Are You Pansexual? What Is It? Here's My Story...
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You explain pansexuality so well. I hadn't settled on a label yet and never saw the importance to do so like you said you'd felt in the past. I originally came out as a gay woman and loved it for about a year before I realised I still liked men too... sexuality is very moldable too, people see it as a rigid decision but it doesn't have to be....it can be fluid. Pansexuality is fun....less about parts more about hearts
Sexuality isn’t a “decision” at all. How do y’all not see how problematic that notion is? Gays and lesbians have been fighting for decades to be seen as normal because our sexuality ISN’T A CHOICE. If anyone could choose to be gay, no one would. No one wants to be discriminated against. If it were as easy as a decision, everyone with sense would choose to be heterosexual. This is exactly the problem with this identity ideology. It’s so wildly homophobic, and y’all literally don’t even care. It’s crazy and it’s offensive.
@@dewilew2137As a proud part of the LGBTQIA+ community, I disagree. I would choose to be who I am, that being said, no it isn’t a decision and this isn’t a correct word choice. It’s more about what we discover about ourselves and some may not choose to be part of the community. The fluidity for some, is incredibly important and there are still things I am discovering about who I am. I’m lucky to not have had much hate but I have experienced it a lot where it shouldn’t be a thing nowadays. Labels are important for some but not for others. Just a thought, the words we choose to use 3 years ago may not fit now… but please don’t tell me I’m homophobic
@@dewilew2137 I don’t think they were saying it was they were just figuring stuff out ❤
Your voice is so soothing lol ❤️❤️
Happy Birthday kiddo!!!
Fellow pansexual here 🙋🏾♀️ I love that you spoke about this. Such a spectrum to sexuality. And quite afew labels. I've had the same response too where people haven't heard of it.
It really isn’t a spectrum for most of us.
This is my first time seeing one of your videos and I love this. You're such a lovely person. I just subscribed based on this one video. I've been pansexual for the past 2 years. I was never in the closet, just in the cupboard with the rest of the pans 😂🩷💛🩵
You’re so real&raw and above all: INSPIRING. You honestly motivate me everyday to keep pushing and you made me fall in love with RUclips and putting out my own content. Thank you for being like a big sister to me(:
Wow, what a sweet thing to say. Thank you ❤️
I HAVENT WATCHED YOU IN YEARS! I WATCHED WHEN YOU HAD RED HAIR AND WERE KINDA EMO! YOURE SO SWEET ☀️💕
I’m currently considering if I’m pansexual since I’ve never been interested in conversations like “oh look at that guy, he’s so cute” or “that girl is so hot”. However I’m doubting myself since all three crushes I had were of guys. Even so, I never felt like I liked them because they were guys, but I felt like I liked them because of their traits separate from their gender and I believe that if a girl or nonbinary person had the same set of traits, then I’d like them too. However, I’ve never met people who weren’t guys with similar personalities to them, so I’m not sure. Also not a single one liked me back, and other than one both of the others turned out to be not that nice
You’re heterosexual.
I’ve always labeled myself as bisexual but your description of pans & the difference between those two is making me question if I’m pans.
You’re not.
Loved watching this video and was in depth and interesting- Love you and happy pride 😀💕
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omg tytyty you have no idea how this video helped me!! i never felt this understood as u made me feel! thank you
I feel like this has really helped me thank you. I can really relate. Do all bisexual people not like transgender then? Sorry I'm just trying to learn x
I’m bisexual, and tbh I wouldn’t really care if the trans man/woman had completed their transition, but if they hadn’t done that yet then I don’t think I’d really be comfortable or attracted to them. Don’t get me wrong, I have trans friends who haven’t transitioned yet, I’m fine with them being who they want to be, but romantically I don’t think I’d be comfortable with it, if you know what I mean?
I wouldn’t be opposed to it necessarily, but it’s just how I feel about it. Transitioning is a very complicated process and it can be very confusing and I just don’t think I could be with someone during that time. But once they’re fully transitioned, I don’t think it would make a difference to me if they were once the opposite gender.
Everyone has their own mindset on it tbh so I think the answer to your question will vary depending on who you ask ☺️
Well done 👍 love this. Make up looks amazing as well :)
I'm a two spirit trans woman pansexual and a hunter gather and as soon as I can buy some land I'll be raising livestock for food. I'll also be looking for someone that will love me . Someone I share my life with and ride horses , hunt , fish and watch westerns with❤
I hold so much faith in my heart that you will find just that 💜
Love you and this💖
I identify as bisexual and have had a similar experience to you in a lot of ways. I have always known my parents would be accepting but that doesn't take things away from it. Also have only ever seriously/publicly dated men which I think puts people of the idea of me being part of the community. I'm sorry that you had to deal with negative people in your discovery.
I also struggled to find a place but today I am just proud to be me and the people who love and support me know who I am so that's all I need. 🌈
You can “identify” however you like, I guess, but you’re probably heterosexual. A lot of straight women _think_ they find women attractive, until they actually hook up with a woman and they realize that anything beyond kissing a woman is repulsive to them.
Totally agree, That's how I feel too :) You nailed it, it's the person inside, not what's on the outside, it's their internal beauty more.
I'm glad you feel that you can relate 😌
yep!!
Internal beauty matters, but that doesn’t mean that sex doesn’t matter. The overwhelming majority of people are attracted to a person’s sex. It’s been that way for all of humans history (as well as in other animal species), and it will stay that way.
i am also pansexual, i have been for about 5/6 years.. im so proud of yo for coming out and creating more awareness about a commonly misunderstood sexuality xx
Loved this Ellie! I feel more informed around pansexuality after watching this. I very much relate! You're a beautiful individual, keep being you! Happy pride month!💕💕
Oh yeah when I was littler I remember I said out loud to people why should it matter who I date as long as they are nice it was before I knew more about different genders but yeah.
Cause now ik more about other genders and I can tell u that I think that I don’t have to care what gender the person goes by
Whenever I came out as pan, my best friend was fishing for more information regarding it. Like how and when did I “decide” that I was. It was almost as if she didn’t believe me and needed further proof...
Hmm, people are weird 🤣
Your friend is smart. I’d bet money that you’ve already grown out of “pansexuality” since you posted this comment.
@@dewilew2137 You’re literally commenting on people’s comments on a video from 3 YEARS AGO. Seek help. 😅
Sorry that my first comment was soo long oof
You presented and explained pansexuality so well sweetheart! Much better than I have been able to explain it to others, so I may quote you/this video if any of super conservative family members come asking me about it again haha. Seriously thank you for putting this out there though, Pansexuality isn't spoken about nearly enough and you did a smashing job! :)
That's so amazing to hear because I was so nervous if I had done it "right". So, thank you! 😌
That’s because it’s not real.
You’re so beautiful
Oh thank you! 🙏
Yes! This is exactly how it was for me. I couldn't quite understand how being attracted to gender was a thing.
Because it isn’t a thing. People are attracted to sex. The vast majority of people are attracted to the opposite sex, and the overwhelming majority of people are solely attracted to one sex. Bisexuality is rare, but it’s real.
The claim that you just “didn’t understand” that most people are specifically attracted to one sex or another is ridiculous and objectively untrue.
Growing up discovering about different sexualities not just straight or gay has been amazing to actually find where I fit on the scale of sexuality has been a fun journey to see me discover myself fully and be aware be proud of being you lovely! 👏🎉😄
I agree 100%!
You’re heterosexual.
When I came out as pansexual it was never really accepted to the ones I came out too they just refer to my sexual orientation as “bisexual”. A lot of the time individuals I’ve spoken to about it never understand, I’ve felt very much so that I’ve had the bi sexual label pushed on to me and a lot of the time it just easier to say I am even though it doesn’t resonate with me. Glad those who you did come out to accepted you Ellie :)
There’s only two sexes, so you are bisexual.
Proud of you lass. Love from Scotland xxx 💖💖💖
I actually relate to this 💛 ur so brave for speaking ur feelings about this topic. Well done Ellie 💕
Thanks so much 🥰
“Brave”? Why?
I think people have a hard time remembering that changes in views, opinions, sexuality doesn’t have to be coherent with others. Everyone changes at different rates either positively or negatively, and you may be enlightened from different avenues that come in to your life at different times 💜
Amen to that 🙏
I actually know exactly what you mean about not having a place in the community, I always felt a little like 'Ah... hmm okay..' when I spoke to my friends about pride and they kind of shunned me a little, since it wasn't 'my place'...
I've actually finally come out to myself this year as Bi, I've been so... confused for a long time. I'm 24 and I always thought that I should have it figure out by now, and if I was 'actually' Bi I would know.. but.. I didn't, and that's okay. I think a lot of stuff that has happened in the past has prevented me from coming out, and I don't blame those people but I do recognise that now..
Also, being on the asexual/aromantic spectrum (I'm not either, more like.. graysexual? I think thats what it's called) did nooottt helpppp LOL
I'm glad I watched this video, it makes a lot of sense! I'm also happy you have such an open family, and had people to keep you positive.
I'm actually disgusted by that girl telling you what yo do, full stop. She has the wrong idea of the LGBT community, cause as a community we accept everyone and heterosexual, it's a misconception that people think we don't accept heterosexuality. Sorry I just wanted to add that. It's disgusting to me, telling people what group you should be allowed to belong to, like who died and made you advocacy queen?
Like I used to think I was pansexual cause I fancied women but no I'm just lesbian. And I agree the labels are scary cayse it's like we are going backwards to victorian times. And not being funny no one can tell you your experience, your thoughts, cause haven't lived it.
I'm greatful you did this video. I feel like you are a bit like Shane Dawson, cause you both feel like you need to saving people and do what they say and it backfires, but I like what JK says, not everyone is going to like the ending to a story and that's how it should be. But live your best life, stop letting people tell you what to do, I had a toxic friendship like that and I broke off it, cayse I wanted to live my best life. Your a lovely person so for me, just do you. X
This comment gave me goosebumps! Thanks so much 🥺❤️
I never understood how anyone could be fully straight I thought every has same sex crushes, I didn’t think I was bi because I’ve never had a girlfriend but I’m not against the idea of it but now I know you don’t have to have had sex with a gender to be a certain sexuality especially when I fully identify as Demi sexual so sex is not really thought about until I have feelings for someone
Now say the same thing you just said, but about gay people instead of straight people.
You wouldn’t ever say that, right? Yet there’s no difference. Clearly, if you don’t understand how someone can only be attracted to one sex, then you don’t understand homosexuality. But you’d never tell a gay person “how can you not have an opposite sex crush?!”
You’re straight. Just like most of the people commenting here. Just like the woman in this video, just like nearly everyone who claims to be “pansexual”.
yes!! yes!! you just opened my eyes so much
i exactly have the same ideas in my head about sexuality. Never understood the concept of being attracted to a certain gender
the proof thing: it's like I've always been open about the idea of dating a girl/non-binary yet because that has never happened in the past I always thought "well I guess I'm straight!"
and bc we live in a hetero normative world, I got used to the idea that the "dating market" only consisted in men and that never really bothered me, or it was "easier" to find male partners. Besides, I'm demisexual and I've never really loved anyone in the past (beyond crushes) which only made things more confusing!
Well, not like it's gonna change my life really, cool to know tho
You never understood the concept normal of human (and animal) sexuality? I’m calling BS. Y’all are literally just lying to try to sound interesting and qUirKy. 🙄
I'm here for male pan representation🫡
I relate to this so much and i'm happy others feel the same way. You made me realise pansexuality is valid and i'm lying to myself.
Being pansexual many people assuming your straight just because you come out dating the opposite sex. when in actual reality they don’t have to see you dating the same sex for your sexuality to be valid. I love people regardless of their gender identity or expression I love people for who they are. Regardless of your partner there is no need to prove yourself.
Bi woman in a long term relationship with a man with 2 kids, all my friends/family know I'm bi but to "strangers/colleagues" they presume straight (don't blame em) until it happens to come up in conversation and they've so far been "cool" with it 🤷♀️ but I've always said my "perfect" match is male bottom half with fem top half 🤭🤭 my pref is men 2 be in a relationship with but I find women more attractive/sexual then men 🤷♀️
And 1 colleague had me laughing when they realised, as they were very apologetic about it as they were brought up not to presume etc but I just said its fine and normal as been with a man for 10+yrs with 2 bio kids 😅
I went from bi to gay back to bi, but now I think pansexual fits because I really like women, sometimes I like men. But I have decided on pansexual because I have dated gender fluid and non binary people whom I found attractive. thanks for the video I needed the subtle reassurance :)
You found non binary people attractive because of their sex. Not their “gender”. A man or woman doesn’t stop being attractive because they decide they’re non binary. That would be like if my girlfriend came out as non binary, and I broke up with her because I’m only attracted to women….SHE’S STILL A WOMAN. My sexuality hasn’t changed. Her sex hasn’t changed. Her appearance hasn’t even changed. So would my sexual orientation be different?
The whole concept of pansexuality is so absurd. Most of y’all are straight, and a small minority of you are bisexuals who don’t think bisexuality is cool or special enough to suit your super special personality.
Thanks for the video !
Nobody needs to come out though! Passing on our seed and teaching our children is very important so that we can have a better future. If we are not pro creating than ultimately we will die off. If you look at Europe's fertility rates they're averaging 1.5 children per women. That means it's impossible to sustain a culture with such a low fertility rate. We are going to have an aging population with more grand parents than children :(
Moral of the story is its important to procreate and raise up good moral seed. It's important for parents to be married and lead by example. Men loving men and women loving women has got nothing to do with sexuality. After all we are all called to love our brothers and sisters. Loving men or loving women is what we should have been doing from the beginning! However in terms of sexuality you can't procreate without a man and a women. So women sleeping with women and visa versa leads to death as no seed can be passed on. So better to keep relationships on a non sexual basis unless you can pass on your seed.
If we don't start having more babies soon western civilisation as we know it will cease to exist.
Even if I was straight, I don't want to "pass on my seed" 🤮 Being a mum isn't at the top of my priority list.
There are millions of children without parents or stability. People don’t have a requirement to have children !! The world isn’t going to end because some people don’t choose to have children. By 2050 the population has been estimated to be 10.9billion. The capacity for safety for human life and environment is between 4-9billion. Let people make their own choices. Let people educate others on options for their own god. Damn . Bodies
Ok I don't usually comment on RUclips cause it's a mine field of trolls and people just being massively disrespectful to creators.
But this comment is vile and also is so factually incorrect it's untrue. You are being Homopophic and sexist comment, let alone creepy.
You are aware the current human population on the planet is nearly 8 Billion... That's right Billion! You are talking as if we are going extinct? When we aren't in fact we are overpopulated if you look at people's living conditions in certain parts of the world.
Also, I do have to wonder why it matters do much to you what peoples sexuality is? Why do you have to get so upset about it that it causes you to write that nonsense on a video. None ”has” to feel a certain way, just because biologically men and women make children does not mean they have to sleep with them.
What is this obsession with ”passing on your seed”, there is no need for it. There is enough people in the world struggling, children without families that means not very women in the world has to have kids. To say that it's women should only sleep with men so you can ”pass on your seed” is also sexist, we are not a vessel for you to produce children. We are human beings who have a right to our own body as much as you.
I suggest you go seriously educate yourself or at least keep your comments to yourself. Because people like you are what is wrong with society. People can live how they like as long as they are not harming anyone; it is NONE's business but theirs!
On a positive note, this is a amazing video Ellie. Ignore this a**hole 💜
@@NinkComPoop You are straight. You were dating Kyle for years and just a few weeks after the breakup, you met your current boyfriend. You're as straight as they come. You just try to seem more interesting than you actually are.
It's always the boring women who NEVER dated another woman who claim they're pansexual. Tess Holliday is exactly the same. She has always been only romantically involved with men but claims she's pan. You've never been with another woman, you just try to fit in. Bisexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality - it's a trend at the moment.
Yikes! I have been on many dates with women, my dear 😬
Sexuality isn’t, and never has been, a trend. But sure ok 👌🏻
@@serenah while i whole heartedly agree, so many girls at my school are all of a sudden bisexual and I'm like ??? again I'm pan and I agree
@@bomoore9872 bisexuality is usually what people who are unsure of their sexuality claim to be, because they’re just discovering themselves and who they are. Typically it is a gateway.
I’m sure many people who are claiming to be bi right now will later say they’re lesbian. Some will say it was just a phase and they’re only interested in the opposite gender, and that’s ok. Some may be something else.
The vast majority of people will start to have feelings for both genders at the same time, which is bisexuality, and which is why so many people say they’re bi when they’re young. Once they experiment, reflect on their feelings etc. they will then find a place where they fit in the most, just like Ellie did with pansexuality