Fentanyl Addicted Couple-Mike and Stephanie
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Mike and Stephanie, a fentanyl addicted couple in Los Angeles.
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Sweet girl, sobriety doesn’t come ‘easy’ for any of us. We still suffer. We just choose differently after rock bottom. We still cry, feel things are unfair, get hurt, feel hopeless, despair - sometimes for days, weeks, months. But we don’t use because we know that we know, using is destruction. God Bless you both.
Whenever I think I have problems, I watch one of these videos, and then my problems seen so trivial.
No matter how incredibly difficult withdrawal is, the one and only answer is 100% abstinence. Everything gets better when you quit, and nothing gets better if you don’t.
There's no need to suffer withdrawing. Suboxone works wonders and you can wean off of it slowly with no issues.
@@baublesanddolls this is the fucking truth, but the sad reality is a lot of peoples mindsets that stops them from Suboxon. they want to get high not sober
@@jerryrodriguez6067 True, you have to want to get sober if you take suboxone because you can't get high. That's why so many choose methadone.
100% I stopped because I was just done, did heroin, meth or whatever came my way. Used for years And finally my last time going to jail I got out and was done. I changed my number and became a ghost and lost my car then completely became abstinent from drugs, people and places. I'm 3 years sober now with a good job and pay my bills I'm not in debt and by the grace of God I was saved. The only answer is to stop when we are truly ready to stop. The withdrawal is temporary which feels like eternity... I hope this couple can get through this and get better so they can be the great people they are meant to be.
People don't use just to avoid withdrawals if so many people would give up easily especially here where opiate treatment and healthcare is free. But they don't because there's bigger issues behind it all especially for long time users.
I'm a recovering addict always will be I have been Clean fourteen years now and it took me six years of being clean and sober to get my children back... Court battles my ex not letting me see them making me perform sexual favors to see them but I stayed clean I kept the paperwork of every single drug test Until my youngest just turned 18 in December but it was worth it I wanted to numb myself all the time but I didn't my children were worth it
I hope these two read your post maybe it will give them some encouragement to go in a different direction and get their kids back and become a family and make everything as normal as possible. Nobody’s family is normal but nobody’s family is also with parents who are addicted.
Please have your children wat h these whwn they are pre teena to better understand the gorilla glued to your back that u alone were able to shake off. And hope they see how much work that alonw is and then fighting for them back 🎉 ur amazing
You are fortunate to have parents who care about your children and want to protect them.
What a holier than thou thing to say
@@rhmotes You prefer that their children be in and out of foster homes then with little to no family connection? Children need stability and loving care.
@@kevinblythe2192 Yeah but now with this attack on roe v wade more of these people will be born without those support systems.
@@kevinblythe2192 No, I prefer people take care of their kids. I have no idea how you came to that conclusion. I'm saying it's holier than thou because these people know how bad they have it, they know that it's a good thing that their parents care for their kids, and the only reason that someone in the RUclips comments would feel the need to say something like that is ego.
Yeah much better than have them adopted in a foster home and never see them again.
These videos help me so much when I get super depressed at night and craving substances… thank you Mark for the amazing work you do
Stay strong. I dont know what type of *substances* you crave or were into, but as an *addict* myself who has been sober from heavy drugs ( _heroin & cocaine_ ) for years now, I can tell you that without *weed* --- I would have never been able to get clean. It also helped me w/ the depression I was going through during the first 5 years. I truly thought that I was never gonna make it out alive. Funny part is: We lived directly across the street from this Psychiatrist + his wife ( _she was a doctor as well_ ), and my mom took me to see him. After a good 2 hours of speaking w/ him, he called my mother in his office and he advised her that the best thing for me would be to NOT get put on anti-depressants but to instead *smoke weed* every day until I felt strong enough to walk away from that on my own. He said that "smoking cigarettes" was far worse of an *addiction* than weed itself.
Well, we took his advice. Its been 16 years now that Im clean + sober --- from everything, even weed. Gave that up 7 yrs ago on my own. Stopped smoking those nasty damn cancer sticks as well. Learned Programming + Graphic Design, am doing what I really love --- and when I get "down" on something, and feel depressed, I watch a Comedy film or Stand Up, anything that will make me laugh + forget what Im sad about.
YOU CAN DO IT --- you steer your own life. YOU are in control, and you got this!
Agreed. Thankful for Mark exposing this underworld to the masses that most people are so naive to. Hopefully it makes at least just 1 person be more compassionate and kind to these humans who surround us every day. ❤
Night is hard. I wish you the strength to get thru one night at a time - it does get a bit easier over time.
Stay strong! We are rooting for you!
❤❤❤
You can tell Mark was fond of Mike. I found I rather liked both of them, albeit she had a few moments that raised a brow- but she’s in pain and using.
I always love the couple interviews as i can reflect on my own situation… I couldn’t imagine being in this position though. I was an IV meth addict and dropped EVERYTHING the day i found out I was pregnant. No rehab, no meetings, just pure horror that I could ruin the life of an innocent child. Seven years later, still clean and enrolled in a Masters Programs at a top 25 US university… my husband also got clean a few months after I did. These videos remind me to be humble and kind to those still struggling.
Good on you
Good for you, you are the minority in these situations. Most people don’t get help or stay clean. Best of luck to you and your family!
what an inspiring story you have… congrats on the master program 🎉 wishing you and your family the best
You’re amazing and I’m so proud of you for being ‘one of the good ones.’
I’m so tired of drug addicts BS…get it together…. 😑 blah blah blah
I just clicked the go fund me link was shocked to see a top donation of $12,000 that's insane and amazing God bless that person I couldn't donate anywhere near that amount but awesome to see all the other amazing donations goes to show how many people believe in what you are doing keep up the good work Mark
Wow! I got cancer and I don't even wanna ask my old friends and people I know for money through (go fund me) even though I definitely need it. I just ain't doing that
@@EEVENEEVEN-vb5qy If they are *real friends* + family, you shouldnt even have to ask for *help* ---- they should be offering it on their own. I'm truly sorry you are going through something like cancer all on your own. I wish I could give you all the money required for you to BEAT this!
I pray God showers you with HEALTH & cures you completely, and empowers you to live a good + happy life
WOW. That is amazing! This should give us HOPE that the world has not turned to shit --- and that there are truly GOOD people out there!!! GOD BLESS them ( _whoever they are_ ) 🙋♀
@@LeenaStark your awesome 😌 thank you. My family and friends are absolutely awesome and treat me amazing. I just haven't told everyone on social media. I only told my family and closest friends. I hope your day is awesome ☺️ LIFE is GOOD!
@@LeenaStark 😇
As a father of 2 daughters and only 5 minutes in, when I heard her say that her sister when she pee’s, it hurts, at only 4 years old cuz of that Hell worthy father of hers, I felt so bad that there are sick people out there. Enough that this type of thing happens entirely too often and I thank God I’m a father, and overall person that only helps to uplift my kids and could never hurt them in such a way. Even though I’m a big guy now, I could still break down and cry for kids who grew up in such situations.
Thank you. I feel broken when I hear / know about how much sexual abuse there is. How is it even possible??? I just can’t
Agreed heartbreaking 💔 😢 my mama and her twin sister my aunt were abused from newborn on I still can't wrap my heart or head around the have both been broken their whole lives 💔 my mama just passed and had the sweetest kind forgiving heart ever ..... such warriors I miss her but I'm so thankful she know longer has to remember...my auntie still hanging on at 78 and her heart is still broken ...prayers for my Auntie and all survivors. And the Evil monsters that live among our innocent babies....they will get thiers one day this I know......
It is so sad
Dont leave them alone with men in the family. Even the ones you think you can trust. It sounds like your girls are lucky to have you. 💜
I know they are both addicts but I can’t help but feel like Mike has a better chance of breaking lose than she does. Although I’ve yet to see either one of them come up with a solid plan as to how they are going overcome addiction and get their kids back. I know most people see true love here but I see a codependent relationship that may be way different if drugs were not involved.
I think you are far more insightful than most of the people making the comments. When you bother to look further than surface level, you see the real dynamics going on.
Don’t be fooled people, they’re NOT in love, they are trauma bonded. They are co-dependent on one another just for drugs and they enable each other. If they choose to get clean and go to rehab they would have to separate. Different growth path, get clean path, they will get different perspectives and a vision lenses of clarity or not. This is very complex. But they both have their own family support and quit it to go back to the trauma bond.
Yeah … when he said “you’re my best friend “ he was really talking to drugs. Drugs are a motherfucker
Yep, in order to get clean they will probably have to separate.
You can be trauma bonded and also in love.
Ya, weird thing to say. People who are addicted, homeless and severely co-dependent aren’t necessarily exempt from the capability of love. Anymore so then the next successful person… your version of love is an extreme specific type and that’s what most of us are actually exempt from. Regardless of substances and struggles.
ALOT of relationships are codependent. Codependency doesn't just stem from drugs. You can have a "normal world functioning non addict individual" codependent on another. At the end of the day she made a great point...If you don't have the money or family to pull you out of a situation the road is long and hard. Yes, those that are drug addicted and are helped over and over that's a different story. But you are talking about broken people who need to cry out to The Most High because he can open doors. Even though he acted like his childhood was all good due to the successes of his parents....It wasn't. His parents were lovers of money it's an addiction as well folks. Wake up! He probably didn't feel loved or cared as he stated he raised himself. Lovers of money just don't get the same criticism as lovers of drugs...just sayin'. I personally feel for them. I was homeless. Guess what? I didn't have a drug addiction. The only drug I ever tried was weed or Marijuana whatever ya'll say. I lost a job. And wasn't able to gain work to pay for my rent, car, insurance etc. I am an only child and my Father died when I was 22. My mother decided I wasn't able to be helped. I hope the love of her money works our for her. I went through it. I can't say I agree with their decisions with drugs I can only say if they were introduced young it makes sense that they would turn to it. I was blessed. I kept my faith it was long and hard but he pulled me out of the trenches. I have PTSD now of course in fear of losing a job. My point is stop judging. Just have a little bit of empathy.
You know what you have to do to get your kids back. Do it now. My mom left when I was 9 and never got us back. She eventually got clean but by then I was 22 and taking care of myself and she missed out on all those years with me and my two siblings. Now our relationship is still being built back up from all those years and I had to get past a lot of resentment (27) now
Yessssss
I'm happy for y'all rebuilding your relationship. Sometimes you have to close the door to the past before you can open the door to the future. Good luck brother in wish y'all all the love and happiness that life can bring
@ashleyshea hi sweetheart. I’ll start by acknowledging that I do not share your personal experience at all, I just wanted to share mine with you in hopes to bring another perspective. I’m a good bit older than you(51). I’ll try to keep it concise. I grew up with my mother and stepdad. My stepdad molested me as a child, & when my mom found out, she stayed with him, called our pastor, told me to tell no family, & went on to have my 4 younger siblings with him. I resented her for the rest of our lives together. Our relationship was always a hard one. She had me at 21. My real father had been with a man and She completely resented me because I was a reminder of him. She had been abusive when I was little, but had matured by the time the babies came. I helped raise them as I was much older. I’ve always been the LEAST mature of the 5 of us children. My mama always introduced me as her baby although I am the oldest. We did love each other, we just fought a lot. Last year she suddenly passed, with me never knowing what i would feel because I was so hurt, resentful and angry. I am broken. I am lost, Ashley, I feel like a child lost in a Walmart. I can’t move forward now. I would never set her free. I held that shit over her head for 40 years. I read some things she had written after she died. She was heartbroken, riddled with guilt. She was so physically sick for most of her life. I believe she could’ve had a life without the guilt. She wrote that she was slowly dying, paralyzed with guilt 😔 I know that’s on me. So many times I put her behind everything in my life because I was still trying to be angry. I can’t go to her. I can’t do anything now. Too late. Our lives are so so goddamn short. This ache will be in my heart forever. I can’t stop crying. Give your mama the chance she missed giving you. I guess what I’m say is drop the resentment. Just let it go. No one is perfect. We are all human. You will never get another mom. Take a chance for me baby. Don’t let this pain happen to you, because you really don’t know what you may feel ❤🦋love to you
I'm sorry you went through this. I wish this couple and others realized that their parents didnt take their kids away to punish them. It was for the benefit of the kids. If they really want what's best for the kids, they need to do exactly what you said in you first 2 sentences. Sending love.
Their parents adopted the kids thru court so there is nothing for them to do but hope to visit.
I so respect these two’s transparency. Despite the unhealthy habits they share, the two of them truly love each other. Praying for their recovery and their children.
Nic-they have no clue what love it.💔💔💔
That’s not love lolz…
@@lynngold1865what a self absorbed thing to say . And what you do. How does a person not now what love is
It's not love, it's co-dependency.
That girl does not love him lol. She don’t even respects him. She takes him from granted. The guy seems like a good guy. But he come ls from a rich background. Rich white kid that gets what he wants what do you expect to happen
so heartbreaking. such genuine, kind people stuck in such an awful situation. truly wish the best for them and hope they find a way out
Yes, absolutely. This is heart breaking.
You sure about that? Lol from a 40 min video?
They sure as hell aren’t gonna get sober together
Its crazy how when you're a drug addict you can love your children but still go 2 weeks without speaking to your infant daughter because you've "lost your phone or whatever". Shows how drugs just steal your life away from you.
Infant? She’s 14
@@kadeelacayo4806 But it still holds true. I know they're addicted but going weeks without speaking to your young kids is neglectful at the very least.
While Stephanie shares her story...I can't help but watch the expressions in Mike's eyes as he listens patiently and respectfully. He is so right about shunning people who are already down instead of embracing people when they need it most. I hope Mike could give Suboxone a chance (prescribed and managed) to get off Fentanyl and avoid WDs. He seems like he might be in a place to try, even if Stephanie isn't there yet. I wonder if either of them realize how much they are in a deep spiral of co-dependency and how that may enable each others addictions? It's never too late for either of them to get sober, get therapy, and reclaim their lives. It's all possible and SoCal has so many resources available.
The idea that I would be reduced to giving up my children due to addiction makes me grateful for every day of my 26 years of sobriety.
This couple is so caught up in themselves. And who the hell says I LOVE HIM MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE when they have children?
you are willfully misinterpreting what they are saying. they are homeless drug addicts, they have no choice but to be 'caught up in themselves'. lucky you if you get to kick back and not have to think about your survival and what you will do next.
Your absolutely making the right choice giving them to your parents. My parents were both drug addicts. And I am also an addict. I KNOW how you feel. I’m trying my hardest to get my shit together.
49 and disabled.
It hard to say the least. 😢
I was an addict for over 25 years I can honestly say it's not a disease it's a state of mind that you have to get past definitely not an addict 7 years clean I know I will never touch that stuff again I look back at all the toxic things I did and pain I caused and try every day to make amends I look back and think how stupid I was it's hard to get over that not the dope you can only stop when you truly make your mind up to stop..
Addiction is a disease.
It is not an opinion whether or not it is.
The “state-of mind” is part of the disease.
I am grateful that you’re clean and sober, and that I am, too.
Don’t lose sight that people like us have today.
It’s a disease
Congratulations on your 9 months Mike. You did it once you can do it again and keep going.
I am typically quite emotionless while watching the videos that you make. I didn’t think anything of it when I hit play on this one. 42 min later I can’t stop crying. These two have absolutely broke my heart. I hope that they can find the support system they need. That’s all it would take!
I agree!! I also remain emotionless watching these, but sometimes a random video gets you!
I’m never emotionless however some get to me more than others. I read the comments and see that the ones that I don’t become emotional about, others do. Why do you think you empathised with this one?
I’ve been watching this channel for about a year. Never commented. Mike changed that. His words will be remembered.
Wow. The pure love in Matt’s eyes when he looks at her. Him telling her she is his best friend. The beauty and the rawness ♥️ Beautifully twisted. Thank you Mark for your continued dedication ♥️
How crazy is it that they've been through this kind of life and stood together through it all? What a life journey if you could find your soul mate and make it through. Most of these people are so alone and don't even have one person who loves them. Most of them die alone.
@@jamescordova1796 I knew these two for over 10 yers and they aren't terrible people. They are not as heartfeld as Mark is making them come off but they aren't the most hertless. They are leaving out details like the child they had giving to Mikes parents unwilingly was for the best.
@@MobileAudioPro I was only able to stay married for a little over a year. So I have to give props to someone that can maintain staying together for that long no matter what comes up. At least they have that going for them.
@@jamescordova1796 right they're pretty strong imo to go through all that they are
Awe yes u said that so perfectly 🥰
I noticed this to, just because ppl are addicts doesn't make them horrible humans.
I can completely see he deeply cares for and loves her just from how he looks at her.
So sad tho they both seem like sweet, calm ppl God bless them both and hopefully they can get help and be sober one day.
I can see them both being clean and having a much happier life, I'm sure they have faced some really rough trials and tribulations sadly.
🙏✝️🙌💖😔🙏🕉
She’s almost too much to watch. All of the sad talk about not being able to spend time with her kids… Her kids should be the reason why she gets off of the dope. Battling addiction isn’t unique, but it requires a lot of work and it can be overcome.
She's going to have to want to get off drugs for herself first because doing it for anyone else does not work. Until she wants off drugs for herself to make a better life for herself and her children it's never going to work.
Would she rather have custody and give her children the memory’s of seeing her shoot you ?
She certainly laughs at very inappropriate times. I hope the children will be shielded from them.
Addiction is just a word and justifies a person's behavior when in reality is nothing more than pure self indulgence.
And don't message me saying I don't understand addiction because I've been there.
Never heard of chemical addiction? And the withdrawal symptoms people get when they come off the drugs?
mike seems so sweet. when he said “you’re my best friend” 🥺
Mike is absolutely ready to get clean, but Stephanie is not ready.
Mike is staying in his situation because he loves her.
I wish them both the best, but a separation must happen.
I like mike; Stephanie not so much. snake on the grass
@@phyllysanantonio I don’t think that, unfortunately Stephanie hasn’t hit rock bottom.
She has to take ownership on how and why the drugs have detoured her life.
I could feel Mike’s pain and need to end this shit show.
My thoughts exactly.. I hope they both get the help they need.
They wonder why the parents put restrictions on them to see their kids. They clearly cannot take care of themselves, let alone children. They are delusional, and immature.
The self-pity is strong with her. It’s difficult to hear her complain about not raising her children, as if the reason she lost/gave up custody is some reason other than her drug addiction.
You say you want time with your kids but in you’re condition you’re not a good example. Prayers for your success in cleaning up. You deserve it.
Forgive yourself its the first step to recovery. As a recovering alcoholic I know shame, guilt, sorrow, feeling worthless is unbearable our drug of choice 'helps' but reiterates all the negative thoughts. Vicious cycle. Love yourself enough to get well. Its tough but you can and you will
Sending you light and love ❤️
I can relate Charmaine 🙏🏼♥️
I really liked Mike's solo interview from 3 months ago & I'm obviously still rooting for him. I naively hoped that he might have already initiated some changes in his life in order to turn things around for himself, but of course I do realize that in reality it's not that easy. I guess he is less lonely now, being back together with Stephanie, but even though it's not my place to judge the situation, I can imagine that it is even harder to kick your habit when you're in a relationship with another addict. I wish both of you all the best for your future and as Mike said himself in his last interview, that he finds the strength to put his children first, instead of the drugs & that he'll be able to become the father to them that he so desperately wants to be💪💙.
Dr. Mate Gabor a world renowned medical doctor and an addition expert answered that question Mark asked best. Both grew up in the same house hold but why did their lives/trauma impact their future diff. Dr. Gabor states that granted they grew up in the same house but the treatments they received from their parents are different. Maybe the parent was more loving, nurturing to one child vs the other.
I cried with you Mike you're not alone. You're not less than anyone I wish I could give you both a hug. You both matter. I pray that you both heal and recover.
At the beginning I thought I'd dislike Mike, but I was so wrong. He seems like a good guy who desperately wants to get his life together.
I'm hearing nothing but excuses from Stephanie, and find her voice extremely irritating the way she talks in the back of her throat and that annoying laugh.
I get my back up every time I hear Mark say he knows how difficult it is to get off fentanyl. Mark has no idea! It's NOT if you seriously WANT to get clean!!! If they're passionate about getting clean and having their children back, they can get on suboxone and be completely clean from fentanyl within a week or so with absolutely zero withdrawal. I've done it and have commented about this at least a hundred times. It saved my life! I was on suboxone, got a clear mind, then started to very slowly taper off so I didn't notice. Now I'm on a very tiny amount and just taking my time. I suffered needlessly for two years trying to taper off fentanyl on my own which is literally impossible unless you're super strong, which apparently I'm not. Like so many addicts she's full of excuses as to why she can't stop. I'm sure they're both well aware of suboxone.
The love this man has for his wife is so pure. Wished he loved himself even just half as much. May they find the strength to face their demons and work every day towards sobriety. They deserve a better life for themselves and for their children.
In the chair with Cloochy-they are bonded thru drugs,insanity,darkness, vindictiveness,codependency,immorality,and trauma.That's not love.💔💔💔💔
@@lynngold1865 Do you know them personally Lynn?
@@inthechairwithcloochy8102 No.but have been in re over since 11-7-90 and worked in recovery and couples like these[I know yes, I don't know them]....need to be separated or they won't make it.Loving people don't purposely harm each other and it's too hard to forgive after.i have met many like their situations and it has broken my heart with their outcomes.
@@lynngold1865 The work that you do is so important. I too had parents that were substance dependent and as a child I had no one to guide me or to help me make my way through the simplest tasks and human interactions. When we moved to America and went to a dentist for the first time I remember hearing the dentist and his assistant talking about what a horrible state our teeth were in. We didn't even know how to brush our teeth. Its the children of these relationships that get the worst end of the stick. I am 60 years old and every day of my life I am still affected in some way or another. I pray that these people/family survive and thrive through this hideous situation. XOX from Ireland
@@inthechairwithcloochy8102 Cloochy, I am so sorry for the heartbreaking childhood you had.I hope this couples' children are warm, fed,loved and cherished by their parents.I hope you found loving support and help as you became an adult.I had abuse and neglect as a child too that affected me in functioning as an adult..but when I got sober on 11-7-90 I broke that generational curse of alcoholism and started to learn how to grow up.But the biggest change came when Jesus took me into His beautiful family!!!!!I AM COMPLETELY LOVED NOW!
My mommy was an addict all HER life.
She was one of 9 children.
My mom took the easy way out.
I fought for her and called her back to me
I loved her always.
My mom is here with me now!
She enjoys her grandchildren.
Im 13 years older than my younger sisters who are twins.
I’ve followed my mom’s footsteps in life.
This is how I know love.
I separated from the ones who were made to love me.
I never stopped loving her.
I know what love is.
My mom is here again.
I’m a mean bitch. I trust no one.
I tell the absolute truth. I could care nothing about lies.
Trust is within.
Liar
Real gracious...🙃
Lol
@@marissac870 thank you for your response. I hope you are well.
@@amber76OH
Hi, my name means “ God is gracious “
I’m thankful for Gods grace.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
As awesome as these 2 people seem to be besides losing their kids to drugs, I wonder what they would think of each other as a couple if they were both clean and drug-free. Right now their lifestyle seems to be the glue.
Its the foundation they built their relationship on.
GINA CAMPBELL-They wouldn't know each other.They are so toxic for each other. Their drug of choice is EACH OTHER!Their only way to get sober is to separate from each other!!!In my AA group, we don't shoot our wounded.who are we to judge???💔💔
It’s for the best that the kids are being raised by their grandparents. She seems to play the victim card when it comes to losing custody instead of taking responsibility. I can’t imagine the kids being raised by two people who act like messed up high schoolers. I don’t think these people are evil, but I’m so glad the kids have a chance of a normal life.
This was frustrating for me, Ya know, I am sure both of your families would want nothing more than for you both to get sober and be parents to your own children. Instead, they have no choice but to raise your kids. The audacity you have is deafening.
Well said.
This!!
Dear couple how very selfish you are. Have you ever tried looking at your current situation through the eyes of your children? Have you ever stop to think this this not all about YOU? Get off the "F`ng" drugs, stop making excuses and being weak. That option went out the door when you became parents. Sounds harsh but needs to be said for the good of your children
Exactly!
And the government forces ME to pay for their party life, their children, etc...
Sickening.
What an insightful and aware couple. What an intense interview...I so hope they find the strength to go through that harrowing detox of fentanyl one more time and for good!
Are you SNIFFING something.
This is heartbreaking. My son and his girlfriend have been together for 11 years. Since my son was 14. They started using together when their first son was a baby. They now have two sons. The only time they’ve been clean is when they are not together. He’s in jail now. She’s still out running the streets still using. My son wants to stay clean. He’s trying to get her clean before he gets out in less than 4 months. He just “wiped his hands clean” from me tonight because I refuse to let her move in here after she gets the vivatrol shot to stay clean. I have two daughters one of which is 9 months pregnant. Both my daughters are traumatized from their brothers and basically their sister in laws drug usage.
The maternal grandmother has my grandsons. They come here on the weekend.
Loving an addict especially a heroin and fentanyl addict is so draining. I can’t even explain it.
I wish the best for these two. It will take a miracle.
I can relate to their feelings so much. Lost my kids to having cancer . An I’m fighting everything I can to start over an get them back with zero family support . An everyone just uses control against me with my kids . It’s very hard to get to a great mindset when everyone an everything comes up against you . Please keep up with them Mark!
She blames being a continuing addict on not being rich,! Come on, take responsibility, quit wallowing in self pity
Amazing interview. Mike's descriptions of his own addiction are so vivid and (horribly) beautiful that they become poetic. He was the quiet one, but when Mike spoke, his words cut deep like a knife.
They should be counting their blessings that his parents are stepping in instead of in foster care with all the other children whose parents are addicted to drugs.
My niece overdosed and died. It was hard for me to understand. This video helps me understand better. Thank you.
I’m sorry to hear about your niece. Is this her?
Good Morning Mark and SWU Family 🌞 GBY Mike & Stephanie 🙏🏼 Praying things will soon get better for your family 🙏🏼
Salute to the grandparents!
Stephanie says Mike’s parents took away their child yet they live homeless in a park, stealing for drugs and food. Show some gratitude. They have chosen drugs over their children which is a garbage move.
I don't know how people can commend these two and call them strong people. They can't quit for their own kids! I was an addict for 15 years until I met my wife's kids 5 years ago. I quit cold turkey for them and haven't looked back since. It's easier than you think. It's not impossible
Don't guilt other addicts like some high and mighty jerk. You don't know anyone's life and daily struggles other than your own, so you have no right to judge what you don't know and understand. Also, any doctor with experience treating substance abuse would strongly advise against going "cold turkey" off of opiates/opioids, especially those who have been using for years like most addicts have. It's dangerous for anyone to do it for multiple reasons, the main one being that it can lead to seizures, strokes, or worse. In my poor sister's case, it caused her death. Unless you are a mentally sound doctor who has experience in substance abuse treatment, you definitely shouldn't be giving unsolicited medical advice to anyone. Nor should you be publicly shaming anyone for not choosing the same road to recovery as you just so you can feel superior for a brief moment. It's a shit thing to do. Just saying.
@@holagataeang so let's coddle drug addict parents instead and tell them it's ok what they're doing to their kids
congratulations! Did the lady who accused you of giving unsolicited medical advice and shaming others who don't succeed just delete her comment? I can't find it. Everything just disappeared as I went to make a comment.
@@debbiemohekey1509 it looks like she deleted it of course
@@debbiemohekey1509 now I'm curious what your comment was going to be
These two definitely are unique. It was very touching to see their love and trust for each other after all they have been through. I really wish them the best and hope they can enjoy growing old together repairing what they can with their kiddos.
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That love and trust, the "bond" is there because they have each other's backs. It's easier to have two, to work on gaining the supply they need.
They clearly sysye tjey don't trust each other. They are codependent, period.
Are you serious? The only love they have is for drugs and that's it. Not for each other, not even for their kids. They're selfish junkies and they deserve the pain.
No one in EUROPE would listen too these 2...
I was an addict before. I am 2 years sober. If you truly wanted your kids that bad then you would get sober for them. Simple as that. Its not going to be easy but nothing should get in the way of you and your kids. Just take it one day at a time.
Wonderful people.. this just proves addiction really does not discriminate. I wish the best for them. I hope they make it out of this mess and are able to turn their lives around because they truly deserve it. Hope to see an update with them sometime in the future.
Really can relate to Stephanie, appreciate her honesty and vulnerability. I myself battled a 15 year opiate addiction and now have 12 yrs sober, it’s hard to get true recovery and I will always be an addict. Lost custody of my 2 oldest kids, being a mom and battling that kind of guilt by not raising my kids is something I will always struggle with
She needs to be freaking grateful her kid is at Disney world, that’s ridiculous
Exactly. She is lucky that their family takes care of the children while they are off doing drugs. It's really selfish and she doesn't seem grateful at all. Does she not realize that if she just stopped the drugs she could be with her kids? Your kids should mean more to you than getting high. Seems like they want to blame everyone else for their situation and not take any responsibility.
This couple have every chance to be involved in their children's lives. First they must admit that they have a serious drug addiction. Second is the help to get and stay clean for awhile. Show the court that their sobriety is more important than the drugs. The opportunities are there if they really love their children. If any money goes to this couple. It will be spent on drugs only. Don't send them money.
Mike's right about being a drug addict... You'll never see anyone work harder than a junkie who's needing a fix...
Thts SO SO true or somebody carpet surfing (searching for dropped/"lost" drrus in carpet🤣😅🤣 hilarious to watch)
This interview doubled me over with grief with and for this couple, my own daughter, my best friend's son, and the children of my friends who never won their drug addiction battle. The hopelessness is overwhelming.
Imagine complaining about not having your kid or getting enough time with your kid, all while being addicted to fentanyl. How about stop playing the victim, go get clean and earn the rights for your kids
If you think about it, she was a victim too.
Agreed!!
I appreciate people opening up like this. We can all learn from one another, no matter what. Been sober for almost four years now and its definitely not for the faint of heart. Its hard. It has to come before anything and anyone else, at least in my experience. It requires a hundred percent dedication and a shit ton of discipline. You'll find out quickly who you must severe ties with and feelings will be hurt. And inevitably the ppl you need to have around for support are often the one's you've f'd over the most, so its an uphill battle at the start. Giving time and space to prove your worth to worthy people. Humans are so interesting. We're so screwed. God speed
I don’t understand how drug dealers can make fentanyl and there isn’t a chemist/physicist who can make a drug that can make detox easier. That is what we need for these addicts.
Excellent comment
Be grateful your family is taking care of your kids.
This is the first video of yours that made me tear up (and your videos are ALL so heartbreaking and eye opening)… I wanted to just scream at these two beautiful souls to “ WAKE UP, BEFORE ITS TOO LATE”. They still have a wonderful life to live if they do choose and go get some help and make those difficult daily decisions to stay sober (one day at a time). They and their children deserve that… I just hope this couple figures it out. They can do it, I know they can.
Me too. First time I really cried in one of these videos. 😢💗
hehe. you must be new here and waking up in your own life. Nope they screwed up, and because of them their children are also screwed.
My heart hurts for Mike and Stephanie, and I hope one day they can get back what they lost. For now love and prayers. ❤️🙏🏻
Damn….. Mike said it at the end “living like a high schooler”…… that’s all I could hear when she was speaking 😢 Good luck guys
Sending up prayers for this couple. This was a very emotional interview, i cried all the way through it. You can see the love between them. In Jesus name, they will beat this.
If people had just a tiny amount of your empathy, imagine the world.
Found this one frustrating to watch and I'm normally sympathetic but I can imagine how there family must feel knowing how everything can be fixed if they just get help and get a grip on there selves
No two children grow up in the same house hold even if they did. They both experienced it differently even being under the same roof with the same abuse being done to them.
You can see these two clearly love each other, but toxic is toxic. These two need to separate and get their own lives together and one day if it’s meant to be… it’ll be. I see a lot of potential in both of them, but there’s no hope with them together.
Yep, they are going to love each other to death if they done separate.
I really and truly appreciate this channel mark thank you for these stories thank you to this beautiful couple who shared their stories I hope that they find the strength to fight for a better relationship with their kids it's never to late your life can always change for the better as long as you breathing I wish them the best they have a beautiful spirit and love
Stephanie was doing so good. When Mike got out of jail she went to him. And I feel so bad for miranda. She used to freak out when her mom would say ill be right back. And miranda would think would if she doesn't. And just wanted to be everywhere stephanie was. I'm praying for you both.
They have children together; Mike and Stephanie are adults. Do it for your children. They are two healthy adults with children that need them. Take away your crutches and become full, functioning adults that can stand on your own 2 feet for your children. Good luck.
Stephanie"s voice is truly a drug addict 's voice.. WOW.. it"s amazing how these people find one another, so glad they have eachother out there. I wish them both well.
Your so right ! I can’t bare hearing this raspy kardashian vocal fry crap .. on to the next
Her voice and laugh are irritating as hell, and she's full of typical addict excuses. She has some nerve giving Mike the stink eye when he said his mother has their son. She should be grateful that the child is on vacation in Disney and not placed in an abusive foster home!! What does one more day matter, and why cut a vacation short for her to see her son. I'd love to know how many times she never showed up for visits because she was too high or too dope sick!!!
I’m so grateful for Mark and his life’s work. He has given voice to the voiceless. I’ve learned so much. Love to each and everyone interviewed on this channel. ❤❤❤❤
They are comfortable, so many excuses. I get it's hard, but most mothers would do anything for their kids. They know they do better when they are apart, but are so childish because they miss each other. As a mother, push though and stop thinking about your feelings, think about how your kids are feeling
Put them first
@@VideoKilledTheRUclipsStar being molested during your most crucial stages of development, especially by a crucial parental figure, changes the brain for life. Not only that, parental involvement is necessary to develop the skills to live, and learning them on your own as an adult is almost impossible. These are not easy obstacles to overcome and none of us have the right to judge another’s struggle. Take a look in the mirror and sit down.
Just because you grew up in the same household with your sibling, does NOT mean you experienced the same treatment from your parents growing up and had the same childhood experience. I learned that from my therapist.
All im hearing is excuses, i crawled out of that pit of hell, anyone can do it
Same.
Does CA not have methadone/Suboxone treatment centers? I never hear anyone on these videos mention them. For me, it was one of those places that saved my life, my marriage, and the lives of my children when my husband and I chose to get clean over 20 years ago. I could not have done the withdrawals cold turkey. The methadone kept the sickness away while I worked at location the reasons behind my addiction, and allowing them time to heal, one by one. We continue to go to therapy to this day because the roots of addiction dig deep, and we want to stay healthy for ourselves, each other, our kids, and now our grandkids.
It CAN be done, friends. You can live a life away from the shackles of opiate addiction. It’s hard, but SO FUCKING WORTH IT! I PROMISE.
I wish this couple all of the best, and, to their children and the grandparents who are raising these kids, SO much love to you all! Stay strong. You aren’t in this on your own. To the couple in this video, and any others who may read this and need someone to talk to who has also lived it, I am hear to listen. Sending much love, strength, and wisdom to everyone fighting this battle, and to the ones who love them.
Mike and Stephanie, I wish you well and will pray that you will be able to come back together with your children and be a normal family which is all you really want. Whatever normal is for you. Just being together and loving and trusting each other. If there is ANY hope to get off fentanyl, try again and again and again. Your children are now having their story written, and right or wrong you will be the reason for some of their pain. I know you know. No shade. You still have something special that couples that seem to have it all together don't even have and that is Love and Caring for each other. Use that to help each other. I wish you the best and love. XXXX
These two are an example of love not being enough. Neither of them are strong enough for themselves much less the other.
Do you really just said you don’t care if your kid is on vacation you want your two hour visitation how selfish I see exactly who you are
So true.
Ugh...this one tugs on my heart strings so badly.
Thank u for this upload Mark, they seem like really calm and sweet ppl.
Just because ppl have a addiction doesn't make them bad ppl and it would be so so awesome if they could get clean.
I could totally picture them having a much happier life, they really seem to love one another and his vibe is really loving and kind.
So many blessings and prayers to them and I hope this holiday they can find some peace and love....🙏😔💖🙌✝️💯
This is one of the most lucid and eloquent couple I have seen you interview, I hope they get time with those kids.
Mike it is not too late, make up your mind and just get sober already. I am rooting for you both. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your shit together. Split up and go your separate ways to get sober. Stephanie get over yourself and stop blaming others. Be grateful your mother-in-law and your mother are the ones stepping up to the plate for all your bullshit.
Mike is such a beautiful soul. I pray for their physical and mental healing.
wow. what an interview. I'm feeling conflicted emotions after watching this incredible couple. My faith in love is affirmed by their togetherness. their love seems perfect yet their life is far from it. i feel hope and despair all at once. i don't know what to think, what solution there is, but i feel a weird appreciation for the human condition and will to love from watching these two beautiful souls. i'm glad i got to experience them through this interview. thanks mark.
This video should be shown in schools across America. Drug addiction is a crisis in America and it will only stop when young people stop to think of what their future will be like the moment they start using drugs. I always talk to my teenage daughter about the dangers of having drug addict friends and about the dangers of using drugs. I tell her that anyone who offers her drug is her enemy and she needs to cut all ties with that person immediately. This is very sad to see.
Wow Mark what a great interview! Mike and Stephanie are an amazing couple! I hope they both make it out alive! God bless them and God bless you Mark! 💙🙏💛🙏
Wow.. listen to her. NO what u should have been saying is damn, i missed combing my daughters hair, helping her get ready in the morning, make her 3 meals a day, teach her how to tie her shoes, cook with her, sing & dance, the laughs and how non filtered children are!! Mommy, this, mommy that, i hear it everyday and wouldn't miss that shit for nothing!! My youngest is 11 i cherish and bottle it all. Grow up or shut up. For real, period.
How about how shes living now? That affects her not having time with her kids. Its not soley her past.
Honestly I wasn’t even going to watch this episode but I’m glad I did. Hearing him say all he wants is to be a dad and a husband… it breaks my heart for them. Nobody CHOOSES to become an addict and have their lives destroyed. I hope they can find the strength to recover. They both seem like special people, and Mike really touched me.
It doesn't matter what your going thru,you can't ever make an excuse not to take care of your children!!!
Mark this one made me cry. Wish you would have asked them about therapy or did you? Talking about it or anything needed really is therapeutic and has helped me the past several years. Thank you for giving matt also a chance to speak. So heart broken for him. They will more than likely have to be separated to ever truley love themselves and get well. 😢 i wish them the best and hope they van one day get their kids and life back its ever too late!
Unpopular opinion here but people like this should never get their kids back. Under any circumstance. They freely admit that their addiction won’t ever go away and that is the reason they shouldn’t be put in charge of another human being…
This was a hard watch. Hope they get through this and come out stronger. Extremely self aware, you guys got this!
It is NOT “easy” for some people to live life on life’s terms. It is hard and it is challenging and it is exhausting. Having to fight the urge to say f##k it and get high is not easy at all for anyone! It takes so much courage and strength and determination and let me tell you it is worth it! Being proud of who you are and how far you’ve come is so fulfilling. Knowing you have the strength to go on everyday and not use and get through whatever the day brings. It’s amazing! Having a relationship with your children and family and friends is the motivation and the reward for the hard work. Stephanie, you just have to want it bad enough to actually do it.
I hope all the people out there suffering with an addiction get the help they need. Please know that you are strong enough, you are capable of getting out of this place in your life and rising above. Keep moving forward and don't look back.
She's not taking care of them where ever she might be, what's she going on about. If you weren't so dam selfish you would get clean and then take care of your kids