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As a person that got sexually abused at 12 and only spoke about it two weeks ago with family and friends after losing my wife due to a lot of shit I had hidden inside, this content plus therapy is hitting really hard. I followed you (and Owen and Jeffy) since you started at rsd and I always resonated with your content but until now I couldn't not feel broken all the time. I appreciate you!
Keep on going my friend. Take our hands and lets walk all together to our dreams and visions. Very strong for you being able to open up online and to your family, allowing to show vulnerability👏💪 If you ever need something, don't hesistate to reach out
Duuuude, ive always thought about the fact that shy people should have accountability partners when it comes to improving social skills, and you just sealed the deal for me... thanks Julien for these inspiring nuggets of wisdom once again!
I thank you so much Julien! I am am INTJ and I love your coaching style. Multiple times I thought that you also may be an INTJ/ENTJ, because of that Ni/Te preference of xNTJ's, which makes them incredibly good at questioning/stragegizing/ finding a way to understand reality and patterns of thoughts, habits and life in general; and then sharing this with the world, to help others improve. I have never had any role model, but you are a person i really look up to. Not because of the things you have accomplished/do, but because of the way you ARE. I WATCH ALL OF YOUR NEW VIDEOS, EVEN IF THEY WERE 3 HOURS LONG, because your content is so deep and helpful! So thankful that I found you; best wishes from Germany !
@Shorts Milionários Can u tell me about the difference between Ni and Ti? They seem very similar, if not the same to me. So do you think Julien is INFJ with savior Ni/Ti and Demon Fe/Se ? Or an ISTP with savior Ti/Ni and Demon Se/Fe ?
The different is that this coach tell you what to do, the therapist create a dialogue in which at the end you tell yourself what to do and you don't have that problem anymore
To summarize, three things you talked about are:- 1. Go out of your comfort zone and create a situation which lights a fire under your ass. 2. You can never change yourself by reaching some place. You just have to let go the feelings that stop you from feeling great. 3. Try to find out the things you don't know don't know about yourself.
You are honestly one of the biggest and greatest self improvement gurus in this decade. A great personality on the internet whom I can learn so much from. 🙏😎
Two things I love about this story. 1) Julien shows that you can really be starting from zero, or a place where you think improvement is impossible, and get to a really AWESOME place with your social skills by putting the work in and not giving up. 2) He's made it so far that he has no fear whatsoever about revealing his prior nerdy self (in fact, I think he has a lot of fun with that and sees the humor in it) -- and just gets it out there for the world to see. Because once you've got social confidence, NO ONE can take that away from you. Kudos, Julien!
Came for advice, stayed for the humour. Awesome video. I also have social anxiety. I'm an INFJ. I'm gonna try to talk to 3 new people a day from tomorrow
So much value in this video it's crazy, from you being an excellent speaker, extremely, without a doubt relatable, authentically real, genuinely funny, socially engaging, I could go on... Keep up the great work! I love the longer videos 👍
@@JulienHimself and you've personally helped me in TMM and the social skills training. Still learning and growing. Taking action. You saved my life so many times... Genuinely. The world needs to be on this.
Wooooow this is the first video snippet of you in 34334 videos where I see you in your old state in front of the camera. Love it and to see that you couldn't do it. That helps so much and gives hope. Thanks
This really is a great video Julien. The way you described your old situation with social anxiety was so interesting when seeing what you achieved now. Also the advice with collecting the small wins in the day, helped me realising that I seldom acknowledge my achievements. Thank You!
Thank you for telling your own story and how do get there,ive been all there this year with no support plus add anxiety,depression with a background of suicidal thoughts. And today im better ,however ive always find it strange why no one talk about those difficult times,why is it not shown on social media,why is this such a taboo and you neef to always to keep the smile,be an adult why im sure its not like this. If people could share their struggle like this ,it could have made such a difference,as for my part i always tell my story to people who open themselves up to me and it help them also. I hope one day this shame game will be less and less because that where you find all the lesson.
I got a scholarship to study PE in this foriegn country where they speak a foriegn language. As part of our studies, we have to take practical Physical Ed lessons for the students in our college, this is a requirement for getting marks. Im always so scared to take the lesson because im a foriegner and my language is not as good. I managed to take some lessons and felt really proud afterwards. But then there was volleyball which i myself was not good at. This year i skipped taking it and still managed to get good marks. But next academic year thanks to julien im sure im gonna ace it!✌❤
I love that Julian knew his personality type because that's all I could think about while watching his video. (This INTJ is super charismatic) it's inspiring because INTJ's are known for being socially unaware due to their extreme focus on rationality.
I have good social skills, but I can't sustain relationships. I used to be able to, but I had no self-esteem. I put up with anything, but I somehow attracted nice people. Once I realized I had value, I started attracting narcicissts. They took advantage of me. Now I'm jaded. I'm realizing I also don't set boundaries, because I don't want to be rejected. I bail on relationships instead of setting boundaries. I'm also rude and too demanding sometimes. I can apologize, but I don't chase people. I'm low on close relationships right now. It sucks.
Wow I searched CASUALLY for a video like these,then i discover that i found this one 1 hour after it's posting... Just wow Anyway this video is literally life changing,it made me think a lot
Julien how does one let go of repetitive/obsessive thoughts? in my case they are thoughts that have no logic, my mind is simply very hyperactive. I want to be fully present in the moment without these thoughts that make no sense.
I rarely watch a video / read a book that gives me as much of a "Holy shit, I'm making those same mistakes" feeling as this video. Thank you for uploading this and inspiring me to change my life in a positive way. You just gained a subscriber! However, I have one question about transforming from an "outwards-in" style to an "inwards-out" style of living: if you can be truly content with who you are *regardless of the external things in your life*, how do you maintain the motivation/fire to still achieve anything external? E.g., if I'm already good enough when I'm chubby, single and broke, why would I have the motivation to change those external circumstances? Without an answer to this, changing my style of living seems terrifying, because what if I end up happy but homeless? I suppose this is a difficult question to give a simple answer to , but maybe you'll read it nonetheless :)
idk if u still need the answer but if u do here it is. being happy doesnt mean settling, it doesnt mean taking no action, being happy where u are right now lets u take even more action. but u do it from inspiration. u are already feeling great and thrive for feeling even greater. u got tricked into thinking u need motiviation etc. for u to do something when in reality there is no real motiviation u keep. its just socially imposed on us
11:15 dude, I once just went into the city to have a long conversation with an old person. I walked around, saw an old women and sat myself next to her. I asked for the weather and we began to talk. We talked 1 and a half hours maybe. After that I was full with self critisicm because I wasnt myself in the conversation. It was 4 weeks ago and I am still self concious haha
It doesn't matter? You still did it. You need to do that kind of things dozens, hundreds of times, regularly, for your brain to figure out there's no threat. There's nothing scary about it. No one cares but you.
Just mindblowing how similar our journey experiences are and you keep using nearly the exact same examples, phrases, terms, etc. as I would do in German and like nearly in the same order. I mean it in a positive way (no accusation), I really enjoy your content. The way this "random signs" are keep occuring makes me curious what the near future awaits for us both =) Wish you keep best success and sending you and everyone else much love
I mean I live in Connecticut wanted to move to California when I was 18, got scared and decided not to get on the plane. Then I caught hiv, now I’m too scared to really move anywhere because I’ll die and be away from my medication. Now I’m just kinda in my small town, in my small apartment, living with my partner but I’m sad. Actually went to Owens seminar in Boston with someone I met on Facebook but it really lead me nowhere sadly.
I understand the accountability factor but I doubt that it would lead me to take action out of desperation instead of inspiration. It adds more pressure to take action just because you don't want to look like a loser in front of others. How do I fix this mindset?
Look bro we will all die one day and yoy just have to stop giving a fuck. It sounds cliche I know but when we die you don't get a second chance. Take the risk whatever it is in life. All suceessful people did things that were scary.
I am an INTJ, which developed during my teen years. I have always struggled with social anxiety and I am in my late 40s. I am pushing myself in little ways to work on my social skills.
I'm swiss too. In Switzerland you can stay in your comfort zone and you'll just be fine... They're not social anyway 😄 i came to israel and if you want or not you become social 😂
I feel like a lot of people are not worth talking too and a waste of time (toxic people) like I think you should only try to develop relationships with people you want to. There’s a lot of people in the past I wish I never met.. any thoughts on this?
People don't care what you think, people are selfish, we are all selfish. If you find a person toxic be polite be helpful but nobody forces you to talk to them cut them out and move on and yes just find the people you click with :) ignore the toxic ones. Bte about the regret in the past... thats life my friend we all make mistakes EVERYONE. Dont linger on those things and move on you are smarter than you were then :) Much love
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Thank you bro
Do you read every comment! Do you believe someone else has a better idea along with yours... OR is your idea the win?
You’re a true lightworker .. no no , light warrior. You are the lighthouse for the rest of us. So inspiring!
As a person that got sexually abused at 12 and only spoke about it two weeks ago with family and friends after losing my wife due to a lot of shit I had hidden inside, this content plus therapy is hitting really hard. I followed you (and Owen and Jeffy) since you started at rsd and I always resonated with your content but until now I couldn't not feel broken all the time. I appreciate you!
Keep on going my friend. Take our hands and lets walk all together to our dreams and visions. Very strong for you being able to open up online and to your family, allowing to show vulnerability👏💪
If you ever need something, don't hesistate to reach out
lol
@@Therealtopg420 lol
Wow, thank you for sharing. May you find the healing you deserve.
This man is changing life's of millions of people 🙏
🙏🙏🙏
Duuuude, ive always thought about the fact that shy people should have accountability partners when it comes to improving social skills, and you just sealed the deal for me... thanks Julien for these inspiring nuggets of wisdom once again!
Nice! Glad this was inspiring and insightful!
I thank you so much Julien!
I am am INTJ and I love your coaching style. Multiple times I thought that you also may be an INTJ/ENTJ, because of that Ni/Te preference of xNTJ's, which makes them incredibly good at questioning/stragegizing/ finding a way to understand reality and patterns of thoughts, habits and life in general; and then sharing this with the world, to help others improve.
I have never had any role model, but you are a person i really look up to. Not because of the things you have accomplished/do, but because of the way you ARE.
I WATCH ALL OF YOUR NEW VIDEOS, EVEN IF THEY WERE 3 HOURS LONG, because your content is so deep and helpful!
So thankful that I found you; best wishes from Germany !
@Shorts Milionários Can u tell me about the difference between Ni and Ti? They seem very similar, if not the same to me.
So do you think Julien is INFJ with savior Ni/Ti and Demon Fe/Se ?
Or an ISTP with savior Ti/Ni and Demon Se/Fe ?
I've spent thousands of dollars in therapy, and this video was more helpful than 90% of what I learned there.
The different is that this coach tell you what to do, the therapist create a dialogue in which at the end you tell yourself what to do and you don't have that problem anymore
Exactly!
To summarize, three things you talked about are:-
1. Go out of your comfort zone and create a situation which lights a fire under your ass.
2. You can never change yourself by reaching some place. You just have to let go the feelings that stop you from feeling great.
3. Try to find out the things you don't know don't know about yourself.
You are honestly one of the biggest and greatest self improvement gurus in this decade. A great personality on the internet whom I can learn so much from. 🙏😎
Two things I love about this story. 1) Julien shows that you can really be starting from zero, or a place where you think improvement is impossible, and get to a really AWESOME place with your social skills by putting the work in and not giving up. 2) He's made it so far that he has no fear whatsoever about revealing his prior nerdy self (in fact, I think he has a lot of fun with that and sees the humor in it) -- and just gets it out there for the world to see. Because once you've got social confidence, NO ONE can take that away from you. Kudos, Julien!
What about someone in a wheelchair or someone with down syndrome
Came for advice, stayed for the humour. Awesome video. I also have social anxiety. I'm an INFJ. I'm gonna try to talk to 3 new people a day from tomorrow
Hello, bro. How did it go?
Now this is one of the best motivation+communication skills video related,TO ACTUALLY TAKE ACTION.
Thanks man I mean I can reflect the story with mine. Thanks your videos uplift and charge the energy in me every time I watch you.
So much value in this video it's crazy, from you being an excellent speaker, extremely, without a doubt relatable, authentically real, genuinely funny, socially engaging, I could go on... Keep up the great work! I love the longer videos 👍
Thank you! 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Julien! It's an absolute honor to see your growth and all the people you have helped. Thank you man 👊💙
Thank you so much! 🙏
@@JulienHimself and you've personally helped me in TMM and the social skills training. Still learning and growing. Taking action. You saved my life so many times... Genuinely. The world needs to be on this.
Wooooow this is the first video snippet of you in 34334 videos where I see you in your old state in front of the camera. Love it and to see that you couldn't do it. That helps so much and gives hope. Thanks
Great movie!... He went for it... He may have failed, but he put his truth out there!
This really is a great video Julien. The way you described your old situation with social anxiety was so interesting when seeing what you achieved now. Also the advice with collecting the small wins in the day, helped me realising that I seldom acknowledge my achievements. Thank You!
Glad this was helpful! Great takeaways! 🔥👊
Thank you for telling your own story and how do get there,ive been all there this year with no support plus add anxiety,depression with a background of suicidal thoughts. And today im better ,however ive always find it strange why no one talk about those difficult times,why is it not shown on social media,why is this such a taboo and you neef to always to keep the smile,be an adult why im sure its not like this. If people could share their struggle like this ,it could have made such a difference,as for my part i always tell my story to people who open themselves up to me and it help them also. I hope one day this shame game will be less and less because that where you find all the lesson.
First off Thank you Julian....❤😊
Long format content the BEST! Keep it up king.
Thanks! 🔥👊
Honestly this is one of the best videos i ever seen in my life. Thank you so much for value that you are giving to us!!! 🌟👌🏻
I got a scholarship to study PE in this foriegn country where they speak a foriegn language. As part of our studies, we have to take practical Physical Ed lessons for the students in our college, this is a requirement for getting marks. Im always so scared to take the lesson because im a foriegner and my language is not as good. I managed to take some lessons and felt really proud afterwards. But then there was volleyball which i myself was not good at. This year i skipped taking it and still managed to get good marks. But next academic year thanks to julien im sure im gonna ace it!✌❤
I’ve known this channel for a week. And my life had changed so much already it’s fucking insaneee
Amazing to hear! Welcome to the channel! 🙌
What did u do?
@@montana2198 Watched a few of his videos on letting go… and actually let go for the first time in my life and changes just started happening.
I love that Julian knew his personality type because that's all I could think about while watching his video. (This INTJ is super charismatic) it's inspiring because INTJ's are known for being socially unaware due to their extreme focus on rationality.
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Awesome ya I have to this I often thought I forgave myself but must not have
I can do this on my own! Because of you!... But we could be a powerful business couple ...
Julien mad love and respect!! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾🙏🏾 hope you and your family are blessed 🙏🏾
Thank you! 🙏
Ngl I thought this dude was a shill at first, but the stuff hes saying is actually rlly insightful.
always been curious how you got out of the hole. Definitely watching this tonight
Nice! Enjoy! 🙌
This is truly inspiring
I have good social skills, but I can't sustain relationships. I used to be able to, but I had no self-esteem. I put up with anything, but I somehow attracted nice people. Once I realized I had value, I started attracting narcicissts. They took advantage of me. Now I'm jaded. I'm realizing I also don't set boundaries, because I don't want to be rejected. I bail on relationships instead of setting boundaries. I'm also rude and too demanding sometimes. I can apologize, but I don't chase people. I'm low on close relationships right now. It sucks.
Julien "I couldn't ask for time" Blanc
😂👌
Brilliant story with so many meaningful lessons thanks for sharing
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!
Julian is just amazing ❤
🙏🙏🙏
So perfectly worded 🙏🏻
Thank You Julien For Your Inspiration 🙏🏼 !
You’re so welcome!
You have helped me a lot brother. And we don't even know each other personally 😂. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥ 🙏👏🔥✨
Amazing to hear! You are SO welcome! 🙏
your videos are very good! I'm learning English through it. i'm from Brazilian. wich your videos I learn english and psych, how to be a better human.
Me too 😁
Wow
I searched CASUALLY for a video like these,then i discover that i found this one 1 hour after it's posting...
Just wow
Anyway this video is literally life changing,it made me think a lot
Amazing to hear! Thank you!
Julien how does one let go of repetitive/obsessive thoughts? in my case they are thoughts that have no logic, my mind is simply very hyperactive. I want to be fully present in the moment without these thoughts that make no sense.
Just cried 😭 thank you
Glad this was impactful!
I rarely watch a video / read a book that gives me as much of a "Holy shit, I'm making those same mistakes" feeling as this video. Thank you for uploading this and inspiring me to change my life in a positive way. You just gained a subscriber!
However, I have one question about transforming from an "outwards-in" style to an "inwards-out" style of living: if you can be truly content with who you are *regardless of the external things in your life*, how do you maintain the motivation/fire to still achieve anything external? E.g., if I'm already good enough when I'm chubby, single and broke, why would I have the motivation to change those external circumstances? Without an answer to this, changing my style of living seems terrifying, because what if I end up happy but homeless?
I suppose this is a difficult question to give a simple answer to , but maybe you'll read it nonetheless :)
idk if u still need the answer but if u do here it is. being happy doesnt mean settling, it doesnt mean taking no action, being happy where u are right now lets u take even more action. but u do it from inspiration. u are already feeling great and thrive for feeling even greater. u got tricked into thinking u need motiviation etc. for u to do something when in reality there is no real motiviation u keep. its just socially imposed on us
Nice!!! This is Inspirational bro. 🔥
Thank you! Glad to hear it! 🔥
11:15 dude, I once just went into the city to have a long conversation with an old person. I walked around, saw an old women and sat myself next to her. I asked for the weather and we began to talk. We talked 1 and a half hours maybe. After that I was full with self critisicm because I wasnt myself in the conversation. It was 4 weeks ago and I am still self concious haha
It doesn't matter? You still did it. You need to do that kind of things dozens, hundreds of times, regularly, for your brain to figure out there's no threat. There's nothing scary about it. No one cares but you.
Bro I love your content.
You are great ✨
Thank you! 🙏
okay but what should I do? no instructions? What is letting go and how do I make it happen?
Very inspiring thank you
You are so welcome!
Just mindblowing how similar our journey experiences are and you keep using nearly the exact same examples, phrases, terms, etc. as I would do in German and like nearly in the same order. I mean it in a positive way (no accusation), I really enjoy your content. The way this "random signs" are keep occuring makes me curious what the near future awaits for us both =)
Wish you keep best success and sending you and everyone else much love
I mean I live in Connecticut wanted to move to California when I was 18, got scared and decided not to get on the plane. Then I caught hiv, now I’m too scared to really move anywhere because I’ll die and be away from my medication. Now I’m just kinda in my small town, in my small apartment, living with my partner but I’m sad. Actually went to Owens seminar in Boston with someone I met on Facebook but it really lead me nowhere sadly.
How you doing today? Im From CT too!
I have ideas ... My spiritual awakening has taught me .. that resides with your purpose.... business
I understand the accountability factor but I doubt that it would lead me to take action out of desperation instead of inspiration. It adds more pressure to take action just because you don't want to look like a loser in front of others. How do I fix this mindset?
Look bro we will all die one day and yoy just have to stop giving a fuck. It sounds cliche I know but when we die you don't get a second chance. Take the risk whatever it is in life. All suceessful people did things that were scary.
This is literally spirituality.
5:25 Work smarter not harder. 100%
Australia tour? 😎
HELL YEAH!!!
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Inspiring 🔥🔥🔥
Glad to hear it! Be sure to take action on it! 🔥👊
I like his hair back then
Why don't this channel have million subscribers
I'm collecting a win today!.... The knowledge of what's inside me ...
Man of God,,, 🙏❤️
🙏
I am an INTJ, which developed during my teen years. I have always struggled with social anxiety and I am in my late 40s.
I am pushing myself in little ways to work on my social skills.
Pimpin never dies;)
i went to la, the center of the matrix lolol
Bro keep this content up! Every video is gonna blow up, just a matter of time.. 2:58 "i was persistent, so what did i do?..." 😂 😂
I'm swiss too. In Switzerland you can stay in your comfort zone and you'll just be fine... They're not social anyway 😄 i came to israel and if you want or not you become social 😂
Just curious, how did you got a green card?
My mother's American... 👌
I blow dried my long hair in under 8 minutes....YES!
I feel like a lot of people are not worth talking too and a waste of time (toxic people) like I think you should only try to develop relationships with people you want to. There’s a lot of people in the past I wish I never met.. any thoughts on this?
People don't care what you think, people are selfish, we are all selfish. If you find a person toxic be polite be helpful but nobody forces you to talk to them cut them out and move on and yes just find the people you click with :) ignore the toxic ones.
Bte about the regret in the past... thats life my friend we all make mistakes EVERYONE. Dont linger on those things and move on you are smarter than you were then :)
Much love
8:30 exaclyyy
32:18 i saw simpson the guy is yellow y’all. Jk its the lighting maybe 😅
Top G
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ive picked up girls by asking to borrow a lighter its the easiest way
Your story said you spent nights in your car. Then you don't have a car?
I had an old Toyota Camry for a few months when I moved to LA that I had to sell… But I also spent nights in the Honda after that.
Oh I see
Teaching us to lie to our grandmothers, smh
IN the thumbnail, you look better 'before' than you do 'after'
❤️❤️
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"should have been aborted" lmao
Lets smoke
Weed Julien!
First
Boom! Report back with your biggest takeaway once done watching! 👊
@@JulienHimself I already own the program! My life is already supercharged haha
Nice!
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You look worse in the second photo than the first haha.
funreal director fit