Good gracious I am grateful for stumbling upon this. I saw myself immediately as a verbal assassin and I can not stand that horrible side of myself. I can do so much better than I do now, but lately I just seem to continue ending up in this same space. What's even more pathetic is that I really want to see my man face his challenges and overcome them, but I have watched myself wither into a person I also detest after the resentment kicked in. I need God.
I think your right on. You always hear one of the most important things for successful marriage is communication . We can communicate all day. But it must be meaningful and effective. I've been married 30 years and still learning things too enhance my marriage.
I like the idea about studying your partner... What you suggested is not only genius, but romantic... The idea of my husband and I being so devoted to each other that we literally document every little thing about the person so that we can fully learn about our partner and understand them on a near scholarly level. Get a PHD in your partner
Bravo. This is brilliantly put together, very well articulated and 100% spot on. I say that as a marriage therapist with 16 years working with couples.
@@tanayafowlkes2603 The problem there, is that if he is actually one, he plays by a different rule book and no, regular communication doesn't work. If he isn't one, yet uses those communication weapons, he would need to gain awareness of his impact on you and be WILLING to take responsibilty for his impact on you. If he won't take responsibility (responds to your request for change), and instead criticizes you for being too sensitive, (for example), you're left with setting boundaries which means moving distant in some way to not be impacted by his words/actions.
This message is so on point I watched it twice just now. I wish the text message at the end was still active… I need the 30 day communication challenge in my marriage.
This is so RICH and invaluable to a pillar (communication) I consider one of the most important to a long standing successful marriage. Thank you servant of God
May God provide you with love, respect and understanding for all of those who go through troubles in your marriages and if you are separated from your spouses. Keep the faith. Jesus loves you!
Both people must want to deeply do this. I implement ways to work on us, I was rededicated to god and my husband wasn’t, I involve biblical principles in my marriage and then some. He isn’t taking the charge to change his side of communication and yet, I’m always self aware of how I come off, reacting, while ensuring him that I’m listening. What’s so crazy is that his effort is Zero. So that means he’s not willing to change and that means he’s not self aware and doesn’t see his lack of husband efforts. But that’s great you two got it right! I’m very happy for y’all. To God give the glory.
Communication with the right people is key to help solving problems in your marriage. Instead of trying to gain the attention of other women & venting your frustrations about your spouses physical appearance, ie, she looks disgusting, or that she’s has terrible body order, you should be communicating with a marriage counselor & adjusting your behavior to accommodate your judgements. Do this with the right people. 🙏
Hi Ireon, believe it or not I have wives in my Communicate Clearly Course who have been able to impact their marriage by doing the work by themself. It's been incredible to watch!
I recently discovered a fascinating video on how to prevent communication from becoming a destructive force in marriage. This video provided me with a fresh perspective on the importance of effective communication in a relationship and how to avoid common pitfalls that can lead to misunderstandings and conflict. I was impressed with the practical tips and unique approach presented in the video, and I'm eager to incorporate these ideas into my own relationship to keep it strong and thriving.
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
I've been married 7 years and my wife really ignores me,disrespects me with in some ways I really feel she seems suspicious whatever she do I want her back to the same person she was when I met her. Don't even sleep in the same room.
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
Eeeks. Persistence beats resistance. This is something that a former friend used to say all the time. He’s now serving time in jail! This works on yourself, but also works in manners for an abuser! This is a very tight rope to walk. She complained about trying to change each other but in the end his persistence beat her resistance! This is still abuse. The long game of waiting for things to blow over is still something people use today. Feeling is literal. But now is subjective. Today could be great and who knows what brings tomorrow? I think we should think more about tomorrow than what we feel today! Todays feelings could be tomorrow’s heartache!
It’s impossible because it’s one way, because I order to make work a marriage or any relationship it takes two, but an fortunately most of the time it’s one way 😢
I’m definitely a verbal assassin when I’m open hearted share my frustrations and get them invalidated, which I end up insisting on explaining myself just to get deflection pointers - it’s not his fault that I feel “that way”- my frustration level explodes and the verbal assassin takes over. I’m not sure if that’s the example in this vid, but I’m pretty certain it’s the narcissist/codependent dance happening :-( .. overall I’m glad that you too can admit it. I also am awfully satisfied that he pointed out our differences in communication, females do express their current feelings, and that way it also falls into radical honesty. I hate fighting, but I hate not receiving the honesty I expect, it’s disrespectful for me.
I find it hard to communicate with my girlfriend. Sometimes going out for a meal together is uncomfortable because we both just sit there in silence even tho we both just had fun at the water park before hand. I want to hear from actual people who have had bad communication and then managed to turn it around. Need a bit of hope
Raising my hand over here! We really struggled to communicate early on. I shut down and wouldn't talk for days, sometimes weeks and my husband was more the verbal fighter. It took us years to learn how to use the tools to overcome these obstacles. Now we love paying it forward!
@@IntentionalMarriages My husband and I are in this boat, I really don’t care anymore and just am at the point I don’t care what happens to our marriage. Relationships really aren’t worth the effort. It’s all so pointless
@@patriciaadamson8711when a relationship hits the apathy stage it’s very difficult to turn it back around but if there’s any hope, there’s plenty of skills you can implement to restore your marriage. Here for you, if interested.
I don't believe one person can constantly be wrong each time, rather the other partner has a problem admiting their wrong. Being the first to apologise doesn't mean you are wrong, it only means you choose peace rather than strife.
Nov. 8, 2023, i viewed this video on Communication. Towards the end you gave text info of how to acquire a 30 day challenge on communication. I tried using it unsuccessfully. However, I’d love to have the download if possible. Any direction as to how I can get a copy?
Greetings and thank you. We sent text but haven’t received any response. Is the challenge still available? My wife and I could definitely benefit. Thank you again.
Good morning sir. Pls sir how can get to u I need to go to MARRIAGE cancelling academy. I want to be a marriage cancellor . Am v much ready to learn . Pls I need your help sir. Even if people pay for the teaching am also ready to pay for the teaching. Pls sir I need your help. Thank u.
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
Kudos for the Video! Sorry for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you heard about - Mahorrla Guard Marriage Method (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is an awesome one off product for Saving Your Marriage without the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my friend after a lifetime of fighting got amazing results with it.
I just stumbled across this video and Im blessed already 10mins into it. Please help me,Im going to be just a year into my marriage by January,but there's no peace nor excitement,my husband is the verbal assasin,always raining negative words on our marriage since we got wadded,he's the talkative type and loves to keep intouch with what happened/is happening around the world currently,and Im trying to adjust by watching the news and videos to be able to have something to discuss when we talk,because he's in the US and I'm in Africa,but it seems like nothing to him,he calls the marriage a failed marriage,a mistake and all the negativities you can imagine,though this is his third marriage,and our marriage is at the verge of tearing apart,sometimes I feel like just letting it go,because Im truly unhappy,please what do I do.
I'm sorry what you are going. Through . My boyfriend also only cares about his RUclips videos. And also what is going around the world he also is very negative and always is verbally abusive and he makes me cry a lot. I feel ignored and taken for granted. And I always cook for him . I make flour tortillas. Corn tortillas and I bake fresh bread I give him . Love. He says that I talk to much. But I like to be outgoing . And he is very boring hateful and mean and very inconsiderate . But I still . Love him. And care for him. What should I do?. I will pray for you. So please pray for me also. We all have many problems to deal. With .❤
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence… Hear more here ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
Thanks brother, I'm horrible at this.
Lord help me!!!
Good gracious I am grateful for stumbling upon this. I saw myself immediately as a verbal assassin and I can not stand that horrible side of myself. I can do so much better than I do now, but lately I just seem to continue ending up in this same space. What's even more pathetic is that I really want to see my man face his challenges and overcome them, but I have watched myself wither into a person I also detest after the resentment kicked in.
I need God.
You wrote exactly how I feel right now .. wow
I think your right on. You always hear one of the most important things for successful marriage is communication . We can communicate all day. But it must be meaningful and effective. I've been married 30 years and still learning things too enhance my marriage.
I like the idea about studying your partner...
What you suggested is not only genius, but romantic... The idea of my husband and I being so devoted to each other that we literally document every little thing about the person so that we can fully learn about our partner and understand them on a near scholarly level. Get a PHD in your partner
Bravo. This is brilliantly put together, very well articulated and 100% spot on. I say that as a marriage therapist with 16 years working with couples.
Thank you so much, we really appreciate it! Please continue to tune in, like, and share with others.
Yes, but does this work if my husband has narcissistic traits?
@@tanayafowlkes2603 The problem there, is that if he is actually one, he plays by a different rule book and no, regular communication doesn't work. If he isn't one, yet uses those communication weapons, he would need to gain awareness of his impact on you and be WILLING to take responsibilty for his impact on you. If he won't take responsibility (responds to your request for change), and instead criticizes you for being too sensitive, (for example), you're left with setting boundaries which means moving distant in some way to not be impacted by his words/actions.
This video should be the most popular video ever! If every couple watched this, life would be so much easier and better!
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Communication is essential
This message is so on point I watched it twice just now. I wish the text message at the end was still active… I need the 30 day communication challenge in my marriage.
Same here. Where is the 30 day challenge?!
This is so RICH and invaluable to a pillar (communication) I consider one of the most important to a long standing successful marriage. Thank you servant of God
This man is a miracle and as soon cere as they come. Saved my relationship and myself.
This is what you called learning from your mistakes and moving forward. 😊
Absolutely! Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe!
This both blessed me and cut me at the same time. So glad I came across this. Going to share with my Husband. Thank you❤
May God provide you with love, respect and understanding for all of those who go through troubles in your marriages and if you are separated from your spouses. Keep the faith. Jesus loves you!
Focus in building the union other than fixing the person
Both people must want to deeply do this. I implement ways to work on us, I was rededicated to god and my husband wasn’t, I involve biblical principles in my marriage and then some. He isn’t taking the charge to change his side of communication and yet, I’m always self aware of how I come off, reacting, while ensuring him that I’m listening. What’s so crazy is that his effort is Zero. So that means he’s not willing to change and that means he’s not self aware and doesn’t see his lack of husband efforts. But that’s great you two got it right! I’m very happy for y’all. To God give the glory.
Read the power of a praying wife.
@@RoRoDW I have that book
Kindly pray for him. Tell God to help him see his faults too and make him aware of how he hurts you. You should contact couples academy
@@ruthshishi4124 things have been great now, glory to GOD!
Communication with the right people is key to help solving problems in your marriage. Instead of trying to gain the attention of other women & venting your frustrations about your spouses physical appearance, ie, she looks disgusting, or that she’s has terrible body order, you should be communicating with a marriage counselor & adjusting your behavior to accommodate your judgements. Do this with the right people. 🙏
Far sighted and near sighted differences are real...
It takes two willing participants to do this you can’t do this on your own
Hi Ireon, believe it or not I have wives in my Communicate Clearly Course who have been able to impact their marriage by doing the work by themself. It's been incredible to watch!
100%
@@IntentionalMarriages Hi can i still access the 30 day plan even after 5 years ?
@@SteveAmoyaw yes, our course is even more effective now with over 300+ couples having gone through the content!
Whew! I know a verbal assassin. 😬 Kills me a little more each time and he doesn’t understand why it’s so hurtful.
I recently discovered a fascinating video on how to prevent communication from becoming a destructive force in marriage. This video provided me with a fresh perspective on the importance of effective communication in a relationship and how to avoid common pitfalls that can lead to misunderstandings and conflict. I was impressed with the practical tips and unique approach presented in the video, and I'm eager to incorporate these ideas into my own relationship to keep it strong and thriving.
Beautifully articulated, so much gems in this presentation!! Thank you!!
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence…
Hear more here
ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
everything in that paragraph of the book describes what I've been dealing with in my marriage
This is a perspective that is wonderful. I like what was said about compromise
Awesome video Hasani! I agree words can kill you!!
This is so good, I can relate to everything that's been said
This is very insightful!!
Amazing I need in my marriage. I feel like I'm losing my husband.
Aww, hang in there and reach out to us to learn about our Communicate Clearly Course, which might help you?
THIS WAS ABSOLUTELY A BLESSING…… Thank You ❤️
This was amazing 👏🏾 🙌🏾. I have learned a lot thru this vid
Such a great message! Thank you
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I've been married 7 years and my wife really ignores me,disrespects me with in some ways I really feel she seems suspicious whatever she do I want her back to the same person she was when I met her. Don't even sleep in the same room.
Contact Couples Academy it saved my marriage 2 yrs ago
These two married on looks, mutual attraction and Church.
I truly love this video this is so good, packed with loving information,you two are truly great wonderful trechers❤
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence…
Hear more here
ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
Just listening to this...rich words
Eeeks. Persistence beats resistance. This is something that a former friend used to say all the time. He’s now serving time in jail! This works on yourself, but also works in manners for an abuser! This is a very tight rope to walk. She complained about trying to change each other but in the end his persistence beat her resistance! This is still abuse. The long game of waiting for things to blow over is still something people use today. Feeling is literal. But now is subjective. Today could be great and who knows what brings tomorrow? I think we should think more about tomorrow than what we feel today! Todays feelings could be tomorrow’s heartache!
Beautiful message. Thank you
Thanks for sharing this interesting video ❤❤❤
Isn't it funny how all such types of videos are spot on but impossible to apply????
It's 100% possible and doable... just very hard. You'll do it if you think the risk and effort is worth the outcome you most desire.
Nothing is impossible with God
Why impossible?
It’s impossible because it’s one way, because I order to make work a marriage or any relationship it takes two, but an fortunately most of the time it’s one way 😢
How to fix a husband that does the silent treatment and can't figure out how to communicate properly
😢
To get him to go to therapy… we all need therapy
@@nata9832 thank you very much
Great information Thank you for sharing this! I was even inspired to start my own Christian communication channel 🙏🏾
Just say yes
This is amazing thank you so much !!
Amazing ..... Thanks ❤️
I have learned so much from this.
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Excellent
I am seeing this for the first time. Everything you said is so accurate. Is the offer still available?
Please schedule a Discovery Call today so that we may assist! couplesacademy.intakeq.com/booking
Compromise isn’t 1 person wins and 1 person loses. Compromise is both people win but not as big of a win as both would have preferred
well.. why is this video making me crying
I’m def a verbal assassin
I’m definitely a verbal assassin when I’m open hearted share my frustrations and get them invalidated, which I end up insisting on explaining myself just to get deflection pointers - it’s not his fault that I feel “that way”- my frustration level explodes and the verbal assassin takes over. I’m not sure if that’s the example in this vid, but I’m pretty certain it’s the narcissist/codependent dance happening :-( .. overall I’m glad that you too can admit it. I also am awfully satisfied that he pointed out our differences in communication, females do express their current feelings, and that way it also falls into radical honesty. I hate fighting, but I hate not receiving the honesty I expect, it’s disrespectful for me.
Dang he was talkin to me when it came to the whole Policy of Radical Honesty. I do allat wrong 😂 wow. Other points hit home too tho.
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What should I do?
Definitely an issue avoider
What should I do
Very interesting 👌
Great message
I really love this. Thank you so much!
Great information
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Will the communication challenge be happening again anytime soon?
I find it hard to communicate with my girlfriend. Sometimes going out for a meal together is uncomfortable because we both just sit there in silence even tho we both just had fun at the water park before hand. I want to hear from actual people who have had bad communication and then managed to turn it around. Need a bit of hope
Raising my hand over here! We really struggled to communicate early on. I shut down and wouldn't talk for days, sometimes weeks and my husband was more the verbal fighter. It took us years to learn how to use the tools to overcome these obstacles. Now we love paying it forward!
@@IntentionalMarriages
My husband and I are in this boat, I really don’t care anymore and just am at the point I don’t care what happens to our marriage. Relationships really aren’t worth the effort. It’s all so pointless
@@patriciaadamson8711when a relationship hits the apathy stage it’s very difficult to turn it back around but if there’s any hope, there’s plenty of skills you can implement to restore your marriage. Here for you, if interested.
If one person is always wrong? How do you work through always being wrong?
I don't believe one person can constantly be wrong each time, rather the other partner has a problem admiting their wrong. Being the first to apologise doesn't mean you are wrong, it only means you choose peace rather than strife.
Nov. 8, 2023, i viewed this video on Communication. Towards the end you gave text info of how to acquire a 30 day challenge on communication. I tried using it unsuccessfully. However, I’d love to have the download if possible. Any direction as to how I can get a copy?
This was so good!
This is absolutely amazing directly to the veins of love and immotions. God bless you sir
How do I contact this man
Wondering if you still have 30 day challenge available ?
HASANI.
Greetings and thank you. We sent text but haven’t received any response. Is the challenge still available? My wife and I could definitely benefit. Thank you again.
What if you’re husband talks too much? Just not to you!
like mine lol dude don't listen at all
i wiil be better
Good morning sir.
Pls sir how can get to u
I need to go to MARRIAGE cancelling academy.
I want to be a marriage cancellor .
Am v much ready to learn .
Pls I need your help sir.
Even if people pay for the teaching am also ready to pay for the teaching.
Pls sir I need your help. Thank u.
Where can I purchase The Audacity of marriage book
What about a husband who doesn’t talk and is quiet in a marriage. I’m going through that right now how do I deal with that.
🔥🔥🔥
What if you are outside of the US
Good 👍
Very good
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence…
Hear more here
ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
That number doesn’t work 😩
The number does not work
Couples academy I'm interested in the email because I'm from Australia. I can't txt from Australia please send me more information please 🙏
Kudos for the Video! Sorry for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you heard about - Mahorrla Guard Marriage Method (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is an awesome one off product for Saving Your Marriage without the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my friend after a lifetime of fighting got amazing results with it.
Is this still available?
What about when the husband is faithful, the wife cheats and then shuts down due to the husbands response/reaction?
ouch.
Run
Seek couples counseling
@@ms.psmith1391 won’t help! They will only side with the one doing wrong..
Is the number still active
Why you does share Gospel to every one, So I does too?
Cominication are different things but I stand on my faith without shaking
My husband need help with communication. Please pray for him. His name is Joseph James Clemons Junior.
I’m sure Joe appreciates the shout out!
I just prayed for you❤
I just stumbled across this video and Im blessed already 10mins into it.
Please help me,Im going to be just a year into my marriage by January,but there's no peace nor excitement,my husband is the verbal assasin,always raining negative words on our marriage since we got wadded,he's the talkative type and loves to keep intouch with what happened/is happening around the world currently,and Im trying to adjust by watching the news and videos to be able to have something to discuss when we talk,because he's in the US and I'm in Africa,but it seems like nothing to him,he calls the marriage a failed marriage,a mistake and all the negativities you can imagine,though this is his third marriage,and our marriage is at the verge of tearing apart,sometimes I feel like just letting it go,because Im truly unhappy,please what do I do.
I'm sorry what you are going. Through . My boyfriend also only cares about his RUclips videos. And also what is going around the world he also is very negative and always is verbally abusive and he makes me cry a lot. I feel ignored and taken for granted. And I always cook for him . I make flour tortillas. Corn tortillas and I bake fresh bread I give him . Love. He says that I talk to much. But I like to be outgoing . And he is very boring hateful and mean and very inconsiderate . But I still . Love him. And care for him. What should I do?. I will pray for you. So please pray for me also. We all have many problems to deal. With .❤
M
Getting married outside the light of God is unnecessary.. problem are demons that follow people around so a person can act out of character under demonic influence…
Hear more here
ruclips.net/video/VDhQPmmDUws/видео.html
Worse than ted talks
Tips for Marital Conflict - How We Stop Yelling and Start Laughing Again
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Tired sending HASANI to 33444 but it didn’t go through, please what do I do next??? Am in Nigeria 🇳🇬
Hello
I've tried sending the text to 33444, but it would not go through.
Great message