Thank you so much mark, and everyone for your wonderful comments. I feel so supported. It’s been a lonely few years and I just wanted to be able to reach people who could understand..I feel like I accomplished that. Reading through the comments is really making me feel like maybe I am doing something right. Thank you, thank you ❤️
Maybe your brother had behavioral issues at such a young age was from drug use while he was in the womb. I am so sorry about your brother, I am so glad you are ok and telling your story will help others. 🙏 💕
God bless and strengthen you dear Sister!!!! LOVE is understood in a universal manner; much LOVE to you, your Mother, and Brother. PEACE be with you continually.
You are so amazingly insightful and intelligent, Alexis. I hope you channel this into working with others who have to go through hardships coping with the addiction of family members. And I see a creative soul in you - perhaps in creative writing and/or filmmaking. I feel so lucky I got to hear you tell your story.
Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance- wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life..
Great interview, really enlightening to hear from the opposite side of the addiction equation. We often hear the addicts story but rarely hear from the people they hurt while in their addiction, especially the children.
Well said, Jesse. We have to stop condoning mother’s abandoning their children so they can continue using their dope. The real victims are the babies. This is a behaviorally driven disorder and our woke culture says “no criticizing” the addict. Unfortunately, these cultural tenets perpetuate the pathology.
My thoughts exactly. Unfortunately the majority of these videos are of someone's damaged child, on the other side of abuse, neglect, abandonment, rejection, dysfunction, heartache and pain.
My parents have been on drugs since I was 5 or 6 years old. Now, as a mother, I realize all of the sad and terrible situations I was in and it hurts. I also realize how my parents choices have impacted my life and who I am. It is hard not to be angry. Thank you for sharing!
This is one of the most beautiful people ever interviewed by Mark. Alexis is way beyond her years in maturity, insight and development of fine character. I hope she goes into the field of counseling or something where people need someone as empathetic and smart as she is. What a lovely woman. I wish her the best of everything.
What an incredible, powerful young woman. Been through literal hell since Day 1 and come out the other side intact. So mentally strong. And a heart full of forgiveness. Inspirational.
Everyone's reality is different and I love how she recognizes the things she's been through but uses them to be grateful and as a way to be a better person than her examples! Beautiful, understanding sole! I hope you find total happiness and enjoy yourself and your life!
Wow! It’s great to hear someone share the perspective from being affected by addiction, mental illness, rebellion, etc. I recall my brother acting out very similar to what Alexis describes in her brother. My brother was also around the age of puberty when his rebellion began. He was highly intelligent, had tons of friends, and was everyone’s favorite person. The thing no one knew at the time his acting out started was that he was being sexually abused by someone we all knew very well. It was many years later when that fact came to light, but the damage was already done to my brother and his mental health never recovered. He died a few years later and like Alexis, I feel like his life was wasted, basically taken by a very sick individual who left such scars on a little boy that even as a grown man, he couldn’t overcome. My brother turned to alcohol to numb his pain. Eleven years later nothing numbs my pain from losing him. I didn’t have to forgive my brother for anything, but I’ve had to forgive his abuser. TFS Alexis, and thank you Mark for giving her the platform to do so. May God bless you both!
What I really like about her is her attitude of gratitude. She is well aware of what she’s been through but her perspective of being grateful to be alive makes her powerful. Being through some tough ish and still counting your blessings is what makes you strong. Gratitude helps you see what is there, instead of what isn’t. Much love 🫰🏽
@@alexisferinga160 You are a beautiful soul and you inspired so many of us, you just don't know!! Thank you sooooo much for sharing your story, much love and respect ❤🙏🏾💯💯👑
Alexis, you're a wonderful storyteller and your story needs to be heard. Your honesty, integrity and kindness are making a difference in the world. This story will help many, for sure, to have a bit more compassion and to take a second look. What an amazing interview!
No such thing as a "routine check" someone close to you was worried about your well being. Praying you overcome the generational curses and your family finds peace! 🎇🌠🌌🙏
@@woodyfpv5331 please explain. As far as I know cps doesn't get involved in a child's life unless something has happened or someone called. Something happened somewhere to get them involved in her life.
@@tonysslime7633 in situations where cps is working with disadvantaged parents, and there is an active case worker already involved, the organization is obligated to conduct check-ups to ensure progress is being made. In this case, there was most likely an active case started at the hospital, at birth. The doctors are legally obligated to inform CPS if the mother tests positive for any illegal substances.
@@woodyfpv5331 cps working with disadvantaged parents? I know a lot of people on welfare that have never had a visit from cps. When I said there's no routine checks I meant that something happened to bring them there. I think you may have misunderstood what i said. Someone close to her notified authorities, whether it was a family friend or nurse/doctor from her drug addicted birth. I meant there's no routine checks unless something has happened. Stay blessed!
This quote belongs to you ..... "Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow."- Terry Real You are an epitome of strength and insight. I'm sad this was your experience but grateful that you shared it with us. Keep fighting flames. You're not alone. 🔥
@@alexisferinga160 keep up the amazing job that you’re doing!!! I’m heather, nice to meet you 💗. I’ve been through some really challenging times myself ok, no one is perfect. I was adopted myself too, I’m a rape product and don’t even know when my birthday is!!! But please believe me ok…I’m here for you if you ever just need to talk to someone ok!! Take me up on this because I wholeheartedly mean it
What a beautifully articulated young woman, she has given me hope for the youth...they are our future as well as our past and I am extremely proud of Alexis for being so frank and real.
She’s my age, i have many similar experiences to my life and my heart just aches for her. Her perspective is so beautiful to listen to. Her empathy and willingness to open her heart to understanding. Sending her all the love and good energy she deserves 💗
It's so sad because it seems like she's dealing with alot of guilt for not being home to ask him what he wanted to eat, probably blamed herself for not saving him but it was not meant to be, she could not save him as it was his path and everything happens for a reason and hopefully she can let go of that guilt and find true happiness in life 💕
This interview made me reflect a lot about my life and the people in it. Thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine how it feels to have experienced the things you have but I can say I have been close to experiencing some tragic things which I thank God that it turned around for the better. I have similarly struggled knowing how to and how not to act or feel for many years because of certain experiences, and hearing you speak about being honest with yourself and your emotions is a great reminder to let go of that burden. I don't know why it's hard for the human race to appreciate and forgive before it's "too late" but thanks for your input in reminding us all. I hope and pray you fully heal and live a happy life. Routing for you ❤️
@@alexisferinga160 You're definitely right. You did a great thing. It must feel so good to have let that out. Especially speaking about your brother. I actually understand some of the emotions you felt. But one thing I can say is that no matter how much you guys went through, the love between siblings is too strong to go unnoticed. Even if it's through reflection. Sometimes it's the little things when other things like communication aren't so easy to do. Don't be hard on yourself. And remember that this chapter of your life may seem long but one day you will realise you are at peace with everything. At least that's something that I tend to remind myself when things feel off. It's almost like I'm speaking to myself. Haha ❤️ All because of the video
What a fantastic woman, she should be extremely proud of herself. She could have easily chosen the same path as her parents but she avoided it, and that is a huge achievement. Hopefully she has a great life ahead of her and reaches all of her dreams.
Struggling to get out of addiction myself. Thank you for sharing your experiences n incredible perspective. You told a powerful story with complete grace.
What a beautiful and sweet girl ❤️ sorry for you struggles that were never your fault but you seem to have a great head on your shoulders. If no one has said it today, i am proud of you ! ❤️
By far my favourite interview so far on this channel. Even despite such tragedy in her life I think Alexis came across as a truly genuine and lovely soul. I wish her the very best in life x
Alexis, you're a lovely girl. Wise beyond your years and very articulate. Your story, although sad and so tragic, is also encouraging. You can see the underlying problems and explain the impact on your life so clearly. Thank you for sharing your story so openly. I wish I could reach through the screen and hug you. I hope you live a full, long and happy life. Bless you❤
Alexis you are so smart and mature. As a sober daughter/younger sister of drug addicts myself I can relate so much to you, even though luckily my family is mainly alright now. Thank you for sharing your story, wishing you all the best ❤✨🙏🏻
This was a great interview. Seems like she has forgiven her brother because she knows he was really struggling. She will do well in life, seems like a really great person👏🏽.
Omg Alexis! My heart goes out to you! You are so strong even if it doesn't feel like it. I am the daughter of a functioning alcoholic and absent father who was raised by my grandparents. I also just lost my uncle (close enough to be brother) to drugs. You are the first person I have heard acknowledge how hard it can be to know your parent and not be raised by them. Feeling rejected and like a non priority is real. I bottle so much inside and watching your video helped me release alot! I just want to say thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story, I needed to hear it so badly. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers...just thank you ❤
Good Morning SWU fam'! Its just after 3:00 a.m. here in Northern California.🏖 The current temperature is a warm & humid 61*. Wherever this finds you, I hope you are safe, comfortable & have peace of mind. From my heart to yours, Good Vibes & Mad Love sent Your way ☮💗🌺
Morning! Cloudy Yorkshire, England here! Would br..um..55f to you!!🙂🇬🇧 your comment made me smile though, so thanks for that...I've been morbidly SAD!!!!🤗
Hey Rochelle!👋🫥 I’m a little late to the party, but better late than never. It’s a cool 70 right now in Brooklyn going to 84 today, but it’s the F’ing humidity I can’t deal with, it’s 84% right now. I can see drops of water floating in the air. Lol jk. Good Morning and Good Vibes to ya Rochelle.
Dear Alexis: Thank you for being so brave to share your story and your feelings. There are many of us, whom have had similar experiences. I am certain you have helped many others. Those whom are suffering from addiction, mental illness, and those like yourself, to understand a little better. It is very difficult to love someone whom suffers from addiction and mental illness. Please try not to be hard on yourself. You have great wisdom and knowledge of the situation hind sight is 20/20 vision. However I am certain deep in your brother's heart he knew you loved him. I know the feelings of heartache with this type of situation, and the I could have, should have, would have. You take your lessons and hold your brothers memory close to your heart. I also believe your parents didn't love you any less. It happens often in a home, the parent ends giving one child more attention than the other. Usually the other child seems to have less issues, are understanding, handling things. We learn different later on. I am glad you had/have friends, hobbies, help distract you from home life. As well as continuing helping you along. Please continue to stay true to yourself. I am glad, your brother had you. I am very certain he was glad he had you as well. I wish you the best in your future endeavors, keep shining pretty girl. The sunbeams shine right through you. With Love..
Thank you Alexis for sharing your story with us. I have so much respect for someone who can tell their story to the world, good or bad. Best wishes to you. Hoping you find peace in your life.
I didn’t realize how much I hurt the people that cared most about me while in active alcoholism. It took until year three of sobriety to start to realize how much I hurt them. Every day I try to be a better husband, son and friend to repay them. We need more of these stories mark, and more stories of people who broke their addiction and what they’ve done. Thanks for these vids.
The in utero damage from a drug using mother can be a life sentence for the baby. The developmental connections that are missed are unfixable. You can't love them away. I'm so sorry for Jason, he never had a chance in life. Alexis I sincerely hope you find peace, and love, and people that lift you up ❤
our lives are the result of genetics and environment. Choices are a result of that. Do the exact walkl in another's shoes, we'd probably do the same. same. I believe everyone does the best they can. We shouldn't judge. Drug addict are always heartbroken about losing their kids, I've met many. 💔 A great interview with a mature wise clever young woman. Her birth mothers life wasn't wasted, she created an amazing daughter.
You dear sweet precious baby girl. I'm so sorry you and your family had to have this hand dealt to you, Alexis. Be as beautiful as you are, and thank you, Mark.
I applaud this young lady. I hope she knows her strength is admirable. Oftentimes life is unfair and unkind. Such as it is for this young lady. I'm glad she had this opportunity to express herself. I only hope that her life becomes easier and she continues to strive for excellence and peace. May God continue to bless her and give her peace.
Articulate and inspiring. Thanks for sharing the other side of the coin occasionally. Learning so much wisdom and compassion from this channel, thanks Mark!
You’re amazing Alexis. Forgiveness is a big step in healing as you already know. Forgiveness sets your heart free to love again, releasing any bitterness or resentment. I believe there are many people who could be helped by your testimony. I appreciated when you said you had empathy for your brother, knowing how much he suffered from mental illness. Just knowing that he didn’t have control over his illness. It was sad to hear how much he struggled. But It’s nice to hear you can appreciate your life seeing that his was taken from him too soon. You are very strong, kind hearted and wise. Believe in yourself and your gifts and you will go far in life. 💜
Thank you for sharing your story. You share so many important insights and an important perspective as sister and daughter of people struggling with addiction. And simple but very true lessons about empathy and just being nice. I wish you well!
Really really appreciate this interview. Alexis I appreciate your honesty, your compassion, and your appreciation of the good things in life. I hope you are able to make up for some of your earlier deficits emotionally ( caused through no fault of your own I need to add) and that you are able to go on and have loving relationships and live a truly fulfilling and rewarding life .
Thankyou so much for mentioning how hard it is to grieve someone you didn’t have a good relationship with. All i ever hear when people talk about my dad is how great he was and how much they miss him and how good he was. But that wasn’t my experience… It was so hard/confusing to grieve.
It’s the hardest thing ever. When my brother was here I really did not like him. Or that’s what I thought. When they’re gone it’s the hardest thing ever
Hi Alexis,hang in there. Drugs can rip people apart but you are right ,we must be empathetic. Drugs took my daughter’s life and though nothing will ever be the same,I feel she is at peace.Keep your smart head on your shoulders and realize we are all just trying to make it in this life.Life still can be good.
I'm so happy I watched this. Thank you for you strength to even be on camera and deliver your story of who, what and where you are and have come from and have been thru. Stay strong and plz fight
I have goosebumps listening to this story. I grew up in a perfect house, but have learned over time that lots of people didn’t. Alexis is an inspiration to everyone for how to live.
Perfect? Perfect means totally perfect. I’ve never heard of a perfect family/house.. there’s always some quirks but not to cause serious disruption..so, yea, at least u may feel unscathed- good for u.
I can relate to this... I took full legal custody of my Nephew for my brother who is in his life. I appreciate this video... my nephew at the young age of five it's showing some behavioral issues that they keep saying he is too young but I see it and I believe it's because his mother did do drugs off and on while she was pregnant with him and never went to one prenatal appointment. Thank you soooo much ☝🏽❤️ Alexis stay strong and beautiful... ❤️
Great interview Alexis. I was a foster parent for 8 years. I wish the kids I kept would appreciate me the way you appreciate your parents. I am so sorry to hear you lost your mom and brother so young in their lives. You are a very wise young lady and I commend you for your strength. Many blessings sent your way and a big hug from me.
What a beautiful smart young lady. She is so intelligent and beyond her years. Trauma will definitely thicken your skin. This was a very touching interview. Wishing her all the best to come ❤️
Great portrait My youngest brother was adopted as a newborn baby. He is our brother. We helped him to find his biological parents abroad. But things changed when he met his wife a few years ago. She finds it difficult, that we are not his biological family. The death of a sibling and parent, a loved one, is, as the thoughtful and friendly Alexis puts it, life changing. I wish her to transform her grief into something valuable and beautiful.
I know you have touched basis on a lot of things. But I have tried so many time to find things about adult children losing a parent to drug addiction. This episode was very good but I would love to see a 40 something person that had to deal with a drug addict parent their whole life. My father was heroin addict my whole life. And then after I gave home rock bottom pass away the next day. I would love more of a voice for the adult children of addicts. Thank you so much for your video
Alexis you shared a story that alot of us has not gone through. You’re so right when you shared we should be kind to everyone because we don’t know what people are going through Will be praying for you btw you’re so beautiful
Wow I'm just speechless. What an incredible strong loving person is that. Please never ever even try drugs. Stay like you are. I hope you will be heard from as many people as possible. You really have a healing power. Sending you a lot of love!
It takes an enlightened and gracious character to forgive her mother and half-brother for the chaos that their choice to become a drug addict had on her. If anyone is familiar with Virginia Satir's work on family dynamics, they know that each member of the family are impacted & interwoven by each other's emotions and behavior. Alexis is so wise and generous in how she chooses to remember her brother & mother especially pointing out the good part of them. At the same time, it is sad that those family members who are the most ill, either mentally, emotionally or addicted to drugs and alcohol, require the most attentions, thus crowding out the sunlight which the other well behaved, intelligent & sensitive sibling needs to thrive & feel whole. Virginia Satir was the first to describe the family using the metaphor of the mobile; if the wires on one of the pieces of the mobile are twisted, the mobile would spin improperly. Instead of a delicately balanced mobile, each piece would get entangled and out of balance at the slightest breeze. A well-balance mobile, or family system, could sway and flex with the strong gusts and heavy winds of life. The family with drug and or alcohol problems is described as imbalanced, or a dysfunctional family system. In a healthy family, the system is flexible and fluid, open (not rigid), predictable (not inconsistent), and balanced in meeting both the individual’s and the family’s needs. It's worth noting that Alexis sounds as if she's worked hard to recover herself after grieving so long. It's important for parents of children with drug or alcohol addictions & mental health issues, to remember that the other children in the family who are making all the good choices, need attention too & not to ignore their repressed emotional needs in the chaos of the dysfunctional family dynamic.
My parents were heroine users/Dealers and alcholics who were in and out of prison. No CPS come to take me away though. It was rough at times. I have seen a lot of stuff a kid should not have seen. I came out of it ok, alil messed up in the head, but it really screwed my brother up as he got older.
You beautiful young lady…stay strong ok 💗💗💗. I just got full custody of two of my grandkids…g is 10 and the b is 6…I’ve had them for 3 years now. Their dad, my son is still involved yet he’s incarcerated for like the next decade roughly. Their‘BREEDER’ has had NOTHING to do with the these beautiful terrorists ( kidding and said with MUCH LOVE)!! You’ve given me some insight into how my granddaughter may be feeling towards her‘mother’….thank you for that xoxo. Thank you for your sharing your story and being so openly honest about it all, seriously, thank you 💗💗💗. Stay safe and stay strong…you’re so smart and speak so well…you can do this!! I wish you all the best…much love and respect to you xoxo
I can tell you read the comments, Mark.🙂 People need to see how drug use has a trickle down effect to love ones. It was trauma and abandonment for us kids. The siblings that are handling that trauma well really need compassion for their sibling that's not doing as well. People are different.
Sorry you had so many unfortunate situations. You are super smart, it was really easy to follow your story. You tugged on my heart because you are not playing the victim card. I know your emotions are real., and I feel for you. Keep going forward. Seems like your happiest days are ahead of you.❤️❤️
I'm glad she was able to see the issues behind why her parents did what they did and have empathy for them. I used to have that, for my own... their parents weren't great either, they had their own issues.... but when my father got clean, he just got a new family and my mother did the same. It's taking "left behind' to another level, especially as an adult. It's painful knowing both your parents put effort, time, love, care, resources, etc, into their new family and new children, new grandchildren, and not their own. It sort of makes you feel a bit like a child they had out of wedlock, a secret, something shameful and something they only acknowledge because the guilt forces them to. I'm a big reminder of the life they had before, and fucked up... so they'd prefer not be reminded. I wonder how many other kids are like that? Products of a "failed first attempt" that just wander around....you get to have the knowledge that they are capable of being parents, just never to you. It sort of robs you of any empathy you could have possibly scraped together throughout your childhood. I know it robbed me. I think if they had stayed in their addiction, I could have the same comfort of knowing that "They're lost, they do this because of the addiction" But once they come out of it, and they just discard you, you don't get to have that anymore. My parents are both sober minded, and are absolutely less involved now than when they were using.
You are such an incredible young lady. You got a good head on your shoulders. Coming from a family that has drug addiction siblings, it takes a toll on the whole family. Addiction is giving that everything for one thing and giving up that one thing for everything.
Thank you so much mark, and everyone for your wonderful comments. I feel so supported. It’s been a lonely few years and I just wanted to be able to reach people who could understand..I feel like I accomplished that. Reading through the comments is really making me feel like maybe I am doing something right. Thank you, thank you ❤️
Maybe your brother had behavioral issues at such a young age was from drug use while he was in the womb. I am so sorry about your brother, I am so glad you are ok and telling your story will help others. 🙏 💕
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God bless and strengthen you dear Sister!!!! LOVE is understood in a universal manner; much LOVE to you, your Mother, and Brother. PEACE be with you continually.
You are so amazingly insightful and intelligent, Alexis. I hope you channel this into working with others who have to go through hardships coping with the addiction of family members. And I see a creative soul in you - perhaps in creative writing and/or filmmaking. I feel so lucky I got to hear you tell your story.
Alexis is so level-headed, stable, smart, and wise despite her rough upbringing. She’s truly amazing.
Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance- wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life..
wow!! you know her too?
I even thought am the only one she has helped walked through the fears and falls of forex trading
Mrs Leo Abigail is a woman of integrity, with $6000 she makes profit of $44000 she's great,
am so happy with Mrs Leo Abigail
What ss appp 👇⤵️
What a beautiful soul.. you can tell she’s fighting her own battles also!! Fight, fight , fight!! Never give up
Great interview, really enlightening to hear from the opposite side of the addiction equation. We often hear the addicts story but rarely hear from the people they hurt while in their addiction, especially the children.
Well said, Jesse. We have to stop condoning mother’s abandoning their children so they can continue using their dope. The real victims are the babies. This is a behaviorally driven disorder and our woke culture says “no criticizing” the addict. Unfortunately, these cultural tenets perpetuate the pathology.
I agree
My thoughts exactly. Unfortunately the majority of these videos are of someone's damaged child, on the other side of abuse, neglect, abandonment, rejection, dysfunction, heartache and pain.
most of the addicts he interviews had parents who were addicts
@@emmalouise7748 i totally get that, I meant just hearing from a non addicted adult that had parents as addict as a child
This is a very powerful and great interview. I wish people in my family would show empathy for those suffering from addiction.
Absolutely, heartbreaking! This is an amazing woman. She is so brave to tell her story!
Thank you❤️
@@bincrazy Not really what??????? Don't be a loser.
My parents have been on drugs since I was 5 or 6 years old. Now, as a mother, I realize all of the sad and terrible situations I was in and it hurts. I also realize how my parents choices have impacted my life and who I am. It is hard not to be angry. Thank you for sharing!
This whole interview had me in tears. What an amazing lady.
Thank you so much ❤️
This is one of the most beautiful people ever interviewed by Mark. Alexis is way beyond her years in maturity, insight and development of fine character. I hope she goes into the field of counseling or something where people need someone as empathetic and smart as she is. What a lovely woman. I wish her the best of everything.
Thank you a million times over
What an incredible, powerful young woman.
Been through literal hell since Day 1 and come out the other side intact.
So mentally strong.
And a heart full of forgiveness. Inspirational.
I’m definitely trying . Thank you so so much
Thank you for sharing!!As someone who has tons of childhood trauma this is inspiring! 💜💜💜
Everyone's reality is different and I love how she recognizes the things she's been through but uses them to be grateful and as a way to be a better person than her examples! Beautiful, understanding sole! I hope you find total happiness and enjoy yourself and your life!
Wow! It’s great to hear someone share the perspective from being affected by addiction, mental illness, rebellion, etc. I recall my brother acting out very similar to what Alexis describes in her brother. My brother was also around the age of puberty when his rebellion began. He was highly intelligent, had tons of friends, and was everyone’s favorite person. The thing no one knew at the time his acting out started was that he was being sexually abused by someone we all knew very well. It was many years later when that fact came to light, but the damage was already done to my brother and his mental health never recovered. He died a few years later and like Alexis, I feel like his life was wasted, basically taken by a very sick individual who left such scars on a little boy that even as a grown man, he couldn’t overcome. My brother turned to alcohol to numb his pain. Eleven years later nothing numbs my pain from losing him. I didn’t have to forgive my brother for anything, but I’ve had to forgive his abuser. TFS Alexis, and thank you Mark for giving her the platform to do so. May God bless you both!
What I really like about her is her attitude of gratitude. She is well aware of what she’s been through but her perspective of being grateful to be alive makes her powerful. Being through some tough ish and still counting your blessings is what makes you strong. Gratitude helps you see what is there, instead of what isn’t. Much love 🫰🏽
Absolutely, I totally agree 👍
Well said 💯🔥🔥🔥
Well said! Thank you
Thank you❤️❤️
@@alexisferinga160 You are a beautiful soul and you inspired so many of us, you just don't know!! Thank you sooooo much for sharing your story, much love and respect ❤🙏🏾💯💯👑
People who get through tough times can many times come out stronger.
Alexis is a survivor. Thank you for sharing her story. Alexis has a great deal of insight.
your comment made me cry. Thank you
Alexis, you're a wonderful storyteller and your story needs to be heard. Your honesty, integrity and kindness are making a difference in the world. This story will help many, for sure, to have a bit more compassion and to take a second look. What an amazing interview!
I was worried my story wouldn’t come across well…I was so nervous thank you so so much
No such thing as a "routine check" someone close to you was worried about your well being. Praying you overcome the generational curses and your family finds peace! 🎇🌠🌌🙏
Amen!!!!
There is in fact routine checks.
@@woodyfpv5331 please explain. As far as I know cps doesn't get involved in a child's life unless something has happened or someone called. Something happened somewhere to get them involved in her life.
@@tonysslime7633 in situations where cps is working with disadvantaged parents, and there is an active case worker already involved, the organization is obligated to conduct check-ups to ensure progress is being made.
In this case, there was most likely an active case started at the hospital, at birth. The doctors are legally obligated to inform CPS if the mother tests positive for any illegal substances.
@@woodyfpv5331 cps working with disadvantaged parents? I know a lot of people on welfare that have never had a visit from cps. When I said there's no routine checks I meant that something happened to bring them there. I think you may have misunderstood what i said. Someone close to her notified authorities, whether it was a family friend or nurse/doctor from her drug addicted birth. I meant there's no routine checks unless something has happened. Stay blessed!
This quote belongs to you .....
"Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow."- Terry Real
You are an epitome of strength and insight. I'm sad this was your experience but grateful that you shared it with us. Keep fighting flames. You're not alone. 🔥
Thank you so much
I love this quote….I’ve never heard it. Thank you so much
@@alexisferinga160 your journey has just begun. You have purpose and strength. Cheers to you. 💜
This quote is spot on.
She's so strong and brave I love her you got this!!
That’s exactly what I thought and said!!
Such a beautiful, strong and intelligent young lady
I’m trying!
@@alexisferinga160 keep up the amazing job that you’re doing!!!
I’m heather, nice to meet you 💗.
I’ve been through some really challenging times myself ok, no one is perfect.
I was adopted myself too, I’m a rape product and don’t even know when my birthday is!!!
But please believe me ok…I’m here for you if you ever just need to talk to someone ok!! Take me up on this because I wholeheartedly mean it
@@alexisferinga160 I just subscribed to your channel
@@alexisferinga160 You're inspiring Alexis very well spoken intelligent and excellent speaker thank you and please come back to keep us updated.❤
Incredible girl. Poised. Articulate. I hope your life is full of all the good things you deserve ❤️
I really hope so too, and I hope that for you ❤️
Omg this girl is intelligent and beautiful and I emphasize with her my mom passed away while I was young too😥🙏🏾
Alexis…you have a beautiful soul. Never forget how amazing and resilient you are❤️ You are a gift to this world.
She’s such an amazing person…been through a lot yet still such a loving soul 🥲 very inspirational
What a beautifully articulated young woman, she has given me hope for the youth...they are our future as well as our past and I am extremely proud of Alexis for being so frank and real.
She’s my age, i have many similar experiences to my life and my heart just aches for her. Her perspective is so beautiful to listen to. Her empathy and willingness to open her heart to understanding. Sending her all the love and good energy she deserves 💗
Cara thank you so much. I’m sending it right back to you and if you need anything please know I’m here
It's so sad because it seems like she's dealing with alot of guilt for not being home to ask him what he wanted to eat, probably blamed herself for not saving him but it was not meant to be, she could not save him as it was his path and everything happens for a reason and hopefully she can let go of that guilt and find true happiness in life 💕
Alexis you have a beautiful smile. You are strong and what a lovely person you seem to be.
This interview made me reflect a lot about my life and the people in it. Thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine how it feels to have experienced the things you have but I can say I have been close to experiencing some tragic things which I thank God that it turned around for the better. I have similarly struggled knowing how to and how not to act or feel for many years because of certain experiences, and hearing you speak about being honest with yourself and your emotions is a great reminder to let go of that burden. I don't know why it's hard for the human race to appreciate and forgive before it's "too late" but thanks for your input in reminding us all. I hope and pray you fully heal and live a happy life. Routing for you ❤️
Being honest is always the right answer. The more honest we are the more people can understand us
@@alexisferinga160 You're definitely right. You did a great thing. It must feel so good to have let that out. Especially speaking about your brother. I actually understand some of the emotions you felt. But one thing I can say is that no matter how much you guys went through, the love between siblings is too strong to go unnoticed. Even if it's through reflection. Sometimes it's the little things when other things like communication aren't so easy to do. Don't be hard on yourself. And remember that this chapter of your life may seem long but one day you will realise you are at peace with everything. At least that's something that I tend to remind myself when things feel off. It's almost like I'm speaking to myself. Haha ❤️ All because of the video
@@alexisferinga160 I hope that made sense. It's late here but thought I should share anyway. All the best
@@3gabi to you too ❤️
What a fantastic woman, she should be extremely proud of herself. She could have easily chosen the same path as her parents but she avoided it, and that is a huge achievement. Hopefully she has a great life ahead of her and reaches all of her dreams.
Struggling to get out of addiction myself. Thank you for sharing your experiences n incredible perspective. You told a powerful story with complete grace.
❤️
Thank you so much. You can do it ❤️
@@baublesanddolls i appreciate the advice but suboxone would be useless for me. I am very happy for you, you're almost there!
@@alexisferinga160 thank you, for being you 💜🤘💜
You are a beautiful strong woman and the world is a better place because you are part of it. Your compassion for others is inspiring
What a beautiful and sweet girl ❤️ sorry for you struggles that were never your fault but you seem to have a great head on your shoulders. If no one has said it today, i am proud of you ! ❤️
Thank you Mark, for interviewing this wonderful young woman.
Thank you for sharing your story 🙏🏽
By far my favourite interview so far on this channel. Even despite such tragedy in her life I think Alexis came across as a truly genuine and lovely soul. I wish her the very best in life x
Thank you so much
Alexis, you're a lovely girl. Wise beyond your years and very articulate. Your story, although sad and so tragic, is also encouraging. You can see the underlying problems and explain the impact on your life so clearly. Thank you for sharing your story so openly. I wish I could reach through the screen and hug you. I hope you live a full, long and happy life. Bless you❤
Alexis you are so smart and mature. As a sober daughter/younger sister of drug addicts myself I can relate so much to you, even though luckily my family is mainly alright now. Thank you for sharing your story, wishing you all the best ❤✨🙏🏻
This woman is so incredible. I pray she has the most beautiful life.🙏🏻
This was a great interview. Seems like she has forgiven her brother because she knows he was really struggling. She will do well in life, seems like a really great person👏🏽.
I am definitely trying! Thank you
Omg Alexis! My heart goes out to you! You are so strong even if it doesn't feel like it. I am the daughter of a functioning alcoholic and absent father who was raised by my grandparents. I also just lost my uncle (close enough to be brother) to drugs. You are the first person I have heard acknowledge how hard it can be to know your parent and not be raised by them. Feeling rejected and like a non priority is real. I bottle so much inside and watching your video helped me release alot! I just want to say thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story, I needed to hear it so badly. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers...just thank you ❤
Good Morning SWU fam'! Its just after 3:00 a.m. here in Northern California.🏖 The current temperature is a warm & humid 61*. Wherever this finds you, I hope you are safe, comfortable & have peace of mind. From my heart to yours, Good Vibes & Mad Love sent Your way ☮💗🌺
Good morning! It’s going to be another nice, cool day here in SoCal. Hope you have a great one up there, Ro. 😊
Gm, Roc. Have a great day!
Morning! Cloudy Yorkshire, England here! Would br..um..55f to you!!🙂🇬🇧 your comment made me smile though, so thanks for that...I've been morbidly SAD!!!!🤗
Hey Rochelle!👋🫥 I’m a little late to the party, but better late than never. It’s a cool 70 right now in Brooklyn going to 84 today, but it’s the F’ing humidity I can’t deal with, it’s 84% right now. I can see drops of water floating in the air. Lol jk. Good Morning and Good Vibes to ya Rochelle.
@@F30586 Thanks! ☀🙃
Dear Alexis: Thank you for being so brave to share your story and your feelings. There are many of us, whom have had similar experiences. I am certain you have helped many others. Those whom are suffering from addiction, mental illness, and those like yourself, to understand a little better. It is very difficult to love someone whom suffers from addiction and mental illness. Please try not to be hard on yourself. You have great wisdom and knowledge of the situation hind sight is 20/20 vision. However I am certain deep in your brother's heart he knew you loved him. I know the feelings of heartache with this type of situation, and the I could have, should have, would have. You take your lessons and hold your brothers memory close to your heart. I also believe your parents didn't love you any less. It happens often in a home, the parent ends giving one child more attention than the other. Usually the other child seems to have less issues, are understanding, handling things. We learn different later on. I am glad you had/have friends, hobbies, help distract you from home life. As well as continuing helping you along. Please continue to stay true to yourself. I am glad, your brother had you. I am very certain he was glad he had you as well. I wish you the best in your future endeavors, keep shining pretty girl. The sunbeams shine right through you. With Love..
Thank you, so much, for sharing your story! You did a great job!
Wishing you all the best from Nashville Tennessee USA 🇺🇸 ♥
Thank you Alexis for sharing your story with us. I have so much respect for someone who can tell their story to the world, good or bad. Best wishes to you. Hoping you find peace in your life.
I didn’t realize how much I hurt the people that cared most about me while in active alcoholism. It took until year three of sobriety to start to realize how much I hurt them.
Every day I try to be a better husband, son and friend to repay them.
We need more of these stories mark, and more stories of people who broke their addiction and what they’ve done. Thanks for these vids.
Keep up the fight blessings.
The in utero damage from a drug using mother can be a life sentence for the baby. The developmental connections that are missed are unfixable. You can't love them away. I'm so sorry for Jason, he never had a chance in life.
Alexis I sincerely hope you find peace, and love, and people that lift you up ❤
our lives are the result of genetics and environment. Choices are a result of that. Do the exact walkl in another's shoes, we'd probably do the same. same. I believe everyone does the best they can. We shouldn't judge. Drug addict are always heartbroken about losing their kids, I've met many. 💔 A great interview with a mature wise clever young woman. Her birth mothers life wasn't wasted, she created an amazing daughter.
You dear sweet precious baby girl. I'm so sorry you and your family had to have this hand dealt to you, Alexis. Be as beautiful as you are, and thank you, Mark.
Thank you so much
Very intelligent young lady. Im so sorry she has had so much tragedy happen in her life.
Beautiful, smart young lady. I wish you nothing but healing and success. ❤
I applaud this young lady. I hope she knows her strength is admirable. Oftentimes life is unfair and unkind. Such as it is for this young lady. I'm glad she had this opportunity to express herself. I only hope that her life becomes easier and she continues to strive for excellence and peace. May God continue to bless her and give her peace.
What a brilliant young lady. I hope she always carries in her heart her self-worth, strength & beauty! I don’t even know her & I’m SO PROUD HER! 🥹
It means so much to me thank you
Sending love and prayers to this beautiful, articulate, amazing woman!
Thank you so much for telling your story. It really touched my heart. I've been through alot as well. All we can do is grow. 💚
Facts and blessings.
Hurt my heart when you said that about your brother .
Alexis your a sweetheart. Good luck in your endeavors
Thank you so much
I love this interview 🥺❤️
So connected with her story and the feelings. Amazing articulate women and brave for sharing her truth
Articulate and inspiring. Thanks for sharing the other side of the coin occasionally. Learning so much wisdom and compassion from this channel, thanks Mark!
I’m so amazed by the way she’s handling this. And man is she mature. She speaks wayyy beyond her years. God bless her.
You’re amazing Alexis. Forgiveness is a big step in healing as you already know. Forgiveness sets your heart free to love again, releasing any bitterness or resentment. I believe there are many people who could be helped by your testimony. I appreciated when you said you had empathy for your brother, knowing how much he suffered from mental illness. Just knowing that he didn’t have control over his illness. It was sad to hear how much he struggled. But It’s nice to hear you can appreciate your life seeing that his was taken from him too soon. You are very strong, kind hearted and wise. Believe in yourself and your gifts and you will go far in life. 💜
Thank you for sharing your story. You share so many important insights and an important perspective as sister and daughter of people struggling with addiction. And simple but very true lessons about empathy and just being nice. I wish you well!
What a brave insightful empathetic young lady. I wish her the best. She deserves for her life to turn around and experience some joy. Best wishes. 👌
In spite of everything she's been through, She is very strong, beautiful and highly intelligent. I think she'll be just fine....
I would love to see more immediate relatives of those experiencing addiction or mental health
Scared to watch this one 😥
I hope I can make it through for my baby ❤
Really really appreciate this interview. Alexis I appreciate your honesty, your compassion, and your appreciation of the good things in life. I hope you are able to make up for some of your earlier deficits emotionally ( caused through no fault of your own I need to add) and that you are able to go on and have loving relationships and live a truly fulfilling and rewarding life .
Thankyou so much for mentioning how hard it is to grieve someone you didn’t have a good relationship with. All i ever hear when people talk about my dad is how great he was and how much they miss him and how good he was. But that wasn’t my experience… It was so hard/confusing to grieve.
It’s the hardest thing ever. When my brother was here I really did not like him. Or that’s what I thought. When they’re gone it’s the hardest thing ever
What an inspiration this young lady is. She is an amazing person.
I just wanna hug her. Prayers to you, and may you heal from the cards that you were dealt💜🙏🏾
Your videos are always very informative and educational! RUclips please see the value of these documentaries!
Incredible interview!💜
Thanks, Alexs/ Mark!😊
Good for her!! So happy to hear a survivor’s story. What a brave girl. Amazing interview. Strong Girl. ♥️
What a beautiful and amazing lady. I hope she gets to experience happiness and beauty throughout the rest of her life, she deserves it so so much🍀
May all go well, thank you fir sharing - your precious
Hi Alexis,hang in there. Drugs can rip people apart but you are right ,we must be empathetic. Drugs took my daughter’s life and though nothing will ever be the same,I feel she is at peace.Keep your smart head on your shoulders and realize we are all just trying to make it in this life.Life still can be good.
I'm so happy I watched this. Thank you for you strength to even be on camera and deliver your story of who, what and where you are and have come from and have been thru. Stay strong and plz fight
That many views in 5 min!! Don’t stop making videos this is what help kids stay in the right track 👌🏾🤔
I have goosebumps listening to this story. I grew up in a perfect house, but have learned over time that lots of people didn’t. Alexis is an inspiration to everyone for how to live.
Perfect? Perfect means totally perfect. I’ve never heard of a perfect family/house.. there’s always some quirks but not to cause serious disruption..so, yea, at least u may feel unscathed- good for u.
I can relate to this... I took full legal custody of my Nephew for my brother who is in his life. I appreciate this video... my nephew at the young age of five it's showing some behavioral issues that they keep saying he is too young but I see it and I believe it's because his mother did do drugs off and on while she was pregnant with him and never went to one prenatal appointment. Thank you soooo much ☝🏽❤️ Alexis stay strong and beautiful... ❤️
Great interview Alexis. I was a foster parent for 8 years. I wish the kids I kept would appreciate me the way you appreciate your parents. I am so sorry to hear you lost your mom and brother so young in their lives. You are a very wise young lady and I commend you for your strength. Many blessings sent your way and a big hug from me.
What a beautiful smart young lady. She is so intelligent and beyond her years. Trauma will definitely thicken your skin. This was a very touching interview. Wishing her all the best to come ❤️
Great portrait My youngest brother was adopted as a newborn baby. He is our brother. We helped him to find his biological parents abroad. But things changed when he met his wife a few years ago. She finds it difficult, that we are not his biological family. The death of a sibling and parent, a loved one, is, as the thoughtful and friendly Alexis puts it, life changing. I wish her to transform her grief into something valuable and beautiful.
I hope to transform it one day too
@@alexisferinga160 Trust is the key. Let it flow,...
I know you have touched basis on a lot of things. But I have tried so many time to find things about adult children losing a parent to drug addiction. This episode was very good but I would love to see a 40 something person that had to deal with a drug addict parent their whole life. My father was heroin addict my whole life. And then after I gave home rock bottom pass away the next day. I would love more of a voice for the adult children of addicts.
Thank you so much for your video
Alexis you are a very bright, strong young lady. You are on the right path to a bright future.
Hey Mark. I bought your soft white underbelly sweatshirt. I hope to support this channel as much as I can.
Alexis you shared a story that alot of us has not gone through.
You’re so right when you shared we should be kind to everyone because we don’t know what people are going through
Will be praying for you btw you’re so beautiful
Wow I'm just speechless. What an incredible strong loving person is that. Please never ever even try drugs. Stay like you are. I hope you will be heard from as many people as possible. You really have a healing power. Sending you a lot of love!
It takes an enlightened and gracious character to forgive her mother and half-brother for the chaos that their choice to become a drug addict had on her. If anyone is familiar with Virginia Satir's work on family dynamics, they know that each member of the family are impacted & interwoven by each other's emotions and behavior. Alexis is so wise and generous in how she chooses to remember her brother & mother especially pointing out the good part of them. At the same time, it is sad that those family members who are the most ill, either mentally, emotionally or addicted to drugs and alcohol, require the most attentions, thus crowding out the sunlight which the other well behaved, intelligent & sensitive sibling needs to thrive & feel whole.
Virginia Satir was the first to describe the family using the metaphor of the mobile; if the wires on one of the pieces of the mobile are twisted, the mobile would spin improperly. Instead of a delicately balanced mobile, each piece would get entangled and out of balance at the slightest breeze. A well-balance mobile, or family system, could sway and flex with the strong gusts and heavy winds of life. The family with drug and or alcohol problems is described as imbalanced, or a dysfunctional family system. In a healthy family, the system is flexible and fluid, open (not rigid), predictable (not inconsistent), and balanced in meeting both the individual’s and the family’s needs.
It's worth noting that Alexis sounds as if she's worked hard to recover herself after grieving so long. It's important for parents of children with drug or alcohol addictions & mental health issues, to remember that the other children in the family who are making all the good choices, need attention too & not to ignore their repressed emotional needs in the chaos of the dysfunctional family dynamic.
Thank you for sharing. Incredibly strong from the beginning. ❤
IMPORTANT interview! Alexis is WISE.
Because she has the right perspective, she will be unstoppable! ✨🙌🏽🏆
My parents were heroine users/Dealers and alcholics who were in and out of prison. No CPS come to take me away though. It was rough at times. I have seen a lot of stuff a kid should not have seen. I came out of it ok, alil messed up in the head, but it really screwed my brother up as he got older.
You beautiful young lady…stay strong ok 💗💗💗.
I just got full custody of two of my grandkids…g is 10 and the b is 6…I’ve had them for 3 years now. Their dad, my son is still involved yet he’s incarcerated for like the next decade roughly. Their‘BREEDER’ has had NOTHING to do with the these beautiful terrorists ( kidding and said with MUCH LOVE)!!
You’ve given me some insight into how my granddaughter may be feeling towards her‘mother’….thank you for that xoxo.
Thank you for your sharing your story and being so openly honest about it all, seriously, thank you 💗💗💗.
Stay safe and stay strong…you’re so smart and speak so well…you can do this!!
I wish you all the best…much love and respect to you xoxo
Stay in the fight blessings.
I can tell you read the comments, Mark.🙂 People need to see how drug use has a trickle down effect to love ones. It was trauma and abandonment for us kids. The siblings that are handling that trauma well really need compassion for their sibling that's not doing as well. People are different.
Alexis, thank you so much for sharing your story 💛
Sorry you had so many unfortunate situations. You are super smart, it was really easy to follow your story. You tugged on my heart because you are not playing the victim card. I know your emotions are real., and I feel for you. Keep going forward. Seems like your happiest days are ahead of you.❤️❤️
I'm glad she was able to see the issues behind why her parents did what they did and have empathy for them. I used to have that, for my own... their parents weren't great either, they had their own issues.... but when my father got clean, he just got a new family and my mother did the same. It's taking "left behind' to another level, especially as an adult. It's painful knowing both your parents put effort, time, love, care, resources, etc, into their new family and new children, new grandchildren, and not their own. It sort of makes you feel a bit like a child they had out of wedlock, a secret, something shameful and something they only acknowledge because the guilt forces them to. I'm a big reminder of the life they had before, and fucked up... so they'd prefer not be reminded.
I wonder how many other kids are like that? Products of a "failed first attempt" that just wander around....you get to have the knowledge that they are capable of being parents, just never to you. It sort of robs you of any empathy you could have possibly scraped together throughout your childhood. I know it robbed me. I think if they had stayed in their addiction, I could have the same comfort of knowing that "They're lost, they do this because of the addiction" But once they come out of it, and they just discard you, you don't get to have that anymore. My parents are both sober minded, and are absolutely less involved now than when they were using.
You are such an incredible young lady. You got a good head on your shoulders.
Coming from a family that has drug addiction siblings, it takes a toll on the whole family.
Addiction is giving that everything for one thing and giving up that one thing for everything.
Thank you so much
She's an incredibly wise young woman and a beautiful person. She's going to have an interesting life. She has so much to give. Great interview!!!