How I quit alcohol - with guest Sober Dave

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  • How I quit alcohol and why I stopped drinking - with special guest SoberDave the awesome Instagram sober influencer. Dave shares his story of how he was previously a heavy drinker who would consume in excess of a litre of vodka every day and then changed his life by quitting alcohol for good and inspiring other people through sharing his incredibly powerful story.
    This video was recorded live with an audience on Facebook and includes questions and answers.
    Sober Dave is prolific on Instagram in the sober community, he has an amazing story of changing his life and transforming himself from someone caught in the tight grip of alcohol addiction to being passionate about sobriety.
    This video will help anyone who wants to learn how to stop drinking and includes plenty of tips and tactics alongside information about how and where to find the very best support.
    During the live Q&A we covered the following topics:
    What is the sober community like?
    Does Instagram help people who want to stop drinking?
    Does Alcoholics Anonymous AA work?
    Am I an alcoholic?
    What was life like when you were drinking heavily?
    How did life change when you stop drinking alcohol?
    How did you quit drinking alcohol?
    How do you stay accountable when you stop drinking?
    Where do you find like minded people who are sober?
    How is your social life without alcohol?
    How do you deal with difficult feelings and emotions in sobriety?
    Do you need to use willpower when you stop drinking alcohol?
    Is it hard staying sober during lockdown?
    What is in your sober toolbox?
    How do you set boundaries when you become sober?
    How do you become able to say 'NO' when you need to do it?
    What tips would you give for social events?
    How do you not drink around people who are not drinking?
    Is there anything that could make you drink, such as a tragedy or trauma?What activities do you do instead of drinking alcohol?
    How can you become mentally tougher?
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Комментарии • 113

  • @digidol52
    @digidol52 9 месяцев назад +31

    Just starting my seventh week sober. Have been fine up to now, it's been easy but suddenly having horrible anxiety and feel desperate for a drink I'll get through it but I'm just posting this to show there's no "normal" when you quit alcohol, everyone has an individual experience.

    • @genuinsanity
      @genuinsanity 4 месяца назад +1

      Good on you feel better ? Remember ...it's all down hill after the first drink .

  • @phillipwhite4741
    @phillipwhite4741 5 месяцев назад +20

    I really need to stop drinking . It’s not even fun anymore

  • @1000sister
    @1000sister 5 месяцев назад +13

    30 days today (Dec 10) alcohol free. Delighted to be this way.❤

  • @dawnbuckler166
    @dawnbuckler166 7 месяцев назад +14

    I'm 29 days sober I really appreciate the small things that I'm doing that I wouldn't door if I was drinking

    • @dawnbuckler166
      @dawnbuckler166 6 месяцев назад +1

      I'm now on day 54

    • @suetaylor5159
      @suetaylor5159 4 месяца назад

      2 months 2 weeks sober 3rd time after excepting it was unmanageable 😢 .1st time now thinking of 1st drink 😢😮😅😅🙏🥵🥶🙏

    • @dawnbuckler166
      @dawnbuckler166 4 месяца назад

      4 months sober

  • @kevinallen6197
    @kevinallen6197 4 месяца назад +6

    I did 970 days. Thought I had it wrapped. Started again. Not good. Stop and do it permanently. Causes anxiety and depression for sure. Move forward.

    • @Buff99ca
      @Buff99ca 4 месяца назад

      One day at a time. you got this

    • @BeautifulOnes876
      @BeautifulOnes876 Месяц назад

      Relapse sucks. Just know it’s how you get back up! Your quality of life is worth it. No one can truly promise they’ll never, ever, ever drink again. One day at a time, and keep yourself around fellowships with the same agenda of sobriety. Keep a support system, and continue to be compassionate with yourself and LOVE yourself. Talk to your Higher Power, your Divine Creator (God) can help…your heart will be read and will show you want to stop, and you’ll be helped.

  • @stephsstuckinatruck
    @stephsstuckinatruck 5 месяцев назад +12

    I’m mentally preparing myself to start this journey, and I’m very scared and nervous and crying a little as I tell you this but I think you guys have given me a lot of hope about the goodness behind quitting drinking and I hope that I can do as well as you guys have, and be strong as you guys have been Thank you for your stories

    • @wotruannwah5678
      @wotruannwah5678 4 месяца назад +1

      Hope youre doing well dude

    • @davidnoonan7893
      @davidnoonan7893 3 месяца назад +2

      I encourage you to take that first step, and when it gets tough, just push through it. I’m 8 months sober today, and life and living w/o alcohol continues to get better day by day. Once you hit 3-6 months; you won’t ever want to look back. God bless you and your journey.

    • @stephsstuckinatruck
      @stephsstuckinatruck 3 месяца назад +3

      @@davidnoonan7893 I’ve been AF for five weeks now, thank you!

    • @davidnoonan7893
      @davidnoonan7893 3 месяца назад +3

      @@stephsstuckinatruck wow, good for you, I’m so happy for you! Life is so much more adventurous without alcohol:) Btw, I’ve been living in my travel trailer too… for a year now! It’s been the best year of my life❤️

    • @stephsstuckinatruck
      @stephsstuckinatruck 3 месяца назад +2

      @@davidnoonan7893 thank you very much, I really am enjoying sleep for the first time in my life it feels like. I am happy to not have shame, guilt or depression.

  • @girlinagale
    @girlinagale 3 месяца назад +4

    I'm really looking forward to this evening because it will be my 2nd night not drinking wine. I feel great today after my first night off wine.
    I got Allen Carr's book last December and got the insights from it but didn't finish reading it, knowing that to reach the end would set up an obligation to stop drinking. But the insights in the book changed my mind nevertheless.

  • @DavidBurkin-ej1oz
    @DavidBurkin-ej1oz 13 дней назад +1

    Been 3 years sober and loving it , I intend to keep working at it and enjoy the rest of my life sober

  • @heatherjohnson213
    @heatherjohnson213 3 года назад +17

    Sober for 17 days! Your video's have helped so much. God bless you!

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад +4

      That's fantastic! Soon you'll be at 30 days! Keep going!

    • @svens.2876
      @svens.2876 Год назад +3

      Hope you are still going good! I am at day 20 we got this. Each and everyone of us!

  • @codyjames9376
    @codyjames9376 3 года назад +24

    Boredom at night is the worst temptation, especially during the lockdown. Almost slipped last night, but didn't!

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад +3

      Yes, idle hands! Are you part of my Facebook community, Cody? If not I would love for you to join (It's free) as we often have good debates along with great sober driven discussions - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240

  • @margaretrichardson2005
    @margaretrichardson2005 2 года назад +4

    My 2nd day. Confirmation. It is a personal relationship I have with alcohol.

    • @besober
      @besober  2 года назад +1

      I'm glad you found the video helpful. How are you doing today?

  • @smilli6415
    @smilli6415 2 года назад +11

    i m suffering from anxiety n negative thoughts since i quit drinking , is this normal .

    • @Protogorius
      @Protogorius 8 месяцев назад

      That means you will die sooner
      Keep drinking

    • @janelliot5643
      @janelliot5643 7 месяцев назад +2

      Not really. Seek counseling if it continues past the 1st three days to a couple of weeks - and get off your keister and walk at least SOME, every day. You should be feeling better and better about yourself and the world, as well as your sense of control in it, but you'll still have ups and downs. You just have to do one thing when the low points come around: don't drink. Just try it. Waking up feeling good instead of hungover, and having energy all day is really going to grow on you!

    • @CedrickTudge
      @CedrickTudge Месяц назад

      I still haven't give up drinking yet
      I will tho
      When I've had a few goes at it , I found Camille tea helps. A few cups is like a sedative, but a good one
      Dunno if that helps
      Good luck

  • @herbiegobananas1744
    @herbiegobananas1744 2 года назад +10

    Thank you very much. I’m three months sober and found it easy, buoyed by the euphoria of quitting, until for the first time, real cravings this week.
    The cravings have dented my confidence but I’m 53 and I cannot go back. This video has helped. Bless you Simon and Dave

    • @besober
      @besober  2 года назад

      Thanks so much, I am pleased it helped, do keep me updated on your progress.

    • @herbiegobananas1744
      @herbiegobananas1744 2 года назад +1

      Thank you Simon
      Keep on keeping on!

  • @jason6360
    @jason6360 4 месяца назад +1

    I enjoyed the video. I relate to most of what you said. The one exception; I don't have a problem with the label alcoholic. To me if you can't, or don't want to drink in moderation, you are an alcoholic.

  • @PRESSPLAYRADIO
    @PRESSPLAYRADIO 3 года назад +5

    I know it's tricky to quit but I also feel I spent years and thousands making a rod for my own back and did nothing about it until it was so obviously the only intelligent option left prior to outright killing myself and any future , brick by ugly brick

  • @emilyd6722
    @emilyd6722 3 года назад +9

    This was great. Am doing Dry January and this is v inspirational. Thanks!

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад +1

      Thank you Emily! Well done on making the change for January! Have you checked out my books yet? If not, I think they will really help you. here is the link - bit.ly/2MjFYm1

  • @PRESSPLAYRADIO
    @PRESSPLAYRADIO 3 года назад +10

    I have not mentioned alcohol on social media. This is partly because others have and I thought 'so what' . If anyone gets dismissive because of my abstention then they can't be classed as friends and never truely were . Anyone knowing I've quit has been told I'm taking a year off.. this somehow diffuses any misconception about the decision. Most drinkers wish they could cope with a year off, they just can't imagine it. This works really well as it is interpreted as a temporary and even commendable idea. I can avoid the 'life changing' conversations attached with these ultimate questions and meanwhile everyone but me loses track of time and gets used to me driving looking & behaving a bit sharper that before. It certainly feels sharper never again queuing up for rounds at £25+ a pop

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад +2

      Hi Nat, many thanks for your comment. Yes, you have to do what works best for you. Social media can be an excellent motivator for some but not for all. I would love for you to come back and keep me updated on your progress. Happy New Year to you!

    • @rachelwilford9552
      @rachelwilford9552 Год назад +1

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  • @karencrecco2922
    @karencrecco2922 11 месяцев назад +1

    Keep up your excellent work! I love Iced Tazo Passion Tea with a few drops of Stevia in a stemware glass. YUMMY!

  • @Beans360
    @Beans360 3 года назад +5

    Can i recommend interviewing a person called Pip Davidson. He has a really good story. Helps people himself on RUclips with alcohol. He has a channel called help with alcohol addiction. Would love to see you collaborate.

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад

      Many thanks for your comment. I will check them out :)

    • @mountaintruth1deeds533
      @mountaintruth1deeds533 2 года назад

      Pips a good guy, brutal honesty and can laugh at his past...

    • @Beans360
      @Beans360 2 года назад +1

      @@mountaintruth1deeds533 Unfortunately he's deleted his whole channel now.

  • @loisbadey3883
    @loisbadey3883 3 года назад +3

    Thanks for sharing your stories!

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад

      It is my pleasure, Lois :) I am glad you like them!

  • @gabrielekennedy6123
    @gabrielekennedy6123 3 года назад +2

    Ohhh fancy graphics 👌

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад

      Haha! Yes we went all out :)

  • @johnh4991
    @johnh4991 10 месяцев назад +1

    How do I stop drinking without medical help? 😩 I don't have insurance anymore any recommendations would be greatly appreciated

  • @soundingthedeep1
    @soundingthedeep1 2 года назад +2

    What are some free online communities that helped you both that are not AA?

  • @barbaramcdaniel463
    @barbaramcdaniel463 Год назад +4

    Your Absolutely Right. But you left GOD out of the whole journey. 😏

    • @suetaylor5159
      @suetaylor5159 4 месяца назад

      GOD has to be a big part of recovery 🙏 ❤ read Bible or listen to...there are lots of videos on youtube ❤❤❤❤ youtube is my favorite way to read/watch 😊😊❤🙏

  • @michelerodgers1147
    @michelerodgers1147 11 месяцев назад +1

    I need deep down basics. Hour by hour of how to get it done. Tapering & what does that look like...i ache, on my knees but its the withdrawls that scare me! I simply cant afford to get help. I have to do it with the Lord & me.

  • @PRESSPLAYRADIO
    @PRESSPLAYRADIO 3 года назад +2

    The longer i go without drink the less and less I'm motivated to mention it or make any big deal about it, certainly under my real identity. I'm happier under the radar with the wider world perceiving my insignificant lifestyle choices an extension on a calorie controlled diet or the most iron clad technique to give up tobacco and # .. which it is and I have . This is how my friends and family gets the news.. it isn't really news. I'm not sure if I want any congratulations for somehow shutting down decades of habitual destructive behaviour when most of my brothers and sisters were nowhere near as weak and wilfully ignorant as I have always been

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад +1

      Yes, I think at the start of the journey it is such a life changing thing that it is natural to want to share progress but as sobriety continues it becomes who you are as a person. Well done on also quitting the tobacco!

  • @ResultsWithRepition
    @ResultsWithRepition 3 года назад +5

    Gonna do 100 days starting Jan 2021....

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад

      Amazing to hear, Bobby! Please keep me updated with your progress. If you need any additional support, then please head over to my Facebook support community - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240

    • @ResultsWithRepition
      @ResultsWithRepition 3 года назад

      @@besober I'm not on Facebook. But will deffo keep you informed on here

    • @wendycarter5718
      @wendycarter5718 3 года назад

      Bobby Lall then another 100, then another 100 ........ Yaay!!!!

    • @ResultsWithRepition
      @ResultsWithRepition 3 года назад

      @@besober I'm going good at the mo. Simon. Really not missing the booze. I'll be marching on through Feb and March...

    • @robbiewilliams8580
      @robbiewilliams8580 3 года назад

      How u getting on ?

  • @user-ox6ey8bk3b
    @user-ox6ey8bk3b 8 месяцев назад

    I am dannymunien olso trying to give up alcohol I am try for 2 month's

    • @user-ox6ey8bk3b
      @user-ox6ey8bk3b 8 месяцев назад

      ALMOST TO RELAPSE NOW FRM DURBAV I AM 60 YEARS OLD

  • @genuinsanity
    @genuinsanity 8 месяцев назад

    UK has a notorious boozin culture .

    • @suhubu1
      @suhubu1 4 месяца назад

      Everyplace does!

    • @genuinsanity
      @genuinsanity 4 месяца назад

      @@suhubu1 You got a point...but some of them Muslim countries ...if they got , its very underground if you get caught , they will tan your hide publicly .

  • @therunning-farang3656
    @therunning-farang3656 3 года назад +2

    Do we need to tell anyone?,

    • @besober
      @besober  3 года назад +2

      Hi Simon, I think it is a personal choice and something to be done as and when you feel ready. Simon

    • @codyjames9376
      @codyjames9376 3 года назад +2

      I don't think so.

  • @dystopian..
    @dystopian.. Месяц назад

    All the black privilege didn’t stop her from being forced to resign.

  • @DjZephy
    @DjZephy 7 месяцев назад

    Would have been nice if you normalized the audio levels. Your guest's voice is way quieter and it's annoying to have to adjust the volume constantly while listening.