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No good man will ghost. A good man would have the decency to break up with you or let you know he is moving on. Ghosting is unacceptable behavior.
Thank you for great message...as always your message is valuable to those who have gone through this..
You would think, right?
@@nvb455 sometimes, it's best to keep it simple and realistic. Of course we shouldn't be blaming anyone for anything, neither ourself nor them for why the relationship failed. We should just except the results and move on with an open mind for the possible future and them. I'm writting this for the people with the same mindset as the original commenter and myself cause i just got ghosted by someone i'm extremely compatible with and i just made the mistake of freaking out and made the ghosting final. And it's ok
@@nvb455 everyone has their reasons and their own problems for why they do the thing that they do. So does your friend. But it doesn't give them a pass on hurting others by ghosting. Whatever their reasoning is, they are hurting people and they should only be accepted when they're aware of their problems and are actively trying to get better. I understand your point of view and the original commenter's point of view. I'm here making a statement of my own relative to both sides, not trying to combat anyone.
They're prolly not mature enough to tell u you're not what they're looking for which should be the 1st question u ask them upon 1st meeting. Wish I did that but now I will next time around if I do which I doubt. Can't deal with with these hassels. Better off staying single & content. Dating is nothing but playing insecure mind games. I don't know how people get married.
Never try to convince someone to spend time with you. Either they make you a priority or not.
Yep!👏🏽
Fact!!!
Yes!!! And if they cant, they won’t be scared to tell you why.
@@ilinavelkova858 be careful. What goes around comes around
We all make mistakes & bad choices
What if he simply say that work his priority and I comes second?? But he also say that he loves me?
Ghosting is a form of abandonment and it’s abusive
Ladies,
STOP making excuses for men who do not know what they want. Do shadow work, practice self love, go to therapy if need be. Put yourself first before any insecure or immature man. Even if he is a “great guy”, the moment you start second guessing his feelings for you, he is not the one. Accept it and move on. Open yourself up to meet the person who truly values and will feel blessed to have you.
Waiting and trying is degrading.
Exactly! The right one won't run but will work with you to make your relationship solid. Men know what they want and are not going to let a true opportunity slip through their fingers.
Totally agree!!!
My dear Astrid! Wow
Sistah!!!😳😳 SAY THAT!
Ouch reality hurts!! 😭 Am i not enough? 💔
A good man may get scared sometimes but at least they know how to say goodbye in a respectful way.
True.
Yes
Exactly. First man who broke up with me ghosted me and I had to beg him to be honest with me and give me closure and not ignoring me like that. He wrote back and broke it off and that was enough for me and I respect him for that. Rest of my relationship, a man shows inconsistent efforts and ghosted me I straight up blocked him and never begged for closure. NEVER AGAIN!
If a man I'm dating pulls back because I do something that reminds him of his ex, that tells me he's not over the past and he needs to go away and heal from it. I want a man who is emotionally whole and ready for a healthy relationship with me.
I feel ya. This is exactly what we need and want. Should hold this standard.
Good luck
Thank you. We all have trauma.
Hahahah... Good luck with that 🤞
YES. Also, we live in a dualistic world where we all will always have healing to do and the #1 place we do that is in our closest relationships. So it’s about knowing your worth and ALSO knowing that they are not perfect, just like you.
I was ghosted 2 weeks ago by a guy I had been seeing intensively for 2 months (and had known for years). 10 dates in, flowers, hand written letters, he talked of us being ‘serious’ and that he was ‘enamoured’ with me. Disappeared without a trace. The abandonment and mental gymnastics has been so painful. But now I’m moving on
So sorry this has happened to you. Hope you're ok now. Keep strong
@@tg9898 thank you for your kindness ❤️
That is so bad! This crappy behaviour should be illegal!
@@sw8916 . I mean it hun. I sympathise. I've been there its hurtful. As much as I live my life and depend on no one, I'm in a situation ship at the moment and I'm thinking this will happen to me too. He has contracted covid and communication is not good but it wasnt before
WOW that sounds absolutely awful!!! (I’ve had something similar happen to me once but not as bad). I’m so sorry to hear that sweetie, hope you’re able to move on and live your best life because you deserve it! Your person will find you! And as for him....he is NOT a good man and karma will deal with him. You dodged a bullet!
This guy is so nice and well meaning but I’ve realized that most of the time if you’re searching up videos like this..... the guy is the problem not you bby.
100
True dat. But we should alway be aware of these info so that we don't blame them or hold a grudge on them and learn to understand and except
I actually wasn't looking them up.. he was recommended to me.. but I agree with you..
@@metamorphosisjewel233 I used to wonder this as my exes were all violent and abusive. My ex husband even had the nerve to excuse his bad behaviour by telling me that i was the common denominator! ie it was 'my' fault he and the rest hit me!
After a couple of years watching channels like this and researching Narcissism to understand the dynamics of my family members . ..I decided that no more was I going to accept or toletate bad behaviour from anyone.
People who truly love you will not continually abuse or hurt you!
I used to give people 3 chances. ..then i realised how ludicrous this was! One mistake, one warning gut feeling even a tiny one and I was gone!
i joined an online dating site Dec 2019 and weirdly circumstances were such that i only met two men. As they all happened to be visiting parents or cancelled dates. Both very nice but the first messed me about with dates, asking me out but not sorting out the third date. Everything was said by text message. 3 weeks of waiting was too long for me and a full 3 days of texting and compliments whilst he was off work but no date. He only lives 10 mins drive from me.... said he would have got "around to asking me out eventually"...well tough luck.. too late.
The other is my wonderful boyfriend of almost a year who treats me so well and with respect. Everything is just so nice and easy and he is so reliable.
I never had to worry about him calling or making a date in the early days.
I am 56 and he is 3 years younger.
I am very happy and even my health has improved.
Beware tho there are men who troll sites like this and tell you that you are too old etc or be abusive to the women leaving comments but take no notice...the only thing that you are doing 'wrong' is not valuing yourself enough to walk away from bad behaviour.
Everyone attracts the wrong people now and again and kind people do get used but don't keep allowing it.
At some point in our lives we were conditioned to accept and put up with bad behaviour. Please dont get to your 50s like i did before valuing yourself. And if you are...don't worry...plenty of time to become used to someone who sticks to their values and only surrounds themselves with the kind of person we wish to be.
You are obviously not conceited or you would not even consider it being your fault.
Well...it isnt!
Its not a sin to be a kind person but it is a waste of your time and energy to continue to put up with people who treat you badly.
So all the best for the future. There are plenty of good uns out there. .but you only need find one. Value you yourself and he will find you. Just put yourself out there and have fun.
or your searching videos like this because you have relationship anxiety
Men need to work on themselves internally so they can handle a mature grown up relationship !
Seriously I was traumatised when my ex ghosted me. It is one hundred percent immature. It’s damaging behaviour. I had another guy do the same and I just didn’t have the time for it. It does being out the worst in me. But like it’s just bad manners. If they guy is freaked out, he needs to tell you, if the guy is worried about commitment and has been leading you down the garden parth. He needs to communicate. I have never ghosted and there is no reason to do it. This is just excuses. I get scared in love too, we all do. You need to learn to control that fear. If he can’t do that, nope not mature enough.
I had this. A month ago. It was finally going somewhere but I followed your advice, didn’t chase and let him do what he needed to do to make it appear he’s in charge. He promised me so much. Asked me to be his girlfriend and then ghosted me! I think he expected me to chase him! Not a chance. Deleted and moved on. Can’t be dealing with it.
good for you! Waste of energy and time!
He showed his true colors
He sounds indeed like a feminine man who wants to be chased. Yiak.
Glad you know your worth 👏❤️
Well done you!
If he needs space to reevaluate your relationship, give it to him. Go on with your life like you will be ok if you don’t reconcile. Wanting him but not needing him.
But how though if it's a relationship ? .. should I not pick up calls ? Allow him to come over? Etc
@@melcab1433 Its really really hard to do. But you have to value what you need from the relationship more than your connection that is not what you need. It's hard, but what you need matters.
Preach it sista!
Everything needs time, time to grow and develop naturally. A true relationship SHOULDN'T be forced or manipulated in any way. 🙏
I'm so done with dating. I'm 51, divorced for 8 years and this behavior gets much worse at this age. Just enjoy your lives and prioritize yourselves.
I absolutely agree that you should focus on yourself and enjoy living your life, but I also think you should remain open to a relationship. This doesn't mean you have to actively seek out a relationship, but if you're completely closed off to one it will show, and if there is ever going to be a chance of finding one, it will prevent that from happening.
I was hoping men would be more mature at that age but i guess they never mature
Ditto! I’m in the same boat!
I understand exactly how you feel! But, the moment we start closing our hearts...💜... Everything goes downhill.You got this 🤗
It blows my mind how men in their 50’s are the same or worse! The wonderful Man I wasted years on completely blindsided me and yet Still wants to continue!
If he ghosts you move on!!
Love yourself first. If a relationship takes a lot of work chances are you need to move on.
A great guy knows how to communicate and explain his need for space. He will know how his actions are likely to affect u. I don't want an immature guy that can't explain what's on his mind. I like a mature vulnerable man.
This!!! Communication is key!
This happened to me. He nearly shat his pants... I gave him space. And didn't get MY needs met for months. Until he finally broke up with me. Screw this advice. Is the woman the only person to be accomodating to a mans past wounds? He can grow a pair, do some therapy and take responsibility for his own past... Not me. Not again.
I agree with you!
If a guy wants to ghost help him do it disappear and don’t contact a ghost bec guess what ghosts are dead 😀 focus on someone alive and there for you x
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True, but learn from it so it doesn't happen again. Sometimes ghost never leave the haunted mansion. Don't let his ghost repeat in others, you know what I mean?
@@tempest0078 🎯👏👏👏👏🏆another gem, say that point 👍
Haha 😂 true story 😅😅😅💯💯👌🏾🎊
A weak dead guy..😂 karma will find him
A good guy won't ghost
100 fact!
Yes!
But if a good guy finally ghost you, its because something happened that he feels wrong and dont like about you. But if he said that to you, he afraid that he might be fighting with you. Ghosting is an unacceptable behaviour of man. But the only thing we can do is let him go. Dont ask or cry and dont show that you cant live without him. Just move on. Brian knox videos are most right!
Very true.
Facts
Any man we have to *change our natural behaviors for* ISN'T the one for us. ❤ Be you, sis. We spend so much time and energy trying to figure out what they want from us but you rarely see men doing the same. Let's take the ball out of their court.
this is such genius advice omg !!!
❤️it, especially the last sentence. A gem I'm keeping..
👌❤
Indeed!
So true!
Most of men that I met were all complicated and unsure about themselves, that's why I stay single for years, I'm waiting for the right man to meet, I have zero energy dealing with an unsure and immature man
Ghost= ANOTHER WOMAN
Yip !! Mine just ghosted me for someone new xx
Exactly!
*women/options
Sure is unfortunately
Not necessarily. This video even explains why it’s not the case.
I'm a 60 year old female.My aunt used to say if a guy really loves u u won't have to question it .
IT IS SO HARD. To walk away from someone unsure. It has been 6 months and I believe my actions were right, but my mind has him on replay.
if he wanted to, he would. get feeling better ❤️
Bottom line is you deserve a man who is so sure that you're the one he wants. You want to be with a man who knows he wants you. If he's unsure, he's not seeing your value.
@@Rene-po7im💯💯💯💯
I'm in a relationship now, but if I was dating I wouldn't like how constantly texting each other could lead to a false sense of intimacy in a relationship. You are strangers getting to know each other. Do it slowly. Do it right.
this is how I treat men now days if I am not important to him he is not important to me,i don’t overeact I just keep it moving.I do this due to a heartbreak I went through few years ago.i just look at men now like flawed human beings just like the rest of mankind,I used to idolize them so much,I guess it was immaturity from my part.we live and we learn
Don't ever idolise men 🤢🤮
Same thing happened with him
@@sansadrake4133 I learned the hard way 😂
@@nurarich4945 at least you learnt your lesson lol
Same. I match their energy right back to them.
Even if I’m internally screaming “no don’t go”
they’ll never know
This reminds me of a concept I heard about called “the wave.” The wave (of distancing) that can happen even with good men or ourselves, where we have a moment of needing to pull away and regroup, for some reason, or just because we have big feelings. I like the idea of not overreacting to that (in self or other). But like you said, it’s good to demote the person when that’s happening. If they come back ready for the big relationship, great (if you’re still interested). But I agree that ghosting is always a bad sign. Mature adults don’t do that.
So in summary, dating is like living in a house made of unpinned grenades.
😄 spot on. Welcome to today's dating world.
Exactly
Once the pin is pulled out, boom 😀😀😀
I had to laugh at this one. Kudos, that was good, lol.
🤣😄😆 right? Screw the games
"Any man that, for any reason under the sun, is unsure of wanting a long-term relationship with you IS NOT important, romantically speaking." 👏
My boyfriend ghosted me few times during our 3 years relationship. I can forgive him and now he is angry with me and blaming me. He said he always love me. But I'm not dumb to accept and forgive him. Blocked him and I'm trying to move on. I'm okay now, there are times when I cry in my room but I'm moving on.
I'm surprised it lasted three years. Don't waste your time on men who aren't worrth your time and energy.
@@messrsandersonco5985 because I was stupid to forgive him whenever he cameback and tell me he's sorry and how much he miss me. When he ghosted me again and again I felt like I was being played by him. I don't want him back. No more pain and suffering
@@amyyellowrose2798 don’t take him back for your own sake,he will break you until there’s nothing left.
@@nurarich4945 true. I will not let him ruin my life anymore. He told me he loves me all the time but he was just using me for his own convenience. During my difficult time he is not with me but when he's down he's expecting me to be there for him. I've had enough and I just want to heal. Being single is better than being in a broken relationship
If he tests me, he is childish... That is when I lose interest
A man should test like a woman test, but sometimes theirs is stupid.
I enjoyed your advice just what I needed. I am in a long distance relationship. . My guy was a high profile guy and I never in my wildest dreams thought a man of his class and integrity will behave like a spook Everyday he would make me feel soo special and let me know he was crazy about me. I received endless pics and videos. I really starting loving this man. I had not been in a relationship since my divorce fourteen years ago. I trusted him respected him and was very proud of him. He told I am the full package and I am everything a man is looking for in a woman. He just went quiet and ignored my messages. Anyway I became worried and missed him and kept looking at my phone dropped a line or more out of concern. After two days he answered . Not in the sweet way he would normally chat. He was away a few days and retuning to his place of work. He wrote, On a flight back . "I am tired. Hope you had a great Sunday. ". Not a word about boo or baa. . That's it . We were chatting just over four months. I refuse to answer. So glad I watched this video. Even good men are creepy..
Not true
Sadly every man will test you there is no exceptions
He gave me the classic "I'm going to replace my phone." reason. It's been two years guess he hadn't gotten around replacing his phone😂.
But seriously it gutted me. I wanted closure so much, answers to my whys but eventually accepted that him ghosting me was the answer and the closure.
I wanted closure too but all I got was a big lie and another lie after lie. We are not going to get the 'honest closure' we need, anyways. They moving on fast. The only closure we need is to move on even faster remember ladies MOVE ON.
He was a chump then, no honor in doing that! Dishonorable and cruel.
@@beachynailsaus yep if you stick around it’s all lies and more lies.
It was enough right?
You are worthy of a beautiful love story ❤️
I hope so. I'm 29 and have never been in love. 😕
So sweet! Thank you! ❤
but don't tell them they are beautiful haha
Yes! 😊❤ I am! I really am worthy!😊
This is frustrating. Why do I have to pay for something another woman did, or for man not being ready to be in a relationship and him having psychological traumas? Everyone has a past. I shouldn’t have to methodically talk or act around him. It sounds like men are in a glass bubble and women have to be so careful not to break it. 🤷♀️
THIS.
to me, it's all good info for why things didn't work out in the past--it explains a lot!--and even though i'm naturally an accommodating person, i refuse to walk tightropes and use scripts just to protect fragile men. if he's not strong enough to take me as i am, he can take a hike.
Never tell a man how you feel about him first. He must tell you first! If he doesn’t and it’s been 3 months, then pull away.
So powerful a message out here. That exactly what happened to me. 'Want him but dont need him. Move on with your life girl'...there is so much more to life than sticking your nose holding on to uncertainty. And most of all while moving on, just rest it all up to God. Continue to do good things and just be awfully best in everything and the right one will be there whoever and whatever thats meant for us. Thank you Brian Nox
Yes!! So true! Thank you for this reminder!
I gotta say there ARE signs before you get dumped. Happened to me and in retrospect I should have known. Why haven't I? I was blindly in love with this guy. I was not willing to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. Had I done this, I would have drawn the line immediately. And yes, I got needy af, not my everyday baseline behavior at all.😑 Great video, btw. 👍🏻
But why get needy for someone who basically dont care if you exist or not. Never understand why women do this
@@sansadrake4133 It's not a gender thing, trust me. I've had plenty of males chase after me even tho I clearly said I wasn't interested. Love, hope and hormones can render any human life form irrational. Hindsight is always 20-20. The older you get, the more cautious and rational you become. It's unfortunate, but also inevitable.
@@808Fee i would say there are more women who do this though than men.. and yeh i guess so..
@@808Fee i agree with you, its like the guys you actually dont care about are stuck on u like glue even if you show them you are not intrested by your actions. While we chase the ones that are not that into us... Ugh
9:45 is a gem 💎 👏👏 “...which is fine, you should just be yourself. But this makes me like you less of course”.
I love you!!!!! Lol
It really is. This man is helping me soooo much with my relationships! He's the best I've found thus far.
Good thing I found this vid before I confront my man and freaked out. 😂
I’m gonna play that on a continual loop
I did so, six months later he asked if I was angry that he disappeared. I said that I see no reason for being angry. Then he asked if that means I forgot him, I said that I never forget people I had relationship with. He was confused....
Be rational on giving him the importance he deserves. Don’t hive him priority depending in your feelings, yet on how he treats you
Nope. A good guy would never ghost...Communication is important and if he ghosts you it shows that he can't have a healthy relationship with you so be glad he left like this 🙋🏼♀️
Ghost = totally not responding to email ,calls, texts ,makes new dating profile in different town , comes back after 2 months when the new girl dumps him. 😆👻
Or when you are in a new great relationship!
The level of importance should always match .....i heard that ,thank you !!!
Yes honey 👏🏽💯
7:45 pre-ghost you yes. It has happened twice in 6 months before the final ghosting 6 months later. So it took a year of him 3 times ghosting waster of my time. Karma will sort it for him.
Each time he apologised but no honesty there. Just empty apology & lies. No real honest, closure.
A good man will not ghost. Anyone that ghosts without a convo needs to do deep self exploration.
It may not be immature to not want to be with somebody because of something they do that reminds them of their EX, but it is very immature to ghost somebody. It's not okay to ghost somebody. Not unless they're obsessive and psycho which most people are not
This goes both ways:) Women can feel this way too from a man’s behaviour. People need to be understanding and communicate more on both ends. ❤
Adults kids! Add them to the mix! I did exactly that, but, his kids were saying " Dad? What ya doing? She's the best thing that ever happened to you!" And told me so! Not so easy when you're in your 50's & that's thrown into the mix. Bless if they had kept silent?
09:45 to 10:50, such brilliant advice. Thank you so much, Brian. I thought there was no turning back if one accidently freaked out the guy.
We definitely all have emotional scars from past relationships and experiences. There have been times when someone has done something to remind me of someone from my past and I was immediately turned off by him even though I know they're two different people. However, I have worked through these problems before and I come to my senses even though my initial reaction is RUN
Thanks, Brian! Your suggested script here is brilliant in this situation of: "Look, you've changed. You used to (list specifics here) that I loved and you've stopped. And, that's totally fine, because, of course, I want you to just be yourself. AND, this makes me like you less, of course."** Saying it in this way works in all kinds of situations! I love it! I also loved your line "Ghosts are spooky" too! 🤣
**Wording edited to eliminate "but", which belongs to the old dualistic paradigm of either/or. There are always more than 2 options from which to choose. Also, edited wording to remove "you should" that phrasing contradicts giving him the freedom to behave how he wants.
Give him space. He don't want to go from the frying pan to the fire.
Haha. Too true: ghosts are spooky. If a guy ghosts you, give him that space. He’s sorting things out. A good man will return to explain (whether to start where you left off or to give closure). Either way, you are the prize. It’s not you, it’s him. Life brings mental traumas that give us all pause. We all need time to think. Men need their cave time to re-group. Space is healthy. Hold your frame, stand in your sovereignty and see space as your ally. Having empathy and a listening ear can save a friendship.
So he's a good guy, reluctant and cautious and you need to act like you care less so that it lures him in...be super cooooool, calm and collected- even when he's pulling away. Tell him that you've sensed he's changed and that it's okay because he mustn't change who he is and then you move on.
This happened to me... I said something that reminded a guy of his recent ex and he became avoidant and we broke things off a couple weeks later... It's not immature though, it's trauma that needs to be rewritten
I too found out why a relationship with someone on the rebound was a bad decision. Too many recent reminders of the other person. Healing time was the best love I gave myself. I healed, became emotionally whole, and met my soul mate, also healed and emotionally whole.
I'm a Vietnamese, dating here in USA so complicated, I was seeing a guy who handsome, funny, I was so into him but it turned out he is toxic person, bad behavior, he didn't keep me but also didn't let me go ,He was a worst guy I've never ever dated before . I figured he happened to me because God want to taught me a lesson,I wasn't valuable my exes until I met him. Now I'm been going back to my ex boyfriend. I'm happy now
As a married woman, of 10 years, I can tell you that people change and past pains do come up, and this is the best way I have also learnt to respond.
Hi Brian I'm 23 female from Indonesia, just wanna say that I watched all your videos and it helps me so much during my hard time after breakups. I also read most of your books and recommend them to my friends. I rarely write comments but I wanna say that your content is really helpful and soothing you might not know how much soul you've already helped. Please keep creating content like this!
Hey diva
Yes, but please, marry your own kind.
@@richricogranada9647 The fuck is wrong with you? Yikes
This is exactly my situation , he afraid i will be like his ex, pull away n rejected to date in real life after almost 7 months we have been talking 😔 his behaviour change..we are in breaking mode ..hurt but i need to move on...
Me too in it right now and the slowly disappearing is an awful feeling! I am done no more ever!!! Never!
@@meganruchwatercolors7186 yes, better to focus von ourselves , i showed too much my feelings to him now im going back to focus on myself n know my worth..we deserve someone who value us , i wish you the best 🙌
I appreciate your comments. I do agree that man or woman will come and go in your life. Take it as an experience and the trill of SEARCHING which is fun rather being stock with your misery, because you lack self confidence or you are desperate or insecure. Love can be in a spar of a moment called attraction but TRUST, RESPECT, ACCEPTANCE, CONFIDENCE and COMFORTABILITY needs time to be nurtured while enjoying your partner into your life. Thank you for sharing.
Ladies, this advice is so golden, many of you don't even realize it (judging from the comments). Let him come back to you, give him an ultimatum then it is up to him to decide to get real or walk. But let him know that you will walk if he does this sgain.
This is what happened to me. I did or said something that he associated with his ex-wife. She cheated with her ex husband. He immediately accused me of doing the same. He had no reason to think this. I never did anything wrong. 15 years gone, wasted becuz he let his past ruin his future. And mine, the one I planned to spend with him. Paranoia sucks, I blame him for not dealing with his past.
It is true how often we forget that we all have previous experiences and they don't have to be great ones...
I usually watch your whole video, but my man is all in. When I told him I wanted to be exclusive, he has stepped up in every way so I don don't need to finish the video but I always do. thanks Brian for all you do. 🤗🤗🤗
Dear Men, pls heal & stop assuming everyone is same, thank you!
What I don't understand why people can't say out loud what they really think, or what they need. Sick of dating as well, especially on dating sites and apps.
Love your videos but this is my favourite. You aptly described my situation. I did freak out but I gave him space. But he decided he wasn't good enough for me and I triggered him too much with regards to his ex. Though I miss him I have to try to move forward as someone who doesnt think they want a relationship with me is not important, just as you said!
If it triggers his ex it means he is not over her yet. He's still in love with her.
Yep but not how she was at the end, only how she was at the start. He's in love with what they had and he can't let go of the future they planned, even though she was pretty horrible to him for over a year before they split up. But yeah he knows he's not over her, we had long chats about it. He's just very hurt and feels broken. Nothing I can do.
Exactly what happened. Lesson learned
I got ghosted in April, I had been in a 1 year relationship with my ex who told me what our future is going to be like and that we will never split up etc. One day he just went home and that was it he stopped all communication I couldn’t get hold of him, the pain was immense as I couldn’t understand what went wrong. Until around august he told me to leave him the F alone to his shit life and that he wanted something with me but plans didn’t fall in place and he wasn’t in a position to be in any relationship. I went through months of hurt, no closure, constantly crying over him for something he could of told me in April to of spared me some of the heartache. It’s taken me so long to really try to move forward, ghosting is the worst way to end relationships and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
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I hope you are experiencing healing, sorry this happened to you, thank you for sharing
You can’t imagine how much this helped me, everything makes sense now
You talk so much sense, but in a way that makes me smile. Thank you.
My man is a trucker, does he love me? I've no doubt, he can't text while driving, so he pulls his truck up just to text me 😊
Mines will text me back, which I appreciate him doing, I just hope he keeps it up?
Awww that's so sweet
Maybe when he's freaking out he could try saying how he feels, saying why he feels the way he does instead of running to a corner...? I mean how is this an encouraged thing...(im literally smiling) And if he doesn't know why he feels the way he goes, then that's ok, he may just need practice engaging with his feelings. Not sure the ladies 'made' him felt bad (but I also believe we create our emotions)- not talking about abuse here. Maybe he hadn't developed the ability to communicate feelings so the lady had no clue how to support him? Stuff like openness, vulnerability, talking honestly-considerately can really help people understand each other. Maybe...
This! You don’t always need to run in the other direction!
I'm just here because I find Mr. Knox's content funny in an understated way . You just find yourself laughing even if it's not meant to be s joke. It's the way he says some things 😂 ❤
Lol so true. He's unintentionally funny lool
The first 40 seconds is my exact situation the past 2 months. Ugh. All was amazing and then he ghosted, then eventually told me he got scared and started to feel like he was bad for me. I wish I got this a month ago but what has passed was meant to be.
Update: I ignored most advice and trusted my instincts. A little over a month ago was when I decided to give him a sign that I was interested still, despite a month of ghosting from him. I sent him some music because that was our thing when we were together. He liked it and said we should talk and he felt bad about everything, ashamed of his behavior and he missed me so much. He disappeared for days with no word after that because it was the holidays and he has a very demanding job. I got impatient and told him how I felt about literally everything, the budding relationship, the ghosting, ect. That's when he said he got scared by his feelings. He had never experienced anything like that and didn't want to hurt me. So we didn't talk for a month since I posted this comment but I kept getting this feeling that we both were missing out on a great experience with each other. I tried to wait in that month for him to get some courage and reach out to me, because I don't want to be with a cowardly man and decided I would never reach out again and I would fully move on in the new year. Everything else about him is perfect besides that he finds his feelings for me frightening and he can't speak up about them.
I focused on letting go and acceptancing of situations beyond my control. It was working but I still couldn't shake thoughts of him completely. My mind was letting go but my body was depressed. I finally reread our last messages and realized it looked like I wanted nothing to do with him. I knew he was thinking he should just leave me alone. So I decided to be crazy once again and message him, possibly scaring him off forever. After all that time of us both not talking to each other, I told him that I wanted to be with him. To my surprise he said he wanted to be with me too and we spent new years eve together. So far things are going strong in the new year. I don't feel attached to him any longer, I no longer feel like I can't live without him. That ghosting period and then that month where we both didn't talk allowed me to come back stronger as the person I want to be. He calls me multiple times a week now and asks to hang out. He tells me how he feels about me constantly. It's only been a week and a half but he seems to like me even more now. And I finally am functioning with logic and have peace and know I'll be fine even if things don't work out. Overall, Knox's over arching message is 100% true. Do not give more than you're getting in any relationship and never allow yourself to feel like you can't live without someone. Leave if your boundaries are being broken and you're being mistreated. I happened to meet a very good guy who checks off all of my boxes and I knew him well enough to know that I unfortunately had to do things a bit differently in my situation than the advice given here, since I knew it best. Maybe compromising on my desire to have the man be more aggressive in the beginning will come back to bite me later. But I know I become more feminine and let men take the lead when we finally get past the fear of confessing our desires to be together, so I'm never aggressive in the actual relationship and I don't have to compromise fully.
@@nonalolagirl I too went through something like this for 2 1/2 years long distance relationship. He’s a lot younger than me. So I chased him. I am very independent woman . So I took the lead . His behavior was very off and he would ghost me . I would ask him about it. He would say I’m not a good man for you blah blah 😒
I’ve realized that I should of have been in my feminine energy and allowed him to chase me and pursued me . Unfortunately I learned this a little too late 🤷🏻♀️ I’ve let go and I’m now moving on . Lesson learned. lol 😆 oh well .. lol now I know better .
@@alwaysattractinggreatthings luckily we aren't long distance and we have known/liked each other for 5 yrs before we were ready for each other. It took a breakup for me and him growing into a good, mature man. I guess being a hero in his professional life and some past hurt makes him less aggressive in his romantic life. But I'll suspect I'll get tired and move on if he makes me feel like I have to be the aggressor again. When we're together he's not like that at all. All of the texting when hes on 14hr shifts and when I can't see him for 4 or more days can make things weird from time to time. Luckily things are still good despite the crazy hours.
Live and learn for sure 😩 good luck out there. Being an independent woman who wants a partner is tough. I've been single longer than I can count.
This is exactly what has happened to me. This put everything into perspective and I realistically think now he wasn't ready for a relationship and he wasn't over his ex. Also, was immature.
Lol 😂 I'm a scorpio so using a scorpion example was just hilarious to me lol
No matter how super busy I am or .... whatever is happening... as I see your video, I always stop doing my stuffs to watch your video
So but why such a great guy ghosts in the end of the day? Isn’t he supposed to tell what his problem is or worst case communicate that he does not want the relationship to go on? In case he is really so amazing and good guy..
That's also my question. He is a good guy but why not communicate that the things between us is over instead of ghosting? I'll glady accept painful words than nothing at all. 😑
His actions show he's not a good guy though so 🤔
Leaning back is natural and to be expected at some point. Many men: rest, unwind, process, evaluate and strategise in private. But leading on and then ghosting is cowardly.
The baby diaper face had me rolling…😂 I love this man’s analogies. These videos give great insight.
The answer for my question... perfect ! Thank you ☺️
This was on point, Brian! I can relate to this. 👌
Thanks for the reminder... loved this video.
Good talk. Thank you! 🌹
This is so true! You're definitely correct!
This gave me so much peace. Thank u
Love advice !! Very accurate!
Excellent advice! Again! Thank you!!
This has always been a constant struggle for me and thank you so much for sharing this!!
Thank you so much, Geert. You really help act as a voice of reason when I feel like "freaking out" due to this exact situation. The pain is real, no doubt. But your insight restores some of the lost confidence and disempowerment felt from being ghosted or ignored after opening up to the man I was dating...."this makes me like you less, of course" My mantra during this time!
This makes soooo much sense-thanks!
Thank you! I really needed this today.
Watching this all over again thank you so much Brian💕🥰
You are so good. This is the clearest advice I’ve found online 🙏🏽 Self integrity 101
“Baby diaper face” 😂🤣😂🤣 I have seen this face recently but it’s great to know your advice 😘👌
Thanks Brian! Been waiting patiently for this!!!😊
Any man that is interested in you will pursue you not ghost you. If he ghosts you he’s not interested in you and it’s time to move on.
How timely is this for me and I could 100% relate because this is happening to me now, good thing I saw this video first before confronting him. Thank you for your videos Brian, it helps me a lot.
Great advice...thank you xx
Thank you for your advice💚