It’s common for relationships to hit rough patches, yet there’s always a way to move forward. My own marriage faced serious obstacles, but with the right support, my wife and I overcame them and grew closer. With effort and teamwork, solutions are possible. Don’t give up-answers are attainable.
I’m struggling with significant issues in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her so much, and I’m prepared to do anything to bring her back into my life. I’d be very thankful for any help or advice you could offer.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'm grateful for your guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her greatly.
@@EllyzGoodwill marriages work when we work them that’s my slogan. When they don’t work someone is refusing to do the work of working things because marriage is work
Mankind O man kind , what a creature we are , the man confessed and admitted his wrong , he confessed his filthy deeds, admitted his wrong , why you need to hear the other side , THAT WHO WE ARE , WE LIKE TO DIG BENEATH THE THE BLOOD OF FORGIVENESS TO EXPOSE THE DETAIL , that’s true corrupt human nature , liked to judge, this why you want to hear the other side , What more do you want, I DID IT I WAS WRONG. what more do you want hear !!!!
My question is " Why not save his own marriage?" What a testimony and example that will be !! That after all these years, and with all the knowledge that he now has, God has chosen to restore his marriage. He has not met his "future wifey " as yet because that is not God's plan for him.
The interviewer did a great job by asking all the important questions giving us the opportunity to see the journey of his growth. He isn't a saint, but he is a great man y'all. May God keep using him as a vessel to transform and inspire our generation.
She went numb when u told her about the others because it. Hurt too much for her to handle. I think in the beginning she really did give her all to u. Then there was the betrayal & she couldn't come back from ...the hurt a women experiences from a man she LOVES & trusts cuts DEEP...Divorce was the best thing for both of you.
And his divorce still isnt valid. He needed to repent to her and the LORD and till his dying day seek to serve and love her as Christ does the church. For him to say God was okay with his divorce is nuts. He broke the vows. He doesn't deserve another wife and I pray he never gets one. His language is all wrong.
@@NB-nh2sfwhy would either one want to stay in a misaligned and broken marriage? I don’t believe God put us on this earth to be unhappy. We all deserved to be treated with that utmost love and respect.
She should not have given half of her self marriage is all she did not come in with all her heart she gave half and half does not work even if your partner has faults you do your part to please God first and allow him to work on your partner. She was defrauding the man not for any good reason
Laterras, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability. As a Day 1 for DFW, I truly appreciate how you continue to cover your ex-wife, and you stand 10 toes down on owning your part for the demise of your marriage. I am so glad that God is a redeemer of our stories. He does not use an eraser. He simply covers it with the blood, and gives us the opportunity to use the word of our testimony to overcome what the enemy meant for our destruction. Thank you that you did not shrink back even when faced with death of the podcast at 500 subs. You have changed so many lives, including mine. May the host of this podcast gain encouragement as he rises to do the same. 🙏🏾💜
Judging by what he said about her being a private person and what not, we'll probably never hear her side and he knows that so therefore, he can basically tell us anything! IJS
This guy really puts out way more self-importance than he deserves. There is nothing special or unique about his "story." Men cheat and divorce their wives all the time. Some have regrets, some don't. He's not the first, he won't be last. He didn't invent any of that. The people in the relationship and doing the hard work, day in and day out salvaging their marriage deserve all the credit for saving it. To me, he gives off highly narcissistic vibes. Today he is saving marriages, Tomorrow he will be the solution to peace in the Middle East.
I dont think he nor the host said he invented anything or that he did something uncommon. Sharing your story ( whatever it is regardless of commonality) helps those who are stuck in it and feel isolated on the issue. Check out his podcast and hear his guests. Some married 30+ years, some on the brink of divorce and overcame it others divorced and some never married. It definitely breaks down so many aspects of relationship and gets beyond the surface, so ppl dating/married can get to depth and not stay stuck on the superficial parts.
I have heard his podcast many times. . That is why I made the comments. He is not saving marriages. The people who do the hard work required to overcome challenges saved their marriage. He simply told a story of his life. What people do with that information is up to them and them alone. @@eebz5
@@eebz5 You are correct, The host nor his guest said he invented anything. I was the one who said he is acting like he has done something special or invented something new. The people who saved their marriages are the two people who committed to do the hard work required. They are the only ones who deserve all of the credit. For anyone to say he saved anyone marriage is arrogant. All this dude did was tell a story about his life. What people do with that information is up to them and the work they put in is what counts. We only have his version of events His wife has her version, which surprisingly he doesn't have her on his podcast to tell her truth and a hard a real honest and open discussion. I wonder why.
@queenadventures4258 your viewpoint is strong with no research. He's spoken of his ex many times as they maintain relationship. He wanted her to come in and since she doesn't care for the spotlight, she declined yet gave him clearance to speak on their past. I would love to share more, but I see it being pointless. Check out his podcast to balance your perspective. It has saved marriages and given singles and married ppl insight on how to better in relationship to avoid unnecessary hardship & divorce. Some ppl state the obvious as if it is profound. Clearly ppl in the marriage chose to work on it. Many use tools provided 3rd parties such as his podcast. Enjoy. Good bye.
This just popped up. Laterras every time you tell your story I can see your growth. You are doing the work and it is showing. Can I be the little spoon.🫢😂The power of the pivot. Come on 👏🏾👏🏾Very great interview
I watch Dear Future Wifey for the interviews of "couples". Laterras' ex wife is not there to share her side. We dont get her memory of what occurred. We dont have the liberty of hearing how she felt and what kind of wife she desired to be to Laterras. Just because a man publicly admits to cheating......it does not mean hes an honest man. This may be "HIS TRUTH" versus "THE TRUTH". THERE IS A DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!
@Imthatjackie0808 he's stated on multiple episodes when he refers to her that she didnt want to be on the show to share her story. He also stated she gave him clearance on what he can share. He also shared the house he bought this year was bc she was his realtor. We don't have to believe it. But I doubt every cheating man is liar in all thing in all ways for the rest of their lives.
@@lionessnala2000 That's the part I dislike to my core. If transparency and truth are the objective, don't even mention what the ex-wife did, didn't do, said or didn't say. It does sound like ....."yeah, I was wrong but she made me do it"
I heard him take accountability/responsibility for what he did. If a wife finds out that her husband is masturbating and her response isn’t why didn’t you just come to me? Something is wrong, and that’s both person’s responsibility to resolve.
So pleased your marriage worked out... how about grace for those whose marriages didn't work out like yours... thank God that He is soooo gracious and He corrects. If indeed laterass is being sneaky... Trust that God will correct him... or pray for the Holy Spirit to convict him. Or pray for his marriage to work like yours. 😊
@@beautifultruth4777she told him she didn’t want their marriage to be based on sex. She might have viewed him madturbating as him not putting his high libido on her. She did nothing wrong.
I listened but I am not judging! I look at you differently now. You started out by saying you will take responsibility, but throughout this conversation you definitely pointed that finger quite a few times. It's very unfair to do that unless she's there to speak for herself. Anyway .... good luck future wifey, because I am trying to understand who's trying to be number 2, unless for reasons of having become a widow, prior to.
Great share Mr Whitfield... I truly am grateful for your growth and determination to become a better future you!!! However, some men cannot handle hearing the truth of infidelity even if it doesn't reach to a physical sexual act. From what I've learnt understanding where that man is in his relationship with GOD is important to first consider.
I see a lot of comments saying that she might have closed up because of trauma from the relationships but i think it might have been childhood related trauma. For the fact that she didnt even want to go to church and that she was aware that she isn't giving herself fully into the marriage. It looks like it is something that she learnt from the very young age. To withhold parts of herself and isolate either it sex , love or community. She put a lot of effort into protecting herself and i see parts of me in that and i hope she is has learnt to open herself to healing and living life fully 🙏.
Not the blueprint, unless the spouse passes away, commits adultery, or life threatening abuse. If TODAY someone divorces their husband, wife, for a frivolous reason, inconvenience, etc, something outside of death or adultery, abuse then NO you just don't marry again and again and again. Too wide open, and an easy out for the person that gets a divorce. Know a lady, she's older now, but she was in a pretty good marriage to a preacher they both worked together in ministry, two children also, and once he got a new better paying job and hanging around people that were not likeminded especially, he decided to leave his family for another woman. Years later married a woman that he got pregnant (think a different one) not the one he left his wife for. He later apologized to his wife, years later. Wife never married again, stayed in church, and their son in and out of prison, been messed up ever since his father left. Never married, no children.
Exactly! This is what I’m saying. There are biblical grounds for remarriage and it has to fall under the Word. People divorce and remarried for all sorts of reasons. He needs to go back to his ex wife or stay single because that’s what the word says or wait until if or when she passes away. It’s hard to follow the Lords way but it’s the best way.
The power of the pivot!! I need to learn that. I recently retired, I'm better however it's definitely been an adjustment. "Submit to the season. Mourn the death of that season and go to the next season"
Maybe she was not vulnerable to him cause of the company he kept, evil communication corrupts good manners, although if she felt that way and he knew that way, then why get married in the first place, People dont struggle 2gether anymore, but leave and divorce and then have the nerves to look for another spouse in GOD, GOD forgive us all
Not every woman or man is meant to be married. Some people should live alone because they do not know how to open up themselves to love and be loved. Love is about being affectionate, touching and kissing and all that good stuff and some people are just not into that. If you're not then stay by yourself..
The ex wife sounds like she didn’t want to be vulnerable to him. I wonder if he did something before the marriage that caused her to withhold so much emotionally and physically.
Laterras cheated on his wife before they married. I think it was multiple times too. She probably didn't feel safe enough in the marriage to trust him and open up. Guys seem to think that they can get both- live a sexually loose lifestyle pre-marriage and get a 100% of a woman in marriage. It's very difficult to build a house on a verified weak foundation. They probably should not have gotten married. Love and the desire for a healthy marriage is not enough.
She held back from day 1. That’s so sad. She withheld sex and emotional intimacy. She also didn’t go to church.. unequally yoked spiritually, physically, emotionally.
This man isnt looking for marriage he said so himself he does good being abstinent for about 7 months then starts sleeping around again. People need to stop lying and playing with God so much.
I’m a lot confused. According to the Bible, he should not get remarried. Did his wife pass away? It does not sound like she cheated on him. Would he not then be committing adultery if he remarries?
Yes exactly! People don’t want to follow God’s way because it’s harder to but you are correct. According to scripture he can’t remarry unless she passes away or he goes back to her and remarry her.
His cheating had nothing to do with his wife... It was as a result of his desires which didn't align with God's. The wife needed help and he didn't help her
@@akuakonadu684 Brief and straight to the point. This is it in a nutshell. You NAILED IT 🔥 He had some fluttery "emotional experience" (which a lot of people sadly call LOVE). He got married. But his heart was not truly seeking God's will for that union. So he sought after other "fluttery feelings" with other women. Actually.....when he tells his story, he needs to leave his wife's attitude, actions, responses out of it. To me..... it's cowardly. He cheated early and multiple times. This has nothing to do with his wife. Nothing.
Hold on so he was fornicating, got married, cheated on his wife and then filed for divorce. Then he gets a pat on the back because he admitted it. He had no grounds to divorce and has to remain single and has caused great pain to his ex-wife. I understand that God forgives our sins when we confess and forsake those sins but it doesnt mean we get away with not dealing with the consequences. When david sinned with bathsheba he was forgiven however his affair baby died, and the sword did not depart from his household.
Truth is we fall into God's grace not out of it ♥️ . Think about it the Biblical definition of grace is m: A free gift from God that is undeserved and cannot be earned
The cheater is a piece of 💩!!! Period !!! The fact that ur put ur thing in every hole is disgusting !!! And u have no regard for ur body and self !!! If u cheat once ….. u MUST LEAVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!……… If u cannot get what you wanted, u must tell ur spouse and leave !!! Don’t cheat while u r in it !!! Cheating means u r spoiling ur body with nonsense…..and ask urself how u treat ur wife how she feels about u !!!
I admire the work you're doing to help others, Laterras. Have you ever consider reconciliation with your ex- wife and giving a go again. It seems to me you still love her. All things are possible with God.
This is only one side of the story people. You need to hear both sides before you cast judgments. Stop blaming the wife when you have yet to hear her side of the story.
Check out his podcast. She gave him permission to speak on it. She didnt want public attention so she didnt come on the podcast. He has spoken on all of hia shortcomings and withheld parts about her out of respect. They maintain some level of relationship just not romantic.
She opened the door. It's never your fault..My husband opened the door too and I am currently in a predicament too like you. I pray that God will help me.
Did God, approve your relationship or marriage? Did you go to counseling before you got married? Why did you have major problems so early in your marriage? Did God give you signs about your relationship?
We REALLY need to normalize couples having other couples to be accountable to cause, yes, WE ALL JACKED UP 😂😂 shame has to GO to receive healing. At the end of the day, God is pleased 💯 IYKYK
Well Laterras I have looking at Podcasts for a few weeks they are informative and outstanding. When it's time for your person God will give her to you let's be clear the Devil hears prayers too so be careful to discern which one is for you. Now don't abandon the Podcast when you do 😂😂😂😂😂
THANK YOU GOD;.... FOR LOOKING BEYOND MY FAULTS AND SEEING MY NEEDS.....AMEN ALL MY TRUST IS IN YOU GOD I WILL SERVE GOD WHOLE HEARTEDLY.... IT SOUNDS TO ME IT'S NOT SHE DID NOT CARE, SHE WERE SPEECHLESS WITH HIS BEHAVIOR, AT THE TIME IT SEEMS HIS EGO OR PRIDE PLAYED A HUGE PART, ALONE WITH HIM SEEMS TO BE FLIRTATIOUS... AT THE END OF THE DAY I'M GLAD YOU CHANGED YOUR LIFE....AMEN ALWAYS REMEMBER TEMPTATION ALWAYS LURKING AROUND, IF YOUR NOT STRONG MINDED.... YOUR FALL FOR ANYTHING
We REALLY need to normalize couples having older, healthy couples to be accountable to cause, yes, WE ALL JACKED UP 😂😂 shame has to GO to receive healing
It bothers me that the sexuality is the reason that it went wrong in the marriage the more I listen the more it sounds like crap and it sounds like you are trying to get a platform I don't hear integrity I only hear she is this and she wasn't that love believes the best and protects she did not want her business out there and you could not wait to expose her you were the problem
He refers to God alot and I'm happy that he doesn't quote scriptures but I did notice how he doesn't bring up what's in the Bible about how one is not to marry another IF their wife/husband is still ALIVE! I know that we all fall short of the glory of God but maybe that's why his FUTURE wifey hasn't manifested because he PRESENTLY has one according to the WORD!!
It’s common for relationships to hit rough patches, yet there’s always a way to move forward. My own marriage faced serious obstacles, but with the right support, my wife and I overcame them and grew closer. With effort and teamwork, solutions are possible. Don’t give up-answers are attainable.
I’m struggling with significant issues in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her so much, and I’m prepared to do anything to bring her back into my life. I’d be very thankful for any help or advice you could offer.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'm grateful for your guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her greatly.
You should... I promise you will not regret it
@@EllyzGoodwill marriages work when we work them that’s my slogan. When they don’t work someone is refusing to do the work of working things because marriage is work
Until you hear the ex wife’s story, pls withhold your comments. His story is from his perspective ONLY.
Mankind O man kind , what a creature we are , the man confessed and admitted his wrong , he confessed his filthy deeds, admitted his wrong , why you need to hear the other side , THAT WHO WE ARE , WE LIKE TO DIG BENEATH THE THE BLOOD OF FORGIVENESS TO EXPOSE THE DETAIL , that’s true corrupt human nature , liked to judge, this why you want to hear the other side , What more do you want, I DID IT I WAS WRONG. what more do you want hear !!!!
Yes , rightly said.
I would love to hear his ex-wife's story
We already know she not gone share her business.
I’m 9 minutes in and one thing I can conclude that could save us all a lot of heartache is, “Marriage doesn’t solve your lust problem”
My question is " Why not save his own marriage?" What a testimony and example that will be !! That after all these years, and with all the knowledge that he now has, God has chosen to restore his marriage. He has not met his "future wifey " as yet because that is not God's plan for him.
They’re always 3 sides to a story! His side Her side and the truth! Amen 🙏🙏.
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The interviewer did a great job by asking all the important questions giving us the opportunity to see the journey of his growth. He isn't a saint, but he is a great man y'all. May God keep using him as a vessel to transform and inspire our generation.
thanks so much and very well said!
She went numb when u told her about the others because it. Hurt too much for her to handle. I think in the beginning she really did give her all to u. Then there was the betrayal & she couldn't come back from ...the hurt a women experiences from a man she LOVES & trusts cuts DEEP...Divorce was the best thing for both of you.
Yep
Cheating is about selfishness, resentment and no relationship with GOD. We ❤️ Love the LORD
and hate what God hate.
Your former wife didn’t give herself fully to you bc for some reason, she never felt 100% safe/vulnerable with you.
And his divorce still isnt valid. He needed to repent to her and the LORD and till his dying day seek to serve and love her as Christ does the church. For him to say God was okay with his divorce is nuts. He broke the vows. He doesn't deserve another wife and I pray he never gets one. His language is all wrong.
@@NB-nh2sfare you the ex wife? Let’s not caste stones. We are all sinners in need of our Savior
@@NB-nh2sfwhy would either one want to stay in a misaligned and broken marriage? I don’t believe God put us on this earth to be unhappy. We all deserved to be treated with that utmost love and respect.
She should not have given half of her self marriage is all she did not come in with all her heart she gave half and half does not work even if your partner has faults you do your part to please God first and allow him to work on your partner. She was defrauding the man not for any good reason
@@womenspowerhouryikes. Were you in their marriage?
The interviewer is fabulous. He asks great questions and the tone & tenor of his voice… reflections.. how he connects thoughts. Great convo.
Laterras, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability. As a Day 1 for DFW, I truly appreciate how you continue to cover your ex-wife, and you stand 10 toes down on owning your part for the demise of your marriage. I am so glad that God is a redeemer of our stories. He does not use an eraser. He simply covers it with the blood, and gives us the opportunity to use the word of our testimony to overcome what the enemy meant for our destruction. Thank you that you did not shrink back even when faced with death of the podcast at 500 subs. You have changed so many lives, including mine. May the host of this podcast gain encouragement as he rises to do the same. 🙏🏾💜
Just really would like to hear the wife’s side of this story!
Me too
Judging by what he said about her being a private person and what not, we'll probably never hear her side and he knows that so therefore, he can basically tell us anything! IJS
This guy really puts out way more self-importance than he deserves. There is nothing special or unique about his "story." Men cheat and divorce their wives all the time. Some have regrets, some don't. He's not the first, he won't be last. He didn't invent any of that.
The people in the relationship and doing the hard work, day in and day out salvaging their marriage deserve all the credit for saving it. To me, he gives off highly narcissistic vibes. Today he is saving marriages, Tomorrow he will be the solution to peace in the Middle East.
Excellent comment. There's something about him that doesn't ring true. Can't stand the word 'wifey'.
I dont think he nor the host said he invented anything or that he did something uncommon. Sharing your story ( whatever it is regardless of commonality) helps those who are stuck in it and feel isolated on the issue. Check out his podcast and hear his guests. Some married 30+ years, some on the brink of divorce and overcame it others divorced and some never married. It definitely breaks down so many aspects of relationship and gets beyond the surface, so ppl dating/married can get to depth and not stay stuck on the superficial parts.
I have heard his podcast many times. . That is why I made the comments. He is not saving marriages. The people who do the hard work required to overcome challenges saved their marriage.
He simply told a story of his life. What people do with that information is up to them and them alone. @@eebz5
@@eebz5 You are correct, The host nor his guest said he invented anything. I was the one who said he is acting like he has done something special or invented something new.
The people who saved their marriages are the two people who committed to do the hard work required. They are the only ones who deserve all of the credit. For anyone to say he saved anyone marriage is arrogant.
All this dude did was tell a story about his life. What people do with that information is up to them and the work they put in is what counts.
We only have his version of events His wife has her version, which surprisingly he doesn't have her on his podcast to tell her truth and a hard a real honest and open discussion. I wonder why.
@queenadventures4258 your viewpoint is strong with no research. He's spoken of his ex many times as they maintain relationship. He wanted her to come in and since she doesn't care for the spotlight, she declined yet gave him clearance to speak on their past. I would love to share more, but I see it being pointless. Check out his podcast to balance your perspective. It has saved marriages and given singles and married ppl insight on how to better in relationship to avoid unnecessary hardship & divorce. Some ppl state the obvious as if it is profound. Clearly ppl in the marriage chose to work on it. Many use tools provided 3rd parties such as his podcast. Enjoy. Good bye.
Leaving does not fix the problem but repentance does.
This just popped up. Laterras every time you tell your story I can see your growth. You are doing the work and it is showing. Can I be the little spoon.🫢😂The power of the pivot. Come on 👏🏾👏🏾Very great interview
Thank you. So much for being authentic. You have blessed me. ❤
This was quite transparent. More grace to you both.
I watch Dear Future Wifey for the interviews of "couples".
Laterras' ex wife is not there to share her side. We dont get her memory of what occurred. We dont have the liberty of hearing how she felt and what kind of wife she desired to be to Laterras.
Just because a man publicly admits to cheating......it does not mean hes an honest man. This may be "HIS TRUTH" versus "THE TRUTH".
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!
Exactly. This man seems suspect to me. I think he likes men too.
That Part!!!!
@Imthatjackie0808 he's stated on multiple episodes when he refers to her that she didnt want to be on the show to share her story. He also stated she gave him clearance on what he can share. He also shared the house he bought this year was bc she was his realtor. We don't have to believe it. But I doubt every cheating man is liar in all thing in all ways for the rest of their lives.
Freedom has allowed me to be honest. What was stated that could've been untruthful? I literally told on myself.
They were together 7 yrs and didn’t realize this would be a problem?
Discernment is a gift from god is so beautiful
Some people aren’t meant to be married but become close friends and I think that’s what make people confused. I hope they remain friends.
The grass and flowers may wither but he's word stands forever
Romans 7 1-3
Thank you for your broadcast your moving in the right direction I pray you find your soulmate and I’m praying for you I am on the same journey!
You cheated but you come here sneakly blaming her 🙄 you are divorced because you wanted to go ahead and mess up with other women.
He's been profiting from his story ever since.
@@lionessnala2000
That's the part I dislike to my core.
If transparency and truth are the objective, don't even mention what the ex-wife did, didn't do, said or didn't say.
It does sound like ....."yeah, I was wrong but she made me do it"
I heard him take accountability/responsibility for what he did. If a wife finds out that her husband is masturbating and her response isn’t why didn’t you just come to me? Something is wrong, and that’s both person’s responsibility to resolve.
So pleased your marriage worked out... how about grace for those whose marriages didn't work out like yours... thank God that He is soooo gracious and He corrects. If indeed laterass is being sneaky... Trust that God will correct him... or pray for the Holy Spirit to convict him. Or pray for his marriage to work like yours. 😊
@@beautifultruth4777she told him she didn’t want their marriage to be based on sex. She might have viewed him madturbating as him not putting his high libido on her.
She did nothing wrong.
I listened but I am not judging! I look at you differently now. You started out by saying you will take responsibility, but throughout this conversation you definitely pointed that finger quite a few times. It's very unfair to do that unless she's there to speak for herself. Anyway .... good luck future wifey, because I am trying to understand who's trying to be number 2, unless for reasons of having become a widow, prior to.
Sooooo candid...bless You
Thanks for sharing TRUTH TO POWER❤
Great share Mr Whitfield... I truly am grateful for your growth and determination to become a better future you!!! However, some men cannot handle hearing the truth of infidelity even if it doesn't reach to a physical sexual act. From what I've learnt understanding where that man is in his relationship with GOD is important to first consider.
It’s only flipped because it’s a fallen world. Unfortunately. But so proud of you. Thanks for sharing!
Wow! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.
I see a lot of comments saying that she might have closed up because of trauma from the relationships but i think it might have been childhood related trauma. For the fact that she didnt even want to go to church and that she was aware that she isn't giving herself fully into the marriage. It looks like it is something that she learnt from the very young age. To withhold parts of herself and isolate either it sex , love or community. She put a lot of effort into protecting herself and i see parts of me in that and i hope she is has learnt to open herself to healing and living life fully 🙏.
Not the blueprint, unless the spouse passes away, commits adultery, or life threatening abuse.
If TODAY someone divorces their husband, wife, for a frivolous reason, inconvenience, etc, something outside of death or adultery, abuse then NO you just don't marry again and again and again. Too wide open, and an easy out for the person that gets a divorce.
Know a lady, she's older now, but she was in a pretty good marriage to a preacher they both worked together in ministry, two children also, and once he got a new better paying job and hanging around people that were not likeminded especially, he decided to leave his family for another woman. Years later married a woman that he got pregnant (think a different one) not the one he left his wife for.
He later apologized to his wife, years later.
Wife never married again, stayed in church, and their son in and out of prison, been messed up ever since his father left. Never married, no children.
Exactly! This is what I’m saying. There are biblical grounds for remarriage and it has to fall under the Word. People divorce and remarried for all sorts of reasons. He needs to go back to his ex wife or stay single because that’s what the word says or wait until if or when she passes away. It’s hard to follow the Lords way but it’s the best way.
Laterras has grown in his relationship in christ,which definitely would make him an amazing husband.
He has. All the interviews he gets to host clearly demonstrates his journey, regrets and he working to do better.
Love always from Cameroon
delusional. You’ll buy a wolf ticket from anyone who mentions the Lord’s name.
@@WilliamsPinch my sentiments exactly. This man still sleeping around but would make a good husband...how?
The power of the pivot!! I need to learn that. I recently retired, I'm better however it's definitely been an adjustment. "Submit to the season. Mourn the death of that season and go to the next season"
He’s not saying something very important to this issue. I believe he just didn’t want to be married anymore and found a way out🤷🏾♀️
And uses this story wherever he goes. He comes across as insincere and hiding a secret.
Great segment!
Maybe she was not vulnerable to him cause of the company he kept, evil communication corrupts good manners, although if she felt that way and he knew that way, then why get married in the first place, People dont struggle 2gether anymore, but leave and divorce and then have the nerves to look for another spouse in GOD, GOD forgive us all
Not every woman or man is meant to be married.
Some people should live alone because they do not know how to open up themselves to love and be loved.
Love is about being affectionate, touching and kissing and all that good stuff and some people are just not into that.
If you're not then stay by yourself..
Honest man. Thank you for your truth.
This man is a walking contradiction. He still talks as if his divorce was needed and okay. 🙄
The ex wife sounds like she didn’t want to be vulnerable to him. I wonder if he did something before the marriage that caused her to withhold so much emotionally and physically.
She definitely didn’t feel emotionally “safe” with him.
He cheated before marriage as well.
From what I heard him say previously he cheated in dating and marriage and she wasn’t his type! She was a virgin!
She wasn't a virgin.
Laterras cheated on his wife before they married. I think it was multiple times too. She probably didn't feel safe enough in the marriage to trust him and open up. Guys seem to think that they can get both- live a sexually loose lifestyle pre-marriage and get a 100% of a woman in marriage. It's very difficult to build a house on a verified weak foundation. They probably should not have gotten married. Love and the desire for a healthy marriage is not enough.
May God continue to bless this podcast "Man Within" very good interview
She held back from day 1. That’s so sad. She withheld sex and emotional intimacy. She also didn’t go to church.. unequally yoked spiritually, physically, emotionally.
so he says
Laterras has grown and his knowledge is so helpful.
Absolutely enjoyed every single moment! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thank you Laterras! This is helpful on so many levels...
This man isnt looking for marriage he said so himself he does good being abstinent for about 7 months then starts sleeping around again. People need to stop lying and playing with God so much.
While I was listening to this a question came to mind. Can a vow be un-vowed?
I got a birthday coming up soon all be 48 this year it's a lot to unpack
I’m a lot confused. According to the Bible, he should not get remarried. Did his wife pass away? It does not sound like she cheated on him. Would he not then be committing adultery if he remarries?
Yes exactly! People don’t want to follow God’s way because it’s harder to but you are correct. According to scripture he can’t remarry unless she passes away or he goes back to her and remarry her.
His cheating had nothing to do with his wife... It was as a result of his desires which didn't align with God's.
The wife needed help and he didn't help her
THAT PART
@@akuakonadu684
Brief and straight to the point. This is it in a nutshell. You NAILED IT 🔥
He had some fluttery "emotional experience" (which a lot of people sadly call LOVE).
He got married. But his heart was not truly seeking God's will for that union.
So he sought after other "fluttery feelings" with other women.
Actually.....when he tells his story, he needs to leave his wife's attitude, actions, responses out of it. To me..... it's cowardly.
He cheated early and multiple times.
This has nothing to do with his wife. Nothing.
Hold on so he was fornicating, got married, cheated on his wife and then filed for divorce. Then he gets a pat on the back because he admitted it. He had no grounds to divorce and has to remain single and has caused great pain to his ex-wife. I understand that God forgives our sins when we confess and forsake those sins but it doesnt mean we get away with not dealing with the consequences. When david sinned with bathsheba he was forgiven however his affair baby died, and the sword did not depart from his household.
I'm having a hard time overcoming certain things l neglect my self worth sometimes l feel unworthy and l really shouldn't feel that way
Truth is we fall into God's grace not out of it ♥️ . Think about it the Biblical definition of grace is m: A free gift from God that is undeserved and cannot be earned
The cheater is a piece of 💩!!!
Period !!!
The fact that ur put ur thing in every hole is disgusting !!!
And u have no regard for ur body and self !!!
If u cheat once ….. u MUST LEAVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!………
If u cannot get what you wanted, u must tell ur spouse and leave !!!
Don’t cheat while u r in it !!!
Cheating means u r spoiling ur body with nonsense…..and ask urself how u treat ur wife how she feels about u !!!
I admire the work you're doing to help others, Laterras. Have you ever consider reconciliation with your ex- wife and giving a go again. It seems to me you still love her. All things are possible with God.
This is only one side of the story people. You need to hear both sides before you cast judgments. Stop blaming the wife when you have yet to hear her side of the story.
THIS
Check out his podcast. She gave him permission to speak on it. She didnt want public attention so she didnt come on the podcast. He has spoken on all of hia shortcomings and withheld parts about her out of respect. They maintain some level of relationship just not romantic.
Happy thanksgiving 🦃
I’m confused by him saying getting in like bunny’s the first year. They dated for 7 did they practice abstinence during the dating phase?
No, he cheated on her while they were dating, she was trying to be celibate, but gave in to him. He was never faithful to her
@@dr.l.thomas6804wow!!! Smh
She opened the door. It's never your fault..My husband opened the door too and I am currently in a predicament too like you. I pray that God will help me.
If u have kids …. I feel so sorry for them !!!
Hopefully they will be somehow ok
I like the Buffalo analogy!
I have been going crazy living by myself it's hard sometimes
God is all knowing
Did God, approve your relationship or marriage? Did you go to counseling before you got married? Why did you have major problems so early in your marriage? Did God give you signs about your relationship?
Do not justify yourself no loopholes justify cheating at all. You were not faithful that is all
I got a lot of anxiety when l really need to relax
We REALLY need to normalize couples having other couples to be accountable to cause, yes, WE ALL JACKED UP 😂😂 shame has to GO to receive healing. At the end of the day, God is pleased 💯 IYKYK
Wow it's God. Thanks Laterras. New subscriber here.
Beautiful demonstrate, we should stand around.
Well Laterras I have looking at Podcasts for a few weeks they are informative and outstanding. When it's time for your person God will give her to you let's be clear the Devil hears prayers too so be careful to discern which one is for you. Now don't abandon the Podcast when you do 😂😂😂😂😂
THANK YOU GOD;....
FOR LOOKING BEYOND MY FAULTS AND SEEING MY NEEDS.....AMEN
ALL MY TRUST IS IN YOU GOD
I WILL SERVE GOD WHOLE HEARTEDLY....
IT SOUNDS TO ME IT'S NOT SHE DID NOT CARE, SHE WERE SPEECHLESS WITH HIS BEHAVIOR,
AT THE TIME IT SEEMS HIS EGO OR PRIDE PLAYED A HUGE PART,
ALONE WITH HIM SEEMS TO BE FLIRTATIOUS... AT THE END OF THE DAY I'M GLAD YOU CHANGED YOUR LIFE....AMEN ALWAYS REMEMBER TEMPTATION ALWAYS LURKING AROUND, IF YOUR NOT STRONG MINDED.... YOUR FALL FOR ANYTHING
Merry Christmas happy new year
Girl are you OK you seem unhinged!
Please pray for me am worried l might hafe to have back surgery
Your a good man thank you for your honesty❤
I really need some deliverance one day
I'm trying to grow in education it's hard sometimes l do fall short of the glory of god little bit
Cheating is the fruit and not the root.
I'm trying to thrive and flourish but it isn't always smooth sailing
I have been in a lot of pain
You're not alone.
What in the world are people doing dating that in 7 years you don’t know who you are marrying?
He married someone that didn't need sex and didn't desire sex.
I am lacking emotional needs lately but l do need more self control
We REALLY need to normalize couples having older, healthy couples to be accountable to cause, yes, WE ALL JACKED UP 😂😂 shame has to GO to receive healing
It bothers me that the sexuality is the reason that it went wrong in the marriage the more I listen the more it sounds like crap and it sounds like you are trying to get a platform I don't hear integrity I only hear she is this and she wasn't that love believes the best and protects she did not want her business out there and you could not wait to expose her you were the problem
I do need to break a generational curses one day
Walking testimony
I never should have been cheating 😔
This is real Life and marriage
I been trying to keep it two myself little bit
My adopted daughter is very beautiful at least they still let me talk with her she getting married soon
Damn, she was never yours to begin with
He refers to God alot and I'm happy that he doesn't quote scriptures but I did notice how he doesn't bring up what's in the Bible about how one is not to marry another IF their wife/husband is still ALIVE! I know that we all fall short of the glory of God but maybe that's why his FUTURE wifey hasn't manifested because he PRESENTLY has one according to the WORD!!
I'm going through menopause
I had one year soberity l was doing so good
100% with CHRIST 100% in mariage. I like it.
This is only possible when the union is from God and God at the centre of it.
My back hurts alot
I need to learn how to have some patience
I still have my ups and downs
I need better alignment