TALK BACK SERIES PART III
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- Опубликовано: 26 ноя 2024
- 3 Single Christian Men and Women are seated back to back in this experiment, We thought it would be appropriate to not allow the participants to see each other so they could answer the questions without bias. On part 3 the ladies and the guys are put in the hot seat to be asked confrontational questions. Let's see what happens when they have no choice but to #TALKBACK
In this video:
Men::
Cyrus @imjustcyrus
Freke @freke
Le’Var @Lnorsworthy613
Women
Mikaela @mikaelabeando
Cesly @lifecoachces
Borley @heyborley
Filmed & Edited by: Edited by: @jeffreyemile x @fluxusstudiost
It’s refreshing to know that there are other virgins in their 30’s and that you’re not fighting alone. ✊🏾
Your identity isn't in that, but that is amazing! Praise God. STAY STRONG FOR THE LORD, SIS! It's worth it!
I was extremely disappointed in the response from the question “why aren’t you married?”. The first thing that comes out the mouth of Number 2 is that “ women are not accountable” Really...like really? When will there be a time where men take accountability for their actions? The question that was asked was why are YOU married? I see this too often where blame shifting occurs, especially in the church. It’s seems to mainly be the woman’s fault. I hope that these men look to God and look within to see why THEY are not married instead of putting the blame on women. They generalized women with their responses. I understand we are growing and this may be their experiences from women in the past but it seem to be a lot of blame-shifting taking place.
I literally cringed and exited the video
I think imma swipe left as well coz they outchea making themselves the ideal husband nje the finishes product
Just a different perspective..
Is it their fault for what they've personally experienced? The women that they've dealt with has given them something to go off of.
If we're being honest he made a lot of great points supporting why
I'm not refuting the great points he made, only observing that they're not directing the question to the self... There must've been things they contributed in the relationship which has them single now... When the sisters were responding, there also shared how they contributed e.g I wasn't ready...
@@nompilosibiya8373 well said love. Ok. You demand the full picture huh lol #respect
1st question: number 2 needs to grow from a grown boy to a grown man. "Why are YOU not married yet."
Freke goes and points the finger at women and says nothing about himself!
I agree with "don't confirm her feelings of inadequacy" for surgeries.
What I like most about this is seeing men be articulate and vulnerable. I love the depth of the conversation. I love how it makes you think. I love what it's bringing out. Because most times we have an idea but to verbally express it is entirely different. I like the challenge in this. I love that it is an example to not remain shallow and surfaced. It shows that it's okay to be have healthy dialogue to create nonsexual intimacy. I love, love, love this series. I'm a licensed mental health counselor and marriage and family therapist!! I love watching content that does more than teach a woman how she can be physically attractive to get a man. This mind stimulation is EVERYTHING!! Thank you for creating this content.
LOOOOOOOL. You're not married because WOMEN don't have accountability? So nothing is wrong with you at all?
You can make a solid point without making generalizations AND you can take some accountability for yourselves too. However, I see all of these episodes were filmed on the same day so.
He didn't say that nothing is wrong with him ma'am. He can only speak about his experience. He found that the women in his life didn't take accountability for their own situation and that meant he would not take things further because there wasn't a certain level of accountability that both parties were happy with.
Yea, classic men.
Men: it's all the women's fault there are things they need to work on to suit me
Women: There are things I need to work on to suit men
The church is definitely culpable in creating this dynamic.
Based on the men's responses versus the women's responses and how they responded to the womens responses...they could have said they havent met the right person and the women THEY dated were like this. Instead they responded by bashing and generalizing women. I think they require a level of maturity development themselves which adds to why they are not married.
Malik Henry please don’t add words to what he said. I didn’t hear anything from him that suggested he was aware that there were faults in him. The guy in the cap from what we saw was the only one who addressed his growth and learning process
@@SL-vn8rx well I guess it's a shame that you assume a negative and I assume he has his reasons. Simply a matter of perpestive as we both read into the discussion. It is true that he could be more introspective but he wasn't. The man is a virgin. He hasn't even been gunning for the pussy and look at you treating him like the worldly man he fights to not be
@@SL-vn8rx LOOOL right!!! like that's actually not what he said... if that's what he meant, cool, but we didn't hear all of that.
I would looovvvve to talk to these men’s exes..... I’m sure there would be another perspective here on why they aren’t married yet! 🤣🤷🏽♀️
Tiffany Williams I don't think that would be a good idea lol
Brandon Lee 🤣🤣🤣
I've never had sex so maybe I'm ignorant, but I don't understand why sexual incompatibility is made out to be this huge tragedy. If both parties are attracted to each other and then they realize in the bedroom that they're not sexually compatible, why not just work on it? Compatible or not, I'm guessing people communicate in the bedroom still. If you think the sex you're having is horrible, you're also a participant in that so both of you have shared responsibility to make things work. Also, you have the rest of your lives to figure it out. Surely it does get better over time, the more you know your partner intimately.
Dorothy Aboagye PREACH!!!
Agreed!
If you take in consideration ego and upbringing, sexual compatibility is HUGE. Ideally you are having these conversations PRIOR to marriage but it doesn't always happen. Also, are both parties teachable? Are both parties virgins/not virgins? Are both parties willing to get outside help? Lack of sexual compatibility leads to lack of sex and someone not being fulfilled. This leaves the door open for all types of temptation. This is something I studied and you would be surprised the number of women who suffer through it because he's a good provider 😖
Love Bug this was actually helpful!
Love this!! Totally agree!
“I’m not married because women don’t understand accountability”
- a guy not holding himself accountable
exactly
Right, I hope he grows up lol
Right!
He actually made sense
@@promiseigere5882 they definitely did not listen to his answer
Sexual Compatibility comes through a LOVE that begins in Christ , not through Sex. Because the LOVE is what makes the sex. The Sex doesn't make the Sex.
CotoureCAKES this is how I felt. God created marriage and sex- sex alone is not separate from love. I also think sex is something you learn with your partner like number one said- I liked his answer the best! I think it’s something a couple can work on in marriage
@@rachelleantoine4819 for me its like , The LOVE from Christ that I have for my Husband to be right now at this moment , Is what I'm SURE is going to make our physical encounter after marriage as Great as It will be. But personally , with this Agape` Love I have in my heart for Him , If I could just LOVE HIM with NO SEX for the rest of our lives , I could with ZERO PROBLEMS!!!!❤❤❤ THATS the Love thats In my soul for Him! Like thats how strong and deep my love is for Him. But with me , this is a love that Christ put into my soul for Him. Literally I did not like Him from My flesh. The Love story came from above! This love came from above!.... I feel , just the same way that LIFE , Friendships & Families are GREAT only with Christ being the center , I believe Sex Is the same way. When your with the one whom Christ has literally deposited Agape' Love in your heart for them , that'll make the Sex a great experience.period. no If and or buts about it Because you dont see sex so much as a physical pleasure alone , but a emotional connection with your spouse pleasure. And we forget that Sex Connects us spiritually. And again when you have Agape' love In your heart for Him and Him for you , THAT ALONE is enough to make the Sex Mind blowingly Great! Its ALL IN THE SPIRIT. Not In the flesh.❤ EVERYTHING that's Great lives in eternity with God and comes from God.❤
Truth
#1 has been consistent in each video. He seems mature in majority to all of his answers. I'll take him!! 🙋🏽
Sexual compatibility wont be a problem if both people had no experience of sex in the past. There would be no basis for comparison in such cases.
Freke is so dramatic! Lol like okay brother we hear you, you ain't gotta keep sighing and breathing loud. 😂
your mother's favorite. For real geez 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
I like him lol 😂
@@masegoramasodi1278 yeah he seems cool, but the sighing was killing me. lol
Prenups are not biblical. Imagine Isaac telling Rebecca to sign a prenup for all the sheep and cattle that he possessed. A man's love for a woman should exceed that of his possessions, so much so, that he is willing to give her half of whatever he has, as the king was willing to give Esther half of his kingdom.
I would take a man’s request for me to sign a prenup as a deficiency in his love for me and walk away❣️ Men are to love their wives as Christ loves the church, giving up his life for her. If you cannot give up something as minute as your possessions, than I wouldn’t expect you to lay down your life for me.
gloria zarwolo wow. I really appreciate your perspective and even you using this as an example of how men should love their wives as Christ loved the church. I think to how often people use the first half of the verse, “wives submit to your husbands,” but very often the second half of the verse is neglected or only said in passing, without any context for real life examples.
Amen! Beautifully said.
Dating isn't biblical either but many Christians date.
Love Life I concur that dating is not biblical. Some have light on it and others don’t. Our standard as Christians should always be based on the Word of God, not the actions of others. Don’t be led or influenced by others,but rather submit to leading and convictions of the holy spirt.
Wow, thank you for sharing your perspective
Number 1 is my guy 💯
Everyday with Tebogo same
Love me some number 1 on the surgery answer. ❤️❤️
Vuyokazi Voyi Same that’s what made me like him
Me too, girl.
The first couple minutes were a repeat from previous video and I was so confused!
Lizzy S. Sheesh! I thought so too! Got me a little confused there.
I think they did that because people in the comments in the last video were saying why weren’t the men asked certain questions etc etc
Same! 😂
Facts
Lol same.... I had to double check which video I left off on 😂😂
I don't believe sexual compatibility is a thing. If you sleep with a new person tomorrow there will be things you tried with the other people that don't work for them...
When we say sexual compatibility are we just saying experience? because everyone to a degree know hows to have sex. It may be that those with more experience have learnt things that others with less experience or confidence lack...
These have been so good to watch! We definitely need to promote how to build healthier relationships👌🏾
“I love myself “and “Imma go under the knife to get surgery “shouldnt even be in the same sentence. Im with number one on the surgery thing.
There are so many different reasons for getting surgery. Also there are so many different types of a surgery, and we can't just assume a persons intentions behind getting it done.
Rue's stage Rue's stage in my opinion thats just a choice, I dont think thats a life or death need. I once lost a significant amount of weight and I didnt like my breast afterwards but I learned to just accept it. Im not talking down on anyone who gets plastic surgery, its their body. I just agree with number ones answer.
Some of these questions should be asked on “The Whole Truth” series..
I absolutely love how #2 projects all of his shortcomings and insecurities off on women. You don't have no responsibility? Wow!🤪
I'm thankful for men like this. They show their true colors earlier on so we can make informed decisions about whether to take the next step with them. in the case of this man at this time, I would have declined.
Yessss, I picked that up too. He's projecting.
I'm so happy to hear #3 knowing the history of planned parenthood amen
I really think everything should start with a conversation and then you work to put that conversation into practice. So for the sexual compatability question, you've got to have a healthy discussion before marriage and discuss experience and expectation. The conversation will be different for a couple who has experience on both sides versus a couple where only one partner is experienced. With that being said, I don't believe sexual incompatibility is a thing, unless your spouse refuses to listen to your needs.
I watched a sermon one time that said sex was meant to be a discovery between a man and wife. So don't come in with your expectations from past relationships and expect your spouse to do what your former partners did. Agree to start from scratch with each other, be patient and listen.
Girl 2 and guy 1..... I can see it ❤
@ Sky Hodge, I can't unsee that😅
Yes 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Me too from the beginning
Yup, they are so mature!
At the beginning I saw girl 3 and guy 3
The guys planned parenthood answer made me so happy
I Believe that God chooses your Spouse.💜 and that God is able to bring you two together in His Divine timing.
Amen!!! This is so needed and REAL on both sides.
I'm enjoying these series so much. I love hearing Christian perspectives from both sides. Also anyone else enjoyed hearing #1 speak? I love a great communicator! I'm so happy to see not only men waiting for sex but virgins. It feels so unrealistic to find now.
Im not gonna say that I would leave my husband if he cheated on me, BUT people need to stop thinking that forgiveness and reconciliation are the same thing. I firmly believe that you can forgive someone AND leave for your own mental/emotional health.
Maybe cue cards with the questions, like the dating series? It looks more neat.
Really grateful for the question about "planned parenthood" and that these men know what's up! We as the church have to do better when it comes to talking about sex and healthy sexuality and also educating ourselves about why what PP does is not what anyone needs!
*this is coming from someone who used to be vehemently pro abortion, volunteer with and wanted to work for PP, and who now fights for the lives of unborn babies and help abortion bound men and women in Jesus' name*
I have so many thoughts. This was my favorite part of the whole series.
Whoever you marry will become sexually compatible with you. You grow and work and communicate together. This *HAS* to be talked about openly before and after marriage.
# 1, His response was PHENOMENAL!!! He said, I’m going to love the woman I’m with regardless of what she looks like. If you are insecure, I’m here with you, we will build you up together. The answer alone is him having responsibility. Responsibility means the safe or fact of having a duty to deal with something. A moral obligation to behave correctly toward or in respect of.
Excuse me while I refrain from holding myself accountable....
"Eyem NOT married becuz wmn refuse to hold themselves accountable..."
I don't know if it's ok to say how happy I was when #2 said he is a virgin . OMG
It just made me sooooooooooooooo happy .
Anne Marjorie René they should ask if you would date a non-virgin
Brandon Lee That would be a great question. I personally would definitely date a non virgin . We all made mistakes and we all need grace .
Anne Marjorie René I agree. We are all saved by grace. We all have a past. But Jesus saving us from where we were just further shows His glory
The person you marry isn't the same person you divorce.
Two virgin men on one panel! There is a God! Amen! Lol but no for real that’s admirable. And these questions are deep. Whew. I love how guy number 3 (in grey sweatsuit) is self aware. I don’t think he realize in this moment how mature he is, articulate he is, and how self-aware he is. I hope his voice is heard on more platforms because it’s needed.
My bro #3 is the truth. SOME women STOP working on themselves because they think they're the finished product BECAUSE of who they've been with. Facts. Not a fan of women like that, I'm going to out grow eventually lol
Oh yea S/O to my baby Ms. #3 she's relatable, fun, familiar to me, and she badd and in church. Yooo 🙋🏾♂️
OMG😱 number 2 doesn't look like a virgin at all...and he has this attitude I can't explain expect in my local language 😑
Lool!! You can still say it in your local language.loool!! He really seems like he has a mother wound or something...like he is God's gift to women...but...I could be wrong too.🤷♀️
How does someone look like a Virgin then? lol
Brandon Lee agreed - There’s no look to virginity
What do virgins look like ?
BUT HE IS! LOOK AT GOD!!!!💜 Ain't Got Good!💕 the outside appearance can be what's not the story. And thats beautiful!
OMG!!! This premier is taking so looooong 😢
#1 and #3 😍 the intellect.... comeeeeeee onnnnnn. But I really like #1’s mind. You could tell he knows how to have a healthy conversation.
With regards to the the prenup question, I agree you need to discuss it, you also need to pray over it and you need to seek legal counsel. You don’t just sign a prenup, you negotiate one. If your future spouse presents this and you are caught unawares or hadn’t considered it you need legal advice. Romance and naïveté are out of the window at this point because prenups can be tools of control and abuse and maybe a man comes in with more but you need to consider your future earning power. This is something that I’d consider on multiples planes - the physical, the spiritual, the emotional, the financial and the legal.
People can only speak on their personal experience. But if you keep going after or attracting immature women, then you need to look in the mirror. A mature man would diversify his experiences and then look at what he needs to improve, instead of blaming the women.
Now, I am not negating anyone’s attributes in this video, but #1 (the guy) is full of such wisdom and maturity. I totally agree with his comment on plastic surgery. “Don’t confirm her feelings of inadequacy.” And, #2 (the girl) is very mature as well. Hm.. you think her and number 1 would be compatible?🧐
I really like this series! And
I appreciate their answer to the planned parenthood question! I agree!!
Sounds like these men need to heal and mature... if you’re generalizing all women based on your last experience, you’re probably not ready to enter in to a new relationship or even marriage.
Samantha Black agreed!
Thank you all for sharing & being transparent.
The question " why aren't you married" was not about other people you dated, it's Not "why aren't they married to you?" You are the person attracting and entertaining them, the answers should pertain what it is about you on why you're not married, not everyone else. #2 Why were you entertaining these unaccountable women, what is it about you that chose them because the root goes deeper? #3 You hadn't come across the woman for you according to communication barriers, etc. #1 Not prepared for a healthy relationship at that time.
Appreciate all answers about planned parenthood
Sexual compatibility: Agree with #1 fully, agree with #3 about foundation, #2 agree with sexual therapy too
Sometimes it can be psychological, lack of intimacy, emotional healing needed, etc.
Ok, I'll stop there, lol
Thank you for sharing this experience!!!
Agree with 1 and 2 about infidelity, proud of the guys owning up to their sexuality... Being a virgin is like a taboo these days...
If I am in a courting relationship, I don't see myself going on with the relationship after infidelity happens, because. I don't how I would be able to forgive and forget and move on to marriage with that same person. If infidelity happened in marriage, then that's a different story. My feelings leave very quickly after betrayal and they stay gone.
The vilification of guy #2 sucks. A lot of the ladies in the comments are assuming that the guys were implying that they were perfect in their relationships when they spoke about accountability. And THEN getting worked up over an assumption they arbitrarily cooked up.
Stop posting before its ready. I aint got no patience 😡😂
They need to staaaap.... 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂
Cultivating that fruit of the spirit😂😂😂
Nothing but facts from the men 💯. Some of y’all are mad but it is their answers and perspectives. These are great Christian men so instead of dismissing what they say maybe try to listen.
The infidelity question. Personally, I don't think I would stay. That's one thing I find hard to look past, probably because I've witnessed what it does to the woman who stays. My trust is very fragile. I know it's not okay to just be like "ya well that's just how I am" but honestly, like number 2 said, the Trinity would have to come down and tell me to do it because I don't think I'm at that place yet. Especially, when we're progressing into marriage... Mate, if he comes home late from work one day imma think he was cheating. If he has a female friend, imma think he's cheating with her. If he breathes too loud, he's cheating. Basically, I'd just be so insecure. Nah bruh
I can't wait to watch these I love them
On the prenup question, I learned from a friend of mine who lived in South Africa for a year, she's from Atlanta, that the necessity or even chat about a prenup is really touchy. I am much like number 2 on it, that I wouldn't be particularly phased by it but we need to talk about it. Based on my parents marriage alone, my experience tells me to get the prenup because women here don't stagnate, we end up being worth a lot more after years of marriage and thus at fiscal risk rather than position of profit should the marriage, God forbid, fail.
In fact, women stay in abusive relationships because they do not have prenup (in community marriages are common place and were designed to protect women when they were unable to work) so for wives two and three generations ago it was a no brainer to say no to a prenup because it would leave her in the same position she was in and possibly worse if she has kids to take care of.
Its another area I really need to submit to God, but that's not to say that my opinion on it will or won't change but it's definitely not fully formed based on scripture
I agree. It's a matter of pragmatism. How many times have joint accounts been frozen once one spouse dies? Not to mention the subsequent headache to unfreeze. Plus the tax on the joint income. It's cheaper to declare income separately. PLUS, in-laws and illegitimate offspring popping up to claim support at funerals. It's a potential mess. That has played out waaaaay too many times 🇿🇦
@@gugulethumhlanga8356 you see? Its these things that will often decide the necessity of a prenup
It would be nice if all Christians around the world could be in agreement but by context, here in South Africa, prenuptial agreement of some kind is not a complete no. We know good and well that we marry into families who are not all of faith and value their sons way above they value daughters and will gladly "protect their son" at his wife's expense whether things are in a state of divorce or a death of the spouse.
Number 3 in the grey is speaking straight FACTS 💯👏👏👏👏👏
Of all the series, this has been one of the best especially when number 2 (girls) asked the question about sexual compatibility, I like how number 2 and 3 (guys) answered the questions. One of the reasons I decided not to be sexually active till marriage was I didn't want to start comparing. I feel it wouldn't be fair for my future spouse.
I've had a breast augmentation 5 years ago. After nursing 5 babies, my husband and I agreed to get the surgery. It was a must!! LOL
Antoinette Burns haha lol
I'm not going to front, the way the men treated the women on last week's episode, I didn't care for any of them based on how they were judging the women. However, there were some very good answers from the men on this episode, and the most beautiful part is, how two were virgins and one was waiting. At a time in my life, although I wanted to wait for marriage to have sex, I didn't believe that I would find a man that would, but the fact that so many African-American men who are Believers, are now waiting for marriage, it makes me want to breakout in a dance, it's beautiful. This is new, because I met many men in The Church just some years back who wouldn't wait, and so this is so refreshing. I do however believe the men have some maturing to do, because we draw what we are. They spoke about the women in their relationships not being accountable, and although the brokenness of the woman may not be their exact brokenness, broken people draw broken people, like "hurt people, hurt people." They need to look in the mirror and access with the Holy Spirit, why they keep drawing a certain type of woman. I'm not talking out the side of my neck, I had to address this concerning my former boyfriend, and this is where I found my own brokenness which I had to invite the Lord in to heal me. I believe self-assessment, not just looking at the negatives of their former girlfriend, needs to be addressed, and this is where true healing, deliverance, can come in, so that they will be ready for their wife.
First: I LOVE this series. Great job!
Suggestion:
Due to how sensitive the topics got beginning at 7:25, I think you guys should have pop-up citations as the participants speak when it comes to facts and recounting history-- creates more credibility!
I really like number 1, he seems really grounded.
The good old American date system😂😂 thought it was premiering in October the 5
Lisa Medla 🤣🤣🤣 it gets me all the time
Romanticism is so terrible love is not like I love my sister 24/7 but when we are bickering I don't like her I still lover her though. We need to get past the temporary feelings and learn to really love
Keke Seay amen real love is commitment period. Life will have it’s up and downs, you won’t always agree but you stay committed to that person. I think it’s these fairytales that have people chasing after some perfect 24/7 “love” that doesn’t exist. Marriage is between 2 FLAWED individuals becoming one helping each other to grow
This is so interesting! I really enjoyed watching and hearing the prospectives of both sides! Looking forward to more and would even like to be apart of the next conversation. This is great
That's funny how they put the blame on the women as to why they're not married as if they have no issues
Great job fellas💪🏽
I love these!!
Per usual, great episode. In this episode, I was able to see the women respond more. Furthermore, based on my opinions on the Part 2 series, it was clarified at the "reveal" I guess. The guys admitted to being more playful as they imagined it was more laid back as it was not perceived like this to the women. I was pleased with the apology. And the guys somewhat came back from their "high horse" once they saw the women. Found that funny lol. These thought provoking questions allowed to to critically think as well which is great! So why is Number 3 single?! jk lol but tbh, I admired his responses more. It made him look more attractive. He's open but still stays true to himself which I can appreciate. It was a shock that the other 2 men are virgins. I think it's more shocking that all of these men are still single. Could they be picky? As far as a soulmate, completely agree with woman #2. I think there's the "perfect one" for you in which God would ultimately want for you but there are options and free will where others could be compatible with you. In Genesis 22, God created a helpmate for Adam to present to him and Adam said "this is bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh" meaning he was able to see (with guidance from God I'm sure) that she was the one for Him. That screams the one to me but I could be wrong. In regards to the surgery, I absolutely agree with #1 with his perspective. personally still think regardless of the reason why, there's still a level of insecurity, unless it's a matter of life and death. Can we do what we want with our Body though? Not being judgmental, really asking. Insecurity is defined as the uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence. Technically, it is an insecurity, even if it's in oneself. Loved how ALL MEN spoke on Parent Planned Hood. Way to insert some awareness, I like! Infidelity, IDK. I need God lol. But I would have to be opened to forgiveness. Just don't know how lol. This experience was great. I did enjoy its authenticity and it definitely shows us where we are as a body of Christ. I just challenge us to trust that as a body, we just want the BEST for the BODY. We should be open to wisdom and constructive criticism and on the flip-side, we should be slow to speak/anger, quick to listen. This demonstrates much mentor-ship is needed and my next steps would be to study and read to educate the youth that is among me and to be an example. Scriptures I have are: Philippians 4:6-7, Proverbs 3:5-6 (all-time favorite), Matthew 6:33, Remembering the story of Ruth and Naomi (Purpose before the Partner), Proverbs 31 (things to fully learn as a woman) and Genesis 22:21-25. Thank you for this!
Okayyyy #3 okay!! with the not having to grow up because of used to dealing with trash men. I never considered that perspective about myself. I mean I don’t get approached like that anyway but I wonder what I’d do if I met a non trash man. 🤔
I have hope..... thank God
Is #1 still available or nah ?
I honestly believe that for every Adam there's an Eve💞
I am loving these questions and responses I can relate to alot of them
Number 2 for the women and number 1 belong together! Just my opinion! Lol
I appreciate #3 because he took the blame on himself FIRST as to why he was not married. Unlike 1 and 2 blaming women for why THEY are not married. Smh
Ok I paused and had to come back 🤣....Virgins? .....Wow.... this brings so much perspective as to why the two men had the answers they had, especially the one in the middle. I guarantee if we were to get a peak into their childhood structures and or traumas we would understand even more why they see thru the lenses that they see thru and why there seems to be very little self reflection and more blaming etc. I appreciate all perspectives thou, everyone’s truth is their reality. But sometimes we cannot always blame the others but question why we keep running into the same type of person just a different face of what he said is true. What in us is attracting that and what in us needs healing! We all play a part in every relationship or interaction we entertain
Hey Tiffany, I love your feedback however I'd love to get a slightly better understanding to your perspective. Where did you feel I placed blame in the "lenses" I spoke through?
gemiinii1 it’s all in the video 🤷🏽♀️🤣
gemiinii1 responses, perspective, body language and demeanor!
#2 used what I use as guidance... God himself needs to come give me the heads up. "like hey sis"😂
Im dissapointed that the myth that all couples are sexually compatable is still toted today given all the information we have about human bodies. A man and woman may not be compatable but christians like to say 'oh you will be'... just based on being men and women... that just sets couples up for frustration. I like the answer of seeing a sex therapist. Women are usually expected to settle for lack luster experiences and its not fair. This is a virgin speaking women talk and we know what constitutes a wack experience without having had it... Just saying.
This myth is why upwards of 80% of women have NEVER experienced a vaginal orgasm and 65% have NEVER experienced a clitoral orgasm. Sex is one of the few topics discussed in the church outside of stay pure until marriage, with the emphasis being on female purity. Sex therapy was the track that I was on until life happened. The things you learn during this study is mindboggling and eye opening.
Guy number 2... is a interesting character.
What was the vetting process? How ready do we feel each of these people are...??? On male side, #2 challenged all the Jesus in me!!! Who are your male accountability partners? Are you able to sit with self and watch your body, facial, and expressions? #ONEFORDAWIN!!!
I did not know that about planned parenting. In South Africa a lot of the resources around planned parenting and reproductive health is all responsive. Teeangers are being allowed to have abortions because our communities don't talk about sex, so curiousity leads to misconduct, kids are being allowed access to contraceptive because the same reason mentioned before. Its all responsive. But as for why it's offered to adults, I really did not know that it has KKK origins, that's very interesting
In regards to the sex questions the ladies were making assumptions on things they have not experienced. I don’t agree you would know with nothing to compare to. People can become sexually compatible through education, work and experiences of their own.
The soulmate question... Its been romcom'd to death (and I cannot stand romcoms) so I have no purely biblical reference for it. But then you think "But Eve was made for Adam" to which I say, woman was made for man, but not necessarily this individual was made for this individual. I still battle with that concept because after doing a singles workshop at church, it makes more sense for me practically and in Spirit to believe that I am compatible with at least 10 people but of that ten one will be my husband. But and this is a big but, that one could be any of that 10 that allows God in his heart to communicate to him that "Son, there she is"
Yeah, I don't think Adam and Eve should ever be the example of a loving, accountable, or successful marriage...Maybe "struggle" marriage, haha. Mary and Joseph seem like a better example.
@@Heyu7her3 okay
Um yeah I’m not signing a prenup lol. I got assets too and honestly if I’m marrying you, I’m willing to give it all up and I would hope that you are too 🤷🏾♀️ in marriage I would hope that we would be a unit anyways, I’m a builder so even as we’re married you won’t be the only one collecting assets.
These comments proves the guy in the middle's point about women! Lol and I'm a woman! No accountability! We as women gotta do better!!!!!
Alrighttt number 1 😉😏
On cheating 😂😂. Yey Yey, someone doesn't cheat and tell me it's God's will. She can miss me.
A prenuptial agreement to me sounds very selfish, and if that’s the first thing that they bring up ,that is a red flag to me .two becoming one is in everything, not just sex or for the sake of having a partner .Like what is their motive?
Virgin men!! Amazing!!!
Omgggggg I love FREKE
Go numba twooo!! Number one is a Virgiiiin!!!
Me: O_O!?
I believe that sexuality should be discussed at the beginning, and two mature adult who desire to please God can openly talk about threes things with wisdom.
On the adultery topic:
Hebrews 13:4: Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Exodux 20:14: You shall not commit adultery.
Proverbs 6:32: He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.
Matthew 19:9: And I say to you: whoever divorces his [spouse] except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.
Can’t wait!!! 🥶⏰
Question:Why are you not married?
Men: It's the woman's fault.
😑😑😑😑🥴🥴🥴🥴
Exactly! How convenient for a whole gender be the reason YOU are single?
VIEWS PLEASE: I've heard of Christians who are waiting on married on their husband "VIRGINS" but at the same time giving pleasure to themselves in order for them to know what gives them pleasure personally in order to prepare the husband in advance. What do you guys think about this? Would you do it?? Would you appreciate to find out that your partner already knows their body and that you've already got direction in your sexual intimacy
If you're not planning to get a divorce and it not an option ... then why get a prenup. The ladies lost me there.
I appreciate the rawness in the guys answers. I really wanna their perspective
Why do you get car or homeowners insurance? And in those cases, you're forced to get it in order to legally operate in those functions.
@@BluDrop5 👋🏾 As Christians we're taught to walk by faith. Trust God. Follow his lead. When entering into a marriage I don't believe in "insurance" or a "just incase things fall apart". A prenup TO ME is a just that. We're so committed to God and each other that we need a "just incase things fall apart". What happened to trusting God and following his lead? The idea of a prenup is too much of an out to me.
I love #1's mind gosh why can't most men have his mentality.
If you want your spouse to sign a prenup, don't marry that person. It's contradictory to say you'll never divorce but have a contingency plan in case you do. That means you have doubt, fear and lack faith in this union which I would advise not to enter into. I think it puts a dark cloud over the marriage and encourages division
Well, if that were true, you'd never (to be forced to) have car or homeowner's insurance. Heck, you still need to get insurance when you rent a car.