😟 Quitting social media, Instagram, forever for my mental health? What happened...why, how?

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  • Опубликовано: 18 дек 2024

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  • @GadgetsGearCoffee
    @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +28

    Part 2: ruclips.net/video/T0MF2D3xQ2s/видео.html
    I'd love to talk more about mental health, I'm on quite the journey of healing, self-worth, discovery. What else would you like to hear about?

    • @gregw9045
      @gregw9045 3 года назад +3

      Just keep sharing your insights and journey. A podcast with others that are sharing the same journey or struggling with their mental health would be informative.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +1

      @@gregw9045 I just got a new video idea :) 💡 you better be subscribed so you don't miss it 😉

    • @jakekadubeck5456
      @jakekadubeck5456 2 года назад

      @Jess Cuz hey 👋 I really appreciated seeing someone actually choosing to cut out social media and it actually enriching their life. I checked out your channels topics n interests. We're into lot of the same things. I love coffee! Biking, tech stuff and self improvement and minimalism. I don't want to put my personal email on here. Is there anyway we could be pen pals and chat sometime? I'd enjoy sharing my experiences with you vise versa. Lmk..lol

  • @richardeliasjames5190
    @richardeliasjames5190 2 года назад +230

    Hi everyone, I deleted my Facebook and Insta and everythings... over 6 years ago, never looked back! When I run into people, they say I fell off the map. THANK YOU!
    Smart people keep their private lives PRIVATE!

  • @lmusima3275
    @lmusima3275 2 года назад +190

    I began the Instagram detox in June this year as I found myself feeling fed up and unhappy ☹️ with the amount of fakeness I found. I felt too disconnected even with those who claimed to be good friends. They hardly ever reached out, liked or viewed my stories. I disappeared for 5 weeks then I reopened it for 2 weeks. Wasting time scrolling and looking through what people posted. I posted a story that I’m leaving. 50 or 60 people saw it and only 2 people responded, messaged me and gave me their contact details. Then I decided to permanently delete which it will be wiped out by next week. Yes people don’t care and they’re so self absorbed with their lives. So I’d leave them to it. I’m not sharing my photos or my life with them ever again.

    • @nourishingword8767
      @nourishingword8767 2 года назад +9

      Yes can completely relate!

    • @ciaramc_121
      @ciaramc_121 Год назад +2

      Can relate also.. how did you get off and stay off? I keep going off it then “justify” going on again.

    • @vanessayo4394
      @vanessayo4394 Год назад +6

      I agree with what you said. I had the same experience. I’m better off not being part of the IG platform. I’m a lot less stressful.
      Fake friends following just to criticize your life. Especially coworkers 😒

    • @mariacarmona4508
      @mariacarmona4508 Год назад +4

      @@ciaramc_121 how you could do it is start off with deleting the main thing you get on.. so for me I deleted TikTok first.. then when you have successfully gone days w/o going on TikTok.. delete the next most thing you use.. keep going like this an eventually you will be completely social media free. Ik you didn’t ask me but id thought I’d tell you how I did it! Hope this helps 😊

    • @Cardinal15
      @Cardinal15 Год назад +8

      Yup it’s a waste of time, people don’t care.

  • @edlynpz
    @edlynpz 3 года назад +261

    it’s funny I quit my Instagram not so long ago. And the things that I was telling my self it was that no body cares what I post and I didn’t care what everybody else was posting… Nobody really cares…

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +38

      I mean some people do care, but I find the ones that do are the closer ones to me and we have other means of communication anyway. I am missing a lot of stuff or regular chatting by commenting and seeing what some acquaintances are up to so there is a bit of disconnect but I've reconnected more with myself instead

    • @jstarASMR3103
      @jstarASMR3103 2 года назад +5

      Exactly!

    • @cia6880
      @cia6880 2 года назад +1

      Exactlybhahahaa

    • @choccococo7224
      @choccococo7224 2 года назад +6

      Yeah because it's fucking pointless we all have our own lives.

    • @BriaBarrows
      @BriaBarrows 2 года назад +1

      They don’t. I finally got tired and deleted the app from my phone. I’ll only use it for content

  • @SarahButterfly1992
    @SarahButterfly1992 3 года назад +203

    Just deleted it last week, feel so much lighter. You’re so self aware such a great thing.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +11

      It's been a long journey and inner work, still on it! Still discovering

    • @CHRISTALMOUNTAIN
      @CHRISTALMOUNTAIN 2 года назад +1

      C’mon stop acting confused and indecisive .

  • @greenmarker830
    @greenmarker830 2 года назад +35

    Quiting Instagram was like dropping a bag of heavy luggage. I feel alot more centered in my life now that I have control over my sources of entertainment. If your thinking about it do it, you get to live life for yourself not for the gram.

  • @governmentnameunknown8960
    @governmentnameunknown8960 3 года назад +60

    When you wake up the following day after making the decision to quit social media, you come to the realisation that you've been spending every morning of your life mindlessly scrolling on social media apps as soon as you wake up.

    • @jasonnehceis3267
      @jasonnehceis3267 2 года назад +1

      I especially love how you are posting here on social media how you deleted all your social media.🤣

    • @farhanashoma308
      @farhanashoma308 Месяц назад +1

      ​@@jasonnehceis3267 oh just shut up 🤬

  • @athmiyavenkatesh7907
    @athmiyavenkatesh7907 3 года назад +201

    It is really nice that you were able to cut off something toxic from your life and that is helping you. The temptation is strong so I wish you strength.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +13

      Thank you :) it's crazy how much awareness can make all the difference

    • @CHRISTALMOUNTAIN
      @CHRISTALMOUNTAIN 2 года назад

      I Never installed or will install instagram. Bye!

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 2 года назад +35

    And honestly, I know this is true because of human nature and I have empathy for those who are working through these emotions, but some people on social media are absolutely not in your corner. They just lurk, never comment, never uplift. They just wanna see what you got going on.

    • @pUkkademps
      @pUkkademps 2 года назад +4

      “They just want to see what you got going on”

    • @BriaBarrows
      @BriaBarrows 2 года назад

      @@pUkkademps it’s a fact sis!

    • @valerieh5400
      @valerieh5400 Месяц назад

      @@BriaBarrows - Facts 💯💯💯

  • @ChoppyJames
    @ChoppyJames 10 месяцев назад +3

    I used to be doing great in life about 2-3 years ago, or in other words I was just simply more fulfilled. I’ve been using Instagram a lot more than I ever have over the last year about and my mental health and overall quality of life has been terrible. I came to the realization that I was doing far better back then because I was never on Instagram, I actually had the mental space to think of ideas and act on them and make my life a movie. When your brain is constantly occupied and overwhelmed by Instagram you start to just lose yourself and become a nobody trying to be a somebody on the internet.

  • @nocturnalnikkole3448
    @nocturnalnikkole3448 3 года назад +117

    I deleted it last month and I noticed I'm more focused and my creativity flow has returned.😆 I felt that there was this weird draining force that started to creep up on me this year So I decided it was time to leave so I could protect my energy. I was able to get some things accomplished in sharing my arts though but after a while It's started to get repetitive and people get weird when they see your like count goes up.

    • @carolina-vl2cj
      @carolina-vl2cj 2 года назад +5

      a week after deleting insta, i feel the same, as if a weird draining force is gone.. i don’t know how to describe it.. i’m more self aware and even quit smoking weed😆

  • @jakekadubeck5456
    @jakekadubeck5456 2 года назад +55

    Congrats. It's been over 2 years. I don't miss Any of it. I feel quite normal and fulfilled compared to people who are obsessed with their online identities who seem anxious, neurotic and just empty inside trying to compete with others fake identity. It's a sickness of the mind for those who lose themselves in the narcissistic feedback loop of the **me** obsession. Plus my relationships with the people in my life have improved and deepened significantly after I quit social media. Social media itself isn't an evil thing. It's the human capacity to become self obsessed that's where the problem stems from...among other psychological factors and influences it has on people's mental stability and functionalities.

  • @alyzak.8997
    @alyzak.8997 3 года назад +35

    I never made an insta, snapchat or facebook account because I saw how toxic it was and changing the people around me when I was young.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +5

      Funny thing is I installed instagram the first time back in the day because I was home bound from a snowboard injury and bored. And then it took over my life again when I was home bound another time wirh covid.

  • @444truthteller
    @444truthteller 2 года назад +6

    Instagram is becoming like MySpace to me now. Everybody post fake happy stuff, everybody is flashing something, everybody is over sharing their lives. I’m over it. I’m back to RUclips like I was back in the day.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  2 года назад +3

      Well hopefully you're subscribed and will see you around :p as for. Instagram, ya def. I don't follow many people, mostly close friends and mental health accounts and a lot of my friends are spiritual now and couldn't care less about the platform so they don't post

  • @_TonyCrossroads
    @_TonyCrossroads 3 года назад +24

    Dope video. I deleted all of my social media accounts (Instagram, facebook) a month ago and honestly I’ve been thinking about just going completely off the grid. I noticed that scrolling through the apps wasn’t conducive to my happiness and started making me compare my life to others. I’d rather just not keep up with the Jones’ and although I would use my account to post history posts-I just don’t really care anymore lol.

  • @nataliaguzmanpainen4291
    @nataliaguzmanpainen4291 2 года назад +10

    I quit instagram more than a year ago, I ocassionally go online for a couple of minutes and I can see changes in my behavior and overall well being. On the other hand, I replaced Instagram with youtube and I binge videos everyday, I feel better, but I'm also fully aware that it's an issue. I've been trying to reduce my screen time and I've been doing a good job. Some days are harder than others but I'm super glad I got rid of Instagram because it was killing my self steem. I like to watch videos of doing the same thing 'cause it keeps me motivated! Great video btw

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  2 года назад +3

      I'm obviously not a therapist and I don't know your situation but I'd say if you're watching quality content that is helpful on RUclips in terms of skills or self development and are actually applying it (VS watching it like entertainment) then it's not bad per say cuz you've filled that time with something that is improving and adding to your life but if it's just prank videos or something and nothing but that, then that is another form of distraction

    • @nataliaguzmanpainen4291
      @nataliaguzmanpainen4291 2 года назад

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee yeah, I try to keep it balanced, but somedays I can only waste my time watching memes and silly videos. Although, since I'm not a native english speaker, I could argue that even watching memes in another language is "useful".
      Thanks for replying!

  • @ellona3645
    @ellona3645 3 года назад +23

    I was cleaning my feed and unfollowed/removed people with no bad intentions. Then suddenly this girl who I haven't seen for 10 years/only met twice told my dad. She literally thinks I hate her or something. She clearly was stalking me cause how will she know hahah. My parents are friends with her parents, I think it's just weird that I need to be friends with her just cause. Now I DEACTIVATED IT and feel at peace.

  • @thatkurdy
    @thatkurdy 3 года назад +9

    I’ve quit finally now and I couldn’t of done anything better. Since I’ve stopped using any social media apps, I’ve felt better and now live more in reality. It feels so good to be away from these different social media platforms.

  • @QuittingYoutube24
    @QuittingYoutube24 3 года назад +22

    I ended up quitting after the Suggestion Post and Reels took over last summer so after being off for 5 months I thought it was time to delete my account since Instagram is no longer interesting anymore especially with these new features!😑

  • @H0wlrunn3r
    @H0wlrunn3r 2 года назад +6

    Me and my brother quit at the same time. We spent this year cutting toxic people out of our lives, we started eating right, learning how to cook, seriously exercising 6 days a week, getting up at 5:30 AM everyday and making the most of life. But what enabled all that was learning stoicism. Marcus Aurelius, Senaca, Epictitus, etc all were huge influences for us. It was inevitable that we target social media as the next boss fight at some point. I can say that I have found unshakable peace in my soul by doing all this.
    These algorithms are designed to use you like cattle by studying your every move and feeding you exactly what want and then gaslighting you a little in random ways through content displayed on screen. Our brains love it! But look what it’s done to our society.

  • @Forevermj___
    @Forevermj___ 2 года назад +2

    Thankyou for your transparency! Its crazy that people feel this same way! I'm in this same boat and I don't think I will return. I've been off a week but am no stranger to unplugging but I don't think I want to go back. I want to know what I really like in life and get to know who I really am without the noise and non factor individuals who don't add any value to my life. I'm in a weird space and being off social media was the first cancer I had to rid. I'm so glad I found a room and community of people who feel the same way!

  • @jstarASMR3103
    @jstarASMR3103 2 года назад +12

    Omg! When I take social media breaks, I’m always going into my weather app🤣 glad to know I’m not the only one

  • @aeoligarlic4024
    @aeoligarlic4024 3 года назад +21

    This video was posted during the time i start to quit social media. Honestly love your insights and i also gained several points i didn't get from other "quitting social media" videos! The way refresh mechanism mimics slot machine to trying to fill the social media void, everything just speaks to me 🙌

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад

      I feel like understanding that it's not your fault you're addicted is an important fact cuz it's literally designed to be and once you see through that, you're more aware

  • @Cory-zn5mq
    @Cory-zn5mq Год назад +2

    I feel similar the interactions started to feel cheap and the news on the app was all that was to be shared instead of memories its like it follows you everywhere

  • @carfincap
    @carfincap 2 года назад +6

    I truly hope my daughters can reflect like you. Before they lose the ability to literally feel pain without it. Xo

  • @Livingingratitudeforever
    @Livingingratitudeforever 2 года назад +3

    This is 100% me. I'm so glad I got off IG too. Congrats and thank you for sharing!

  • @shawnjenkins2635
    @shawnjenkins2635 3 года назад +16

    Totally agree with you I've been watching ppl change in so many toxic ways every since Facebook came out,it has destroyed 2 good relationships and family quarrels, it's sad but I'm learning faster than ever ,

  • @GeorgiexoxoTV
    @GeorgiexoxoTV 3 года назад +48

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey! I left Instagram earlier this year. I really don't miss it at all and 100% identify with you re growing the outer social circle. I realised it was me doing this that had made me feel such inner loneliness. So happy you featured Cal Newport's work. His book was such an important tool for me in the early days. xoxo

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +5

      I sometimes miss it, I've reinstalled, posted, Uninstalled here and there and sometimes hours later, I realize that story was so not necessary (I'll even sometimes go back just to delete it) and the dopamine hit gets less and less worth it. I remember when I was happy they added stories feature so I could post the random stuff there instead of on my more intentional post section, now I realize how stories was the beginning of the end.

    • @seasons1146
      @seasons1146 2 года назад

      Hi. Good job. But dont you miss your fav art pages? Food bloggers? Bookstagram? Etc etc ? Cuz its those thing that are holding me. Got any tips?

  • @madkittyjoey70
    @madkittyjoey70 Год назад +3

    10 months ago I deleted my Facebook account and I don't regret it! I got irritated and jealous whenever I saw posts of everybody else's good stuff and I started feeling like I was Charlie Brown.
    After watching a bunch of videos about this subject, I developed an impulse to quit FB and acted out on it. I'm never going back! The only social media I use now is RUclips and occasionally Twitter.

  • @lux_atl
    @lux_atl Год назад +2

    Love your personality. I made a career on social media but I’m so over it as well.

  • @laiyne4363
    @laiyne4363 2 года назад +6

    The Social Dilemma is worth watching too. It motivated me to do some research on this

  • @AuthenticAwareness
    @AuthenticAwareness 2 года назад +6

    Love your video I recently made the same decision and I feel so free I really needed to let go and I don’t miss it at all I came to that dead end of just fed up with the brainwash and the drama on social media everyone and everything is so fake

  • @DaniDangg
    @DaniDangg 3 года назад +8

    I never realised it until i got sick for almost 3 months (covid and panic attacks) and my grandma banned me from using my phone. I used to be super addicted to it. I dont actually know how I survived the first days without social media but i remember crying and sneaking in to get my phone. As day passed by, my days feel longer. I started to actually feel what a "normal" day and life is. I am never been this fulfilled. I am now back with my phone but i dont think i will on facebook and insta.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад

      That's great! Putting your mental health first, I have instagram again and check every now and then but my relationship to it and how I feel when using it is completely different

  • @dgh5223
    @dgh5223 2 года назад +4

    I was off social media for the first 40 years of my life. Life was good.

  • @GadgetsGearCoffee
    @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +11

    What I replaced all the time wasting with, self care routine: ruclips.net/video/sKkzspEO5Q8/видео.html
    PS: not quitting RUclips! Not now anyway. My channel has been such a great way to express (and meet my needs), share, and connect with all of you! It's been the opposite of draining - I love it here, it's been nothing but positive and nice. I don't see RUclips as social media, more as a resource and I wish to add to the wealth of information online :) thanks for checking in frenzzz

    • @N8TURES
      @N8TURES 3 года назад +1

      Love the video thank for share. Where did you get your Handpan and what brand please ?

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +2

      @@N8TURES I got mine at a local shop but I was about to purchase this one amzn.to/35igqf8

    • @N8TURES
      @N8TURES 3 года назад

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee thx

  • @riskyjuice5208
    @riskyjuice5208 2 года назад +5

    Sometimes being addicted to something isn't bad as long you have control on it. If it is addicting and has become an escape from reality then that's when your addiction becomes a problem. For anyone who's struggling to quit addictions I hope for the best for you to overcome that challenge. It takes a lot of time. God bless!

    • @Speakingtomyself96
      @Speakingtomyself96 Год назад

      If your addicted that means you have no control over it lol

  • @KrissyFizzle
    @KrissyFizzle 3 года назад +2

    Please, just from starting the video and hearing you play that drum. I wasn't looking at the screen at first so thought it was put in music but the fact you were playing it makes it even more beautiful

  • @paranoia94
    @paranoia94 3 года назад +4

    Love the way you explained things. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Dobviews
    @Dobviews 2 года назад +3

    I dropped/deleted all of my social accounts in 2016. I have not missed the constant hate and vitriole. I now have just a YT channel to share my crochet patterns. Simple, less hate and I meet people more on a shared connection of the love of yarn from around the world.
    This improved the quality of my interactions and it isn't noise and hate. I do not showcase my face on my channel either. I do this because I see how facial software is developing and I fear the future of people stealing my identity by using stills from pics or videos.
    Each morning I have coffee and time to myself with a book or puttering in the garden. It is my relaxation time.

  • @cleveland216..
    @cleveland216.. 2 года назад +2

    I learned to use social media for connections instead of just scrolling on my down time

  • @justinseang3019
    @justinseang3019 Год назад +3

    I quit Instagram last month. It takes time to not look back depending on how severe the ghosting is to me.

  • @amahsenile
    @amahsenile 3 года назад +24

    So happy to hear about your experience, thank you for sharing! I found myself in a similar situation and I also caught myself going to the weather app for entertainment lol. I feel so much lighter and present now that I don't have social media! Keep us updated on your experience :)

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +1

      thank you for the kind words! I didn't think of making a follow up video to this, might be a good idea

    • @chynnascinema
      @chynnascinema 2 года назад

      lol I thought I was a weirdo for looking at the weather app. Have u heard of weather vaporwave? U might like it . It’s like jazz music that play on the weather channel from the 80s & 90s.

  • @reginafisher9919
    @reginafisher9919 2 года назад +5

    And I did the same thing and we're happier now more than ever, bye-bye toxicity.

  • @radicallychill8401
    @radicallychill8401 2 года назад +14

    I really loved your video. I recently made a video on my channel talking about why I quit social media too. I've been off of social media for 5 years now and will probably never go back. Instagram was literally destroying my mental health. It all just seemed so forced, fake and artificial. Since I've been off of social media I feel more human and like I am free to live my life for me and be my truest self.

  • @emmahonkanen4572
    @emmahonkanen4572 2 года назад +3

    I'm happy and I enjoy living without most of social media, but it's hard to make new friends when you live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. One could think that it would be easier to make friends in a small town in the middle of nowhere, but nowadays everyone is so focused on their phones I find it hard to make good conversations and really get to know new people

    • @nourishingword8767
      @nourishingword8767 2 года назад +1

      Same & I have severe social anxiety so it makes it even harder.

  • @dorydeviance3774
    @dorydeviance3774 3 года назад +8

    The best moments that I experienced in the recent past was never broadcasted. Social media is a popularity contest with no substance.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +3

      I think that's an overarching statement that is not completely untrue but not completely true either. I think it's great to celebrate achievements, success, your friends, and it's a great place to find likeminded people and good self-development IG pages. But it depends how you're using it, why you're using it, how the people you follow are you using it, why you're following those people, etc. In short, depends on your mental health, your awareness, what media you consume. But it definitely can become a trap if you're not careful.

    • @dorydeviance3774
      @dorydeviance3774 3 года назад +2

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee Thanks for the input Jess. I wanted to contribute something here in the comments because you made some valid points in the video.

  • @bellegraves
    @bellegraves Год назад +1

    I had deleted everything for awhile and learned a lot and then tried going back and I fell right back into the old habits in no time. I felt horrible about it as I had educated myself so much about what social media does to us in the first detox. I'm currently on day 46 (yep I keep a counter) without social media, take two. Decided to make this one a permanent cut. It really is amazing in those first few days watching yourself look for anything to do on your phone. My PGo account hasn't been this active in years lmao. All in all, social media is a quiet epidemic and I sincerely hope more of us wake up soon. Also that handpan looks badass, I need to try one someday!

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  Год назад +1

      Thanks for sharing! It's good to check in with oneself and it's good you noticed it come back and practiced self discipline.
      I'm back on social but not in the same way, I don't have that dopamine running through my body, I felt it come back especially during work hours (work from home) so I set a limit on my phone to restrict the app during work, and it was hard at first then after a few days I wasn't reaching for it much. The other times I reach for it it's intentional and I'm in control and not out of boredom.

  • @simplevisuals
    @simplevisuals 2 года назад +13

    Really needed to hear this! Thank you 🙏🏻 I would really like to improve my mental health in 2022.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  2 года назад +1

      do it! Take steps to honour your mental health and when you do, take moments to congratulate yourself

  • @discipleswastingtime
    @discipleswastingtime 2 года назад +1

    This was very refreshing. Thanks for taking the time out to make and share it.
    I myself have been off of IG for a little over a year now, Twitter for years, SC for some years and FB for about a decade. Its soooo much more all around better for my mental health not being on Social Media.

  • @adleyforbes
    @adleyforbes 3 года назад +1

    May 1st is my birthday , yeah this video is confirmation i should keep all social media deleted & defeated !

  • @clairelewis7207
    @clairelewis7207 Год назад +1

    I just found this video even though it’s 2 years old. I’m currently taking a break from instagram but I’m kind of liking the idea of not going back. I’m part of a book club and our group chat is on there, so that’s really the only thing making me think to redownload the app. I hate the feeling of constantly being accessible to people and yet almost no one ever reaches out. Maybe I will just silence notifications and only pop in to see what my bookclub is up to

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  Год назад

      better late than never! still very relevant, this, along with all the mental health work I really did that summer really have had lasting effects that I'm still benefiting from now. I am back on Instagram but not at all in the addictive way that I was before, some days I don't even open it. And if ever I sense I need to take a break, I know I can do this again. I installed Minimalist app actually that has an in app reminder timer as soon as I open Instagram so it keeps me on track

  • @rhondabaroli2683
    @rhondabaroli2683 2 года назад +1

    Your house is beautiful. Thanks for posting

  • @SayoniSays
    @SayoniSays 2 года назад +5

    uninstalled instagram few hours ago.... wuhoooo.... i remember my highschool days, when i had no social media, and i was a big bookworm, i could read 4 books in a week and now, thanks to social media i have lost my attention span! Time to become the old geek i used to be..... NO SOCIAL MEDIA, MORE READING!!!

  • @siddharthk1154
    @siddharthk1154 2 года назад +2

    Mam you tube is Much better than other social media platforms.

  • @prollyRB
    @prollyRB 3 года назад +9

    Thank you for this video. I've also considered taking a bit of a social media break and hopping on RUclips to release some thoughts so I appreciate the perspective here. Hope you're well and I'm looking forward to seeing your journey here.

  • @ceenuff
    @ceenuff 3 года назад +11

    This video is spot on! I Did the same, cutting Instagram out was healthy AF! Checked it maybe twice in last 6 months..... I Enjoy your vids 🙂

  • @moanapooh9726
    @moanapooh9726 3 года назад +10

    Truly inspiringg, I'm planning to do the same thing as a 15 year old girl. Even tho most teens my age have it, i rather focus on myself. Not everyone has to to but for ME personally, ik that Instagram really decreased my creativity and who I really am. And not being there for my family. Got to the point I was self sabotaging myself every time I feel low in some points of my life. So, after years since 5 grade, till now 10 grade, I will quit.

    • @cam1343
      @cam1343 2 года назад +2

      I have been using social media since I was 13 and am 19 now. My advice is don't wait for social media to die be part of the reason it dies. I am finally getting burned out on it myself but your real friends will communicate with you whether ya got socials or not

    • @rune.3918
      @rune.3918 Год назад

      so proud of you

  • @GotyaSteph
    @GotyaSteph 2 года назад +3

    I like this and did the same because of chronic pain and fatigue I would scroll mindlessly now I’m more focused on my health

  • @KaylaCoils
    @KaylaCoils 2 года назад +1

    I agree with the app telling you how much time you’ve been on .. that is a major problem!!! Im in the beginning process of never returning . It’s crazy I’ve been very productive like no other lol

  • @drc4168
    @drc4168 2 года назад +1

    Bravo missus!!!!! I ditched Twitter (Academic Twitter was SUCH a drain) - I applaud your commitment to stay off these addictive (time-wasting) apps. I remember a life/childhood before the Internet- it was BLISS.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  2 года назад +1

      I'm actually back on Instagram but I don't have the addictive nature of it and limit my time with the Minimalist Phone app (I did a review on this). I don't have the same dopamine hit, I don't use it the same way, unfortunately some friends I only connect and keep tabs through there but there are also a lot of mental health resources I get daily doses of from there. The whole idea was to cleanse the addiction out of my system which I have :) and should I need another round, I know what to do but I've had a healthy relationship with it so far which I didn't think I'd ever get to

  • @tionnaaura
    @tionnaaura 3 года назад +5

    Just watched your video!! Been watching a variety of videos about social media because I think I’m finally ready to get rid of mine… I just can’t do it anymore it’s gotten old to me… And it’s such a distraction and so frustrating… Plus I think it really brings you down… I’m just over it. I’m an artist myself though so that’s what has made it so hard for me! I create music, which I have tons of it here and RUclips, but I also paint and design clothing and create jewelry…. I am thinking of just focusing on my RUclips channel

  • @youngbae3966
    @youngbae3966 2 года назад

    This made me really fall in love with your channel it’s so organic and natural please keep making content!!!

  • @zenwuu
    @zenwuu 3 года назад +5

    Thank you so much. Love how well you articulate.

  • @terryrocks2j
    @terryrocks2j 3 года назад +9

    I still have blogger as a form of media but I refrain from creating arguments and use it as a platform to write my passions and keep busy. Instagram and FB, what upset me was that people like to argue for the sake of arguing. It's easy to fall into the trap as well. Even if you weren't at fault, somebody will still point that finger on you, rather just disagreeing or speak to you professionally, though some people will do the latter and I give them props in doing so. I realized I was wasting my time arguing and to see the rise of fakes who think who know everything. From what I researched, Instagram seems to be more for people who are really depressed. No where am I going to fall into that category. I've only uninstalled the programs and so far it's going ok. Hope I don't relapse. Like you, I think the whole Covid thing brought more anxious and depressed people onto the platform.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +2

      glad to hear you found something working for you! I agree with what you've said. As I've worked on my inner peace through many ways, I've found myself no longer engaging with the trolls and prioritizing and protecting my energy. It's way better and then if you want to create real change, you have the energy to do so in the places that matter in ways that matter your own way :)

  • @Anew3A3
    @Anew3A3 3 года назад +4

    I’ve been off of IG for a few years now. I’m still addicted to my phone. Thank you for sharing.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +2

      There is some inner work to do there then probably. My phone was a crutch in diff ways instead of a tool remove apps that don't serve you. I've removed notifications sounds and all years ago I still check but I'm not distracted when a text comes in to look at it on the spot

    • @Anew3A3
      @Anew3A3 3 года назад +1

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee Amazing! Yea you’re right there is inner work to be done. Let me start deleting more apps. I turned off notifications for texts. Thank you so much for your response. ✨

    • @katriannanonduality
      @katriannanonduality 3 года назад +1

      right there with you! i've deleted socials but my phone is a problem regardless! it's like i just find other apps on it to distract me to escape

    • @Anew3A3
      @Anew3A3 3 года назад +1

      @@katriannanonduality yea it’s been taking up so much time. Hopefully we fight it. Good luck.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад

      @@katriannanonduality awareness is step 1, but you gotta put your will in it. It won't be easy. But the more you do it baby steps, the easier it will be. Remove notifications on your phone. Put it in a drawer when doing focused work. Etc. Find systems and then apply it, you showing up for yourself with the boundaries you set up and follow through with, will empower you. Otherwise, you will be a slave to your device and will feel bad cuz of the tech and cuz of that cycle. Start small, if you mess up, don't dwell on it, pick yourself back up and tweak it to make it work.

  • @avgholson8143
    @avgholson8143 3 года назад +21

    3:30 Omgosh I 1000% can relate. With Covid, I also lived and worked at home...alone. Joined back to Facebook and a year later regretted. Alot of my connections were peopl in my company and I felt like I could only post a certain/clean/ optimistic/inspirational curated version of myself. It was very 1 dimensional. I begin to feel like a fraud, even though my post were well-intentioned. Wearing a digital mask. I deleted my FB last week and not going back!

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +5

      It's magical when you get out of that swirling vortex of terror and realize you can swim freely in the ocean

    • @tifftreads
      @tifftreads 3 года назад

      I totally agree with this comment for sure. You feel like a fraud.

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 2 года назад +1

    Yup! I just uninstalled it. I was thinking about it for so long and i finally did it. And yes, you do start to go through other apps

  • @leonorstone5039
    @leonorstone5039 2 года назад

    Don't know if you'll see this comment, but I just wanted to say this video made me feel really confident with the idea of quitting instagram and most of the things you said resonated with what I'm feeling right now. Thank you so much for your honesty!

  • @sleeplessinstockwell
    @sleeplessinstockwell 2 года назад +1

    Excellent video babe you spoke a hellatruth. Stay authentic. Peace ✌🏾

  • @andivlogs
    @andivlogs 2 года назад +2

    Great points, and great video. I still have my social media accounts but have decided to limit my use a long time ago. I only install the app when I need to promote a certain blog post, then uninstall it after. That's it. I can speak to my friends via Messenger anyway. It's amazing how much time you can save without IG. It's like all of a sudden you have more time for hobbies, which is cool 😊

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  2 года назад

      Great you found a system that works! You can also check out the minimalist app I reviewed for a different solution

  • @mercilessmidus8213
    @mercilessmidus8213 3 года назад +3

    Really powerful because im in the process of doing the exact thing and im already feeling better and its only been a few days.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +2

      keep at it :) replace that time with productivity or working on healing yourself

    • @mercilessmidus8213
      @mercilessmidus8213 3 года назад +1

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee Yes indeed need lots of work on myself emotionally and spiritually

    • @kieffbaluyot1387
      @kieffbaluyot1387 3 года назад +1

      I’m thinking about going through this journey. I feel like it’s draining my life force

  • @alexjemphrey
    @alexjemphrey 2 года назад +3

    You have such a cool personality Jess! Very charismatic

  • @rboertchristofaro3586
    @rboertchristofaro3586 2 года назад +2

    I don't use social media of any kind either for my mental health as well

  • @Atheria444
    @Atheria444 2 года назад +1

    I left my social media accounts up, but put disclaimers days ago that I'm fed up and won't be logging in or posting anymore. I'm just using the old pages as calling cards to send people to my blog. I did keep RUclips and Rumble (obviously...as I'm here) simply to host videos for my blog. I quit for many reasons, including happiness, stress, vile censorship, and the fact it's mostly a waste of life. I noticed that when I took a walk on the trail near my condo days ago without my phone and taking pictures every 10 seconds, I was actually able to ENJOY JUST BEING IN NATURE.

  • @OriAlfassi
    @OriAlfassi 2 года назад +3

    What a great story Jess! Ive considered quitting instagram completely, this was so inspiring and insightful. thank you!

    • @vedantsingla1721
      @vedantsingla1721 2 года назад

      Do it, live without it for an year. Take this as a sign
      🚀

  • @NajiHere
    @NajiHere 2 года назад +2

    Deleted all my instagram account for mental health, wish me luck :)x

  • @me308_3
    @me308_3 Год назад +1

    I enjoyed this. You’re a good RUclipsr btw keep it up.

  • @el-hp1lj
    @el-hp1lj 2 года назад +4

    amazing knowing that there are millions of people in the world without any social following at all and functioning just fine in life. These platforms are a one way ticket to a depressed life unless you have strong willpower to keep usage in check. I never understood having multiple platforms. I have 1. Facebook. Period. Having 3 or 4 or 5 is just weird to me. Its the same shit on each app, regurgitated over and over again. Step away, the people who matter in your life will still be there. Everyone else really never mattered anyway

  • @samzins1983
    @samzins1983 3 года назад +9

    I normally don’t comment on things too often, but I wanted to say THIS IS AN AWESOME VIDEO!! Seriously. I had a similar experience around a half a year ago, and since then I’ve felt this wave of freedom wash over my life. Like you, I would wake up and first thing I would do is check Instagram, snapchat, tiktok, you name it. And looking back on it I realize how much time that took up! I’m not perfect, bc RUclips has become my downfall instead. One thing I noticed though, is that on RUclips, 85% of what I watch is something actually beneficial, not just mindless memes or videos. I’ve kind of started to do that technology minimalism that you mentioned without even knowing what it is, but now that I do, I think I’m going to take it a step further. But I would like your advice on one thing; what did/would you do to eliminate RUclips or at least minimize it in my life? While I do enjoy it and learn from it, I believe it still takes up too much of my time. Thank you for this video, I hope more people watch it bc everything you said is true and can improve quality of life greatly!

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +1

      thanks for all the kind words Sam!
      You'll have to experiment and see how it works for you when it comes to RUclips, I mostly watch educational videos but sometimes I'll watch Buzzfeed for fun it's kind of 80/20 for me but I don't feel guilty about it because it's basically my TV time and entertainment and it's not preventing me from doing other things in life.
      I would say it depends on how you consume it, is it on your computer? your phone? phones have apps and limiters, or if you have multiple devices like an iPad that you're not always on, you can use that to watch RUclips so then it's very separate than on your phone for example. I mostly start a video on my phone then cast to my TV so it's really associated as "TV TIME" vs mindlessly being on my phone and then I set up a playlist. Or you an be intentional and set up some videos on the watch later playlist, watch only that and then when it's over and you don't let RUclips auto-play, you stop. Set timers, set a habit tracker, etc.! There are so many ways, it's about figuring out what works for you.
      Just be gentle on yourself while you figure it out, it may take a few tries, some back and forth, and you may slip sometimes. Progress, not perfection. And so long as you feel better, that's the overall thing to aim for.

    • @samzins1983
      @samzins1983 3 года назад +2

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee Of course, it was a great watch!
      That’s similar to how I am, most of what I watch has to do with information of some sort, but there are times where I’ll watch things just for fun. RUclips is essentially TV for me as well, so the tactic you said about using RUclips only on an iPad or presenting it on a TV is a great idea actually. Kind of separating the experience from my phone therefore making it less of a natural tendency to just tap on it like how social media used to be. Making my phone a means of communication or needing to Google something rather than using it for entertainment purposes is something that would help me I believe.
      I really appreciate your response and I will try out a few of these ways to see if one does work for me. Being gentle on myself is something I’ve come a long way on and plan to keep furthering, so thank you for reminding me of that! It’s just the beginning of the journey. I hope you do the same!

  • @TheAmandasings077
    @TheAmandasings077 Год назад +1

    Social media is so pointless sometimes, it draines you, makes you angry etc

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  Год назад +1

      I think if you have things that need healing from within and you're searching for them outwards like on social media, it can be unhealthy

  • @a.emrekaya
    @a.emrekaya 2 года назад +1

    I haven't used social media for 20 days, I had a little difficulty in the first days, but I don't think about it anymore.
    I don't know if my psychology is better, but I sleep better.

  • @normapadro420
    @normapadro420 10 месяцев назад +1

    Hello. I use these softwares if I want to read something. I search their search engine after watching, or reading the articles I shut things down. I have other things to do. They are just softwares to use as tools. They are not that important to me.

  • @aganeko
    @aganeko Год назад

    Lmfaooo “nobody cared” …love your video. Relatable 100%

  • @charitycolumbus6849
    @charitycolumbus6849 2 года назад +3

    I just deleted my Instagram.. to me it’s too childish, and it turned me off to find out people my age and over the age was into this childish app.. I’m never going back on there ever again.

  • @TheKingMAC
    @TheKingMAC Год назад

    Having several reasons to shut it down... correct....

  • @davidrobertson5894
    @davidrobertson5894 3 года назад +4

    This is the first video I watched on your channel! You're awesome. Definitely subbing. 😀

  • @mrjrl5778
    @mrjrl5778 2 года назад

    this was a very nicely made video, thank you for sharing your experience. Ive been deleting and reinstalling insta & fb back and forth, because i really wanna protect my mental health and focus on what matters but for some reason being on those apps just make me lonely

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  2 года назад

      you gotta dig deep into that and see why that is. Journaling can be a great way to connect with yourself and also make you feel less lonely! there are many many techniques and tools but you have to discover them for yourself and which will work depending on your situation. I made a journaling video as well ruclips.net/video/NHwjr5QmZwA/видео.html

  • @Pozativ1
    @Pozativ1 3 года назад +6

    You're Awesome. You're a good speaker on camera, I don't think I could do that lol. I'd be so nervous. But I had to totally delete my Twitter and Instagram accounts. Facebook is still a pain, but manageable. RUclips has become a necessity.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +3

      As long as RUclips consumption is healthy and not deteriorating your mental health :)

    • @Pozativ1
      @Pozativ1 3 года назад +1

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee nope, I fill my head with music comedy and positive self help videos

    • @Pozativ1
      @Pozativ1 3 года назад +1

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee Instagram and Twitter are the ones that made me want to kill myself so I cut those out.

  • @sziumirainbowz8087
    @sziumirainbowz8087 2 года назад +1

    I don't have a word to explain the way i relate to the thumbnail.
    I don't want to share abt the experience I had on social media or anyth like that since I had already shared and explained it to the people whom i needed to, but I just want to say that coming on social media was never ever my choice but quitting it for uncertain period or maybe for forever is 100% my choice because a few months back I was so overwhelmed and living in a hell, my mental health was getting worse by the time, I needed to get out of that hell so I decided to quit the hellsome place called social media for my better mental health and I'm blessed that the almighty God guide me to the place where I need and deserve to go. I've been still dealing with mental health issues but I trust in God that he will heal and grant me good mental health one day I believe in God's healing miracle.❣🙏

  • @hhholly
    @hhholly 2 года назад +3

    I just quit social media. Instant improvement

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  2 года назад

      What have you been doing in that time? In what ways have you felt better?

  • @bluealien66
    @bluealien66 3 года назад +2

    thank you so much for this. i have been wanting to do that for so long and I've been having fomo but I'm so glad I found this video. sidenote: I just noticed that you uploaded this on my birthday. I'll take that as a sign lol

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад

      happy birthday! give yourself the gift of freedom :)

  • @shorty004
    @shorty004 2 года назад +3

    I can 100% relate to this video.🙏 we are awakening.🙏🌌 you are strong and self aware!!
    We are wasting our time on social media watching other people waste their time. Its not good. God did not create us to do that. We have lives to live in real time. The enemy wants us glued to our screens. He wants us self destructing from all of its chaos.
    Im spending the rest of my life looking up at the sky and not down at my screen! ❤️🙏

  • @patrickchrisrobert8034
    @patrickchrisrobert8034 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for sharing Jess

  • @levelup_witherika
    @levelup_witherika 2 года назад +5

    Congratulations on letting go of something toxic. I have deleted my FB & IG accounts permanently for good as well. I’m more creative and free after that❤️

  • @rhondabaroli2683
    @rhondabaroli2683 2 года назад +2

    It hard to quit ..,anything But well for today I trying. I hope my friends and fam understands more to life than media ... good news is no ones judging and what I can’t see won’t hurt me. I jus want to be free from being addicted to media and I pray for better days before media I had fam and friends
    I want to see them in life and maybe I will ya never know lol well good luck media people that want more life and memories and jus wanna enjoy living and omg yes fully mindful is my goal

  • @siddharthk1154
    @siddharthk1154 2 года назад +2

    THANK U FOR THE GREAT ADVICE MAM

  • @songsforsale9937
    @songsforsale9937 3 года назад +2

    Yes. Well said

  • @prasadchavan7995
    @prasadchavan7995 2 года назад +2

    I had quit social media for almost 2 years and I think I should do it again as it’s consuming too much of my time.

  • @trmp9923
    @trmp9923 3 года назад +6

    What if a person has multiple chronic illnesses and no real life friends.. And stays in bed a lot. It's harder to just quit and stare at the ceiling. I do watch TV sometimes and go for short walks but other than that... Not much going on.

    • @athmiyavenkatesh7907
      @athmiyavenkatesh7907 3 года назад +7

      Books and writing helped me.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +2

      I can tell you from my own experience, that instagram held me back from living life in some ways, and it held me from showing up, fully. It was a crutch. And it filled time and energy, that time and energy I could put to use elsewhere. Or to force myself to connect with others! I'm not sure what your particular case is, but finding online groups for games you like for example can help! During covid I had a few VR buddies I connected with and we'd play every day and it was really helpful - I still play with them several times a week and we have developed a friendship outside of gaming as well!

  • @rofflestomp684
    @rofflestomp684 3 года назад +7

    I only use my phone to listen to music, I quit my carrier years ago. I use Skype if I need to make a phone call, but the nice thing is I can't get phone calls randomly. By appointment only, and those little pocket demons are definitely just like slot machines.
    Being like an over stimulated child in a pile of toys is surely a recipe for losing focus and the joy of making one thing great. I was always more Tai chi than yoga, but the focus by both on breathing and form makes what you do you like nothing else.

    • @GadgetsGearCoffee
      @GadgetsGearCoffee  3 года назад +2

      I imagine the principal is the same for tai chi! It's just a tool and finding the right one. My generation was really unlucky with tech, it all sky rocketed with us and there was no tools, rules or guidelines on how to use this properly so we were susceptible to it

    • @rofflestomp684
      @rofflestomp684 3 года назад

      @@GadgetsGearCoffee I think that is exactly right!
      It was, and still pretty much is, the wild west out there. Tough to put brakes on them skyrockets.
      It's gonna be 'The Gods must be crazy' on steroids after Musk finishes building his version of Skynet and starts airdropping phones on the bushman in Swaziland and Wild Borneo. Good grief.