Parents Want Wedding Refund from Son! | Part 1
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- Опубликовано: 4 сен 2024
- Douglass and Barbara say their son Dakota and his ex-wife owe them money from a loan and their wedding!
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HINT: We both had parents that were against our wedding, mine refused to attend. His sister wore a black dress in protest. We had our wedding in a park, on picnic tables, plastic tablecloths, paper plates; about 10 people came; we had fruit salad and buns; I sewed my own wedding dress and made a veil, rented a tux for him, and pd the minister $20. Did the event for about $150! Those objecting parents are deceased, now we have been married almost 50 yrs!!
Good for you two 💕 doing it anyway.
What God ordains, let no man put asunder. @@debdee9663
Can I ask? What was reason for both sides of your family protesting the union?
wow
❤beautiful, sweet, romantic love story❤ bless y'all!!🤗🥰 true love
My neighbors just spent $20k on a wedding for their daughter and it didn’t last a year. 🤣 Stop spending all this money for one day.
Damn that's money they never get back.
waste of money! just enjoy the day with the closest family and friends!
My sister has had two large weddings. I went to Vegas. 30 years for me and she’s divorced twice
that's money they never get back 🤣🤣🤣
$20k cheap
The way she starts laughing and then immediately deadpans "It's not gonna happen" has me dying😂
How u be together 4 years before u marry, move in 2 months after u meet but separate 2 months after you marry... That's crazy!!!
Lets just say they were married before the wedding and when the ceremony came about - they got divorced 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. This clearly is a couple who should have lived together for the rest of their lives without getting married. It's only a piece of paper at the end of the day.
I think a lot of people who've been together that long are having problems and think that marriage will fix their problems - and when their now-heightened expectations are not met, they wreck fast. 😐
" how you be together"??
Couples who shack up divorce just as much as other couples do.
No, it's a commitment and people who think like you cheapen it. 😢 @@user-kz3ik7pm7o
Remember when a wedding reception was held in the basement of the church? People brought food , Mothers and church members made the dinner. Simple times
When couples didn't start life in debt and parents got to keep their retirement fund.
My wedding reception was in a church basement not too many years ago. It wasn't a wedding for the magazines, but we left the venue just as married.
I'm sorry, did you time travel here from the year 1848 or something?
Simple and therefore good times
@@timothyhhRural America also exists. Travel more. Yap less.
I’ve watched friends take out loans and skip car payments to pay for lavish weddings. I decided then if I ever get married, I’m keeping it simple and old fashioned. I have no desire to go into debt for a wedding.
I really believe, based on what I've witnessed, that the more you spend on a wedding, the shorter it's gonna last.
We got married in city hall and had a witness after which we had a great lunch at my in-laws house and went camping on our honeymoon. We were married for 47 years until my husband died.
If you can’t afford to get married, then get your finances together first. Because if you can’t be financially responsible your marriage is doomed.
Amen
It’s only like $60-$100 to get married.
Not true
Everyone can afford to get married if you have like a hundred bucks.
Having a big party is another thing.
A rehearsal dinner is one of the biggest scams of a wedding, you don't rehearse anything it's just a fancy overpriced dinner
@@michaelkennedy87 sad that being financially not an idiot is considered a boomer thing
As a European living in the USA I also find a rehearsal dinner a bit of a strange thing ( as I do bachelorette parties and baby showers). I often also see that people don't look further than wanting a perfect wedding . They forget that a marriage is a different commitment and not just a big party.
Exactly, pure stupidity.
JJ is about to teach a lesson about responsibility
You gotta learn to spell the word responsibility before trying to be funny 😂
@@maybellllllll thx for the correction, English isn't my native language so yeah, mistakes happen 😘
A big lesson!
I was going to say this 🤣
What a sad country! got married and divorced in one year not even LOL! weird.
I can understand their frustration. It's like paying for 4 years of College and your child quits after 1 semester. Super frustrating. But unless the Defendant's agreed to pay back the money spent on the wedding, the Plaintiffs have no legal ground to stand on. They would have to prove fraud(they knew beforehand they would split up and got married anyways) or an agreement to repay.
My parents paid for my brother's first wedding, and his bride left him 3 days after the event. She later claimed she knew weeks beforehand that she didn't want to marry him. Oh well, they chose to pay. Everything in life comes with risk and uncertainty.
For an entire year I paid my 19-yo son’s expenses on a weekly basis while he was at university. He quit studying after a month and never told me. The level of dishonesty continues to blew my mind. I foolishly gave him another chance. He got a traineeship after that and i said i would help financially if he stuck at it. He got fired in the first month because he was partying all the time (using my money) and I had to call the restaurant myself to find out
Absolutely. My parents paid for my wedding and I got divorced. It's life.
@mattyd3079 wow! How is your relationship now?
@@spencejoynon-existent. He hates me. He is 29 now and we haven’t spoken in 4 years. I love him dearly, but he says i’m a bad father. Truth is, I spoiled him rotten. It’s broken my heart.
I gotta stop watching Judge Judy before work meetings... the other day I accidentally said to my boss "JUST A SECOND, I DON'T ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!"... oops 😂
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"WE'RE DONE!"
hahahahaha lmao
@@karnliberated im weak😂😂😂😂😂
Boss did you get the papers I sent? NO?
where you think you coming today....THE BEach!!??
FYI marriage is more important than the “wedding” and what you spend on it. We planned our wedding in one month. Our marriage last 37 years until my darling went to Heaven.
rest in peace
I'm so sorry for your loss.
But congratulations on your marriage
Did you see the mom's smile wiped right off her face when JJ started to laugh?
I really hope we find out why a four year relationship ended after two months of marriage.
It was probably because of financial issues
Right. This is what we all wanna know!
@@ferrerasneurology7559they were living together during their 4 year relationship, I assume sharing finances. Financial troubles don’t just start once you’re married. I would love the know the real reason.
Usually, it’s the piece of paper that messes things up.
I couldn’t care less. Just another statistic.
I’m dying to know why they separated so quickly! Come on part 2 🤞🏻
Pressure of being officially married, I guess
@@Atrus999 People love to blame the woman 🙄
@@iykeharrison9161 it happens so many times people stay together for years and then decide to get married and a few months later get divorced,will never understand why get married if staying together for many years, waist of time
@@eisbeinGermany i dont understand why statistically people who live together for a while decide to get married then it goes down the shitter and they get divorced really quick....or somewhat quick.
I dont understand!
@lillyvaughn5398 Because half the time the blame lies on the women. Just like the other half lies on the man. I don't care if people blame a man or woman for something as long as it's fairly placed blame
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I'm Australian and we don't do thos rehearsal dinner nonsense. It's utterly ridiculous and a waste of money. We did a quick run through at the church the day before then we parted ways soon after until about 15 hrs later at the alter.
I've never understood this crazy American tradition
It’s all about money. It’s ridiculous.
I guess the marriage is a performance
@@Jade_902I guess the wedding is a performance
Sometimes the bride's and groom's parents have not met, and this allows them to get to know each other. In addition, if attendants have traveled to be there for the rehearsal, they're not left on their own for dinner after the rehearsal.
Of course, they need to meet and get acquainted. A simple family dinner will suffice.@@NYNC88
Been together four years yet marriage lasted two months?? Must have been underlying unresolved issues
"Not gonna happen" I can hear it before the show 😂
A perfect marriage is worth a whole lot more than a perfect wedding. This has proved to be true for years.
If you can’t afford, have a cheaper wedding!
I love the Judge Judy laugh!😅
ME TOO ITS SO DIABOLICAL
Ripping off her glasses at the end … so entertaining 😂
I love it when she laughs
I need to hear from the parents. So far im not understanding why they expect any money back 🤷🏾♀️
I think it is just the mother. Mad because she dared to reject her son.
I mean, they're probably not going to get their money back, but I definitely understand their irritation. They put down a giant, non-refundable deposit on their kid's future, and then the kid said, "sike".
there was never a written contract.
They were married and lived together for 4 years but the marriage was nearly over before it began? Make it make sense 🤔
As someone who footed the bill, I’d be pissed as well. Marriage lasted 2 months 🥴
me too. i'd never give him another dime. never.
@@tempgirl00711I think both of you are wrong. You don’t know why their marriage failed, they were together for 5 years. If you’re not comfortable footing the bill for a couple than don’t, but not giving them anything again bc it failed is incredibly selfish and weird especially bc you’re not them.
Don’t foot the bill if you’re not comfortable understanding that relationship can fail.
tough shit. paying for a wedding comes with a risk of the wedding not working. you pay for it and you lose all that money, tough. shit. its on you for being financially irresponsible.
It’s like paying for someone’s birthday bash then getting mad and asking for your money back because the birthday person ended up dying sometime later. Makes no sense
Bottom line: if they were still married, would the parents expect money back? Of course not. Either way, unless the parents discussed beforehand with the couple to repay it, it doesn’t become a loan just because it doesn’t work out. Simple.
If you can't afford the wedding why the hell do you get married
"Getting married" is quite a bit different from an elaborate wedding/reception.
If you can’t afford the wedding why the hell do you get …. A venue out of your budget
I think it’s dumb to spend a ridiculous amount of money on weddings (and funerals). A former coworker of mine got married to her long time boyfriend. Her parents spent about $20,000 on her wedding (this was in the mid 90s). She and her husband then went on a two month honeymoon. Within about six weeks from returning from their honeymoon, they split up and got divorced.
Disgusting.
2 month honeymoon???? Sounds like they just wanted a huge party and vacation, not a marriage.
The defendants are outrageous. Who throws the big white wedding of their dreams, gets married, and separates 3 months later? Did they not know each other before they got married? What a waste. If my wife and I were the parents who threw all that money down the drain, I’d tell my kid to grow up and make the marriage work, or start paying us back next week!!
Did you not listen? They were together for 4 years before and lived together for almost the entire time. Who knows what happened. Also, you might demand your kids pay you back, but there is zero legal responsibility to do so, which is what JJ is going to tell these parents.
It is crazy that they could only make it work for 3 months. But, statistically couples are more likely to divorce if they live together before marriage.
As far as the parents: wanting money back is ridiculous. It doesn't matter how long the marriage lasts. The cost of a wedding isn't pro-rated based on how long the marriage lasts.
If this was my kid, I'd be greatly disappointed at the dissolution of the marriage, and the wedding money would be the least of my concerns.
@@bradyconeBut they are only separated not divorced
@@iykeharrison9161 yeah but I'm not holding my breath lol
Unfortunately, it seems like people don’t try to make it work nowadays. Why do we have couples who have been married for 40,50,60 years and nowadays marriages last a couple of weeks?
Married November 2017 separated Jan 2018! 😳🚶🏽♀️
Things were falling apart before they even started!
I don't want to pry but it seems they got divorced for frivolous reasons. And before someone comments "They can do whatever they want", one has to ask why they even got married in the first place. It is evident that people don't respect the institution of marriage. Perhaps, the government shouldn't be involved in the institution anymore.
Statistics state living together before marriage leads to a higher divorce rate. But two months?🤦♀️
"🤣🤣🤣 it's not gonna happen 😒" 😂😂😂
Marriage is a beautiful union of two hearts, a promise of love and commitment. A wedding is a celebration of this union, a joyous occasion where family and friends gather to witness the beginning of a new chapter. It is a day filled with laughter, tears, and memories to cherish forever.
Sad to see a mother sue her child
Prepare for the marriage, not the wedding 🤦🏾♀️
Amen Lake! Amen! Perfect! Weddings are a fantasy. Marriage is reality.
Fell in love with a venue but didn't fall in love with each other 😮Crazy
I love the fact that she began with the defendants and practically immediately ruled in their favour. Love how she laughs about it first.
oh.. by the way... weddings are basically one of the biggest scams to benefit the wedding industry.(caterers, planners, flower shops, hotels, airlines, etc) You can have the most wonderful wedding and still end up with a lousy marriage. Take advice from old fart like me... have the smallest ceremony with only your absolute closet family and friends. If they truly care about you, they won't mind having to attend your wedding at the city park, beach or even a rec center.(or if you want, the chapel of love in Vegas) I only know 5 couples who have been happily married for over 40 to 50 years. All of them had very small wedding ceremonies and receptions. Wedding day is just one day. You will be spending 10,000 to 20,000 days with your wife or husband.
@S_Paoli...Very wise words you have there. Very true as well.
There is truth in what you say but there's nothing wrong with having a big wedding, what's important is that you can afford it and it's actually what you want. I have been very happily married for nearly 15 years now but I would have liked a bigger wedding, I had to have a very small wedding as it's all I could afford and I always felt a little disappointed that I couldn't have something nicer.
or how about getting to really know each other before tying the knot, seek counseling prior to marriage, a counselor can go over finances, personalities, emotions, feelings, compatibility, etc. everything. to help ease mentally mature people down the right path, getting their eyes wide open before taking that leap, they can see what the couple cannot see, or may be in denial about. so many people use divorce as if it's normal, no wonder why we have high azz divorce rates. people that aren't compatible keep forcing the circle into the square and this is what we end up with. counseling doesn't guarantee success but it could help people learn to work on their marriages and issues. to work hard to sacrifice to give and take and share and have patience. etc. smh. people are crazy out there.
@@TheFakeyCakeMaker no need to be disappointed about the small wedding... You got the big part going right and its all that really matters at the end. 😊
I think huge weddings are silly. Mine was small. Maybe 35-40 max and held on the family farm. I bought a beautiful lace dress off the rack, least expensive rings we could afford, family roasted turkeys, had veggies from the garden, a cousin was DJ for our barn dance, local pastor, and one bridesmaid and one best man. No rehearsal dinner. Our friends and family camped overnight on the property, we all played some volleyball and we stayed in a tiny cabin on the property built just for us. It was a BLAST! A true celebration. No fancy photos, but 38 years later, we are still happily married, everything is paid off, loving our retirement and so glad we didn't go into debt with a big, fancy wedding.
I' M 100% SURE "KENTUCKY FRIED CHICKEN" WAS SERVED AT THE RECEPTION!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was looking for someone to mention The Col Sanders body double
hahahahahahha lmao
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WTH is a rehearsal dinner? Why would you pay money for this - that's like paying for the same wedding twice!
That’s how they raised him🤷🏽♀️ can’t complain about it now
To me his parents are out of luck. 🙃🙃🙃
"Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha...that's not gonna happen".
😂😂
I have never heard of a rehearsal dinner. I'm glad I don't live in the USA.
Not everybody does that
I don’t understand how they were together 4 years but got divorced after 2 months?!
Both my sons and fiancés paid for their own weddings. So did I. We eloped. It is such an archaic practice to expect the brides family to foot the bill.
I ❤ JJ's laugh, makes my day!!
Son: “We fell in love with the venue” kind of says it all!
Not necessarily.
Marriage is a sacred union between two souls, a promise to love and support each other through life's journey. A wedding is a celebration of this commitment, a joyous occasion where family and friends come together to witness the joining of two hearts in love, creating lasting memories to cherish forever.
Grand opening, grand closing 😂.
I am always shocked when I hear about US weddings and how large thy get. That's insane.
Oh, yeah. Over here in the US weddings are large, expensive, and usually end in divorce. But, hey! The parties are fun!
Marriage is a sacred union between two individuals, a commitment to love, support, and cherish each other for a lifetime. Weddings are joyous celebrations of this union, filled with love, laughter, and new beginnings. It is a time to honor traditions, create memories, and embark on a journey of togetherness.
4 years relationship😂, 2 months after marraige. Living w/ o commitment doesn't make for lasting relationship
Now this is an intetesting case. Sorry can't sue. Teach your children to make better decisions and pay their own way if its money you cant afford to lose.
The Entitlement of THE KIDS IS CRAZY!!!!!
Entitlement of the parents. They paid, they knew what they were getting into. They kew that the couple was like. It's part of living.
Even Colonel Sanders attended the wedding!
Crazy parents. They knew their son. They should have expected the marriage was not going to be particularly stable. It's part of LIVING. Get used to it.
If you’re grown enough to get married then you should be grown enough to pay for it yourselves.
nah if my parents are offering, i’m taking. and i’m sure i’ll do it for my future children if god allows as well
A couple of my friends got married nearly 25 years ago. Everything was on a shoestring. Most wedding gifts were contributions towards parts of the wedding, eg the friend who was the minister who married them without charge, the friends who collectively did a buffet reception afterwards, I did photos and an album. In total I think they paid less than £200 - including his suit (thrift shop) and alterations, her dress, and document fees. Still together, still happy, two rapidly growing up kids.
Judge judy laughing like a big villain.
Filet mignon, vichyssoise, and creme brulee for lunch!!! Yummers!!!
When they can barely afford rent, people will come feast on all that and go back home still saying the wedding wasn't all that😂😂😂😂
I GOT LEFT OVER TACO MEAT WITH NO TACO SAUCE #JJLC
Sounds like marriage ruined their relationship 😳
How? They were already LIVING LIKE A MARRIED COUPLE
KFC in the house!!!
rat hay va thu vi day nhe, rat dang de xem di xem lai nhieu lan
My husband and I just wanted to go to a court house and be married there, my mom offered to pay for an actual wedding. We just didn’t like parties. I understand them not feeling like it’s owed because the parents offered but they were also planning to have an actual wedding that they couldn’t afford from the beginning. No wonder their marriage failed.
Why can't couples try to make things work? And, spending a fortune is silly - 100 people or more. A year is not long enough to decide to divorce - you don't really know each other enough.
As soon as Judge Judy said "Its not going to happen" I would have left the court room and saved the embarrassment.😅
My husband paid for our wedding, including my dress! I was young, paying my own bills and when I met him, he was a Marine. I never thought that I would get married so young ( 21). So when he asked me in marriage, I was not prepared and I had no money. I was working and paying bills. He paid for the whole thing. It was a simple wedding with close family, a church and a dinner afterwards. But what made special is that he was man enough to pay for the whole thing without relying on his parents. His parents were retired teachers. We have been married for 22 years. Nowadays, people are getting divorced like crazy so…I don’t recommend big wedding and I definitely don’t recommend asking your parents to take out their retirement for your wedding.
Her parents should have paid.
Colonel Sanders and Wreck it Ralph on JJ!
Wtf is a rehearsal dinner ? To learn how to eat ?
It's for people that travel and arrive early (can't travel on day of wedding) and close family to get together in a venue and eat and talk and have a good time. I think only wedding party goes to actual rehearsal but dinner is after that. Rehearsal is so people know where to strand and review of what different segments of wedding are going to be in actual venue (you walk here, then you will do your speech, then...) dinner is just an exciting gathering of family and friends night before
Wtf is a rehearsal dinner 😂 what is this rich people practicing for a dinne
It's dinner after the rehearsal practice. It happens all the time.
@@kelbel9337 Not all the time.
when those 11 herbs and spices kick in!
I ain't even mad at mom and dad. My son would have me hottttttt over his thirty second marriage 👊🏽
I’m not watching part 1 unless there is a link to part 2.
When you have been shacked up for 4 years and suddenly want to be married, you just head to your nearest court and sign a few papers. Don't pretend to be a virgin.
Not your wedding. Your opinion counts for NOTHING Karen.
@@susanharris3552 - Ooh, someone is scratchy today. I sense virgin pretension (see what I did there?)😂😂😂
What does being a virgin have to do with a wedding
Exactly. 🎯
Studies show the more you do before marriage the less successful the marriage will be it’s facts not opinion .
These parents are delusional OMG !!!
It is so strange for me.. (i'm from the netherlands) a rehearsal dinner...😂😂😂 why.... why do you have to rehears for a wedding... it is so extreem strange....
A rehearsal dinner is not rehearsing for a wedding. It's a dinner you have for out of town guests the night before the wedding. But I agree, it's too much of an expense since your guests will be eating anyway at the reception after the wedding.
@@DarkPhoenixSaga in the netherlands we sometimes have a diner after the reception....
Nothing more boring than someone talking about their wedding. ZZZzzzz...
Yet you’re here
Go down to the courthouse like my husband and I did.
Somebody must’ve cheated
That’s so ridiculous to ask for the money back after the wedding. When he gets married next if he wants to this time let him pay for it.
Living together first actually does not bode well for marriage longevity 😢❤
My parents eloped, never have worn rings, and are still married 49yrs later. It's the love not the wedding that'll see you thru💞
I flew to a wedding in May by July, and they were over. The frustrated part of me wanted my gift back. How does a wedding and piece of paper end a union. They much have hoped it would solve an already broken relationship. I get why parents want money back. Unfortunately, it's a lesson learned
We spent £165. Been married 31 years. Everyone seems to spend a fortune trying to get a unique event but they all end up looking the same.
2 months. WHAT THE HELL? i'd want my money back to.
😂hahahaha 😂😂😂 , if "it's not gonna happen ", then why does Judge Judy continue with the case? Hahahaha 😆 😂 !!
Weddings are about a young girl's dream to be a princess for a day, with beautiful dresses, flowers, pageantry and the all-important pictures and video. It may cost a lot of money but it's important to the bride and should be funded.
khong biet do loi duong truyenf cua toi hay cua ban nua y
Disrespectful to let people pay out for a wedding and then the couple not be bothered to make the marriage work after only a couple of months.
Unless the couple committed some kind of fraud, I can’t see the plaintiff’s winning.
Tu khi toi nhin thay video nay la no khien toi vui ve va cuoi len oi. Video nay la cua toi, toi thich chung that su rat nhieu
I feel bad for the parents. They’re not gonna get anything because that’s not how it works. But their son is a bum if he doesn’t at least contribute to his own wedding.
I hope they learn from this and refuse to help him with anything in the future. He’s too ungrateful and has no moral compass
I have been married and divorced twice.
Note to self:
NEVER AGAIN
Word of advice to sny young couple wanting to get married: keep the wedding simple or RUN
My husband and I had a BLAST making most of our decorations ourselves. The marriage is SIGNIFICANTLY more important then the wedding.
Weddings are such a waste of money and effort. I can’t imagine having over 100 people watch me get married. That’s gotta be padded. People tend to use weddings to show the resources they want to portray they have when many can’t even afford their weddings. Just odd to me.
how much money should i give as a gift as a guest to a big italian wedding in new york?
I actually kind of sort of get why the plantiffare annoyed I’m being annoyed too but you don’t get your money back for paying for your own son/daughter’s wedding. Plus usually parents don’t expect the kids to pay them back. It sucks, but it is what it is if he remarries the parents should just be like “we don’t got the money, you pay it for it yourself” lol
Makes a change. Most JJ wedding cases are the Karenette brides complaining that someone ruined their special day.
Princess for a day or down payment for a house? ...seems very clear to me.