I am devastated: My brother’s cat hates me!!! He hated me all of his life - and wasn’t very friendly to anyone else either, but he didn’t treat them nearly as badly as he treated me - and then he got really old and passed away and my brother ended up getting a new kitten and guess who hates me???!!! And I’m practically a cat whisperer - everybody else’s animals whether dogs, or cats or birds or whatever they all love me and come to me but nope, not his cats - ever!!!😢
If you have a cat, which you feed, care for and provide shelter for and it hates you, you send it packing to the nearest shelter, where it can get adopted by someone it doesn't hate. Period. Good riddance
My cat loves me thankfully! He's always head butting me, sleeping next to my head, licking my nose and gets upset when I'm gone for a few hours. He'll be 19 this year! 😺
Holy cripes! He's a senior! : ) He's almost as old as a cat that some friends had... that one lived to 23yo. They called her CT (crooked tail) because she was either born with a stub of a tail or or she was injured early on, I don't remember which.
@@keithbrown7685 Yup, he's a crabby old kitty sometimes lol My kitty has a crooked tip to his tail too (Siamese mix), I think it's partly their genetics? Edit: My mom had a cat without a tail at all (just a nub) and she called him Tailsboy 😺
@@thesafekeeper1116 We have to accept such things. If something doesn't kill you when you're asleep, it'll do it when you're awake. :-) For my part, I wish I could die in the midst of one of my wonderfully weird dreams, and just live there forever. Of course *everybody* has weird dreams, some of them seem like great places to live out eternity.
My cat is loves me so much. He’s laying on me cuddling while I’m watching this. His purring is so loud 😂 We’ve been through a lot together (we found each other 6 years ago) . He is my world. I wish I could get him to the vet and his teeth cleaned as often as I should 😞 I give him the best of everything I possibly can💞
.......we have to respect "THE" cats' space. B.c. EVERYONE knows OUR CATS rule the house & woe betide anyone NOT KNOWING THIS SIMPLE FACT, especially THE POOR DOG who gets a polite but very swift tap on his nose IF he forgets.
My cat is "wired" incorrectly. When she is happy, she purrs AND switches her tail. Among other strange things. She has been strange for her whole life, but I love her anyway. I love her SO much!
All cats are different. We have a tabby lad whose tail is almost NEVER up, it'll lift when he brushes by us, but otherwise it 'drags' when he walks around and it usually swishes lightly when he's 'active' around us. And since he will reosrt to a growl when he's annoyed, we know it's not because he's upset.
Not all tail swishes are the same 3:22 that's a happy tail right there, much more relaxed and fluid movements 2:52 that's an upset tail, stiffer, more sudden movements
@@mrsmerily Funnily enough, that same tabby we have also almost never purrs. He purrs when biscuits which he only does at naptime/sleep and very very very rarely when snuggling when HE chooses to jump up and demand snuggles. Otherwise, he never purrs. . .instead he trills, chirps and chatters about everything. I realized today he actually chatters when he's annoyed at our other cat.
I have the opposite problem. As soon as i stop moving, at least one of them will jump on me, lean on me or meow until i pick them up. I rarely get to to do anything alone. I even have an audience while taking a shower!
I actually had a cat that hated me. Her name was Cleo and she a beautiful half Persian half American short hair. A friend’s regular cat lived with a male Persian intact cat. Anyway, Cleo ignored me, was not friendly to me, hated my poodle and didn’t use the litter box. My mom kept her because Cleo loved her. But my mom wasn’t a cat person. She eventually gave her to a family with no other pets. Cleo was much happier. This is the only cat that has ever hated me. I currently have an orange tabby. She’s about 7 months old. She rubs her face all over mine, lays in my lap and really likes me. 😂
i got a re-homed cat 6 days ago, my first pet, and she dislikes me. my feeling is that I must look like someone who mis-treated her. so far, no violence, but it does hurt me emotionally. i wanted something that would reciprocate love, had enough one-sided relationships in my life.
i had a cat that had kittens... (she was outside living cat) when i came home after week i opened window i went to fridge to get to my PC some snack and when i came back i had kittens in my bed :D I felt it like huge prove of trust since she brought them from her place
I have the opposite problem, my cat constantly wants to sit at my feet. If I go to take a shower, he cries at the door. I don't take naps during the day but if I lay down for a few minutes, he seems to be upset, meows at me, pats my face or tries to get me to play. I love him dearly but once in a while give me some space...lol!
My cat peed out of the litter box, then the next day in my bed. I'm so grateful she got my bed because it showed me she had blood in her urine. My poor baby has bad nerves and her bladder was full of blood. Very cheap cat med helped her out and, now she's happy again. No more using the bed or floor.
Oh no, #7 has gotta hurt💔 This channel is so informative and interesting. Love it and all the good advice! My cat loves to train me lol. Gesturing to cabinets she wants opened for exploring and dragging her toys to me to pat at them while looking back at me like, "here's where you come in"😂
I've got the exception when it comes to tails. We have lad whose perfectly tail with a tail that's always down. . .and will usually gently wag when he's interacting. . when he's playing and really engaged? That tail is 'lashing' all over the place and he's the happiest thing you could imagine.
Many cat behaviors have contexts that change their meaning. Two examples: Cat's tail is swishing back and forth. " Annoyed or angry. * Watching a squirrel (excited, anticipation). Cat does not use the litter box. * Mad at you. Enjoy that gift I left in your shoe. * PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Clean my litter box. I just can't go near it .
Sadly my cat went from loving me to fearing me because she has been diagnosed with glaucoma and hates the eye drops. I have to give it to her twice daily otherwise she will go blind. It’s a catch-22 because it is stressing her. I try giving treats, playing soft music, and bringing out her favorite toys. Nothing is working, she just runs and hides 😢
@@amycurtis535 I’ve approached her while she had been napping and it actually made it worse because she doesn’t feel safe. She typically napped on her cat tree but now she sleeps under my couch. It’s been three weeks and I think I may have found a solution. I got a pet gate high enough that she can’t easily jump over. So when it’s meal time I will quietly close the gate behind her. She typically starts to panick which is when I hold her in a towel and put in the drops. And then “reward” her with a meal and a lot of pets. seems to be the only solution. I’m hoping in time with routine she’ll get used to it. Also, she’s a special case. She was rescued from a hoarding situation, and I’m certain she had trauma in her past based on her fear level.
Thanks now i need to work on my cats relationship with me I left it for 6 months since I couldn’t take her with me since I am just 14 I cried a lot when it was time to leave her but I am back now that’s all that matters
I'm taking care of my sister's cat while she's living in a place that doesn't allow pets. Gonzo & I both "tolerate" each other, but when my sister comes over to visit, Gonzo is so much more affectionate around her, when she comes over.
I had a big Burmese mix cat for many years. He had an attitude from day one but he was so funny and intelligent. He loved me and my husband dearly and most people. However, he couldn't stand kids because kids tend to be noisy and active. He did not like loud noises or loud people.He particularly hated one of my closest friends. Mainly because this guy, albeit a harmless individual, my cat would automatically race to hide under the bed or in the closet. We told the guy to just leave him alone but he refused to listen to us. I swear every time my cat saw this guy he'd get "airplane ears", he'd hiss, growl spit and swat. He often got nailed by some of those swats. We warned the guy and told him we weren't responsible if our cat attacked him and that he'd been warned. My friend often left our place with multiple bandaids on his hands and arms. It was pretty funny how much my cat hated that guy..
My two recent rescued kittens dont show any of these signs, but do not like displaying physical affection in the slightest. They will deep sleep right next to me, and they definitely trust me, but they simply do not like being held more than 30 seconds, or being pet more than half a dozen strokes, unless food/treats are involved. They will do very slight head bumps, just enough to make contact, but the moment they make contact they spin around and take a few steps back. Almost as if they expect to be swatted away and are overly cautious. At first I thought they didnt like me but after a week of watching their body language (tail positions, eye contact, vocalizations etc) and the fact they will sleep soundly a half a foot away - as if they want to be close, just not "that" close, tells me its not that they dont like me or dont trust, but simply are not into physical contact or are overly cautious due to previous trauma/experience with humans. Who knows what they went through as kittens before the resscue, but I suspect they didnt get much affection or were possibly even abused/neglected.
They're also kittens. . .it tends to be a thing with kittens that they're less 'affectionate'. . .most of them seem to mellow out and cuddle after a while.
@@hallaloth3112 My first two kittens (20 years ago) were love bugs from jump, so I only have that as comparison. They pretty much thought i was their mother. I got both sets of kittens at the same age (7-8 weeks old) and both came from similar situations, First set found at an abandoned trailer park - just the two of them, and my most recent critters found on the side of the road in alabama also just the two of them. Would be nice if they grow to display more traditional affection, but even if they dont I'll still spoil them rotten :)
Common if they are somewhat feral. Trust of humans is learned in early contact with humans. It takes a long time to build that trust if it was missing. It is a worthy journey to make together.
My precious luna is like my daughter she has been wt me for 2 years now and ever since my parents brought her home she’s been my love and joy specially through the hard times like when my father passed away and my granma Debbie she’s been the highlight of my every day
La mia esperienza con Leo è stata esattamente l'opposto.... dopo aver girato per casa,si è introdotto subito nella lettiera...e significa che aveva apprezzato l' appartamento... L'unico atteggiamento un po' aggressivo è quando decide di giocare con me...ma giusto cinque minuti...e devo dire che mi diverte molto,per il resto mi dimostra amore e dolcezza Gli animali ci conoscono molto più di quello che pensiamo...❤
I have an affinity with cats, they always come up to me even when I have not switched my attention to them. I thereafter reward them with top cat food from time to time.
I don't know if I really agree with #8 being on this list. While I'm sure it's definitely possible, I would look at a lot of other factors before jumping to the conclusion that the cat is being vendictive. Most often a change from their litter habits has something to do with the box itself, if they're not obviously marking around the perimeter. Definitely utis is a really important thing to check for. But also did you recently change litters? Is there something wrong with their paw that's making the litter hurt to step in? Where is the box located and has it moved. Are there clear ways to get out and run if they ever feel cornered. Did they get scared by something unexpected and now have a ptsaid response to the box? And usually it comes down to just plain anxiety that may have nothing to do with you or may be separation anxiety. The only times in her life that my Haley did not use the litter box was when I left home over night and she was anxious and searching for me. And then when she was near the end of her life and just couldn't make it. But I think it's a little bit dangerous to automatically think that your cat is doing this on purpose because then we might feel less inclined to address the real problem and more inclined to build up resentment.
So true! We explained in the second half of #8 that going outside the litter box can also indicate health problems, with a common example being a cat that has a UTI.
Way back in the day..way back as in 1960s cat litter was barely a thing Shredded newspaper was used. My Siamese Mieko was being vindictive. He carried a mouthful of soiled paper shreds and dumped it in the center of the bed. He was a total love bug, unless you made him mad. Lol
Doing this right now. After our move they got super neurotic and i just didn't deal with it very well. But we're making progress! It was so weird, they would still cuddle me if i caught them relaxing but otherwise as soon as they heard my feet moving in the new house they were gone.
When I found my cat, actually she found me, never scratched me in almost 16 years. She was my bud, unfortunately she passed 2 years ago. I still miss Pita. By the way, Pita was an acronym for Pain In The Ass, best animal ever! 🐈
My cat used to enjoy being carried and would sleep on the bed, now he absolutely hates me. Eventually I've given up on him and he's usually never home but does listen to my mom. I jad adopted a female cat last year and never thought I would bond witj a cat so much, she was absolutely a sweetheart and we both had a great bond. Unfortunately I lost her early in January. I miss her immensely.
My girlfriend brought two cats with her to my home. Both of them love to hang around in the bathroom especially when I am using it. The problem is that they fight for a spot around me. So I am locking both of them out. Then they are meowing and scratching the door and distract me. I can only use bathroom in peace at work.
One question I had (though I haven't lived with a cat for many, many years due to personal circumstances) is if you've got a cat that "hates" you, how in the world are you supposed to get said feline to a vet? I mean, you've got a cat that hides from you or runs away from you or, worse, scratches and bites you if you try to handle it, so how are you supposed to get the cat into some kind of transport to take it to see a professional? Somehow, I don't think dressing in beekeeper clothes or the kind of protective gear used by women's self-defense trainers is going to put your cat at ease (I know *I* wouldn't be at ease seeing someone in a hazmat suit coming into my home for whatever reason). I mean, obviously, the advice is good but it really could've used a bit more explanation as to how to proceed in the situation.
You could try this (no guarantee but it's low stress for both of you). Leave the carrier out , door propped open, near a hiding place. Have a small soft blanket in it. Maybe some snacks. Just leave it. Eventually, cat will use it as the hideout. Let it happen until your cat hangs out in it regularly. One day, you walk by, flip the door shut and off to the vet you go.
I wife once changed to a biodegradable cat litter. Her cat protested by peeing on the outside of the litter box. After two days the litter was changed back and the unused wheat husk litter were regulated to spreading on ice in the next couple of winters.
Same cat initially disliked all men. Within two months she saw was in my lap to watch tv, even before sitting in my wife’s lap for television watching. As time went on she stopped hiding under the bed whenever guests came over, even adult male guests, except for my baby brother. Even when old, dying from cancer, and struggling with climbing the stairs she still ran upstairs to hide under the bed whenever he came over.
We got Lambeau first, he was the 'baby', then when he was a year old we welcomed Lombardi, who quickly decided that HE wanted to be 'Mommy's boy', he would block Lambeau from getting to me, not all of the time but enough to get his message across. He would also sit & glare at me if I spent any time with Lambeau, so Lambeau became 'Dad's boy'. Well, fast forward 14 years, a couple weeks ago we lost Lombardi to kidney failure. Now when I try to reestablish that bond with Lambeau, he prefers 'daddy' over me unless it's time to eat. He'll wait until daddy gets home from work to sit on the couch with us, he will literally climb over me to get to him & when he gets up to go to bed, Lambeau will also leave & go to one of his own beds. When we still had Lombardi, Lambeau would sleep with us using my head as his pillow, they'd both be on the bed with us & wait for me to get up to feed them, now it's rare that Lambeau comes into the bedroom on his own through the week. Maybe on the weekends when he knows hubby is sleeping in. His personality has changed since his brother passed. We had the vet come to the house so Lambeau could also be included if he chose & I MADE SURE he got to sniff little brother after he was 'gone', could this just be grieving that will change, or is this part of our new normal? We're debating on 'when' to bring a new kitty in & how long should we let him be an 'only child' & get all the attention to himself again like he did in his first year.
My cat runs away from me near dusk if she knows it’s time to come in for the night. There will often be very avoidant behaviour when it’s getting late. Sometimes she will rush over the roof next door, but will eventually turn up hours later and demand to come in. However, if it is early enough, it is much easier to get her come inside or I walk past her casually a few times so she doesn’t suspect she is about to be grabbed.
My cat does most of the things that indicates he loves me, but he does not like it when I'm lying on the couch and I pick him up and put him on my belly. I have to keep my hand on him otherwise he will leave, and while he's sitting there he is motionless with flat ears and big saucer eyes looking absolutely miserable. Normally he's so sweet so I find it funny when he does this.
guess I have nothing to worry about. My cat loves me, maybe a little too much. While I was watching the video she was practically begging for attention, and purring loudly at the same time. She even has a nickname, we call her the Attention Sponge because no matter how much attention we give her, she always wants more.
Yeah, my cat hates me. Not the other two humans in his life. We’ve had him for seven years. I’m the one who fed, took care of litter, played with, etc over the years. I took him with me to my new apartment. Even with more cat tv and play time, he’d attack me out of nowhere. A lot. We even had him on anti-anxiety meds. After six months, I brought him back to his old home. I go there a few times a week. He’ll approach me, get mad when I leave, but he’ll still claw and bite me out of nowhere. He’s rarely affectionate with me. I give him plenty of space and let him set the social rules. I give up.
Oh yes! A cat from the neighborhood came to my house. The bedroom window was always open, if I was at home. Ik had 4 other cats by them. And the other cat (which I named Sparta later), hated me and hated all my other cats, but still he kept on coming. And no I was not interested in him. Ik knew he already had an home (but did not know where). And yes of course I had some hard to chew food, for during the day time. He seemed to like it very much. But around 17.00 O'clock he had to leave. He had owners/ servants. But than I went on an holiday for about 12 days, family took care of my cats... and Sparta went back to his family. And the day I returned, the first thing I wanted to do, is to take my cats out for a walk around the block. Within 2 minutes Sparta noticed me and my cats. What happened than was like a scene of a romantic movie. Sparta saw en run to me, and let me pet her. And for the first time he walked with me and my other cats. And that was the day, I knew he made his choice to live with me. And of course Sparta still hated my other cats (which mostly backfired on him self). But Sparta still lives me 5 years later. Yes, sometimes it only takes some time.
My cat doesn't hid from me. he follows me everywhere, even into the bathroom. he sleeps on my bed next to me. he pays on top of my printer when I'm working on my computer.
We got seven cats in our household. Only six are tolerant and like me. The seventh cat considers me - Mrs Meany because I was the one who took her to the vet before we could make her an inside cat before we moved.
My kitty doesn't rub herself on anything or anyone and she sometimes will allow petting but never picking up or cuddling. But I want her to cuddle me. She doesn't do any angry signs though
I remember that we had to force her to take a medicine, I gave it to her everytime I arrived from the office at about 7 pm, she learned to hear my steps and the sound of the key opening the door and hide every time luckly we know all her hide spots.
In my lifetime, the only times I've ever seen a cat manifest its dislike for someone (hissing, scratching, biting, growling) is when that someone was going out of their way to pester the cat, tease it for kicks, get off on the cat's negative response, and think it was somehow funny or entertaining. It was all about the one doing the teasing, and for them, it was all about laughing at the cat's hostility and discomfort, and the fact that the cat couldn't get away at that moment. In my experience, is has to do with a sadistic human. I don't even care what their reasons might be for picking on cats or dogs or any creature-the human should have been taken away and put to sleep.
my new pet, a re-homed cat, dislikes me and my feeling is that I look like someone who mistreated her. I have a generic face, all my life people have said "doesn't she look like so-and-so?" Doesn't help that my cat is friendlier to my narcissistic roomie. Cat likes roomie's bedroom, and the roomie tried to get me to sit next to the cat while cat was asleep in roomie's bedroom. I refused, because the cat runs whenever I come near, and I didn't want to intrude on her safe-space. Roomie was just looking for kicks and giggles.
@@mettamorph4523 Who's to say in this situation? The cat may very well have narcissistic tendencies, somehow drawing them nearer to your friend. I spent my whole childhood and part of adulthood living on farms. We had dogs and cats and cattle and assorted birds (chickens, turkeys, ducks, geese)--- and every individual one of them had a unique disposition. There are friendly cats, shy cats, or a cat that may take a long time to get comfortable with you. Maybe years.
Just a heads up for some of these. A cat that doesnt look directly at you in itself isnt a bad thing, they have wider periferal than humans so sonetimes opt to just watch you from the side instead of right at you. Also some cats (mine included) will stare at you with their pupils really dilated, not because they hate you but because theyre excited and want to play. Mine does this because shes expecting me to throw something for her to chase (like a dog lmao).
My cats are like dogs. They like to be in the same room as me. All of them have expressed their unhappiness if I lock them out of a room that I am in. 😂
Had a cat that seemed to love me until I got a serious girlfriend. He was fine while I dated around. He started peeing outside the litter box selectively. He’d pee where she sat on the couch, and on the side of the bed where she’d sleep over. Eventually these behaviors spread to my son as well. He was only there every other weekend. Peed on son’s bed. He was re-homed after that. Through all this when I was the only person home he’d be nice to me. He was just a one human cat.
I think my cat loves me. He sleeps with me in between my feet and wakes me up with sand paper kisses. He hates when I sleep with the fan on because he gets cold and he doesn’t like to sleep with the fan. He follows me everywhere unless he’s intrigued by whatever is going on outside and Is watching that. He only goes outside of his box when I forget to clean it. But he definitely lets me know it’s full now by yelling at me while going to the bathroom with his litter in it. He used to let me hold him like a baby when he was little but now he’s too big. I still hold him on my shoulder like a baby being burped because it’s more comfy for him. I play with him a lot and switch up his toys.
I have had my cat for 10 years and she exhibits nearly all of these behaviors towards me. I've never mistreated her but I guess she just doesn't like me.
Ugh, my kitten just got fixed and spent 3 days shitting everywhere except his litter box probably because he hated the cone on his kneck. All I could do was grumble and clean it up since it wasn't his fault.
I moved into my new house with a roommate that lived with his cat alone for 2 years. She will run and hide from me or when the door bell rings. When i sit on the couch, she sometimes comes to me to be scratched there but no where else. We got a second cat shorlty after i moved in and he has latched onto me more than my roommate but i dont get the female cat. She is scared sometimes but then not other times.
My cat didn’t like me. She was from the street. She wanted to get into cupboards and I have to put her in the bathroom at night because there is no way to keep her out of the kitchen area. After a year she will finally get onto my lap and sleep. She hates it when I go out of my apartment and sits at the door waiting for me to come back. At first she didn’t want to even be in the same room. It was heartbreaking as I was doing everything for her but there was no real companionship and it did seem as if she didn’t like me. Now I take her out with me in a large carrier on wheels with a handle that I pull it along by. She feels safe and she likes not being left behind. She walked into it by herself the other day. She certainly has come a long way. Still doesn’t always trust me but we are working on that. It helped to hear that cats are not only a predator but also a prey animal. No wonder they have to stick up for themselves when frightened. No wonder there is a level of distrust. Especially when she came from the streets. But seeing improvement after a year has given me hope things will just get better and better.
Note that the cat hates you if it doesnt show the love signs! Sometimes cat may have a bad mood or is stressed by something (mine doesnt like my nieces and nephews, only one. She overall doesnt like kids). Tho those signs are temporary and doesnt last more than day by my expirence. Tho my cat is stressed by kids, the fact she hides and sleeps in my bed during their visit makes me go "uwu" as she feels safe with me. Also she allows the kids to pet her only when shes in my arms. I see her being a little scared but she knows that i will react if one of them would want to hurt her.
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I'd be devastated if I had a cat that hated me
Absolutely 😕
I am devastated: My brother’s cat hates me!!! He hated me all of his life - and wasn’t very friendly to anyone else either, but he didn’t treat them nearly as badly as he treated me - and then he got really old and passed away and my brother ended up getting a new kitten and guess who hates me???!!! And I’m practically a cat whisperer - everybody else’s animals whether dogs, or cats or birds or whatever they all love me and come to me but nope, not his cats - ever!!!😢
@@charrielyn1231woah
@@charrielyn1231 ❤️💔❤️ that’s strange…maybe you should say a prayer for that one ✝️
If you have a cat, which you feed, care for and provide shelter for and it hates you, you send it packing to the nearest shelter, where it can get adopted by someone it doesn't hate. Period.
Good riddance
My cat loves me thankfully! He's always head butting me, sleeping next to my head, licking my nose and gets upset when I'm gone for a few hours. He'll be 19 this year! 😺
Holy cripes! He's a senior! : ) He's almost as old as a cat that some friends had... that one lived to 23yo. They called her CT (crooked tail) because she was either born with a stub of a tail or or she was injured early on, I don't remember which.
@@keithbrown7685 Yup, he's a crabby old kitty sometimes lol My kitty has a crooked tip to his tail too (Siamese mix), I think it's partly their genetics?
Edit: My mom had a cat without a tail at all (just a nub) and she called him Tailsboy 😺
He's old😂 He's gonna kill you in your sleep 😡 😮
@@thesafekeeper1116 We have to accept such things. If something doesn't kill you when you're asleep, it'll do it when you're awake. :-)
For my part, I wish I could die in the midst of one of my wonderfully weird dreams, and just live there forever. Of course *everybody* has weird dreams, some of them seem like great places to live out eternity.
@@keithbrown7685 lol I agree I agree!
My cat is loves me so much. He’s laying on me cuddling while I’m watching this. His purring is so loud 😂
We’ve been through a lot together (we found each other 6 years ago) . He is my world. I wish I could get him to the vet and his teeth cleaned as often as I should 😞
I give him the best of everything I possibly can💞
Your cat is lucky to have you! 😸
I feel the same. I never know when they have a toothache either
Your a good person.
Regards from across the Tasman.
.......we have to respect "THE" cats' space. B.c. EVERYONE knows OUR CATS rule the house & woe betide anyone NOT KNOWING THIS SIMPLE FACT, especially THE POOR DOG who gets a polite but very swift tap on his nose IF he forgets.
My cat is "wired" incorrectly. When she is happy, she purrs AND switches her tail. Among other strange things. She has been strange for her whole life, but I love her anyway. I love her SO much!
All cats are different. We have a tabby lad whose tail is almost NEVER up, it'll lift when he brushes by us, but otherwise it 'drags' when he walks around and it usually swishes lightly when he's 'active' around us. And since he will reosrt to a growl when he's annoyed, we know it's not because he's upset.
Not all tail swishes are the same
3:22 that's a happy tail right there, much more relaxed and fluid movements
2:52 that's an upset tail, stiffer, more sudden movements
thank god, my cat is not unicorn at least... she does not purr that often either...
@@mrsmerily Funnily enough, that same tabby we have also almost never purrs. He purrs when biscuits which he only does at naptime/sleep and very very very rarely when snuggling when HE chooses to jump up and demand snuggles. Otherwise, he never purrs. . .instead he trills, chirps and chatters about everything. I realized today he actually chatters when he's annoyed at our other cat.
You cats is not " wired wrong" you simply don't know how or more likely don't want to be bothered with trying to understand it's unique personality.
the cat lying in his back getting a full tummy massage from TWO people! what a spoiled boy.
I have the opposite problem. As soon as i stop moving, at least one of them will jump on me, lean on me or meow until i pick them up. I rarely get to to do anything alone. I even have an audience while taking a shower!
That's a good thing be happy
@nickmumpfield5319 It is! But I wish I knew how to say "I don't need help going to the bathroom" in Cat language! 🙂
I've been fortunate enough to have had all affectionate cats. They know I love them...
I had a time where a cat hated me because I had chased it. After a few days, the cat was really sweet to me.
I had on that hated my sister so much that she shi**ed in the middle of her bed when she was at work .🤣🤣🤣🤣
I actually had a cat that hated me. Her name was Cleo and she a beautiful half Persian half American short hair. A friend’s regular cat lived with a male Persian intact cat. Anyway, Cleo ignored me, was not friendly to me, hated my poodle and didn’t use the litter box. My mom kept her because Cleo loved her. But my mom wasn’t a cat person. She eventually gave her to a family with no other pets. Cleo was much happier. This is the only cat that has ever hated me. I currently have an orange tabby. She’s about 7 months old. She rubs her face all over mine, lays in my lap and really likes me. 😂
i got a re-homed cat 6 days ago, my first pet, and she dislikes me. my feeling is that I must look like someone who mis-treated her. so far, no violence, but it does hurt me emotionally. i wanted something that would reciprocate love, had enough one-sided relationships in my life.
@@mettamorph4523 how’s your relationship now? I hope it’s improved.
i had a cat that had kittens... (she was outside living cat) when i came home after week i opened window i went to fridge to get to my PC some snack and when i came back i had kittens in my bed :D I felt it like huge prove of trust since she brought them from her place
I have the opposite problem, my cat constantly wants to sit at my feet. If I go to take a shower, he cries at the door. I don't take naps during the day but if I lay down for a few minutes, he seems to be upset, meows at me, pats my face or tries to get me to play. I love him dearly but once in a while give me some space...lol!
My cat definitely hates me...... until she's hungry again 😂
My cat peed out of the litter box, then the next day in my bed. I'm so grateful she got my bed because it showed me she had blood in her urine. My poor baby has bad nerves and her bladder was full of blood. Very cheap cat med helped her out and, now she's happy again. No more using the bed or floor.
Oh no, #7 has gotta hurt💔
This channel is so informative and interesting. Love it and all the good advice! My cat loves to train me lol. Gesturing to cabinets she wants opened for exploring and dragging her toys to me to pat at them while looking back at me like, "here's where you come in"😂
Aww so cute and silly 🥰🤣🤣
I hate how some of these apply to the cats in the house including 7 but im the one providing for them.
I've got the exception when it comes to tails. We have lad whose perfectly tail with a tail that's always down. . .and will usually gently wag when he's interacting. . when he's playing and really engaged? That tail is 'lashing' all over the place and he's the happiest thing you could imagine.
Many cat behaviors have contexts that change their meaning. Two examples:
Cat's tail is swishing back and forth.
" Annoyed or angry.
* Watching a squirrel (excited, anticipation).
Cat does not use the litter box.
* Mad at you. Enjoy that gift I left in your shoe.
* PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Clean my litter box. I just can't go near it .
Sadly my cat went from loving me to fearing me because she has been diagnosed with glaucoma and hates the eye drops. I have to give it to her twice daily otherwise she will go blind. It’s a catch-22 because it is stressing her. I try giving treats, playing soft music, and bringing out her favorite toys. Nothing is working, she just runs and hides 😢
So sorry.
Can you give the eye drops when she’s sleeping? It’s easier that way.
@@amycurtis535 I’ve approached her while she had been napping and it actually made it worse because she doesn’t feel safe. She typically napped on her cat tree but now she sleeps under my couch. It’s been three weeks and I think I may have found a solution. I got a pet gate high enough that she can’t easily jump over. So when it’s meal time I will quietly close the gate behind her. She typically starts to panick which is when I hold her in a towel and put in the drops. And then “reward” her with a meal and a lot of pets. seems to be the only solution. I’m hoping in time with routine she’ll get used to it. Also, she’s a special case. She was rescued from a hoarding situation, and I’m certain she had trauma in her past based on her fear level.
Thanks now i need to work on my cats relationship with me I left it for 6 months since I couldn’t take her with me since I am just 14 I cried a lot when it was time to leave her but I am back now that’s all that matters
I'd be sooo sad if my cat would hate me. I had 2 cats in my life, and they both liked me.
I'm taking care of my sister's cat while she's living in a place that doesn't allow pets. Gonzo & I both "tolerate" each other, but when my sister comes over to visit, Gonzo is so much more affectionate around her, when she comes over.
One of my cats is a rescue and I think he still has anxiety from trauma. I wish I knew how to fully help him. He is always hypervigalent.
I had a big Burmese mix cat for many years. He had an attitude from day one but he was so funny and intelligent. He loved me and my husband dearly and most people. However, he couldn't stand kids because kids tend to be noisy and active. He did not like loud noises or loud people.He particularly hated one of my closest friends. Mainly because this guy, albeit a harmless individual, my cat would automatically race to hide under the bed or in the closet. We told the guy to just leave him alone but he refused to listen to us. I swear every time my cat saw this guy he'd get "airplane ears", he'd hiss, growl spit and swat. He often got nailed by some of those swats. We warned the guy and told him we weren't responsible if our cat attacked him and that he'd been warned. My friend often left our place with multiple bandaids on his hands and arms. It was pretty funny how much my cat hated that guy..
Thank You for making this video now I know more about what to do if one of my cats start to hate me.
My two recent rescued kittens dont show any of these signs, but do not like displaying physical affection in the slightest. They will deep sleep right next to me, and they definitely trust me, but they simply do not like being held more than 30 seconds, or being pet more than half a dozen strokes, unless food/treats are involved. They will do very slight head bumps, just enough to make contact, but the moment they make contact they spin around and take a few steps back. Almost as if they expect to be swatted away and are overly cautious. At first I thought they didnt like me but after a week of watching their body language (tail positions, eye contact, vocalizations etc) and the fact they will sleep soundly a half a foot away - as if they want to be close, just not "that" close, tells me its not that they dont like me or dont trust, but simply are not into physical contact or are overly cautious due to previous trauma/experience with humans. Who knows what they went through as kittens before the resscue, but I suspect they didnt get much affection or were possibly even abused/neglected.
They're also kittens. . .it tends to be a thing with kittens that they're less 'affectionate'. . .most of them seem to mellow out and cuddle after a while.
@@hallaloth3112 My first two kittens (20 years ago) were love bugs from jump, so I only have that as comparison. They pretty much thought i was their mother. I got both sets of kittens at the same age (7-8 weeks old) and both came from similar situations, First set found at an abandoned trailer park - just the two of them, and my most recent critters found on the side of the road in alabama also just the two of them. Would be nice if they grow to display more traditional affection, but even if they dont I'll still spoil them rotten :)
Common if they are somewhat feral. Trust of humans is learned in early contact with humans. It takes a long time to build that trust if it was missing. It is a worthy journey to make together.
My precious luna is like my daughter she has been wt me for 2 years now and ever since my parents brought her home she’s been my love and joy specially through the hard times like when my father passed away and my granma Debbie she’s been the highlight of my every day
Pheo! You panicked me for a second there! Good thing my cat loves me very much!
La mia esperienza con Leo è stata esattamente l'opposto.... dopo aver girato per casa,si è introdotto subito nella lettiera...e significa che aveva apprezzato l' appartamento...
L'unico atteggiamento un po' aggressivo è quando decide di giocare con me...ma giusto cinque minuti...e devo dire che mi diverte molto,per il resto mi dimostra amore e dolcezza
Gli animali ci conoscono molto più di quello che pensiamo...❤
I never had a cat that didn't like me. Mine grooms me every day 😅.
they can be such a**holes and I love it😂
#4- I just keep picturing Stanley on The Office with the heart monitor that goes off when Michael Scott gets near him lol
I have an affinity with cats, they always come up to me even when I have not switched my attention to them. I thereafter reward them with top cat food from time to time.
I don't know if I really agree with #8 being on this list. While I'm sure it's definitely possible, I would look at a lot of other factors before jumping to the conclusion that the cat is being vendictive. Most often a change from their litter habits has something to do with the box itself, if they're not obviously marking around the perimeter. Definitely utis is a really important thing to check for. But also did you recently change litters? Is there something wrong with their paw that's making the litter hurt to step in? Where is the box located and has it moved. Are there clear ways to get out and run if they ever feel cornered. Did they get scared by something unexpected and now have a ptsaid response to the box? And usually it comes down to just plain anxiety that may have nothing to do with you or may be separation anxiety. The only times in her life that my Haley did not use the litter box was when I left home over night and she was anxious and searching for me. And then when she was near the end of her life and just couldn't make it.
But I think it's a little bit dangerous to automatically think that your cat is doing this on purpose because then we might feel less inclined to address the real problem and more inclined to build up resentment.
So true! We explained in the second half of #8 that going outside the litter box can also indicate health problems, with a common example being a cat that has a UTI.
Way back in the day..way back as in 1960s cat litter was barely a thing
Shredded newspaper was used. My Siamese Mieko was being vindictive. He carried a mouthful of soiled paper shreds and dumped it in the center of the bed.
He was a total love bug, unless you made him mad. Lol
Yeah I'm all good here, my cat's lying on my chest with his bum in my face.
Doing this right now. After our move they got super neurotic and i just didn't deal with it very well. But we're making progress! It was so weird, they would still cuddle me if i caught them relaxing but otherwise as soon as they heard my feet moving in the new house they were gone.
When I found my cat, actually she found me, never scratched me in almost 16 years. She was my bud, unfortunately she passed 2 years ago. I still miss Pita. By the way, Pita was an acronym for Pain In The Ass, best animal ever! 🐈
Excellent video 🐈⬛🐈⬛🐈⬛👋
Always check with your vet when your cat exhibits symptoms bizarre behavior.
Bet I know what you do for a living 😏
My cat used to enjoy being carried and would sleep on the bed, now he absolutely hates me. Eventually I've given up on him and he's usually never home but does listen to my mom. I jad adopted a female cat last year and never thought I would bond witj a cat so much, she was absolutely a sweetheart and we both had a great bond. Unfortunately I lost her early in January. I miss her immensely.
I’m so sorry you had such a short time with your loving cat.
My girlfriend brought two cats with her to my home. Both of them love to hang around in the bathroom especially when I am using it. The problem is that they fight for a spot around me.
So I am locking both of them out. Then they are meowing and scratching the door and distract me. I can only use bathroom in peace at work.
My cat hates me until she's hungry 😂
my cat adores me keep up the good videos
One question I had (though I haven't lived with a cat for many, many years due to personal circumstances) is if you've got a cat that "hates" you, how in the world are you supposed to get said feline to a vet? I mean, you've got a cat that hides from you or runs away from you or, worse, scratches and bites you if you try to handle it, so how are you supposed to get the cat into some kind of transport to take it to see a professional? Somehow, I don't think dressing in beekeeper clothes or the kind of protective gear used by women's self-defense trainers is going to put your cat at ease (I know *I* wouldn't be at ease seeing someone in a hazmat suit coming into my home for whatever reason). I mean, obviously, the advice is good but it really could've used a bit more explanation as to how to proceed in the situation.
You could try this (no guarantee but it's low stress for both of you).
Leave the carrier out , door propped open, near a hiding place. Have a small soft blanket in it. Maybe some snacks.
Just leave it. Eventually, cat will use it as the hideout. Let it happen until your cat hangs out in it regularly. One day, you walk by, flip the door shut and off to the vet you go.
I wife once changed to a biodegradable cat litter. Her cat protested by peeing on the outside of the litter box. After two days the litter was changed back and the unused wheat husk litter were regulated to spreading on ice in the next couple of winters.
Same cat initially disliked all men. Within two months she saw was in my lap to watch tv, even before sitting in my wife’s lap for television watching. As time went on she stopped hiding under the bed whenever guests came over, even adult male guests, except for my baby brother. Even when old, dying from cancer, and struggling with climbing the stairs she still ran upstairs to hide under the bed whenever he came over.
My cat loved us so much he brought in a decapitated bird! Now that is true love!
My cat hissed at me once because I was trying to get the lizard
from her
We got Lambeau first, he was the 'baby', then when he was a year old we welcomed Lombardi, who quickly decided that HE wanted to be 'Mommy's boy', he would block Lambeau from getting to me, not all of the time but enough to get his message across. He would also sit & glare at me if I spent any time with Lambeau, so Lambeau became 'Dad's boy'. Well, fast forward 14 years, a couple weeks ago we lost Lombardi to kidney failure. Now when I try to reestablish that bond with Lambeau, he prefers 'daddy' over me unless it's time to eat. He'll wait until daddy gets home from work to sit on the couch with us, he will literally climb over me to get to him & when he gets up to go to bed, Lambeau will also leave & go to one of his own beds. When we still had Lombardi, Lambeau would sleep with us using my head as his pillow, they'd both be on the bed with us & wait for me to get up to feed them, now it's rare that Lambeau comes into the bedroom on his own through the week. Maybe on the weekends when he knows hubby is sleeping in. His personality has changed since his brother passed. We had the vet come to the house so Lambeau could also be included if he chose & I MADE SURE he got to sniff little brother after he was 'gone', could this just be grieving that will change, or is this part of our new normal? We're debating on 'when' to bring a new kitty in & how long should we let him be an 'only child' & get all the attention to himself again like he did in his first year.
My cat runs away from me near dusk if she knows it’s time to come in for the night. There will often be very avoidant behaviour when it’s getting late. Sometimes she will rush over the roof next door, but will eventually turn up hours later and demand to come in.
However, if it is early enough, it is much easier to get her come inside or I walk past her casually a few times so she doesn’t suspect she is about to be grabbed.
My cat does most of the things that indicates he loves me, but he does not like it when I'm lying on the couch and I pick him up and put him on my belly. I have to keep my hand on him otherwise he will leave, and while he's sitting there he is motionless with flat ears and big saucer eyes looking absolutely miserable. Normally he's so sweet so I find it funny when he does this.
guess I have nothing to worry about. My cat loves me, maybe a little too much. While I was watching the video she was practically begging for attention, and purring loudly at the same time. She even has a nickname, we call her the Attention Sponge because no matter how much attention we give her, she always wants more.
Taking naps with my three seams to give them what they want
None of these apply to my 18 y/o 'daughter' aka cat! She is old and showing signs of Dementia.
@annefairchild3529 I'm calling tomorrow. Thank you. 🤗
My cat Rocco while I'm watching this video is on my bed and every morning or night he always wants me to hug him and pet him
cats dont hate, they either like or dislike something depending on the moment
Yeah, my cat hates me. Not the other two humans in his life. We’ve had him for seven years. I’m the one who fed, took care of litter, played with, etc over the years. I took him with me to my new apartment. Even with more cat tv and play time, he’d attack me out of nowhere. A lot. We even had him on anti-anxiety meds. After six months, I brought him back to his old home. I go there a few times a week. He’ll approach me, get mad when I leave, but he’ll still claw and bite me out of nowhere. He’s rarely affectionate with me. I give him plenty of space and let him set the social rules.
I give up.
WRONG.
Tails wagging doesn't always mean anger
Oh yes! A cat from the neighborhood came to my house. The bedroom window was always open, if I was at home.
Ik had 4 other cats by them.
And the other cat (which I named Sparta later), hated me and hated all my other cats, but still he kept on coming. And no I was not interested in him. Ik knew he already had an home (but did not know where).
And yes of course I had some hard to chew food, for during the day time. He seemed to like it very much.
But around 17.00 O'clock he had to leave. He had owners/ servants.
But than I went on an holiday for about 12 days, family took care of my cats... and Sparta went back to his family.
And the day I returned, the first thing I wanted to do, is to take my cats out for a walk around the block. Within 2 minutes Sparta noticed me and my cats. What happened than was like a scene of a romantic movie. Sparta saw en run to me, and let me pet her. And for the first time he walked with me and my other cats.
And that was the day, I knew he made his choice to live with me.
And of course Sparta still hated my other cats (which mostly backfired on him self).
But Sparta still lives me 5 years later.
Yes, sometimes it only takes some time.
My cat doesn't hid from me. he follows me everywhere, even into the bathroom. he sleeps on my bed next to me. he pays on top of my printer when I'm working on my computer.
We got seven cats in our household. Only six are tolerant and like me. The seventh cat considers me - Mrs Meany because I was the one who took her to the vet before we could make her an inside cat before we moved.
My kitty doesn't rub herself on anything or anyone and she sometimes will allow petting but never picking up or cuddling. But I want her to cuddle me. She doesn't do any angry signs though
I tried to adopt a cat who turned out to hiss at and scratch me. The adoption fell through because he didn't like me.
Can you imagine how embarrassing it must be for the cat that was featured during the UTI comment.
These facts are hilarious. Cats are not afraid to show if they don’t like you
Depends on the age of the cat kittens are too young to hate and forget fast but when they reach 1 year then they start memorise everything
When I do what I gotta do she loves me when I lie in bed depressed she get so aggressive and irritated it's crazy she holds me accountable
I remember that we had to force her to take a medicine, I gave it to her everytime I arrived from the office at about 7 pm, she learned to hear my steps and the sound of the key opening the door and hide every time luckly we know all her hide spots.
The other day, I caused it to rain outside when my cat _had_ to go outside. That caused some serious tail whipping.
In my lifetime, the only times I've ever seen a cat manifest its dislike for someone (hissing, scratching, biting, growling) is when that someone was going out of their way to pester the cat, tease it for kicks, get off on the cat's negative response, and think it was somehow funny or entertaining. It was all about the one doing the teasing, and for them, it was all about laughing at the cat's hostility and discomfort, and the fact that the cat couldn't get away at that moment.
In my experience, is has to do with a sadistic human. I don't even care what their reasons might be for picking on cats or dogs or any creature-the human should have been taken away and put to sleep.
my new pet, a re-homed cat, dislikes me and my feeling is that I look like someone who mistreated her. I have a generic face, all my life people have said "doesn't she look like so-and-so?" Doesn't help that my cat is friendlier to my narcissistic roomie. Cat likes roomie's bedroom, and the roomie tried to get me to sit next to the cat while cat was asleep in roomie's bedroom. I refused, because the cat runs whenever I come near, and I didn't want to intrude on her safe-space. Roomie was just looking for kicks and giggles.
@@mettamorph4523 Who's to say in this situation? The cat may very well have narcissistic tendencies, somehow drawing them nearer to your friend.
I spent my whole childhood and part of adulthood living on farms. We had dogs and cats and cattle and assorted birds (chickens, turkeys, ducks, geese)--- and every individual one of them had a unique disposition.
There are friendly cats, shy cats, or a cat that may take a long time to get comfortable with you. Maybe years.
@@keithbrown7685 ok. I lose.
Just a heads up for some of these.
A cat that doesnt look directly at you in itself isnt a bad thing, they have wider periferal than humans so sonetimes opt to just watch you from the side instead of right at you.
Also some cats (mine included) will stare at you with their pupils really dilated, not because they hate you but because theyre excited and want to play. Mine does this because shes expecting me to throw something for her to chase (like a dog lmao).
My cats are like dogs. They like to be in the same room as me.
All of them have expressed their unhappiness if I lock them out of a room that I am in. 😂
My cat loves me, it's everyone else that she hates.
Had a cat that seemed to love me until I got a serious girlfriend. He was fine while I dated around. He started peeing outside the litter box selectively. He’d pee where she sat on the couch, and on the side of the bed where she’d sleep over.
Eventually these behaviors spread to my son as well. He was only there every other weekend. Peed on son’s bed. He was re-homed after that.
Through all this when I was the only person home he’d be nice to me. He was just a one human cat.
Woah you ditched your cat for a girlfriend?!
@@amycurtis535 other way around. Cat was re-homed. Girlfriend of the story, became wife about 2 years later. We just had our 17th anniversary.
Yay, my cat likes me!😊
My cat was abused physically while in the litter box! It took 5years but he finaly got so he always uses the box! We just had to establish trust!
I got a new cat and my other cat is jealous. I try to play with her and give attention, but she just walks away. :(
true
I think my cat loves me. He sleeps with me in between my feet and wakes me up with sand paper kisses. He hates when I sleep with the fan on because he gets cold and he doesn’t like to sleep with the fan. He follows me everywhere unless he’s intrigued by whatever is going on outside and Is watching that. He only goes outside of his box when I forget to clean it. But he definitely lets me know it’s full now by yelling at me while going to the bathroom with his litter in it. He used to let me hold him like a baby when he was little but now he’s too big. I still hold him on my shoulder like a baby being burped because it’s more comfy for him. I play with him a lot and switch up his toys.
WHEN I GET DRESSED FOR WORK, MY CAT ATTACKS MY SHOES. I WILL HAVE TO QUIT MY JOB SOON. BUT LOVES TO HANG OUT ALL DAY.
My cat will ignore a comfortable bed just to sleep in the same room as my daughter and me.
I have had my cat for 10 years and she exhibits nearly all of these behaviors towards me. I've never mistreated her but I guess she just doesn't like me.
Now my cat is happy and can’t get enough attention from me and sleeps by my head
I knew someone who had a cat who loved them until they had her declawed
So sad! If you haven't already, checking out our video about why you should never declaw a cat.
I have My vet wont do it
I met a cat who is only friendly to me and only me...and it was the FIRST time we met.
My cat loves me but way to early tho idk why but he sleeps with me and more and I had him for 2 days..
I wonder if this is one of the cases where a cat gets out and never bothers to come home
I'm glad my cats don't do this other than the occasional hiss if they get too much attention when they wanna chill lol
Ugh, my kitten just got fixed and spent 3 days shitting everywhere except his litter box probably because he hated the cone on his kneck. All I could do was grumble and clean it up since it wasn't his fault.
My cat hates me;-; ty for the tips!!!! I hope they work😿😸
I moved into my new house with a roommate that lived with his cat alone for 2 years. She will run and hide from me or when the door bell rings. When i sit on the couch, she sometimes comes to me to be scratched there but no where else. We got a second cat shorlty after i moved in and he has latched onto me more than my roommate but i dont get the female cat. She is scared sometimes but then not other times.
Yeah my cat defiantly hates me apart from when I feed her 😂
I have a stray kitten so she is not my cat but when her tail mostly shakes when she is going to jump is the grass catch something like a toy idk why😂
My baby kittens slept on me today❤
They have a long memory so never do anything that will upset them. 😢😢😢
My cat doesn't leave me alone, meows at me to cuddle and when I do cuddle he falls asleep as the little spoon. Does my Jerry love me?
Who needs pretend Angels when we have real Cats. ❤
Oh looks like my cat hates me :/
jk my cat loves me :)
My cat didn’t like me. She was from the street. She wanted to get into cupboards and I have to put her in the bathroom at night because there is no way to keep her out of the kitchen area. After a year she will finally get onto my lap and sleep. She hates it when I go out of my apartment and sits at the door waiting for me to come back. At first she didn’t want to even be in the same room. It was heartbreaking as I was doing everything for her but there was no real companionship and it did seem as if she didn’t like me. Now I take her out with me in a large carrier on wheels with a handle that I pull it along by. She feels safe and she likes not being left behind. She walked into it by herself the other day. She certainly has come a long way. Still doesn’t always trust me but we are working on that. It helped to hear that cats are not only a predator but also a prey animal. No wonder they have to stick up for themselves when frightened. No wonder there is a level of distrust. Especially when she came from the streets. But seeing improvement after a year has given me hope things will just get better and better.
Note that the cat hates you if it doesnt show the love signs!
Sometimes cat may have a bad mood or is stressed by something (mine doesnt like my nieces and nephews, only one. She overall doesnt like kids).
Tho those signs are temporary and doesnt last more than day by my expirence.
Tho my cat is stressed by kids, the fact she hides and sleeps in my bed during their visit makes me go "uwu" as she feels safe with me. Also she allows the kids to pet her only when shes in my arms. I see her being a little scared but she knows that i will react if one of them would want to hurt her.
The feline is a good judge of character, so I have found
Try putting food out for your enemy
It can hurt if your friend hates you 😢
My cats love me for who I am