why i'm quitting social media.
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- Опубликовано: 6 июл 2021
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I love the way you talk ! I'm addicted to videos talking about deleting social media ... Who else ?
lol same
lol me too .. glad im not alone
Lmfao same😂They bring me so much confort😅♥️
I thought I was alone in this irony thank god we're many 😅
I love watching them, it gives me hope for humanity
Social media is very full of evil. Stay away from if, unless you are just marketing your business and leaving.
Imagine sitting in the house on the phone scrolling hours on in,watching everyone else build there life while you just envy,and feel sorry for yourself,it’s a circle of madness ,may everyone break the chain.
I deleted all social media except for Pinterest . I’m soo much happier , I’ll defo say that tiktok was the worst one for my mental health 😭.
Omg same!! Pinterest is such a chill app but tiktok ruined my mental health too. It's been almost one year since i quit tiktok and i'm so much happier without it.
I hate TikTok
Tik tok is toxic garbage.
YES, tik tok is the worst one them
Specifically why I never got Tiktok :) but in place of tiktok was Instagram so I deleted the app temporarily to clear my head of it (I never got many notifications so i just went on multiple times a day to see ‘if’ I got anything :/ )
Tbh as soon as I deleted Instagram and other social medias expect RUclips I started to live like actually living. I appreciated my teenage time more. And had had more motivation to do school work. No joke lmao
I don't know you but I'm SO proud of you! You go!
I quit social media only a week ago I definitely feel better as I can see who my friends are as they send me texts instead of communicating from TikTok and Snapchat. I used to be really addicted to checking people’s locations and worrying why I’m being left on delivered. The first three days were really hard and I replaced my social media with watching loads of Netflix and RUclips but now I’m spending my time to develop new skills and hobbies. Good luck to everyone trying to avoid toxic side of social media, you not alone 💙
I quit social media 1 month ago...never going to look back on it again...no more anxiety depression....
Today I decided to just delete my Facebook account for good. I did take a break last month and when I came back, it was no different...just political posts, irrelevant photos, gossip, and getting bombarded over the "perfect life" photos of friends and their families. I couldn't take it anymore and figured that getting rid of my FB account would help ease my irritation. So far, I feel like it's ok to be at one with my own thoughts and feelings. I don't feel like I have to be part of a popularity contest anymore, which is really what FB has gradually become...a struggle to belong like they're in high school all over again!
I deleted my social media 2023. Proud of you
Social media is one HUGE Rat race of ppl trying to "One Up" on the next. I backed off fb and i don't hardly use ig and snapchat here and there and twitter mainly. Twitter is not the best as well and i'm considering a month break away from them all. I did it once a year ago, but only lasted 5 days. Thanks for your video. -Bob
I‘m struggling with my 101 insecurities too, so I also deleted all of these social media apps in my phone for like one weeks which really makes my life much more flexible, Now I have time to read books I like, to learn English and to do a lot of things. Important thing is that I realize I’m not care about that much, I can actually live better without these “fashionable cultures” that’s really not mean too much for me
Social media was created to connect people. Yes, it did made our friends’ lives more accessible to us. We could stay updated. But it also brought the flaws. Let’s take Instagram/FB for an example.
1. Before Instagram/FB, we only compare our lives to the people we meet often. And in general, people normally don’t befriend those too far off their family income. If your family is making $200k/yr, chances of you mixing with kids whose families are doing $20m/yr is low. Not zero, but low. The schools you go to, the things you do are diff.
With social media esp IG, we get to see everyone’s lives 24/7. Even those who aren’t our friends. The ones much richer than us, the ones who have more time and resources than us. We don’t know if that lifestyle is real or fake, cos some people do crazy stuff to brag. Thus, the materials comparing game never ends and it screws our mind up.
2. We think sharing photos/videos on IG stories is updating our friends. But truth is, no story is really shared. It’s just a lazy form of low-key brag or posting things we like. True sharing of stories happen via voice, it can be face to face or online, doesn’t matter. But stories are shared through voice, where there’s a constant back and forth of interaction. Voice shares emotions like no other channel. it bonds.
Instagram has degenerated to become a bragging place with lots of ads. It doesn’t allow us to share stories well yet it makes us all anxious.
Of course, there are people who say they use IG stories to stay updated about their friends’ lives. Fair point. You’ll stay updated about what they are doing daily. But staying updated and hearing them share the stories via voice are two different things. One is passive and doesn’t bond both of you, the latter is active and helps bond both of you even more.
I think most people are suffering to an extent while using Instagram. But they aren’t aware of it. They continue to use it. For those who are aware enough to know that they can’t share authentic stories and be listened to on Instagram, they leave it.
Know what you’re sacrificing when you use Instagram. And ask yourself “ Is it worth it?”
If the answer isn’t ‘HELL YES”, you should consider getting yourself away from it at least 2 weeks in a month.
For me, anything that disturbs my inner peace is too expensive. Always.
Mental health is very important in this world. It just feels like as we connect more on current social media, we become more disconnected.
AMEN 100 THIS IS ACCURATE. I PERSONALLY BELIEVE THAT WE SHOULD CANCEL INSTAGRAM AND TIKTOK. ITS JUST A PLACE OF ADS.
One is passive with no bond and the other is active with a bond is a GREAT way of putting it. This is a lot of the reason I got off social media bc i felt like people just looked at my stories just to look and not respond
After several years being on Instagram and Facebook, I began to feel really distracted and disconnected. It’s one of those things that used to be interesting in the beginning then spiral 🌀 out of control. Wasted time scrolling through photos. People I hardly know wanting to connect and message me so often. I found it annoying. Plus ads. I used to enjoy posting, looking at posts and videos. I enjoyed the chat 💬 until various so called friends started ghosting me. People went from liking my posts to ignoring them. No longer viewing my stories like before. This was FB. So i decided to delete it completely last year after a decade of wasted time.
Same thing with Instagram. I temporarily deleted the account a few weeks ago. It started of nicely then spiral 🌀 out of control with fake people and scammers wanting to connect. I had to keep blocking them. Annoying adverts. Annoying show off bragging about the wonderful perfect life stories and photos. Fancy holidays, fancy restaurants, unpacking luxury goods. Feeling disconnected as many of the people I know for real, certain ones never properly contact me. They never look at my stories or photos ever but I view theirs. I got fed up with it wasting my time scrolling through the repetitive predictable things. All these content creators posting stories after stories how perfect their life and career is, getting all the clout over one experience. The same with some of my so called friends who sort of follow me. I was comparing their number of likes to mine. They’d get 100 💯 likes 👍 while i only get 20. Enough was enough. I finally pulled the plug on Instagram when I found myself frowning 😾 with disappointment one Friday evening. I was done sharing my life with hundreds or a thousand people. I deleted my profile details and photo. Then I removed the app from my phone and tablet. Then I logged in my pc and clicked delete account. No one will find me. I have Twitter but I use it only for work. I don’t post anything or connect with anyone. I’m on LinkedIn for work. If people really want to find me they’d have to search hard
This is such a wise keen insight.
extremely well said, thank you for sharing. i agree, and the way you put it was a bit harsh- it’s the truth. i deleted social media a few years ago and considered getting it back a few times bc of peer pressure, it’s thanks to people like you that help me never look back ❤️
I deleted all my socials yesterday, with Instagram I quit 3 years ago, I remember how amazing I felt when deleted it.
My depression is gone and I don’t think it’s just a coincidence. No self- aggression in my life after removing Pinterest ✨ I think that from all social medias pint. and Inst are just two main evils… like none of another platforms gave me such anxiety like them.. I am a calm person though
P.s. I am skinny and really want to gain weight, so decided to look photos of different body type, tried hard to find, but Pinterest like in purpose give me most of the pictures with girls that really underweight like me, I was so done with it
In my opinion, you're way more attractive than Madison and Kendall and you don't need plastic sugery. You seem like a cool girl and your sense of fashion and haircut is sorta goals!
Social media is toxic. End of story. I literally just permanently deleted my instagram, tiktok, and twitter today! Next up is fb and perhaps even pinterest (I don't count that as social media but it still has ads on it so I hate for that reason.)
Logging out helps soooo much and yes some people need it for their work but people like me who wasted hours and hours of my time needed this change and I've felt like there's been a weight lifted off my shoulders.
it’s crazy how ppl equate liking a post or commenting on a friend’s story to true social interaction, like texting or calling a friend or meeting up. the huge difference is ur receiving the same treatment as the next person on their timeline. it takes intention and attention to reach out to a friend directly, or make plans.
Really enjoyed this video! So honest and relevant. I feel exactly the same towards social media (mostly Instagram) and always have. I’m so TIRED of wanting more, tired of comparing, tired of wasting my time, tired of never living in the moment, tired of feeling inadequate and not enough.
Every time I delete it and go back I feel even worse when I go back. The world of Instagram is so disturbing and weird, I hope one day I manage to come away from it and never return. I’m so happy with almost everything in my life when I’m away from it…it’s sad how much the app can influence us.
Hope you manage to stay off it too and do things for YOU xxx
I just started my Instagram about a month ago. Never had it before. I use it to post my art. Whether people see it or not, the way I look at it is it's like a digital historical document of my life on Planet Earth and what I accomplished when I was here. That is all.
That’s easy to say, but it’s going to change as long as you’re in that toxic environment (insta) it will effect you anyway
@@szxncnot everyone is a photocopy of you 💀maybe it’s time to ask ourselves why we felt the need to project? Maybe they will in fact have a healtheir relationship w sm since all these likes and social status things haven’t been ingrained into their subconscious from childhood. I’ve noticed DEFINITELY ppl who get on there as children are significantly more affected than those who make one as adults/ into their late teens
You don’t have to be insecure, you are really pretty wow! I also wanna delete social media it just get me to compare myself to others instead of connecting me to my friends in a “social “ way
All facts Grace, people need to hear this fr 👑👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 7 months ago about self development. Now I have 665 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Social media works well with those who get exactly what they want from it, but not the other way around. You got insecure for not getting enough likes and attention from others as much as you expected. That’s why quitting social media is a great decision because it ruins your self esteem and concentration.
Yep. That’s why everyone that enjoys the app is usually rich and attractive
i love how real you are. this is a very important discussion that we need to have
I relate so much to you! Today I quit the last social media that I had, Instagram, and I've felt better!
I don't like pinterest, all the content I see are beautiful people with the best hair, clothes, bodies and lifestyles. I think it sets an unrealistic expectation of living a life merely because it is aesthetic.
i noticed that on tiktok, when there was a person who was conventionally attractive i never felt insecure - what made me insecure was the people in the comments saying “oh. i thought i was pretty.” or “i guess i’m not eating today” because they were the ones implying that if you don’t look like the person in the video then you should feel bad? if that makes sense? after deleting it i basically stopped caring & i’m aware not everyone will have that same reaction to it but i just wanted to say i noticed that ab it
I would say the people that give me the most insecurity are not people I don't know on social media, but the people I do know.
Hi Grace. I'm a first time viewer of your channel. I totally agree with what you say here. I just subscribed. Hang in there! I think your great! Out from Boston, Joe
I asked myself why don’t I have this many likes? Why ami I not this popular? Ami I that invisible? Her life is so personal. She’s engaged, going on holidays, is buying a house. I wish I had that . This is when I knew it was time to cut off from social media
Hii, I just found your channel, and this is the first video I started watching and wow, I have a feeling that if you keep posting videos, you'll be a huge youtuber one day. I love this video and you seem like a really nice person
I took a 2 year break from social media when I was 18 and it was the best thing for me. For me personally I use social media now but I don’t care what other people do anymore like I did at 18. I’m just doing me. If it wasn’t for that break social media would still be a negative part of my life and now it’s way more positive because I use my platform for good with mental health awareness. I’m at peace with it now.
Great video Grace! Very well said, and very relatable. Thank you for this!
thank you so much!!
girl love this video. I delete instagram all the time. and I love it cause I really live in the present and when I take photos they're for me! and if I want to share, I send them to my friends that know my bad and good days :) take out the middle man when connecting with people hehe. I appreciate you for sharing this :)
Thanks for sharing your experience, Grace. I've been off Instagram for nearly two years and counting :) It's been great.
deleted instagram and tiktok aka the most toxic apps after twitter and my life is so much better
I still have discord to talk to my irl friends and my cousin and snapchat as my 2nd camera roll cuz of the memories thing
I'm using Twitter to network with other authors and lookup soccer news since I'm a boyhood fan of a particular soccer club. I agree social media is unhealthy because it can expose society's ugly impulses.
You are woken. You are a real woman! ❤️🙏💯💪
I quit social media 2 years ago.. :) 🙌🏽
The very good choice
Good for you 🙌
Your still in youtube.
Ok I don't usually comment on anything but I can say that i never had social media I was always very cautious of the apps and would hear how it would affect people mental health. It is hard when you have kids your age always knowing the new trends and you know nothing about them, and i would question myself to probably thinking about getting one. But I learned that it's okay if you don't want to join into what everyone else is doing and just do what satisfy you.
You’re so unintentionally funny lol i laughed out loud many times 🤣
Hahaha same
Love this video says alot about humanity
After watching social Dilhema. The part where they basically said that social media could potentially harm us and be the death of us all scared me. And comparing your life to others part. As an artist, I post my artwork online and I always feel like my art isn't good enough because I see these talented artist getting millions of views, likes, and followers on their art and it makes me feel awful about my art. I almost quit because of it. Instagram just made it even harder for my work to even be seen because their algorithm is so manipulative and awful.
Excellent point of view... I'm quitting social media too and I'm feeling good about it... I really think it's the best decision... I need a real life all the time, you know what I mean? :) 🇧🇷
I discovered social media is for the fakers and the insecure. You do not seem insecure to me. Plus you're gorgeous, intelligent and savvy. I ought to know, I'm probably three times your age. I quit social media years ago, and while i believe RUclips is considered "social media" it's not the same as Facebook or Instagram. I couldn't give a flock less if someone is flying on a private jet or has more money than me, except "good for them"!
I'm happy, fulfilled and i like the clothes i have.
Comparison to others in life stops with a halt sooner or later. You don't need to compare yourself with anyone. You're fantastic the way you are! Believe it.
It’s garbage i’m proud of you for building the courage to make a channel it takes a lot of courage you’re amazing
You're not alone. I can't personally relate but I'm sure you're not alone in this
800 subs ..? WHAT
u honestly deserve sm more
i loved the video by the way !
Honestly, I've gotten so tired of social media and I just Uninstall them even though I would love to delete it
OMG Im your 1thousands subscriber!!! congratulations! :)
i took a break for a month off Instagram and I am planning to come back (I use my Instagram for my photography photos which is a hobby) and I was gonna post today but I completely forgot all about it lol. I’m so used to not being on there that I don’t miss it. I use my Instagram as a mini photo diary of all my photography that I’ve done over the years. But, like I said it fell off my radar today, so I don’t know when I’ll go back 😭
I feel like it’s all base on how you use social media. It’s a mindset thing, if you got the right mindset for it then go for it. On my end, I didn’t have the right mindset until I regained that self love, I still wouldn’t go back tho. Especially on tik tok.
Hi Grace first thing first thanks a lot for sharing yr experience. Secondly for my outside perspective you are doing great, and as you said you should be thankful for all the things great you can afford. But I have an additional thought, I noticed that even though I try not to hang out too much on social (I don't even have IG), people IRL start to act and look pretty much like their IG persona. ATM I'm in Italy which is well-known for its level of vanity and high-mantainance attitude. Have you noticed smth similar or you think that IRL context is actually still a lil better than its on-line counterpart? x
I wish I can find a way to stop my YT addiction once and for all, because I manage to quit all my other social media, but can't quit RUclips
@@pauline7898 I don't use the app on my phone, I use it on my laptop
It’s not only social media that makes you want all these things others have. Social media just makes it worse. The belief that this stuff will make you happy is to blame. So you can work on your own deeply rooted belief system to change that feeling of need. Nothing you can consume will ever make you happy. It only gives you a quick dopamine rush, while blocking serotonin which can truly lead to long term happiness or rather contentment 😊
When she said “69” I laughed so loud 😂😂😂 we both have the same sense of humour 😂
Mam, you are on social media right now 😂👌
I get along with all you have said but remember that RUclips is just another social media, even scarier I might say because it reminds me of television. Everything should be used in the right way with the right amount of time
I've always been hating social media, especially TikTok but I'm always been so addicted to TikTok so It's so hard for me. Now, I made up my mind to stop using Social Media Apps such as Tiktok, Twitter, Snapchat, and maybe a Lil bit of Instagram/RUclips (I CANT DELETE FB CUZ I NEED IT FOR SCHOOL).
You are cool, you are really cool. I feel the same way and I am digital marketer 😂I hate social media ironically
I was wondering, would you rather date a men who uses social media a lot or a men without any social media at all?
Delet everything. Join the real world. Not all your friends will follow you. I decided to start to live my dream. Travelling around the world. For about 2 weeks ago i was in South Korea. Wonderfull. My dream Car, My dream Motorbike. Family is stronger. For all Delet the bullzhit. And start to live like a human.
Deciding to quit social media was tough, but I'm hoping for a healthier mindset. I just made my first video because of it.
Great video! Love your personality. You remind me so much of Alia Shawkat...you're gorgeous!
Hey! I'm from Boston. I didn't realize the student population that exists at BU... wow...that's crazy
My god those glasses suit you so much. Really pretty
I love how some of these youtuber girlies make mistakes normal. Like, showing correction instead of having to redo the whole thing. It's peace us perfectionists strive for.
Grace, you are cool funny & attractive…with or without social media ❤️
One day i got tilted because i was angry all the time (social media polarization) fucked off all social media, including WhatsApp and never looked back. Im a dude btw. Social media nurtures some indetectable type of mental cancer that creeps up on you without noticing and after a while you dont even realize its affecting you in ways that seem impossible until you log off for good
I deleted my instagram accoubt yesterday. The only regret is that I didn’t delete it sooner. I still have twittter which I rarely look at, and RUclips. I know RUclips isn’t really social media, but I struggle so much with my RUclips addiction. I know I spend almost an entire day scrolling on this platform. I hope I can reduce the time I spend time on here but I don’t know how.
It's not why they have it, it's always why I don't have it! And it's so negative for your own mental health.
I'm waiting for ur insecurities 101 vids, I need them.
I've recently uninstalled Instagram (the only app I really use) and it's been really freeing. I've been focusing more on doing art or watching content that I pick instead of the content that's thrown in my face. I do still install it from time to time to post because I'm an aspiring artist and it's a great way to show your art but I set a 15-minute timer to limit the time I have there and as soon as I'm done posting it I uninstall it again.
I really enjoyed this video. It's good to see people realise that social media is very draining to our mental health and really doing something about it ❤
I life no phone in 2018-2019 and now i delete wa ,ig,tiktok,twitter ,fb
How was your break? Did you actually end up staying off? I've been 9 months sober from TT & never going back lol. And so far I've been 1 month off Insta, I don' t think I will log back on anytime soon actually.
I ended up staying off for a few months. I have an update video if you wanna check it out!!
Instead of enjoying our loved, we are enjoying other people creating similar stunts making society think this is how you’re supposed to live it
This is serious because your natural beauty is high yet you feel this way. Mine is high too but i don't get these issues
Keeeeeep goiiingh
So are you still on IG?
Good idea gossip gossip gossip I cant imagine giving a crap about what someone's food looks like .
Hi grace, am i allowed to make a reaction video based von this video, since i also deleted social media.
Do you struggle to create videos as a self conscious person? I can’t even imagine looking at myself for so long 🥺
Hoje eu excluir o tik tok e o Instagram
youtube really put a facebook ad on this vid😐
New sub. Howzit going so far?
Why do you guys compare yourselves? It's not a good thing to do. Instead, use it as motivation to increase your discipline and as a catalyst to reach your dreams/goals. Change your mindset, because the best connections can be made on social media.
U guys know that RUclips is social media
Not really, yeah you can talk but it’s mainly for watching videos and learning or just music. It’s completely different from tiktok,Instagram,Facebook, and Snapchat etc CANT compare
@@Daughterdaughters actually youtube is a social media app.
@@Daughterdaughters youtube is the exact same as tiktok since both allow video and image uploading, following others, and chatting with others, there is virtually no difference between youtube and tiktok.
I want to quit social media but I don’t have what to do instead of staying on my phone, help!
Try having a warm relaxing shower then go outside and feel the nature 😊
Try exploring new hobbies, like drawing, exercising, meditating and maybe even learning about something that interests you!!❤
The way that social media apps are being advertised between your video🤨
RUclips is also addictive
yes and I cant quit it
I just looked up that necklace… EWW. I deleted my Instagram and Facebook today, I’m keeping TikTok solely for business purposes and will use it only for that.
I really wanna delete it cos of hate comments I get! I will join you ffrr!!! I wanna delete my account permanently right now ❤
Your voice is the same as Zooey deschanel
The most beautiful state is when you are born. To all else is a degeneration.
I only have Instagram and I never post anything but I can’t imagine not having it because I check it so often during the day. It’s how I feel connected and up to date. I deleted it for a month in 2018 and I felt really isolated. I have friends & family, but still, I feel isolated without It. Like I have no idea what’s going on in the world and I hate that feeling. Yes Instagram fuels my self hatred but for me feeling cut off and isolated is worse. Makes you feel like an outsider. Every time a guy asks me for my Instagram I say that I don’t have an account and they’re immediately shocked and look at me weird because it’s so common. Like who doesn’t have Instagram? It’s how you know what’s going on in the world.
I think I would actually be more depressed without Instagram because I deadass wouldn’t know what to do in the morning or when I’m waiting or something like that.
It's because it is an addiction. You don't even realize it but that's exactly what it is. I no longer have any social media accounts and I'm better without it
You said you're insecure about the way you look... well I think you are very pretty and plenty of guys would agree with me.
man you don’t have to look like ppl in social media I was dress too nice and now I don’t care anymore. Which nobody would care about what have reality
U seems like a beautiful lady, wonder why u r comparing with d others 😉
okay I guess I'm going to be that person you do realize you're still using social media right and also this is for everyone in the comments RUclips is literally a social media platform
Hi Grace, Love from India🇮🇳
Your reasearch is right..Social media is very harmful to youth.
I want to say something to you that you are my crush 😊❤. I love voice and explanations. I love your eyes 👀 though...If you want to things for one step behind reply me🙂.
I have done my Postgraduation in Master of Computer Application. And now I am searching for job.
I will share my contact if you want.
Great day ahead🌼
I am a furry so I really only used social media because I am apart of a minority group you hardly see irl. And because of the hate for furries we don't go in public to each other anoucing it. Two I only use social media if I need a quick friend for motivation. However I like discord better then Instagram it's straight to the point. And you can message people directly. The people online are not really your friends. I understand that but it's good for the support when you need it. Social media should be a balance. If your social then talking with someone online will be a fast and more comfortable then trying to explain it to your parents. So I do use social media but I take brakes in between you don't have to live under a rock and never use social media. But at the same time you shouldn't let it take over your life.
Umm RUclips is a form of social media.
These people don't get it 😅