Why I Had Metoidioplasty Over Phalloplasty

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  • Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024

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  • @Jammidodger
    @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +1547

    Thank you for the support on the video, glad it seems to be helpful! Let me know if there's anything else you think would be useful to talk about. Much love guys

    • @ellibean5937
      @ellibean5937 6 лет назад +13

      The idea of you considering which kind of penis to get, factoring peeing while camping into your decision, then remembering you don't like camping, really amused me more than it should have 😁

    • @CaeTheRenegade
      @CaeTheRenegade 6 лет назад +3

      I've been debating the two surgery options since being accepted for a consult for T. Meta sounds less risky from things i've read regarding healing. Thank you for sharing your opinion on this. 💖

    • @elliottwprigmorelewis2255
      @elliottwprigmorelewis2255 6 лет назад

      I have been debating both surgeries and your video really helped me. Thank you..

    • @codywolfwestern2476
      @codywolfwestern2476 6 лет назад +2

      I want Phallo but is Meto better I wanna be able to make sperm have sex and pee standing up Idk what'll work Well but I only want the surgery after I have kids with my gf who's birth certificate says male and mine says female and I kinda want to get bottom surgery now that I think about this more being with her I feel 90% or 100% male even tho I was born female but I've had more top dysphoria so I never ever really thought of it much and I'd be on testosterone if it wouldn't not let me have kids and on top of that my ovaries are upside down so Idk what to do PLEASE HELP ME!!!

    • @krrez
      @krrez 5 лет назад +2

      "useful to talk about" Sorry if you've done this and I missed it, but I always like to hear more perspectives and experiences regarding the pressures of toxic masculinity on trans men. I did some really shitty things when I was younger and I'm still finding my way. I love practical advice on non-toxic masculinity.

  • @teddyincorporated
    @teddyincorporated 4 года назад +3262

    *Me coming to surgeons office*
    One pp please

    • @oliversadler1815
      @oliversadler1815 4 года назад +207

      Big pp or smol pp sire

    • @charliemajor2291
      @charliemajor2291 4 года назад +155

      Oliver Sadler big pp

    • @seljap_
      @seljap_ 4 года назад +163

      @@charliemajor2291 coming right away, sire.

    • @torrinashley6076
      @torrinashley6076 4 года назад +30

      @BP ?

    • @theseeker7194
      @theseeker7194 4 года назад +66

      Of course pp size doesn't matter during surgery. You only need to make a good meme at PewdiepieSubmissions and wait to get upvoted by the meme god. Yey, you now have a big pp!

  • @LauraPictures
    @LauraPictures 6 лет назад +6243

    Size doesn't meta.

  • @peterrobertson8033
    @peterrobertson8033 4 года назад +2206

    I Am a70 year old man, never waned to be anything else, Have just watched all your blogs and enjoyed them ,think you’re a good looking guy well done.

  • @jesszeelie6435
    @jesszeelie6435 6 лет назад +6843

    When you're a straight, cis female but watch anyway because you love Jamie and just like to be educated

    • @talkinglegs9606
      @talkinglegs9606 6 лет назад +66

      SAME HAHA

    • @leeniraukola5168
      @leeniraukola5168 6 лет назад +54

      YEII IM NOT THE ONLY ONE

    • @nikk-named
      @nikk-named 6 лет назад +167

      Lesbian cis female.
      But same... :)

    • @niconiconiikillmeplease2286
      @niconiconiikillmeplease2286 6 лет назад +498

      I'm a transguy and all I can say is that I highly appreciate the fact of all of you cis females are here learning about us transguys are fully accepting of us. If I could hug you gals I would because that means a lot to me knowing that there are people out there fully accepting of us. I say that mainly because I come from a very unaccepting household.
      But thanks to you gals who are fully accepting us transguys. -Toby

    • @jesszeelie6435
      @jesszeelie6435 6 лет назад +90

      @@niconiconiikillmeplease2286 You're so welcome!!! Someone I have known my entire life recently came out as trans and I hadn't spoken to him in a while but I wanted to see how he was doing mainly because we also live in a country where people tend to be super homophobic, transphobic etc because it fits in with the culture (along with being racist. I can't stand it) and he said to me "A lot of people have been accepting but I feel like you're the only one who understands" and it made me so happy that finally, he felt understood

  • @rubeniscool
    @rubeniscool 5 лет назад +1307

    When you are a Cis, Straight Guy but watch anyway because A)Education is always good and B) Videos like these always need more views and support even if I am just one person :) oh and C) its always great to find someone who is just really down to earth and also incredibly clear and concise.
    Keep it up dude :D

    • @duetopersonalreasonsaaaaaa
      @duetopersonalreasonsaaaaaa 4 года назад +39

      Wow, you're the best kind of ally! :D

    • @lotsaducks365
      @lotsaducks365 4 года назад +5

      @@duetopersonalreasonsaaaaaa ikr

    • @sillydrizzy2985
      @sillydrizzy2985 4 года назад +29

      Exactly Ruben.
      My younger son is Trans, and Jamie's been great for helping me understand some of what may lay in store for him in the future.
      Plus Jamie and Shaaba are such a cute couple :-D

    • @laureauvray7948
      @laureauvray7948 3 года назад +3

      Thank you sir

    • @leyna0512
      @leyna0512 3 года назад +11

      We need all cishets to be more like you!

  • @marshy_5406
    @marshy_5406 6 лет назад +855

    XD "shush Mr phone" that is just adorable. I never hear anyone say that.

    • @alviilmie1869
      @alviilmie1869 4 года назад +8

      Marshy_540 my husband talks to his phone too,that’s why it’s quite interesting,Jamie was born as a female ,but absolutely is 💯 male

    • @mixedbagmixesmusic1967
      @mixedbagmixesmusic1967 4 года назад +12

      Yeah, I've noticed that a lot of English people are just??? Really cute????

    • @Why_is_ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh_taken
      @Why_is_ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh_taken 3 года назад +6

      I just yell “shut the fuck up bitch”

    • @kurvavkasakkvister
      @kurvavkasakkvister 3 года назад +2

      I have...conversations with my phone...

    • @moriah93ohio
      @moriah93ohio 2 месяца назад

      I thought it was funny and adorable

  • @thedailydee
    @thedailydee 6 лет назад +697

    You have an amazing personality that allows you to talk about the "sensitive" areas of transition in a good way.

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +118

      Aw thank you so much! That's too kind of you!

    • @thehill8353
      @thehill8353 4 года назад

      It's literally just a lesbian same same music

    • @seapinecone2869
      @seapinecone2869 3 года назад +17

      @@thehill8353 ? Who’s a lesbian

    • @thehill8353
      @thehill8353 3 года назад

      @@seapinecone2869 what you identify as is not what you actually are biologically

    • @iexist8283
      @iexist8283 3 года назад +28

      @@thehill8353 hey what the actual fuck he is a man 👍

  • @0MGitsRayRay
    @0MGitsRayRay 6 лет назад +1036

    i go back and forth on phalloplasty. if i could wake up tomorrow with a cis male body, i would DEFINITELY love that.
    hopefully bottom surgery advances in the future for trans men :/

    • @aweeb4687
      @aweeb4687 4 года назад +118

      For me, if bottom surgery ever advances I would 100% do it. But where it's at right now, I probably wouldn't.

    • @sesseljabs964
      @sesseljabs964 4 года назад +46

      10/10 would trade my genitals and tits with a trans woman

    • @Chierushi
      @Chierushi 4 года назад +50

      Hey - organ printing a custom phallus from your own genetic material one day, huh? It’s on the way from what I’ve seen

    • @plateoffrogs4709
      @plateoffrogs4709 3 года назад +99

      @@aweeb4687 i watched a documentary on how transwomen get vaginas, and it looks so much cleaner than these options. nothing remains of what was there before, but for us its either small, cant get proper sensation, or the original stuff is hiding behind it. im not saying in any way that transwomen have it easier because they dont, this is just a comparison. i hope it advances so its exactly like the cis ones, just as transwomen have been fortunate enough to receive.

    • @C_And_P
      @C_And_P 3 года назад +20

      Same. For now I'll go with all the other steps but exclude bottom surgery until there's more improvement. I'm a young adult so I might be able to hold out a bit more for future advancements.

  • @flyingskyward2153
    @flyingskyward2153 6 лет назад +1072

    Shush Mr Phone

  • @Conformist138
    @Conformist138 6 лет назад +3020

    Even though we're cis women, my mom and I got on the topic of trans surgery options (one of the stranger rabbit holes for a convo with a parent, but whatever) and I mentioned that options for trans women seemed way more advanced than for trans men. She is a conservative republican Christian but without missing a beat she says, "Because surgeons were all men." That random bit of wokeness from her was so shocking I nearly fell off my chair.

    • @bryntendo
      @bryntendo 6 лет назад +415

      Conformist138 That genuinely is a root cause for some of that, but phalloplasty has been around since the '30s, originally for cis men who had lost their penis in war or suffered some other kind of penile mutilation or a congenital thing like having a micropenis. Cis men _love_ their penises, so you'd think the surgeons being men trying to replace other men's lost penises would mean phallo would be more advanced, lol. But even in saying that, phalloplasty _is_ actually an _incredibly_ advanced procedure, and modern phalloplasty is so advanced it's like science fiction when compared to its beginnings. Phallo isn't 'less advanced' than vaginoplasty, that's just a common misconception

    • @meltm1245
      @meltm1245 6 лет назад +164

      @@audreydoyle8378 you don't remove a penis. You turn it inside out and create a cavity to put it in inside the body.

    • @whitenoise3447
      @whitenoise3447 5 лет назад +109

      Melt M its still a less complex process than ftm lower procedures

    • @bperson4153
      @bperson4153 5 лет назад +105

      I wish my conservative Republican Christian mother was even a little bit woke.

    • @reggiepollock4669
      @reggiepollock4669 5 лет назад +71

      Dont gotta be a leftie to realise that the world ain't fair to women and girls

  • @Daniel-qk6bf
    @Daniel-qk6bf 4 года назад +181

    cis bisexual male here don’t mind me just here to educate myself a bit more

    • @charliemajor2291
      @charliemajor2291 4 года назад +16

      daniel tt ay that’s good, get educated, it makes the world a better place

    • @Daniel-qk6bf
      @Daniel-qk6bf 3 года назад +1

      BP “anyone that uses adjectives unironically needs a good smack” ur a weirdo bro

    • @laureauvray7948
      @laureauvray7948 3 года назад +2

      love u

  • @maxinestarkywillow
    @maxinestarkywillow 6 лет назад +1484

    Did you know you're the first result when you Google "metoidioplasty"? Isn't that neat? :)
    Thanks for discussing these things and helping trans people make big decisions or feel better about themselves. X

  • @emilymartinez2785
    @emilymartinez2785 5 лет назад +1394

    Tiny meat gang

  • @jeonramsay
    @jeonramsay 6 лет назад +3677

    imagine a world where trans people could just switch genitals somehow. find someone with a matching blood type and skin color (or why not mix it up ay) and just switch all that junk the end. this is just my obviously professional phd in medicine opinion
    Edit: damn this popped off, hope all my trans friends are doing well and finds their way ❤️

    • @maxwasthere
      @maxwasthere 6 лет назад +411

      RAMSAY I think about this all the time! A type of trans donor/swap system would be so neat.

    • @DarkSuperNinja
      @DarkSuperNinja 6 лет назад +216

      It's like Wife Swap for genitalia yesss

    • @trevorhawkins3873
      @trevorhawkins3873 6 лет назад +252

      If only it could be that easy. Makes me really feel for trans people having to make these kind of big choices.

    • @satyricalsatanist5503
      @satyricalsatanist5503 6 лет назад +77

      head transplants 👌🏻

    • @ScumFreezebag
      @ScumFreezebag 5 лет назад +134

      If that ever becomes possible, I'm in the market for a penis, just a heads up to anyone who doesn't want theirs..?

  • @aprilshowershard
    @aprilshowershard 6 лет назад +341

    I plan to get metodioplasty when I am older. I am currently 16 and have been living as male since I was 13, and got top surgery 9 months ago!
    Videos like these, and your surgery videos really help me learn more about it. Thank you so much!

    • @wolfy297
      @wolfy297 5 лет назад +28

      Lucky! My boyfriend's parents have never been supportive of him so it's taken him a while to get the courage to come out. Plus the price of top surgery while we are saving for college is pretty scary

    • @elliotasher7465
      @elliotasher7465 4 года назад +15

      omg im a 13 yr old transboiiii SPREAD DA LUV

    • @a.harrington8826
      @a.harrington8826 4 года назад +9

      ahjshsa That's great! So happy for you man. I'm 15 and I've been out to my parents for about three, going on four months now and I'm hoping sooooooooooooooooooo much that I will be able to get top surgery before high school is over.

    • @iguanawithinternetaccess930
      @iguanawithinternetaccess930 3 года назад +1

      nice

    • @ghostwider7111
      @ghostwider7111 3 года назад +2

      That's awesome I wish you the best of luck to continue to feel more and more comfortable in your body!

  • @athenacaputo
    @athenacaputo 6 лет назад +654

    I've noticed that it's very common for trans men to have really bad chest dysphoria, like worse than genital dysphoria, at least that's what it seems like.

    • @unclefelix3412
      @unclefelix3412 5 лет назад +301

      I feel like its because people will notice your chest in public, but people wont know what's in your pants. You look down and see boobs and hate it but looking at your pants you dont have to think about it as hard cause its covered and hidden more

    • @BlueGeen
      @BlueGeen 5 лет назад +130

      Nanacka Plus I feel like it's the difference between something that goes outward vs inward, or like, having something you don't want vs. lacking something. You brush up against your chest and feel your breasts a lot more, you're more aware of them. Since your vag is all up inside, you're not usually feeling anything.

    • @heyitssjace
      @heyitssjace 5 лет назад +156

      Well yeah... Same as trans women typically have more bottom dysphoria than top dysphoria.
      Being a trans male on T doesn’t get rid of your chest. And there are things like packers + STPs that can alleviate bottom dysphoria. You can bind, yes, but that gets very annoying + dangerous based on your dysphoria (I’ve had a friend who bound with duct tape at a concert + broke his ribs).
      Being a trans female, it’s harder to hide a penis or an erection. Sure, there’s gaff underwear, but things like having a prominent chest are more dysphoric to most trans men, as having a penis is more dysphoric to trans women. (But also: trans women on E get breast growth).

    • @YukiTheOkami
      @YukiTheOkami 5 лет назад +30

      my father is also ftm
      and i have dysphoria for both i know as soon as i have chest surgery behind me i will start to cry in the shower and on the toilet
      also im gay and im bottom anyway so dosent matter if i need functional help but it matters to me to look in the mirror naked without cry cramps
      well but my father hes alrady 50 and he says he dose not need that and i just cant understand him
      as long as he has no period and no brests he seems to be fine i just dont get it
      also i see it from that side
      if i need a pump i cant have awkward puplic boners
      or morning boners
      man i have a friend (cis) he has one EVERY morning
      and hes not small so he tent to destroy his underware
      ok well it wouldent be huge in that case but
      if you are small like me 1,59m
      and you know what the genre shota "menas" you may se why i put size over funktion
      i dont wanna feel like an 11 year old that would kill the whole mod for me

    • @WolfMoonWings
      @WolfMoonWings 5 лет назад +13

      I have the opposite. :( its fucking awful. Kill me.

  • @colonelweird
    @colonelweird 4 года назад +98

    As a cis guy, I find videos like this, on subjects that many trans people are understandably reluctant to discuss, very helpful in turning something that a few years ago would have seemed to me to be very exotic into something really ordinary, a kind of problem that I don't have, but one that others can't avoid. So, it becomes really clear how important it is to empathize and be helpful when I can.
    So now I'm off to watch more of your videos. Good work!

  • @jaylafunk5764
    @jaylafunk5764 5 лет назад +485

    Makes me very greatful to be a trans woman. Trans men seem to have way more complications with the whole bottom surgery process. I guess creating a penis is more complex than creating a vagina. Honestly Jamie I love your channel soo much and all the info and stories you give to help people better understand our community! and congratulations on the surgery! xo!

    • @keiths2902
      @keiths2902 5 лет назад +53

      Jayla Funk yeah, in terms of surgery we get fucked. Breast augmentation is common enough that it’s a cheaper, well honed practice and scars way less, andway less obviously than top surgery. Our bottom surgeries are RIDICULOSLY expensive. More easily detectible as being well,,, not what we were born with. And the function isn’t even there if you go for phallo, since we have to get rods. I would absolutely be fine if I could get a functional penis (phallo) that required some daily thing, as in the stretching that has ro be done for vaginas, if it would only look exactly like a cis penis, and retain full feeling (another thing that we have to give up).
      It’s weird because we luck out in hormones. Testosterone works pretty good, it’s a stronger hormone. But in surgery, it’s ... grim.
      Sorry to be a downer, just super dysphoric and hate that there aren’t really options. It feels hopeless, ’cus all the money in the world still couldn’t magic wand the disadvantage we have for our surgeries

    • @aubreywilliam9048
      @aubreywilliam9048 5 лет назад

      Jayla Funk why the hell would you prefer being transfemme what’s wrong with you?!

    • @thesixthparasite3026
      @thesixthparasite3026 5 лет назад +56

      @@aubreywilliam9048 It's her opinion. Calm down.

    • @miameow4833
      @miameow4833 5 лет назад +11

      Kinda dick move to say when this person doesn't have that advantage.

    • @hries05
      @hries05 3 года назад +27

      Yeah I haven’t transitioned at all but it still scares me, top surgery seems fine but bottom is terrifying sounding

  • @rolfioolivia6184
    @rolfioolivia6184 5 лет назад +646

    *I don't care if your trans, gay, lesbian, cis, or straight, don't you dare say you don't like camping*

  • @Clawdragoons
    @Clawdragoons 4 года назад +59

    I'm MTF, but hearing you talk about stuff reduces my anxiety about surgeries and such and I appreciate it.

  • @yanisaac9006
    @yanisaac9006 6 лет назад +691

    Also If you think you want meta but might want phallo later, you can always go through meta now and if it’s not enough you can have phallo afterward, but can’t have phallo and take it off to have meta. I don’t know if it’s clear 😂 anyway meta to phallo is possible phallo to meta no

    • @himeyukimatsumoto994
      @himeyukimatsumoto994 6 лет назад +11

      Yanopoo meta to phallo possible ? How come?

    • @yanisaac9006
      @yanisaac9006 6 лет назад +54

      Himeyuki Matsumoto because because phallo uses your growth and with meta all the pieces are still usable, it really doesn’t change anything.

    • @greencat1314
      @greencat1314 4 года назад +17

      @@himeyukimatsumoto994 it's like surgical penis enlargement for cis men (not really though). If you already got M. and it's healed they can transform it again, but like op said you can't really take stuff away from P and then try to go the hormonal way.

  • @kimberly25christinesmith72
    @kimberly25christinesmith72 4 года назад +103

    Never knew you guys say "urinal" so different.

  • @TheBetty314
    @TheBetty314 5 лет назад +39

    I was looking at aquatic plants, and don't know how this video popped up, but I'm glad I was curious enough to take a look. Jamie you are adorable and I'm sending you a virtual hug. I am now much more informed than I was 10 min. ago,lol.
    I wish you all the luck in the world. Have a great life.

  • @s.l.chakmakjianphillips9296
    @s.l.chakmakjianphillips9296 6 лет назад +137

    Thank you so much for these videos!
    They're really educational for trans/nb people who can't get information from people irl and they're so helpful.
    Your channel is a lifesaver. ♥️

    • @manuelbonet
      @manuelbonet 6 лет назад +15

      They're also very educational for cis people who wonder what trans/nb people might have to go through to feel well in their own body.

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +14

      Thank you so much! This truly means a lot

  • @musikjunkie93
    @musikjunkie93 5 лет назад +202

    "from now on I'm gonna call it phallo instead of phalloplasty and meta instead of metoidioplasty cuz it makes it easier"
    *Continues to call each thing by the full name

  • @Dungeonfreak
    @Dungeonfreak 6 лет назад +190

    From what I’ve seen the scarring from top surgery is much less obvious than the skin graft scars from phallo, top surgery scars are incisions not a layer of skin removed and as you said not in as obvious a place as the forearm

    • @curiousnerdkitteh
      @curiousnerdkitteh 5 лет назад +7

      One could get a big arm tattoo though.

    • @Rachel-fi4sc
      @Rachel-fi4sc 3 года назад +3

      I know I'm two years late, but scar tissue doesn't retain ink properly, so a big arm tat probably wouldn't work very well.

    • @nidgithm
      @nidgithm 4 месяца назад +1

      @@Rachel-fi4sc ive seen a bunch of people tattoo over their phallo scars tho and it hides it really well so i guess it works well enough

  • @CaspianKeskin
    @CaspianKeskin 6 лет назад +132

    honestly this is such an important topic - you never hear about people who have meto, I literallly only know people who have had phallo. It’s really important that we have videos like this to educate us on the differences.

    • @boogercookie
      @boogercookie 6 лет назад +1

      Fancy seeing you here! Love you and your style 👍👍

    • @CaspianKeskin
      @CaspianKeskin 6 лет назад +1

      beanie weenie ʕ ᴖᴥᴖ ʔ I’m sure you’ll find me on many comment sections, esp on this channel! :P thank youuu 💕💕

  • @elle9030
    @elle9030 5 лет назад +54

    I’m a straight female and I find your videos very educational. Keep doing your thing jammie and stay good! love youu!!❤️❤️❤️

  • @user-rn3mq5tl8y
    @user-rn3mq5tl8y 4 года назад +248

    I'm👏 questioning 👏everything 👏and 👏I'm 👏pre everything 👏but 👏that's👏 life👏 being👏 trans👏 was never👏 easy👏

  • @freudlos8660
    @freudlos8660 5 лет назад +236

    I, a cis girl, have been binge watching videos about trans topics for about 2 hours now. Completely normal.

    • @jessielovesyou5398
      @jessielovesyou5398 5 лет назад +10

      Me,too! Idk how I got here, but I've learned a lot and I like where I ended up!

    • @brendaruiz3947
      @brendaruiz3947 5 лет назад +19

      I've been doing the same for about 2 years lol completely cis, I just find it interesting

    • @kitssch
      @kitssch 5 лет назад +3

      m a r same, I’m learning a lot.

    • @paulamra1ify
      @paulamra1ify 5 лет назад +17

      I have been watching them to cause I just started dating an ftm guy.

    • @fragolegirl2002
      @fragolegirl2002 5 лет назад

      Aydian dowling made me obsessed with this

  • @Crow3ater
    @Crow3ater 5 лет назад +93

    *phone beeps*
    Shush, mr. Phone
    *phone beeps again*
    *ShUssHhhH*

  • @elleharrop1526
    @elleharrop1526 6 лет назад +291

    I’ve never heard about this process before, so when he said the skin from the forearm is removed because it’s more sensitive..... I immediately rubbed my forearm to see how sensitive it was 😂🤦🏻‍♀️😂

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +86

      Hahaha, I didn't describe it very well. From what I've read, using the skin from the forearm gives the best chance/amount of sensation in the penis.

    • @karmel5603
      @karmel5603 6 лет назад +9

      😂 I did the same thing

    • @alexandra_vic_
      @alexandra_vic_ 6 лет назад +14

      when i read this comment, i did it! 😂

    • @sarahjarrett8004
      @sarahjarrett8004 5 лет назад +7

      when i was a little baby i used to make my mom scratch my arms so i was like “makes sense”

    • @hunterking4045
      @hunterking4045 2 года назад +1

      Lmao!

  • @lorrainedraws4319
    @lorrainedraws4319 5 лет назад +26

    Im a cis female. But i enjoy watching trans youtubers (especially you) because it educates me on the subject. I honestly didn't know a lot about transgender people until i found you on youtube. And your genuinely just a really calm and awesome dude. =D

    • @krystal4750
      @krystal4750 Год назад

      Just female not that cis bs. I’m a female and that’s it

  • @vishwapallav
    @vishwapallav 5 лет назад +13

    You are a beautiful man, and a delight to listen to. Thanks for taking the courage to be yourself and put yourself out there.

  • @lemonboy7994
    @lemonboy7994 5 лет назад +8

    Your humorous way of talking is actually really relieving bc honestly just thinking about the fact that I'll be trans my whole life is terrifying but you make it seem so normal; weird analogy but kinda like adults reassuring kids going through puberty that it's completely normal and not something to be ashamed of.

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  5 лет назад +7

      That's really cool! I've always viewed being trans as just another way of being human, it comes with it's own challenges, but that's just like many other things in life.

  • @ncwiok3824
    @ncwiok3824 4 года назад +13

    I can't thank you enough for making this video. I've been experiencing horrible horrible bottom dysphoria. I thought that phalloplasty was my only choice for bottom surgery and I know I wouldn't be happy from the result of it. I don't know how I haven't heard of Metoidioplasty from the hours of research I do every so often. I can't even begin to explain the wave of relief 'm feeling knowing that there is another option I can now consider. Thank you.

  • @sleepiestmoth
    @sleepiestmoth 4 года назад +23

    Phone: *Ping!* :)
    Jamie: Shush, Mr. Phone
    Phone: *Ping!* >:(
    Jamie: Shush!

  • @pamelaJoyce384
    @pamelaJoyce384 6 лет назад +27

    You explain this so well. You are always frank and honest and I'm sure a guy considering which surgery is best for him appreciates your aporoach. You're the best!!

  • @GiftOfDaGab_91
    @GiftOfDaGab_91 5 лет назад +25

    The pros and cons list is absolutely a brilliant idea this indeed will help me to make a clear decision on what procedure to go through. Thanks Jammie

    • @champigranja1179
      @champigranja1179 Год назад

      Clearest decision: neither. Results are terrible.

  • @thetasigma370
    @thetasigma370 4 года назад +32

    I was so scared of phalloplastia, glad metoidoplasty is a thing

  • @joel4541
    @joel4541 6 лет назад +42

    I don't think i say this enough because there are a lot more RUclipsrs now who are trans and share their experience.
    But i seem to forget how lucky i actually am.
    You're videos are so amazing. I've learned so much from your videos and i am so greatful to have discovered you.
    Thank you so, so much.

  • @teresasaladyte1904
    @teresasaladyte1904 5 лет назад +13

    This has to be the nicest person I have ever seen. - "Mr Phone", that one got me 😂

  • @snooks73
    @snooks73 5 лет назад +11

    Jamie, I don't know what you do for a living but you are a very good communicator and you are an awesome teacher.

  • @bethanyboarder7751
    @bethanyboarder7751 4 года назад +286

    "phalloplasty will leave a large scar on your forearm"
    Me: AWESOME, now I will have a scar to tell epic (fake) injury stories about
    edit: I'm not trans apparently, good thing I caught myself before I did anything irreversible

    • @catboysephiroth560
      @catboysephiroth560 3 года назад +82

      "I wrestled for years with an intangible, relentless foe, and tore off my own skin to defeat it. This is that scar, the scar that is a sure reminder of my victory.
      Also peepee :)"

    • @themarvelbunch8604
      @themarvelbunch8604 3 года назад +13

      @@catboysephiroth560 HAHA GREAT STORY

    • @comedictragedy8162
      @comedictragedy8162 3 года назад +4

      WHY DID MY MIND GO THE SAME DIRECTION

    • @eileencalder2804
      @eileencalder2804 2 года назад +1

      Everyone can already immediately recognise that your damaged arm is a sign you have had elective FGM. Or that the scars where your breasts should be is a sign you have had an elective double mastectomy. Use the correct words. Be honest.

    • @phoenixc7245
      @phoenixc7245 2 года назад +16

      @@eileencalder2804 I'm sure you're real fun at parties

  • @remorabazs5742
    @remorabazs5742 5 лет назад +38

    The way he said “urinal” really scared me i don’t know why tho

    • @oaktwig6413
      @oaktwig6413 4 года назад

      Rosita Morales probably because people in the uk say it different?

  • @puberty420
    @puberty420 5 лет назад +37

    dude i'm just a cis guy watching because i'm curious, but this is seriously just a helpful video, so thank you

    • @OriginalCreatorSama
      @OriginalCreatorSama 3 года назад +1

      Be sure you don't call anyone out in the bathroom. If they tell you that's one thing, but don't ask.
      There are plenty of guys that would anti-trans hate crimes (like beating them up for a more tame example) and trans people can't be sure you're not one of them despite your best intentions.
      If you wouldn't ask a cis guy about his penis, then you shouldn't ask a trans guy about it either.
      Just a PSA. Keep being a great ally! Maybe one day it won't matter and we can all be safe to talk about it in the open without fear. :3

    • @puberty420
      @puberty420 3 года назад +7

      @@OriginalCreatorSama yes ofc! n yeah i have no business asking about what’s in someone’s pants. be who you are inside, live your truth. the best I can do is make my trans friends feel as safe as possible and hopefully we can all help others to grow more accepting in this scary world :)

    • @hunterking4045
      @hunterking4045 2 года назад +1

      @@puberty420 you didn't say anything wrong. What am I missing here from Sam?

    • @RowanWarren78
      @RowanWarren78 2 года назад

      Alec, you're a great ally. I wish everyone was like you.

  • @lisaoatts8246
    @lisaoatts8246 3 года назад +4

    "Meta is betta" I absolutely adore you and Shaaba ❤

  • @SquishtheGeneral
    @SquishtheGeneral 4 года назад +43

    “A small Pe is better than no Pe” my trans friend on getting a Pe and I was going to get it on a T-shirt 😂

  • @awkwardxbutterfly
    @awkwardxbutterfly 5 лет назад +5

    Thank you for being so open in your discussions, it really helps other trans people including myself make their decisions in a more informed manner.

  • @hannahsalmon5150
    @hannahsalmon5150 4 года назад +2

    I love your content and videos! I am just a boring cis lady but I have always felt a certain level of discomfort with my gender... but mostly just with the way that people treat me or act about my gender. I'm happy with my body but it's just the mismatch with what society by in large views it as that I'm not so keen on. So it's really great to hear literally anything like at all from somebody with a perspective that partially comes from not matching with societal expectations of your assigned at birth gender. My apologies if this is nonsense. I am grateful to hear your voice!

  • @johnnagale3846
    @johnnagale3846 3 года назад +7

    Thank you Jammidodger for sharing your journey. I am beginning the steps of medical transition and will start with T first, and go from there. Top surgery is in the mix, but still not sure about lower surgery. Its all a process. Thanks for all the great content over the years...we are watching you!

  • @avesaoirsepraesens3537
    @avesaoirsepraesens3537 6 лет назад +142

    shush mr phone - shush!

  • @enderwiggins8248
    @enderwiggins8248 6 лет назад +21

    Random comment passing through: Jamie you look so good in this video, short blonde tip hair and beard scruff muy bueno

  • @ajaxwillis3962
    @ajaxwillis3962 2 года назад +1

    It's been years, and it's still very helpful. Thank you Jammie for making this video.

  • @ItsJustMeJannah
    @ItsJustMeJannah 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you so much for all of your amazing and informative videos. It is nice to hear it from a lay persons point of view rather than having to shift through all of the medical jargon. Thanks for your vulnerability and knowledge!

  • @andreajohnson6968
    @andreajohnson6968 6 лет назад +13

    Your videos have really helpful to me educating myself as an ally! Thank you for making them.

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +4

      You're so welcome, glad you find them helpful! :D

  • @TMBGTransformer
    @TMBGTransformer 5 лет назад +5

    i'm not interested in bottom surgery due to no dysphoria there and i'm big ace (who is even gonna see down there lol) but i didn't know the differences in the surgeries!! super interesting to learn about them and good luck to everyone considering/getting their bottom surgery !!

  • @metaphorebbelaar6944
    @metaphorebbelaar6944 4 года назад +2

    I don't know if I would ever want lower surgery, but it feels so validating to hear that 'your tattoo' is part of what held you back.
    It would be the same for me..

  • @dead2theworld869
    @dead2theworld869 6 лет назад +4

    honestly this was so helpful?? ugh i love you king

  • @aromanticfranziskavonkarma
    @aromanticfranziskavonkarma 3 года назад +14

    **Me not being able to decide if size or function matters more to me so just praying to the surgery gods you'll be able to get both size and function once I'm old enough and able in general to get bottom surgery**

    • @Rachel-fi4sc
      @Rachel-fi4sc 3 года назад +3

      I have heard that, if you start out getting meta surgery, later you can go back and get phallo more like a cis guy going through penis enlargement surgery would?

  • @elliotsoldaccount9414
    @elliotsoldaccount9414 6 лет назад +50

    This is why I want to get meta when I’m older. I’ve always been on the fence but I’m definitely leaning towards meta now.

  • @pucksandpaperbacks
    @pucksandpaperbacks 6 лет назад +67

    I always thought I'd be a trans guy who didn't want bottom surgery because my dysphoria is more top than bottom. But, I have realized my bottom dysphoria getting worse and this video really made me think about the possibility of bottom surgery. But, I worry that I may be too old (I'm 24) to get it and there could be complications.

    • @pucksandpaperbacks
      @pucksandpaperbacks 6 лет назад +1

      T A He's 24 I didn't know I don't watch him often

    • @jno805
      @jno805 6 лет назад +3

      Pucksandpaperbacks better now than when you're 50 if we are speaking only of how your body will heal and ignoring other factors

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +73

      Hey, you're never too old! I know of guys who have gotten lower surgery in their 40s and had great results.

    • @mme.veronica735
      @mme.veronica735 6 лет назад +15

      24!? That can still be at the later end of puberty for some people. That nowhere near too old (Not that there is a too old, but if your 60+ more complications may arise from any surgery due to sheer age)

    • @GrievousSpino
      @GrievousSpino 6 лет назад +1

      I had my metoidioplasty at 24 yo.

  • @P5238c
    @P5238c 6 лет назад +1

    I don't think you quite understand how much I love your videos

  • @akiniorski
    @akiniorski 6 лет назад +4

    I feel like this is a very good educational video without being graphic. And also I really like this length of beard on you. "scruffy Jamie" ♥️

  • @DrainYourBattery
    @DrainYourBattery 4 года назад +93

    Im Non-Binary and honestly love these videos
    Until my parents walk in after hearing the word penis uttered x amount of times in a video
    Sorry Mom & Dad just being educated!

    • @maureenkidd6629
      @maureenkidd6629 4 года назад +1

      What's non-binary? Does it mean you are neither male nor female?

    • @DrainYourBattery
      @DrainYourBattery 4 года назад +12

      @@maureenkidd6629 Yes exactly, I identify with something outside the gender binary (Male/Female)

    • @oaktwig6413
      @oaktwig6413 4 года назад +6

      ThatSherlockAddict 221 I’m Genderfluid, and this is why I wear headphones

  • @tayajaneway4628
    @tayajaneway4628 3 года назад +4

    I sincerely appreciate your honesty and willingness to educate others. I have learned a lot watching your videos, thank you!

  • @AnotherNowhereKid
    @AnotherNowhereKid 6 лет назад +10

    I love and respect you and what you do so much, Jamie. This video has been extremely educational, so thank you for your effort and openness.
    I just wish that some transmasculine people would at least mention that not every person who starts HRT with testosterone will, in fact, experience noticeable growth. I follow a bunch of trans men on RUclips and many seem to brag about their massive growth and all of them naturally claim that one does grow a 1-3 inch penis on T. (Not that you are bragging, that's not the impression I got at all! But some others frequently do...) Anyway, my lower anatomy has barely changed at all for the past 2.5 years I've been on T (apparently, many cis women have a bigger **** than I do now) and so their updates leave me feeling frustrated, discouraged, dysphoric, like an error. I do not want to get phalloplasty because of the scarring (among other reasons) and I had never heard of metoidioplasty until now, but given the fact that I didn't even grow anything resembling even a micropenis, I'm super disappointed that this is not going to be an option for me either.
    As I said, Jamie, it's absolutely not your fault that your video triggered my dysphoria, I've just noticed it so frequently with other RUclipsrs as well that I needed to get this off my chest somehow, and I felt most comfortable opening up about my feelings in your comment section. I'm sorry for leaving this rather depressing comment, though. Maybe this issue could be used as a topic for another video so that more folks become more sensible about how differently hormones affect each individual and to let other transmasculine people like me know that they're not alone and, more importantly, that they're not abnormal. Being trans*, I'm often regarded as just that by society, but it's even sadder if my own community makes me think the same.
    Please know that I still love and respect you and that I don't hold being happy with your body against you at all! I'm happy for you, too! It's just the widespread message that having such significant growth is to be expected that bothers me and makes me feel less than. Okay, I think I've let it all out and I'm good now. Thanks for reading my comment.

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +10

      Hey, thank you for feeling comfortable to open up here. I think this is a really important thing to talk about, and I'm sorry that this is a tricky subject for you, I can fully appreciate why.
      I know it's not on the same level, but before I started T I just heard loads of guys showing off their muscles and talking about how they got 'magic muscles' once they started T. I then expected something similar, and when it didn't happen, I was so disappointed.
      There's a lot of people out there who are happy to talk about all the amazing changes they've had, and making changes sound like a sure thing for others - I have been guilty of this myself in the past.
      But there needs to be more discussion about just how much changes can vary between people, and also the not so great changes.
      For the past couple of years, whenever I talk about changes I always try and say things could happen, or that this is likely to, etc...but do my best to not accidentally make it sound like any change is guaranteed.
      I think this type of topic would make a great video, and I might start working on something along this line!
      Thank you for leaving this comment, I think it's definitely a subject that needs more attention!

  • @awsinger1
    @awsinger1 3 года назад +6

    You made the right call for you! I have a very large scar on my arm from bone tumour related surgery and people ask me about it ALL THE TIME! I usually don’t want to talk about it... And I definitely wouldn’t want to talk about it if the answer was personal/to do with lower surgery.

  • @user-cj3rn1rt2p
    @user-cj3rn1rt2p 3 года назад +8

    "Shush Mr. Phone!"
    *s o w h o l e s o m e* 🥺

  • @dirtyhatemachine
    @dirtyhatemachine 5 лет назад +1

    thank you for documenting your transition and posting this video and others, im starting my transition and im only 18 but this really is helpful to my decisions ill be making in the future.

  • @TheKaliedescope
    @TheKaliedescope 6 лет назад +24

    The auto generated captions on this video are hilariously awful. (A twenty a plastic=metoidioplasty, etc.) I hope you will be able to have it captioned. Message me if you need some help transcribing. 👍

  • @jzwalz51robin45
    @jzwalz51robin45 5 лет назад +4

    If size is not an issue: not "getting the car into the garage" during physical intimacy is not important either. Intimacy is achieved through other activities.

  • @_mummege_4399
    @_mummege_4399 4 года назад +5

    Nothing has been as wholesome as Jammi saying "hush mr phone. hush!"

  • @slade_boi3560
    @slade_boi3560 4 года назад +1

    I didn't know there was another option. This gives me a LOT to think about. Thank you

  • @bananaspliitz9136
    @bananaspliitz9136 2 года назад +1

    Queer cis female but I love the duration I get from ur vids. One of my besties is a trans woman and while I love her and she’s very open about things I don’t think she would b super comfortable discussing something’s so I don’t ask but coming here I get some of those answers. Obviously things r different in the surgeries but the mental prep and timing of things is similar. I enjoy the learning ^~^

  • @gloomygirl666
    @gloomygirl666 5 лет назад +8

    Thank you...just thank you...i didn't even know about meta surgery. My fiancee has been saying he has no interest in bottom surgery. But he only talks about phallo...don't know if he knows about meta. But thanks for the info and insight.

  • @LiamMagan
    @LiamMagan 6 лет назад +4

    I also know that one day I will want to have meta. I used to think that phallo was what I wanted but I've changed my mind over the years. The scarring is one of the top reasons why I want meta. Seeing your videos about it has helped me really see that meta is the way to go.

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +3

      Glad they could help! Good luck with future surgery :D

    • @LiamMagan
      @LiamMagan 6 лет назад +2

      Jammidodger thank you! Also fun fact: I watch your videos when I do my T shot because it’s almost like having someone else there and it makes me less anxious. My girlfriend and I love to watch your videos together. She loves the one where you guys were Sims for a day. Keep being you!

  • @willtee1526
    @willtee1526 2 года назад

    this video will help an enormous amount of people who don't know where to go to get such useful information from someone who has lived it. Bravo to you.

  • @heydiddlediddlegal9001
    @heydiddlediddlegal9001 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much for this video! I've heard so many things from cis people passed down the grapevine that I wasn't sure if they were true and now I feel much more educated :)

  • @garymarshall2196
    @garymarshall2196 4 года назад +5

    Jamie just seems like a nice guy

  • @mercuryeuphoria5052
    @mercuryeuphoria5052 3 года назад +4

    Thank you for making this! I was having a hard time choosing between whether I wanted Phallo or Meto once I got older and started testosterone, now I know I'm definitely picking Meto for most of the same reasons.

  • @sentientbeingslove
    @sentientbeingslove 2 года назад

    Thanks so much for sharing so openly. I've been a fan of yours for a while for your clever, fun commentary and meme/tiktok collections. I have a relative who is having his lower surgery in like a month and have been trying to be supportive and informed from afar. Now I have a better idea of terminology and what questions to ask if he wants to share more about his experience. 💗💗💗

  • @lorenrobertson8039
    @lorenrobertson8039 6 лет назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I did enjoy learning all about the surgeries available and how you made your own choices. I think you are an awesome couple and wish all the happiness in the world.

  • @oneracc
    @oneracc 5 лет назад +23

    Is there a way to combine the two? Like, get meta and then lengthen it with phallo? I'm no surgeon so idk how this all works. I'm still pre-T so bottom surgery isn't gonna be for the next few years, but I'm already looking out for the pros and cons and what the best way would be for me.

    • @murder_husband1622
      @murder_husband1622 4 года назад +7

      Galactic Alpha this is a thing yes! Meta then phallo is possible but phallo to meta is not

  • @Kleineganz
    @Kleineganz 6 лет назад +11

    I'm 3 months on T now. Transition surgery of any kind is not currently on the table for me right now because I have other health issues to contend with (they found a malignancy on my thyroid that I need surgery for first). Bleh. I definitely want top surgery and a hysterectomy, but I'm not sure I want any other bottom surgery. If I did I may go for the simplest option I recently read about - called a "clitoral release." It's basically the first stage of metoidioplasty without any of the other options (releasing the micro-penis from the pelvic muscle and vulva so it hangs farther outside of the body and in a more natural position for a penis). I don't know if I need/want scrotoplasty and I don't think I'll go for urethral lengthening either. Only time will tell if that changes for me or not.

  • @andrewm8762
    @andrewm8762 3 года назад +1

    Thank you so much dude!! I've been watching you for a while and I sorta just... presumed you'd gotten Phallo, and this video weirdly only popped up to be after I googled Meta!! Thank you so so so much for this informative vid!!

  • @lara_xy
    @lara_xy 3 года назад

    This was so interesting to watch actually! I had no idea about how bottom surgery works and now this seems a lot clearer to me now

  • @lpsredshadows6586
    @lpsredshadows6586 6 лет назад +171

    "I talk about my penis..I still do." I would do that too if I got one XD Any tips\advice for pre t guys? I'm pre t and well everything.. so yeah any advice?
    -Aaron

    • @vernonbrechin4207
      @vernonbrechin4207 6 лет назад +1

      Some people believe that some moderate pumping can prepare the existing penis for meto. If available, dihydrotestosterone cream may help with growth. Some surgeons may advises against meto if the enlargement is not significant.

    • @ittybittyrampagingcommittee
      @ittybittyrampagingcommittee 6 лет назад +4

      I second the cream from @vernon brechin if you can, but I know it's illegal in the US if that's where you live. But read everything on it if you can get it, because I know it's like hyper testosterone so you can lose hair and get weird mood swings and stuff...
      But yeah, pumping and the cream are said to be the sure fire ways to get you a bigger peen pre-t. And don't be disheartened if t doesn't give you much growth. Sometimes that just happens...

    • @averytireddad
      @averytireddad 5 лет назад +4

      binder for chest dysphoria (bind safely!!!), packers and STP (stand to pee) devices for bottom dysphoria

    • @6luelights2
      @6luelights2 5 лет назад +2

      u can make an easy stp device with a plastic bottle search it up its free :) and it works!!

  • @Chuckqnit
    @Chuckqnit 5 лет назад +4

    Fascinating. Congratulations, young man. You've done what some people are absolutely incapable of doing...marshalling their will and the resources at their disposal to effect a positive, neccessary, and very fundamental change. With the ability to do that, you can do just about anything to continue building a wonderful life.
    May I also say that I am glad that you are the sort of man who obsesses over penile size. That tends to become a metaphor for other things in life that can only impede happiness and contentment.
    Cheers!

  • @Jojoleen1
    @Jojoleen1 5 лет назад

    You are a pleasure to listen to. Absolutely genuine.

  • @donniecoleman8509
    @donniecoleman8509 4 года назад +7

    Very courageous! I don't know if I would have your courage. I am a gay male. Satisfied with my stuff! I applaud you for standing up for what you believe in, and wanted it badly enough to endure the amount of pain you must have had. We are from different worlds. Always know. I'm in your corner. Good luck.

  • @satyricalsatanist5503
    @satyricalsatanist5503 6 лет назад +14

    why cant i just get a head transplant

  • @echomaclean31
    @echomaclean31 5 лет назад +3

    Very handsome brave boy , very good , much love , such grace

  • @gwenshin
    @gwenshin 6 лет назад

    Wow, I just read about that surgery and almost fainted!. I admire your bravery! Good luck and godspeed to you on your new, and improved life!

  • @Maigodseki
    @Maigodseki 3 года назад +1

    I have no idea why I started watching this but this is very interesting especially from a medical point of view. Todays possibilities are just impressive

  • @lucaschristian135
    @lucaschristian135 6 лет назад +4

    Great vid thanks for sharing your journey, it's inspiring for me, I'm right at the beginning of mine pretty much, and you helped me get the courage to start it!

    • @Jammidodger
      @Jammidodger  6 лет назад +3

      Thank you! That's so awesome, congrats on getting that courage - I know how hard it can be in the beginning. Hope your transition goes well! :)

    • @lucaschristian135
      @lucaschristian135 6 лет назад +1

      @@Jammidodger thanks dude!! Wish you well also :)

  • @frogspawn4302
    @frogspawn4302 6 лет назад +10

    Really good video❤
    You should do a video on top surgery and the different types and why you chose yours . ❤
    You don't have to though its just an idea

  • @crusty663
    @crusty663 6 лет назад +2

    The way you say ‘shush’ is so cute ❤️

  • @PedramOnline
    @PedramOnline 4 года назад +2

    Great comparison! Thank you for that. And size doesn’t matter 😬👍🏽