Signs You Are In a Toxic Workplace and How To Deal With It
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- Signs You Are In a Toxic Workplace and How to deal with Toxic Work Environment. Are you caught up in a toxic workplace and in a toxic work environment, bad work environment which only holds back your career and penalizes your emotional health? I already published a few videos on toxic management and an unhealthy work environment. Many continue asking me toxic boss and signs of a toxic workplace, so in this video I am exposing 5 signs of a toxic work environment, I also share 3 main tips on how to deal with a toxic boss and a bad work environment. Workplace culture dictates how employees behave, make decisions, and interact with each other in the office. A positive company and empowering culture leads to happy and engaged team members and to incredible productivity levels. A toxic culture leads to completely the opposite, to gossip, rumours, judgemental attitude and disrespect.
First sign of a toxic workplace is when Your boss is a bully and a bad leader. Every toxic workplace starts with toxic leadership. Which means bad or narcissistic toxic bosses are those who create and install the toxic culture. Many times employees do not realize that their boss is bullying them. Instead, they believe that they have a tough boss or a manager that simply pushes employees to get results.
Typically, toxic bosses are a tremendous pressure at work. They love control and they feed off your emotional reaction.
2. There is a fear of speaking up. Employees fear speaking up because management is genuinely hostile about a different opinion. It’s not safe to speak up since the reaction might be completely unpredictable.
3. Constant office gossip and rumors. Some office hearsay can be considered normal, even though it doesn’t have any benefits! But constant gossip and rumors about your colleagues’ personal lives, the judgemental gossip, makes it clear that your workplace is indeed toxic. If you feel that your average day at work is like a reality tv show with a lot of constant drama. If people don’t openly say things but prefer whispering behind others’ back, all of that is a HUGE red flag.
4. When company culture feels like a “cult”. Does the company culture go too far to position the workplace as a replacement for family and friends? You feel that everyone is encouraged to center their lives around the job, the work is EVERYTHING. There is hardly time for leisure, family or friends. It’s like you’ve joined a cult without even knowing it...
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What has been your experience in dealing with a Toxic Work Environment? Was it a Toxic Boss? A Toxic Colleague?
What is your advice in dealing with Toxic People?
bad work environments are tough to deal
i started a new job managed by a unexperienced new toxic boss. Since i needed the money, i decided to bear up and do my best to satisfy him. There was no single night that i slept well and there was no single weekend that i didn't do extra work. He enjoyed my weakness when i begged him to give me a second chance each time he blamed me on anything that is not really a big deal. He accused me of things i didn't do either. When i was proving him wrong, he behaved like, yes but....
After several months, he decided to fire me in order to show that he is idealistic manager who raises the bar. there were teammates who did mistakes horrible than me and performed worse than me but somehow, since i was fresh in the team, he marked me.
My lesson is never to work under a new manager and not to try to satisfy a bully manager. just like marat said in the other video about signs of toxic boss.
@@MarcosRodriguez-es4gz You are right!
@@exhesham There is absolutely no way you could have made things work under toxic management. No matter what you would have done, he would have still been abusive towards everything you do. So the firing is definitely a blessing in this case, even though I imagine you have gone through hell during all that time.
It's great that you've put this experience behind and arrived to the conclusion of never putting up with anything similar. I hope you stay positive and inspired, a great new opportunity will definitely come along soon.
Best of luck to you and thank you for sharing your experience here.
Is it possible that if people don’t like you they will lie about your abilities during your training?
"Every toxic workplace starts with toxic leadership" so true! Unfortunately, toxic bosses can also hide in plain site behind a demeanor of loving and caring leaders. Survival in a toxic workplace is dependent on working on your mindset and emotions and staying focused on the big picture and the things that really matter for your professional success. Do not be afraid from taking difficult decisions to carve out the career path that you want and deserve. Thank you for the video!
I completely agree with everything you mentioned. Staying focused on things which matter can be tough but it's extremely important while facing challenging situations like being in a toxic workplace.
Thanks for sharing your feedback on this, I appreciate it!
Completely valid 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Brilliantly said.
Horrible managers and sometimes even co workers can make the job toxic and unbearable
That is the truth. No matter how much you love your job, if the surrounding is toxic and hostile, it will take all the love and passion out and leave you exhausted/depressed.
Every company I have worked for is like this
Especially for us men
Propaganda everywhere
Gossip is the worst! you are right about cliques that spread gossip and rumors
It is feeding off everything else, the toxic place tends to have gossip as a natural part of it.
you are so right
You are describing my office
I bet. A lot of times things might not feel right, but you can't put your finger on something concrete to be a reason for it.
Mind too
EMMOTION by Marat i can put fingers to all
I had to battle these animals at my previous job. Its exhausting! But yes, dealing with them, I’ve learned not to even do a lot of smiling. Dead pan and all business persona.
Way to go!
In the past 6 months and my hell job started, as you said in the video there is so much gossip, backstabbing, silence treatment, negativity, some from my boss and some from the other colleagues, even a coalition of 2 narcs against me. Takes a lot of strength to deal with this mess. But it seems like this place doesn’t know better. They are USED TO BEING TOXIC
You are so right, people get used to it and it is like a rule everyone follows.
I was and I am in a toxic place and had suffered enough to be able to see the difference between what is good and what is not right. Generally in toxic societies people who are not blind to it many times stay trapped in the system because whenever they want to earn money they end up getting low wages (as being in a toxic workplace) and this gives then no chance to save up enough finances to be able to leave and stay afloat. It is terrible. I feel very frustrated. Exhausted because to be employed in a toxic culture I end up being literally energetically sucked up.Sometimes I am truly afraid there is no way of leaving and living a better life. Thanks for your toxic boss videos series, it helps and motivates
You are very welcome! I agree with what you are saying about sometimes losing a perspective on what is good and what is not. When we stay in such places for a long time, it eventually messes up our senses. I hope you are getting out of there soon!
My boss bullied me for months until I couldnt go on. I was depressed and l had to quit and it took me time to recover
Stay strong buddy, you did the right thing
I am really sorry to hear that. And you definitely made the right decision. Take it one step at a time and things will start looking up soon.
@@muh.adityat.m9990 Very true!
@@muh.adityat.m9990 Thanks its been really tough but I am getting better
@@myemmotion I feel like anything I do will be a bad decision, I wear my insecurities on a sleeve but Im getting better
I've had to deal with toxic bosses and employees every job I've had it makes it hard 4 me to keep a job
Were the signs similar between the jobs or they were completely different? With time one also learns to spot these toxic signs quicker than usual.
I feel you. The employees gossiping is really the worst
@@myemmotion ya they were pretty much the same type of gossipy drama
@@REESERAMPAGE1 I hope you manage to break the cycle with your next job! Best of luck!
@@myemmotion thanks man not really doing much since this covid thing started but sooner or later I'm gonna have to try again
I work with two guys who go out of their way to be insulting and derogatory. I try to avoid them but they manage to cross my ways daily and its really not cool.I'm job hunting right now.
Best of luck with your job search and keep me updated!
All of your videos in these series are amazing you can't believe how much your words helped me to go through stuff
Thank you so much my friend. Always appreciate your kind words and feedback!
@@myemmotion you are welcome keep this coming
@@myemmotion best content
@@MarcosRodriguez-es4gz You are amazing!
I had dealt with different toxic people but the boss which I had for 2 years, who was initially nice and who even wanted to hang out after work turn into an absolute nightmare. She started humiliating me in front of people, tried to make sure that no one would even talk to me. I was so depressed but one day I walked to my desk, grabbed my things and told her that I quit. She was not expecting that and immediately went into a panic, knowing that I was essential to that company and without me, there would be serious issues for them. I walked out and have never in my life felt more free than I did in that moment. Doing this isn't always easy, or even possible, for people but I had saved up enough money so that I was able to quit that day and never look back. She would continue to bombard me with texts, emails and communication via social media for about a year after the fact, until she finally got the hint that she was no longer welcome in my life in any way. I have dealt with a lot of toxic people in my life, but this woman was by far the absolute WORST.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us and I am glad you left in a properly planned way.
Day, she is a woman, there is no surprise there...
entre entrevistas And I’ll bet that this boss knew everything and had all the answers right up until you left the company.
I'm so proud of you and the courage it took for you to stand up for yourself. I'm currently in a similar situation with a manager who joined our office since February who right away started talking badly about my coworkers in front of me saying they are bad at their jobs (she trained one of them!). I wondered to myself what she must be saying about me behind my back. I found out quickly when I heard her laughing about a mistake I made I front of a customer. I confronted her about it and said I didn't appreciate her shaming me and she said "well you made a stupid mistake" but the mistake wasn't a big deal. It doesn't matter to her the only thing that matters to her is making sure she can control people. Then she fired one girl in order to benefit her favourite worker. Within a week alarm bells were going off in my head about her. She wanted to change things that there was nothing wrong with and we had running smoothly and honestly I used to love going to work but now I dread it. She is also manipulating the bosses against me and wrote me up yesterday for something I was doing for months and never EVER did anyone say anything to me about it. It came completely out of the blue and I know she did it as revenged against me because one of my bosses overheard her saying nasty things to me. I never thought I would want to leave this place because it's such a great place to work without her there but I foresee it only getting worse. I don't feel like I can talk with my bosses about it because she is SO manipulative.
I completely agree especially with point 3. My experience in a nutshell: I have been working in a ToxicOffice for 3 years by now. Every day there is absurd amount of trash talk and gossip (it is the worst type of open plan office, small room fully packed with around 20 people, half of which is in love with their own voices). Not only I am not interested in hearing that or even joining endless debates about bs, that also devastated concentration which my quite hard work requires. When I began wearing noise cancelling earplugs in order to be even able to work, they began ignoring and gossiping me, complaining that I am "weird" and other such stuff. It continually grew worse, even though I tried to explain that. It seemed that this was taken as a personal insult by some. What came later: Backstabbing, even more gossiping, work sabotage by not telling work information, refusal to work with me at all, open disdain towards me, gaslighting (when I complained). I got finally fed up with that and leaving the company. I am able to deal with stressing and difficult job, but to additionally cope with extremely toxic and even more stressful environment is too much.
these people always need someone to pick on to make themselves feel better, so sad
I am really sorry you have been going through such an unpleasant and negative experience. What you described is actually very similar to bullying, so toxic and unacceptable. When are you leaving? Did you already find another position or will you take some time off? Best of luck and keep me updated!
That's how the toxic culture works.
I’m so glad you spoke your truth. Currently dealing with my own work environment now…
I noticed a lot of these shop from home departments are toxic in their communication because “the system” is frustrating to communicate with other departments especially in a supermarket
I totally agree with all of these steps and your approach is very professional and accurate. For years and years I had to learn these very steps that you discussed. When there is one toxic leader the non narcissists don’t last very long and move on. I wish I didn’t have to learn this through my experience. Thank you
You are very welcome! I am sorry you've been through such times, but it all made you who you are today. Best of luck and thanks for your comment!
I hate workplaces where people gossip. Hate it. It annoys me, consumes my good energy and replace it with dread. It drains a person. When I see someone starting a conversation, gossiping about someone, I cut it right out. I have learned. It doesn't contribute to anything.
There's also the toxic type of college who thinks you are a free therapists or a place to drop all the complains at. Like a garbage can of complains. It's ok to complain sometimes, we are human, but some people have no limits. Even when you tell them. Everything sucks, everything is difficult. I don't need that kind of mindset at work. It sucks the same amount for all!
I am a positive person, everyday, I wake up with a good attitude and separate personal problems and work. Or try at least. So when I have someone in the near who doesn't even try, it is so tiring. This people drain people who have empathy.
They don't respect boundaries and it's making me miserable. I am now putting limits, but I already feel that I am becoming more negative myself.
I know exactly what you mean. It's already well known that negative energy attracts more negative energy in return, so such people eventually drain your energy and infect you with their mindset in a certain way. It is good that you set the boundaries and won't take constant complaints and negative comments.
It's complicated to see through the gossip when the whole company culture is based on it, it's like you either fit in or you don't. But there IS a way of not participating in it, and in a long run it's the best decision one can take.
How long have you been working for your company?
@@myemmotion I am new, I have been there 2 months and a bit. I am hoping the environment will change if I set boundaries, keep them and because there's people that's leaving and others coming. There are good workers too and with a couple of new ones it would be another thing. So I try to be optimistic, focused and wait a bit. If it doesn't change, I will leave and find another place where I can be focused on what matters: work and a positive environment that allows ideas to flow. I know other coworkers and me have many ideas, so, as soon as our schedules meet, we can unite and work in projects that will, at least, give us a break.
@@joanam3070 That is great, stay optimistic and the tables will turn at a certain point! Best of luck and keep me updated!
Great insight Marat, I believe that a toxic boss is one of the main reasons people leave companies. The important thing is learning from past experiences so one can better handle future similar situations.
Well said! I completely agree, knowing what those red flags look like will make the next job hunt more clear and productive.
now the coronavirus made things so much worse and harder for those who want to get out of toxic places
As I said, this situation is temporary and things are going to change. Maybe it's also the right time to plan your exit strategy properly.
Fu*k no get unemployment that’s what I’m about to do so I can focus on being my own boss
@@shutit4024 did you get fired?
@@amysimmons805 no but you can get unemployment even if you quit
@@shutit4024 I should just go ahead and quit
my boss is making my life a living hell
All these red flags are familiar...
Thanks for your advise
You are very welcome!
Well said Marat. I also had similar experiences with my previous employer. There was a certain level of hostility at workplace and employees who use to stand up and speak against it were treated differently than the others. The company was run with an iron fist and the firm policies were completely employee unfriendly. Delayed paychecks, no variable pay, clear hierarchy on display regarding benefits to name a few. Glad I left them and changed the atmosphere. Your videos have been providing encouragement to me all these times.
Sounds too familiar...!
Content inspired by real life events.
I am retiring now and 100% of my whole 30 year career in IT was toxic.
I am really sorry to hear that. It must be a relief knowing that you won’t need to put up with it anymore.
This happens in office environment but you cannot escape problems from work. As a trucker I get complaints from other drivers and bosses will take it seriously. The worst thing about it is unrealistic delivery deadlines because of unexpected traffic. There is just no way to escape work problems no matter what job you do. Even self employed someone could just hire a lawyer and sue you.
I just resigned 😢, I can’t stomach toxicity
It’s some people who makes the work environment toxic.
Wym some ? Almost all of em
I’m trynna get tf out of this job I’m at right now they crazy in here all of em and they very very childish as I don’t know what
Like the managers and supervisors literally don’t take they job seriously and they gossip about everybody and literally tell everybody business out let’s say I gotten written up they go back and run they mouths and tell everybody
So you are right Apple, especially the management.
@@Myname-zw8ur It's definitely not easy environment to be at.
speechless, excellent description!
Thank you! Cheers and glad to see you around!
Thanks so much for this video. My boss was a covert narcissist and he constantly seeked adoration and flattery. As soon as he realized that I had strict boundaries and was not willing to give him the supply that he needed, he tried to disturb my peace and boundaries by telling me that he wanted me to come and talk to him after work hours. At that point I knew I needed to quit, I was so burned out. It was one of the best decisions I have made. To him it didn't matter if you're good at your job. If you get good reviews. If you bring the company a lot of money. He wanted the narcissistic supply. Thank you for your work and your insight Marat
I am glad you enjoyed and you did the right thing. Such people never stop!
Thank you very much Sir. Your words inspired me to move on and seek for a better option.!
You are very welcome! I am so happy to hear that. You CAN work somewhere more enjoyable and motivating. Hope it happens soon, keep me updated!
This made want to cry. I have been questioning my abilities for the last few weeks feeling like maybe I'm terrible at my job and now I realise that's not true it's just the way my manager is making me feel.
Thank you, this was really interesting.
I am glad you thought so. Best of luck!
Absolutely 💯.... good content!
Thank you so much, Tawana. I appreciate it! :)
This clip is SO useful. Thank you. This describes my workplace to a T. You must've filmed my job in secret lol.
I can definitely relate to what you are going through! How long have you been with the company? These type of places do not usually change.
Glad you found it useful!
@@myemmotion My job has been like this since we got our new manager at this time last year. He doesn't know how and won't communicate essential work issues. He has no idea how our console works-has had a year to learn and nothing. His new hires are all more unmotivated than the next. Upper mgmt, building engineers, building company owners all know this. Nothing.
@@jonnuanez2843 It's exactly what happened at my job, the new manager ruining it all for everyone.
Since he's got the "OK" of the upper management there is absolutely nothing you can do. Except for doing your job the best you can, keeping it all professional and practicing self care. Think about yourself and your priorities, it isn't your responsibility to make things work.
Hope you are lucky and this manager doesn't last. Keep checking new opportunities as well, it's important not staying under toxic management for too long!
Most leaders make it to the top not because of their strong leadership skills. From my experience, nepotism is still alive and well! Hence we have so many videos and literature on toxic workplaces. Good leaders create positive workplaces.
This is very real. Thanks for the perspective, makes me feel better
You are so welcome!
Same here
@@lucyslivingroom5087 Thanks!
A coworker of mine had to go on FMLA because of the workload. It didn't phase the management assholes one bit. They didn't question the sustainability of the work nor why they can't retain good talent. I have incentives to stay with respect to tuition assistance, but I'm contemplating leaving soon.
That's the thing, talented and capable individuals eventually leave these places one way or another. I hope a motivating project, perfect for you, comes along very soon!
well explained
thank you for the eye opener.
You are very welcome!
I agree
Thank you very much. Your videos helped me a lot.
me too, its second time I watch this
You are very welcome! I am glad to hear that. Are you still at the company?
@@emmsummer7811 Thanks Emm, I hope things are better!
@@myemmotion Yes, I am still at the company but I hope to get a better opportunity in the future.
@@rashinasohan6172 I am really sure you will very soon. Stay positive and take care of yourself no matter what happens!
I just “quit” my toxic job. Sad because the company was brilliant and I really enjoyed working with everyone but 1 bad manager can ruin so many goodness… just a heads up guys, during the interview if you get a bad feeling, please don’t go.
For this kind of situation,I'm in a group in the church and we had to choose someone to take charge of the group.They chose a girl who was a few years older than me(I was 16 at the time and she was 18) and she had a few years of experience at the previous place she was(still less than me and my brother),the criteria required to be in charge was in her favour and that's why she was chosen.
However as time passed,things got worse and is still now and that girl whose normally the boss is the big reason why.Even since she came we have never got a serious discussion about the group and everytime I try,she finds a way to leave or skip the discussion.She only values her "friends" and doesn't care about the others.She keeps demoralising others especially those who needs the most help.She always wants to be in control and is always offended anytime we give her a negative feedback and always act as the innocent one and me the bad guy.She brings fear,division,bad authority and distrust in our group that mostly everyone is afraid of her,so I'm the one standing up against her and the others words pass by me.
Our group is in a sort of crisis now and those causing it are also those who are unaware of it.I wanted to quit the group because of that,the toxic environment there and that it's affecting my mental health in certain ways.But I love this group where I've dedicated a big part of my life in it,the "HR" if I can call him at that trust me a lot also due to my willingness in making our group better and I don't want to abandon my group and the people involved in it.I want to save it from a bad,toxic,incompetent,hypocrite,narcissistic,liar,lazy,fake,selfish,useless and evil boss she is since I'm one of the leaders of the group but I want to leave too because I can't stand her and see the group fall because of her knowing I was right.
What you need to do is to put your priorities above it all. You are not responsible for how things turn out for the rest, you are responsible for your own health and well being. So don't force yourself to do something you don't enjoy doing anymore.
you describe my work place very well. I always do my best but it is still very toxic. Negative environment and they like asking me for help. My boss is very toxic. He always bad mouth me in front of anybody who walks in the office or private meeting. I just wish he resign or I get a better job. Its been 15 years. I sometimes work for free the whole day and I don't get comp. time for it too. He is my wife's uncle which I did not know before. Thank you so much for the tips.
Sounds indeed like a very toxic environment, especially with your boss being so negative about you at all times. It's also been a very long time and you have to make sure this doesn't affect your mental well being. Thanks for sharing your story and hope your situation improves very soon!
@@myemmotion oh yes. He is retiring soon, it will be less toxic and less negative words. Thank you so much for your videos.
@@speedg1585 Fingers crossed. Stay positive and thanks for your kind words!
awesome video, all on point
Thank you so much!
For #1 Toxic boss
Its true for me
But he isnt that toxic as my instructor
#2 Fear of speaking up
It's TRUE because I'm socially awkward and l can't even laugh till someone taunts me because of it
#3 Gossip and rumours
Is true on my side. Which annoys me.
I never gossip.
#5 I never question my work
What do you mean your instructor? Which one of them are you reporting to?
Judging from what you are saying, you are in a toxic workplace. How long have you been working there?
@@myemmotion nearly a whole year of the course
@@FBISHOJI I am glad you are out of there. And it's also great that you haven't been questioning your own work, which means that your self-esteem was unaffected.
So much gossip at work it is killing everything else
Thank God all my Bosses and leads are awesome with me.
This all familiar but how do you define this as harassment, retaliation and discrimination.
Most of the times you can't put your finger on something big enough to be considered "harassment", but it is slowly destroying your performance and your health.
Love the videos on this topic
More to come!
@@myemmotion can’t wait, also a video on starting at a new job
I really like this guys videos. They’re very informative. It would be awesome if did a video talking about having multiple 2-3 part time jobs instead 1 full time job. For example, I have build relationships with many employers in my local community. I work 3 jobs and also on another 2-3 employers books as casuals. My wife also has a full time job as well. I did this because I simply do not trust employers (had way too many bad experiences with wage theft, ask to do shady or illegal activities, placed on performance plans, was looked over for promotion (even though I was objectively the best employee on the team )over boss’s daughter etc) and allows me to toss an employer in the bin (with one phone call) (if they start pulling the BS). I highly recommend people to have at-least one gig on the side. I hope this helps.
Its so tough to work with a toxic boss, such a torture. So much harm to mental health. Dont understand how long we can tolerate it. They even try to nullify our efforts. Better to be jobless than to work with toxic boss😂
It's really emotionally draining and complicated to deal with. It's important to keep yourself active and try having a life outside of work. Of course, job hunting until you manage to leave a toxic manager because they never change! Best of luck to you and keep me updated!
@@myemmotion thanks for the your comforting words. Its true we need to start taking risks than to be suffocated in one place.
@@amrita7444 Yes! And something better does come along. It might take a certain time but there ARE options. As long as we focus on facts and not on feelings, eventually we manage to turn the page!
My ex manager was lazy we put work on his employees and the criticize you for the work not being done or you work too slow always marked below standards on inspection. Stays in break room playing ping-pong I got blamed for 11 employees quitting the job in 12 months. The area Supervisor backs managers activities do nothing.
The reason why these people act the way they do because they feel protected. They are on good terms with higher ups and none questions much of their work. Which means the employees will be going through hell and no one is going to help. The way out becomes the most reasonable option!
No matter where u go::: same thing.
Very insightful!
Thank you! Hope you get out of there soon!
EMMOTION by Marat Saw this coming a year ago - worse than I thought! Going to the office is draining and not enjoyable.
@@zjelkof I can definitely relate to that. That is not healthy at all, do your best to stay strategic about it and work on an exit strategy.
Watching your videos is therapeutical
I am really glad to hear that!
@@myemmotion how about making a video about staying positive and healthy in such environments?
@@lucyslivingroom5087 That is a good idea to consider, thank you!
Many signs I started noticing....that office politics
No body wants to move up I think is a perfect example
Just quit the place today especially because of the last point ...looking towards a brighter future ahead 🙃🙃🙃🙃
If we only had a habit of changing roles all for once. So an ordinary worker should be trained to lead a small team and big bosses should take on the role of lowest employee for a while. I think most people (me too ) easily get used to power and "harmless jokes" might follow very soon. I always see a job as a play where year after year the same people are the hero while others always are always the hardly noticed extra's. In the end those roles change your self perception too. Perhaps in a economy of co-ops this pain can be avoided.
I agree that it's difficult to keep things in perspective when you do not experience such situations on a daily basis. Generally human beings get a stronger sense of empathy ONLY after having lived through difficult or "sensitive" moments themselves. So exchanging the roles like this would definitely help to run things better for the employee and the company. But you have to agree that the majority of bosses would hardly give such idea a second thought.
@@myemmotion Yes, but I think (or dream? ) we are now at the brink of transitioning from hard, cold and hardly efficient neoliberal thinking back to much more intelligent, warm and social thinking which also benefits efficiency. We are all admiring the Scandinavian countries as model.The sociopaths need to be pushed out of the system so we can breathe again.
@@jean-pierredevent970 That would have made the world so much better indeed.
Muchas gracias ,,, lo acabo de encontrar, somos vecinos casi vivo en praga
Un placer! Praga es una ciudad maravillosa. Un gran saludo!
My boss scheduled a meeting between me and one other person... I jump on and she doesnt even acknowledge me. She only called the other girl by name and completely ignored me. LOL.. i hate my boss. happy tuesday
LOL! I can definitely relate, but I love that you are taking it with a humour!
Almost all of these qualities fit my office
Welcome to the club!
Every job I have ever had is like this.
That's definitely not normal. You've been unlucky, it means a nice place to work at is waiting for you sometime very soon.
It'd be great to get a full how to deal with it video
I will work on it!
at least i know this isn't my fault
It is not! Let go of things which you can't control!
I am on it
can you do a video about when to decline the job offer?
I am working on it already!
Very informative video.
Thank you very much! I hope your situation is not as bad!
@@myemmotion it was bad and that was my first experience so even I was confused if I am right or not. I was doubtful about my judgement and whether my feelings and emotions are genuine or not. Because people easily say that you can't expect a loving warm atmosphere at a work place. Seniors junior relationship are usually like this.dont take things personally. You should be tough.
But after seeing your video I now feel my feelings and emotions were genuine and my judgement was quite right .
@@ishavartak6902 Absolutely. Don't let anyone trick you into thinking that "tough" and "demeaning" environment is OK. Working is never all great and amazing every day, but it is definitely not suffering, it shouldn't be.
I understand that you are not working there anymore and I am glad to hear that.
Hope you get a nice new role, where you feel motivated and productive.
@@myemmotion Thank you for starting this channel and making such kind of videos. I am feeling better now after relating the incidents to you.
no one believed me when I told them this. They still don't believe me. And even I was confused so I used to feel initially that are these hallucinations of my mind .
one becomes even more helpless or feels like a looser because your family members also fail to believe you. No one believes you. And it is correct on their part to not believe you because no one will understand these situations unless they don't experience it themselves.
@@ishavartak6902 It's all about empathy. It takes some people a lot more to empathise with others, many times it's about experiencing the same situation and circumstances. The difficulty about being caught up in toxic places is that you can't say it's just ONE thing, it's usually a combination of many things which turn into a huge weight.
You are very welcome! You deserve being surrounded with respectful people and feeling motivated with your professional life. Let me know how things go and good luck!
Are there any signs that one can recognise in the unterview before you actually take the job?
Manipulating a team against each other 😅
Well...I work at the VA. Need I say more?
I think the workplace is toxic if everyone is taking shortcuts but you you wanna do things the right way and be honest yeah it’s taking you longer than them and creating an unrealisticExpectations to get some thing done
I know what you mean!!! They constantly complain about me being too slow......I'm slower than then because 1. I'm still learning so yeah I'm not going to be as fast after 1.5 years as people in the industry for 5+ years and 2. I'm THOROUGH. I make notes, I triple check my work, I am thoughtful with patients and keep them informed as best as I can, and I do everything with love and care. Every single person I work with has some drawback or something that is just their tendency but it doesn't make them bad at their job it just means we are all different, work differently and have different skills.
Why do so many workplaces salute toxicity.
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What about workplace harassment?
Have you seen this last video about gaslighting? It's one of the most complicated ones to detect and to report: ruclips.net/video/n4-cgczxGHM/видео.html
Just give them back. They won't do the same again.
I also thought so, but nowadays I am convinced that it only makes things worse!
@@myemmotion it does make things worse because then they REALLY want to hurt you for damaging their authority.
Toxic work environment? I think poor communication. Like “come back in 10 min I have to get the product” they go back to their department and say “they don’t have it” to the other team
What is your comment regarding to toxic HR?
What do you mean? When the HR is toxic? Or when you'd like to talk to HR about the toxic environment?
@@myemmotion i mean the hr is the one Who are toxic.
@@nevermore2688 You know HR is always backing up the upper management, so when the general environment in the company has turned toxic, there is no way to avoid it for an HR department.
Did you experience this while dealing with HR?
@@myemmotion yup i been through hell because of him. He said i didnt do my job well. He even shared my personal life from WhatsApp to my boss as a reason why im not perform. Previously I shared my problem to him because i thought he could help me. He promise that my secret is safe with him. Later on he use it againts me again and my boss start to hate me. I trust everyone including him because we only have 8 people. I thought we could all be friends. I was so stupid and naive . My friend told me that hr gossiping with him by telling my friend that he plans to remove me from office. He even gathered my other friends to hate me. I been humiliated at meeting and email by tagging my boss. during that time i feel betrayed. N now im so scared to apply for a New job because i fear this toxic will come again. He entered to the small company Three months late than me. I work there for 7 months then im out. I even diagnos with depression. Its been 2 months since i left, i feel happy but at same thing scared because my money is getting smaller.
@@nevermore2688 Forget about making friends at work, unless you've worked with them for years and you've built trust and relationship outside of work. HR can be toxic, just like any other department of the company. It doesn't mean all the companies are the same. Take it one step at a time, it will get better, you will feel more confident and there is definitely a nice new position which is going to come along.
Try to stay as positive as possible and I hope you start experiences the changes very soon!
Advice: over the years I’ve noticed this. If you have a coworker who is always gleeful about and always spouts how they love the company, if they’re over 35 and never been married with no kids, and the job is everything to them, major red flag. Be extra cautious around this employee. They will mention everything you do and say to the boss. I’m 53 years old and have witnessed this many times.
A old saying goes like this, "in the mud, but doesn't smell like mud." It tries to teach people to live well despite the toxic environment (mud)... but the mass mentality can sometimes create a pressure to conform.
i think it so complex to not letting the "mud" affect you
I followed this until i was laid off
@@exhesham Yes, you try to stay above it in a way until you get sucked into it!
I think it all depends on how emotionally envolved we are. During the first weeks and even months, we can manage to deal with it and not get THAT affected. But the longer a toxic experience goes on, the more worn off we feel and eventually causes damage which is hard to repare. Especially the self esteem issues, which are directly related to toxic management.
@@MarcosRodriguez-es4gz I do agree. It does depend on each situation, but it is important to keep it positive no matter what.
All work places are toxic.