12 Traits of Narcissistic Women + How To Deal With Them
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- Опубликовано: 25 июл 2024
- Narcissistic women are difficult to deal with, and it's important to know how to deal with them if you encounter one in your life. In this video, we'll discuss the 12 most common traits of a narcissistic woman and how to deal with them.
I will also give tips on dealing with a narcissistic woman if you find yourself in a situation where you have to deal with her.
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Hi, I'm Kenny, a Coach, RUclipsr, Podcaster, and Author in Phoenix, Arizona. I make videos about the strategies and tools to help you heal from emotional hurt to elevate your life. I'm an advocate for truth, healing, and personal responsibility.
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Hi, I'm Kenny 👋
I specialize in helping you heal from emotional hurt so you can elevate your life by helping you get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.
I am an advocate for truth and healing. So naturally, therefore, my emotional mastery method might initially feel a bit rough. But, when you start finding answers to the questions you ask yourself (even those you're afraid of), break free from self-destructing behaviors, and begin loving yourself and living your best life, you will feel powerful and empowered.
If you have looked everywhere, are desperate for a solution, and you're ready to stop being held hostage by your emotional misery, your journey to emotional mastery starts here.
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1:17 Refuses to respect boundaries.
4:11 Loves you to be in pain.
Keeps you from family and friends.
Talks about self mostly.
6:54 Plays the victim.
Blame shifts.
Can’t take criticism.
No regards for your feelings, lacks empathy.
8:32 Loving and hating you to control you.
9:51 Materialistic - money and possessions.
12:11 Believes is envied by others.
17:08 Withholds sex to control and punish.
Man! You really describing my wife. I’ve been married over 10 years and all this time, I thought I was to blame, I thought her behavior was because of me, I see that she lives in a fantasy world witch I not part of it.
@@willyS502 I was there too, buddy. Secretly gather evidence of her behavior, get an attorney, and then leave her. My biggest regret was not leaving sooner. There is no fixing them, I tried everything.
THANK YOU
@@willyS502 I was in the same situation, we were together for 14 years. I did manage to find the one thing she knew she couldn't compete with, and that was hardcore alcoholism. I DON'T RECOMMEND THAT STRATEGY. But, seriously, I do recommend learning more and taking care of yourself. Just in a much healthier manner.
Question: what if a narcissist husband eventually turned the table around and now you look like the narcissist in the relationship? You became hyper vigilant insecure reactive rage?
The prevalence of abusive women is epidemic, and you're absolutely right--society encourages it. Very sad! Thank you for being a truth teller.
You are very welcome. We are all perfectly imperfect, and we all need to be held accountable.
There is a prevalence of abusive people. This isn’t a gendered issue.
I have met both men & woman with Narcissistic Personality Disorder & been treated abusively by both starting with my parents. Do not think NPD belongs to men or women or old or young because you need to cast your caution & awareness in every direction to try to keep yourself safe. All the best.
Very true.
It's gotten so bad that I'm a woman who feels safer with men.
@@caseykay1953 Better watch out for the male narcissists then. Do not kid yourself that Narcissistic Personality Disorder belongs to any group but be aware always.
When dating, always watch out for the bossiness. If it’s apparent when dating, think how bad it will be when you are married!
As a woman, I can say without flinching that some members of my gender are insufferably abusive. I've had to walk away from multiple friendships with other women over issues of verbal, emotional & psychological abuse.
I bet they have their side of the story also! It takes two to tango, your "walking away from multiple friendships" has one reoccurring theme. Can you figure it out or still to self-focused even with the hint? I'll give you another hint, look at your attitude toward them, they are "insufferably abusive"? Still not seeing the problem here? You're even on RUclips looking for positive reinforcement that you're right. Congratulations, 21 people have no idea what you are talking about or know any of the details, but they all agree that whatever issues you keep having multiple times are not your fault! Rather all those "insufferably abusive" friends you are referring to are the ones to blame. Feel better now? I got five bucks you're not done losing friends, I'd also bet you wouldn't take the bet because you know I'm right. I'm not trying to be an ass but since you aired your dirty laundry, I thought I'd comment on it. Best wishes!
I do have one more comment over the "verbal, emotional & psychological abuse" you claim to have suffered as a victim. I have no idea how old you are but when I was growing up we had a saying, "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." I wish your mother had taught you that, she obviously didn't, it could have saved you a lot of needless grief you allowed yourself to suffer. I doubt you ever step foot in church either, perhaps you should, there is another saying that when your friend strikes you on one cheek to turn the other. And the best way to deal with enemies is by showing them love, not walking away. I grew up in a church pew, it served me well I guess, I don't have friends who are verbally, emotionally and psychologically abusive to me like you do. I don't guess I've ever pissed my friends off as much as you claim to have. If I did, I'd certainly apologize for whatever pissed them off so much they became "insufferably abusive" toward me!
@@rebelrog-- Your condescension and hostility are hereby noted. Hello and goodbye.
@@rebelrog it doesn't always take two to tango, sometimes it is very possible that the abuse is one sided, without fully understanding the situation this person is in, you may as well be victim blaming..
@@rebelrog I also have one more comment, I wish everything you wrote here was sarcastic, but if it isn't, please keep in mind that life isn't that simple, words can hurt more than anything, and no, you can't always heal someone by loving them.
I LOVE that you jumped STRAIGHT into the 12 traits, and then elaborated on them. Some people wait forever to make their point, and by the time they do my mind has wandered away. Great video! 🙏
I’ve had girlfriends who do exactly what you’re saying. I go no contact w anyone as soon as I know. Once you know, you go. It can be a friend boyfriend girlfriend mother sister brother. Zero tolerance for narcs.
I’ve known heaps of women like this but I’ve also known many more men who are like this. Abuse is not limited to one gender for sure. We can all be abusers at times.
We have several generations of women raised on Disney’s fairytale of the princess’s emotional and material happiness and expectations are met by the prince, who only lives to serve.
Sooooooo true. I just walked away from my Disney Princess covert narcissist girlfriend after 6 months of crazy sexual highs and really abusive lows. It’s like I was dating a teenage Kardashian, flamboyantly fashionable, dawning all the gold rings, bracelets, and heart-shaped necklaces you can imagine......super cute and energetic to the point where her behavior embarrassed me a few times in public because I had to tell her to calm down please.....and then if you pointed out her bad habit of going on coffee dates with guys who wanted to be her boyfriend or inviting her guy “friend” back to the hotel room for a “plutonic” sleepover......then I’m the asshole.....then her claws come out and accuse you of being “too sensitive”...........umm no.
I’m simply pointing out that you’re leading several lonely men on with your “I’m a little princess” in a skirt and crop-top behavior. Which is super inappropriate and also extremely disrespectful of me and the husband you’re still married too!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah, I was super naive. I should have seen THAT as a major red-flag right there!!! 🤷♂️
When men play that role they are a servant.
I agree 100% with what you say. My ex was abusive. After 4 years, I’m no longer trembling in fear for what she might do to me. I’m alone with my dog, happily. Justice system is nothing but a disgrace to men.
You are extremely brave, and have huge respect for your honesty. I have seen narcissistic men and women in my own family. Narcissism is a growing issue all over the world. Social media and the internet have made it worse.
Well said.
As a woman it is very refreshing to see a man who is so very honest..
Social media made us " AWARE " 👀; which iz phenomenal . 🙏🏾💯
It's better to be on your own. When my last narcissist discarded me I was devastated...but life is now so stress free and I have money again....wow.
I need that route
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Count yourself lucky they are now going to be some poor unsuspecting victims problem.
Curious..."discarded"?...how does that work? They strive to contain and control their "meal"...they do not discard.
@sheila9573 Oh, they'll discard you and could care less how bad they hurt you..I'm a victim of that myself. Trying to heal now.
Great point made here! No one, man or woman, needs to live in a situation like this.
I agree 👍🏻
Agree number two. Done with urges or societal propaganda that says you must be/do this to be that. Need less , what you have/are is already abundance. Contentment is knowing it.
Especially when the narcissist lives with you because her own family doesn't care about her I used to think that my brother would date her forever or worse marry her that would have been a death sentence and yes she would make everything about her even when my brother almost died which she caused might I add .
Absolutely true.
In my case I called the police and she went and cut herself, so she could be bleeding when they arrived. They didn't believe a thing she said and rightly so. Some officers are aware of this type of abuse. Great videos and lessons Kenny. Walk Away!
Just started dating at 50 in Los Angeles, where Narcissism is more "accepted" because awareness is not advocating and in fact is perpetuated by social causes and virtue signaling. I can vouch for everything you're saying. A big clue is their obsession with social media, their photo poses, and the image they portray. They're almost copy cats of each other.
@@Cellocurve Good question although things are a little different in LA so you never know. I suspect a lot of women are influenced by what they see younger women doing and want to portray that "hip"vibe. Posers to impress others.
Abuse is a human issue, not a gender issue. We need to take women off the pedestal and grasp the fact that there are both men and women out there who can be absolutely bonkers. I spoke with a few women online, and when they say: I thought it's only men who can be abusive. Women are emotional, so you gotta expect some drama. I RUN when I hear someone utter these sentences. This gender war has to stop.
Defining the problem is among the first things necessary to end a conflict.
“ We need to take women off the pedestal...Women are emotional.” Wowza the misogyny and self victimization in this post couldn’t be clearer. SMH 🤦♀️
it's pretty much a western thing. Other countries are not so much that way
@@susanjones8489 depends on how you interpret it. Men and women process differently. Women are more emotional, that doesn't mean it's negative. Men think logically and can miss emotional cues. The fact you took 'emotional' as an insult, well you kinda proved it in your response. Men and women are two sides of a coin we should bring balance to one another and compliment one another. Unfortunately the powers that be are doing everything to destroy relations to the point they are creating robots for company. The world is getting sicker and sicker to the point of no return.
Women are emotional and boys will be boys are two sentences we should all stop using. They’re just justifying bad behaviour.
You described my mother. Very controlling person.
To withhold love and intimacy is the cruelest thing anyone can do to another human being. I'm so happy you have found peace through finding knowledge and awareness of this insiduos evil.
Thank you for relating your feelings with such honesty. I totally agree with everything you have said.
Sending a hug from Lucy in UK.
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Withholding intimacy is confusing and painful. But it's the green light to go. Accept it for what it is. They don't want to be close to you. It doesn't help to try a hundred different ways either. First time, address it, If it happens again, green light go. Give them the space to work out what they want. Find someone else who will love you back. I know it's hard.
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Every woman uses sex to get what they want. It's what they do.
I totally agree, abusive women are alive and well, I have witnessed it for decades, my son had a partner that unmistakably displayed those 12 behaviours you are describing it was heart breaking to see and hear.
My spouse is an abusive narcissistic woman. I'm just learning this. It's like I had an aha moment while getting this information. I could show her this video and she'd first of all get angry, then say it doesn't describe her.
@@MansaX then she’d play victim, then she’ll realise you’re seeing her clearly and then start to produce a narrative and potentially move onto calling the cops on you and starting to blame you
Sorry to say this...only mothers of troubled sons admit to this behavior of women.
@@MansaXtypical reaction
This is so painfully accurate I can barely listen to this video.
What hurts the most is that I married this woman (my free will) and therefore, I feel responsible for my present condition.
It has been 2 and a half years since calling for police intervention and I am on the verge of collapsing in ruin from the emotional, spiritual, financial and intellectual abuse.
It took me well over a year of hard work just to find language to comprehend all that had occurred.
God knows I need an epiphany of some sort.
Make no mistake, full metal malignant narcissist will destroy you at any level they can!!!
🙏🏼🔥💪🏾 🌱
Right there with ya buddy...same thing here: I married her out of my own free will because I felt I had to to do right thing under God....but this whole NPD takes it to the next level.
I hope you're doing better. You are not alone. They are horrible social media in recent years has amplified the narcs immensely.
Indeed ... they will ruin you
...and LAUGH Behind your back
...as this makes them FEEL Powerful.
Twisted minds
... but ...look back - as you may recal some of your friends from
your past - that did simmilar crazy behaviours - boasting in front of the friends - how they can treat a wife or a girlfriend like an idiot... then gheeting, lyong, twisting things, denegrating, verbalybabusing - then kissing
etc etc ).
( I know few of those).
There are sick people out there in huge numbers - and feminiSS produced millions additionaly.
@kentburge6701 Sorry you went through this. While you heal and learn you MUST have compassion for yourself, love yourself, and think kind thoughts always. The more you are aware of your thoughts, the better. Know everyday that you are growing and becoming stronger. Eventually you will instinctively recognize these toxic behaviors and find a partner that is healthy.
@@carospereman3537 thank-you for your insightful words and encouragement. This has truly been an education far beyond university.
Again, thank-you for taking the time to inspire.
🙏🏼🔥💪🏾 😇
im a woman who was abused by another woman for years. I thought its just my fault. After all this lady was my "best friend, and roommate"
Until one day an outsider man told me, no thats not a friend. Shes narcissistic and abuses you.
i was in shock. i self taught on youtube videos and books about abuse and it took me a fearful 2-3 years ( during covid!) when i finally could separate myself from the abusive grip of her household, and personal. It happens between women too.
all my life i was thinking only men can be narcissists unhil ive seen this with my own eyes.
💯 they almost teach man hating at my daughters girls school!
Man I've been binge watching all kinds of videos on NPD. This video is the best in describing the female narc. I left the US to find a non-US indoctrinated lady and did - in Kenya. The marriage lasted for just over 3yrs. I recently ejected after finding her entering the discard phase and searching fory replacement. Grief is quickly being replaced by relief. Your description is a mirror to what I experienced. NPDs are EVERYWHERE, like spiders. Run from these women, don't walk. As a disabled veteran I got my ass handed to me, both emotionally and financially, on this rollercoaster ride. I feel like I now have a PhD in African women studies. Live and learn. Sub'd to your channel.
Was she a narcissist
It sounds like she was a narc, hence the discard phase....yes?
Great honesty and valuable advice for men that really need to start listening.
And i thought European man were better . My bad .😂😂😂
Yep , man can be awfully narcisten as well .
Three years help her become US citizen from marriage.
From about 3:00 minutes to 4:25.
My guy is spot on! Amen brother! We need to bring this fact to the light! We fathers need to come together and do something about this, so that we do not lose our daughters. Especially our daughters but also ours sons. We need to teach them to be real men, and not put up with this abuse.
The channel is growing every minute Kenny as it should, considering the value it’s offering!
Wow! The cultural rise of the spirit of Jezebel is what you're describing here. And i have been shocked and embarrassed to see how far this has gone in my relatively short lifetime
Great video 💯
one thing I'd like to add... once you try to "provide" for the narcissist (while she does whatever she wants), she loses all respect for you or anyone ignorant enough to fall for her crap.
My ex-wife definitely ticks off the bulk of those boxes, leaving her was not a choice but a necessity. You are correct when you say that we need to be accountable for our choices in partners, I had a gut feeling that something was off the very first time that I met her and didn’t listen to that inner voice, so that’s on me, not her. I have spent the last 5 plus years sorting myself out and and what happened, it was something that was long overdue. So sometimes, good can come from bad…
Well said!
Very first date, after her second drink the mask came off and a monster maniac was telling me off. 5 years later, thousands of hours of study and coinciding
I’m now immune to the malignant psychopath I once fell head over heals for
The "too good to be true" gut feel none of us listen to!
I disagree on one account. Narcissists are excellent at manipulation and faking reality. They will act sweet, caring, loving, etc. until they think they have you trapped. In my case, it was having my child. Once they perceive that you're trapped, unspeakable abuse will ensue. It's hard to blame myself because prior to our child, she didn't act this way at all. There is no fixing these people, the only way to regain any sense of control is to remove yourself from the narcissist.
Its called "love bombing" .. Used to sway you, make you feel guilty etc... Also used on those closest to a "victim" to isolate the one they are jealous of or need to control/
I don't know how many people believe this is true, but I had heard one time that a good test of how they will parent is to get something like a puppy together. I had already started noticing some of this type of behavior from my (now) ex wife (I didn't know what it was though) and got a puppy with her with this idea already in mind. She was every bit as lazy, absent, and combative about every aspect of it as I was afraid she would be, and only wanted to show him off to people but do almost none of the work. It was the same with a second puppy, and I knew having kids with her would be a disaster. Every time I learn more about narcissistic behavior I am even more grateful that we didn't.
I'm sorry you went through that experience. In my case it was helpful to finally have a name for it to start to learn about and try to protect myself.
@@emmsue1053 come on, there are ALWAYS signs...if you dont see them, then fix the problem when they reveal themselves. always a solution, where there's a will there's a way.
In an age of lies and deception, truth is always controversial. Listen to Kenny. He's telling you the truth. If what he says makes you unhappy its only because you don't like truth. Go Kenny. Thanks for the excellent presentation.
The provide part is so on point. My narc wife had her supply ready 4 months before she told me she was leaving because she needed someone who could provide.
I agree that childhood trauma is deeply rooted in our subconscious and has a much greater impact on our lives than we realize, particularly for men, who are required to brush off any negative experience, and that is something a man needs to recognize and come to terms with.
My Mother was such a Horrible Narcissist that it put me off getting married for life !!!! I saw how horrible a Woman could be !!!! Now I'm 68 yrs old I've spent my Whole life with my Dogs !!!! So I've had a happy life !!!! I don't have anything to do with Narcissists !!!!
Thank you SIR. The pain is real for us. I can feel your pain because I can relate. I am still in the relationship but called her out in therapy and now she is in the discard phase and I get relentless abuse. I have been working on myself for over 1.5 years now but the hurt gets overwhelming a lot of the time.
Thank you for the video. I also once called a police on her...and police took her side despite the fact she was threatening me with knife and insulting my daughter (not her daughter). There are no limits of what they can do and say, but once you understand it, you will not take anything they say seriously.
As a woman and a survivor of severe abuse, it saddens me what some women have decided to do to men. ABUSE IS NEVER OK. Men matter. Everyone deserves safety and dignity.
Abuse sucks. Sorry you went through that.
Amen! Male or Female; a Bully is NOT OKAY!
Yes, digging up the roots of our choices is critical.
I like this analogy
Your honesty and transparency is refreshing and bold. Bravo!
Education is all! After 15 years of marriage, and finally searching a lot to find out the root of my wife's behaviour I can now see it all and predict every of her steps. I am with a covert one and I wish I'd known it all way before. Many things seemed abusive, but I had no clue that the are actually abuse! my last 15 years is full of regrets! Now I feel more powerful and revising my behaviour and relationship.
This information should be thought at school.
I agree with all of this, 100%! It's misunderstood and endemic currently...
Thank you, Kenny. This is the most comprehensive video I've seen on "narcissistic" women. I've been in an abusive relationship for years and only recently I considered that she may actually be narcissistic based on her treatment and disregard of me. I allowed her into my life along with several other bad decisions at the time because I didn't value myself.
You are absolutely spot on.
I am a woman who has had to fight against what is the “norm”… victim mentality women who act weak and silly in order to get attention and manipulate relationships. I have seen it TIME and TIME again and am ashamed of the majority of my sex.
On the flip side, me being a stronger minded lady who has proper boundaries, had a really bad time in the dating world… most men wanted me to be weak and silly and saw my strength as threatening. I am married now to a wonderful man who enjoys my strengths and appreciates my views. I, too, feel the same about him!
Men do not know how to be men, and women do not know how to be women.
We need people classes in school. To learn about ourselves and others is very much needed.
This is SO good. I wish there were more things out there for guys. I have a loved one who is married to an absolute shrew who rages at him and belittles him in every possible way
WOW with the exception of physical abuse, all this was experienced with my last major significant relationship… and I’m still recovering from the PTSD
I take EXTREME OWNERSHIP having chosen her and tolerating her disrespectful behaviour for too long.
many Many MANY THANKS for sharing this poignant sobering vid, Mr Weiss. 🙏🏿
Kenny I appreciate how you always make us take responsibility! I watched this for my ex. He has had the gamete in three wife’s but the second is the person you spoke of here. I hope I can get him to watch this because it would help him understand. I have told him about you already and how you made me understand that it wasn’t just him and I explained to him that I need to take responsibility too. Thank you
Wonderful truths here!!🙌🏼 Your authenticity is so admirable.
I’m learning to admit my faults / shortcomings to my sweetie more and more. I also open conversations by calmly expressing myself by saying “I” feel anxious, upset, nervous, etc., instead of putting him on the defense by saying, “YOU” make me feel this way or that. Your book has been SO helpful, Kenny. I’m also learning not to take his need for space and time away from me personally - (even the super rowdy friends, haha) and I actually encourage his time spent w family too (of course, it’s easier when you love them to bits). Everyone should read your book - and I mean everyone!!! 📘👏🏼👏🏼
PS - Your abstract paintings are awesome and we love purple!! 💜💜💜
I have listened to many different people on gaslighting and narcissistic abuse and yours are at the top of the list for meaningfulness. Your presentations do not place the blame entirely on the other person but you see your own part in the problem of choosing such people to be in relations with. That is important to realize. I have seen it in my life. As a Christian pastor, I feel I should not allow myself to get triggered, but it happens. Your videos help me see what is going on!
So true both parties should be able to feel safe and valued
Thank you, Kenny. May your healing continue to its fullest. 🙏
Thanks for the content, struggling myself
Well said, Kenny, as always. You bring the uncomfortable truths to the forefront, with love, compassion, and understanding, without blame but with responsibility for all concerned. Relationships only exist when there is more than one person involved (fairly obvious, but I think some people miss that oh-so-obvious point) and behave as if they are the only one in it. From watching your videos (more than once - and I've recently bought your book [I'm in the UK]) I've really come to realise the pain that narcissists live with even if they don't know it. I've been on the receiving end of that myself, and he was a gaslighter too (this was not in the UK). Thanks to you, I can genuinely forgive him even though I felt I was about an inch away from a nervous breakdown at the time. I know of a major trauma event that happened in his young past, which he told me of, and because of you I now understand the deep childhood pain that he still suffers within, which provoked his behaviour (he still refuses to get help). I own my role in choosing him (based on my childhood trauma), thanks to your teaching. I truly wish healing for him and all the others trapped in that emotional whirlpool. Keep doing what you're doing, Kenny, and all blessings to you for your ongoing journey. xx
Excellent content. Having lived that for 16 years in a terrible marriage everything stated is extremely accurate.
That was excellent in all ways. Thank you!
12 traits of Narc women. KW, your accurate assessment of the behaviors of these toxic individuals is spot on. The script is always the same no matter what background you have. In my healing process I learned early that I had to concentrate on myself and why I let the abuse happen. In doing so, I realized that it started in my family with my father being a narcissist. It answered so many questions. I was unconscious for so long. Some scholars on the subject say that narcissists (even though there is no person inside, just a false self) help those that need to be awakened. Debatable, but something to think about.
Very well put together.
Thanks for the video Kenny!
Learning about my core codependency issues has been a massive breakthrough. Really enjoying your book on Audible, very helpful.
Your so right Kenny, i have learnt to see the pattern.
Sorry you went through that abuse. Sucks!! One good thing that came out of your experience is that now you can help others. Thank you for being so honest and brave to tell your story, especially about your mom. So thank you for that.
Thankyou for sharing.
I'm glad you are well now! I lived one alike situation, but with a sister and her two daughters, for vry long years... till I woke up! Please, be happy!
The absolute best video that I have seen on narcissistic women and the individual and cultural problems it has created. I wish this knowledge were more common. Misandry is out of control in our society.
It’s a reaction to misogyny. People don’t talk about that
thanks for standing up for this. Facts.
Your two marriages and life of learning mirrors what I've experienced and grown from and through as well. Thank you for your video!
Thank you for sharing.
I'm totally agreeing with you being in that situation in the past. People need to point it out and to know and stand up against abuse.
I’m so glad you’re doing these videos now. I’m in this exact marriage and file for separation Valentine’s Day. It hurts so bad to live with fight or flight
This video describes my mother perfectly. I was a victim of childhood abuse. This blows my mind
From all that I have learned on narcissism, I am convinced that it is serious dysfunction of the prefrontal cortex. Attention span is stuck on themselves as well as judgement. They lack empathy, low in tolerance, perseverance, learning from mistakes does not come into play, because they do not make mistakes, introspect and retrospect are limited and used for manipulation control, coercion, and triangulation, when it does happen. Self objectivity is virtually non existent in the narcissist, and that is the PFC. Gas lighting, straw man fallacy, reaction abuse, all involve lying and distorting reality for the control. The prefrontal cortex becomes dysfunctional in many ways. If a person does not have strive throughout their life, then one is not forcing is services and it will atrophy accordingly. The other is de myelination, which can be caused by metal toxicities. The prefrontal cortex gets myelinated last and when one researches the molecular ingredients for myelination, they are also very near the same ingredients needed to chelate out ingredients that do not belong in the body and brain. The prefrontal cortex is second fiddle to our immune systems. There is no evidence that a narcissist will get better or improve in some way throughout their lifetime. I believe we are not learning narcissism the right way, as we are not tying metal toxicity to the disorder, knowing that metal toxicities result in de-myelination. Autism, Asperger Syndrome, ADD, ADHD, OCD, Schizophrenia, Alzheimers as well as others have been linked to metal toxicities in the body and brain. They are biomarkers to our body and brains health, and we are not relating this to the personality disorders. I realize that psychology pertains to the conditioning of influences on our behaviors, but ultimately, dysfunction in our brains, influence how we are conditioned. Thanks for sharing on female narcissism. Often, in researching metal toxicities, we associate it with men, mainly because of industry and wars. We don't associate metal toxicities with females so much. If women do not exercise the prefrontal cortex, it will atrophy accordingly. Lise Leblanc has excellent videos on youtube for female narcissism.
We’ll done Kenny Weiss! Absolutely the best provocative insight and summation! 100 % on board. I encourage all “perfectly imperfects” as myself to routinely return and review on daily basis. Good will and Good luck… thank you again Kenny Weiss
+1 👍 for getting straight to the point...
Insightful... self honest and helpful.
I was raised by a single mother who shows strong signs of NPD and it set the stage for meeting a very narcissistic woman who "rescued" me from my mother. I truly didn't know any better and, after a lifetime of denigration and invalidation growing up, I was afraid that would be my only chance at having a relationship with a normal, "understanding" girl.
She was a nightmare! Extremely self centered, lazy, and manipulative at all times, but since I was raised to believe everything was my fault I just kept trying and trying to do better and make her happy. We were together for 14 years because I also had no idea how to end it and was so isolated by that point I couldn't see a viable way out.
One of the biggest reliefs when i learned about narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder was that making them happy really is an unwinnable game, and I'm not the only one that kept trying to play and losing disastrously.
What are you still doing there? Leave!
I really appreciate your continual focus on personal responsibility in choosing the person we did...
Many sites and podcasts very rarely do that! and highlight the victim status continually.
I have greatly appreciated that in my ongoing growth and learning process...
I remember when my now adult step-daughter was about 14. My husband, her Dad, had cellulitis. He was in horrible pain. She literally turned around and looked at him and I and said "It's weird, but I don't feel sorry for you at all. I mean, like, I don't feel bad for you". This was when I knew for sure what was coming. We were not able to help raise her, save for 4 hours on a Friday a week. Her mother is the same. We are currently being "blocked" for not paying her car insurance. Your videos are very helpful and I have shared them with my husband, as he is grieving, as expected, now that we no longer have anything of worth to give her, she has gone silent. You're truly given us so much helpful information. Thanks for that.
My ex wife is a narcisist. My 16-year-old daughter lives with my ex-wife and is also a narcissist. The two of them create a drama weekly and I am summoned to resolve their conflicts via telephone. It is a massive he-said, she-said drama. Is there anything that I can do for my daughter?
@@MrTodayistheday I know this question may not be intended for me. Our "ex" (his ex) is also a narcissist, so there you have your output of a daughter experiencing the same issues. Just to say, my step-daughter is 25 and when she was in her teens, she and her mother had weekly dramas as well. The ex would want hubby to get on the phone to "help", except it was almost a trick or a trap every time. Ultimately he learned to tell her, if "Daughter" needs someone to chat with, I am happy to talk to her (we lived two blocks away)-she is welcome to come and I will take her for a ride and maybe things can calm down a bit. But the thing was, they were never looking for a resolution. They were looking for drama. In short, we had to learn to say "Both kids, we love you so much. Our door is always open. You can come and stay anytime. You can call anytime. Our home will always be the same, our love with be the same and the door will stay open for when you want to communicate, have some fun, watch a movie, take a break, whatever it is. I'm not sure if that was of any use in your situation. We all know the truth is that this hurts. It hurts like nothing else. A father's grief, or a mother's grief is immense. I think of how I feel and I am a step mom, I can't imagine the depths of despair you go through. I only know I wish it were different. Instead-the best we know to do is to lean on each other and keep growing and learning.
@@MrTodayisthedayshoot straight with her politely calling her out on her selfish bullshit and just walk away telling her that she's welcome to come live with you and respect your rules or stay with her mom. If she stays in the drama then make it clear that around you there is no nonsense. There is zero drama aroud you. And because of that, you will no longer get involved in her and her mom's circus.
@@clubdesalud1488 Thank you very much for the eloquent response. I am so close to the situation I did not see it. Until recently, that has been my approach. I was recently faced with some BS that threw me off balance. I am going to frame your response and put it on the wall. Thank you again.
@@the_original_t Thank you very much for the advice. It brings tears to my eyes.
This video right here, inspired me, tremendously to move forward with spreading awareness. Excellent post, informative, spot on, real, honest, vulnerable, and extremely important. I must talk to you, I will reach out to you soon.
I’m glad it helped you
Thank you so much for sharing. Very enlightening. Take care of yourself. Happy Christmas.
Thanks brother, I will say that to you Ken. As there were 2 insights that became learned
- development of self ( as a man)
- covert sexual abuse
Please continue with this much needed awareness Ken.
Your style of getting to the point and then going into detail is deeply appreciated and respected. Gracias my friend🤜🤛.
I have been aware that men were being abused in the media for several years. I am so glad to hear you point out this fact. I am always unsettled seeing men being slapped and done so with an attitude that this action is somehow normal or acceptable. Thanks for shedding light on this problem.
perfect description - thanks!
You're welcome!
Wow! Thank You for sharing, So sorry about what happen to you! 😢 Amen
This is most enlightening! Thankyou!
Glad it was helpful!
Excellent analysis, Kenny.
Thank you so much for be so honest
❤ love your talks thank you!
Straight to the point love it
Thank you for sharing sir, it will help who go through this, only they can understand the pain of it.,
Love you, love this you’re awesome
Kenny, i watch Videos about Narcissism since i broke up with my narcissistic Ex almost 7 years ago, but this was the most on point description of her i ever saw. Wish i found you earlier.
Kenny I love ❤️ your honesty
This subject was the heart of my thesis
Yep! That’s her 100%! Great video Kenny. All of RUclips needs to hear this- 😉🔥.
Great work. Great info and great way to explain all the dinamic of a narcissistic behavior
Glad you liked it!
Amazing video, you are saying basically everything that I've gone through in multiple relationships! You speak the truth that we cannot, we appreciate you!
You are so welcome
much love, bro!
Bang on!
Thanks for sharing
Phew ! I'm not a narcissist 😇
Thank you for the straightforward talk.clear minded thought and experience. Thank you
Bingo, and that's where I 'am.
thx