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I have a question Julian, and if anyone else has an answer I’m all ears. You talk about how we accept the fact that we feel shy and anxious as our default. But, you talk as if WE ALL should strive to be extroverted. Not everyone is and that’s just who they are. They are okay with it. Ive always noticed that people associate being confident with being loud. I feel the most confident when I don’t have to prove myself to anyone, so I don’t even need to try and talk to them and impress them. Just trying to figure out what the goal is here. I get that we are trying to let go and find that peace and confidence, but what if that confidence translates to someone who is soft spoken and not always social?
@@adamoconnor5966 it's not so much being loud, it's being assertive that is associated with confidence. People who are good at reading others will be able to see through people who are loud tryhards.
1:38:14 _"People can't work for more than an hour, they're all tired, but they can play _*_video games_*_ [for] 16 hours, 24 hours straight 'cause their relationship to is very different, there's not the same heaviness._ *_Shift your work to that_*_ and _*_working will be like playing a video game where you can just play and play and play_*_ and play and play and play and play, right?"_ . Question is: *how* to "shift work to that" mindset/effortlessness? How to release the heaviness from certain (boring) work tasks? 🤔 . I've been trying with different jobs/employers over the years, to reach such a state where I'm not experiencing the heaviness in day-to-day work. Lately I've been learning about *Flow State* thanks to Rian Doris and Steven Kotler. (Check out - www.youtube.com/@riandoris - if you want to know more).
This advice is so rare. This is life changing. Pure gold. I don't know how to put it, but if you stumbled upon this video, and have any social-related problem, consider yourself VERY lucky. Study this deeply, this is the only way to get those changes PERMANENTLY
He is one of the few people I watch on youtuber thats slowly nringing a positive change to my life. Well of course, with me applying his advice to my life. But he makes the information easy to digest so I can use it to my advantage.
100% agree with you. He is the only person who has changed my perspective completely. I have been depressed the last 2 years, and people say they are supposed to be the best years of your life. Well, they have sucked for me, which has only caused me to be more depressed. It felt like there was no way out, like I would just have to accept the rest of my life as this, this never being good enough, never believing in myself. I accepted that it would just have to suck because "I am me," which, in retrospect, makes no sense. In a way, I gave up on myself. But I was in a really dark place. I even started improving my fitness and diet to try and help, as well as tried to do more hobbies and things I loved. But at the end of the day, I circled back to that depression, that "never feeling good enough" mindset. Wishing I was just gone and that there was no point to me being here, etc. When I started watching his videos, I literally cried. It was such a feeling of relief, it wasn't all over for me, the rest of my life didn't have to suck. And I had hope. Not just hope, I believed in myself. I knew that if I followed this path, it would ultimately lead to my success. Part of me was hungry for it, in a way I've never been before. It almost was like a challenge. Where I used to avoid social situations, I started talking more, and in a more confident way. What's better is how they react. They don't know me. They now assume I am confident. Now, every interaction can be a new challenge to improve my social skills and confidence level. I have hope for life and my future, and I don't feel like a failure. My self-worth is improving, and I can feel my fear of rejection subsiding slowly but surely. I haven't been doing this long at all, but I plan to keep watching him and implementing his teachings into my life. 🩷🩷🩷
It's not luck. It’s God who guided us here. Mark 1:15 “The time is fulfilled. The Kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, believe in the gospel.” 1 John 5 “We know also that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true. And we are in him who is true-even in his Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God and eternal life.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him, should not perish but have eternal life.” Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
14:30 - Me vs the viewer 17:00 - BE SELFISH .... apply it on yourself 18:30 - Be relentless 19:50 - Take responsibility (YOU have to do the work) - no going back 25:23 - ADVICE changes as you GROW (Lines - Subcomms - Letting go) 29:35 - Celebtrate your wins !! 32:00 - LETTING GO (power of what you DONT carry with you) 35:28 - Confidence (Situational vs CORE) - You can not BECOME enough, you ARE already. 37:45 - what now ? vs WHY ? 41:00 - Act real until you remember 42:30 - Action -Trigger - Release - Repeat 44:40 - hiding parts of myself... 49:50 - getting TRIGGERED 55:45 - cold showers- relax into it 58:23 - its never the THING its the PLACE ITS COMING FROM 1:01:28 - true emotions are light and minor 1:06:50 - WILLPOWER.... 1:08:35 - LET GO of the RESISTAnCE = accept = move towards the triggered = Look for feeling EASE 1:12:11 - Self-Sabotage - Success limits 1:16:10 - 1. Trauma = disowning part of yourself 1:17:15 - 2. Core beliefs, 3. Core identity 1:17:50 - Core beliefs 1:21:46 - Core identity = which movie character represents you ? 1:24:30 - Success limits 1:30:10 - Consciousness MAP 1:38:32 - if you dont ENJOY , you're doing wrong 1:42:40 - Until you fun ction out of LOVE, your RAS is hijacked
I love the concept of your current self not necessarily being your authentic self; rather that your current self is your conditioned self. Amazing mindset shift!
its something in Jungian psychology as well. The Persona and the Id. People put on personas depending on the company theyre in. They arent fake versions of yourself, since it would be inappropriate to talk to your mother the same way you do with your husband or wife, but they arent a pure form, just like you cant look at all sides of a cube at the same time.
Summary: Audit your life for fear and anxiety Determine if the fear or anxiety is based in reality Take action and put yourself in social situations Practice letting go of resistance Reflect on the unconscious Overcome trigger reactions Relax and release tension Allow yourself to feel the disowned Overcome self-sabotage Compare power and control Let go of control and increase volume Reject unacceptable external energy Release emotional charge Audit for relief in triggering situations Check for feelings of openness, ease, and safety Notice social changes Focus on self-improvement in social skills Reflect on the causes of conditions and how they are influenced by society, survival dependence, and perspective Use various tools and exercises for each issue Change your self-talk Identify your emotional states Improve your social skills Change your outlook on the world Verify against reality Get responsibility and support Avoid trying to do everything alone Take action on self-help ideas Put yourself in challenging and uncomfortable situations to grow Balance your strengths and weaknesses, ask for help and feedback Be prepared for benefits and chaos when changes start to occur
Letting go is more about accepting and embracing (fully immersing one self) rather than just trying to shut it out and pushing it away.Wow that is so powerful. Its like the purest form of therapy.
@@ghala4845u can be loud ur mind just tells u u cant because of trauma, the things u started to believe because of what u have experienced in life and the identity u took on and think u are. U can do anything, ur just conditioned to believe u cant
Y’all bunch of btchs -Me lmao I’m kidding y’all great content from mr cook and mr Julz’ but I’m not paying y’all I’ll pay someone just wish I could pay with hard work instead of money
For anyone that hates being on camera it's helpful (at least it's helping me) to realise that when you see yourself on camera, or on film, you see all of your insecurities, all of your flaws, all of the things you hate about yourself. When other people see you on camera they see the same person they see in real life. Think about it, when you see your ugly friend on camera (be honest, we all have ugly friends) do you think any differently to them on camera to how you do in real life? No! You see the person you love, exactly the same way you do every day, and that's what people see when they look at you. They see you. Not your flaws. Not your insecurities. Just you. The exact same thing they would see if they're looking at you in person. As long as you are being your true, authentic self, you should have nothing to be embarrassed or uncomfortable about.
In other words, people are only really conscious about themselves. We become so conscious about our looks and think other people can see our flaws but in reality, everyone cares about their own looks more. This is such a great perspective! I become so drowned with beauty standards sometimes that I forget I'm human.
@@leeroseveltfrancisThey see you're ugly all the time and already love you how you are. You forget you're ugly until you're watching yourself on camera and you don't love your real self you love the fake self you hold in your mind.
I think so many of us don't believe in ourselves because our parents seemingly didn't. But thanks to Julien's work, we don't have to wait on outside validation to believe we're good enough.
Half way through the video and i am tempted to write this. As an addiction counsellor trying to use it for psycho education for social anxiety and confidence, this is amazing. Thank you so much. I recovered my severe social anxiety disorder and fortunately my mantra too was I am not above anyone and i am not below anyone. We are all crazies trying to figure out ourselves in this crazy world. The thing about plus and minus and judging people before they judge is so true. I let go of that belief intellectually and I am actually a very good public speaker now. Interesting thing my self- consciousness come back momentarily when I micro-dose weed in front of people giving a hint that There are still some traces of that unhelpful belief at a subconscious level. This video is just helping me so so so much. Thank you. I get it now I gotta work more on my micro-behavior. I still have more of a situational confidence than core confidence. Good luck to me and thank you sooo much for this.
Been watching a lot of self help. Got into therapy. I've been working on myself for awhile it seems but I've fallen off the horse a couple of times. Thid talk is actually pretty inspiring so far! I hope I can be someone who is the way I want to be. Open and charismatic. I'm tryint very hard to learn.
Biggest takeaway: Not "improving" my social skills in the traditional sense, but I should let go of the barriers in order that come in the way of expressing myself fully. Great stuff! Are you making a social skills program? I remember you talking about it in a previous video about charisma
Just started watching this guy. Content is excellent. He’s great at identifying the issues and I can use some help for sure. I’m wanting some actionable steps for healing and recovery
41:01 honestly scared the shit out of me. I was relaxing listening to music with this video playing in the background and oh my god I thought my headphones were bugging
I've watched a few videos now and haven't been able to understand what letting go means. This is the first one that I saw that mentioned the cold shower exercise, and now I understand as someone who has tried cold showers. Time to take a cold shower and relax.
Why you have been waiting for this one aint you the charisma master woooo wooo the way that you market yourselfs seems like you forced it Pretty hard and talking too much till you misleading us and this is clear sign that you doubt something
I can relate to that so much. I feel anxiety when i get invited to a family gathering. Its literally only People i have known all my life, and i still would feel that anxiety. I feel you brother
I love the subtle language shift to social skills over previous alternatives lmao. Happy to see the underlying technology with regard to personal evolution of internal core confidence and the state which flows from that is still being developed. Awesome vid. I was practicing this for a while but also derived too much confidence from external reality so when I switched cities my old social structure was gone and fell into the trap of believing that my successes stemmed from that when really they stemmed from the ease and confidence I allowed myself to radiate because of those external situations. Re-learning to tap into that core without the externals, while at the same time working to improve the value I bring to the world through a means that I find compelling and inspiring because hey, elevating oneself up the social hierarchy never hurts either. But it is dangerous to derive one’s confidence from that position because if your external reality changes then so will your internal one, but if acting from your core, external reality circumstances don’t matter nearly as much, you are at ease either way.
One of the things I do is I think about why I'm afraid. Then, I think about what it is that I'm afraid of people discovering about me that I'm trying to hide from them. Then finally, no matter what that thing is, I try to learn to fully own it and learn to accept myself... [despite it being true]. It's a humbling process. Could you accept yourself IF you really were more awkward than everyone else? Or, IF you were the worst at getting women and social interactions? For me, I try to accept my fears as truths. This way, I'm not afraid of people discovering these things about me, bcuz I already fully accept myself with them being true. Tho, becoming comfortable with personal inadequacies doesn't stifle me from continually taking action to try to improve my inadequacies, bcuz I'm learning to accept myself, (with my flaws), but I'm not accepting the limitations it brings into my life.... [IF I can improve them].
Exactly. It is what is it attitude. Whats so bad if they got to see the real me? Why am I hiding? What am I hiding? I deserve space as much as everyone in this earth. That was my questioning to myself.
The collaborative paradigm you mentioned is true af. Even in college there are the asshole type of cool and also the neutral cool people who are friends with everyone and are never in any beefs or weird rivalries 💯
Yeah completely agree i just worked in a bar and those a holes were terrible. Real cool people are like this who like people travel and are open minded diversity
I'm hurting like hell but this video gives me hope, I'm at _"Anger"_ in all aspects of my life. It's terrible but I'm further along than I initially thought.
i resonate with this video so much and I am so glad i discovered this page. i have felt social anxiety my whole life, and i have hated myself for it. i can feel that i am capable of achieving great things, but my fear of people has held me back even with communicating with my family. i have been working on myself the past couple months but i still thought something was wrong with me and i could never fix my anxiety. this is one of my favorite videos i've come across in changing my mindset. thank you for this video!
I remember discovering Julien and bought Shift and Pimp. Wonderful programs and always amazing free content here on YT. Julien is the Man. I appreciate all the work you do. It has been a very big help for me to overcome some things.
15:00 You just put into words how I've been feeling toward my family and some friends, to people who I've sensed judgement from at times. This is BIG. Competitive vs. Collaborative. stopping here for tonight, I'll post more as I watch. Thank you so.. so much for sharing this with us on youtube.
one theory why people become socially awkward or nervous anxious is how they are treated at school. bullies being put down in school so when they speak to people outside of school they fear they will be treated the same.
@@charlesbukowski7730 also deleted it because these new teachings with letting go are way more effective and at the same time debuilds many of the old informations that were used in the old teachings.
JULIEN!!!!! This is literally "the story of self help 2.0" thank you so much for this video, is literally the most helpful one on RUclips ever, the information clicks a lot with the teal swan techniques and I love it
You're very welcome!! Glad this spoke to you on such a deep level! If you'd like to learn more about this, you can apply for private coaching here: bit.ly/2S9YVum 🙏
Very interesting views, i have one question thought. If i surrendered to all feelings like sadness and other negative feelings as a form of letting go, and i have accepted them and lived with them, isn't this a form of depression? Or how do we distinguish?
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@@JulienHimself after watching the whole video my biggest takeaway is still that you're fkn jacked!! But also that releasing should feel like becoming a little more me, which it totally did just now! Thanks again Julien, the timing on this one was perfect. Perfect like your chiseled biceps 💪 😹
What great content! Love how you go in to detail regarding letting go and how it impacts the self-talk, making it uplifting instead of trying to get rid of it.
been following you for alot of years now seen you evovle to who you are now its so amazing and more amazing that youve changed my life 180 degrees i was obesse lost 45kg worked on my self with the help of your videos and programs and im a diffrent person right now so thank you julien youve chagned my life! :)
The framing that i am already whole, and im tapping into parts of myself that were locked out because of other people when i was younger, really is an extremely interesting and helpful portrait to look at, as compared to feeling like i need to create a new one. I hope i can keep this in mind and it stays with me
Its awesome to see someone who is doing what I want to do delivering the same messages I want to deliver. Seeing an example and hearing your delivery of a shared mindset and wisdom is paramount. Thank you @JulienHimself for showing me people need to hear our message!
I love watching his videos and just having a huge smile on my face knowing I’m going to use all of this information to help myself and it just makes me so happy thinking how easy it really is with just putting in the work I’ve always been a hard worker and I want and need and have to do good because it would just be a waste not to
It used to bother me that RSD moved away from the underground PUA niche and into something more broad scoped. However, my opinion has now changed and i'm extremely greatful that they've done this. Social anxiety effects both genders and in more scenarios than just dating. My girlfriend is from Seoul, South Korea and trying to integrate and adapt into the United States culture. Due to the culture shock of her circumstances (English being a new language for her) she could very well be considered a hard case newbie. I used to listen to RSD in private until one day she caught me. I was surprised by what happened next. Not only did she not get mad i was listening to PUA advice, she herself started watching it on her own. She's been watching these videos and is actually making incredible progress in her social skills. I can't even express how thankful I am of Tyler and Jullien. They've changed my life in soon many ways.
@@jasminepainter1897 pick up girls and how to fight the social anxiety to have the courage to do it + how to make girls like you and enjoy their time with you ( some do it to boost their egos in front of their bros , and some do it cause they don't like to be liked for material things and want to get genuine love )
Wow, what a video. I love how you take us through your journey and explain how you felt in that time. I think that’s why I’m able to follow your content so we’ll because you teach from a place of being that I’m currently in. 59:45. You nailed it!!
1:59:34 „you fckn saved my life!“ This is so fckn accurate and hits so deep. This content of julien and of many other coaches on the world, is the red pill so much more people rly need to swallow…
Hey Julian. I got an idea for ya. You’re right, that you Can never “become enough”, because then you will always desire to become good enough. But what if you logically know that you are good enough, but you actually don’t feel it. Do i just accept the feeling feeling and THEN let it go? How do i do it? - as far as i understand, so everytime i dont feel good enough, i could let it go, by just letting the feeling be there as it is without judging the feeling (like echart tolle and David Hawking says) But the Way i approach it in my mind is to accept the feeling over and over (maybe 1000 times) everytime it pops up, everytime i feel not good enough, i accept it as it is, and one day, i will automatically let it go by accepting it so many times and THEN i Can let it go and reframe how my real truths is instead of my fake truths for example that im not good enough, and then with my pressence i Can take a step back and really chance my limiting core beliefs to the real truth “that im good enough” By actually writing it down and telling it to my self and believing it and now i have the real truth in my mind that im awesome as i am. I like that approach so much and it worked for me. Thank you for free content and sharing. Keep up the good work
I have barely started my journey of social communication skills and building my self esteem I have always been told I can't and I will not make it these videos help and I'm applying it. I will not lie it is difficult but I can do it
I was really on positive thinking and law of attraction... But After see this video now i know that the most important thing Is to letting go. Thanks too much for this video Julien... I already do meditation. But now .. instead of wanting to be positive .. i accept my negativity and release them Thanks too much! And i`ll be selfish and relentless ;) I am going to apply this in to my Life and take action... From this evening!
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I have a question Julian, and if anyone else has an answer I’m all ears. You talk about how we accept the fact that we feel shy and anxious as our default. But, you talk as if WE ALL should strive to be extroverted. Not everyone is and that’s just who they are. They are okay with it.
Ive always noticed that people associate being confident with being loud. I feel the most confident when I don’t have to prove myself to anyone, so I don’t even need to try and talk to them and impress them.
Just trying to figure out what the goal is here. I get that we are trying to let go and find that peace and confidence, but what if that confidence translates to someone who is soft spoken and not always social?
@JulienHimself 8:39 it's a cheater bar!
@@adamoconnor5966 it's not so much being loud, it's being assertive that is associated with confidence. People who are good at reading others will be able to see through people who are loud tryhards.
How do you go from fear to anger.
1:38:14 _"People can't work for more than an hour, they're all tired, but they can play _*_video games_*_ [for] 16 hours, 24 hours straight 'cause their relationship to is very different, there's not the same heaviness._
*_Shift your work to that_*_ and _*_working will be like playing a video game where you can just play and play and play_*_ and play and play and play and play, right?"_
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Question is: *how* to "shift work to that" mindset/effortlessness? How to release the heaviness from certain (boring) work tasks? 🤔
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I've been trying with different jobs/employers over the years, to reach such a state where I'm not experiencing the heaviness in day-to-day work. Lately I've been learning about *Flow State* thanks to Rian Doris and Steven Kotler. (Check out - www.youtube.com/@riandoris - if you want to know more).
This advice is so rare. This is life changing. Pure gold. I don't know how to put it, but if you stumbled upon this video, and have any social-related problem, consider yourself VERY lucky. Study this deeply, this is the only way to get those changes PERMANENTLY
Julián is legend 4 sure. Amazing work.
He is one of the few people I watch on youtuber thats slowly nringing a positive change to my life. Well of course, with me applying his advice to my life. But he makes the information easy to digest so I can use it to my advantage.
100% agree with you. He is the only person who has changed my perspective completely. I have been depressed the last 2 years, and people say they are supposed to be the best years of your life. Well, they have sucked for me, which has only caused me to be more depressed. It felt like there was no way out, like I would just have to accept the rest of my life as this, this never being good enough, never believing in myself. I accepted that it would just have to suck because "I am me," which, in retrospect, makes no sense. In a way, I gave up on myself. But I was in a really dark place. I even started improving my fitness and diet to try and help, as well as tried to do more hobbies and things I loved. But at the end of the day, I circled back to that depression, that "never feeling good enough" mindset. Wishing I was just gone and that there was no point to me being here, etc.
When I started watching his videos, I literally cried. It was such a feeling of relief, it wasn't all over for me, the rest of my life didn't have to suck. And I had hope. Not just hope, I believed in myself. I knew that if I followed this path, it would ultimately lead to my success. Part of me was hungry for it, in a way I've never been before. It almost was like a challenge. Where I used to avoid social situations, I started talking more, and in a more confident way. What's better is how they react. They don't know me. They now assume I am confident. Now, every interaction can be a new challenge to improve my social skills and confidence level. I have hope for life and my future, and I don't feel like a failure. My self-worth is improving, and I can feel my fear of rejection subsiding slowly but surely. I haven't been doing this long at all, but I plan to keep watching him and implementing his teachings into my life. 🩷🩷🩷
It's not luck. It’s God who guided us here.
Mark 1:15
“The time is fulfilled. The Kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, believe in the gospel.”
1 John 5
“We know also that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true. And we are in him who is true-even in his Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God and eternal life.”
John 3:16
“For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him, should not perish but have eternal life.”
Hebrews 11:1
“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
No doubt 🔥🔥
14:30 - Me vs the viewer
17:00 - BE SELFISH .... apply it on yourself
18:30 - Be relentless
19:50 - Take responsibility (YOU have to do the work) - no going back
25:23 - ADVICE changes as you GROW (Lines - Subcomms - Letting go)
29:35 - Celebtrate your wins !!
32:00 - LETTING GO (power of what you DONT carry with you)
35:28 - Confidence (Situational vs CORE) - You can not BECOME enough, you ARE already.
37:45 - what now ? vs WHY ?
41:00 - Act real until you remember
42:30 - Action -Trigger - Release - Repeat
44:40 - hiding parts of myself...
49:50 - getting TRIGGERED
55:45 - cold showers- relax into it
58:23 - its never the THING its the PLACE ITS COMING FROM
1:01:28 - true emotions are light and minor
1:06:50 - WILLPOWER....
1:08:35 - LET GO of the RESISTAnCE = accept = move towards the triggered = Look for feeling EASE
1:12:11 - Self-Sabotage - Success limits
1:16:10 - 1. Trauma = disowning part of yourself
1:17:15 - 2. Core beliefs, 3. Core identity
1:17:50 - Core beliefs
1:21:46 - Core identity = which movie character represents you ?
1:24:30 - Success limits
1:30:10 - Consciousness MAP
1:38:32 - if you dont ENJOY , you're doing wrong
1:42:40 - Until you fun ction out of LOVE, your RAS is hijacked
Thnks
Legend
I think you got it bro ❤
AWESOME MAN
Bro, I love you for this!
I didn’t believe I could be that dream version of myself and yet here I am. Thanks to you
How long did it take you?
@@caroline2469 uhhh 35 years give or take a few months 😆
@@psyience3213😂😅
Only from his free vidoes?
I am so grateful the whole 2 hours is available to watch for free. Thank you so much.
I love the concept of your current self not necessarily being your authentic self; rather that your current self is your conditioned self. Amazing mindset shift!
its something in Jungian psychology as well. The Persona and the Id. People put on personas depending on the company theyre in. They arent fake versions of yourself, since it would be inappropriate to talk to your mother the same way you do with your husband or wife, but they arent a pure form, just like you cant look at all sides of a cube at the same time.
Maybe you could explain this a bit
Summary:
Audit your life for fear and anxiety
Determine if the fear or anxiety is based in reality
Take action and put yourself in social situations
Practice letting go of resistance
Reflect on the unconscious
Overcome trigger reactions
Relax and release tension
Allow yourself to feel the disowned
Overcome self-sabotage
Compare power and control
Let go of control and increase volume
Reject unacceptable external energy
Release emotional charge
Audit for relief in triggering situations
Check for feelings of openness, ease, and safety
Notice social changes
Focus on self-improvement in social skills
Reflect on the causes of conditions and how they are influenced by society, survival dependence, and perspective
Use various tools and exercises for each issue
Change your self-talk
Identify your emotional states
Improve your social skills
Change your outlook on the world
Verify against reality
Get responsibility and support
Avoid trying to do everything alone
Take action on self-help ideas
Put yourself in challenging and uncomfortable situations to grow
Balance your strengths and weaknesses, ask for help and feedback
Be prepared for benefits and chaos when changes start to occur
THANK YOU
Underrated comment...
Thank you ❤
Letting go is more about accepting and embracing (fully immersing one self) rather than just trying to shut it out and pushing it away.Wow that is so powerful. Its like the purest form of therapy.
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Accepting and embracing what exactly? That I struggle with being loud or that I already can be loud I didn’t get this point of letting go so much
@@ghala4845I think they meant that letting go is about embracing yourself and what happened instead of pushing it away.
@@ghala4845accepting your flaws and not judging yourself by them will automatically make them go away
@@ghala4845u can be loud ur mind just tells u u cant because of trauma, the things u started to believe because of what u have experienced in life and the identity u took on and think u are.
U can do anything, ur just conditioned to believe u cant
Was awesome being there and super psyched to see this come out ! -Owen
Thanks man!! 🙌
"-owen". Thought Todd wrote this
You two are awesome lol 😅😃😎
Great comment ! - Daniel
Y’all bunch of btchs -Me lmao I’m kidding y’all great content from mr cook and mr Julz’ but I’m not paying y’all I’ll pay someone just wish I could pay with hard work instead of money
When I was first put in a wheelchair I lost all confidence, I saw my chair as my greatest weakness. I loved seeing the before and afters.
how is it going gared bother?
For anyone that hates being on camera it's helpful (at least it's helping me) to realise that when you see yourself on camera, or on film, you see all of your insecurities, all of your flaws, all of the things you hate about yourself. When other people see you on camera they see the same person they see in real life. Think about it, when you see your ugly friend on camera (be honest, we all have ugly friends) do you think any differently to them on camera to how you do in real life? No! You see the person you love, exactly the same way you do every day, and that's what people see when they look at you. They see you. Not your flaws. Not your insecurities. Just you. The exact same thing they would see if they're looking at you in person. As long as you are being your true, authentic self, you should have nothing to be embarrassed or uncomfortable about.
In other words, people are only really conscious about themselves. We become so conscious about our looks and think other people can see our flaws but in reality, everyone cares about their own looks more. This is such a great perspective! I become so drowned with beauty standards sometimes that I forget I'm human.
@@leeroseveltfrancisThey see you're ugly all the time and already love you how you are. You forget you're ugly until you're watching yourself on camera and you don't love your real self you love the fake self you hold in your mind.
@ashgray1997 I completely agree. Well said 🩷
This is so true tbh
I think so many of us don't believe in ourselves because our parents seemingly didn't. But thanks to Julien's work, we don't have to wait on outside validation to believe we're good enough.
Half way through the video and i am tempted to write this. As an addiction counsellor trying to use it for psycho education for social anxiety and confidence, this is amazing. Thank you so much. I recovered my severe social anxiety disorder and fortunately my mantra too was I am not above anyone and i am not below anyone. We are all crazies trying to figure out ourselves in this crazy world. The thing about plus and minus and judging people before they judge is so true. I let go of that belief intellectually and I am actually a very good public speaker now. Interesting thing my self- consciousness come back momentarily when I micro-dose weed in front of people giving a hint that There are still some traces of that unhelpful belief at a subconscious level. This video is just helping me so so so much. Thank you. I get it now I gotta work more on my micro-behavior. I still have more of a situational confidence than core confidence. Good luck to me and thank you sooo much for this.
Give a hand to his buddy who helped him film and was on every adventure with him in dvery video, what a friend. What a guy. He deserves huge credit.
Been watching a lot of self help. Got into therapy. I've been working on myself for awhile it seems but I've fallen off the horse a couple of times.
Thid talk is actually pretty inspiring so far!
I hope I can be someone who is the way I want to be.
Open and charismatic.
I'm tryint very hard to learn.
Biggest takeaway: Not "improving" my social skills in the traditional sense, but I should let go of the barriers in order that come in the way of expressing myself fully. Great stuff! Are you making a social skills program? I remember you talking about it in a previous video about charisma
41:02 This speech was so impressive, that even the aliens visited us for a couple of seconds.
Thank you! 🙏
Website: "Are you a robot?"
JulienHimself: "Well, actually- DiD I teLL yOu abOUt thE coLlABoraTIve pAraDIGm?!"
Lmaoooo
Just started watching this guy. Content is excellent. He’s great at identifying the issues and I can use some help for sure. I’m wanting some actionable steps for healing and recovery
41:01 honestly scared the shit out of me. I was relaxing listening to music with this video playing in the background and oh my god I thought my headphones were bugging
is it made to put my attention to the feeling im experiencing when the sound changes vs when it goes back to normal
🤘 Love your work man, a more REAL approach than the typical motivational, self-help stuff!
I've watched a few videos now and haven't been able to understand what letting go means. This is the first one that I saw that mentioned the cold shower exercise, and now I understand as someone who has tried cold showers. Time to take a cold shower and relax.
18:30 grief fear 23:00 1:08:08 qna technicality let go 1:42:20 1:45:15
¡Gracias!
Finally…. Been waiting for this one!
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Why you have been waiting for this one aint you the charisma master woooo wooo the way that you market yourselfs seems like you forced it Pretty hard and talking too much till you misleading us and this is clear sign that you doubt something
"The Happiness of your life depands on the quality of your thought (s)"...Marcus Aurelius
This is probably the number 1 human in recorded history I believe it
Just re-watched this and it's fantastic -Owen
Oh wow you have two RUclips’s lol 😅 -Coco
I can relate to that so much. I feel anxiety when i get invited to a family gathering. Its literally only People i have known all my life, and i still would feel that anxiety. I feel you brother
Thank you for sharing! Lemme know if you want any help letting go of this: www.julienhimself.com/mentoring-application
I have the same problem, have you overcome it?
I love the subtle language shift to social skills over previous alternatives lmao. Happy to see the underlying technology with regard to personal evolution of internal core confidence and the state which flows from that is still being developed. Awesome vid. I was practicing this for a while but also derived too much confidence from external reality so when I switched cities my old social structure was gone and fell into the trap of believing that my successes stemmed from that when really they stemmed from the ease and confidence I allowed myself to radiate because of those external situations. Re-learning to tap into that core without the externals, while at the same time working to improve the value I bring to the world through a means that I find compelling and inspiring because hey, elevating oneself up the social hierarchy never hurts either. But it is dangerous to derive one’s confidence from that position because if your external reality changes then so will your internal one, but if acting from your core, external reality circumstances don’t matter nearly as much, you are at ease either way.
One of the things I do is I think about why I'm afraid. Then, I think about what it is that I'm afraid of people discovering about me that I'm trying to hide from them. Then finally, no matter what that thing is, I try to learn to fully own it and learn to accept myself... [despite it being true]. It's a humbling process. Could you accept yourself IF you really were more awkward than everyone else? Or, IF you were the worst at getting women and social interactions? For me, I try to accept my fears as truths. This way, I'm not afraid of people discovering these things about me, bcuz I already fully accept myself with them being true. Tho, becoming comfortable with personal inadequacies doesn't stifle me from continually taking action to try to improve my inadequacies, bcuz I'm learning to accept myself, (with my flaws), but I'm not accepting the limitations it brings into my life.... [IF I can improve them].
This is awesome - thanks
Exactly. It is what is it attitude. Whats so bad if they got to see the real me? Why am I hiding? What am I hiding? I deserve space as much as everyone in this earth. That was my questioning to myself.
julien started improving himself the same yr i was born bcuz he knew id need his lessons one day
The collaborative paradigm you mentioned is true af. Even in college there are the asshole type of cool and also the neutral cool people who are friends with everyone and are never in any beefs or weird rivalries 💯
Yeah completely agree i just worked in a bar and those a holes were terrible. Real cool people are like this who like people travel and are open minded diversity
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I can't believe this is free, and you are such an underrated creator! T - T
Ikr he's great!
I'm hurting like hell but this video gives me hope, I'm at _"Anger"_ in all aspects of my life.
It's terrible but I'm further along than I initially thought.
how u doing? out of grief now, still in anger, or did u move up to courage?
I can't believe that videos like this have so less views. He deserves more like millions and millions of views.
i’ve always thought i was the only one that was so scared of people thank u for making me feel like im not alone and i have the capacity to change!
You're very welcome! Change is DEFINITELY possible!
Julien is changing lives , for me I can see am changing
i resonate with this video so much and I am so glad i discovered this page. i have felt social anxiety my whole life, and i have hated myself for it. i can feel that i am capable of achieving great things, but my fear of people has held me back even with communicating with my family. i have been working on myself the past couple months but i still thought something was wrong with me and i could never fix my anxiety. this is one of my favorite videos i've come across in changing my mindset. thank you for this video!
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I remember discovering Julien and bought Shift and Pimp. Wonderful programs and always amazing free content here on YT. Julien is the Man. I appreciate all the work you do. It has been a very big help for me to overcome some things.
You’re welcome! Enjoy the video, these new teachings are much more effective! 👌
wow julien u just dropping very insightful gems here , I've been devouring ur videos for a couple nights now. but this one definitely takes the price
Glad to hear it! Thank you!
Julien transformation mastery is really good I have it its like a new experience of life music love etc as Im doing it Thankss for making it
Amazing to hear!! 🔥🔥
This video helped me a lot, it's suprising how you can apply this knowledge to your own situation.
You really do have to do it yourself.
The way I'm relating to this😢I even panick around family members and gatherings
15:00 You just put into words how I've been feeling toward my family and some friends, to people who I've sensed judgement from at times. This is BIG.
Competitive vs. Collaborative. stopping here for tonight, I'll post more as I watch. Thank you so.. so much for sharing this with us on youtube.
Mf forgot to watch more lmao
❤This was a great watch!
one of the best explanation I've ever heard
Glad to hear this resonated with you! 🙌
My God, I've been trying WAY too hard for 50 years now. What a RELIEF.
one theory why people become socially awkward or nervous anxious is how they are treated at school. bullies being put down in school so when they speak to people outside of school they fear they will be treated the same.
Yes! This is why LETTING GO is so key! 🙏
Properly letting go gives you a feeling of release
1:56:58 that shit hit deep. Some real eye opening golden nuggets. I had to watch this twice to really digest the message. Thank you so much Julien.
This is gold never reailzed how beautiful is to learn that princples
What does not feeling, feel like. I feel like I needed to hear that my whole life
I've never seen any infield footage of you but those old videos that you showed were just what I was looking for, to make myself believe in me.
He haved videos on RUclips... But for the feminism RUclips deleted It
@@charlesbukowski7730 also deleted it because these new teachings with letting go are way more effective and at the same time debuilds many of the old informations that were used in the old teachings.
I think i may have just discovered what i want to do wirh my life.
Which is?
Have you read the book, breaking the habbit of being yourself
JULIEN!!!!! This is literally "the story of self help 2.0" thank you so much for this video, is literally the most helpful one on RUclips ever, the information clicks a lot with the teal swan techniques and I love it
You're very welcome!! Glad this spoke to you on such a deep level! If you'd like to learn more about this, you can apply for private coaching here: bit.ly/2S9YVum 🙏
This advice seems so simple. Yet it is so profound. Thank you so much for sharing this, amazing job.
Very interesting views, i have one question thought. If i surrendered to all feelings like sadness and other negative feelings as a form of letting go, and i have accepted them and lived with them, isn't this a form of depression? Or how do we distinguish?
There is no reason for this video not to get millions of likes. Julien... Im officially giving you my approval 👌
Lol, why thank you! 🙏
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My biggest takeaway is that you're getting fkn jacked broski! Thanks for the vid!
@@Sixsoul Lol, thx! 🙈
@@JulienHimself after watching the whole video my biggest takeaway is still that you're fkn jacked!! But also that releasing should feel like becoming a little more me, which it totally did just now! Thanks again Julien, the timing on this one was perfect. Perfect like your chiseled biceps 💪 😹
I like the lights in the background!
“As you grow, the advice you need changes”
A manifesto video... by Julian .... longer than 2 hours.... this is GLORIOUS
What great content! Love how you go in to detail regarding letting go and how it impacts the self-talk, making it uplifting instead of trying to get rid of it.
been following you for alot of years now seen you evovle to who you are now its so amazing
and more amazing that youve changed my life 180 degrees i was obesse lost 45kg worked on my self
with the help of your videos and programs and im a diffrent person right now
so thank you julien youve chagned my life! :)
That’s AMAZING to hear!! Respect! 💪
33:32 The quality of your social skills has much more to do with what you remove than what you add on
YES! 👊
a masterpiece of a video man
You are very intelligent and I thank you with all my heart you helped me get to the root of my problems
I'm amazed this is actually free on RUclips.
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The framing that i am already whole, and im tapping into parts of myself that were locked out because of other people when i was younger, really is an extremely interesting and helpful portrait to look at, as compared to feeling like i need to create a new one. I hope i can keep this in mind and it stays with me
Julien I'm sure you're gonna be something BIG 🙏🏼
Its awesome to see someone who is doing what I want to do delivering the same messages I want to deliver. Seeing an example and hearing your delivery of a shared mindset and wisdom is paramount. Thank you @JulienHimself for showing me people need to hear our message!
I love watching his videos and just having a huge smile on my face knowing I’m going to use all of this information to help myself and it just makes me so happy thinking how easy it really is with just putting in the work I’ve always been a hard worker and I want and need and have to do good because it would just be a waste not to
Thank you so much!!! I can recognize myself and you help me project myself into working on myself to improve myself!! 🙏
Thanks Julien for reminding us to focus on the heart of the matter and not surface things, pretty hard in our modern age but it's the only way
Yes! It’s not the catchiest/flashiest thing to hear… But it’s what produces real results.
„... Letting go ist accepting and embracing...“ - That’s a gamechanger! 🙌
Yes! Glad this was helpful!
Less than 50000 views - best stamp of approval ever
It used to bother me that RSD moved away from the underground PUA niche and into something more broad scoped. However, my opinion has now changed and i'm extremely greatful that they've done this. Social anxiety effects both genders and in more scenarios than just dating. My girlfriend is from Seoul, South Korea and trying to integrate and adapt into the United States culture. Due to the culture shock of her circumstances (English being a new language for her) she could very well be considered a hard case newbie. I used to listen to RSD in private until one day she caught me. I was surprised by what happened next. Not only did she not get mad i was listening to PUA advice, she herself started watching it on her own. She's been watching these videos and is actually making incredible progress in her social skills. I can't even express how thankful I am of Tyler and Jullien. They've changed my life in soon many ways.
What is RSD and PUA, please?
@@jasminepainter1897 pick up girls and how to fight the social anxiety to have the courage to do it + how to make girls like you and enjoy their time with you ( some do it to boost their egos in front of their bros , and some do it cause they don't like to be liked for material things and want to get genuine love )
Awesome man💥 what plans do you have for this year ? Focusing inSocial skills?
Potentially releasing an updated social skills program, as a lot of the “social skills teachings” out there are outdated and archaic! Lol
@@JulienHimself potentially? No way haha release that man 😋
Wow, what a video. I love how you take us through your journey and explain how you felt in that time. I think that’s why I’m able to follow your content so we’ll because you teach from a place of being that I’m currently in. 59:45. You nailed it!!
This is the BEST.. Owen and Julie has been great to humanity..
Thanks..
1:46:57 difference between Concentration Medications and Mindfulness Medications
*meditation 😉
Thanks Julien for the free content! Youre the man!
You’re welcome! 🙏🙏
@@JulienHimself Just joined the 21daynoforchallenge lets gooo!
Should we be downloading these videos in case RSD deletes them again?
Is the release/letting go part the same as the "acceptance" stage of grief?
1:59:34 „you fckn saved my life!“
This is so fckn accurate and hits so deep.
This content of julien and of many other coaches on the world, is the red pill so much more people rly need to swallow…
Hey Julian. I got an idea for ya.
You’re right, that you Can never “become enough”, because then you will always desire to become good enough. But what if you logically know that you are good enough, but you actually don’t feel it. Do i just accept the feeling feeling and THEN let it go? How do i do it?
- as far as i understand, so everytime i dont feel good enough, i could let it go, by just letting the feeling be there as it is without judging the feeling (like echart tolle and David Hawking says)
But the Way i approach it in my mind is to accept the feeling over and over (maybe 1000 times) everytime it pops up, everytime i feel not good enough, i accept it as it is, and one day, i will automatically let it go by accepting it so many times and THEN i Can let it go and reframe how my real truths is instead of my fake truths for example that im not good enough, and then with my pressence i Can take a step back and really chance my limiting core beliefs to the real truth “that im good enough”
By actually writing it down and telling it to my self and believing it and now i have the real truth in my mind that im awesome as i am. I like that approach so much and it worked for me.
Thank you for free content and sharing.
Keep up the good work
Exactly, thats something i have thought all the time, you cant be full enough because its a never ending race.
You just popped up in my feed yesterday! This is no coincidence. Thank you
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Competitive to Collaborative mindset 💎💎💎💎 game changer, thank you!
This video has made my mind so much clearer! Ive actually watched the video twice
Amazing to hear!
This is Medicine to me. I am 15 mins in- have to stop it so I can prioritize this video. Thank you for making this available 🙏
I have barely started my journey of social communication skills and building my self esteem I have always been told I can't and I will not make it these videos help and I'm applying it. I will not lie it is difficult but I can do it
It doesn't have to be difficult... Let me know if you'd like help with this: application.julienhimself.com/
I was really on positive thinking and law of attraction...
But After see this video now i know that the most important thing Is to letting go.
Thanks too much for this video Julien... I already do meditation. But now .. instead of wanting to be positive .. i accept my negativity and release them
Thanks too much!
And i`ll be selfish and relentless ;)
I am going to apply this in to my Life and take action... From this evening!
Notification of a new 2 hour julian video. This gonna be good 🔥🔥🔥
Booyah! 💪
People… you don’t realize how f*cking crazy and such good information this is!! Like am I the only one mind blown by everything in this video??
yes you are, but with your shiny new core confidence, that shouldn't matter
@@Robb3348 What the hell is wrong with u dude
Was this taken place in the Portofino bay hotel ball rooms in Orlando Florida? The interior looks familiar
Best video on youtube bruh how did i not discover this wonderful man
2 hours of good stuff, I like that guy
Thanks! 🙏
52:10 jumping out of a plane is easier. I know cuz iv done it. Something about people’s judgement just messes with your head
Absolutely amazing content! Great to see how far people can come to master all of this! Legend Julien!
Thank you!
I think that you are one of the best in this topic because you are rly giving us helpful advices and you are being real
Thank you! Glad this is so helpful!
this dude is smart af
IKR he really is!
Best video I've ever watched on social skills 🔥🔥
Glad this resonated!