Not always...sometimes its because they found someone else and just can't tell you because your a good person and he just feels bad....but whatever the reason doesn't matter...just find way to heal without closure so you can move on.
Women are noisy and talkative but don't like silent treatment that's the only way to get sanity as a fed up man so it's either you shut it stop tantrums and then maybe there won't be any reason for silent treatment you can't have it both ways
Got so used to it that i actually love the silence now... So so peaceful. When they do that, they're teaching you how to live without them, embrace that.
Yesssssssssss sis!!!!!!!!!! Currently at the end of a relationship and he is sick!! I simply have learned to not need his attention and validation. He called on his break and I told him I prefer he didn't call and just enjoyed his break. I remember a time I'd be upset he didn't call. Now he sees my apathy and is trying to be what I always wanted. No thanks pal, it's actually offensive that you stepped up because I stepped back
what about when he changes his number? my narc ex threw me a party and was giving me mixed signals. he usually blocks me but this time he said I ruined his life..I didn't even do nothing. he threw my a birthday party and then got all jealous thinking someone messaged me and told my friend I hurt him and now he changed his number
@@Strongpoeticmind exactly. My man was a Taurus and after he came on strong and suddenly pulled away silent I found it has a manipulative method. Hurt his feelings when I caught him red handed for being a hypocrite.
Men who give silent treatment during relationship will give silent treatment after marriage, children, and divorce. Do you really want to be with someone like that?
So true & it feels so lame being around someone that does that, Being in a relationship with someone like that make you always feel like your around your parents all over again
“If you see a woman that has everything going for herself and you’re not ready to add value to her life; Admire her from afar.... Please don’t interrupt greatness!!! DJ Cassa
AND I do..stay in the corner like a child. Didn't Tony say you have to be prepared to LEAVE... I AM AND WILL..what's for me is for me and I will not be breadcrumbed or played with he messing with a grown ass woman..go find them basic desperate girls to play with
Soooo trueee when you give them a taste of their own medicine they become so defensive, babylike and the blames on you as if you're the problem, and you're wrong smh... BOY BYE ❌
I just assume they're not interested and move on. Because if they're genuinely interested they won't leave you hanging for a long time because they risk losing you
Wow! The fact that you said "enough is enough!" I know we're going through the same thing! I pray for you too. May we get through this one day at a time! 🙏🏾
I will keep each of you lifted up in prayer 🙏. ME AND MY GUUY FRIEND WE WAS ON GOOD TERMS. 😊HE AND I LEFT THE PHONE BLOWING KISSES AND MY PHONE EXCIDENTLY HUNG UP ON HIM. NOW HE'S NOT TEXING OR CALLING ME BACK. I KNOW I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG SO I TRUST GOD TO TAKE PEOPLE OUT MY LIFE AS WELL AS PUTTING THEM IN MY LIFE 😇🥰
Iam Jenae Yup ! Next ! I grow cold 🥶 as balls and I’ll be busy watching the grass grow before I’ll let him back in. Oh you’re back all of a sudden? I’m busy tonight ... washing my hair !
@@mellead8727 it depends on what you are calling him out for. people tend to be defensive if they are not willing to change. if this situations happens consistently... thats something you must think about, question urself is this person healthy for me?
shigsho what about when you brought up a pattern of behavior that was starting to impact the relationship nicely, on several occasions, but they persisted with it in new forms and increasingly became more manipulative/cruel and then you finally out your foot down firmly and they go silent? Is it so immature and dramatic then?
NaturallyBeutiful I did, the first time I thought oh it’s maybe a one off. Second time, I gently stated that wasn’t kind and to stop. Happened a 3rd time and I said they’re being disrespectful. Then a 4th and I explained more in depth that I don’t respect their argumentativeness that formed in the last few months and the deflecting is becoming damaging. Then they weaponized a vulnerability against me to deflect and I firmly put my foot down. They finally answered and just said they don’t feel like dealing with it because it’s too stressful AKA cop out because they were cornered. That told me all I needed to know after nearly a 2 week silent treatment
Silent treatment is a form of what god is telling you that person is not for you. God give you the signs. You have to see them for what they truly are. That is not love. Love and light ✨
I'm so glad we have online support and encouragement to do so. I honestly could not leave and conversations like this and comments like yours woke me up and I did it!
Act totally unbothered and see how upset they get. And when they come back because you aren’t paying anymore attention say good-bye. Life is too short to play games.
Silent treatment from a man is classic triggered mommy issues. It’s just so embarrassing and unmasculine. Why would it hurt me that a stupid man is acting like a mute.
I agree. Some men act like the silent treatment is really supposed to hurt you. I’ve been moving on with my life while he’s stuck doing childish things to me like the silent treatment.
Yes the silent treatment is a deal breaker for me. Its manipulation and control and abusive. The last person that tried that silent treatment mess with me has never seen me again.
Yeah he tried to go silent on me for a week, then I said okay I'm about to go silent on him for a week. That whole week he was calling and texting me leaving me nasty and angry messages I just sat back and laughed. When the week was over I texted him and told him I needed space and blocked him. He just trained his self right out of a relationship 😆
“Stop saying he’s a good man because he goes to church, works, doesn’t drink, curse and smoke. If he is doing immature and childish things, he is NOT a good man!” I FELT THAT!!! Definitely needed to hear that told. Let me “gone about my business” and continue to work on my Brain, Body, and Brand! ❤️✊🏾
@@danareaves4813 yesssss he's trying to send me subliminal messages on social media to contact him because I won't budge. He thinks I'm going to break the silent treatment. It's been over 2 months hell no. I know all these tactics
So true this guy personally pursued me on multiple times and I finally gave him my number. But my discernment was quickened because I felt like something was off. He only texted no calls actually. Shut down out the blue and finally texted and said he ready he shut down he do that sometimes. I immediately blocked him. You show me who you are that’s who you are. No consistency no communication girl please he can keep that he tried it smh
I swear...I'm just going back to praying and meditating. God has been the only reliable person for me. Through thick and thin. My energy is now being invested in a place where I belong and am wanted. ✌
NO ONE has time to play these games. Folk half dead and wasting time. One and DONE!!!! A mature GROWN woman can see through the b.s. Block, delete, non-existent.
This is narcissism at its best. Narcissists use the silent treatment when they perceive that you have caused an “injury” to them. The dude I was with ghosted me and then came back trying to act like nothing happened when I saw him at an event last month. I ignored his desperate attempts to get my attention and barely spoke, so he has put me in the silent treatment. Meanwhile, I’ve lost 20lbs and I’m moving on with my life. Just keep it moving ladies! Don’t settle for “grown boys” that have no clue how to treat women with respect.
Yep mine ghosted me back in June after I held him accountable for his poor communication and double standards. He went to church and did everything else that made him seem like a good man... Then after 7months he pulled a stunt like this, I went through the hurt and now he could take that ghosting and stay dead... you couldn't pay me to give him another second of my time.
Why did you guys fall out in the first place? What was the reasoning he went silent? Do you believe also if you might be in the wrong? Is it warrented then? Or never at all no matter what?
When God levels you up can't nothing tear you down. Them emotions was just a distraction from the devil to keep you from your purpose. I'm walking in purpose now. Glory to God!!!
GLORY GLORY YES!!! Me too! I saw all the signs too knowing damn well it had nothing to do with me. Boy bye ✌🏾 I had all those conversations!! At the end of the day the bottom line is I was good before I met him and I’m even better after!! So deuces darling thanks for the ride!
HOW sadistic! I called mine up on such Disrespect by giving him a taste of his own medicine... And it was revealing to see how he really didn't like the reverse psychology of him going thru the same silent mistreatment 🤔 Ladies we are so much Better than such callous mind games!!!
Preach... you are so correct. My X narcissist it's hovering and trying to buy me gifts but in between the bouts of Love bombing and trying to earn me back he still revert back to himself. He was really after sex from me. He finally broke down and said... Can you do me a favor. I'm thinking he wants a real favor and he was like when I come over can we please have sex. When I laughed and said no . I can't give sex as a favor! He appeared to be okay but when I went to further discuss it he didn't even want to speak about it oh, but he's the one who brought it up. Now I'm getting the silent treatment. It's okay though ... He won't be getting my goodies. He is the same person with the same habits. Let me rephrase that, he has the same demonic spirit! I soften because I look at him as human but his actions are inhumane. The devil is walking around in the flesh. The narcissist is a soul taker and will suck the life right out of you. Last time I checked Lucifer was described as the taker of Souls.
@@Progressivethots 26/8/20 Sometime's it takes two to get even. Meaning that you have to Put your foot down at some point and time to set boundaries. Or else, men or anyone else will keep on toying with you, because they know that you will tolerate it. Let em know you are a Queen and that you deserve RESPECT.💯
@@adhdlivingyourdreams9515 9/4/20 8:53 It honestly depends on the person and what they do and don't tolerate. In my personal opinion I feel as though, if you still want to carry conversation with the person who ,continously does that then you tolerate the way they treat you. But however, if you don't than you have put your foot down and didn't tolerate their "I'mma keep you as a drag along, side chick option, but never make you my top priority selection."💯
A grown man should not be silent for longer than is necessary. He should be willing to talk out any issues otherwise the relationship is doomed if this continues.
Cee Cee H A man who has healthy mature love for his woman would not want to lose her. These immature creatures could care less jumping from person to person seeing who has the “best” to offer at the moment. They are shameful!!
That ain't always true. I'm not saying I was right but I went silent out of anger. I did everything I could for her. I would walk her to the car, put lunch in the car or send her lunch. I would get home at night tired but I would sit and rub her feet and let her talk about her day even if I came home from working in the cold. I would cook on my day off, wash clothes etc... She started ignoring US, getting upset about the kids wanting to be away from everyone, then lashed out at me and compared me to all her past relationships when i didn't do anything they did. I felt so low for weeks i would only speak when i came home. I felt it was nothing i could do. I never really even asked her to cook not unless the kids were home. I feel we all have problems but after someone treats you wrong for months and then compares you to their worst is horrible. All black men aint bad and some of us go the mile for our family but we get taken advantage of also.
@@olandofuller5588 I'm sorry to hear about your experience. That is why open and honest communication between a couple is vital in order to understand each other issues. A healthy relationship is hard to maintain for true but it requires willingness on the parts of both parties to make it work.
Exactly..my ex was a Narcissist hes use to do this I cant deal with this childish behaviour its all to prove a point gain some sort of respect..little boys
The narcissist enters into your life as a victim and then the demons began to plot and figure out how they can put a stronghold on you. Pray that everyone that has commented prosper during this pandemic may God curse the thought of every Demon that tries to enter into your life this year.
Yep..my man when silent on me ..to train me. I went silent on him. Permanent... lol. He sure trained me how not to put up with his shit!! he’s not silent now, but I sure am. Stupid childish games 😜😜😜
Sis! My exes didn’t know I am the QUEEN of silent treatment and its not even to be petty. Its because I love myself, rather find solutions and move from there. If a man opts for the silent treatment all he is doing is doing me a favor and reminding me of life without him. Oh, don’t talk to me now baby is my always my approach when they comes back around...and they always do. Just to see if they can still have it. Nerp. I rather save my energy for the right man who wants me and only me, honors the same values and has integrity. Instead what I say is “Hey, I respect your decision and left you alone. I need you to respect my decision to move on.”
Yes! 3 weeks silent here. I'm not chasing. I'm not texting. I'm not calling. He went silent, so did I. If he comes back, I'm gonna tell him that I don't do games. And I respected his silence, he was either trapped under something heavy or in a coma...🙄 And now I expect him to respect I'm moving on.
Silent treatment = stonewalling. One of the four pillars that Dr. John Gottman’s research shows is a sure sign of a relationship that won’t last. For those of y’all interested it’s called The 4 Horsemen of Apocalypse (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling). Worth researching!
See it's different for me when I do the silent treatment I was being disrespected and things was said out of anger and you can't take those words back.
I was getting the silent treatment for talking about marriage and God too much. I changed my phone number and blocked him on everything. Have all the silence you need and more 😊.
Giving someone the silent treatment is immature, but cutting someone off silently is knowing your worth. No one, who forgot how valuable you are, deserves an explanation. Move on.
This is the BEST comment I have seen here regarding this topic. I blocked a guy on all social media two weeks ago for giving me the silent treatment for 1 week after we argued. He went silent, but yet he was viewing my whatsapp status every time I update it. After 1 week I decided to delete his number and block him from all SM. Mind you, months ago, he ghosted me for 1 week, without any arguments or anything. I was so confused, but after 1 week he reached out to me and I give him a chance. In the midst of our argument this time, we were on video chat and hanged up on me. I did not here from him for 1 week and I decided to cut him off silently for good at the end of the week. We never had closure in going our separate ways. This happen 2 weeks ago, so I am sure by now he realized that I blocked him. After a while I felt guilty for leaving so cold and without closure, but seeing your comment made me feel so much better. Thanks for the reassurance that I am not the bad one....I FELT THAT!!!
I came to this page to watch a video about how to make a man regret losing you, and it said to ignore him for 2 weeks, because if he really wants you he will go crazy that you are silent, this is so confusing lol
I was going through something similar. It almost drive me nuts. What he did though was taught me how to live without him. Now that I'm in therapy and mentioned separation, he wants to try. I'm over it. The lies, cheating, being emotionally unavailable, not communicating, liking women pics on FB, in the DMs, and so much more. His DM sexual messages took place less than a year of us getting married...🤦🏾♀️ I didn't find out until 3 years later (2019)His wanting to all of a sudden work on it is a manipulation tactic. I have been planning my escape. I am debt free, has good credit, and saved my money. It's almost time.
I didn’t follow this twice. He did is around the second time , I asked him if he wants to call it a quit. Be verbal about it. And I wished him the best.
What a gift...having a woman you no longer want to talk to leave you alone. A real man can not only "take it" but is GLAD the woman is leaving him alone.
I will drop you like a bad habbit. I had someone go silent on me for 6 days, I went silent on them for 6 weeks. Kept my social media going so you can see, brother I am fine with or without you. Goodbye! LOL
He didn’t get his way so he went silent. Started playing a game I wasn’t on. So I hit him with a “Take Care” and kept it moving. I control my mind not him. Love him but I also love myself. ❤️
A good man will lead by communicating and take responsibility for his behavior because he is on a path of growth and becoming a healthier version of himself.
Silent treatment is surely a sign of manipulative, toxic behaviour. Emotional abuse, like constant silent treatments, then coming back like nothing happened will drive you crazy, and lead you devaluing your own mind! Stay safe ladies and gents ❤️ So greatful to be watching these videos in my youth! Thanks Tony for following your calling 🙏🏿
@@tipsy09 There are people who give silent treatments because they do not know how to communicate their feelings or feel like the one who they are giving a silent treatment to, is going to go after them like a dog goes after his boss. Men and women participate in silent treatments. I myself think it is very childish. If two grown adults can talk it out why would someone give the silent treatment. So just to let you know, someone does not always have to "act up" in order to be given the silent treatment. Some people just feel like giving them because they want to train the person.
I've learned that rejection is protection. I will not be anxious for nothing, like the " word" says. And that has given me peace, that im not willing to compromise for.
Silent treatment isn’t only a reflection of that persons lack of maturity and low self-esteem, but also a way of control. Silent treatment can also be a form of emotional abuse.
Breaks you down to build you back up....AND REPEAT!! Oldest trick in the book ladies....You get to be the master of your own life once you heal your own wounds from childhood that attracted this type of man in the first place....Stand strong in the process that you went through, the healing work you did to get to the place where you will NOT tolerate this behavior ever again!! God bless....Wait upon the Lord ladies....You are never that desperate to take crumbs from anyone!!
The guy I was dating for 7 months didn’t call or text after a disagreement, I did the same. One month later he’s calling and texting. I blocked him. To old for games.
This was similar to my situation. 7months, disagreement due to his lack of communication, then he refused to return my calls and text and no response for a week. When I started to move on, he began stalking on social media with countless fake accounts. Never would have guessed that he was so immature.
Going back to a man after being "put" on a timeout or silent treatment will have you hooked & booked like a crook, because you didn't read Tony's books!! 💯 😄🙌🏾
It been over a week he haven't call me and guess what f...him I'm not calling or texting him. Im out it's his loss not mines. Keep your head up high ladies
This video is 2 years old and it was recommended to me today, the day I needed to see it. Thank you Tony for this content and thank God for the timing.
Last time my husband went silent ..... I GOT SILENT! 🤫 I silently packed my bag plus the kids AND LEFT ! 🏃🏾♀️💨 Me & my children will finally move into our own place coming July 27, 2020 !!! 🙌🏾 FYI!!! Men , when a woman goes silent you should then be very worried.
He is giving me the silent treatment right now AGAIN for the 100th time in 6 years. I'm not phased AT ALL. He didn't want to be in a relationship but he got mad when I moved on and got someone else. He called and texted me for a week and a half cursing me out. Crazy part is he never cursed me in 6 years until AFTER I moved on! I'm not phased at all. I havent texted or called him. I literally dont care! I feel GREAT!!!
Same girl he’s been doing the same things to me for 6/7 years. I moved on he came back I took him back and it’s been the same thing as it’s been from when I very first met him. This is literally four kids later back to back.... I’m done. Now it’s time to raise my baby’s there better off without him and his influences
Man, I can't tell yall how many grown boys either ghosted me or thought it was appropriate to give me the silent treatment smh. At this point in life, if you give me a stupid silent treatment and don't wanna be honest with me, or ghost me.. bye. Exit stage left 👌🏿💙
Did it ever occur to you that the reason he ghosted you or gave you the silent treatment was bcuz maybe he felt you wasnt worth his time n energy?..instead of being disrespectful or saying something unpleasant, he decided to stay silent....ijs
Ladies know your worth and know that YOU are the PRIZE. Let him play his games alone and you move on. The right man for you is out there. Be patient! The right man can never find you if you’re “entangled.” Your time is valuable...go’n about your business!
Ladies and gentlemen GOD our CREATOR SEES All ALL KNOWING GOD NEVER SLUMBERS nor SLEEP GOD WORD WHATSOEVER A MAN. SOW That SHALL HE ALSO REAP MESSAGE FOR US ALL
Once I realized my ex husband was giving me the silent treatment, I mimic the same silent treatment to him and I learned to move around him and continue to live my life but then we came at a crossroads where communication was need. He refused to communicate, compromise, or connect with me. After 17 years, I divorced him. He gave me the silent treatment throughout the divorce process although we were living in the same house. His way of communicating was through other people instead of directly to me. He is a kid at 56 years old. A kid I have absolutely no respect for. I realized after the divorce that he was struggling to be a “MAN,” not a grown man but a “MAN.”
In my experience, the silent treatment is about control and punishment. My ex did this all the time. It was his method of trying to control me. Oh but he didn't know that couldn't work on me. I ignored it and continued to live my life and never asked why aren't you speaking to me. This is not normal behavior. Hence, that is why he is an ex.
I swear to God, I just walked away from a toxic man over the weekend, today I blocked him and I was sitting here thinking to myself that I’m selfish and ungrateful but this video goes to show I gave him all the chances I could . It’s time to heal. ❤️🙌🏾 thank you
Thank you for saying a grown man is going to communicate and talk about what’s going on. My husband is good for stonewalling me. That is even above and beyond the silent treatment. It is so hurtful. He plays games BAD. He walked out in November and stayed gone for 3 months. Now he wants back in. That’s why I’m here watching your videos.
Me too gal! The narc was lookin everywhere for me. It’s like went ghost. Change my number and everythin bc I had got that block then delete real quick. Random oh calls from random numbers. Wow the audacity of these ppl to think they sn come bk into your life after display in their behaviors this way. They truly got no value. Then ran into an ol pal and he goin tried and go off on me about ‘how me going ghost is not how to treat people’ . You’d said what now?. Anywho boy bye
Anytime you feel Lonely know that GOD SATISFIES ALL YOUR NEEDS!! Let these ManChilds cradle in their Narcissistic ways & Pray GOD puts his Hands on Him Before it’s too Late!!
See it’s something about “a man and his silent treatment” that triggers the crazy in me that’s why I leave these dudes alone before I end up in an orange jumpsuit 😂
Wow. I never knew this. My husband used to do this to me and it had me walking on eggshells in my relationships until I got so tired of it that I decided to get a divorce. I didn’t tell him anything. I spoke with a lawyer and I started talking to other people (on the phone). Once he found out, he was devastated and I was unapologetic and ready to leave for good. Silent treatment went for so long that I had time to heal from our “breakup” and I was completely over him. He said he had to pray and by the grace of God I decided to give it another try. And it hasn’t happened ever again. Men shouldn’t do this because if he’s not fulfilling his wife, she’s still gonna have needs and they will get fulfilled by someone else.
Silent treatment went wrong. Right? They went so far we walked. God on us. I know that feeling. WHen they finally want to talk, (AKA manipulate you further) but you shut it down. Me too. I got to the point where it was unresolvable, and now they want to "try." Nah. good on you.
LMAO “You wasn’t fasting, you wasn’t praying. You had a stomach ache & you couldn’t eat......you lost yo appetite from worrying why he wasn’t calling you....ALRIGHT, TELL THE TRUTH.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅😅 personally attacked 🥴
True story, she was dating a guy who kept playing her- the whole time he thought she was dedicated to him and his inconsistency - she was on the way to the alter with another man. She went ghost and let him see her marriage pictures on line. He got played and because I know him personally- best believe he was hurt 😞 and looked real stupid. Little man boys should learn from the best
So glad I came across this video 🙌 I recently left something that felt really aligned but there was something off also, I listened to my intuition and called him out - now he is giving me the silent treatment. I questioned myself at first and thought I was too hard on him but then my higher self realized that was just a past version of myself stuck in hypervigilence and anticipating his needs instead of stepping into my worth and trusting myself. The universe gave me this lesson so I could level up!
I love seeing everyones thought's on silent treatment but I think it's a form of control he wants to get you hooked.. So that you never leave and feel like you always need him.
They are testing you. They don’t believe you will risk losing them and that you’ll reach out eventually! Don’t take them back, they just want to finish you off!!
@@skyfall1481yup! They are bluffing! Men really think all women are over emotional. When they see you drop them and keep moving they start chasing and stalking like crazy. He messed up his chances playing games ...too bad 🤗😭✌🏾
Too many beautiful women in this comment section. These narcs sure love a trophy to make themselves look good. Its all about YOU, Making him look good.
100% Dealing with this situation now but then the silent treatment leads to him leaving . In and out of my life bc he takes no responsibility and doesn’t know how to communicate as an adult. I already gave him a 2nd chance I don’t think there will be a third. Way too much work and mind games - that won’t happen again. Lesson learned !
Of course he’s not gonna like being called out bc now he’s embarrassed and caught. Made to feel stupid. He doesn’t like the truth and if he was mature he would talk about that. But if he’s not just leave him be.
Oh. Mine went silent and I blocked him. We ain’t been dealing for too long and the work I’ve done on myself is too important and I’m not wasting no time.
My Brother Tony, I am an older sister who appreciates your advice, your teaching, and your wisdom. May God Richly bless you and your wife with another car, financial growth, and more LOVE! SHALOM!
The silent treatment is the temper tantrum of an emotionally immature person who is not equipped to deal with adult conversation.
Thank you!!!
Sooooo true
Omg yes!
Well said !!
Yes. My husband was like that. Was!!! RIP Hubby. BTW...This man
DOES NOT MAKE SENSE. BETTER OFF WATCHING R.C. Blakes
LADIES, DON'T WORRY ABOUT YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK.. WHEN YOU SERVE THE FATHER OF TIME. ALL GOOD THINGS COMES TO THOSE WHO WAIT.
@@375truthseeker Amen!! 🥰
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Amen Sister in Christ well said.
Amen 🙏🏾
Yes!
The silent treatment is a tactic used by an emotionally abusive person. Don't engage, and move on.
That is the way I take it.
Damn really??
Not always...sometimes its because they found someone else and just can't tell you because your a good person and he just feels bad....but whatever the reason doesn't matter...just find way to heal without closure so you can move on.
Thanks
You are so rite on!✊🏽 A narcissist
The silent treatment really sets your relationship up for failure. It adds confusion and really breaks down your bond and connection.
True
Women are noisy and talkative but don't like silent treatment that's the only way to get sanity as a fed up man so it's either you shut it stop tantrums and then maybe there won't be any reason for silent treatment you can't have it both ways
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@@melaninbotswana2474 this response is not normal.
@melanin Botswana so sorry you think like that. Someone has brainwashed you. Hopefully one day you wake up soon.
Got so used to it that i actually love the silence now... So so peaceful. When they do that, they're teaching you how to live without them, embrace that.
Yesssssssssss sis!!!!!!!!!! Currently at the end of a relationship and he is sick!! I simply have learned to not need his attention and validation. He called on his break and I told him I prefer he didn't call and just enjoyed his break. I remember a time I'd be upset he didn't call. Now he sees my apathy and is trying to be what I always wanted. No thanks pal, it's actually offensive that you stepped up because I stepped back
@@touchyanose9464 the fact that they can switch it on and off is kinda scary
Yup im like ohhhhh well 💅🏾
@@SinoxoloNhonkieGibson scary asf!!!!
Exactly, Sis!!! Lol.
The silent treatment is the number one tactic that Narcissist use to punish you.
what about when he changes his number? my narc ex threw me a party and was giving me mixed signals. he usually blocks me but this time he said I ruined his life..I didn't even do nothing. he threw my a birthday party and then got all jealous thinking someone messaged me and told my friend I hurt him and now he changed his number
Absolutely
So true!!!
Taurus are good at this
@@Strongpoeticmind exactly. My man was a Taurus and after he came on strong and suddenly pulled away silent I found it has a manipulative method. Hurt his feelings when I caught him red handed for being a hypocrite.
Men who give silent treatment during relationship will give silent treatment after marriage, children, and divorce.
Do you really want to be with someone like that?
That is a good ass point and that is the truth!
You are dam right about that
Hell no
You're absolutely right!
So true & it feels so lame being around someone that does that, Being in a relationship with someone like that make you always feel like your around your parents all over again
When mine decided to come bk ...I was engaged to my husband 😂😂 now that's something to cry for!
Love it!
This is the best!!!😅😅💪🏾
That's what I'm talking about
Well damn🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes
“If you see a woman that has everything going for herself and you’re not ready to add value to her life; Admire her from afar.... Please don’t interrupt greatness!!! DJ Cassa
Cassandra Velvet Carson amen
The answers are very good they are always very good for me.
Amen sis👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤💯
Cassandra Velvet Carson Amen!!!!!!!!
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One thing a man don’t like is when you treat them the same way they treat you.. Ladies pls just block and delete.. that game is tiresome
YEP!!!! Absolutely!
AND I do..stay in the corner like a child. Didn't Tony say you have to be prepared to LEAVE... I AM AND WILL..what's for me is for me and I will not be breadcrumbed or played with he messing with a grown ass woman..go find them basic desperate girls to play with
Soooo trueee when you give them a taste of their own medicine they become so defensive, babylike and the blames on you as if you're the problem, and you're wrong smh... BOY BYE ❌
SAY IT AGAIN
Yes!!! Exactly!! Treat them the same way they treat you!! 😃💯. I agree!!!
I just assume they're not interested and move on. Because if they're genuinely interested they won't leave you hanging for a long time because they risk losing you
Make sense
Me too. It's far more simple
Sunsu Bee 👏
Truth
Sunsu Bee Amen sistah!!!
I'm married to a man that plays the silent treatment game. We're going on 5 years. I just ended it! Pray for me! 🙏🏾
I’m praying for you! Pray for me as well I ended my relationship on my birthday 10/2! Enough is Enough stay strong!!!
Wow! The fact that you said "enough is enough!" I know we're going through the same thing! I pray for you too. May we get through this one day at a time! 🙏🏾
Congratulations! Your life will get better.
I will keep each of you lifted up in prayer 🙏. ME AND MY GUUY FRIEND
WE WAS ON GOOD TERMS. 😊HE AND I LEFT THE PHONE BLOWING KISSES AND MY PHONE EXCIDENTLY HUNG UP ON HIM. NOW
HE'S NOT TEXING OR CALLING ME BACK.
I KNOW I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG SO I TRUST GOD TO TAKE PEOPLE OUT MY LIFE AS WELL AS PUTTING THEM IN MY LIFE 😇🥰
Playing for you beautiful, you should be proud of yourself.
When he ignored me for those 7 days... he made the WORST mistake of his life. And that’s that on that!!
🤷🏾♀️ his loss, your gain . 💯💯💯 Right on!!! 💜💜💜
Cheating never solves anything. Not saying you did.
What did you do girl? Lol
That the hardest thing is you treat each other silence for long days! Be alarmed if took a week.😂😂
Iam Jenae Yup ! Next ! I grow cold 🥶 as balls and I’ll be busy watching the grass grow before I’ll let him back in. Oh you’re back all of a sudden? I’m busy tonight ... washing my hair !
A Grown man knows how to communicate...
That's all
Period
Facts
@@mellead8727 it depends on what you are calling him out for. people tend to be defensive if they are not willing to change. if this situations happens consistently... thats something you must think about, question urself is this person healthy for me?
Know where I can find one 🤣🤣
First hint of silent treatment, I'M OUT! I DO NOT stick around. Silent treatments are adult temper tantrums. Nobody got time for that.
Nope. Fighting, arguing and drama are adult temper tantrums.
So true adult temper tantrum
shigsho what about when you brought up a pattern of behavior that was starting to impact the relationship nicely, on several occasions, but they persisted with it in new forms and increasingly became more manipulative/cruel and then you finally out your foot down firmly and they go silent? Is it so immature and dramatic then?
Gravity’s Apple just means you should have checked the behavior sooner and not let it go on as long.
NaturallyBeutiful I did, the first time I thought oh it’s maybe a one off. Second time, I gently stated that wasn’t kind and to stop. Happened a 3rd time and I said they’re being disrespectful. Then a 4th and I explained more in depth that I don’t respect their argumentativeness that formed in the last few months and the deflecting is becoming damaging. Then they weaponized a vulnerability against me to deflect and I firmly put my foot down. They finally answered and just said they don’t feel like dealing with it because it’s too stressful AKA cop out because they were cornered. That told me all I needed to know after nearly a 2 week silent treatment
Silent treatment is a form of what god is telling you that person is not for you. God give you the signs. You have to see them for what they truly are. That is not love. Love and light ✨
Agreed with yah
"If he disrespecting you, he not a good man..."
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If she disrespect she’s not a Good woman
He is not a man… he is a child and he has to grow the fuck up
He’s not a good man if he’s playing games and disrespecting you.
Amen
That's for sure.
Yup..
Yesss !!!!
Agreed
“Don’t talk yourself out of your common sense.” TG
Dr. Elaine BIG FACTS 🙌🏼🔥
Amen 🙏🏽
That's a good one
Amen!!! What a great way to look it
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We as women have to be mentally stronger than this!
Be willing to leave it alone and leave him alone
I'm so glad we have online support and encouragement to do so. I honestly could not leave and conversations like this and comments like yours woke me up and I did it!
if he goes silent I just take no notice. I don't talk to him.
no one will try an control me by playing stupid mind games
AMEN 🙏🏾
Act totally unbothered and see how upset they get. And when they come back because you aren’t paying anymore attention say good-bye. Life is too short to play games.
Natasha Freeman facts
Exactly since they can't seem to decide what the f*ck they want, because the women they crushing on don't want their azz either. Please grow up!
@@gloriahenry9149 😂😂😂
WOMAN...OR...MAN !!!!
THEY...CRUSHING...ON !!!!
@@moneymoney6817 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@gloriahenry9149 yes Gloria
Silent treatment from a man is classic triggered mommy issues.
It’s just so embarrassing and unmasculine. Why would it hurt me that a stupid man is acting like a mute.
Exactly
IKR
So true
I agree. Some men act like the silent treatment is really supposed to hurt you. I’ve been moving on with my life while he’s stuck doing childish things to me like the silent treatment.
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Yes the silent treatment is a deal breaker for me. Its manipulation and control and abusive. The last person that tried that silent treatment mess with me has never seen me again.
I'm curious, did he go silent for no particular reason?
@@EducatedLady1975 Yes
EXACTLY where I'm at with it sis
Totally Agree
What if I call him out and instead of apologizing, he accuses me of “starting an argument”?
Yeah he tried to go silent on me for a week, then I said okay I'm about to go silent on him for a week. That whole week he was calling and texting me leaving me nasty and angry messages I just sat back and laughed. When the week was over I texted him and told him I needed space and blocked him. He just trained his self right out of a relationship 😆
Wish i could do that...,🤣... You go girl...!!!
Clown 🤡
@@ceecee8924 yea he is 😂
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“Stop saying he’s a good man because he goes to church, works, doesn’t drink, curse and smoke. If he is doing immature and childish things, he is NOT a good man!” I FELT THAT!!! Definitely needed to hear that told. Let me “gone about my business” and continue to work on my Brain, Body, and Brand! ❤️✊🏾
Yep! Keep on, sis!💋💋
when u are acting like are grown boy I unfriend and delete u one time life to short for B.S. if u can go silent I can do it better
Yes, my ex was all that and I walked away with no regrets!
Amen
Point blank peeeri-oddd !
Silent treatment is also what abusers and narcs use when you put in a boundary.
It’s emotional abuse.
Exactly 💯but still move on. Block him
That is the absolute truth! It’s also a form of control.
@@danareaves4813 yesssss he's trying to send me subliminal messages on social media to contact him because I won't budge. He thinks I'm going to break the silent treatment. It's been over 2 months hell no. I know all these tactics
Exactly!
And Peace!!😊🙏
A real man will communicate and be accountable.
So true this guy personally pursued me on multiple times and I finally gave him my number. But my discernment was quickened because I felt like something was off. He only texted no calls actually. Shut down out the blue and finally texted and said he ready he shut down he do that sometimes. I immediately blocked him. You show me who you are that’s who you are. No consistency no communication girl please he can keep that he tried it smh
I swear...I'm just going back to praying and meditating. God has been the only reliable person for me. Through thick and thin. My energy is now being invested in a place where I belong and am wanted. ✌
Amen
Jesus is the only man whose love fulfills mines and is equal to the amount I give. Agree with your post sis ! 🙏🏼
Aww that was well said best comment here 🎉
💯 % me too
NO ONE has time to play these games. Folk half dead and wasting time. One and DONE!!!! A mature GROWN woman can see through the b.s. Block, delete, non-existent.
shanny smith yes! Men with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel, still acting like children. Its very sad. 😱👎
Boom exactly!!!!
@@peaceful_and_blessed2879 not banana peel 😅😅😅😅😅
Welllllllll!
Lori Garcia yes indeed. It’s ridiculous.
This is narcissism at its best. Narcissists use the silent treatment when they perceive that you have caused an “injury” to them. The dude I was with ghosted me and then came back trying to act like nothing happened when I saw him at an event last month. I ignored his desperate attempts to get my attention and barely spoke, so he has put me in the silent treatment. Meanwhile, I’ve lost 20lbs and I’m moving on with my life. Just keep it moving ladies! Don’t settle for “grown boys” that have no clue how to treat women with respect.
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Amen sister!! Exactly this 🙌🏾💜🖤
Yep mine ghosted me back in June after I held him accountable for his poor communication and double standards. He went to church and did everything else that made him seem like a good man... Then after 7months he pulled a stunt like this, I went through the hurt and now he could take that ghosting and stay dead... you couldn't pay me to give him another second of my time.
@@muhoza299 yes you will move on... and you will be so much better off for doing so.
His silent treatment gets him blocked indefinitely
Exactly,that's why I blocked this guy I was dating for a few months
Lol fr
Why did you guys fall out in the first place? What was the reasoning he went silent? Do you believe also if you might be in the wrong? Is it warrented then? Or never at all no matter what?
Forever ever and ever
What if I call him out and instead of apologizing, he accuses me of “starting an argument”?
When God levels you up can't nothing tear you down. Them emotions was just a distraction from the devil to keep you from your purpose. I'm walking in purpose now. Glory to God!!!
Amen!
Amen!!!
Amen
GLORY GLORY YES!!! Me too! I saw all the signs too knowing damn well it had nothing to do with me. Boy bye ✌🏾 I had all those conversations!! At the end of the day the bottom line is I was good before I met him and I’m even better after!! So deuces darling thanks for the ride!
Amen!!!
"The "Silent Treatment" is him exploring his options with other Women, who he makes a top priority."
HOW sadistic!
I called mine up on such Disrespect by giving him a taste of his own medicine... And it was revealing to see how he really didn't like the reverse psychology of him going thru the same silent mistreatment 🤔
Ladies we are so much Better than such callous mind games!!!
Preach... you are so correct. My X narcissist it's hovering and trying to buy me gifts but in between the bouts of Love bombing and trying to earn me back he still revert back to himself. He was really after sex from me. He finally broke down and said... Can you do me a favor. I'm thinking he wants a real favor and he was like when I come over can we please have sex. When I laughed and said no . I can't give sex as a favor! He appeared to be okay but when I went to further discuss it he didn't even want to speak about it oh, but he's the one who brought it up. Now I'm getting the silent treatment. It's okay though ... He won't be getting my goodies. He is the same person with the same habits. Let me rephrase that, he has the same demonic spirit! I soften because I look at him as human but his actions are inhumane. The devil is walking around in the flesh. The narcissist is a soul taker and will suck the life right out of you. Last time I checked Lucifer was described as the taker of Souls.
@@Progressivethots 26/8/20 Sometime's it takes two to get even. Meaning that you have to Put your foot down at some point and time to set boundaries. Or else, men or anyone else will keep on toying with you, because they know that you will tolerate it. Let em know you are a Queen and that you deserve RESPECT.💯
He cant do that and speak to you?
@@adhdlivingyourdreams9515 9/4/20 8:53 It honestly depends on the person and what they do and don't tolerate. In my personal opinion I feel as though, if you still want to carry conversation with the person who ,continously does that then you tolerate the way they treat you. But however, if you don't than you have put your foot down and didn't tolerate their "I'mma keep you as a drag along, side chick option, but never make you my top priority selection."💯
A grown man should not be silent for longer than is necessary. He should be willing to talk out any issues otherwise the relationship is doomed if this continues.
Cee Cee H A man who has healthy mature love for his woman would not want to lose her. These immature creatures could care less jumping from person to person seeing who has the “best” to offer at the moment. They are shameful!!
That ain't always true. I'm not saying I was right but I went silent out of anger. I did everything I could for her. I would walk her to the car, put lunch in the car or send her lunch. I would get home at night tired but I would sit and rub her feet and let her talk about her day even if I came home from working in the cold. I would cook on my day off, wash clothes etc... She started ignoring US, getting upset about the kids wanting to be away from everyone, then lashed out at me and compared me to all her past relationships when i didn't do anything they did. I felt so low for weeks i would only speak when i came home. I felt it was nothing i could do. I never really even asked her to cook not unless the kids were home. I feel we all have problems but after someone treats you wrong for months and then compares you to their worst is horrible. All black men aint bad and some of us go the mile for our family but we get taken advantage of also.
@@olandofuller5588 I'm sorry to hear about your experience. That is why open and honest communication between a couple is vital in order to understand each other issues. A healthy relationship is hard to maintain for true but it requires willingness on the parts of both parties to make it work.
Without Jesus you wont get far. 🤷♀️ how can you love yourself if you dont love and honor the one who created you?
Exactly..my ex was a Narcissist hes use to do this I cant deal with this childish behaviour its all to prove a point gain some sort of respect..little boys
The narcissist enters into your life as a victim and then the demons began to plot and figure out how they can put a stronghold on you. Pray that everyone that has commented prosper during this pandemic may God curse the thought of every Demon that tries to enter into your life this year.
Amen to that😳😳😳😳😳.
AMEN!
In Jesus name, amen. 🔑
Amen
This is so accurate though 👌🏾. My ex to the T
I read that being ignored by someone you love is the equivalent pain of physical pain . Don’t let someone treat u like that
😟 oof. I thought I was bugging for hating it so much. It be hard to sleep
Facts like this shit is crazy all these comments got me feeling bad for these women
Thx you
Yep..my man when silent on me ..to train me. I went silent on him. Permanent... lol. He sure trained me how not to put up with his shit!! he’s not silent now, but I sure am. Stupid childish games 😜😜😜
as u should🤣🤣🤣
Peacewalker 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Sis! My exes didn’t know I am the QUEEN of silent treatment and its not even to be petty. Its because I love myself, rather find solutions and move from there. If a man opts for the silent treatment all he is doing is doing me a favor and reminding me of life without him. Oh, don’t talk to me now baby is my always my approach when they comes back around...and they always do. Just to see if they can still have it. Nerp. I rather save my energy for the right man who wants me and only me, honors the same values and has integrity. Instead what I say is “Hey, I respect your decision and left you alone. I need you to respect my decision to move on.”
Yes! 3 weeks silent here. I'm not chasing. I'm not texting. I'm not calling. He went silent, so did I. If he comes back, I'm gonna tell him that I don't do games. And I respected his silence, he was either trapped under something heavy or in a coma...🙄 And now I expect him to respect I'm moving on.
Love it!!Lol
Silent treatments build barriers, they don't tear them down. Communication is vital, even when pride is hurt and during disagreements.
Sir, I totally agree!
@@ashleybeverly7328 🙏
Yes Sir!
Don't let silent treatments last forever. I like silence myself, but there should be a response, SOMETIMES. GEEZ.
Silent treatment = stonewalling. One of the four pillars that Dr. John Gottman’s research shows is a sure sign of a relationship that won’t last. For those of y’all interested it’s called The 4 Horsemen of Apocalypse (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling). Worth researching!
His silent treatment means he is regrouping after he realizes you know your worth and will not settle.
See it's different for me when I do the silent treatment I was being disrespected and things was said out of anger and you can't take those words back.
I like that 🗣🗣
Lovely me yes queen!!
Amen to this😉
He can stay silent right on my block list silenced him forever🤷🏽♀️
I was getting the silent treatment for talking about marriage and God too much. I changed my phone number and blocked him on everything. Have all the silence you need and more 😊.
A woman treats a man the way she want's to be treated. Then she treats him how he treated her. Read that again...
Facts this is soooo true ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Yeees indeed!!!!
So true no matter what you think of a person or what you assume you can get away with no one is instinctively stupid...
Facts.
People not even recognizing the incredible truth that's behind these words. Daaaang!
Yep a real man communicates, period.
I agree. Not responding is petty and for playground little boys. Communication is everything.
I will never stop believing that one of the qualities of a truly good man is his ability to communicate and to do so kindly and effectively.
Giving someone the silent treatment is immature, but cutting someone off silently is knowing your worth. No one, who forgot how valuable you are, deserves an explanation. Move on.
I LOVE how you just said that...."No one, who forgot how valuable you are, deserves and explanation. Move on." Beautiful!!!
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This is the BEST comment I have seen here regarding this topic. I blocked a guy on all social media two weeks ago for giving me the silent treatment for 1 week after we argued. He went silent, but yet he was viewing my whatsapp status every time I update it. After 1 week I decided to delete his number and block him from all SM. Mind you, months ago, he ghosted me for 1 week, without any arguments or anything. I was so confused, but after 1 week he reached out to me and I give him a chance.
In the midst of our argument this time, we were on video chat and hanged up on me. I did not here from him for 1 week and I decided to cut him off silently for good at the end of the week. We never had closure in going our separate ways. This happen 2 weeks ago, so I am sure by now he realized that I blocked him.
After a while I felt guilty for leaving so cold and without closure, but seeing your comment made me feel so much better. Thanks for the reassurance that I am not the bad one....I FELT THAT!!!
I came to this page to watch a video about how to make a man regret losing you, and it said to ignore him for 2 weeks, because if he really wants you he will go crazy that you are silent, this is so confusing lol
Yes indeed
Ended my marriage because of his silent treatment!! He made me feel emotionally unsafe, so I planned my escape🌈🙏
How did you do that I’m interested to know
@@glowwithjade6377 By planning!
Well that was stupid
I was going through something similar. It almost drive me nuts. What he did though was taught me how to live without him. Now that I'm in therapy and mentioned separation, he wants to try. I'm over it. The lies, cheating, being emotionally unavailable, not communicating, liking women pics on FB, in the DMs, and so much more. His DM sexual messages took place less than a year of us getting married...🤦🏾♀️ I didn't find out until 3 years later (2019)His wanting to all of a sudden work on it is a manipulation tactic. I have been planning my escape. I am debt free, has good credit, and saved my money. It's almost time.
Nice❤
Don'T ever call a man after him giving you the "SILENT TREATMENT" ladies! move on and never look back
What if it's his religion that won't allow him to speak?
@@latoyapowell4450 what religion? Lol
@B Beasley ahahahahhaha
Yes
I didn’t follow this twice. He did is around the second time , I asked him if he wants to call it a quit. Be verbal about it. And I wished him the best.
I wanna get married and may the best man win. I'm not desperate I'm the prize. Women need to realize that.
Tony has made me so happy to be single. I really do not have time or energy for these grown boys trying to train me 😳🙄 bye 👋🏾 BRAINS BRAND BODY!
Keep it up sis!!!
Amen knowledge lover I totally agree with you.
Facts!!
Yes sis!!!
Right!!!!
He took me out with the "You wasn't fasting and praying. You were worrying and couldn't eat" DEAD
That was SO FUNNY LMAOOOOOOOOO
Chyle… I bust out laughing! 😂😂😂
I know this loss of appetite soooo well.
LMAOOOOO
He made me laugh so harrrrrrd because it's soooooo true!!! I was like THAT😂😂😂😂
Mirror him. He can dish it out, but he can't take it.
What a gift...having a woman you no longer want to talk to leave you alone. A real man can not only "take it" but is GLAD the woman is leaving him alone.
shigsho looool pfffft
@@Sound7heWarCry 😂😂
That’s right mirror hm allllll the way. And keep it moving!
I will drop you like a bad habbit. I had someone go silent on me for 6 days, I went silent on them for 6 weeks. Kept my social media going so you can see, brother I am fine with or without you. Goodbye! LOL
Peeeerrriioooddd💯💯💯💯💯
Yep AMEN
Yes 👏🏽 x
Yassssss
Yessssss 🙌🏾
He didn’t get his way so he went silent. Started playing a game I wasn’t on. So I hit him with a “Take Care” and kept it moving. I control my mind not him. Love him but I also love myself. ❤️
Jenni Renae A to the men ! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
And In that order!
That’s right!!
Same, it’s hard but I’m standing my ground.
Ex~actly!!!! A petty woman is concerned. A confident woman moves and stays stepping forward. God bless
A good man will lead by communicating and take responsibility for his behavior because he is on a path of growth and becoming a healthier version of himself.
If he’s disrespecting you, he’s not a good man!! This🙌🏾🙌🏾...
What are the signs for SURE YOU AINT THE ONE?, and you’re NOT a priority? Inconsistency , ghosting, excuses, flakiness, trust your instincts.
Truth
I got his training wheels
Thats exactly how a joker do. Get silent or ghost.
Lonjemarieswisdom Aina facts ! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
That's narcissists
He started giving me the silent treatment 5 days ago. Im moving into my own place in 10 days. Silence is Golden!
I'm moving too... silently 😊
@Suny Blaze hope she's ok.
Period
@@DaTaJaSi she must've took him back.
Silence is golden, duct tape is silver..lol
He gives the silent treatment, I give the disappearing treatment.
Exactly no body has time for that nonsense 🤣🤣
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BINGO
I’m glad I learned how to communicate better in relationships. That silent stuff is for the birds 💯
😂😂😂😂Good one but your right!
SALUTE
You absolutely learned the right thing. Simple and honest way of living saves everyone’s energy and keeps the peace.
While he off with his silent ass, a whole other man talking his ass off😂lol stay silent please spare me
@@divinequeen313 wf
Silent treatment is surely a sign of manipulative, toxic behaviour. Emotional abuse, like constant silent treatments, then coming back like nothing happened will drive you crazy, and lead you devaluing your own mind! Stay safe ladies and gents ❤️ So greatful to be watching these videos in my youth! Thanks Tony for following your calling 🙏🏿
I learned this the hard way. Smh
How about you don’t act up in the first place to cause the silent treatment
Sameeeee, I'm 21 and I'm learning Soo much.
Yes it will
@@tipsy09 There are people who give silent treatments because they do not know how to communicate their feelings or feel like the one who they are giving a silent treatment to, is going to go after them like a dog goes after his boss. Men and women participate in silent treatments. I myself think it is very childish. If two grown adults can talk it out why would someone give the silent treatment. So just to let you know, someone does not always have to "act up" in order to be given the silent treatment. Some people just feel like giving them because they want to train the person.
I've learned that rejection is protection. I will not be anxious for nothing, like the " word" says. And that has given me peace, that im not willing to compromise for.
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Amen!! 🙌🏽
AMEN 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Silent treatment isn’t only a reflection of that persons lack of maturity and low self-esteem, but also a way of control. Silent treatment can also be a form of emotional abuse.
Yep manipulation
A real man is gonna communicate!!
That part!! 🙌
Agree, you have to use your mind in partnerships, too.
I'm tired of the mess and I would rather put God first and let him pick for me.
That's what your suppose to due anyways
YES MAM!! Only He knows
Silence speaks volume.
Silence is louder than words
Say it
Breaks you down to build you back up....AND REPEAT!! Oldest trick in the book ladies....You get to be the master of your own life once you heal your own wounds from childhood that attracted this type of man in the first place....Stand strong in the process that you went through, the healing work you did to get to the place where you will NOT tolerate this behavior ever again!! God bless....Wait upon the Lord ladies....You are never that desperate to take crumbs from anyone!!
This comment is in my top 5 of real ones! 💪🏾💜
The guy I was dating for 7 months didn’t call or text after a disagreement, I did the same. One month later he’s calling and texting. I blocked him. To old for games.
This was similar to my situation. 7months, disagreement due to his lack of communication, then he refused to return my calls and text and no response for a week. When I started to move on, he began stalking on social media with countless fake accounts.
Never would have guessed that he was so immature.
You go girl. Did he try to reach out after you blocked him?
Good job!!
👏👏👏👏 I love it
@Sylvia Rosario - Good one honey.
Going back to a man after being "put" on a timeout or silent treatment will have you hooked & booked like a crook, because you didn't read Tony's books!! 💯 😄🙌🏾
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Demetria Calvin well said 👏🏻👏🏻
😂😂 so true!
Say that Sis 🤣🤣💯
Haha😅
It been over a week he haven't call me and guess what f...him I'm not calling or texting him. Im out it's his loss not mines. Keep your head up high ladies
Has he called you at all since you wrote this?
@@jellymedina vice versa
This video is 2 years old and it was recommended to me today, the day I needed to see it. Thank you Tony for this content and thank God for the timing.
Me too, I was out here questioning my sanity. This man is out here driving me nuts. Today I’m blocking.
Everyone wants to train their woman, until that woman turns around and bites you 🥴🥴🥴
Time to start acting like Queens 👑, not poodles.
Lol! Righr
You betta say it!!!!!!!!
Perfectly said !!
Period honey💯
Feel me🗣
Last time my husband went silent ..... I GOT SILENT! 🤫 I silently packed my bag plus the kids AND LEFT ! 🏃🏾♀️💨 Me & my children will finally move into our own place coming July 27, 2020 !!! 🙌🏾
FYI!!! Men , when a woman goes silent you should then be very worried.
He is giving me the silent treatment right now AGAIN for the 100th time in 6 years. I'm not phased AT ALL. He didn't want to be in a relationship but he got mad when I moved on and got someone else. He called and texted me for a week and a half cursing me out. Crazy part is he never cursed me in 6 years until AFTER I moved on! I'm not phased at all. I havent texted or called him. I literally dont care! I feel GREAT!!!
You go girl 😉
Same girl he’s been doing the same things to me for 6/7 years. I moved on he came back I took him back and it’s been the same thing as it’s been from when I very first met him. This is literally four kids later back to back.... I’m done. Now it’s time to raise my baby’s there better off without him and his influences
he never loved you. I‘m sorry :(
I'm in competition with no one. If you have to choose between me and another CHOOSE HER!!!!.
Tony gaskins ✔✔✔✔✔ 100% facts
Man, I can't tell yall how many grown boys either ghosted me or thought it was appropriate to give me the silent treatment smh. At this point in life, if you give me a stupid silent treatment and don't wanna be honest with me, or ghost me.. bye.
Exit stage left 👌🏿💙
That’s Right!!!😃💯. Silent treatment is a sign of immaturity and is Disrespectful !!!
Did it ever occur to you that the reason he ghosted you or gave you the silent treatment was bcuz maybe he felt you wasnt worth his time n energy?..instead of being disrespectful or saying something unpleasant, he decided to stay silent....ijs
And its obvious who the common denominator is here...you have been ghosted by several grown boys smh
When a guy gives me the silent treatment I do it back
@@shanika8 Yep! Don't even waste your time. Keep living life!
Your sense of humor while helping us to heal mentally, spiritually and emotionally is priceless.
Seriously 😂😂😂🤣🤣 💯 it’s all facts tho lol
Yes.
Ladies know your worth and know that YOU are the PRIZE. Let him play his games alone and you move on. The right man for you is out there. Be patient! The right man can never find you if you’re “entangled.” Your time is valuable...go’n about your business!
Ladies and gentlemen GOD our CREATOR SEES All ALL KNOWING GOD NEVER SLUMBERS nor SLEEP GOD WORD WHATSOEVER A MAN. SOW That SHALL HE ALSO REAP MESSAGE FOR US ALL
Amen. I’m free now to meet my real mate 🙏🏽❤️💯
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Thanks you are very intelligent!
So true
Once I realized my ex husband was giving me the silent treatment, I mimic the same silent treatment to him and I learned to move around him and continue to live my life but then we came at a crossroads where communication was need. He refused to communicate, compromise, or connect with me. After 17 years, I divorced him. He gave me the silent treatment throughout the divorce process although we were living in the same house. His way of communicating was through other people instead of directly to me. He is a kid at 56 years old. A kid I have absolutely no respect for. I realized after the divorce that he was struggling to be a “MAN,” not a grown man but a “MAN.”
In my experience, the silent treatment is about control and punishment. My ex did this all the time. It was his method of trying to control me. Oh but he didn't know that couldn't work on me. I ignored it and continued to live my life and never asked why aren't you speaking to me. This is not normal behavior. Hence, that is why he is an ex.
I swear to God, I just walked away from a toxic man over the weekend, today I blocked him and I was sitting here thinking to myself that I’m selfish and ungrateful but this video goes to show I gave him all the chances I could . It’s time to heal. ❤️🙌🏾 thank you
God bless you
Self ❤️ Love Beautiful!! Toxic men rarely change.... You Deserve an Amazing Man!!
Thank God for brother Tony G!!!
God wants the best for you.
The devil wants the worst.
You have done the best decision.
Good for you sister. Go and get your healing.
Silent treatment also means he walks away no closure..my recent ex did this to me 6 weeks ago...so I kept walking. I'm no obedient dog.
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@Jamilla Dobson He can try lol..but this door is paddle locked and oops I lost the key. 😁 It's all good he was a narcissist.
@deona boone Thank you well when your handed lemons...lol 😊
its like trash took itself out...celebrate dont be sad...hug
@@evka24 Exactly!😂😁
Thank you for saying a grown man is going to communicate and talk about what’s going on. My husband is good for stonewalling me. That is even above and beyond the silent treatment. It is so hurtful. He plays games BAD. He walked out in November and stayed gone for 3 months. Now he wants back in. That’s why I’m here watching your videos.
I c, Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!
Let him stay gone
Girl, you are just way too pretty to keep enduring his foolishness!😵
@@christianpulisic7784 thank you I appreciate it
@@patriciadavis3549 thank you
I totally walked away from the grown boy after 3 months and never looked back
I'm glad!!
Good
Me too gal! The narc was lookin everywhere for me. It’s like went ghost. Change my number and everythin bc I had got that block then delete real quick. Random oh calls from random numbers. Wow the audacity of these ppl to think they sn come bk into your life after display in their behaviors this way. They truly got no value. Then ran into an ol pal and he goin tried and go off on me about ‘how me going ghost is not how to treat people’ . You’d said what now?. Anywho boy bye
That’s exactly how my boyfriend on two years treated me! It’s sick behavior. First day single ! 🙌🏾 Thankfully I’m at peace
Proud of you for getting out sis, keep your head up, there's better ahead... God bless ❤️
Well done for getting out with a sane mind. Love from a sister. Xx
I'm good at this because I'm Petty Betty. If it takes you 2 hours to return a text, it takes me 3 to return yours. I got time for it!
Pettyyyyy 😂😂😂😂😂
I can relate. And please try me😒
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I believe in treating the man the same way lol I feel ya lol
Petty Betty I love it
Anytime you feel Lonely know that GOD SATISFIES ALL YOUR NEEDS!! Let these ManChilds cradle in their Narcissistic ways & Pray GOD puts his Hands on Him
Before it’s too Late!!
See it’s something about “a man and his silent treatment” that triggers the crazy in me that’s why I leave these dudes alone before I end up in an orange jumpsuit 😂
😂 😂 😂
Me too smh
Fancy Pants I’m tellin you!
I feel like it's their intention. Put the blame on you to transfer the crazy from them to you.
🤣🤣🤣 facts
They also go silent in order to pursue other ventures if you know what I mean
Cheating
You are so right Ms. Brunson
Yep
You better believe it
When a boy goes silent, that means he's got a shiny new toy, when a girl is making noise, that means she's lost an old toy
Wow.. so true!!!
Well said.
sycho Saint Facts
I love this saying. I'm going to steal this one for my new T shirt
Wait til his new toy starts breaking lol
Wow. I never knew this. My husband used to do this to me and it had me walking on eggshells in my relationships until I got so tired of it that I decided to get a divorce. I didn’t tell him anything. I spoke with a lawyer and I started talking to other people (on the phone). Once he found out, he was devastated and I was unapologetic and ready to leave for good. Silent treatment went for so long that I had time to heal from our “breakup” and I was completely over him. He said he had to pray and by the grace of God I decided to give it another try. And it hasn’t happened ever again. Men shouldn’t do this because if he’s not fulfilling his wife, she’s still gonna have needs and they will get fulfilled by someone else.
Silent treatment went wrong. Right? They went so far we walked. God on us. I know that feeling. WHen they finally want to talk, (AKA manipulate you further) but you shut it down. Me too. I got to the point where it was unresolvable, and now they want to "try." Nah. good on you.
LMAO “You wasn’t fasting, you wasn’t praying. You had a stomach ache & you couldn’t eat......you lost yo appetite from worrying why he wasn’t calling you....ALRIGHT, TELL THE TRUTH.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅😅 personally attacked 🥴
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Elle E. 😩😩😩😭😭😭😭 girlllllll
We are grown. Life is short. Silent treatment is what children do. Men need to grow up & communicate with their mouths.
True story, she was dating a guy who kept playing her- the whole time he thought she was dedicated to him and his inconsistency - she was on the way to the alter with another man. She went ghost and let him see her marriage pictures on line. He got played and because I know him personally- best believe he was hurt 😞 and looked real stupid. Little man boys should learn from the best
Sad story but totaly beliavable
Lol was he from Atl 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
....now this the powerplay of a Queen👑
So glad I came across this video 🙌
I recently left something that felt really aligned but there was something off also, I listened to my intuition and called him out - now he is giving me the silent treatment. I questioned myself at first and thought I was too hard on him but then my higher self realized that was just a past version of myself stuck in hypervigilence and anticipating his needs instead of stepping into my worth and trusting myself. The universe gave me this lesson so I could level up!
Same experience here one year later. Still healing bc I care about him but he is gone after I exoressed my confusion and I didn't want this stress.
“Good men do GOOD things” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I love seeing everyones thought's on silent treatment but I think it's a form of control he wants to get you hooked.. So that you never leave and feel like you always need him.
I agree with this one.
Exactly girl, trauma bonding at its finest. Drop their stupid ass and glow up. Useless and insecure men out here 🤣🤣🤣
Haha yeh deffo a narc tactic ,, or thing are getting to real for mentally unstable men
They are testing you. They don’t believe you will risk losing them and that you’ll reach out eventually! Don’t take them back, they just want to finish you off!!
@@skyfall1481yup! They are bluffing! Men really think all women are over emotional. When they see you drop them and keep moving they start chasing and stalking like crazy. He messed up his chances playing games ...too bad 🤗😭✌🏾
Too many beautiful women in this comment section. These narcs sure love a trophy to make themselves look good. Its all about YOU, Making him look good.
100%
Dealing with this situation now but then the silent treatment leads to him leaving . In and out of my life bc he takes no responsibility and doesn’t know how to communicate as an adult. I already gave him a 2nd chance I don’t think there will be a third. Way too much work and mind games - that won’t happen again. Lesson learned !
What if I call him out and instead of apologizing, he accuses me of “starting an argument”?
Of course he’s not gonna like being called out bc now he’s embarrassed and caught. Made to feel stupid. He doesn’t like the truth and if he was mature he would talk about that. But if he’s not just leave him be.
This!
I’m on day 3. I was feeling hopeless but glad I found this video. It’s time to bless up!
Not desperate, a precious queen, daughter of the Most High. No mind games, thanks.
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My boyfriend is doing silent treatment on me right now that’s why he’s my ex now. Great content Tony
It's abuse. Don't go back.
Lol
queeeeen vibes
Tanya 🤣🤣🤣🤣💝 Dont kill me with your Julius girl🤣🤍
Oh. Mine went silent and I blocked him. We ain’t been dealing for too long and the work I’ve done on myself is too important and I’m not wasting no time.
YESSS SIS!
Big facts!
My Brother Tony, I am an older sister who appreciates your advice, your teaching, and your wisdom. May God Richly bless you and your wife with another car, financial growth, and more LOVE! SHALOM!