
Respect is expected.
Trust is earned.
Goes both ways.
True leadership:
Don't follow me,
I might not be able to lead,
Don't expect me to follow,
I might go astray,
But I can walk beside you and
Be your friend
- Albert Camus
The first mistake is to feel you need to be respected or being a leader makes you better than someone else. Don’t play the game, just be yourself
"If you take care of your team, they'll take care of you. If you don't take care of your team, they'll *take care of you*."
I take care of my team and I still get shit on. It depends on the level of education and the type of work you do.
When you express the interest of concern for the improvement and success of others, and you have proven it to be consistent, others begin to realize you have concern for their best interests, and will respectfully acknowledge authority over them. Napoleon also knew the best way to get anyone's attention is with one word: Their Name.
This has nothing to do with a team, or a business, or military buddies....but this reminds me of my girlfriend. I live in Thailand with her, a Cambodian lady raised as a farm girl. As Jocko spoke i thought, "I'd do anything for her", which is true. And it occurred to me that why I feel this way is that she has demonstrated that she will do anything she can to help me in my life. Most recently my elderly mother moved to an assisted living facility near me in Thailand. My girlfriend adopted her like her own mother, cares for her, bathes her, feeds her, holds her arm when she walks. 100% of the time. After 2 ex wives back in the US, I never imagined that someone could genuinely care so much. She has my respect, and my devotion. Caring, man, what a concept.
Is this Jason Bourne in old?
I was in a great team, we all cared about each other, no egos, just got on with things and got sh*t done. New management came in, ripped the heart out of the team, brought in their own people. I left the team but stayed in the company. That team now has all new shiny qualified people. No spirit, no trust, dysfunctional, no-one likes each other in the team. Other teams don't trust them either. And most important of all, they deliver NOTHING and the company owners are starting to notice.
Thats great ideas are never forget me, ,thanks master
In story-telling, authors write about a character making choices you admire to make you care about them. The choice to suffer in dignity. The choice to be brave. The choice to be kind or generous. And if they want you to despise a character, they have them make choices you despise. If you consistently make choices people respect, they will respect you. If they don't respect you over time, you own it. You've been doing something they despise. Complaining, shirking, lying, something you need to remedy if you're to gain their respect.
When I was a young private, my CO was CPT (now General) Michael Flynn. Yes, that Michael Flynn. He went out of his way to really push us and inspire us. We loved that guy. We would follow him anywhere. Decades later, he's one of the few people that I remember from my time in the service. Don't believe the lamestream news. He is a great guy and someone I look up to.
I think Mr. Willinks stature and build are enough to initially gain respect. I enjoyed his Seal training story….
I’m 6’3 270 lb combat Marine, tried MMA for years as a hobby fighter but could never command respect. I’m a class clown type and learn that no one will take me serious but I can’t (and won’t) change my personality. Just accept I’ll be one of the guys but never the leader.🤷🏻♂️
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Me too, and I’m not a team player or joiner anyway so why bother chasing respect or hero worship
To command authority, you just need to sound like you are competent and know what you are doing, and be absolutely serious about it.
Men naturally sort themselves in hierarchies based on perceived competence, particularly in situations that are dangerous or serious, with a common goal.
Naturally, you submit to the authority of someone you recognize as more capable or competent as yourself in that situation.
If you are not seen as the leader, it's because you fail to sound more competent than the other guys, either because you are not more competent and should not be in charge, or because you just don't speak with the seriousness and security necessary. You need to be the most secure and serious guy of the group and have the most knowledge about what you are trying to then, then people submit naturally when they are in need.
Teach these people, sir.
The challenge is to genuinely care about them before they care about you. You can't fake it. That takes a mindset change, a leap of faith, and living with the risk that it won't work, because it might not.
I’m 58 yrs old. I’ve been at my job 30 yrs.
My brother was a cop for 30 yrs, retiring as a captain.
Yes, it’s great to have a team around you.
I venture to guess most places run and most kids were brought up believing deep down that you have to take care of no 1 and to manipulate. Give the impression you care-of course. We still demand that that’s the public position.
But his insight, which is nothing more than what our parents used to teach us, is nothing more than at best what we pretend to do.
It’s a shame.
unity, love and respect
Amazing truth!
This guy has been in a thought loop for all of his life which is based on one core notion - his physics work normally.
When he mentioned sleep deprivation I just completely checked out and questioned every bit of authority he might posses.
I have had ankylosing spondylitys for over 20 years now, it's often extremely painful. It makes sleeping extremely difficult the older I get and I have cumulated a sleep deprivation from the whole time I have been sick. At the same time my natural rebellion against authorities has just grown exponentially. If I don't get enough sleep, I get angry and when I get angry I basically give the finger for everyone.
Another thing is the pain, even though not mentioned directly. How do you torture with pain someone who can have basically the same ache all over his body, which people have in severe tooth ache cases? The nerves in the spine can get so pinned that you literally can't move due to the white heating pain which shoots through your brain each time you move a muscle - and you can't ask someone to stop doing it. You just have to endure it and wait for a clearer time. It makes you accustomed to pain in ways guys like him, who trust in their physic, can't even imagine.
I have also been blessed with some sort of tolerance for pain - I can switch off the caring. I still feel it but I can choose not to care about it. I have a few scars in my body to prove it. I had the ability before I got sick. So how do you apply subjugating pain to such a person, who lives in pain every day?
Incidentally, pain makes me want to be alone very often because I'm tired. How do you isolate that kind of guy from friends and close ones?
Despite my medical condition, I still take care of the rest of my health. I work out 3-4 times a week and ride bicycle rounds weekly from 20 to 40 km per round. I work out and lift weights even with 4-5 hours of sleep.
Some people don't respect anyone though. Those people usually have to be dealt with... Harshly.
ovens?
Respect 🙏 Thank you brother 🙏
You win people. It's different to different people. My pastor once told me that it took him 10 years to win his wife. He said his wife thought he won her when she married him. He was talking about something deeper. When you have won a person, they will want to follow you. People have their own will. Even God chooses to win people. It's one thing to accept forgiveness. It's quite another to choose to deny your own will and follow someone else's will.
"Care about your team" is a nice concept. In theory. In an enterprise setting though, the management will only empower people who side with the management.
That is why I serve Jesus Christ because I love Him.He loved me when I was unlovable.👍
wtf
Mental issues
I am an atheist and I think all of what you just said is BS to me, BUT it seems like this belief of yours has really helped you and since it made you feel loved, I can't be one to deny it. It won't work for me, but I'm grateful it works for you.
Grew up with a single mom who undermined my masculinity. Had teachers who tried to abuse. Went through long periods of friendlessness in the social structure of high school. Worked at jobs where the pass time of management was to abuse and degrade the employees.
Now I live alone and work alone. I’ve never seen a good leader. It’s best not to need a leader.
Martial arts saved my life. Taught me self-sufficiency and self-discipline. Even though I had one of the great instructors of the time, I also learned when you’re in the ring, you’re alone. Even with great trainers and a great instructor and a great team in the gym, you’re alone in the fight.
My grandfather told me when I was young there will always be a man behind you willing to do what you won’t. This taught me to lead by example your no greater then the lowest man on the totem pole because they’re the one holding everyone else up.
We care about people we respect. We don't care about people we fear. We don't respect people we fear. We don't fear people we respect.
If we treat people like we want to be treated like, while we don't have to, we earn respect. Being magnanimous permits to earn respect, as the ones who benefit of it understand we don't have to, and even think they might haven't acted like that in our position. The aim is to have the power, and to show no abuse, to earn even more and real power this time. It would also help if we later lose this fist power. If people don't forget when we are mean with them, the opposite is also true. Being kind with those who deserve it in general pays back. First payback is about having a good conscience.
Absolutely BRILLIANT ❤
As Machiavelli said, it is better to be loved than feared. However, as Machiavelli also said - which is what makes it Machiavellian - if you can't be loved, then be feared.
these days a huge amount of people try to destroy people who are good hearted and are trying to build up good things for everyone, due to jealousy or bitterness that we are liked etc
so this video does not really help deal with HOW To build that respect and caring etc
Makes me think of my wife and kids. Boys are all grown up now. Been married 25 years. And they would all do anything for me. Kids never went rogue on us during their teenage years. Wife couldn't be more supportive. They sincerely care about me.
I used to always do the bare minimum until I changed how I viewed the people around me. Not for selfish gain but because I wanted to be better, and I genuinely care about those around me. Can't be a leader without learning to follow first and now I'm in a leadership position.
That.....Was awesome ! Good advice to save our country ? God save our republic.
They say friends will help you move....REAL friends will help you move a body.
You don't need techniques...you need experience. ...And a willingness to share your skills/experience to those that are not there yet. That's it. Most don't actually want to do what you can do....they just think they want to.
From my perspective, the idea that empathetic leadership gains authority through reciprocity doesn't always apply, especially with people who lack empathy, like some narcissists. They often use victimhood to take advantage of empathy, seeking more benefits without giving back in the same way. Thus, empathy isn't always the best approach with everyone.
This what I need a leader
Nice idea! And I can see that we do things for people because we care about them.. But how the hell do you get people to care about you??? And why would you care about your officer?
I care about my family, but I don't care about my bosses or my colleagues or my doctor or anyone else. And with that in mind I wouldn't do anything for them.. So how do you start caring about these people or get them to care about you??
Agree 100% yes sir..
This is psychology. Basic psychology. And it's not weird at all.
I'm not in the military but in my work life I've had managers I've hated working under. I've had managers I was glad I got away from the sections or departments they managed. I've had coworkers who acted like managers and at times I outright wouldn't do what they asked because they were not over me and I've had a few managers I'd go to battle with because they were such awesome people. They want day off work? As long at they are there, sure. no problem. Name when and where and I'll be there to help out!
I did that to a 40 year Chief Engineer at the end of his career, but they kept him around as "just a license" to serve out the last few months of his career.
As a leader it is never about you. Your role is to bring out the best in others.
Yep, true
“He who highly esteemed is not easily conspired against”
Might work in a combat situation where you have to rely on each other for your own life. But in a work environment its rare that people do things because they "care" for their leader. There is also a difference across cultures. Some cultures people fight for their team and leader, some will do the bare minimum and happily coast and let the team suffer.
Which is why the Marine leadership doctrine is, Leader as servant. When you serve your team they will follow your commands.
In short, be a friend, be likeable, and people will care about you.
The traits of a leader.
This blew my mind.
very good!!!
This is why Christ is King.
As brilliant as he is I sometimes don't understand everything he says
Everything I listen it makes feel normal in icu.
Ty sir