CS Joseph enjoys roasting a little too much. He likes to blame it on his personality type but...I have an ENTP daughter who is a missionary. She can roast but not like this. Doesn't enjoy the thought of hurting people. When I listened to "Social Engineering of a INTJ" which is my other daughter, I became so angry. He shouldn't enjoy the thought of how to destroy others. My daughter would be absolutely wrecked by the instructions in that video and he was jubilant about it. Don't get it at all. His has incredible insights but....sometimes I want to shake him. I pray for him instead. (An empathic INTP)
He is generalizing ISFPs. Most ISFPs do not like casinos. They like museums, coffee shops, a 1950's diner or a fashion show or ecclectic bands. I could say a lot of bad things about ENTPs but I want to not be an a-hole like this guy. I am done watching his videos.
Chase you are both more entertaining and intelligent than your competitors. A rare combination. Which explains why each day you are distancing yourself from them and will be bigger than all combined.
I hate being an ISFP... I tried a period of being totally selfless, proactive, controlled, not overindulging, much less introspective, and actually ended up on antidepressants for 2 years & having a mental breakdown because I 'lost who I was'. Ego isn't a choice, you can only work on it and create balance.
I get what u mean as an ISFP it’s really hard for me to not be selfish like it ain’t my natural state to be empathetic and selfless. What i do is surround myself with ESFJs and isfjs cuz most will actually call me out for bein selfish and I’ll feel bad
This is pretty much exactly what happened to me. For a long time I was building my business, art, image and momentum around different facets of my life and then I realize that I was taking advantage of people, being emotionally manipulative for my own gain and being pretty self centered. So I stopped that process and tried to be more attentive, less selfish, and be more responsive to others needs and emotions over my own. And within 6 months I went from feeling everything to feeling nothing, spiralled out of control emotionally dropped into a deep depression had a mental breakdown and in the end I became a recluse which hurt the people around me even more because I couldn't be there emotionally for anyone in my life. Honestly when I think about how I was living my life before I decided to be more selfless I was actually fulfilling a social role that no one around me was able to fulfill. No one I knew around me was able to produce and or have the motivation, skill, vision or energy to move the necessary parts to make something happen, to bring a project to life or have enthusiasm for the process. What I found is that most people are waiting for someone else to do it and I was the one that was willing and wanted to do it. But I felt like I was the selfish one because I incurred most of the benefits but I realized that it was actually the people around me who were being just as selfish because they were waiting for someone like me to come by to make their vision a reality because most people are hopelessly incapable of doing it themselves. On the back end of this experience I'm learning that I have needed to develop healthy boundaries between other people and my creative process. Here's hoping that I can build a sustainable life that is able to balance each situation with the respect and nuance that it deserves.
@@iam-kai yep, the whole “isfp’s are selfish” thing is pure BS, from people who don’t see what it is that we provide to them because they are focused on thinking that the grass is greener on our side since they are only seeing the fruits of our labor. We are willing to do what others are not willing to do and we do it in a way where we are focused on making the world a better place while being a beacon for change. We can’t be that if we are trying to be something that we are not. It’s more important to feel good about yourself and find your happy place. The reason why some people don’t like us is because we don’t give into their BS and allow them to live in their own illusions. It’s like when a little kid acts up because their parents aren’t letting them get away with something shitty. ISFPs are morally conscious and we can’t really pretend that we don’t see those compromises in other people, and because we are not good at lying (you can see it on our faces even) it makes people’s insecurities get triggered if they are doing things that they know they shouldn’t be doing (like drinking or drug addictions). That’s why we get a lot of shit, because sometimes people don’t like having to measure up in those ways, so they are essentially gas lighting us. I’m not selfish, you’re selfish!! That kind of shit. We are not selfish, that is a false perception from people who do not understand us. Loyalty does not come from selfish people.
I feel like an ISFP recently ticked you off 😂 I am an ISFP, and this is all so true. I really wish I was motivated to do the right thing without getting something out of it, but I have to seriously believe in something to do that, otherwise I lose my sense of self. Its a real weakness
All you said completely applies to me. People being butthurt in the comments either aren't isfp or have some introspection to do. When I first realized I was selfish, useless, basically a parasite- i said that to some of my friends and they brought up how I was back in the day when I was diligent and generally balanced, even though I haven't been that way in a while. And lately appearances really did become important - i wanted to make myself look smart, but the more i tried, the worse i felt - because i know i was faking it. I ain't smart, I ain't hardworking, I waste time, energy, money. Yet i have the audacity to call myself a genius. Every day is an emotional rollercoaster. So I'll just stop pretending for a change.
I have an isfp cousin , now to be honest I don't like her , but gotta say she's read some books you can't call her dump at all and my other cousins love her so much they literally follow her everywhere even to the bathroom. It'll take some time but you can be better , hope you the best . P.s : if you want thinking types to like you particularly tps you just need a good fi not to memorize the whole encyclopedia , and then they will be happy to share their ti with you and that will help you with growing your te because tps like te but they NEED fi .
I was looking forward to this video (since the debut of the cognitive transition series) because as an ISFP, I wanted to know more about how an ISFP would look like when transitioned to ENTJ. I appreciate and agree with the advice to work hard and produce more, but I feel like this video would be more valuable and useful if there were more practical advice for subconscious transition (if I somehow missed it, please let me know). There are many ISFPs who are loyal, genuine, responsible and want to find their true purpose to contribute to the world. I'm sorry you have had bad experiences with some ISFPs, but rest assured, I know there are mature ISFPs who have gone through his or her self-awareness path and/or healing journey. I am one of them. Anyway, thanks for the video. If you have any other practical advice for transition to ENTJ, that would be awesome. I am currently reading Principles by Ray Dahlio and streamlining tasks to be more efficient. Please let me know if there's anything else. Thanks 😊
Isfp here. I think I remember one time I looked more like an ENTJ. Music and photography are hobbies for me but I am an engineer. And I remember organizing at university (all engineers) a music show, I organized the whole process very precisely, knowing where I was going with accuracy. I had a good schedule of everything and I had no problem directing people on the scene in order to make something harmonious and esthetically nice. As I was the only guy with an "artistic" background, I really felt my point of view was worth and had a lot of self confidence in being the "expert". I felt so complete during the whole process. I remember people were amazed by how I handled the whole thing. So I would say : - I think we, isfp's, really have a great competence in dealing with harmony /esthetics - it's all a matter of self confidence. If I had lost it for any reason (like maybe someone trying to be another expert and criticizing/questioning my organization/ability) , I am sure I would have lost this ability to be organised. So feeling like an expert on the subject, compared to others, was really what made me confident and therefore become a kind of ENTJ. Does it ring anything to you? This kind of experience?
@@Tbrhn Hey, thanks for sharing your experience. I really enjoyed it. Yes, it reminds me of the times where we would have simple birthday parties for friends but it wasn't as nice as I thought it could be with the resources we had on hand, so I would start nicely start to direct other people to help and rearrange things to be more aesthetically pleasing. I felt like it's a celebration and should be as grand and lovely as it could be. I did feel confident and kinda "fulfilled" during the process. After everything was done, we were pleased with the results. I love doing a project or tasks and having creative freedom. Looking back on my experiences, I definitely agree with your points about feeling confident and being an expert. I think that is the key to transitioning. I'm still working on finding what I'm passionate about and being an expert at it. Just curious, do you have these ENTJ experiences often? Do you seek these experiences or do they just present itself?
When you said about admiting our flaws it reminded me what someone I respect (very smart and deep intp) said about me when I was at high school: "you're openly speak about your flaws and silent about your virtues. No worries, they're so strong they perfectly visible". It was years ago, now I speak openly only about impulsiveness. From some time I'm trying to get my shit together and your words about fake status made me think. Thank you I don't identify with spending money, but it's probably because I work hard at mcdonalds in the middle of large city, so I really value money I earned in sweat.
LOL so when you were talking about the girl keeping her options open, my reaction was, "Girl, stop saying these things OUT LOUD and then no one will know." And then five min later you talked about ISFPs being in denial and thinking if they just don't talk about it then it's not a real thing to us .... :| So anyway, thank you for everything you do! Super appreciate it!
Ok I had to post this at least once throughout watching C.S Joeseph's videos and this one was the tipping point because 3/4ths of the way in he hasn't explained what I came for - the transitions. Anyways I felt something off about this format and for a good mention posted it below: The real value of this content is that it forces - the lesson learned from the videos itself when analyzed from a critical viewpoint is that a person cannot take any of his moral judgements to be true and believe them 100% I - ISFP - Fi user immediately went into "are his morals clashing with mine - can I trust what he's saying?" ( Fi+Te+ (Ni developed) ) Then further went into "Motives he has for making these: Monetary ( - / neutral influence ), Genuinely cares ( Observed through conflicting points with himself and tone of voice so far ) ( + ), Influencing people and Conspiracy theory factor ( ABO and negative worldview come from reality as well as from someone with unprocessed trauma - He repeatedly talks about not being masculine enough and then is sensitive to it in later videos and reinforcing a mindset - When I looked I could see his facial muscles change when he is talking from a place of hurt. Talking from a place of hurt is authentic and not to be trusted at the same time because beliefs come before emotions when then become actions. If he is what he says he is ( I'm just going to assume he wouldn't lie about this ) His "There is one truth" and cult like aspects could come from Trickster Fi
I saw a comment that someone asked if ISFP's cared about other people being authentic. The answer is yes. But IxFP's are inathentic all the time, but then put it on other people to be authentic. "I don't need to be good, I just need to appear good." "How dare you not be good, I'm trying so hard to be good." Obviously these are not real quotes, but you see it all the time with xxFP's, especially IxFP's. This is why you see them "live in denial", if you confront them about something, they just cluster up and immaturely not discuss it, sitting there like a child silent or in denial. If you are so insecure about looking bad, STOP being bad. If other people think that you're bad when you're not, STOP caring. Once you go down the negative route, you create a positive feedback loop of self-withering. Once you go down a positive route, you create a positive feedback loop of self-growth. You make your insecurities come true, because you took the expedient way, then double down on it, making the insecurities worse, then the cycle restarts, getting worse and worse over time. When you finally break the cycle and develope yourself, you realize that your insecurities were not as real as you thought. This gives you the realistic thinking you need to keep going, and then a good cycle will start. This feedback thinking can apply to any inferior function really. It's about either overestimating or underestimating your insecurities. Real development is living real, and in touch with the actual world. Not living an exaggerated nightmare or daydream. Knowing what people actually think, for the ISFP case.
I felt very self-deprecating after watching this video. It had good points that I find important to work on and am grateful for that. But this kind encouragement from you is very warm and reassuring. Thank you
Elvis Presley was an ISFP with a great Se parent to perform for the plentiful SFJ women out there. (And yes, read any biography of Elvis and you will see he was as an introverted, withdrawn, and controlling ISFP.)
If I had an ISFP daughter who would ask or tell me that I would tell her, “ honey, do you enjoy eating? Do you enjoy eating your cereal? Do you enjoy drinking milk? Do you enjoy your apple slices? Do you like eating? Is eating necessary to survive? While I am asking her these questions I would have a straight dead pan look on my face. Then, I would say , “those are all the reasons, pumpkin”. ☺️
I am an ISFP and i understand why people are ticked off by the way you roast the types, at least the ISFP because I was that type of person that is being called out in this video and I absolutely hate the person I was. So to be repeatedly told that I am still that person causes a lot of frustration. I guess you are targeting younger audience for ISFPs because I somewhat overcame these problems in my teens. But I really appreciate you pumping all the pretentious ISFPs out there, if my younger self had listened to this I would have really hated you but all the crying would have been worth it
I am an 18 year old, female ISFP. I just wanted to share some information thought process for anyone who might see. I am depressed and haven't felt any happiness for months. I realized that to live properly (reduce pains in my life) I needed a solid foundation and that how I subjective and unreliable my feelings are for that. My value systems have crumbled because I realized that what religion and my affiliative surroundings have been telling me are not based on the truth. And I'm not even sure if God exists or if God is good. How can I even form a value system without the acknowledging the existence of God? So now, all I care about is finding the truth-the unbiased mathematical truth. But it's so hard to find the truth and every day is just a burden. The falsity, the ignorance, the willful blindness of the world angers me. But I'm not better either. What even is 'better'? Is the anger justifiable? My stupidity makes me feel so weak. I realized that the things that come out of mouth are just meaningless words with no weight in them. I'm an ISFP, but I don't have motivation to create anything. I'm just a consumer. I don't love my family because "those who don't know God don't know love". I just abide by the rules of reciprocity and decency so that I can be fed. But I don't lie. Maybe having courage and taking on the burdens of life with responsibility is the answer. In case any one reads this, do you have an advice for me? Not just feel-good ones, but words that are based on fundamental truths of the world.
Find your meaning. There are people out here like me who everyone judges as someone who lacks kindness but you are on of the precious few that can see just how kind people like me actually are. Gives people like me hope.
Chase says inps lead the world , the future , so isps rule the concrete world , as an istp I can't do without my partner, you have to help me make this world good .
Hey August. I just read this comment a year after you posted it. I hope you find yourself well, or at least that things are getting better. I feel almost speechless reading this, because this was me exactly at 19, and I felt very much alone and rudderless. I am nolonger rudderless, but seeking the truth is inherently lonely at first because you have to cut out the noise of what other people believe and expect of you in order to discern what you can and cannot know. Hopefully you are figuring things out on your own, but I would like to share how this scenario played out in my life. When I allowed myself to admit that I didn't see the world as others told me it was, my vision narrowed, and I nearly blacked out while driving. I had a serious anxiety attack. Shortly after this, I noticed I couldn't really taste my food anymore. I couldn't feel joy or sadness. The world became gray. It took me several years for feeling to return. This severe reaction was the culmination of my reality shattering and a significant childhood trauma surfacing at the same time. I am a particularly chaotic Isfp, and the first thing that helped me was finding work that imposed an external source of structure where people relied on me to show up every day. This gave me something of a routine to follow in the absence of direction or goals. I started making enough money to move out of my mother's house, which allowed me the mental space and the freedom to explore my thoughts without needing to square them against the beliefs of my family. I began initiating conversations with anyone open enough to share their philosophies on life with me. I treated every perspective I encountered as potentially holding a piece of the truth. After holding a set of imposed beliefs and watching them fall apart, I could never again wholely subscribe to another person's beliefs just because they come across as confident and certain. I began to weigh every perspective and to keep certain parts and release other parts of the philosophies I encountered. It is difficult to navigate familial relationships when you know that attempting to discern truth will put you at odds with the people you love who love you, but If you first cultivate a sense of self determined worth, they will be forced to either respect who you become or miss out on the relationship. You are not rejecting your family by admitting that you don't believe what they believe, it is them rejecting you for not believing what they believe, and what they want you to believe. You don't have decide everything or take a clear stance on everything all at once.. Just because the stories are not true in an imperical sense does not mean that they are not true in a metaphoric sense. Our ancestors encoded truths about what it is to be a living being inside of stories. You may have a bad taste for JordanPeterson, but I would suggest if you are not totally against it, listening to his biblical lectures on his podcast. There is one titled I think "on being a victim" where he makes a case for a psychological interpretation for what the word God means to us, and how it developed. To many Christians his perspective on God and the Christian texts is absolute blasphemy, but I find it to be maybe the most realistic perspective. He essentially presents an interpretation of the Bible through a human psychological evolutionary or as I like to think of it, the large timescale context that makes alot of sense... a lot of sense. There is a tendency when you first "fall away" to believe that everything you were told is a lie,and I did, but now I am at peace with it as I see I was just looking at it through a lens or context that was impossible to square with the reality I observe every day. I have settled on a set of things I believe are probably true, and I am content with the fact that there some things I cannot know. Whatever your art is. Set aside time to do it even if you don't feel I right now. Don't let your skills get rusty. You will be able to speak what you've learned once you reach a clearer more at peace place through your artform if you commit to developing your chops in spite of how you feel or don't feel. Don't be too hard on yourself for not having the answers immediately, and don't be too hard on your family if you can help it.. Try not to take what your family thinks about your path too personally. Good luck my friend from across the ether. It will get better, and then it will get good.
Thanks. You show the the darkest side of ISFP (Immature or in denial process). Mature and balanced ISFP go with their ego their true cognitive personality. When their depressed or thay do not go thru self development process or not reach for support in right time could end up like ISFP in your story.
Thank you for pointing out the importance of maturity of cognitive functions when typing someone and not replying on them that much. It helped me to better understand priorities when typing.
The denial point is so interesting, my Nan and I are both ISFP, and she has a reputation for burying her head in the sad, such as when bad things happened to people she loved, her famous catchphrase is "oh well"
my mother is one of the most loyal and hard working ISFP i have ever seen, she is very developed because of how she was raised, she was raised in a multi generation house, and we are middle eastern, you would be amazed how types look where we live compare to other places, but your are totally right, most ISFPs i know including my amazing mother is SOOOOO in denial, and you can imagine how annoying in denial is to an INTJ, i just feel so angry around Fi doms, still they are not as bad as ESFJs though, its lala land for ESFJs where i live because of misunderstanding the real meaning behind some religious ideology.
I, an Enfj man, dated an Isfp man.He seemed very put together, and out going at first but as I got to know him he was, materialistic, opportunistic, impulsive, secretive, critical, manipulative, exclusive to others, arrogant, indecisive at the worst times, hypocritical, and completely unaware of the effects that his actions had on those around him, including his cat. He always spent his check on a rental sports cars and alcohol the first chance he got. On about 4 occasions he triggered my ESTJ demon🤦🏿♂️😅, 2 in public. I wont say he had any redeeming qualities, but he did love to spend quality, was a bit of a perfectionist/craftsman, loved luxury, had a sense fashion (even though half the time he borrowed my clothes), communicative, made an effort to be as honest as possible, would seek counsel from me when dealing with interpersonal relationships, and always texting me first( enfj preference🙋🏿♂️😂👍🏿). He had this cheap way of redeeming himself by giving me gifts with notes attached to convince me to stick me around, or giving me long hugs that transitioned to the bed which then became uneventful. He visibly made efforts to be better and I could see how hard self sacrifice was for him. It was my longest relationship but at the end of the day he was inhibiting my growth as independent bonafide man and so I had to cut ties. I wish I could see his growth, but I cant stand to look at that scum bag. He broke my heart and my trust way too many times, and quite frankly Im repulsed at myself for putting up with it.
Can I ask you , what hurt you was fi selfishness as you mentioned , what about common se-ni axis , did you compete for choice or performance ? Did you limit the freedom of each other or did you deal with it using judging functions , I can see you probably tried to prevent him from making some showing off useless decisions but other than that , in general did you compete ?
I have been subscribing this channel for quite a while and I found that all your lectures are super helpfull. I am an ISFP and I have been struggling with things mostly due to me being self centered, not caring and irresponsible. Thank you for the enlightment and all the advices 🙏
19:52 it’s interesting that you specifically mentioned an entp man. i’m crushing on one so hard right now and i just know in order to be of interest to him in the long run i need to be more ambitious, goal oriented, and self sufficient. so i’ve been watching a lot of these videos and am going to try to get out of my comfort zone and live a better life.
@@CSJoseph i actually did, and he did say he liked me too. but he has some religious commitments that makes him unavailable at the moment. he said if it weren’t for that he would have already gone for it by now. which is kind of unfortunate that there’s mutual feelings that can’t be acted on. i’m not good at thinking of the future so i don’t know yet if i’m going to “wait for him” but in the meantime (a year and a half left of his thing) i’m going to try to live a more productive life not even just for him but for my own sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. he just happened to be a reality check and kickstarter for me going down the right path. kinda surprised you responded, i really appreciate your honesty and insight about the types. it helps with self improvement :)
This is just a personal perspective. Every personality group can have a deep level of selfishness in different ways. Some of them doing it through victim projection, others bullying, etc etc. one personality type is not more selfish than another. Selfishness is a reflection of a dysfunctional person, not a personality type.
I'm an INTJ and I used to date an ISFP woman and the relationship went pretty ok until she dumped me for someone else 4 years older than her (we were teenagers at the time so 4 years was a big difference) and I guess this goes with what you said about them wanting to keep their options open. Then she went from being very depressed and sliting her wrists to getting involved with all sorts of drugs and almost got pregnant. Her life pretty much went completely downhill and even now she denies that shes ever changed. It was a really sad thing to see.
I cant relate to some of this like the cheating and stealing etc... loyalty and honesty are really important to me, but the things I do relate to were very eye opening and helpful to hear about like blowing all my money on shit. I dont piss it all away at bars but I love buying clothes and I put way too much pride into my physical appearance and how im perceived physically to those around me, which is fucking exhausting tbh.
I don't know if this is the best approach, but even before I knew anything about MBTI, I'd straight up call out my mom's opinions being absolute bullshit. I told her to either tell me what she really thinks of X Y Z or just be honest in saying she doesn't want to say anything. This entire video sums up the ISFP very well to the point of when they drive themselves into a corner and then start devising annoying ways to get back at people. Just fking get over it and stop being petty. If you hate someone, at least end it in one fell swoop. A battle is not won by driving everyone against you, it is won by finding allies and incorporating them into an effective strategy. .... So stupid
I've never watched someone get so charged and go so deep into the ISFP's flaws. Like even the other video i watched on how to love an isfp was so flaws focused. I need to watch how you explain everyone else's types in order to get more perspective i suppose.. maybe that's how you roll.. i am unaware. You go pretty extreme on us! I can't relate to not being loyal, drinking, gambling, etc and I'm self critical and not naive about my flaws and what needs work. Not perfect.. but geez louise.. guess I'm used to watching videos that focus on the positives a bit more😂 I thought us isfp's didn't like attention? I am fashion focused but not to seek attention and couldn't care less about expensive brands. If I'm ever craving a good scolding about binging Three's Company, I'll come here first. I'm thinking I'm healthier than I thought.. maybe because I have a conscience.. but you may say I'm delusional😆
ISFP’s to aspire to be like: Jake Sully (Avatar), Prince/Fire Lord Zuko (the other Avatar), Nicki Minaj, Michael Jackson (minus the Child Scandals). Note: Identify with them at the beginning of their story, but notice how they change after their existential crisis’. P.S. I’m really obsessed with this type because they really have so much potential. If all the worlds ISFPs used authentic integrity, they could really be the worlds saviors.
@@MarkyMark2177 No. Then then they're probably healthy and what claims this video is not very accurate of all ISFPs and YOU are mistyping them by denying their type.
@@MarkyMark2177 No, it's not my problem personally and I'm not going into these childish useless altercations, I have better things to do with my time. I'm simply correcting you because what you say is inaccurate.
@@aurorebergen2779 nice lazy stubbornness to verify your type and maybe even consider the possibility that you are in the wrong and are being inaccurate here. Gotta love it when Ti users choose to be arrogant asf. Marky Mark merely pointed out the possibility that the person is mistyped and therefore misjudging CSJ's videos meaning he should at least verify. If you can't handle even thinking for a second that you are maybe wrong about something and putting in the effort to check, then no one will trust what you have to say. The fact that you outright said "no" to the possibility of him being mistyped shows your entitlement your arrogance and your stubbornness
@@D14MBK 🤦♀️ If many ISFPs can't relate, maybe the problem is not them, huh? Also what Ti? Jumping to conclusions again? Well "Marky mark" doesn't know the dude, therefore what he says is irrelevant, just like what you say. Go learn back cognitive functions, Carl Jung would have had a huge facepalm reaction right now. Why am I even arguing with a 15 years old on the internet...
@@aurorebergen2779 many??? Firstly, what are the "many" ISFPs that can't relate? Secondly, realise the fact that the opposite can also be true, if many ISFPs *relate* to this video, then maybe YOU are the problem, not them? I can see why you completely ignored that line of reasoning though considering it involved you being in the wrong. OMG ONCE AGAIN, the same logic applies, Marky Mark doesn't know the dude, neither do you! Therefore what you say is also irrelevant meaning you are unable to say with such certainty that they aren't mistyped. How stupid are you? The difference is, Marky Mark didn't say it with certainty but rather as a possibility. Carl Jung?? I don't know if you thought you were smart for mentioning Carl Jung or something but the ironic thing is, you are completely wrong about him. Carl Jung has acknowledged himself that not everything he said is accurate and that he hopes for it to be expanded upon and advanced. So no, he wouldn't be face-palming at this but rather be relieved his work is being expanded upon and face-palming at people like you for blindly trying to prevent future change and upgrading that's needed and only accepting what's highly known, he'd look at you in disgust for how much of an entitled arrogant person you are, I'd honestly love to see it happen just for the humility
I've been extremely giving, I enjoy giving. BUT ended up with a toxic person and bad boundaries so overgave, currently on my way out. I def hide my head in the sand. I think being generous is a great quality. So is telling the truth-even if it's scary. I was a wayfarer thief when young.
Never insult the inner child because that is child abuse! My Ni inner child wants to kick anyone's butt who insults me. We are introverted feelers so when our inner child is insulted or prevented to do what he or she wants to do we are angry, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, agitated or stressed. My ESFJ shadow wants to lash out at you when I feel trapped or stressed or angry. My INTP demon wants to plan your demise or punish you.
Well thank you for the "constructive" advice on how fix faults I've never heard ISFPs even had. I'm so sorry you have known such shitty people (isfps??)in your life, but we are not all to blame for them. I can relate to laziness, being afraid of what people think of me, and sometimes overreacting (though mostly internally), due to sensitivity. The fakeness I don't know where that came from, the stealing, putting up fasades etc. Trying to be someone we're not?? Like who then- how? Are you projecting entp:ness here, or? Envious of our authenticity? Like if I would take this seriously, I would start to doubt my type for the first time ever. I have LOADS of flaws and weaknesses as a person, but fakeness or using fasades aren't among them. Because I'm extremely self-critisizing (far too much), and my sense of morals is against such behaviour. On top of that I'm a lousy actor and can't hide emotions. People might think I'm cold, boring, too shy, even unfriendly (=selfish) due to absent Fe and no small talk, but part of what you're describing in this video is completely alien to me. Added to that, your way of approach and attitude, which only will have ISFPs show you the finger and never visit your channel again. Geez, I used to really value your videos. Yeah, and wanting to be in the center of attention???? Something I absolutely hate. ESFPs want that. The people your describing must have been really lost souls, orphans, abused and on top of that probably urban (isfps should be close to nature) without knowing anything else in life.
CS Joseph if you want to be understood at all you have to elaborate more, give concrete examples (to sensors at least), and preferrably remake this video.. It's possible that some things are totally misunderstood due to the negativity you're sending out and the lack of explanation. This advice is only kindly meant.
@@lostbuthopefull8788 yeah but Ti is far more authentic than Fi. Fi users will be fake if it suits their reputation especially Fi doms cuz their Te inferior is afraid of damaging their reputation
Why do i love u roasting me? Like u nailed it. Including relating to the villains like since i was little like we was playing Disney princesses in school and everyoje wanted to be a princess while i wanted to be the evil queen. I always loved playin the villain like even in real life i love playin the mean older sister A famous fellow ISFP The Weeknd which i damn love once said he loves playin the bad guy and relates to the villain Like i don’t like casinos and stuff but i definitely Spend a lot of money on clothes i am not Gonna actually wear just bcuz i feel to buy it Just by watching this i realized i love surrounding myself with ISFJs and esfjs(especially isfjs bcuz they’ll let me do whatever i want and i’m the “boss”). I don’t care that much about controlling others but i care about not being controlled
Right, I have tried it. The controlling methods never work on ISFPs, it always backfires. I concluded that their weakness is some kind of smooth influencing, even better doing it while using seductive tone of voice. ***And don't forget to give them the illusion of control by giving them a choice 👍
@@honor9lite1337 facts like if ppl around me are controlling(like my dad is the type who loves controlling everything typical ISTJ) or try to force me to do what i don’t want i won’t do it just for the sake of pissing that person off. Like my father is extremely Christian and always forces his beliefs on me and i pretend i’m atheist just to make him mad
@@Moana_moo hmm interesting, my personal experience of ISTJs is that they're a very rigid and traditional kind of type, but they are very open to other people choice(it's more like an ISFJs overall, but they take their reputations seriously)
@@honor9lite1337 IDK my dad ain’t and tbh i kind of love pissing controlling ppl off. I kind of do the same with “controlling teachers”. Like i’m Gonna break the rules just to do so
Me listening what you say and then ... "Wow , it's a cute dog in his car." :)))) That puppy made my day. Honestly I like to think that I'm a good person. But at the same time I take criticism not so much at the heart like I used to but to learn something from it. Mabye I matured with time :))) - ISFP
My boyfriend NEEDS to hear this… he has all the right stuff but he won’t wake up or open his eyes… I want to help him find himself but he has shut me down in every way I’ve tried… I have issues myself… way more issues then he has for real… but he is so combative or reactive or just dismissive of anything that insinuates that he has some issues that need attention… all of this is dead on for him and I’m gonna share it with him but I don’t think he will even listen to it… makes me feel pretty hopeless in this situation… I know it’s not my place to make him want to find himself… I just wish he would want to… I don’t want him to change… I just want him to be him… instead of pretending he’s perfect and blaming me for his actions that cause my reactions aren’t the healthiest… I let him know up front that I have toxic ways of dealing with conflict and fear… I don’t care that he isn’t who he pretended to be I just need him to level with me now… this message is the answer
I am 31 i just found out my type recently and listening to his at first i felt fiery from the harshness but then i reflexed on how i was like 16-19 and unfortunately pretty accurate thank God for maturity
I'd been questioning if I'm really Isfp,,'cause I'm pretty responsible for my financial management so I don't allow myself to spend freely money... Does an ISFP out there do the same?
one wayfarer to another: i struggle to love isfps because it seems most i run into are cutting so many corners that they end up making a bunch of woodchips, and even though woodchips are still useful (metaphorically) they are the types to still be wasteful, and let them sit and rot in the backyard. this can be literal, too. i might be telling on myself and my type, especially since i'm not hiding that i'm also a wayfarer 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️ ... and that i can't stand that waste. it's like, damn, do something with it. it would take 5 minutes to do, even simply spreading it out and mulching it, on your way back from checking the mail. what did david allen say? if it takes 2 minutes, do it.
I find ISFPs are super idle or super productive (Lebron James) but rarely in between. Even ISFP Elvis alternated from super productive to super idle, which played a part in his early demise.
"It's better be hated by being real, rather than be liked or be loved by being fake." and also "You don't have to pretend to be perfect or otherwise people might want or get some expectations from you." Sure I get it...next time I apply on a 4th or 5th job all what's in the resume that I'm not happy with...DELETED. (Not exact) You said that from the other videos you posted...i think its on the 4 pillars part(?)
Speaking of villains as an ISFP i always found the villains to be more entertaining than the heroes. Like my friends tell me that when we were little we were playin princesses and i’d always be the evil Queen or even so my fav game of thrones characters are Lannisters especially Cersei. Also The Weeknd a famous fellow ISFP said he loves playin the villain and he relates to Joker and he just loves villains Btw enjoyed u roasting the shit out of me on the spot creative artistic sometimes denial about certain things and kind of selfish. IDK if it’s an ISFP thing or not but as someone who draws and has a design tutour and unless my drawings are good and i know i won’t get criticised for them i won’t be showing them to nobody not teachers not parents not friends like i’m always showing and posting all my good art and the other i hide it
I started listening and I had major old war films nostalgia... The scenery was also good ! And you're wearing military green ! ! WAIT YOU WERE MULTITASKING by doing a lecture and riding the car at the same time, lowkey gives me pressure on the anxiety... I know you're a good driver, you've told us that before but I prefer safety first : )
I'm an ENTJ and suspect my son is an ISFP. He typed himself at 8 years old by reading the questions on 16personalities and answering them accordingly. I didn't think the result would be accurate, because what child knows themselves that well, right? Unfortunately, he does seen to be an ISFP. Unfortunately because we don't get along as well as I'd like. Send help and direction. :'(
Me: I am an intellectual Also me, listening to “you can go into chaotic transition or orderly transition or for the Isfp - a good transition or a bad transition”: THANK YOU
Wow i needed to hear this though. And to validate what youre saying - the times in my life when i have been most active and focused on goals have been my happiest times and ive taken the focus off myself and paid more attention to others. I need to work on getting back there. Also my Fi+Se appreciates the lovely scenery
After like 2 months of life lol I came back to this video and humility has set on me. Yea I’m not that great tbh. But also like I don’t understand what you meant when you said our opinion is fake? Or our status is fake? I feel like I usually tell the truth on what I think so I just don’t understand and I wish you gave more specific examples on that. However a lot of what u said I’ve experienced. Like wanting to keep options open, being loyal to nobody but wanting loyalty. Anyway yea it’s bc idk if people are worth commuting to when I just feel used and unseen. But yea idk ik a lot of my ways can be problematic. Didn’t realize how my idleness could really affect others since I’m single and 22. But it is better to earn and work for what you have 100%.
I didn't know ISFPs (in general) like casinos...What I know about ISFPs do like Mountain Biking, Hiking, (stereotypically) Unicorns and My Little Pony stuff and romantic walking on the fields (and then kissing and banging perhaps😂😂😂) and beaches (where it is not a tourist attraction or perhaps no people at all)...they do prefer these EVEN MORE my good sir.
Okay but it really feels like the ISFP Woman Who Moved Across The Country example is a personal history lesson, oof. A lot of the descriptions I've read about ISFPs elsewhere feel pretty accurate, but I'm starting to question my typing. I tested as an ISFP via 16 Personalities. I don't drink, steal, cheat, or gamble at all, but I very definitely skipped class a lot back in the day, lol. I can be impulsive in particular ways and I know I'm in denial about certain things. I am lazy AF (though I do think my profound physical disability has a part in that since I didn't used to be quite this lazy) and I worry that I am stupid/other people think I'm dumb. I am artistic and value The Aesthetic(TM), but I dress plainly in inexpensive clothes. I also don't care about status and like to fly under the radar. I can definitely be selfish but I can also do things without having to get mine. I value loyalty so, SO much and remain loyal even when I probably shouldn't. I am not open about my emotions or inner life at all and prefer weird or fun convos over the deep philosophical stuff. Uh, that got longer than I expected it to, sorry. Does anyone have theories about my type or know what MBTI test is the most accurate? I appreciate it!
As Istp having a boss with isfp boss, I dont think we are getting along. She's bossying me around that she can be able to do it by her own. She asked me to stamp all of her thick amount of docs that its actually her job 😅. So......?
ISFP denial!!!!!! Yes!!!! My mother when I was growing up!!! My drunk driving alcoholic uncle, as seen by my mother: "He has a good heart." Really! He very well might have a great heart, but his actions almost kill people! Yes, not a self sacrificing bone in their body. They can fake it to look good, but they need to end up totally alone in their house of cats and litter boxes before they wake up. My dad stayed married to her, even though she destroyed what he brought, but after a few years just "put up with her." Now that they are elderly, he runs his business and lets her sit in her craft room in her happy fantasy. This multigenerational theory under one roof may be off, not wrong, but not fleshed out yet. If you are equating "western" to "Biblical," the Bible teaches that he must prepare his fields then build his house, and leave his family and cleave to his wife. The Bible teaches that older women train younger women, but also warns old women against being nosy busy bodies in eachother's houses. The Proverbs 31 woman had her own domain, for sure. Trying to make a family work under one roof or even right next door is often not a good one. Everybody Loves Raymond. Or acid attacks on draughters-in-law in India. We romanticize non-western cultures still. It's not honest to them or us. The western ideas are good, when practiced. But they take discernment to learn. Alot of people are lumped under the "western " umbrella while sinning their little butts off. As you say, they are hypocrites. Especially if the men in their lives are boys. It's very clear, your community growing up, was messed up. Your church was messed up. You are correct. They were not following the right preachers and not acting right. They did not know their Bible, were not acting out the parable of iron sharpens iron.
Chase your ESFP superego will be judged by the same measure you judge other SFPs. It would be wise of you to take your own advice then apply it to your own life in your own intimate relationships.
One thing I do know is I'm working on giving up the need to always be right. I'm willing to admit I was a really shit person and I had really shit motives and I am working to change that. I know some people may not like they way you talked in this video but it really does need to be said, in this way. Like throwing ice water on someone who needs to wake tf up. I never did casinos nor gambling, my vice was trading cards. I used to spend hundreds of dollars on trading cards all the time because those cards were representative of power, imagine that! I was a real shit boyfriend too! Had extreme issues with jealousy and trust. But I wasn't even being my true self, I still don't even know who that true self is! So I get it, I get why you chose this manner to communicate. Because let's face it, the vast majority you were just talking. It wasn't until near the end that you really started hammering away. So yeah, it needs to be said. I know it's true because I lived it. I was the selfish asshole who didn't actually care about what anyone else felt, just what I wanted. That was my life in my mid 20s.
Asian women don’t have Brazilian butts, man hands, or hairy bodies. Even Asian men don’t have much body hair. 🤔 I agree with everything you are saying. It is applicable to everyone.
ISfPs at their best can be great but at worst the most self pitying, self indulgent, uncontrolled and at times transactional people out there. Much more so than ESFPs who use their convergent Se and Te far better.
Just subbed....thanks for the hard truth!💯 Started learning about the cognitive functions from your videos. I feel like my life has rebooted in my early 40s! Hard worker but idle early on because I didn't CARE about my work. It's important for us to find virtue, diligence and purpose in our work. 🔨💼 I can't stand gambling and I don't drink. Maybe because I'm more mature. 🤔 Not an Artist by trade but I have an aesthetic eye. 👁️ "Work with the negatives to make a better picture." -Drake
isfp unconscious is not like infp unconscious? even though both have fe nemesis? dont they also try to convince others of their own moral system and ignore other moral systems? and what about unconscious focused isfps? what are they like?
Great lecture as usual Chase. Was watching this on speaker with my ispf mom in the background. She related quite a lot with what you had to say. She developed her unconscious at a very young age though, wich is probably why she is such a great person.
@lili keea well. She lost her mother when she was 16 years old and her father was an alcoholic, so she was basicaly forced to mature rapidly. I guess you can look at the individual functions of the shadow and motivate yourself to practice the traits that come with them.
i cut off an isfp friend who was a selfish twat. the funny thing is, she would brag about how selfish she was yet be upset she had no other friends.. but im an istp.. i aint got the patience for that. good luck to her other friends. she is exactly like this.. very very selfish
One of my story's main characters is an ISFP, certainly a must watch. But if you're not busy, could you answer a question about xNFPs I have in this comment?
Lmao he got in a fight w an isfp before this I swear 🤣 stop going so hard on him guys watch his other videos he has said plenty of beautiful things about the type he just taps onto the criticisms a lil heavy sometimes. He's out here making an honest and effective effort to inform ppl I know we're sensitive and shit but you can't take a generalized video personally
Hey, thanks for all that you do, was wondering. Do you have any book recommendations for ISFPs? For others out there, Ego is the enemy helped me profoundly. It helped me humble myself.
I know most of my flaws, and I know that if I find what I want and what I care about I can work really hard at to become the top. But 18 and I’m lost. I made bad decisions and now I’m stuck doing something I don’t want to do. I feel stupid, irresponsible, naive, uncaring about everything except certain things I really like. I feel stuck in my own stupidity, how do I get out?
As an ISFP listening to this guy roasting me for a whole hour feels.... interesting
CS Joseph enjoys roasting a little too much. He likes to blame it on his personality type but...I have an ENTP daughter who is a missionary. She can roast but not like this. Doesn't enjoy the thought of hurting people. When I listened to "Social Engineering of a INTJ" which is my other daughter, I became so angry. He shouldn't enjoy the thought of how to destroy others. My daughter would be absolutely wrecked by the instructions in that video and he was jubilant about it. Don't get it at all. His has incredible insights but....sometimes I want to shake him. I pray for him instead. (An empathic INTP)
He is generalizing ISFPs. Most ISFPs do not like casinos. They like museums, coffee shops, a 1950's diner or a fashion show or ecclectic bands.
I could say a lot of bad things about ENTPs but I want to not be an a-hole like this guy. I am done watching his videos.
@@sandradibiaso7316 I love his way of giving consturtive criticism, i hope he will always be this harsh on people. It hits you hard, wakes you up.
@@sirmadam8183 It is absolutely not accurate about ISFPs liking casinos. My ESTP brother likes casinos and so does my ESTJ dad.
I feel like I've regressed about 20 years lmao like "oh yeah I am like that but forgot because I've been so busy trying to not be like that."
Chase you are both more entertaining and intelligent than your competitors. A rare combination. Which explains why each day you are distancing yourself from them and will be bigger than all combined.
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ISFP's probably thinking that from 10:13 to 10:41 was artistic as f*ck.
Funniest comment I’ve read on youtube in a month
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I hate being an ISFP... I tried a period of being totally selfless, proactive, controlled, not overindulging, much less introspective, and actually ended up on antidepressants for 2 years & having a mental breakdown because I 'lost who I was'. Ego isn't a choice, you can only work on it and create balance.
I get what u mean as an ISFP it’s really hard for me to not be selfish like it ain’t my natural state to be empathetic and selfless. What i do is surround myself with ESFJs and isfjs cuz most will actually call me out for bein selfish and I’ll feel bad
This is pretty much exactly what happened to me. For a long time I was building my business, art, image and momentum around different facets of my life and then I realize that I was taking advantage of people, being emotionally manipulative for my own gain and being pretty self centered. So I stopped that process and tried to be more attentive, less selfish, and be more responsive to others needs and emotions over my own. And within 6 months I went from feeling everything to feeling nothing, spiralled out of control emotionally dropped into a deep depression had a mental breakdown and in the end I became a recluse which hurt the people around me even more because I couldn't be there emotionally for anyone in my life.
Honestly when I think about how I was living my life before I decided to be more selfless I was actually fulfilling a social role that no one around me was able to fulfill. No one I knew around me was able to produce and or have the motivation, skill, vision or energy to move the necessary parts to make something happen, to bring a project to life or have enthusiasm for the process. What I found is that most people are waiting for someone else to do it and I was the one that was willing and wanted to do it. But I felt like I was the selfish one because I incurred most of the benefits but I realized that it was actually the people around me who were being just as selfish because they were waiting for someone like me to come by to make their vision a reality because most people are hopelessly incapable of doing it themselves.
On the back end of this experience I'm learning that I have needed to develop healthy boundaries between other people and my creative process. Here's hoping that I can build a sustainable life that is able to balance each situation with the respect and nuance that it deserves.
@@iam-kai yep, the whole “isfp’s are selfish” thing is pure BS, from people who don’t see what it is that we provide to them because they are focused on thinking that the grass is greener on our side since they are only seeing the fruits of our labor. We are willing to do what others are not willing to do and we do it in a way where we are focused on making the world a better place while being a beacon for change. We can’t be that if we are trying to be something that we are not. It’s more important to feel good about yourself and find your happy place. The reason why some people don’t like us is because we don’t give into their BS and allow them to live in their own illusions. It’s like when a little kid acts up because their parents aren’t letting them get away with something shitty. ISFPs are morally conscious and we can’t really pretend that we don’t see those compromises in other people, and because we are not good at lying (you can see it on our faces even) it makes people’s insecurities get triggered if they are doing things that they know they shouldn’t be doing (like drinking or drug addictions). That’s why we get a lot of shit, because sometimes people don’t like having to measure up in those ways, so they are essentially gas lighting us. I’m not selfish, you’re selfish!! That kind of shit. We are not selfish, that is a false perception from people who do not understand us. Loyalty does not come from selfish people.
@@foogentog as an isfp I agree with you
@@foogentog so just because you provide we should enable you to take drugs or put your life in danger?
I feel like an ISFP recently ticked you off 😂
I am an ISFP, and this is all so true. I really wish I was motivated to do the right thing without getting something out of it, but I have to seriously believe in something to do that, otherwise I lose my sense of self. Its a real weakness
No they didn’t upset me
@@CSJoseph I know you joke around, I've seen other videos of you talking about your ISFP friend who you really value 👍🏻
This actually one of the most gentle videos I've seen on this channel haha
I think this is his baseline way of talking. Consistant to 3 years back too however, I see and hear what you mean :D
At least youre honest. I respect that
Your examples are so extreme, it’s funny. I love the rude awakenings, keep em coming
All you said completely applies to me. People being butthurt in the comments either aren't isfp or have some introspection to do. When I first realized I was selfish, useless, basically a parasite- i said that to some of my friends and they brought up how I was back in the day when I was diligent and generally balanced, even though I haven't been that way in a while.
And lately appearances really did become important - i wanted to make myself look smart, but the more i tried, the worse i felt - because i know i was faking it.
I ain't smart, I ain't hardworking, I waste time, energy, money. Yet i have the audacity to call myself a genius.
Every day is an emotional rollercoaster.
So I'll just stop pretending for a change.
I have an isfp cousin , now to be honest I don't like her , but gotta say she's read some books you can't call her dump at all and my other cousins love her so much they literally follow her everywhere even to the bathroom. It'll take some time but you can be better , hope you the best .
P.s : if you want thinking types to like you particularly tps you just need a good fi not to memorize the whole encyclopedia , and then they will be happy to share their ti with you and that will help you with growing your te because tps like te but they NEED fi .
I was looking forward to this video (since the debut of the cognitive transition series) because as an ISFP, I wanted to know more about how an ISFP would look like when transitioned to ENTJ. I appreciate and agree with the advice to work hard and produce more, but I feel like this video would be more valuable and useful if there were more practical advice for subconscious transition (if I somehow missed it, please let me know).
There are many ISFPs who are loyal, genuine, responsible and want to find their true purpose to contribute to the world. I'm sorry you have had bad experiences with some ISFPs, but rest assured, I know there are mature ISFPs who have gone through his or her self-awareness path and/or healing journey. I am one of them.
Anyway, thanks for the video. If you have any other practical advice for transition to ENTJ, that would be awesome. I am currently reading Principles by Ray Dahlio and streamlining tasks to be more efficient. Please let me know if there's anything else. Thanks 😊
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Isfp here. I think I remember one time I looked more like an ENTJ. Music and photography are hobbies for me but I am an engineer. And I remember organizing at university (all engineers) a music show, I organized the whole process very precisely, knowing where I was going with accuracy. I had a good schedule of everything and I had no problem directing people on the scene in order to make something harmonious and esthetically nice. As I was the only guy with an "artistic" background, I really felt my point of view was worth and had a lot of self confidence in being the "expert". I felt so complete during the whole process. I remember people were amazed by how I handled the whole thing.
So I would say :
- I think we, isfp's, really have a great competence in dealing with harmony /esthetics
- it's all a matter of self confidence. If I had lost it for any reason (like maybe someone trying to be another expert and criticizing/questioning my organization/ability) , I am sure I would have lost this ability to be organised. So feeling like an expert on the subject, compared to others, was really what made me confident and therefore become a kind of ENTJ.
Does it ring anything to you? This kind of experience?
its in Season 19
@@Tbrhn Hey, thanks for sharing your experience. I really enjoyed it. Yes, it reminds me of the times where we would have simple birthday parties for friends but it wasn't as nice as I thought it could be with the resources we had on hand, so I would start nicely start to direct other people to help and rearrange things to be more aesthetically pleasing. I felt like it's a celebration and should be as grand and lovely as it could be. I did feel confident and kinda "fulfilled" during the process. After everything was done, we were pleased with the results. I love doing a project or tasks and having creative freedom.
Looking back on my experiences, I definitely agree with your points about feeling confident and being an expert. I think that is the key to transitioning. I'm still working on finding what I'm passionate about and being an expert at it.
Just curious, do you have these ENTJ experiences often? Do you seek these experiences or do they just present itself?
@@CSJoseph Thanks, will patiently wait for season 19 to come out again. :D
When you said about admiting our flaws it reminded me what someone I respect (very smart and deep intp) said about me when I was at high school: "you're openly speak about your flaws and silent about your virtues. No worries, they're so strong they perfectly visible". It was years ago, now I speak openly only about impulsiveness. From some time I'm trying to get my shit together and your words about fake status made me think. Thank you
I don't identify with spending money, but it's probably because I work hard at mcdonalds in the middle of large city, so I really value money I earned in sweat.
LOL so when you were talking about the girl keeping her options open, my reaction was, "Girl, stop saying these things OUT LOUD and then no one will know." And then five min later you talked about ISFPs being in denial and thinking if they just don't talk about it then it's not a real thing to us .... :| So anyway, thank you for everything you do! Super appreciate it!
Ok I had to post this at least once throughout watching C.S Joeseph's videos and this one was the tipping point because 3/4ths of the way in he hasn't explained what I came for - the transitions. Anyways I felt something off about this format and for a good mention posted it below:
The real value of this content is that it forces - the lesson learned from the videos itself when analyzed from a critical viewpoint is that a person cannot take any of his moral judgements to be true and believe them 100%
I - ISFP - Fi user immediately went into "are his morals clashing with mine - can I trust what he's saying?" ( Fi+Te+ (Ni developed) )
Then further went into "Motives he has for making these: Monetary ( - / neutral influence ), Genuinely cares ( Observed through conflicting points with himself and tone of voice so far ) ( + ), Influencing people and Conspiracy theory factor ( ABO and negative worldview come from reality as well as from someone with unprocessed trauma - He repeatedly talks about not being masculine enough and then is sensitive to it in later videos and reinforcing a mindset - When I looked I could see his facial muscles change when he is talking from a place of hurt. Talking from a place of hurt is authentic and not to be trusted at the same time because beliefs come before emotions when then become actions.
If he is what he says he is ( I'm just going to assume he wouldn't lie about this ) His "There is one truth" and cult like aspects could come from Trickster Fi
Thank you for this response!!
I saw a comment that someone asked if ISFP's cared about other people being authentic. The answer is yes.
But IxFP's are inathentic all the time, but then put it on other people to be authentic.
"I don't need to be good, I just need to appear good."
"How dare you not be good, I'm trying so hard to be good."
Obviously these are not real quotes, but you see it all the time with xxFP's, especially IxFP's.
This is why you see them "live in denial", if you confront them about something, they just cluster up and immaturely not discuss it, sitting there like a child silent or in denial.
If you are so insecure about looking bad, STOP being bad. If other people think that you're bad when you're not, STOP caring.
Once you go down the negative route, you create a positive feedback loop of self-withering.
Once you go down a positive route, you create a positive feedback loop of self-growth.
You make your insecurities come true, because you took the expedient way, then double down on it, making the insecurities worse, then the cycle restarts, getting worse and worse over time.
When you finally break the cycle and develope yourself, you realize that your insecurities were not as real as you thought. This gives you the realistic thinking you need to keep going, and then a good cycle will start.
This feedback thinking can apply to any inferior function really. It's about either overestimating or underestimating your insecurities.
Real development is living real, and in touch with the actual world. Not living an exaggerated nightmare or daydream. Knowing what people actually think, for the ISFP case.
I felt very self-deprecating after watching this video. It had good points that I find important to work on and am grateful for that. But this kind encouragement from you is very warm and reassuring. Thank you
Ahhh thanks bro. I wanted someone to tell me that.
I waited a MONTH for this episode!!
Not related to lecture content, but that background is amazing. Most aesthetically beautiful lecture on the channel to date!
It's isfp after all.
Elvis Presley was an ISFP with a great Se parent to perform for the plentiful SFJ women out there. (And yes, read any biography of Elvis and you will see he was as an introverted, withdrawn, and controlling ISFP.)
ISFP daughter: What’s the point of washing dishes?! 😫 ESTP mom: You need a reason to wash dishes? 😳 Lol 😂
If I had an ISFP daughter who would ask or tell me that I would tell her, “ honey, do you enjoy eating? Do you enjoy eating your cereal? Do you enjoy drinking milk? Do you enjoy your apple slices? Do you like eating? Is eating necessary to survive? While I am asking her these questions I would have a straight dead pan look on my face. Then, I would say , “those are all the reasons, pumpkin”. ☺️
Dude, after watching all these, I don’t know what the hell I am. Maybe just a Swiss Army knife
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All I know for sure is I am Gamma quadrant
I am an ISFP and i understand why people are ticked off by the way you roast the types, at least the ISFP because I was that type of person that is being called out in this video and I absolutely hate the person I was. So to be repeatedly told that I am still that person causes a lot of frustration. I guess you are targeting younger audience for ISFPs because I somewhat overcame these problems in my teens. But I really appreciate you pumping all the pretentious ISFPs out there, if my younger self had listened to this I would have really hated you but all the crying would have been worth it
I am an 18 year old, female ISFP. I just wanted to share some information thought process for anyone who might see. I am depressed and haven't felt any happiness for months. I realized that to live properly (reduce pains in my life) I needed a solid foundation and that how I subjective and unreliable my feelings are for that. My value systems have crumbled because I realized that what religion and my affiliative surroundings have been telling me are not based on the truth. And I'm not even sure if God exists or if God is good. How can I even form a value system without the acknowledging the existence of God? So now, all I care about is finding the truth-the unbiased mathematical truth. But it's so hard to find the truth and every day is just a burden. The falsity, the ignorance, the willful blindness of the world angers me. But I'm not better either. What even is 'better'? Is the anger justifiable? My stupidity makes me feel so weak. I realized that the things that come out of mouth are just meaningless words with no weight in them. I'm an ISFP, but I don't have motivation to create anything. I'm just a consumer. I don't love my family because "those who don't know God don't know love". I just abide by the rules of reciprocity and decency so that I can be fed. But I don't lie. Maybe having courage and taking on the burdens of life with responsibility is the answer.
In case any one reads this, do you have an advice for me? Not just feel-good ones, but words that are based on fundamental truths of the world.
Find your meaning. There are people out here like me who everyone judges as someone who lacks kindness but you are on of the precious few that can see just how kind people like me actually are. Gives people like me hope.
Chase says inps lead the world , the future , so isps rule the concrete world , as an istp I can't do without my partner, you have to help me make this world good .
Hey August. I just read this comment a year after you posted it. I hope you find yourself well, or at least that things are getting better. I feel almost speechless reading this, because this was me exactly at 19, and I felt very much alone and rudderless. I am nolonger rudderless, but seeking the truth is inherently lonely at first because you have to cut out the noise of what other people believe and expect of you in order to discern what you can and cannot know. Hopefully you are figuring things out on your own, but I would like to share how this scenario played out in my life. When I allowed myself to admit that I didn't see the world as others told me it was, my vision narrowed, and I nearly blacked out while driving. I had a serious anxiety attack. Shortly after this, I noticed I couldn't really taste my food anymore. I couldn't feel joy or sadness. The world became gray. It took me several years for feeling to return. This severe reaction was the culmination of my reality shattering and a significant childhood trauma surfacing at the same time. I am a particularly chaotic Isfp, and the first thing that helped me was finding work that imposed an external source of structure where people relied on me to show up every day. This gave me something of a routine to follow in the absence of direction or goals. I started making enough money to move out of my mother's house, which allowed me the mental space and the freedom to explore my thoughts without needing to square them against the beliefs of my family. I began initiating conversations with anyone open enough to share their philosophies on life with me. I treated every perspective I encountered as potentially holding a piece of the truth. After holding a set of imposed beliefs and watching them fall apart, I could never again wholely subscribe to another person's beliefs just because they come across as confident and certain. I began to weigh every perspective and to keep certain parts and release other parts of the philosophies I encountered. It is difficult to navigate familial relationships when you know that attempting to discern truth will put you at odds with the people you love who love you, but If you first cultivate a sense of self determined worth, they will be forced to either respect who you become or miss out on the relationship. You are not rejecting your family by admitting that you don't believe what they believe, it is them rejecting you for not believing what they believe, and what they want you to believe.
You don't have decide everything or take a clear stance on everything all at once.. Just because the stories are not true in an imperical sense does not mean that they are not true in a metaphoric sense. Our ancestors encoded truths about what it is to be a living being inside of stories. You may have a bad taste for JordanPeterson, but I would suggest if you are not totally against it, listening to his biblical lectures on his podcast. There is one titled I think "on being a victim" where he makes a case for a psychological interpretation for what the word God means to us, and how it developed. To many Christians his perspective on God and the Christian texts is absolute blasphemy, but I find it to be maybe the most realistic perspective. He essentially presents an interpretation of the Bible through a human psychological evolutionary or as I like to think of it, the large timescale context that makes alot of sense... a lot of sense. There is a tendency when you first "fall away" to believe that everything you were told is a lie,and I did, but now I am at peace with it as I see I was just looking at it through a lens or context that was impossible to square with the reality I observe every day. I have settled on a set of things I believe are probably true, and I am content with the fact that there some things I cannot know.
Whatever your art is. Set aside time to do it even if you don't feel I right now. Don't let your skills get rusty. You will be able to speak what you've learned once you reach a clearer more at peace place through your artform if you commit to developing your chops in spite of how you feel or don't feel. Don't be too hard on yourself for not having the answers immediately, and don't be too hard on your family if you can help it.. Try not to take what your family thinks about your path too personally.
Good luck my friend from across the ether. It will get better, and then it will get good.
The lacture is so great but The sound quality is awful :))
Thanks. You show the the darkest side of ISFP (Immature or in denial process). Mature and balanced ISFP go with their ego their true cognitive personality. When their depressed or thay do not go thru self development process or not reach for support in right time could end up like ISFP in your story.
This feels sooo good to hear my bad sides it opens my eyes. So I can better myself and be a authentic person. Thank you !
Thank you for pointing out the importance of maturity of cognitive functions when typing someone and not replying on them that much. It helped me to better understand priorities when typing.
The denial point is so interesting, my Nan and I are both ISFP, and she has a reputation for burying her head in the sad, such as when bad things happened to people she loved, her famous catchphrase is "oh well"
My Nan??
@@honor9lite1337 grandma
my mother is one of the most loyal and hard working ISFP i have ever seen, she is very developed because of how she was raised, she was raised in a multi generation house, and we are middle eastern, you would be amazed how types look where we live compare to other places, but your are totally right, most ISFPs i know including my amazing mother is SOOOOO in denial, and you can imagine how annoying in denial is to an INTJ, i just feel so angry around Fi doms, still they are not as bad as ESFJs though, its lala land for ESFJs where i live because of misunderstanding the real meaning behind some religious ideology.
Lala land is pretty tho : )
*LET THE TRIGGER BEGIN*
I, an Enfj man, dated an Isfp man.He seemed very put together, and out going at first but as I got to know him he was, materialistic, opportunistic, impulsive, secretive, critical, manipulative, exclusive to others, arrogant, indecisive at the worst times, hypocritical, and completely unaware of the effects that his actions had on those around him, including his cat. He always spent his check on a rental sports cars and alcohol the first chance he got. On about 4 occasions he triggered my ESTJ demon🤦🏿♂️😅, 2 in public. I wont say he had any redeeming qualities, but he did love to spend quality, was a bit of a perfectionist/craftsman, loved luxury, had a sense fashion (even though half the time he borrowed my clothes), communicative, made an effort to be as honest as possible, would seek counsel from me when dealing with interpersonal relationships, and always texting me first( enfj preference🙋🏿♂️😂👍🏿). He had this cheap way of redeeming himself by giving me gifts with notes attached to convince me to stick me around, or giving me long hugs that transitioned to the bed which then became uneventful. He visibly made efforts to be better and I could see how hard self sacrifice was for him. It was my longest relationship but at the end of the day he was inhibiting my growth as independent bonafide man and so I had to cut ties. I wish I could see his growth, but I cant stand to look at that scum bag. He broke my heart and my trust way too many times, and quite frankly Im repulsed at myself for putting up with it.
It’s common in the gay community for Se user on Se user action
Can I ask you , what hurt you was fi selfishness as you mentioned , what about common se-ni axis , did you compete for choice or performance ? Did you limit the freedom of each other or did you deal with it using judging functions , I can see you probably tried to prevent him from making some showing off useless decisions but other than that , in general did you compete ?
Ego: 22:50 (but he really starts talking about immature ISFP ego at 16:00)
Subconscious: 31:00
Unconscious: 36:00
Superego: 40:18
I have been subscribing this channel for quite a while and I found that all your lectures are super helpfull. I am an ISFP and I have been struggling with things mostly due to me being self centered, not caring and irresponsible. Thank you for the enlightment and all the advices 🙏
Can't wait for the INFP lecture
The end of this one was so beautiful... You always make things so amazing yet TRUE
19:52 it’s interesting that you specifically mentioned an entp man. i’m crushing on one so hard right now and i just know in order to be of interest to him in the long run i need to be more ambitious, goal oriented, and self sufficient. so i’ve been watching a lot of these videos and am going to try to get out of my comfort zone and live a better life.
Just go right up to him and tell him directly that you want him. Mega hard for him to say no.
@@CSJoseph i actually did, and he did say he liked me too. but he has some religious commitments that makes him unavailable at the moment. he said if it weren’t for that he would have already gone for it by now. which is kind of unfortunate that there’s mutual feelings that can’t be acted on. i’m not good at thinking of the future so i don’t know yet if i’m going to “wait for him” but in the meantime (a year and a half left of his thing) i’m going to try to live a more productive life not even just for him but for my own sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. he just happened to be a reality check and kickstarter for me going down the right path. kinda surprised you responded, i really appreciate your honesty and insight about the types. it helps with self improvement :)
This is just a personal perspective. Every personality group can have a deep level of selfishness in different ways. Some of them doing it through victim projection, others bullying, etc etc. one personality type is not more selfish than another. Selfishness is a reflection of a dysfunctional person, not a personality type.
Very true, anyone can, but some types will fall into it much easier.
I'm an INTJ and I used to date an ISFP woman and the relationship went pretty ok until she dumped me for someone else 4 years older than her (we were teenagers at the time so 4 years was a big difference) and I guess this goes with what you said about them wanting to keep their options open. Then she went from being very depressed and sliting her wrists to getting involved with all sorts of drugs and almost got pregnant. Her life pretty much went completely downhill and even now she denies that shes ever changed. It was a really sad thing to see.
I cant relate to some of this like the cheating and stealing etc... loyalty and honesty are really important to me, but the things I do relate to were very eye opening and helpful to hear about like blowing all my money on shit. I dont piss it all away at bars but I love buying clothes and I put way too much pride into my physical appearance and how im perceived physically to those around me, which is fucking exhausting tbh.
How to show ISFPs this truth when they deny their flaws?
force it down their throats while in the presence of others
Prove it to them. Must be tangible evidence because we’re concrete. Help us understand.
Wendy Gaetz this right here
@@CSJoseph way to go, now that will REALLY work.
I don't know if this is the best approach, but even before I knew anything about MBTI, I'd straight up call out my mom's opinions being absolute bullshit.
I told her to either tell me what she really thinks of X Y Z or just be honest in saying she doesn't want to say anything.
This entire video sums up the ISFP very well to the point of when they drive themselves into a corner and then start devising annoying ways to get back at people.
Just fking get over it and stop being petty. If you hate someone, at least end it in one fell swoop. A battle is not won by driving everyone against you, it is won by finding allies and incorporating them into an effective strategy. .... So stupid
Wow. What you said actually sounds wise to my isfp ears
I've never watched someone get so charged and go so deep into the ISFP's flaws. Like even the other video i watched on how to love an isfp was so flaws focused. I need to watch how you explain everyone else's types in order to get more perspective i suppose.. maybe that's how you roll.. i am unaware. You go pretty extreme on us! I can't relate to not being loyal, drinking, gambling, etc and I'm self critical and not naive about my flaws and what needs work. Not perfect.. but geez louise.. guess I'm used to watching videos that focus on the positives a bit more😂 I thought us isfp's didn't like attention? I am fashion focused but not to seek attention and couldn't care less about expensive brands. If I'm ever craving a good scolding about binging Three's Company, I'll come here first. I'm thinking I'm healthier than I thought.. maybe because I have a conscience.. but you may say I'm delusional😆
ISFP’s to aspire to be like: Jake Sully (Avatar), Prince/Fire Lord Zuko (the other Avatar), Nicki Minaj, Michael Jackson (minus the Child Scandals). Note: Identify with them at the beginning of their story, but notice how they change after their existential crisis’.
P.S. I’m really obsessed with this type because they really have so much potential. If all the worlds ISFPs used authentic integrity, they could really be the worlds saviors.
Michael infp
@@malakashraf2801he's isfp
A bit exaggerated how you perceive a type that's probably rhetorically true to you, but an ISFP I can't relate at all (to those scenarios).
@@MarkyMark2177 No. Then then they're probably healthy and what claims this video is not very accurate of all ISFPs and YOU are mistyping them by denying their type.
@@MarkyMark2177 No, it's not my problem personally and I'm not going into these childish useless altercations, I have better things to do with my time. I'm simply correcting you because what you say is inaccurate.
@@aurorebergen2779 nice lazy stubbornness to verify your type and maybe even consider the possibility that you are in the wrong and are being inaccurate here. Gotta love it when Ti users choose to be arrogant asf. Marky Mark merely pointed out the possibility that the person is mistyped and therefore misjudging CSJ's videos meaning he should at least verify. If you can't handle even thinking for a second that you are maybe wrong about something and putting in the effort to check, then no one will trust what you have to say. The fact that you outright said "no" to the possibility of him being mistyped shows your entitlement your arrogance and your stubbornness
@@D14MBK 🤦♀️ If many ISFPs can't relate, maybe the problem is not them, huh? Also what Ti? Jumping to conclusions again?
Well "Marky mark" doesn't know the dude, therefore what he says is irrelevant, just like what you say. Go learn back cognitive functions, Carl Jung would have had a huge facepalm reaction right now. Why am I even arguing with a 15 years old on the internet...
@@aurorebergen2779 many??? Firstly, what are the "many" ISFPs that can't relate? Secondly, realise the fact that the opposite can also be true, if many ISFPs *relate* to this video, then maybe YOU are the problem, not them? I can see why you completely ignored that line of reasoning though considering it involved you being in the wrong. OMG ONCE AGAIN, the same logic applies, Marky Mark doesn't know the dude, neither do you! Therefore what you say is also irrelevant meaning you are unable to say with such certainty that they aren't mistyped. How stupid are you? The difference is, Marky Mark didn't say it with certainty but rather as a possibility. Carl Jung?? I don't know if you thought you were smart for mentioning Carl Jung or something but the ironic thing is, you are completely wrong about him. Carl Jung has acknowledged himself that not everything he said is accurate and that he hopes for it to be expanded upon and advanced. So no, he wouldn't be face-palming at this but rather be relieved his work is being expanded upon and face-palming at people like you for blindly trying to prevent future change and upgrading that's needed and only accepting what's highly known, he'd look at you in disgust for how much of an entitled arrogant person you are, I'd honestly love to see it happen just for the humility
I've been extremely giving, I enjoy giving. BUT ended up with a toxic person and bad boundaries so overgave, currently on my way out. I def hide my head in the sand. I think being generous is a great quality. So is telling the truth-even if it's scary. I was a wayfarer thief when young.
Oh man, I am so bad for spending. It makes me so happy, its bad 😔
Never insult the inner child because that is child abuse! My Ni inner child wants to kick anyone's butt who insults me. We are introverted feelers so when our inner child is insulted or prevented to do what he or she wants to do we are angry, depressed, hopeless, frustrated, agitated or stressed. My ESFJ shadow wants to lash out at you when I feel trapped or stressed or angry. My INTP demon wants to plan your demise or punish you.
Well thank you for the "constructive" advice on how fix faults I've never heard ISFPs even had. I'm so sorry you have known such shitty people (isfps??)in your life, but we are not all to blame for them. I can relate to laziness, being afraid of what people think of me, and sometimes overreacting (though mostly internally), due to sensitivity. The fakeness I don't know where that came from, the stealing, putting up fasades etc. Trying to be someone we're not?? Like who then- how? Are you projecting entp:ness here, or? Envious of our authenticity? Like if I would take this seriously, I would start to doubt my type for the first time ever. I have LOADS of flaws and weaknesses as a person, but fakeness or using fasades aren't among them. Because I'm extremely self-critisizing (far too much), and my sense of morals is against such behaviour. On top of that I'm a lousy actor and can't hide emotions. People might think I'm cold, boring, too shy, even unfriendly (=selfish) due to absent Fe and no small talk, but part of what you're describing in this video is completely alien to me. Added to that, your way of approach and attitude, which only will have ISFPs show you the finger and never visit your channel again.
Geez, I used to really value your videos. Yeah, and wanting to be in the center of attention???? Something I absolutely hate. ESFPs want that. The people your describing must have been really lost souls, orphans, abused and on top of that probably urban (isfps should be close to nature) without knowing anything else in life.
CS Joseph if you want to be understood at all you have to elaborate more, give concrete examples (to sensors at least), and preferrably remake this video.. It's possible that some things are totally misunderstood due to the negativity you're sending out and the lack of explanation. This advice is only kindly meant.
I appreciate that.
@@salukyh then you're not an ISFP...??? Authenticity comes from Ti
@@D14MBK for every introverted function there's different kind of authenticity and for every axtraverted, some kind of fakeness
@@lostbuthopefull8788 yeah but Ti is far more authentic than Fi. Fi users will be fake if it suits their reputation especially Fi doms cuz their Te inferior is afraid of damaging their reputation
Why do i love u roasting me? Like u nailed it. Including relating to the villains like since i was little like we was playing Disney princesses in school and everyoje wanted to be a princess while i wanted to be the evil queen. I always loved playin the villain like even in real life i love playin the mean older sister
A famous fellow ISFP The Weeknd which i damn love once said he loves playin the bad guy and relates to the villain
Like i don’t like casinos and stuff but i definitely Spend a lot of money on clothes i am not Gonna actually wear just bcuz i feel to buy it
Just by watching this i realized i love surrounding myself with ISFJs and esfjs(especially isfjs bcuz they’ll let me do whatever i want and i’m the “boss”). I don’t care that much about controlling others but i care about not being controlled
Right, I have tried it. The controlling methods never work on ISFPs, it always backfires.
I concluded that their weakness is some kind of smooth influencing, even better doing it while using seductive tone of voice.
***And don't forget to give them the illusion of control by giving them a choice 👍
@@honor9lite1337 facts like if ppl around me are controlling(like my dad is the type who loves controlling everything typical ISTJ) or try to force me to do what i don’t want i won’t do it just for the sake of pissing that person off. Like my father is extremely Christian and always forces his beliefs on me and i pretend i’m atheist just to make him mad
@@Moana_moo hmm interesting, my personal experience of ISTJs is that they're a very rigid and traditional kind of type, but they are very open to other people choice(it's more like an ISFJs overall, but they take their reputations seriously)
@@honor9lite1337 IDK my dad ain’t and tbh i kind of love pissing controlling ppl off. I kind of do the same with “controlling teachers”. Like i’m Gonna break the rules just to do so
@@Moana_moo I like that, it demonstrates Ni(Will Power) and rebellious traits of some level 💪
29:35 "ISFP likes to cut corners" oh, that explains the quality of Chinese products
Huh?
Me listening what you say and then ... "Wow , it's a cute dog in his car." :)))) That puppy made my day. Honestly I like to think that I'm a good person. But at the same time I take criticism not so much at the heart like I used to but to learn something from it. Mabye I matured with time :))) - ISFP
My boyfriend NEEDS to hear this… he has all the right stuff but he won’t wake up or open his eyes… I want to help him find himself but he has shut me down in every way I’ve tried… I have issues myself… way more issues then he has for real… but he is so combative or reactive or just dismissive of anything that insinuates that he has some issues that need attention… all of this is dead on for him and I’m gonna share it with him but I don’t think he will even listen to it… makes me feel pretty hopeless in this situation… I know it’s not my place to make him want to find himself… I just wish he would want to… I don’t want him to change… I just want him to be him… instead of pretending he’s perfect and blaming me for his actions that cause my reactions aren’t the healthiest… I let him know up front that I have toxic ways of dealing with conflict and fear… I don’t care that he isn’t who he pretended to be I just need him to level with me now… this message is the answer
Wow I hope he listens
I am 31 i just found out my type recently and listening to his at first i felt fiery from the harshness but then i reflexed on how i was like 16-19 and unfortunately pretty accurate thank God for maturity
Doggo faints in the background at 8:28
Fuck that was like, I was so happy to finally have the ISFP video, like a new Game of Thrones episode and then all your favorite characters die xd
I never stole from anyone! I am not a thief!
I'd been questioning if I'm really Isfp,,'cause I'm pretty responsible for my financial management so I don't allow myself to spend freely money...
Does an ISFP out there do the same?
Yes
one wayfarer to another: i struggle to love isfps because it seems most i run into are cutting so many corners that they end up making a bunch of woodchips, and even though woodchips are still useful (metaphorically) they are the types to still be wasteful, and let them sit and rot in the backyard. this can be literal, too.
i might be telling on myself and my type, especially since i'm not hiding that i'm also a wayfarer 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️ ... and that i can't stand that waste. it's like, damn, do something with it. it would take 5 minutes to do, even simply spreading it out and mulching it, on your way back from checking the mail.
what did david allen say? if it takes 2 minutes, do it.
Thank you for this video and even taking all the time and thinking to make it. Thank you for making my path clearer.
I find ISFPs are super idle or super productive (Lebron James) but rarely in between. Even ISFP Elvis alternated from super productive to super idle, which played a part in his early demise.
"It's better be hated by being real, rather than be liked or be loved by being fake." and also "You don't have to pretend to be perfect or otherwise people might want or get some expectations from you." Sure I get it...next time I apply on a 4th or 5th job all what's in the resume that I'm not happy with...DELETED.
(Not exact) You said that from the other videos you posted...i think its on the 4 pillars part(?)
Speaking of villains as an ISFP i always found the villains to be more entertaining than the heroes. Like my friends tell me that when we were little we were playin princesses and i’d always be the evil Queen or even so my fav game of thrones characters are Lannisters especially Cersei. Also The Weeknd a famous fellow ISFP said he loves playin the villain and he relates to Joker and he just loves villains
Btw enjoyed u roasting the shit out of me on the spot creative artistic sometimes denial about certain things and kind of selfish. IDK if it’s an ISFP thing or not but as someone who draws and has a design tutour and unless my drawings are good and i know i won’t get criticised for them i won’t be showing them to nobody not teachers not parents not friends like i’m always showing and posting all my good art and the other i hide it
Ouch this was hella painful - thank you icy sword of truth
Thank you for the painful truth which I preferred not to notice before. I can work with that now!
I'm an ISFP and my dad is an ISFP and he fucking sucks. Everything you described in this video.
I started listening and I had major old war films nostalgia... The scenery was also good ! And you're wearing military green ! ! WAIT YOU WERE MULTITASKING by doing a lecture and riding the car at the same time, lowkey gives me pressure on the anxiety... I know you're a good driver, you've told us that before but I prefer safety first : )
I'm an ENTJ and suspect my son is an ISFP. He typed himself at 8 years old by reading the questions on 16personalities and answering them accordingly. I didn't think the result would be accurate, because what child knows themselves that well, right?
Unfortunately, he does seen to be an ISFP. Unfortunately because we don't get along as well as I'd like. Send help and direction. :'(
Me: I am an intellectual
Also me, listening to “you can go into chaotic transition or orderly transition or for the Isfp - a good transition or a bad transition”: THANK YOU
No they don't change they're moving to the four sides it's really pretty cool if you track it
Wow i needed to hear this though. And to validate what youre saying - the times in my life when i have been most active and focused on goals have been my happiest times and ive taken the focus off myself and paid more attention to others. I need to work on getting back there. Also my Fi+Se appreciates the lovely scenery
All right. I don't resonate with a lot of mean things you said. But I will go though all of it anyway.
After like 2 months of life lol I came back to this video and humility has set on me. Yea I’m not that great tbh. But also like I don’t understand what you meant when you said our opinion is fake? Or our status is fake? I feel like I usually tell the truth on what I think so I just don’t understand and I wish you gave more specific examples on that. However a lot of what u said I’ve experienced. Like wanting to keep options open, being loyal to nobody but wanting loyalty. Anyway yea it’s bc idk if people are worth commuting to when I just feel used and unseen. But yea idk ik a lot of my ways can be problematic. Didn’t realize how my idleness could really affect others since I’m single and 22. But it is better to earn and work for what you have 100%.
How can an ISFP become better at not putting themselves into dangerous situations or become better at making responsible long term choices?
I didn't know ISFPs (in general) like casinos...What I know about ISFPs do like Mountain Biking, Hiking, (stereotypically) Unicorns and My Little Pony stuff and romantic walking on the fields (and then kissing and banging perhaps😂😂😂) and beaches (where it is not a tourist attraction or perhaps no people at all)...they do prefer these EVEN MORE my good sir.
Okay but it really feels like the ISFP Woman Who Moved Across The Country example is a personal history lesson, oof.
A lot of the descriptions I've read about ISFPs elsewhere feel pretty accurate, but I'm starting to question my typing. I tested as an ISFP via 16 Personalities. I don't drink, steal, cheat, or gamble at all, but I very definitely skipped class a lot back in the day, lol. I can be impulsive in particular ways and I know I'm in denial about certain things. I am lazy AF (though I do think my profound physical disability has a part in that since I didn't used to be quite this lazy) and I worry that I am stupid/other people think I'm dumb. I am artistic and value The Aesthetic(TM), but I dress plainly in inexpensive clothes. I also don't care about status and like to fly under the radar. I can definitely be selfish but I can also do things without having to get mine. I value loyalty so, SO much and remain loyal even when I probably shouldn't. I am not open about my emotions or inner life at all and prefer weird or fun convos over the deep philosophical stuff.
Uh, that got longer than I expected it to, sorry. Does anyone have theories about my type or know what MBTI test is the most accurate? I appreciate it!
Try chase's test in the description box
You sounds really angry.
Entp men always seem angry lol
That was a tough 45 minutes and 27 seconds....... but worth it.
As Istp having a boss with isfp boss, I dont think we are getting along. She's bossying me around that she can be able to do it by her own. She asked me to stamp all of her thick amount of docs that its actually her job 😅. So......?
watch how to social engineer ISFPs. ruclips.net/video/XF9eVJzPL0k/видео.html
ISFP denial!!!!!! Yes!!!! My mother when I was growing up!!! My drunk driving alcoholic uncle, as seen by my mother: "He has a good heart." Really! He very well might have a great heart, but his actions almost kill people!
Yes, not a self sacrificing bone in their body. They can fake it to look good, but they need to end up totally alone in their house of cats and litter boxes before they wake up.
My dad stayed married to her, even though she destroyed what he brought, but after a few years just "put up with her." Now that they are elderly, he runs his business and lets her sit in her craft room in her happy fantasy.
This multigenerational theory under one roof may be off, not wrong, but not fleshed out yet.
If you are equating "western" to "Biblical," the Bible teaches that he must prepare his fields then build his house, and leave his family and cleave to his wife. The Bible teaches that older women train younger women, but also warns old women against being nosy busy bodies in eachother's houses. The Proverbs 31 woman had her own domain, for sure.
Trying to make a family work under one roof or even right next door is often not a good one. Everybody Loves Raymond. Or acid attacks on draughters-in-law in India. We romanticize non-western cultures still. It's not honest to them or us.
The western ideas are good, when practiced. But they take discernment to learn. Alot of people are lumped under the "western " umbrella while sinning their little butts off. As you say, they are hypocrites. Especially if the men in their lives are boys.
It's very clear, your community growing up, was messed up. Your church was messed up. You are correct. They were not following the right preachers and not acting right. They did not know their Bible, were not acting out the parable of iron sharpens iron.
I know you're good at multitasking but I've noticed that you give better lectures when you're on solid ground. You focus more.
Chase your ESFP superego will be judged by the same measure you judge other SFPs. It would be wise of you to take your own advice then apply it to your own life in your own intimate relationships.
I’m okay with that.
Wow that was a life changing 45min
Thanks for this, this is a game-changer.
One thing I do know is I'm working on giving up the need to always be right. I'm willing to admit I was a really shit person and I had really shit motives and I am working to change that. I know some people may not like they way you talked in this video but it really does need to be said, in this way. Like throwing ice water on someone who needs to wake tf up.
I never did casinos nor gambling, my vice was trading cards. I used to spend hundreds of dollars on trading cards all the time because those cards were representative of power, imagine that!
I was a real shit boyfriend too! Had extreme issues with jealousy and trust. But I wasn't even being my true self, I still don't even know who that true self is!
So I get it, I get why you chose this manner to communicate. Because let's face it, the vast majority you were just talking. It wasn't until near the end that you really started hammering away. So yeah, it needs to be said.
I know it's true because I lived it. I was the selfish asshole who didn't actually care about what anyone else felt, just what I wanted. That was my life in my mid 20s.
Thank you C.S.Joseph. From an ISFP taking notes!
There are some ISFP who want to be in a relationship without being superficial but they dont know what the other perrson thinks,
Asian women don’t have Brazilian butts, man hands, or hairy bodies.
Even Asian men don’t have much body hair. 🤔
I agree with everything you are saying. It is applicable to everyone.
ISfPs at their best can be great but at worst the most self pitying, self indulgent, uncontrolled and at times transactional people out there. Much more so than ESFPs who use their convergent Se and Te far better.
23:00 if you imagine the car doesn't exist, you look like superman flying through the road 🤣
Hmm? I don’t care about keeping up with others.
Just subbed....thanks for the hard truth!💯 Started learning about the cognitive functions from your videos. I feel like my life has rebooted in my early 40s! Hard worker but idle early on because I didn't CARE about my work. It's important for us to find virtue, diligence and purpose in our work. 🔨💼 I can't stand gambling and I don't drink. Maybe because I'm more mature. 🤔 Not an Artist by trade but I have an aesthetic eye. 👁️
"Work with the negatives to make a better picture." -Drake
Isn't Si=Seeking experience and Se=Giving & sharing experience?
Yes
I feel attacked 😂
Love your dog in the back seat 🤗
isfp unconscious is not like infp unconscious? even though both have fe nemesis?
dont they also try to convince others of their own moral system and ignore other moral systems?
and what about unconscious focused isfps? what are they like?
Hey ISFPs, stop feeling all butthurt. There’s wisdom here!!
14:45 the dog is def a movement type lol
He read ISFP (me) like a book
Because of the increasing instability of life on this planet, those of us who know how to live in the moment are better able to adapt.
Not always the case but fair point
This is a good one, thank you.
Great lecture as usual Chase. Was watching this on speaker with my ispf mom in the background. She related quite a lot with what you had to say. She developed her unconscious at a very young age though, wich is probably why she is such a great person.
@lili keea well. She lost her mother when she was 16 years old and her father was an alcoholic, so she was basicaly forced to mature rapidly.
I guess you can look at the individual functions of the shadow and motivate yourself to practice the traits that come with them.
i cut off an isfp friend who was a selfish twat. the funny thing is, she would brag about how selfish she was yet be upset she had no other friends.. but im an istp.. i aint got the patience for that. good luck to her other friends. she is exactly like this.. very very selfish
One of my story's main characters is an ISFP, certainly a must watch. But if you're not busy, could you answer a question about xNFPs I have in this comment?
Lmao he got in a fight w an isfp before this I swear 🤣 stop going so hard on him guys watch his other videos he has said plenty of beautiful things about the type he just taps onto the criticisms a lil heavy sometimes. He's out here making an honest and effective effort to inform ppl I know we're sensitive and shit but you can't take a generalized video personally
Hey, thanks for all that you do, was wondering. Do you have any book recommendations for ISFPs?
For others out there, Ego is the enemy helped me profoundly. It helped me humble myself.
I know most of my flaws, and I know that if I find what I want and what I care about I can work really hard at to become the top. But 18 and I’m lost. I made bad decisions and now I’m stuck doing something I don’t want to do. I feel stupid, irresponsible, naive, uncaring about everything except certain things I really like. I feel stuck in my own stupidity, how do I get out?
Read , te inferior is magical when it reads .