Never Chase After Being Dumped
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- Why chasing and pursuing someone who dumped you or friend zoned you is a bad idea and what to do instead to have any chance of getting them back romantically. Why you should never agree to be friends only after being dumped thinking you can sneak under the radar and resume your romance later.
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If you've been dumped then they have no love, no respect, no willingness to make an effort and no right to be with you anymore. They are history.
christuffer amen brother, wish I would have taken that seriously and not taken her back so she could dump me a second time. Biggest regret of my life was taking my ex back after 2 months no contact only to have her give up on us again 2 months later. 7 years down the drain I’m so devastated
I feel for you brother, sorry man. I know words don't help much ...
Take care my friend look after yourself I'm in the same boat as you
@@bigd8973 how are you these days??
@MotherTouching-Ninjas let her go!.
People don't realize how crazy they sound trying to do these things until they cringe while hearing about someone else doing the same thing. lol
Exactly!!!
i feel like a right twat lol time to stop :)
Jaasmin Foote amen to that!
Jaasmin Foote lol so true I remember doing the same thing when my ex dumped me 😂
That's what I was thinking. The first week after my wife left I blew up her phone every day. Then I started watching these videos and realized what a fucking idiot move that was
Accept reality - accept that you have been REJECTED - she does not care, she does not want to be with you
Ouch...😬😬
Lol such an overreaction. Quit feeling so sorry for yourself
She REJECTED ...and when she came back I EJECTED ...
You mad bro?
thats bullshit and you sound like a loser. Every situation is different. If You want to be with her then make her to want you
Having the strength to walk away & staying away when being dumped automatically makes you somewhat more attractive in the dumpers eyes.
@@VoiceOfThe I hope she comes back. Literally going through this
@@VoiceOfThe I appreciate the tip and the honesty.
@@VoiceOfThe and by that doing something you mean she reaching out right?
@@VoiceOfThe I don’t think she’ll reach out. She’s one of them type pride woman where she rather just lose me instead of wanting to work things out 🤦🏽♂️😫
@@VoiceOfThe and currently have the urge of reaching out but I have to have some strength to not do. Dignity 💯💯💯
Only way to get over someone and stop thinking about them... Is to start talking to new people of the opposite sex.
Even if you don't like them or you aren't into them... They are a good distraction for the first few weeks.
Do YOU! What the other person does or thinks doesn't matter.
YOU! YOU! matter.
+Mia a And what happens if that person of the opposite sex realises they're just being used for the person dumped to get over they're ex? That's crap, that is nothing but being a pathetic user and can lead to major complications and resentment
You can talk to them without leading them on. Talking to people doesn't mean you are going to get into a relationship with them.
It may even help to be open about the fact you are not looking for a relationship because you just had a break up and need time to heal. And you're only looking for friendship. You would be surprised how many people would understand and be supportive.
I don't get how this is using some if you are completely honest.
***** You can talk to them without leading them on. Talking to people doesn't mean you are going to get into a relationship with them.
It may even help to be open about the fact you are not looking for a relationship because you just had a break up and need time to heal. And you're only looking for friendship. You would be surprised how many people would understand and be supportive.
I don't get how this is using some if you are completely honest.
+Mia a I find the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
+Counsel Mok that's a stupid way to think. you don't he from the pain you just cover it. also you don't take time and analyze your mistakes so you will just remake then
If you really love someone you can let them go. Attachment equals suffering.
Profound wisdom.
Amen
She will find someone who enslaves her, and will tell you that you didnt love her.
it's hard to understand but that's true man...
Yoda said it as well.
The worst thing you can do is continue to chase the girl that dumped you. I have also been with girls that still had the crazy ex b/f still calling and coming by. They looked so weak and pathetic.
Keyword here is "HOPE"....The first thing you have to do to get over your ex is to accept the fact that there's no hope. That's the biggest mistake that you can make, telling yourself there's still hope, emotionally your brain cannot start the healing process until you've accepted the fact that there's no hope that you'll ever get bact with this person.
Tell you what it’s agony when your ex deliberately gives you hope and won’t let you go, keeping you on a shelf. I say deliberately cos that’s what’s happened. 11 years over. Months of limbo. And I say deliberately because she says she “needs to think” and that it’s “not definite” and “doesn’t want to cut contact”. So you can see where the hope comes from and it’s not my dreaming it up. For example someone ending it full bore and I’m clinging to evidence. Despite this. Never mind what she says, the actions and behaviours are contradicting hope. She’s slowly cut down contact to her ringing every other day for five mins, only to “have to go”. She wants to meet for a brief cup of tea every blue moon. But it’s all on her terms. Meanwhile I sit, waiting like a puppy waiting for titbits.
It’s got to stop, I know. It’s plucking up the bollocks to do it. What stops me is that horrid voice telling me I’m blowing my chances, I’m jumping the gun. The rational bit says “get real pal. There is no hope like this, you look like a twat. Get self respect and if she feels anything she’ll voice it regardless, you can’t change it by waiting like this”
Good in principle but hard to build courage to do.
Music - The Voice Of The Soul hey man, no my ex hasn’t reached out to me but she’s liked a few of my social media posts and I noticed she’s been visiting places we used to hangout. My advice to you that I’ve received from multiple respected sources is to just move without her. She left once she’ll do it again.
It might not be what you want to hear, but I believe it’s the best course of action for us as men. If my ex ever reached out to me, the door is closed. I’m moving on without her. She can live her life on her own.
It took me two years to give up hope. She lied from the start saying she didn't want the relationship but was not with anyone. I always thought she could change her mind. I always had "hope." Problem was. She was lying. It took me two years to find out she was with someone even during the months before the break up. She "monkey branched"
Facts
The only thing I find in common with these coaches is when someone breaks it off with you, cut off all contact. This is how you will know if they care or not
@@ch1bob Then you don't want them anyway.
@@GIwillo would you not have it in the back of your head that she didn't want you anymore once, why would it be different the second time around?
I think people like the idea because of the familiarity aspect, I prefer to think along the lines of somebody even better might come into your life that you might never have found.
J J very true
I concur
laciena what if they broke up with you because you breadcrumbed her? Why would she chase. I just think that there are some women worth chasing for. I’m talking about truly high value women who come once in a lifetime.
Every time I make a mistake I can hear Corey's voice in my head saying ' Come on man!'
I got dumped in September... I'm proud to say, I haven't called, texted, or e-mailed her. If you beg, you lose. Either she takes you back out of pity - or she doesn't and then you feel embarassment on top of the heartbreak.
you didn't reply at all to the break up? Or just accepted it and moved on?
I didn't even reply to the text me just left it
Being dumped isn't a bad thing because you'll be surprised how much life can change for the better. In a few years you may meet someone else and think fuck.... this person is so much better. Dumping is common with people in their 20's that haven't experienced long term relationships to know or understand about the honey moon phase. IF you've been with someone 5 years and it doesn't feel the same as the first year that's normal. Trust me, the grass isn't always greener
Z true, it has happened many many times.
You know you screwed up when Corey looks in the camera and says "come on, man".
Love the vids, Corey. I've ready your book many times and watch your vids. I have learned a ton from you. Thanks for everything!
Whether you are the dumper, or the one who has been dumped, the best you can do is to move on! The very worst thing you can do, regardless of who dumped who, is to contact that person afterwards. If you do, especially if you are rejected, you will lose your self esteem and your dignity and regret it very much!
Be strong, go No Contact, do not look at their social media, or stalk them in any way or form!
Perfect just what I did, but Corey always says about being too needy calling too much you over pursue, I did not do that at all her ex-boyfriend came back there's nothing you can do but move on don't chase somebody that doesn't want you in their life and X comes back you can't stop that no matter how on top of the game you are
@@johnbingaman3645 yes. They all have that ex that's lurking that for some reason is always still in the picture.
@@modickens1272 I'm not dating right now, but every woman I meet now keeps talking about their exes , I don't want to be another rebound...
@@johnbingaman3645 totally agree. And you can't reason with them. They fail to understand someone is an ex for a reason.
Corey... I was in a depressed loop of post break up trauma ... but then I watched some of your videos and I snapped out of it ! You're amazing at what you do and I hope you continue to help other people. Thank you ! God bless !
Andrew Kovalski Yes! This man is Great
this is the funniest shit i have seen for ages. this guy is so right...understands women very well
I agree he's hilarious 😂😂😂
tia torture So true.
tia torture I know this is like 3 years old, but it’s still funny af. 😂😂😂
which age have you been lived New Stone age or what?
Everybody, listen to this guy and read his book. He' will change your life. I had a phone convo w him, listened to videos, read book, etc. I got dumped but now have a top notch chick that treats me like a king. Cooks for me, gives me back rubs... He will put your head on straight. Well worth the investment. Best I ever made. Coach, thank you!!!!!!!
mrpatrikish BRAVO!! Good For you. Stay Blessed❤
Ya Corey is the man.
Youre s lucky man
How much is the program. Just had my girl of 5 years break up with me again. 3rd time in our relationship. 2 times this year. I was trying to tell her what was bothering me and she said she felt personally attacked and I’m verbally abusive. I helped her take her car the mechanic yesterday and we went to lunch and hang out and we laughed and talked a bit about how we got there but she told me that she will never get back together and we are not meant to be tougher and that she wants a guy that makes her feel safe and loves her for her which I do but she’s hurt and feels attacked. She’s blocked me for 90 days the last two times and said she will never be back with me but after 3 months of not contacting her we somehow get back together. I do love her and our kids get a long great, her mom also passes this year which has been emotionally hard for. She said being with me she feels drained of energy and it’s exhausting. I could use some help I want this girl back but at the same time I don’t want a girl to break up with me for trying to share my feelings
@@matthewrivas9830I’m currently in that same situation but first break up in 4 years and it hurts like shit.. she saying all the hurtful stuff she can say but deep down inside I know she still loves me I know she’s angry at me for how I acted and I love her to death I just need to figure out how to get her back
When someone dumps you it only hurts if you don't have other options. It takes a lot of courage to just walk away and never take them back , but when you do that it makes you feel good about yourself.
That's not true and I don't think even Mr. Wayne is that conceited. If you really loved the person and had a deep connection with them, it will hurt when they dump you even if you have other options.
Plus, it takes a lot of courage to just walk away, because it hurts to do that and it is counter-intuitive. It does not make you feel good about yourself until later on once you're fully wrapped your head and heart around why that was the best response.
100 percent....
@@axelbriggjern3534 true but also hilarious how you put it 🤣
What's with all this texting crap? Can you imagine James Bond texting a woman and saying. "Hey, what's up? Want to hang out?" Come on, man.
I want everyone reading this to accept the truth that even after reading the book a handful of times, you will probably mess up. You will probably push women you really like away while you're learning. It's hard to pay attention to the subtle cues when you're learning AND you like them. Keep trying, keep growing. You are where you are supposed to be.
It's so rough when you push away a really good one... It's why could I have not just shut my stupid mouth and played it cool!!!! Goddamit!
@@austecon6818 yeah it's so much easier to not make mistakes than to reverse them.
I just got dumped today by someone i was really into and i met her not long after i discovered coreys book which i had only read twice. I moved through the dating phase effortlessly and got her to fall in love with me bang on the 8 week mark. I felt really proud of myself. Then suddenly things started getting rocky. The following 2 months became a nightmare. She was going from hot to cold and became very passive aggressive and bitchy. Because i hadn't retained much of the information of the relationship phase in Coreys book, i knew i had lost control and became frantic trying to quickly study that part of the book to correct my mistakes, but i was in a state of fear and found it hard to concentrate. Finally today, she called me and told me we needed to Facetime. This was it. The inevitable was about to happen and sure enough, she proceeded to tell me that things weren't working out and that we should go our seperate ways. The weird thing is, while talking to her, my fear of rejection kind of went away. It was the way she talked to me. It was coming from a place of love and all of a sudden, i started to finally understand the female language as if i can read the Matrix binary code. She was giving me subtle clues of where i fucked up. It was because i failed to stand up to her, when she tested me multiple times, which created a snow ball effect, making her withdrawl and make her even more bitchy. Coreys book says when i woman likes you, she helps you. What she was telling me is that i needed to step up to her and call her out, so she can feel my strength. This realisation actually helped me keep my composure and speak back to her in a calm loving way, by which i started asking questions about how my lack of actions made her feel. I was finally getting her to open up, which is another thing i should of done when she was becoming cold in the first place. By the end of our break up talk, she was telling me how sexy, handsome and amazing i am, which she hadn't said since a couple months ago when she told me she loved me, but she also said i will make some lucky girl happy one day. So she was still giving me the push. I told her that i'm going to start making the first steps to moving on and we wished each other well and said our goodbyes. I could tell she was about to cry just before we ended our chat as her eyes were watering up. There was no mention of the "lets be friends" speech either. I think i may of raised her attraction level just a tad when we had this talk. Enough to get her to regain some respect for me, but not enough to fully want me. I've gone straight into no contact mode now and i can't help the feeling that she will be back. If not, i'm still greatful for the whole experience with her, as she pretty much showed me the weaknesses that i need to work on. So with that being said, i'm going to bury my nose back into Coreys book after i post this comment and try read it as many times as i can, so i can absorb the information and be better prepared for the next woman that comes along.
@@ritwit80Great outlook bro. Updates?
Only one girl ever dumped me. I felt bad initially, but instead of freaking out, I said to her "If that's how you feel, have a good life". That was a response she didn't expect and before long, she tried to pursue me. But I rebuffed her because I had a new girlfriend at the time.
RufusLeakin similar scenario, how long before she came crawling back?
Only one girl my ass.... bcs you are a god right?
@@jamesarmstrong2521 they usually come back when you find a new one you simp
Every guy needs to listen to this man right here!
Do you agree with his advise?
Lets hook up. ;)
Alysha Marie Very true.
Alysha Marie so does every woman
This is true. But you would be blown away how hard it is to adopt this advice when you have been taught wrong for so many years. I literally watch this video every night before I go to bed for the past 4 months to really grind it in
Great advice. I made the same kinds of mistakes you describe in this video. Trying to get my ex back was the worst mistake I ever made in my life. Got hurt pretty bad but have moved on and am dating someone new now. Being stuck in the friend zone with my ex was one of the most miserable experiences I've ever been through. Made the decision to walk away and never look back. What a difference! :) Have got my life back again.
I am in the situation right now. It's been 2 months and in the beginning when he wasn't talking to me. I was fine till he called and wanted to be friends. He kept making a bunch of excuses why we can't be together. I don't know why that I can't ignored him. I did the samething in the video. Now I feel stupid and need to move on. I need to stop picking up his phone calls and stop seeing him completely.
+raleighman3000 I haven't talked to him in two weeks. :) I won't be talking to him for a while I'm actually with someone else.
***** we been broken up for two months now. I sometimes do miss him, but I'm moving on now. It was such an abusive relationship. I let him control me and it's not what I want anymore
There is no more unfulfilling thing in life, then to love someone and not have them love you back.
This happened to me when my ex broke up with me never chased her kept it moving she wanted me back but I told her no
Anthony Morris m8 your a true legend.
after watching all these videos and reading your book, all I need to do is say "C'mon, man!" to get my mindset back in masculine
Peter Hammond 😂👍🏾
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The theory is simple. Being able to practice it is really hard...
I don't think it would be possible to genuinely practice it unless you've been thoroughly hurt by a girl before.
After 14 years, she gave up on us, she gave up on me. We tried everything, counseling , anger mgmt, meditation retreats... nothing fixed it. Its almost like she was trying to sabotage the relationship in the end. I’m still shocked and devastated. Her ego swelled when she finished med school and became a doctor. She never compromised on things towards the end of our relationship... hardened, and cold at times, its like she changed. My college sweetheart that I supported on her journey for over a decade called it quits. I was not perfect, but neither was she. You think after 14 years of deep love, traveling the world, bonding to our families, sharing deep thoughts... so easy for her to walk away???!! WTF?!!! on top of it all i found a diary of hers when moving out my belongings...it mentioned she slept with two guys within 2 months of us breaking up and she had “fun”? People are so fucking cruel and cold. My heart and soul was crushed into eternity.
I'm sorry, I hope you are doing so much better now..
@@Leonie-by1gz doing way better…but still miss her…”the good” her deeply as crazy as that sounds. You just can’t replace 14 years with someone. Dating in my mid 30’s has been wild. A lot of non committal folks these days. Definitely a culture shock in how people move now a days
women and monsters with zero sense of integrity, its honestly repulsive to me, thanks to corey work i learned more about women, so much that i will be celibate for the rest of my life and reject every woman that chases me, the last one threw me away once she "stopped having fun", i cant deal with monsters disguised as humans, sorry to hear your story, such a monster honestly
COACH! I love you! I just used the stuff you teach about how to get a nice job and guess what! I got hired! Finally the job I wanted! IM SOOOO HAPPPPYYYY! It was more like a date than an interview! I kept asking questions and smiled and at the end she hired me! Man today is an awesome fucking day :')
Congrats!
I'm guilty.....I over chased and I got what I deserved, wont ever happen again but it was a blessing in disguise. I learned a lesson and I honestly dodged a bullet that would have put me down in the long run.
These Oneitis stories are incredible....counting the days she hasn't talked to you. Checking your phone ever hour. Dreaming up ways to rekindle a love that isn't there. Running these insane thoughts through your head and rationalizing why you need her when she's not even thinking about you at all. It breaks my heart to see such an empty, broken man.
like you've never been there..
that's how it looks from the outside when you've never been dumped by somebody you truly loved
So, I got dumped a week ago by a girl I was seriously dating for a few months. Yeah, getting dumped sucks. For whatever reason it didn't work out (she was first to pull the trigger, when honestly, there were warning signs I ignored). The first things I did: delete her phone number, delete all pictures, delete E-Mails, delete Lync exchanges (we work in the same building), and essentially fell off the face of her earth. It is hard to do at first, but you'll feel liberated after a few weeks. Trust me.
braddyboy82 What happened??!
Still no update ? I'm in this situation now, after living together for 4 months, we work together but i decided that I don't want to get back with her after all. Have self respect and find some new love that will be true.
It's been a couple of years. How did it go.. Any updates?
Immediately: delete everything. Pictures, phone numbers, emails.. EVERYTHING. Be ruthless. The healing begins at that point and you open yourself to new, better people, without baggage
Well, when I read something like that: "we've been dating for a few months" - I tend to assume that you perhaps missed out expressing your sexual interest for that woman?! Remember don't wait too long trying to kiss her! This should happen at the end of the second or third date. If you've been on the 10th date with her without ever expressing any sexual interest, then no wonder she lost interest or friend-zoned you.
My ex cheated on me after 4 years of relationship. He has ADHD and is always looking for new things. I found out how he was texting this girl and confronted him. He told me right in my face he was dating two girls at the same time, he dumped me and told me to never call him or text him again. A few weeks has past and we don't have any communication he blocked me on social media and is acting as we never met. I'm getting stronger each day, and no, I don't want him back. I'm recovering and focusing on me now.
777 Why would he block you? When you did nothing to him?
Sound EXACTLY how I USE TO BE. “Playing the field”, juggling multiple women at the same time. But of course KARMA always find its way back. (In the NEXT Jezebel I met.) I’m totally a changed person now, and I now have a whole different outlook on relationships, and monogamy. It’s to the point where infidelity actually disgusts me now. Who would’ve ever knew. Lol😂😂
777 cheating on someone is among the worst things you can do to them. Hope you’re thriving and stay strong.
Yup he's a narc and half
What always has and still puzzles me is why someone would pursue an individual who dumped them. Makes absolutely no sense.
Their mind remembers the good times so they want to experience it again. And familiarity. They got use to the persons presence and are afraid of losing it
Take Coach Corey's advice he knows what he's talking about. If they dump you , you shouldn't take them back. They don't deserve to be with an awesome person like you. Don't feel sorry for yourself just like Coach Corey says. Move on and never look back. Work on yourself and take up new hobbies where you can meet new people.
I love this guy lmao. I'm handling a breakup of a year and a half right now. Thanks so much for the advice!
I just don't understand how to get past the natural thought process of missing someone you love. It's goddamn crippling. I can't just shut off my devotion. I'm seriously losing my shit man.
bradbrown0766 how are you man? Do you have your shit together now? What happened on the end, update us?
You'll get through it, happens to most men at least once in their lives.
You gotta vent ! Go out ...go to the gym ! It's been a yr I still think about my ex but it isn't every minute of the day and sleepness nights anymore ..if she screwed you over then f*** that bitch !!! Their all the same man get over it...just be cool and try to have a good time with new women ...did James bond have a girlfriend ? No he's so cool and charming he can get any woman he wants ...women like confidence and to have fun ! Just do that ! No relationship...even if she thinks she in a relationship with you don't admit anything she's your girl- friend not "girlfriend" ...try it ! What do have to lose..
I get over it in 1 week so shut up and get your shit toghter
I eat less sleep less
The last mail was amazing. It shows that it doesn't matter how bad you behave with a woman, if she ever had a bit of interest, you can always polish yourself and become an attractive man.
Crazy thing is... I pulled the “either we friends or nothing thing” and it didn’t go well. This is before I came up on Corey! I was super needy and over pursued when she went SUPER ghost. But she had been pulling away anyways bc of some shit I did a month ago. Which means she was emotionally gone already. Hindsight and after watching videos and starting 3% Man... I. Unwittingly did things HALF right. I told her what I wanted (no friend zone shit) but followed up with needy behavior. If you’re struggling right now it’s not too late to give her the, “... if you change your mind give me a call” move. It’s powerful and even tho it still sucks... after you do it... you gain some balls back. You leave them with FREEDOM... you leave them with agreement on the break up... and you walk AWAY. You leave the door open and in the back of their mind they know if they want you THEY have to come to you... and they know in no uncertain terms that they’re losing you.. (regardless of who broke up with who)... and even if that’s what they want.. human nature still processes it as an emotional fact. The void is there whether they want it or not. But most importantly you.... start... to get your fucking balls back. You HAVE TO DO THIS! It’s fucked up to think “man I might never see or hear from her again.” at first... but you’ll live. And again... it starts you back on the road to being who you are. Id supplement this by posting A FEW things which vaguely show some change... maybe some affirmations about strength or self improvement... and just keep positive. It doesn’t hurt to drip them small little doubts that may pile up over the years... like getting in shape and being a confident guy again. Time fades negativity faster than positivity. One day she may look at your IG and think about how fun you are and be healed over your fuck ups. Then again... by this time you should be doing your own thing anyways. Just be in position to attract AND maintain if you CHOOSE to TAKE HER BACK. Ideally you don’t expect to hear from them again lol buuuut... just master yourself and life will find you
John L
First off: great advice coach! You're doing a great job! I recently got dumped myself not to long ago! Sucks of course! But the lesson I've taken away: NEVER reveal your feelings towards a women first! Never ever do that. Let her do the first move! The moment you tell her about your feelings (before she does), she loses interest instantly! It's over! Women need the allurement of uncertainty if they have the guy on the hook or not. It's a big part of the process of falling in love with a guy. If you take her that feeling, she'll drop you like a hot potato! The moment they know they got you, it's over! Also never write her a love letter! This only works in Hollywood movies, but never in real life! Since attraction doesn't take place on paper, but rather in person! Good luck and best whishes to all of you brothers in pain out there, including myself (at the moment)!
It's not the words, its the actions. Saying you like her is fine as long as you don't act needy. We told we liked each other even before our first date. But in my case, she was a friend before we started dating.
“Don’t act like a monkey in his cage throwing his jizz at everybody” lololol.... bro I’m gonna have to use this one when my friends need help. U are the man Corey
Lmaoooo so true
Got dumped 15 minutes before i was gonna take my drivers test. Was in the inspection line and everything and boom i get a text "i think we need a break, etc". Finally walked away.
It's the best advice ever. One of two things can happen: either your ex still loves you and realizes how stupid they were for letting you go OR they didn't love you at all but you will start moving on from the relationship sooner. Either way you're better doing that than being pathetic and begging them to take you back (which causes actually the opposite effect). In fact this is not only great advice for breakups, but also for relationships. Never become needy, never distract yourself from your own goals for anyone.
Dude, I love you! It's the same advice I'd give. If only I could ever listen to said advice instead of always thinking my situation is "different "
This really is the best kind of advice. Guys need to understand that life and attraction are not like the movies... AT ALL. I missed-out on so many opportunities because I was a doting, romantic-comedy, clueless type of guy.
Excellent, CW! With your help, I can breathe deeply again...I feel relieved to have been unburdened by a relationship that was on and off for years. Now I have the time and solitude necessary to complete my personal goals and aspirations, and a possible new beginning with someone. Thanks for your knowledge and wisdom.
Yep, if you want a chance at recovering from appearing too needy to a girl or scaring her off then no contact is the most powerful thing you can do. She will 100% wonder 'hey, he was being all needy and now its like hes suddenly dropped off the face off the earth, whats happened?'. Now that doesn't necessarily mean she will contact you, but ive found that if neediness was the only reason and you otherwise had a great time together then theres a strong chance she will. But when she does, please consider whether its worth getting involved again because unless shes serious about you, youre risking going back to square 1 again.
Position I'm in right now. Way too much too fast and she's backed right off, no effort in texts but not ghosted yet so I'm leaving it there. Take it or leave it. No more chasing, no more contact.
Yep
@@djjayem100 how’s your situation going?
@@Sip28 she blocked me in the end 😂 I stupidly got drunk a few times and went to town with my texts. Valuable less learnt.
@@djjayem100 man I do hate that. I just feel like communication should be involved more
Right before at 21:35 I knew “Come ole(on) man” was coming. I almost fell out of my chair when he ending up saying it . I’m 💀😂.
I got dumped today, feel like shit. Turns out she is emotional attached to a guy she use to date a couple years ago. They started dating again a few days ago. It really fucking sucks but, glad I found this, been reading the book 3 days ago, and almost done with the first read through. I basically told her, no worries do what's good for you, if things change give me a call. I left it at that. So I'm leaving this here, let's see how it turns out. She was the type of girl that checked every PRO on my pro/con list. I won't let this break me, and I will continue to move on, hangout, and have fun until she or the next girl that knocks my socks off enters my life. Thanks Corey this has been the best series and book, just wish I knew it before I met her.
Did she ever come back?
@@mojomanrosie most of the time, they don't
@@hprendition7966 right most don’t
Yea did she come back?
I have to say Corey, your advice has helped me immensely! I haven't read your book yet, but since even watching your youtube videos I've completely transformed my relationships with women. It's instilled a sense of inner confidence as well, so it's a beautiful self perpetuating experience. Thank you my friend! Keep it up!
Awesome! Good job!
After i was begging and pleading for about 2 weeks, my ex did end up calling after almost a month of NC. Going NC was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life, but I did keep busy and met 2 other chicks from Tinder. She said she had one of my shirts (which she admitted was an excuse to see me) and she came over and she ended up spending the night. Been seeing her casually for a few days now. Don't know where it's gonna lead, time will tell. For anyone in the same situation: DO NOT seem too available when she calls. DO NOT seem like you have just been sitting around waiting for her call. Obviously you don't want to seem completely cold, you just don't want her to ever think she can have you anytime she wants, and that you will always be a backup option. Especially if shes at the very least half decent looking, and has options. This is very important. It's a fine line.
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Facts.
You still together or did she leave you again? My ex came back after two months no contact but then dumped me a second time a couple months later. So crushed the second time, wish I never took my ex back. Did you guys work out / still together? Thanks, hope you’re well
So what happened bro??
Good luck from now on, you learned a valuable lesson, im in such position now. If it wasn't true and decent in the first time and minor red flags, after you get back together it will be the same later on. I decided to have self respect and not look back to her for good.
You deserve someone who wants you for you. Don't accept anything less than what you deserve. Focus on things you have control over and your positive output will yield more favourable women in your life. At the moment I am learning about stoicism and deep philosophy. Realising we can't control the outcome and to be OK with the results that are out of our control.
Hi Corey. Just wanted to thank you personally. I've just finished reading your fantastic ebook. Starting to reread it. It has literally jolted my masculine foundation out of its slumber. I lost my ex and now I FINALLY know why. Thank you kind sir!
Every time I watch one your videos, my condidence grows stronger. I got your book 3 days ago and now I know what to do when she comes back.
Corey knows his shit! I’ve listened to this video among others. His best video is the one about the men being the mountain and the women being the wind. It’s perfect advice. Be yourself, be confident, be the man, set your boundaries add some playful flirting and women will respect and love you.
Great speach in the begining! But I like the short version at 1.30: "dont sit around fucking feeling sorry for yourself".
Coach I have to say this is probably the funniest and most informative video I've watched, thanks
In this kind of situation better to move on dont stuck in that kind of things its an obvious that he no longer want you or interested with you anymore. Dont waste your time find someone who is deserving for your love.
You need to have time to deal with losing someone. Everyone is different and some need more time than others. If someone dumps you, why the hell would you want to get back with them? Fuck that..as if the relationship would be any better than it was originally
I agree! Going back to someone who dumped you is like someone stabbing you: You pull out the knife and hand it right back to them, so they can do it again! Nope, I don't think so...
+Allan McKenzie tnx man this single comment helped me a lot!
Tehran Batman No problem, glad it helped!
+Joseph F. Botelho try reading coreys book, if it was your fault id give her a bit of time, when i read coreys book so many of my mistakes were exposed
hooray!!!! so true!!!! why would i push myself to him if he dumped me.. yes it really hurt me but i have to moved on.
This dude cracks me up with the no filter!
I got dumped 2 years ago. In about a week ago she contacted on FB sent me a friend request I accepted. She ask if she could have a chance but I am not interested.
sanchez lawn You da man!
Sounds like she got done fucking every Chad and Tyrone at the club every weekend.
Hate being dumped or ghosted. Just happened to me. Brutal. Payback for all the girls I’ve ghosted I suppose! What you put out you get back. There’s always a way out and learning to come from it though
Any updates
The fact that you said that if a man uses logic and reason with a woman that he’s “wrong” just proves that dealing with women is a waste of time. 😔
I can't help but think of the ESPN segment every time he says "C'mon man!"" LMAO
Dumped after 14yrs . I've met another woman trying to get over my ex-wife.I told the new girl the last thing I want is a relationship she fell in love & I can't seem to shake her. Now I think I'm kinda falling for her but still need time to figure out my life .(feeling confused).
Just have fun & focus on your purpose. Let her think about the relationship stuff. Good luck.
I'm very thankful I found your channel. The truth hurts but it gives me a sense of relief cause it's still the truth
These tips is great for people who can apply the principles outside of living together and having kids together .
If you don’t have kids and live at your own spot this is cake walk .
But if you live with the chic it’s hard damn near impossible to these techniques effectively.
That last story put a huge smile on my face
Was in a 10 year on and off relationship with a female. Really strong personality and at times arrogant in a sense where I was constantly getting dumped over Lil things and I was always the one making amends. I was so supportive when she had a bad period and even went into slight debt. Just recently she dumped me again. I've had it. I deleted ALL HER PICS and put her number into spam. These women have the game fucked up. I know in a few days she will pop up saying the miss me blah blah shit. IM DONE !! I've never felt this way. I'm a good dude with great qualities and her arrogance has permanently cost her. Fellas stand up to these chick's. They hurt too in the long run.
Updates?
Not just women, but people that run hot and cold or keep breaking up with you. That’s just not a liveable respectful situation.
Young king 🙌🏼
After 10 yrs on and off you definitely will go back. I bet
Been taking to this girl for 6 months, everything I could ever want in a girl, the girl of my dreams basically and I over persuaded , became needy and clingy and pushed to to give me an answer every time something I thought was wrong, today I pushed her to the point where she doesn’t wanna work it out anymore, the first 3 months I displayed no neediness, the idaf attitude, never pursued and let her come to me and she was ALL over me, if anyone could help me in this situation it would mean the world to me, coach Coury Wayne never disappoints
You are supposed to stop playing the hot and cold games at some point after securing the attraction and form a genuine connection. This chasing and be chased program makes one feel unloved and underappreciated to a point where being single is more preferable. You can't make a woman chase for 3 months, you destabilise her self esteem and cause emotional volatility. She becomes so drawn to the chasing that she is not present long enough to attach to you and fall deep in love with you in the normal way. You faked confidence and when your original needy self surfaced she lost attraction because there was no genuine attachment built, she had been focused on the chasing now there was nothing grand to chase anymore because you started showing up as yourself. And her eyes were opened.
Always play these games for a limited amount of time. As soon as you get the girl, start showing up as the only man for her so you keep her attraction alive. Maintain confidence, don't be a push over. But remain in charge of your emotions and display strong emotional maturity. Detaching is super easy for a woman who never attached.
I am punching 👊🏽 the wall right now , listening to this 6 years after , me being dumped
This video made my mind and hearts made calm... After 3 months dumped by my x toxic past.. Thnx a lot.. I just salute those couples love unconditionally by their partners
Any updates?
Actually it's the opposite for me I just dumped someone and I'm chasing after them, I'm ashamed and have 0 dignity please help me.
August 2018 is when I found your work and that will be a month that has been a positive turning point in my life. I'm on the 4th read of your book and therefore ignorant to what awaits me when I'm in the 10-15 range of readings. I've been dabbling in the pickup community since 2004, dabbling is the key word and yet haven't found advice that has truly changed my dating life until finding your work. The girl that drove me to your work contacted me after a month of no-contact yet since she has moved to Hawaii I've been focusing on dating women that are local to me. The real journey started in Feb 2018 when I gave myself a 30-day challenge to approach at least one woman per day and have had more dates and hookups than I've had in the past 5 years combined. I haven't approached as much during the holiday season yet I ran into my high school crush at the grocery store and we have a date set up and thanks to your material it was so easy to set something up with her. The only mental struggle I have with this girl is taking her off the pedestal I've put her on for all these years yet my goal with her is to hang out, have fun and hook up...make her laugh and enjoy ourselves. I'm 38 and for the first time in my life I'm happily single. I still have times where I feel down and depressed yet I've learned to enjoy the challenge of turning my thoughts around and knowing that I'm worth what I truly want in life. I have a beautiful 6 year old son and look forward to helping him out with his dating life when he comes of age. Thank you Corey for all your help. Your 3% man book is a must read for men who have been struggling with dealing with women. I look forward to buying the hardcover edition to keep around in case the Kindle machine goes down one day!
You make a GREAT Wing-man! Glad I found your channel....just what I needed...great advice!
I have no idea why your videos were in my recommended section but they are really good! While I agree with most of the stuff, it wouldn't work for me since I don't like chasing anyone. However, your tips must be working great, especially if the woman plays the active part. Keep up the great work!
"You can bullshit yourself dude, but you can't bullshit me" hahaha this. enjoying your vids coach! 😂
Once again listening to your logic and once again reminded I haven’t read the book 10-15 times. Still learning boss man and yup still get the heart broken.. I just started reading it again and now I’m going to follow through instead of hand picking from video’s and book. Thanks again coach.
I love to hear you cuss...I am the same in my coaching biz...take me as I am or just let me be. I cannot stand people trying to pigeon hole me into how I should be or talk....love your coaching...I have watched a ton of videos since I coach men as well in relationships and its helpful for me as well.
Afuckingmen. "Fuck em if they can't take a joke." ~ Mick Jagger
Cussin is sooooooo cool man!
***** LOL
Carrie Gingerich same for me. I detest assholes trying to pigeon hole me. Those mental midgets are a joke. I am an Alpha male and men step aside, women are drawn to my charisma and my attitude is plain: ME NE FREGO....I DONT GIVE A FUCK!
My favorite video of CCW always reminds me not to be weak, so even after a break up I'm grinding in the gym and school stayin focus, WAGMI.
I was thinking about texting my ex fiance we were together for a year and two months and I wanna thank you for helping me. this helped me finally made me realize who I am and how much I'm worth. 😃😃😃😃😃😃
Yo what happened?
I also got disengaged
I did never see all those red flags , in my 8 years relationship I'm SO embarrassed of my self right now .! BUT lessons learned in HARD way, BUT I will never do all those mistakes again.
“This is how you get a restraining order” LMFAO
I swear these videos are like medicine for the soul helps me through one of the worst break ups I’m going through right now. She says it’s goodbye for now I told her don’t contact me until she’s ready for something serious because we were serious for quite some time. No contact. It’s hard but I’m doing it. If she can’t respect me enough to keep me in her life she doesn’t deserve me. There are better sweeter hotter women out there that want me. I’m not gonna worry about losing her. Even though I loved her immensely, there’s plenty of fish in the sea
She may be gone but as much as she said she loved me, she’ll be back. And if not I don’t care. It just means it wasn’t meant to be and I’m gonna keep on living life and becoming the best version of myself. I’m on my ninth of the book, it’s probably gonna take me 20 to get it all down but I’ve been dealing with a lot of shit recently and it got me a little on the weak side. I got a hold of myself, said I’m not gonna let this bother me in this way, took control of my emotions, and decided to be who I need to be as a man my heart feels so much stronger and calmer. 😊
I truly loved her... I got dumped. I am sorry to know that she lost an honest and loving man.
No one cares.
@@MegaBlueEyezzFacts
Your quote of (can you imagine James Bond saying ...what do i do?)....was epic! Says it all!
i think moving on dating and going out more enjoying yourself without her is the way to be been happy again hanging out with friends and making her jealous because shes not worthing waiting round for because i think shes in a rebound relationship right now but not ready to get back with me
I bought your book and watched many of your videos, glad I can get some insight from someone who just gets it. Thanks for what you're doing brother.
Why is this so entertaining lol. This guy is hilarious.
Cool attitude, Corey, sincerly get dumped two months ago, without all that tutorials, i would may climb the wall, thanks to all of you providing such informations, peace!
Here's an exception though: if the reason you were dumped was because you were not investing enough in the relationship/showing your partner enough love and attention. If he/she felt insecure in the relationship, or you took him/her for granted, and ended up losing the relationship due to that.. the last thing you should do is just ignore and walk away when you get dumped for that, because you are showing that you really did not care and that they were right to leave.
What do you do in that case then?
@@tysonmorgan346 i did.the same shit i did wrong with a girl that wanted to fuck me.for.tree years ...i never did nothing and of course she went with.other dudes...but.i know.i did.wrong acting stupid and neddy but still she wanted me but.i didnd giver the d .... in the last year she didnt care about me but i never.changed still didnt i dont do nothing live im my parents house.and act like a.bitch bur anyway i stop seeing her blocked.her on facebook and act like a.bitch there....but.i still think in her since then ...i say the problem wasnt her.the problem was mine and.will try again but.i need to be.better.with myself have a.good life cuz i still think in her...she cryd at the firs date saying she was a bitch since.than that shit got.in to my head but i will never.give up cuz nothing its impossible.you just.need.to use.corey rules
Edit: she was a narcissistic piece of shit that got with me three days after her last bf broke up with her XD. Two years wasted, lmao so much happier without her!
You’re about to make a big mistake
For me it was the opposite. Went super good for 3-4 months and at the first confrontation she said we not a good fit, it don't work etc. She has depressions as well so her own problems play a role as well mind you, a very difficult girl with a baggage who told me letting people into her life is hard. Anyway, end result was: it ain't working out, not ready for a relationship, it's not working we too different, my feelings went faster than hers etc.
It's fucked up cus in my head it was all perfect until she just broke up with me out of the literal blue
Come onnnn man! When you are saying that, you know the email you are reading is from someone who is not taking the right path. Just bought your book, getting it in the mail tomorrow. Thank you for your videos Coach, you rock man!!
Dammit, wish ida seen this a few weeks ago. Not only is this dead on? You're funny af and make it easy to see things clearly. Thanks for pulling my head outta my ass. Whew, like I can breathe again.
kind off topic: but i look at her dumping/rejecting me as adding more free time to my schedule! now i can hike more, hang out with other people more, and even travel for more
damn been watching these vids for a couple of days now, I wanna slap myself so hard man! so many dumb decisions
giga knotts hahaha same here 😂👍
I broke up with my boyfriend after going through something traumatic, I asked him for space and he said he couldn’t give me space. I asked him 3x to just give me a little space because I wasn’t eating or sleeping and it was affecting us. He couldn’t give me space and I broke up with him. I seriously was not eating or sleeping for 2 weeks. I felt overwhelmed emotionally, spiritually mentally at work, etc . I reached out to him and he said now he’s not ready for a relationship and will reach out to me either way in the future to let me know. I want to wait for him, but I feel like he should have been understanding especially in that situation... granted he did go through a lot with me over the year because of what I experienced. I think he was fed up/ tired at that point. I really cared for him. I didn’t know how else to get back up on my feet I just felt so overwhelmed.
I was dumped ... for the 5th time by the same girl. I walking away and NEVER looking back. ✌🏼
You rock coach... I will buy your book and read it 10 to 15 times
Your advice is exactly what I needed to hear. Liked and subbed
You really are the man, Coach. Thank you for your book and all of your work.