I agree, damn this is so true. Men esp black men do this alot. They want you to be the same person they met 10 years ago. And that is not possible because you grow and evolve as a person as time comes by. Men like this annoy the hell out of me and I end the convo quickly. They will guilt trip you.
@@Nekole1 don't even Answer the Call. No block because then they'll know your number is the same. Crazy Hot Mess. Not tryin to be a Free Ride for No Man.💯
I’m 19 and all I can say is that You have helped me tremendously in making better choices and recognizing things for what they are instead of creating a fantasy, thank you Tony!!! You’re helping young women like me stay smart and decrease making huge mistakes!!! I’m glad I found your channel, Blessings to you & everyone reading this comment💗
Emotional abuse can break you down... you'll never understand it, until you experience it. If that man is abusive in ANYWAY...RUN!! Work on yourself and HEAL.
Amen hun...me too...I believe in upgrading...if my flip phone doesn’t work anymore and I give it away (with the hopes of doing away with phones altogether or getting an upgrade), why would I go back to the same phone after going through a time of not using it (only to experience the same glitches)...No mam...time for an upgrade (uh the newest smart phone you got Verizon, T-Mobile, US Cellular, or whoever)...same principle applies to a man
If little black girls and just the black community had a father like you boy would some progress be made! Not to say there aren’t any good ones but it’s not exactly the norm
I completely agree with this! We need more Tony Gaskins in black homes!!! This would be a game changer for black families and black communities !!! 🙏🏿💯
I took my first love❤ back, after we've been broken up for a few years. To make a long story short, we both realized we wanted a life together not apart. The promises made, were also the promises kept. No relationship will ever be perfect, but we were happy. Sometimes, the second time around can be so much better. I'm glad we both had another shot at love, bc he has passed on now. Forgiveness gave me the best gift, I wouldn't have otherwise.❣🙏🏽❣
You’re not the only one.. I took my ex back every time he cheated for ten years, thinking he was gonna change.. In reality, he was never gonna choose me... He didn’t want me like that.. I had to take those rose colored glasses off.. The song Silly by Denise Williams was written about me...🤦🏾♀️
Started dealing with my ex Again in March after being apart for 4 years. Worst thing I could’ve done. He didn’t change and I feel even worse than I did before. Such a waste of time.
Men only value what they can respect and if you take him back after he’s cheated or committed some other type of sin, then he absolutely won’t respect you. If he doesn’t respect you then you will be in for a long long ride and I guarantee you it won’t be a fun one.
If I have to give him a leash I dont want him..I have too much on my plate to be worried about every second my man is away. Without trust there is nothing.
This will be long, but I pray it blesses someone: First, I totally agree with this video. I didn't want to move on, from my cheating ex, because I was looking at the time I spent in the relationship....4 years. I thought I could not live without this man. I couldn't go 3 days, let alone 3 weeks without talking/texting/communicating with this man. Then, I started to actually compete with the other woman, like a fool. First of all, she is younger than my children, so I should be setting an example for her...on how not to let a man walk all over you. Each one reach and teach one, should be our mentality, I had to pray really hard, but I stood in the mirror one day and I asked myself, "Do you know who you are?" I have to admit that I didn't know who I was or at least, It is safe to say, that I had forgotten who I was. I didn't love myself enough to walk away. So, I sat down and traced my pain, all the way to my childhood. I discovered that the first man who disappointed me was my biological father. I met my biological father, when I was 13. So, I felt as if he had cheated me out of 13 years of life. Guess what???? My stepdad was the best dad someone could have. So, God allowed my biological father to break my heart, while putting my stepdad in my life to pick up the pieces. This is what God will do, in our personal life, with guys, if we let him. Let him sit that sorry one out, while be blesses you with the man who will really love and respect you. Let these sorry butt, childish, unappreciative, low moral, low character, lying, disrespectful men go! Get a real man who will not lie or cheat on you, who will make you smile and laugh!! We have to forget our hurt and we have to move on to someone who has morals. Figure out why you are determined to take this man back, after catching him over and over again. Where is your self-respect and love for yourself, to allow this? So, I sent my ex one last text. I made that one last voice message and on it, I told him that he would see every tear that I cried. I told him that he would reap what he sowed and I meant it. I believe in getting back the good you do to people and getting back the bad you do to people. I have not cried a tear since; It will be 3 weeks, on Sunday. I don't miss him, because what do I have to miss??? A bunch of heartaches are my only memories. Am I missing the cheating, lying, disrespect, and total disregard for my feelings???? No, I don't miss any of that. I don't miss the pain being so bad, in my chest, from hurting, that I had to go to the ER. I don't miss that gut feeling, in the pit of my stomach, every time I felt him cheating and yes I could feel it. I loved him just that much! I asked myself what was I getting, from this man?, Was he making me happy and laugh? I didn't have any happiness to remember, every since I caught him back in August of last year. Our whole relationship was a lie, and I deserve so much more. I had cried and mourned this man and wasted time that I could have been spending with someone who knows how to love me. My warning to all females....if a man really loves you, he will not lie or cheat on you. the begin with. If a man loves you, he will treat you like the queen that you are. I have been talking to a friend that I knew before him....nothing sexual....just talking. When I tell you that I have laughed so much with this person that I had to say to myself, "Wow, Monitrice, you have not laughed like this in years!" I am sure I will have days when something will remind me of him and I get a little down, but day 77 will not be like day 7 and I will never be in competition with another woman. The only woman I will be in competition with is the woman I was yesterday. We should always try to be better than the women we were yesterday. You are your only competition. Remember this! I said to myself, "Montrice, be big enough to let that man go. Let him go find the one he loves, because it is not you or the one he cheated with...for the last 4 years behind your back. Pick yourself up and let that real man love you like you have never been loved before. Take time to laugh. Life is short and never spend your time with/on someone who makes you cry.
Wow! That was great! Thank you for sharing your story! May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY You Montrice and Your Family members in everything you do IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!
Huge lesson of self worth!! Good for you . ❤ it'll pay off. No doubt. Its my belief that God allows these experiences to show us things about ourselves and thru them, and we have the power to change for the best. Your new guy will be your mirror! Reflecting how you view yourself.
N in the video for the fellas Tony said they have to accept the woman's behavior n that she will mention the offense even when things r going good. So what's the truth?
The fruit (his actions) will tell me if the root (self-hatred, insecurity, anger, fear) has been uprooted and healed. These toxic roots produce toxic fruit (cheating). The fruit are a byproduct of the roots. Once he goes and gets some healing and self-love, only then has he changed.
Amen Amen Amen!!! I just had this conversation 30 minutes ago as I reached my 1 month WALK AWAY GIRL Anniversary! I thought I’d die! It felt like I’ve died and just a walking zombie until I realized his trauma has nothing to do with me! It don’t hurt as much anymore!
Darn Video Was Right On Time!!! Amen Amen Amen!!! I just had this conversation 30 minutes ago as I reached my 1 month WALK AWAY GIRL Anniversary yesterday! I thought I’d die! It felt like I’d died and just a walking zombie until I realized his trauma has nothing to do with me! It don’t hurt as much anymore and I have began to ask myself WHAT HAS THIS EXPERIENCE TAUGHT ME ABOUT MYSELF? Healing is beginning to happen and although it still hurts, I took a deep breath and it turns out over time I’ll be alright!
Lisa Ross this I my story right now. Some days are good and some are so so sad. But I'm doing much better everyday. I sometimes feel like I want to take him back but I know I will still bring up the past. So I must keep it pushing.
phinola Nurse Yesssssssssss!!! I ended it but I was really hoping I’d be the woman he ran after and fought for! Ha, he moved right on but calls periodically to say he loves me! I had to leave him because it was no longer about love but growth, respect, and setting boundaries! I ain’t ever left while I was deeply in love so baby, I feel your pain!
My sister cheated on her husband and was forgiven her and treated her like a queen until now. They both live in UK. He is a good man and loves her ao much. My sister asked for his forgiveness and was given to her. Since then she stayed faithful.
Damn. Double standards. We as women are taught to leave him once he cheats, cuz "once a cheater, always a cheater" But, we expect Men to forgive us when we cheat?? This is Double standards
Thank you Tony. This is exactly what I needed today. I prayed for God to show me another sign as He has done and this is the 3rd confirmation. I tell you when you ask God for something you better be ready to receive it. Thank you, the calling upon you is real. God bless you and yours.🙏
I'm finally looking at houses.....and both of these videos you mentioned on it, I needed to hear that. I keep doubting I'll get what God already gave me dreams on, that's already mine. I keep speaking the house I want into existence. I have to stop looking at how things seem now.
True. I can stop verbal and emotional abuse only by talking to him calmly to stop. I used to be afraid to check him. But all i need to do is just heal myself. Gain confident. It doesn't kill me anymore.
I am happily divorce. That is one thing I would say NEVER to. Actually, we are way much better as friends. In other words... we were never designed to be married. In addition... we were place holders for that 10 year season.
I'm glad you said that about men forgiving because they quick to not forgive but quick as well to do the dumb stuff they do & think you shouldn't feel no way about it knowing if the roles were reversed wouldn't be no discussion.
When my ex lied on his deceased mother "I swear on my mother I never cheated on you" I knew right there I would NEVER take my ex back! EVER! His mother was only deceased for 3 days when he told me that!
Tony you crack me up!!! I can’t!!!! This is hilarious but so true! I live by the philosophy that forgiveness is for me not for the other person. We have to be honest with ourselves if we can’t forgive and truly move on, then we need to let that relationship go!
You have saved my life.. you are a father figure for me and I can’t Thankyou enough for your videos. You are such a blessing and have made me a better person
Sometimes it’s just best to walk away silent. If that man didn’t see your worth or at least set u apart from the other females he dealt with knowing for a fact you were different from them and special... then leave him be! I will always leave with my power then to let a person know they got to me or hurted me in any kind of way... some people prey on hurting others purposely I will not leave them with that satisfaction... people be knowing what they be doing... I’m tryna tell somebody.
"There are no guarantees" that is the scary part. But I get it. I'm not in a relationship but everyday I'm learning so that when it happens...I will be ready. 🙌
You're on fire today with this video... so so relevant! We absolutely can't move forward if it keeps being brought up, can't move forward if your giving less than 100% and acting like and treating the other person as if you dont care anymore...
@ Sunshine Goddess Sis your whole statement is on point but the latter part is especially right. How can anyone move forward if you’re acting like you don’t care & NOT willing to put in the work?!
If a person cannot have a life of commitment, peace, respect, and growth don't take them back! This comes with a person's actions. Period! No need to follow behind anyone.
MAN TONY I HAVE TO SAY LOVE KEEPS NO SCORE SHOULD BE MEME. EVERY TIME I LISTEN TO YOUR SESSIONS I FEEL LIKE YOU ARE READING ME FOR FILTH. MESSAGE RECEIVED THANK YOU SO MUCH PLEASE KEEP THE VIDEOS COMING
Right before your video, a woman in an ad came on speaking on spiritual energy and how to get someone back. Basically using some form of witchcraft to return them to you. What the heck? Just thought you should know. I clicked off and went straight to your video. God bless you Tony, and thank you for your work!🙏🏽
@@cuttinup97 only if it's minor. If there's a lot of rebuilding to be done I wouldn't bother. Whatever happened before will probably happen again and you'll break up again.
I NEEEEEEDED to hear this!!! This is exactly what I’m going through it’s really hard to go about things the way you are recommending but I know it’s so much more healthy for everyone
I always say that I don't have to micromange anybody else or trust someone else. Why?? Because I trust MYSELF! If I am Dishonored disrespected treated unethically. I trust myself to excuse myself from the situation. No matter what I am the prize. No MATTER WHAT!
I’m not trying to take anyone back at this current time, but I listen to video because I just love every video this man puts out, and even when topic doesn’t apply there are still something to take away!!! And when you breakdown the caveat of forgiveness and the process of rebuilding boy u sure do know how it goes!! Been there and done that twice and it happened the same both times. U are very introspective on how it all plays out!
I completely understood what you meant in your last video by the non negotiable physical abuse vs. emotional/verbal. Not sure why some people couldn’t understand that point. I love your videos and appreciate the knowledge you are giving us. God bless you and your family ❤️
I'm going through my own storm right now...its hard after almost 16 years..I'm working through the pain trying hard to get him out of my heart and mind..so why would anyone after working to move on , to have a piece of mind..make a u turn and go back to what hurt you...you can still love them but you dont have to do a second time around...god loved adam and eve but he still put them out of the garden with no 2nd chance...
Listen.. I can only speak for myself.. but.. I reconnected with my Father in 2012. He passed in 2013. I never had a consistent MAN in my life to SHOW me how a MAN is SUPPOSED to TREAT a WOMAN. This is why I am afraid to love and I always sabotage my chance at a relationship. People say I'm too masculine. I'm too tough. I'm just broken and lost. Here I am, single at 35 open to learning more about myself and how to live happily, even if it is alone. Thank you Tony
The most part, emotional abuse is worst than physical abuse. Physical abuse heels but emotional abuse stays with you for the rest of your life. I've been divorced for 18 years and I just I'm almost over my ex husband's emotional abuse. And it's still manifest itself in everything I do but I fight it and I do the work to get well.
I have a grown boy I wrote off completely. I am in awe because I instinctively did all the things you say to do because I was just infuriated that I was devalued by someone who had no business doing so. After nearly 70 days of ignoring him I throw old boy a bone because I could tell he was imploding. But he is getting no leeway with me. Literally everything you said would happen happens when I don't budge even one millimeter with him. And the only reason I am even letting him kiss my ass until he can come correct is because of what you described as a man deserving of a chance. You are really telling on your gender on this channel.
Every single time I took him back it got worse and worse. Stop taking these grown boys back just to reinforce their bad behaviors. They will just lose respect for you more and more every single time you take them back. So just respect yourself enough to walk away from what hurts you. They only come back because we take them back. Just don’t do it if you know what’s good for you. If he can’t love and respect you let him go , love and respect yourself.
Your impressions of women are hilarious!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for another much needed video. I do understand your point of view, and respect your opinion and advice as a man. Thanks
God bless you abundantly Tony for more insight into more wisdom of truth and for being sooooo funny as always you have me laughing my head off . But it helps alot to digest the truth of the word.
Blessed Tribe . Ok my ex wants to come back . It just hit 2months. I watch all the videos, I was hyped I was ready. I met another guy it will be a month for us knowing one another. I told my ex today we have to get some coaching sessions! This video was so helpful Tony! However I “m going to pray hard about taking him back now, because I really like the new guy honesty, no vices, and is head on it from the video the right way to date! We both will not get on our back until Marriage we both agree.
It gives me more anxiety to let a person who hurt me multiple times back in my life than to walk way peacefully.. at that point taking him back is giving him the rope to hang me, not himself
I'm guilty of all this- all the reminders of his offenses 🤦🏻♀️ but to be fair, the reminders didn't even start until he made it clear he was going to continue being a habitual offender 😂😂 And all these years later, I'm healing and this video was a reminder of how freeing it is to let go of all that resentment now that I let him go. That bitterness was so exhausting, and it just consumed me. I feel so much lighter now! 🙌🙌
Thank you Uncle Tony. To hold on to the past is to much energy I am forgiving and I believe in checks/balances. The good book always help at the end of the day and no is perfect. I am just looking for growth not pettiness and bringing up the past.
God bless you Tony!!!! Excellent video, as always, great insight on forgiveness, always on point and on time with a decision I was struggle with taking an ex back this month.I love how you line up your advice with scripture. May God continue to bless you and the family. Much Love 🙏🏽
What Blows me Away is when they Try to Come Back with No Growth, Bring Nothing to the Table AND Expect You to Be the Same Person. REALLY?!?
I agree, damn this is so true. Men esp black men do this alot. They want you to be the same person they met 10 years ago. And that is not possible because you grow and evolve as a person as time comes by. Men like this annoy the hell out of me and I end the convo quickly. They will guilt trip you.
@@Nekole1 don't even Answer the Call. No block because then they'll know your number is the same. Crazy Hot Mess. Not tryin to be a Free Ride for No Man.💯
the audacity 🤨
This Is Definitely The Truth 💪🏾
The nerve 🤦🏾♀️
I’m 19 and all I can say is that You have helped me tremendously in making better choices and recognizing things for what they are instead of creating a fantasy, thank you Tony!!! You’re helping young women like me stay smart and decrease making huge mistakes!!! I’m glad I found your channel, Blessings to you & everyone reading this comment💗
i’m happy for you. wish this was around when i was 19. that was the start of my mistake making.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 elevate queen!
Baby girl... stay off your back and you will be good! ❤️
Gee Gar Thank you!! God bless!!
Y’b Wildfire 💗💗
Emotional abuse can break you down... you'll never understand it, until you experience it. If that man is abusive in ANYWAY...RUN!! Work on yourself and HEAL.
Sis. I felt your words in every fibre of my being. No one can understand it unless experienced.
I'm not going backwards, I don't want to lose my upcoming blessings.
Amen hun...me too...I believe in upgrading...if my flip phone doesn’t work anymore and I give it away (with the hopes of doing away with phones altogether or getting an upgrade), why would I go back to the same phone after going through a time of not using it (only to experience the same glitches)...No mam...time for an upgrade (uh the newest smart phone you got Verizon, T-Mobile, US Cellular, or whoever)...same principle applies to a man
Amen, that’s it and that’s all!!
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 preach ❣️
If U take them back..Believe Me U gon remember Y you left them first time 🤦🏽🥴
Every time and you find more reasons to justify why you left them. Then you start hating yourself for even coming back 🤦🏾♀️
Sometimes. It depends on the person. You have to let God show you their intentions prior to taking them back.
@@ladennayoung2939 you have to decide and be willing to work.
You the real MVP 🙏
If little black girls and just the black community had a father like you boy would some progress be made! Not to say there aren’t any good ones but it’s not exactly the norm
The knowledge that he speaks I wish I would have been told growing up.
I completely agree with this! We need more Tony Gaskins in black homes!!! This would be a game changer for black families and black communities !!! 🙏🏿💯
Point blank perioaaaaadt🙈
Never take them back.
EVER.
Lesson learned 😔
I took my first love❤ back, after we've been broken up for a few years. To make a long story short, we both realized we wanted a life together not apart. The promises made, were also the promises kept. No relationship will ever be perfect, but we were happy. Sometimes, the second time around can be so much better. I'm glad we both had another shot at love, bc he has passed on now. Forgiveness gave me the best gift, I wouldn't have otherwise.❣🙏🏽❣
wow beautiful 💜
Hugs and kisses from above 🙏
Yes, it just depends on the circumstances.
I took my first love back too. Worst mistake of my life. Second time around was actually worst.
@@paulaedie3024 😂😂
I made the mistake of taken them back. Never again... Never again.
You’re not the only one.. I took my ex back every time he cheated for ten years, thinking he was gonna change.. In reality, he was never gonna choose me... He didn’t want me like that.. I had to take those rose colored glasses off.. The song Silly by Denise Williams was written about me...🤦🏾♀️
Started dealing with my ex Again in March after being apart for 4 years. Worst thing I could’ve done. He didn’t change and I feel even worse than I did before. Such a waste of time.
Men only value what they can respect and if you take him back after he’s cheated or committed some other type of sin, then he absolutely won’t respect you. If he doesn’t respect you then you will be in for a long long ride and I guarantee you it won’t be a fun one.
If I have to give him a leash I dont want him..I have too much on my plate to be worried about every second my man is away. Without trust there is nothing.
Once a snake always a snake! 🐍🐍🐍🐍
Period!!!!
This will be long, but I pray it blesses someone: First, I totally agree with this video. I didn't want to move on, from my cheating ex, because I was looking at the time I spent in the relationship....4 years. I thought I could not live without this man. I couldn't go 3 days, let alone 3 weeks without talking/texting/communicating with this man. Then, I started to actually compete with the other woman, like a fool. First of all, she is younger than my children, so I should be setting an example for her...on how not to let a man walk all over you. Each one reach and teach one, should be our mentality, I had to pray really hard, but I stood in the mirror one day and I asked myself, "Do you know who you are?" I have to admit that I didn't know who I was or at least, It is safe to say, that I had forgotten who I was. I didn't love myself enough to walk away. So, I sat down and traced my pain, all the way to my childhood. I discovered that the first man who disappointed me was my biological father. I met my biological father, when I was 13. So, I felt as if he had cheated me out of 13 years of life. Guess what???? My stepdad was the best dad someone could have. So, God allowed my biological father to break my heart, while putting my stepdad in my life to pick up the pieces. This is what God will do, in our personal life, with guys, if we let him. Let him sit that sorry one out, while be blesses you with the man who will really love and respect you. Let these sorry butt, childish, unappreciative, low moral, low character, lying, disrespectful men go! Get a real man who will not lie or cheat on you, who will make you smile and laugh!! We have to forget our hurt and we have to move on to someone who has morals. Figure out why you are determined to take this man back, after catching him over and over again. Where is your self-respect and love for yourself, to allow this? So, I sent my ex one last text. I made that one last voice message and on it, I told him that he would see every tear that I cried. I told him that he would reap what he sowed and I meant it. I believe in getting back the good you do to people and getting back the bad you do to people. I have not cried a tear since; It will be 3 weeks, on Sunday. I don't miss him, because what do I have to miss??? A bunch of heartaches are my only memories. Am I missing the cheating, lying, disrespect, and total disregard for my feelings???? No, I don't miss any of that. I don't miss the pain being so bad, in my chest, from hurting, that I had to go to the ER. I don't miss that gut feeling, in the pit of my stomach, every time I felt him cheating and yes I could feel it. I loved him just that much! I asked myself what was I getting, from this man?, Was he making me happy and laugh? I didn't have any happiness to remember, every since I caught him back in August of last year. Our whole relationship was a lie, and I deserve so much more. I had cried and mourned this man and wasted time that I could have been spending with someone who knows how to love me. My warning to all females....if a man really loves you, he will not lie or cheat on you. the begin with. If a man loves you, he will treat you like the queen that you are. I have been talking to a friend that I knew before him....nothing sexual....just talking. When I tell you that I have laughed so much with this person that I had to say to myself, "Wow, Monitrice, you have not laughed like this in years!" I am sure I will have days when something will remind me of him and I get a little down, but day 77 will not be like day 7 and I will never be in competition with another woman. The only woman I will be in competition with is the woman I was yesterday. We should always try to be better than the women we were yesterday. You are your only competition. Remember this! I said to myself, "Montrice, be big enough to let that man go. Let him go find the one he loves, because it is not you or the one he cheated with...for the last 4 years behind your back. Pick
yourself up and let that real man love you like you have never been loved before. Take time to laugh. Life is short and never spend your time with/on someone who makes you cry.
Y are you telling me my life omg I am better too God is good 🙂
Wow! That was great! Thank you for sharing your story! May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY You Montrice and Your Family members in everything you do IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!
Huge lesson of self worth!! Good for you . ❤ it'll pay off. No doubt. Its my belief that God allows these experiences to show us things about ourselves and thru them, and we have the power to change for the best. Your new guy will be your mirror! Reflecting how you view yourself.
Montrice C, keep your head up. I have been there.it's a process, but you will make it through!!!! Be encouraged!!
well spoken
Ain’t no coming back when you’re released from the team..
Amen
Aayyeee✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
JS! 🙏🏾
“Love suffers the wrong, but it remembers no wrong.” TG
Its in the word of God😇
AMEN!
AWESOME QUOTE! WOW!
If you forgive a person you should not remind them of the offence.
Truth!
👏🇹🇹😇
That's why I can never take 'em back. My mind won't allow me. Facts!
N in the video for the fellas Tony said they have to accept the woman's behavior n that she will mention the offense even when things r going good. So what's the truth?
I forgave and the offense kept on reoccurring, so I reminded of the offense when he came home to an empty house
The fruit (his actions) will tell me if the root (self-hatred, insecurity, anger, fear) has been uprooted and healed. These toxic roots produce toxic fruit (cheating). The fruit are a byproduct of the roots. Once he goes and gets some healing and self-love, only then has he changed.
This is a powerful summary!
Amen Amen Amen!!! I just had this conversation 30 minutes ago as I reached my 1 month WALK AWAY GIRL Anniversary! I thought I’d die! It felt like I’ve died and just a walking zombie until I realized his trauma has nothing to do with me! It don’t hurt as much anymore!
Lisa Ross walk away girl anniversary 😂😂
This is so very true!
@@monalisasmiles1978 happy one month boo 🍻
When Tony grab the props just know you're going to be bursting out with laughter!!! 😂🤣
RIGHT😂😂
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol right
That is true women take men back more than a man would take a woman back.
Because men come back to good women..women don’t leave good men or rarely do
It's easier not to take them back. You move on with clear concious and you no longer need to ruin yourself and them with bad assumptions.
So True that person will start to resent you and not want to be there anymore
Darn Video Was Right On Time!!! Amen Amen Amen!!! I just had this conversation 30 minutes ago as I reached my 1 month WALK AWAY GIRL Anniversary yesterday! I thought I’d die! It felt like I’d died and just a walking zombie until I realized his trauma has nothing to do with me! It don’t hurt as much anymore and I have began to ask myself WHAT HAS THIS EXPERIENCE TAUGHT ME ABOUT MYSELF? Healing is beginning to happen and although it still hurts, I took a deep breath and it turns out over time I’ll be alright!
Lisa Ross this I my story right now. Some days are good and some are so so sad. But I'm doing much better everyday. I sometimes feel like I want to take him back but I know I will still bring up the past. So I must keep it pushing.
phinola Nurse Yesssssssssss!!! I ended it but I was really hoping I’d be the woman he ran after and fought for! Ha, he moved right on but calls periodically to say he loves me! I had to leave him because it was no longer about love but growth, respect, and setting boundaries! I ain’t ever left while I was deeply in love so baby, I feel your pain!
Lisa Ross I felt this!
Lmbo your female impersonations are comedy gold 😂
My sister cheated on her husband and was forgiven her and treated her like a queen until now. They both live in UK. He is a good man and loves her ao much. My sister asked for his forgiveness and was given to her. Since then she stayed faithful.
Damn.
Double standards.
We as women are taught to leave him once he cheats, cuz "once a cheater, always a cheater"
But, we expect Men to forgive us when we cheat??
This is Double standards
Thank you Tony. This is exactly what I needed today. I prayed for God to show me another sign as He has done and this is the 3rd confirmation. I tell you when you ask God for something you better be ready to receive it. Thank you, the calling upon you is real. God bless you and yours.🙏
I'm finally looking at houses.....and both of these videos you mentioned on it, I needed to hear that. I keep doubting I'll get what God already gave me dreams on, that's already mine. I keep speaking the house I want into existence. I have to stop looking at how things seem now.
True. I can stop verbal and emotional abuse only by talking to him calmly to stop. I used to be afraid to check him. But all i need to do is just heal myself. Gain confident. It doesn't kill me anymore.
You can't expect the TRUTH from a LIAR or LOYALTY from a CHEATER. POINT BLANK PERIOD!
You can't take back the lies and I ain't taking you back. JS..
Do you go to the land fill and ask for your trash back? .....better days are ahead. Press forward.
I am happily divorce. That is one thing I would say NEVER to. Actually, we are way much better as friends. In other words... we were never designed to be married. In addition... we were place holders for that 10 year season.
Same here. I've been divorced for 1 year and I'm much happily single and working on myself. That's the best thing I've ever done for myself
@@cjeremieify Congratulations sis, that is awesome!!!
Yes yes Sis that is right😁
@@lebradavis8447 thank you
I'm glad you said that about men forgiving because they quick to not forgive but quick as well to do the dumb stuff they do & think you shouldn't feel no way about it knowing if the roles were reversed wouldn't be no discussion.
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When my ex lied on his deceased mother "I swear on my mother I never cheated on you" I knew right there I would NEVER take my ex back! EVER! His mother was only deceased for 3 days when he told me that!
Omg, my ex you to say the same thing only thing it was 'On my SON'. That was always his go to lie.
Its so sad!
What the hell
Omg are you kidding me??? He gonna get it for that one!!!
My husband used to say "on my Mother's grave". I really wish I was hip to Tony atleast 10 years ago because everything he says is Spot On.
Tony you crack me up!!! I can’t!!!! This is hilarious but so true! I live by the philosophy that forgiveness is for me not for the other person. We have to be honest with ourselves if we can’t forgive and truly move on, then we need to let that relationship go!
God bless you💜
Caramel Kissez -COACH hey honey!!! 💜💜💜
You have saved my life.. you are a father figure for me and I can’t Thankyou enough for your videos. You are such a blessing and have made me a better person
It may not come when you want it to but Tony videos always come right on time -T.Gaskins 3:65
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Sometimes it’s just best to walk away silent. If that man didn’t see your worth or at least set u apart from the other females he dealt with knowing for a fact you were different from them and special... then leave him be! I will always leave with my power then to let a person know they got to me or hurted me in any kind of way... some people prey on hurting others purposely I will not leave them with that satisfaction... people be knowing what they be doing... I’m tryna tell somebody.
Hey Everyone .. Blessings to Coach Tony and the BTF!
🤣🤣🤣🤣 LMAO why women be keeping tabs of time, dates, location like you mentioned that impersonation was hella funny
"There are no guarantees" that is the scary part. But I get it. I'm not in a relationship but everyday I'm learning so that when it happens...I will be ready. 🙌
You're on fire today with this video... so so relevant! We absolutely can't move forward if it keeps being brought up, can't move forward if your giving less than 100% and acting like and treating the other person as if you dont care anymore...
@ Sunshine Goddess Sis your whole statement is on point but the latter part is especially right. How can anyone move forward if you’re acting like you don’t care & NOT willing to put in the work?!
" I feel like I might fly away like a helium balloon" Tony always cracks me up...great video Mr Gaskins
“We teach people how to treat us”..
#beblessed
#blessedtribe
If a person cannot have a life of commitment, peace, respect, and growth don't take them back! This comes with a person's actions. Period! No need to follow behind anyone.
Tony I honor your ministry...You are a gift to the Body of Christ.😊
MAN TONY I HAVE TO SAY LOVE KEEPS NO SCORE SHOULD BE MEME. EVERY TIME I LISTEN TO YOUR SESSIONS I FEEL LIKE YOU ARE READING ME FOR FILTH. MESSAGE RECEIVED THANK YOU SO MUCH PLEASE KEEP THE VIDEOS COMING
Be blessed Tony Gaskins
God bless you
@@CaramelKissez you as well
Tony I as almost choked on a piece of candy when you pulled out the planner....I have done this before....😑
lise Pugh hahahahhahhahah
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That was inspiring lol
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Right before your video, a woman in an ad came on speaking on spiritual energy and how to get someone back. Basically using some form of witchcraft to return them to you. What the heck? Just thought you should know. I clicked off and went straight to your video. God bless you Tony, and thank you for your work!🙏🏽
the devil be busy!!
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That would be a yes! Amen!
omg. witchcraft 😁 ....that's desperation!!!
Going back to an ex sounds like a lot of work. Don't bother with that...start fresh with someone new.
If its minor, why not?
@@cuttinup97 only if it's minor. If there's a lot of rebuilding to be done I wouldn't bother. Whatever happened before will probably happen again and you'll break up again.
Tony had me crying laughing with this one. A lot of his impressions mimicked me in the past 😂 Watching his videos has really helped though
Sooo funny yet so true.
I NEEEEEEDED to hear this!!! This is exactly what I’m going through it’s really hard to go about things the way you are recommending but I know it’s so much more healthy for everyone
My life and sanity has been saved by God using Tony Gaskins as an instrument to bless me! 🙏
"If the root is good, the fruit is going to be good." I love me some good fruit!! 🍊🍒🍎🍐🍓🍇🥝
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I always say that I don't have to micromange anybody else or trust someone else. Why?? Because I trust MYSELF! If I am Dishonored disrespected treated unethically. I trust myself to excuse myself from the situation. No matter what I am the prize. No MATTER WHAT!
I’m not trying to take anyone back at this current time, but I listen to video because I just love every video this man puts out, and even when topic doesn’t apply there are still something to take away!!! And when you breakdown the caveat of forgiveness and the process of rebuilding boy u sure do know how it goes!! Been there and done that twice and it happened the same both times. U are very introspective on how it all plays out!
Tony needs to be in a madea movie 🍿🤣😂
Lol!!! When Tony described how a woman questions after an affair and taking him back..that was me exactly and I was laughing so hard!!
I completely understood what you meant in your last video by the non negotiable physical abuse vs. emotional/verbal. Not sure why some people couldn’t understand that point. I love your videos and appreciate the knowledge you are giving us. God bless you and your family ❤️
I'm going through my own storm right now...its hard after almost 16 years..I'm working through the pain trying hard to get him out of my heart and mind..so why would anyone after working to move on , to have a piece of mind..make a u turn and go back to what hurt you...you can still love them but you dont have to do a second time around...god loved adam and eve but he still put them out of the garden with no 2nd chance...
Listen.. I can only speak for myself.. but.. I reconnected with my Father in 2012. He passed in 2013. I never had a consistent MAN in my life to SHOW me how a MAN is SUPPOSED to TREAT a WOMAN. This is why I am afraid to love and I always sabotage my chance at a relationship. People say I'm too masculine. I'm too tough. I'm just broken and lost. Here I am, single at 35 open to learning more about myself and how to live happily, even if it is alone. Thank you Tony
Thank you. “Love is a gamble”. Hopefully I’ll never need this for my future, but good insight to have.
This is my favorite Video people don't know the true meaning of forgiveness
ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE. A gift from God! This was hallarious tho.
It took me a while to watch this video because I did not want to hear the truth. I am thankful I did.
Confirmation, Confirmation, Confirmation!! Trust and forgiveness is truly key!!! The message is greatly appreciated!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Tony so true! Forgive and start over. You are a comedian-first 48😂
Amen! Thank you Tony!
God Bless you!🙏❤🦋
God bless you Evon 🙏🏾
@@IamCoachCourt Thank you and God bless you!🙏❤🦋
My question is, what if he does something to trigger you on a past behavior? Sometimes were reminded of the past in their actions. That's on them.
Point blank peri-OD 🤣🤣🤣
He sez it a lot I like it lol
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The most part, emotional abuse is worst than physical abuse. Physical abuse heels but emotional abuse stays with you for the rest of your life. I've been divorced for 18 years and I just I'm almost over my ex husband's emotional abuse. And it's still manifest itself in everything I do but I fight it and I do the work to get well.
Omg..True that. Lol ..cthu , I cant..when you started to pick up the notebook..lol I had to rewind again...Im glad I found your channel😊
Amen, Amen. Great message. BE BLESSED!!!!
🙏🏿Be Blessed🙏🏿.
I have a grown boy I wrote off completely. I am in awe because I instinctively did all the things you say to do because I was just infuriated that I was devalued by someone who had no business doing so. After nearly 70 days of ignoring him I throw old boy a bone because I could tell he was imploding. But he is getting no leeway with me. Literally everything you said would happen happens when I don't budge even one millimeter with him. And the only reason I am even letting him kiss my ass until he can come correct is because of what you described as a man deserving of a chance. You are really telling on your gender on this channel.
I just received my book today, A woman's influence. I can't wait to read it 😊
Reporting for class!
BE BLESSED!
I’ve been a toxic relationship and you have saved me from losing my mind over this no good man.
Every single time I took him back it got worse and worse. Stop taking these grown boys back just to reinforce their bad behaviors. They will just lose respect for you more and more every single time you take them back. So just respect yourself enough to walk away from what hurts you. They only come back because we take them back. Just don’t do it if you know what’s good for you. If he can’t love and respect you let him go , love and respect yourself.
Oh Lord, the end of this video!! Mr, Gaskins!! You’re so funny!! Love it!!💯👏🏽👏🏽
Just in time!!!! I been waiting like a crackhead needing my next fix!!! 🤣🤣🤣ya 👂 me?
😂😂😂 thank you Tony for giving us the game 👊🏾
Thank you for this Mr.Tony...Blessings🙏🏾
Your impressions of women are hilarious!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for another much needed video. I do understand your point of view, and respect your opinion and advice as a man. Thanks
God bless you abundantly Tony for more insight into more wisdom of truth and for being sooooo funny as always you have me laughing my head off . But it helps alot to digest the truth of the word.
Blessed Tribe . Ok my ex wants to come back . It just hit 2months. I watch all the videos, I was hyped I was ready. I met another guy it will be a month for us knowing one another. I told my ex today we have to get some coaching sessions! This video was so helpful Tony! However I “m going to pray hard about taking him back now, because I really like the new guy honesty, no vices, and is head on it from the video the right way to date! We both will not get on our back until Marriage we both agree.
Soooo what happened afterwards?
Happy Early Father's Day TonyG! Thanks for this message!!! Amen.
Nat Turner and Harriet Tubman!!! 🤣🤣
It gives me more anxiety to let a person who hurt me multiple times back in my life than to walk way peacefully.. at that point taking him back is giving him the rope to hang me, not himself
Love keeps no score, I gotta remember that....
I'm guilty of all this- all the reminders of his offenses 🤦🏻♀️ but to be fair, the reminders didn't even start until he made it clear he was going to continue being a habitual offender 😂😂 And all these years later, I'm healing and this video was a reminder of how freeing it is to let go of all that resentment now that I let him go. That bitterness was so exhausting, and it just consumed me. I feel so much lighter now! 🙌🙌
Preach Pastor Tony 🙌 🙏 👏 💯 ❤
I’m glad I’m learning from these videos u do cause society be so messed up!
Thank you Uncle Tony. To hold on to the past is to much energy I am forgiving and I believe in checks/balances. The good book always help at the end of the day and no is perfect. I am just looking for growth not pettiness and bringing up the past.
Never hustle backwards.
There it go Tony Gaskins... 7:30. That is absolutely right.
Tony!!! This video was for ME!!!
Pray for all.
1st Be Blessed 🙌 🙏
Yassss Tony with the dialogue drawn out!!!!! Love it
LMAO 🤣 " A Birthday Party on the Event"
On da floor beyond laughing 🤣
God bless you Tony!!!! Excellent video, as always, great insight on forgiveness, always on point and on time with a decision I was struggle with taking an ex back this month.I love how you line up your advice with scripture. May God continue to bless you and the family. Much Love 🙏🏽