Myths About FTM Bottom Surgery

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  • Опубликовано: 23 дек 2024

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  • @rhihanson1012
    @rhihanson1012 4 года назад +3408

    I am the grandmother of a f to m transgender child. Thank you so much for your videos. I turn to them for information often. I appreciate you.

    • @inspectregadget2856
      @inspectregadget2856 4 года назад +407

      Thank you so much for being supportive of your grandchild, I hope my grandmother's as supportive as you are

    • @tanialovesillustrating4312
      @tanialovesillustrating4312 4 года назад +136

      ❤️ u r so supportive

    • @limp_bizshit420
      @limp_bizshit420 4 года назад +104

      So wholesome 🥲

    • @kiiiograms6210
      @kiiiograms6210 4 года назад +84

      🥺 thanks for being supportive and willing to be educated

    • @YouDontNeedToKnowAboutMe
      @YouDontNeedToKnowAboutMe 4 года назад +32

      that's amazing to have a supportive grandma like you ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @genderpunktheo
    @genderpunktheo 5 лет назад +2629

    "today we're talking about penises on this channel" he says, surprising absolutely no one

    • @annipsy2185
      @annipsy2185 5 лет назад +14

      peeen

    • @theRoseofmyheart
      @theRoseofmyheart 5 лет назад +2

      you find most men to be dorks? Why?@Jett Jo johnson

    • @Vsgsissy
      @Vsgsissy 5 лет назад +1

      genderpunksap Lmaooo seriously 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @dihuixing
    @dihuixing 5 лет назад +2615

    Literally my first thought when you started talking was how nice the quality of your voice sounded. So I'd say the pretty mic was worth it :)

    • @vee7586
      @vee7586 5 лет назад +12

      my first thought. makes his voice quite sexy too

    • @welostthewishlist
      @welostthewishlist 5 лет назад +7

      1000th like :D

  • @jlinus7251
    @jlinus7251 5 лет назад +6085

    I'm not even trans. I'm just curious about how all of this works

    • @emmarach6168
      @emmarach6168 5 лет назад +190

      I share this same curiosity as well!

    • @emmarach6168
      @emmarach6168 5 лет назад +111

      He cracks me up, I just love how he expresses himself!

    • @kenni8446
      @kenni8446 5 лет назад +23

      Same

    • @tiredandcaffeinated
      @tiredandcaffeinated 5 лет назад +43

      Agreed! Super interesting and he's a cool person :)

    • @DaraLenihan.
      @DaraLenihan. 5 лет назад +133

      Props to all of you for educating yourselves ❤️ makes a difference

  • @ajsmart1666
    @ajsmart1666 5 лет назад +3831

    "mini willy" is the most british sounding thing im----

    • @masonk.wilson538
      @masonk.wilson538 5 лет назад +12

      Ikr

    • @najeyrifai293
      @najeyrifai293 5 лет назад +44

      OI wot are you insinuwoiting moit?!

    • @Adzinth
      @Adzinth 4 года назад +8

      You obviously have never been to the UK

    • @ajsmart1666
      @ajsmart1666 4 года назад +2

      @@shaz7982 yes !

    • @ajsmart1666
      @ajsmart1666 4 года назад +14

      @@Adzinth ????? I was born here ??????????

  • @riverhazel2478
    @riverhazel2478 5 лет назад +2587

    Jamie: "I've got a new set up right here" *points at crotch*
    Was that on purpose? 😂😂

  • @RoseBlackwells
    @RoseBlackwells 4 года назад +1117

    my partner is FTM, and this was extremely helpful. He’s been talking about getting bottom surgery (he got too surgery after we graduated high school)
    Thank you for educating us!!

    • @cavetownistherapy
      @cavetownistherapy 4 года назад +50

      Full support to both you and your partner. I too plan on surgically transitioning after I complete high school. Much love to you two 😘😘😊😉

    • @RoseBlackwells
      @RoseBlackwells 4 года назад +9

      gxrebxnny bxy good luck!!

    • @charlesmcintosh3239
      @charlesmcintosh3239 3 года назад +7

      You w
      Will regret it 5 to 10 yrs down the road

    • @egghead5990
      @egghead5990 3 года назад +17

      @@charlesmcintosh3239 y

    • @charlesmcintosh3239
      @charlesmcintosh3239 3 года назад +4

      @@cavetownistherapy you will regret you are making s very serious mistake.
      Once you change. You can't get it back

  • @jfs983
    @jfs983 5 лет назад +2527

    Obligatory comment: It's okay if you don't have bottom dysphoria! It's okay if you develop bottom dysphoria later on and change your transition goals! You don't have to have everything figured out right now. I'm 25 and a year on T, and I have zero plans to get bottom surgery 'cause I don't have bottom dysphoria.

    • @Kleineganz
      @Kleineganz 5 лет назад +119

      I completely agree. I am 8 months on T and I don't have bottom dysphoria either. I'm only getting top surgery and a hysterectomy (something I have been begging doctors for since before you were born).

    • @zraashaq
      @zraashaq 5 лет назад +108

      I've been living as a guy for 11 years. Originally I wanted bottom surgery because I was told trans guys HAD to have bottom dysphoria and HAD to have bottom surgery. We've come so far since I came out and I don't feel ashamed anymore with the fact that I don't want meta or phallo for a vaginectomy.

    • @lightning2367
      @lightning2367 5 лет назад +88

      I have bottom dysphoria but I don’t know if bottom surgery will be worth it for me, with all the pain, the cost, and the results aren’t where I want them to be right now. I will wait and see 👏🏼

    • @darkstrikedust3154
      @darkstrikedust3154 5 лет назад +54

      Some people just don't want run risk with the surgery

    • @edgyspoon5793
      @edgyspoon5793 5 лет назад +36

      Say👏🏻 it 👏🏻louder for👏🏻the people 👏🏻who still 👏🏻identify as "truscum"👏🏻 in 2019👏🏻 can 👏🏻hear 👏🏻it in👏🏻 the back👏🏻

  • @BartonAShulman
    @BartonAShulman 5 лет назад +1449

    I'm a therapist specializing in helping trans folk obtain confirming surgeries, and this will be SUPER helpful to my clients! Thank you!

    • @MinusS_Art
      @MinusS_Art 4 года назад +55

      I wish I had a caring therapist like you :( my mom said she'd get me a gender therapist and it's been 2 years now so I think she lied

    • @skeis7533
      @skeis7533 4 года назад +2

      Wow

    • @lol-ld4ni
      @lol-ld4ni 4 года назад +10

      Barton A. Shulman can 11 year olds be transgender?

    • @skeis7533
      @skeis7533 4 года назад +14

      sady_yeet yeh, if it’s what you feel then sure! I’m not gonna tell you it’s just a faze. I realized when I was 12.

    • @stardustlover8446
      @stardustlover8446 4 года назад +11

      You type of people are why I'm still alive

  • @lucythemermaidx
    @lucythemermaidx 5 лет назад +651

    Mic was definitely worth it! Can notice the difference immediately! :)

  • @theRoseofmyheart
    @theRoseofmyheart 5 лет назад +826

    I have only watched a few of your videos. I am a straight cis-women but I liked to be informed about what is going on in the world. You look healthy and wonderful and your personality is charming. Thank you for the information.

    • @dorisday5871
      @dorisday5871 5 лет назад +40

      I agree I think you are a great advocate for FTM transgender movement. You are utterly charming and it's so refreshing that you are open and honest. I'm sick of all the secrecy in Hollywood' and trying to guess what gender everyone is. Thank you.

    • @Vsgsissy
      @Vsgsissy 5 лет назад +7

      theRoseofmyheart same 🙋🏻‍♀️

    • @helenmurphy1758
      @helenmurphy1758 5 лет назад +7

      Oh my gosh, me too

  • @adrianaperezz3351
    @adrianaperezz3351 4 года назад +275

    “Useless flesh bag”
    IM WHEEZING

  • @susanne5803
    @susanne5803 5 лет назад +279

    I had a couple of years ago some pretty serious surgery (not trans-related). I took the following steps:
    1. After the doctor told me, what surgery I needed I looked the surgery up (Wikipedia).
    2. I looked up individual stories of people who had the surgery done.
    3. I made a list of questions as to procedures, materials and risks.
    4. With that (mostly informal and anecdotal) 'knowledge' I now went to the official statistics. (Provided by health ministries, health insurances, doctor's associations - here orthopedic)
    5. Who is especially at risk, and do I belong to a high risk group and if so, what can I do to improve my chances. Or: is my situation so bad that I am willing to take the risk to get the chance of improvement?
    6. Now I looked up hospitals. Are there any hospitals partnering with quality management? Or better yet an independent assessment center? How are their numbers?
    7. Is any of those hospitals in my (affordable) proximity? How important are visits of family and/ or friends? Can they reach the hospital? Can a friend stay close by overnight?
    8. Does this hospital offer public information about the surgery? What kind of information? Is it possible to meet an experienced doctor without already committing to the surgery? Does my insurance pay for information visits?
    9. How long do I have to wait for appointments - for information, preparation and for the surgery?
    10. Does the hospital and/ or my insurance support any scientific study where I can participate? (I help others and surveillance is better as a rule.)
    In general: any weird feelings inside your stomach may be a sign, that you are not yet ready/ that the procedure or the hospital doesn't fully convince you/ that you need counselling to get a clearer picture of what you want and need. Needing transition surgery is (in most cases) not a life threatening condition, so you have that time.
    I hope, that helps a little! All the best to all of you! Very kind, honest and informative channel - thank you!

    • @willbephore3086
      @willbephore3086 2 года назад +6

      This is a fantastic breakdown, thank you.
      I have health complications such that a procedure I have been told I need to get, could wind up going not great, with rather severe consequences.
      I've been waffling about it all, and appreciate this cut and dried approach to what has been somewhat vague mental and emotional splashing about.

    • @susanne5803
      @susanne5803 2 года назад +4

      @@willbephore3086 Sometimes we just have choices between bad things. Try to find information about the several options of treatment - plus: very important! ask a competent and not involved specialist what would happen if you don't do anything.
      With some medical problems nothing terrible actually happens. You just continue to have the same problems or to have flare ups if it's chronic. But that's stuff you know and you are somewhat experienced to deal with.
      With some medical problems things turn progressive and ugly. You might need a treatment you want to avoid now later anyway for palliative reasons. I think that makes the option to take the treatment now and have at least a statistical chance for real improvement more palatable.
      What are things you want to do in your life? How important are they? How important are they if you weigh different interests and activities against each other?
      Do you have a job you love? How can you continue to do this job if you
      - don't do anything and get maybe progressively more ill?
      - take this treatment and have a bad outcome? (Unless of course it's death, then it won't matter much to you ...)
      Do you have a partner, children, parents, family, friends, fandoms you want to be together with or are responsible for? What would it feel like for you if you can't do that anymore?
      Does time matter? Is a different less risky treatment in the foreseeable future available? Could you physically manage a couple more years?
      Write lists and decision trees! Get this stuff out of your brain!
      I wish I could help more. All the best with whatever decision you arrive at - and if you decide you take the treatment I wish you experienced and kind people around you and serendipity! Take care!

    • @willbephore3086
      @willbephore3086 2 года назад +2

      @@susanne5803 Thank you for these continued thoughts. It sounds like you've had to really think through these things for yourself as well, and are also a highly competent person as well as a caring one. I suspect your friends and families are lucky to have you. :) Wishing your process or procedures have gone well, and that you're able to live a life that you can be satisfied with.

    • @susanne5803
      @susanne5803 2 года назад +1

      @@willbephore3086 Thank you! It took two years to get mostly pain free while moving. One year longer than predicted. But even two years are in memory not very much. Just before they loomed disproportionately large. And I am single carer for my grown up disabled and chronically ill child which makes any procedure really difficult to organize. It worked out alright in the end though. But I was seriously scared before ... I hope things turn out alright for you, too!

    • @willbephore3086
      @willbephore3086 2 года назад +2

      @@susanne5803 that is an awful lot to be navigating and holding in your day to day life, big respect for the ways you found to move through.

  • @jamessorensen3447
    @jamessorensen3447 5 лет назад +396

    The main point is that there are more trained doctors today than there were 10 years ago. These things weren't myths then.

    • @daniellyons2588
      @daniellyons2588 5 лет назад +51

      Florida prin Samuel it’s scary to know you think in such a way. As a human, surely you should realise that there’s more to you than the ability to have children. As a real man, I love to treat women with respect, love and care. In fact, I have no intention of ever getting a woman pregnant due to the fact overpopulation already exists. I’m sure a lot of women and men would prefer to take the moral choice of adopting. Have you ever considered a transgender male wants bottom surgery to make themselves more comfortable within their gender? It’s sad to see that small minded people like you still exist 😔

    • @floridaprinsamuel6973
      @floridaprinsamuel6973 5 лет назад +5

      Daniel Lyons she won’t ever be a man!
      If her DNA is shown in a crime seen it will come up as a female 😂😂😂😂

    • @daniellyons2588
      @daniellyons2588 5 лет назад +46

      Florida prin Samuel you’re just proving the fact you’re small minded... being transgender means you were born in the wrong body. It means your physical body doesn’t align with how you feel inside. If you did your research like an intelligent human being, you’d of read the facts and the facts prove that being transgender is legitimate and proven by science. But of course, continue to embarrass yourself for the whole world to see. We’re laughing at you.

    • @daniellyons2588
      @daniellyons2588 5 лет назад +35

      Florida prin Samuel Okay, I think it’s time you hit the dictionary, maybe get yourself a book on grammar before trying to deny scientific evidence... clearly you’re not a very intelligent individual. I’m sorry your brain doesn’t function normally. It must be really hard :/

    • @MiniHorsesAreReal
      @MiniHorsesAreReal 5 лет назад +20

      Florida prin Samuel Before arguing about a topic Florida you should do research. This is a basic skill that you learn early on in school, but looking at your grammar I can tell that you haven’t made it very far in school 👀

  • @totallynotanalien142
    @totallynotanalien142 3 года назад +89

    As a FTM wanting bottom surgery, this really helped me feel more confident. Thank you!

    • @bloxbread6656
      @bloxbread6656 2 года назад +2

      It does not have feeling so sad

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma Год назад +11

      @@bloxbread6656 that was literally one of the myths

    • @Taylor-z1t
      @Taylor-z1t Год назад +3

      get help

    • @CursedWithAGift
      @CursedWithAGift 6 месяцев назад

      @@Taylor-z1t help by getting bottom surgery? Sure!

  • @tom-oy5ql
    @tom-oy5ql 5 лет назад +105

    I'm a gay ftm and i went to really wanting to have a penis and having horrible dysphoria about it to not even thinking about getting the surgery (it's been years since i was around 16 when i came out as trans, I'm25 now), but not because i was scared or anything it's just that i got comfortable with my current genitalia. Still i loved the video and I'm glad that you posted it, for all those people who want to have the surgery :)

    • @odessawales
      @odessawales 2 года назад

      Yeah. Being transgender male can make u feel dysphoric down there. I'm a trans male and sometimes I pretend when I am aroused I have what cisgender men have or I pretend I have male genitals but then i look at my self in the mirror then it goes back to reality
      Ye my grammar is bad bc I just woke up

    • @bloxbread6656
      @bloxbread6656 2 года назад +2

      ThT made me lose 10 brain cells

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma Год назад +13

      @@bloxbread6656 this spelling made me lose 40

    • @mindyourbusinessgoogle8823
      @mindyourbusinessgoogle8823 Месяц назад

      There is no such thing stop the delusion

  • @disguisedzoroark
    @disguisedzoroark 4 года назад +370

    I'm kinda dissapointed I can't find a video of you talking spesifically about top surgery, cause I can't use this objectively funny line:
    "Man, you must be glad to have gotten that off your chest"
    I'm not sorry

    • @GR4V3YRD
      @GR4V3YRD 4 года назад +13

      Pffft lol

    • @lovealexander
      @lovealexander 3 года назад +5

      Honestly I'll be disappointed if someone doesn't make this joke whenever I get top surgery

  • @suzannecrowe7775
    @suzannecrowe7775 5 лет назад +96

    Thank you, dear. The more people we get talking about this topic the better!!! And the more super cute people like you we get talking about it.... well that can’t hurt either!!😄. Really though.... I can only imagine how many young people are struggling right now, and having you to listen to must be so reassuring.
    You are a good egg!!💗

  • @TinksiehTink
    @TinksiehTink 5 лет назад +394

    I do prefer seeing more of your torso, now your hands just fly in and out of view when you gesticulate. I prefer seeing them all/most of the time :)

    • @idigmusictoo1746
      @idigmusictoo1746 5 лет назад +17

      Did you just assume he has a torso ? 😂😉😎

    • @alexis4073
      @alexis4073 5 лет назад

      @@idigmusictoo1746 Haha ! Actually, he has XD

  • @Osiris_1511
    @Osiris_1511 2 года назад +93

    As a trans ftm, I'm doing research to see if the lower part would be functional and I could live life as an actual male with a working lower area for when I get my surgeries done and I really appreciated this video ❤️✨🏳️‍⚧️

    • @courtneyjenkins8403
      @courtneyjenkins8403 2 года назад

      I’m non binary I’m keeping my breasts

    • @courtneyjenkins8403
      @courtneyjenkins8403 2 года назад +4

      But I’m getting bottom surgery I do know that

    • @Vanessa-pe2xs
      @Vanessa-pe2xs 2 года назад +8

      @@courtneyjenkins8403 as long as you do research...and please don't Google pictures...I made the mistake of looking at images, don't recommend.

    • @courtneyjenkins8403
      @courtneyjenkins8403 2 года назад +3

      @@Vanessa-pe2xs makes sense !

    • @bloxbread6656
      @bloxbread6656 2 года назад +1

      Cap

  • @hellasgirl123
    @hellasgirl123 Год назад +11

    It's great that you're reporting on your positive experiences here. Many people who have undergone this operation tell about the limited sex life and constant painful infections

  • @Eco_Hiko
    @Eco_Hiko 5 лет назад +137

    Your voice sounds deeper and your accent comes through more. :) You should keep the mic.
    Also thanks for making this video. There's too much misinformation out there.

  • @enzi87
    @enzi87 3 года назад +16

    I wish you had Spanish subtitles so I could show your videos to my mom to educate her and mitigate her fears. I recently came out as trans to my family and friends and your videos had been very helpful to start conversations with my best friend about the things I'm going through and to actually understand myself. I can't thank you enough really, and I wish someday to feel comfortable enough to be in front of a camera and inform people as you do :)

  • @GreatBooker
    @GreatBooker 5 лет назад +59

    I love how open you are about all this! Always funny and honest. “Useless dead flesh bag” is honestly a good insult for people who troll you! Glad you’re out here informing people, both people in the same shoes as you and people like myself who want to be better allies!

    • @mystic22g4
      @mystic22g4 Год назад

      The fact that Jaime needs a pump in order for the phalloplasty to become erect proves it lacks the sensation of a real penis. A phalloplasty is not a penis/dick it is an artificial structure made to look like a penis.

  • @coena9377
    @coena9377 4 года назад +61

    Jamie, thanks so much for this video, it's really helpful.
    I started my medical transition at 13 (I'm 18 now) with puberty blockers and I've definitely always known that top surgery was a priority for me, I'm thrilled I was able to have it at 17 (I'm about 1 year post op now and couldn't be happier with the results) but for awhile I was unsure about bottom surgery. I certainly knew I wouldn't be comfortable having sex without bottom surgery, but I was somewhat nervous about things like results and function (especially given all the misinformation) and had a pretty low libido anyway, so I figured I might just skip it and limit my sex life to what I could do with my pants on.
    Now that I've been on testosterone for awhile (exactly 2 years and 4 months as of today) my libido has been increasing a lot as well as my urge to masturbate and that's been making my dysphoria a lot more focused on my genitals. For the past 6 to 8 months, give or take, I've known that my transition needs to include bottom surgery. Actually doing the research has made me a lot less nervous about it, this video is one of the things that helps. I haven't decided on type yet but I am leaning towards metoidioplasty.

    • @sabriawashington5581
      @sabriawashington5581 4 года назад +2

      progress?

    • @lisabriggs3468
      @lisabriggs3468 2 года назад +5

      I know this comment was posted a year ago and I don't really wanna rant but I'm currently 14 and I feel like I want to be male, like I've seen all these videos and things, I'm uncomfortable in my body, I don't know how to tell my parents without them brushing it off and saying it's just hormones, they said no to my doctor who said I probably needed therapy, and I just don't know what to do. Sorry for the rant.

    • @neroblythe
      @neroblythe 2 года назад +2

      @Lisa Briggs hey, I'm currently 14 and going through the transitioning process. The way I had to make sure I 'knew I wanted to me male' was creating a profile online and going by the name I'd want to choose down the road. Personally I'm a gamer so I would play games and have people call me by the desired name to see if it felt right. This is just my experience but maybe it will help with you too.
      As for your parents unless you are sure they would react that way don't give up hope. I was pretty convinced that my mother would reject me once I came out but to my surprise she is and has continued to be my most supportive person in the subject. Try easing around the question a bit, seeing where they stand on the lbgtq support spectrum and go from there.
      Hopefully this has helped you a bit, if not I know there are a lot of places and channels that can help you figure out your gender identity and how to come out to your parents. Much love 🖤

    • @d_art_s9632
      @d_art_s9632 2 года назад +1

      I’m not able to get T yet but still my libido is frickingly high, does that mean T will turn me into a fricking sex machine xd
      (I can’t have T untill I get 21 y.o due to law in my country which sucks much)

  • @HermesTheLoser
    @HermesTheLoser 4 года назад +9

    This is so reassuring. Thank you so much for making this. I was on the fence about lower surgery before but after hearing that all of these myths (all of which I believed) I feel pretty confident that this is something I want to do. The only deterrent for me right now is the cost. I live in the US, and thinking about how much it's going to cost is severely intimidating.

  • @storiabanale
    @storiabanale 5 лет назад +42

    i got the notification while watching another one of your videos and i couldn't choose between continuing that one or watching this hhhhh im here now

  • @meepmeep1643
    @meepmeep1643 5 лет назад +10

    Holy moly, i immediately noticed the brilliant audio quality before you even mentioned it!

  • @valerienpops7176
    @valerienpops7176 5 лет назад +8

    I really love your videos but more than that thank you for sharing your journey.
    You are extremely likable and so down to earth and your sense of humor is beyond amazing!

  • @mars_bars3428
    @mars_bars3428 3 года назад +65

    as a trans dude I’m more dysphoric about my voice and chest , bottom surgery isn’t a huge priority but it is definitely on the list lol

    • @devin3537
      @devin3537 3 года назад +2

      oh same here

    • @charlesmcintosh3239
      @charlesmcintosh3239 3 года назад +1

      You regret it

    • @sourmilkky5556
      @sourmilkky5556 3 года назад +21

      @@charlesmcintosh3239 Most people don't regret it bruh it's like 1 out of 100 stop scaring people.

    • @charlesmcintosh3239
      @charlesmcintosh3239 3 года назад +1

      Go to a website call trans regrets
      Get the facts

    • @brotchenkorner3944
      @brotchenkorner3944 3 года назад +12

      @@charlesmcintosh3239 oh well, now 22 years past my Transition, I only regret having waited until i was 32 to go for phalloplasty. I could'nt be happier.

  • @salute088
    @salute088 5 лет назад +22

    wow this new microphone is so damn better!! please keep it, it sounds wonderful, you sound so good!

  • @FinnTheInfinncible
    @FinnTheInfinncible 5 лет назад +27

    My experience was exactly the same which is why l initially said I'd never have lower surgery. The thing is that people rarely post when things go well so the most common posts you see are from folk who have had bad experiences. What people also forget, is that those bad experiences go on to be corrected. Also, people post at different stages and people forget they are not seeing the finished product. Like you say, people need to properly research. Yes there are complications but these can be overcome and the majority of people have great results, as l have. I always recommend people read the book Hung Jury, which gives an honest first hand experience from guys who have had different lower surgeries. Great video my friend!

  • @hunterkun2918
    @hunterkun2918 5 лет назад +441

    Glad I found this. My lover has bottom dysphoria AND top dysphoria. He has decided to not get bottom surgery and I know it internally crushes him because it isn't the way he wants it. I plan to show this to him when I can.
    Do you know if there are any known infections regarding the bottom surgery? Or any possibility of it failing?

    • @perimele6
      @perimele6 5 лет назад +60

      Dont push anyone into surgery, please. Especially if they have made up their mind against it.

    • @thebigripper5339
      @thebigripper5339 5 лет назад +2

      If you don’t want surgery your not trans

    • @Sagealicious6828
      @Sagealicious6828 5 лет назад +102

      Fat Kinnie not true. some people don't want to take the risks of having certain surgeries, or they have conditions preventing them from getting them. so even if they want a surgery, they may not be able to get it. that doesn't determine if they're trans or not; dysphoria does.

    • @windjager2177
      @windjager2177 4 года назад +32

      Any surgery can have risks. But its pretty safe.
      (Notes: knew this from a lot of research. Top dysphoria and bottom Dysphoria but sadly had no operation yet:( .))

    • @woofmonster1441
      @woofmonster1441 4 года назад +59

      @@thebigripper5339 that's not true. Trans people can go their whole lives and not have any surger and still be trans.

  • @johncunningham1098
    @johncunningham1098 2 года назад +14

    As a cis gender man I want to say how outstanding is this presentation. You bring wisdom and light to an uninformed world. This was excellent. I hope this will help a lot of people. BTW: as a gay man I think you are very handsome. Best wishes.

    • @FliffFloof
      @FliffFloof 2 года назад +5

      You are a big W

    • @DMZRPG
      @DMZRPG 2 года назад +1

      Shut up you groveling fool. She's literally telling people it's okay to take part in this risky behavior.

    • @marklapar4804
      @marklapar4804 2 года назад

      you call this wisdom. this is barely qualified as misguided knowledge and lies by omission.

  • @jelanidacostabest8195
    @jelanidacostabest8195 5 лет назад +70

    I fully accept that what trans people have between their legs is none of my business, but I'm curious nonetheless, so thank you.

  • @spiderlegs1994
    @spiderlegs1994 5 лет назад +17

    I’ve actually been extremely depressed lately over people who don’t know what they’re talking about telling me about how the surgery will end up. I was one of those people for quite a while. You’ve literally given me hope. I can’t thank you enough.

  • @GabuMabu
    @GabuMabu 5 лет назад +3

    Thank you so much for making this. I honestly really have been trying to find a real answer for this. This really makes me happy that someone was willing to answer properly.

  • @dayglowjim
    @dayglowjim 4 года назад +8

    I cannot imagine what you've been through to be yourself. Respect.

  • @adammitchel3374
    @adammitchel3374 5 лет назад +23

    Thank you so much. This helps me feel more comfortable to begin looking into bottom surgery to help eliminate my bottom dysphoria. I actually believed many of these myths and made a previous choice to avoid bottom surgery because of these myths. Thank you so much and keep making more informational vids to help us Trans folks. Peace.

  • @DaLukka
    @DaLukka 5 лет назад +1

    Legit stopped munching chips to properly hear the new mic sound. It's very clear, love it !

  • @krelliott12
    @krelliott12 5 лет назад +25

    Love the new mic 👍 and thanks for the education. Much better to discuss willies with high quality sound.

  • @marymacqueen8925
    @marymacqueen8925 5 лет назад +2

    I am happy you are happy. You are giving a positive message and helping so many people.

  • @Jay33721
    @Jay33721 5 лет назад +88

    The new microphone sounds excellent!

  • @FreyasArts
    @FreyasArts 4 года назад +15

    Quick tip: do NOT look up bottom surgery on youtube if you're squeamish. Most thumbnails are from real surgeries, quite graphic.

    • @Gorganzola
      @Gorganzola 4 года назад +7

      IT'S TOO LATE I'VE ALREADY SEEN THEM 😭

  • @acacia1905
    @acacia1905 4 года назад +7

    Your videos are very helpful cause my boyfriend is trans FTM and I just want to be educated for him and be there for all the changes he is going to go through when he is transitioned

  • @carlbrewster8741
    @carlbrewster8741 4 года назад +1

    Jamie and shaba you are so inspiring and you have no idea how much you have both helped me get trough my dysphoria. You both are very amazing human beings and I really appreciate you both very much.

  • @PixelPalettes
    @PixelPalettes 2 года назад +3

    I don’t personally want bottom surgery but I was interested in learning more about it and saw this, so thanks dude

  • @Leeqzombie
    @Leeqzombie 5 лет назад +8

    Thank you so much for this. I'm starting to get tired of the amount of comments in trans circles trashing phalloplasty, as somebody that is seeking it in the future.

  • @Aixiae
    @Aixiae 5 лет назад +12

    Hey, just a little reminder that most of the info we find online is completly US based (so it's completly different from how it happens over here in the EU) like even for T or top-surgery a lot of the stuff I googled or heard people talk about did not quit happen like that here. Also, where I lilve we do have a surgeon that inveted his own "Bottom surgery" for FTM method as he hated what was being done everywhere else so the procedure /results are nothing alike those you find most people talking about (not like those they take tissue out of your arm or leg) he does say you can regain partial to full sensation back.
    I do want to know if you had any kind of procedure (like hysterectomy) how is it in terms of pain in the long term post op? I heard that some people get pretty bad chronic pain (might also depend on how it's made?) but I am really wondering on all the pros and cons

  • @Kai-wc5zi
    @Kai-wc5zi 4 года назад +22

    This made me feel better because I am ftm trans myself and I do want to get bottom surgery but I thought you couldn't have erections but now I know you can so I feel better

  • @spritedispenser
    @spritedispenser 3 года назад +12

    i’m planning on getting my boyfriend bottom surgery soon hehe, when we’re of age and when i gain enough money. he deserves a lot and i want him to be happy in his body

    • @editname8050
      @editname8050 3 года назад +3

      Omfg ur the best person in this world

    • @VarianJudas5320
      @VarianJudas5320 3 года назад

      thats so sweet, i bet he'll be so happy! you're wonderful for helping him

    • @spritedispenser
      @spritedispenser 3 года назад

      @@VarianJudas5320 thank you! but we broke it off around september. i did a lot of thinking and realized he wasn’t the kindest person and i was just a little too much in a daze to notice red flags. but thank you.

  • @divinemystics4587
    @divinemystics4587 4 года назад +2

    Honestly thank you so much bro. Ive always been curious about this topic and this was really helpful and educational

  • @dasimations5780
    @dasimations5780 5 лет назад +475

    Well... U did have the balls to do this then.....
    This was a friendly joke don't hate me 😣😣😣😣

    • @annipsy2185
      @annipsy2185 5 лет назад +5

      he did😮how is that possible?

    • @miguel-h
      @miguel-h 5 лет назад +5

      Deer&Animations&Stuff 🥁

    • @dasimations5780
      @dasimations5780 5 лет назад +5

      Is that u guys hating MEEE or knowing it was a friendly jokyr

    • @torrinashley6076
      @torrinashley6076 5 лет назад +24

      @goku son Holy shit. You're right. I completely forget that ovaries and testicles are the same thing, they just develop differently based on the sex you are born as. Totally forgot! Thanks for reminding me that everyone is born female and that it's only because the SRY gene is present that the ovaries develop into testicles for cis men.

    • @jacksonraod7865
      @jacksonraod7865 5 лет назад +1

      @@annipsy2185 Males and females have balls

  • @vivigno
    @vivigno 5 лет назад +4

    I plan on getting bottom surgery when I'm old enough and have the chance. This really helped, and honestly I really need help researching and finding out about the process of transitioning. SO thank you, thank you, thank you! For giving me some info!

    • @DruNarayan
      @DruNarayan 5 месяцев назад

      Most women I have sex with don’t even suspect that I was born female!

  • @NeKoJaY09
    @NeKoJaY09 4 года назад +4

    I am so glad I found this video. I have been refereed for lower surgery and got scared because of hearing things like "You will never feel anything." or "It will be useless." Not had the flesh bag thing yet though haha x

  • @angeladeleon193
    @angeladeleon193 4 года назад +2

    I think it’s crazy how well transitions work!

  • @acer_7158
    @acer_7158 5 лет назад +10

    gotta love the puns! i love being early! thanks for the great vid 🥰

  • @ambert.heisenberg3186
    @ambert.heisenberg3186 5 лет назад +2

    Your voice sounds more clear with this new mic. I am excited and think you should keep it Jamie! Also green is a color that suits you perfectly

  • @ejshamy2370
    @ejshamy2370 5 лет назад +4

    Oh! You remind me of Jack from AJR! Totally a 10/10. Your lady is super lucky to have ya. Also, your beard looks great too. Thanks for making this video, I was wondering about some of this stuff... Take care!

  • @SilverSkylark
    @SilverSkylark 5 лет назад +2

    Thankyou so much for clearing these up. Definitely some of the fears I’ve had when considering bottom surgery

  • @deniecebasso5367
    @deniecebasso5367 5 лет назад +4

    New mic sounds great! Always love your videos!

  • @bingbingfluffbird6736
    @bingbingfluffbird6736 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for this video and keeping it as light and personable as you did. 💙👍

  • @justnickmda5814
    @justnickmda5814 3 года назад +3

    You have no idea how much you helped me.
    I just saw another comment like this but its true.. I was thinking of killing myself because i thought i wasnt gonna feel anything on my bottom sugery.
    I think... That changes everything in my life.

  • @deancontiwriter13
    @deancontiwriter13 2 года назад +1

    my mom talked with some trans friends of hers who had bad experiences and she fully believes all of these myths, though when I'll be able to, I really want to get lower surgery. SENDING THIS TO HER RIGHT AWAY, THANK YOU JAMIE❤️

  • @mikelchu100
    @mikelchu100 5 лет назад +129

    You’re so gorgeous. I would never have been able to tell that you’re trans. You’ve transitioned beautifully

    • @fwubee
      @fwubee 5 лет назад +11

      @Fleur Laser shut up and stop being nasty >:/

    • @cocoacrow
      @cocoacrow 4 года назад +16

      That is... an odd compliment? I mean, nice, but you could just say he looks nice, yeah? No need to be all "u look good... for a trans guy"

    • @cfroestel
      @cfroestel 4 года назад +21

      TheCrafty Cat
      He didn’t say that. He said “you’re pretty and you pass well.”

    • @brotchenkorner3944
      @brotchenkorner3944 2 года назад +3

      @@cocoacrow Might not be the same for everyone, but I would def take it as a mayor compliment if somebody tells me I pass well.

    • @willbephore3086
      @willbephore3086 2 года назад +1

      I can absolutely appreciate this compliment and how it's intended, the sincerity shines through, imho.
      Just want to point to the possibility that trans guys might feel more effortlessly positive about attractiveness words that aren't typically used with women, such as "beautiful" or "gorgeous". It may be a cultural difference, but where I live "gorgeous" is rarely used for guys.

  • @emilysunflowers
    @emilysunflowers 5 лет назад +1

    Your videos are the best, they always feel like just chatting with a friend and it's super chill (also yes the audio is great lol)

  • @carlhumanbcrab
    @carlhumanbcrab 5 лет назад +29

    honestly the recording sign in the blurred background is really annoying. It keeps making me think i'm going blind every time i focus on it

    • @hellofriend2109
      @hellofriend2109 4 года назад +2

      carlandthehumancrab don’t focus on it

  • @grassaf4354
    @grassaf4354 4 года назад +2

    I have no idea how I identify. I’m born female and idk if I’m non-binary, fluid, trans or just not very feminine. however the thought that I might be trans has been scaring me for this very reason (these myths) so thank you for calming down a 16 year old in a crisis.

  • @damionalexander100
    @damionalexander100 5 лет назад +3

    Well this brought me some relief.
    I wasn't sure whether this stuff was true or not so thanks!

  • @metalmedicine5166
    @metalmedicine5166 5 лет назад +1

    your beard is so MANLY Jamie i love you dude been watching for a while as a fellow ftm myself

  • @leviler3222
    @leviler3222 5 лет назад +3

    thanks for clearing these things up, a baby transguy here and i was scared of bottom surgery but now i’m not as scared :D

  • @ManamiKeel
    @ManamiKeel 5 лет назад +3

    I just came across your channel. Never seen you before, but I wanted to tell you that you are absolutely BEAUTIFUL. Love from Mexico.

  • @renferal3774
    @renferal3774 5 лет назад +7

    Flesh bag... LMAO!! That's a good one LOL. I just love you! And the mic is good

  • @riotryder6900
    @riotryder6900 5 лет назад +8

    Thank you for this video I'm trans and trying to figure out how to go about surgery and this helped to clear some stuff up, thank you!

  • @kayetaylor5551
    @kayetaylor5551 2 года назад +8

    I have watched several female to male surgery and I must say you are the only person who has had no problems and you are the only person who is saying that this is not a majoru dangerous operation and you are lucky to have sailed thro the process and are happy with your outcome

    • @Mars0Bars
      @Mars0Bars Год назад +2

      He doesn't say or imply that at all

  • @lobsterinopeperlizia
    @lobsterinopeperlizia 5 лет назад +6

    Thank you, I'm getting to know a trans ftm and your videos are helping me understanding his point of view. Thanks ❤

  • @delsinrowe6696
    @delsinrowe6696 5 лет назад +5

    So this really changed my view on bottom surgery a bit. May actually look into it now. Thanks for the information dude, its appreciated

  • @melissawardjohns220
    @melissawardjohns220 4 года назад +3

    I've had thirty six years of being confused when I wake up to pee and have to squat to pee. I'm considering bottom surgery to go ftm cause I've kinda always felt that's what I am. Being a person with two sets of dna (female and male so I'm an absorbed twin or medical Chimera) I want the outside to match the inside but honestly I've heard every myth you covered.

  • @dylanribeiro
    @dylanribeiro 5 лет назад +6

    Jamie you keep getting better each time, awesome energy! And that new mic sounds really good!!

  • @poketrap6663
    @poketrap6663 3 года назад +4

    "And not about my penis this time."
    I died laughing. This is one of the first videos of yours I've seen after being recommended here by a random person because I'm wanting bottom surgery(I'm FTM, but currently pregnant due to personal goals for myself). XD

  • @brotchenkorner3944
    @brotchenkorner3944 2 года назад +6

    Thank you for this. I am trans, 30, never fully coped with my genetalia and finally decided to get bottom surgery. Every bit of information is making this step easier 🙏 thank you!

  • @gailtorricellas4556
    @gailtorricellas4556 5 лет назад +5

    Yes! U R wonderful funny😇 Never wonder ed about this stuff. Glad it is out there for people who choose this. God Bless

  • @burthuffman2802
    @burthuffman2802 2 года назад +3

    We love you Jamie.

  • @angelmondello7243
    @angelmondello7243 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much for opening my eyes to this. I definitly was worried about all these myths but now I'm a bit more hopeful

  • @simonsvalley
    @simonsvalley Год назад +3

    i remember seeing this video when i wasn't even out yet years ago and now rewatching it as i'm doing research beacuse if everything goes according to plan i'm goint to start T next year and my therapist told me to go activlly searching about operations ecc and seeing your vodeo now that i know a lit bit more about being a trans kid make me feel so.much better and less anxious about thid surgery so thanks ❤

    • @missyk2984
      @missyk2984 Год назад +1

      You shouldn’t ruin your life

    • @simonsvalley
      @simonsvalley Год назад +2

      @@missyk2984 ?? em thanks for your concern but me and my therapist think that this things will actually help me live a better life ^^♡

    • @mihraz47
      @mihraz47 Год назад

      Congratulations

  • @alexandriahunter2125
    @alexandriahunter2125 6 месяцев назад

    Saw you on the Click and now loving your stuff ♥

  • @ajaxnuggets
    @ajaxnuggets 4 года назад +5

    Thank you,, this really made me feel better about getting the surgeries

  • @wafflerisk_5417
    @wafflerisk_5417 5 лет назад +1

    hhhhhh i'm not on T yet since i've got to wait until i can move out but i've also heard that lower surgery's terrifying which would've sucked cuz i've got mAJOR dysphoria all around--but thanks so much for making this cuz it seems less worrying now!! it really helps :D

  • @LilithNobody
    @LilithNobody 5 лет назад +4

    Mic sounds great! Maybe turn the gain down a little tid bit. Also try studio sound damping foam on the walls to isolate your voice.

  • @noah-ds
    @noah-ds 5 лет назад +1

    THANK YOU so much for this video, this was great. you've really helped me out - I'm loving your content lately. Thank you so, so much for putting yourself out here, bless you.

  • @EstherClarke-ol2cd
    @EstherClarke-ol2cd 5 лет назад +13

    Love you Jamie and your vids

  • @laikahh16
    @laikahh16 5 лет назад +2

    Omg this is a new video, new subscriber here and just wow! Ive been binge watching your videos hahaha

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  5 лет назад +1

      Thanks for the sub! Hope you're liking the videos :D

    • @laikahh16
      @laikahh16 5 лет назад

      Jammidodger oh my god oh my god OH MY GOD!! You replied! Thank you! Youre super awesome and super hot! I enjoy your videos! Im a cis bisexual female and I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!

  • @pamelaJoyce384
    @pamelaJoyce384 5 лет назад +30

    First off, there us a 12 year old boy that lives in my soul and loves Dick jokes! Secondly, really educational and informative. Thank you ! xoxo

  • @SirtubalotTX
    @SirtubalotTX 10 дней назад

    Like someone else mentioned in the comment section, I'm not trans but trying to learn how this works so I can be better at the conversation.
    So far, I would say the most important thing is the risk, It is still a very high percentage... like 50% last reference I looked at. Hopefully this will improve but definitely the most important consideration from my perspective.
    Great video, it has helped me a lot.

  • @stylishnoodle
    @stylishnoodle 5 лет назад +9

    Love the new sound. Hi, I'm really new. I just figured myself out last month (nearly age 39). What are your recommendations that an individual do for starters? I have a trans friendly therapist who has seen others transition, and I just moved, so I'm starting from scratch telling all my new providers that I am trans. I know possible options for starting T, and I found a dr that does top surgery in my insurance (doesn't mean they'll necessarily cover). Should I be doing anything else? I am trying to naturally lower my voice for the time being. (By "should", I mean that my goals are to do all the transitions, top and lower surgery, and T.)

  • @dominicgreen1717
    @dominicgreen1717 5 лет назад +1

    The new microphone is great Jammi

  • @toebeans31
    @toebeans31 3 года назад +4

    I'm trans as well I did some research online and asked doctors as well as my therapists of course about surgeries and transitions and they were very thorough about it explaining things. I'd like to start T, get top surgery and then bottom surgery I thought I was nonbinary for a while but I'm far more comfortable with pronouns like he, his, him men and male. Anything female makes me cringe. Thanks for explainingnin the video I'm hoping to transition sometime

  • @kalonacoxa5225
    @kalonacoxa5225 2 года назад +1

    Thank you this makes me feel a lot better about lower surgery

  • @fabiopinna
    @fabiopinna 5 лет назад +3

    I just wanted to say that "pull my little head out" (1:02) seems to be a good description for metoidioplasty!
    (I'll go hide myself now.)

  • @g.h.7661
    @g.h.7661 5 лет назад +1

    I could listen to your voice all day