Basically that you do not have the urge to have sex with someone really old and unattractive from your viewpoint. You don't want to have sex with absolutely everyone and everything right?@@Brago.Oficial
Not the point. Point is most people don’t want sex to be an issue in a relationship. It is a massive problem in normal relationships whether they are gay or straight. 99% of people are sexual and don’t want to ever feel rejected. Asexual people by nature have a tendency of neglecting sexual advances which makes normal sexual people feel dejected. Therefore no one wants to risk that. Imagine buying shoes that are engineered to be 25% more likely to twist your ankle. You probably would not buy those shoes. Imagine a hot chick says upfront on the first date sex will be rare. Sorry 99% of the fish in the sea don’t have that personal issue. Sex is among the top issues to come up in relationships next to commitment.
I would never date an asexual person regardless of how much sex they were willing to have with me. It would never be enough, because they wouldn’t want it in the same way and for the same reasons as me.
That was really interesting to hear what other people think as an asexual person myself. Thank you for doing this, it kinda opened my eyes that sex is a big thing for some people
Asexuality certainly does not mean no sex ever. A lot of asexuals have sex. Asexuality just means a lack of sexual attraction. As an asexual, you should know better to correct harmful misinformation such as that.
Sex, and sexual attraction (as the other person mentioned, those don’t always go hand in hand for all asexuals), are a “big thing” for MOST people. Asexuals should stick to dating other asexuals.
@@THE_SABRETOOTH_SPECTREMost allosexual people still wouldn’t want to (knowingly) date an asexual person regardless of how much sex they may be willing to have/interested in having. Most of us allosexuals only want to date people we have sex with, AND only want to have sex with people who are _sexually attracted to us in the same way we are to them._
@@THE_SABRETOOTH_SPECTRE I realize that wasn't your main point, but it was a point of yours I wanted to respond to: that many asexuals have sex. My response was that, for most allosexuals, sex that isn't motivated by mutual sexual attraction is simply not enough for most allosexual partners. Most allosexuals want sexual attraction from a partner -- not simply the sex act(s) itself. Of course, I hope everyone finds the type of love they desire! But asexuality is an inherent incompatibility that can't be bandaided over by simply having sex. For me, it wouldn't matter if we had sex every single day: I could not date/keep dating (like if they came out after we'd started dating) someone who doesn't experience sexual attraction. Most allos I know are like this.
If I wasn't aromantic, I certainly would since I'm asexual myself (though, I did question being gay at first because I knew early on that I didn't have ANY interest in women. And I have had a few short term relationships with both as well as some offers for such that I politely refused). Yes, we can be in relationships and go on dates. We're not some kind of incels *" It would be more logical for an asexual to date other asexuals."* Which unfortunately becomes much more difficult as the percentage of us are in the single digits of the population, and there's significantly fewer ace men than women.
The small population size is definitely rough, and I’m sorry y’all deal with that! Most allosexuals still should never date an asexual person, so it is what it is I guess.
Asexual: Someone who feels little to no sexual *attraction.* Not only is the asexual spectrum fairly wide, but an asexual person’s inclination/attitude towards sex itself varies from person to person; This is oftentimes described or indicated with the terms: - sex-favorable or sex-positive - sex-neutral, - or sex-repulsed or sex-averse. **Slight note: “Sex-positive,” in this context is NOT to be confused with the political-ideological movement of the same name, which supports individual sexual liberation; You can be ANY type of asexual and be politically sex-positive, even if it’s just for others. It’s because of this association that “sex-favorable” is now considered the more accurate term.** All asexuals - with some exceptions, it’s a complex spectrum - still share in common that baseline lack of sexual attraction; A baseline lack of the attraction that makes you find people appealing *sexually* or stimulating for sexual desires. So oftentimes, asexual people won’t initiate sexual activity, because it’s not on our mind as much and it’s not something we feel a strong URGE to do with any particular person. But we CAN have any attitude towards sexual activities once we are in those moments. Sex-favorable asexuals can enjoy sex; this could be for physiological reasons, sensation wise, or as another means of emotional connection with their partner, etc. Some of them DO seek it out themselves, but oftentimes it’s only thought about when initiated by an allosexual (or “sexual”) partner and they’re like “Oh right, this is fun! Sure!” Sex-neutral asexuals feel neither strong positive, nor strong negative feelings towards having sex; They don’t desire it themselves, but they don’t hate it or feel uncomfortable by it. Oftentimes, they will have sex in committed relationships with an allosexual partner. Then there are sex-repulsed or sex-averse asexuals. I am one, myself. :) Sex-repulsed or sex-averse asexuals have a negative relationship with having sex. This can range from just very disinterested in sex: finding it to be like performing a chore, a waste of time, like an invasive medical exam, or otherwise just so uncomfortable/boring that they don’t want to engage in it - to SO grossed out or disturbed by it that they don’t want to engage in it. This can vary in intensity. Some people can even feel nauseous at the thought of being involved in a sexual act, or when they’re put in that situation. (This is how I feel.) Disclaimer: I don’t represent every asexual person, and particularly with the other types of non-repulsed/averse aces, I am paraphrasing what I’ve heard from others in those categories, but I may get things wrong. Every asexual person is different. If you have an asexual partner, try not to assume what their relationship with sex itself or other things are. You could ask them if they’re comfortable discussing their feelings on it with you, but they may not be. It’s very hard to describe these things, especially when you’re afraid your partner will think less of you. Mutual CONSENT and respecting boundaries are always the most important thing in any relationship where sexual intimacy is engaged in or attempted. Your partner is an individual and they alone have the answers about what they’re comfortable with certain things or not. The Asexual spectrum - Acespec - is fairly wide. Some people are what’s known as demi-sexual or gray-sexual or various other things: those two CAN feel sexual attraction in rare circumstances/under rare conditions. Demi-sexuals 2:37 , for example, can feel sexual attraction after certain emotional bonds form to trigger it.
I personally feel it would be wisest for an asexual who wants a monogamous partner to make sure their partner either is also asexual/ has a low libido naturally or is sexual and mutually agrees to your sexual desires or should I say non sexual desires in the relationship. It is not fair for the asexual to expect their partner to be celibate or engage in a less warm sexual connection where they do not feel deep attraction through making love. For me as a sexual, making love is not just physical but deeply emotional and spiritual.
Next time maybe don't refer to someone's potential partner as a man if they don't give you any indication of what their preference is (aka using 'they' pronouns etc), overall an interesting interview tho :)
My partner is asexual and I’m beyond miserable even though I love him. I wish I had broken up with him at the beginning when the lack of sex first became an issue. Now I just feel stuck because I love him too much to leave, but I’m genuinely the most miserable I’ve ever felt in a relationship. I doubt we’ll make it (because I will die at this rate.) I just need to muster up the will to finally leave him. After this, I would NEVER date another asexual person. It’s a different sexual orientation than I am and it’s absolutely not compatible with me.✋ I think asexuals should stick to dating other asexuals. You guys can’t understand how devastating this is for us, and you have no empathy about it. It’s cruel. Just stick to dating other people on the ace spectrum and don’t ensnare allosexuals and then force us into a life of celibacy. It’s so wrong.
@@Brago.Oficiala spectrum that encompasses people who experience little to no sexual attraction. They could be aromantic asexual and experience no romantic or sexual attraction. Or just be Ace and experience romantic attraction but be anything from sex repulsed to sex favourable (happy to have sex for reasons like wanting to express love or intimacy. A demisexual only develops sexual attraction after having a long period of time to form a deep bond with a specific person. plus many other unique experiences and identities…
Sex is part of life, and it's part of being in a relationship. Being with an asexual person has its upsides\downsides to it. Sometimes it's hard to deal with, when one person wants sex and the other doesn't. For asexual people, the thought of sex, watching a sex scene in a movie and hearing people talk about sex grosses them out. They tend to have sex with their partner, either to give it a try or out of fear of losing them. An asexual person finds cuddling to be more intimate, than doing sexual things with their partner and sometimes it can be difficult to accept. Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't and that's ok. If your love for your girlfriend or boyfriend is strong enough to balance the sex issue, then the relationship should be fine.
Most allosexuals could never love a partner “enough” to balance out the lack of MUTUAL sexual attraction. For me, I don’t care if I felt a partner was the love of my life: if they came out to me as asexual, the relationship would be immediately over.
This video is spreading misinformation about what asexuality is. Besides, he's assuming that all those women are hetero, but did he even ask them if they liked guys?
I would unfollow him if he goes from social experiments to pranking. They are not the same in any way. I would not mind if he does vlogs though, this RUclips channel is about him and the women.
Being asexual doesn't mean you don't want to ever have sex.plenty of asexuals are sex positive. Asexuality is about sexual attraction, not libido.
But how would you have libido without sexual attraction? It doesn't make sense.
Basically that you do not have the urge to have sex with someone really old and unattractive from your viewpoint. You don't want to have sex with absolutely everyone and everything right?@@Brago.Oficial
Not the point. Point is most people don’t want sex to be an issue in a relationship. It is a massive problem in normal relationships whether they are gay or straight. 99% of people are sexual and don’t want to ever feel rejected. Asexual people by nature have a tendency of neglecting sexual advances which makes normal sexual people feel dejected. Therefore no one wants to risk that. Imagine buying shoes that are engineered to be 25% more likely to twist your ankle. You probably would not buy those shoes. Imagine a hot chick says upfront on the first date sex will be rare. Sorry 99% of the fish in the sea don’t have that personal issue. Sex is among the top issues to come up in relationships next to commitment.
I would never date an asexual person regardless of how much sex they were willing to have with me. It would never be enough, because they wouldn’t want it in the same way and for the same reasons as me.
That was really interesting to hear what other people think as an asexual person myself. Thank you for doing this, it kinda opened my eyes that sex is a big thing for some people
Asexuality certainly does not mean no sex ever. A lot of asexuals have sex. Asexuality just means a lack of sexual attraction. As an asexual, you should know better to correct harmful misinformation such as that.
Sex, and sexual attraction (as the other person mentioned, those don’t always go hand in hand for all asexuals), are a “big thing” for MOST people. Asexuals should stick to dating other asexuals.
@@THE_SABRETOOTH_SPECTREMost allosexual people still wouldn’t want to (knowingly) date an asexual person regardless of how much sex they may be willing to have/interested in having.
Most of us allosexuals only want to date people we have sex with, AND only want to have sex with people who are _sexually attracted to us in the same way we are to them._
@@DannyD-lr5yg My point had nothing to do with that.
@@THE_SABRETOOTH_SPECTRE I realize that wasn't your main point, but it was a point of yours I wanted to respond to: that many asexuals have sex.
My response was that, for most allosexuals, sex that isn't motivated by mutual sexual attraction is simply not enough for most allosexual partners. Most allosexuals want sexual attraction from a partner -- not simply the sex act(s) itself.
Of course, I hope everyone finds the type of love they desire! But asexuality is an inherent incompatibility that can't be bandaided over by simply having sex. For me, it wouldn't matter if we had sex every single day: I could not date/keep dating (like if they came out after we'd started dating) someone who doesn't experience sexual attraction. Most allos I know are like this.
If I wasn't aromantic, I certainly would since I'm asexual myself (though, I did question being gay at first because I knew early on that I didn't have ANY interest in women. And I have had a few short term relationships with both as well as some offers for such that I politely refused).
Yes, we can be in relationships and go on dates. We're not some kind of incels
*" It would be more logical for an asexual to date other asexuals."*
Which unfortunately becomes much more difficult as the percentage of us are in the single digits of the population, and there's significantly fewer ace men than women.
The small population size is definitely rough, and I’m sorry y’all deal with that! Most allosexuals still should never date an asexual person, so it is what it is I guess.
I really enjoy this channel! Congratulations
Asexual does not mean they dont ever want to have sex😆
It depends on the person
exactly asexual is a spectrum 😂😂😂
What it means then?
@@Brago.OficialThe most solid definition would be "lack of or no sexual attraction". Which is separate from not wanting to have sex
They just half asexual.
Asexual: Someone who feels little to no sexual *attraction.*
Not only is the asexual spectrum fairly wide, but an asexual person’s inclination/attitude towards sex itself varies from person to person; This is oftentimes described or indicated with the terms:
- sex-favorable or sex-positive
- sex-neutral,
- or sex-repulsed or sex-averse.
**Slight note: “Sex-positive,” in this context is NOT to be confused with the political-ideological movement of the same name, which supports individual sexual liberation; You can be ANY type of asexual and be politically sex-positive, even if it’s just for others. It’s because of this association that “sex-favorable” is now considered the more accurate term.**
All asexuals - with some exceptions, it’s a complex spectrum - still share in common that baseline lack of sexual attraction; A baseline lack of the attraction that makes you find people appealing *sexually* or stimulating for sexual desires.
So oftentimes, asexual people won’t initiate sexual activity, because it’s not on our mind as much and it’s not something we feel a strong URGE to do with any particular person.
But we CAN have any attitude towards sexual activities once we are in those moments.
Sex-favorable asexuals can enjoy sex; this could be for physiological reasons, sensation wise, or as another means of emotional connection with their partner, etc. Some of them DO seek it out themselves, but oftentimes it’s only thought about when initiated by an allosexual (or “sexual”) partner and they’re like “Oh right, this is fun! Sure!”
Sex-neutral asexuals feel neither strong positive, nor strong negative feelings towards having sex; They don’t desire it themselves, but they don’t hate it or feel uncomfortable by it. Oftentimes, they will have sex in committed relationships with an allosexual partner.
Then there are sex-repulsed or sex-averse asexuals. I am one, myself. :)
Sex-repulsed or sex-averse asexuals have a negative relationship with having sex. This can range from just very disinterested in sex: finding it to be like performing a chore, a waste of time, like an invasive medical exam, or otherwise just so uncomfortable/boring that they don’t want to engage in it - to SO grossed out or disturbed by it that they don’t want to engage in it. This can vary in intensity. Some people can even feel nauseous at the thought of being involved in a sexual act, or when they’re put in that situation. (This is how I feel.)
Disclaimer: I don’t represent every asexual person, and particularly with the other types of non-repulsed/averse aces, I am paraphrasing what I’ve heard from others in those categories, but I may get things wrong. Every asexual person is different.
If you have an asexual partner, try not to assume what their relationship with sex itself or other things are. You could ask them if they’re comfortable discussing their feelings on it with you, but they may not be. It’s very hard to describe these things, especially when you’re afraid your partner will think less of you.
Mutual CONSENT and respecting boundaries are always the most important thing in any relationship where sexual intimacy is engaged in or attempted. Your partner is an individual and they alone have the answers about what they’re comfortable with certain things or not.
The Asexual spectrum - Acespec - is fairly wide. Some people are what’s known as demi-sexual or gray-sexual or various other things: those two CAN feel sexual attraction in rare circumstances/under rare conditions. Demi-sexuals 2:37 , for example, can feel sexual attraction after certain emotional bonds form to trigger it.
I personally feel it would be wisest for an asexual who wants a monogamous partner to make sure their partner either is also asexual/ has a low libido naturally or is sexual and mutually agrees to your sexual desires or should I say non sexual desires in the relationship.
It is not fair for the asexual to expect their partner to be celibate or engage in a less warm sexual connection where they do not feel deep attraction through making love.
For me as a sexual, making love is not just physical but deeply emotional and spiritual.
Bro your quality interview and video super good but the problem is why u cut those video become short so making us watch not good enough
Would you date someone asian?
Next time maybe don't refer to someone's potential partner as a man if they don't give you any indication of what their preference is (aka using 'they' pronouns etc), overall an interesting interview tho :)
Hmmm I know myself well enough to know for sure it wouldn't be a good idea
5:55 "I believe that sex is made to be had."
Love the last girl.
My partner is asexual and I’m beyond miserable even though I love him. I wish I had broken up with him at the beginning when the lack of sex first became an issue. Now I just feel stuck because I love him too much to leave, but I’m genuinely the most miserable I’ve ever felt in a relationship. I doubt we’ll make it (because I will die at this rate.) I just need to muster up the will to finally leave him. After this, I would NEVER date another asexual person. It’s a different sexual orientation than I am and it’s absolutely not compatible with me.✋ I think asexuals should stick to dating other asexuals. You guys can’t understand how devastating this is for us, and you have no empathy about it. It’s cruel. Just stick to dating other people on the ace spectrum and don’t ensnare allosexuals and then force us into a life of celibacy. It’s so wrong.
He doesn’t even know the definition of asexuality 😂
What's the definition then?
@@Brago.Oficial I think very low sexual desire. not neccesarily non existent.
@@Brago.Oficiala spectrum that encompasses people who experience little to no sexual attraction. They could be aromantic asexual and experience no romantic or sexual attraction. Or just be Ace and experience romantic attraction but be anything from sex repulsed to sex favourable (happy to have sex for reasons like wanting to express love or intimacy. A demisexual only develops sexual attraction after having a long period of time to form a deep bond with a specific person. plus many other unique experiences and identities…
@@dizzy_izzy_ohh I just found out that I'm aromantic 💀
Only girls??
Thank youu
Sex is part of life, and it's part of being in a relationship. Being with an asexual person has its upsides\downsides to it. Sometimes it's hard to deal with, when one person wants sex and the other doesn't. For asexual people, the thought of sex, watching a sex scene in a movie and hearing people talk about sex grosses them out. They tend to have sex with their partner, either to give it a try or out of fear of losing them. An asexual person finds cuddling to be more intimate, than doing sexual things with their partner and sometimes it can be difficult to accept. Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't and that's ok. If your love for your girlfriend or boyfriend is strong enough to balance the sex issue, then the relationship should be fine.
Most allosexuals could never love a partner “enough” to balance out the lack of MUTUAL sexual attraction.
For me, I don’t care if I felt a partner was the love of my life: if they came out to me as asexual, the relationship would be immediately over.
This video is spreading misinformation about what asexuality is. Besides, he's assuming that all those women are hetero, but did he even ask them if they liked guys?
Which country are your from broo
He is from America 🇺🇸 more specifically Tennessee.
I am quite new here, however that is what I heard.
Idk what country his parents are from
bro just keep making these videos and try to colab and also try public pranks and dont do vlogs
I would unfollow him if he goes from social experiments to pranking.
They are not the same in any way.
I would not mind if he does vlogs though, this RUclips channel is about him and the women.