Aaaahhhh exactly....I need a good sleep to carry on my life. If I sleep less I get headache and sometimes I beat myself for not sleeping less and I feel unproductive seeing people sleep less and achieve more
And it’s funny because I am too but that 4-5 hours still feels like it’s too much. I’m only in my first year of running start. This week was my third week. I’m already staying up super late and feeling like I need to stay up longer and do more. It’s a habit im trying to break because at a certain point of stress and exhaustion, as anyone would, i break down and my depression gets very bad it’s just hard to sleep or take breaks when i feel like I literally cannot because there’s not enough hours in the day
I would add selecting friends and lovers, self defense skills, how to be good alone, managing a toxic workplace, how to say no, basic cooking skills, simple negotiations, beginning gardening and maybe a bit of simple sewing. None of these would be complicated just enough to give you the confidence to try these things on your own.
Idk if anyones looking for this comment but here’s what she mentioned: 1. Avoiding burnout 2. Financial literacy 3. The meaning of success 4. How to work irl (soft skills) Idk if I missed anything
Great video! So true! I would like to add "basic psychology" to the list. People often walk around with psych (related) issues and are unaware of them until they break down. Recognizing such issues early on can be a life saver. And not just for yourself. You could help others as well.
I feel like some kind of "work life balance" or "avoiding burn out" or some kind of mental health protection class offered at a high school level to avoid the impending burn out or worse mental break down. I had my first mental breakdown my freshman year of college.
It's much harder to apply basic psychology if you're in a health-related course. You're very much aware of what's happening to you and to others, but pressure from other subjects can prevent you from applying it to yourself. Even if psychology is included in the curriculum.
@@corycianangel6321 dude that's so accurate. I'd say especially if psychology is in your curriculum because then the narrative is "as long as I'm not hitting this extreme then I'm coping well" not realizing that we are slowly getting toward the"extreme"
Kat Hall I've observed so many of my classmates talking about mental breakdowns during their pre-med and now as medical students. At the same time, they have to look happy and active on many fronts. Even I experienced mental breakdowns that's unfortunately seen in public, unlike them. That's why I didn't want to pursue medicine, it's more intense and demanding that putting a front is a way to keep one's own sanity.
I've been saying for a long time that I think real life financing, budgeting, household management and life skills should be taught in our schools. It's sad that we send 16 year old out into the world with not a fraction of knowledge they need to live day to day lives and to know their rights.
i think the education system assumes we‘d all be taught these basic life skills by our parents. which of course is silly, right? my parents never really taught me, they just yelled at me for not doing it and then ignored my the rest of the time to watch tv or talk about work and what not.
Right, but actually in my school there is a subject that you can pick called 21st century skills and we have moral education for all grades so I am glad at least my school has that and hope it gets taught more. I am just 14 in 10th grade but a lot of the things I learned in these classes were new to me.
To expect a school system to raise you is a silly notion. I was never taught how to do my own finances. So I took it upon myself to learn. My parents taught me the basics, sure. But they also lived paycheck to paycheck and I didn't want to live that way my whole life. Are schools not teaching initiative anymore?
@@jejo4911 Same here. Life skills in primary school (Gr.1-7) and life orientation (Gr8-12) in high school. Though the Life Skills subject is fairly new, only instated like 4 years ago as a subject to learn ethics, morals and important social skills. Great thing I'm studying education to teach them the skills I never got taught at a younger age.
I was 16 years old when I got admitted into the university. I have always been a caged child and I didn't go anywhere by myself. When it was time to head to uni, I was scared because I knew I would be alone and have to do things myself and be an "adult". I found it hard to navigate coz I had book smarts but no street smarts. I had a 1.43 gpa in the 1st semester. When I got back home during the holiday, my parents expected me to just know what to do in the real world after being caged all my life and only spending 3-4 months outside of home. I'm 17 years old now in my second year. I'm trying my best and I know that I still have a lot to learn.
Wow, that’s amazing (the fact that you got into university 2 years prior than the average teenager). And about the difficulty of being amongst people and having to do things for yourself - that’s very relatable. I was never much of a “people person”, and my parents are not exactly those type of people either, so for most of my life, I was by myself. For the past year I was homeschooled, and then returning to school 2 weeks ago, I found it extremely difficult. You know, the fact of waking up, being somewhere at a certain time, socializing with people that I had little to no interest in. My grades dropped tremendously too, and that lowered my self-esteem even more. I’m smart, and getting perfect grades was never the problem for me, but talking to others was. It was probably more than just coming back to an unexpected amount of tests - it was the fact that I was so used to being alone, that I forgot how to live, how to act, and just how to *be* among society. But I think, that it’s just a matter of time. We’re humans and we’re able to adapt. I believe that you will find a person that you’re comfortable with, someone that matches your energy, you’ll get the grades that you want and that you’ll finally be able to set loose after being “held captive” for so long. Good luck, you can do this!💗
Also, i’m not sure if you’ve watched Gilmore Girls, but in a way, your (and my own) situation reminds me of Rory… She was booksmart, and technically lived in this beautifully-made cage with her mother and rich grandparents by her side. When she got into Yale, it was just a matter of luck of coping, but when she went out into the real world, she was afraid and just couldn’t socialize because she just wasn’t used to it. She took criticism too close to heart, and just couldn’t take it. But i’m sure that we’re not like Rory, and that we’ll be able to do this! Btw, just out of interest, what university did you get into (it’s okay if you’re not comfortable with saying so)?
@@ocean_princess Thanks for the kind words. No, I haven't watched the series/movie you talked about but I'll check it out. I attend Covenant University. It's one of the best in Africa (I'm Nigerian btw) and also rising as one of the top universities globally.
Really important to talk about taking a break and not overworking. I didn't have breaks between my physics bachelor and grad school and now I'm taking a medical leave because I was doing my bare minimum and was only getting worse. Thankfully I had time to choose to take a break for 3 months, instead of having a major mental breakdown or something. Take care of yourselves folks, I mean it!
Resting and knowing your limits/boundaries is so important. I dropped out of grad school during the final year of my masters. I barely remember anything from those classes because my mental health was so poor trying to juggle classes and a full time job that I retained next to nothing. I also realized that I didn’t really care to get my masters, I just felt like I had to. 1.5 years later, and my mental health has significantly improved and I never once regretted my decision. Listen to yourself, not what society tells you or pressures you. And it’s okay to say no. Amazing video as always ❤️
I'm honestly trying to decide if I should take a master's degree abroad and go through so much to stay there for just one year. I feel like I just want the independence and the experience of it all but I’m not sure my mental capacity can handle it either. I might need to stay at my job while I’m studying bc if I resign I might not get another opportunity like it. I’m so torn about what to do 🥲
Omgg Thank you so much for this❤️ I can definitely relate to your situation. I stopped college my first year (not saying I was done for good) and my mom was livid. I understand wanting the best for me is one thing but trying to control my decision and whether I go or not is another. College isn’t the only way. At this point I don’t care about following anyone else’s dreams for me. Im still trying to find me. I just really want to find myself and live in God’s calling for my life.
I did the same, I'm at my last year of uni but decided to have a break in 2020 so I just got back this week. Congrats on not regretting your decision 👏
This is so important. My degree is in engineering and I worked for a year after graduating before deciding I hated it. I’m lucky to have the financial privilege to change course now, but I wish I could’ve known that 4-5 years ago.
That's my biggest fear... I chose computer engineering because it'll be easier to make profit outta that field, so the idea of that coming back to bite me scares me. But my plan from the very beginning was to choose a major which will offer me financial freedom, so once I'm able to, I can go back to uni and study what I'll be truly interested in (that is, if I don't like working on the field I chose)
@@sin3358 its also what im in fear for, I'm 17 and have been studying fiances for a year and man i really dont know how to feel about it. i am afraid i will regret it, but im scared to talk to my parents about it.
To be honest, school caused me anxiety. If I didn't watch her previous videoes on Productivity, I would have been left behind. Thank you for your quality content
I got depression at the age of 14, exactly the year when I started High school. Coincidence? I think not, lol. Same goes for anxiety and I'm still struggling, however it's been better recently :)
I had anxiety at school since pre-k. I ended up dropping out early sophomore year because I couldn't handle feeling on edge all the time and dealing with the stress of school work and my friends who had betrayed me at the time
@@sin3358 going from primary to secondary school was really overwhelming for me, i already had dyslexia and was shy. also the small amount of friends i had never came to my school. i will always blame my school for what ive become because on the first day i was already nervous and stressed but at least i was in a class with most of the people who i knew until they moved me into another class with no one i knew even though they knew i had problems communicating. from this to being made to do things i didnt want to do at school it made me hate everything. i dont think i was ever that down but that ontop of my really bad social problems that may be social anixety i just hated school and i dont regret leaving
I've never liked exercising but now I'm so burnt out😭 I did strength training 3 times a week for the first time ever and I feel good. It actually feels like my coffee. So weird. Working on the sleep thing still
My tips : 1. Give each subject specific time. 2. Be consistent with your study routine. 3. U will get free time too and learn skills at that time. 4. Just care about the present day because you only have present in your hand. Best of luck my friends 💜
@1 time: find key subjects to study with priority time+effort to understand foundations (mathematics?) for all other higher level subjects (engineering/economy/ecology) which depend on them. @2 consistent routine = body + mind health: establish+keep daily early wake up time, moving to university+library, talk+make friendship with colleages, create+join friends+learning group, exchange information + sources (books/internet links etc.), learn + check yourself together. @3 free time: reserve enough not too much! University time = life time chance! @4 present day: leave your day with complete clean notes answering all questions, leave no unanswered question (missed understanding / learning hour) for tomorrow (creeping into critical date of exam), listen and put long term dates + goals (date of exams, lab work etc) into your always available calendar + todo list. PS: I earned best degree that way (1990 electrical -> computer -> software engineering)
I'm 29, and I'm still trying to figure out my life... I'm stuck in how to start or where to start from... I was never taught of financial freedom nor a career path... thanks for this video... very encouraging!
I’m taking a personal finance class in my school, I’m thankful my school offers it. We just finished a unit on FAFSA and college, we are going to start a unit on car ownership now!
You are absolutely right. I went to grad school and I still remember that a summer passed by and I did not went out, not once. I was getting ready for my qualification exams. I remember the feeling of being alone and confine to the lab, with not friends other than the fellow grad students. I used to stay at the university 12 hours or more, go home and keep on reading and coding.
Hey...I am a teacher and always try to positively reinforce my learners to not work hard but do an job with all that they have....now I don't say one should not work hard, I solely am trying to convey that you don't have to keep yourself engaged as if you're to slay a dragon. I am so happy to hear someone say this for 9 minutes straight.
So so true. In University I overworked myself, didn't have good sleep and didn't manage my time wisely. I broke down, and didn't continue Law. I love the advicr that I have to define success and go after that.
Thank you. I needed this. I had been overworking myself and my mental health is being impacted a lot. I don’t get enough sleep either and I’m always stressed. I will try to give myself a bit of self-love.
I'm just realized one of my biggest anxiety is from exams. I'm good at school or exams, but I get so much anxiety so much when it's exam times. Like I feel so SCARED. I'm actually like studying however exam its not.
I'm an accounting graduate. And I never really learned how to file my OWN taxes during college. They just taught us how to file for the taxes of companies and other people.
Love this, there is a lot of delusion around how important college is, but in reality soft skills, home economics and stuff like that are just way more important. School is just an extra on top, not the other way around
It's really sad that schools don't teach these skills around the world. I'm finnish and during my high school i was well educated in both personal financing and healthy habits, both for life and studying. We also have classes for practicing job skills and in universities, the companies and students collaborate a lot. If these aren't common around the world, maybe this is why our school system is thought to be so good
I really have to disagree with one thing. You don’t have to work one job or career for 40 years, that’s a very depressive thought that life is stagnant, I literally got depressed from this when I was 20 because I thought my life will always be the same. I‘m currently an artist and maybe I will do that forever but maybe I‘m going to be an author, a café owner, a librarian whatever in 10 years life is forever changing and surprises you around every corner. Never settle for something that you are not passionate about it’s never worth it. Always follow what you love life is so much more than work.
I know that it hsa been 1 years since you commented on this video, but she is likely to be brazilian and here we have a public social security that demands a certain number of years working the same job in order for you to retire receving a good amount of money proportionally to what you've given to the government based on the career that you took. You can always have a private retirement plan, but most brazilians will work their asses off on one career path and recieve a good amount of money monthly after they retire.
I know that many of us already know about all the things you mentioned. But personally, I find this video is really helpful. Your way of speaking doesn't feel like you're lecturing me, instead I felt reminded and it hits me hard. So, thank you :)
Thank you for making this video. I've been saying for years that we don't learn the essentials for living in the real world in school. If I can add one thing it would be added to the first point. How to deal with burnout and depression. My graduation project was all about a buddy system for people who struggled during their education. I found that a lot of people get burnouts and also depression. I've even been notified that someone had taken their own life in their first year. So yeah, learning how to deal with depression is just as important as a burnout.
Burnout hit hard for me in high school. That mixed with outher things made going to college impossible. Even thou i tried, I stopped and basically fell into somewhat of an isolation. Then slowly made steps towards better health and now i am looking for ways to create a life for my future self. Thank you for this video! It helped me set better focus on what to get going doing, I hope i will find myself in a good position in the future and wishing everyone else blessing and luck on their side too! take care
My university never taught me any thing that pertains of writing my thesis. What happened is that when I got there, they had instructors in the areas, but they all left the university within my first semester and my first year.
*Whenever I feel like giving up, I just think about why I started.* I don't know you personally but I wish you the best in your life. You are loved and needed. *- a personal development RUclipsr* 🙃
Children should, at a minimum, understand their options for investing. They need to know about stocks, mutual funds, and real estate before a salesman explains these concepts to them. Refer children to point #2. They should understand the importance of investing early on.
Was waiting really long for your video, haven't completed seeing it but I'm sure will teach me something good and resourceful like always... Keep up the good work 😃
What about becoming a physician? A lot of people dream about helping the community by practicing medicine. I know it’s not for everyone but I have a couple of friends who have pursued the dream of saving lives medically. That takes dedication and a lot of formal education.
It's the same principle -- if YOUR definition of success is becoming a physician to help the community by practicing medicine, definitely go for it :) Once again - it's all relative.
Your videos are so helpful, inspiring and therapeutic, thank you so so much for creating such an beautiful and amazing content ! You’re the best, Mariana
Tive uma crise de ansiedade generalizada por causa de um exame da faculdade, em sequência de ataques de pânico e de uma depressão sombria que já estava inculcada em mim desde a infância. De uma discussão severa com uma pessoa, tal me provocou um AVC no cérebro à idade de 25. Cefaleias durante mais de seiscentos dias permanentes e o olhar praticamente parado. Choro a ver o vídeo na parte do burnout. No meu caso foi a morte cerebral. Estou a recuperar a três anos com muita medicação. Sou uma pessoa que trabalha não em Direito mas numa loja de roupa pois não tenho a capacidade de estar concentrada e me deslocar de veículo para a universidade ou para a O.A.. Era a melhor aluna de Solicitadoria, depois fui para Direito ( onde também era das melhores). Mas a pressão dos pais e falta de socialização ditaram o meu fim. Que o meu caso sirva de exemplo para todos! Obrigado Mariana pelos teus excelentes vídeos...sempre me aperfeiçoei contigo, ainda andavas tu a tirar Direito! E lembrem-se com fé e esperança em Jesus, tudo se consegue resolver. Ele sabe o melhor para nós!
i love how you talk about learning about financial literacy, Most of us don't understand much in the beginning, If your job isn't in finance make yourself read a little about it each week. Google terms you don't understand. Don't beat yourself up over not understanding everything right away. Overtime you will get it. I like to think of it at taking sips of information on a regular basis. But try to really learn how to invest for retirement and start by your late twenties at the latest. Everybody can retire but you have to take control of your finances and make it a goal early in life. And don't try to retire too early, A healthy work/life balance keeps people connected with the world.
1.) Priorities + time management: find your key subjects to study with priority time+effort to concentrate on first on most important foundations (mathematics?) for all the other stuff which depend on them (higher level subjects e.g. engineering/economy/ecology). 2.) Body + Mind Health: establish+keep daily early wake up time, move yourself to university+library (body need moving), talk+make friendship with colleages, create+join friends+learning group, exchange information + sources (books/internet links etc.), learn + check yourself together = fun. 3.) Free time: reserve just enough (not too much lazyness)! University time = life time chance! Best use of freetime (healthy outdoor trip/sport) = Dont waste free time (no computer games). 4.) Present day: leave your day with complete clean notes answering all questions, leave no unanswered question (missed understanding / learning hour) for tomorrow (creeping into critical date of exam), listen and put long term dates + goals (date of exams, lab work etc) into your always available calendar + todo list. PS: I earned best degree that way (1990 electrical -> computer -> software engineering)
Isn't it depressing that most people live to work and not work to live. These are all realistic things but it's just sad that at the end of the day it's all "career, jobs, work"
6:30 I can relate to this so much. After some real-world experience similar to yours, I realized that I like flying planes more than being a lawyer. Thanks for the video. I always like this wise content that goes beyond this school bubble and gives you knowledge for life in general, not just for career. Having strong life fundamentals is the key.
I started university at 14 and finished my BSc in a STEM field at 19 after taking an extra year to take fun non-STEM electives. My other friends who went to normal high schools and attended/finished university at a "normal" age definitely were not taught these things in their schools and are usually ask me for advice. I am happy to give it always, but it is so sad to see that this is the type of everyday person that American schools are creating now. My generation needs serious help, and your videos are a good supplement.
@Ken, great idea, even if you talk about your experiences and how you view success, etc. Thanks for being a teacher. One of the most undervalued jobs in society unfortunately. Blessings.
The first point is so true... I've been raised by an overworking father that valued money a lot, and a academic oriented mother that made me feel like having a "respectable" degree was the only thing that would make me happy. Currently I'm in college, and to this day I still feel like I'm wasting my time if I'm not doing something "productive". It sounds dumb, but learning how to rest is not the easiest thing to archieve.
Burnout is such a real thing, I remember the last 2 years of my Uni I didn't get a single day off. I studied during the weekdays at Uni and worked (at times) 3 part time jobs. Even during the summer I took on unpaid internships and continued my part times. Safe to say my final year didn't go so well, and my results dipped down.
I'm 13/14 and I'm unschooled, if you don't what that is, it's basically like self learning, you just kinda learn whatever you want? There's rly no curriculum. There are some yt videos on it if you would like to learn more😊 I've been kind of struggling lately with what I want to learn and teach myself. So this video is so helpful because I would like to know these things now. Tysm
Self-learning skills are not taught but learned through your career, studying, and working; they are, to some extent, are not the same because everyone has not the same experience, environment, study capacity, passion, etc...
I think people need to take a ton of extracurriculars growing up too. One or two a year, forcing them to try new things. Growing up we didn't have the money to do any outside of school. And my school never had art or music so that was a huge part of my identity that was unexplored until I was well into adulthood. I wish I had been exposed to that sooner. If you don't try things out when you're young you could (like me) grow up with a ton of identity issues. It just makes everything so much harder & you won't be happy. With that said, I also know people who were overbooked. Had extraccurrculars every day after school & on weekends, as well as working. They were never able to have a proper social life because of it.
dear the whole vide is amazing but other than that I think success is something which keeps you strong, which doesn't let you break easily it can be financially physically emotionally mentally . The point is it makes your life a way lot easier doesn't it ?
I feel very useless this year, i dont have work and cant go to school. I dont know what to do with myself. Ill say this video will be useful to me. Thank you.
Love your channel. Always great advise and insight. Your notes are amazing. I learn so much from your topics. I hope in the future you plan to teach and/or publish your topics.
I love your accent. Anyhow, this is about pacing yourself, setting boundaries. Simone Biles has brought this to light recently. We all need to learn from her example.
In my school they actually twacj us alot and if u havw mental probpems you go see the school psychologist/therapist so yeah and its free which is what i like and i didnt realize so many people had mental problems
I remember when I was little the question I asked myself whenever learning somrthing was "will this help me for thr apocalyse?" We are talking 4-9 year old kid here. Now I dont have a purpose anymore, but if the apocalypse comes im prepared!
I love the first one, it's strange people are proud of sleeping 4-5 hours everyday, I feel like dying when I get little sleep
Aaaahhhh exactly....I need a good sleep to carry on my life. If I sleep less I get headache and sometimes I beat myself for not sleeping less and I feel unproductive seeing people sleep less and achieve more
Same! Everytime I have enough sleep I notice that I become more productive and in good mood.
Same! When I was young my mom used to put us to bed at 9 sharp. Thanks mom!
And it’s funny because I am too but that 4-5 hours still feels like it’s too much. I’m only in my first year of running start. This week was my third week. I’m already staying up super late and feeling like I need to stay up longer and do more. It’s a habit im trying to break because at a certain point of stress and exhaustion, as anyone would, i break down and my depression gets very bad it’s just hard to sleep or take breaks when i feel like I literally cannot because there’s not enough hours in the day
Same. Everytime I don't get enough sleep, my head hurts so bad.
I would add selecting friends and lovers, self defense skills, how to be good alone, managing a toxic workplace, how to say no, basic cooking skills, simple negotiations, beginning gardening and maybe a bit of simple sewing. None of these would be complicated just enough to give you the confidence to try these things on your own.
True this is good
I agree, I had cooking and learnt to sew at school thought which is good
omg yes i love this 100% agreed!
Omg i am not alone! God bless to you🙏❤
I am so sorry you didn’t learn these skills… But it was your parents responsbility :/
Idk if anyones looking for this comment but here’s what she mentioned:
1. Avoiding burnout
2. Financial literacy
3. The meaning of success
4. How to work irl (soft skills)
Idk if I missed anything
lmao she made a 10 minute video about a 100 word comment, what a waste of time
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@@smittywerbenjagermanjensen6870 at least we know how you feel about it. Geesh !!!
Great video! So true! I would like to add "basic psychology" to the list. People often walk around with psych (related) issues and are unaware of them until they break down. Recognizing such issues early on can be a life saver. And not just for yourself. You could help others as well.
I absolutely agree with you on this. Thanks for sharing!
I feel like some kind of "work life balance" or "avoiding burn out" or some kind of mental health protection class offered at a high school level to avoid the impending burn out or worse mental break down. I had my first mental breakdown my freshman year of college.
It's much harder to apply basic psychology if you're in a health-related course. You're very much aware of what's happening to you and to others, but pressure from other subjects can prevent you from applying it to yourself. Even if psychology is included in the curriculum.
@@corycianangel6321 dude that's so accurate. I'd say especially if psychology is in your curriculum because then the narrative is "as long as I'm not hitting this extreme then I'm coping well" not realizing that we are slowly getting toward the"extreme"
Kat Hall I've observed so many of my classmates talking about mental breakdowns during their pre-med and now as medical students. At the same time, they have to look happy and active on many fronts. Even I experienced mental breakdowns that's unfortunately seen in public, unlike them. That's why I didn't want to pursue medicine, it's more intense and demanding that putting a front is a way to keep one's own sanity.
I've been saying for a long time that I think real life financing, budgeting, household management and life skills should be taught in our schools. It's sad that we send 16 year old out into the world with not a fraction of knowledge they need to live day to day lives and to know their rights.
i think the education system assumes we‘d all be taught these basic life skills by our parents. which of course is silly, right? my parents never really taught me, they just yelled at me for not doing it and then ignored my the rest of the time to watch tv or talk about work and what not.
Right, but actually in my school there is a subject that you can pick called 21st century skills and we have moral education for all grades so I am glad at least my school has that and hope it gets taught more. I am just 14 in 10th grade but a lot of the things I learned in these classes were new to me.
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To expect a school system to raise you is a silly notion. I was never taught how to do my own finances. So I took it upon myself to learn. My parents taught me the basics, sure. But they also lived paycheck to paycheck and I didn't want to live that way my whole life. Are schools not teaching initiative anymore?
@@nvrmxithx THAT'S AMAZING!
Skills you won't learn in school:
How to adult.
How to take care of yourself
Ethics and Morals
How to survive an apocalypse scenario
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Mkay so we hit up the Sam's Club- if we can control it we'll have resources! Food and utilities, and we can barricade it well.
You do learn ethics and morals at school tho... At least in my country we do that..
@@jejo4911 Same here. Life skills in primary school (Gr.1-7) and life orientation (Gr8-12) in high school. Though the Life Skills subject is fairly new, only instated like 4 years ago as a subject to learn ethics, morals and important social skills. Great thing I'm studying education to teach them the skills I never got taught at a younger age.
@@jejo4911 exactly.....in my school as well .......
I was 16 years old when I got admitted into the university. I have always been a caged child and I didn't go anywhere by myself. When it was time to head to uni, I was scared because I knew I would be alone and have to do things myself and be an "adult". I found it hard to navigate coz I had book smarts but no street smarts. I had a 1.43 gpa in the 1st semester. When I got back home during the holiday, my parents expected me to just know what to do in the real world after being caged all my life and only spending 3-4 months outside of home. I'm 17 years old now in my second year. I'm trying my best and I know that I still have a lot to learn.
Wow, that’s amazing (the fact that you got into university 2 years prior than the average teenager). And about the difficulty of being amongst people and having to do things for yourself - that’s very relatable. I was never much of a “people person”, and my parents are not exactly those type of people either, so for most of my life, I was by myself. For the past year I was homeschooled, and then returning to school 2 weeks ago, I found it extremely difficult. You know, the fact of waking up, being somewhere at a certain time, socializing with people that I had little to no interest in. My grades dropped tremendously too, and that lowered my self-esteem even more. I’m smart, and getting perfect grades was never the problem for me, but talking to others was. It was probably more than just coming back to an unexpected amount of tests - it was the fact that I was so used to being alone, that I forgot how to live, how to act, and just how to *be* among society. But I think, that it’s just a matter of time. We’re humans and we’re able to adapt. I believe that you will find a person that you’re comfortable with, someone that matches your energy, you’ll get the grades that you want and that you’ll finally be able to set loose after being “held captive” for so long. Good luck, you can do this!💗
Also, i’m not sure if you’ve watched Gilmore Girls, but in a way, your (and my own) situation reminds me of Rory…
She was booksmart, and technically lived in this beautifully-made cage with her mother and rich grandparents by her side. When she got into Yale, it was just a matter of luck of coping, but when she went out into the real world, she was afraid and just couldn’t socialize because she just wasn’t used to it. She took criticism too close to heart, and just couldn’t take it.
But i’m sure that we’re not like Rory, and that we’ll be able to do this!
Btw, just out of interest, what university did you get into (it’s okay if you’re not comfortable with saying so)?
@@ocean_princess Thanks for the kind words. No, I haven't watched the series/movie you talked about but I'll check it out. I attend Covenant University. It's one of the best in Africa (I'm Nigerian btw) and also rising as one of the top universities globally.
@@sunflower5875 wow, that’s amazing!! Good luck ✨
@Sadia Sharmeen my comment keeps deleting 😭
Really important to talk about taking a break and not overworking. I didn't have breaks between my physics bachelor and grad school and now I'm taking a medical leave because I was doing my bare minimum and was only getting worse. Thankfully I had time to choose to take a break for 3 months, instead of having a major mental breakdown or something. Take care of yourselves folks, I mean it!
It's so sad how I didn't really learn any problem-solving in school. Loved this video!
Resting and knowing your limits/boundaries is so important. I dropped out of grad school during the final year of my masters. I barely remember anything from those classes because my mental health was so poor trying to juggle classes and a full time job that I retained next to nothing. I also realized that I didn’t really care to get my masters, I just felt like I had to. 1.5 years later, and my mental health has significantly improved and I never once regretted my decision. Listen to yourself, not what society tells you or pressures you. And it’s okay to say no. Amazing video as always ❤️
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I'm honestly trying to decide if I should take a master's degree abroad and go through so much to stay there for just one year. I feel like I just want the independence and the experience of it all but I’m not sure my mental capacity can handle it either. I might need to stay at my job while I’m studying bc if I resign I might not get another opportunity like it. I’m so torn about what to do 🥲
Omgg Thank you so much for this❤️ I can definitely relate to your situation. I stopped college my first year (not saying I was done for good) and my mom was livid. I understand wanting the best for me is one thing but trying to control my decision and whether I go or not is another. College isn’t the only way. At this point I don’t care about following anyone else’s dreams for me. Im still trying to find me. I just really want to find myself and live in God’s calling for my life.
I did the same, I'm at my last year of uni but decided to have a break in 2020 so I just got back this week. Congrats on not regretting your decision 👏
words of wisdom...
This is so important. My degree is in engineering and I worked for a year after graduating before deciding I hated it. I’m lucky to have the financial privilege to change course now, but I wish I could’ve known that 4-5 years ago.
Same here. Which career path are you on now?
Omg same here!!!
That's my biggest fear... I chose computer engineering because it'll be easier to make profit outta that field, so the idea of that coming back to bite me scares me. But my plan from the very beginning was to choose a major which will offer me financial freedom, so once I'm able to, I can go back to uni and study what I'll be truly interested in (that is, if I don't like working on the field I chose)
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@@sin3358 its also what im in fear for, I'm 17 and have been studying fiances for a year and man i really dont know how to feel about it. i am afraid i will regret it, but im scared to talk to my parents about it.
To be honest, school caused me anxiety. If I didn't watch her previous videoes on Productivity, I would have been left behind.
Thank you for your quality content
I got depression at the age of 14, exactly the year when I started High school. Coincidence? I think not, lol. Same goes for anxiety and I'm still struggling, however it's been better recently :)
@@sin3358 same
I had anxiety at school since pre-k. I ended up dropping out early sophomore year because I couldn't handle feeling on edge all the time and dealing with the stress of school work and my friends who had betrayed me at the time
@@vl2663 that's really sad hope u r doing well now :)
@@sin3358 going from primary to secondary school was really overwhelming for me, i already had dyslexia and was shy. also the small amount of friends i had never came to my school. i will always blame my school for what ive become because on the first day i was already nervous and stressed but at least i was in a class with most of the people who i knew until they moved me into another class with no one i knew even though they knew i had problems communicating. from this to being made to do things i didnt want to do at school it made me hate everything. i dont think i was ever that down but that ontop of my really bad social problems that may be social anixety i just hated school and i dont regret leaving
I've never liked exercising but now I'm so burnt out😭 I did strength training 3 times a week for the first time ever and I feel good. It actually feels like my coffee. So weird. Working on the sleep thing still
You got this!
Try some melatonin 😊
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My tips :
1. Give each subject specific time.
2. Be consistent with your study routine.
3. U will get free time too and learn skills at that time.
4. Just care about the present day because you only have present in your hand.
Best of luck my friends 💜
@1 time: find key subjects to study with priority time+effort to understand foundations (mathematics?) for all other higher level subjects (engineering/economy/ecology) which depend on them.
@2 consistent routine = body + mind health: establish+keep daily early wake up time, moving to university+library, talk+make friendship with colleages, create+join friends+learning group, exchange information + sources (books/internet links etc.), learn + check yourself together.
@3 free time: reserve enough not too much! University time = life time chance!
@4 present day: leave your day with complete clean notes answering all questions, leave no unanswered question (missed understanding / learning hour) for tomorrow (creeping into critical date of exam), listen and put long term dates + goals (date of exams, lab work etc) into your always available calendar + todo list.
PS: I earned best degree that way (1990 electrical -> computer -> software engineering)
I'm 29, and I'm still trying to figure out my life... I'm stuck in how to start or where to start from... I was never taught of financial freedom nor a career path... thanks for this video... very encouraging!
I'm 28 and in the same boat as you. You are not alone
I’m taking a personal finance class in my school, I’m thankful my school offers it. We just finished a unit on FAFSA and college, we are going to start a unit on car ownership now!
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Dave Ramsey. Uses common sense towards managing your money. Excellent content.
Skills u won't learn in school: *everything important*
Lol, so damn legit.
Agreed
Literally. Like wtf am I doing with triangles
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Immersing yourself in the process is what learning actually means
You are absolutely right. I went to grad school and I still remember that a summer passed by and I did not went out, not once. I was getting ready for my qualification exams. I remember the feeling of being alone and confine to the lab, with not friends other than the fellow grad students. I used to stay at the university 12 hours or more, go home and keep on reading and coding.
Hey...I am a teacher and always try to positively reinforce my learners to not work hard but do an job with all that they have....now I don't say one should not work hard, I solely am trying to convey that you don't have to keep yourself engaged as if you're to slay a dragon.
I am so happy to hear someone say this for 9 minutes straight.
So so true. In University I overworked myself, didn't have good sleep and didn't manage my time wisely. I broke down, and didn't continue Law. I love the advicr that I have to define success and go after that.
Thank you. I needed this. I had been overworking myself and my mental health is being impacted a lot. I don’t get enough sleep either and I’m always stressed. I will try to give myself a bit of self-love.
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I'm just realized one of my biggest anxiety is from exams. I'm good at school or exams, but I get so much anxiety so much when it's exam times. Like I feel so SCARED. I'm actually like studying however exam its not.
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Completely agree with having skills like financing in order to live like an adult. This stuff should really be taught in schools
social skills... my gosh yes. phone interviews.... talking to patients / customers.... 🙃
I'm an accounting graduate. And I never really learned how to file my OWN taxes during college. They just taught us how to file for the taxes of companies and other people.
ahh this is what im afraid of, im 17 and i don't want to leave school without even knowing the basics of life (especially in financial skills).
Omg i am going i to accounting! Wow thats good to know.
Love this, there is a lot of delusion around how important college is, but in reality soft skills, home economics and stuff like that are just way more important. School is just an extra on top, not the other way around
It's really sad that schools don't teach these skills around the world. I'm finnish and during my high school i was well educated in both personal financing and healthy habits, both for life and studying. We also have classes for practicing job skills and in universities, the companies and students collaborate a lot. If these aren't common around the world, maybe this is why our school system is thought to be so good
I really have to disagree with one thing. You don’t have to work one job or career for 40 years, that’s a very depressive thought that life is stagnant, I literally got depressed from this when I was 20 because I thought my life will always be the same. I‘m currently an artist and maybe I will do that forever but maybe I‘m going to be an author, a café owner, a librarian whatever in 10 years life is forever changing and surprises you around every corner. Never settle for something that you are not passionate about it’s never worth it. Always follow what you love life is so much more than work.
I know that it hsa been 1 years since you commented on this video, but she is likely to be brazilian and here we have a public social security that demands a certain number of years working the same job in order for you to retire receving a good amount of money proportionally to what you've given to the government based on the career that you took. You can always have a private retirement plan, but most brazilians will work their asses off on one career path and recieve a good amount of money monthly after they retire.
I realized that being instilled in school and getting ranked wasn't everything. because the real struggle is when out of school •~•
I love this - you are reading my mind! I think there are so many skills that should be taught in school that are not.
I know that many of us already know about all the things you mentioned. But personally, I find this video is really helpful. Your way of speaking doesn't feel like you're lecturing me, instead I felt reminded and it hits me hard.
So, thank you :)
I would also like to add, how to select and filter the types of advices to take and the ones to ignore
Thank you for making this video. I've been saying for years that we don't learn the essentials for living in the real world in school. If I can add one thing it would be added to the first point. How to deal with burnout and depression. My graduation project was all about a buddy system for people who struggled during their education. I found that a lot of people get burnouts and also depression. I've even been notified that someone had taken their own life in their first year. So yeah, learning how to deal with depression is just as important as a burnout.
Burnout hit hard for me in high school. That mixed with outher things made going to college impossible. Even thou i tried, I stopped and basically fell into somewhat of an isolation. Then slowly made steps towards better health and now i am looking for ways to create a life for my future self. Thank you for this video! It helped me set better focus on what to get going doing, I hope i will find myself in a good position in the future and wishing everyone else blessing and luck on their side too! take care
My university never taught me any thing that pertains of writing my thesis. What happened is that when I got there, they had instructors in the areas, but they all left the university within my first semester and my first year.
im so thankful for these videos, its gone to the point where i have to self teach myself biology because my teacher genuinely cant teach it
This is my motto: self-made, self-paid, self-educate.
*Whenever I feel like giving up, I just think about why I started.*
I don't know you personally but I wish you the best in your life. You are loved and needed.
*- a personal development RUclipsr* 🙃
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@@winter_bear2008 it’s how he advertises his account
Children should, at a minimum, understand their options for investing. They need to know about stocks, mutual funds, and real estate before a salesman explains these concepts to them. Refer children to point #2. They should understand the importance of investing early on.
I love your writing and your notebooks , so neat and clear . Thank you for this inspirational videos .
Was waiting really long for your video, haven't completed seeing it but I'm sure will teach me something good and resourceful like always... Keep up the good work 😃
What about becoming a physician? A lot of people dream about helping the community by practicing medicine. I know it’s not for everyone but I have a couple of friends who have pursued the dream of saving lives medically. That takes dedication and a lot of formal education.
It's the same principle -- if YOUR definition of success is becoming a physician to help the community by practicing medicine, definitely go for it :) Once again - it's all relative.
perfect timing, because i was just in a really bad burnout
These skills should be taught to everyone in school level. These are important ❤️
So true! Its so hard not to spend 12 hours in a day doing college work. I get burnt out sometimes 😣
Your videos are so helpful, inspiring and therapeutic, thank you so so much for creating such an beautiful and amazing content ! You’re the best, Mariana
Tive uma crise de ansiedade generalizada por causa de um exame da faculdade, em sequência de ataques de pânico e de uma depressão sombria que já estava inculcada em mim desde a infância. De uma discussão severa com uma pessoa, tal me provocou um AVC no cérebro à idade de 25. Cefaleias durante mais de seiscentos dias permanentes e o olhar praticamente parado. Choro a ver o vídeo na parte do burnout. No meu caso foi a morte cerebral. Estou a recuperar a três anos com muita medicação. Sou uma pessoa que trabalha não em Direito mas numa loja de roupa pois não tenho a capacidade de estar concentrada e me deslocar de veículo para a universidade ou para a O.A.. Era a melhor aluna de Solicitadoria, depois fui para Direito ( onde também era das melhores). Mas a pressão dos pais e falta de socialização ditaram o meu fim. Que o meu caso sirva de exemplo para todos! Obrigado Mariana pelos teus excelentes vídeos...sempre me aperfeiçoei contigo, ainda andavas tu a tirar Direito! E lembrem-se com fé e esperança em Jesus, tudo se consegue resolver. Ele sabe o melhor para nós!
i love how you talk about learning about financial literacy, Most of us don't understand much in the beginning, If your job isn't in finance make yourself read a little about it each week. Google terms you don't understand. Don't beat yourself up over not understanding everything right away. Overtime you will get it. I like to think of it at taking sips of information on a regular basis. But try to really learn how to invest for retirement and start by your late twenties at the latest. Everybody can retire but you have to take control of your finances and make it a goal early in life. And don't try to retire too early, A healthy work/life balance keeps people connected with the world.
1.) Priorities + time management: find your key subjects to study with priority time+effort to concentrate on first on most important foundations (mathematics?) for all the other stuff which depend on them (higher level subjects e.g. engineering/economy/ecology).
2.) Body + Mind Health: establish+keep daily early wake up time, move yourself to university+library (body need moving), talk+make friendship with colleages, create+join friends+learning group, exchange information + sources (books/internet links etc.), learn + check yourself together = fun.
3.) Free time: reserve just enough (not too much lazyness)! University time = life time chance!
Best use of freetime (healthy outdoor trip/sport) = Dont waste free time (no computer games).
4.) Present day: leave your day with complete clean notes answering all questions, leave no unanswered question (missed understanding / learning hour) for tomorrow (creeping into critical date of exam), listen and put long term dates + goals (date of exams, lab work etc) into your always available calendar + todo list.
PS: I earned best degree that way (1990 electrical -> computer -> software engineering)
Iowa university showed, that caring for others well being is beneficial for health and mood
I swear i need a podcast like that
Love this! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
What people binge-watch: Netflix
What I binge-watch: Your videos
Being successful is being happy with what you're doing really
Isn't it depressing that most people live to work and not work to live. These are all realistic things but it's just sad that at the end of the day it's all "career, jobs, work"
6:30 I can relate to this so much. After some real-world experience similar to yours, I realized that I like flying planes more than being a lawyer. Thanks for the video. I always like this wise content that goes beyond this school bubble and gives you knowledge for life in general, not just for career. Having strong life fundamentals is the key.
I really like how you’ve been speaking in front of the camera more. You are a constant source of quiet inspiration :)
I started university at 14 and finished my BSc in a STEM field at 19 after taking an extra year to take fun non-STEM electives. My other friends who went to normal high schools and attended/finished university at a "normal" age definitely were not taught these things in their schools and are usually ask me for advice. I am happy to give it always, but it is so sad to see that this is the type of everyday person that American schools are creating now. My generation needs serious help, and your videos are a good supplement.
I am a teacher and have been thinking to add some topics about life to be proposed to my students
@Ken, great idea, even if you talk about your experiences and how you view success, etc. Thanks for being a teacher. One of the most undervalued jobs in society unfortunately. Blessings.
I didnt know how much i needed this!
Hi Mariana, thank you very much for this video. I am glad that I am not the only lawyer who has realised that it is okay to change my career.
It's such a delight to listen to you though ☺️ thank you for your helpful and informative videos ❤️
Good video…I passed this along to my daughter in college. Thank you
It is a great insight on what I should be working on for better life style
After 2yrs working using my degree in engineering, i decided to just quit everything and trying to start all over again..
I find " how to avoid burn out " tips very helpful.
we need more steps by steps guide on its .
Please share
The first point is so true... I've been raised by an overworking father that valued money a lot, and a academic oriented mother that made me feel like having a "respectable" degree was the only thing that would make me happy. Currently I'm in college, and to this day I still feel like I'm wasting my time if I'm not doing something "productive". It sounds dumb, but learning how to rest is not the easiest thing to archieve.
Burnout is such a real thing, I remember the last 2 years of my Uni I didn't get a single day off. I studied during the weekdays at Uni and worked (at times) 3 part time jobs. Even during the summer I took on unpaid internships and continued my part times. Safe to say my final year didn't go so well, and my results dipped down.
so far, this video has been super enjoyable!
your videos are so helpful and motivating Mariana!!!! Thanksss
I'm 13/14 and I'm unschooled, if you don't what that is, it's basically like self learning, you just kinda learn whatever you want? There's rly no curriculum. There are some yt videos on it if you would like to learn more😊 I've been kind of struggling lately with what I want to learn and teach myself. So this video is so helpful because I would like to know these things now. Tysm
the little blooper reel at the end was adorable
I wish more people would hear this.
Great video. Thanks! 😍👏
Love from Egypt 🇪🇬
as a grad student, thank you!
Self-learning skills are not taught but learned through your career, studying, and working; they are, to some extent, are not the same because everyone has not the same experience, environment, study capacity, passion, etc...
Success is achieving my goals.
I think people need to take a ton of extracurriculars growing up too. One or two a year, forcing them to try new things. Growing up we didn't have the money to do any outside of school. And my school never had art or music so that was a huge part of my identity that was unexplored until I was well into adulthood. I wish I had been exposed to that sooner. If you don't try things out when you're young you could (like me) grow up with a ton of identity issues. It just makes everything so much harder & you won't be happy.
With that said, I also know people who were overbooked. Had extraccurrculars every day after school & on weekends, as well as working. They were never able to have a proper social life because of it.
The Best...is the only thing, that is Good Enough...because, Whats Good Enough, is Never Good Enough.
dear the whole vide is amazing but other than that
I think success is something which keeps you strong, which doesn't let you break easily it can be financially physically emotionally mentally . The point is it makes your life a way lot easier doesn't it ?
I feel very useless this year, i dont have work and cant go to school. I dont know what to do with myself. Ill say this video will be useful to me. Thank you.
All the comments here great I would love to mention knowing our rights is very important life needs things can come to a lot details under it!!!
Your voice is so relaxing ❤️
Love your channel. Always great advise and insight. Your notes are amazing. I learn so much from your topics. I hope in the future you plan to teach and/or publish your topics.
MANNERS & MENTAL HEALTH are not taught enough in school. I think thats WAYY more important than graphing long ass equations.
I love your accent.
Anyhow, this is about pacing yourself, setting boundaries.
Simone Biles has brought this to light recently. We all need to learn from her example.
I enjoy your bloopers; they make you all the more relatable. 💕
This video is a gem 💎. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video. I would start my college in 2 weeks
In my school they actually twacj us alot and if u havw mental probpems you go see the school psychologist/therapist so yeah and its free which is what i like and i didnt realize so many people had mental problems
I'M NEVER GIVE UP HOPE I'M. NEVER GIVE UP MY DREAM NEVER LOSE HOPE FAITH 🙏 😊
I just discovered your channel and I'm so happy!! I love your content. And I wanted to give skillshare a try and now I went for it :)
I remember when I was little the question I asked myself whenever learning somrthing was "will this help me for thr apocalyse?"
We are talking 4-9 year old kid here.
Now I dont have a purpose anymore, but if the apocalypse comes im prepared!
I learn financial literature in exploring personal finances
very educational, I could totally relate to that. thank you
I am always happy to see your video,Sister.Wishing you a success in your future.
You Deserve millions of subscribers.
Wishing for your better future❤️
This really helped. I'm very depressed bc I'm so behind than my siblings and peers. I jus feel like a complete failure.
Éducation is a doorway to LIFE
Absolutely loved this, thanks for sharing.
Glad you enjoyed it!