Thanks so much for this..our thoughts can confuse what we want but when we go back to the bigger picture..we realise what we want and how to get it .. sticking to our own self core beliefs is so important to our identity ..never doubt yourself..we don't know what we're capable till we do something 💯🙌👍✌️
Thank you for taking the time to make this video and sharing your knowledge for free with us on youtube. The world is a better place because of kind acts such as these. Also enjoyed the video, the subject was very well explained and practical. Your great at this
Great video. Sometimes I feel like no matter how aware of my beliefs and thoughts I am, I am powerless to change them. I still think these things like ‘I’m an idiot’ or ‘I’m socially inept’. I know they’re maladaptive, but I still keep thinking it. I don’t know how to get my brain to stop saying these words, it gets tiring reminding myself that thoughts aren’t facts all the time
Thank you for sharing ♥️ hmm CBT works on challenging the thoughts but the most powerful is always changing behaviour! So if I was worried I was socially inept I might avoid social situations so the opposite would be to make ourselves go and have a conversation with a new person and to keep doing it over and over and over even if it feels weird or we stumble. Eventually we become a new person through the slow changing of behaviour. I had pretty crippling social anxiety when I was younger so I can definitely relate. You got this!
Same as me mate....struggling to change it for 25 years + since I moved to sydney and my life turned worst every day. I am alive today, but not living. Just surviving. I do not do anything, no substance abuse, no women nothing. but it is just.............
I think if you go deep enough with a fear it often relates to survivalism of some kind - usually the hard thing is that part of the survivalism is a reflex from our distant past to something that isn't present now, but some other parts of the survivalism are actually entirely relevant and backed by evidence. But the one fear consists of both things, so it's like trying to introspect in order to find and separate the applicable fear from the non applicable one.
Interesting :) I have also observed a growing body of research relating to death anxiety if that's what you're referring to, I'll have to look more into it!
@@thepsychdiaries I think more like food (example: cost of living rises), shelter (rent rises, mortage rate rises), connection to community (in the distant past a lack of connection meant real risk of dying) and romance (arguably very core: the furthering of genes). Fears that are primordial and part of our core and might be partly valid in the client's current life but not entirely valid. A difficult combination. But that's my estimate, I should really go see if I could drum up a bunch of references as support for it!
very clear and kind video. thank you. I have a question I sit with for some time. My path into self understanding was through more spiritual books like Eckhart Tolle, Thick Nhat Hanh and more ancient yoga philosophies and I am amazed that CBT comes up with a clear and condensend version of all that that we already now for thousands of years. Is CBT a buddha in a contemporary coat? What do you think?
Question: What if it's a belief like "I'm unlucky, and whenever I share anything good or am happy, I'll immediately lose it (things, people, etc)"? I'm not sure if the 'so what's so bad about ____' works favorably in that situation.
Hi Ro! Thank you so much for taking time to provide us with such clear and informative video! But what if we found out the core belief or core reason came from external factors, and you feel helpless because you know you can't change it, but you still want to change it?
Hi thank you so much for making this video ❤ I wanted to ask what can I do if the root of the anxiety is directly related to the situation but I need to calm down? (This is if getting away from the problem is currently impossible)
Oh rough one :( if it's completely unchangeable and sometimes things for a little bit- maybe thinking about the 2 or 3 things that are within your control that might be able to help out in an indirect way and then make a plan for the moment the unchangeable situation can change (sorry this is a bit vague but hard unless I had more details). All the best!
Hi Ro! I'm a very big fan of you, and besides, I love how you speak! I'm Japanese, not a native speaker of English, but I want to be able to speak English with a bit of confidence. How can I develop my confidence? I try to catch up with all of videos you have posted! ❤
Hello welcome! That's amazing- hmm all I can think of is to keep practising and reminding yourself that it's a huge accomplishment to be bilingual and having the persistence to learn is very impressive (especially Japanese to English as they're so different). Maybe also remembering not to compare yourself to other native speakers- trust me all of us native english speakers would struggle so much trying to learn Japanese and if anyone is unsupportive its because they have never tried to learn a new language themselves. Best of luck!
@@thepsychdiaries Thank you for your reply.🩷I tend to compare myself with somebody that speaks English so well, and I hate myself doing comparison. If I were in Sydney, I'd like to have a session with you to improve my confidence. Please keep posting. I love Aussie accent, and I'm infatuated with Australia! So, your video clips remind me of fun time I had in Sydney! Yes, I've lived there for a little while a long time before. And, I miss Australia.🥹🥹🥹🥹
Hi Ro. Harry here. I'm sorry. I meant to call you back, but I lost my phone with your phone number in it. Promise. Please can we go out again? Will you give me a second chance? 😜
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Best downward arrow video on RUclips!
Thanks so much for this..our thoughts can confuse what we want but when we go back to the bigger picture..we realise what we want and how to get it .. sticking to our own self core beliefs is so important to our identity ..never doubt yourself..we don't know what we're capable till we do something 💯🙌👍✌️
Thank you for taking the time to make this video and sharing your knowledge for free with us on youtube. The world is a better place because of kind acts such as these. Also enjoyed the video, the subject was very well explained and practical. Your great at this
Great video. Sometimes I feel like no matter how aware of my beliefs and thoughts I am, I am powerless to change them. I still think these things like ‘I’m an idiot’ or ‘I’m socially inept’. I know they’re maladaptive, but I still keep thinking it. I don’t know how to get my brain to stop saying these words, it gets tiring reminding myself that thoughts aren’t facts all the time
Thank you for sharing ♥️ hmm CBT works on challenging the thoughts but the most powerful is always changing behaviour! So if I was worried I was socially inept I might avoid social situations so the opposite would be to make ourselves go and have a conversation with a new person and to keep doing it over and over and over even if it feels weird or we stumble. Eventually we become a new person through the slow changing of behaviour. I had pretty crippling social anxiety when I was younger so I can definitely relate. You got this!
Same as me mate....struggling to change it for 25 years + since I moved to sydney and my life turned worst every day. I am alive today, but not living. Just surviving. I do not do anything, no substance abuse, no women nothing. but it is just.............
Hi Roe ! I've been watching you for a year now and I love these informative videos. Thank you for this ❤
I've looked through a lot of the downward arrow vids on the tube, and this one is the best 😊
So happy hers is here, but I would love for you to post another link so I can compare.... :-) Thanks.
This is amazing Ro!! Super clear and very informative!! The video editing's amazing too!
I think if you go deep enough with a fear it often relates to survivalism of some kind - usually the hard thing is that part of the survivalism is a reflex from our distant past to something that isn't present now, but some other parts of the survivalism are actually entirely relevant and backed by evidence. But the one fear consists of both things, so it's like trying to introspect in order to find and separate the applicable fear from the non applicable one.
Interesting :) I have also observed a growing body of research relating to death anxiety if that's what you're referring to, I'll have to look more into it!
@@thepsychdiaries I think more like food (example: cost of living rises), shelter (rent rises, mortage rate rises), connection to community (in the distant past a lack of connection meant real risk of dying) and romance (arguably very core: the furthering of genes). Fears that are primordial and part of our core and might be partly valid in the client's current life but not entirely valid. A difficult combination. But that's my estimate, I should really go see if I could drum up a bunch of references as support for it!
wow, I really like it so much. thank you
Downward arrow for when I am doing second arrow. This makes sense .Thanx 🤗
Loved this video ❤
Great content Ro! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this video. Your examples were great and made it easy to understand this technique.
very clear and kind video. thank you. I have a question I sit with for some time. My path into self understanding was through more spiritual books like Eckhart Tolle, Thick Nhat Hanh and more ancient yoga philosophies and I am amazed that CBT comes up with a clear and condensend version of all that that we already now for thousands of years. Is CBT a buddha in a contemporary coat? What do you think?
I love your content so much. U deserve so much better.🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍💙
Question: What if it's a belief like "I'm unlucky, and whenever I share anything good or am happy, I'll immediately lose it (things, people, etc)"? I'm not sure if the 'so what's so bad about ____' works favorably in that situation.
Hi Ro! Thank you so much for taking time to provide us with such clear and informative video! But what if we found out the core belief or core reason came from external factors, and you feel helpless because you know you can't change it, but you still want to change it?
This video itself is therapy
thank you, it was really helpful
Very helpful presentation, thank you so much.
Are there any methods to change deep rooted beliefs.
Hi thank you so much for making this video ❤
I wanted to ask what can I do if the root of the anxiety is directly related to the situation but I need to calm down?
(This is if getting away from the problem is currently impossible)
Oh rough one :( if it's completely unchangeable and sometimes things for a little bit- maybe thinking about the 2 or 3 things that are within your control that might be able to help out in an indirect way and then make a plan for the moment the unchangeable situation can change (sorry this is a bit vague but hard unless I had more details). All the best!
@@thepsychdiaries thank you so much 🥰
Your video is super helpful -- Thank you! Is there a difference between core beliefs and core fears?
For example, if a core fear is I will forever be alone, is the core belief that they are unlovable?
awesome video❤❤
Hi Ro! I'm a very big fan of you, and besides, I love how you speak! I'm Japanese, not a native speaker of English, but I want to be able to speak English with a bit of confidence. How can I develop
my confidence?
I try to catch up with all of videos you have posted! ❤
Hello welcome! That's amazing- hmm all I can think of is to keep practising and reminding yourself that it's a huge accomplishment to be bilingual and having the persistence to learn is very impressive (especially Japanese to English as they're so different). Maybe also remembering not to compare yourself to other native speakers- trust me all of us native english speakers would struggle so much trying to learn Japanese and if anyone is unsupportive its because they have never tried to learn a new language themselves. Best of luck!
@@thepsychdiaries Thank you for your reply.🩷I tend to compare myself with somebody that speaks English so well, and I hate myself doing comparison. If I were in Sydney, I'd like to have a session with you to improve my confidence. Please keep posting. I love Aussie accent, and I'm infatuated with Australia! So, your video clips remind me of fun time I had in Sydney! Yes, I've lived there for a little while a long time before. And, I miss Australia.🥹🥹🥹🥹
your english is great by the way, keep at it!
Νice thank you, how to change the core beleifs its the most difficult, if they ever change...
What if your core believes are based on fact?
As one once said. Put ten people in a room. Ask them the same question. And you will get 11 answers.
Remember. You dont have all the answers.
Miss Sydney. Sorry I meant I miss Sydney.
6:43 who tf put this beautiful woman in that position??
Hi Ro. Harry here. I'm sorry. I meant to call you back, but I lost my phone with your phone number in it. Promise. Please can we go out again? Will you give me a second chance? 😜
Harry's kinda rude... you dodged a bullet.
Omg I chuckled
*I hope you are having a good time!*
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I'm a certified RUclips SEO expert with a passion for optimizing and a RUclips channel manager.
Can I help promote your channel?