@@elainejohnson796 I believe they are very well informed (and now even more informed!). But I think their questions were formed in that way so Debbie would have lots of room and freedom to answer, maybe.....?
I just come out with it and say it: I love you guys! I know it is a bit early for that, but it just feels right. I admire what you do for humanity, i really do.
Bloody hell. A trans person making absolute sense without demands for special treatment and taking responsibility for her own feelings and needs. Debbie does a world of good for trans people everywhere.
She speaks for herself! In no way does she speak for ALL trans people. Trans people are as diverse and different as all other people. She has her own views and that’s all, but should never been taken as true or absolute!
If more trans people would be like Hayton, I’d be more willing to socially support them. But the screaming mad activists who strip for children have done a great job at keeping me quite antagonistic to their movement.
The problem is that most are not comfortable in their own skin. Along with the spirit of homosexuality comes an incredible shame that needs to be dealt with in order to go on successfully without hardening one’s heart. Dis-order is right! It’s out of Gods order!
One of my daughters, born in the 80's was a tomboy, hated girly things, wanted cars and not dolls, loved jeans and climbing trees, had lots of male friends. Nowadays she'd be transitioned. She said to me that she felt she liked being like a boy but if I'd given her drugs and surgery she'd never have forgiven me. She grew up very much a woman and loves being a woman.
I'm not your daughter. But this my story as well. - Even though as I'm getting older I find myself dressing more tomboyish again. Not because I have a problem with my gender, but male clothes are more practical in everyday life.
Same here. Still a tomboy in my 30s (s.o even called me "Mr", from behind, of course lol), but that's ok. That's me and I love my parents for being Polish Catholics and not leftist weirdoes. They just let me be.
Yeah I wish people would understand just because you are a tomboy or like male things it doesn't mean that you are transgender. I'm happier now on hormones than I was presenting as a girl . But they're a lot of changes on hormones that aren't irreversible and it's scary seeing little kids going on hormones at a young age not understand the full effects of this medicine. I'm happy my mom made me wait till I was a legal adult to go on hrt. It's a very big step for someone to take in their life .
I'm one of those women who hated being a girl when I was young. I had two older brothers and I was a complete "tomboy". I told everyone that I didn't want to be a girl, I wanted to do boy things, play with the boys, do what the boys did. They got to do fun things like wrestle, build tree houses, get dirty. I didn't want to play with barbies and wear dresses. If I had adults telling me I could actually BE a boy, wow! I would be a boy today. THANK God that did not happen. Thank God I am not young today because I LOVE being a woman and all that comes with it. I'm still not a girly girl but I am ME and I love being female. I fear for these young children today.
I could have written the same exact words. I was THE worlds top tomboy. 6 brothers. I could do everything they could, some things better. Tree climber, ball player, runner, swimmer, ice skater, bowler, roller blades (still). I told my mom I was never going to,grow up because an adult was the worst, most boring life one could have. Hit 15, turns out I’m a stunner. Suddenly, being a girl was awesome. I started washing my hair, taking baths. Grew to about 5ft 4. Stopped traffic. That’s my story. To think it could have been taken away from me because I liked to climb trees and go down into,the sewer in my Sunday clothes, it’s just horrifying.
Any pychologist will tell you it is the most unhealthy thing to put your self worth in other peoples hands. Mostly because it is impossible to get everyone to think the way you want.
this is the thing I don't get. When trans people say "you must indulge my identity" but like. Your identity is YOUR identity. It isn't "demand everyone else respond to it in the way I want"
@@mtgmarkv i agree with this, I feel like now however we are in a weird place where ones view of oneself is demanding society to agree with who you say you are, and anything less is "you're trying to erase trans people"
@@imamuggle03 the simple fact of the matter is this, the natural order of things, as we can observe in the animals kingdom, is that there are 2 genders, and within those animal societies, the genders are genetically pre set in such a way. With lions it's the males who fight off other males, so he can claim a group of females as his own, same with gorillas. Within insects and fish the females are often far larger and might even eat the males after mating. The point is the natural order has genders biologically set as they are. Human societies have been built around the biological nature of humankind since man walked upright. Now because of the nature of human beings, we have a huge cluster of concepts within our society we have gathered and made part of our systems, so alternate concepts to what someone identifies as is based simply not on genetics but on psychological befuddlement, what feels normal to one person is abnormal to another. So people look for ways to change themselves in what they think will make them happy. This however doesn't change the basis of genetics or functions of our society, it becomes more about satisfying that placebo rather then accepting whatever abnormality you might have in your head for what it is.
As an FTM trans person it’s so nice to see someone who sees things the way I do. I’m just a bio female with a neurological desire to inhabit a body with male sex characteristics and otherwise just life my life the best way I can. I don’t care about pronouns and all this shit, I’m just me, doing my best.
Its quite interesting to see the calm, mature demeanor of a trans person who has their mental health in order. They are able to competently give their position and state their opinions without any of these new age PC style words, or outrage.
There is a whole infrastructure of organisations that make a living pushing for certain aspects of trans-rights that does not represent the community. Many of these are people who were involved in the gay rights battle and moved on to what they thought was the next battle. Of course the two issues (gay and trans rights) are not the same, with very important differences. Debbie hints at this in the interview.
It's no coincidence that the only trans people I've seen in conversation like this who seem to be fully happy and complete in their lives chose that path as fully grown adult.
I really like her. She is has her feet firmly grounded in reality, supports women's rights, and is very self-aware. I don't think the trans community would lose so much support if it was people like her who fronted it.
@@ludovica8221 Debbie is a man who uses the label 'transwoman' to describe himself. If he wasn't trying to pretend to be a woman he'd have no need for that label.
@@Danielle2Cats Ha, I'm with you on that. Been called a terf, which despite its offensive meaning, sounds about as intense as say, "tree," or "mountain." (and i'm well aware it's an acronym) It's just another term made up by a group of individuals who are slyly using their innate male privilege to violate women's sacred space
Exactly. Sadly it’s the loud, perverted and demented activists - especially those that groom children - that make me quite antagonistic to their movement.
There are no more any"trans ns" people than there are thief people or liar people; the notion of " trans people is a religious fiction - a fiction of that queer religion modernism. Whereast the religion modernism w would hold te fiction that transwomen are men, the blike calling himself debbies boldly declare thay not so, thus from the point of view of modernism he is a form of trsotot whim it would expect to declare than he was a woman when he candidly admits that he is abloke dressed up as a woman, so he would agree with me no womb, nor a woman and no doubt also that fake women are like sewerites- pointless and neither use nor ornament There*Are_no" trans people"-trans people - so- called, are a fiction of that queer religion modernism. Real women do not care to be carictured or mocked by men pretending to be women and one can see their point. Fake women are to real women what minstrels a or actors blacked up to look like negros are to real negros, hence the uncle tom analogy, which is perfectly apt
I tweeted once something similar to that notion (I saw a thread where a couple transwomen were going off on a radical feminist who believed exactly what debbie beileves; that all transwomen are men, so they were like "get off here you stupid TERF!" [slang for a feminist who excludes transwomen and other female-mixed or similar genders]). I may have chimed in and said to the transwoman who wrote the terf-remark that while "she"may see herself as a woman science and societal experience tell us that's not true. she then reported me and predictably woke culture espoused by twitter immediately suspended my acct within minutes month for "discriminating" language or something to that effect. UGH! I've just forced myself to accept it and go by "live and let be"despite my bitterness that a person born a male will never know what it's like to be a woman, to have a uterus, to go against the patriarchy, etc. etc.
@@ellena.8369 well is because radical feminist see the problems of women mostly based on their biological issues, like, we have less bone density, less muscular mass, get awful periods, I'm a radfem as well, and when the whole trans issue got popular I couldn't get my mind together, cause radfems fight against harmful stereotypes of women, but for being trans you accept that being a woman is following certain stereotypes based on gender roles, I have the same issue when it comes to nonbinary people even if we think similar as I consider gender stereotypes stupid and mostly focus on biological evidence. Look, I don't hate trans people or nonbinary people, but I really think they have different issues than us, I don't get killed for wearing lipstick, but they do (atleast is like that in my country) I don't want them to be excluded or treated badly cause we all are humans, but I still can't make myself clear with my beliefs, so I prefer to stay away of tumblr xd
@@ellena.8369 I prefer to stay on the type of feminism that protest against sexual abuse and women trafficking (something very usual in latinoamerica sadly) and I want my country to create laws that protect women from feminicides and abusers, as well with educating the people so they finally understand women are human and have rights
As a biological woman I truly appreciate her point of view about the key to women's spaces. I have zero issues with using preferred pronouns and basic respect, human rights. What gets to me is a man charged with sexual crimes against women can transition and be allowed into female prison. I have an issue with an athletic biological male transitions then is breaking records and winning in women's sports. I don't see female to male Trans taking over men's sports and winning.
Whew!Thank God biological women can feel validated. I was worried for awhile being a biological woman myself & all. Transgender women identify as female & present as female. It makes no sense for that to weigh on biological women's identity. There are trans women who were unathletic weak men who would never out perform many women in sports but if a transwoman wants to participate in a sport why should they be forced to play it with other men Why are we not seeing more unisex sports at this point in History???
There are transgender men who are body builders & are strong athletes & are as strong as any other man & you think they should compete with women who don't take testosterone?
@@delanaveirs3411 sorry but your argument is faulty. Of course you will always be able to find a woman that is stronger than a man but the reality is that, pound for pound, men are stronger, have bigger hearts and lungs, and have higher bone density. We don't have more unisex sports because in a sport that favors these attributes men will dominate. This is one reason we have women's sports, so women can have the opportunity to play at a competitive level.
@@stacypastry2440 And the truth of the matter is that women have had to fight tooth and nail to get those sports funded and sponsored and appreciated, indeed to get them at all. Now we have to fight to keep biological males out of them. Crazy times.
It’s actually patronizing, and insulting to the person placing these demands. How does it help a person to believe the key to their fulfillment, self acceptance, and ability to be successful, lies in the hands of someone else’s choices? A person can influence these things temporarily, of course, but not permanently. Maybe we are supposed to learn and grow from the experience of being rejected by society in all the multitude of ways, we ALL experience. At school being bullied, in our careers when we lose a job, or the betrayal by a loved one, in these ways we are meant, not to become helpless to the extent that we can become delusional in our expectations of others, to sort of, “fix” our pain, but, rather, to make better choices about the next job we take, or the next partner we choose, or the school we choose for our own child, or as a teacher in the way we will notice when a child is in pain.
@Christ is lord But no one here is advocating for prejudice, hatred, violence or is even being mean for that matter. Quite the contrary. The desire to “not lie” to people about biological reality, while at the same time acknowledging their inner conflict, is actually motivated by a desire to be kind. She’s sharing her opinion based on her knowledge of biology and personal experience. The guys are sharing their opinions and asking questions, and I chimed in to say I agree that it is well-meaning but not helpful to tell people what they want to hear rather than the truth. We can debate about what the truth is, I suppose, but you can hardly make a case that wanting people to know it is an act of hatred. Anyway, that’s not my own motivation. Off topic, but I see by your profile name that you are a Christian. Let me wish you a joyful and meaningful Easter. We can certainly find common ground there. Peace.
She transitioned from what to what did shetransition(although there is no verb to transition transition being a noun)?Which she have you in mind given that no she appeared in the piece which contains three men and not one woman, unless you are some insane religious fanatic that sees females where there are only males. By transitioned(and there is no such verb) you mean butchered? He was butchered not she - There was no she in the piece.
Do you use any of the following (rather euphemistic) terms? • gay • homophobia/homophobe • transphobia/transphobe • trans-sexual • transgender • cis gender • sex worker • capitalism/capitalist • any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly stooge for the loony left!
There is no pure English verb to transition(which is a noun) or parent or reference -they are kinderlander -american neologisms There no more any " trans" people than there are liar people or thief people. " Trans people" is a religious fiction - a fiction of that queer strange odd peculiar or weird religion modernism that sees sexual perversions as sacred or holy
No, you* imagine* yourself to be what you are not, why not go for a trans-pot-of-geraniums, or a trans -otter or a trans shrubbery. The word is sex; gender is reserved to objects in languages where objects can be male or female.
@@LaVerdad65 Ah, a religious fanatic whom no rational being would "touch" with a bargepole having a tantrum. Oh to be *less* in touch with such creatures that demonstrate the stupfying effects of the religion modernism and religion/politics(they are the same thing) generally. Although I dislike the practice of the slaughter of the unborn(which makes the holocaust look amateur), in the case of the passive halves of the causes of such creatures, I would be prepared to make an exception.
@Venus and Mars And you're entitled to your opinion. As a lesbian and a woman, I could give a rats ass what others think of me. No one needs to validate me. I don't need to force others to accept me. Only insecure people worry too much about what others think.
Did you not notice the title of the piece and that the*Man*calling *himself*(for some inexplicable reason)Debbie, is making it plain that*He* is a Man* and not, repeat*not* a she*. Your queer religion really does stupefy you.
This trans woman actually makes sense. She is very in tune with her emotional/mental reasons for needing to transition without the need for validation from others. She has approached her transition very maturely. I am sure her children appreciate still being able to call her father.
Listening to her was like suddenly realizing you've been holding your breath and then letting go.. She just said everything I've been thinking but through thr prism of experience and crystal clearing reason.
Man, a self confessed AGP. It's still disrespectful to women to call any man a woman. Why is legitimising a fetish AGP acceptable. Psychiatrists are failing to assist people to accept themselves.
@@56hendo57 agp isn't gender incongruence so it is true she is not feminised the way natal women are so it makes sense she says so ...hers is social and fashion based...people with gender incongruence are feminised similar to women but then masculinised...the body feels the feminine function is correct cause that is what it got first all after is forigne.
I like her and respect her. I'll even go so far as to call her "her" because I don't fell that aggressive insistence that I change my speech to keep from "offending" her. She totally disarms the issue.
This is a really weird coincidence, but I was just reading the article that Debbie Hayton wrote back in 2018 for The Economist yesterday. An intelligent and nuanced perspective. The title of the article is "Gender identity needs to be based on objective evidence rather than feelings" for anyone interested in reading it.
Phew that’s not likely anytime soon, these fields have become infested with radical intersectional feminist ideology and run by a bunch of women, who do not care about facts because they’re completely irrational as what they fight for is people’s feelings over reality.
The man calling himself Debbie is no more as she than it is a jellyfish, but at least he faces facts and does not try to justify what is a filthy antinatural paraphilia
They're just acting out their fetish, which is why they don't want special trans spaces for toilets, sports or prisons. If they had those, that would be telling them they're different from women. No, they want us to see them as the woman they desire to be, and if we don't, they expect us to stay quiet, lie, or be silenced. I believe they covet, desire and ultimately despise what women have. The hatred towards females from these people is all too evident. They aren't trans, they don't believe they're women, they wish they were, it's a fantasy, and that is something they should keep to themselves behind closed doors. Shame gets a bad rap. Some thing exist for which you should be ashamed. This kink is one of them.
As the mother of a trans-son I love that Debbie speaks about this issue with clarity and reason. I acknowledge the truth that my child is both my biological daughter and also my transgender son. There is truth in both of those statements. There is a biological reality in terms of DNA and also a neurological reality in terms of gender disphoria and also the reality of the social perception of gender. My trans-son didn't transition until an adult and we both agree that medically transitioning children is dangerous.
Good to hear your experience. Although the odds are rather small that whenever I would conceive a child that they'd be trans, can I ask you: how exactly have you handled that with your trans-son from child to adult? For I imagine that there have been discussions with him during at least his teens. How did you manage to agree/let him see that it was best to wait till adulthood before making such a drastic decision?
Debbie is wonderful, smart and empathic. Focus on people's rights to do things rather than rights to be things. Everyone should have the right to be themselves as long as they aren't harming others. Help parents with rigid stereotypic notions about how male and female children should be. Great discussion. I bet you are a great teacher. I wish I had had teachers like you. Thank you!
Did you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of the*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me."
If only you had some vague idea of what a "right" is or could define a right, but you are about to demonstrate that you have absolutely*No* idea what a right is and cannot even begin to be able to define a right, because you have no idea what a right is.
"Everyone should have the right to be themselves as long as they aren't harming others" Very stupid statement. Having him using women changing room is harming for women. Him forcing others to call him with some inadequate pronoun - is harming others I'll explain it in other way why you're wrong and why harm has huge spectrum not only as physical harm Here is my statement: Nudists should be allowed to express themselves and be who they feel they are. Teachers at school, factory workers, general public on streets. They are not harming anyone do they?
@@kalyasaify S ee if can translate that into coherent adult English, buy do bear in mind that I don't give a flying fcuk about the opinions my inferiors
My son said he wanted to be a girl when he was 4&5 occasionally. He's 7 now and he is very happy being a boy. I honestly belive it's just because he wanted to paint his nails and wear sparkles. I let him do that if he wanted to and his "desire" to be a girl faded away. Kids just want to have fun. Tell them only "x" can do that, they will say they are "x" or "identify" as "x" just to get to join in the fun.
yeah, he is eventually what he is...what happen in the process...we called that self-exploration/recognition and we will have go through this eventually either when are earlier during adolesence or later when we are adult, but better earlier than later.
@@jenniferluvines3557 I'm comfused do you mean testosterone not estrogen. Cause I know for the dad when sperm is made you need more calerys too make male sperm and girls you don't need that much. I would guess when baby forming the mom would need more food to progress the male fetous, by helping the carrying parent make more testosterone. So would it be a lack of testosterone in the brain. I know the brain is a strange thing my son is autistic very high on spectrum. But I don't know now I just know the parent that produces sperm decides sex of baby. Please don't take offence I'm just wondering.
I am a 28years old women. Long hair, slim and very proud to be a girl...but at age of 3 or 4 I told stangers at the supermarket that I am a boy. Everytime they told me: "oh you are such a pretty girl" and I said: "No! I am a boy!" My mother said nothing in this situations. Later when I was six, I wished I could be LIKE a boy. I wanted to be a boy, because I wanted to ride a bike, like a boy, could wear these cool clothes like a boy...I lOVE boy...so I wanted to be LIKE one. I am still a little bit like a tomboy a times.
@- Astor - I know what you mean. I thought boys would be and are allowed to be "cooler". A boy is not "pretty", he is brave or strong. I want to be brave and strong too. Pretty was just...you know, not epic.
@@elainejohnson796 considering all the risks, I would take her any time over illegal immigrants or radical islamists or people from poor culture... Your comment reminds for some reason (no disrespect intended) when police arresting people who don’t wear masks vs criminals that destroy businesses and go free. Debbie appears to have the least amount of threat, until she proves otherwise...
Yes. I think children would be very lucky to have Debbie Hayton for a teacher. I would consider it an honor to benefit from her teaching. She is so bright & knows how to teach really well.
I've never had a s3xual attraction to anybody. I like being alone and I'm generally pretty repulsed by the idea of s3x or s3xual contact. That's not to say I hate people. I have plenty of friends and I'm close to my family, but at the end of the day I like to go home by myself. I've never felt a romantic or s3xal attraction to anyone, and because of that all throughout my high school years people thought I was gay and in denial. That rumor, however, never bothered me, because there's nothing wrong with being gay and I knew I wasn't attracted to women. Years later, someone told me I was asexual, which as a descriptor sounds about right. That said, I don't identify as asexual because, as Debbie said, it really doesn't matter. I don't need people to know I'm asexual, and quite frankly it's none of their business. I don't need to be categorized to live however I want. I admit it's a bit annoying sometimes when people suggest there's something wrong with me or that I'm selfish because I don't want a relationship, but it still doesn't change the fact that I am who I am and I'm happy.
I think the idea that your selfish because you are choosing to do what you want is ridiculous. I feel like they are trying to push something they don't like about themselves into me.
8*He* repeat * He* or the*man* calling himself Debbie is doing the paraphiliac equivalent of an Uncle Tom act to ingratiate himself with what he clearly sees as the winning side and being candid in saying he recognises that he is little more than a transvestite and that *He* a *Man* the title of the piece being:"Transwomen *are men* including* Himself. In short he is accepting that he is a man and thus - and make a note of this, a He* - not - *repeat* Not* a She*, or in plain English *He* is saying that he is indeed a being of the active sex or man and is only pretending to be a being of the passive sex or woman the who is caricaturing or even simpler he a is a *Fake_woman* He also almost certainly would accept the proposition " No womb, not a womb_man and explicitly does so, that being -near enough, the title of the piece- or did you not notice that? It is only that queer religion modernism that makes sacred cows of paraphilics such as sewerites or homosexualists, and fake_women, but wonders *why* make sacred cows out of what are anti-natural monstrosities or freaks of nature which fake women are not, not having been *born* monstrosities any more than anyone is*born* homosexual. All this nonsense of sucking up to sewerites fake women and paraphilacs is simple a fashion(the French word for which is *mode*-hence the religion being calledMode*_ernism. When I was young quite rightly homosexual practices(NB not homosexuality)such as buggery and sodomy were offences at common law carrying(until the common law was sadly displaced by statute the sexual offences act 1964, the death penalty (or strictly speaking the earlier-than- anticipated death penalty[since what must occur to all men cannot be a *penalty*]
You read and understood thetitle of the piece? Debie- who is a*man*is saying that fake or trans women are me and that*He*is a *He*not not not not a she.* He* a bloke dressed up as a woman-a *He, not not , not , not* a she; read the exact words of the title of the piece. If for "trans" you substitute lie or fake you come to the truth of the matter, and you get lie women or fake women because that is exactly what-they-*Are*. Men pretending to be women and in the procrss mocking or caricaturing (real* women. A Fake is a fake and Debbie is a *Man- a He*
Why are you calling a *Man* she? * says He* is a man . Do you make a habit of calling men she? If so, why do you do that? Do you also call black white, hot cold, left right and night day?
Do you not understand that the creature to who you refer as Debbie, her, and she, is a Man*or He*? id you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me." *Debbie .... is...... a.... *Man*
You understand that "Debbie-the poor sad old queen in the dress is a *man* a *He*? Did you not read the title of the piece?*He* will kill himself soon enough, and a good thing too. Do you suppose that those frauds fakes or liars *enjoy* being frauds fakes and liars?
She is telling the truth and owning her “disorder” for lack of another word, and is so eloquent in her explanation. Bravo. The best I’ve heard explaining the truth from a transgender who is scientific teacher. Brilliant. Thank you.
As a child in the eighties boys and girls played in shorts and tee shirts and some girls had short hair, some boys had long hair. Now I see the most gender stereotyped kids. All the girls have long hair, hair ribbons and frilled dresses and the boys have military haircuts and wear collared shirts. I think parents are terrified of the consequences of their kids showing any deviant behavior to their biological sex.
She's presenting as a person I have respect for, intelligent, not angry but full of insight. Being her student would be a blessing. Logical, not a bully at all.
It's almost like she's tolerant or something, unlike most on the left. It's clear that Debbie's sense of self worth is internal. She's not obsessed with what strangers think of her. Unfortunately, we live in a world where people no longer have to develope character and integrity for self worth. Self worth is now about social validation from Twitter based on politically correct words that we're called. If a complete stranger misgenders you, you no longer have any self worth. 😩
LoL psychological rape of one's students by wearing drag every day and using the women's toilets and insisting they call him 'miss' is NOT honest. He is a man, saying the right things, while harming his students and laughing when he uses the women's loos. Keep out you cavern gobbed cockfrocker. YWNBAW. He's tolerant? Wait until you deny him access to women's spaces. He's a degenerate pantysniffing transie prick of a MAN. Forever. Stop 'being kind' for the men in drag. Using their preferred anything is what got us into this fucking mess in the first place. #FuckYourPronouns #YWNBAW you will never be a woman. His mouth says 'yeah I know', but he takes his dick out and pisses in the women's. Bastard.
these are the transgender people i fully respect and tolerate. i have no issues with people who suffer from gender dysophoria in general - but i damn sure dispise delusional people who claim that men can get a period or birth to a child.
For trans simply read fake fraud liar or caricature, but monstrosity serves as well. If you respect fakes frauds liars caricatures or monstrosities there is something as wrong with you as there is with such fakes frauds liars or caricatures cum monstrosities, which fortunately rarely live long because truth will not be mocked. He will be dead soon anyway because such monstrosities have to take steroids for the rest of their thankfully short lives to maintain the fake fraud lie or caricature. The only good fake fraud or liar is a dead fake fraud or liar. The real puzzle is why your queer religion makes saced cows out of fakes frauds liars and monstrosities and perversions
Yeah it's an interesting debate, and I find Debbie has some nuanced and fresh opinions, and yet some of her views don't seem based on facts. Good example being about women's spaces. She asserts that men are trying to encroach on those women's spaces, yet its been women wishing to encroach into 'traditionally' male spaces that has, rightly or wrongly, caused friction to one degree or another. And she says she feels safer acting as a man on the street, when statistically speaking men are way more likely to be subject to serious violent crime on the street than women are. Crime stats show us this to be true. I got the impression, maybe wrongly, that Debbie has an unfounded low opinion of maleness and masculinity, as evidenced in her reference to the 'gender power struggle', which could perhaps be her reason for, at least in part, to want to disassociate from being a visible man.
@@johnjohnston8590 Well, what you're saying is true, but the issue of safety is much more important for women in a sense that as a female I am more likely to be seriously harmed or killed if attacked by a man. Biology is a bitch. The only reason, statistically, more males are attacked, is because... they are attacked by other men, who, on average show more tendency to be aggressive and violent than women. If two guys disagree, the possibility of a fight is not far away. As to Debbie's reasons for dissociation from masculinity, I have no idea. People think in mysterious ways. What is important, though, Debbie accepts she's really a biological man, thus not denying reality.
@@adlernewman Yeah, I agree with your every word apart from the stats re being seriously harmed or killed. Last time I checked men were far likely to be seriously harmed or killed than women, albeit by other men. But I certainly agree Debbie is contributing to a more adult and nuanced debate, which is very encouraging.
@@johnjohnston8590 Yes you are right: men are more likely to be victims of physical violent crime. But I'd argue that it's not a fair test because the situations are very different.
@@haytond Yes, I'd guess that men generally are more likely to be involved in violence than women, not least because they are more likely to respond physically to a perceived threat or challenge while women on the whole avoid confrontation as far as possible. In fact, most women go to a good deal of trouble to avoid situations that involve risk of physical assault, partly because we are continually exhorted to do just that. Perhaps when women are victims of violence, it's more likely that they've been attacked for some reason involving sexual assault, domestic violence, mugging, etc., than that they have initiated or participated in a confrontation that becomes physical, while men are perhaps more likely to simply get into a fight with other men (obviously men are also subject to random attacks and domestic and sexual violence, so this is in addition to that risk). And the phrase 'victim of physical violent crime' presumably just means that someone was charged for injuring that individual, so includes those who are hurt in gang fights, drunken brawls, and other incidents where men are far more likely to be involved than women and where we are less likely to consider the injured party a 'victim' in the normal sense of the word, and so might imagine are excluded from this statistic. But I don't know whether stats are available with that kind of detail.
I don't know if you noticed it, but the man calling himself Debbie concedes that he is a man - have a look at the title of the piece which reads it"Trans Women Are Men … Including Me Do you not notice that it is a bloke and a particularly truthful bloke who accepts that he has some sort of paraphilia although whether or not he chose it is unclear, but then men (which term includes beings of the passive sex or women) are very much slaves of their functions and will tell any lie in pursuit of their slavery and indulge in any sort of self-deception. Did you not notice that the so-called "Debbie" concedes that he repeat he (not she) is a man, and in the case of that man, a paraphiliac man, probably an Autogynephiliac. Are you really so constrained by your career religion modernism to indulge any sort of self-deception whatsoever - supposing the man calling himself "Debbie" decided to identify as a small village in outer Mongolia or as a pot of geraniums; how exactly would you go about addressing a pot of geraniums?
Tiny point "Debbie is a He*, not a she; *He* is some poor sad caricature of a woman seeking to make the point which your queer religion seems to compel you to ignore namely that fake/fraud/trans women *Are Men.*including (says Debbie) me.
Love her honesty and humanity. Her understanding and respect for biological women who remain being binary female are most commendable. We need more Debbie in this world that has gone absolute nutter.
Did you not notice the title of the piece and that the*Man*calling *himself*(for some inexplicable reason)Debbie, is making it plain that*He* is a Man* and not, repeat*not* a she*. Your queer religion really does stupefy you.
To whom are you referring when you say or write "love "her" honesty and humanity"? There are no women or beings of the passive sex or beings attracting the epithet she or her in the entire piece so who is the her to whom you refer in love her honesty - do you suppose that a poor tired old queer dressed up as woman is a woman or attracts the epithet her? Do you not understand that the title of piece indicates that transwomen are men which are the words of the man dressed up as woman calling himself Debbie so in practice he is admitting that he is no more than some poor sad old queer dressed up as the woman and is in point of fact a man - or did you not managed to grasp that particular piece of information?
My mother had a trans woman in her ladies catholic pray group back in the early eighties. She had been attending in our home for years and one day she announced she was trans. The other women told her they were surprised and had their tea and cake. It never can up again.
id you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me."
@@whodoesntluvpapas Tiny tip: Try not to use words with the meaning of which you are clearly not familiar and don't laugh at your own jokes because if you do you come across not just as pathetic but infantile, and do not only embarrass yourself but others.
Trans person here and watching this interview made me feel less alone. This "transwomen are real women" stuff is only harmful for trans ppls. Our experiences are different to womens. We need our own space not to be invading womens spaces.
The same reason your shoe size and clothing sizes have names/numbers, and that you have a nationality. To define them as being distinct from other things. It needn't generate any controversy.
@@andybaldman trans women should be defined as being distinct. Hence "trans woman". To label over half the population "cis" just so trans women can be "included" in the word "woman" which has turned into a weird umbrella term now, pisses a lot of women off.
@@VAMR-vc7xg No, it isn't that simple. Trans women are humans who possess mental characteristics of a woman, and physiology of a man. Calling trans people one or the other doesn't capture the whole picture, regardless of how you slice it. And when you're having a discussion, there's a need to delineate trans vs non-trans. Hence the word cis. The same reason we have men and women, and don't just call them men and non-men.
Year 2041: What do you identify as? What is your personal alignment? What is your authentic orientation? What is your uniquely distinctive affiliation? What is your individualized characterization? What is your experiential manifestation? What is your idiosyncratic temperament? What is your physiological disposition? What is your predisposed inner-mentality? What is your prominently distinctive personalization? What is your self-truth fulfilment? What is your behavioral affixation? What are your interior attributed effectualizations? What is your soul center? What is your external projection? What is your innate, self-selected categorization? What is your philosophical idealized trajectory? What is your cerebral-psychological classification? What is your genome acclimatization? What celestial embodiment do you gravitate towards? "Don't worry, just a few more forms and you can get your driver's license. All of this will be displayed right on the back so everyone will be able to know the real you! And it's important so that none of our correspondence, callers, advertisements, or department representatives ever offend you, you unmeltable little snowflake!"
This makes a lot of sense. She is not denying who she was at birth, and is acknowledging this fact as a part of her. She's not all caught up in her pronouns and her appearance, and she clearly made her decision to transition for herself, her own mental health and to hell with what we all think.
What really was revealing for me… and it says a lot about Hayton’s character… is that he’s happy he didn’t transition until much later, because otherwise he wouldn’t have had his children. That’s incredible. He’s so fulfilled in life, that’s why he doesn’t care what pronouns are given to him. He’s got a family. And that’s what childhood transitioning is denying these trans children. No wonder so many de-transition.
42:20: "Women's rights have been compromised, and they can be reclaimed. But if children's bodies have been damaged, they're damaged for life. And they only have one body. And that is something, as adults we need to take responsibility for that." His maleness is showing here, implying that women can't be damaged for life by their rights being compromised, or that it doesn't matter. As far as I know women only have one body and one life, too.
@@uterushaver8309 That does not say that women can't be damaged for life. Saying one thing is true does not mean all others are false. It's a simple statement of fact.
Gender dysphoria is a pychological issue and needs to be treated while being respectful to the person. Feeding into the delusion and forcing others to accept an unscientific reality is oppressive to both parties. My main issue is schools teaching dangerous ideologies to our children and the medical community caving in to it and mutilating healthy reproductive organs on confused adolescents. The ramifications of radical ideologies hurt children and women the most.
@@TransasaurusRex yes I do. If you as an 18+ individual want to live this fantasy go ahead, but the grabs for power using discrimination law and mutilation of children, especially without parental consent, is wrong.
@@rachelpops9239 it has nothing to do with that, besides, if the trans community in any country tried to get it so kids didn't need parental concent to do any part of transitioning id be fighting against it, grow the fuck up and learn to think for yourself, stop living blindly, stop following these Conservative fuckwits just because your not brave enough to have your own thoughts about stuff
This is always the worst take. What else would you recommend for treating the "pychological" [sic] issue? I love when people with no experience with the issue come and give their opinions based around what makes sense to them...the people who don't have any expertise on the issue. It's the same as men coming in and making decisions on women's reproductive health. They found a way to treat the issue while being respectful to the person, it's called transitioning. It's not harmful to anyone at all and any of these statements like this "hurts children and women the most" are just ridiculous and overstated. Adolescents are not getting any surgeries, at most they are getting completely reversible puberty blockers. There are much more radical ideologies that are hurting children these days, but this ain't it.
The weird thing about trying to invent a category for every identity under the sun is that is does the exact opposite of what it is claiming to do. Instead of supporting individuality and self expression it just seems to be a another effort of forcing everyone in a neat little box, even if those boxes are more diverse. A box is still a box. It just speaks to societies neurotic needs to control and uniformity.
Trans peopol actually did fight for having their " condition" accepted as trans , they didnt want to be confused with gay or dragqueen. Its actually help to feel reconized for who they are , and now we wanna say it is no difference ? 🙈 I feel like the real trans get it , the one who doesnt are ,on my opinion of course , mostly there for the trend
@@mimipicard9879 I don't debate trans identity at all or the need for it be recognized on its own, far from it. I am not trying to deny anyone's identity, even though I myself never really felt like I need to adopt an exact label to describe who I am, but I do get it why it is important for visibility and being able to have a voice. My comment was meant for the 70+ new pronouns and different gender identities (maybe more, I stopped counting). There is a point, when trying to stick a label everything on the spectrum starts to defeat the purpose. It is a spectrum for a reason. There will always be people who do not fit into any of the categories. Do we just keep on inventing new labels? I think we should just stick to the generally recognized ones (which of course includes trans) and keep in mind that it is a generalization, and gender is always a spectrum.
@@mimipicard9879 I agree about the "trend," a friend of mine is F to M and that's what he has been speaking about. He wanted to be a man. He got that. He doesn't want to need lumped in as being just "trans" instead. He didn't go through hell for years to get there, to be told the post moved and he has to be happy about it. He's largely been ostracized by the liberals in his "community," or they say the most horrific things to him. I admire his strength, to stand up and say "I don't agree with you" in the face of the level of *hate* he gets.
@Mary H That's TRANS people and their supporters. Stop calling them liberals. This is only social politics, not actual politics. And correlation isn't causation- You can be trans and conservative. Look at 'Caitlyn' Jenner.
"You've got these feelings. they're not your fault you've got these feelings. you can't be a girl because you're a boy, but lets have a look and see how we can help you become comfortable with yourself" what a spectacular quote. I don't quite agree with everything Debbie has said, but I think he really nails it on this quote.
@@pramodabandaru3566 basically, I think that undergoing procedures to make yourself appear more like the sex you were not born as is a bit of a failure to accept yourself as you were born. but that is just my personal attitude toward it and not something I think should be forced on others. If doing so helps that person, that's generally a good thing
@@user-ji8ll1qn6o theheebs100 has said that it is a personal attitude/opinion. But you also have the right to your opinion in calling it mean. Both opinions are just critiques, not insults or slander.
@@angelmessenger8240 Main stream media is nothing more or less than the realest reality TV show in the world lol. It amazes me how so many people can go through life without the ability to acknowledge this fact.
For someone who has claimed they have had deep physiological issues and could no longer live life as s man, she most certainly sounds very well grounded, her confidence and self - acceptance is astounding. She is saturated in so much common sense it is difficult not to be riveted to her every word.
id you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me."? There are only*Men*in the piece , not one single woman or she. Those that se what is not there are insane, as are those that suppose themselves to be what they are not.
Do you make a habit of calling men she? There is no she in the piece the title of which you either have not read or because of some insane religious mania wilfully ignore.
The prison issue is one of the things that really bothers me about this. That and putting men who identify as women into womens refuges. I have heard of women being sexually assaulted in a refuge.
Why should the safety of women matter? There is a thing called equal protection. If person A and B are sent to prison. We fear A will attacki B. So if A is male and B is female they should be in separste prisons. But uf both A andB are m a le then B deserves no such protection. How is this equal protection?
@@ZackZick96 can you explain your issue more I'm not sure I'm reading the original comment the same as you? I read it as everyone should be provided that protection. Which may mean that all prisoners should be kept in what is effectively protective custody or solitary confinement?
@@vladtepes8461 I read it as what they were getting at is there is a lot of male on male rape in prisons. But I still think that is a pretty big difference from oh lets put a man sex offender in a woman's prison. I think we should be trying to stop rape in male AND female prisons (females in female prisons also assault each other sexually at record numbers). I think its wrong in every instance.
It reminds me about when they called me ugly or dumb and I would cry to my mom and she would ask me: is it true? Do you believe them? I would usually say no and feel completely good about myself. I love that she never put the emphasis on controlling what people say or do but how you feel about yourself.
Finally someone who speaks sense. Just be who you want, you can't force people to treat you how you want. And you shouldn't make people think about concepts that don't bother them, it's confusing a whole generation.
What an amazing person with such a beautiful straight forward sensible way! Massive respect,! There's a lot of people could learn so much listening to this lovely soul x
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Debbie. Please never stop talking about this. You are literally saving lives and I know of no one else who is doing it with this type of grace, humility, and razor sharp logic.
Irony alert: Another commenter, Amy Frou Frou, replied to me, pointing out that most women who say what Debbie is saying *aren't* allowed on the internet. But her comment seems to have been zapped by RUclips. (Maybe it was her choice of pronoun.)
@J B @J B Did you miss the part where a (presumed) woman replied to my comment and RUclips deleted her? If you'd like to explain exactly what's garbage about Debbie's views, I'm all ears.
Omg this person is an absolute legend. This is what I’ve always thought. Why should you give a flying SHIT what other people call you?!? It’s what you think of yourself that matters!
On the contrary, all that matters is what you *Are* the facts or truth; you can put lipstick on a pig but the fact or truth is that it *Is* a pig.*No* amount of fakery lying and pretending can make what in truth and fact is a pig anything*other* than a pig. If these creatures are not ill or otherwise unwell why do they resort to doctors and butchers to mutilate them? Do you suppose that doctors and surgeons treat the perfectly healthy?All that trans nonsense is lying and fakery; why would anyone wish to connive in what is *in_fact* lying and fakery Mad pansies that imagine(or rather deliberately deceive themselves) that they are women, insult women by *caricaturing* women, none of who chose or enjoy the travails of menstruation or the agonies of childbirth. Read the*title*of the piece
Surely if you think of yourself as the Emperor Napoleon Bonaparte, by all means buy a horse and call it Marengo and invade Russia, but do not expect t be bought a palace in Paris and to be called your Majesty. Sonner or latter your train(the 8.55 to fantasy) is going to find itself on the same single track as the reality express, which is why mad pansies are found dead because they could not cope with the self deceit ; You simple *cannot* cheat or lie to the sense of truth or with_knowledge. The body will not stand for it, the feelings will not stand for it and if the associative/dreaming apparatus goes off on a frolic of its own, the rest will*not* follow- It simply *cannot*. result: dead mad pansy.
If some loon supposes himself to be or thinks of himself as, a pot of geraniums or a polar bear, that makes said loon a pot of geraniums or polar bear, does it? Why don't you" think of yourself" as a multimillionaire and see if you become a multimillionaire or a poor sad deluded patient in a lunatic asylum?
Nevertheless the fakes frauds or liars *do* care like crazy what they are called, and frequently not being able to live a fake fraud or lie, destroy their own existences and a very good thing too, but a constant daily diet of steroids is not exactly a recipe for health, so the monstrosities rarely live long. The only good fake fraud or liar being a dead fake fraud or liar.
“What’s the point of having a door we can lock on men if anyone can cut their own key?”….brilliant. I adore her and her ability to express points so clearly and powerfully.
What a cripplingly beautiful conversation... These are the types of people we longed to hear from growing up... Reasonable, calm and clear... Well done..
Great to see someone earning the respect by being respectful, insightful, intellectual, with common sense in making the argument and such confidence in her own skin when answering questions. My hats off to her. 💯🙏🏾 great talk. 🙏🏾
Most transwomen who have older children keep the Dad Title... they’re the same person. The only time in my experience the parental pronouns change is when the child is young and the other spouse leaves. Then taking in the Mother’s role makes sense for the child’s sake.
@@haytond Beautiful speech you had there Debbie, very refreshing. I love how you go straight to the origin of what's considered a problem to point out some things are not a problem at all and we're just making it so by ourselves. I always shared your points but i just couldnt ever put them into words, i feel a bit more educated now
This person is the healthiest psychologically trans I've ever heard speak and I can respect it. Honesty without worrying about some pronouns, Because nobody wants to hear that nonsense. Don't be ashamed of who you really are 💯
Possibly because he's older and more sure of himself and isn't caught up in identity politics like alot of younger people. I thought he was fantastic and I'd refer to him however he asked me.
she is not trans, she is an emulate which i could explain but would take days. Basically a person who is sexually aroused at dressing as the one sex while making sure that the public see her as the other. She should never have been given surgery and over my thousands of GRS approvals, I wopuld have just refused her as simply a transvestite in my humble opinion.
@@Crowley-qx8gn what is your profession exactly? You sound very confident in stating this person isn't trans, so I'm uber interested in how you reached that conclusion.
@@dnc2115 I am a doctor specialising in gender dysphoria, I am advisor to four EU governments, a contributor to the 2022 white paper Lancet article to be published globally within the next 3 months. The article shows various physical research that has taken swiss, UK and US doctors over 12 years that proves 100% that Gender Dysphoria is created in the womb with a defect in the brain. The uncinate nucleus INAH3 is the part of a brain network that determines gender identity. In a perfect female, the INAH3 is in harmony with the various biological parts of the female or the male as appropriate. In all cases we studied in confirmed gender dysphoria, the INAH3 sub nucleus is reversed in transexual people. These findings have been shown to the WHO (World Health Organisation who have removed Gender Dysphoria from a mental state to a physical birth defect. The WHO have advised all governments that as a result of these findings that all trans people who successfully show full Gender Dysphoria are given all required care including medical treatment so that their physical bodies match the gender that this finding confirms. Basically in simple terms we have now proved that trans identity is in fact a person born with a female brain in a male body in MtF and a person born with a male brain in a female body (FtM). Do not forget the most important factor when hating on trans women and that is once they undergo hormone treatment they are quite quickly chemically and permanently castrated. Ask yourselves why would a man choose this if they wished to attack women?. One day the press and the left wing will stop using trans people as weapon and trans people will the accepted for who they are, simply humans who unluckily have been born with the INAH3 of the opposite sex. One day, hate will be put into the dark ages where it belongs and we can all move forwards and put our energies into spreading humanity out from our relatively new born planet And remember one freedom of information notice that states of womens prisons. 1343 sexual attacks on women in prisons, 2 by pre op (non hormone treated) trans? (not in my view) and 1341 attacks by biological women on biological women. Aim your hate at the press and the left wing lunatics who have hijacked decent trans people who just want to be left in peace. A recent survey showed that a staggering 92% of trans people do NOT want self ID brought in. As doctors who treat trans people we do NOT want self ID brought in and we know full well who is behind the proposal and they are not interested in trans people, just their own radical self lunacy.
As a Christian I believe the truth matters. Whether it is hard or soft, it matters. I also believe that kindness and love matters. So my children are taught to be kind but we do not pretend people are something they are not. Debbie is incredibly self aware! Kind and wonderful! If the LGBTQ community were more like Debbie it would be much easier to mesh with in the day to day. I am so sorry for the mental health issues Debbie struggles with, however I appreciate the bravery of sharing these struggles! May God Bless you and guide your path, shelter your heart from a hateful world, and give you wisdom!
The whole premises of " I present myself and society responds to me " is exactly how it has been forever and she is so correct calling out others for trying to tell others this is how you should think and react. She's great.🥰
@Bobby Sternlicht what do u mean by this? Like black Americans are still secretly slaves?? Or something else, seems interesting wyd be cool to get a reply chur
@Bobby Sternlicht thanks for that, it's the same in my country with my maori people (native of nz) it's sad because general population have been raised with lies about the history of nz as I'm sure it was the same in USA. (Not the same as in slavery in my case, it's colonization)
If the trans issue keeps being pushed I’m homeschooling my children. I’ve always said I absolutely never would homeschool but children’s minds are SO very impressionable. When I was growing up, I was the biggest tomboy ever until I hit puberty. Refused to wear skirts or dresses, came home covered in mud and dirt every day, played rough and played “boy” video games, I even said once or twice I wished I was a boy. My parents just accepted me as a tomboy. Hit puberty, bam girlie girl boy crazy hormones raging preteen. Like a light switch. I shudder to think what would’ve happened if I was a kid in today’s society raised by woke parents. My point being, what if my daughter is like me? What if she’s a huge Tom boy, or dares to utter the words “I wish I were a boy”? What if a woke teacher over hears and I have cps on my door because I won’t affirm her as a boy? What if the teacher tells her she’s a boy, and confuses her pre-pubescent developing brain and causes mental issues/strife that wouldn’t have been there if the teacher hadn’t? That’s it… homeschool it is.
Exactly I literally wrote a comment recently saying pretty much the same thing. I too was a tom boy. Imagine being an easily impressionable child being told you were in the wrong body and being given drugs and surgeries that permentaly alter your life for the worse. At this point I too would not want any child of mine going to school. I feel sorry for other peoples children too. It's just such a mess! So scary x 😰🙏💙
And Hayton agrees with you that, we shouldn’t allow children to transition. What really was revealing for me… and it says a lot about Hayton’s character… is that he’s happy he didn’t transition until much later, because otherwise he wouldn’t have had his children. That’s incredible. He’s so fulfilled in life, that’s why he doesn’t care what pronouns are given to him. He’s got a family. And that’s what childhood transitioning is denying these trans children. No wonder so many de-transition.
Thank you so much for having this guest on. I’m a black socialist lesbian and I am sick and tired of all this pish posh I do not believe that trans-women are woman
Debbie Hayton - the only male I would call a she. I have so much respect for the strength of mind it takes to reach the state of internal resolution and acceptance that she has. If every person who identified as trans was like Debbie, we wouldn't have *any* of the problems that the trans movement has caused. Well done Debbie.
Would it not be more realistic if the man calling himself Debbie were to identify a self deceiver or liar? Good God it is certainly true that that queer religion modernism terms its followers into complete Imbeciles that will tell any sort of lie and indulge in any sort of self-deception
Debbie seems like an amazing person an inspiration, i really respect. I am a biological woman and i love that debbie respects biological women's rights to safe spaces. I see a trans woman as a trans woman and biological woman as biological woman, as they are. i agree that anyone can identify as anything they want and i respect and support that. However Identity can be self defined even though society tries to define it. Sex and gender arent the same things though.. Both trans woman and biological woman deserve respect and inclusion. I will never know what it is to be a biological man or a trans woman, just like a trans woman cannot know what its like to be a biological woman. respect to all
I was actually expecting to be "triggered" (lol) by this, but I like hearing things from people who may not necessarily agree with me. However, her comment about seeking validation from society was perfect. If you're so comfortable in who you are, it shouldn't matter what society thinks of you.
@@sonofsoweto Okay... I'm confused. Just because this might have been adapted by certain groups, you don't hear about it. You just seem to be triggered.
The guest brings up an excellent point about using women. As a feminist I see that now men are even redefining what it means to be a woman. This is the ultimate transgression against woman and girls!
She's/he is PHENOMENAL at articulating her thoughts. This is profound. I wish more people had this amount of emotional intelligence trans and biological/ cis people in general
When he said he was glad he didn’t transition as a child because he would have never had his children. That really brought tears to my eyes. This is my real concern giving children cross sex hormones and cutting up their bodies.
Especially since we as a species are already not procreating enough as we always have in the past. That really scares me, and makes me sad for these kids..
Great interview and perspective from Debbie, and one I've seen repeated by several transpeople. The thing is though, I dont think the vast majority that try to force others to say this or that realise how much damage they are doing. If someone wants me to call them "she" I will probably do it, if for nothing else then to just be polite. But me saying this will not change my own opinion on the matter. wich incidentally is the same as Debbie's. And trying to force people into not only saying something, but trying their best to "change reality" is not only litteral dystopian authoritarian bullsh*t, but will only make people dislike whatever cause/message they are being forcefed.
You worded that very well, with people like Debbie I would be very happy to use their preferred pronouns and would be careful not to mess up out of respect and common courtesy. That has nothing to do with whether or not I actually believe or accept she is an actual woman.
@Rocky Starfire These issues are all part of the same movement. They pretend to be separate, but they all rely on the same ideology. Also, I love your name 🙂
@@Nemo-Nobody well said! I am a 65 year old white male. Many on the left probably look at me and think of me as racist, sexist, and privileged. I am none of these and I believe most white men are not either.
I agree with her when she says it’s about accepting yourself. I accept myself, and I’m finally comfortable in my body. As a consequence of me putting all that work in, society also treats me as a woman. In the end though, no matter what someone says I’m all good. I have what really matters: a fiancé, a job, two cats, a home, and my own happiness. I didn’t get there by demanding things of others, but by demanding things of myself.
*he. It doesn't have anything to do with kindness to call a man, "she." It devalues women to open up the word that describes us to "any human with long hair." Example: "She's over there" "She? I thought she was a man?" "Well yeah he is" "Then why did you use the wrong word?" "Because I'm being nice" "But I can tell he's a guy" "Shhhh it's not nice to point that out"
Great comment. Everyone - regardless of, "label" would have the potential to lead a more contented life, if they did as you did - by demanding more of themselves. IMHO, society seems to be forgetting there's a power in taking full ownership, accountability & responsibility for the self.
What a sensible person Debbie is. She is the only Trans women not plastered in make -up or wearing very high-heeled shoes I have ever seen, which makes her look like most women I know.
A thoughtful interview provoking positive conversation around a difficult subject. Congratulations for tackling this lads and special thanks to Debbie for putting her head above the parapet.
I respect Debbie…she understands reality….that within freedom there are boundaries and limitations within those freedoms…. It’s a construct that every person on this planet lives by….she acknowledges and accepts herself for who she is….a biological man who is a trans woman….she made it clear that she is a man and Not a woman…she is a person who is grounded in who she is. She brings up valid points and can discuss issues without becoming a defensive, emotional, screaming lunatic! I don’t feel threatened by her or resentful of her existence. I respect her as a trans woman because she respects me as a biological woman…
Issues like this remind me of one anger management mantra, "I can’t control what you do, I can only control what I do." It always makes me wonder why people so desperately need to control the words and actions of others, and are they in the need of anger management training?
@@nightingaleofficial3604 I never said it was black or white, you can welcome his view without believing anyone who stands up for women's rights is a feminist.
Did you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me". In short: "Debbie is a *He*. If only people that suppose themselves to be what they are*Not* would suppose themselves to be birds and would go to the tops of cliffs or very tall buildings and test out their supposition by flying off the top of them.
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@@elainejohnson796 I believe they are very well informed (and now even more informed!). But I think their questions were formed in that way so Debbie would have lots of room and freedom to answer, maybe.....?
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I just come out with it and say it: I love you guys! I know it is a bit early for that, but it just feels right. I admire what you do for humanity, i really do.
Bloody hell. A trans person making absolute sense without demands for special treatment and taking responsibility for her own feelings and needs. Debbie does a world of good for trans people everywhere.
Well she did say that she would expect a male prison to give her special amenities...so I guess that counts as special treatment lol.
@@GameCrawler Or you could say that prisons should provide a safe environment for everyone.
She speaks for herself! In no way does she speak for ALL trans people. Trans people are as diverse and different as all other people. She has her own views and that’s all, but should never been taken as true or absolute!
You found one Trans person who confirms your biases. Well done. There are plenty who won't, because, funnily enough, people are different...
@@scottmcmahon86 you’re right. Those cisgender mfs who found a transgender person who confirmed their biases really piss me off.
"If I'm comfortable and confident with who I am, why would I care about what you or others think?" Wow! Mad respect.
Exactly what we tell our kids isn't it when there hving people say stuff to them at school!
If more trans people would be like Hayton, I’d be more willing to socially support them.
But the screaming mad activists who strip for children have done a great job at keeping me quite antagonistic to their movement.
i agree i thought the person said that perfectly
I know right? For once a transitioner is being real!
The problem is that most are not comfortable in their own skin. Along with the spirit of homosexuality comes an incredible shame that needs to be dealt with in order to go on successfully without hardening one’s heart. Dis-order is right! It’s out of Gods order!
One of my daughters, born in the 80's was a tomboy, hated girly things, wanted cars and not dolls, loved jeans and climbing trees, had lots of male friends. Nowadays she'd be transitioned. She said to me that she felt she liked being like a boy but if I'd given her drugs and surgery she'd never have forgiven me. She grew up very much a woman and loves being a woman.
I'm not your daughter. But this my story as well. - Even though as I'm getting older I find myself dressing more tomboyish again. Not because I have a problem with my gender, but male clothes are more practical in everyday life.
Same here. Still a tomboy in my 30s (s.o even called me "Mr", from behind, of course lol), but that's ok. That's me and I love my parents for being Polish Catholics and not leftist weirdoes. They just let me be.
Yeah I wish people would understand just because you are a tomboy or like male things it doesn't mean that you are transgender. I'm happier now on hormones than I was presenting as a girl . But they're a lot of changes on hormones that aren't irreversible and it's scary seeing little kids going on hormones at a young age not understand the full effects of this medicine. I'm happy my mom made me wait till I was a legal adult to go on hrt. It's a very big step for someone to take in their life .
@@alexdix2064 why do hormones make you happier?
According to the left you are all red herrings.
I'm one of those women who hated being a girl when I was young. I had two older brothers and I was a complete "tomboy". I told everyone that I didn't want to be a girl, I wanted to do boy things, play with the boys, do what the boys did. They got to do fun things like wrestle, build tree houses, get dirty. I didn't want to play with barbies and wear dresses. If I had adults telling me I could actually BE a boy, wow! I would be a boy today. THANK God that did not happen. Thank God I am not young today because I LOVE being a woman and all that comes with it. I'm still not a girly girl but I am ME and I love being female. I fear for these young children today.
Totally agree! Well said.
I could have written the same exact words. I was THE worlds top tomboy. 6 brothers. I could do everything they could, some things better. Tree climber, ball player, runner, swimmer, ice skater, bowler, roller blades (still). I told my mom I was never going to,grow up because an adult was the worst, most boring life one could have. Hit 15, turns out I’m a stunner. Suddenly, being a girl was awesome. I started washing my hair, taking baths. Grew to about 5ft 4. Stopped traffic. That’s my story. To think it could have been taken away from me because I liked to climb trees and go down into,the sewer in my Sunday clothes, it’s just horrifying.
That happened to me. Thank god we had smart parents. I wanted to be a boy and today I’m very happy to be a woman 🙏
🙄 this is not the same thing as being trans…
@@ERFman41 The way things are at the moment many young people who think they are trans aren’t! They are the same as we were as young girls.
Any pychologist will tell you it is the most unhealthy thing to put your self worth in other peoples hands. Mostly because it is impossible to get everyone to think the way you want.
This is why these woke activists are so unstable, they want everyone to think the same as them by force
this is the thing I don't get. When trans people say "you must indulge my identity" but like. Your identity is YOUR identity. It isn't "demand everyone else respond to it in the way I want"
“Identity is a comprise between your view of yourself and society telling you who you are”
@@mtgmarkv i agree with this, I feel like now however we are in a weird place where ones view of oneself is demanding society to agree with who you say you are, and anything less is "you're trying to erase trans people"
@@imamuggle03 the simple fact of the matter is this, the natural order of things, as we can observe in the animals kingdom, is that there are 2 genders, and within those animal societies, the genders are genetically pre set in such a way. With lions it's the males who fight off other males, so he can claim a group of females as his own, same with gorillas. Within insects and fish the females are often far larger and might even eat the males after mating.
The point is the natural order has genders biologically set as they are. Human societies have been built around the biological nature of humankind since man walked upright.
Now because of the nature of human beings, we have a huge cluster of concepts within our society we have gathered and made part of our systems, so alternate concepts to what someone identifies as is based simply not on genetics but on psychological befuddlement, what feels normal to one person is abnormal to another. So people look for ways to change themselves in what they think will make them happy.
This however doesn't change the basis of genetics or functions of our society, it becomes more about satisfying that placebo rather then accepting whatever abnormality you might have in your head for what it is.
As an FTM trans person it’s so nice to see someone who sees things the way I do. I’m just a bio female with a neurological desire to inhabit a body with male sex characteristics and otherwise just life my life the best way I can. I don’t care about pronouns and all this shit, I’m just me, doing my best.
The debate has been hijacked by few wokenazis
🤣👍👏👏👏 WELL SPOKEN! PEEFECT! LOVE IT! SPOT ON!
Yeah sames
Do you present as male?
Woman who is masculine
Its quite interesting to see the calm, mature demeanor of a trans person who has their mental health in order. They are able to competently give their position and state their opinions without any of these new age PC style words, or outrage.
There used to be a time where PC just stood for Personal Computer.
@@BlacksmithTWD and before that Police Constable
Progressive conservative…
Thank you. :-)
There is a whole infrastructure of organisations that make a living pushing for certain aspects of trans-rights that does not represent the community. Many of these are people who were involved in the gay rights battle and moved on to what they thought was the next battle. Of course the two issues (gay and trans rights) are not the same, with very important differences. Debbie hints at this in the interview.
It's no coincidence that the only trans people I've seen in conversation like this who seem to be fully happy and complete in their lives chose that path as fully grown adult.
There are no "trans people" and by the same token there are no thief people or liar people
There are no "trans people" any more than there are any liar people or thief people. It is fantasy to suggest otherwise
I heard the state wants to take away people’s kids if they don’t affirm their gender. Pretty stupid if you ask me.
And are also not fans at all of this gender cult looking around everywhere for kids to sweep up
I suspect it’s also no coincidence that RUclips shows “4 replies” to your comment, yet when I tap to expand, none are visible.
I really like her. She is has her feet firmly grounded in reality, supports women's rights, and is very self-aware. I don't think the trans community would lose so much support if it was people like her who fronted it.
I imagine most trans people are like her. They're just not as loud as the loons.
If he has his feet firmly grounded in reality, why is he pretending to be a woman?
Probably the most sane and realistic trans person I’ve seen… I respect the honesty
@@apebass2215 Debbie isnt pretending to be a woman. Debbie is being Debbie
@@ludovica8221 Debbie is a man who uses the label 'transwoman' to describe himself. If he wasn't trying to pretend to be a woman he'd have no need for that label.
Women (adult human females) would be criticized and probably be kicked off of some social media platforms for speaking these truths.
We have been.
@@Danielle2Cats Ha, I'm with you on that. Been called a terf, which despite its offensive meaning, sounds about as intense as say, "tree," or "mountain." (and i'm well aware it's an acronym) It's just another term made up by a group of individuals who are slyly using their innate male privilege to violate women's sacred space
Not probably, defiantly. Look at poise parker
@@jamiejosh96 I love her
Transwomen still have male privilege lmao
This is the type of trans person I can respect she still understands there are reality that can't be changed
I'll still just call them a dude and a he. A man Not a "transwomen" because they don't exist.
Exactly. Sadly it’s the loud, perverted and demented activists - especially those that groom children - that make me quite antagonistic to their movement.
And yet you're calling him "her"
And if you called a he he could care less . 👏
@@boredshrimp9425Becuase, he/she commands respect, by simply knowing reality
If most trans people were like Debbie, there wouldnt be a huge issue.
There are no more any"trans ns" people than there are thief people or liar people; the notion of " trans people is a religious fiction - a fiction of that queer religion modernism. Whereast the religion modernism w would hold te fiction that transwomen are men, the blike calling himself debbies boldly declare thay not so, thus from the point of view of modernism he is a form of trsotot whim it would expect to declare than he was a woman when he candidly admits that he is abloke dressed up as a woman, so he would agree with me no womb, nor a woman and no doubt also that fake women are like sewerites- pointless and neither use nor ornament
There*Are_no" trans people"-trans people - so- called, are a fiction of that queer religion modernism. Real women do not care to be carictured or mocked by men pretending to be women and one can see their point. Fake women are to real women what minstrels a or actors blacked up to look like negros are to real negros, hence the uncle tom analogy, which is perfectly apt
The elders are mostly like her
"It's an affront to women's boundaries." Yes. Thank you for saying it. A little louder for the ones in the back, please.
I tweeted once something similar to that notion (I saw a thread where a couple transwomen were going off on a radical feminist who believed exactly what debbie beileves; that all transwomen are men, so they were like "get off here you stupid TERF!" [slang for a feminist who excludes transwomen and other female-mixed or similar genders]). I may have chimed in and said to the transwoman who wrote the terf-remark that while "she"may see herself as a woman science and societal experience tell us that's not true. she then reported me and predictably woke culture espoused by twitter immediately suspended my acct within minutes month for "discriminating" language or something to that effect. UGH! I've just forced myself to accept it and go by "live and let be"despite my bitterness that a person born a male will never know what it's like to be a woman, to have a uterus, to go against the patriarchy, etc. etc.
a little louder for the 'feminists'
@@ellena.8369 well is because radical feminist see the problems of women mostly based on their biological issues, like, we have less bone density, less muscular mass, get awful periods, I'm a radfem as well, and when the whole trans issue got popular I couldn't get my mind together, cause radfems fight against harmful stereotypes of women, but for being trans you accept that being a woman is following certain stereotypes based on gender roles, I have the same issue when it comes to nonbinary people even if we think similar as I consider gender stereotypes stupid and mostly focus on biological evidence. Look, I don't hate trans people or nonbinary people, but I really think they have different issues than us, I don't get killed for wearing lipstick, but they do (atleast is like that in my country) I don't want them to be excluded or treated badly cause we all are humans, but I still can't make myself clear with my beliefs, so I prefer to stay away of tumblr xd
@@ellena.8369 I prefer to stay on the type of feminism that protest against sexual abuse and women trafficking (something very usual in latinoamerica sadly) and I want my country to create laws that protect women from feminicides and abusers, as well with educating the people so they finally understand women are human and have rights
@@angelicaflorez6660 I think you said it better than I could - thanks for your thoughts xx
As a biological woman I truly appreciate her point of view about the key to women's spaces. I have zero issues with using preferred pronouns and basic respect, human rights. What gets to me is a man charged with sexual crimes against women can transition and be allowed into female prison. I have an issue with an athletic biological male transitions then is breaking records and winning in women's sports. I don't see female to male Trans taking over men's sports and winning.
Until I see a woman with a mustache hit a 500 foot home run......
Whew!Thank God biological women can feel validated.
I was worried for awhile being a biological woman myself & all. Transgender women identify as female & present as female. It makes no sense for that to weigh on biological women's identity.
There are trans women who were unathletic weak men who would never out perform many women in sports but if a transwoman wants to participate in a sport why should they be forced to play it with other men
Why are we not seeing more unisex sports at this point in History???
There are transgender men who are body builders & are strong athletes & are as strong as any other man & you think they should compete with women who don't take testosterone?
@@delanaveirs3411 sorry but your argument is faulty. Of course you will always be able to find a woman that is stronger than a man but the reality is that, pound for pound, men are stronger, have bigger hearts and lungs, and have higher bone density.
We don't have more unisex sports because in a sport that favors these attributes men will dominate. This is one reason we have women's sports, so women can have the opportunity to play at a competitive level.
@@stacypastry2440 And the truth of the matter is that women have had to fight tooth and nail to get those sports funded and sponsored and appreciated, indeed to get them at all. Now we have to fight to keep biological males out of them. Crazy times.
“...In an effort to be compassionate we’re sacrificing truth, reason, and logic?” “Is it kind to lie to people?” Nail on head, friends!
It’s actually patronizing, and insulting to the person placing these demands. How does it help a person to believe the key to their fulfillment, self acceptance, and ability to be successful, lies in the hands of someone else’s choices? A person can influence these things temporarily, of course, but not permanently. Maybe we are supposed to learn and grow from the experience of being rejected by society in all the multitude of ways, we ALL experience. At school being bullied, in our careers when we lose a job, or the betrayal by a loved one, in these ways we are meant, not to become helpless to the extent that we can become delusional in our expectations of others, to sort of, “fix” our pain, but, rather, to make better choices about the next job we take, or the next partner we choose, or the school we choose for our own child, or as a teacher in the way we will notice when a child is in pain.
@Christ is lord I don’t understand your comment. Can you add more by way of explanation? Thanks.
@Christ is lord Not clear who you’re referring to as a bigot. Maybe others reading the thread will get your comment w/o clarification.
@Christ is lord
But no one here is advocating for prejudice, hatred, violence or is even being mean for that matter. Quite the contrary. The desire to “not lie” to people about biological reality, while at the same time acknowledging their inner conflict, is actually motivated by a desire to be kind.
She’s sharing her opinion based on her knowledge of biology and personal experience. The guys are sharing their opinions and asking questions, and I chimed in to say I agree that it is well-meaning but not helpful to tell people what they want to hear rather than the truth. We can debate about what the truth is, I suppose, but you can hardly make a case that wanting people to know it is an act of hatred. Anyway, that’s not my own motivation.
Off topic, but I see by your profile name that you are a Christian. Let me wish you a joyful and meaningful Easter. We can certainly find common ground there. Peace.
This juvenile science? From what I've found it was debunked by a few Doctors in that field like Dr. Soh.
She transitioned before the trend, the genuine article unlike the crap that's going on now. Much respect
There is no pure English verb to transition, because transition is a *Noun.*
She transitioned from what to what did shetransition(although there is no verb to transition transition being a noun)?Which she have you in mind given that no she appeared in the piece which contains three men and not one woman, unless you are some insane religious fanatic that sees females where there are only males.
By transitioned(and there is no such verb) you mean butchered? He was butchered not she - There was no she in the piece.
Do you use any of the following (rather euphemistic) terms?
• gay
• homophobia/homophobe
• transphobia/transphobe
• trans-sexual
• transgender
• cis gender
• sex worker
• capitalism/capitalist
• any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her
Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly stooge for the loony left!
There is no pure English verb to transition(which is a noun) or parent or reference -they are kinderlander -american neologisms
There no more any " trans" people than there are liar people or thief people. " Trans people" is a religious fiction - a fiction of that queer strange odd peculiar or weird religion modernism that sees sexual perversions as sacred or holy
You can feminise you can not transition
I am transgender I agree with her 100%
No, you* imagine* yourself to be what you are not, why not go for a trans-pot-of-geraniums, or a trans -otter or a trans shrubbery. The word is sex; gender is reserved to objects in languages where objects can be male or female.
Your a confused man ,your not really trans ,might as well be a cross dresser then if you agree
@@vhawk1951kl breaking news: pissy old guy culturally out of touch
@@LaVerdad65 Ah, a religious fanatic whom no rational being would "touch" with a bargepole having a tantrum.
Oh to be *less* in touch with such creatures that demonstrate the stupfying effects of the religion modernism and religion/politics(they are the same thing) generally. Although I dislike the practice of the slaughter of the unborn(which makes the holocaust look amateur), in the case of the passive halves of the causes of such creatures, I would be prepared to make an exception.
@Venus and Mars And you're entitled to your opinion. As a lesbian and a woman, I could give a rats ass what others think of me. No one needs to validate me. I don't need to force others to accept me.
Only insecure people worry too much about what others think.
I think she’s the first trans woman I’ve seen who isn’t wearing a force field of makeup.
She’s not wearing womanhood like a costume. Glad to see it.
Ample bosom
@@sunshineand oh well 🙃
*He's
Did you not notice the title of the piece and that the*Man*calling *himself*(for some inexplicable reason)Debbie, is making it plain that*He* is a Man* and not, repeat*not* a she*. Your queer religion really does stupefy you.
lol Force Field!
This trans woman actually makes sense. She is very in tune with her emotional/mental reasons for needing to transition without the need for validation from others. She has approached her transition very maturely. I am sure her children appreciate still being able to call her father.
Listening to her was like suddenly realizing you've been holding your breath and then letting go.. She just said everything I've been thinking but through thr prism of experience and crystal clearing reason.
Especially when she stated; "Call me what you want, it doesn't bother me". Really illustrated her understanding of others and self.
Man, a self confessed AGP. It's still disrespectful to women to call any man a woman. Why is legitimising a fetish AGP acceptable. Psychiatrists are failing to assist people to accept themselves.
@@56hendo57 agp isn't gender incongruence so it is true she is not feminised the way natal women are so it makes sense she says so ...hers is social and fashion based...people with gender incongruence are feminised similar to women but then masculinised...the body feels the feminine function is correct cause that is what it got first all after is forigne.
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I like her and respect her. I'll even go so far as to call her "her" because I don't fell that aggressive insistence that I change my speech to keep from "offending" her. She totally disarms the issue.
This is a really weird coincidence, but I was just reading the article that Debbie Hayton wrote back in 2018 for The Economist yesterday. An intelligent and nuanced perspective. The title of the article is "Gender identity needs to be based on objective evidence rather than feelings" for anyone interested in reading it.
Thank you for this title. I am interested in reading it.
Thank you for this info.
Phew that’s not likely anytime soon, these fields have become infested with radical intersectional feminist ideology and run by a bunch of women, who do not care about facts because they’re completely irrational as what they fight for is people’s feelings over reality.
Be careful of categorising events as coincidence.
@@retrojimmyx - I'm curious as to what you mean by that
"We may put male privilege to the side, but we can take it back when we want it." That is very interesting take.
and very true
Which is one reason why the prison issue is so important: 1:02:45.
If you have ever wondered why transwomen have so much more political clout than women do, well, there is your answer.
@@mostlyholy6301 $$$$$$$$$$$$
@@mostlyholy6301 feminist inter sectionalists gave trans the power. Because the lie that they were more oppressed.
Why isn't she a Politician? She is speaking more sense than most of those in the House of Commons.
I think you answered your own question.
Looks like you answered your own question, mate.
I think you answered your own question.
He is
He. He’s just said he’s a man.
This person deserves so much respect
What a sensible person with a logical perspective ! A breath of fresh air !
Debbie is so delightfully pragmatic. She must be a wonderful teacher.
I agree and a wonderful parent too!!!
But the bloke saying that is a bloke-on his own account.
The man calling himself Debbie is no more as she than it is a jellyfish, but at least he faces facts and does not try to justify what is a filthy antinatural paraphilia
They're just acting out their fetish, which is why they don't want special trans spaces for toilets, sports or prisons. If they had those, that would be telling them they're different from women. No, they want us to see them as the woman they desire to be, and if we don't, they expect us to stay quiet, lie, or be silenced.
I believe they covet, desire and ultimately despise what women have. The hatred towards females from these people is all too evident. They aren't trans, they don't believe they're women, they wish they were, it's a fantasy, and that is something they should keep to themselves behind closed doors. Shame gets a bad rap. Some thing exist for which you should be ashamed. This kink is one of them.
Agree
As the mother of a trans-son I love that Debbie speaks about this issue with clarity and reason. I acknowledge the truth that my child is both my biological daughter and also my transgender son. There is truth in both of those statements. There is a biological reality in terms of DNA and also a neurological reality in terms of gender disphoria and also the reality of the social perception of gender. My trans-son didn't transition until an adult and we both agree that medically transitioning children is dangerous.
Good to hear your experience. Although the odds are rather small that whenever I would conceive a child that they'd be trans, can I ask you: how exactly have you handled that with your trans-son from child to adult? For I imagine that there have been discussions with him during at least his teens. How did you manage to agree/let him see that it was best to wait till adulthood before making such a drastic decision?
@Burnt Matches and your point?
I'm sure its been challenging for you, is she happier now?
@@jessekos1859 sorry - errror, he.
@@vawncorrigan7330 you didn't make an error in using female pronouns to refer to a female. Don't apologise or capitulate to the deluded.
Debbie is wonderful, smart and empathic. Focus on people's rights to do things rather than rights to be things. Everyone should have the right to be themselves as long as they aren't harming others. Help parents with rigid stereotypic notions about how male and female children should be. Great discussion. I bet you are a great teacher. I wish I had had teachers like you. Thank you!
Did you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of the*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me."
If only you had some vague idea of what a "right" is or could define a right, but you are about to demonstrate that you have absolutely*No* idea what a right is and cannot even begin to be able to define a right, because you have no idea what a right is.
"Everyone should have the right to be themselves as long as they aren't harming others"
Very stupid statement. Having him using women changing room is harming for women. Him forcing others to call him with some inadequate pronoun - is harming others
I'll explain it in other way why you're wrong and why harm has huge spectrum not only as physical harm
Here is my statement: Nudists should be allowed to express themselves and be who they feel they are. Teachers at school, factory workers, general public on streets. They are not harming anyone do they?
@@vhawk1951kl wth chill, you're acting really weird and silly
@@kalyasaify S ee if can translate that into coherent adult English, buy do bear in mind that I don't give a flying fcuk about the opinions my inferiors
My son said he wanted to be a girl when he was 4&5 occasionally. He's 7 now and he is very happy being a boy. I honestly belive it's just because he wanted to paint his nails and wear sparkles. I let him do that if he wanted to and his "desire" to be a girl faded away. Kids just want to have fun. Tell them only "x" can do that, they will say they are "x" or "identify" as "x" just to get to join in the fun.
yeah, he is eventually what he is...what happen in the process...we called that self-exploration/recognition and we will have go through this eventually either when are earlier during adolesence or later when we are adult, but better earlier than later.
This whole “gender identity” is just re-enforcing stereotypes.
@@jenniferluvines3557 I'm comfused do you mean testosterone not estrogen. Cause I know for the dad when sperm is made you need more calerys too make male sperm and girls you don't need that much. I would guess when baby forming the mom would need more food to progress the male fetous, by helping the carrying parent make more testosterone. So would it be a lack of testosterone in the brain. I know the brain is a strange thing my son is autistic very high on spectrum. But I don't know now I just know the parent that produces sperm decides sex of baby. Please don't take offence I'm just wondering.
I am a 28years old women. Long hair, slim and very proud to be a girl...but at age of 3 or 4 I told stangers at the supermarket that I am a boy. Everytime they told me: "oh you are such a pretty girl" and I said: "No! I am a boy!" My mother said nothing in this situations. Later when I was six, I wished I could be LIKE a boy. I wanted to be a boy, because I wanted to ride a bike, like a boy, could wear these cool clothes like a boy...I lOVE boy...so I wanted to be LIKE one. I am still a little bit like a tomboy a times.
@- Astor - I know what you mean. I thought boys would be and are allowed to be "cooler". A boy is not "pretty", he is brave or strong. I want to be brave and strong too. Pretty was just...you know, not epic.
This teacher is someone I wouldn't mind teaching my children. Teachers have to love the truth.
@@elainejohnson796 considering all the risks, I would take her any time over illegal immigrants or radical islamists or people from poor culture... Your comment reminds for some reason (no disrespect intended) when police arresting people who don’t wear masks vs criminals that destroy businesses and go free. Debbie appears to have the least amount of threat, until she proves otherwise...
@@vplan so why don't we let all men into female sex-segregated spaces until they prove otherwise?
@@elainejohnson796 I trust transwoman Debbie Hayton. She comes across as a very fine human being. But the best way is to have toilets for transwomen.
Yes. I think children would be very lucky to have Debbie Hayton for a teacher. I would consider it an honor to benefit from her teaching. She is so bright & knows how to teach really well.
I believe the pupils call him ‘Miss’ don’t they? That would concern me.
I've never had a s3xual attraction to anybody. I like being alone and I'm generally pretty repulsed by the idea of s3x or s3xual contact. That's not to say I hate people. I have plenty of friends and I'm close to my family, but at the end of the day I like to go home by myself. I've never felt a romantic or s3xal attraction to anyone, and because of that all throughout my high school years people thought I was gay and in denial. That rumor, however, never bothered me, because there's nothing wrong with being gay and I knew I wasn't attracted to women. Years later, someone told me I was asexual, which as a descriptor sounds about right. That said, I don't identify as asexual because, as Debbie said, it really doesn't matter. I don't need people to know I'm asexual, and quite frankly it's none of their business. I don't need to be categorized to live however I want. I admit it's a bit annoying sometimes when people suggest there's something wrong with me or that I'm selfish because I don't want a relationship, but it still doesn't change the fact that I am who I am and I'm happy.
ha how on earth is it selfish for you not to want a rltshp? odd criticism
@@cheery-hex
I agree, it's a very odd criticism. But I've been told I'm selfish because I don't want to "share myself".
I think the idea that your selfish because you are choosing to do what you want is ridiculous. I feel like they are trying to push something they don't like about themselves into me.
@Cian MacGana
I'm a woman, and if I was gay I'd love sex, just with another woman. I have no interest in sex with anyone. I don't need it.
"I don't need to be categorized to live however I want" is rather concise.
I've listened to Debbie speak, countless times , and have enormous respect for her. She's forthright and honest and deserves nothing but praise!!!
8*He* repeat * He* or the*man* calling himself Debbie is doing the paraphiliac equivalent of an Uncle Tom act to ingratiate himself with what he clearly sees as the winning side and being candid in saying he recognises that he is little more than a transvestite and that *He* a *Man* the title of the piece being:"Transwomen *are men* including* Himself.
In short he is accepting that he is a man and thus - and make a note of this, a He* - not - *repeat* Not* a She*, or in plain English *He* is saying that he is indeed a being of the active sex or man and is only pretending to be a being of the passive sex or woman the who is caricaturing or even simpler he a is a *Fake_woman*
He also almost certainly would accept the proposition " No womb, not a womb_man and explicitly does so, that being -near enough, the title of the piece- or did you not notice that?
It is only that queer religion modernism that makes sacred cows of paraphilics such as sewerites or homosexualists, and fake_women, but wonders *why* make sacred cows out of what are anti-natural monstrosities or freaks of nature which fake women are not, not having been *born* monstrosities any more than anyone is*born* homosexual.
All this nonsense of sucking up to sewerites fake women and paraphilacs is simple a fashion(the French word for which is *mode*-hence the religion being calledMode*_ernism. When I was young quite rightly homosexual practices(NB not homosexuality)such as buggery and sodomy were offences at common law carrying(until the common law was sadly displaced by statute the sexual offences act 1964, the death penalty (or strictly speaking the earlier-than- anticipated death penalty[since what must occur to all men cannot be a *penalty*]
You read and understood thetitle of the piece?
Debie- who is a*man*is saying that fake or trans women are me and that*He*is a *He*not not not not a she.*
He* a bloke dressed up as a woman-a *He, not not , not , not* a she; read the exact words of the title of the piece.
If for "trans" you substitute lie or fake you come to the truth of the matter, and you get lie women or fake women because that is exactly what-they-*Are*. Men pretending to be women and in the procrss mocking or caricaturing (real* women.
A Fake is a fake and Debbie is a *Man- a He*
Why are you calling a *Man* she?
* says He* is a man . Do you make a habit of calling men she?
If so, why do you do that? Do you also call black white, hot cold, left right and night day?
Do you not understand that the creature to who you refer as Debbie, her, and she, is a Man*or He*?
id you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me."
*Debbie .... is...... a.... *Man*
You understand that "Debbie-the poor sad old queen in the dress is a *man* a *He*?
Did you not read the title of the piece?*He* will kill himself soon enough, and a good thing too.
Do you suppose that those frauds fakes or liars *enjoy* being frauds fakes and liars?
She is telling the truth and owning her “disorder” for lack of another word, and is so eloquent in her explanation. Bravo. The best I’ve heard explaining the truth from a transgender who is scientific teacher. Brilliant. Thank you.
He
He
@@catherinehammond1519 You mean she.
@@humanadultfemale2133 You mean she.
@@yany3xkkrenii144
Lol i mean "he" cutie
"Lying to children, telling them they can be the gender they choose" - best line here. . . And that's what's happening!!
As a child in the eighties boys and girls played in shorts and tee shirts and some girls had short hair, some boys had long hair.
Now I see the most gender stereotyped kids. All the girls have long hair, hair ribbons and frilled dresses and the boys have military haircuts and wear collared shirts. I think parents are terrified of the consequences of their kids showing any deviant behavior to their biological sex.
People can be any gender they choose. It's their sex they cannot choose. Sex is set in biology.
@@anitamaguire7640 your town must be the twilight zone. I don’t see this here in the northeast.
@@adrimcdougall9384 I don't live in Britain.
And what is different there? The 80s or the present.
@@anitamaguire7640 I’m in the northeast US. I mean now. I don’t see too much gender stereotyping in kids here.
She's presenting as a person I have respect for, intelligent, not angry but full of insight. Being her student would be a blessing. Logical, not a bully at all.
Oh yeah totally.
It's almost like she's tolerant or something, unlike most on the left.
It's clear that Debbie's sense of self worth is internal. She's not obsessed with what strangers think of her. Unfortunately, we live in a world where people no longer have to develope character and integrity for self worth. Self worth is now about social validation from Twitter based on politically correct words that we're called. If a complete stranger misgenders you, you no longer have any self worth. 😩
LoL psychological rape of one's students by wearing drag every day and using the women's toilets and insisting they call him 'miss' is NOT honest. He is a man, saying the right things, while harming his students and laughing when he uses the women's loos. Keep out you cavern gobbed cockfrocker. YWNBAW. He's tolerant? Wait until you deny him access to women's spaces. He's a degenerate pantysniffing transie prick of a MAN. Forever. Stop 'being kind' for the men in drag. Using their preferred anything is what got us into this fucking mess in the first place. #FuckYourPronouns #YWNBAW you will never be a woman. His mouth says 'yeah I know', but he takes his dick out and pisses in the women's. Bastard.
these are the transgender people i fully respect and tolerate. i have no issues with people who suffer from gender dysophoria in general - but i damn sure dispise delusional people who claim that men can get a period or birth to a child.
For trans simply read fake fraud liar or caricature, but monstrosity serves as well.
If you respect fakes frauds liars caricatures or monstrosities there is something as wrong with you as there is with such fakes frauds liars or caricatures cum monstrosities, which fortunately rarely live long because truth will not be mocked.
He will be dead soon anyway because such monstrosities have to take steroids for the rest of their thankfully short lives to maintain the fake fraud lie or caricature. The only good fake fraud or liar is a dead fake fraud or liar.
The real puzzle is why your queer religion makes saced cows out of fakes frauds liars and monstrosities and perversions
Who is claiming that?
@@xavierathornewell they're talking about FTM bio females
What a sensible contribution to the issue. I applaud you Triggenometry.
Yeah it's an interesting debate, and I find Debbie has some nuanced and fresh opinions, and yet some of her views don't seem based on facts. Good example being about women's spaces. She asserts that men are trying to encroach on those women's spaces, yet its been women wishing to encroach into 'traditionally' male spaces that has, rightly or wrongly, caused friction to one degree or another. And she says she feels safer acting as a man on the street, when statistically speaking men are way more likely to be subject to serious violent crime on the street than women are. Crime stats show us this to be true. I got the impression, maybe wrongly, that Debbie has an unfounded low opinion of maleness and masculinity, as evidenced in her reference to the 'gender power struggle', which could perhaps be her reason for, at least in part, to want to disassociate from being a visible man.
@@johnjohnston8590 Well, what you're saying is true, but the issue of safety is much more important for women in a sense that as a female I am more likely to be seriously harmed or killed if attacked by a man. Biology is a bitch. The only reason, statistically, more males are attacked, is because... they are attacked by other men, who, on average show more tendency to be aggressive and violent than women. If two guys disagree, the possibility of a fight is not far away. As to Debbie's reasons for dissociation from masculinity, I have no idea. People think in mysterious ways. What is important, though, Debbie accepts she's really a biological man, thus not denying reality.
@@adlernewman Yeah, I agree with your every word apart from the stats re being seriously harmed or killed. Last time I checked men were far likely to be seriously harmed or killed than women, albeit by other men. But I certainly agree Debbie is contributing to a more adult and nuanced debate, which is very encouraging.
@@johnjohnston8590 Yes you are right: men are more likely to be victims of physical violent crime. But I'd argue that it's not a fair test because the situations are very different.
@@haytond Yes, I'd guess that men generally are more likely to be involved in violence than women, not least because they are more likely to respond physically to a perceived threat or challenge while women on the whole avoid confrontation as far as possible. In fact, most women go to a good deal of trouble to avoid situations that involve risk of physical assault, partly because we are continually exhorted to do just that. Perhaps when women are victims of violence, it's more likely that they've been attacked for some reason involving sexual assault, domestic violence, mugging, etc., than that they have initiated or participated in a confrontation that becomes physical, while men are perhaps more likely to simply get into a fight with other men (obviously men are also subject to random attacks and domestic and sexual violence, so this is in addition to that risk). And the phrase 'victim of physical violent crime' presumably just means that someone was charged for injuring that individual, so includes those who are hurt in gang fights, drunken brawls, and other incidents where men are far more likely to be involved than women and where we are less likely to consider the injured party a 'victim' in the normal sense of the word, and so might imagine are excluded from this statistic. But I don't know whether stats are available with that kind of detail.
Debbie is a gem, she isn’t trying to force her ideals. She is saying this is what I think, take it or leave it. 🙏
I don't know if you noticed it, but the man calling himself Debbie concedes that he is a man - have a look at the title of the piece which reads it"Trans Women Are Men … Including Me
Do you not notice that it is a bloke and a particularly truthful bloke who accepts that he has some sort of paraphilia although whether or not he chose it is unclear, but then men (which term includes beings of the passive sex or women) are very much slaves of their functions and will tell any lie in pursuit of their slavery and indulge in any sort of self-deception. Did you not notice that the so-called "Debbie" concedes that he repeat he (not she) is a man, and in the case of that man, a paraphiliac man, probably an Autogynephiliac. Are you really so constrained by your career religion modernism to indulge any sort of self-deception whatsoever - supposing the man calling himself "Debbie" decided to identify as a small village in outer Mongolia or as a pot of geraniums; how exactly would you go about addressing a pot of geraniums?
Tiny point "Debbie is a He*, not a she; *He* is some poor sad caricature of a woman seeking to make the point which your queer religion seems to compel you to ignore namely that fake/fraud/trans women *Are Men.*including (says Debbie) me.
Love her honesty and humanity. Her understanding and respect for biological women who remain being binary female are most commendable. We need more Debbie in this world that has gone absolute nutter.
Did you not notice the title of the piece and that the*Man*calling *himself*(for some inexplicable reason)Debbie, is making it plain that*He* is a Man* and not, repeat*not* a she*. Your queer religion really does stupefy you.
Did you no read the title of the piece?-The *Man* calling *himself* Debbie is *admitting* that *he* is a man-Read the title of the piece.
To whom are you referring when you say or write "love "her" honesty and humanity"? There are no women or beings of the passive sex or beings attracting the epithet she or her in the entire piece so who is the her to whom you refer in love her honesty - do you suppose that a poor tired old queer dressed up as woman is a woman or attracts the epithet her?
Do you not understand that the title of piece indicates that transwomen are men which are the words of the man dressed up as woman calling himself Debbie so in practice he is admitting that he is no more than some poor sad old queer dressed up as the woman and is in point of fact a man - or did you not managed to grasp that particular piece of information?
If by her you mean the sad old queen in a dress? he admits that he is a man or did you not read the title of the piece?
My mother had a trans woman in her ladies catholic pray group back in the early eighties. She had been attending in our home for years and one day she announced she was trans. The other women told her they were surprised and had their tea and cake. It never can up again.
id you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me."
@@vhawk1951kl dude....get over the seMANtics, lol! It's a cute story, you don't need to get political all over it. Calm down.
@@whodoesntluvpapas Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery but you flatter me to much.
@@vhawk1951kl lol, okay, that was a good comeback, I'll give you that🤣
@@whodoesntluvpapas Tiny tip: Try not to use words with the meaning of which you are clearly not familiar and don't laugh at your own jokes because if you do you come across not just as pathetic but infantile, and do not only embarrass yourself but others.
Trans person here and watching this interview made me feel less alone.
This "transwomen are real women" stuff is only harmful for trans ppls. Our experiences are different to womens. We need our own space not to be invading womens spaces.
Yes. Your own space.
@@annabelgrace1267 I could be wrong, but I think that's what she said...
but you're not a man either
@@alexh6767 They are men biologically. However, they need their own space and not step into women's spaces.
@@Earnshawfully It is what was said, I am just agreeing,
The problem I have is I’m not allowed to just be a woman...I am labelled as a cis woman, why ? I dint ask for it 🤷♀️
same on the cis male front....not my pronoun of choice so 'progressives' are bigots!
The same reason your shoe size and clothing sizes have names/numbers, and that you have a nationality. To define them as being distinct from other things. It needn't generate any controversy.
@@andybaldman Why shouldn't it? Women are women. Transwomen are men. It really is that simple.
@@andybaldman trans women should be defined as being distinct. Hence "trans woman". To label over half the population "cis" just so trans women can be "included" in the word "woman" which has turned into a weird umbrella term now, pisses a lot of women off.
@@VAMR-vc7xg No, it isn't that simple. Trans women are humans who possess mental characteristics of a woman, and physiology of a man. Calling trans people one or the other doesn't capture the whole picture, regardless of how you slice it. And when you're having a discussion, there's a need to delineate trans vs non-trans. Hence the word cis. The same reason we have men and women, and don't just call them men and non-men.
Year 2041:
What do you identify as?
What is your personal alignment?
What is your authentic orientation?
What is your uniquely distinctive affiliation?
What is your individualized characterization?
What is your experiential manifestation?
What is your idiosyncratic temperament?
What is your physiological disposition?
What is your predisposed inner-mentality?
What is your prominently distinctive personalization?
What is your self-truth fulfilment?
What is your behavioral affixation?
What are your interior attributed effectualizations?
What is your soul center?
What is your external projection?
What is your innate, self-selected categorization?
What is your philosophical idealized trajectory?
What is your cerebral-psychological classification?
What is your genome acclimatization?
What celestial embodiment do you gravitate towards?
"Don't worry, just a few more forms and you can get your driver's license. All of this will be displayed right on the back so everyone will be able to know the real you! And it's important so that none of our correspondence, callers, advertisements, or department representatives ever offend you, you unmeltable little snowflake!"
Sounds like a questionnaire to spot out replicants.
this comment deserve many more likes
@@cochoseable we never know what those replicants are up to.
Haha omg
I don't even know how to respond to those questions lmao
An intelligent and well-spoken guest. This is the best discussion on the issues surrounding gender identity I've seen lately.
This makes a lot of sense. She is not denying who she was at birth, and is acknowledging this fact as a part of her. She's not all caught up in her pronouns and her appearance, and she clearly made her decision to transition for herself, her own mental health and to hell with what we all think.
read my back posts, she is an emulate and should never have been given surgery.
@@Crowley-qx8gn huh
All trans should acknowledge who they were at birth, the world be a better place
What really was revealing for me… and it says a lot about Hayton’s character… is that he’s happy he didn’t transition until much later, because otherwise he wouldn’t have had his children. That’s incredible. He’s so fulfilled in life, that’s why he doesn’t care what pronouns are given to him.
He’s got a family. And that’s what childhood transitioning is denying these trans children. No wonder so many de-transition.
"People want to identify out of their sex. You can no more identify out of your height or of your age."
Debbie is speaking truth.
Really? Changing my license 6' tomorrow. Thank you
Really? Changing my license 6' tomorrow. Thank you
42:20: "Women's rights have been compromised, and they can be reclaimed. But if children's bodies have been damaged, they're damaged for life. And they only have one body. And that is something, as adults we need to take responsibility for that."
His maleness is showing here, implying that women can't be damaged for life by their rights being compromised, or that it doesn't matter. As far as I know women only have one body and one life, too.
@@uterushaver8309 That does not say that women can't be damaged for life. Saying one thing is true does not mean all others are false. It's a simple statement of fact.
Debbie is the spokesperson for herself alone.
OMG - a voice of pure sanity! Respect Debbie.
More trans people need to come out showing this level of courage...much respect to this individual for coming forward and speaking up.
There are no more any" trans people" than there are any liar people or thief people
Gender dysphoria is a pychological issue and needs to be treated while being respectful to the person. Feeding into the delusion and forcing others to accept an unscientific reality is oppressive to both parties. My main issue is schools teaching dangerous ideologies to our children and the medical community caving in to it and mutilating healthy reproductive organs on confused adolescents. The ramifications of radical ideologies hurt children and women the most.
that's cute... you think us trans women being women is "unscientific reality" :)
@@TransasaurusRex yes I do. If you as an 18+ individual want to live this fantasy go ahead, but the grabs for power using discrimination law and mutilation of children, especially without parental consent, is wrong.
@@rachelpops9239 it has nothing to do with that, besides, if the trans community in any country tried to get it so kids didn't need parental concent to do any part of transitioning id be fighting against it, grow the fuck up and learn to think for yourself, stop living blindly, stop following these Conservative fuckwits just because your not brave enough to have your own thoughts about stuff
This is always the worst take. What else would you recommend for treating the "pychological" [sic] issue? I love when people with no experience with the issue come and give their opinions based around what makes sense to them...the people who don't have any expertise on the issue. It's the same as men coming in and making decisions on women's reproductive health. They found a way to treat the issue while being respectful to the person, it's called transitioning. It's not harmful to anyone at all and any of these statements like this "hurts children and women the most" are just ridiculous and overstated. Adolescents are not getting any surgeries, at most they are getting completely reversible puberty blockers. There are much more radical ideologies that are hurting children these days, but this ain't it.
@@starshipvelcrp you only get puberty once. If you block it how do you get it back? How is it reversible? I'm no scientist but I think that's false.
The weird thing about trying to invent a category for every identity under the sun is that is does the exact opposite of what it is claiming to do. Instead of supporting individuality and self expression it just seems to be a another effort of forcing everyone in a neat little box, even if those boxes are more diverse. A box is still a box. It just speaks to societies neurotic needs to control and uniformity.
Trans peopol actually did fight for having their " condition" accepted as trans , they didnt want to be confused with gay or dragqueen. Its actually help to feel reconized for who they are , and now we wanna say it is no difference ? 🙈 I feel like the real trans get it , the one who doesnt are ,on my opinion of course , mostly there for the trend
@@mimipicard9879 I don't debate trans identity at all or the need for it be recognized on its own, far from it. I am not trying to deny anyone's identity, even though I myself never really felt like I need to adopt an exact label to describe who I am, but I do get it why it is important for visibility and being able to have a voice.
My comment was meant for the 70+ new pronouns and different gender identities (maybe more, I stopped counting). There is a point, when trying to stick a label everything on the spectrum starts to defeat the purpose. It is a spectrum for a reason. There will always be people who do not fit into any of the categories. Do we just keep on inventing new labels? I think we should just stick to the generally recognized ones (which of course includes trans) and keep in mind that it is a generalization, and gender is always a spectrum.
@@mimipicard9879 I agree about the "trend," a friend of mine is F to M and that's what he has been speaking about. He wanted to be a man. He got that. He doesn't want to need lumped in as being just "trans" instead. He didn't go through hell for years to get there, to be told the post moved and he has to be happy about it. He's largely been ostracized by the liberals in his "community," or they say the most horrific things to him. I admire his strength, to stand up and say "I don't agree with you" in the face of the level of *hate* he gets.
You mean the need to UNDERSTAND, DIFFERENTIATE, AND REFERENCE?! 🤨
@Mary H
That's TRANS people and their supporters.
Stop calling them liberals.
This is only social politics, not actual politics.
And correlation isn't causation-
You can be trans and conservative. Look at 'Caitlyn' Jenner.
"You've got these feelings. they're not your fault you've got these feelings. you can't be a girl because you're a boy, but lets have a look and see how we can help you become comfortable with yourself" what a spectacular quote. I don't quite agree with everything Debbie has said, but I think he really nails it on this quote.
I am curious. What parts do you disagree with?
@@pramodabandaru3566 basically, I think that undergoing procedures to make yourself appear more like the sex you were not born as is a bit of a failure to accept yourself as you were born. but that is just my personal attitude toward it and not something I think should be forced on others. If doing so helps that person, that's generally a good thing
Thank you.
@@haytond altho I'm not for woke/pc culture, i find theheebs100's comment a bit mean
@@user-ji8ll1qn6o theheebs100 has said that it is a personal attitude/opinion. But you also have the right to your opinion in calling it mean. Both opinions are just critiques, not insults or slander.
Very solid, real, realistic and well-grounded person. A person very few people would ever have a problem with. Respect!
She is a physics teacher, so she is wired to make sound arguments
My favourite thing Debbie said was "Every child doesn't quite fit in. Because we're all different".
But not that different .
@@keithwilkins1437 more different than you'll ever know actually keith
@@koopon3900 Hi A cryptic comment Koopon .
We are the same, the only difference is what we make it out to be
@@sonofsoweto We are not all the same .
Finally someone with a healthy attitude, who doesn't care if you use the "wrong" pronoun.
Everyday is Trans Visibility Day, because not a day goes by without something being 'transphobic', like simply being attracted to real men or women
because it doesn't exist. the human race is a dimorph#$ species. even describing science is censored here.
The media and their backers are the one's stirring the pot imo. Most people with any common sense would agree with this interviewee.
@@angelmessenger8240 Main stream media is nothing more or less than the realest reality TV show in the world lol. It amazes me how so many people can go through life without the ability to acknowledge this fact.
@@cantonold7014 I doubt they're censoring dimorphic.
@@kiowa6057 Try saying that the human race is a #$%^&* #$%^&*$ species.
For someone who has claimed they have had deep physiological issues and could no longer live life as s man, she most certainly sounds very well grounded, her confidence and self - acceptance is astounding. She is saturated in so much common sense it is difficult not to be riveted to her every word.
id you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me."?
There are only*Men*in the piece , not one single woman or she. Those that se what is not there are insane, as are those that suppose themselves to be what they are not.
Do you make a habit of calling men she?
There is no she in the piece the title of which you either have not read or because of some insane religious mania wilfully ignore.
If he could no longer live his life as what hew was or is, namely a man why did he not kill himself?
The prison issue is one of the things that really bothers me about this. That and putting men who identify as women into womens refuges. I have heard of women being sexually assaulted in a refuge.
Why should the safety of women matter? There is a thing called equal protection. If person A and B are sent to prison. We fear A will attacki B. So if A is male and B is female they should be in separste prisons. But uf both A andB are m a le then B deserves no such protection. How is this equal protection?
Same, for me it’s shelters, prisons and sports
@@jonahtwhale1779 Jesus someone failed basic biology.
@@ZackZick96 can you explain your issue more I'm not sure I'm reading the original comment the same as you?
I read it as everyone should be provided that protection. Which may mean that all prisoners should be kept in what is effectively protective custody or solitary confinement?
@@vladtepes8461 I read it as what they were getting at is there is a lot of male on male rape in prisons. But I still think that is a pretty big difference from oh lets put a man sex offender in a woman's prison. I think we should be trying to stop rape in male AND female prisons (females in female prisons also assault each other sexually at record numbers). I think its wrong in every instance.
It reminds me about when they called me ugly or dumb and I would cry to my mom and she would ask me: is it true? Do you believe them? I would usually say no and feel completely good about myself. I love that she never put the emphasis on controlling what people say or do but how you feel about yourself.
Smart mom!
Yeah you had an awesome mom. Copy that.
nice nice
your mama is a smart cookie .
I love that
Finally someone who speaks sense. Just be who you want, you can't force people to treat you how you want. And you shouldn't make people think about concepts that don't bother them, it's confusing a whole generation.
Indeed, "its confusing a whole generation",...and it might be somewhat confusing for the following.
That's a lot of words for Im an asshole who's not willing to try and understand social construct
What an amazing person with such a beautiful straight forward sensible way! Massive respect,! There's a lot of people could learn so much listening to this lovely soul x
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Debbie. Please never stop talking about this. You are literally saving lives and I know of no one else who is doing it with this type of grace, humility, and razor sharp logic.
Debbie, you speak far too much sense to be allowed on the internet.
Irony alert: Another commenter, Amy Frou Frou, replied to me, pointing out that most women who say what Debbie is saying *aren't* allowed on the internet. But her comment seems to have been zapped by RUclips. (Maybe it was her choice of pronoun.)
Love this comment. So true.
Facts
@J B @J B Did you miss the part where a (presumed) woman replied to my comment and RUclips deleted her?
If you'd like to explain exactly what's garbage about Debbie's views, I'm all ears.
Yeah exactly
Omg this person is an absolute legend. This is what I’ve always thought. Why should you give a flying SHIT what other people call you?!? It’s what you think of yourself that matters!
On the contrary, all that matters is what you *Are* the facts or truth; you can put lipstick on a pig but the fact or truth is that it *Is* a pig.*No* amount of fakery lying and pretending can make what in truth and fact is a pig anything*other* than a pig.
If these creatures are not ill or otherwise unwell why do they resort to doctors and butchers to mutilate them?
Do you suppose that doctors and surgeons treat the perfectly healthy?All that trans nonsense is lying and fakery; why would anyone wish to connive in what is *in_fact* lying and fakery Mad pansies that imagine(or rather deliberately deceive themselves) that they are women, insult women by *caricaturing* women, none of who chose or enjoy the travails of menstruation or the agonies of childbirth. Read the*title*of the piece
My pronouns are "I, me." Those are the pronouns I actually use. What other people use to refer to me in the third person is out of my control.
Surely if you think of yourself as the Emperor Napoleon Bonaparte, by all means buy a horse and call it Marengo and invade Russia, but do not expect t be bought a palace in Paris and to be called your Majesty.
Sonner or latter your train(the 8.55 to fantasy) is going to find itself on the same single track as the reality express, which is why mad pansies are found dead because they could not cope with the self deceit
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You simple *cannot* cheat or lie to the sense of truth or with_knowledge. The body will not stand for it, the feelings will not stand for it and if the associative/dreaming apparatus goes off on a frolic of its own, the rest will*not* follow- It simply *cannot*. result: dead mad pansy.
If some loon supposes himself to be or thinks of himself as, a pot of geraniums or a polar bear, that makes said loon a pot of geraniums or polar bear, does it?
Why don't you" think of yourself" as a multimillionaire and see if you become a multimillionaire or a poor sad deluded patient in a lunatic asylum?
Nevertheless the fakes frauds or liars *do* care like crazy what they are called, and frequently not being able to live a fake fraud or lie, destroy their own existences and a very good thing too, but a constant daily diet of steroids is not exactly a recipe for health, so the monstrosities rarely live long. The only good fake fraud or liar being a dead fake fraud or liar.
“What’s the point of having a door we can lock on men if anyone can cut their own key?”….brilliant. I adore her and her ability to express points so clearly and powerfully.
I love Debbie's ability to communicate clearly on a subject that can be so confusing to understand. What a beautiful person she is!
Yeah she was quite "based", as the kids say. XD I liked her a lot.
@@elainejohnson796 I'm sorry, what are you trying to say? It's not exactly clear.
What a cripplingly beautiful conversation... These are the types of people we longed to hear from growing up... Reasonable, calm and clear...
Well done..
And not afraid to stand by what they believe
Great to see someone earning the respect by being respectful, insightful, intellectual, with common sense in making the argument and such confidence in her own skin when answering questions. My hats off to her. 💯🙏🏾 great talk. 🙏🏾
You mean him
well said
This Hero brought me tears by simply being a rational human being.
Thank you Debbie and keep on grooving
Brilliant, I love that he did not gaslight his children. They still call him dad....🙌🏽
Yes they do. Though my elder son describes himself as "the man of the house" :-)
@@haytond High five from another gal in physics! (I was psyched to hear you’re a physics teacher as a physics grad student).
@@haytond thank you, so very much, for this insightful, honest, grace-filled interview.
Most transwomen who have older children keep the Dad Title... they’re the same person. The only time in my experience the parental pronouns change is when the child is young and the other spouse leaves. Then taking in the Mother’s role makes sense for the child’s sake.
@@haytond Beautiful speech you had there Debbie, very refreshing. I love how you go straight to the origin of what's considered a problem to point out some things are not a problem at all and we're just making it so by ourselves. I always shared your points but i just couldnt ever put them into words, i feel a bit more educated now
This person is the healthiest psychologically trans I've ever heard speak and I can respect it. Honesty without worrying about some pronouns, Because nobody wants to hear that nonsense. Don't be ashamed of who you really are 💯
I concur, it’s soooo refreshing to see.
Possibly because he's older and more sure of himself and isn't caught up in identity politics like alot of younger people. I thought he was fantastic and I'd refer to him however he asked me.
she is not trans, she is an emulate which i could explain but would take days. Basically a person who is sexually aroused at dressing as the one sex while making sure that the public see her as the other.
She should never have been given surgery and over my thousands of GRS approvals, I wopuld have just refused her as simply a transvestite in my humble opinion.
@@Crowley-qx8gn what is your profession exactly? You sound very confident in stating this person isn't trans, so I'm uber interested in how you reached that conclusion.
@@dnc2115
I am a doctor specialising in gender dysphoria, I am advisor to four EU governments, a contributor to the 2022 white paper Lancet article to be published globally within the next 3 months.
The article shows various physical research that has taken swiss, UK and US doctors over 12 years that proves 100% that Gender Dysphoria is created in the womb with a defect in the brain.
The uncinate nucleus INAH3 is the part of a brain network that determines gender identity. In a perfect female, the INAH3 is in harmony with the various biological parts of the female or the male as appropriate.
In all cases we studied in confirmed gender dysphoria, the INAH3 sub nucleus is reversed in transexual people. These findings have been shown to the WHO (World Health Organisation who have removed Gender Dysphoria from a mental state to a physical birth defect. The WHO have advised all governments that as a result of these findings that all trans people who successfully show full Gender Dysphoria are given all required care including medical treatment so that their physical bodies match the gender that this finding confirms.
Basically in simple terms we have now proved that trans identity is in fact a person born with a female brain in a male body in MtF and a person born with a male brain in a female body (FtM).
Do not forget the most important factor when hating on trans women and that is once they undergo hormone treatment they are quite quickly chemically and permanently castrated. Ask yourselves why would a man choose this if they wished to attack women?.
One day the press and the left wing will stop using trans people as weapon and trans people will the accepted for who they are, simply humans who unluckily have been born with the INAH3 of the opposite sex.
One day, hate will be put into the dark ages where it belongs and we can all move forwards and put our energies into spreading humanity out from our relatively new born planet
And remember one freedom of information notice that states of womens prisons. 1343 sexual attacks on women in prisons, 2 by pre op (non hormone treated) trans? (not in my view) and 1341 attacks by biological women on biological women.
Aim your hate at the press and the left wing lunatics who have hijacked decent trans people who just want to be left in peace.
A recent survey showed that a staggering 92% of trans people do NOT want self ID brought in. As doctors who treat trans people we do NOT want self ID brought in and we know full well who is behind the proposal and they are not interested in trans people, just their own radical self lunacy.
As a Christian I believe the truth matters. Whether it is hard or soft, it matters. I also believe that kindness and love matters. So my children are taught to be kind but we do not pretend people are something they are not. Debbie is incredibly self aware! Kind and wonderful! If the LGBTQ community were more like Debbie it would be much easier to mesh with in the day to day. I am so sorry for the mental health issues Debbie struggles with, however I appreciate the bravery of sharing these struggles! May God Bless you and guide your path, shelter your heart from a hateful world, and give you wisdom!
As the kids say, she is based. What an excellent and articulate guest.
The whole premises of " I present myself and society responds to me " is exactly how it has been forever and she is so correct calling out others for trying to tell others this is how you should think and react. She's great.🥰
@Bobby Sternlicht what do u mean by this? Like black Americans are still secretly slaves?? Or something else, seems interesting wyd be cool to get a reply chur
@Bobby Sternlicht thanks for that, it's the same in my country with my maori people (native of nz) it's sad because general population have been raised with lies about the history of nz as I'm sure it was the same in USA. (Not the same as in slavery in my case, it's colonization)
'Why did women set up doors to men if anyone can cut there own key' is an interesting point well phrased.
yes
If the trans issue keeps being pushed I’m homeschooling my children. I’ve always said I absolutely never would homeschool but children’s minds are SO very impressionable. When I was growing up, I was the biggest tomboy ever until I hit puberty. Refused to wear skirts or dresses, came home covered in mud and dirt every day, played rough and played “boy” video games, I even said once or twice I wished I was a boy. My parents just accepted me as a tomboy. Hit puberty, bam girlie girl boy crazy hormones raging preteen. Like a light switch. I shudder to think what would’ve happened if I was a kid in today’s society raised by woke parents. My point being, what if my daughter is like me? What if she’s a huge Tom boy, or dares to utter the words “I wish I were a boy”? What if a woke teacher over hears and I have cps on my door because I won’t affirm her as a boy? What if the teacher tells her she’s a boy, and confuses her pre-pubescent developing brain and causes mental issues/strife that wouldn’t have been there if the teacher hadn’t?
That’s it… homeschool it is.
Exactly I literally wrote a comment recently saying pretty much the same thing. I too was a tom boy. Imagine being an easily impressionable child being told you were in the wrong body and being given drugs and surgeries that permentaly alter your life for the worse. At this point I too would not want any child of mine going to school. I feel sorry for other peoples children too. It's just such a mess! So scary x 😰🙏💙
It's which puberty you want to go through.....not dolls or trucks....pink or blue.
And Hayton agrees with you that, we shouldn’t allow children to transition.
What really was revealing for me… and it says a lot about Hayton’s character… is that he’s happy he didn’t transition until much later, because otherwise he wouldn’t have had his children. That’s incredible. He’s so fulfilled in life, that’s why he doesn’t care what pronouns are given to him.
He’s got a family. And that’s what childhood transitioning is denying these trans children. No wonder so many de-transition.
I like her. Yes, usually i dont use preferred pronounce because i dont want to be forced. Here, i extend the courtesy because she earned my respect
It is not "courtesy" to connive in a *Lie*; it is the kind of stupidity that only some queer religion could induce in an otherwise sane being.
Thank you so much for having this guest on. I’m a black socialist lesbian and I am sick and tired of all this pish posh I do not believe that trans-women are woman
Debbie Hayton - the only male I would call a she. I have so much respect for the strength of mind it takes to reach the state of internal resolution and acceptance that she has.
If every person who identified as trans was like Debbie, we wouldn't have *any* of the problems that the trans movement has caused.
Well done Debbie.
Would it not be more realistic if the man calling himself Debbie were to identify a self deceiver or liar? Good God it is certainly true that that queer religion modernism terms its followers into complete Imbeciles that will tell any sort of lie and indulge in any sort of self-deception
Debbie seems like an amazing person an inspiration, i really respect. I am a biological woman and i love that debbie respects biological women's rights to safe spaces. I see a trans woman as a trans woman and biological woman as biological woman, as they are. i agree that anyone can identify as anything they want and i respect and support that. However Identity can be self defined even though society tries to define it. Sex and gender arent the same things though.. Both trans woman and biological woman deserve respect and inclusion. I will never know what it is to be a biological man or a trans woman, just like a trans woman cannot know what its like to be a biological woman. respect to all
This is why I love this channel. Meaningful conversations with interesting, fascinating people. This channel keeps moving from strength to strength.
I have the utmost respect for her. If the trans community were reflective of this there would NOT be such an outrage against them.
This is a very important conversation, thank you for having it. And thank you Debbie for your common sense approach.
I was actually expecting to be "triggered" (lol) by this, but I like hearing things from people who may not necessarily agree with me. However, her comment about seeking validation from society was perfect. If you're so comfortable in who you are, it shouldn't matter what society thinks of you.
“We need to look at people’s rights to do things, not people’s rights to be things”
Oliver your racism is uncalled for, people like you make all of us look bad
How is what was said racism?@@sonofsoweto
@@mimIsra1 don't pretend like you don't know that it is a slogan adopted by the racist groups like kkk
@@sonofsoweto Okay... I'm confused. Just because this might have been adapted by certain groups, you don't hear about it. You just seem to be triggered.
@@mimIsra1 everything is racism today ;D
Debbie, you are the role model for so many confused folks. Really enjoyed hearing what you had to say! Thanks
The guest brings up an excellent point about using women. As a feminist I see that now men are even redefining what it means to be a woman. This is the ultimate transgression against woman and girls!
Sex and gender appropriation
She's/he is PHENOMENAL at articulating her thoughts. This is profound. I wish more people had this amount of emotional intelligence trans and biological/ cis people in general
When he said he was glad he didn’t transition as a child because he would have never had his children. That really brought tears to my eyes. This is my real concern giving children cross sex hormones and cutting up their bodies.
Especially since we as a species are already not procreating enough as we always have in the past. That really scares me, and makes me sad for these kids..
@@taragosney7995 This, I believe, is why it's being pushed. Same old eugenics, different strategy.
I really like her and appreciate her views!
Great interview and perspective from Debbie, and one I've seen repeated by several transpeople. The thing is though, I dont think the vast majority that try to force others to say this or that realise how much damage they are doing. If someone wants me to call them "she" I will probably do it, if for nothing else then to just be polite. But me saying this will not change my own opinion on the matter. wich incidentally is the same as Debbie's. And trying to force people into not only saying something, but trying their best to "change reality" is not only litteral dystopian authoritarian bullsh*t, but will only make people dislike whatever cause/message they are being forcefed.
It's an old totalitarian tool. The more often you can force people to say things they don't believe, the more you can demoralise and control them.
You worded that very well, with people like Debbie I would be very happy to use their preferred pronouns and would be careful not to mess up out of respect and common courtesy. That has nothing to do with whether or not I actually believe or accept she is an actual woman.
Hard agree. Couldn't have said it better myself.
@Rocky Starfire
These issues are all part of the same movement. They pretend to be separate, but they all rely on the same ideology.
Also, I love your name 🙂
@@Nemo-Nobody well said! I am a 65 year old white male. Many on the left probably look at me and think of me as racist, sexist, and privileged. I am none of these and I believe most white men are not either.
I agree with her when she says it’s about accepting yourself. I accept myself, and I’m finally comfortable in my body. As a consequence of me putting all that work in, society also treats me as a woman.
In the end though, no matter what someone says I’m all good. I have what really matters: a fiancé, a job, two cats, a home, and my own happiness. I didn’t get there by demanding things of others, but by demanding things of myself.
good for you! x
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
*he. It doesn't have anything to do with kindness to call a man, "she." It devalues women to open up the word that describes us to "any human with long hair."
Example:
"She's over there"
"She? I thought she was a man?"
"Well yeah he is"
"Then why did you use the wrong word?"
"Because I'm being nice"
"But I can tell he's a guy"
"Shhhh it's not nice to point that out"
Great comment. Everyone - regardless of, "label" would have the potential to lead a more contented life, if they did as you did - by demanding more of themselves.
IMHO, society seems to be forgetting there's a power in taking full ownership, accountability & responsibility for the self.
call me back when you're 60 and tell me you're happy with your cats
What a sensible person Debbie is. She is the only Trans women not plastered in make -up or wearing very high-heeled shoes I have ever seen, which makes her look like most women I know.
I had no make-up on for that interview. I rarely wear any these days.
Wearing more makeup doesn’t make a trans woman any less valid.
@@tomsanchez7556 yes and most trans women really don't wear makeup like that and often look indistinguishable from cis women
@@droptherapy2085 men who don't wear makeup are not indistinguishable from women.
@@apebass2215 yes but trans women are women though?
She won me over when she gave the physicists' definition of normal, and dismissed it as unimportant. Bloody brilliant!
Accepting the truth is bravery that leads to a confident life rather than lying to yourself and pretending to be someone else.
She's asking all the right questions and answering them rightfully. Respect earned.
@@venusbonjour9303 I'm not playing your game.
@@venusbonjour9303 Moot point
A thoughtful interview provoking positive conversation around a difficult subject. Congratulations for tackling this lads and special thanks to Debbie for putting her head above the parapet.
I respect Debbie…she understands reality….that within freedom there are boundaries and limitations within those freedoms…. It’s a construct that every person on this planet lives by….she acknowledges and accepts herself for who she is….a biological man who is a trans woman….she made it clear that she is a man and Not a woman…she is a person who is grounded in who she is. She brings up valid points and can discuss issues without becoming a defensive, emotional, screaming lunatic! I don’t feel threatened by her or resentful of her existence. I respect her as a trans woman because she respects me as a biological woman…
Issues like this remind me of one anger management mantra, "I can’t control what you do, I can only control what I do." It always makes me wonder why people so desperately need to control the words and actions of others, and are they in the need of anger management training?
Because it affirms THEM. Misogyny is all
They're behaving like the entitled males they are who seek control over women's bodies. Basic.
Some AGP and narcissists are.
Immaturity
Narcissism.
I love her position on transgender. How refreshing that she turned out to be a feminist and pro bio woman’s rights
He's not a feminist, he's a man. If he was a feminist he wouldn't indulge any aspect of trans ideology.
@@apebass2215 life isn’t always black and white. I welcomed her view point then and still do.
@@nightingaleofficial3604 I never said it was black or white, you can welcome his view without believing anyone who stands up for women's rights is a feminist.
I’m a gay man and men cannot be feminists. He’s autogynephile who has some insight into his behaviour
@@Readyteddygo men cannot be feminists? How is that?
such a wise person...love the way she has such a smart,healthy approach
Did you not notice that the title of the piece is the exact words of a*man* repeat*man*, calling himself Debbie and his exact words are: "transwomen are*men*, and (referring to*himself*) he says including me".
In short: "Debbie is a *He*.
If only people that suppose themselves to be what they are*Not* would suppose themselves to be birds and would go to the tops of cliffs or very tall buildings and test out their supposition by flying off the top of them.