“Not feeling good enough for someone who treats them right” Almost cried. Punching the air rn. My ex was good enough but I remember crying every time he pointed out something about me. He didn’t mean any harm, but I felt offended and felt like I wasn’t good enough, that I need to try harder for him. And eventually it pushed him over the edge thinking he wasn’t good enough for me, because I have high standards. Literally mirrored me and dumped me, thinking we aren’t compatible. Now I think HE wasn’t good enough for me, because he couldn’t stand my anxious attachment style. He was my first boyfriend and first man I fell in love with.. I lacked the experience and was emotionally attached because of these reasons. I’ve been working on myself and I’m learning to let him go.
As an older ENTJ woman, I did relate to alot of what you said. When I was growing up, being a decisive, direct, independent, non emotional woman was not thought highly of. My father never accused me of being a boy, but he did not think that I was smart, college material, or competent. So I did have a complex that I wasn't good enough. (I was the only one in my family who graduated from college, and I worked my way through) Age and wisdom takes care of those fears. Never had problems with men not complimenting me, but I did have alot of trouble making and keeping women friends. They did not get me. I thought that most of them were superficial and silly and overly emotional. I had no idea how rare my personality is. But i did think that many of my traits were more masculine than feminine. I do relate to dressing up to go out to the clubs or to a first date to make a good impression!
Completely relate. And all my male friends that i eventually had crushes on before they left, thought i was too much, too loud, and never gave them the opportunity to initiate things. And female friends I've had either didn't relate to me or criticized me because i hung out with the boys alot. My dad has always made me feel i wasn't worth anything which fueled my ambitiousness and competitive nature to try and prove him and other men in my life wrong.
Enfp male here, entj women definitely have something to them, but it's sometimes really hard to get to their (Fi). You really have to go the extra mile so that their Ne(Critic) doesn't assume bad intentions from you
Wow this hit me right in the gut. My domineering father was so hard on me as an ENTJ female. I became very avoidant in terms of intimate relationships for a long time.
@@geminifreestyle3697 personality types are based on temperament, ergo your personality traits you are born with. You cannot 'become' a different personality type, however your personal views and experiences can influence in which way you express (or don't) said personality types.
Took me a while to finally learn from my relationship with my father that i should only put out what others give me and not to waste time on people who aren't worth it. Too many times my father has disrespected and downgraded my efforts to give him respect and love and now I'm learning to disregard his toxic behavior and not let myself cry over it anymore. I hope you're okay.
Haha good one! But seriously, I just found your channel and pretty much am enjoying watching your videos and learning more about all these cognitive functions. Thank you for sharing these. This particular video literally opened my eyes on why I can't resist entps lol
I broke up with my ENTJ girlfriend, but I haven't had a relationship that I enjoyed like that since we split. She was ENTJ, I'm INTP. Only reason we broke up was because i moved to a different state but we still had this weird connection and ability to talk about ANYTHING from people to psychology to metaphysics then music. The level of similar taste is amazing. And she always jokes about having kids with me even tho we split. She later told me how she recently went to a therapist and talked to them about her sex addiction, not even particularly the sex itself but the feeling of control it gave her over guys she barely had interest in. ENTJ women might be top 5 in all honesty (that's mainly an INTP bias) because their level of comfort with honesty, psychological/machiavellian concepts, people, confidence, sex, family, law, engineering and life is pretty amazing...they are just RARE AS FUCK so as an INTP out dating they can feel hard to find. That intellectual stimulation they give you is dope
LOL! So true. Me, female INTP, walks into bar, grows impatient after about 15 mintues. "Why isn't anyone engaging me in a passionate political/metaphysical debate and similar foreplay and trying to covertly angle me toward their front door already? Why the hell else would I be here...oh, that guy looks like the least stupid, most unique character in bar." Pounce. And bringing friends to the bar when I'm on the prowl is just weird. What are they going to do while I'm busy seducing someone and subsequently having sex with them? And eww, I would never take them to my place when we first meet as I don't know that I want them to know where I live yet lol.
I was tested online as INTJ but I’ve been diving deep... I think I’m ENTJ. This resonated quite a bit more to me especially with the subconscious, unconscious, and superego AND especially because my bf of 3 years is an INTP and he melts my heart and he is my canvass in the bedroom. Wow... this is exactly to the tee how I function. My INTP bf has me tied around his finger and I am very protective of him. He is very sincere but he has unknowingly followed all these steps... I’ve known him for 22 years now.
This is accurate. As an ENTJ woman, I related to everything said. I am happily married to an INTP man, now I know exactly why! My INTP just gets me, and he always gives me fresh perspective which I’d otherwise overlook. Everyday he challenges me to be better, and I appreciate that. Likewise, I do the same for him. Your videos are great, you truly have a gift for this.
Thank you for this video. I'm INTJ and not an ENTJ but this video touched me to the core. It really means the world to that someone aknowledges how much we are broken hearted because everybody think that we are manly just because we want to control our own lives, how much w starve to have someone who (sincerely) gives a damn about what we want to show. I really wonder how INTJs deffer from ENTJs... Still, thank you, this really enlightened my day !
Cool video, thank you for sharing! I'm a female ENTP and my boyfriend is ENTJ and I cannot say how accurate your descriptions are. We figured out how to interact with each other quite harmoniously early on, but I like the validation your videos provide. It all seems really spot on, and you definitely defined some of the things I only understood abstractly. Thank you for helping me understand more about his thought processes! :) (I also never realized how lucky I am being able to find an ENTJ partner, and INTJ best friend! It makes sense!)
ENTJ female here! Before starting this video, in order to check its accuracy, I decided to make a list of all the traits someone would require for me to enjoy their presence. He covered everything that was on my list, and I'm slightly worried
My dad LOvED my masculine style strength. He had no use for weak women and was glad I wasn’t that. My mom wasn’t so sure. She was convinced God wouldn’t approve of me not needing men. Took me along time to get ok with my ENTJ.
As an ENTJ woman I can only agree on everything so far. My ENTJ husband approached me 3 times until I realized that he’s really interested. I question EVERYTHING. I wanna know more about him, his intentions, his goals etc.
I feel so seen as an ENTJ woman, I've been pressured to fit into the feminine frame and attitude for so long that now that I'm older I'm more comfortable with my need for control in a relationship. This behavior was indeed surpressed around my father. Thanks for making this :)
ENTJ woman here, I want to say that you were very accurate and that I really appreciate the last thing that you said about not getting the heart o fan ENTJ woman hurt, that is adorable. Thank you....
Thanks for this. As an INTP assessing what I want and am most attracted to in a partner, I've realised ENTJ or thereabouts is the perfect fit. I fucking love women with strong minds and wills - I think it's actually a little amazing that they'd go unappreciated by the average man.
I'm just waiting for you to rename this video. "A PATHWAY TO DONALD J. TRUMP HEART (How To Social Engineer ENTJs)" pls pls do it and I AM SI CHILD I CAN WAIT FOREVER LOVE THIS IDEA
I think trump may have had an entj business wife before and divorced her because of her business drive then decided he prefers women who just lay on their backs.
Great insight! And if I'm honest I'm flattered that you would take the time and give your attention to the ENTJ woman. It is hard out there. Until recently I didn't realize that there were others like me. I just didn't know. In a way it has been good to see hey I'm not strange. I dont have unrealistic expectations. Its ok to want to be wanted....etc. I would like to add that not all ENTJs fathers are bad/not supportive. Mine is awesome and I would say the only man I know who actually gets me and appreciates me. He is always up for an intelligent conversation and values my thoughts and opinions. I'm sure there are others out there like him. Anyway...thanks again for your time.
There is a film called A Lot Like Love portraying a supposed ENTJ-female INTP-male romantic dynamic which I recommend everyone on this comment thread watch. Also, this video does us ENTJ women justice so thank you, Chase. An ENTJ woman always wants to find out more about a potential romantic partner (whether booty call or serious relationship LOL) but I don't think we respond well to being told something super sensitive if it is shared in a manipulative or lying way. -ENTJ female
Finally an explanation of how I, as a very typical nerdy INTP, managed to pick up the most beautiful women in the nightclubs when I was in my 20's oblivious to personality types. Normal women found me to be nerdy and ridiculous. Only the most amazing beautiful women were ever interested in me.
ENTJ woman confessing that I was stuck in an abusive relationship for awhile. Let myself fall in love in the first place because the guy's best quality was being loyal. But he was an asshole and one of the many shitty examples of why was that he told me he wouldn't care if I wanted sex or not, he'd rape me. The loyalty thing is pretty spot on, and that bad experience really hurt me - I haven't been in a relationship since. But remain open to finding the right person.
Thanks Chase for this one. This vid came at a good time. Me, the INTP dad, with an ENTJ teen daughter. There are some things I had already figured out and you gave some interaction tools that I haven't employed (of course a tool is just that and in your example, the tools were applied to the bar scene). It's been fairly straight forward for me learning how to council her but to discipline through consequences of removing freedoms is a fine line with her. Which is tough because there aren't a lot other options. There are some, just not a lot. Anyway, this one is going into a save file for later reference. Thanks again.
You're good, but I still wouldn't fall for all that especially at a bar. You'd be walking away in under a minute. An entj woman falling for this would have to be a bit on the desperate side. But I will admit I'd be just a bit flattered. You would definitely make me smile. Good luck attempting this.
This video was a revelation for me! I thought for years I am an ENTP and got like 50% ENTP and 50% ENTJ on all kinds of tests.. I wanted to be an ENTP, because they are cool 😎 and I have some traits that are similar, but a very good friend of mine is ENTP and I kinda thought we are alike but not the same.. Now, after this video a lot of pieces fell into place.. thankful ENTJ here :-)
The effort you put into the video and going through every comment is appreciated❤. I couldn't stop laughing at the thought of some one complementing Trump on his hair😂. I always can't wait to see the next video and learn more.
This approach worked in a college classroom on me. This video was too illuminating and frustrating. It’s too true, just want to be valued and have a loyal partner. I want to create such an amazing experience to the person I choose and be appreciated for that. I don’t know where I’m ever going to get the kind of validation I crave. 😂😂Men don’t care about the effort dressing up, don’t like direct (at work or personal life.) I feel generally like all my efforts are useless. I’m also at the point where I’m so frustrated at work that I’m looking at my own opportunities so it was really funny to hear that. Thank you for making this.
I was going to point out how manipulative this video feels for me, just another ENTJ woman, when i heard what you said at the end. I can say i really like the way you explain what you have to say and the appreciation i can hear in your words and voice when you talk about the ENTJ women. I can say it definitely makes me feel generally appreciated. Thank you for your videos.
Well. Came here to try and pick apart how this wasn’t correct- turns out you’re pretty correct and this is basically what I go for. Goddamn you mister pick up man. ENTJ woman here to say that this is pretty accurate and I really didn’t want it to be so that holds a bit of weight I guess.
Best of luck IRL and hope all gets well, CSJ! Don't worry about online stuff please, we can all wait. Video is spot on and I'm pretty sure ENTJ women might cry on their own just watching this, thank you for making such amazing content for everyone. -Loknir from your disc server (join it, people! It's amazing ;) )
I am dying this is the most funny ENTJ video of all times. .. ENTJ woman here..wow this is so good.. this was funny and so sad at the same time.. I guess only an INFJ could have this level of insight?
What's up Chase, great video as per usual. I'm sure this has been suggested before, but it'd be fantastic to do a lecture on how substances affect type (especially given the opioid epidemic). Went to dinner at my boyfriend's sister's house tonight, and it's painfully obvious, at least to me, that she's using again. Absolutely tore my heart out to see how this is impacting her psyche.
Awesome. Also I hope that head throb heartlike comment didn't give any strange implications earlier, I was Foster Wallace-ing it up on the train back from work & just thought it was an excellent description for a melding of the minds kind of deal. Then again, my suspicion is that it's hard to keep these comments straight anyway & so chances are good you won't have a clue what I'm talking about 😆
I'm no expert and it's certainly a nitpick but isn't calling ENTJs leaders sorta misleading in the sense that while they often find themselves in leadership positions, it's because that's the most effective (in their mind) path forward. I do believe ENTJs have no problem following, or more accurately being a respected advisor, if they find the current leader competent or better.
As an ENTJ, I do not want to follow because I don't like being told what to do. Also I'd probably think I could do a better job than the current leader. If the significance in experience etc is too big however, another leader would be alright, although I do think that I would rather still have a leadership role instead of advising someone without any confidence that my advice will be used.
You are correct sir. I am more of a follower, but only if I respect the leader. I will step in to lead in a situation if I see that others are hesitant to do so. Especially emergency type situations.
Dude you are so on point! I am an ENTJ-A but that came as no surprise. When I started reading about this all the signs were there even from early childhood. When I was 13 I knew how far I wanted to take my schooling. I knew I wanted to study abroad and study for a PhD at the age of 13! Later on in life I've taken charge of situations of predicted failure and dragged an entire group to success. I've single handed taken on naysayers and later earned their respect.
I went through a roller coast of emotions watching this. LOL. 1 minute I was like oh shit I'm being called out. Next, a little embarrassed, a few times I belly laughed. You know, all of us ENTJ women were just watching this really appreciating how well you put this together and your research, just all around intelligence. Great job!
“I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, if I could give you a hug I would” literally something I’ve said to someone and genuinely meant it. INTP confirmed? 😂 Hello ENTJs 👋
If a man ever treated me like this I would propose to him and probably be the happiest ever. This is quite stunning that to this point noone ever understood me like that. And how foolish of me not to hunt down intp before... Also you really moved me in the end. Greeitngs from entj-a.
My Fe Demon just said, "screw horoscopes & kino - this is gold, if I could only profile them now." Your take on ENTJ parents STRONG. What I identified with in the The Fighter, Melissa Leo's character's dysfunction all Mickey he can do anything and its still not enough - people that say the "love" them, really love the magic show, because what we do is impossible to them but they love the experience and just keep asking for encores.
Oh my this is so accurate. One of my best friends is an ENTJ woman and I am constantly reassuring her through her transition from undergrad to whatever she ends up in next. Very much worth it because I know for as loyal and caring as I am to her she'll be to me. Cant wait to see the content for ENTPs
Aaaaand this season helps me understand the theoretical aspects of jungian analytical psychology so. much. more. If everyone watched these videos, communication between people would be way easier in times of conflict...
Brilliant! Im pleased you have highlighted how rare we are! We are super efficient, fact based individuals who hate wasting time. It is so difficult to find people around me who can offer such stimulating conversation but this doesn't frustrate us for too long because we are high achievers. Ive been with an INFP (yes I made him take the (test) who is very intersting and sweet. Considering I like drum and bass, poker, crazy sports and gaming and im asian its SO rare to find another person like me!! But that is the beauty of being rare ☺
Another informative video, I especially like your thoughts on type emulation, and I have long believed each type is capable of emulating any other type, yet most people may do this by accident however the key is to know what to do so your emulation is percieved accurately. Good work. Btw as a NTP I use the bar scene to engage my NTJ shadow for some suprising results. 😉
Reading the comments about crying from ENTJ women thinking they must not be if they are crying about a video... only to find myself stabbed in the heart and soon crying with your super accurate descriptions. Feel like I’ve been poured out across the screen... thank you so much for such insight and care of us.
definitely true 100% i have a woman entj friend and yeah that's makes sense .. she had a boyfriend one day she told me he was older than her i think 4 or 5 years he was smart , brilliant in college however he began his career and knowledgeable he loves reading and he always treated her like a queen alwayss and let her control everything she loves to be free so that she will give him best experience and when he admitted his love to her that he told her that he thought she is attractive to him and he fell in love with her she was shocked like is that true she went to the dining room and their eyes meet again she looked away but he looked at her eyes like yeah that's true i love you and i want to be with you forever you are amazing .. and she told me that one day he went to a family which i think they wanted their daughter to be his wife i think .. so my friend knew that and she asked him to tell her every single detail from his entrance to leaving that house and he accepted to tell her everything to relieve her doubts because he wanted her to have long relationship and they agreed to be engaged but unfortunately he had an accident and he died before their engagement ... she believed that she will never find sb like him and yeah from her talks about him he was special yeah and she also believe that all men are stupid i hope she will find sb that convince her to live with because i feel sad for her you did a great job and this episode you worked hard and you want to like please us because you obligated that you should post to teach us because you cared about us so we really appericate that you worked three days in row and you was sick and tired and i can see it
For what's apparently an emasculating type, I find sub focused ENTJ women to be cute, innocent, adorable, and overall feminine much of the time. To be fair, I'm a shadow focused ENTP male who is on the path of building their masculinity. So what I described would be very compatible with me. The ENTJ girls who do come off more masculine would be the shadow focused ones.
This is exactly what I needed...even tho I'm not trying to pick up an ENTJ female from a bar. But I needed to know how to socially engineer an ENTJ. So I have to commend you this is creepily accurate in many situations. All this ENTJ behavior now makes sense to me.
This is the first video I've watch from you and it's so insanely accurate (ENTJ). Some really intense Ti analysis here. Where do you learn this? I'm curious?
(ENTJ girl ) Why do i feel like the first part is also part of the social engineering 😂 (you guys are misunderstood, i feel you i understand you, the slightly angled torso, expressive palms up hand movements, eye contact, style of speech, playing with the marker to engage the audience etc )in addition to being slightly feminine combined with direct facts and logic as the ENTP. You even told us one of your "super sensitive" things at the end part with "don't break the heart of an entj woman "with body and facial language. and judging by the comments its clearly working. Anyways great video liked and subbed
You know this lecture is almost eerie in its accuracy and in a good way (Hear me out, I know this is long, but I'm an INTP man and I can't be succinct to save my life): I am an INTP man. I've seen the "How to social engineer INTP's" and now I've also seen this video, "How to Social Engineer ENTJ's" and frankly both videos hit home so hard it hurts. I've been played by ENTJ women who were sirens trying to con me and it really fucking hurt me. I've had a huge fear of "manipulative women" for a long time. The moment someone plays mind games or make me feel like they are social engineering me even for a minute, I'm outta there. It was that bad for me. And then later in life I learned how to "play a sucker to catch a player" I know you say it like "play a sucker to catch a sucker" but I prefer it my way as it is more accurate. IN ANY CASE, through working on my jungian shadow and reintegrating my own "suppressed power" and stop trying to be a "nice guy" and get used by women who don't give a shit about me. I've come into the realization that ENTJ women are my kryptonite in that they can do the most damage to me, but they are also exactly what I need at my side. I believe that the whole "Twin flame" paradigm or dialectic is really an analogy or parable or metaphor for "You need to fully work on yourself and become mature in all of your cognitive functions before you are ready to meet your Twin Flame or the person with the exact opposite stack of Cognitive functions so that the two of you are 100% complementary and compatible such as INTP man and ENTJ woman". I've dated a lot of INTJ's, and some ENFP's (I like feeling smothered with love ok? shhh). And it always seems to me that it is "maturity" in a person that determines whether they are capable of a fulfilling and lasting relationship. IN ALL my relationships as an INTP man dating INTJ women, I've found that everything is smooth sailing until the moment when we disagree on something. And THEN it's like a mental battle where in order for me to prove that she is in the wrong (and believe me when I say I rarely disagree with anything someone else says and I'm absolutely a lover of being able to "agree to disagree" but when someone is actually just outright WRONG about something I stand up and say something, so when I say she's wrong, I mean factually, realistically, pragmatically, and ACTUALLY she is WRONG) that it requires SO MUCH EFFORT to "PROVE" to the INTJ woman that she is wrong, it is like I have to gather evidence to present to her an entire dissertation, and then "defend my thesis" in an almost absurdist academic way that feels totally out of place within a "dating relationship" setting that it begged the question every time I came across this, "Can I ever find an INTJ woman who can simply admit when she's wrong?" That's my one caveat for dating that type which is EXTREMELY compatible with me. I almost CRIED when I watched what you said @43:19 in this video. Deep down as an INTP man, I just want to find a partner who will listen to me and someone who is loyal enough to where I can feel comfortable sharing with her all my secrets, and EVEN THOUGH she can definitely be smart and capable enough to manipulate me or use those secrets against me, if I can trust a woman with such information and NOT be manipulated in a negative or detrimental way, and if I can trust she ultimately has my best interest in mind, then I would LOVE to give her full freedom and authorship and control over how things get done. I'm an INTP man. I've very simple needs in terms of the exterior or external things. Just feed me and give me a place to live and allow me to have my "What if's" and crazy harebrained ideas, and I'm HAPPY. IF I'm being ambitious however, and I want to live my "Best Life". I WANT that ENTJ woman. She's my dream girl. I want the most sharply dressed woman in the room. I want that goth queen with a resting bitch face. I want that woman who can get things done and help me accomplish my dreams. I'm a writer-director and also actor, and I WANT to find my producer woman. That's been my dream in my career in Hollywood actually. What you said at the end almost made me cry because I feel like deep down, both the ENTJ woman and the INTP man wants each other but it's like outwardly we're both long shots... she doesn't even seem feminine in the eyes of most men and she has to try to peacock and show off her feminine attractiveness to try to stand out. Historically I've been that guy who's happy to wear slippers, baggy cargo pants, and a leather jacket or a sweater. Nothing that says fashion sense... for me clothing is all about comfort and utility. Everyone who looks at me in social settings always assume I'm a "virgin" or I'm a "nice guy", because I'm routinely honest and straight forward because I just don't have the time for all the lies and manipulation. The TRUTH is harder to deal with and far more complicated and far more interesting. Yet people keep getting caught in these ego battles and like what you put here... these Social Engineering activities, which I've found to be very manipulative and subversive and evil/selfish. BUT... now with all that said? I'm working on no longer repressing my Jungian Shadow. I'm working on going after what I want now. Wholeheartedly and without a doubt, I know I need to find my twin flame (analogy, not literally one person in this whole universe, but the twin flame archetype), who is going to be that executive, boss lady ENTJ who looks intimidating and very seductive and dresses like a siren. I have to let go of my fears, put on my best outfit (and yes outfit, I fully intend on going to a goth night club soon wearing a steampunk alchemist ravenmask outfit, OR suit and tie to different business fundraising events, OR... wherever else ENTJ women might hang out), and go and acknowledge the ENTJ woman without approaching her and see what happens. THIS VIDEO is inspirational to me because I've already done much of the work internally, and almost every point you're making is clicking. AND THE AMAZING PART ABOUT ALL THIS? I don't even have to fake ANY Of this. I AM that INTP man who is honest to a fault, looks out for the interests of others, willing to give other people the ability to make their own choices and respect their free will. And I WANT my fucking Siren in bed. Not a con though. I want the real ENTJ woman who's willing to go anywhere with me and give me the experience I want whenever I say "What IF", and she's going to say "This is what you need to do to make that happen". If you ever seen the Legend of Korra (sequel to the Avatar the last Airbender), if I'm being my best self with an ENTJ woman, it'll be kinda like how Varrick and Ju Lee are together at the very end once they both mutually respect each other as partners :) Thanks for the video. AND rest assured, I'm savvy enough as an INTP to outplay the players by playing as the sucker (I'm a professional actor now actually), and I absolutely won't intentionally betray or hurt the ENTJ woman of my dreams. I'm going to get her and win her over by being all the things she's ever DREAMED of having in a man, and it won't be pretense or social engineering. I've literally become who I need to become as a mature INTP man. :) (I've done all the inner work up to this point... now it's time for the outer work)
I told my INFJ that we should go dancing. She never went before but told me she likes to dance when she is home alone. I’m going to let her give me a great experience and I’m going to help her get it as long as she only dances with me. She is a great dancer and she really does mean the world to me. I’m going to buy her some more nice clothes and give her some expensive noise cancellation headphones so she can listen to the music when she is alone.
Also, I think, as an INTP, it's pretty comical to observe people trying to be "like" (or emulate) an INTP. The lyric comes to mind "... I an see through you, see who you really are."
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Just another ENTJ guy watching this video to avoid being socially engineered
@Ms Jlmao 😂maybe scammers?
@Ms J lmao
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ne critic lmaooo
@@raedjamal5779 I won't try to deny it
As an ENTJ woman:
I find it very attractive that you made plans, diagrams and strategies to conquer my personality type! Well done ;-)
LoL
Is it accurate what he says tho?
@@Quraishy she said well done so probably yeah
@@Quraishy Yes it is accurate :)
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ENTJ woman here and laughing at how accurate this is. Thankfully, I married an ISTP unicorn who still has no idea why I picked him, hahaha!
good times
ISTP is a surprisingly good match for ENTJ women.
How is ENTJ male and ISTP female relationship?
Just to verify Lily, what would you prefer (in the scenario)
1. Wow, if I could give you a hug I would.
2. Wow, I'm going to give you a hug.
@@luissberenguer_ hhhh
And all the ENTJ women say "do I kiss him or slap him" 😂
Why does it have to be either/or?
well said
@@CSJoseph I thought you'd th hink so. haha
Raylin “ a kiss with a fist is better than none” 😂 Florence & the Machine knew it all along
Raylin Agreed, haha!
As an ENTJ, I can say this is LITERALLY how my boyfriend got me.
I actually cried several times. That was therapeutic...in a way 😆 I hope that more men watch this..for educational purposes. ENTJ woman
Adding knowledge...beep boop
I feel like I'm at church, the church of personality
It does feel like church. Preach!
AMEN
“Not feeling good enough for someone who treats them right” Almost cried. Punching the air rn. My ex was good enough but I remember crying every time he pointed out something about me. He didn’t mean any harm, but I felt offended and felt like I wasn’t good enough, that I need to try harder for him. And eventually it pushed him over the edge thinking he wasn’t good enough for me, because I have high standards. Literally mirrored me and dumped me, thinking we aren’t compatible. Now I think HE wasn’t good enough for me, because he couldn’t stand my anxious attachment style. He was my first boyfriend and first man I fell in love with.. I lacked the experience and was emotionally attached because of these reasons. I’ve been working on myself and I’m learning to let him go.
As an older ENTJ woman, I did relate to alot of what you said. When I was growing up, being a decisive, direct, independent, non emotional woman was not thought highly of. My father never accused me of being a boy, but he did not think that I was smart, college material, or competent. So I did have a complex that I wasn't good enough. (I was the only one in my family who graduated from college, and I worked my way through) Age and wisdom takes care of those fears. Never had problems with men not complimenting me, but I did have alot of trouble making and keeping women friends. They did not get me. I thought that most of them were superficial and silly and overly emotional. I had no idea how rare my personality is. But i did think that many of my traits were more masculine than feminine. I do relate to dressing up to go out to the clubs or to a first date to make a good impression!
Ditto, ditto, ditto! Amen ❤
Completely relate. And all my male friends that i eventually had crushes on before they left, thought i was too much, too loud, and never gave them the opportunity to initiate things. And female friends I've had either didn't relate to me or criticized me because i hung out with the boys alot. My dad has always made me feel i wasn't worth anything which fueled my ambitiousness and competitive nature to try and prove him and other men in my life wrong.
@@englishmuffin7I’m sorry that you and the original commentator had to deal with all of that ish -INTP
Guys, ENTJ women are often found in high powered careers and business circles. Hang out in the business districts to catch the elusive ENTJ lady. 😎
Enfp male here, entj women definitely have something to them, but it's sometimes really hard to get to their (Fi). You really have to go the extra mile so that their Ne(Critic) doesn't assume bad intentions from you
Fentydeluxe Just be consistent over time.
The ENTJs greatest need is positive shared experiences.
Wow this hit me right in the gut. My domineering father was so hard on me as an ENTJ female. I became very avoidant in terms of intimate relationships for a long time.
same...i feel like that's why i became ENTJ...
@@geminifreestyle3697 personality types are based on temperament, ergo your personality traits you are born with. You cannot 'become' a different personality type, however your personal views and experiences can influence in which way you express (or don't) said personality types.
Took me a while to finally learn from my relationship with my father that i should only put out what others give me and not to waste time on people who aren't worth it.
Too many times my father has disrespected and downgraded my efforts to give him respect and love and now I'm learning to disregard his toxic behavior and not let myself cry over it anymore. I hope you're okay.
I've almost fallen in love with this imaginary ENTJ haha ! For me the best video you've ever done
much appreciated
My inner being feels broken and exposed. You got is straight to the point, I almost cried!
that's why I made this lecture, just for you ^^
Haha good one! But seriously, I just found your channel and pretty much am enjoying watching your videos and learning more about all these cognitive functions. Thank you for sharing these. This particular video literally opened my eyes on why I can't resist entps lol
@@CSJoseph awww
I broke up with my ENTJ girlfriend, but I haven't had a relationship that I enjoyed like that since we split. She was ENTJ, I'm INTP. Only reason we broke up was because i moved to a different state but we still had this weird connection and ability to talk about ANYTHING from people to psychology to metaphysics then music. The level of similar taste is amazing. And she always jokes about having kids with me even tho we split. She later told me how she recently went to a therapist and talked to them about her sex addiction, not even particularly the sex itself but the feeling of control it gave her over guys she barely had interest in.
ENTJ women might be top 5 in all honesty (that's mainly an INTP bias) because their level of comfort with honesty, psychological/machiavellian concepts, people, confidence, sex, family, law, engineering and life is pretty amazing...they are just RARE AS FUCK so as an INTP out dating they can feel hard to find. That intellectual stimulation they give you is dope
I cant wait for the INTP social engineering video
its coming!
LOL get her back if you can
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@@stevencochran7983 ??
Me, an intp: *walks into bar* tiMe tO gET LaID toNiGhT
hahahahahahah
Considering how much I(NTPs) hate bars and night life, getting laid in return would only be fair.
🤣
LOL! So true. Me, female INTP, walks into bar, grows impatient after about 15 mintues. "Why isn't anyone engaging me in a passionate political/metaphysical debate and similar foreplay and trying to covertly angle me toward their front door already? Why the hell else would I be here...oh, that guy looks like the least stupid, most unique character in bar." Pounce.
And bringing friends to the bar when I'm on the prowl is just weird. What are they going to do while I'm busy seducing someone and subsequently having sex with them? And eww, I would never take them to my place when we first meet as I don't know that I want them to know where I live yet lol.
holy fuck I'm not alone anymore
An ENTJ Female is “a man among men” wow such a true statement. Over more most dudes just can’t hang with us🤷🏻♀️
Haley Sherfield 😒
Winning over the child+parent axis is like a marriage proposal, if you're good to the child, the parent will approve
I don't know how you did this, but this was spot on! You literally described how my guy got me.
dope
I was tested online as INTJ but I’ve been diving deep... I think I’m ENTJ. This resonated quite a bit more to me especially with the subconscious, unconscious, and superego AND especially because my bf of 3 years is an INTP and he melts my heart and he is my canvass in the bedroom.
Wow... this is exactly to the tee how I function. My INTP bf has me tied around his finger and I am very protective of him. He is very sincere but he has unknowingly followed all these steps... I’ve known him for 22 years now.
This is accurate. As an ENTJ woman, I related to everything said. I am happily married to an INTP man, now I know exactly why! My INTP just gets me, and he always gives me fresh perspective which I’d otherwise overlook. Everyday he challenges me to be better, and I appreciate that. Likewise, I do the same for him.
Your videos are great, you truly have a gift for this.
This is a low vibration ENTJ. Many overcome such fears. And are likely to, eventually, because self improvement is a common undertaking.
Thank you for this video. I'm INTJ and not an ENTJ but this video touched me to the core. It really means the world to that someone aknowledges how much we are broken hearted because everybody think that we are manly just because we want to control our own lives, how much w starve to have someone who (sincerely) gives a damn about what we want to show.
I really wonder how INTJs deffer from ENTJs...
Still, thank you, this really enlightened my day !
An INTJ would need an ENTP
@@theeFaris nope, they need ENTJ
As an INTP, just thinking about a woman that does not give a fuck about my feelings and values is so fucking hot
Is this real?
Brought me to tears, from the passion you make those vids with it's obvious how much you care for us, thank you a million times, entj woman
Great ,enjoyed your lecture a lot.
I'm an ENTJ and a Personality Psychologist and I have to say I got really emotional at the end.
Keep it up
ENTJ Girl here loves you!! Thank you, You've got it right. 46 yrs still struggling with everything.
Cool video, thank you for sharing! I'm a female ENTP and my boyfriend is ENTJ and I cannot say how accurate your descriptions are. We figured out how to interact with each other quite harmoniously early on, but I like the validation your videos provide. It all seems really spot on, and you definitely defined some of the things I only understood abstractly. Thank you for helping me understand more about his thought processes! :)
(I also never realized how lucky I am being able to find an ENTJ partner, and INTJ best friend! It makes sense!)
ROCK ON, GOOD LUCK, CONGRATS ON SUCH A FIND.
ENTJ female here! Before starting this video, in order to check its accuracy, I decided to make a list of all the traits someone would require for me to enjoy their presence. He covered everything that was on my list, and I'm slightly worried
Good, that was the point. so you know what you're up against potentially.
My dad LOvED my masculine style strength. He had no use for weak women and was glad I wasn’t that. My mom wasn’t so sure. She was convinced God wouldn’t approve of me not needing men. Took me along time to get ok with my ENTJ.
ENTJ women sound like a dream, but alas they're rare af. Looks like im dying alone GG.
That ship has sailed 😶
I'm here
Nicole do you like INTJs? @@nicolewinters
mercedbread May love all blonde boys 😂
All you gotta do is individuate enough to make room in your energy matrix for them. Easy. Lolololol
As an ENTJ woman I can only agree on everything so far. My ENTJ husband approached me 3 times until I realized that he’s really interested. I question EVERYTHING. I wanna know more about him, his intentions, his goals etc.
I’m an ENTJ woman….and I cried this is so accurate. I love myself. I really do❤️ I’m an ENTJ because of my dad.
I feel so seen as an ENTJ woman, I've been pressured to fit into the feminine frame and attitude for so long that now that I'm older I'm more comfortable with my need for control in a relationship. This behavior was indeed surpressed around my father. Thanks for making this :)
I appreciate you commenting in a previous entj video about our paranoia and thinking about people betraying us or taking our business ideas.
ENTJ woman here, I want to say that you were very accurate and that I really appreciate the last thing that you said about not getting the heart o fan ENTJ woman hurt, that is adorable. Thank you....
Thanks for this. As an INTP assessing what I want and am most attracted to in a partner, I've realised ENTJ or thereabouts is the perfect fit. I fucking love women with strong minds and wills - I think it's actually a little amazing that they'd go unappreciated by the average man.
Awe man, I bid all the ENTJs around here a due good luck... you deserve it!
I'm just waiting for you to rename this video. "A PATHWAY TO DONALD J. TRUMP HEART (How To Social Engineer ENTJs)"
pls pls do it
and I AM SI CHILD I CAN WAIT FOREVER LOVE THIS IDEA
I think trump may have had an entj business wife before and divorced her because of her business drive then decided he prefers women who just lay on their backs.
Great insight! And if I'm honest I'm flattered that you would take the time and give your attention to the ENTJ woman. It is hard out there. Until recently I didn't realize that there were others like me. I just didn't know. In a way it has been good to see hey I'm not strange. I dont have unrealistic expectations. Its ok to want to be wanted....etc. I would like to add that not all ENTJs fathers are bad/not supportive. Mine is awesome and I would say the only man I know who actually gets me and appreciates me. He is always up for an intelligent conversation and values my thoughts and opinions. I'm sure there are others out there like him. Anyway...thanks again for your time.
There is a film called A Lot Like Love portraying a supposed ENTJ-female INTP-male romantic dynamic which I recommend everyone on this comment thread watch.
Also, this video does us ENTJ women justice so thank you, Chase. An ENTJ woman always wants to find out more about a potential romantic partner (whether booty call or serious relationship LOL) but I don't think we respond well to being told something super sensitive if it is shared in a manipulative or lying way.
-ENTJ female
aye, but with NTPs is super hard to detect because of how neutral they are :) Otherwise I agree with you 100%
@@CSJoseph How did you mean this comment, as questioning whether or not the lead male role in the film is really an INTP?
OMG I laughed so hard watching this as an ENTJ woman, so darn relatable!! INTP dudes where ya at??
I should be asking the same question to ENTJ women. They're the one that are more rare.
Not at the bar XD
currently obsessing about an ENTJ woman i’ve become close to
Finally an explanation of how I, as a very typical nerdy INTP, managed to pick up the most beautiful women in the nightclubs when I was in my 20's oblivious to personality types. Normal women found me to be nerdy and ridiculous. Only the most amazing beautiful women were ever interested in me.
Insane
I feel kind of like a fisherman making ludicrous unverifiable claims here!
LMAO I literally have this exact fantasy all the time (as an ENTJ woman).
lol thats funny
Some bull
Why the hell would you have any interest in us Neckbeard loser INTPs XD
ENTJ woman confessing that I was stuck in an abusive relationship for awhile. Let myself fall in love in the first place because the guy's best quality was being loyal. But he was an asshole and one of the many shitty examples of why was that he told me he wouldn't care if I wanted sex or not, he'd rape me. The loyalty thing is pretty spot on, and that bad experience really hurt me - I haven't been in a relationship since. But remain open to finding the right person.
Thanks Chase for this one. This vid came at a good time. Me, the INTP dad, with an ENTJ teen daughter. There are some things I had already figured out and you gave some interaction tools that I haven't employed (of course a tool is just that and in your example, the tools were applied to the bar scene). It's been fairly straight forward for me learning how to council her but to discipline through consequences of removing freedoms is a fine line with her. Which is tough because there aren't a lot other options. There are some, just not a lot. Anyway, this one is going into a save file for later reference. Thanks again.
you are most welcome sir.
@Lemazive Thank you
You just totally exposed ENTJ perfectly.
You're good, but I still wouldn't fall for all that especially at a bar. You'd be walking away in under a minute. An entj woman falling for this would have to be a bit on the desperate side. But I will admit I'd be just a bit flattered. You would definitely make me smile. Good luck attempting this.
Damn, you're spot on. I initially clicked on this video to train my defenses, but... shit, this might work on me. Good job, I hate it, well done.
I"m a ENTJ woman & love hearing what you have to say,Its all on point. Thank you
This video was a revelation for me! I thought for years I am an ENTP and got like 50% ENTP and 50% ENTJ on all kinds of tests.. I wanted to be an ENTP, because they are cool 😎 and I have some traits that are similar, but a very good friend of mine is ENTP and I kinda thought we are alike but not the same..
Now, after this video a lot of pieces fell into place.. thankful ENTJ here :-)
The effort you put into the video and going through every comment is appreciated❤. I couldn't stop laughing at the thought of some one complementing Trump on his hair😂. I always can't wait to see the next video and learn more.
yeah it was dope improv lol
As an ENTJ woman I approve all said.
This approach worked in a college classroom on me. This video was too illuminating and frustrating. It’s too true, just want to be valued and have a loyal partner. I want to create such an amazing experience to the person I choose and be appreciated for that. I don’t know where I’m ever going to get the kind of validation I crave. 😂😂Men don’t care about the effort dressing up, don’t like direct (at work or personal life.) I feel generally like all my efforts are useless. I’m also at the point where I’m so frustrated at work that I’m looking at my own opportunities so it was really funny to hear that. Thank you for making this.
I was going to point out how manipulative this video feels for me, just another ENTJ woman, when i heard what you said at the end. I can say i really like the way you explain what you have to say and the appreciation i can hear in your words and voice when you talk about the ENTJ women. I can say it definitely makes me feel generally appreciated. Thank you for your videos.
Well. Came here to try and pick apart how this wasn’t correct- turns out you’re pretty correct and this is basically what I go for. Goddamn you mister pick up man. ENTJ woman here to say that this is pretty accurate and I really didn’t want it to be so that holds a bit of weight I guess.
This video has helped me deepen my relationship with my ENTJ. 💕
What would an INTP be doing in a bar? :)
hanging out with me
Maybe same reason they try the maple syrup bacon ice cream 😏
Developing their ENTJ shadows.
They’re actually going to a concert that’s IN the bar👍🏼👍🏼😂
Exactly my thought XD
Best of luck IRL and hope all gets well, CSJ! Don't worry about online stuff please, we can all wait. Video is spot on and I'm pretty sure ENTJ women might cry on their own just watching this, thank you for making such amazing content for everyone.
-Loknir from your disc server
(join it, people! It's amazing ;) )
Much appreciated :)
I am dying this is the most funny ENTJ video of all times. .. ENTJ woman here..wow this is so good.. this was funny and so sad at the same time.. I guess only an INFJ could have this level of insight?
What's up Chase, great video as per usual. I'm sure this has been suggested before, but it'd be fantastic to do a lecture on how substances affect type (especially given the opioid epidemic). Went to dinner at my boyfriend's sister's house tonight, and it's painfully obvious, at least to me, that she's using again. Absolutely tore my heart out to see how this is impacting her psyche.
its coming!
Awesome. Also I hope that head throb heartlike comment didn't give any strange implications earlier, I was Foster Wallace-ing it up on the train back from work & just thought it was an excellent description for a melding of the minds kind of deal. Then again, my suspicion is that it's hard to keep these comments straight anyway & so chances are good you won't have a clue what I'm talking about 😆
NTJs are so hard to find... I always get my hopes up when I meet a TJ but they turn out to be STJs
keep at it
A wolf in sheep’s clothing
This is why you don't go to the bar...
aye
I'm no expert and it's certainly a nitpick but isn't calling ENTJs leaders sorta misleading in the sense that while they often find themselves in leadership positions, it's because that's the most effective (in their mind) path forward. I do believe ENTJs have no problem following, or more accurately being a respected advisor, if they find the current leader competent or better.
Napoleon is an ENTJ :)
As an ENTJ, I do not want to follow because I don't like being told what to do. Also I'd probably think I could do a better job than the current leader. If the significance in experience etc is too big however, another leader would be alright, although I do think that I would rather still have a leadership role instead of advising someone without any confidence that my advice will be used.
You are correct sir. I am more of a follower, but only if I respect the leader. I will step in to lead in a situation if I see that others are hesitant to do so. Especially emergency type situations.
After watching this video I would assume the qoute "all men are same" came from a ENTJ woman.
😂
Dude you are so on point! I am an ENTJ-A but that came as no surprise. When I started reading about this all the signs were there even from early childhood. When I was 13 I knew how far I wanted to take my schooling. I knew I wanted to study abroad and study for a PhD at the age of 13! Later on in life I've taken charge of situations of predicted failure and dragged an entire group to success. I've single handed taken on naysayers and later earned their respect.
C S Joseph types like no one else. These lectures are maps to the souls of the personaliy types. ⛵️
I went through a roller coast of emotions watching this. LOL. 1 minute I was like oh shit I'm being called out. Next, a little embarrassed, a few times I belly laughed. You know, all of us ENTJ women were just watching this really appreciating how well you put this together and your research, just all around intelligence. Great job!
yOu bEtTer bEliEVe shEs gOnNa DraG yOu to HeR pLACE, *YAH*.
That SASS. Love it.
@18:45 to @18:54 ENTP DANCE
wtf ahaha my roomate is entp and whenever we go to the club he does that ahahah
“I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, if I could give you a hug I would” literally something I’ve said to someone and genuinely meant it. INTP confirmed? 😂
Hello ENTJs 👋
If a man ever treated me like this I would propose to him and probably be the happiest ever. This is quite stunning that to this point noone ever understood me like that. And how foolish of me not to hunt down intp before... Also you really moved me in the end. Greeitngs from entj-a.
You are most welcome
My Fe Demon just said, "screw horoscopes & kino - this is gold, if I could only profile them now." Your take on ENTJ parents STRONG. What I identified with in the The Fighter, Melissa Leo's character's dysfunction all Mickey he can do anything and its still not enough - people that say the "love" them, really love the magic show, because what we do is impossible to them but they love the experience and just keep asking for encores.
Dope
Oh my this is so accurate. One of my best friends is an ENTJ woman and I am constantly reassuring her through her transition from undergrad to whatever she ends up in next. Very much worth it because I know for as loyal and caring as I am to her she'll be to me. Cant wait to see the content for ENTPs
Aaaaand this season helps me understand the theoretical aspects of jungian analytical psychology so. much. more. If everyone watched these videos, communication between people would be way easier in times of conflict...
it would stop wars and divorce. It would stop men from abandoning their children.
Brilliant! Im pleased you have highlighted how rare we are! We are super efficient, fact based individuals who hate wasting time. It is so difficult to find people around me who can offer such stimulating conversation but this doesn't frustrate us for too long because we are high achievers.
Ive been with an INFP (yes I made him take the (test) who is very intersting and sweet. Considering I like drum and bass, poker, crazy sports and gaming and im asian its SO rare to find another person like me!!
But that is the beauty of being rare ☺
Dope
ENTJs are great with money so I would have expected a video about talking with them about investing in your business!!
Another informative video, I especially like your thoughts on type emulation, and I have long believed each type is capable of emulating any other type, yet most people may do this by accident however the key is to know what to do so your emulation is percieved accurately. Good work. Btw as a NTP I use the bar scene to engage my NTJ shadow for some suprising results. 😉
awesome!
Lol I think you should do a whole season on where to meet different types
Reading the comments about crying from ENTJ women thinking they must not be if they are crying about a video... only to find myself stabbed in the heart and soon crying with your super accurate descriptions. Feel like I’ve been poured out across the screen... thank you so much for such insight and care of us.
you are most welcome
definitely true 100%
i have a woman entj friend and yeah that's makes sense .. she had a boyfriend one day she told me he was older than her i think 4 or 5 years he was smart , brilliant in college however he began his career and knowledgeable he loves reading and he always treated her like a queen alwayss and let her control everything she loves to be free so that she will give him best experience and when he admitted his love to her that he told her that he thought she is attractive to him and he fell in love with her she was shocked like is that true she went to the dining room and their eyes meet again she looked away but he looked at her eyes like yeah that's true i love you and i want to be with you forever you are amazing .. and she told me that one day he went to a family which i think they wanted their daughter to be his wife i think .. so my friend knew that and she asked him to tell her every single detail from his entrance to leaving that house and he accepted to tell her everything to relieve her doubts because he wanted her to have long relationship and they agreed to be engaged but unfortunately he had an accident and he died before their engagement ... she believed that she will never find sb like him and yeah from her talks about him he was special yeah and she also believe that all men are stupid i hope she will find sb that convince her to live with because i feel sad for her
you did a great job and this episode you worked hard and you want to like please us because you obligated that you should post to teach us because you cared about us so we really appericate that you worked three days in row and you was sick and tired and i can see it
Very raw and insightful. Don't hurt these people!
Emulate ti hero? As an intp i would love to see this 😂
Ti child could try.
As an ENTJ woman I feel so laid out because frankly speaking, it would have worked! But now I know to what look out for....
For what's apparently an emasculating type, I find sub focused ENTJ women to be cute, innocent, adorable, and overall feminine much of the time.
To be fair, I'm a shadow focused ENTP male who is on the path of building their masculinity. So what I described would be very compatible with me.
The ENTJ girls who do come off more masculine would be the shadow focused ones.
This is exactly what I needed...even tho I'm not trying to pick up an ENTJ female from a bar. But I needed to know how to socially engineer an ENTJ. So I have to commend you this is creepily accurate in many situations. All this ENTJ behavior now makes sense to me.
This is the first video I've watch from you and it's so insanely accurate (ENTJ). Some really intense Ti analysis here.
Where do you learn this? I'm curious?
(ENTJ girl ) Why do i feel like the first part is also part of the social engineering 😂 (you guys are misunderstood, i feel you i understand you, the slightly angled torso, expressive palms up hand movements, eye contact, style of speech, playing with the marker to engage the audience etc )in addition to being slightly feminine combined with direct facts and logic as the ENTP. You even told us one of your "super sensitive" things at the end part with "don't break the heart of an entj woman "with body and facial language. and judging by the comments its clearly working. Anyways great video liked and subbed
You know this lecture is almost eerie in its accuracy and in a good way (Hear me out, I know this is long, but I'm an INTP man and I can't be succinct to save my life):
I am an INTP man. I've seen the "How to social engineer INTP's" and now I've also seen this video, "How to Social Engineer ENTJ's" and frankly both videos hit home so hard it hurts. I've been played by ENTJ women who were sirens trying to con me and it really fucking hurt me. I've had a huge fear of "manipulative women" for a long time. The moment someone plays mind games or make me feel like they are social engineering me even for a minute, I'm outta there. It was that bad for me. And then later in life I learned how to "play a sucker to catch a player" I know you say it like "play a sucker to catch a sucker" but I prefer it my way as it is more accurate. IN ANY CASE, through working on my jungian shadow and reintegrating my own "suppressed power" and stop trying to be a "nice guy" and get used by women who don't give a shit about me. I've come into the realization that ENTJ women are my kryptonite in that they can do the most damage to me, but they are also exactly what I need at my side. I believe that the whole "Twin flame" paradigm or dialectic is really an analogy or parable or metaphor for "You need to fully work on yourself and become mature in all of your cognitive functions before you are ready to meet your Twin Flame or the person with the exact opposite stack of Cognitive functions so that the two of you are 100% complementary and compatible such as INTP man and ENTJ woman".
I've dated a lot of INTJ's, and some ENFP's (I like feeling smothered with love ok? shhh). And it always seems to me that it is "maturity" in a person that determines whether they are capable of a fulfilling and lasting relationship. IN ALL my relationships as an INTP man dating INTJ women, I've found that everything is smooth sailing until the moment when we disagree on something.
And THEN it's like a mental battle where in order for me to prove that she is in the wrong (and believe me when I say I rarely disagree with anything someone else says and I'm absolutely a lover of being able to "agree to disagree" but when someone is actually just outright WRONG about something I stand up and say something, so when I say she's wrong, I mean factually, realistically, pragmatically, and ACTUALLY she is WRONG) that it requires SO MUCH EFFORT to "PROVE" to the INTJ woman that she is wrong, it is like I have to gather evidence to present to her an entire
dissertation, and then "defend my thesis" in an almost absurdist academic way that feels totally out of place within a "dating relationship" setting that it begged the question every time I came across this, "Can I ever find an INTJ woman who can simply admit when she's wrong?" That's my one caveat for dating that type which is EXTREMELY compatible with me.
I almost CRIED when I watched what you said @43:19 in this video. Deep down as an INTP man, I just want to find a partner who will listen to me and someone who is loyal enough to where I can feel comfortable sharing with her all my secrets, and EVEN THOUGH she can definitely be smart and capable enough to manipulate me or use those secrets against me, if I can trust a woman with such information and NOT be manipulated in a negative or detrimental way, and if I can trust she ultimately has my best interest in mind, then I would LOVE to give her full freedom and authorship and control over how things get done. I'm an INTP man. I've very simple needs in terms of the exterior or external things. Just feed me and give me a place to live and allow me to have my "What if's" and crazy harebrained ideas, and I'm HAPPY. IF I'm being ambitious however, and I want to live my "Best Life". I WANT that ENTJ woman. She's my dream girl. I want the most sharply dressed woman in the room. I want that goth queen with a resting bitch face. I want that woman who can get things done and help me accomplish my dreams. I'm a writer-director and also actor, and I WANT to find my producer woman. That's been my dream in my career in Hollywood actually. What you said at the end almost made me cry because I feel like deep down, both the ENTJ woman and the INTP man wants each other but it's like outwardly we're both long shots... she doesn't even seem feminine in the eyes of most men and she has to try to peacock and show off her feminine attractiveness to try to stand out. Historically I've been that guy who's happy to wear slippers, baggy cargo pants, and a leather jacket or a sweater. Nothing that says fashion sense... for me clothing is all about comfort and utility. Everyone who looks at me in social settings always assume I'm a "virgin" or I'm a "nice guy", because I'm routinely honest and straight forward because I just don't have the time for all the lies and manipulation. The TRUTH is harder to deal with and far more complicated and far more interesting. Yet people keep getting caught in these ego battles and like what you put here... these Social Engineering activities, which I've found to be very manipulative and subversive and evil/selfish.
BUT... now with all that said? I'm working on no longer repressing my Jungian Shadow. I'm working on going after what I want now. Wholeheartedly and without a doubt, I know I need to find my twin flame (analogy, not literally one person in this whole universe, but the twin flame archetype), who is going to be that executive, boss lady ENTJ who looks intimidating and very seductive and dresses like a siren. I have to let go of my fears, put on my best outfit (and yes outfit, I fully intend on going to a goth night club soon wearing a steampunk alchemist ravenmask outfit, OR suit and tie to different business fundraising events, OR... wherever else ENTJ women might hang out), and go and acknowledge the ENTJ woman without approaching her and see what happens. THIS VIDEO is inspirational to me because I've already done much of the work internally, and
almost every point you're making is clicking.
AND THE AMAZING PART ABOUT ALL THIS? I don't even have to fake ANY Of this. I AM that INTP man who is honest to a fault, looks out for the interests of others, willing to give other people the ability to make their own choices and respect their free will. And I WANT my fucking Siren in bed. Not a con though. I want the real ENTJ woman who's willing to go anywhere with me and give me the experience I want whenever I say "What IF", and she's going to say "This is what you need to do to make that happen".
If you ever seen the Legend of Korra (sequel to the Avatar the last Airbender), if I'm being my best self with an ENTJ woman, it'll be kinda like how Varrick and Ju Lee are together at the very end once they both mutually respect each other as partners :)
Thanks for the video. AND rest assured, I'm savvy enough as an INTP to outplay the players by playing as the sucker (I'm a professional actor now actually), and I absolutely won't intentionally
betray or hurt the ENTJ woman of my dreams. I'm going to get her and win her over by being all the things she's ever DREAMED of having in a man, and it won't be pretense or social engineering. I've literally become who I need to become as a mature INTP man. :) (I've done all the inner work up to this point... now it's time for the outer work)
As an ENTJ woman, I've been read!!!
After watching this video I am getting convinced, that my ENTP boyfriend watched your advices before our first date 😅😅😅
That is awesome!
35:41 It hurts so much but it's so true
Sincerely, INTP
Wow, I've been an ENTJ since I was a teenager and this is ridiculously accurate. Nice job- you figured us out!
I thought you were born with it 🤔
I cried watching this. Ain’t no one loyal to me 😭
My notes:
Se child only wants you attention .
They want to be noticed.
Te hero will try to classify you
Ni parent must have a choice
I told my INFJ that we should go dancing. She never went before but told me she likes to dance when she is home alone. I’m going to let her give me a great experience and I’m going to help her get it as long as she only dances with me. She is a great dancer and she really does mean the world to me. I’m going to buy her some more nice clothes and give her some expensive noise cancellation headphones so she can listen to the music when she is alone.
I am immensely interested to hear how appealing this social engineering would be. And I agree an NTP would be the best type to emulate.
Also, I think, as an INTP, it's pretty comical to observe people trying to be "like" (or emulate) an INTP. The lyric comes to mind "... I an see through you, see who you really are."
Thank you so much! I needed to socially engineer one of these guys. Thanks, again, you’re the best Chase!
I feel seen, heard and understand- I am an ENTJ and I highly dislike dumb men. Please don’t talk me, just don’t!