Two benefits… you detach, and you also potentially get her back. By the time she wants to come back you might already be dating someone new or enjoying life. It leaves the ball in your court.
My ex isnt coming back, but she would still watch my snap stories. I blocked her the other day because i found myself checking to see if she watched. Im doing it for me.
No contact is really for you. Most times, when it's over, it's over. Guys will over analyze their actions to cope that they have more control than they do. None of that IG stuff matters. She simply doesn't like you. Her interest was low to medium from the start; and she likely left to pursue someone she likes more. Even if she does come back, it'll be out of curiosity, boredom, or to hold herself over for the next better option. Just how it is. Goes for all of us. Plus, even if she came back at this stage, you would definitely fumble it. But honestly, it's more so her lack of interest than you personally, IMO.
Hate to say it but girls like that are usually trash. I’ve dated enough to know quality women will never lead you and waste your time and they def don’t break up with you unless you did something that really turned her off. This guy dodged a bullet.
That's why you should almost never accept her back. Only case is if both of you have grown enough to solve the issues that led to the breakup but usually if they have grown then they don't even like each other at that point.
@jacobstheory there's no exception.. you never take a woman like that back SERIOUSLY. You keep her as a sex playmate/ FWB/part of your roster, but trying to date her and be with her is over. Women who leave you for ANY reason don't get a 2nd chance as far as wife material. THOSE type of women only get 2nd chances to be on your team...meaning men, you don't take her on any dates, she does 100% of the contact and pursuing and you only link up with her for late evenings at your house (no meeting out or anywhere else). You do this until she either leaves or finds a man that wants her either way you're dating and vetting other women who have an actual chance. Self-respecting men don't take women who leave them back "seriously" under any circumstance. It's one chance per lifetime for anything serious.
@@asurxhYou sound hurt. And what self respecting man has that pfp. A friend of mine took his ex back after 6 years, they now have a family together. You never know how life goes. You have a defeatist attitude. It's better to grow as a person and learn from your mistakes. Your gf leaving is 9/10 times your own fault.
"Doing more of what you got rejected is not going to fix anything." This sentence is so essential, thanks for that, Coach! I really needed the clearence with the Social Media as well, so much appreciated!
Good luck to this guy. Once your mindset crosses over you will never give time or attention to a woman who doesn’t have a high level of interest in you.
No contact is very important but most importantly…. watch for these narcissist woman! Most will only talk to you for supply & validation. This is how they live their lives & will drain you mentally & financially.
I said.. 'all good, maybe some othwr time'. She liked, then commented on my posts for the first time ever. I simply liked her comments. She posted things relating to me.. then after 2 weeks she initiated contact 3 times .. saying she couldn't get me out of her mind.
@@myrealfolktalesget some self respect and let her go back to her ex who will mess up again and then she’ll realised she messed up as you’ve moved on to someone who doesn’t see you as an option
Constantly watching someone’s IG stories does communicate some interest in what that person is up to. What’s odd are people who always watch your IG stories but NEVER engage with your real posts.
@@VolleKwark It absolutely does, the same as liking their posts and such. It shows that you're pay attention to what they're doing. That you're still interested.
I said let me know when you change your mind. She then has messages me me back Hey. I did not reply for 2 days now. When she did reach out at the beginning i would say, Great to hear from you, let me know when your free and she agrees. But she just keeps saying hey. I have also been talking to other women so its not so bad
Corey You king i did follow no contact some times it works some times it wont but 100% of the time i feel good with my decision,been a fan for a long time over 8 years youre the most down to earth logical advice giver
If she’s not back in a few days, get her out of your head. Carry on your mission and purpose there are guys here that are waiting after 10 months? Grab your balls back!
Stay on your purpose. If he was more into his purpose. He would naturally do everything corey wayne is saying. After the 9th time I read how to become 3% man I realized your purpose is the key to behaving masculine.
I wouldn’t say cringe man! It’s natural to want to. I only knew not to look at it because of having previous breaks ups and checking theirs. I knew I would look so I blocked her and removed the temptation. I blocked her completely, and then blocked her from viewing my TikTok account too 😂 maybe overkill
@@petermchugh9748 if you tryna get her back , blocking her is just as bad as over pursuing bc your showing her that she still has you mentally. On the other hand if you don't want her in your life anymore by all means....do so
@@scottverge938 yup, i have severe ocd and im schizophrenic. at fucking 21 but hey i just fot a new job, gym membership and im doing my best to take the steps to not fuck up my next great relationship. see i have a weird situation, im extremely good at getting the girl but after 8 or so months my controlling shit and ocd brcomes overbearing and it needs work. lost a 2 year relationship with a true high value woman all cuz i couldnt get my shit together. she will still call me every other week or so crying aboht how she misses me then after 2 days i make the same mistakes. i will get there though
What about blocking from all socials? I been no contact for 2 years, but she still in my friends list and can still see when im logged on Facebook.. dunno y but i feel like she got an upper edge on me, if she can see when im logged on. But ive also heard that its not a good idea to completely remove her. Has anyone else run into this situation?
I had a roommate who went back and forth with his high school sweetheart. Toxic ass relationship. Life moved on and 13 years later she just randomly showed up to his parents house while he was outside playing with his son. He didn’t even live there. Crazy
When i started this relationship i was like no drama please. I got engaged to the drama queen🤦 i was kinda upset for 3 days, but now im fine. Hell we freeze over before i make contact or make a post.
Would I be advised to do no contact if my relationship with my avoidant ex GF was only 2 months long but was very loving and intense? Nothing bad happened, she just one day was pulling away after a previous day of being super close, intimate, and she just said " She didn't think she could do this " She cried and I let her drive off and have been NC for 4 days now.
We haven’t spoke in months. She was in love with me last year and I blew it. I think I came back after blowing her off so she thought, but I was dealing with so much stress I couldn’t process it. Of course I came off as desperate when trying to explain and she bolted ended up blocking me and later found a new bf. It’s been months now, I’m still hopeful we can meet again and start talking. I called and left a message, but no luck. I have learned what I did wrong, if there’s only a way to show it.
If she bolted because you were going through a rough time then she's not good for you and most likely, she was that into you in the first place. You may not realize it now, but she actually did you a favor.
Hey, Corey. I very much like getting acquainted with your values and thoughts, and hope you won't get me wrong with this side question of mine. As you know, times are getting harder and we get more and more often to witness harassment of women. Bearing that in mind, and out of my own experience, am I right assuming that you encourage inviting Her for dinner, AFTER man and woman have met at least once? Because nowadays, inviting someone for dinner at first date is rather creepy.
I was dumped for the same reason. It's been 10 months of proper no contact and I'm reading the book again and again. Remember guys you do no contact out of self respect and for yourself, not to get her back. Life is good. I didn't think I'll be okay but I am. Thanks coach!
On one hand we say "women are attracted towards men whose feelings are unclear and on the other hand How would "call me if you change your mind" helps? Like it shows you have interest in them
@@RevealedFilmsNope. You give the invitation, but are INDIFFERENT about the outcome. Meaning you don't fully invest on if she says yes or no. Acting like you are 100% uninterested is going to say to her that you are fully uninterested, gay, or a beta
i unfollow her the day she broke up ... and after like 2 month nc she unfollowed me ( i had a new cat in my story because we both cat people) like wtf? what does it means?
Hey Corey its been a week since i have been in no contact with her the last time i contacted her i said "take care of yourself" and i was trying to make her talk to me and solve the issues and she said "no i don't want to talk to you sorry" and since then i didn't contacted her she hasn't been active on social media eithwr except of her one account i think but yeah im having nightmares everynight about her but the thing is i have improved my mindset since she has left i used to get rattled and was needy but i have improved my mindset and this is the first time i haven't reached out to her as Im stubborn at the fact that im not gonna contact her ever again if she doesn't and which I think she will never gonna contact me. But that's fine i think im just holding onto this false hope
The biggest misconception of "no contact" is that it's a tool to get her back. It's for you. For you to find a purpose outside of women, for you to explore other options, for you to build the confidence to know there's always better. What one won't do another one will. Delete her off your socials, go on some dates, and IF she comes back decide if you want to deal with her, not the other way around.
Stay strong, buddy. I'm in the same boat. Loved her so much but found out she had been cheating with her ex for most of our year together. It's so hard to stop loving someone, esp when you had no idea what they were doing to you. I just started seeing a therapist. Good luck to both of us.
@@davelein9565 in your case just cut all ties with her and try to kill the hope and expectations from her at this point and just walk away and never ever take her back in your life. You will be fine dude
All I can tell you is that it does get better but the best thing for you to do is let go of the idea of ever being with her again. The sooner you can do that the better. Start working on yourself in all areas to attract someone else. Hopefully someone better.
I girl im in no contact with posts stuff that absolutely relates to me and our last conversations. So yea I do check.. but i never like or watch her stories.
If I only knew this stuff 25 years ago. Wish I knew coach Corey then. lol. I don’t think there was an internet or RUclips then. I’ve been literally stomped by women in those 25 years in all of these examples of what not to accept in all the videos. Omg. I’ve learned so much since. 😂
This is literally me now although I’m doing it right. She’s added reels last two weeks to our shared album on Instagram. Nothing for 4 months earlier and now 8 weeks into NC, suddenly starts adding so I’ll see. Not falling for it.
My ex was doing the samething cuz my profile was public. 2 months after the break up she was watching my stories. We were never friends on ig. I said fck it and made my profile private.
My ex start to call me but only once. I was playing a game and didn't feel like talking in that moment so I did not pick and didn't call back. Now it's almost 1 week later and I start feeling like now it suits me to call her back. But isn't it too late to call back 7 days later? I think I just wait if she tries to call me again in a few weeks. Wonder what Corey thinks about it. :-)
NEVER forget the reasons why you went no-contact. Brutally hard, but necessary for healing.
Hai 🤜 🤚
Yessir
Two benefits… you detach, and you also potentially get her back. By the time she wants to come back you might already be dating someone new or enjoying life. It leaves the ball in your court.
yep. every time i miss her, i read the notes i wrote. snaps me right out of it.
My ex isnt coming back, but she would still watch my snap stories. I blocked her the other day because i found myself checking to see if she watched. Im doing it for me.
Smart man
I did the same with my ex. It's definitely the right move!
Did this too. It's peace of mind.
And my ‘ex’ girl wouldnt let me see her lokkes IG account and after we went no contact suddenly her IG is now open... l really dont understand WHY??..
If she still on your Snap your clearly didn’t get the meaning of “NO CONTACT” my ex wants me to kill me literally I’ve blocked 3 phone numbers so far
No contact is really for you. Most times, when it's over, it's over. Guys will over analyze their actions to cope that they have more control than they do. None of that IG stuff matters. She simply doesn't like you. Her interest was low to medium from the start; and she likely left to pursue someone she likes more. Even if she does come back, it'll be out of curiosity, boredom, or to hold herself over for the next better option. Just how it is. Goes for all of us. Plus, even if she came back at this stage, you would definitely fumble it. But honestly, it's more so her lack of interest than you personally, IMO.
Damn right
Hate to say it but girls like that are usually trash. I’ve dated enough to know quality women will never lead you and waste your time and they def don’t break up with you unless you did something that really turned her off. This guy dodged a bullet.
That's why you should almost never accept her back. Only case is if both of you have grown enough to solve the issues that led to the breakup but usually if they have grown then they don't even like each other at that point.
@jacobstheory
there's no exception.. you never take a woman like that back SERIOUSLY. You keep her as a sex playmate/ FWB/part of your roster, but trying to date her and be with her is over.
Women who leave you for ANY reason don't get a 2nd chance as far as wife material. THOSE type of women only get 2nd chances to be on your team...meaning men, you don't take her on any dates, she does 100% of the contact and pursuing and you only link up with her for late evenings at your house (no meeting out or anywhere else).
You do this until she either leaves or finds a man that wants her either way you're dating and vetting other women who have an actual chance.
Self-respecting men don't take women who leave them back "seriously" under any circumstance.
It's one chance per lifetime for anything serious.
@@asurxhYou sound hurt. And what self respecting man has that pfp. A friend of mine took his ex back after 6 years, they now have a family together. You never know how life goes. You have a defeatist attitude. It's better to grow as a person and learn from your mistakes. Your gf leaving is 9/10 times your own fault.
To the guy who wrote in - you dodged a big bullet. Good women don’t waste your time like this.
I treat no contact as though the person fully died
Yep
How did it go?
I would visit a page of someone who died in fact. Never one thats on the "no contact". But i got the idea.
"Doing more of what you got rejected is not going to fix anything." This sentence is so essential, thanks for that, Coach! I really needed the clearence with the Social Media as well, so much appreciated!
Good luck to this guy. Once your mindset crosses over you will never give time or attention to a woman who doesn’t have a high level of interest in you.
If a woman backs off bcasuse you are into her, she's not your woman.
Get off social media, be mysterious and be a challenge...James Bond isn't watching reels
my girlfriend broke up with me, but now shes trying to choose between me and her ex who wants her back. What can I do in such triangle?
@@myrealfolktalesdo nothing
@emptysoul2757 get yourself out off that don't text no call her just enjoy your life
@@ROCKSTAR123620 that’s exactly what I meant lol
"James Bond isn't watching reels" 😂😂
Get the “come on man” cup of water ready
No contact is very important but most importantly…. watch for these narcissist woman! Most will only talk to you for supply & validation. This is how they live their lives & will drain you mentally & financially.
I said.. 'all good, maybe some othwr time'. She liked, then commented on my posts for the first time ever. I simply liked her comments. She posted things relating to me.. then after 2 weeks she initiated contact 3 times .. saying she couldn't get me out of her mind.
Are you the dude in the video ?
@@Tobinounet nope
Stay off her stories and just leave her be. Chances are, she’s not gonna come back. Just date someone new. It’s not worth the hassle.
Amen.
my girlfriend broke up with me, but now shes trying to choose between me and her ex who wants her back. What can I do in such triangle?
Be more masculine and don’t contact her. He will probably chase
@@myrealfolktalesget some self respect and let her go back to her ex who will mess up again and then she’ll realised she messed up as you’ve moved on to someone who doesn’t see you as an option
Constantly watching someone’s IG stories does communicate some interest in what that person is up to. What’s odd are people who always watch your IG stories but NEVER engage with your real posts.
Because they are creeping on you and want to keep tabs on you. The best thing you can do with those people is mute them or remove them as a follower.
Maybe they don't realize people can see you've watched their stories?
Constantly watching someone’s IG stories doesn’t communicate a thing.
@@VolleKwark It absolutely does, the same as liking their posts and such. It shows that you're pay attention to what they're doing. That you're still interested.
@@scottverge938girls know that feature my friend, girl know that 😉😉
I said let me know when you change your mind. She then has messages me me back Hey. I did not reply for 2 days now. When she did reach out at the beginning i would say, Great to hear from you, let me know when your free and she agrees. But she just keeps saying hey. I have also been talking to other women so its not so bad
Don’t want her back!…the well has been poisoned!
Corey You king i did follow no contact some times it works some times it wont but 100% of the time i feel good with my decision,been a fan for a long time over 8 years youre the most down to earth logical advice giver
If she’s not back in a few days, get her out of your head. Carry on your mission and purpose there are guys here that are waiting after 10 months? Grab your balls back!
10 months? Damn, she’s already breastfeeding the new guys baby at that point 😂
😂😂😂
Stay on your purpose. If he was more into his purpose. He would naturally do everything corey wayne is saying. After the 9th time I read how to become 3% man I realized your purpose is the key to behaving masculine.
Listening to Corey is so calming
I was there. We were all there but I do miss her but she block me which is fine. It's been 6 months of no contact
Perfect timing on this video coach!
I’m audio listening to the book today and half way through it so so helpful
She for the streets. She can’t bond with you as a husband. She’s needs other men validation no matter how perfect you are.
I needed to hear this, thank you.
I did the instagram story thing, had no idea how it worked 😂. It was a doomed relationship regardless but still cringe.
I wouldn’t say cringe man! It’s natural to want to. I only knew not to look at it because of having previous breaks ups and checking theirs. I knew I would look so I blocked her and removed the temptation.
I blocked her completely, and then blocked her from viewing my TikTok account too 😂 maybe overkill
@@petermchugh9748You made the smart decision. Either mute them or block them.
@@petermchugh9748 if you tryna get her back , blocking her is just as bad as over pursuing bc your showing her that she still has you mentally. On the other hand if you don't want her in your life anymore by all means....do so
man no matter how many times i read the book or watch videos i still make the same mistakes while being aware. i need therapy lol
Honestly you might. You might have an anxious attachment style you need to work on.
@@scottverge938 yup, i have severe ocd and im schizophrenic. at fucking 21 but hey i just fot a new job, gym membership and im doing my best to take the steps to not fuck up my next great relationship. see i have a weird situation, im extremely good at getting the girl but after 8 or so months my controlling shit and ocd brcomes overbearing and it needs work. lost a 2 year relationship with a true high value woman all cuz i couldnt get my shit together. she will still call me every other week or so crying aboht how she misses me then after 2 days i make the same mistakes. i will get there though
The no contact order is not for ex- boyfriend or girlfriend. It is for you, they moved on.
What about blocking from all socials? I been no contact for 2 years, but she still in my friends list and can still see when im logged on Facebook.. dunno y but i feel like she got an upper edge on me, if she can see when im logged on. But ive also heard that its not a good idea to completely remove her. Has anyone else run into this situation?
Actually I was unblocked on what’s app after a few weeks but she hasn’t yet reached out and am not trying to contact her either first
After 6 years of no contact and almost marrying the guy she left me for, she’s trying to come back .
Lol
6 years is crazy
Smash and send him the audio 😂
I had a roommate who went back and forth with his high school sweetheart. Toxic ass relationship. Life moved on and 13 years later she just randomly showed up to his parents house while he was outside playing with his son. He didn’t even live there. Crazy
@@Phil-j7t that’s terrifying
When i started this relationship i was like no drama please. I got engaged to the drama queen🤦 i was kinda upset for 3 days, but now im fine. Hell we freeze over before i make contact or make a post.
Fuck social networking.
Yes Indeed it's rubbish
Would I be advised to do no contact if my relationship with my avoidant ex GF was only 2 months long but was very loving and intense? Nothing bad happened, she just one day was pulling away after a previous day of being super close, intimate, and she just said " She didn't think she could do this " She cried and I let her drive off and have been NC for 4 days now.
Had this happen. You’re her sidepiece..she feels guilty for cheating on the guy she’s actually with. Move on my friend
3 months? Move on...
The amount of time is irrelevant. You can have a long term relationship end and have it not bother you at all.
We haven’t spoke in months. She was in love with me last year and I blew it. I think I came back after blowing her off so she thought, but I was dealing with so much stress I couldn’t process it. Of course I came off as desperate when trying to explain and she bolted ended up blocking me and later found a new bf. It’s been months now, I’m still hopeful we can meet again and start talking. I called and left a message, but no luck. I have learned what I did wrong, if there’s only a way to show it.
If she bolted because you were going through a rough time then she's not good for you and most likely, she was that into you in the first place. You may not realize it now, but she actually did you a favor.
Hey, Corey. I very much like getting acquainted with your values and thoughts, and hope you won't get me wrong with this side question of mine. As you know, times are getting harder and we get more and more often to witness harassment of women. Bearing that in mind, and out of my own experience, am I right assuming that you encourage inviting Her for dinner, AFTER man and woman have met at least once? Because nowadays, inviting someone for dinner at first date is rather creepy.
Great vid. 👍
Should I have blocked her from viewing my story? I did eventually but let her view it for a while… I never checked hers
Let them view your story but mute them so you don’t see their story.
Do you want her back?
@@blahblahblah-uw4ufagree with this guy^ but u probably shouldn’t be posting so much anyways
Please make videos of doing no contact with someone with kids
They don't even know
Why would you want them back? They either left or you dropped them. Move on.
I was dumped for the same reason. It's been 10 months of proper no contact and I'm reading the book again and again.
Remember guys you do no contact out of self respect and for yourself, not to get her back. Life is good. I didn't think I'll be okay but I am. Thanks coach!
On one hand we say "women are attracted towards men whose feelings are unclear and on the other hand How would "call me if you change your mind" helps? Like it shows you have interest in them
You're leaving the door open but indifferent to the outcome
@@renofheavens2you’re hoping they reach out. Might as well be a door mat
@@RevealedFilmsNope. You give the invitation, but are INDIFFERENT about the outcome. Meaning you don't fully invest on if she says yes or no. Acting like you are 100% uninterested is going to say to her that you are fully uninterested, gay, or a beta
No contact to me means Block # and Social Media. Next!
i unfollow her the day she broke up ... and after like 2 month nc she unfollowed me ( i had a new cat in my story because we both cat people) like wtf? what does it means?
What if she calls from Google numbers and just listens?
Also applys to same day fun
Hey Corey its been a week since i have been in no contact with her the last time i contacted her i said "take care of yourself" and i was trying to make her talk to me and solve the issues and she said "no i don't want to talk to you sorry" and since then i didn't contacted her she hasn't been active on social media eithwr except of her one account i think but yeah im having nightmares everynight about her but the thing is i have improved my mindset since she has left i used to get rattled and was needy but i have improved my mindset and this is the first time i haven't reached out to her as Im stubborn at the fact that im not gonna contact her ever again if she doesn't and which I think she will never gonna contact me. But that's fine i think im just holding onto this false hope
Things will be better with time. I've been there and I know it's painful.
The biggest misconception of "no contact" is that it's a tool to get her back. It's for you. For you to find a purpose outside of women, for you to explore other options, for you to build the confidence to know there's always better. What one won't do another one will. Delete her off your socials, go on some dates, and IF she comes back decide if you want to deal with her, not the other way around.
Stay strong, buddy. I'm in the same boat. Loved her so much but found out she had been cheating with her ex for most of our year together. It's so hard to stop loving someone, esp when you had no idea what they were doing to you. I just started seeing a therapist. Good luck to both of us.
@@davelein9565 in your case just cut all ties with her and try to kill the hope and expectations from her at this point and just walk away and never ever take her back in your life. You will be fine dude
All I can tell you is that it does get better but the best thing for you to do is let go of the idea of ever being with her again. The sooner you can do that the better.
Start working on yourself in all areas to attract someone else. Hopefully someone better.
my girlfriend broke up with me, but now shes trying to choose between me and her ex who wants her back. What can I do in such triangle?
Read the book, and be a man. No calling/ texting / pursuing. Wait to hear from her then hang out have fun hook up and no relationship talk
If you decide to get back with your ex. In the dating process check to see if she has changed.
I can't even see her instagram stories or she doesn't view mine. It was totally random.
I girl im in no contact with posts stuff that absolutely relates to me and our last conversations. So yea I do check.. but i never like or watch her stories.
What book is he referring to?
I guess WhatsApp stories count too...
The problem is the monkey branching that women do and then they realize they screwed up
Guy let her look at your gram dont look at hers
If I only knew this stuff 25 years ago. Wish I knew coach Corey then. lol. I don’t think there was an internet or RUclips then. I’ve been literally stomped by women in those 25 years in all of these examples of what not to accept in all the videos. Omg. I’ve learned so much since. 😂
Real alphas don’t even notice when a girl pulls back
my girlfriend broke up with me, but now shes trying to choose between me and her ex who wants her back. What can I do in such triangle?
@@myrealfolktales Let her go, bro.
@@plasmaarmelund thank you.
@@myrealfolktalesdon’t just let her go, but also move on and try talking to other girls
Use apps that allow you to view people's social media anonymously
Still a bad idea. no need to watch their shit
Yea 2 months in no contact and I accidentally viewed her public story
my condolences
That doesn't matter - splitting hairs over something like that is not going to make or break a relationship.
@@dunn1375 Just block the stories
This is literally me now although I’m doing it right. She’s added reels last two weeks to our shared album on Instagram. Nothing for 4 months earlier and now 8 weeks into NC, suddenly starts adding so I’ll see. Not falling for it.
@martinwhyment-cm1bn I'm confused at the time-line?
My ex was doing the samething cuz my profile was public. 2 months after the break up she was watching my stories. We were never friends on ig. I said fck it and made my profile private.
My ex start to call me but only once. I was playing a game and didn't feel like talking in that moment so I did not pick and didn't call back. Now it's almost 1 week later and I start feeling like now it suits me to call her back. But isn't it too late to call back 7 days later? I think I just wait if she tries to call me again in a few weeks. Wonder what Corey thinks about it. :-)