Taylor & Tay Lautner on BODY SHAMING, Pressures of Global SUPERSTARDOM, & Finding LOVE!
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- Опубликовано: 25 июн 2024
- What’s it like to be married to someone with your exact name?? Taylor Lautner and his wife, Tay Lautner, open up in this deeply personal and eye-opening episode of MBB!
From Taylor’s whirlwind journey as a global superstar in the Twilight series where he experienced an unprecedented level of stardom, to Tay’s relentless dedication as a nurse during the pandemic, this couple shares their unique experiences with fame, body image, mental health, and love.
Taylor Lautner gets candid about the negative effects of fame that made it difficult for him to leave his house, why he took a pause from the entertainment industry, dating Taylor Swift, the pressures of being a teenage sex symbol, and overcoming body image issues that haunted him for years. He also opens up about being bullied in school for being an actor, his struggles with people-pleasing and perfectionism, the origins of his optimistic nature and sense of discernment, and his insecurities with fame now.
Tay speaks to the life-and-death pressures of nursing and the obsessive compulsive tendencies she thinks it has instilled in her. She also details her struggles with burnout and boundary-setting and pinpointing her actual wants and needs, and the emotional toll of her loved ones' battles with addiction and bipolar disorder.
Together, they explore the dangers of over-compartmentalizing and not allowing yourself to feel full range of emotions, how they balance their relationship despite having different love languages, and what it means to grow and heal together.
Join the Lautner power couple as we break down their mental health journey, their favorite tools for mental wellness, and the most valuable things they’ve learned doing their own successful mental health podcast, The Squeeze!
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 - Intro
9:14 - Dating Taylor Swift
18:48 - Complicated Relationship to Fame
22:53 - Twilight & Finding Overnight Fame
32:28 - Teenage Sex Symbol
37:50 - Perfectionism
42:23 - Communicating with Different Love Languages
50:10 - Struggles with Pinpointing Wants & Needs
59:15 - The Lautners' Mental Health Journey
1:17:53 - Rebuilding Body Image
1:24:55 - Rapid Fire
1:28:40 - OUTRO
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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who had a vastly different love language or communication style than you? Were you able to find a way to meet in the middle? Let us know down below!
YES! I am the over analyzer and my husband is the "whatever you want". He hasn't been diagnosed, but having been around ADD and ADHD people, he is ADHD. :) Could there be a correlation to that? He can't sit and focus and analyze the situation, so places his trust in the people around him? I would LOVE to have him plan a vacation for once, but he just doesn't care enough, and funny enough, still thinks hotels are only $20 a night, no matter how often I tell him otherwise. Also, he says his brain refuses to remember information he deems "unimportant", yet will ask me the same question 10 times... and sadly, no, i am not joking. His family has said that he has always been like that when I brought up the concern about possible dementia. (He's 50)
Also, with arguments, he wants to fight and solve it right now. Having been in very abusive relationships, I can't do that. My mind goes completely blank, I start saying things I shouldn't just to defend myself instead of just calmly talking things out. If I can calmly talk things thru, then I'm ok. The second it starts getting heated, I feel the need to run, to get to a safe place. This is why I can't be a Karen... my brain refuses to let me...lol My heart tells me, it's not this specific person's fault, so see if they can help you to find a solution, and try to express my frustration, but joke with them and try to make sure they end their time with me with a smile.
Yes if you follow life languages or redemptive gift languages based on Romans 12 our spirit functions out of seven portions of language but we speak in first or second depending on situations we are in and stage in life. I operate more in prophet/mover as I suspect Taylor speaks. Very passionate and black and white thinkers.My husband is servant/doer. I see Tay functions as a contemplator/teacher. Her language is very cognitive. She does have to process before reacting. Look it up and take this quiz! I learned this decades ago and helps me understand how people speak! 😊
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I really wish you were the host of Jeopardy. 😢
No but now that I’m with a man who does life is like a bowl of cherries! We also have the same attachment style (anxious) but because the relationship is uncomplicated we both are becoming regulated and therapy has been fruitful!
Im deeply impressed and refreshed by how honestly humble, grounded and clear eyed Mr Lautner is. He was a brief obsession of my daughter during Twilight mania and there was a poster of him in her room for years and i erroneously judged him as just a pretty boy, mea culpa on my part. I wish him and his family all the peace and love in the world.
I hope you learnt a valuable lesson and passed that lesson to your daughter.
I love how Tey spoke about the lack of boundaries in nursing. It was always there but it got worse during Covid. It was expected that nurses sacrifice without support.
When Tay said, "I am bigger than my anxiety. Its gonna pass, you're fine. Its just your brain, let it pass." I felt that, deeply, cause as a person who has anxiety, social anxiety and I also stutter. Sometimes I feel like lost because my anxiety gets in the way, especially in moments when I'm by myself or at work when I talk to people. I tend to overthink things and the anxiety gets in the way and it makes me nervous or frustrated. When she said that, I almost cried cause I deal with that daily. This interview was honestly a breath of fresh air for me, it was so warm and real. I loved every second of it! Mayim, you are such amazing person, please keep being you and being positive. It was beautiful ❤ thank you!!
Before this interview I didn't know much about Taylor Lautner... I'm now a fan of him & his wife as incredible humans! Down to earth, kind, & giving back to the world helping others!!! I LOVED THIS EPISODE!❤️❤️❤️
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@@MayimBialikthis is an awesome episode thanks mayim
She may not realize it, but Tay basically described a moving meditation when she talked about the task of organization quieting her brain /mind. I love that people are figuring that out even without naming it.
Thank you so much for having Taylor and Tay Lautner in this episode. I enjoyed listening to this interesting conversation. I love you, Mayim! ❤
Thanks for sharing and for being here! 🧠🫶
I'm really happy you returned as Amy in Young Sheldon, Mayim. It was really nice to see you and Jim Parsons back as Sheldon and Amy. You're my favorite actress ever Mayim! Thank you for playing the best fictional female character ever created once again!
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@@MayimBialik You replied to me! Thanks!
What a sweet couple. Tay's story about being a new nurse during Covid really reminded me of some very sad stories I have heard about people who worked in health care and how hard it was for them. Very experienced, skilled people burning out and newbies that do not get the time to learn the job before they are burned up.
Generationally I didn’t watched the Twilight saga, but I watched recently you, Mayim, at Taylor & Tay’s The Squeeze podcadt and I liked them a lot. But after this MBB episode it’s stunning to see how kind, adorable, in tune with each other and how down to earth people they are! Probably it’s because they’re that way that they get along so well with you and Jonathan..
On my solo travels in Spain about a decade ago I took a group tour in Tarragona that included a couple named Pat and Pat. They were adorable retirees who seemed to truly be best friends, much like Taylor and Tay.
Mayim and Jonathan, I have listened to every single one of your Breakdown podcasts since 2020. My husband even randomly sings the theme song now. We also got a kick out of Call Me Kat (I live in Louisville) and are big Jeopardy fans (our dog Bek is named for Alex). My friends and I once sang Wind Beneath My Wings on a professor's answering machine in college during Truth or Dare Jenga (big Beaches fan). You keep showing up! Thank you!
Thank you for this. I'm 46 and the Twilight series is a guilty pleasure. I love the books and like the movies. My girls know Taylor as sharkboy...lol
Awww, but Barry Sanders is one of the kindest, most humble souls. I went to school with him from elementary through high school, and he always treated others with grace.
I’m less than half-way through this & absolutely love this couple! I watched the Lautner’a podcast with Mayim on it yesterday & just got the impression of such calm, a sense of being at ease with these two. I can see them being the neighbors to check in on you when they know someone in your family is sick, probably bringing chicken noodle soup o & ginger ale over.
Mayim, you seem so relaxed on their podcast, too. I have no insight into this at all, but I can see the four of you just becoming a close-knit group who has each over for dinner, checks in on each other, etc.
I’m sure this entire episode will be excellent & I can’t wait to listen to the rest of it. I do think that a large part of this dialogue is so soothing because of the grounding effect that Jonathan & Tay have on Mayim & Taylor. Choosing partners wisely - that’s so, so important.
Well done to all of you for how you elevate the other & make it a priority to bring out the best in each other, as well as pushing each other beyond your comfort zones - with love & respect - it’s just beautiful to see.
I really relate to Tay regarding the conflict resolution in their marriage. I had to learn to have conflict with my husband as well and his approach is totally different from mine, he wants to hash everything out right away and I really need time to process and articulate my feelings with myself before I feel ready to articulate them with him. I wasn’t an only child, but my family also never discussed conflict ever. It was just an argument and then everyone would just act like nothing had happened. There was no resolution, and when we were all adults I’ve talked to my brothers a bit about the fact that none of us know how to deal with conflict.
Really enjoyed listening to a side of Taylor I never knew existed. Also really enjoyed getting to know more about Tay and her mental health journey! They’re a beautiful couple 😩
In our house, his favourite movie is Sharkboy and Lavagirl. My six-year-old loves it and I’m pretty sure that’s also why I can see you is one of her favourite music videos from Taylor Swift.
And I can’t wait to use. Twilight is a way to teach my daughter about toxic relationships.
Great interview! I appreciate the honesty, vulnerability and humility that this couple shows toward each other and towards the audience 😀
I love that the generations coming up get it and are working tirelessly to teach and advocate for mental health. ❤
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If someone looked at me and asked, no are you really okay? I would just start bawling Hahhah don’t ask things you don’t want answers to 🤣
When I was teaching first and second grade about 20 years ago, one of my small girls came to school on a Monday and was extremely excited because she’d met Taylor! He was in the Sharkboy/Lava Girl movie! ❤️
Sounds like I have a new podcast to enjoy! Thanks for having this awesome power couple on the show!
Taylor’s (Boy Taylor 😂) voice is so therapeutical If he ever decides to pursue an avenue of expansion in his talent for offering love to the world beyond acting, it felt (for me) lime his voice can be a tool to bring healing to the world. Wonderful to witness such kindness and heartwarming respect in a relationship 🎉 Congratulations
I have ADHD and Tay really is a caregiver with OCD. I relate since I work with Special Needs and my ADHD is my superpower. Once you recognize its value (i think she does) you take the trauma from it. And grow it into the most incredible work and life ethics. THANK YOU Tay for your service.
I’m a recruiter ADHD is my superpower and why I thrive in that position. I used to be a medical assistant for Orthopedic surgeons and the crazier the clinic got the more I shined 😂
He should get back into doing movies please. 🎬 He looks and sounds great!
So great to have this opportunity to see Taylor speak as a human being, having grown up idolizing him.
I feel the need to mention how many of the issues celebrities talk about on here occur on the smallest of smallest of productions from community theater to public television.
I've witnessed many of the same behaviors talked about in small community theater settings as a rural theater professional alot of the same expectations put on child stars are put on the star of Annie at your local theater.
OMG these two are just so beautiful inside and out and are so perfect for together
I really enjoyed this episode. From this interview & watching The Squeeze, you can tell that they’re both really down to earth. I love what Tay said about her anxiety will pass. I have to tell myself that too.
Thank you for this!
Love the outtake
What a great episode. It’s always so interesting and I learn so much. Thank you for being here
Thank YOU for being here! So glad you enjoyed the episode 🫶🧠
Yay I was waiting for this interview since I seen you on Tylor podcast.
These two are so adorable! It makes me sad that Taylor ever doubted what an amazing human being he is inside and out, and coming from a much older women who had a total crush and has watched the twilight saga more times than i can count, you look great.
Great interview Mayim. I really enjoyed the honesty and humble way they present themselves. I loved how he asked her are you ok? And she said I'm fine. My mentor always asks me, are you fine in a f-ed up, insecure, neurotic and emotional way? Or do you need to think about how you feel? This is helping me, as I quit smoking and have put on some weight. I did something great, but I feel less than with how I appear to myself and also how others see me. I always feel like I can apply something of your interviews to my life. So thank you both for this wonderful interview.
Tay, I completely understand what you’re saying about needing to sleep on something! It’s almost like you freeze (fight, flight, freeze) and are not quite sure how you feel on a topic. For me, it’s typically a “gut reaction” that I have on the topic matter, but I need to take the time to understand why I’m having that specific reaction. Why am I being argumentative or why does this question/topic cause me to have this feeling? There is nothing wrong with walking away from a conversation (sleeping on it) to help you better understand your thoughts and feelings on a matter. It takes an emotionally mature person to be able to walk away and come back at another time.
My boyfriend used to get upset with me when I told him “now is not a good time to talk about this or can we continue this conversation later”? He understands now that my brain needs to be in the right mindset or I need to be able to take time away to figure out why my body is telling me to defend (fight) my opinion.
This is an outstanding episode. These two are wonderful!
There was a couple in my neighborhood that shared similar first names (Raymond and Raynita). The adults called them He Ray and She Ray to distinguish between the two.
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This was so inspiring and like a breath of fresh air to hear such vulnerability and raw real life from celebrity to nurse , thanks for such a great episode on some powerful topics. Body image can be such a beast to tackle. I’m glad he touched on it. 🙌🏻😁
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OMG! i knew it! after your guesting in their podcast, they will be your next guest here in MBB ❤
Thank you for this new and great ep, MBB! ❤❤❤
Such a good episode ❤
Great conversation! I love that they are really open and vulnerable about mental health. Love your podcast, Mayim ❤️🧠
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Thanks for the great videos! I've watched them all and love them all! I am a long time Blossom fan! I can't forget her and don't want to! Awesome guests too!! Love Taylor and Tay!
Fantastic interview. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.
You’re both gorgeous so please! Be happy. Great interview.
What a sweet and insightful couple! Really enjoyed this interview and want to check out their podcast. Their true support for each other is so lovely!
Great couple and a fun episode! My mantra is keep going. It helped me through some tough times.
Love you Mayim! You are so funny! 😂 Love this podcast! So much joy and insights! ❤😊
Regardless of this in depth interview, it’s still hilarious they are both Taylor Lautner. And the only way to differentiate is his wife calling herself Tay.
And his ex is Taylor swift
How bizzare😂
@@darnitthelma4247 And if TS changed her last name to Lautner, you could have three with the same name!
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Omg they are so cute! Yay team Jacob! 🥹🙌🏻💖lol Now I am going to watch your interview on theirs🌻
I love this episode SO much ! ❤
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Oddly I was in my fifties before I learned I could have boundaries. Like Taylor I’m a people pleaser. Sometimes to the point of my own detriment. I had many things happen to me when I was young that I think led me to believe boundaries were something I didn’t even know I could set for myself. It was actually a friend that that said to me honey you know that what happened to you wasn’t right. That I could have spoken up for myself. This friend gave me the confidence to stand strong in my feelings and that it was ok to say know. Sounds like something I should have learned at a much earlier age. I think though when things happen to you that damage you deeply you have a learned behavior of just keeping the peace or making everyone, but yourself happy.
Yay!! Love them!!! ❤
I gotta say I loved him in Grown Ups and The Ridiculous 6
He barely had any lines in Ridiculous 6.
I love your podcast but this was such a joy to listen to and was my favorite by far, probably because i also love The Squeeze podcast ❤ I learned a lot here since i am struggling with my mental health journey
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Taylor the nurse is really relatable because I used to be a CNA in my early twenties and it is the most hardworking and mentally exhausting job you could ever have. I thought being security or being a cleaner is rough not when you have to take care of the elderly and like have to wipe butts everyday.. it's a very hard-working but fulfilling job because you get to be Hands-On training with the patience and you just learn bedside manners and a lot of compassion with other people.
And for Taylor lautner, you made me feel bad because I used to have the biggest crush on him since Twilight. But I am so glad he found his wife they are very compatible and just very amazing people so glad he slowing down and not coming back to Hollywood..
I also want to confirm OCD I think it came from cleaning and becoming so active your mind is is over stimulated so much that if someone asked me hey do you want to go somewhere I honestly do not care I rather someone just make the decisions😂😂
Always impressed Mayim😊❤
I think that being a nurse and living so much of your life in that level of urgency and experiencing trauma and death, it must really change your perspective about the importance or unimportance of daily quibbles and petty decisions in your regular life. I can see how one can get to the point of just not caring what color to paint your house, or where to eat for dinner etc.
Tay just said “I have a very loud brain”…..I totally identify with that statement! Loved this conversation between you four. Thank you for the continuing journey 💖💖
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45:25 how interesting to see anxiety and possibly fear sneaking into the desire or need to have answers and know what's happening to the other. Great learning here :)
Hey guys and gals. I love Taylor and Tay. I didn’t know they had a podcast until I saw Mayim(great episode too☺️)on it. I remember reading and seeing all the Twilight books and movies. I loved them. There was an article I read when the Twilight movies were coming out that said Vampires are over. Boy I knew the article was wrong‼️Vampires are never gonna be over🧛🏻☺️❣️Thank you Tay for doing so much during covid as a nurse. Anyways, great couple. You and Jonathan too, Mayim❤️
Hi, I’m an occasional viewer and subscribed but like to binge episodes. Now I have to check out The Squeeze too. These two Taylor’s are so cool and adorable that I subscribed without watching a bit of their show yet.
Thanks for sharing the interview and offering insight and context in your questions and in their replies.
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I watched Mayim on their podcast a few weeks ago and they mentioned they would be on MBB. Excited to see their episode
My husband is a lot like Tay - he doesn't really care about where we stay when we go places as long as it's safe 😀.
I, on the other hand, like to discuss all of the amenities and what it's closest to, etc.
Opposites attract! and thank goodness, otherwise we'd probably be clashing all the time lol
I find it super interesting that She-Tay commented about Nurses developing OCD about cleanliness. My M-I-L is a life long nurse and has moderate OCD about cleanliness as well but also about security. Meaning, she always checks locks 3 times. I'd be fascinated to know if there are any studies on this for nurses.
Possibly people with OCD are drawn to nursing because of how organized it is
@@hartleyhearthPeople with OCD, like myself, are not drawn to things because of organization. The OCD is telling me to keep checking regardless of how organized things are. It’s an anxiety disorder. I’m also autistic p, and that part of me needs the organization. So maybe a few of these nurses are also autistic.
@@taoist32as an autistic person myself- this doesn’t mean the nurses are also autistic. Very black and white thinking. Also I have no need for organization. Perhaps over analyzing everything to death is not a great idea.
OCD and cleanliness are not the same thing
@@jennevermore6937 That’s what some of us do, right? We tend to have black and white thinking. I do tend to overthink things.
I really like that this podcast humanizes celebs. What a strange world for an outsider.
Love this episode. Top 3 for sure.
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I love boy Tay and girl Tay, they are the sweetest and cutest couple 💛
Thank you! At 65 years of age, I am still learning to accept my body! I know that may seem ridiculous but it is true! I love my gray hair, but hate my wrinkled and sagging face 🙁 Anyway, it is a sad thing that so many of us, of all ages, are dealing with this 🙁
Thank you for the advice and I truly enjoyed listening to this beautiful couple! ❤
I’m 59 and in just 2020 i began to see my body as something so beautiful and powerful. I’ve spent decades hating the dumbest things like my upper arms?? Did I REALLY spent every summer in long sleeves because of this? Yes! It’s unimaginable to me that I did this!!!!
Yes! I prefer 3/4 length sleeves to cover my floppy upper arms 🙄
Thank you for the comment... I'm trying to accept my aging body... I'm glad I'm not alone ... ❤
They are super adorable
For ocd, I really like using that meditation book called 30 Days to Stop Obsessing by Harper Daniels.
I listen and watch their podcast too
Please try to do a podcast with Anthony William, the Medical Medium. He says mental health issues come from heavy metals and toxic chemicals in the brain. So many people talk about mental health, but where does it come from. He has answers and ways to detox to turn around your mental as well as physical health
Thanks for the suggestion and for being here! 🧠🫶
Great show agreed why aren’t brains and mental health issues a priority. Especially our 5th grade to 9th grade children who Covid directly effected and since they have been diagnosed with Depression,ADHD a COVID GENERATION OF CHILDREN LOST. YEARS and it harmed many. Mental Health is important💜 Thank again rant over just hurts my heart
I never watched Twilight, but heard about it. I did see Valentine's day, where he and TS were a couple. His wife seems very secure, so that's good. Still wonder how they met? She's not in the industry and he is..
love Twlight how award would it be to mary to someone with the same name.That would be like a one women or man show having yada yada yada with yourself.Another great show you two johnathen
Lately, i just miss the deeper episodes that go over the guests mental health, their life growing up, their thoughts on mental health, their own struggles and ticks, etc. Think 2021 and 2022 episodes. I feel recent episodes arent as deep. Just my take. Maybe thats a good thing too, but it us called Breakdown and advocates for MH. ❤
cuute couple 🤗
Incredible 👌😎 - Fantastic👍😎 - Awesomeness! 👊😎✊🍁
Please consider inviting Tim Fletcher to your show. If he was on Theo von's pod recently, he would surely be on yours.....
He is CANADIAN, so there's a reason in and of itself!
Mayim, please have ilya Sutskever on the podcast, he's the brilliant mind who just left OpenAI. He's a tech philosopher, who's deeply thoughtful and conscientious about the many ways AI can possibly affect the world and humanity (positive and negative) in the long run.
I would be team Jacob
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Call me Kat T.S Version 😻
He loves Taylor’s
I’m with Mayim and Taylor. Fuck sleeping on it. 😂
How adorable are they!? I feel like Tay looks like she could have played a part in the Twilight series.
And really Jonathan…how does anyone get that competitive about a sport called ‘pickle ball’? 🤣 🥒What next, hungry hungry hippos? 😂😅 🦛
Isn’t the inability to identify or process one’s emotions or thoughts in the moment is a common trait of neurodivergent folks (autism or adhd, I forgot which. I’m not an expert!)
I suppose there’s a balance.
Well, if you put up a tree year-round I make by hand ornaments for almost every holiday like Valentine's, Patriotic USA (sorry Jonathan nothing for Canada yet), Summer/beachy, Halloween and even a few for Hanukkah ;) Just putting it out there .. ;)
A neighbour does this. I love it!
I'm getting Jack Nicholson vibes from Taylor's voice. LOL
I’m getting a bored and needing sleep vibes 😂
Did they say how the met? Perhaps that was a better question than taylor swift quedtions😅
That's what I was wondering! :)
I would love for you to get Justin and Hailey Bieber on the podcast.
Wow lady M You are glowing, are you in love?
They will have kids soon.
What a pleasant surprise, loved them both being on 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🖤
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