Just my personal experience, but the only way to stop drinking is by finding a good, compelling reason to do so. Mine was the atrocious state of my blood readings, and my deteriorating body. Once I decided to think of alcohol as a toxin, I was able to just stop. Why I would I choose to pour poison down my throat? Without that compelling reason to stop, no amount of 'will-power' would have seen me through. By the way, I'm 73 y.o. and stopped completely over five years ago.
I’m mentally preparing myself to start this journey, and I’m very scared and nervous and crying a little as I tell you this but I think you guys have given me a lot of hope about the goodness behind quitting drinking and I hope that I can do as well as you guys have, and be strong as you guys have been Thank you for your stories
I encourage you to take that first step, and when it gets tough, just push through it. I’m 8 months sober today, and life and living w/o alcohol continues to get better day by day. Once you hit 3-6 months; you won’t ever want to look back. God bless you and your journey.
@@stephlovesanimals wow, good for you, I’m so happy for you! Life is so much more adventurous without alcohol:) Btw, I’ve been living in my travel trailer too… for a year now! It’s been the best year of my life❤️
@@davidnoonan7893 thank you very much, I really am enjoying sleep for the first time in my life it feels like. I am happy to not have shame, guilt or depression.
Relapse sucks. Just know it’s how you get back up! Your quality of life is worth it. No one can truly promise they’ll never, ever, ever drink again. One day at a time, and keep yourself around fellowships with the same agenda of sobriety. Keep a support system, and continue to be compassionate with yourself and LOVE yourself. Talk to your Higher Power, your Divine Creator (God) can help…your heart will be read and will show you want to stop, and you’ll be helped.
I'm really looking forward to this evening because it will be my 2nd night not drinking wine. I feel great today after my first night off wine. I got Allen Carr's book last December and got the insights from it but didn't finish reading it, knowing that to reach the end would set up an obligation to stop drinking. But the insights in the book changed my mind nevertheless.
I have been battling this for 5 years and trying now to give up by cutting down...my life has been pure hell on heart...cannot live like this any longer!
Yes, idle hands! Are you part of my Facebook community, Cody? If not I would love for you to join (It's free) as we often have good debates along with great sober driven discussions - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
Thank you very much. I’m three months sober and found it easy, buoyed by the euphoria of quitting, until for the first time, real cravings this week. The cravings have dented my confidence but I’m 53 and I cannot go back. This video has helped. Bless you Simon and Dave
Not really. Seek counseling if it continues past the 1st three days to a couple of weeks - and get off your keister and walk at least SOME, every day. You should be feeling better and better about yourself and the world, as well as your sense of control in it, but you'll still have ups and downs. You just have to do one thing when the low points come around: don't drink. Just try it. Waking up feeling good instead of hungover, and having energy all day is really going to grow on you!
I still haven't give up drinking yet I will tho When I've had a few goes at it , I found Camille tea helps. A few cups is like a sedative, but a good one Dunno if that helps Good luck
Thank you Emily! Well done on making the change for January! Have you checked out my books yet? If not, I think they will really help you. here is the link - bit.ly/2MjFYm1
I listened to this the other day while I was working. I’ve been a heavy drinker for many years and it’s getting to the point where it’s out of control and having medical problems. Hearing you guys talk about how good life is after quitting has given me so much inspiration. This will be the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I want it so bad. Thankful for good friends to support me and RUclips for giving me hope
I enjoyed the video. I relate to most of what you said. The one exception; I don't have a problem with the label alcoholic. To me if you can't, or don't want to drink in moderation, you are an alcoholic.
I have not mentioned alcohol on social media. This is partly because others have and I thought 'so what' . If anyone gets dismissive because of my abstention then they can't be classed as friends and never truely were . Anyone knowing I've quit has been told I'm taking a year off.. this somehow diffuses any misconception about the decision. Most drinkers wish they could cope with a year off, they just can't imagine it. This works really well as it is interpreted as a temporary and even commendable idea. I can avoid the 'life changing' conversations attached with these ultimate questions and meanwhile everyone but me loses track of time and gets used to me driving looking & behaving a bit sharper that before. It certainly feels sharper never again queuing up for rounds at £25+ a pop
Hi Nat, many thanks for your comment. Yes, you have to do what works best for you. Social media can be an excellent motivator for some but not for all. I would love for you to come back and keep me updated on your progress. Happy New Year to you!
Can i recommend interviewing a person called Pip Davidson. He has a really good story. Helps people himself on RUclips with alcohol. He has a channel called help with alcohol addiction. Would love to see you collaborate.
I know it's tricky to quit but I also feel I spent years and thousands making a rod for my own back and did nothing about it until it was so obviously the only intelligent option left prior to outright killing myself and any future , brick by ugly brick
I need deep down basics. Hour by hour of how to get it done. Tapering & what does that look like...i ache, on my knees but its the withdrawls that scare me! I simply cant afford to get help. I have to do it with the Lord & me.
The longer i go without drink the less and less I'm motivated to mention it or make any big deal about it, certainly under my real identity. I'm happier under the radar with the wider world perceiving my insignificant lifestyle choices an extension on a calorie controlled diet or the most iron clad technique to give up tobacco and # .. which it is and I have . This is how my friends and family gets the news.. it isn't really news. I'm not sure if I want any congratulations for somehow shutting down decades of habitual destructive behaviour when most of my brothers and sisters were nowhere near as weak and wilfully ignorant as I have always been
Yes, I think at the start of the journey it is such a life changing thing that it is natural to want to share progress but as sobriety continues it becomes who you are as a person. Well done on also quitting the tobacco!
Amazing to hear, Bobby! Please keep me updated with your progress. If you need any additional support, then please head over to my Facebook support community - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
Слава Богу я трезва уже 27 лет! Благодаря Иисусу Христу! Он мне помог освободиться от этой ужасной зависимости! Я радуюсь каждый день! А раньше не представляла как жить без алкоголя!😇🙏❤️
GOD has to be a big part of recovery 🙏 ❤ read Bible or listen to...there are lots of videos on youtube ❤❤❤❤ youtube is my favorite way to read/watch 😊😊❤🙏
hi why does nobody talk about how much they drink and for how long?? I was traumatised as as a child n0w 52 started of slow but since my dad died I have been driningking 3 bottles of wine a day ?? I don't want AA can I go cold turkey?? I hate the taste I know I am punishing myself and my family and my grandchildren!!! there's more !!! I should make a video
@@suhubu1 You got a point...but some of them Muslim countries ...if they got , its very underground if you get caught , they will tan your hide publicly .
Would have been nice if you normalized the audio levels. Your guest's voice is way quieter and it's annoying to have to adjust the volume constantly while listening.
Just my personal experience, but the only way to stop drinking is by finding a good, compelling reason to do so. Mine was the atrocious state of my blood readings, and my deteriorating body. Once I decided to think of alcohol as a toxin, I was able to just stop. Why I would I choose to pour poison down my throat? Without that compelling reason to stop, no amount of 'will-power' would have seen me through. By the way, I'm 73 y.o. and stopped completely over five years ago.
30 days today (Dec 10) alcohol free. Delighted to be this way.❤
Been 3 years sober and loving it , I intend to keep working at it and enjoy the rest of my life sober
I'm 29 days sober I really appreciate the small things that I'm doing that I wouldn't door if I was drinking
I'm now on day 54
2 months 2 weeks sober 3rd time after excepting it was unmanageable 😢 .1st time now thinking of 1st drink 😢😮😅😅🙏🥵🥶🙏
4 months sober
I’m mentally preparing myself to start this journey, and I’m very scared and nervous and crying a little as I tell you this but I think you guys have given me a lot of hope about the goodness behind quitting drinking and I hope that I can do as well as you guys have, and be strong as you guys have been Thank you for your stories
Hope youre doing well dude
I encourage you to take that first step, and when it gets tough, just push through it. I’m 8 months sober today, and life and living w/o alcohol continues to get better day by day. Once you hit 3-6 months; you won’t ever want to look back. God bless you and your journey.
@@davidnoonan7893 I’ve been AF for five weeks now, thank you!
@@stephlovesanimals wow, good for you, I’m so happy for you! Life is so much more adventurous without alcohol:) Btw, I’ve been living in my travel trailer too… for a year now! It’s been the best year of my life❤️
@@davidnoonan7893 thank you very much, I really am enjoying sleep for the first time in my life it feels like. I am happy to not have shame, guilt or depression.
Sober for 17 days! Your video's have helped so much. God bless you!
That's fantastic! Soon you'll be at 30 days! Keep going!
Hope you are still going good! I am at day 20 we got this. Each and everyone of us!
I really need to stop drinking . It’s not even fun anymore
How is it going now 😳 🙏 you are sober ❤
Same ere
I did 970 days. Thought I had it wrapped. Started again. Not good. Stop and do it permanently. Causes anxiety and depression for sure. Move forward.
One day at a time. you got this
Relapse sucks. Just know it’s how you get back up! Your quality of life is worth it. No one can truly promise they’ll never, ever, ever drink again. One day at a time, and keep yourself around fellowships with the same agenda of sobriety. Keep a support system, and continue to be compassionate with yourself and LOVE yourself. Talk to your Higher Power, your Divine Creator (God) can help…your heart will be read and will show you want to stop, and you’ll be helped.
I'm really looking forward to this evening because it will be my 2nd night not drinking wine. I feel great today after my first night off wine.
I got Allen Carr's book last December and got the insights from it but didn't finish reading it, knowing that to reach the end would set up an obligation to stop drinking. But the insights in the book changed my mind nevertheless.
I have been battling this for 5 years and trying now to give up by cutting down...my life has been pure hell on heart...cannot live like this any longer!
Boredom at night is the worst temptation, especially during the lockdown. Almost slipped last night, but didn't!
Yes, idle hands! Are you part of my Facebook community, Cody? If not I would love for you to join (It's free) as we often have good debates along with great sober driven discussions - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
Thank you very much. I’m three months sober and found it easy, buoyed by the euphoria of quitting, until for the first time, real cravings this week.
The cravings have dented my confidence but I’m 53 and I cannot go back. This video has helped. Bless you Simon and Dave
Thanks so much, I am pleased it helped, do keep me updated on your progress.
Thank you Simon
Keep on keeping on!
14 days sober, it's taken me a long time to get to this point but I'm so glad I finally quit.
Keep up the good work, I promise you things go from better to better
i m suffering from anxiety n negative thoughts since i quit drinking , is this normal .
That means you will die sooner
Keep drinking
Not really. Seek counseling if it continues past the 1st three days to a couple of weeks - and get off your keister and walk at least SOME, every day. You should be feeling better and better about yourself and the world, as well as your sense of control in it, but you'll still have ups and downs. You just have to do one thing when the low points come around: don't drink. Just try it. Waking up feeling good instead of hungover, and having energy all day is really going to grow on you!
I still haven't give up drinking yet
I will tho
When I've had a few goes at it , I found Camille tea helps. A few cups is like a sedative, but a good one
Dunno if that helps
Good luck
Withdraw… please visit with your local doctor to make sure you’re OK
This was great. Am doing Dry January and this is v inspirational. Thanks!
Thank you Emily! Well done on making the change for January! Have you checked out my books yet? If not, I think they will really help you. here is the link - bit.ly/2MjFYm1
I listened to this the other day while I was working. I’ve been a heavy drinker for many years and it’s getting to the point where it’s out of control and having medical problems. Hearing you guys talk about how good life is after quitting has given me so much inspiration. This will be the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I want it so bad. Thankful for good friends to support me and RUclips for giving me hope
So how's your sobriety going?
I enjoyed the video. I relate to most of what you said. The one exception; I don't have a problem with the label alcoholic. To me if you can't, or don't want to drink in moderation, you are an alcoholic.
My 2nd day. Confirmation. It is a personal relationship I have with alcohol.
I'm glad you found the video helpful. How are you doing today?
Keep up your excellent work! I love Iced Tazo Passion Tea with a few drops of Stevia in a stemware glass. YUMMY!
I have not mentioned alcohol on social media. This is partly because others have and I thought 'so what' . If anyone gets dismissive because of my abstention then they can't be classed as friends and never truely were . Anyone knowing I've quit has been told I'm taking a year off.. this somehow diffuses any misconception about the decision. Most drinkers wish they could cope with a year off, they just can't imagine it. This works really well as it is interpreted as a temporary and even commendable idea. I can avoid the 'life changing' conversations attached with these ultimate questions and meanwhile everyone but me loses track of time and gets used to me driving looking & behaving a bit sharper that before. It certainly feels sharper never again queuing up for rounds at £25+ a pop
Hi Nat, many thanks for your comment. Yes, you have to do what works best for you. Social media can be an excellent motivator for some but not for all. I would love for you to come back and keep me updated on your progress. Happy New Year to you!
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Can i recommend interviewing a person called Pip Davidson. He has a really good story. Helps people himself on RUclips with alcohol. He has a channel called help with alcohol addiction. Would love to see you collaborate.
Many thanks for your comment. I will check them out :)
Pips a good guy, brutal honesty and can laugh at his past...
@@mountaintruth1deeds533 Unfortunately he's deleted his whole channel now.
I know it's tricky to quit but I also feel I spent years and thousands making a rod for my own back and did nothing about it until it was so obviously the only intelligent option left prior to outright killing myself and any future , brick by ugly brick
Thanks for sharing your stories!
It is my pleasure, Lois :) I am glad you like them!
Day 1 --I don’t drink every day but I drink way too much when I do drink. Trying to go 5 days without
How do I stop drinking without medical help? 😩 I don't have insurance anymore any recommendations would be greatly appreciated
AA and a few benzos to get rid of the alcohol withdrawals.
I need deep down basics. Hour by hour of how to get it done. Tapering & what does that look like...i ache, on my knees but its the withdrawls that scare me! I simply cant afford to get help. I have to do it with the Lord & me.
Keep trying!
Do one less drink a day until you stop
Talk to Jesus he will go through it with you. How are you now?
20 days stopped smoking and alcohol after losing my dad
Condolences. I hope you are still doing well.
Ohhh fancy graphics 👌
Haha! Yes we went all out :)
What are some free online communities that helped you both that are not AA?
The longer i go without drink the less and less I'm motivated to mention it or make any big deal about it, certainly under my real identity. I'm happier under the radar with the wider world perceiving my insignificant lifestyle choices an extension on a calorie controlled diet or the most iron clad technique to give up tobacco and # .. which it is and I have . This is how my friends and family gets the news.. it isn't really news. I'm not sure if I want any congratulations for somehow shutting down decades of habitual destructive behaviour when most of my brothers and sisters were nowhere near as weak and wilfully ignorant as I have always been
Yes, I think at the start of the journey it is such a life changing thing that it is natural to want to share progress but as sobriety continues it becomes who you are as a person. Well done on also quitting the tobacco!
Gonna do 100 days starting Jan 2021....
Amazing to hear, Bobby! Please keep me updated with your progress. If you need any additional support, then please head over to my Facebook support community - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
@@besober I'm not on Facebook. But will deffo keep you informed on here
Bobby Lall then another 100, then another 100 ........ Yaay!!!!
@@besober I'm going good at the mo. Simon. Really not missing the booze. I'll be marching on through Feb and March...
How u getting on ?
Слава Богу я трезва уже 27 лет! Благодаря Иисусу Христу! Он мне помог освободиться от этой ужасной зависимости! Я радуюсь каждый день! А раньше не представляла как жить без алкоголя!😇🙏❤️
Your Absolutely Right. But you left GOD out of the whole journey. 😏
GOD has to be a big part of recovery 🙏 ❤ read Bible or listen to...there are lots of videos on youtube ❤❤❤❤ youtube is my favorite way to read/watch 😊😊❤🙏
I am dannymunien olso trying to give up alcohol I am try for 2 month's
ALMOST TO RELAPSE NOW FRM DURBAV I AM 60 YEARS OLD
hi why does nobody talk about how much they drink and for how long?? I was traumatised as as a child n0w 52 started of slow but since my dad died I have been driningking 3 bottles of wine a day ?? I don't want AA can I go cold turkey?? I hate the taste I know I am punishing myself and my family and my grandchildren!!! there's more !!! I should make a video
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Do we need to tell anyone?,
Hi Simon, I think it is a personal choice and something to be done as and when you feel ready. Simon
I don't think so.
UK has a notorious boozin culture .
Everyplace does!
@@suhubu1 You got a point...but some of them Muslim countries ...if they got , its very underground if you get caught , they will tan your hide publicly .
All the black privilege didn’t stop her from being forced to resign.
Would have been nice if you normalized the audio levels. Your guest's voice is way quieter and it's annoying to have to adjust the volume constantly while listening.