I noticed that I I did not add my graduation photos that I was talking about in the video.....when I was so broken down that I couldn't even enjoy my day...couldn't even dress up....click here instagram.com/p/C2hm1O0IJDo/?igsh=MW5zbjU5MXlvamszNA== to see those photos and if you're interested follow me...we can connect on socials😊
The first woman is absolutely correct. I went through DV twice. The second time wasn't physical but mental, but after 6 years, it suddenly turned physical. That was inevitable. The abuser love bombs you when they feel you may leave, so its a repeated cycle. The longer you stay, the more comfortable they become. The more comfortable they get, the worse it gets. The more instantly verbally disrespectful they become, the more violent the physical abuse becomes.
My mom was a DV victim for 5 minutes. I say that facetiously because it took her all of no time at all to see, to identify, to strategize and logistically plot the removal of herself and us kids out of the war zone called "home". Y'all can come for me but I am going to say this; the victim may not be responsible for the abuse, but they do bear some responsibility for what happens after the abuse starts. There should never be a time when you are DEBATING with yourself about HOW MUCH ABUSE IS OK before you get out, as an option for your life. My mom taught us that a man has 5 minutes to show his behind (her analogy for the low tolerance a woman should have for abusive behavior), after which a woman should be making plans to get in the wind.
That's why some men wait until you're trapped... Like, he got you to quit your job, he isolated you, he got you pregnant, he took your money, he stopped your vehicle from working, he moved you out to the middle of nowhere, something like that. Then he shows his ugly side. Thank God for domestic violence shelters, for some women they are the only means of escape.
@@briskettacos The reason I give my mom deep props for getting away from her abuser is that there were NO WOMEN"S SHELTERS for victims of DV at that time when she left. Born in the backwoods of the south she never made it to high school. Had only ever done domestic work, had no job at the time and no finances of her own, 4 kids. But she had enough dignity to not be treated like a dog and she found a way out. No excuses, ladies.
@mama-nono3652 Thank you for saying it!!! I hate to hear that you all had to experience that but I'm happy that your mama had enough sense to get OUT OF DANGER! There is NO EXCUSE to allow abuse to your children😢😢😢 move out n move on. Glad your safe and wish you all well😊❤
You were right to say that we need to figure out why we are attracted to this type of person. When you are used to toxic people you feel comfortable with toxic. You mistake the comfort and charisma from people as a good thing, when really it’s the same toxic people you are used to.
Yeah if you look closely most times it's normally deep within the child in you...sth important that you were depraved off as a child or sth that happened to you leaving you with some form of childhood trauma....so you go out seeking it unconsciously only to fall into a cycle of attracting the same old dusties just in different bodies.... Thanks❤️
14:48 I have a recording of my ex NPD abuser saying almost this exact same stuff to me. And I have hundreds of texts saying the same. He tried to legitimately destroy me. I got away. The big part of Narc Abuse is that they specifically target every aspect of you as an entity. Your character, your personality, your morals, your looks, your other relationships, EVERYTHING
Yeah abuse is global trust me especially here in Africa it's the worst you've ever seen because most men are very primitive and women enable it e.g. mothers in law
Thankyou so much....our stories are valid...we have to learn that we matter and they need to be told...to hopefully spare others from the same tragic experiences...
I had children from a violent monster. It took at least 10 years before I truly got away. You have to move to a place where they never get your address, ever. I've had the black eye, cut face, break-ins, being held prisoner. How dare they turn your lives into nightmares. Trust when I say they do suffer in the end, I've seen it.
Im so sorry you went through that i feel like he was jealous of your studies and the ability of you to be a mother. I am so happy you got out of that like thats so scary. I know hes jealous because of how hard he would hit like the aggression towards you was insane as woman like and then you still graduated congratulations and God bless but then hes drinking your drink like it was.for tour graduation. Men are so confusing because sometimes they have jealousy like they wish they could be you I can never say that I know exactly how you feel, because the abusive relationship i was in was much lighter than yours. But i have had a man hit me as hard as he can and it is different. Like a man shouldn't hit a woman ever anyway, but theres a difference. Like the type of hits that spin you all the way around or immediately break skin like i had a man punch me in my eye and my eye was full of blood i couldn't even see out of it... But i know God protects you and i appreciate it because the knife situation hurt my feelings and im so grateful you are okay.
@@OrganicAlumination yeah....sometimes I forget how much I really went through at that time.....but I learnt a lot from it and I'm still learning......thankyou for empathizing with me.....I empathize with you too....the next time a man hit me he's going to jail idc....I'm not the same person....I love myself way too much now....I pray we all do and that God covers us with his grace and mercy....because it's crazy out here y'all....in America you women are lucky because you can take certain legal actions that would protect you...in Africa abuse is so normalized to the extent that you're told to preserve and trust me most women here end up without certain body parts or dead for that matter.....let's protect ourselves out here ladies...these men are not to be joked with....
That woman who said she needed to put herself before her dog, really needs to get her dog away from her abusive partner, a pet is like a child and needs to be protected just as much.
Yes the dog is "like" a child. But losing your life because of a pet is insane. If there's a safe way to leave with the pet , then do so. If not , that doesn't make you a bad person or undeserving of an animal companion.
What the h3ll is going on here. How could so many women have this experience with men and just take it. If you are in this situation, if a man hit you, never talk back. Walk away after the first hit. You never go hand to hand combat with a man in a fight. But, you wait, and you plan,... You cook and put sleeping stuff in it. Then you go to town. Pack you things and leave
My childhood friend recently died trying to check on a woman who she had just seen being beaten by her boyfriend in public. He returned, murdered my friend and fled with the beaten woman.
I applaud your vulnerability. You didn’t have to share so much of yourself and you did. I hope it helps other women find healing and I hope it helped you to tell your story 💜
Yeah..... I also hope someone can learn from it too and understand that most of these topics that I post about myself I've grown through these experiences....by sharing I also keep healing....
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ Your mum is looking down on you now and will be so proud of you and how far you’ve come. You’ve honoured her memory 🙏 Love to you and all the survivors here too ❤️
I'm pretty sure many women in women shelters pray for it to never happen to anyone but yet we are here. Evil will always exist, there's no good without evil, no God without demon. Those creatures have demonic nature.
I applaud the heart but what "isn't worth it" is losing your life over someone who will still be laying up under a dude when your family close your casket. *Call the police. 🚨
Laughing can be a coping mechanism and/or stress reliever. I sometimes chuckle talking about how I was almost shot as a kid when a man attacked/shot a neighbor's friend in the leg (I witnessed it) and he just stared at me but ran off. edit: and/or stress reliever I sometimes laugh in other EXTREMELY uncomfortable situations. The body is...weird.
Most traumatized victims have to disconnect from their story to tell it well....because if they connect to it while telling it....they start getting emotional...trust me I'm very much traumatized to this day and I cry sometimes.....but laughing is a way to disconnect and shake those feelings off.....plus my abuser may be watching don't want them all happy that I'm still affected by their B.S I mean people who understand this type of PTSD know....and clearly you can hear the pain behind my laugh.....
Luv's ya girlfriend! Us humans Need Your Voice D.V. & mental health. Your right! It's nothing to do with love. It's the opposite. The best advice on kindness to All,All the Time. You've got a good mind & spirit . You're a positive Force and o be recond with. Thank you for sharing such personal things in your life. Yes! Self luv. Soo important. . Friends and family. God Bless & protect you'll Amen 🙏
The first story, seems made up for the most part. Her arm was just smashed with a car door, and she watches this, and instead of calling the police, she honks her horn? Then she "cant get her shoes on fast enough" but then says "by the time i put my shoes on and got out the car, they were gone?" Then you literally say, you asked "are y'all good?" then said he responded "yeah we're good" but she wasn't asking him? y'all applies to more than one person, so yes you were asking him. Then she gives the girl "a pep talk" while again, her arm was smashed by a car door? To me it just sounds like she exaggerated a lot of the story, to get her views
😂you know the funny thing is that....after watching this video several times and listening to the details I had thought so too...but it's really bad for someone to make up a story like this knowing very well people die from it or end up psychologically traumatized....
@@morganandrea9323 I'm still new to this.....so RUclips gave me an option to replace the music on those clips or delete them I didn't know they would be that loud btw...still learning...but I understand where you're coming from....I would react the same way too....don't worry I take constructive criticism well
So sorry about that..... I've learnt the hard way trust me....won't repeat that mistake again....okay what happened was that RUclips said it's either I delete the clips or replace the music didn't know it would be that annoying
I noticed that I I did not add my graduation photos that I was talking about in the video.....when I was so broken down that I couldn't even enjoy my day...couldn't even dress up....click here instagram.com/p/C2hm1O0IJDo/?igsh=MW5zbjU5MXlvamszNA==
to see those photos and if you're interested follow me...we can connect on socials😊
The first woman is absolutely correct. I went through DV twice. The second time wasn't physical but mental, but after 6 years, it suddenly turned physical. That was inevitable. The abuser love bombs you when they feel you may leave, so its a repeated cycle. The longer you stay, the more comfortable they become. The more comfortable they get, the worse it gets. The more instantly verbally disrespectful they become, the more violent the physical abuse becomes.
My mom was a DV victim for 5 minutes. I say that facetiously because it took her all of no time at all to see, to identify, to strategize and logistically plot the removal of herself and us kids out of the war zone called "home". Y'all can come for me but I am going to say this; the victim may not be responsible for the abuse, but they do bear some responsibility for what happens after the abuse starts. There should never be a time when you are DEBATING with yourself about HOW MUCH ABUSE IS OK before you get out, as an option for your life. My mom taught us that a man has 5 minutes to show his behind (her analogy for the low tolerance a woman should have for abusive behavior), after which a woman should be making plans to get in the wind.
That's why some men wait until you're trapped...
Like, he got you to quit your job, he isolated you, he got you pregnant, he took your money, he stopped your vehicle from working, he moved you out to the middle of nowhere, something like that. Then he shows his ugly side.
Thank God for domestic violence shelters, for some women they are the only means of escape.
@@briskettacos The reason I give my mom deep props for getting away from her abuser is that there were NO WOMEN"S SHELTERS for victims of DV at that time when she left. Born in the backwoods of the south she never made it to high school. Had only ever done domestic work, had no job at the time and no finances of her own, 4 kids. But she had enough dignity to not be treated like a dog and she found a way out. No excuses, ladies.
@mama-nono3652 Thank you for saying it!!! I hate to hear that you all had to experience that but I'm happy that your mama had enough sense to get OUT OF DANGER! There is NO EXCUSE to allow abuse to your children😢😢😢 move out n move on. Glad your safe and wish you all well😊❤
You were right to say that we need to figure out why we are attracted to this type of person. When you are used to toxic people you feel comfortable with toxic. You mistake the comfort and charisma from people as a good thing, when really it’s the same toxic people you are used to.
Yeah if you look closely most times it's normally deep within the child in you...sth important that you were depraved off as a child or sth that happened to you leaving you with some form of childhood trauma....so you go out seeking it unconsciously only to fall into a cycle of attracting the same old dusties just in different bodies....
Thanks❤️
Blessings 💞 that they all made it out alive.😢❤💪
Almost died last January…01/13/23 to be exact. Thank GOD I left and am on my healing journey.
@@pattilightmayo glad for you too ❤️
Proud of you for leaving and wishing you well as you heal
Better is coming and you deserve that and more ❤️🩹
14:48 I have a recording of my ex NPD abuser saying almost this exact same stuff to me. And I have hundreds of texts saying the same. He tried to legitimately destroy me. I got away. The big part of Narc Abuse is that they specifically target every aspect of you as an entity. Your character, your personality, your morals, your looks, your other relationships, EVERYTHING
Yesss🗣️ that part "they specifically target everything about you" all of you in short.. including your family members
the abuse in ADOSand Diaspora relationships need to be talked about more at 45:00 the abuse and dust is global
Yeah abuse is global trust me especially here in Africa it's the worst you've ever seen because most men are very primitive and women enable it e.g. mothers in law
Sorry you went through that.. you are so strong for surviving and telling your story ❤
Thankyou so much....our stories are valid...we have to learn that we matter and they need to be told...to hopefully spare others from the same tragic experiences...
💃I’m proud of you my Kenyan sister. May God continue to bless you and your little boy.
Thankyou 😊 sis...God bless you too
I had children from a violent monster. It took at least 10 years before I truly got away. You have to move to a place where they never get your address, ever. I've had the black eye, cut face, break-ins, being held prisoner. How dare they turn your lives into nightmares. Trust when I say they do suffer in the end, I've seen it.
That silent moment was everything ❤
Im so sorry you went through that i feel like he was jealous of your studies and the ability of you to be a mother. I am so happy you got out of that like thats so scary. I know hes jealous because of how hard he would hit like the aggression towards you was insane as woman like and then you still graduated congratulations and God bless but then hes drinking your drink like it was.for tour graduation. Men are so confusing because sometimes they have jealousy like they wish they could be you
I can never say that I know exactly how you feel, because the abusive relationship i was in was much lighter than yours. But i have had a man hit me as hard as he can and it is different. Like a man shouldn't hit a woman ever anyway, but theres a difference. Like the type of hits that spin you all the way around or immediately break skin like i had a man punch me in my eye and my eye was full of blood i couldn't even see out of it... But i know God protects you and i appreciate it because the knife situation hurt my feelings and im so grateful you are okay.
@@OrganicAlumination yeah....sometimes I forget how much I really went through at that time.....but I learnt a lot from it and I'm still learning......thankyou for empathizing with me.....I empathize with you too....the next time a man hit me he's going to jail idc....I'm not the same person....I love myself way too much now....I pray we all do and that God covers us with his grace and mercy....because it's crazy out here y'all....in America you women are lucky because you can take certain legal actions that would protect you...in Africa abuse is so normalized to the extent that you're told to preserve and trust me most women here end up without certain body parts or dead for that matter.....let's protect ourselves out here ladies...these men are not to be joked with....
That woman who said she needed to put herself before her dog, really needs to get her dog away from her abusive partner, a pet is like a child and needs to be protected just as much.
For a moment, I thought so too....like she really left the dog😢
@@mskabue someone willingly putting their pets in danger like that, aren't worthy of having pets.
Yes the dog is "like" a child. But losing your life because of a pet is insane. If there's a safe way to leave with the pet , then do so. If not , that doesn't make you a bad person or undeserving of an animal companion.
You're worth more than a dog. Screw that.
What the h3ll is going on here. How could so many women have this experience with men and just take it. If you are in this situation, if a man hit you, never talk back. Walk away after the first hit. You never go hand to hand combat with a man in a fight. But, you wait, and you plan,... You cook and put sleeping stuff in it. Then you go to town. Pack you things and leave
Stay single
Thank you for sharing your story. Your beautiful soul shines through your eyes and smile. God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much!💕💕
❤❤❤ thank you for covering this
Some guy s are sick 😢.i have never had to get physical with a women it like taking advantage of kids and the elderly
Brown eyes are beautiful. She looks good! Smart ladie!
My childhood friend recently died trying to check on a woman who she had just seen being beaten by her boyfriend in public. He returned, murdered my friend and fled with the beaten woman.
I'm so sorry for your loss
I applaud your vulnerability. You didn’t have to share so much of yourself and you did. I hope it helps other women find healing and I hope it helped you to tell your story 💜
Yeah..... I also hope someone can learn from it too and understand that most of these topics that I post about myself I've grown through these experiences....by sharing I also keep healing....
@@mskabue many blessings and happy healing to you 💙
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ Your mum is looking down on you now and will be so proud of you and how far you’ve come. You’ve honoured her memory 🙏
Love to you and all the survivors here too ❤️
Thankyou 😊
I relate to this so much sis. I wish for you all the happiness your heart and hands can hold 💞
Thank you so much!! I've healed for the most part....but you know one never forgets that
If five or 10 people of the same frequency were to gather together and pray that stuff like this never happens again, it would stop happening.❤
Please stop with this foolishness. 😑
I'm pretty sure many women in women shelters pray for it to never happen to anyone but yet we are here. Evil will always exist, there's no good without evil, no God without demon. Those creatures have demonic nature.
Haaahaaaaaaaa hehaw
The girl at the 36:40 mark was everything for me... I am growing out of that now but wow
I applaud the heart but what "isn't worth it" is losing your life over someone who will still be laying up under a dude when your family close your casket. *Call the police. 🚨
Amen! Congratulations for leaving!!! Proud of you.
Na mko sawa huko na siasa?
Kumetulia Sasa....Tulidemonstrate tukachoka😂but point still stands Ruto has to go
Thankyou...❤I had to make that hard decision and I'm proud of myself
14:42 he's evil
Nobody deserves abuse. It's absolutely heartbreaking 💔
They way she laughing about nearly dying is wild lol
Laughing can be a coping mechanism and/or stress reliever. I sometimes chuckle talking about how I was almost shot as a kid when a man attacked/shot a neighbor's friend in the leg (I witnessed it) and he just stared at me but ran off. edit: and/or stress reliever
I sometimes laugh in other EXTREMELY uncomfortable situations. The body is...weird.
It's probably many years ago plus it's a natural reaction for some. I laugh about weird stuff that's trauma from my past too
I laugh when im nervous or feel like im in an awkward situation. It's a mechanism for some of us.
It's a way of coping. Her laugh is really camouflaged pain. Trust me, she has PTSD from it, and when it's triggered, she can't help but cry.
Most traumatized victims have to disconnect from their story to tell it well....because if they connect to it while telling it....they start getting emotional...trust me I'm very much traumatized to this day and I cry sometimes.....but laughing is a way to disconnect and shake those feelings off.....plus my abuser may be watching don't want them all happy that I'm still affected by their B.S I mean people who understand this type of PTSD know....and clearly you can hear the pain behind my laugh.....
I really like your channel, your voice is really calming 🫶🏾
Luv's ya girlfriend! Us humans Need Your Voice D.V. & mental health. Your right! It's nothing to do with love. It's the opposite. The best advice on kindness to All,All the Time. You've got a good mind & spirit . You're a positive Force and o be recond with. Thank you for sharing such personal things in your life. Yes! Self luv. Soo important. . Friends and family. God Bless & protect you'll Amen 🙏
Your so strong
❤️
@26:50 💯💯💯💯
The first story, seems made up for the most part. Her arm was just smashed with a car door, and she watches this, and instead of calling the police, she honks her horn?
Then she "cant get her shoes on fast enough"
but then says "by the time i put my shoes on and got out the car, they were gone?"
Then you literally say, you asked "are y'all good?"
then said he responded "yeah we're good"
but she wasn't asking him?
y'all applies to more than one person, so yes you were asking him.
Then she gives the girl "a pep talk"
while again, her arm was smashed by a car door?
To me it just sounds like she exaggerated a lot of the story, to get her views
Yeah- somethings off. She would be in agony . Not taking her to the er is baffling. Both walking away like nothing? After all that pain?
😂you know the funny thing is that....after watching this video several times and listening to the details I had thought so too...but it's really bad for someone to make up a story like this knowing very well people die from it or end up psychologically traumatized....
What's with the music... why post if music is gonna be put over it
@@morganandrea9323 sorry about that.....those are editing mistakes that I have to work on going forward
@mskabue sorry about that, it was just so random. But great job 💫
@@morganandrea9323 I'm still new to this.....so RUclips gave me an option to replace the music on those clips or delete them I didn't know they would be that loud btw...still learning...but I understand where you're coming from....I would react the same way too....don't worry I take constructive criticism well
@@mskabueHi, please can your type of content be demonetized for reusable content??
The music is just so horrible annoying and unnecessary 😡
So sorry about that..... I've learnt the hard way trust me....won't repeat that mistake again....okay what happened was that RUclips said it's either I delete the clips or replace the music didn't know it would be that annoying
@@mskabueoh, I figured RUclips had something to do with that. No worries, girly. We appreciate your hardworking. ❤