YOUR DISCOVERY OF WHO HE REALLY IS,NOW THIS IS YOUR CLOSURE,IM DELIGHTED TO HEAR YOU SURVIVED SO HAVE I MARRIED TO ONE FOR 7 YRS BUT NOW IVE TAKEN MY POWER BACK IVE GAINED MY PEACE, MENTAL CLARITY,LEARNED TO NEVER IGNORE RED FLAGS,OR THE FEELING YOU GET INSIDE WHEN SOMETHING ISN'T RIGHT STAY BLESSED
I just left the narc 17 days ago after I found out all the lies he told me. It was so hard but I am so glad I did. Now I'm starting law school next Monday, in a brand new state which he told me he would divorce me if I went and didn't want to come with me unless my parents paid for a new apartment. I almost gave up my seat before I found out everything he was lying about. I am still in pain but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. These creatures will forever be miserable.
Your best revenge is no contact and the glow up through your law school journey. My ex tried to discourage me from getting my masters in social work because he said “social workers don’t make no money.” Well, I left him on Jan 1, 2015, completed my program on May 18, 2018 (ironically, a day after his bday) and now I’m a clinical therapist with my own practice.I’ve met a few narcs since then, but I did not let his evil words discourage me from MY future plans. The next time he should hear from you is at the divorce hearing.
Congrats,the narc knows you are about to level up.They don't want that just to keep you around for their misuse.And hope you don't find any positivity and courage.
Hi Read your txt. I've been through Family Court, ex Narc about my Son My advice is you have to fight. It's serious this is your Child. I feel for you. Keep strong, OK. Big hug Christine X
I had lunch with a friend & she asked me how I ended up so far away with no family or husband & I told her my story, then she looked puzzled like she did not know what to say & I told her "I'm not a victim, I'm a victor." I never told anyone that about myself because I never felt that way about myself before. It felt so good to say & believe. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us Andrew.
I can relate. Our secret voice always told us our value but we didn't dare say it out loud because instinctively we knew the response I didn't want to rock the boat. The secret person of our hearts never once agreed with those toxic people.
They took who you were and destroyed you and change you into what they wanted then when the breaking you was over they say your not the person they married
I never leave a comment, but I felt compelled to do so now. It was 2010. I had just ended a call with an ex-lover. I was so sick of the pattern I’d been going through all my life. I asked God “why?” Shortly thereafter, I began researching and codependency popped up. The description ticked all the boxes. I researched deeper and Sam Vakin’s ( a self proclaimed narcissist), name appeared. That is when I stumbled down the rabbit hole of narcissism. My life changed forever. Thank you for everything you do, Andrew. 🤗✨✨✨
Projection is used in tandem with devaluation it's a cruel despicable act. Healing has been slow and purposeful. Blocking and no contact is the only way. Andrew's reinforcement has educated and enlightened me, it's enabled me to discover myself. I can live my life with love and care and be the person I was..... freedom 💜🌟🙌
Since I was raised by a narcissist, I have never been a person. I've been an avatar that other narcissists tried to fill up. They failed. They didn't expect my inner child to be fighting for me. I'm done with them. Now that I know what narcissism is, I'm finally free. I am the Phoenix Rising Stronger than ever. Thank you for speaking my truth.
Competitiveness can be a good thing---" in the right venue!"In a relationship? Hello! Were they born without an OFF Switch?? I've met too many ( no off switch ).🙄
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z exactly - like when you have a mutual agreement to play a game - table tennis or pool or sqush or football or badminton etc etc etc but gfy in the arena of relationships! and as for competing with your own clients - dont be surprised when your business crumbles to dust because noone ever wants to do business with you!
This guy is like the drill sergeant of NPD content providers, serving a unique and needed niche in his always densely packed, no nonsense pep talks. THANK YOU! 👍
There is no point regretting anything because your eyes are WIDE OPEN ! Never again will you fall for another narcissist's toxic games and predictable cycles , your NARDAR is in place !!! You must focus on now being your OWN touchstone , guide and ultimate judge . There will be tough and lonely times ahead , rebuilding a broken spirit is never easy , and the challenges may sometimes compromise us , but at least now we are wiser , stronger and far better equipped to deal with anything life throws at us !
You have perfectly described what I went through in 2014. Basically, I was living with my girlfriend, I began to sense 'something just wasn't quite right'. I began to awaken early around 4:00 a.m. and secretly research (what a mess) her abhorrent behaviors and what I was observing. Eventually, it led me to conclude she was likely a disordered narcissist. I began to slowly plan my escape and timing to go full-on "no contact". I was able to pull it off before she 'discarded me'. (oh, baby, history proved it WAS COMING soon enough). I kept my discipline and commitment to "no contact" and rebuilt my life from there. It's the only sure way to get away clean and rebuild a life that has been nearly destroyed, IMHO.
This is such a great motivational video ! 👍💪We sometimes forget how far we have come ! I have won and I’m still winning , I maintain no contact and watch these videos often ! Thank u Andrew 🎈💪❤️👍
We rescued our grandbabies from their extreme narcissistic mother across the country.. finally .... Still gotta deal with her but the babies are safe fed and loved and not ignored abused raged at and neglected. Is it easy. Nope. Was it easy when we didn't have them? Hella no.. Learning how to deal with narcs from channels like this was our lifeline.. thank you immensely for your wisdom. Blessings
Thank you lord, for your amazing grace with helping me reach out, to people like Andrew, to save my life. I had no idea how lost, how hurt or how much danger I was in to save my life. I didn't have one friend who understood narcissism and that hurt too. BUT GOD ! sent me another way and pushed me towards people like Andrew. He understood, where I was and after so many years of abuse I finally found some understanding, another online family, who could help me heal, help others and become more equipped with the right tools of knowledge to fight back and live in peace again.
I was experiencing manipulation and was lied to every time I communicated with the narcissists. I put a stop to it. He is left in the cold on his own with his lies.
A relationship built on trust. My friend told me back when I was married, "if you're putting a GPS in her car you already know the answer." There was no talking to me. I thank God and this community for the clarity and healing.
My sense of humour has come back, my sense of fun, my soul is coming back, future faking conditioned me not to get hopes up about anything because he blew up anything that was fun like holidays, I am starting to plan my own future Narc free ....anyone want to party 🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂
@@paulineEirefairygirl5067 I think we’ve all have seen our sense of humor just evaporate along with everything else that made us the beautiful light forces that we are. Keep Shining Sister Keep Shining. Darkness has no power against Light 💡 💗😇
1 year after discard (almost 3 decades w/narc) I am able to see it from the other side. Like looking at the situation from outside of the sick bubble……and it’s sooooo nice to say the least. It’s our choice to stay out or jump back into Craziville, don’t accept the hoover ✅ Andrew is a great teacher for how to navigate this path to clarity, health, self love, independence, freedom etc.. I’m watching her implode doing the cycles every month (kids so can’t cut all ties) . Hang in there if this is new to you ✊🏽 as time passes all the little wins and growth adds up 🤙🏽🙏🏾
I have just experienced that which Andrew is speaking of. Every part of it. I am not so quick to jump for anyone anymore. Its a difficult time. And today Im going to walk barefoot to ground myself. Thanks Andrew🌹
Had a friend that used to say : "Use em , abuse em , lose em." She nailed the narcicissits creed. She has passed on ( many years ago ) but I realize now how she was attempting to help me realize I was dealing with a narcissist. RIP Debbie.
I just thought of an analogy for narcissistic abuse: It's like having an open wound that the narcissist keeps picking at. Sometimes a scab forms, but the narcissist opens it over and over. Real healing starts when a scar forms. This has been my journey resulting from years of my sister emotionally abusing me - even from afar. I've gone no contact and I'm healing. Thank you Andrew!
I won because I knew the narcissist in leadership from church was off & I went no contact, did not respond to her hoovers , grieved the toxic friendship, overcame & now made it clear by my silence that, JUST BECAUSE I AM POLITE & SHOW RESPECT DOESN'T GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO DICTATE & MAKE PERSONAL LIFE CHOICES FOR ME.... THOSE CHOICES ARE ONLY MINE TO MAKE! Be Well, Be Wise 🌈 🎀😘
I got out. Our kids are grown now, one doesn’t speak to me due to the ex-wife’s Parent Alienation schemes on me. Too much other collateral damage I dealt with to consider a win. I still consider myself a survivor. The ex-wife demanded a divorce. I gave it to her. Two months later, she wanted to negotiate her return, I said No. Her anger and rage went 10x. She would sabotage her own child visitations to return our kids back to me hungry and crying. That went on for 8 years after the divorce. She would go to my work and tried to get me fired, 10 years after the divorce. I am glad it is over. Good luck to all.
My heart is healed,, From the shocking event,, that was dished out to me & my husband & son,,, back in June 2022,,, I wear cowboy boots alot,,, and Each morning ,,, I laugh & pull up my boots alittle stronger!!! I HAVE HEALED & MOVED ON!! 🇫🇷🙏💯🌱🌿🌿🌿NO contact & living with confidence with peace & wear my bright shining armour🙏💯🤠merci to you Andrew,,,,
I’ve moved from a marriage filled with narcissistic abuse.. beat it and won..to an incredibly toxic work environment. I’m able to handle it better due to what I’ve learned here.. and I believe I’m continuing to win every day.. Thank you for speaking on this!
We always win,after we get the education and realise what we were dealing with. The narcissist only thinks they have won, but the reality is that we have figured them out, escaped the web of lies and manipulation, and get stronger and stronger over time. We are healing from the disease of the narcissist as they grow weaker the futher away they get from you. We are survivors and will win.
I even laugh now because one of the Narcs in my family will call and say what are you doing? I say cleaning toilets but really I just got home from a great day shopping and getting something to eat. I might have only bought a 10.00 item and got some nachos but I didn't want to hear did I really needed that 10.00 thing. The only reason they're still in my life is because my son has MS really bad.
I left my narcissistic 3 weeks ago, he is 57 my daughter is 31 they were carrying on a relationship under my nose......i moved out the thing he said was "i didn't want to end it this way" yeah I beat him to the punch 🎉
You are fantastic, today I know that when I was 8 years old, I experienced that my mother was behaving very differently toward me than to other people, now I know that she was a narcissist, for many years I did not know, I did not like her. Now I am 78 years, and I found out 10 years ago, now I am free, and I am happy, and I enjoy listening to your videos, thank you so much. Kirstine
Andrew is a legend! This man help me get through some very dark times in my life when I was discarded a few years back. Glad you found his channel welcome! Love all of you. Stick with Andrew he won't steer you wrong! 👍🏾❤️
Hey everyone! I would love to get involved with this community and meet some new friends who would like to talk about your experiences and hear about mine. I could really use it and would gladly be an empathetic ear. Lmk! I’m here. Thanks!
Five years ago, my narcissistic friend manipulated with the agenda of making me become his brother-in-law. Now that I have gone no contact, now that I am watching the videos of Andrew, now that I am doing self-hypnosis, and now that I am praying to God everyday, I feel very comfortable physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I am sure I will become a man like Andrew!
I told my family member that two years ago. I told them you tried to break me but you didn't so I won. Tell yourself you're a Bad@ss because you never gave up and you keep trying everyday!!!❤❤
Its like a marathon of healing but instead of 26 miles its years and years and its starts at the bottom of everything and you have to come back to life - your own life. I made it!
Andrew, right back at you & as a reminder, ... You are the winner 🙌. You most definitely are a winner ☀️ 🦅 Thank you for your educational, motivational, empathetic & encouraging videos 🙌. Love your background. God bless 🌟
Hi Andrew, it has been a minute but I am still here, they have tried to love bomb me and they got ignored and I loved it, thanks 🙏 to our God and a coach like you and a few others!!!!!!! Everything you are saying in this video is absolutely the truth!!!!!!!!!!! I love you and your counseling you are a great teacher, I wish I could tell you about the Hoover, it is so funny 😂 😂😅 now, what a jerk, I won, I won Andrew, I am so happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 Namaste!!!!!!!🙏
I’m slowly getting on top of the hill . My breakdowns have come down significantly. I get periods of missing the ghost , but it fades when I remind myself that version of them is not real . I’m slowly getting stronger . I was able to give advice to another guy i know . He was close to taking his life . Healing from something that was inflicted on you , that u didn’t choose is distressing .
We have been through the hell and back in those narcisistic relationships and we have survived. Thank God for that ❤ there is a higher reason why we are here and growing strong. The world needs light, love, peace, joy and life! Thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤
Blocked everyone. Originally, I thought, "Well, her family didn't do anything to me." Then I thought about it more and did not want them to tell her anything that I was doing. It was hard but had to be done. Did not think I could do it but I did.
Does the dysfunction ever become exhausting for them? How many relationships, friendships, or jobs etc can they repeatedly go through before they're spiritually depleted?! Aging surely must play a role in their physical endurance. At some point one has to become completely done in. 😬
If judging by my ex and the inner workings of her mind (I had the opportunity to see everything going on behind the mask), they feel bored and love the rollercoaster of emotions all that chaos brings them. They are essentially addicts, they're addicted to the high of new love, all those chemicals that are released, once that stops they start drinking alcohol or doing drugs or looking for the next victim to give them that rush. Narcissists are broken, they are entirely dependent on dopamine as their reward system was completely destroyed by their parents during development. My ex gf told me she started masturbating at the age of 6...let that sink in...she told me all this because I noticed she had trouble with orgasm during sex and she opened up about how often she would masturbate and I was quite shocked. All of us were confused when dating narcissists because there was no tangible substance they were abusing as addicts, they are drug addicts to their own dopamine release and they have no idea. This is why they dysregulate when stability enters the home situation, it's why they blame everyone else for their withdrawal symptoms, the stability you provide is essentially equal to taking away a heroin junkie's hit. Let that sink in.
As long as they have supply no, they never are done, literally even up until death. The narc could have cancer and be actively dying, as long as they can manipulate people up until the very end they will. The only way they truly lose it is when they have no supply, so like imagine a narc being placed in confinement or place where they only have a limited source of supply, they'll lose their sht. Their brains are literally wired to need to manipulate people and things, if they don't get that supply to manipulate... that's when they truly suffer.
Andrew, you are amazing! Your videos are so real and informative. These people are never satisfied. I'm out and have been out for almost 2 months. Please listen everyone, love yourselves and don't go back.
I didn’t want to win or lose, and I didn’t want anyone else to lose either. I just needed to survive and I have done and that is enough for me. I now realise that what I had to deal with on a daily basis for many years definitely wasn’t normal
I was hoovered. You are 100% right! Things got worse. 15 years of no contact, all gone. Well, I'll go to another 15 years. The aging narcissist will eventually take over my ex-wife. She has issues. I'm gone again.
Thank you wonderful Andrew. Without your guidance I wouldn’t be where I am today. I descended to rock bottom. Now I’m ascending. I’ve left the narcissist in their low vibrational quagmire doing what they do and now I am doing me for once in my life. Putting me first, prioritising me and my needs. Healing, growing, seeing the world through a new pair of eyes. Being awakened and educated is extremely empowering. Starting to love my life again. From the pits of despair to now are a million miles apart. It’s not been easy this journey and I’m still a work in progress but I found an inner strength, determination and willpower i didn’t know existed within me. For that I am eternally grateful and to you and all the other wonderful survivors on here thank you ❤
I’m in the middle of winning. My cousin is trying to find a place to live he can afford. Since rules don’t apply to him, he hadn’t filed his taxes in over 10 years. He needs his tax returns to be approved for rental assistance. He’s an aging narcissist whose old baggage is catching up with him. He keeps trying to love bomb me into letting him stay and it isn’t working. I’ve leaned so much with Andrew. That’s why I’m winning💪😃.
God bless and thankyou Andrew.the multi-layered profound wisdom,knowledge,strength,love,confirmation, and support in these videos,and that come from you and your journey are incredible.an absolute blessing and divinely timed.a true lightworker.love and gratitude 🙏🏻 ❤
Andrew, you have been my light thru the break up from the moment when via epiphany I somehow figured him out. Your video just showed up one day, after the breakup. It does get better, I promise ❤ I watch just about every day still and continue to educate and heal. This community is very supportive ❤️
Yes, Yes, Yes and Yes!! "They should look you in your eyes and ask intelligent questions".. Everything you say, correct. Love listening to you.. Thank you Andrew! 💖🙏🌳
Hi, absolutely spot on !!!! I couldn't understand or reason this extreme behaviour from ex. I left the abuser but he managed to manipulate my only child my Son. My Son is living under the roof of the abuser, plus the Mother of the abuser, who's the enabler. I haven't spoke or seen my Son for 11yrs. I do not contact the abuser. He would love to know how much I miss my Son. My Son will come to know the truth, unfortunately. Although I took the hard decision to leave, I can't have closure until I know my Son is Ok. Thankyou for reminding me if my strengths and how weird the mental mind confusions the Ex tried to do to me . Namaste ❤
Yes Andrew, life is comfortable, quiet and peaceful ...post narcissist relationship... I can now tell a narcissist a mile away..and I keep well away from them....... Everything about them is a carbon copy of each other.....So glad to be out....but I still wish I’d known this many years ago.
yes you're so right Andrew - I knew a narc whose last 3 victims were vulnerable either due to bereavement or mental health issues. They are predators circling around social media looking for their next prey. Be careful what you post on social media everyone. :Love, light, happiness and blessings to you Andrew. Thank you for sharing your invaluable lessons
I’ve heard someone describe the rise after a final narc experience in your life as “going supernova”. That happened to me, total awakening, I started experiencing things Id never known before . Within 3 months I had started to turn everything about myself around and I certainly didn’t do it “alone”. I was guided to finally “see” and it was about me finally discovering myself and it wasn’t about focusing on them anymore. My ex was blown away the next time they saw me about 8 months later!😂when I told them I was grateful for what happened they just couldn’t understand. I told them that they didn’t break my heart, they broke me open!!❤
Reminds me when my youngest daughter and ex-mother-in-law warned me about the individual that was most likely having an affair with my then estranged wife. They were both super religious doing all they could to discredit me, The shock on his face when I saw him at a convention Said it all. I didn't expect that extreme reaction all I asked him was how was his family I had known him for decades
Thank you Andrew! Im listening to your healing powerful messages every day over the last 4 years!!! It helped me soooo much on my healing path! Please continue to be for and with us! A big hug from Germany ❤
I win, won and will continue to win. Today is my birthday 🎂. I am celebrating more than ever before after knowing i am first, second and third. The knowledge of narcissistic relationships, change me to put myself back together. Lesa is getting stronger and ex husband narcissist demon, i got married to 😈😈is getting weaker and weaker. Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏👑🇯🇲🙌🤲😇🖐️
God bless you Andrew. You took your bad experience and have helped thousands of people. You have helped me alot of this year. Thank you! 😄🥰🙏
Welcome..😌💜🙏⛰️🙌
And, you're looking healthier than ever! That strain that we get under and the repercussions ARE reversible!!🎉🎉🎉!@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
YOUR DISCOVERY OF WHO HE REALLY IS,NOW THIS IS YOUR CLOSURE,IM DELIGHTED TO HEAR YOU SURVIVED SO HAVE I MARRIED TO ONE FOR 7 YRS BUT NOW IVE TAKEN MY POWER BACK IVE GAINED MY PEACE, MENTAL CLARITY,LEARNED TO NEVER IGNORE RED FLAGS,OR THE FEELING YOU GET INSIDE WHEN SOMETHING ISN'T RIGHT STAY BLESSED
'I healed from something I didnt even know I was in'... so well said
I just left the narc 17 days ago after I found out all the lies he told me. It was so hard but I am so glad I did. Now I'm starting law school next Monday, in a brand new state which he told me he would divorce me if I went and didn't want to come with me unless my parents paid for a new apartment. I almost gave up my seat before I found out everything he was lying about. I am still in pain but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. These creatures will forever be miserable.
Good luck in law school
Your best revenge is no contact and the glow up through your law school journey. My ex tried to discourage me from getting my masters in social work because he said “social workers don’t make no money.” Well, I left him on Jan 1, 2015, completed my program on May 18, 2018 (ironically, a day after his bday) and now I’m a clinical therapist with my own practice.I’ve met a few narcs since then, but I did not let his evil words discourage me from MY future plans. The next time he should hear from you is at the divorce hearing.
Congrats,the narc knows you are about to level up.They don't want that just to keep you around for their misuse.And hope you don't find any positivity and courage.
Enjoy your new life.
And add demented and evil..
One of my favorite parts of your podcasts is when you say, "You are not alone. "
Many have narcissistic family members, friends, neighbors, coworkers, bosses...
It's a victory when they realize they have lost you.
You have won!
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You have won anyway, whether they realize it or not.
In family Court this Friday against the NARC. I WILL NEVER GIVE UP FIGHTING FOR MY SON.
Andrew saved me. I love you.
Good luck buddy
Good luck to you ❤
Hi
Read your txt.
I've been through Family Court, ex Narc about my Son
My advice is you have to fight. It's serious this is your Child.
I feel for you. Keep strong, OK.
Big hug Christine X
I had lunch with a friend & she asked me how I ended up so far away with no family or husband & I told her my story, then she looked puzzled like she did not know what to say & I told her "I'm not a victim, I'm a victor." I never told anyone that about myself because I never felt that way about myself before. It felt so good to say & believe. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us Andrew.
I can relate. Our secret voice always told us our value but we didn't dare say it out loud because instinctively we knew the response I didn't want to rock the boat. The secret person of our hearts never once agreed with those toxic people.
Bravo...yes, a VICTOR! 👍💥🙏❤
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Very few will know what a Victor you are! We know!👍 You're still standing!
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Us Chosen ones Are Protected always and we bounce back no matter what Challenges we Go through,🤗💖💖💖🙏🕯️
Amen. More than conquerors
Narcissists are delusional.
Everyone have a beautiful, powerful, centered, focused, awesome day!
Enjoy every victory today. You earned it.
I left 7 days ago. I'm 2 States away.
I left today...
I left her 5 days ago. I hope you're doing ok. We will rise better than before
They took who you were and destroyed you and change you into what they wanted then when the breaking you was over they say your not the person they married
Your comment makes me laugh, reminds me of the time I had to tell my brother I was an individual!
He was literally confused about that
Ohhhh thats The most crazy insane into this!
Make you change and then it’s not what they want either???
What the f
Yes!!
I never leave a comment, but I felt compelled to do so now. It was 2010. I had just ended a call with an ex-lover. I was so sick of the pattern I’d been going through all my life. I asked God “why?” Shortly thereafter, I began researching and codependency popped up. The description ticked all the boxes. I researched deeper and Sam Vakin’s ( a self proclaimed narcissist), name appeared. That is when I stumbled down the rabbit hole of narcissism. My life changed forever. Thank you for everything you do, Andrew. 🤗✨✨✨
I was the one who discarded the narcissist. When the devaluation began, I got rid of her.
You are lucky she accepted being discarded. Many narcissists do not.
Projection is used in tandem with devaluation it's a cruel despicable act. Healing has been slow and purposeful. Blocking and no contact is the only way. Andrew's reinforcement has educated and enlightened me, it's enabled me to discover myself. I can live my life with love and care and be the person I was..... freedom 💜🌟🙌
Since I was raised by a narcissist, I have never been a person. I've been an avatar that other narcissists tried to fill up. They failed. They didn't expect my inner child to be fighting for me. I'm done with them. Now that I know what narcissism is, I'm finally free. I am the Phoenix Rising Stronger than ever. Thank you for speaking my truth.
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How anyone can even think of a relationship in terms of competition is bizarre - zero connection! What a lovely supportive community - Thanks Andrew
Competitiveness can be a good thing---" in the right venue!"In a relationship?
Hello! Were they born without an OFF Switch?? I've met too many ( no off switch ).🙄
We help each other on this channel.🥰
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z exactly - like when you have a mutual agreement to play a game - table tennis or pool or sqush or football or badminton etc etc etc but gfy in the arena of relationships! and as for competing with your own clients - dont be surprised when your business crumbles to dust because noone ever wants to do business with you!
Unconditional love first and everything else will fall into place
@@wowomg1980 not anywhere near a narcissist - they will take you to your knees until it is no longer love
This guy is like the drill sergeant of NPD content providers, serving a unique and needed niche in his always densely packed, no nonsense pep talks. THANK YOU! 👍
There is no point regretting anything because your eyes are WIDE OPEN ! Never again will you fall for another narcissist's toxic games and predictable cycles , your NARDAR is in place !!! You must focus on now being your OWN touchstone , guide and ultimate judge . There will be tough and lonely times ahead , rebuilding a broken spirit is never easy , and the challenges may sometimes compromise us , but at least now we are wiser , stronger and far better equipped to deal with anything life throws at us !
Thank you Andrew ! I am still in the ruminating , angry stage but , I AM WINNING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ❤
You have perfectly described what I went through in 2014. Basically, I was living with my girlfriend, I began to sense 'something just wasn't quite right'. I began to awaken early around 4:00 a.m. and secretly research (what a mess) her abhorrent behaviors and what I was observing. Eventually, it led me to conclude she was likely a disordered narcissist. I began to slowly plan my escape and timing to go full-on "no contact". I was able to pull it off before she 'discarded me'. (oh, baby, history proved it WAS COMING soon enough). I kept my discipline and commitment to "no contact" and rebuilt my life from there. It's the only sure way to get away clean and rebuild a life that has been nearly destroyed, IMHO.
Welcome to freedom sir❤
Good for you for working out your plan and taking action.
These daily messages are the way out. Thank you
❤❤❤ well said
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This is such a great motivational video ! 👍💪We sometimes forget how far we have come ! I have won and I’m still winning , I maintain no contact and watch these videos often ! Thank u Andrew 🎈💪❤️👍
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I have WON. Nothing will stop me now. I have survived basic training of hell.
True that, getting through this made Boot Camp seem like a walk in the park. This has been the hardest yet most enlightening experience of my life.
♥Welcome home, beautiful warrior...
I been through the gates of hell and escaped his regime .. blessings to you ..
Funny words the way you put it Basic training etc but so true. Winner😺
Such a good phrase - basic training of hell - yup exactly
Hey Andrew we Love you 💗😇
I couldn't agree more this guy is always on point and on time!
We rescued our grandbabies from their extreme narcissistic mother across the country.. finally .... Still gotta deal with her but the babies are safe fed and loved and not ignored abused raged at and neglected. Is it easy. Nope. Was it easy when we didn't have them? Hella no..
Learning how to deal with narcs from channels like this was our lifeline.. thank you immensely for your wisdom.
Blessings
Thank you lord, for your amazing grace with helping me reach out, to people like Andrew, to save my life. I had no idea how lost, how hurt or how much danger I was in to save my life. I didn't have one friend who understood narcissism and that hurt too. BUT GOD ! sent me another way and pushed me towards people like Andrew. He understood, where I was and after so many years of abuse I finally found some understanding, another online family, who could help me heal, help others and become more equipped with the right tools of knowledge to fight back and live in peace again.
I was experiencing manipulation and was lied to every time I communicated with the narcissists. I put a stop to it. He is left in the cold on his own with his lies.
I'm in the middle of recovering. I do feel like I'm winning. ❤
We are healing
A relationship built on trust. My friend told me back when I was married, "if you're putting a GPS in her car you already know the answer." There was no talking to me.
I thank God and this community for the clarity and healing.
That's a wise friend.
That's a real friend 💯
My sense of humour has come back, my sense of fun, my soul is coming back, future faking conditioned me not to get hopes up about anything because he blew up anything that was fun like holidays, I am starting to plan my own future Narc free ....anyone want to party 🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂
I'm absolutely LOVING this for you, Pauline!
Im so proud of of you@@marieharrington3573
It can happen. It is happening to me too. 😂 We have WON in spite of them.
@@paulineEirefairygirl5067 I think we’ve all have seen our sense of humor just evaporate along with everything else that made us the beautiful light forces that we are. Keep Shining Sister Keep Shining. Darkness has no power against Light 💡 💗😇
@taiskitchen6152 back at you baby, walking in the light
1 year after discard (almost 3 decades w/narc) I am able to see it from the other side. Like looking at the situation from outside of the sick bubble……and it’s sooooo nice to say the least.
It’s our choice to stay out or jump back into Craziville, don’t accept the hoover ✅
Andrew is a great teacher for how to navigate this path to clarity, health, self love, independence, freedom etc..
I’m watching her implode doing the cycles every month (kids so can’t cut all ties) .
Hang in there if this is new to you ✊🏽 as time passes all the little wins and growth adds up 🤙🏽🙏🏾
I have just experienced that which Andrew is speaking of. Every part of it. I am not so quick to jump for anyone anymore. Its a difficult time. And today Im going to walk barefoot to ground myself. Thanks Andrew🌹
Do you find benefits to grounding? As in walking barefoot
Real stuff! I just soaked my feet the first time in my life and chose not to plant grass Where I sit outside.
Real down to earth, so glad to read your comment the positive energy is spilling out. Thank you
Thank you!!!!
Had a friend that used to say :
"Use em , abuse em , lose em."
She nailed the narcicissits creed.
She has passed on ( many years ago ) but I realize now how she was attempting to help me realize I was dealing with a narcissist.
RIP Debbie.
Oh those good friends that passed on-- just remembering them is a gift they've left for you.
I just thought of an analogy for narcissistic abuse: It's like having an open wound that the narcissist keeps picking at. Sometimes a scab forms, but the narcissist opens it over and over. Real healing starts when a scar forms. This has been my journey resulting from years of my sister emotionally abusing me - even from afar. I've gone no contact and I'm healing. Thank you Andrew!
I won because I knew the narcissist in leadership from church was off & I went no contact, did not respond to her hoovers , grieved the toxic friendship, overcame & now made it clear by my silence that, JUST BECAUSE I AM POLITE & SHOW RESPECT DOESN'T GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO DICTATE & MAKE PERSONAL LIFE CHOICES FOR ME.... THOSE CHOICES ARE ONLY MINE TO MAKE!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈 🎀😘
Some people want to control your life and that sounds dumb and laughable. You drew the line as clear as day. Winner- You!👍
Very well said! Amen
Go, Marie!!!😮💪🏻💗
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Hi Emily, always nice to see you!
Blessings sweetie & by the way...
I always got your humor. 👍🤗❤
@@marieeakin8534Oh thank you! There is so much loving support here for each other. God is with us!💗
Gut punches. My solar plexus has healed.
Cool - lovely comment. Resonated! 🌷❤️
Thank you, Andrew. You're are right, I'm not the same person I was a month ago.
Give it a year, you'll be even more different.
I got out. Our kids are grown now, one doesn’t speak to me due to the ex-wife’s Parent Alienation schemes on me. Too much other collateral damage I dealt with to consider a win. I still consider myself a survivor. The ex-wife demanded a divorce. I gave it to her. Two months later, she wanted to negotiate her return, I said No. Her anger and rage went 10x. She would sabotage her own child visitations to return our kids back to me hungry and crying. That went on for 8 years after the divorce. She would go to my work and tried to get me fired, 10 years after the divorce. I am glad it is over. Good luck to all.
My heart is healed,, From the shocking event,, that was dished out to me & my husband & son,,, back in June 2022,,, I wear cowboy boots alot,,, and Each morning ,,, I laugh & pull up my boots alittle stronger!!! I HAVE HEALED & MOVED ON!! 🇫🇷🙏💯🌱🌿🌿🌿NO contact & living with confidence with peace & wear my bright shining armour🙏💯🤠merci to you Andrew,,,,
Wow! I think we are all winning.
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I’ve moved from a marriage filled with narcissistic abuse.. beat it and won..to an incredibly toxic work environment. I’m able to handle it better due to what I’ve learned here.. and I believe I’m continuing to win every day.. Thank you for speaking on this!
I hear you!
I've rejected the hoover for months, yet, the narc. is still hoovering. That's Charles Manson level insanity.
Sociopathic narcissism and psychopathy are severe forms of mental illness.
Thank you Andrew and Community. Another great day...
We always win,after we get the education and realise what we were dealing with. The narcissist only thinks they have won, but the reality is that we have figured them out, escaped the web of lies and manipulation, and get stronger and stronger over time. We are healing from the disease of the narcissist as they grow weaker the futher away they get from you. We are survivors and will win.
I even laugh now because one of the Narcs in my family will call and say what are you doing? I say cleaning toilets but really I just got home from a great day shopping and getting something to eat. I might have only bought a 10.00 item and got some nachos but I didn't want to hear did I really needed that 10.00 thing. The only reason they're still in my life is because my son has MS really bad.
I left my narcissistic 3 weeks ago, he is 57 my daughter is 31 they were carrying on a relationship under my nose......i moved out the thing he said was "i didn't want to end it this way" yeah I beat him to the punch 🎉
You are fantastic, today I know that when I was 8 years old, I experienced that my mother was behaving very differently toward me than to other people, now I know that she was a narcissist, for many years I did not know, I did not like her. Now I am 78 years, and I found out 10 years ago, now I am free, and I am happy, and I enjoy listening to your videos, thank you so much. Kirstine
Andrew is a legend! This man help me get through some very dark times in my life when I was discarded a few years back. Glad you found his channel welcome! Love all of you. Stick with Andrew he won't steer you wrong! 👍🏾❤️
Hey everyone! I would love to get involved with this community and meet some new friends who would like to talk about your experiences and hear about mine. I could really use it and would gladly be an empathetic ear. Lmk! I’m here. Thanks!
Five years ago, my narcissistic friend manipulated with the agenda of making me become his brother-in-law. Now that I have gone no contact, now that I am watching the videos of Andrew, now that I am doing self-hypnosis, and now that I am praying to God everyday, I feel very comfortable physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I am sure I will become a man like Andrew!
I told my family member that two years ago. I told them you tried to break me but you didn't so I won. Tell yourself you're a Bad@ss because you never gave up and you keep trying everyday!!!❤❤
Its like a marathon of healing but instead of 26 miles its years and years and its starts at the bottom of everything and you have to come back to life - your own life. I made it!
I'm proud of you friend
I Have Won with God's, Grace.
Andrew, right back at you & as a reminder, ... You are the winner 🙌. You most definitely are a winner ☀️ 🦅
Thank you for your educational, motivational, empathetic & encouraging videos 🙌. Love your background. God bless 🌟
Hi Andrew, it has been a minute but I am still here, they have tried to love bomb me and they got ignored and I loved it, thanks 🙏 to our God and a coach like you and a few others!!!!!!! Everything you are saying in this video is absolutely the truth!!!!!!!!!!! I love you and your counseling you are a great teacher, I wish I could tell you about the Hoover, it is so funny 😂 😂😅 now, what a jerk, I won, I won Andrew, I am so happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 Namaste!!!!!!!🙏
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I have been changed for the better !!!!!!❤️❤️❤️
I’m slowly getting on top of the hill . My breakdowns have come down significantly. I get periods of missing the ghost , but it fades when I remind myself that version of them is not real . I’m slowly getting stronger . I was able to give advice to another guy i know . He was close to taking his life . Healing from something that was inflicted on you , that u didn’t choose is distressing .
We have been through the hell and back in those narcisistic relationships and we have survived. Thank God for that ❤ there is a higher reason why we are here and growing strong. The world needs light, love, peace, joy and life! Thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤
Blocked everyone. Originally, I thought, "Well, her family didn't do anything to me." Then I thought about it more and did not want them to tell her anything that I was doing. It was hard but had to be done. Did not think I could do it but I did.
Does the dysfunction ever become exhausting for them? How many relationships, friendships, or jobs etc can they repeatedly go through before they're spiritually depleted?! Aging surely must play a role in their physical endurance. At some point one has to become completely done in. 😬
If judging by my ex and the inner workings of her mind (I had the opportunity to see everything going on behind the mask), they feel bored and love the rollercoaster of emotions all that chaos brings them. They are essentially addicts, they're addicted to the high of new love, all those chemicals that are released, once that stops they start drinking alcohol or doing drugs or looking for the next victim to give them that rush. Narcissists are broken, they are entirely dependent on dopamine as their reward system was completely destroyed by their parents during development. My ex gf told me she started masturbating at the age of 6...let that sink in...she told me all this because I noticed she had trouble with orgasm during sex and she opened up about how often she would masturbate and I was quite shocked. All of us were confused when dating narcissists because there was no tangible substance they were abusing as addicts, they are drug addicts to their own dopamine release and they have no idea. This is why they dysregulate when stability enters the home situation, it's why they blame everyone else for their withdrawal symptoms, the stability you provide is essentially equal to taking away a heroin junkie's hit. Let that sink in.
I've heard some compare narcissism to vampyrism. It's a fitting comparison.
Did you say spiritually depleted? Can these toxic soulless people have spirituality?
They don't see themselves stuck in a fixed cycle for life. Spiritual? They wouldn't be narcissistic imo.
As long as they have supply no, they never are done, literally even up until death. The narc could have cancer and be actively dying, as long as they can manipulate people up until the very end they will. The only way they truly lose it is when they have no supply, so like imagine a narc being placed in confinement or place where they only have a limited source of supply, they'll lose their sht. Their brains are literally wired to need to manipulate people and things, if they don't get that supply to manipulate... that's when they truly suffer.
I have been changed for the better !!!!!!❤️❤️❤️ YOU ARE WONDERFUL ANDREW!!!!!! 💋💋💋
Andrew, you are amazing! Your videos are so real and informative. These people are never satisfied. I'm out and have been out for almost 2 months. Please listen everyone, love yourselves and don't go back.
I didn’t want to win or lose, and I didn’t want anyone else to lose either. I just needed to survive and I have done and that is enough for me. I now realise that what I had to deal with on a daily basis for many years definitely wasn’t normal
She used me as a place to stay while she finished school and got her career started then after I had served my purpose the discard came.
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Thank you Andrew! I am 21:00 ❤ a winner
I love your videos and the repeated words/affirmations. You validate us what has happened. You’re educating us with the right words in every video.
I was hoovered. You are 100% right! Things got worse. 15 years of no contact, all gone. Well, I'll go to another 15 years. The aging narcissist will eventually take over my ex-wife. She has issues. I'm gone again.
How you know it… the discard was like a party and now they beg and cry and trip out bc you refuse to deal with them AFTER their new situation fails.
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Thank you wonderful Andrew. Without your guidance I wouldn’t be where I am today. I descended to rock bottom. Now I’m ascending. I’ve left the narcissist in their low vibrational quagmire doing what they do and now I am doing me for once in my life. Putting me first, prioritising me and my needs. Healing, growing, seeing the world through a new pair of eyes. Being awakened and educated is extremely empowering. Starting to love my life again. From the pits of despair to now are a million miles apart. It’s not been easy this journey and I’m still a work in progress but I found an inner strength, determination and willpower i didn’t know existed within me. For that I am eternally grateful and to you and all the other wonderful survivors on here thank you ❤
Im a big bright beautiful shining light!
I hope you fully restored your life and found a new loving partner who understands what she has in you.
Thank you for sharing
I’m in the middle of winning. My cousin is trying to find a place to live he can afford. Since rules don’t apply to him, he hadn’t filed his taxes in over 10 years. He needs his tax returns to be approved for rental assistance. He’s an aging narcissist whose old baggage is catching up with him. He keeps trying to love bomb me into letting him stay and it isn’t working. I’ve leaned so much with Andrew. That’s why I’m winning💪😃.
Sending big hugs back Andrew thankyou for your support. 😘
So beautiful!💗
What really sucks is I wanted him to succeed too.
That person has lost something so valuable if you felt that way. What a fool!
The problem is they never want it for themselves!
God bless and thankyou Andrew.the multi-layered profound wisdom,knowledge,strength,love,confirmation, and support in these videos,and that come from you and your journey are incredible.an absolute blessing and divinely timed.a true lightworker.love and gratitude 🙏🏻 ❤
Welcome..😌💜🙌🙏⛰️
Andrew, you have been my light thru the break up from the moment when via epiphany I somehow figured him out. Your video just showed up one day, after the breakup. It does get better, I promise ❤ I watch just about every day still and continue to educate and heal. This community is very supportive ❤️
Thank you Andrew 🙏
Happy Wednesday everyone
Yes, Yes, Yes and Yes!! "They should look you in your eyes and ask intelligent questions".. Everything you say, correct. Love listening to you.. Thank you Andrew! 💖🙏🌳
You are so speaking the Truth!
Hi, absolutely spot on !!!! I couldn't understand or reason this extreme behaviour from ex. I left the abuser but he managed to manipulate my only child my Son. My Son is living under the roof of the abuser, plus the Mother of the abuser, who's the enabler. I haven't spoke or seen my Son for 11yrs.
I do not contact the abuser. He would love to know how much I miss my Son.
My Son will come to know the truth, unfortunately.
Although I took the hard decision to leave, I can't have closure until I know my Son is Ok.
Thankyou for reminding me if my strengths and how weird the mental mind confusions the Ex tried to do to me .
Namaste ❤
I am definitely winning!!🎉🎉🎉 We all are winning!✨️✨️✨️
Yes Andrew, life is comfortable, quiet and peaceful ...post narcissist relationship...
I can now tell a narcissist a mile away..and I keep well away from them.......
Everything about them is a carbon copy of each other.....So glad to be out....but I still wish I’d known this many years ago.
Filled with joy Andrew , Satisfaction,Happiness ,Blessings to you my lovely ❤
yes you're so right Andrew - I knew a narc whose last 3 victims were vulnerable either due to bereavement or mental health issues. They are predators circling around social media looking for their next prey. Be careful what you post on social media everyone. :Love, light, happiness and blessings to you Andrew. Thank you for sharing your invaluable lessons
I’ve heard someone describe the rise after a final narc experience in your life as “going supernova”. That happened to me, total awakening, I started experiencing things Id never known before . Within 3 months I had started to turn everything about myself around and I certainly didn’t do it “alone”. I was guided to finally “see” and it was about me finally discovering myself and it wasn’t about focusing on them anymore. My ex was blown away the next time they saw me about 8 months later!😂when I told them I was grateful for what happened they just couldn’t understand. I told them that they didn’t break my heart, they broke me open!!❤
So you were cracked open, sure that's how the light gets in 🌟
Reminds me when my youngest daughter and ex-mother-in-law warned me about the individual that was most likely having an affair with my then estranged wife. They were both super religious doing all they could to discredit me, The shock on his face when I saw him at a convention Said it all. I didn't expect that extreme reaction all I asked him was how was his family I had known him for decades
What a great way to look at it!!
Thank you I have won I've got that person out of my life I will never have him back it took me 9⃣ years to get out... but I got away.
I know it, because I feel HOPE, JOY AND PEACE! Blessings to all!❤
♥Blessings, my fellow comrade...
This 👏 👏 👏
@@TanyaDavis954 🙏♥ Wishing you the very best!
hoping to get there.
@konkylie-3000 you will get there, keep working! I want ALL of us to make it
0:47 TRUEST words I've heard all year. This is TRUE.
God bless you Andrew you are doing Gods work youve helped me out so much man thank you
Thank you Andrew! Im listening to your healing powerful messages every day over the last 4 years!!! It helped me soooo much on my healing path! Please continue to be for and with us!
A big hug from Germany ❤
This brought me to tears. Thanks for the video, Andrew!
I win, won and will continue to win. Today is my birthday 🎂. I am celebrating more than ever before after knowing i am first, second and third. The knowledge of narcissistic relationships, change me to put myself back together. Lesa is getting stronger and ex husband narcissist demon, i got married to 😈😈is getting weaker and weaker. Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏👑🇯🇲🙌🤲😇🖐️
Happy birthday 🎉
Happy Birthday ! 🎉🎈🎊🍰
Winning means being healthy and moving forward.
I do love how you say “ in their little tiny little pea brain”.
I listened again! Your rawness, tenderness and warmth is so evident..... thank you 💜🙏🌟
Beautiful video Andrew! So true what a blessing earned through hell.
You are saving souls🫂thank you Andrew 🙏😇
So true.❤❤
I have those exact words. Whew I'm glad that's over! I made it!