I experienced Reactive Abuse and went to jail. After all the hearings to tirelessly prove the Narc provoked me... I won my case! And for the first time in 6 years I'm finally free and getting stronger everyday. Thank you Andrew. 🎉
Snakes in the grass. Wolves in sheep clothing. Stop treating them like they are part of the flock, or your real friends. Call it what it is. It certainly is not love or friendship
I found out quite a bit about him, and it really freaked him out. He thought he could play me and that I wasn’t smart enough to see through the deception and games. He thought I would never figure him out….
I am right there with you. I hate to even say this out loud but I now am playing games with him. It may backfire at some point, I unfortunately am still stuck in the trauma bond, hoping to get for enough away that he will not have access to me.
Please don’t fall into that trap. He’s seen that coming a mile away my dear one. Just block and go no contact and save your mind energy for you and you only ❤️
Hello brother Andrew and family! Today I woke up feeling positive and free of the residue of negative energy from the narcissist! I believe in myself for the first time in a while and I’m looking forward to my life. Hang in there family- it gets better. As long as you have no contact with the energy vampire. I like the background in the video!
After being divorced for 17 years and stuck in trauma bond, gas lighting and him bringing supply women from his classes and meeting some going out with his friend. One even called our home, I answered the phone and this girl is telling me she going on a date with him. I told her he’s married! He came home and called her and APOLOGIZED TO HER NOT ME! Why did I stay? I went through 23 years confusion! He made some excuse or lie. Why did I stand for this! Thank you Andrew, it’s hard to swallow it all but it will take time.
Sounds unbelievable, but I know it's true!!! They MUST HAVE SUPPLY!! And SOMETIMES MULTIPLE Sources While IN A RELATIONSHIP ALREADY!! CRUEL. JUST CRUEL. BUT THEY JUSTIFY IT ALL. KEEP LEARNING. KEEP GROWING. AS I INTEND TO , FOR ALL MY LIFE. TAKE CARE. BE VIGILANT. ❤
You are not alone! We trusted because we thought we knew who we married (dated etc) and we think they are the last person who would betray us. They use that to keep us in the dark. Thankfully, once we do see the reality of our life.. we know we must leave. I will never understand why they don’t just leave and go be with whomever.. or be single .. why they fight letting us go, when they clearly do not care about us.. that’s what took me years to figure out. They like to act like we are the bad one, for wanting out. They are masters of flipping the script.. it’s crazy making.. don’t beat yourself up. Just stay the course and stay free… PRAY and ask God to give you strength .. every minute of each day.. He loves us and He does not want us to be mistreated & exploited.. don’t let the narc control your truth.. we didn’t know but now we do- so now we do better! 🤗🤗🤗
don't beat yourself up for staying so long and don't be jealous over those who got out after only a few years. You don't know what you don't know and you did get out, no matter the time frome. Be proud of yourself and Thank God.
Exactly! So tired of seeing the phony "once a year" deeds to manipulate people's opinions when he doesn't really give a rip about anyone...Narcs are NOT interested in anyone unless there is something they want from them...or if they want to steal or destroy your relationships with them.
I want to add that sometimes a narcissist will even get a restraining order against you for the power of control over you. So, if you are like me they use the legal system against you. They will blame you for all kinds of things. Mine blamed me for wanting to kill her and my kids! Remember a narcissist thrives on control. They thrive on making people do what they want when they want to the feed off of you by creating misery.
@@Randy-q5h It's all about control and manipulation. Think about the conversation and what was said. If something was said that touched a nerve he would want to reestablish a sense of control. Using the law is a go to for narcissists.
So true. And they hide cameras. They hide microphones. They hide friends - 'I don't know him'. They hide themselves from themselves. I'm hoping I'm getting close to the pinnacle, the mountain top, and the air is thin because I'm giggling - I'm giggling because I recognize the hiding games.
The narcissist hides what they do in your house when you're not in the room. On numerous occasions I have seen them go through other people's mail (or papers sitting out) when they aren't in the room. If someone's smartphone is on the table, you better bet they'll be trying to sneak a look. How many times is the narcissist in someone's house but you can't find them. And when you do, they have that suspicious look like you caught them up to no good. These people know what they are doing. Don't let them fool you into believing otherwise. They are elusive. They are liars. They are jealous of everyone. They are up to no good. Period Great video Andrew. I love the special effects of the fog/steam. God bless 🙌
Great video…. A leech doesn’t stick on for just the ride they are sucking the life out of you while trying to smile so serene. I can spot a narcissist smile now! And there is no beauty that can hide the stench.
True. But you sense things are off. Then - thanks to the internet - you start a search about your experiences and find out about narcissism. It wasn't until many years later that I found the root of what I experienced.
Sad is most people trapped in a toxic relationship will never break free because they want so bad to please and they're covered in false guilt that it's somehow their fault. Thank you for your time.
I’m so grateful that I got out/divorced after only 5 years. I say only because I read stories about people who have stayed in for 20 plus years. I couldn’t do it. I was already drained. Also “IT” meaning whatever dark magic these people carry, started to actually impact my physical health. Even with two young children I had to get out. Currently we have 50/50 custody and I’m gray rocking. Hopefully I can be a touchstone for these little ones to keep their world balanced until they are old enough to decide or God intervenes. I wanted it to work for the children, but I couldn’t take it anymore.
@@PatriceGuy77good for you! I’m one of those naïve ones that stayed in for over 20.. and it does impact our physical health. Proud of you for being there for your kids.. your ex will likely use them to try to get to you.. stay strong.. and reach out if you need reinforcements .. have a joyful & Merry Christmas 🎄🙏🏼🎁
Narcs are the worst in the workplace if they have power. But, if you ever met them on the street, without the "system" prorcting and enabling, they would fear being laid out. They aren't so disrespectful or brash when 1 on 1.
Thanks again Andrew, he had 4 phones, I never understood it, real dark and sneaky. A user and an abuser. He also lied to so many, about some large monies, so he made them feel sorry for him, so he could get alot of material and monies from us. And he did it quite well. Still my no contact is going on 9 weeks, still hurt by such an evil man. I was mad at myself for not seeing all this he did, but I did not know what a narcissist was really. You are so right on andrew. I listen daily, you have really explained it all and this has let me see it for what he was. Thanks again. I will never look back. He was also a real coward
😍Up there on the pinnacle, the air is thin, and our red cells increase along with our sensitivity to perceive red flags. With this clarity, we're better equipped to enjoy our journey while staying safe. 💙
Theres a good word. Gallavant. Loves going many places, one after the other on the same outing, taking all the time in the world. When I was there it was straight there and back, no detours, or taking time, short time frame. Even though we had nothing else planned. Strange that. I can't believe how i have been played by my son and his wife. They refuse to let me see my grandchildren, except birthday Christmas, and the expectation is very expensive gifts from me and I get nothing. So I have blocked them, i came to the conclusion it is extortion and not relationship. Im relocating to another country. Im having the life i have always wanted. Im 70 now and going for it. No compromise. 😊
my narcisist was married twice and both husbands abused her tried to control her and used physical abuse against her i say lol now becauce it was rubbish the only abuser in all of her relationships was her she drove my sanity beyond anythink i have ever suffered before blamed for everythink constantly gaslit social media monitored its only when i went on youtube just under 12 months ago i found andrew who has helped me and everyone else put ourselves together again narcisistic abuse is horrendous and toxic never put up with it
I get it. With the fake story of abuse, your empathic side gave her a lot of leeway, feeling she was vulnerable. Playing a victim can be an insidious trick.
You cannot say this about all people in ministry. You are lumping them ALL TOGETHER, SO BE CAREFUL OF THIS. YES. PASTORS ARE HUMANS. HUMANS ARE PRONE TO PERSONALITY DISORDERS. YOU COULD REPORT THAT ONE PERSON. TO THEIR SUPERIOR. AND ALL PASTORS/ PRIESTS, ANSWER TO A HIGHER AUTHORITY. BUT TO LUMP EVERY RELIGION/ EVERY PULPIT. IS JUST WRONG.
I've got a twofer here.... She won't disclose her finances because it will expose that the new supply is paying her bills. It's making this divorce a real drawn out mess. I do know who the new supply is. She brought him with her when she came back to the house to take our dog.
We are on your side. They are disgusting and the new guy will soon suffer too. I actually suggested that the new lady was welcome and I would be telling her all about him. Lol He did not let me meet her. I would have become her friend and Support system in time.
He’s just another victim. In the Uk you can ask for a court order freezing their account so the solicitor/lawyer can dissect the financial mirage - maybe ask about that? ❤️
@@user-ou3sd2vp3u I really just want it over with. Her updated financial information isn't going to make that much of a difference if we can make a deal. If we end up slugging it out til the end, then I'll have to fight for everything to come out. Thanks for the thoughts everyone. I am doing ok. I'm definitely on the good side of healing, and this channel has had a lot to do with that. Thank you, Andrew!
@@jcook2433 They don't like you meeting their friends or family - at least not in building a good relationship with them. My narc ex used her bestfriend as a scapegoat (I didn't trust or like him really) and ensured I never built a friendship with him so that he couldn't reveal who she truly was. The house of cards tumbles down hard when you gain the clarity to see after you have some distance from your relationship.
Oh my goodness. He did entirely all these things! It makes me relieved I kicked him out of my home. Still healing and learning 2 years later. Thank you Andrew.
We dated intensely 4 mos but i was never invited to the narcs home, added on fb page or met her friends! I was the latest secret target that was devalued to text pen pal for almost a year after breakup. I had hope but finallly woke up thanks to your pod casts! The narc started traveling to another state alot where im sure had made new supply ! Plus still lives w supposed Ex..End game . So glad I got out of that toxic web!
Yes- every time I look back at the pictures and say, what the heck was the truth? What a total lie-Long divorced and he died of his drug and alcohol addiction being homeless in January. What a waste of 20 years!
I know what you mean - I have beautiful pictures of places we went . Places I fell in love with on the Pacifist West and seeing him duplicate the pictures with his latest person - it didn’t hurt because I have healed and I have now learned so much. It shows they plan everything out! I just see the pictures with the kids on every adventure and I feel a sadness and loss. I say this a lot on here but my heart is too soft and it hurts easily even if it’s the pain of another, I feel it physically and I cannot comprehend that this person (these creatures ) that they intentionally caused pain and tried to destroy me. Well , he did not succeed and I’m stronger now. I hope to meet people like all of you - Thank you ❤sending love
My cup runneth over! Thank you again! I've seen soooooooo much of this stuff that narcs do, it isn't funny. But, you've helped us all be wiser and we're so grateful! We are moving on with wisdom now: nothing can affect us again!!
We certainly paid a painful price for this path to Wisdom! I could still be without it if I never found this site. I'm confident I'll never make those Big Mistakes again. Little mistakes? Of course- we're human.----Half Moon looks like a cup, waiting to be filled. Enjoy, Marie!☕ 👍
@JHavaJoe2-m1z May we receive double for our trouble Joe. We survived it & it hurt deeply to arrive to this point. I do want a partner in my future. I pray God blesses me with a sweetheart. I peaked out my kitchen to look at the moon. It does look like a cup that would fit in a tasty brew. Cheers 👍 ☕☕
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Just read this: Whenever I see coffee I hear 2 voices in my head. One of them says "Drink the coffee". The other one says "You heard him"... "Drink the coffee". Ha Ha Ha...one would have to go through it to truly understand, just as understanding narcs! ☕
@@marieeakin8534 hahah! Good one! The Partner who finds you will know! Real Gold ... and with a killer sense of humor! Then, he'll take another sip of coffee without staring like a weirdo.🙂
Hi Andrew! You look great in this background! So handsome! My narcisadar (I made that word up just now). That word means my narcissist radar is very sharp. I can see them coming a mile a way now. I’ve moved on to doing inner work on myself to work on changing my vibration so I don’t attract the same type of personality. I am changing me & with this work i understand why I attract the kind of energy i attract. Much love & light. Thanks for being my rock when I needed you. I tell people in this about you whenever I see someone that needs help. 🙏🏻💕🙋🏻♀️
I’ve done wrong but I’m not evil and my mistakes don’t give a person a reason to weaponize my mistakes for there abuse disrespect etc thank you Andrew I will just let Gods will be done ❤
My narcissist father had 2 men that lived on his property literally hiding in the bushes spying on me when I went out there. He also had cameras in the trees.
I learned so many lessons from this but one of the first ones I realized was I need somebody that says what they mean and mean what they say since my word is my bond and he was absolutely the opposite of that. Also what you said I live in the present moment and he lived for the moment is so so spot on. Thank you Andrew for the support and the continued in-depth understanding of what happened❤
Yes learned my lesson dont jugde a book by its cover mean the outside could be very decietful so its not what you think it really is when you see it ,olso ouwer own lust,pleace God forgive me my lust,and i will never fall these traps againe.i needed to learned it the hard way,fore now we have a innocent child,i feel so stupid by my own can say nothing els to blind will i already knew it if lissint to my instinct
he was suppose to meet another lady at the ball game, but she did not show and I did. 30 years later, I realize there was no other lady - this was to make me be second - insecure - ? what if she would have shown....
How could they not understand the magnitude of the abuse I went through",look",it sucks that I'm so angry still,but my story with narcissist blood in my clan got physical,and it's hard to talk about..... How dare my mom "acts as if", no apology,I was discarded during height of pandemic,FOR HER FOOLISH DECISION TO SELL ALL HER PROPERTY AND MOVE!!!
NarcHusband thought he was “hiding” his new supply in our house while I was working …until I came home from work for a few lunch hours in a row to let him know I knew what he was doing. When he met at the end of the sidewalk (not close to the house) asking why I was home, it was clear why he didn’t want me near the house. But if I would have opened the garage with my remote all hell would of broke loose with her car inside. I knew I could not win against her and him but I kept him on edge.
My last mother's Day living with him.... Detailed his boat and my daughter at his girlfriend's house. 2005. Nearly 20. More years messing with me. & My children post separation abuse.
So many people are like you describe it! Playing games. Laughing at the truth speaker, and than destroying them out of the dark. Yes they are coward and bullies! Every body has to understand what’s going on here. Please get up, wake up, don’t play that game any more. Yes they are hiding like a thief, like gollum! It’s to hard but true! Believe Andrew! ❤😊he is telling the truth. I trusted them! But i figured it out!!! Please get out!!! Save your soul!
I had 3 phones, but only one sim. Does that count for me being a narcisisst? :) Also, I found out that when you do a beautiful act of kindness, and they are flummoxed (dumbfounded) that is your clue they have enacted their secret plans for your destruction and aren't able to fake a reaction to such a kindness from you. Happened twice to me. I worked out the pattern. Love to you all.
"Wow"!..;even got a card with 50 bucks for my birthday from my .."oldest narcissist brother!!", ... That's a first!!!... I read the card,and I get so offended ( but I could use the 50)....
Haven't heard from him in weeks...(we are in the last weeks before divorce is final) last nite he called me at 2am telling me his brother just passed away...I told him I was sorry to hear that but why did he call me. He didnt have a real answer...said something about that I was the first that came to mind....And could I help him book an airline tkt ....I told him no...I could tell it took him by surprise.
Cool background tonight.. TFS and for being so honest about what we all go through. You inspire me.. it’s easy to think something must be wrong with me.. or they would treat me better. So when I see you, a handsome strong man.. and you share that you were not immune to this toxic behavior.. it really helps keep it in perspective.. I appreciate the time and effort you share every day. We must remind ourselves that there are still good ppl in the world. Merry Christmas to you & this entire community. Prayers we all have a healthy & joyful holiday this year. 🙏🏼🤗🎄🎁
I watch a lot of the "narc"channels, still very current in my life as a Court case for ABH & kidnap is being progressed. Want to say though, something in the way you deliver this message really helps. You are so commanding in your message, strong and definite in your manner, you're like the parent I can't admit my shit to, having a strong word with me lol...thank you!
Oh my gosh Andrew! I literally just experienced so much of what you said in this video tonight.. thank you for this video, thank you for allowing me to have the information to fill my cup! Now I am in a more relieved state.. that really is a beautiful setting you are in! Reminds me of Sleepy Hallow lol😊
Bo njour Andrew☃️🌲🙏🇫🇷🫎Stay warm !! I love the Cold weather too!! I am blessed to have a WONDERFUL , life & truthful husband of 36 yrs!!thank you Andrew!! For helping SO MANY PEOPLE🙏💯✨️✨️✨️
Say NO. tell them you have your OWN LIST of THINGS YOU NEED TO DO TODAY. And when they wanna know what???? Say ANYTHING OR NOTHING. YOUR TIME. THATS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TODAY. PERIOD. TELL THEM NO!! SORRY YOURE BUSY TODAY
Andrew, oh holiday season Joy Joy Joy, thank you for the gift, now this is a subject that is really getting into the dirt. Dirt, I like it a lot. For me. The study of these little bastards now is just too intriguing and interesting and weird and I love the weird as an empath and an artist and creative type. Well hell I love Iggy Pop and the Stooges. So there you go and the Grateful Dead. At the same time I'll mention Darby crash and the germs for my Los Angeles upbringing in the '80s as well. But anyways damn dude thank you. This is real true, interesting s*** how they hide things and all that f****** little weirdos...😅
Weird, mind boggling and life changing to learn they were cut from a toxic cookie cutter. This education has opened the Doors of perception for me. "What a long strange trip it's been,"
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Jerry lives, strange how Dr. Hoffman's medicine in the beginning creates a lover and with too much overuse and disrespect of the shamanic initiate plant tool creates the opposite a narcissist. As with so many deadheads now in their older age, it is really sad the antithesis of the flower children movement and what Jerry and Robert Hunter were trying to get across...
Yes they do. I dated a man in a motorcycle club. He was ex military too. He had a dude from his motorcycle club watching me and I caught the dude in the alley behind my house. This is the tip of the iceberg. Pathetic. BTW they didn't realize who they were messing with LoL.
Hi sir he ask my plan's and I told my all future plans of narcissistic and feel guilty powerless fear shame and anxiety ,loose my all interest in things I enjoy I feel like someone take from me and want to put back together myself 😭
On Monday I have finally sent the letter to the therapy board people so my narc therapist must answer for what she did to me. She cannot hide any longer. I do not know what happens next and how bad this will be for me but I know what I did was right. This is bigger than just me and my pain. This is against the rules, unethical and dangerous. I had my doubts because as you said never call them out but this is different. She has vulnerable people coming into her office in need of help and she feeds on them while getting paid for it. This is so predatory. I almost died but I saw through it in the end..what if someone else does not make it? It was my duty to say something. It might not help much and it is risky for me and my safety but if we all keep quiet she will only get worse. If it does not work, then at least I have tried. And maybe one day someone else will speak up. She cannot hide forever.
@stephaniepiazzese2602 some suggest there are more of them in certain fields and there are lots of them in the medical professions. They are everywhere but violating the laws of their profession to abuse someone is a big deal. In my country they do not take this lightly.
Thank you so much for your claryfing video's made in the beautiful Carolinas.🌟. 🙏 I feel so sad, to realize, that I feel sick when I think about going to the wedding party of a beloved and close family member, knowing that my narc brother is also there. In thle last 2 years, I did not assist family or friends gatherings, where he was. But I feel so isolated from my family now. And that makes me realy sad. In the meantime,, I know, that he is painting a distorted image of me in my family And playing the victim card. I don't want to miss anymore family reunions, because of him. Is there a way to go there, stay healthy and even enjoy the party?
I experienced Reactive Abuse and went to jail. After all the hearings to tirelessly prove the Narc provoked me... I won my case! And for the first time in 6 years I'm finally free and getting stronger everyday. Thank you Andrew. 🎉
‘Slither’ is exactly the right word to describe a narcissist’s movements into your life. They are slippery snakes - I have firsthand experience.
and tiny little pea brain always makes me laugh!
Exactly!!
@@Pear-zo4em😂
😂@@Pear-zo4em me too
Snakes in the grass. Wolves in sheep clothing. Stop treating them like they are part of the flock, or your real friends. Call it what it is. It certainly is not love or friendship
THEY ARE EVIL
To the core
Demons
Demons!!!
Yes they are!
I grew up fearing strangers. Nobody told me the most dangerous person would be my narcissist husband.
It's so weird but I wonder if my ex wife knows your ex on the three phones. 🤔
@@DP_e-que danggg those dangerous 👹
You are a very good man, so inspirational and hopeful 🎄🤗
I found out quite a bit about him, and it really freaked him out. He thought he could play me and that I wasn’t smart enough to see through the deception and games. He thought I would never figure him out….
I am right there with you. I hate to even say this out loud but I now am playing games with him. It may backfire at some point, I unfortunately am still stuck in the trauma bond, hoping to get for enough away that he will not have access to me.
Please don’t fall into that trap. He’s seen that coming a mile away my dear one. Just block and go no contact and save your mind energy for you and you only ❤️
@@conservativemom12 You win by taking the audience away (supply). People like this deserve the company of no one.
They are emotionally deragulated individuals
Hello brother Andrew and family! Today I woke up feeling positive and free of the residue of negative energy from the narcissist! I believe in myself for the first time in a while and I’m looking forward to my life. Hang in there family- it gets better. As long as you have no contact with the energy vampire. I like the background in the video!
Thank you..😌💜⛰️
After being divorced for 17 years and stuck in trauma bond, gas lighting and him bringing supply women from his classes and meeting some going out with his friend. One even called our home, I answered the phone and this girl is telling me she going on a date with him. I told her he’s married! He came home and called her and APOLOGIZED TO HER NOT ME! Why did I stay? I went through 23 years confusion! He made some excuse or lie. Why did I stand for this!
Thank you Andrew, it’s hard to swallow it all but it will take time.
Sounds unbelievable, but I know it's true!!! They MUST HAVE SUPPLY!! And SOMETIMES MULTIPLE Sources While IN A RELATIONSHIP ALREADY!! CRUEL. JUST CRUEL. BUT THEY JUSTIFY IT ALL. KEEP LEARNING. KEEP GROWING. AS I INTEND TO , FOR ALL MY LIFE. TAKE CARE. BE VIGILANT. ❤
You are not alone! We trusted because we thought we knew who we married (dated etc) and we think they are the last person who would betray us. They use that to keep us in the dark. Thankfully, once we do see the reality of our life.. we know we must leave. I will never understand why they don’t just leave and go be with whomever.. or be single .. why they fight letting us go, when they clearly do not care about us.. that’s what took me years to figure out. They like to act like we are the bad one, for wanting out. They are masters of flipping the script.. it’s crazy making.. don’t beat yourself up. Just stay the course and stay free… PRAY and ask God to give you strength .. every minute of each day.. He loves us and He does not want us to be mistreated & exploited.. don’t let the narc control your truth.. we didn’t know but now we do- so now we do better! 🤗🤗🤗
As Andrew has said and we now know, that FOG will keep us in their claws.
Hope you heal and get on with your life!💟
don't beat yourself up for staying so long and don't be jealous over those who got out after only a few years. You don't know what you don't know and you did get out, no matter the time frome. Be proud of yourself and Thank God.
Let's not forget the one time a year "holiday cards",so they can "save face" and sound so loving and caring.."BULLOCK'S!!!"
Exactly! So tired of seeing the phony "once a year" deeds to manipulate people's opinions when he doesn't really give a rip about anyone...Narcs are NOT interested in anyone unless there is something they want from them...or if they want to steal or destroy your relationships with them.
I want to add that sometimes a narcissist will even get a restraining order against you for the power of control over you. So, if you are like me they use the legal system against you. They will blame you for all kinds of things. Mine blamed me for wanting to kill her and my kids! Remember a narcissist thrives on control. They thrive on making people do what they want when they want to the feed off of you by creating misery.
My narcissist father said to me the last time I talked to him, "should I get a restraining order against you"? (Right out of the blue). Very weird.
@@Randy-q5h It's all about control and manipulation. Think about the conversation and what was said. If something was said that touched a nerve he would want to reestablish a sense of control. Using the law is a go to for narcissists.
Oh, yes, the hiding games! I'm still counting, not cell phones, just daily surprises.
So true. And they hide cameras. They hide microphones. They hide friends - 'I don't know him'. They hide themselves from themselves. I'm hoping I'm getting close to the pinnacle, the mountain top, and the air is thin because I'm giggling - I'm giggling because I recognize the hiding games.
Makes me feel like I lived a "fictional life"!..
The narcissist hides what they do in your house when you're not in the room. On numerous occasions I have seen them go through other people's mail (or papers sitting out) when they aren't in the room. If someone's smartphone is on the table, you better bet they'll be trying to sneak a look. How many times is the narcissist in someone's house but you can't find them. And when you do, they have that suspicious look like you caught them up to no good.
These people know what they are doing. Don't let them fool you into believing otherwise. They are elusive. They are liars. They are jealous of everyone. They are up to no good. Period
Great video Andrew. I love the special effects of the fog/steam. God bless 🙌
My narc mother used to look after my dog when we went on holiday - she would go through my knicker draw 😮
He told me in the beginning, “I have more games than Playtel” - I had no idea what he meant. He sure schooled me.
He played you, too...
@@missbearlockholmesthat’s what I said. Played like a fiddle. That’s life, it’s a messy thing especially when you fall for a lizard.
What a freak. They are plain pathetic, thinking they are hyper-intelligent. Hyper-manipulative more like it….
Great video….
A leech doesn’t stick on for just the ride they are sucking the life out of you while trying to smile so serene.
I can spot a narcissist smile now! And there is no beauty that can hide the stench.
Well said
"Not taught about Narcissistic personalities in School "...........Well stated 🥇👍
True. But you sense things are off. Then - thanks to the internet - you start a search about your experiences and find out about narcissism. It wasn't until many years later that I found the root of what I experienced.
Sad is most people trapped in a toxic relationship will never break free because they want so bad to please and they're covered in false guilt that it's somehow their fault. Thank you for your time.
I’m so grateful that I got out/divorced after only 5 years. I say only because I read stories about people who have stayed in for 20 plus years. I couldn’t do it. I was already drained. Also “IT” meaning whatever dark magic these people carry, started to actually impact my physical health.
Even with two young children I had to get out. Currently we have 50/50 custody and I’m gray rocking. Hopefully I can be a touchstone for these little ones to keep their world balanced until they are old enough to decide or God intervenes. I wanted it to work for the children, but I couldn’t take it anymore.
@@PatriceGuy77good for you! I’m one of those naïve ones that stayed in for over 20.. and it does impact our physical health. Proud of you for being there for your kids.. your ex will likely use them to try to get to you.. stay strong.. and reach out if you need reinforcements .. have a joyful & Merry Christmas 🎄🙏🏼🎁
They are so sick and they infect us with their poison.
Narcs are the worst in the workplace if they have power. But, if you ever met them on the street, without the "system" prorcting and enabling, they would fear being laid out. They aren't so disrespectful or brash when 1 on 1.
So true ❤
Brilliant, should be played in every classroom, keep speaking out. 🙏💜🙏💙💙🙏
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Thanks again Andrew, he had 4 phones, I never understood it, real dark and sneaky. A user and an abuser. He also lied to so many, about some large monies, so he made them feel sorry for him, so he could get alot of material and monies from us. And he did it quite well. Still my no contact is going on 9 weeks, still hurt by such an evil man. I was mad at myself for not seeing all this he did, but I did not know what a narcissist was really. You are so right on andrew. I listen daily, you have really explained it all and this has let me see it for what he was. Thanks again. I will never look back. He was also a real coward
Welcome..😌💜🙏
They r the sickest cowards
😍Up there on the pinnacle, the air is thin, and our red cells increase along with our sensitivity to perceive red flags. With this clarity, we're better equipped to enjoy our journey while staying safe. 💙
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Theres a good word. Gallavant. Loves going many places, one after the other on the same outing, taking all the time in the world. When I was there it was straight there and back, no detours, or taking time, short time frame. Even though we had nothing else planned. Strange that. I can't believe how i have been played by my son and his wife. They refuse to let me see my grandchildren, except birthday Christmas, and the expectation is very expensive gifts from me and I get nothing. So I have blocked them, i came to the conclusion it is extortion and not relationship. Im relocating to another country. Im having the life i have always wanted. Im 70 now and going for it. No compromise. 😊
my narcisist was married twice and both husbands abused her tried to control her and used physical abuse against her i say lol now becauce it was rubbish the only abuser in all of her relationships was her she drove my sanity beyond anythink i have ever suffered before blamed for everythink constantly gaslit social media monitored its only when i went on youtube just under 12 months ago i found andrew who has helped me and everyone else put ourselves together again narcisistic abuse is horrendous and toxic never put up with it
I get it. With the fake story of abuse, your empathic side gave her a lot of leeway, feeling she was vulnerable.
Playing a victim can be an insidious trick.
0:02 WOW, the background! 😅 Very cinematic!!!
And they hide behind the pulpit basically behind organized religion.
You cannot say this about all people in ministry. You are lumping them ALL TOGETHER, SO BE CAREFUL OF THIS. YES. PASTORS ARE HUMANS. HUMANS ARE PRONE TO PERSONALITY DISORDERS. YOU COULD REPORT THAT ONE PERSON. TO THEIR SUPERIOR. AND ALL PASTORS/ PRIESTS, ANSWER TO A HIGHER AUTHORITY. BUT TO LUMP EVERY RELIGION/ EVERY PULPIT. IS JUST WRONG.
@@stephaniepiazzese2602I don't think she is suggesting that.
You must have been over the "Target" and hit a nerve!
That was deep but very much needed. Protect urself as they are....everywhere! 🙏
I've got a twofer here.... She won't disclose her finances because it will expose that the new supply is paying her bills. It's making this divorce a real drawn out mess. I do know who the new supply is. She brought him with her when she came back to the house to take our dog.
Yup that’s who they are keep the faith bro heal and we are out here cheering you on
We are on your side. They are disgusting and the new guy will soon suffer too. I actually suggested that the new lady was welcome and I would be telling her all about him. Lol He did not let me meet her. I would have become her friend and Support system in time.
He’s just another victim. In the Uk you can ask for a court order freezing their account so the solicitor/lawyer can dissect the financial mirage - maybe ask about that? ❤️
@@user-ou3sd2vp3u I really just want it over with. Her updated financial information isn't going to make that much of a difference if we can make a deal. If we end up slugging it out til the end, then I'll have to fight for everything to come out. Thanks for the thoughts everyone. I am doing ok. I'm definitely on the good side of healing, and this channel has had a lot to do with that. Thank you, Andrew!
@@jcook2433 They don't like you meeting their friends or family - at least not in building a good relationship with them. My narc ex used her bestfriend as a scapegoat (I didn't trust or like him really) and ensured I never built a friendship with him so that he couldn't reveal who she truly was. The house of cards tumbles down hard when you gain the clarity to see after you have some distance from your relationship.
Oh my goodness. He did entirely all these things! It makes me relieved I kicked him out of my home. Still healing and learning 2 years later. Thank you Andrew.
We dated intensely 4 mos but i was never invited to the narcs home, added on fb page or met her friends! I was the latest secret target that was devalued to text pen pal for almost a year after breakup. I had hope but finallly woke up thanks to your pod casts! The narc started traveling to another state alot where im sure had made new supply ! Plus still lives w supposed Ex..End game . So glad I got out of that toxic web!
Keep your peace,guard your heart,t.y.Andrew✝️💜💜🙏
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@Emilywilson,,hope you are keeping well,lots of love sent,,💜💜💜💐💐🙏🫂
Thank you so much ❤
They can also hide other relationships, just so the viewers know. They lie and cheat and steal.
Hiding a "Work Spouse" while married with young children and then revealing it one day like it was nothing, no big deal.
You look back at the photos and everything looks happy and normal, but every second was fake, every second, deceit just out of view.
Yes- every time I look back at the pictures and say, what the heck was the truth? What a total lie-Long divorced and he died of his drug and alcohol addiction being homeless in January. What a waste of 20 years!
I know what you mean - I have beautiful pictures of places we went . Places I fell in love with on the Pacifist West and seeing him duplicate the pictures with his latest person - it didn’t hurt because I have healed and I have now learned so much. It shows they plan everything out! I just see the pictures with the kids on every adventure and I feel a sadness and loss. I say this a lot on here but my heart is too soft and it hurts easily even if it’s the pain of another, I feel it physically and I cannot comprehend that this person (these creatures ) that they intentionally caused pain and tried to destroy me. Well , he did not succeed and I’m stronger now. I hope to meet people like all of you - Thank you ❤sending love
MASTER HIDE-AND-SEEK PLAYERS
I see the light and the path Andrew. Thank you ❤
My cup runneth over! Thank you again! I've seen soooooooo much of this stuff that narcs do, it isn't funny. But, you've helped us all be wiser and we're so grateful! We are moving on with wisdom now: nothing can affect us again!!
Thanks to the wisdom ........I now see 👁 you narcs!!!
Be Well, Be Wise
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We certainly paid a painful price for this path to Wisdom! I could still be without it
if I never found this site. I'm confident I'll never make those Big Mistakes again.
Little mistakes? Of course- we're human.----Half Moon looks like a cup, waiting to be
filled. Enjoy, Marie!☕ 👍
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May we receive double for our trouble Joe.
We survived it & it hurt deeply to arrive to this point. I do want a partner in my future.
I pray God blesses me with a sweetheart.
I peaked out my kitchen to look at the moon.
It does look like a cup that would fit in a tasty brew. Cheers 👍 ☕☕
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Just read this:
Whenever I see coffee I hear 2 voices in my head.
One of them says "Drink the coffee".
The other one says "You heard him"...
"Drink the coffee".
Ha Ha Ha...one would have to go through it to truly understand, just as understanding narcs! ☕
@@marieeakin8534 hahah! Good one! The Partner who finds you will know! Real Gold ... and with
a killer sense of humor! Then, he'll take another sip of coffee without staring like a weirdo.🙂
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I've had a lot of hidden stuff from me but I found out the truth and they don't even know I know the truth now and its going to stay that way
Thank you Andrew for bringing light to a very dark subject and for giving hope to people around the world.
75% of teacher are empaths, 25% are NPD or psychopaths.
Nurses are either alcoholics or not. I know many nurses lol
How are they so devious,To my shock my one can hardly read or write,
Hi Andrew! You look great in this background! So handsome! My narcisadar (I made that word up just now). That word means my narcissist radar is very sharp. I can see them coming a mile a way now. I’ve moved on to doing inner work on myself to work on changing my vibration so I don’t attract the same type of personality. I am changing me & with this work i understand why I attract the kind of energy i attract.
Much love & light. Thanks for being my rock when I needed you. I tell people in this about you whenever I see someone that needs help. 🙏🏻💕🙋🏻♀️
Andrew, you are so amazing.
I’ve done wrong but I’m not evil and my mistakes don’t give a person a reason to weaponize my mistakes for there abuse disrespect etc thank you Andrew I will just let Gods will be done ❤
The one in my experience left a wake of broken men. But not me. I got away clean. Getting over her was the most empowering thing I’ve ever done.
My narcissist father had 2 men that lived on his property literally hiding in the bushes spying on me when I went out there. He also had cameras in the trees.
I learned so many lessons from this but one of the first ones I realized was I need somebody that says what they mean and mean what they say since my word is my bond and he was absolutely the opposite of that. Also what you said I live in the present moment and he lived for the moment is so so spot on. Thank you Andrew for the support and the continued in-depth understanding of what happened❤
Thank you Andrew! Love your videos!!!
Love this cool backdrop, background you're in! ❤❤
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Yes learned my lesson dont jugde a book by its cover mean the outside could be very decietful so its not what you think it really is when you see it ,olso ouwer own lust,pleace God forgive me my lust,and i will never fall these traps againe.i needed to learned it the hard way,fore now we have a innocent child,i feel so stupid by my own can say nothing els to blind will i already knew it if lissint to my instinct
he was suppose to meet another lady at the ball game, but she did not show and I did. 30 years later, I realize there was no other lady - this was to make me be second - insecure - ? what if she would have shown....
How could they not understand the magnitude of the abuse I went through",look",it sucks that I'm so angry still,but my story with narcissist blood in my clan got physical,and it's hard to talk about..... How dare my mom "acts as if", no apology,I was discarded during height of pandemic,FOR HER FOOLISH DECISION TO SELL ALL HER PROPERTY AND MOVE!!!
Narcissists do retaliation games too, like crimping the power steering lines in my car when NarcHusband didn’t get his way.
when I confronted him he said oh yeah he was going to fix them, but didn’t.
That’s how it starts on every dateline episode
NarcHusband thought he was “hiding” his new supply in our house while I was working …until I came home from work for a few lunch hours in a row to let him know I knew what he was doing. When he met at the end of the sidewalk (not close to the house) asking why I was home, it was clear why he didn’t want me near the house. But if I would have opened the garage with my remote all hell would of broke loose with her car inside. I knew I could not win against her and him but I kept him on edge.
I am shinning and healing and trying to be a bright light to help others with a smile, or ask how are you doing or a hi when I pass by them….
Or hiding your things and watching you panic search
I really appreciate these videos through the holidays. 😢
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I rather watch you Andrew 💜 You are my safe place right now.🙏🏾Thank You and my New Family 💪🏾
Thank you Andrew. I look forward to setting boundaries, and stopping all communication with my toxic sister. God Bless you. Thank you😊❤🎉
Between their predatory "tendencies" AND technology, they are busy NON- STOP! If our grids ever go down, theyr're sunk!!!!
Thanks Andrew!
Walkie talkies buzz buzz. A crazy scramble . The fear will keep them pumped. 🕯️
Wow Andrew such an awakening video..love u loads..you made such a difference in my life..meet u soon at the pinnacle..I am almost closer
They know they're getting passed in the Race and they can't stand losing so they'll do whatever to win.
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tonight's video gave me a spooky halloween vibe haha love it great video andrew ❤😇😴
My last mother's Day living with him.... Detailed his boat and my daughter at his girlfriend's house. 2005. Nearly 20. More years messing with me. & My children post separation abuse.
This video really hit home, Andrew. You it the nail right on the head with this one. Wow! Could you do a video on the narcissistic mother?
So many people are like you describe it!
Playing games. Laughing at the truth speaker, and than destroying them out of the dark. Yes they are coward and bullies! Every body has to understand what’s going on here. Please get up, wake up, don’t play that game any more. Yes they are hiding like a thief, like gollum! It’s to hard but true! Believe Andrew! ❤😊he is telling the truth. I trusted them!
But i figured it out!!! Please get out!!! Save your soul!
Thank you Andrew!
Every word Andrew s telling is true! Real hard, but true! I feel this so deeply now! Wake up!!!
Love you Andrew and you @!!❤
Every issue in my life seems to be convenient,and can be misunderstood,it's as if I'm boxed in... I don't know how I resisted as a child?
Thanks for the clarity
😊❤😊 how true!!!!!!! Thank you again!
I had 3 phones, but only one sim. Does that count for me being a narcisisst? :) Also, I found out that when you do a beautiful act of kindness, and they are flummoxed (dumbfounded) that is your clue they have enacted their secret plans for your destruction and aren't able to fake a reaction to such a kindness from you. Happened twice to me. I worked out the pattern. Love to you all.
You're spot on about their reaction to kindness. Good point
Amazing messages and love the backdrop to match!!
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"Wow"!..;even got a card with 50 bucks for my birthday from my .."oldest narcissist brother!!", ... That's a first!!!... I read the card,and I get so offended ( but I could use the 50)....
Haven't heard from him in weeks...(we are in the last weeks before divorce is final) last nite he called me at 2am telling me his brother just passed away...I told him I was sorry to hear that but why did he call me. He didnt have a real answer...said something about that I was the first that came to mind....And could I help him book an airline tkt ....I told him no...I could tell it took him by surprise.
Brilliant work andrew ❤
Thank you, Andrew. All, keep yourselves safe. Blessings.❣️
Ahh thank you Andrew. I am getting my cup full because I am applying the tools you teach. God bless you 🙏 ❤️
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My Jehovah's witness mom stole all her cousins money when her mom died... nobody says a word...
Cool background tonight.. TFS and for being so honest about what we all go through. You inspire me.. it’s easy to think something must be wrong with me.. or they would treat me better. So when I see you, a handsome strong man.. and you share that you were not immune to this toxic behavior.. it really helps keep it in perspective.. I appreciate the time and effort you share every day. We must remind ourselves that there are still good ppl in the world. Merry Christmas to you & this entire community. Prayers we all have a healthy & joyful holiday this year. 🙏🏼🤗🎄🎁
I watch a lot of the "narc"channels, still very current in my life as a Court case for ABH & kidnap is being progressed. Want to say though, something in the way you deliver this message really helps. You are so commanding in your message, strong and definite in your manner, you're like the parent I can't admit my shit to, having a strong word with me lol...thank you!
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Oh my gosh Andrew! I literally just experienced so much of what you said in this video tonight.. thank you for this video, thank you for allowing me to have the information to fill my cup! Now I am in a more relieved state.. that really is a beautiful setting you are in! Reminds me of Sleepy Hallow lol😊
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Thanks for the videos.. Just waking up.. work out time.....have a good day!!!
Thank you ! ❤🙏
Bo njour Andrew☃️🌲🙏🇫🇷🫎Stay warm !! I love the Cold weather too!! I am blessed to have a WONDERFUL , life & truthful husband of 36 yrs!!thank you Andrew!! For helping SO MANY PEOPLE🙏💯✨️✨️✨️
Thank you Andrew, truly EPIC! 1000% truth!!! ❤💥👍🙏
Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏
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Say NO. tell them you have your OWN LIST of THINGS YOU NEED TO DO TODAY. And when they wanna know what???? Say ANYTHING OR NOTHING. YOUR TIME. THATS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TODAY. PERIOD. TELL THEM NO!! SORRY YOURE BUSY TODAY
Great video Andrew!!
Wishing everyone clarity and peace..
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Thanks for contributing to my wonderful evening. Have a lovely night.
Andrew, oh holiday season Joy Joy Joy, thank you for the gift, now this is a subject that is really getting into the dirt. Dirt, I like it a lot. For me. The study of these little bastards now is just too intriguing and interesting and weird and I love the weird as an empath and an artist and creative type. Well hell I love Iggy Pop and the Stooges. So there you go and the Grateful Dead. At the same time I'll mention Darby crash and the germs for my Los Angeles upbringing in the '80s as well. But anyways damn dude thank you. This is real true, interesting s*** how they hide things and all that f****** little weirdos...😅
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Weird, mind boggling and life changing to learn they were cut from a toxic cookie cutter. This education has
opened the Doors of perception for me. "What a long strange trip it's been,"
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Jerry lives, strange how Dr. Hoffman's medicine in the beginning creates a lover and with too much overuse and disrespect of the shamanic initiate plant tool creates the opposite a narcissist. As with so many deadheads now in their older age, it is really sad the antithesis of the flower children movement and what Jerry and Robert Hunter were trying to get across...
@@StuartF1HELLBOY Sad, but ... "We will get by."
They can also hide behind motorcycle clubs and gangs. Yes the flying monkeys are part of the game too......
Yes they do. I dated a man in a motorcycle club. He was ex military too. He had a dude from his motorcycle club watching me and I caught the dude in the alley behind my house. This is the tip of the iceberg. Pathetic. BTW they didn't realize who they were messing with LoL.
So cool!!!❤
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Hi Emily 🙋❤
I could but of course will not show a picture of my ex and everyone would be floored at the superficial vanity unthinking esque vibe..
Hi sir he ask my plan's and I told my all future plans of narcissistic and feel guilty powerless fear shame and anxiety ,loose my all interest in things I enjoy I feel like someone take from me and want to put back together myself 😭
Gave my financials it’s been almost 2 years no financials from them
On Monday I have finally sent the letter to the therapy board people so my narc therapist must answer for what she did to me. She cannot hide any longer.
I do not know what happens next and how bad this will be for me but I know what I did was right. This is bigger than just me and my pain. This is against the rules, unethical and dangerous.
I had my doubts because as you said never call them out but this is different. She has vulnerable people coming into her office in need of help and she feeds on them while getting paid for it. This is so predatory.
I almost died but I saw through it in the end..what if someone else does not make it?
It was my duty to say something.
It might not help much and it is risky for me and my safety but if we all keep quiet she will only get worse. If it does not work, then at least I have tried. And maybe one day someone else will speak up.
She cannot hide forever.
They are everywhere. Any profession. Any job. A narc is a narc. Is a narc.
@stephaniepiazzese2602 some suggest there are more of them in certain fields and there are lots of them in the medical professions.
They are everywhere but violating the laws of their profession to abuse someone is a big deal. In my country they do not take this lightly.
So right on the money hiding . crazy lol
Thank you ❤
Thank you so much for your claryfing video's made in the beautiful Carolinas.🌟. 🙏
I feel so sad, to realize, that I feel sick when I think about going to the wedding party of a beloved and close family member, knowing that my narc brother is also there.
In thle last 2 years, I did not assist family or friends gatherings, where he was. But I feel so isolated from my family now. And that makes me realy sad. In the meantime,, I know, that he is painting a distorted image of me in my family And playing the victim card.
I don't want to miss anymore family reunions, because of him. Is there a way to go there, stay healthy and even enjoy the party?
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