It’s so beautiful that she has a partner that tried to understand her illness instead of just leaving her behind. What a beautiful relationship and what a resilient woman.
I agree this is what happened to me after the birth of my son and was diagnosed with bi polar it’s was scary and my husband had no problems leaving me so yes tremendous respect for this man👏
@@rhondaobermiller7245 im so sorry he left you. It would be so good to know a person well enough to trust that if anything happens to you your partner would be there. I dont think its possible to guarentee another persons actions. But it is possible to ask yourself if YOU could stay with some who develops any mental or physical diseases. It took me along time to understand the importance of this. Blessings to you.
You can see the suffering in her facial expressions. I love how she instinctively grabs and reaches for him when she’s uncomfortable. And he is her rock. And his respect for her never seemed to waiver. I hope they’re still married.
@@Acke1975 every married couple doesn’t choose to wear rings. I’ve not worn my band/ring in about 6 years because it’s too much on my hand and gets in the way of things.
@@chiefswife1212 Does your negativity come from depression or bitterness? I’m genuinely interested. Why don’t you believe them? Do you not believe that psychosis actually exists? Your comment fascinates me! The most happy & content older adults that I’ve known in my life have loved & truly, deeply cherished their partners & children. Responsibility & loyalty are the opposite of “burdens” for some people. We are really, “All different”… Human nature interests me. That’s why I watch this channel & that’s why I’m asking you questions! 😊
@@chiefswife1212 if she was such a burden he would have left a long time ago. he's to be admired...he obviously cares very deeply and has made a commitment
I was in a relationship for 5 years and I was an emotional sponge for my partner and after 5 years of it I was destroyed by it. I needed therapy to get over it.. took two years before I felt like myself. Im not sure how he does it... I suspect one day he wont be able to take it anymore.
@@AlistairBalister yeah I was thinking the same thing. I mean he's strong & everything but most people have their breaking point. There may come a day when HE needs to be the one to feel as if he has a safety net & to just let go & not feel so much pressure to be the responsible one for a change. People take for granted the amount of strength it takes to carry a relationship like this for YEARS! But I wish them all the luck in the world. Hopefully their children won't suffer the same issues.
@@AlistairBalistertheir case is very different. They are a family and she is suffering because of how hard pregnancy and birth of their babies was for her.
Yes. I went through this and I was ine day my happy normal self. Full functioning mom and friend amd wife and active community member and next day I was searching for a gun to kill myself and threatening to leave my family. Snap of a finger.
Her smile when they were introduced as married made my heart melt. Gabby is so emotionally intelligent and well spoken. She's an amazing role model and advocate for the mentally ill, especially women. Sam is so supportive and protective of his wife. He's so empathetic. Instead of blaming her or getting angry at her, he tried to understand her instead. I'm so happy they have each other.
Gabby is an advocate for EVERYONE. It really hit hard when her and her husband declared how little it actually takes for our brain to bifurcate into something bigger than our ordinary self. this actual line that separates our brain is not so far off for ‘normal’ people, maybe even more so for folks with levels of high intelligence. Gabby could be any one of us and that what is important to realize here. We keep pinning the ‘picture of mental health’ on everything else around us like politics, drug addicts, gop policies, etc and skipping right over our own selves & those around us.
These two are amazing. I’m a therapist and I want everyone to understand how well spoken she is about this and how important her honesty and advocacy are! Love to them both.
@@terafief7466 You know, that bothered me at first too. My guess is that he's nervous about being on camera - who wouldn't be? You can see how stiff his body language is in the beginning of the video, and the fear and uncertainty is written all over his face. After all of the shit they've been through so far, I would be surprised if he felt any other way coming into an interview like this. So I can imagine that he came in uncertain of how the interview was going to go, and also thinking about the millions of people who would watch the interview, and also all of the brutal RUclips comments that would likely follow... and he probably wanted to appear as "strong" and "tough" and "masculine" as possible - both in response to the pressures of societal toxic masculinity, and perhaps in response to the feelings of helplessness that their situation probably evokes. And in Western society, being a "tough, strong man" generally means not being touchy-feely or having feelings or showing gentleness or care, etc. since any sort of softness like that is considered weakness. It's a hell of a weight to live under, this sick and distorted idea of masculinity that our culture hammers into our heads. Life is full of these missed bids for connection for all sorts of reasons, even between devoted partners. After I thought about it this way, Sam's ignoring of his wife's reach for comfort bothered me a bit less. Just my 2 cents.
She’s so lucky to have him. I went through a 8 month psychosis. I got kicked out of my house because I was “insane”. No one tried to understand what was going on or trying to help. I ended up going to a psych ward. My psych ward experience was different in a good way. A year and a half later, I’m stable and living on my own with social services. Family still thinks I’m insane. This proves that there are still good people out there.
My mom had Postpartum Psychosis. She didn’t want/love me. Thought I was a demon and tried to kill me many times. Luckily my dad took me at 4mo and I didn’t see her again until I was about 16. She had 3 other kids that she never had an issue with them. Thanks for bringing more awareness to this issue. It effects every woman differently.
Mine as well. Went from healthy to treating me like a doll, not recognizing reality any longer. Misdiagnosed over and over. Electro shocked several times. Home, back in the hospital, home until one day she saved up enough of the meds they were giving her in the Mental Ward the hospital in Iowa where we lived, and she overdosed. My father sued the hospital. Was front page news for awhile.... but lost, as hospitals have more money and lawyers than my father. Regardless, from the beginning it was all poor psychiatric advice that led her down the road to ultimately commit suicide.
In 1983, Two weeks after I had my first son and became extremely agoraphobic, paranoid, depressed. I saw monsters and felt like I was levitating off of the bed. I would see stars passing by me when I was in bed. I told my specialist ob-gyn right away and he said “Post partum depression Mrs Karp. You will be fine!” By this time, I was thinking of taking my life. I didn’t want to die, but I couldn’t live this way anymore. Praise God, the pediatrician noticed what was wrong, immediately put me on meds, saw me twice a week for three years, and I became a new person. I am so grateful! I went on to have 4 more children and never had a problem again.
So very happy you received help....and from the pediatrician at that!! This shows that in the USA, there is no real care for moms with post partum mental health issues, only a very dedicated few and thank God this pediatrician was that one rare, special person!! So happy to hear you are doing great after therapy and meds!! Take care ❤💎👑
She was at the same ward I was when I had a psychotic episode last year. I’m so sorry she had to go to that horrible place. I’m so happy she got help though!
@@Robin-uu6eg I can’t express to you how much that means to me. Thank you so much. I’m constantly convincing myself I’m not good enough, so knowing I can help even a bit means more than you know. Just know you’ve helped me immensely too!
@@KarunaSatoriASMR aww! Karuna! You are amazing! You have done so much for so many people. We are all in this together. I was literally on the couch last week shivering from a panic attack convinced I had breast cancer. I turned on one of your videos, and I just followed along with your instructions on bringing my anxiety down. It helped me get some sleep.
Omg!!! @Karuna Satori ASMR Your recent monotone video unlocked brand new tingles for me!! You’re amazing and really appreciate your videos!! You’re one of the only creators that still give me so many tingles!
This man… made me cry. Gave me hope there are real man like this in this world still. Loyal, stable, strong, wise. The lady is also a beautiful soul. When she smiles she looks so sweet and she’s so smart and strong. I love them! Moved me deeply.
I couldn’t have put it any better. The love they have for each other shone through more and more as they grew more comfortable in front of the cameras. They are two beautiful souls and we can all learn so much from them. I wish them so much love! ❤
I was in a relationship for 5 years and I was an emotional sponge for my partner and after 5 years of it I was destroyed by it. I needed therapy to get over it.. took two years before I felt like myself. Im not sure how he does it... I suspect one day he wont be able to take it anymore.
I feel the same about them as most of the commentors here,, however I am concerned (at thus poin at 40:36) that there's no mention of concern fir their children having to see all if this. How do they get their 'first 5' needs met?? Anyone consider they might be better off somewhere else, in a stable home?
Everyone is talking about how amazing he is, & they’re right-he IS an incredible guy. He is the epitome of a real man-loyal, empathetic, loving, & strong. But we also need to talk about how incredible she is. It takes a lot of strength to know how sick you are, & to keep striding forward, determined to get better. They are both extraordinary people & I wish them all the peace & happiness in the 🌎.
Mark, Your desire to show multiple types of mental illnesses is applauded by me! I have seen Moms in stores, neighbors etc... that are obviously suffering. It's important for us to just pay attention and help, even in small ways, like in the store! I once saw a Mom with a newborn and a toddler in McDonald's. She was struggling to manage getting the food,dealing with the carrier and a temperamental 2yr old. Her face told the story of complete exhaustion and depression! I stepped out of the back of the line and told her to get seated and I'd bring the food to them. That small gesture wasn't much yet we all noticed her appreciation though she could barely say Thank You... We have to pay attention to our overwhelmed Mothers. Best wishes from Aiken South Carolina USA 🇺🇸
I’ve seen postpartum psychosis with my own eyes as an inpatient psychiatric nurse. So frightening and so very sad. Most of these women had no issues and then have a baby and become psychotic. It’s truly a biochemical issue that requires inpatient care for safety and medication. I can’t imagine how frightening it is for the mom and her family…. My heart broke for these new moms and their families. Empathy, compassion, respect, and education is so important. I admire this couple….true love 🙏🏻🌟
Please see my story in the comments above and PLEASE advocate to have those mothers medically screened for organic causes of psychosis such as thyroid disfunction. You could save so many lives.
They need no meds ... she needs clean food ... organ meats , fermented foods , nutritional yeast ect .. all of our disease is caused by food and medication and terrible advice .. the human body is the healer ... and it can't heal if we handicap it
I had prenatal and postpartum depression 35 years ago. No one understands what was happening to me finally I went to a psychiatrist. She said I was depressed. I was surprised because I had planned her. I was terrified of hurting her by accident. It was hell please be aware these woman need help immediately.
The stigma around this is pretty high as well. NOBODY talks about it until your in it. I had a friend go through this and she actually was sent to a mental hospital. Then women are supposed to be these perfect mother figures in society. It makes it hard to even talk about it openly within the community.
This was seriously such an interesting one. Psychosis in general is so taboo. It’s like a wild acid trip. Her knowledge and awareness of her disorder is amazing. Her detailed explanation of the thought process was so well articulated for listeners who don’t understand. It’s like she’s studied herself over time. Kudos to the husband as well for being so open & just as invested in understanding. Would love more of these types of videos or just mental illness in general!
My mother had postpartum psychosis, she tried to kill me and then she had to fight to get herself committed to hospital. This was in the 1980s and it’s sad not much has changed since then. Thank you for speaking up on this channel. This is not talked about enough.
You are absolutely right, the mental health system put in place here in the US is deplorable. I thank God you are still here to tell your story and I hate they didn't give your mom the help she so desperately needed at the time until she literally fought for it. We have a very long way to go here....I just hope it comes sooner rather than later ❤
Do you come from a religious background like Gabby? Psychosis is demonically induced. Like Gabby, your mom opened demonic doors and needs deliverance in Jesus Christ.
@Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life I have been so blessed to gain a new perspective on people from what I've learned through these interviews.👍😊
@Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life Oh, thank you, honey. I'm used to a lot of negative comments because I usually defend others or disagree about God and prayer. I'm a believer.✝️
As a clinical psychologist ( In Australia ) this is a horrendous example of why psychiatry gets a bad name. It is unthinkable to Section someone [ use your powers to detain ] unless they are completely unintelligible, have a history of violence and unaccompanied by a responsible person. The drugs they imposed are FULL on - Haldol is a first generation psychiatric, so is pretty raw and rough - hard to provide a differential diagnosis when someone is in a Haldol haze. This poor woman is the victim of system abuse.
Good on you for speaking up ,but the psychiatry industry is appaling,there's no auditing of the industry. Good people like yourself will get drowned out by big pharma and there shills. I presume you heard of the experiment done in the 70s,phycologists went into hospitals as patients and acted ill .there's was uproar over it. Thank you for being one of the good ones .
@@shannonperez9816 This incident does NOT define America. There are crooks and evil people everywhere in the world. You cannot generalize it and say this is how it works in USA.
Incalculable numbers of us never get therapy get the wrong emergency care and end up muddling through and in my case the aha moment came late and we were effectively influencing another generation with negative mental disorders.😕
I’m not a doctor but I do play one on the internet. As an internet doctor, I can attest to the fact that this poor lady is a victim of a very broken system.
I've never heard anyone say "psychosis victim". But that's really what it is. I have experienced psychosis and felt very ashamed of my actions and beliefs during that time. I was paranoid about cameras and "them" watching me, too, among many other things. It has been something I have been embarrassed about and destroyed my relationship, but the reality is it was totally out of my control. I was very delusional and was even hallucinating. Like Gabby, I didn't think I was psychotic, I just thought I "knew" and everyone else didn't. Sometimes people don't see mental illness as an illness like they do a physical one. They often see it as something people can control or something a part of their character. The way it's phrased has really helped me, and hearing Gabby talk about her experience has really helped, too, so thank you!
@@BeingBetteryou literally made me realize that my first year after having my first son this is exactly what I had I couldn't understand it I didn't know what to do . 😢. Thank you for making this video. Your husband is amazing ! He is amazing!
I had post partum psychosis. The lavender oil she’s putting on her arm gave me a flashback. Wowowowowow! I also used lavender oil/lemon oil to try and pull myself out of my constant panic attacks. It’s so scary to go through! You are so strong momma!
@@dubyabalthazar4598 Um what part of this tells you he is disgusted by her? You think he would stay for 12 years if he was so disgusted and resented her? He clearly loves her and wants her to be better and is advocating for people like her to get the help they need. I think you need to take a look at yourself if you see this as disgust
exactly!! And the interviewer keeps trying to get him to say he was thinking to bale on the marriage which was pretty tasteless. Just because a spouse has mental illness doesn't mean you would automatically leave them.
I lost my gorgeous and sweet 24 year old daughter almost a year ago to her schizophrenia. 3 years she fought. I’m heartbroken every single day. I have so many beautiful signs and dreams of her so I believe she is free from that psychosis. It’s so hard to get help. You both told your story so well. Keep sharing your story and share your details on what psychosis feels like. It is hard to ground someone.
I'm sorry, honey. You're not alone. My friend's son was schizophrenic. She thought he could have suffered a closed head injury. He wouldn't cooperate in getting help. Ended up killing himself. I don't know how you mothers stay strong after such a deeply painful trauma.
My sister just had her first psychotic break. She's 23. She had to go stay in the mental ward of the hospital for a few weeks, didn't take her meds when she got out, so now she's back in there. I'm worried for her.
@@eternal_nomad I'm sorry, honey. I hope she'll continue with therapy. She needs that plus the right meds. If her meds aren't right she may refuse to take them. Prayers for you and your sister.🙏❤️
Being baker acted is an absolutely horrific experience. My heart goes out to these sweet souls and all the others that have had to endure the US psych system.
“We are all a lot closer to loosing it than we think…” The way he describes it a the 41 minute mark…and what an amazing human being to help her and become such an expert on her mental health advocacy
Her anxiety is palpable. I feel so much for her. I suffer from severe anxiety and depression and have been in psychosis before. I think it would beneficial for her husband to not use words or phrases like "crazy" or "before she cracked". I wish them all the best
I thought the exact same thing - although it does seem that it isn't did in a derogatory way and he appears to be the type of person who would be amenable to adjusting his vocabulary. What a lovely, supportive couple
I had untreated PPP and it was HELL! I'd hear my newborn crying when I'd get in the shower.I'd hear voices. I'd have to check, check and triple check to see that she was still breathing and SO many more symptoms. I was also caring for my 2 year old very active son and my 5 year old son. I had zero support from my husband or anyone at the time (1988). I'm just so thankful that I was able to dig in hard and get through it. Though I don't really know HOW I did. I wish this couple the best!
I had the same experience. I would hear babies crying through the walls of my house from our neighbors house. (No babies live over there.) my husband found me rocking in bed staring at my sleeping son. I kept saying “I hear crying babies…. I hear crying babies…” I would sob while awake and when I would finally get to sleep I would have nightmares where my baby would die in horrific ways. It was awful. But it was our first baby so we had no idea. Thankfully I had help from some of our friends who saw me struggling and stepped in, came over and helped me with the baby so I could rest and help my brain to reset. It took me months but I got back to me. It’s such a scary and isolating feeling and needs to be talked about more. 💙
This happened to me. My first birth led to PPD, the second time it blew up into psychosis. I’d wake up for feedings and see my baby decapitated in his bassinet. I screamed hysterically and woke my husband and he blamed it on lack of sleep. This hallucination happened twice. On Another instance my husband woke up in the middle of the night to find me looking out the window. And I told him there was an alien in our neighbor’s backyard. He thought I was being playful and making jokes. Then I saw an alien creature in my daughter’s closet while I was putting up her clothes and screamed and ran. We didn’t think it was a psychological issue, we always thought I was just too overwhelmed. Then I started having suicidal thoughts and I was convinced I had to Kill myself before my children grew up so they wouldn’t be able to remember me and it would hurt less. That’s when I finally got treatment. I was in hospital for a week.
That’s so scary to think how vulnerable you were against your own mind and how real these things were to you at the time. I couldn’t imagine what you went through.
You are incredibly strong for fighting with such delusions and getting help in the end. I was just wondering, did the symptoms like that or simillar ever come back? Are you able to live your life normally right now? Sorry if it is too much to ask. I hope that you and your family do well in the future!
I'm a psychiatric nurse x 19 years. Gabby is probably taking anti psychotic medications. She appears to have some facial tics. Eps is not uncommon. Side effects from medication. Cogentin is a great medication to prevent side effects from anti psychotic meds that can become permanent if not treated. Please check with your doctor. Take care and bless you both. So beautiful to see your love and understanding of each other. Prayers.
Tardive dyskinesia. A side effect that can become permanent. But if the meds help maintain her mental health, we must accept the tics, etc. Signs of survival!
The tics she displays reminds me of an onset of Tourette's Syndrome, which can come from Basal Ganglion inflammation (thinks Pandas with kids). It would also explain the psychosis episode. Strep Infection which makes it way to the brain.
She also states that she isn't taking any meds currently. When she is speaking about taking the methylated version of the B Vitamin, seems she has been checked out for MTHFR gene mutation and has that also.
The way Sam talks about mental health and how close we are to snap is said so beautifully. He has a voice that is so non judgmental and kind! You both have things to say and could educate millions.
What a lovely couple. His kindness and love of his wife is so apparent and gentle. How blessed she is. Her gentle nature and love for him is also apparent-and she work to find recovery is so awesome. And thank God, they were willing to put in the work. Their comments on the mental health system is so accurate. It’s so difficult to navigate and not enough people who can truly take the time diagnose and work through the treatment. I will say-the words of “unhinged” “crazy” “not right” -they give me a feeling of labeling. Mental health is so so hard because it’s not visible. We see someone with a broken arm, everyone helps and supports. Someone with a psychosis (or any mental illness), not visible ; people react to what the person says and if the ill person says someone cruel, people react to that mean comment. Thank you, Mark, for doing these interviews and to show us so many sides of life. Wishing the very best to this couple. Gabby and Sam, what a charming couple and pray he is able to continue to stay the course in their marriage. Each offers such kindness and insight in to their journey of mental health.
I had no idea this existed. We’ve all heard of postpartum depression but this is so different and scary. I have so much appreciation and respect for her being able to tell her story so honestly.
@@stefaniamalatesta8076 same, though I remember her husband defending her after, despite his heartbreak and taking steps to ensure the safety of the surviving child(ren?). Then their story faded from the news cycle and we all moved on, no wiser about the possibility of this disorder happening to someone we know.
@@TraitorHater haha. Nice. Love how compassionate and helpful people are on YT. Maybe the original comment was off, because this short interview doesn’t give us enough information to say he’s a good guy or a dingleberry. Anyway, I hope they get through this and live their best life.
I get that she is struggling mentally but so is he... He needs the same support as well. I can tell he isn't doing well just by how he was talking about the situation.
It is clear how nice he is, but I apreciate how sweet she is as well. She has an illness, she is not defined by it, it is just a part of her story. Wish them nothing but happiness.
Yeah just to watch her facial expressions and moving around I sense her stress. Looks like she found a great guy. I struggle with mental illness everyday and most people laugh and point. I can work myself into a fit and like I said, most people just laugh. All the laughing does is isolate you more.
@@2vcrew782 if you think that's a great guy you are mistaken. He is controlling and manipulative. She's nervous about the interview and keeps reaching out to him but he won't comfort her . He said basically when he doesn't like her behavior he "shuts down" and treats her "like a child" . Does that sound right to you?
@@vickiegveg Well, when she's having a delusion it seems as if he has to speak to her like a child to talk it out. I get the impression he's been put thru the wringer because of her postpartum psychosis. Not even 15 minutes in though so I will have to see when I watch it thru.
@@vickiegveg yes I am VERY disturbed with his behavior. This is not a good partner, it’s a control freak situation. We will be the minority in this but I’m seeing some emotional abuse here. Especially as he put he through this again after their first baby. If she spends so much time in and out of these episodes, does she even really consent to more kids? Should she?
@@2vcrew782 People can be so cruel. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Your feelings are valid. I hope help is available and that you're coping whatever that looks like to you. Wishing you all the best. ♡
I went through all of this and worse with the health care system when my adult son had his 1st psychotic break and manic episode in Dec 2020. It was so exhausting and terrifying to see him completely change and to have them gaslight me and other family members the whole way through. My son has still not made it through and his dads side of the family continues to struggle ignore reality. I did tons of educating myself and now take all the best supplements I can to ensure my mental health never suffers in that way. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is raw honesty at it's finest and how brave of them to share their story. They both seem like extraordinary people who have the rare ability to love at all cost and to self reflect to the deepest parts no matter how painful it may be. Hats off to them both!!
As a clinical social worker, I stopped my job doing diagnostic assessments because all we did was take the individual's information to make a diagnosis. I wholeheartedly agree that we need more information from those close to the individual to make an accurate diagnosis!!!
It is so hard to find a way to really and truly help people in the helping professions. The entire system has been so colonized and distorted and is so far removed from every-day reality. Everything is just checking boxes and filling out forms and numbers on a page.
Absolutely! My son went through Psychosis a year ago and was treated like a prisoner/criminal while in the E.R alone, he was put on a 51/50 hold and we(the family, his parents) were not allowed to see him or talk to him or even ask for info about him. It was terrible, I’d cry all day and all night cause I was so worried about him. Everything that they wanted to know they’d ask him all while he was mentally unstable.
@@jackiecjcas9413 this keeps many from ever seeking help. When the help can potentially make a situation much worse. Especially for the patients family and support system.
Thank you for interviewing them and posting this. It's so important. I had (undiagnosed) postpartum psychosis; it came on three days after the birth of my second baby while I was still in the hospital recovering from a c-section. After having several panic attacks, I asked not to be sent home (I was scared something very bad would happen.) After speaking to a social worker ("Do you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby?"x10), the head nurse came in and told me that she couldn't hold me in the hospital just because I was having panic attacks. She then lectured me and my family for 15 minutes on ways to stop feeling "inadequate." My mom knew that the mental health institute was an absolute joke in the USA. She knew I would be separated from my baby, which was the last thing I needed. She coached me into appearing normal until we could leave. For the following 6 months, my mom and husband kept up a 24/hour surveillance on me and the baby. They talked me through my delusions and held me while I wailed and screamed in despair. It was one long nightmare that I only have intermittent memories of. It's been two years, and I've recovered. But I still get rare panic attacks, and I suspect there's some trauma that will one day need to be addressed.
Gabby is such a beautiful, intelligent woman. I have heard of Postpartum Psychosis but the way Gabby described her experience was such an eye opener. Her bravery and willingness to share her story with the world is so inspiring. I adore this couple so much! The love these two share is beautiful. Going through something so terrible can easily tear a couple apart but this experience has clearly made them stronger as a team.
This. Story. Needed. To. Be. Told. I suffered from this and my episodes just kept escalating to infancide and suicide. It was rough. I am so glad I got the appropriate help and support and love from my spouse. Thank you Mark!
My wife actually went through PPP with both of our kids. We found a specialist at UNC hospital in Chapel Hill, NC. They have an entire inpatient unit for new mothers suffering from post partum mental health issues.
I don't know what I would have done. It's heartbreaking. Like he said he'd have to let her just talk and not let it affect him because it's part of her illness. What a blessing he can guide her when she's wanting to do something extreme. Bet that's helped them all.❤️
BEST INTERVIEW EVER!!! So brave! I had postpartum 20 years ago. I can relate to Sooo much! Our mental health system sucks! I feel like I could write so much in respite this video. I feel connected to both of you after listening to your story. Thank you, Mark, for doing this!!!!
She was so uncomfortable. I wished he'd touch or put his arm around her. But kudos to her for toughing it out and remaining coherent and composed through the interview. Amazing.
Her husband is so amazing and precious. This story is rocking my world right now because my single mom went through this. No one (her or any doctors) described her experience as postpartum psychosis. I didn't know this existed till today. Their story is putting together so many puzzle pieces for me and bring in so much more sympathy and understanding for what mom went through.
I'm so worried I'll go through this due to already experiencing psychosis fairly often. I'm pregnant and my partner is the opposite of supportive I'm just so scares
@@carly582 That sounds like a scary situation for sure. Do you have friends or family you can talk to about it? Even if you don't want to let them know about the psychosis (though I recommend you do if it's safe to do so; it'll help them help you), you can just say you're feeling anxious and stressed about the new baby and possibly get some assistance.
i love the way they describe the PPP. If she wants to be an advocate, shes well on her way! kudos to both of them. what a difficult experience to share and articulate
He is too! Mental health affects the whole family. Usually they can give a better understanding of what's really going on. They need support ad much as anyone!
I am the mother who cares for child who is bi-polar 1 with psychosis that lasted for over a year and then was diagnosed with schizophrenia. As a caretaker I understand all to well what the husband in this video goes through (literally, felt this on a different level) . By far caring for someone who battles their own brain everyday has been one of the most challenging things I have ever faced. fighting for my daughter has been super hard. The lack of mental health assistance and the availability in facilities that can help, is so bad. Till this day I have no idea how I managed to get us to the stable place we're in today. Despite the everyday hardships, somehow someway we get through, and for this I am super grateful.
this is absolutely amazing.. as someone with bipolar 1 disorder it’s amazing seeing how well he described the process and actions of mania, how it works, the wording energy, normality, coming down, rising back up, the mania lasting for weeks, I live how you understand how it’s a part of her and she can’t control it, such a rare love and strength to be able to handle this
These two very clearly love each other deeply, I'm glad they have each other. Thank you for bringing awareness to post-partum mental illness. I experienced just a fraction of what Gabby did with antepartum & post-partum anxiety & depression & it was terrifying. 5yrs later I'm still recovering. She is so strong & inspiring.
The level of support her husband has for her is so amazing. Most would have packed it up and quit by now. They seem like true soul mates and are lucky to have each other. Also so glad to see someone advocating for natural supplements IN ADDITION to pharmaceuticals. A lot of people with mental illness would greatly benefit from the same!
My husband and I recently went through an extremely difficult situation right after the birth of our daughter. My husband had a psychotic break 3 weeks after our daughter was born and left me and our children. He had never been treated in the past correctly or found someone that truly cared until he started seeing a NP of mental health. We were separated for awhile and a lot of things happened that were very painful during my husband’s manic phase. We are back together now and working on recovery and rebuilding. Thank you for sharing, God bless you all.
videos like these are SO IMPORTANT!! i've never heard of this before, this is not something you hear about often, imagine how many women went undiagnosed just because people aren't properly educated on it. my heart is breaking for them, imagine how scary it must've been! such a lovely couple, too, i wish them nothing but the best!! ❤️
This helped me realize my grandmother suffered from psychosis. She had many children, and had almost the same exact characteristics. Shed tell me people were following us while we were out driving etc... in 2020 she unfortunately took her life. I wish our family knew more about mental health because I think shed still be here. It's amazing to see a family not knowing about mental health stepping in and doing what they can. My family did the opposite and resulted in sadness and we lost such an amazing person.
I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and it is pretty managed now after years of hard work. I have been TERRIFIED to have babies because of this reason. Thank you for bringing this to attention. You two are SO strong.
Stay strong! 15 years ago I was also diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I've worked so hard on it that now they say I don't qualify for the diagnosis anymore. Personality disorder are VERY hard to change but it's not impossible!
Same! I’m 26 and have decided I don’t want to have children but for many reasons but I’m still glad to hear them speaking about this! Even tho I’ve had really great experiences w/ psychiatrists & medication & therapy so I worry ppl looking in on this from the outside might stigmatize that further- I’m glad she found something that work for her personally 🤷♀️
@@chronicalIyoffline I still do but I think adopting foster kids would be better for me. I think if people stigmatize this further, they are not educated and it is their problem.
@@stefaniamalatesta8076 adopting is great. Adopting from foster care is so hard on you mentally and emotionally. I just finished my adoption after 3 years of them dragging feet. It's alot. And foster care is 100% designed for reunification with families. You will be subjected to rigorous background, physical and mental searches. Fingerprints for fed and state. You will be given children and become attached and have them go back to homes that aren't very good. They tell us the parents have to function at about 40% fosters have to be 150%. House spotless, random checks, service hours, home inspections, rules and regulations. If you can handle it it's a beautiful thing but at 3 years I was ready to fall apart under all the stress. We finally got our boy adopted and we are done with it. I really admire those who can handle doing it for years and years because it is tremendously hard. Sorry to be a bummer-just want to paint a very realistic picture.
How fortunate she was to have to an advocate! So many women are at the mercy of the pay to play broken medical system. Strong couple! Blessings for a bright and healthy future!
Having someone on your side can help you personally but that doesn't ensure you'll get the help you need. I tried for at least 15 years but wasn't properly diagnosed until a suicide attempt landed me in the mental hospital. But Still, you Don't Give Up!!! You Keep Fighting! You may get knocked down. You regain your strength and keep moving forward!
As a licensed therapist, whose worked in an adolescent inpatient facility, there is a lot of truth to what they are talking about. This couple is absolutely correct about the importance of self care. I have with several families and have processed the ways to make lifestyle changes to support healthy mindset.
Today, 10/30/2024, this video popped up on fb and I listened as I drove home for 17 minutes. Once home and settled and ready to watch the remainder, it disappeared and I had to come to YT to find it. This was so educational and so glad Gabby and Sam came to you, Mark, to share this vital information!
I teared up at the part when they yanked her baby out of her hands and seeing how emotional she got about it! I'm a mom and JUST the thought of something like that happening to me made me shake. This is absolutely horrible and it doesn't take so much thinking to know that this is extremely harmful
@@jojobee42 there are hundred ways they can keep the baby safe while making sure not to inflect major trauma and causing further harm to the already vulnerable patient or their loved ones, similar to the program she mentioned in the UK.
Imagine those who don’t have a trustworthy tolerant husband and family, they’d just lose custody. React, get defensive and just never get out. God bless these people around her who see her worth and unconditionally love her. Plus she’s adorable, cute, loving and sweet, and she expresses her emotions so well. Beautiful humans, their kids will be proud.
While I agree, that Sam is definitely a stand up guy and a truly dedicated husband, I find it weird that, as a society, we have gotten so used to spouses just leaving when ever shit gets hard, that this comment section is full of admiration for how much HE has gone through- rather than Gabby. (Which isn't to say he hasn't been dealt a very difficult, almost equally debilitating hand...or to take away from how much he has gone through) but....idk, just seems like we are recognizing his struggle more than hers. Was just something I noticed.
I believe it’s more of a struggle when you see someone so close to you go through things you can’t see. Then their kids are involved it’s even more scary. That’s why I believe it’s so highlighted.
Society has learned to expect very little from males. When they do something average they are put on a pedestal. Even when they are simply being a father to their child, or doing the dishes, they are admired for doing the bare minimum because a lot don’t.
She was going to struggle no matter what. The divorce rate is so high, you really don’t see many men like this, especially on this channel- we see so many women abused by their pimps/ baby daddies, I’m not surprised by all the praise he’s getting
This is an unbelievable story and experience that no one should ever have to repeat. Doctors are resourceful but not always willing to listen and help. I had to diagnose myself because I couldn’t get anywhere with any doctor. I know my brother in law is bipolar. Family is supportive but extremely exhausted from the mood swings. The most difficult part of being in a family with someone who already has mental health issues is that when I knew I was in the trenches of suffering with my own mental health my own husband didn’t want to help me. That my issues were fabricated. It hurts and I’m happy to see this lovely couple pushing through. It’s not easy.
When someone is in psychosis you can't make them believe that what they're thinking isn't real. My wife experienced this so I can verify that what they're saying is 100% accurate.
Agree. The more you ask “what’s wrong” or “you’re just making this up” the deeper that person feels you’re trying to attack them or discredit what they’re thinking
@@truthhurts2094 Exactly. I work in a psychiatric hospital and thats something I have to remind myself of often. You can't talk out a delusion, that's what makes it a delusion. It's like trying to convince someone the sky isn't blue. They won't believe you and ultimately just push you away. It's better to just talk to them.
It’s such a shame, her fidgeting and facial expressions serve as scars of the ordeal. I hope they’re both doing well. So refreshing seeing a couple actually remaining together through such challenges, rather than separating at the drop of a hat. In my situation I was (still am) the one suffering with declining mental health. Wife didn’t stick around.
I love this couple’s attitude. As a guy around this guy’s age, I would love to have him as a friend. The fact that he has stuck with this for so long and really seems to be in for the long haul. The woman has clearly been through the mill with all her emotions and the fact that they are having some stability through this all is encouraging. Prayers to you both and your family. God bless, and thanks for sharing.
I’m so impressed by this couple and by her especially. Our society punishes women for not being picture perfect after giving birth. I suffered from horrible postpartum depression after my son was born, I really wasn’t the same for what felt like 10 years and to be honest I really never was the same, that experience changes you as a person. I commend her for the courage to speak on her experience, to take her health and healing into her own hands. Thank you for speaking on your experiences and I’m so glad you two have each other.
that is so traumatising the way Gabbi was treated like a criminal. Bless you both , mental illness awareness, particularly psychotic mental illness, is so so so important xxx
I'm so glad people are willing to speak on this. My sister went through this on her 3rd child when he was 11/m. It was a really dangerous situation for a few weeks. My 90yr Grandfather was depleted in vitamin B's. He was diagnosed with dementia, but I knew that wasn't accurate. I found new doctors. Once he began vitamin B injections, he began to return to normal. It was mind blowing.
And yet, there's no better health care system available to the masses on earth. You have it so much better than anyone in Europe, that's for sure. Far better than Canada. Most of Asia. Probably nearly all of Africa. Fix the problems, but don't say US health care is "absurdly inadequate," when most of the world wishes they had what you have.
@@SnowMonkeyCantSing what you typed makes ZERO sense. in most other countries you don't go into debt from an ambulance ride/hospital visit. there are good doctors everywhere, not just the US.
This means a lot to me to see people finding their way through this very difficult mental health landscape. My mother suffered with very bad depression many times and my father had to act in a similar way to Sam here, and unfortunately my younger brother has experienced a big psychotic breakdown more recently so I’ve witnessed and been a carer in this situation myself now. It is very very hard on everyone, but this helps so much to hear everything you said. Sending love 🫶🏼
So refreshing to hear someone actually dig into the impact proper nutrition can have on health, including mental health. Naturopaths are incredible! This was a great story with sage advice. Thank you all for surfacing this content for the world.
Wow this guy is a hero, no doubt she would be living under a bridge with out support - she is also amazing and intelligent being able to self diagnose she has saved her own life.
My heart goes out to these two. I have a two year old and had bad postpartum anxiety and depression and most people don’t understand having a baby permanently changes your brain forever. I couldn’t imagine how hard it was for them to open up about this
These are two of the most intelligent, down-to-earth earth people I have ever seen on RUclips. Gabby and Sam, thank you for sharing your very personal struggle with this disorder. Even though I know your goal is to raise awareness and help others, it still took a ton of courage for you. Sam, the way you have stuck with Gabby through the worst of her illness is a remarkably testimony to what is means to love a woman in marriage. And the comment you made about taking care of our brains was so simple and yet so profoundly true! Gabby, the effort you have put into researching this illness and finding your own best treatment is amazing. I am so proud of you for learning what your brain needed to manage your symptoms and following through with that treatment. I applaud you, my friend. Thank you for caring enough about others to use social media as a platform for such an honorable cause. Very, very well done to both of you. May God bless you and your family richly.
I had a friend go through this exact thing, such a scary time for her, its not talked about enough, people are quick to jump to "their crazy" or "cant handle motherhood." Thank you for raising awareness on this topic!
Shout-out to Sam for sticking around and studying up on her illness. My gf had bad anxiety/depression when we first got together and I had NO idea about mental illness. It's tough to watch someone you love go through that and your utterly lost on what to do.
Kudos to you for sticking around. I've never had anyone to do so. So I commend the ones that do. People forget that we don't want to be this way (Anxiety/Bipolar/PTSD).. studying the illness is always advised. We also appreciate the effort.
The fact that psychiatrists refused to help her is appalling. I’ve been hospitalised for mental health before and it’s really scary and I totally understand the shame and guilt you feel after getting out. It’s awful. I got so sad thinking about people who didn’t have supportive families because I couldn’t imagine not having my own husband and parents who cared about me and my well-being. I hope this couple continue to stay strong and take each day as it comes. 💕
i see these breakdowns as awakenings when a woman has a realization how fragile the world is and how dependent we are on things that may be being held together by a string and totally feeling like wtf am i gonna do if this all falls apart and now i have a baby to raise. we are animals and been taken away from our true nature. very scary indeed.
@@PacificNorthwestEquestrianwell the first wrong thing is if you're having a psychotic break - you think fuck emergency room for help! But that's a fallacy- and a testament to how shitty mental health services suck here
This is one of the best videos I’ve seen. I can say I feel significantly less alone and like one day I will find someone who understands and accepts me. Being in a relationship with someone who is mentally ill can be extremely difficult and taxing to the less mentally ill. And if you’re the severely mentally ill with someone that doesn’t understand or know how to manage it can really hurt us more than we already are. Seeing this dynamic is absolutely beautiful. I’m 26 and it gives me a sense of hope to see this because sometimes it really feels like we are completely unlovable ❤
Her: "We were in heaven or something... Maybe Narnia." Me: I love this woman. All jokes aside, commending these two for being willing to come forth to share their story. Thanks as always, Mark, for filming and photographing. Absolutely insightful.
This has to be my favorite interview you have ever done. Gabby and Sam are remarkable and a match made in heaven. Thank you two wonderful folks for opening up about your lives.
Low grade criminal. Truest thing I've ever heard. I grew up the same way. Had never had to deal with mental illness. My momma died after a short illness.The night of her funeral, I went to take a bath to relax. There was a belt laying on the floor, and without even thinking about it, I picked it up. Wrapped it around my neck and choked myself unconscious. And that began my 17 year long battle with mental illness. I was hospitalized 4 times in the beginning at 3 different hospitals and they all treated the patients like we were animals except one. Thankfully I found a great doctor. I would rather due than to EVER be thrown in that hell again
I recently suffered a TIA and ended up being diagnosed with disassociate disorder (dpdr), and crippling anxiety. My husband is my rock and continues to be! His love is patient and kind and relentless… 19 years in! I love you two!
he seems fairly supportive, but at the same time uses VERY abelist language and refers to "crazy people" multiple times. It's clear he loves her and everything, and it's great he's still around, but my god, he could educate himself on what he says and how he refers to people with mental illness...
Great interview. I had psychosis hit me out of nowhere at age 42. I was insane for 6 months. The hospital let me out 3 times during it in terrible shape. Luckily medication helped me alot. I stay on meds because I'm terrified of it happening again. No 1 can truly understand unless they've been through it or watched someone they love go through it. Best wishes to this couple.
I went psychotic in 2016, and her explanation of what it's like gives me chills. It was exactly like that. I believed my uncle was trying to murder me, roast my dogs, and assault my son sexually. I believed my parents were hiding my kids under their staircase. I tried to kill him. It's hard to imagine myself doing that, but I truly believed my delusions and hallucinations.
She reminds me of my own mother. As a 23 y/o and 1 of 3 kids it's extremely helpful to hear their experiences. My mother has been sectioned 7 times over three years. Its extremely painful to see someone you love go through so much pain but you are very lucky to have such a loving, patient and caring husband who will stick by you through some of the most difficult experiences you may ever have. Wish you both well
Psychosis and mania in general is incredible to me. My sister had an episode of psychosis this year and it was like nothing I’ve ever seen. She’s a plant mom, she loves her plants and spends hundreds on them, but we came home to her throwing her potted plants at the walls. I didn’t even know she was strong enough to throw some of them. Thankfully, I was the only person in our family who she believed was an angel where as everyone else, my mom, my other sister, all her friends, were devils, so I was able to convince her to go to the emergency room and eventually, after 3 days of mania at home, to be admitted to in patient care. She was in patient for only a week. I really relate and appreciate her husband here, who seems to be an extremely helpful and loving person. I can’t imagine how scary and difficult is would be to be a victim of psychosis, but I do know how hard it is to be their family/loved one. Love seeing these two and their love, and I love this channel always!
It is terrible you are a great person for tripping to help her no matter what just try and keep a calm voice with her I have psychosis and anyone raising their voice at me makes me lose my shit if I’m having an episode
This happened to a friend of my wife and it's super scary to see firsthand. She went from just being a normal girl to totally out of her mind in a day. She got better eventually, but was never the same again.
Great and encouraging information. I too have a spouse with mental health illness and appreciated Sam's comment about shutting down during manic episodes in order to protect himself as well as Gabby. I can so relate! Take care and best wishes for you and your family!!
It’s so beautiful that she has a partner that tried to understand her illness instead of just leaving her behind. What a beautiful relationship and what a resilient woman.
I agree this is what happened to me after the birth of my son and was diagnosed with bi polar it’s was scary and my husband had no problems leaving me so yes tremendous respect for this man👏
@@rhondaobermiller7245 I'm so sorry. What a weak excuse for a person. I hope you're doing better and that you have a ton of support
@@rhondaobermiller7245 im so sorry he left you. It would be so good to know a person well enough to trust that if anything happens to you your partner would be there. I dont think its possible to guarentee another persons actions. But it is possible to ask yourself if YOU could stay with some who develops any mental or physical diseases. It took me along time to understand the importance of this.
Blessings to you.
He's adorable. So ready to tell their story.
Amen to that!!
You can see the suffering in her facial expressions. I love how she instinctively grabs and reaches for him when she’s uncomfortable. And he is her rock. And his respect for her never seemed to waiver. I hope they’re still married.
I would think they are since this was shot yesterday.
@@superruca they talk like they are, I just didn’t notice a wedding ring on either of their fingers.
@@Acke1975 hmmm.... you're right.
Friends of mine... wonderful couple. Yes they're still married. :-)
@@Acke1975 every married couple doesn’t choose to wear rings. I’ve not worn my band/ring in about 6 years because it’s too much on my hand and gets in the way of things.
The level of safeness they’ve created for each other is refreshing & admirable.
This. 100%. 💜
She is now a burden to him and gets away with nit taking care of kids, its a hard freakin job, and many now just don't want to do it!
@@chiefswife1212 Does your negativity come from depression or bitterness? I’m genuinely interested.
Why don’t you believe them? Do you not believe that psychosis actually exists? Your comment fascinates me!
The most happy & content older adults that I’ve known in my life have loved & truly, deeply cherished their partners & children. Responsibility & loyalty are the opposite of “burdens” for some people. We are really, “All different”…
Human nature interests me. That’s why I watch this channel & that’s why I’m asking you questions! 😊
@@chiefswife1212 if she was such a burden he would have left a long time ago. he's to be admired...he obviously cares very deeply and has made a commitment
@@chiefswife1212 she has a very serious illness. If she had cancer, would you expect her husband to leave her? Come on, stop promoting the stigma.
His parents did an amazing job raising this man! Watching them together is the sweetest thing I've seen in a long time!
I was in a relationship for 5 years and I was an emotional sponge for my partner and after 5 years of it I was destroyed by it. I needed therapy to get over it.. took two years before I felt like myself. Im not sure how he does it... I suspect one day he wont be able to take it anymore.
@@AlistairBalister yeah I was thinking the same thing. I mean he's strong & everything but most people have their breaking point. There may come a day when HE needs to be the one to feel as if he has a safety net & to just let go & not feel so much pressure to be the responsible one for a change. People take for granted the amount of strength it takes to carry a relationship like this for YEARS! But I wish them all the luck in the world. Hopefully their children won't suffer the same issues.
@@AlistairBalistertheir case is very different. They are a family and she is suffering because of how hard pregnancy and birth of their babies was for her.
He does have her, and they LOVE each other.
Amen to that, and I am only a quarter of the way through video! Good people, both of them.
“What it takes for you to lose that ability is a lot less than you think... We are all this close to losing it.” That is such a true statement.
Yes. I went through this and I was ine day my happy normal self. Full functioning mom and friend amd wife and active community member and next day I was searching for a gun to kill myself and threatening to leave my family. Snap of a finger.
I started having seizures and acted delusional with zero memory. We are all close to losing it.
Her smile when they were introduced as married made my heart melt. Gabby is so emotionally intelligent and well spoken. She's an amazing role model and advocate for the mentally ill, especially women. Sam is so supportive and protective of his wife. He's so empathetic. Instead of blaming her or getting angry at her, he tried to understand her instead. I'm so happy they have each other.
Gabby is an advocate for EVERYONE. It really hit hard when her and her husband declared how little it actually takes for our brain to bifurcate into something bigger than our ordinary self. this actual line that separates our brain is not so far off for ‘normal’ people, maybe even more so for folks with levels of high intelligence. Gabby could be any one of us and that what is important to realize here. We keep pinning the ‘picture of mental health’ on everything else around us like politics, drug addicts, gop policies, etc and skipping right over our own selves & those around us.
But he did not smile after she said that..Are you happily married..he just looked non pluses.
What?!
@@bridgetmonica31 I see deep pain and grief in his expression. He has learned to mask it.
@@heidiweinert3260 same, it seems we might be alone in our assessment.
These two are amazing. I’m a therapist and I want everyone to understand how well spoken she is about this and how important her honesty and advocacy are! Love to them both.
he also offers some important insights for spouses of people who experience psychosis.
What do you think about her reaching to him for comfort by touch and he dismissed her?
@@terafief7466 You know, that bothered me at first too. My guess is that he's nervous about being on camera - who wouldn't be? You can see how stiff his body language is in the beginning of the video, and the fear and uncertainty is written all over his face. After all of the shit they've been through so far, I would be surprised if he felt any other way coming into an interview like this.
So I can imagine that he came in uncertain of how the interview was going to go, and also thinking about the millions of people who would watch the interview, and also all of the brutal RUclips comments that would likely follow... and he probably wanted to appear as "strong" and "tough" and "masculine" as possible - both in response to the pressures of societal toxic masculinity, and perhaps in response to the feelings of helplessness that their situation probably evokes. And in Western society, being a "tough, strong man" generally means not being touchy-feely or having feelings or showing gentleness or care, etc. since any sort of softness like that is considered weakness. It's a hell of a weight to live under, this sick and distorted idea of masculinity that our culture hammers into our heads.
Life is full of these missed bids for connection for all sorts of reasons, even between devoted partners. After I thought about it this way, Sam's ignoring of his wife's reach for comfort bothered me a bit less.
Just my 2 cents.
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The fact that the first word he uses to describe the situation was "insane" didn't make you think maybe she's not really the problem?
She’s so lucky to have him. I went through a 8 month psychosis. I got kicked out of my house because I was “insane”. No one tried to understand what was going on or trying to help. I ended up going to a psych ward. My psych ward experience was different in a good way. A year and a half later, I’m stable and living on my own with social services. Family still thinks I’m insane. This proves that there are still good people out there.
So very sorry to hear this...
In case you haven't heard it lately, I'm proud of you!
So sorry you had to go through that. What a nightmare!!!! Bless your heart. I wish you the very best and so much joy. ❤
@sherrylewis3947.....I hope you are doing well! I am SO sorry your family doesn't help you! (( hugs ))
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My mom had Postpartum Psychosis. She didn’t want/love me. Thought I was a demon and tried to kill me many times. Luckily my dad took me at 4mo and I didn’t see her again until I was about 16. She had 3 other kids that she never had an issue with them. Thanks for bringing more awareness to this issue. It effects every woman differently.
I'm so sorry that happened to you! Love and Good Wishes from Alabama ~ 💜
I hope you can understand that ur mom would have loved u like a normal mother if not for the psychosis
Mine as well. Went from healthy to treating me like a doll, not recognizing reality any longer. Misdiagnosed over and over. Electro shocked several times. Home, back in the hospital, home until one day she saved up enough of the meds they were giving her in the Mental Ward the hospital in Iowa where we lived, and she overdosed. My father sued the hospital. Was front page news for awhile.... but lost, as hospitals have more money and lawyers than my father.
Regardless, from the beginning it was all poor psychiatric advice that led her down the road to ultimately commit suicide.
@@lmla46 so tragic and the loss in court too.
My mom as well. Simply psychotic!! Not everyone on this planet needs to be br**ding! -thank god for gays
In 1983, Two weeks after I had my first son and became extremely agoraphobic, paranoid, depressed. I saw monsters and felt like I was levitating off of the bed. I would see stars passing by me when I was in bed. I told my specialist ob-gyn right away and he said “Post partum depression Mrs Karp. You will be fine!” By this time, I was thinking of taking my life. I didn’t want to die, but I couldn’t live this way anymore.
Praise God, the pediatrician noticed what was wrong, immediately put me on meds, saw me twice a week for three years, and I became a new person. I am so grateful! I went on to have 4 more children and never had a problem again.
So glad you got that help. Its sad that the baby doctors seem to understand moms more than the ob-gyns
So very happy you received help....and from the pediatrician at that!! This shows that in the USA, there is no real care for moms with post partum mental health issues, only a very dedicated few and thank God this pediatrician was that one rare, special person!! So happy to hear you are doing great after therapy and meds!! Take care ❤💎👑
@@kjr281 Amen!👏👏👏
wow thats wild!
@@kjr281 gods not real
She was at the same ward I was when I had a psychotic episode last year. I’m so sorry she had to go to that horrible place. I’m so happy she got help though!
I love your ASMR! It helped me get through some horrible health anxiety last week.
@@Robin-uu6eg I can’t express to you how much that means to me. Thank you so much. I’m constantly convincing myself I’m not good enough, so knowing I can help even a bit means more than you know. Just know you’ve helped me immensely too!
@@KarunaSatoriASMR aww! Karuna! You are amazing! You have done so much for so many people. We are all in this together. I was literally on the couch last week shivering from a panic attack convinced I had breast cancer. I turned on one of your videos, and I just followed along with your instructions on bringing my anxiety down. It helped me get some sleep.
Omg!!! @Karuna Satori ASMR Your recent monotone video unlocked brand new tingles for me!! You’re amazing and really appreciate your videos!! You’re one of the only creators that still give me so many tingles!
@@KarunaSatoriASMR trust me your very talentless only lonely overweight 40 year olds watch you
This man… made me cry. Gave me hope there are real man like this in this world still. Loyal, stable, strong, wise. The lady is also a beautiful soul. When she smiles she looks so sweet and she’s so smart and strong. I love them! Moved me deeply.
I couldn’t have put it any better. The love they have for each other shone through more and more as they grew more comfortable in front of the cameras. They are two beautiful souls and we can all learn so much from them. I wish them so much love! ❤
I was in a relationship for 5 years and I was an emotional sponge for my partner and after 5 years of it I was destroyed by it. I needed therapy to get over it.. took two years before I felt like myself. Im not sure how he does it... I suspect one day he wont be able to take it anymore.
I pray one day to find my someone. 💕✨
I feel the same about them as most of the commentors here,, however I am concerned (at thus poin at 40:36) that there's no mention of concern fir their children having to see all if this. How do they get their 'first 5' needs met?? Anyone consider they might be better off somewhere else, in a stable home?
And let’s remember this was not her fault. She didn’t choose it, it chose her.
Everyone is talking about how amazing he is, & they’re right-he IS an incredible guy. He is the epitome of a real man-loyal, empathetic, loving, & strong.
But we also need to talk about how incredible she is. It takes a lot of strength to know how sick you are, & to keep striding forward, determined to get better.
They are both extraordinary people & I wish them all the peace & happiness in the 🌎.
You can also praise her efforts without bring him up at all
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So true. I EXPECT strength in women. She is amazing.
@@alzychoze6591 People are people. There are some scandalous females, just as there are males.
Mark,
Your desire to show multiple types of mental illnesses is applauded by me!
I have seen Moms in stores, neighbors etc... that are obviously suffering. It's important for us to just pay attention and help, even in small ways, like in the store!
I once saw a Mom with a newborn and a toddler in McDonald's. She was struggling to manage getting the food,dealing with the carrier and a temperamental 2yr old. Her face told the story of complete exhaustion and depression!
I stepped out of the back of the line and told her to get seated and I'd bring the food to them. That small gesture wasn't much yet we all noticed her appreciation though she could barely say Thank You...
We have to pay attention to our overwhelmed Mothers.
Best wishes from Aiken South Carolina
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Damn thts so sweet bless uppp
And your gesture of kindness was duly noted. I'm sure she will never forget your help that day, what a beautiful soul you are ❤👑👑
@@amberadams2935 thx Amber!
@@pambeforethestorm9784 thx Pam!
I’ve seen postpartum psychosis with my own eyes as an inpatient psychiatric nurse. So frightening and so very sad. Most of these women had no issues and then have a baby and become psychotic. It’s truly a biochemical issue that requires inpatient care for safety and medication. I can’t imagine how frightening it is for the mom and her family…. My heart broke for these new moms and their families. Empathy, compassion, respect, and education is so important.
I admire this couple….true love 🙏🏻🌟
Please see my story in the comments above and PLEASE advocate to have those mothers medically screened for organic causes of psychosis such as thyroid disfunction. You could save so many lives.
They need no meds ... she needs clean food ... organ meats , fermented foods , nutritional yeast ect .. all of our disease is caused by food and medication and terrible advice .. the human body is the healer ... and it can't heal if we handicap it
I had prenatal and postpartum depression 35 years ago. No one understands what was happening to me finally I went to a psychiatrist. She said I was depressed. I was surprised because I had planned her. I was terrified of hurting her by accident. It was hell please be aware these woman need help immediately.
The stigma around this is pretty high as well. NOBODY talks about it until your in it. I had a friend go through this and she actually was sent to a mental hospital. Then women are supposed to be these perfect mother figures in society. It makes it hard to even talk about it openly within the community.
So, are you in agreement that patients are not able to explain normally what inwrong with them without a family member with them?
This was seriously such an interesting one. Psychosis in general is so taboo. It’s like a wild acid trip. Her knowledge and awareness of her disorder is amazing. Her detailed explanation of the thought process was so well articulated for listeners who don’t understand. It’s like she’s studied herself over time. Kudos to the husband as well for being so open & just as invested in understanding. Would love more of these types of videos or just mental illness in general!
Agree! I already just know her explanation of such a scary thing (for so many women/parents) is going to help so many. ❤️
My mother had postpartum psychosis, she tried to kill me and then she had to fight to get herself committed to hospital. This was in the 1980s and it’s sad not much has changed since then. Thank you for speaking up on this channel. This is not talked about enough.
You are absolutely right, the mental health system put in place here in the US is deplorable. I thank God you are still here to tell your story and I hate they didn't give your mom the help she so desperately needed at the time until she literally fought for it. We have a very long way to go here....I just hope it comes sooner rather than later ❤
Do you come from a religious background like Gabby? Psychosis is demonically induced. Like Gabby, your mom opened demonic doors and needs deliverance in Jesus Christ.
@@pambeforethestorm9784 Well said.👍
@Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life I have been so blessed to gain a new perspective on people from what I've learned through these interviews.👍😊
@Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life Oh, thank you, honey. I'm used to a lot of negative comments because I usually defend others or disagree about God and prayer. I'm a believer.✝️
Very interesting story. Postpartum psychosis is so rarely talked about and this puts real faces to it. Thank you both for bringing more awareness.
It's rare! I've been a psych nurse inpatient on/off for ten years and have never seen it
I thought it was pretty rare too. Then she said 1/1000 births. I looked it up because wow. She's right. One number was 1/500.
Me as a nurs i have seen it ones in 19 years
As a clinical psychologist ( In Australia ) this is a horrendous example of why psychiatry gets a bad name. It is unthinkable to Section someone [ use your powers to detain ] unless they are completely unintelligible, have a history of violence and unaccompanied by a responsible person. The drugs they imposed are FULL on - Haldol is a first generation psychiatric, so is pretty raw and rough - hard to provide a differential diagnosis when someone is in a Haldol haze. This poor woman is the victim of system abuse.
Good on you for speaking up ,but the psychiatry industry is appaling,there's no auditing of the industry. Good people like yourself will get drowned out by big pharma and there shills.
I presume you heard of the experiment done in the 70s,phycologists went into hospitals as patients and acted ill .there's was uproar over it.
Thank you for being one of the good ones .
Welcome to Real America💔
@@shannonperez9816 This incident does NOT define America. There are crooks and evil people everywhere in the world. You cannot generalize it and say this is how it works in USA.
Incalculable numbers of us never get therapy get the wrong emergency care and end up muddling through and in my case the aha moment came late and we were effectively influencing another generation with negative mental disorders.😕
I’m not a doctor but I do play one on the internet. As an internet doctor, I can attest to the fact that this poor lady is a victim of a very broken system.
I've never heard anyone say "psychosis victim". But that's really what it is. I have experienced psychosis and felt very ashamed of my actions and beliefs during that time. I was paranoid about cameras and "them" watching me, too, among many other things. It has been something I have been embarrassed about and destroyed my relationship, but the reality is it was totally out of my control. I was very delusional and was even hallucinating. Like Gabby, I didn't think I was psychotic, I just thought I "knew" and everyone else didn't. Sometimes people don't see mental illness as an illness like they do a physical one. They often see it as something people can control or something a part of their character. The way it's phrased has really helped me, and hearing Gabby talk about her experience has really helped, too, so thank you!
Thanks I'm so glad my story could help you in any way.
@@BeingBetteryou literally made me realize that my first year after having my first son this is exactly what I had I couldn't understand it I didn't know what to do . 😢. Thank you for making this video. Your husband is amazing ! He is amazing!
I had post partum psychosis. The lavender oil she’s putting on her arm gave me a flashback. Wowowowowow! I also used lavender oil/lemon oil to try and pull myself out of my constant panic attacks. It’s so scary to go through! You are so strong momma!
I had it too! No one really talks about it. They really should. This was great!
I literally have lavender growing . I'm not alone.
Who cares
@@westcoastbred7745 you apparently
@@westcoastbred7745 I do & obviously I'm not the only one!!!! Wth is wrong with u? Why are u even here if ur just gonna be rude like that?
This guy really meant his vows. Good on him. I feel for them both so much.
@Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life If the table was turned, many women would have run away.
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Eh...to me he looks at her with disgust and revulsion and resentment. I feel bad for her.
@@dubyabalthazar4598 Um what part of this tells you he is disgusted by her? You think he would stay for 12 years if he was so disgusted and resented her? He clearly loves her and wants her to be better and is advocating for people like her to get the help they need. I think you need to take a look at yourself if you see this as disgust
exactly!! And the interviewer keeps trying to get him to say he was thinking to bale on the marriage which was pretty tasteless. Just because a spouse has mental illness doesn't mean you would automatically leave them.
I lost my gorgeous and sweet 24 year old daughter almost a year ago to her schizophrenia. 3 years she fought. I’m heartbroken every single day. I have so many beautiful signs and dreams of her so I believe she is free from that psychosis.
It’s so hard to get help. You both told your story so well. Keep sharing your story and share your details on what psychosis feels like. It is hard to ground someone.
I'm so sorry 💔 My brother is schizophrenic /manic depressive and I worry about this every single day. Hugs *
I'm sorry, honey. You're not alone. My friend's son was schizophrenic. She thought he could have suffered a closed head injury. He wouldn't cooperate in getting help. Ended up killing himself. I don't know how you mothers stay strong after such a deeply painful trauma.
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My sister just had her first psychotic break. She's 23. She had to go stay in the mental ward of the hospital for a few weeks, didn't take her meds when she got out, so now she's back in there. I'm worried for her.
@@eternal_nomad I'm sorry, honey. I hope she'll continue with therapy. She needs that plus the right meds. If her meds aren't right she may refuse to take them. Prayers for you and your sister.🙏❤️
Being baker acted is an absolutely horrific experience. My heart goes out to these sweet souls and all the others that have had to endure the US psych system.
Having a partner who sticks with you through ups and downs, especially in terms of mental health is so so important. I’m glad you two have eachother.
WORD!
Sam is such an amazing patient man you can tell he truly loves her, he’s always validating her feelings.
She's lucky to have him.
“We are all a lot closer to loosing it than we think…” The way he describes it a the 41 minute mark…and what an amazing human being to help her and become such an expert on her mental health advocacy
Her anxiety is palpable. I feel so much for her. I suffer from severe anxiety and depression and have been in psychosis before. I think it would beneficial for her husband to not use words or phrases like "crazy" or "before she cracked". I wish them all the best
I fully agree
I know right, it was painful for me to watch at times because of this - I’m sure he probably does not mean to sound that way but yea, tricky :s !
And "unhinged" !!
was waiting to see this comment as i scrolled, it bothered me to hear those words when referring to mental illness
I thought the exact same thing - although it does seem that it isn't did in a derogatory way and he appears to be the type of person who would be amenable to adjusting his vocabulary. What a lovely, supportive couple
I had untreated PPP and it was HELL! I'd hear my newborn crying when I'd get in the shower.I'd hear voices. I'd have to check, check and triple check to see that she was still breathing and SO many more symptoms. I was also caring for my 2 year old very active son and my 5 year old son. I had zero support from my husband or anyone at the time (1988). I'm just so thankful that I was able to dig in hard and get through it. Though I don't really know HOW I did.
I wish this couple the best!
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you are so strong ❤️
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I'm so sorry that happened. I hope you are doing well now
I had the same experience. I would hear babies crying through the walls of my house from our neighbors house. (No babies live over there.) my husband found me rocking in bed staring at my sleeping son. I kept saying “I hear crying babies…. I hear crying babies…” I would sob while awake and when I would finally get to sleep I would have nightmares where my baby would die in horrific ways. It was awful. But it was our first baby so we had no idea. Thankfully I had help from some of our friends who saw me struggling and stepped in, came over and helped me with the baby so I could rest and help my brain to reset. It took me months but I got back to me. It’s such a scary and isolating feeling and needs to be talked about more. 💙
Sam is the husband I aspire to be, what an absolute amazing spouse
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Awwwe that’s precious
We need more men like this!
Me too, I aspire to be a loving partner that is there no matter what :)
And what a beautiful thing to say on your park ❤
This happened to me. My first birth led to PPD, the second time it blew up into psychosis. I’d wake up for feedings and see my baby decapitated in his bassinet. I screamed hysterically and woke my husband and he blamed it on lack of sleep. This hallucination happened twice. On Another instance my husband woke up in the middle of the night to find me looking out the window. And I told him there was an alien in our neighbor’s backyard. He thought I was being playful and making jokes. Then I saw an alien creature in my daughter’s closet while I was putting up her clothes and screamed and ran. We didn’t think it was a psychological issue, we always thought I was just too overwhelmed. Then I started having suicidal thoughts and I was convinced I had to Kill myself before my children grew up so they wouldn’t be able to remember me and it would hurt less. That’s when I finally got treatment. I was in hospital for a week.
That’s so scary to think how vulnerable you were against your own mind and how real these things were to you at the time. I couldn’t imagine what you went through.
You are incredibly strong for fighting with such delusions and getting help in the end. I was just wondering, did the symptoms like that or simillar ever come back? Are you able to live your life normally right now? Sorry if it is too much to ask. I hope that you and your family do well in the future!
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I read every word. May U heal ....asap🌿❤️🌿
I’m so sorry that that has happened to you. I hope you’ve found peace and happiness.
I'm a psychiatric nurse x 19 years. Gabby is probably taking anti psychotic medications. She appears to have some facial tics. Eps is not uncommon. Side effects from medication. Cogentin is a great medication to prevent side effects from anti psychotic meds that can become permanent if not treated. Please check with your doctor. Take care and bless you both. So beautiful to see your love and understanding of each other. Prayers.
I noticed this too
Tardive dyskinesia. A side effect that can become permanent. But if the meds help maintain her mental health, we must accept the tics, etc. Signs of survival!
@@pmfmpls tardiness dyskinesia is preventable with cogentin.
The tics she displays reminds me of an onset of Tourette's Syndrome, which can come from Basal Ganglion inflammation (thinks Pandas with kids). It would also explain the psychosis episode. Strep Infection which makes it way to the brain.
She also states that she isn't taking any meds currently. When she is speaking about taking the methylated version of the B Vitamin, seems she has been checked out for MTHFR gene mutation and has that also.
The way Sam talks about mental health and how close we are to snap is said so beautifully. He has a voice that is so non judgmental and kind! You both have things to say and could educate millions.
AMEN 🙏 THANKS VERY WELL SPOKEN
What a lovely couple. His kindness and love of his wife is so apparent and gentle. How blessed she is. Her gentle nature and love for him is also apparent-and she work to find recovery is so awesome. And thank God, they were willing to put in the work.
Their comments on the mental health system is so accurate. It’s so difficult to navigate and not enough people who can truly take the time diagnose and work through the treatment. I will say-the words of “unhinged” “crazy” “not right” -they give me a feeling of labeling. Mental health is so so hard because it’s not visible. We see someone with a broken arm, everyone helps and supports. Someone with a psychosis (or any mental illness), not visible ; people react to what the person says and if the ill person says someone cruel, people react to that mean comment.
Thank you, Mark, for doing these interviews and to show us so many sides of life. Wishing the very best to this couple. Gabby and Sam, what a charming couple and pray he is able to continue to stay the course in their marriage. Each offers such kindness and insight in to their journey of mental health.
I had no idea this existed. We’ve all heard of postpartum depression but this is so different and scary. I have so much appreciation and respect for her being able to tell her story so honestly.
I thought everyone had head of Andrea Yeats. that case was really famous.
@@gjh9299 I was familiar with Andrea Yates, but never knew what was the cause of her situation.
@@stefaniamalatesta8076 same, though I remember her husband defending her after, despite his heartbreak and taking steps to ensure the safety of the surviving child(ren?). Then their story faded from the news cycle and we all moved on, no wiser about the possibility of this disorder happening to someone we know.
@@WonderingWildWanderingRose I watched things about the case after it was mentioned here, the husband did defend her. So sad.
I just love Gabby. Her energy is amazing, I could watch her for hours. She needs to be a public speaker and tell her story.
Gabby here. Thank you so very much.
@@BeingBetterwhy can't i find your youtube?
bless men like him who have insurmountable patience and understanding and bless her for staying so strong ♡ thank you for this channel.
he's eyeing the door and is not okay at all
@@TraitorHater You don't know the Full story! This comment is Not helping Gabby!!!
@@TraitorHater haha. Nice. Love how compassionate and helpful people are on YT. Maybe the original comment was off, because this short interview doesn’t give us enough information to say he’s a good guy or a dingleberry. Anyway, I hope they get through this and live their best life.
@@TraitorHater I noticed his body language and facial expressions, too. He’s definitely been struggling
I get that she is struggling mentally but so is he... He needs the same support as well. I can tell he isn't doing well just by how he was talking about the situation.
It is clear how nice he is, but I apreciate how sweet she is as well. She has an illness, she is not defined by it, it is just a part of her story. Wish them nothing but happiness.
Yeah just to watch her facial expressions and moving around I sense her stress. Looks like she found a great guy. I struggle with mental illness everyday and most people laugh and point. I can work myself into a fit and like I said, most people just laugh. All the laughing does is isolate you more.
@@2vcrew782 if you think that's a great guy you are mistaken. He is controlling and manipulative. She's nervous about the interview and keeps reaching out to him but he won't comfort her . He said basically when he doesn't like her behavior he "shuts down" and treats her "like a child" . Does that sound right to you?
@@vickiegveg Well, when she's having a delusion it seems as if he has to speak to her like a child to talk it out. I get the impression he's been put thru the wringer because of her postpartum psychosis. Not even 15 minutes in though so I will have to see when I watch it thru.
@@vickiegveg yes I am VERY disturbed with his behavior. This is not a good partner, it’s a control freak situation. We will be the minority in this but I’m seeing some emotional abuse here. Especially as he put he through this again after their first baby. If she spends so much time in and out of these episodes, does she even really consent to more kids? Should she?
@@2vcrew782 People can be so cruel. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Your feelings are valid. I hope help is available and that you're coping whatever that looks like to you. Wishing you all the best. ♡
This is so good. As a therapist I’m always looking for well done, honest, relatable resources and this hits the mark totally.
I went through all of this and worse with the health care system when my adult son had his 1st psychotic break and manic episode in Dec 2020. It was so exhausting and terrifying to see him completely change and to have them gaslight me and other family members the whole way through. My son has still not made it through and his dads side of the family continues to struggle ignore reality. I did tons of educating myself and now take all the best supplements I can to ensure my mental health never suffers in that way. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is raw honesty at it's finest and how brave of them to share their story. They both seem like extraordinary people who have the rare ability to love at all cost and to self reflect to the deepest parts no matter how painful it may be. Hats off to them both!!
As a clinical social worker, I stopped my job doing diagnostic assessments because all we did was take the individual's information to make a diagnosis. I wholeheartedly agree that we need more information from those close to the individual to make an accurate diagnosis!!!
It is so hard to find a way to really and truly help people in the helping professions. The entire system has been so colonized and distorted and is so far removed from every-day reality. Everything is just checking boxes and filling out forms and numbers on a page.
Absolutely! My son went through Psychosis a year ago and was treated like a prisoner/criminal while in the E.R alone, he was put on a 51/50 hold and we(the family, his parents) were not allowed to see him or talk to him or even ask for info about him. It was terrible, I’d cry all day and all night cause I was so worried about him. Everything that they wanted to know they’d ask him all while he was mentally unstable.
@@jackiecjcas9413 this keeps many from ever seeking help. When the help can potentially make a situation much worse. Especially for the patients family and support system.
Thank you for interviewing them and posting this. It's so important. I had (undiagnosed) postpartum psychosis; it came on three days after the birth of my second baby while I was still in the hospital recovering from a c-section. After having several panic attacks, I asked not to be sent home (I was scared something very bad would happen.) After speaking to a social worker ("Do you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby?"x10), the head nurse came in and told me that she couldn't hold me in the hospital just because I was having panic attacks. She then lectured me and my family for 15 minutes on ways to stop feeling "inadequate."
My mom knew that the mental health institute was an absolute joke in the USA. She knew I would be separated from my baby, which was the last thing I needed. She coached me into appearing normal until we could leave. For the following 6 months, my mom and husband kept up a 24/hour surveillance on me and the baby. They talked me through my delusions and held me while I wailed and screamed in despair. It was one long nightmare that I only have intermittent memories of.
It's been two years, and I've recovered. But I still get rare panic attacks, and I suspect there's some trauma that will one day need to be addressed.
Thanks for sharing this. I'm glad your family could help you through this, and you didn't have to be separated from your baby.
I have watched for a second time andarvel at what a wonderful man he is. His strength , his understanding, his empathy - this husband /father is GOLD
Gabby is such a beautiful, intelligent woman. I have heard of Postpartum Psychosis but the way Gabby described her experience was such an eye opener. Her bravery and willingness to share her story with the world is so inspiring. I adore this couple so much! The love these two share is beautiful. Going through something so terrible can easily tear a couple apart but this experience has clearly made them stronger as a team.
This. Story. Needed. To. Be. Told. I suffered from this and my episodes just kept escalating to infancide and suicide. It was rough. I am so glad I got the appropriate help and support and love from my spouse. Thank you Mark!
Sam is an example of what husbands should strive to be. God bless you both.
Men should think for themselves and not take him as an example of a knight in shining armor. He said no mental illness runs in his family of 10.
Maybe so, but TWICE in the first minute she tried to hold his hand or put her arm around him , and he ignored it. That says a lot to me
A man that sees you go throw extreme experience after childbirth then decides another child is in order?
@@rhonni1624 He is absolutely miserable and not okay
Yes. He Didn't quit! He hung in there to get her help And he educated himself.👍👏👏👏
There are very few women advocating for women with postpartum psychosis and “I want to be one of them”. She’s really inspiring, they both are ❤️
go off your kid psycho
My wife actually went through PPP with both of our kids. We found a specialist at UNC hospital in Chapel Hill, NC. They have an entire inpatient unit for new mothers suffering from post partum mental health issues.
Thank you for stepping up and getting your wife the right kind of help!
Good to know. I live in NC.
I wish more hospitals had a unit like that.
God bless this man. To be by her side and through all of this is truly amazing. I know SO many people who would have up and cut, said it’s too much.
I don't know what I would have done. It's heartbreaking. Like he said he'd have to let her just talk and not let it affect him because it's part of her illness. What a blessing he can guide her when she's wanting to do something extreme. Bet that's helped them all.❤️
BEST INTERVIEW EVER!!! So brave! I had postpartum 20 years ago. I can relate to Sooo much! Our mental health system sucks! I feel like I could write so much in respite this video. I feel connected to both of you after listening to your story. Thank you, Mark, for doing this!!!!
She was so uncomfortable. I wished he'd touch or put his arm around her. But kudos to her for toughing it out and remaining coherent and composed through the interview. Amazing.
I felt she really needed his physical touch😢
@@DebBunker yes ,the only missing thing!
Her husband is so amazing and precious. This story is rocking my world right now because my single mom went through this. No one (her or any doctors) described her experience as postpartum psychosis. I didn't know this existed till today. Their story is putting together so many puzzle pieces for me and bring in so much more sympathy and understanding for what mom went through.
I'm so worried I'll go through this due to already experiencing psychosis fairly often. I'm pregnant and my partner is the opposite of supportive I'm just so scares
@@carly582 im so sorry!! do you have anyone to talk to?
@@carly582 That sounds like a scary situation for sure. Do you have friends or family you can talk to about it? Even if you don't want to let them know about the psychosis (though I recommend you do if it's safe to do so; it'll help them help you), you can just say you're feeling anxious and stressed about the new baby and possibly get some assistance.
@@eepinwillow oh yes I've got a therapist and a big family and friends thank God
i love the way they describe the PPP. If she wants to be an advocate, shes well on her way! kudos to both of them. what a difficult experience to share and articulate
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He is too! Mental health affects the whole family. Usually they can give a better understanding of what's really going on. They need support ad much as anyone!
I am the mother who cares for child who is bi-polar 1 with psychosis that lasted for over a year and then was diagnosed with schizophrenia. As a caretaker I understand all to well what the husband in this video goes through (literally, felt this on a different level) . By far caring for someone who battles their own brain everyday has been one of the most challenging things I have ever faced. fighting for my daughter has been super hard. The lack of mental health assistance and the availability in facilities that can help, is so bad. Till this day I have no idea how I managed to get us to the stable place we're in today. Despite the everyday hardships, somehow someway we get through, and for this I am super grateful.
Her facial expressions are heartbreaking.
There’s a Netflix documentary on children with bipolar.
this is absolutely amazing.. as someone with bipolar 1 disorder it’s amazing seeing how well he described the process and actions of mania, how it works, the wording energy, normality, coming down, rising back up, the mania lasting for weeks, I live how you understand how it’s a part of her and she can’t control it, such a rare love and strength to be able to handle this
As a retired psych nurse, I’m admiring Gabby’s self advocacy and strength. You’re doing it right. God bless you both ❤️
Gabby and Sam need to write a book with their story and how they overcame this and helped themselves……so many people could benefit from this….❤️🙏🏼
These two very clearly love each other deeply, I'm glad they have each other. Thank you for bringing awareness to post-partum mental illness. I experienced just a fraction of what Gabby did with antepartum & post-partum anxiety & depression & it was terrifying. 5yrs later I'm still recovering. She is so strong & inspiring.
The level of support her husband has for her is so amazing. Most would have packed it up and quit by now. They seem like true soul mates and are lucky to have each other. Also so glad to see someone advocating for natural supplements IN ADDITION to pharmaceuticals. A lot of people with mental illness would greatly benefit from the same!
My husband and I recently went through an extremely difficult situation right after the birth of our daughter. My husband had a psychotic break 3 weeks after our daughter was born and left me and our children. He had never been treated in the past correctly or found someone that truly cared until he started seeing a NP of mental health. We were separated for awhile and a lot of things happened that were very painful during my husband’s manic phase. We are back together now and working on recovery and rebuilding. Thank you for sharing, God bless you all.
Thank you for upholding your vows to your husband and loving him through his suffering, which can be so scary for a family.
videos like these are SO IMPORTANT!! i've never heard of this before, this is not something you hear about often, imagine how many women went undiagnosed just because people aren't properly educated on it. my heart is breaking for them, imagine how scary it must've been! such a lovely couple, too, i wish them nothing but the best!! ❤️
You have to search up the Andrea Yates, story. She too had PPP and the mental health system did her a disservice.
@@kyllie1234 Heartbreaking.😢💔
This helped me realize my grandmother suffered from psychosis. She had many children, and had almost the same exact characteristics. Shed tell me people were following us while we were out driving etc... in 2020 she unfortunately took her life. I wish our family knew more about mental health because I think shed still be here. It's amazing to see a family not knowing about mental health stepping in and doing what they can. My family did the opposite and resulted in sadness and we lost such an amazing person.
How understanding and patient Sam is with Gabby is amazing!
I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and it is pretty managed now after years of hard work. I have been TERRIFIED to have babies because of this reason. Thank you for bringing this to attention. You two are SO strong.
Stay strong! 15 years ago I was also diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I've worked so hard on it that now they say I don't qualify for the diagnosis anymore. Personality disorder are VERY hard to change but it's not impossible!
Same! I’m 26 and have decided I don’t want to have children but for many reasons but I’m still glad to hear them speaking about this! Even tho I’ve had really great experiences w/ psychiatrists & medication & therapy so I worry ppl looking in on this from the outside might stigmatize that further- I’m glad she found something that work for her personally 🤷♀️
@@firefly620Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you.
@@chronicalIyoffline I still do but I think adopting foster kids would be better for me. I think if people stigmatize this further, they are not educated and it is their problem.
@@stefaniamalatesta8076 adopting is great. Adopting from foster care is so hard on you mentally and emotionally. I just finished my adoption after 3 years of them dragging feet. It's alot. And foster care is 100% designed for reunification with families. You will be subjected to rigorous background, physical and mental searches. Fingerprints for fed and state. You will be given children and become attached and have them go back to homes that aren't very good. They tell us the parents have to function at about 40% fosters have to be 150%. House spotless, random checks, service hours, home inspections, rules and regulations. If you can handle it it's a beautiful thing but at 3 years I was ready to fall apart under all the stress. We finally got our boy adopted and we are done with it. I really admire those who can handle doing it for years and years because it is tremendously hard. Sorry to be a bummer-just want to paint a very realistic picture.
How fortunate she was to have to an advocate! So many women are at the mercy of the pay to play broken medical system. Strong couple! Blessings for a bright and healthy future!
Having someone on your side can help you personally but that doesn't ensure you'll get the help you need. I tried for at least 15 years but wasn't properly diagnosed until a suicide attempt landed me in the mental hospital. But Still, you Don't Give Up!!! You Keep Fighting! You may get knocked down. You regain your strength and keep moving forward!
As a licensed therapist, whose worked in an adolescent inpatient facility, there is a lot of truth to what they are talking about. This couple is absolutely correct about the importance of self care. I have with several families and have processed the ways to make lifestyle changes to support healthy mindset.
Today, 10/30/2024, this video popped up on fb and I listened as I drove home for 17 minutes.
Once home and settled and ready to watch the remainder, it disappeared and I had to come to YT to find it.
This was so educational and so glad Gabby and Sam came to you, Mark, to share this vital information!
I got chills and the biggest smile on my face hearing her saying how much of a huge triumph it was for her making it to speak to Mark. Way to go!
The journey was extremely difficult with my anxiety. But I wanted to meet Mark. I admire him very much.
@@BeingBetter I admire him as well and glad you decided to tell your story through his platform!!!!
I teared up at the part when they yanked her baby out of her hands and seeing how emotional she got about it! I'm a mom and JUST the thought of something like that happening to me made me shake. This is absolutely horrible and it doesn't take so much thinking to know that this is extremely harmful
Thank God they did though. It was for the safety for that baby.
@@jojobee42 there are hundred ways they can keep the baby safe while making sure not to inflect major trauma and causing further harm to the already vulnerable patient or their loved ones, similar to the program she mentioned in the UK.
Imagine those who don’t have a trustworthy tolerant husband and family, they’d just lose custody. React, get defensive and just never get out. God bless these people around her who see her worth and unconditionally love her. Plus she’s adorable, cute, loving and sweet, and she expresses her emotions so well. Beautiful humans, their kids will be proud.
That was her goal, don't get sucked in
While I agree, that Sam is definitely a stand up guy and a truly dedicated husband, I find it weird that, as a society, we have gotten so used to spouses just leaving when ever shit gets hard, that this comment section is full of admiration for how much HE has gone through- rather than Gabby. (Which isn't to say he hasn't been dealt a very difficult, almost equally debilitating hand...or to take away from how much he has gone through) but....idk, just seems like we are recognizing his struggle more than hers.
Was just something I noticed.
I believe it’s more of a struggle when you see someone so close to you go through things you can’t see. Then their kids are involved it’s even more scary. That’s why I believe it’s so highlighted.
Thats because she doesn't have a choice in struggling. He's choosing to struggle.
Society has learned to expect very little from males. When they do something average they are put on a pedestal. Even when they are simply being a father to their child, or doing the dishes, they are admired for doing the bare minimum because a lot don’t.
Yes!!!! Thanks for pointing this out. I noticed the same thing.
She was going to struggle no matter what. The divorce rate is so high, you really don’t see many men like this, especially on this channel- we see so many women abused by their pimps/ baby daddies, I’m not surprised by all the praise he’s getting
This is an unbelievable story and experience that no one should ever have to repeat. Doctors are resourceful but not always willing to listen and help. I had to diagnose myself because I couldn’t get anywhere with any doctor. I know my brother in law is bipolar. Family is supportive but extremely exhausted from the mood swings. The most difficult part of being in a family with someone who already has mental health issues is that when I knew I was in the trenches of suffering with my own mental health my own husband didn’t want to help me. That my issues were fabricated. It hurts and I’m happy to see this lovely couple pushing through. It’s not easy.
When someone is in psychosis you can't make them believe that what they're thinking isn't real. My wife experienced this so I can verify that what they're saying is 100% accurate.
Agree. The more you ask “what’s wrong” or “you’re just making this up” the deeper that person feels you’re trying to attack them or discredit what they’re thinking
@@truthhurts2094 Exactly. I work in a psychiatric hospital and thats something I have to remind myself of often. You can't talk out a delusion, that's what makes it a delusion. It's like trying to convince someone the sky isn't blue. They won't believe you and ultimately just push you away. It's better to just talk to them.
It’s such a shame, her fidgeting and facial expressions serve as scars of the ordeal.
I hope they’re both doing well.
So refreshing seeing a couple actually remaining together through such challenges, rather than separating at the drop of a hat.
In my situation I was (still am) the one suffering with declining mental health. Wife didn’t stick around.
Or t.d. from meds... fidgety and tics
I love this couple’s attitude. As a guy around this guy’s age, I would love to have him as a friend. The fact that he has stuck with this for so long and really seems to be in for the long haul. The woman has clearly been through the mill with all her emotions and the fact that they are having some stability through this all is encouraging. Prayers to you both and your family. God bless, and thanks for sharing.
I’m so impressed by this couple and by her especially. Our society punishes women for not being picture perfect after giving birth. I suffered from horrible postpartum depression after my son was born, I really wasn’t the same for what felt like 10 years and to be honest I really never was the same, that experience changes you as a person. I commend her for the courage to speak on her experience, to take her health and healing into her own hands. Thank you for speaking on your experiences and I’m so glad you two have each other.
that is so traumatising the way Gabbi was treated like a criminal. Bless you both , mental illness awareness, particularly psychotic mental illness, is so so so important xxx
I'm so glad people are willing to speak on this.
My sister went through this on her 3rd child when he was 11/m. It was a really dangerous situation for a few weeks.
My 90yr Grandfather was depleted in vitamin B's. He was diagnosed with dementia, but I knew that wasn't accurate. I found new doctors. Once he began vitamin B injections, he began to return to normal. It was mind blowing.
Love is powerful. I’m glad you were an advocate for your grandfather.
The health care system in the United States is absurdly inadequate. The way she used RUclips as an outlet is awesome! Best wishes to both of them ❤️
And yet, there's no better health care system available to the masses on earth. You have it so much better than anyone in Europe, that's for sure. Far better than Canada. Most of Asia. Probably nearly all of Africa. Fix the problems, but don't say US health care is "absurdly inadequate," when most of the world wishes they had what you have.
@@SnowMonkeyCantSing 😂😂😂 you have clearly never lived in Europe. Nobody envies Americans their healthcare system :)
@@SnowMonkeyCantSing what you typed makes ZERO sense. in most other countries you don't go into debt from an ambulance ride/hospital visit. there are good doctors everywhere, not just the US.
I agree 💯they are both heroes, using You Tube as an outlet..👍
@@SnowMonkeyCantSing it's not even close to better than Europe or Canada
This means a lot to me to see people finding their way through this very difficult mental health landscape. My mother suffered with very bad depression many times and my father had to act in a similar way to Sam here, and unfortunately my younger brother has experienced a big psychotic breakdown more recently so I’ve witnessed and been a carer in this situation myself now. It is very very hard on everyone, but this helps so much to hear everything you said. Sending love 🫶🏼
So refreshing to hear someone actually dig into the impact proper nutrition can have on health, including mental health. Naturopaths are incredible! This was a great story with sage advice. Thank you all for surfacing this content for the world.
Wow this guy is a hero, no doubt she would be living under a bridge with out support - she is also amazing and intelligent being able to self diagnose she has saved her own life.
Yea he's a class act. But she's DREADFUL LOL
No, that's what he'd have you believe. I know firsthand. She would not be under a bridge.
I wouldn't call him a hero, but definitely a good human. Most men would turn the other way when presented with this path in life.
@@vickiegveg So, the husband is gaslighting her, and exaggerating her condition? What is his motivation?
@@akunog3665 don’t trust woman in modern day theyre all literally crazy including Virginia Blue and her first hand experience ofc
My heart goes out to these two. I have a two year old and had bad postpartum anxiety and depression and most people don’t understand having a baby permanently changes your brain forever. I couldn’t imagine how hard it was for them to open up about this
These are two of the most intelligent, down-to-earth earth people I have ever seen on RUclips. Gabby and Sam, thank you for sharing your very personal struggle with this disorder. Even though I know your goal is to raise awareness and help others, it still took a ton of courage for you.
Sam, the way you have stuck with Gabby through the worst of her illness is a remarkably testimony to what is means to love a woman in marriage. And the comment you made about taking care of our brains was so simple and yet so profoundly true!
Gabby, the effort you have put into researching this illness and finding your own best treatment is amazing. I am so proud of you for learning what your brain needed to manage your symptoms and following through with that treatment. I applaud you, my friend. Thank you for caring enough about others to use social media as a platform for such an honorable cause.
Very, very well done to both of you. May God bless you and your family richly.
I had a friend go through this exact thing, such a scary time for her, its not talked about enough, people are quick to jump to "their crazy" or "cant handle motherhood." Thank you for raising awareness on this topic!
I had post partum pychosis and most of my family and my doctor thought I was taking drugs.
Shout-out to Sam for sticking around and studying up on her illness. My gf had bad anxiety/depression when we first got together and I had NO idea about mental illness. It's tough to watch someone you love go through that and your utterly lost on what to do.
Kudos to you for sticking around. I've never had anyone to do so. So I commend the ones that do. People forget that we don't want to be this way (Anxiety/Bipolar/PTSD).. studying the illness is always advised. We also appreciate the effort.
The fact that psychiatrists refused to help her is appalling. I’ve been hospitalised for mental health before and it’s really scary and I totally understand the shame and guilt you feel after getting out. It’s awful. I got so sad thinking about people who didn’t have supportive families because I couldn’t imagine not having my own husband and parents who cared about me and my well-being. I hope this couple continue to stay strong and take each day as it comes. 💕
I highly doubt doctors truly refused to treat her. You can't believe everything you hear.
i see these breakdowns as awakenings when a woman has a realization how fragile the world is and how dependent we are on things that may be being held together by a string and totally feeling like wtf am i gonna do if this all falls apart and now i have a baby to raise. we are animals and been taken away from our true nature. very scary indeed.
@@PacificNorthwestEquestrianwell the first wrong thing is if you're having a psychotic break - you think fuck emergency room for help! But that's a fallacy- and a testament to how shitty mental health services suck here
This is one of the best videos I’ve seen. I can say I feel significantly less alone and like one day I will find someone who understands and accepts me. Being in a relationship with someone who is mentally ill can be extremely difficult and taxing to the less mentally ill. And if you’re the severely mentally ill with someone that doesn’t understand or know how to manage it can really hurt us more than we already are. Seeing this dynamic is absolutely beautiful. I’m 26 and it gives me a sense of hope to see this because sometimes it really feels like we are completely unlovable ❤
Her: "We were in heaven or something... Maybe Narnia."
Me: I love this woman.
All jokes aside, commending these two for being willing to come forth to share their story. Thanks as always, Mark, for filming and photographing. Absolutely insightful.
I was looking for this comment 😂that cracked me up too but honestly i am so proud of both of them for being strong enough to stick together
This has to be my favorite interview you have ever done. Gabby and Sam are remarkable and a match made in heaven. Thank you two wonderful folks for opening up about your lives.
Low grade criminal. Truest thing I've ever heard. I grew up the same way. Had never had to deal with mental illness. My momma died after a short illness.The night of her funeral, I went to take a bath to relax. There was a belt laying on the floor, and without even thinking about it, I picked it up. Wrapped it around my neck and choked myself unconscious. And that began my 17 year long battle with mental illness. I was hospitalized 4 times in the beginning at 3 different hospitals and they all treated the patients like we were animals except one. Thankfully I found a great doctor. I would rather due than to EVER be thrown in that hell again
I recently suffered a TIA and ended up being diagnosed with disassociate disorder (dpdr), and crippling anxiety.
My husband is my rock and continues to be! His love is patient and kind and relentless… 19 years in! I love you two!
Gabby is such a hero. I had postpartum depression with my first son,and I thought that was bad. I can't even imagine. God Bless this couple.
Everyone needs someone like Sam in their lives
wow, that's an understatement. Most significant others would have been lut the door a long time ago.
he seems fairly supportive, but at the same time uses VERY abelist language and refers to "crazy people" multiple times. It's clear he loves her and everything, and it's great he's still around, but my god, he could educate himself on what he says and how he refers to people with mental illness...
Noticed people on here with massive underestimations of the support men will offer. Thanks for that.
I wasn't just talking about men, I was talking about literally anyone
I meant someone that genuinely just cares about someone cause not everyone has that
Great interview. I had psychosis hit me out of nowhere at age 42. I was insane for 6 months. The hospital let me out 3 times during it in terrible shape. Luckily medication helped me alot. I stay on meds because I'm terrified of it happening again. No 1 can truly understand unless they've been through it or watched someone they love go through it.
Best wishes to this couple.
I went psychotic in 2016, and her explanation of what it's like gives me chills. It was exactly like that. I believed my uncle was trying to murder me, roast my dogs, and assault my son sexually. I believed my parents were hiding my kids under their staircase. I tried to kill him. It's hard to imagine myself doing that, but I truly believed my delusions and hallucinations.
@@stephanipeloquin4631 I so empathize. Hope you are ok now.
She reminds me of my own mother. As a 23 y/o and 1 of 3 kids it's extremely helpful to hear their experiences. My mother has been sectioned 7 times over three years. Its extremely painful to see someone you love go through so much pain but you are very lucky to have such a loving, patient and caring husband who will stick by you through some of the most difficult experiences you may ever have. Wish you both well
Psychosis and mania in general is incredible to me. My sister had an episode of psychosis this year and it was like nothing I’ve ever seen. She’s a plant mom, she loves her plants and spends hundreds on them, but we came home to her throwing her potted plants at the walls. I didn’t even know she was strong enough to throw some of them. Thankfully, I was the only person in our family who she believed was an angel where as everyone else, my mom, my other sister, all her friends, were devils, so I was able to convince her to go to the emergency room and eventually, after 3 days of mania at home, to be admitted to in patient care. She was in patient for only a week. I really relate and appreciate her husband here, who seems to be an extremely helpful and loving person. I can’t imagine how scary and difficult is would be to be a victim of psychosis, but I do know how hard it is to be their family/loved one. Love seeing these two and their love, and I love this channel always!
Shout out to you for being her guiding light!! Praying that she gets the support and care she needs 🙏🏽
It is terrible you are a great person for tripping to help her no matter what just try and keep a calm voice with her I have psychosis and anyone raising their voice at me makes me lose my shit if I’m having an episode
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They're both so well-informed, proactive about understanding the problem, and getting better. So much strength and steadfastness in both of them!
This happened to a friend of my wife and it's super scary to see firsthand. She went from just being a normal girl to totally out of her mind in a day. She got better eventually, but was never the same again.
A psychotic break changes you and recovery is a hard uphill climb. You're right, you are never the same.😢💔
thanks for sharing
Great and encouraging information. I too have a spouse with mental health illness and appreciated Sam's comment about shutting down during manic episodes in order to protect himself as well as Gabby. I can so relate! Take care and best wishes for you and your family!!