If Someone Goes No Contact and Is Ghosting You | DON'T PANIC | Do This Next

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  • When your specific person is ghosting you, there is no need to panic. You can do this instead and stop the no-contact. Robert Zink uses the secrets of the Law of Attraction to get someone to contact you when they are ghosting you.
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  • @LawofAttractionSolutions
    @LawofAttractionSolutions  Год назад +71

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    • @Soundofsilence-j4d
      @Soundofsilence-j4d Год назад +1

      MY FAMILY IS ONE THERE GOING ON MATERLISTIC COLLECTIVE FEEL THAT COMES OVER LOVE. MY FAMILY DONE IT ALL TIME. THEY JUDGE PERSON THINKEN YOU CANT AFFORD 480 DOLLER WEDDIN SO YOU DONT GET INVITED. WHO WANTS CHASE ANY ONE LIKE THAT. I D9NT

    • @user-xz3zx3du2o
      @user-xz3zx3du2o 10 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂😂ak number

    • @IngridFriend-lh5xu
      @IngridFriend-lh5xu 9 месяцев назад

      🤣 🤣 🤣 🤞

    • @ruthb7335
      @ruthb7335 9 месяцев назад

      I did it and some how I atention and then I mistake again and ot changed... So thank you for reminding me. I am doing that again

    • @portia547
      @portia547 6 месяцев назад

      😂 I needed this laugh today 🤣

  • @Lusufu
    @Lusufu Год назад +4462

    If you love someone set them free,if they come back it means nobody liked them set them free again😂❤

  • @Kazzas73
    @Kazzas73 8 месяцев назад +382

    Don’t try to contact someone that ghosts you.
    Their silence is your answer.

    • @Silirion
      @Silirion 6 месяцев назад +9

      Wish I knew this then. Its an important lesson.

    • @ns8037
      @ns8037 4 месяца назад +20

      Gotta respect the dead 😂

    • @Kazzas73
      @Kazzas73 4 месяца назад +2

      @@ns8037 love it!🤣

    • @crissyamethyst1783
      @crissyamethyst1783 3 месяца назад

      ​@@ns8037 stealing this

    • @sososanchez3512
      @sososanchez3512 3 месяца назад

      ​@@ns8037Dam Ryte

  • @Zorriel
    @Zorriel 4 месяца назад +247

    I'm so tired of people not being straight forward

    • @annnee6818
      @annnee6818 4 месяца назад +11

      Agreed. Just let me KNOW it's not hard

    • @Starmajor391
      @Starmajor391 4 месяца назад +11

      It’s okay… No need to deal with grown ups who cannot communicate 😊

    • @liquidcane3745
      @liquidcane3745 3 месяца назад +1

      That part❤

    • @nasrasyt
      @nasrasyt 3 месяца назад +1

      Right like do you want me or not

    • @sonyapetty9942
      @sonyapetty9942 Месяц назад +2

      People have become cowardly & lack empathy.

  • @rowdybliss
    @rowdybliss Год назад +1937

    If someone ghosts you, it’s always-ALWAYS-a good thing for YOU.

    • @Tanc369
      @Tanc369 Год назад +13

      How?

    • @jackcrane7853
      @jackcrane7853 Год назад +6

      Good one!

    • @rs5570
      @rs5570 Год назад +47

      So true! Very simple. You know to NEVER let them back in. You probably knew they were bad news within the girst hour of meeting them, according to solid tesearch, but wr look the other way, ignore our intuition and settle for a person of poor character in our lives. Then we claim they “victimized us,” lied to us, mislead us, hid things from us. Right there is the bigger lie. Don’t be a desperate dope. I myself did this once. Knew he was a player from the get ho but was flattered bu the attention. Maybe I’ll be different. Lol. People tell you exactly who they are within the first hour of meeting you. Always. Just decide to listen.

    • @matthewisthebest8152
      @matthewisthebest8152 Год назад +10

      Not really cause it’s means your self concept is really low lol 😂 everyone is you pushed out only reflecting back to you how you feel about yourself or them

    • @airenmarie1250
      @airenmarie1250 Год назад +12

      Wasn't a good thing for me for the past 15 years 😒

  • @TamTam-vc8es
    @TamTam-vc8es Год назад +1135

    If someone ghost you, there’s nothing to do other than pick yourself up, and move on! Never chase! ✌🏽

    • @VioletWaves44
      @VioletWaves44 Год назад +5

      You create every circumstance in your physical world through your consciousness. Everyone is you pushed out. You're ghosting yourself and pushing your limiting beliefs onto those trying to empower themselves.

    • @Ifidreamitidoit3566
      @Ifidreamitidoit3566 Год назад +3

      ​@@VioletWaves44 if someone "ghosts" you and it means you are ghosting yourself what to do then so that they come back 😢??

    • @martinleinenweber80
      @martinleinenweber80 Год назад +7

      Yep!! No need to keep wasting my time on that person 😎

    • @Willempire517
      @Willempire517 Год назад

      Great ✌

    • @mashiyasekhumalo4702
      @mashiyasekhumalo4702 Год назад +4

      Absolutely
      Never chase

  • @stephs6339
    @stephs6339 Год назад +1363

    This is 100% true. My ex told me that he didn’t want to bring in 2022 with me and my response was “ok”, I left and didn’t look back. It was HARD, but he came back, only I was no longer interested when he came back

    • @antoinetterocco3701
      @antoinetterocco3701 Год назад +36

      Mine never came back and is with someone almost two years.

    • @lincolnhtschick
      @lincolnhtschick Год назад +71

      Good for you, Antoinette. Wasn’t meant to be, God had you make room for someone else.

    • @efthimios
      @efthimios Год назад +46

      My wife that Had affair said same thing to me nye and I’m tired of being f hurt -I’m not a low value guy, I’m successful hard working faithful , She changes so
      Much like someone I don’t know it just sad after marriage and a family some women act like this

    • @nelozulu6161
      @nelozulu6161 Год назад +13

      @@efthimios sorry sir ....that's shocking

    • @loveyforlaughs
      @loveyforlaughs Год назад +5

      Yes girl. Yay for you.

  • @djdonbentley2141
    @djdonbentley2141 10 месяцев назад +194

    Human beings are a joke .
    Most people have no problem sleeping with someone , but yet when it comes to truly opening up and being vulnerable and loving inside the heart , then they feel
    omg that's too much .

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 4 месяца назад +11

      I totally agree. Just went through this😭😡

    • @sonialoves444
      @sonialoves444 4 месяца назад +2

      you are correct, excellent comment

    • @leifmcelreath5796
      @leifmcelreath5796 3 месяца назад +9

      I completely agree, too, it’s sad that people are willing to have sex, but don’t want no emotional connection, those people are damaged and are damaging other people

    • @Acquasimone123
      @Acquasimone123 3 месяца назад +1

      Yep ! Let them go amen 🙏

    • @thatVintageGirl1940s
      @thatVintageGirl1940s Месяц назад

      U said it

  • @jasona5806
    @jasona5806 7 месяцев назад +75

    A wise man once said.. We don’t chase we replace

  • @c004857
    @c004857 Год назад +1021

    Being or appearing "needy" is the most unattractive thing you can be. You should think instead along this line... "I am the answer to your prayer and not the other way around. You need me more than I need you" is more empowering. It is not arrogance. You are just stating a fact. You don't chase someone who don't chase you back. Never ever!

    • @shineayandrews1869
      @shineayandrews1869 Год назад +30

      It’s not even about it being attractive or not. This is law of attraction so your neediness just shows lack and you’ll continue to not get what you want because you don’t believe you have what you want. It’s simple, not complicated.

    • @slowestfroggo2465
      @slowestfroggo2465 Год назад

      thank u

    • @jamesross6042
      @jamesross6042 Год назад +14

      Nothing wrong being arrogant. Most successful people are.

    • @meldickerson4580
      @meldickerson4580 Год назад +3

      So why do they love it from certain people but not others even though they act like they do at that time.

    • @Blakkbarbii101
      @Blakkbarbii101 Год назад +34

      Very true! If you’re chasing something, it is most likely running away. Chasing devalues you but giving them space even if you’re dying inside, shows them you value your dignity and respect yourself.

  • @strawberrysangria1474
    @strawberrysangria1474 Год назад +144

    Ghosts mean death. I mourned their loss, and moved towards finding new life. RIP.

  • @narcvanquisher
    @narcvanquisher 10 месяцев назад +122

    If they are merciless in their actions, be ruthless in your response.
    Fair exchange aint no robbery.

  • @minggi_
    @minggi_ Год назад +331

    He ghosted me after giving me anxiety over and over again and what I gain is PEACE 🕊️😘✌️

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix Год назад +7

      YES!

    • @Purplecolors88
      @Purplecolors88 10 месяцев назад +6

      Girl me too!!! The weight has lifted

    • @kristine437
      @kristine437 10 месяцев назад +3

      AMEN ❤

    • @user-nf4zg5xg5t
      @user-nf4zg5xg5t 2 месяца назад

      Am sorry it happened to all true lovers to too but I believe God will pay it back wat you do to someone will come back to you I believe amen

  • @c004857
    @c004857 Год назад +419

    To be attractive, the idea is "people should think that your life is better than theirs." It works everytime.

    • @robd1329
      @robd1329 Год назад +17

      Exactly. Im not rich but take a lot of vacations or work remotely out of the U.S. when i come back to the office everyone wants to be me thinking i was living the life..which i was.

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix Год назад +11

      I know women who get pissed and pressed because I don't envy them. I don't kiss their asses. I like myself and I don't need their validation.

    • @nadiabeno467
      @nadiabeno467 4 месяца назад

      I love this theory ❤❤

  • @paulamarie
    @paulamarie Год назад +249

    And then after enough time passes you realize you don't need that person that didn't care about you at all.

    • @jimjones3173
      @jimjones3173 Год назад +12

      Yes and there is actually better people out there for you

    • @zoha2597
      @zoha2597 Год назад +7

      He ghosted me after 5 years of ralationship am so broken

    • @tiana2906
      @tiana2906 Год назад +7

      @@zoha2597 I'm sorry my love, I know it's not easy but I know you'll heal! 🙏💜

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix Год назад +8

      @Jim Jones Not necessarily... There may not be anyone out there for me at all... And that's ok too... because I have self love and self respect.

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 4 месяца назад

      So this💛

  • @sangeetanair3643
    @sangeetanair3643 8 месяцев назад +62

    If someone loves you they will never think of ghosting you or ignore you or push you away...if they do so then they are not worth staying back

  • @mikobrooks7376
    @mikobrooks7376 Год назад +40

    He ghosted himself because Im not a ghost catcher or chaser. I'll move on at the smallest signs of neglect. He doesn't deserve me

  • @andrewwilson4975
    @andrewwilson4975 Год назад +289

    Someone who pulls this ghosting stuff shows they do not have healthy relationship skills. This is middle-school stuff and could be a sign of personality disorder...i.e. narcissism. That said I agree 100% here with Robert on how to deal with this type of situation. I think it is a definite red flag.

    • @jrwheeler81
      @jrwheeler81 Год назад +36

      Exactly. This is 100% true. Ghosting someone is often a form of manipulation to try to get you to chase them and a way for them to have the upper hand and be in control. It is totally immature and not a sign of a healthy relationship. It's nothing more than childish behavior. If you're in a relationship where somebody starts ghosting you, that should be a HUGE red flag.

    • @Rigoletta53
      @Rigoletta53 Год назад +13

      Too many people never outgrow hi school 16:52

    • @jmorrison5206
      @jmorrison5206 Год назад +20

      Borderline personality probably more often than narcissism.

    • @VioletWaves44
      @VioletWaves44 Год назад +2

      Everyone is you pushed out

    • @babyluvjr
      @babyluvjr Год назад +1

      Definitely true, Andrew....real talk....I agree

  • @Shine_Before_The_Sunrise
    @Shine_Before_The_Sunrise Год назад +133

    Ghosting is bullcrap, period. It hurts, and it leads to confusion, guessing, wondering, and doubt, none of which are a joy to experience. If we learn to communicate with each other, we could avoid ghosting altogether.

    • @lasalle2407
      @lasalle2407 Год назад +14

      I agree I just it’s been a week since I been ghosted it’s very painful

    • @hassangillani4331
      @hassangillani4331 Год назад +8

      Yes communication is best

    • @gailpergent9979
      @gailpergent9979 Год назад +18

      A sign of immaturity......One expects ghosting in your teens but not when you are older...

    • @dhanrajmohan701
      @dhanrajmohan701 10 месяцев назад +6

      Public comment. So true but people love to play games and mind games. Watch for red flag 🚩. Don't waste time, it never wait on anyone. Moral values and respect matters in life.

    • @mydream881
      @mydream881 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@gailpergent9979 ghosting is a new modern tactic... I never experienced it as a teen 15 years ago!

  • @KM-fb4eb
    @KM-fb4eb Год назад +34

    Silent treatments are a form of abuse, full stop.
    Unless someone is dangerous, abusive or disrespectful, then ghosting is not okay. It's cowardly and cruel.
    People who can't communicate like adults should find a good therapist and work on themselves before attempting to date. If you can't communicate no relationship will work out regardless of how into the person you are.
    Dating is for grownups and grownups communicate
    Even if you lose interest in someone, it does not make that person any less worthy of being treated with dignity and respect as a human being. And the respectful thing to do when you no longer wish to see them is to let them know.
    IF after that they won't take "no" for an answer then it's perfectly alright to go no contact.
    "I didn't want to hurt their feelings" (said every ghosted ever) bullcrap! It's NOT to spare their feelings, it's to spare YOU an uncomfortable conversation.
    Its ironic how ghosters and cheaters consider themselves martyrs

  • @newworldastrology1102
    @newworldastrology1102 5 месяцев назад +36

    Thinking of someone connects you energetically. They feel it, even unconsciously. Take your attention off them completely, and only then they will feel your true absence.

  • @ditadrosa3482
    @ditadrosa3482 8 месяцев назад +220

    “ Don’t strive to make your presence noticed, just make your absence felt.” Much Aloha & Blessings for healing our mind, body, soul and heart! 💕

    • @peterkealohi3844
      @peterkealohi3844 7 месяцев назад +1

      Aloha, koloa kauai

    • @foolishcoyote.
      @foolishcoyote. 6 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, those are wise words of wisdom... you sound like someone with an abundant 💜 heart 🙏

    • @ditadrosa3482
      @ditadrosa3482 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@foolishcoyote. You’re Too Kind! “Accepting What Is.” A Blessing In Disguise.
      Hope, Happiness and Health To You! 😇💕🙏🏼

  • @meredythmackinnon-love513
    @meredythmackinnon-love513 Год назад +263

    Sometimes going no contact is absolutely necessary. When the person you sever contact with is toxic and narcissistic, a complete ending of all contact is self preservation.

    • @elliotclassic5308
      @elliotclassic5308 Год назад +9

      Amen! Most therapists will say exactly that or ones that are skilled in narc relationships anyway. I'm still trying to heal from a toxic relationship.

    • @tonyconnor5691
      @tonyconnor5691 Год назад +6

      Yep the key word narcissism that's the one that goes under the radar

  • @JayC0325
    @JayC0325 Год назад +78

    If you love someone, let them go. If they return, they are yours. If they don’t, they never were.

    • @MrParkerman6
      @MrParkerman6 Год назад +9

      If you love someone,
      Let them go.
      If they come back,
      Throw Bread Crumbs at them!!!!
      If they don't eat the bread 🍞
      It was NEVER meant to be!

  • @__.angel1111.__
    @__.angel1111.__ 10 месяцев назад +163

    1) Focus on you 6:50 Whatever they're doing mirror them. 9:45 Self worth, self value, energy into you.
    2) Make decisions that benefit you
    3) Use vibrational energy to draw them to you
    4) Assume that what you want you already have
    5) Do your manifestation work, Make yourself the star

  • @selenenajera4477
    @selenenajera4477 Год назад +163

    If someone ghost you the best is to give them the same treatment when they try to come back and is to move on remember never to lose pride and love yourself first...

    • @wendyali1744
      @wendyali1744 Год назад +5

      Yes true

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix Год назад +2

      Exactly! It's taken me awhile to figure this out, apparently.

    • @planlosubertroffen2282
      @planlosubertroffen2282 5 месяцев назад

      If ghosting hurts you, then you expected something at first.
      So its your own pain refelcting on you back.
      Never Expect anything its a silence poison for your mind youself create.

  • @yayawalker7440
    @yayawalker7440 Год назад +819

    I needed to hear this message . Sometimes we think it’s best to go after them to show them we care but in all seriousness it’s best to fall completely back , don’t chase and work on yourself and attract sometime far greater than what we had. Great message!

    • @FreedomofSpeech865
      @FreedomofSpeech865 Год назад +5

      Yesssss

    • @annacarter8703
      @annacarter8703 Год назад +7

      When going back it like being use again,. What if you do go back and they already have someone you only hurting yourself never fall into being weak that what they prey on.

    • @janpierzchala2004
      @janpierzchala2004 Год назад +11

      This message should work also for a toxic person. Don't chase, don't stalk - something else will come your way.

    • @aprilrosemiranda2901
      @aprilrosemiranda2901 Год назад +2

      Amen

    • @winir6473
      @winir6473 7 месяцев назад +2

      you think cutting someone from your heart with a snap works?

  • @Marie-or8uj
    @Marie-or8uj Год назад +47

    "You give them back what they're giving you" as simple at that😀

  • @robdigman7596
    @robdigman7596 Год назад +69

    People who ghost are usually the most toxic in your life to begin with. You can feel the shift once they are gone immediately. They are indeed manipulating control freaks. I also agree that some people can only handle a certain amount of intimacy.

    • @patfigueroa4199
      @patfigueroa4199 6 месяцев назад +1

      Truth happening now..exactly what you said

  • @ateezq9923
    @ateezq9923 Год назад +905

    1) Focus on you
    2) Make decisions that benefit you
    3) Use vibrational energy to draw them to you
    4) Assume that what you want you already have
    5) Do your manifestation work, Make yourself the star

    • @leapham2284
      @leapham2284 Год назад +5

      Indeed....

    • @hennesseyme9112
      @hennesseyme9112 Год назад +9

      #3 is a no for me, it does not work.

    • @Illumination70
      @Illumination70 Год назад +10

      @@hennesseyme9112 -I agree because whenever I'm ghosted it means the guy has found someone else and I walk away just saying.

    • @dandotvid
      @dandotvid Год назад +28

      Why the hell would you want to draw someone to you that has shown you're not a priority to them? Just let them go and move on.

    • @hennesseyme9112
      @hennesseyme9112 Год назад +7

      @@dandotvid Everyone has been a fool for love, if you haven't then keep living. It is all about learning about self.

  • @juliaskagfjord6207
    @juliaskagfjord6207 Год назад +40

    Solid advice. You only suffer if you hold on to someone who has chosen to leave your life. Do not count on a ghoster to return.

  • @simondevos7005
    @simondevos7005 Год назад +54

    If someone is ghosting you, just let it go , out of site out of mind , is the best way, don’t let people disturbed your peace of mind.
    No one wants a gaslighting relationship, remember ghosting, there is no drama, ghosting don’t talk back

  • @Nessyk01
    @Nessyk01 Год назад +107

    If someone ghosts you , it’s over , move on .

    • @user-gc8dh2tm7p
      @user-gc8dh2tm7p 6 месяцев назад +2

      What about 2nd chance can that still happen ?

    • @Silirion
      @Silirion 6 месяцев назад +19

      No. For me, No second chances for a ghosting. The potential is dead If they hurt me like that. Ive been through it twice. Third time is not the charm when it comes to this.
      If they ghost you, they have issues, and you are not their solution.

  • @lesleymiller8446
    @lesleymiller8446 Год назад +20

    I dont chase anybody, they either want me or they dont... its his loss

  • @northshorelight35
    @northshorelight35 9 месяцев назад +15

    When they come back, they’re more broken and will waste your time even more. They come back to you because you’re the only one who really love and respect them. But they don’t deserve you so move on.

  • @jamelledwards116
    @jamelledwards116 11 месяцев назад +12

    If you ghost me, I will keep it in mind for when they need me again.

  • @trishcook7692
    @trishcook7692 Год назад +53

    If they are a Narcissist, they will do this in a pattern. Once you see the love bomb, devalue, discard pattern ... RUN!!!! Not toward them, but as far away from them as you can get! It's not love, it's control.

    • @robertswift6101
      @robertswift6101 Год назад +8

      yep,,,,stole my soul and as an empath i thought the entire relationship was real,,,,these kinds of people are cruel to good people

    • @pricillageorge6593
      @pricillageorge6593 Год назад +3

      Yep they are cruel I have to forgive myself

    • @dhanrajmohan701
      @dhanrajmohan701 10 месяцев назад

      Fact about what you said about narc.

    • @juliebabin5330
      @juliebabin5330 2 месяца назад +1

      Could not be more true. Also to add because as empaths it takes far longer to recover. I’ve heard the narc doesn’t feel remorse and so the empathy takes double the weight of the grief and can take a very long time to come out of.

  • @paulinaurueta8794
    @paulinaurueta8794 Год назад +455

    thank you so much robert. I’ve been in no contact with “my person” for a few days and the physical anxiety feels miserable. I put my trust in the universe, and allow for things to be as is. I woke up 10 minutes ago with the same pain in my chest and I see you uploaded exactly what I needed.

    • @Rainbow-love-hope-shine
      @Rainbow-love-hope-shine Год назад +60

      My person ghosted me a week ago and I have the same pain in my chest. Just helps to know we’re not alone in this. So many people going through similar things. Hope he messaged u by now.

    • @joerihendrickx9751
      @joerihendrickx9751 Год назад +26

      Im not the only one apperntly 😮

    • @christophbookwarrior8208
      @christophbookwarrior8208 Год назад +20

      What a coincidence. My specific person ghosted
      Me since Saturday and I needed this desperately.

    • @genuineperson7397
      @genuineperson7397 Год назад +20

      Stay zero contact sis. You deserve better, know this.

    • @annacarter8703
      @annacarter8703 Год назад +12

      Pray and seek counseling. Keep the no contact going back will hurt even more. You don't know who else might be involved as days goes on you will start loving yourself first.

  • @stevenbass732
    @stevenbass732 Год назад +28

    If someone is "ghosting" you, just ignore them. They are not worth the hassle.

  • @jasminekaur8312
    @jasminekaur8312 Год назад +35

    The ones truly love will not find or give any excuses, they will accept you the way you are. The ones finds excuses are the ones who already left you mentally and just waiting to break the relationship officially. Just stay single and be happy, the lucky ones will be blessed with good partners which won't let you to worry or beg to stay

  • @msdecemberloveangel8236
    @msdecemberloveangel8236 Год назад +46

    He ghosted me it hurt I got over it now I've healed and getting myself together ❤ loving me appreciating me .I now moved on. Doing gardening , im thinking about a cooking podcast. I dress up and so proud of me and my values and worth. Thanks for the valuable information.

  • @m.p.6742
    @m.p.6742 Год назад +237

    I have a mantra that I repeat when I'm stressed or I need to remind myself of my high value in myself. I don't chase, I attract. Everything good happens to me when I am present and in my flow state.

    • @brandonbodine-smith441
      @brandonbodine-smith441 Год назад +6

      Beautiful! I like that!!!

    • @detjaggillar8081
      @detjaggillar8081 6 месяцев назад +3

      That's what I gonna to tell my self - every day - from today:
      I don't chase anyone. I attract. 💥
      Thank You 🙏💞
      // from Sweden //

    • @stoneystank7355
      @stoneystank7355 5 месяцев назад

      I ❤ this!

    • @jillmariaplatteaux6083
      @jillmariaplatteaux6083 3 месяца назад

      If you leave the ghoster and do not chase, they just vanish 😢

  • @nursejen1111
    @nursejen1111 Год назад +24

    IMO ghosting and not responding to texts is a form of abuse in a relationship, its just cruel period. I have no room for any of it. I'll hold the door open for you bye👋

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 5 месяцев назад

      That's why you have to mirror them to give them a taste of their own medicine so they dont do it again.

    • @nursejen1111
      @nursejen1111 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@basicinfo2022 honestly I prefer adult communication, I'm not going to perpetuate ghosting I'd rather be honest and straightforward

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 5 месяцев назад

      @@nursejen1111 you can explain to them why and then go no contact. No contact is powerful.

  • @andsoitbegins464
    @andsoitbegins464 10 месяцев назад +25

    Thank you Robert. I am a 72 yrs young single woman, still learning lessons as I go. Your videos help me to stay on the right path and be happy for what I experience, and learn from it.

  • @babup8986
    @babup8986 Год назад +95

    Do not resist the evil. Go with flow. The river never stops. That is Life. Just " B". Praise the Lord.

    • @robd1329
      @robd1329 Год назад +3

      May the lord forgive my sins. He will forgive if you confess.

    • @MrParkerman6
      @MrParkerman6 Год назад

      Be like water making its way through cracks!
      Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.
      Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash!
      Be like water, my friend!!!!

    • @jessicaagosto3633
      @jessicaagosto3633 10 месяцев назад +1

      Amen 🙏🏻

  • @loa4441
    @loa4441 Год назад +27

    When you let them go, you cant do it to get them back, you have to really detach. It has to be about you, not them.

  • @xoxo_love
    @xoxo_love 7 месяцев назад +14

    Why do relationships have to be so complicated. 😂

  • @funnygirlever
    @funnygirlever 6 месяцев назад +17

    Let go and move on forever! Peace out! If they really cared, loved, and wanted you they would be with you and working harder to be with you. Best to go live the best life.

  • @elib1107
    @elib1107 Год назад +69

    I love that “ I am the star of my story “ . I tend to think of me last. I can see it better, thank you!

  • @lsls-lb7qv
    @lsls-lb7qv 11 месяцев назад +12

    If they are the one who exited a relationship it is entirely on THEM to make it up to you. And it should not be your effort.

  • @Truly_Afrikan
    @Truly_Afrikan Год назад +31

    This is exactly what am going through, its a 3rd day today no text no call ,i panicked until i saw this thank you

  • @usereEyez6208
    @usereEyez6208 Год назад +19

    I did 6 months ago.He ghosted Me and now I am a ghost. No explanation, no questions asked.Just kept it moving.

  • @mariolorbes2936
    @mariolorbes2936 Год назад +32

    Listen to this guy…
    He knows what he is doing..
    HE IS 1000% CORRECT!….

  • @Rosevalentine6
    @Rosevalentine6 Год назад +16

    Who wants someone that pulls away anyway they are showing there own intimacy and commitment issue that’s your first sign to let them go

  • @Broke_Guy_78
    @Broke_Guy_78 Год назад +16

    Many people hurt me in the past, some more than other's. Nowadays when i get ghosted i just move on i don't try to chase them anymore. If they want to let me go it's there lost, i just move on and try to make the best of the situation. It does hurt but i am not going to be chasing someone that doesn't want me anymore!!!

  • @catherinejackson8205
    @catherinejackson8205 Год назад +244

    This answered so many questions. Cause I was chasing and I noticed it right away and took a step back. I was hurting my own feelings. I realized I need to work on myself first. Everything happened so fast. We are in a separation phase. We’ll see where this chapter goes. Thank you so much

    • @devindibudhawaththa9077
      @devindibudhawaththa9077 Год назад +10

      What happend? I am also passing same phase as you.

    • @warriormanmaxx8991
      @warriormanmaxx8991 Год назад +8

      @@devindibudhawaththa9077 - you do not need to know "what happend(happened)" stay in your own life's lane!

    • @anatschreiber2688
      @anatschreiber2688 Год назад +4

      I love your delivery...so happy I came across your wise words

    • @handsomepretty9504
      @handsomepretty9504 Год назад +6

      I love this so much because I feel very free right now. My intuition has been telling me not to chase and I am so glad I didn’t chase. I have decided to with my decision and coming across your post I feel so much peace and relieved. Thank you so much

    • @catherinejackson8205
      @catherinejackson8205 Год назад +16

      @@devindibudhawaththa9077 sorry, I didn’t even realize I had replies. Honestly, nothing. Emotions happened so fast. We were texting all the time til we finally met in person and it was amazing, then the second night he voiced he was scared. He took a huge step away from me. Everything has been felt but has been unspoken. We are still in separation. It hurts but I am finally surrendering

  • @cinnamonspice4389
    @cinnamonspice4389 Год назад +57

    Thank you, I started this process already in my daily life & I am good on my own because I know my value and worth. No more low Vibrating people in my life.

  • @williemixco5717
    @williemixco5717 Год назад +14

    Looking back...I went from a shy introvert guy at 16 to an outgoing. Self confident person after being dumped by my ex of 2 yrs...I went out and learned martial arts, Breakdancing and roller skating, and went to college...played all kinds of sports and just focused on myself...I never looked for anybody but girls seemed to always want to be with me...including the ex😆🥂 been married to my wife for 40 yrs now but sometimes I miss those days.🤩

  • @Kurt5Dobson
    @Kurt5Dobson 11 месяцев назад +63

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

    • @DarylSimpson58
      @DarylSimpson58 11 месяцев назад +1

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @Kurt5Dobson
      @Kurt5Dobson 11 месяцев назад

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @DarylSimpson58
      @DarylSimpson58 11 месяцев назад

      Her name is chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Kurt5Dobson
      @Kurt5Dobson 11 месяцев назад

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @nyasolina5364
      @nyasolina5364 10 месяцев назад

      Sorry. I pass through the same

  • @NKhan-bv9fb
    @NKhan-bv9fb Год назад +61

    I am in so much pain and this is all I needed to hear. Thank you

  • @iamdenaire2097
    @iamdenaire2097 Год назад +121

    I don’t know how I came across this, but I did and I love the message. It’s crazy how the universe brings things to you full circle and I believe I needed this. I love how he’s so aware , answering questions he’s sure people are thinking 💕💕💕. Most importantly this is the year to focus and rebuild yourself. Someone amazing will come along when the time comes❤

    • @mashiyasekhumalo4702
      @mashiyasekhumalo4702 Год назад

      Indeed

    • @mspenny6162
      @mspenny6162 Год назад +4

      @Iam Denaire…It’s the IG algorithm. It tracks you and what you watch and comment on and sends like videos, stories and reels in your direction.

    • @Melinda8162
      @Melinda8162 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@mspenny6162 Do you know if RUclips/Google can block you from commenting to someone....for some reason, if neither one of you blocked the other?? ( If you know what I mean??) I tried asking it on RUclips but don't know if my question was 'understood'.

  • @debbiesnelten8064
    @debbiesnelten8064 Год назад +44

    Thank You Robert.. Am currently in situation like this. I am not chasing and am working on myself. I feel free. And I release what I cannot control into the universe. 👍💛

  • @madameproblemes6548
    @madameproblemes6548 Год назад +21

    You opened my eyes about the control and power he wants to have over me by pulling away. It's obvious that it's the case.

  • @Sjj827
    @Sjj827 Год назад +11

    This is the best video I’ve ever seen on the “no contact” rule. And I’ve seen many. I liked and subscribed.

  • @karaokenglish
    @karaokenglish Год назад +14

    The person pulling away might be pulling away because things have become toxic. So if someone is ghosting you then do a little soul searching, don't chase after the one pulling away, instead focus on loving yourself, and becoming the best version of yourself.

    • @KM-fb4eb
      @KM-fb4eb Год назад +8

      The first half of this is (I'm sure unintentionally) victim blaming. We shouldn't have to be mind readers. If there's no abuse or disrespect taking place, then ghosting makes you a coward.
      Dating is for grownups and grownups communicate.
      Silent treatments are a form of abuse.

  • @FireDaddyTarot
    @FireDaddyTarot 7 месяцев назад +3

    Man! I just shared this with my community on youtube because I say these things to a lot of my viewers constantly. Good stuff

  • @emiliavizireanu1230
    @emiliavizireanu1230 Год назад +42

    What a wonderful video ! It's so illuminating and so good and perfect ! Thank you for all your work , Robert !

  • @Relativetoyou
    @Relativetoyou Год назад +64

    This is a beautiful message! Draw all the energy and love you have for someone else back to you!

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix Год назад +4

      Yes, give yourself all of the love instead of giving it to someone who can't/won't love you back. Works for me!

    • @MariaSandoval-ou8ul
      @MariaSandoval-ou8ul Год назад +2

      Perfectly said🙂

  • @carolb3869
    @carolb3869 Год назад +55

    Setting them free will give YOU an opportunity to focus on you & what you really want 😊 (likely it’s not them)
    I love: ‘mirror them!’ 💜
    Always, back to YOU!!!!
    The best person 🥰

    • @_Lazare
      @_Lazare 4 месяца назад +1

      Nicely said

  • @bluesun2001
    @bluesun2001 8 месяцев назад +12

    He texted me two weeks later apologizing, says he's been sick, wants dinner with me, I responded in a chill way, even tho I was going crazy these two weeks. They always come back. Just live your life ladies and have several men chase you, so you have options. Just an honest advice. Peace.

  • @radiatepositivity3643
    @radiatepositivity3643 Год назад +10

    Robert!! You are ❤! I posted on your video yesterday about being in NC with my SP and you post this today, amazing!!!❤❤

  • @marielbertumen4704
    @marielbertumen4704 Год назад +32

    Thank you, Robert. Everything you in this video inspires me. These are exactly the messages that I want to hear

  • @orcaoracle
    @orcaoracle Год назад +10

    Great advice all round, I would just mention for the idea of mirroring that it can be dangerous if your intention behind it is to get their attention. Intention is the most crucial element here. So it can end up playing with your own mind, you can end up tricking yourself and being even further disappointed and upset if they don't come around and show you they care. The healthiest thing you can do is have an honest conversation with them about how they are feeling and thinking, what you are feeling and thinking, share it in a caring and mature way. If you care about them, and want a committed relationship, then be straight up about it. Don't pretend you don't in order to keep the "mystery" or game-playing because it will come back to bite you... and then like Robert says ask "can I have my apartment key back" and then mirror. This is important because then you aren't left with the hope that you could've had some level of clarity by conversing. Obviously if you don't get what you need in the conversation then still follow this process but what can happen is you can end up tricking yourself and that makes it a crazy painful experience of going round and round emotionally.

  • @blainecannon4848
    @blainecannon4848 Год назад +4

    Robert,
    Excellent video and wisdom passed as I just assisted my son through a divorce and gave identical advice.
    While partnerships predicated upon respect and support can serve some value - truly high valued individuals are self-motivated and on their grind to improve 360 degrees and more.
    Cheers and great content - keep preaching!!!

  • @Margotblue87martinamargot
    @Margotblue87martinamargot Год назад +25

    "I am the star of my story" ✨😊 Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @Fay_F_2
    @Fay_F_2 Год назад +26

    Very detailed explanation . Thank you ! This can be seen in family and in friends as well . I agree with the control part I’ve seen it and experienced it . They want to gain control even in friendships especially when the so called friends may have ulterior motives. Very relevant video and timely too.

  • @danielparramore1373
    @danielparramore1373 Год назад +5

    Someone sent me this video yesterday and man let me tell you. This speaks volume!!!! Trust yourself!

  • @LillyAuggie11
    @LillyAuggie11 Год назад +6

    This helped me so much in my journey back to my SP, Not having needy energy and focusing on myself brought me into a much healthier relationship with my SP.
    TY!

  • @hsumyathtet3206
    @hsumyathtet3206 Год назад +6

    That's really coincident!
    I came RUclips because he was like going no contact and I saw that you posted 🥺 thank you

  • @prithabose2603
    @prithabose2603 Год назад +49

    Listening to this video of yours was relaxing and satisfying! The idea is to love and believe yourself first... value your worth and know this that your desires are fulfilled already.. as they are honestly yours! If you cannot love and value yourself, you cannot reflect positive energy to others. The Universe always has our back and we are valued!

    • @AimandRoll
      @AimandRoll Год назад

      Videos always interesting to watch & like, it's so encouraging, as @ times we can feel our worst version, untill one into Robert sessions, helpful indeed. It helps to know one can help oneself re: a brea k up.

  • @kimmichaud7741
    @kimmichaud7741 Год назад +7

    While it's true that pulling away usually causes someone to start chasing after awhile it's an unhealthy relationship healthy relationships don't ghost each other

  • @annnee6818
    @annnee6818 4 месяца назад +3

    I drove a guy away by asking for another meeting. If a man is weak enough, anything can cause a breakdown

  • @sandrag237
    @sandrag237 Год назад +10

    This is what I need to hear 😢 2023 I’m here stronger than ever - best version of me 😊

  • @Ry-fw6or
    @Ry-fw6or Год назад +25

    Thank you so much Robert. You really help and calm my mind tonight. I needed this.

  • @JHeightzLegend
    @JHeightzLegend 11 месяцев назад +8

    Thank you Robert for the advice and insight. Self worth should always be your greatest priority

  • @31Alden
    @31Alden Год назад +12

    Make it easy on them … YES! As my mother used to say to me back in the day, “Give them a taste of their own medicine!” Mirror them, per Robert Zink. Give them what they THINK they want and carry on. Thank you, Robert!

  • @changewithme1378
    @changewithme1378 Год назад +20

    Your channel and content is exactly what I need right now. I don’t know how I found you but it’s like fatherly advice. Thank you!!!

  • @lz657
    @lz657 Год назад +27

    Thank you Robert. This has been so timely and helpful.

  • @janealace
    @janealace 8 месяцев назад +5

    You are right. I totally agree. And neediness is not an attractive quality. No one likes clingy. Thank you.

  • @djberto690
    @djberto690 Год назад +3

    This is by far the best video I have seen. It popped up I was curious. but this is exactly what works. I can't tell you how many times I've been ghosted used this ideology and it's worked for years. The part that Robert didn't mention is when you find someone better these ghosting exes always come back, and they are never happy.

  • @valerie2827
    @valerie2827 Год назад +49

    You're so awesome Robert. Everything you say makes so much sense and is so incredibly helpful. Thank you for all you do!! ❤️

  • @miriamclavano1353
    @miriamclavano1353 Год назад +10

    I love myself. I am enough. If he wants space then go! I don’t chase and I don’t force. Everyone is created different. Nobody is created the same.

  • @Liz-dragon-street.
    @Liz-dragon-street. Год назад +9

    This is so beautiful explained💛💫 I love your channel so much!
    Love you Robert, your energy is gold 🙏

  • @MirandaVlogs0
    @MirandaVlogs0 8 месяцев назад

    You really lift me up with your words, sometimes when you’re so naïve you don’t exactly know what to do. Ty!

  • @lolokay7001
    @lolokay7001 Год назад +43

    amazing video!! i am always chosen, chased and admired. Things are always working out for me 2023 🎉

  • @mariharris8535
    @mariharris8535 Год назад +44

    Thank you so much for talking about how this is a strategic move to gain control bc it is absolutely that!!! And yes it’s those avoidant behaviors bc most are taught to avoid any real consequences for anything…thank you bc so many people talk about ghosting or the silent treatment as if it’s totally normal and ok to do this to someone and it can actually really damage someone and it’s so painful … most don’t ask for space they just ghost and ignore. I wish society would stop encouraging this way of dealing with issues versus healthy communication skills. Everything you said was totally accurate, all of it. Thank you.

    • @SeaC-ko1mp
      @SeaC-ko1mp Год назад +5

      Ghosting is cruel and cowardly. It’s also a narcissistic trait.

    • @7Earthsky
      @7Earthsky Год назад

      Dealing with a narc girl i got involved with right now....They are usually highly seductive and know how to hook you in sexually....It's then that the ghosting starts as a form of cohersive control....I'm not even sure they're even all that aware of it themselves....It's usually part of a deeper personality disorder though...I've met many women with the traits but I can still get duped sometimes.

  • @sonyagalligan2126
    @sonyagalligan2126 Год назад +12

    I'm so happy to hear and receive what exactly I needed to hear. I appreciate your guidance and reasoning. Thank you for helping me 😁💤🐒🪱🍿

  • @davewelbylivinginhistinyti4796
    @davewelbylivinginhistinyti4796 10 месяцев назад +17

    In most of my past relationships, walking away has been beneficial for my well-being. Walking away from someone you love is hard, agreed. It has never crossed my mind to ghost. Normally they are the ones that ghosts because of their ego and they can't control me or think that they ever could, is another matter. Hence the power of walking away. 🙌💛🙌

  • @chantalrobat8537
    @chantalrobat8537 Год назад +9

    Thank you Robert.
    It's very true I'm the star in this story.
    Worthy and enough.

  • @SheCitrine
    @SheCitrine Год назад +6

    You are the one needed, wanted, admired, worthy