MINIMALIST: 5 Baby ESSENTIALS 1st 6 months
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- Опубликовано: 29 июн 2024
- Baby ESSENTIALS 1st 6 months (on a budget)
Okay, 5 categories:
1. FOOD
2. Diapers
3. Sleep
4. A place to put them
5. Clothes
6. Then tips and trips for how to get even these things for less!
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Floor bassinet: amzn.to/3t5CFAW
Lovevery play kits: www.heyshayla.com/lovevery
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THE BEST developmental play kits:
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00:00 Introduction
00:22 @heyshayla on Instagram
00:33 Podcast: heyshayla.buzzsprout.com/
00:50 5 things you need in the first 6 months on a budget
01:16 1. FOOD
02:35 2. Diapers
03:46 3. Sleep
05:40 4. A place to put them
08:26 5. Clothes
10:25 ITS OKAY to not buy your kids stuff
12:16 CARSEAT
13:14 Hacks for finding things CHEAP
Links as promised:
Mattress protector: rstyle.me/+Jg0vI4AUfwlMWX4YZxsGcA
Floor bassinet: amzn.to/3t5CFAW
Lovevery play kits: www.heyshayla.com/lovevery
Wool Base layer IKSPLOR: www.heyshayla.com/iksploryt HEYSHAYLA for a discount
Discount codes and brands I work with: www.heyshayla.com/my-favs/
Floor bassinet link doesnt work
Also link for a bassinet you can put beside the bed? Thanks Shayla love your videos! ❤️
Thanks for the heads up!! I’ll fix it! (Laying down with the babes right now 😂)
@@hope88lovehi Shayla.. could you please provide the link to the bedside bassinet you mentioned.
@@heyshaylaCan you fix this please? 🙏🏽 Still not fixed 😭
Currently 31 weeks pregnant, don’t have the nursery put together or have most of the things I’m told I “need” and this video gave me such peace of mind 😭🤍
Same girl! We don't have space for a nursery and I was getting worried about things I still need! X
Just had my baby three months ago! Babies seriously do not need much.. it’s fun to buy stuff but babies don’t have a lot of “things” they need!
You don’t need a nursery. IF you are scared of SIDS have a babybed beside your bed, otherwise a nest will do too. The most convenient. You can change diapers on your bed or the sofa. I just place a blanket or towel or a washable fur, like the plastic bottle one ftom ikea, underneath. I have a basket for cloth diapers and wipes. I emptied a cupboard for some clothing. That’s it.
Oh, I have three kids (13,8,3) and I am pregnant with my fourth…
33 weeks and in the same boat. The only thing you absolutely need before heading to the hospital is a car seat.
60 yo grandma here. This is so true! Babies dont need all the fancy expensive stuff. They dont care! One of my biggest pet peeves is parents who pull 4 or 5 wipes to clean a baby butt that isn't that messy. A stack of washcloths used exclusively for baby butts is so much better, and when you wet them, use warm water so you dont shock the hell out of baby with a cold wipe! If you are on the go, put a couple wash cloths in a ziploc and take with. They won't be any colder than a disposable when it's time to use them. Just my 2 cents worth.
Thank you
I really appreciate it
Thank you! ❤
Please tell my girlfriend this. About 5,000 spent. Mostly Target & online shopping & nursery with wallpaper 😂
Quality cents
Thank you for keeping it real and honest. Tired of mommy vloggers recommending $1800 bassinets and designers clothes
This video is so helpful
OMG I remember seeing that video! I'm like, I don't need a bassinet much less an $1800 one
My future mother in law is just going or taking me to a bunch of yard sales and whatnot. We're getting almost everything second hand and I'd much rather do it that way because it works just as well and is cheaper.
@@vitricewashington6510 Yup, we just picked up a beautiful dresser at an estate sale for our baby girl. Good luck to you!
@@lilly5758 You too!
I like the snoo tho 🥲
finally an honest minimalist advise! Unlike other videos that say they’re minimalistic then show you every baby product exist!
Thissss. Every video I have run into so far is like that. Funny how this one isn't titled "minimalist" but is exactly what I've been looking for. SIMPLE. 👏
@@ShortySensei yeah they buy so many items just with a beige or grey aesthetic, but too many items
Not on a budget, but I am a minimalist clutter hater that doesn’t want to deal with loads of unnecessary ‘stuff’. So thank you 🙏
TIP*- a pack n play for my son which was great. It was his crib, the place to put him, his play pen, a place to move around and stand when he got older . He hated the bassinet part of it so we ended up taking that part off and just set him down in the big part and did that from newborn to about 1yr or maybe even a little over a year.
It was one purchase, doesn’t cost much and lasted a long time.
Another tip I received from a mom is to use doggy pads instead of baby liners.. they’re the same thing, way cheaper and the doggy pads come in larger packs.
I did the pack n play for my daughter too! Up until she was around 8/9 months. 😊 So convenient to have a changing station and a sleeping place.
Baby pads have special chemicals to attract dogs to pee on them, probably not a big deal though lol.
I'm 29 weeks pregnant I haven't bought a single thing for my baby yet and I don't feel anxious or guilty about that. I know that there really isn't that much I need for the first few months and it is very comforting to find women that thinks the same.
It is hard to find a simple and chill mother who is also caring, responsible and well informed at the same time, which is I think what every future/ preasent mother wants to be at the end- relaxed and confident in the way she cares for her child while also enyoing herself and staying on a reasonable budget 😄
Thanks for sharing your thought and giving real and valuble advice for moms. 😊
I am 26 weeks pregnant and same, my family is going crazy for a gender reveal and babyshower.... like thank you guys but let's all calm down a bit try, and relax it's just a baby. We will be fine :) yes I love my baby everyone keeps asking that too! It's just my first and I'm already chill and mellow about the whole thing, and that's okay too :)
This comment. 👏
Yes more moms need to have this attitude! Don't feel pressured into getting things. I actually had my baby shower before baby and we didn't know the gender. That way I didn't get a ton of unnecessary baby clothes!
@@Nessa1620gender reveal parties grind my gears
This is the video I needed with my first. Not because money was tight but just to curb the onslaught of consumer propaganda. I’m pregnant with my 3rd and my checklist is boobs, bassinet, diapers, onesies, car seat. That’s basically it. You don’t really need anything else.
About to cry. Thank you for this. I’ve already watched a million videos and this is the only one that made me feel better, less overwhelmed, and prepared. I appreciate you so much. Thank you, instant subscriber! ❤
😂😂😂❤❤😂❤❤❤❤#
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Same here 😭 We finally hit the goldmine! This was so helpful.
Literally. If I got NOTHING else from your video...the iPhone noise hack. 😳😳😳😳 GENIUS!!!
The American Society of Pediatrics advises strongly against co-sleeping. This is a massive risk for SIDS. Babies NEED a firm mattress whether in a crib or bassinet. That's safe sleep 101. -Lorraine, BSN, RN
Agreed! The mattress should be firm if your co sleeping!
Uhm excuse me! The timing for this could NOT be more perfect! We are wrapping up our baby registry now for our early Dec baby shower. THANK YOU!
I am currently pregnant with my first at only 8 weeks pregnant and I have always believed that babies don't need that much so finding this video gave me so much peace about my worries of having to buy so much stuff.
Thank you for this
Currently 28 weeks pregnant with my first, and out of all the videos I've watched on things to get babes, your video has by far been the most helpful. I really appreciate how you recommend eco friendly/ sustainable options and dematerialize the baby industry.
I like this lady’s style. Straight to the point
I slept in a pack-and-play at home and my dad's guitar case at church. Babies have survived for the whole of human history. Some of the fancy gadgets are nice and helpful for some people, but they aren't a need for everyone. And I agree, why do we make things so consumeristic. "Weddings are so expensive. Babies are so expensive." Yes, if that's what you want, but they don't have to be.
I bought Gerber cloth diapers to use as burp cloths, they also got a lot of use as changing pad liners during the early poop-explosion phase. When the kids are older, they make amazing rags. They're just super cheap, super absorbent, and you can toss them without feeling attached.
Where did you get yours? I got packs of 10 of Gerber white muslin cloths and they began fraying at the corners and edges on the first wash and every wash after!
@@regsabatini I got some from Walmart, Target and Amazon, and I think Walmart had the best ones. I got the interfold ones, they have the thick part in the middle. And those have an extra seam around the outside edge so the corners fray a little with constant washing, but that's it. I also think the ones I got are cotton, because I thought the muslin would be too thin.
If your planning on having more than one kid go with osocozy prefolds instead for this purpose. They dont fray and they are way more absorbant for nearly the same price(at least in my area).
Glad I found this video. Thanks for normalizing not buying your baby everything. I honestly was overwhelmed by the baby registry lists. This is much more doable
Reminder the most important thing your baby needs is you, take a deep breath ❤
If you choose not to bedshare, a very worthwhile investment is a pack and play with the bassinet and changing table insert. It transitions with baby until they are ready for their floor bed! I also bought an additional mattress for both the bassinet and crib, definitely worth it
Thank you!!! We are trying for a baby and we live in a 2 room apartment (not 2 bedrooms, 2 rooms). We absolutely don’t have space for a bunch of extra baby stuff, so I’m really relieved to see videos like this that remind us that babies really don’t need much!!
You got this! We've lived in a 2 room apartment with a 3-4yo, and it was plenty of space for us! I wouldn't mind doing it again even now that we have two kids.
This is the first normal, actually helpful baby essential video I've come across! All of the others are a bunch mommy vloggers recommending overpriced and unnecessary items, along with those dull colors that are no good for the baby, because they want to be Instagram perfect. Their videos all look identical to each other. It's ridiculous!! Definitely subscribing! will be having our 2nd baby at the end of this year and it's been almost 7yrs since we went through all this. I have our registry made and it's so small compared to what other baby moms do. The only reason I've been watching these type of videos is because of how little we plan on getting and I've been questioning if there's other things to get, but I haven't found anything. I constantly see moms trying to resell unnecessary or overpriced items in my mom group and say it's hardly used/never used.
In this day and age, I.e 2022 and beyond, I appreciate an honest review like this. Babies stuff and essentials for the babies is a highly commercialized market, and input/feedback like this video are helpful for new parents 😊
Love the no nonsense to-the-point monologue 😂👏🏻 thoroughly enjoyed this video and I’m not even pregnant
I am currently pregnant with my second. I have made my own burp cloths. I have extra fabric from other projects that I use for the decorative side. I bought a regular shower towel and cut it up and I’m sewing it to the printed cotton side and I am able to make 9 burp cloths. Also we have a bunch of the more expensive items we saved from my first child that we are reusing. I prefer to reuse or buy used for most of the baby items. It’s cheaper and you can always donate it after for some one else to use it.
HeyShayla - excellent advice. In college I needed 3 credits in anything to graduate. I figured someday I would be a mom so I took a parenting class. I was surprised at how much I learned. One thing the professor passed out free to everyone was a pamphlet from the government about having a baby on the cheap. Surprise! Our Federal Government said you don’t need to buy a crib, a dresser drawer or untreated cardboard box with a blanket on the bottom for softness was fine and safe. I was shocked but happy, even then (1985) I was a minimalist. The whole pamphlet was caring for a baby cheaply but safely.
😮😮😮 that’s crazy!!!
Such a cool class to take!
@@heyshayla it was. I thought I would take it and forget. But here I am 37 yrs later reminiscing.
They would never say this now they would tell you to consider abortion
Too bad you don't have that pamphlet anymore
Yes, I am always so sad when people talk about how much stuff they need for a baby and how expensive babies/ kids are because they dont need to be.
I'm 18 weeks, this has put my mind at ease sooo much. Thank you girl!!
16 weeks pregnant with TWINS. Even though I have a toddler, I have been panicking thinking about how I have to purchase all new stuff. This is super encouraging and helpful, thank you Shayla! (Also a fellow Minneapolis lady!)
Ayyyy Minnesota!!! Love it and congratulations!
I’ve already shared this video with people I know who are about to have their first kid! So glad you filmed this one!
Finally a real minimum must have video! I honestly have 0money to buy little un necessary things! Definitely 💯 going to recommend this video ❤
One totally unnecessary thing is a changing station! You can change them literally everywhere just put a diaper under the dirty diaper as a easy transition and a easy clean up when there is a bigger poop
Just cried watch this because... hormones. I'm a doctor and feel overwhelmed I can't imagine how others feel without even understanding what's happening in their bodies. Thank you... still trying to figure out diapers: disposable vs reusable... blessed to have found this channel.
I think at least most Americans understand the effects of hormones on their state of mind and mood
THANK YOU 👏 for being so simple and matter-of-fact. I'm 31, at 10 weeks, and I've never changed a diaper or babysat in my life. I know NOTHING. This just helped solidify that theres very few things a newborn needs and that all babies wil be different. I'll definitely be asking for hand-me-downs for my baby shower and NO clothes. Loved your tips and love that youre being sustainable about things. Just subbed. ❤
I love love love how lo-key and realistic this is. Thank you!
Super helpful 😁👍 I'm 19weeks with our first and I have no idea what I'm doing. Thank you for clearing up so many questions of mine in your videos, much love from FL !
Background sounds!!!! iPhone just keeps giving!!!!! I had not idea it’s there! Thanks a ton:)
I always appreciate your thoughtfulness in your channel. Very useful information. ❤
I am SO glad you're creating awareness about this consumerism craziness!!! Thank you :') ♡
I'm in my 28th week now and this is so comforting and useful. Thanks a bunch. Thanks also for the white noise tip.
Everything you said was gold in this video. I told my husband we are not buying a ton of TOYS AND GADGETS SHOES. NOOOOOO we bought a small house moving next year but still we have 0 space for baby supplies and I was like with baby #2 we put baby on the floor on a blanket so much more than putting him in any baby carrier swing. So this time one bouncer and maybe 2 carriers and blankets are going to be my go too. I don’t want THINGS our small house can’t take it and I hate clutter and baby will be so happy without those things anyway don’t give in to the consumer traps mamas. Sending love and support to you all. Baby boy number 3 coming in 6 weeks 2023
These are so helpful for us expecting first time mommas! I’m struggling to decide on bassinet, stroller and car seat since there are SO many options. It’s insane!
The background noise is about to be a game changer for me with my 3 year old. He loves rain sounds when sleeping. Never knew that was there thank you!!!!!
Thank you! Having my third and final in 5 days. I needed this!! LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!!
Finalizing my baby registry because people keep asking 😳 can be so overwhelming and I really don't want bunch of unnecessary items whew figuring out the swing was the hardest - thanks for the tips!
Love this video! It is totally resonating!
VERY good summary and approach. Thank you!!! I love it when someone is able to boil down something so complex and mage it sound so reassuring. ❤
I went to all the garage sales in the spring while six months pregnant. It was so fun to hunt for things!! I found so many things from my registry at sales. I also was gifted tons of hand-me-downs from my friend/cousin. And everything else comes from Once Upon a Child!
I’m 37 weeks and your video has to be the best video ever that I’ve come across every one is so focused on brands and all this glam and stuff and don’t get me wrong I love those item too but I love how easy and raw your instructions are I feel relieved because I didn’t want to invest in a crib my son probably won’t spend time in thank you for making this. . God bless you ❤
When i got pregnant i was mortified by all the things i "must" have. I made a baby wish list on amazon and got slowly overwhelmed by how massive the list was just after a couple of days of research 😮💨
Then i completely changed my perspective and decided to filter only the things my grandma in the balkan mountains would had had when she was raising her kids lol now I'm at about 5% of the items i initially needed 😅 29 weeks and I've only ordered her bed and a few bits for my hushand to start fixing a couple of things around the house we'll need done before she arrives lol
Yes! I lived in Romania for a while and no one had much and that’s when I realized babies don’t need a lot! Not even a change table, really.
You keep it so real! I love it!
Can’t wait to watch this Shayla 💖! I’m 22 weeks with my first and we’ve just started shopping - it is so overwhelming! The sheer volume and variety is insane - as a newbie I feel like I’m drowning. This video is exactly what I need 🥰
Hi, you really don't need much. Apart from nappies and 2nd hand clothes, The only essential thing I got was a sling. Everything else barely used.
I love how practical this video is. Thanks so much!
YOU'RE THE REALEST!!! I LOVE THIS VIDEO SO MUCH! ❤️
This is probably the most realistic and honest advice ever. To like the T !
Hey Shayla,
You are a blessing, the big sister/cousin/friend I don't have in real life.
Thanks!!!
Such a refreshing perspective!! Thank you!!
Best video ever!! Me and my husband are in the “time” for a baby conversation, and a lot of my questions and answers have been answered by you! Tks 🥰
Thanks for this! My husband and I are stationed across the country away from family. I am 15 weeks with my first, and by the time he is born, we will only have 6 months left before we move back. We have a small apartment, so I wanted to try to get the bare minimum for the first 6 months. This really helps!
On clothes, I recommend 1 1/2 outfits per day between laundry days for you. I can’t do laundry often because it’s not in our apartment and I can’t bring my kids to the laundry room (it’s really nasty and dangerous), so I do have more clothes than some people need.
Baby clothes with stains are perfectly fine! I cared with my first, but stains happen very easily and doesn’t mean the clothes are dirty.
OMG I love you already!!! I’m a first time mom and I’m wrecking my brain on what exactly to get for my baby. I always said that I wasn’t going to buy a lot because I want to raise her in a Montessori environment where less and simplicity is best. Your video is spot on my mental and thank you for not making me feel bad about not wanting to buy her
everything!!!
This video is so real and honest. Loved it 🙌🏼🫶🏼
this video was really helpful! my sister is pregnant and i wanna make sure i get her all the practical stuff because she prefers focusing on the cute side of things. Right now i have two lists, one with essentials and one with 'essentials' where she doesnt NEED them but they'll probably make life a lot easier for her. ive bought the kid one outfit because she sent me multiple tiktoks saying how cute it was but other than that im trying to keep my gifts as helpful as possible
Def needed to see this video thank you lesss stressful
So a note about barefoot shoes. I buy them for my 4 year old & one pair does NOT last an entire season. Barefoot shoes wear out much faster. This year he has 3 pairs of shoes. His nice "school shoes" Splay ($50). Cute & expensive. He's pretty much only allowed to wear them to school or running errands. NEVER playing in the back yard, because they get trashed too fast. He has "back yard shoes," which are actually water shoes ($25). Not real cute, but more durable & cheaper, so he's allowed to wear them anywhere. Then he has "work shoes." He & his dad do a lot of nasty home improvement projects (paint, sprayfoam, concrete, etc.). Those are conventional sneakers from the second hand store. Maybe $10. Between those 3 pairs, we made it through the summer & fall. Add in a pair of rain boots for camping & snow boots for winter, and we should be able to make it thru a whole year on 5 pairs. 🤞
Thanks for the iPhone sound machine hack! I just bought a sound machine that plugs into the wall and I didn’t wanna have to look for one on the go. Perfect!
This is exactly what I needed . So overwhelmed about deciding what to get for my firs baby
Something to sleep in at night
A bouncer or swing
Diapers/wipes
Clothes
Sheets and receiving blankets
Car seat
Something to bathe Baby in/on
Stroller
Towels
That is literally all I've used with my 6 Babies. They make you think you need so much. But it ends up just being an unused burden in the end
Love your channel and pages ☺️
This video was such a refreshing video to watch.
OMG, I love you!!! We just found out two weeks ago we're expecting, and even though it's early, we shared the news with our family, and boy did all the YOU NEED THIS & THAT conversations started rolling, and my first thought was, "What is the absolute bare minimum to cover the essentials without breaking the bank!" So glad I stumbled into your channel, thank you.
We just had a baby in August and my aunt was able to get pretty much everything we needed/wanted for free on Facebook. So awesome 👌. We did have to buy some newborn diapers and a few outfits because we were expecting a big baby and got a tiny peanut 🤣. And we splurged on the car seat of our dreams ..but even that, we didn't pay out of pocket because we got gift cards from my employer towards the purchase.
Amen for this basics viseo 🙌
Sick of the videos giving me anxiety with all the fluff stuff they make you feel is necessary 😰
Great info!!!!! I’m trying to be extremely frugal with this 3rd pregnancy. Thanks for all of your tips and tricks ❤
Does anyone else watch Shayla's videos while their baby naps and then hears hers in the background and hits the 10 sec rewind to double check it's her baby and not yours? Lol
P.S. Great vids Shayla, keep em coming! :)
This definitely eased my anxiety! Haha thank you so much. The iPhone tip…LOVE!
Guys! There’s a car seat in the market that like all car seats in the US passed the same safety tests and is like 50 bucks new, the cosco scenera next. not a mom yet but im definitely getting it when i have a baby. AND! you can use a convertible car seat from the start and save yourself some money that you would otherwise spend on an infant carrier they’ll only use for a year. good luck!
If only MIL understood my needs and desires to 1) keep things minimal and 2) favor second hand over new. But no. Cuz it’s not about me and my unborn child’s needs. It’s about her needs to satisfy her shopping addiction. 🙄
My mil does this too I thought I was the only one I accepted a used car seat from my mom and she got mad at me for it lol
Sounds like dad should talk to mom and set boundaries, enjoy your baby🤍
They are excited they are having a grandchild. She is old and it's not worth your time, she is stuck in her ways
Love this video! Such valuable info. I'm studying to be a birth and postpartum doula and recently got my BFP so as I've been studying I've realized that babies don't need as much "stuff" but to see that you've put that into practice makes me feel better about those theories. It's definitely against the grain but I feel that the research backs you up! Thank you for sharing :)
This makes the most sense in all the videos Ive watched.
I watched so much of you videos, along with others, while I was pregnant. I now have a 4 month old boy. I wasn't able to breastfeed, it just didn't work out. I took a lot of your advices, and while I will disclaim that I of course don't agree with every single thing I've heard. Not anything against anyone, everyone's different. And I love that. It's so much information from so many different life views. I just got my first apartment with a room just for him when he's older. I'm now returning to videos on how to get the "perfect" area for him. I've gotten everything for him second hand just about. He hates to be swaddled and would only sleep on someone's lap, he used RUclips for a sound machine. Lol. Such a picky little man. We LOVE your "Montessori bed" where it's in the floor. That way just as you've said "easier to put them to bed" and he won't roll off. No baby work family is "perfect" and like I've said I love seeing different ways different people do things. Thank you so much for all the honesty in your life, even though it's not 100% what everyone says you HAVE to do.
I always thought you needed so much stuff but you make it seem alot simpler and much less overwhelming. I don't have a baby, I'm just watching videos to satisfy the baby fever but this is super interesting
I agree with all of this. These advertisements and RUclips videos make everybody feel like they need a million different things. Trust me, it’s easier to just have the bare minimum and save yourself all the stress of cleaning and picking up clutter.
Thank you so much this helps a lot
Yo You Came in Clutchnessss this is my 1st video I’ve ever watched & it was Hella Helpful Omgoodness Thank you so Much. Im having a Baby! Girl!
Thank you for this video! Holy smokes, the number of times I've tried to look for minimalist lists and they tell me I need a bottle warmer.
I'm due in February with my first, but I had my "baby shower" in November because I live out of town from all my family and I didn't want to travel by plane close to my due date. I put baby shower in quotes because I emphasized to my mom that I wanted strictly money or gift cards (or nothing at all) because pretty much anything anyone bought would have to be shipped (I was travelling by plane after all) AND I'd rather buy second hand myself. Queue the baby shower and getting a ton of baby towels and clothes (all new) from people. Not to mention I brought some of the towels home and they pretty much ripped from ONE TIME WASHING. Sure, I can darn it and fix it, but I think I'll just end up using them as rags since it's probably not even worth the effort. I also wish I had gotten money (or even a gift card) instead so I could have used it for something I need. I'm actually thankful we're keeping the sex a surprise because it means a lot of people shy away from buying things because it's "too complicated".
The other issue I've had is not on my front, but my mom. She constantly tells me people are so happy to have a baby announcement (especially since this is the first baby for both grandparents) that I shouldn't shame anyone for wanting to buy me new items (but it's completely fine to disregard my wants). She also told me that people would look down on giving me money because I could use it toward something not baby-related (which is a completely ridiculous idea to me considering I want to buy second hand and I don't expect anyone to do the heavy lifting on that front). As for my emphasis on second hand, she keeps telling me I'll have a second baby and I'll use it for them, so it'll be "second hand". But I don't get the point in spending 100 dollars up front on clothes that technically get used for 6 months TOTAL for two babies. It's caused a lot of frustration on my end, and frankly, next time my husband and I have a baby (if we're so lucky), I probably won't announce it to anyone until they're born.
Sorry for the rant, but seeing a video where a mom makes the same arguments I've made (buy second hand, ask people who have young children to give hand-me-downs, give me money so I can buy what I need when I need it, etc.) makes me feel happy that I'm not crazy, but also extremely aggravated that it's a constant fight with the family in my life.
I support you mama!! 100%
28 weeks FTM pregnant and trying tonot buy every cute thing i find. Loved this video, felt like an old friend giving me frank advice!
Have my sister a few months before me so I have nothing to prepare ahead but just to let you know that you’re so genuine and cute ❤
THANK YOU!!! This is sooooo helpful!
Love our podcast Shayla:) You are so authentic, fun and share such great information:) Thank you!!
Thank you for this! I’m feeling so overwhelmed with having my first
Totally, I think it’s better to get stuff as you need it. Baby’s require soo little. Look up my video “how to repair after tearing” mama is the one who needs stuff ❤️
Awesome and so informative great job👍 having my first girl and so overwhelming but so worth it thank you great video.
This is the energy I neededddd. I am so not an over preparer if anything I’m a procrastinator. 34 weeks with my first I just moved into a new home nursery is 0% set up and I could care less🤷🏻♀️
👏👏👏👏
First time hearing you, and I already love your vibe 🥰😊 definitely subscribing to your channel's 😁
We are 17 weeks pregnant now. Thank God we found your video.
The floor is best! I never put my son in anything but his swing and he was crawling at 4months and almost walking at 9!
Thank you for being REAL! This is so incredibly helpful. 15 weeks now, like: wtf do I ACTUALLY need?! I’ve basically been looking up what you mentioned here to get so that’s very relieving to know I don’t need to get sooooo much.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I take any hand me down stuff from friends and family. I didn’t add any clothes nor shoes in my registry
Thank you good work on this video homie!
I started following you for solo travel tips back in 2018, now I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m super excited! I trust your advice, you saved me a lot of money while I traveled by myself and I know you will be real about what we actually need ❤
Yaaay!!!! I love all of this! Congratulations!