How to get over driving anxiety: Core Beliefs CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety)
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- Опубликовано: 7 июн 2024
- If you are having difficulty overcoming your driving anxiety, perhaps a limiting belief is holding you back. A core belief is a deeply held belief about yourself, others and the world. This can influence everything you do and how you perceive the events unfolding before you.
Limiting belief examples:
I have to know everything otherwise people will see I’m not good enough.
I have to be a perfect driver or I could cause a crash.
Women can’t drive as well as men.
I can’t drive on a motorway.
A limiting belief is something you believe to be true but actually isn’t based on reality … it’s based on your past experiences. It wouldn’t hold up in a court of law. The challenge with limiting beliefs is that we’re blind to them. They influence everything and we allow them to limit our opportunities because we can’t see them.
So this video is about noticing your limiting beliefs about driving. And how you can change them.
When you take off your limiting belief ‘glasses’ you’ll find it easier to to get over your driving anxiety and move forward with your life.
❤ Clare
#limitingbeliefs #drivinganxiety #anxiety
Disclaimer: This information should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health condition or disease and is not intended as a substitute for consulting with your physician or healthcare provider.
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I needed this so much - before lockdown I used to be able to drive anywhere without a second thought about other mean drivers/big scary roundabouts etc - but over lockdown I became so much more anxious which has manifested as major driving anxiety. I am so scared of other drivers getting mad at me or messing up on a big roundabout etc basically all the beliefs you suggested 😭😭😭 it’s actually draining the life out of me having these beliefs engrained in me because I feel like I cannot enjoy anything in life anymore without being overly anxious and panicking about it
The fact that this has only happened since lockdown means it won't take you too long to get back to where you were. And you can take the skills from these driving anxiety videos (I have a whole playlist if you haven't found them already ruclips.net/p/PLlhU5CGlNSZzyEPmTqeeOq0pM8b3vP5Bb) and apply them to any area of your life. Just pick one area of your life (driving, work, social) and work on improving your anxiety/stress there first. Then you might find it has a knock-on effect for everything else!
Generation Calm thank you SO much it is so reassuring to hear that there is a way out of feeling like this for me 😔 the affirmations video is really amazing for me to try and get my confidence back up and stop concerning myself with seeking validation from literal passing strangers on the road 🥺❤️❤️❤️thank you once again
@@f.h2701I go through the same ! Were you able to overcome this ?
I can't thank you enough for your videos, I wrote you not long ago and so far I've been driving alone for seven days, started the week doing chores in the city and driving to work. Now yesterday I had a little hit with another car, it was my fault and as embarrassing as it sounds I got completely hysterical and started crying and saying sorry the whole time the other driver and I were doing the accident paperwork, thankfully it wasn't much to be hysterical about but I just couldn't handle it better, today I realized that my behaviour wasn't ok and that it actually wasn't the end of the world, because I firmly believed that everything was over then. As ironic as it sounds I'm more scared of driving through the city than driving through a motorway, perhaps because I have to drive through a motorway every day? In any case You really helped me a lot with past videos, I don't think I would have started driving alone without this help, and this video really helped in putting my thoughts on perspective, its going to be really helpful for the rest of my driving story. Sorry for the long comment, and thank you wholeheartedly for sharing these videos, much love
Sorry to hear about your little bump. But it sounds like it wasn't too serious so you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again. City driving is challenging for a lot of people ... especially after 9 years of not driving. So I'm impressed that you're already doing chores around the city ...alone!
amazing how all those beliefs are in me. Especially when everyone arounds puts so much pressure on me driving: you have to drive, you need to drive, how come you don't drive? it's horrible to be honest. I completed my lessons and the practicing bit is now killing me.
All in your own sweet time. But ... the more frequently you practice, the easier it'll get!
Those are my exact weaknesses and limiting beliefs. Thanks for your help!
You're welcome, and don't forget if I've mentioned those beliefs and weaknesses it means there are other people that have those same issues as you. So you're not alone!
Thanks for this post! The same negative beliefs you listed are exactly how I feel! Changing my beliefs as I type!
I'm so glad it was helpful!
I avoid driving & always make excuses to get out of it. I got to the school and generally stay local. I get scared driving anywhere am not familiar with. I feel trapped and stupid. I worry about others think & take everything to heart. I dropped a friend to a supermarket the other day & she said i drive like a learner, that has set me back even more. I have no confidence , i really want to drive where i want but i dont even try. I avoid motorways & will get public transport even when it would be quicker & easier to drive. Please help. Its been 18 months now & i still get nervous & avoid in stead of confront.
You do a great job of explaining your thoughts, beliefs and your difficult driving scenarios. I know it seems overwhelming right now, so it's time to set a goal. Think about if driving were not an issue for you, where would you go? What would you do differently. How would you feel? Let yourself dream and imagine what life would be like. (I have a visualization meditation that may help you do this ruclips.net/video/af7yvNL9qUA/видео.html). Then set a small goal that will set you on that path. Getting crystal clear will help you achieve the life you want.
Secondly, because taking that first step towards a fear is difficult, try taking on an alter ego. (This video explains all ruclips.net/video/vkLSZXGxhi0/видео.html). Everything you need to get over this driving fear is already inside if you, but taking on an alter ego will help you reveal it.
Thirdly, and I know it's difficult, but please be gentle with yourself. We all have strengths and weaknesses. But that doesn't mean we can't learn and improve. You can improve your driving and your confidence, you need to believe you can, and get started. Just like any skill, the more you drive, the easier it will become. I wish you all the luck in the world!
@@GenerationCalm It's a kind of drowning. It's an unbearable feeling. You almost want to get in a crash just to end the stress.
You could overcome this ? Pls share how
Thank you for sharing this video - especially the part about limiting beliefs and the reframing - very helpful!
You are so welcome! I'm glad it was helpful for you!
How soft face you have got!I wish I could have such instructor to give me a lots of positive vibes.
Love you dear u really helped me.. I finished my childhood anxiety...
Great videos I feel a big better already. I hadn't driven any distance for a while and lost confidence, plus family had no trust in me. So I've had to force myself to do it and try overcome it. Your video has helped a lot! Thanks
I'm so glad you are considering going back to driving. It can be difficult after a break, so take your time, you'll get more confident with each trip.
Claire i just started driving yesterday wasn't scared i was nervous before my friend passed away and i couldn't drive before now i do thanks Claire 😊
Thank you for this video.
I get anxiety about driving often times. I can also feel anxiety about long car trips. I have often worried about needing to use the bathroom on the road and not being able to stop somewhere for a while.
There have been a bunch a times that I would avoid driving alone but also many times I have driven by myself. For some reason, I often feel comforted with some else in the car with me as I drive.
I find that I enjoy doing doordash deliveries. I have noticed times I had avoided going on a delivery or postponing it later on. I am fairly new to it but I like it so far.
Yes, lots of people say they feel comforted by having someone with them while driving ... but that often depends on the passenger. Well done you for doing door dash deliveries though. You are obviously not avoiding too much, which is a good sign. You may eventually want to work up to longer trips. But for now, keep up with the deliveries and explore what sometimes makes you postpone (I'm a big supporter of writing down your thoughts).
You are the best Claire!
Thank you!
Thank you for helping people.
Thank you, I appreciate your encouragement!
Thank you so much for this video! I really needed this
You are so welcome! I'm glad it was helpful
Thank you soo much for sharing this wonderful video ❤ feel seem as you have demonstrated
I needed this video ages ago
This is really helpful Clare ! I like your channel wish you all the best my friend :) big thumbs up !
Thank you, I really appreciate your comment.
Thank you very much for this video!
You're very welcome!
Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts with me. I'm presently going through this situation, and driving myself has become a total nightmare for me. I have been driving since 2007, but out of nowhere, I don't know where's this fear is coming from. I was not in an accident or didn't watch any accident. I just got up one morning driving on the freeway, and I got stuck from panic. I need assistance in getting help to gain my confidence and independence.
This is me right now. Did you get any help?😟
That’s really interesting about beliefs and interpretation. My husband lost confidence and didn’t drive for a few years.
One of the biggest myths is that men don't get driving anxiety. It really can happen to anyone.
Thank you 🙏
So glad it was helpful!
Thank you so much! 🙏💝I'm from Nepal and now living in Melbourne. Bought car before 15 days and practisng at midnight from 2 am to 4:30 as I have time limitation and favourable roads at nights.😊 I learnt to drive in residential roads but yeatarday and day before yestarday I dare to drive in highways and did mistakes both days. one day I crossed solid line and did U turn in the middle of the way as I was frightened and anxious and otherday I crossed the way from dotted lines but there was red light( not in main intersection) it was one kilometer far from main intersection) and rush painfully throughout country road. 😢 It was the last night. Overthe day I became depressed because of fear to be fined. I'm student with wife and an autistic child I have little earnings and more responsibility. I cant afford driving instructors and nobody is there to help me. Feeling helpless.Your words are really healing. Huge respect and appreciation for your encouraging words with loving voice. I will never give up❤😊
Adding EFT (tapping) would help everyone to clear any negative, limiting beliefs. In my experience as a therapist, CBT is not enough.
Hi clare thanks so much for your help i am 42 years old and struggling to pass my driving test for about 8 good years i can drove everywhere but when it comes to my test i will start feeling scared start panicking and full of anxiety it's too much even my instructor said i don't need driving skills any more i to get therapy about my anxiety sometimes i feel like stopping then i also think of keeping going and not giving up.
Thanks alot🙏
I'm glad you're getting a lot out of these videos
Great video
Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it.
Vielen dank fur hilfe❤️
Vielen Dank
I began having a fear for driving over the last year. Im not sure why, ive never had this issue before. Over the last 3.5 years ive actuallly been driving commercial vehicles for a living. But this fear is getting in my way, im wanting to quit my job, but at the same time, i can't right now. So im constantly riddled with fear and worry even outside of work.
Great video, I have exactly that those thoughts when it comes to driving. I prefer to drive on my own with no stress, I hate that I don't go to work cos I have P plates an people would judge me, or ask me for a lift an I would do something stupid an they would laugh, I also have OCD so I like to take my time with things.
Yes, those thoughts can really get in the way of confident driving! But there's nothing wrong with taking your time, and driving on your own until you gain more confidence. It's still early days!
Thanks
You're welcome
I’ve been in several really bad car accidents, none were my fault. But now I’m scared to drive because I don’t have the confidence in myself that if something does happen I won’t panic and hurt myself or others. It’s been 3 years since I’ve driven.
I'm sorry you've been through those experiences. It certainly makes sense that you would be fearful enough that it stopped you from driving for 3 years. Perhaps, when you feel ready, you could consider easing back into driving ... very short and easy routes only! That way, you'll gain the confidence in your driving skills again.
Hi Clare. I truly believe I can drive on the motorway however I have avoided them for many years now because of the false sense of fear that I feel. I did overcome it at one stage but now I am at the opposite end because I haven’t driven enough on the motorway. I don’t like the high speed, find it very difficult to overtake and get more anxious when I don’t see a hard shoulder. But I believe if I push myself and get a routine of practice in then it will get easy and easier for me. But my problem is the journey to the motorway is the bigger problem, once on it I believe I can handle it. Would like to hear your reply.. Thanks
I think it makes sense to start small still. Like you said, getting into a routine of driving daily, not on the motorway straight away but roads leading up to motorway and faster dual carriageways. Just keep practicing until you feel so comfortable you're ready to move on to the next step. When you first go on the motorway, plan for it to be at a quiet time of the week where you can practice with very little traffic. It's very normal to feel nervous after taking a break from driving on a motorway, but you'll get there with practice. If you haven't watched it yet you might find this one helpful ruclips.net/video/PprXGuFn2fk/видео.html and good luck
i think its just cause theres a lot of stupid drivers where i live that are only about themselves and if they rear end you cause they were speeding its somehow your fault
It really does seem like some roads are full of arrogant or distracted drivers.
I have trouble trusting other people driving the car. I feel like I have to be in control. It makes things more difficult. It seems to take me too long to understand changes in the road with construction and traffic. I get really stressed. I hate driving through big cities and lots of traffic although I have never had an accident. I don’t understand the fear. Driving familiar places are no problem. I think I feel like I will do something wrong and what if I get my family hurt in an accident? Vacation road trips are unpleasant for me and my passengers at times. I don’t want to stay like this. I don’t want my kids only vacation memories are their dad losing it over traffic.
What’s a motor way? Is it like an expressway?
Hi I found this video very motivating but I haven’t been in the drivers seat for over 20 years and I need to get a license as well do you think taking driving lessons will help me overcome my anxiety?
It will certainly help, especially if you find the right instructor who is patient and kind
I got a 2020 nissan versa sv in monarch orange and i love it. i'm a toyota girl but thats just the car i ended up leaving the lot with lol i think i dropped the gun too fast and didnt bother to see what else other cars i could potentially buy 😂 but its all good, i'm GRATEFUL. GOD IS GOOD! I have videos of my car on my channel as well!!!
Can you do a video about anxiety for the written test cause I have horrible test anxiety! Please
Great idea, it's such a sticking point for so many people
This video is talking about me, it is almost 10yrs that I am trying to drive. I have a lot of bad thoughts that prevent me to drive, and I do not know how to overcome. Any help??????
My issue with driving is aggressive drivers,their aggressive honking,impatience etc. It ruins my whole day since i keep thinking about negative incidents that happened while i was driving over n over again.
I know what you mean ... and they probably don't even think about how it's ruining someone else's day. I've got another video that touches on that point if you're interested ruclips.net/video/R6kVwNPQ1xU/видео.html
@@GenerationCalm thank you.
Hi. I have my driver's license and I'm able to drive with someone else in the car. I recently started driving alone. I can go short distance and am gradually trying to increase the distance I can drive alone but I get nervous and sometimes am afraid to try. I think it's mostly a fear of being unfamiliar with where I'm going. Once I know how to get somewhere I'm still nervous but I can do it. Any advice? Thank you
Great job in what you're doing so far. I know it still makes you nervous to drive alone, and that's ok. Keep at it. The more you do it the easier it will become. If it's possible, do a 20-30 minute drive in addition to what you normally do. Sometimes the battle is getting into the car because you're afraid to try, but if you make it a habit, it will become just like another everyday task.
@@GenerationCalm I am gradually increasing the distance and gradually getting less nervous. Thank you for the encouragement and response
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thank you ❤
I used to watch all sorts of Road Rage videos on youtube and I have poisoned my brain and mind that I will be in one if I do one little thing wrong. and I do have a fear of riving on Hwys alone
I crash twice so I was like maybe driving not for me
I can see why it might put you off driving again, but it doesn't have to. A crash will probably make you an even more cautious and careful driver. You can still learn to be a more confident driver with practice.
Hello mam i am from india i feel very anxious while even to sit on driving seat if feel sweaty and fear i was a normal driver earlier but one time i hit someone and after that i see acedental dreams regularly and i am not able to drive
I'm sorry you're going through this. If you're having dreams about the accident, you might want to see a therapist or counsellor about it. Working through the guilt or fear you still feel about the accident will help pave the way to feeling less anxious about driving again.
I'm not a driver but at the beginning I wasn't scare to get in a car but since one day I got in the car I press the hard the gas pedal and almost hit my fiance, right now I'm so scare of pressing the gas and break pedal I even lost faith on it. I feel like I'm not going to drive never
It's often a scary incident that stops most people from driving. Not an accident, but an 'almost-accident' where your mind worries about what could have happened. Once you start driving it will become natural to you to know the gas and break pedal.
@@GenerationCalm thank you so much!!!❤❤❤❤ thanks for your tips really helpful.I really appreciate it
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