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I live in a low-mid income neighborhood that's 2mi from a project.During the shutdown kids, usually boys, were buying out all the Plan Bs because they didn't like wearing condoms. The girls aren't on birth control b/c of their relationship with their parents. So the boys have the girls take one after each session, which is destroying these female teens' hormones. Plan B isn't the same as Birth Control
Boston native here… People in Gloucester still talk about this and how the rumors of a pregnancy pact is a black eye on the town. Personally I think 18 girls getting pregnant in 1 school year due to lack of proper sex ed and access to condoms is far worse than girls making a pact to be pregnant together.
i’m from gloucester! it wasn’t 18 high school girls it was 18 positive pregnancy tests at the clinic run out of the high school. the clinic was open to the public so not all positive tests were from students and not all of them carried through with the pregnancies. i think there were actually 6 or 7 students that actually had the babies.
@@jade.2222 whether they went through with the pregnancy or not is irrelevant. The fact 18 underage girls got pregnant (ie had a positive pregnancy test) in the course of 9 months due to lack of access to proper education and/or condoms is still far worse than 5 girls making a pact. They may not have all been students at the local public high school, but they were all under 18.
@@mweed7194 I went to private Catholic school, too. (Holy Name in West Roxbury.) My older sister, who is only 1 grade ahead of me, had sex ed in 5th grade and then they didn’t do it for my grade the following year. It was like one and done. But we did have like 7 priests (that I knew personally as an alter server) associated with the school and Holy Name church get charged during the mass pedo scandal, so the school clearly had it’s priorities right…. 💀
I also love how highschool girls are Shamed and blamed for becoming pregnant, they are labeled as "sluts" and told they have "thrown their lives away." But for teenage boys it's like "she has trapped him" or "wow she ruined his life."🤦♀️
When in reality the boys are usually the ones pushing the girls to have sex with them or whenever the girls try to get them to wear a condom and they hear all the stupid excuses as to why they "cant" wear one but then later it's all on her as if the boy had no idea of the outcome
doesn't change as you grow up either. im a completely solo parent and all i hear is how i should've 'chose better' instead of, 'hey maybe the man shouldn't have been such a piece of shit or totally leave his responsibilities!' maybe one day women will stop getting all the blame for mens' choices.
I got pregnant at 17. Before I got pregnant, I felt like having a child was the end all of life. But after, I was like, it’s not that big of a deal. Lol
There's also the disgusting statistics that a good portion of the fathers are over 21. Truly, grown men taking advantage of "age of consent" loopholes and the whole 'young and dumb' manipulation of these poor teens. I remember college kids hanging around us, and we thought we were so cool for having their attention. We didn't even have the brain capacity to understand how wrong this was.
Argdgdhshsjakkaka years ago at a public library I overheard this conversation, this 20 something guy was just lying to this group of high school girls and I knew the vibe instantly. I wish I had said something.....
@@DavidKen878 Because predators and apologists feel legally justified that they didn't do anything wrong, and absolved of it. When in actuality they are messing up kids for the rest of their lives. Morally defunct. Kids are kids and they're still learning, maybe in high school, and they're called underage and called minors. They can't drink, can't vote, no cigarettes, no R-rated movies, maybe driving - until someone wants to sleep with them, and suddenly they're grown? Also people can buy cards with the legal ages per US state printed on them; that's some messed up stuff on its own. Young girls are exploited, then blamed for being victims of adults who should know better. Also sometimes the predators know how to groom them just right to make them feel like they weren't victims.
My entire highschool experience involved boys pressuring girls into all kinds of gross sexual situations, and yet never have I seen a teen boy sex-related movie that treats boys having sex like something risky and scary, the way they do girls. Boy teen sex movies encourage boys to have sex, whereas teen girl sex movies are all about the shame and responsibility. Seems a little skewed.
That's because the boys usually dip out on the girl they impregnated and refuse responsibility. This is either their decision or they're pressured heavily by their parents. So for boys it's just a night of fun and for girls it's a lifetime of shame and regret.
I just loooove how this perpetuates the idea that young women entrap young men by getting pregnant & the young men are just victims of their seduction.
I mean by her saying "Now you can stay here and not go to college" that takes it from blaming the woman for getting pregnant and moves it more into the realm of reproductive coercion which is a type of coercive IPV seeking to control behavior. And while it's not only something a woman can do to a man (men can lie or sabotage contraceptives too), in this case it's a young woman doing it to a young man.
"I'll just stay home and play with the baby." That line alone makes pregnancy seem glamorous, as if it's a one year holiday, rather than a life long commitment.
I've never been pregnant but I've taken care of my nieces when they were babies and babies are hard to take care of so I imagine it's even harder for a full time mom and it makes me laugh when these girls act like having a baby will be so fun and you can dress them up. Honey, that's a doll just get a doll, it's less expensive and less hassle.
@@mysticloverfairy1 I was injured by my pregnancy and birth of my son and had lots of complications. Dressing my baby up was one of the only things that got me through the rough first year of his life! 😂 Getting to dress babies up is one joy of having a crotch goblin lol. He was a sweet, giggly baby and he’s now 15 and almost taller than me!
right??? and nevermind telling *that* story where the mom talks to her daughter about how tough it was, that's why she can barely manage to financially care for the two of them because she had to focus on raising her instead of a career, etc. nope, those slutty slut sluts fault! 🙄
this reminds me of the time I brought some benadryl with me to middle school in my pocket because of an allergic reaction I'd been having and I accidentally dropped one in the locker room, and a couple days later I heard that the local news aired a segment about a possible drug dealing situation at my school after someone else found the single pill I dropped on the floor. the level of imagination these news stations have to have to completely fabricate things to be outraged about is unbelievable
REALLY bold of the mom at 26:39 to chastise her daughter for having a teen pregnancy when, if we do simple math, we can figure out that the mom also went through a teenage pregnancy (31 - 15 = 16). The nerve! Also not this movie showcasing the issues revolving around teenage pregnancy, gender expectations when raising a child, social-economic issues, and STILL failing to do anything but say "aBoRtIoN bAd" lol.
Exactly. That's why when you're a teen mom it's important to teach your kids to do better than you did and let them know all the negatives and positives alike of you becoming a teen parent yourself. But they don't. They plead ignorance and then act surprised when their kids follow in their footsteps, or worse encourage it.
It was also pretty bold of the main girl's mother to chastise Sidney (the blogger) for "judging the girls" when that's pretty much all she, her husband, and all the other adults in the movie do.
I wouldn’t say bold, it makes sense. A lot of mothers who were pregnant teens tell their kids all the time to not get pregnant… Sometimes they are harsher then older parents because they are adamant about their kids not repeating a pattern.
Yeah like how my mom gave birth to me around 18-19 but refused to give me access to birth control because "I shouldn't be having sex anyway." Jump to me being pregnant at 17 and giving birth a few months after turning 18. 🙃
I watched 16 and Pregnant when it first came out and I have no idea how anyone could watch that show and be like "Wow *I* want to be a teenaged mother!" Every episode would end up with depressing monologue from the girl about how her life is changed forever and even if she loves the baby she still wishes she'd used a condom. And seeing all the drama all of them went through even before Teen Mom was a show... Farrah fighting with her mom, Maci dealing with that sack of shit Ryan, Amber being a piece of shit in general and continuing to be so 14 years later... like oh yeah, sounds great. And then just the dumbass adults being like "oh these tv shows are the problem, we need to stop airing these tv shows rather than improve sex ed in schools."
That is true. There is a steep decline in teen pregnancies after that show came out. It also correlates with the time frame when teens had better access to sex education and protection, but still great news!
I thought Teen Mom was irresponsible when it was coming out. But after watching it, it was totally depressing. The girls all looked depressed, all the baby daddy's left them, and they were living in semi-squalor with shit jobs. Who wants that?
My favorite part is the mom shaming her daughter for being a teen mom, and says “who wants to be a grandma at 32?” And like ma’am, that means YOU were a teen mom!!!
Two actresses in the in the credits have worked with two of the biggest creeps on the planet. Nancy Travis was in "Air America" with Mel Gibson. There Birch was in "American Beauty" with.. you know.
Watching this movie as a teenager around 2012 helped contribute to a intense fear of teen pregnancy that I still have not gotten over at even though I haven’t been a teenager in almost 6 years
@@abigirl98 messed up part my mum wasnt even trying to get me to avoid teen pregnancy she just was showing me a cool movie because i love horror. while watching it my brain just whent: *new phobia unlocked*
My cousin is one of the real Glauchester pregnancy girls 👋 She did NOT want to get pregnant. The boys of the school however DID find it hilarious to make up a bunch of cruel rumors about all the girls and how they got pregnant. Yes this made me terrified of high school relationships lmao
That makes a lot more sense. I remember watching it on youtube back in the day and I just could not believe that any of it could possibly have happened like it was told in the movie. Sure one girl in a High school might be troubled (in lack of a better word) enough to try and become pregnant, but two? three? Nah, i don't buy it.I'd sooner believe a bunch of teen boys made a game out of removing the condom during sex or talking their girlfriends into not using one.
I knew a girl in high school who didn't get pregnant, but she sent sexy pictures to her boyfriend who then shared those pictures with all his stupid teenage friends. And so they all spread rumors about how they had sex with her and she got a rep for being a "slut" when in reality she was a very sweet girl. Teenage boys are garbage. This also made me afraid of high school relationships
My mom was impregnated with my sister at 14, had her at 15, because she got literally no sex-ed growing up because her parents were of that whole "if they don't know what sex is, they won't do it" mindset (thanks Mormonism). She had minimal knowledge of what her and her boyfriend were doing while they were doing it, so honestly, I feel like he DID actually take advantage of her. Ruined her whole life. They made her drop out and marry the guy, only for him to get hooked on drugs and cheat on her with her best friend. Then at 18, she found out that, even if she had been on birth control, it probably wouldn't have helped because she has some weird super human resistance to pretty much any form of medication (seriously, it surprised the docs just how much anesthesia she needed for her c-section) and she ended up pregnant with my brother and was, once again, force to marry the guy, who turned out to be a drunken asshole who abused her. She wanted to graduate high-school, she wanted to be a welder, but her parents' backward ideology ruined that for her. She never blamed my sister or my brother though, which is good.
I distinctly remember people blaming 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom, saying they glamorized teen pregnancy and motherhood but like we watched those shows.... They didn't really make the teen parenthood look fun or glamorous
hi! gloucester native here! it wasn’t 18 high school girls it was 18 positive pregnancy tests at the clinic run out of the high school. the clinic was open to the public so not all positive tests were from students and not all of them carried through with the pregnancies. i think there were actually 6 or 7 students that actually had the babies. and yes no pact they just wanted to help each other out because they were all in the same difficult situation. also, when i was in high school 10 years later kids from other schools would chirp us and ask us “when’s the baby due?!” at games and meets haha
I always LOVE the "16 & pregnant" caused teen pregnancy rates to rise "argument" because the actual science has shown it did the opposite. NO ONE wanted to end up like the girls on that show! They had hard times and MTV exploited that
yea, people act like we want to be like them as if most of those girls don't have addicts or just neglectful parents. It's not their fault, but nobody wants that.
Most of those girls ended up with criminal records and all of it was put on TV for the world to see and judge which just made them spiral even harder 🤦🏼♀️ Even the girls that kept their 💩 together went through some traumatic times while the world acted like it was all their faults.
I used to be so embarrassed as a teen because my mom was really adamant she would always be there if I needed her and was like big on making sure I knew I had options. But god was I lucky. I will never forget we were driving to the store once and I think we heard something about this on the radio because she just turned to me in the car and told me she would always be ready to pay for me get an abortion if I needed one. I was like 17 or 18 at the time and thought it super embarrassing now as an adult I am so grateful that I had a mom who cared that much about me that she wanted to make sure no matter what I knew my body would always be mine and my choices no matter what would be respected.
My mom said the same thing and I got really insecure for a bit because I interpreted "I'll be there for you if you need to talk to me about topics like sex" as "It's normal for teens to get laid, so why aren't you?" Oh, teenage leaps in logic...
@@deen7530 LMAO well at least it wasn't your dad aggressively asking you "ARE YOU HAVING SEX" "ARE YOU GAY" "ARE YOU DOING DRUGS" the day before prom 💀
My parents were similar! Once I started high school they asked me if I wanted to start birth control and once I started dating they were basically like "we don't care if you have sex but y'all should use protection. At the end of the day, it's your choice, but be smart". I think they would have been pissed if I got pregnant in high school or college but they definitely would have been there for me no matter what and I've always felt very lucky
Both of my parents sex shamed me rlly young, and I was even taken to get a physical exam to ‘prove’ I was a virgin at 15 (like that’s a thing a Dr would do lmao) and meanwhile, both parents were teen parents (of me) and then remarried 3x each and I had stepparents/siblings who abused me. The talk around sex & pregnancy was always based in a lack of personal choice & freedom, which left me open to more dangerous situations.
I watched this movie for the first time yesterday and it was such a ride. I love how nonsensical the progression of the pregnancies were. Also the fact that they claim this was a true story when it was based on an essentially made up situation.
journalists like the one in the beginning snidely comparing a pregnant sixteen year old girl to hillary clinton are absolutely the same type of people who made monica lewinsky jokes over and over
My mom had me at 40 and i feel like it’s made such a difference in my own views and while she wasn’t perfect i think she did a lot better than quite a few
my mom had my oldest brother when she was young. she always told me that she didn't regret it, but was honest abt how it made things harder for her. sometimes i've noticed other kids of teen moms (a few of my friends were) almost getting guilted by their parents for being born, so i've always appreciated that my mom was honest abt it yet didn't fearmonger us
My parents just had the rule that if we did have a boyfriend and wanted to do the deed to do it safely, they even put me and my sister on birth control at 14 because teens will be teens, they told us to never be afraid to talk to them if something happened. They never really had to worry about us anyway because I was a lesbian and my sister's boyfriend was a closeted gay 😂
I am from Gloucester and the high school learned absolutely nothing about the importance of sex ed from this whole media circus- the current health teacher just told us “you’re not going to have sex for a long long long long long long long long long long time”, threw a packet about STIs at us, and then spent the next two classes showing us an hours long documentary about how taking huge doses of vitamin C will cure cancer ❤
I remember taking a screenwriting class where the professor made an off hand comment about how Juno was well-written but glorified teen pregnancy and I, a 16 year old, was just sitting there like... Juno does not have a great time being pregnant in that movie lmao
Thank you for touching on the racial factor of this situation. There so many racial stereotypes of black women and other WOC that overwhelmingly leaks into the perception of us when we choose to be parents.
I remember people discussing this on Twitter when it first aired and A LOT of people pointing out how it depicted the media as only interested in reporting on teen pregnancy among middle class white girls
@@Mila-Rosa and how pregnancy among us happens the most due to parentification and subtle slut shaming from childhood, but then turn around to blame only us when it happens
@BridgeplusT medical bias typically. Doctors and nurses are taught through outdated information that says stuff like "black people are 5× more resistant to pain than white people" That translates into not giving poc help when they say they're in pain
The thing I dislike about shows/movies like this is they never have the guts to let the characters get an abortion... like they'll mention it as an option but they never go through with it and like, I get it if the movie/show is about the pregnancy since they can't really be like "welp she got an abortion so this whole plotline is resolved!" But in something like this, it could have been about Sarah journeying from thinking she wants to be a teen mom to realizing that she's not ready yet and deciding to terminate the pregnancy. Like obviously this movie was always going to be kind of garbage since it's based on a fake, sensationalized scenario, but it could have been interesting showing the girls all making different choices with their pregnancies and how it impacted them
If you want to watch a movie on the subject, "If These Walls Could Talk" is pretty good. I saw it when I was waaaaay too young, and got emotional. But it's a movie that tackles the abortion debate in different views.
The fact I kinda understand Barnessa's retort to her mother is... something. My mom has always bugged me and my little sister to have children because she wants to be a grandma, but preached abstinence to us. I can very well see myself saying "I would expect you to be happy about this. Don't you want to be a grandma?" to her because I'm a petty son of a bitch. She's still hinted at both of us about having kids, she got super sad when I came out as trans because she thought it meant I wouldn't want to get pregnant anymore (she wants bio grandkids) and I mean she's right but not because I'm trans I'm just not fit to be a dad. idk if she's as annoying to my sister but she recently came out as a lesbian so
let’s hope for the sake of that hypothetical child that she changed her mind, i can’t imagine the amount of bullying that poor kid would have to endure if that were their name
I find it really strange that the main character girl had to get pregnant just to keep her boyfriend from going to college like girl skype exists in 2010 like that was a lot of extra unnecessary steps to keep a boyfriend
Nick you were absolutely outrageous in this one, I love it. I had my son at 26 and there was SO MUCH I didn't know regarding pregnancy and birth until my midwife taught me. My midwife. Not my family, not my school. We need to normalize full sexual education for both genders. It's so important.
Ok, as an adopted person who’s birthmother originally had an open adoption with me for the first decade of my life but then cut off contact with no warning, I appreciate Vlog Lady for remaining consistent and not getting in contact if she didn’t think she would be able to maintain it. One thing I will say on behalf of that fictional child is that I hope she keeps her medical records up to date with the adoption agency, because mine hasn’t and I had to contact a biological cousin on ancestry to find out if there’s a history of anything I should let my doctor know about. So far there isn’t, thankfully. But the not knowing sucked.
I remember SVU did an episode with a teen pregnancy pact. Bizarre that teen pregnancy is demonised and then dramatized for entertainment by the same media 😵💫
The law and order episode was bonkers. Literally has an odd jump cut of the pregnant teen rubbing her stomach and saying tick tock to Benson and saying she just mad she’s old and can’t get pregnant 💀
I’m from Canada and I’m grade 8 we actually went to sex education camp. It was a 2 day, 1 night sleepover at a camp where we learned in depth about a variety of things relating to sex. Among things covered were: talks from nurses about STDs and proper hygiene for both men and women, 2 former prostitutes came in and discussed what it’s like a to be a sex worker as well as their struggles with addiction, a teen mom came in and talked to us about the realties of being a teen mom, drug and addictions counsellors came and talked to us about drugs and sex, we learned about various types of birth control, we learned about what actually happens during sex, we learned about consent and how to say/accept no, and a lot more.
Where the heck was this when I needed it?! (Apparently in Canada) but seriously everyone not just 8th graders should go through this because this is exactly what people need
@@icarv9073 this was a small town in Alberta Canada. It was organized through a partnership with our school and staff from several organizations within our town’s public health system. The same people also did a very good presentation on drunk driving and the importance of wearing seatbelts when we were in grade 9.
@@thekatvita my husband went to public school in Calgary and apparently they talked about what STDs are and what they do to you as well as what happens when you have sex like in terms of what goes where and what happens when males and females get turned on. They also talked about proper hygiene for after sex and stuff.
Ok i felt attacked from the “highschooler that graduates but goes back to school” lmao. As soon as i graduated I became a substitute teacher since cuz I get paid $200 to do my homework and tell high schoolers they can use the restroom
Man; purity culture REALLY did a number on me as a teen and even adulthood. While I managed to avoid this video, I could not escape Pam Stenzel yelling at me through a T.V. screen about "sex is bad m'kay?". I gotta wonder just how many teens and adults (especially women) were traumatized by films like this and promoted abstinence-only education.
Its hilarious to me that since all of that made me terrified of being attracted to dudes I ended up being exclusvely into girls during hs (im bisexual)
I spent my youth confused as hell about purity culture as an asexual. I was told just about every day that I'd eventually have "impure thoughts" about boys and the only effective way to stay pure was "a quarter between my legs". Yeah those impure thoughts never seemed to make it my way
@@rowanquynn9964 Same here. I honestly think that my asexuality shielded me from the worst of purity culture, but it still messed with my perception of my body (seriously if I had a dollar for every time we were told not to be a "stumbling block for our brothers in Christ" I could actually pay for my therapy).
@Rachel Rentschler agreed. I may not have experienced the same struggles as some people, but it really skewed my view of myself, my body, and my rights. And ultimately it made me a prime target for grooming as I had no sex education
Fun fact: Home pregnancy tests have a removable cap that covers the end you pee on, so grabbing both ends isn't quite as bad as you'd think. However, she should be wearing gloves regardless.
@@DavidKen878 i think so she doesnt contaminate the thing with anything she might have on her hands already edit: sorry i forgot it was about the nurse. she should be wearing gloves because it's unsanitary and then wash her hands immediately, before touching anything in her office. germs and stuff
It's still gross. I've taken pregnancy tests for peace of mind because I have an irregular period and even though it's MY pee and the test has been capped, I still don't touch that end. Why would you when you can easily just...not?
Same with the Erin Brockovich movie. The true story is shocking: the lawyers weren't heroes, the cancer patients didn't get more than a few thousand, and the degree to which the toxin was present was embellished. And to think that movie got Oscar nominations! Erin Brockovich herself is not the heroine she appears to be - she almost got people killed in a drunk boating incident. The town is now an impoverished ghost town, because no one wanted to visit or buy a house in "the cancer town".
This came out when I was almost done with college and I’d been trying, and failing, to get pregnant for a while. It was incredibly frustrating to me because I was married, my husband had a decent job, I was about to graduate and have a decent job, and even with medical intervention I was having trouble getting pregnant, but the top story on the news was about a high school that had _so many_ pregnant teenagers that people were assuming they were getting pregnant on purpose. Now my kid is in middle school and district he’s in had the genius idea to cancel literally _all_ sex ed. Not even abstinence only sex ed, just no sex ed at all. So, I’m sure by the time my kid is in high school, the pregnancy rate and the STI rates are going to be sky high. And I can’t do anything about it except teach my own kid comprehensive sex ed myself and hope I don’t forget anything.
I hope some teachers band together and make a comprehensive online resource for parents like you (the ones trying to rectify the nightmare of a forcibly religious educational system)
@@breetoldyouso That would be amazing if someone did. I bought a couple sex ed books to help me, but neither is 100% comprehensive. But at least they mention sex between two people of the same gender (which is illegal for teachers to do in my state), intersex people, and the difference between sex and gender. But I’m at still worried I’m going to forget something.
It was like that when I went to high school, there used to be a very comprehensive and productive greasier program at my high school, but it wasn’t considered appropriate by abstinence only proponents, and the district just cut our sex ed entirely. We had not one sex es class throughout the entirety of high school lol
I'm so confused , isn’t this your job anyway? the last sentence make it seems like it shouldn't be on you to teach your kid about safe sex...maybe I misinterpreted it but thats weird. school should teach about safe sex but it's the parent's job first
I've had sex Ed classes since 6th grade (I still know nothing, lol), but I actually remember a teacher really trying to teach us how to be safe and use contraceptives. Did the whole condom on a cucumber thing to show us who to put them on correctly. We'll, she got in trouble for it because it was "inappropriate and vulgar". Well, jokes on the school, we had several pregnant middle schoolers, and we knew where everyone was screwing. I never took part in any of the activities, but every kid in the school knew these things, and the facility still thought not teaching us to be safe was the better option.
There was a girl in the class below me actively trying to get pregnant. She had some sort of gynecological issue that meant she wasn't going to be able to get pregnant later or at least that's what she said (heard her say it firsthand). The rumor mill around her was all sorts of negative. Kinda felt bad for her.
That is really sad.. I can understand how someone who wants a biological family and might not be able to have one might swing to the extreme of pushing very hard to become pregnant young. I hope she had a healthy pregnancy, healthy baby, and strong support system.
She was probably from a religious family and shamed for her condition most teen girls would see not being able to get pregnant as a positive it may suck later but to each their own
Wait wait wait So the dad went to the boyfriend's house to confront him and tell him to "be a man" but then doesn't want to ask his family to financially contribute to the baby?! 😂
"How could you decide to bring another mouth to feed into this house when I can barely feed you" it's almost like this is why available contraception and sex ed are good ideas for teens; because kids are stupid and they make bad choices due to not knowing better yet and having underdeveloped brains.
I can't tell if this is a joke because this girl in my high school wanted to get pregnant soooooo baaaaaad after she watched this and also Juno (I live in Florida)
@@mtwall5933 I’m 100% serious lol the only reason why I changed my mind(also I wasn’t planning on actually getting pregnant the movie just made me want to be) is because I watch 16 and pregnant and it looked like a nightmare so I was like “fuck no”
i genuinely can’t imagine what part of this movie could make you even consider wanting to get pregnant. the part where they talk about tearing during childbirth alone was enough for me to be like “yeah im never getting pregnant”
Yes the 31 year old mother was also a Teen Mom. In another scene she tells Carissa (Barnessa) that she should know better after seeing how much struggle their life was.
“Sorry mom…. I just felt like I couldn’t come to you to talk about sex at all because you always said you never did anything at my age and people who do are bad” “Well honey I actually had so much unprotected teen sex and was very worried about the risks the whole time so I thought the best thing for you would be to lie my purity while constantly shaming and guilting you for having any sexual urges at all and make it impossible for you to access information about the realities of sex and safe sex practices in hopes that deters you from any sort of experimentation.” Maybe just start an open dialogue with your child
Love how real life principal of the school where the true story happened was like "let me make up a story about my teen students wanting to create a cult around them becoming moms at 14 to spread panic and get clout 💅". I would tell that principal to "get a job", but he evidently has one.
I remember this news story and Jamie spears getting pregnant so well because I was secretly pregnant at 16 at the time. I remember my dad watching the news and saw me and said "watch next thing you know Megan is going to be pregnant!" The cold chill that went down my spine! It was a funny joke he made because I had my first boyfriend at the time but was always really shy..... Oh my if he only knew! 😅
@@thesheetshow1087 no I fortunately got an abortion. The man who got me pregnant was incredibly abusive. He would closed fist punch my face and strangle me a lot. Along with many other things. That and being 16 I couldn't keep the baby or we both would have died. And no my dad never found out.
Terrifying situation... all too common, and unfortunatley ends badly more often than good. I'm glad you were able to make it out. I'm so afraid of what kids in similar situations have to face with abortion being banned (in the US) and nearly every state actively fighting against any sex ed at all because they're scared of pronouns. Hope the crusty old fucks forcing people to go through pregnancy go extinct soon. They're barely holding their saggy skin to their dusty bones at this point so hope it's soon so we can gain back just a little sanity.
Oh you sweet summer child. There's a brand new film out called "The Pregnancy Promise," and in terms of regressive messaging it makes "The Pregnancy Pact" look like "Do The Right Thing." I was asked to audition for it, and they sent me the script... despite my being thirsty AF for lead roles, I gave it a hard pass. (There's a trailer for it on YT, and whomever cut it together does not know what the word "spoilers" means! Also, comments are turned off) 😆
Talking about a time where us trans weren’t used for fear mongering and political distraction feels like Sam and Frodo talking about remembering the taste of strawberries on the side of mount doom
Just as a heads up (coming from someone that is adopted), it is normally better to say “placed for adoption” instead of “gave up for adoption.” I don’t think it is a big deal, but I know my other adopted friends and some of the community prefer it being said/explained that way. Just wanted to put that out there for future reference. Anywho…this video is pure comedic gold per usual 😂
@@breetoldyouso Oh ya of course! There is a lot of care and time spent in the adoption process, and saying “placed” instead of “gave up” really puts emphasis on the actual placement process. Saying “give up” implies a different meaning and intent. My family (who took adoption classes) was told that you give up toys or clothing, so saying that about a child can be damaging to them. If you’re interested, there are a decent amount articles about the differences and how it effects the children that are placed. Saying “gave up” is super common though, so I’m sure no one would be offended if they hear it, I just figured since Nick is so socially conscious it might be a good thing to mention for the future. Hope that helped explain it!
That's a really good distinction. "Gave up" implies abandonment. "Placed" takes into account the difficulty of the decision and the love and care that goes into the whole adoption process.
The doctor actually threw the pregnancy test in the trash can next to the filing cabinet but she then proceeded to touch everything and go about her day. **gags**
My grandfather worked on the audio engineering for this movie. I remember my grandmother got weirdly afraid of me becoming a pregnant teen during this time lol
Regarding the whole Sydney pregnancy situation; I absolutely agree that it's her body, her choice. However, I think it's kind of fucked up that she chose to carry the baby to term and put them up for adoption without telling the father. She didn't want to be a parent and that's ok, but he obviously did want kids and didn't get to raise his son.
Fun fact: no one was burned at the stake in the Salem witch trials. They were hanged instead. Giles Corey was crushed under a bunch of rocks, but that was for refusing to enter a plea rather than for being guilty of witchcraft. Apparently if he didn't plead, they technically couldn't find him guilty and his land would go to his family rather than be confiscated by the state.
Have had a pretty miserable last few days in cancer treatment and I just wanted to say thank you for posting about this movie and making my entire day ❤️
i went to a nerd highschool, basically all type A overachievers, and this movie came out in my junior year. i remember how much my friends and i laughed about it. yeah, sure, lets get pregnant - in between debate, robotics, 4 AP classes, extracurricular clubs, and a 2 hour commute. OKAY 🤣 nevermind our tiger mom ass parents. we literally thought it was the stupidest shit bc our schedules were too packed to slot in a baby.
26:47 hold up. HOLD up. "who wants to be a grandmother at 31?" if her daughter is 15-16 and pregnant and she's 31, then mom here must've also gotten pregnant at that age...??
@@83croissant i get that she is sad because her daughter make the same mistake she did, but to be honest, i think that the mother also being a teen mom herself and still insisting in only teaching her daughter abstinense and refusing to teach her any other form of protection only makes her look worse. A kid can't break the cycle is you don't teach them how to do it.
@@despinasgarden.4100 oh no yeah I see that. In this case though I don’t think the failure was that the mother taught her to be abstinent… we didn’t see this mother really parent her at all , I think she , at best, just expected that school would teach her daughter whatever she needed. She was a single mom and didn’t have time for it
@@83croissant are you sure she was a single mom? Because the girl has a father in the movie, is he her stepfather? Also, the mother is religious and didn't want the nurse teaching about sex education in the school, so i doubt that she expected the school to teach her daughter, she actually has a debate with the nurse about giving protection is school and the mom is in favor of "abstinense only programs".
Nick, let me say thanks to you for always talking about social issues in your videos! I appreciate that you take the time to fill us in not only on social issues relevant to the era whatever you're clipping is from, but you also bring up urgent and current issues that can always use more voices! As part of the LGBTQIA+ community myself, I'm so so so thankful a creator like you is broadcasting the issues facing marginalized and underserved communities to a wider audience ❤
The three girl's story actually sounds somewhat wholesome in the face of the fear and uncertainty they must've been going through. I hope that they managed to get some relief from the news cycle haunting them.
Time to grab a bowl of popcorn, get all my squishmallows arranged on my couch and throw on my weighted blanket 😌 looking forward to laughing and also learning from Nic 😊
35:15 I'm gonna have to push back on that claim about them all being middle-class with devoted parents in the most privileged circumstances for teen pregnancy. Like at this point you've already explicitly shown that one girl's mom is struggling for money to the point of hardly being able to feed the family (and she herself was a teen mom), and the blonde girl's mom is an alcoholic. Surely these aren't ideal privileged situations?
52:40 I never noticed the empty cup thing until you pointed it out and now I see it everywhere. I genuinely think you might be the first person with a platform on the internet to draw attention to it.
Random comment, but I was watching your ad break and had a thought that you’re the only creator whose ads I don’t skip- it’s evident the work and time you put in to making your sponsored segments fun and visually engaging, and I just thought I’d say it’s not unnoticed!
I was always fascinated with this movie from a distance. Never once watched it, but was so confused by the subject matter. Babies were for adults, and why a teenager would purposely want one was absolutely alien to preteen me.
Unfortunately bad parents will look for any excuse to blame their children for everything as long as it means that they don’t actually have to parent them 🙃🙄
To be fair, if all the actors in this Gloucester school sounded like actual Gloucester kids, nobody in the rest of the country would believe it was anything but a junior college production of "Mystic River." I do love how the whole town has to be nothing but boats and endless seagull sounds and being trapped by the one road that leads in and out, when in reality, it's about 11 minutes away from two malls. (MA resident offended by old Lifetime movie here.)
Yeaaahhh I had a Mormon friend in high school (in Utah) who had a real pregnancy pact with her friends. They weren't allowed to date until 16, and supposed to get married by 18, go on a mission at 19 and have 4 kids by 24. But if one of them deviated from that, they had agreed to *all* do it. This was over a decade ago and I'm still shook they took that seriously.
My thought through the whole movie is like . . . ? It takes two to tango? Especially with Jesse he said Sara ruined his life and how it was her fault but like. Don't do the actions to make a baby if you're not gonna take responsibility for the baby? The guys all got off with no judgement really
As a teen parent (I am 23 now, they/them) myself, shows and movies like this do nothing to actually bring empathy and compassion for the experience. The worst parts of being a teen mom are the stigma, the sexism, the invasion of privacy and the lack of options (for birth control, education and family planning options) that I dealt with. (I am Very Pro-Choice, and even if I didn't want my child, it wasn't even legal in my state to not have them when I found out.) We're a cautionary tale, nasty props to "the downfall of society" never seen as people. In the political sense, we are just a pawn in the Pro- Life/Pro choice debate, *rarely* actually treated like people. Straight up, screw this movie and thanks for talking about it
Genuine question, did you know you were a "they/them" since birth? Like a lot of trans men or women say that they felt horrible anxiety ever since childhood that they were born in the wrong body. But I've never heard a "they's" experience. What is the difference from dressing androgynous and being a "them"? I genuinely would like to know to better understand.
@Avacado Toast In my experience, I never felt like I fit in with either gender. I always felt uncomfortable when people split up boys and girls in PE, and the idea of the gender binary seemed wrong to me. I do feel some dysphoria, but not as bad as it would be for a trans woman pr trans man.
Love that you're reviewing this one! I watched it with friends when I was in middle school and it's definitely one of Lifetime's classic, funny because it's so bad movies.
As a teen it seemed very obvious that getting pregnant could possibly ruin my life, as in becoming poor, derailing my education etc. I was super terrified of it and used protection religiously. I’m always completely baffled by teens that want to get pregnant,
My friends saw the movie and then WANTED to enter a pregnancy pact with me and a few others. They took the story as "oh this will be so fun!" yeah, turned out not to be fun after all.
@@NickDiRamioTV Thank you so much🙏🏻🥰 I often rewatch your videos for a good mood lifter, but there’s nothing like a fresh vid - and this one did just the trick!
Godddddd my friend insisted we watch this movie together when she got pregnant at the end of hs, pretty sure she was trying to get me to decide I wanted to join her in teen pregnancy-land lol, good thing I was exposed to a crying pooping newborn shortly afterwards 😂
LMAO seeing a newborn is the best birth control. I watched my stepmom go into labor when I was 13, she said "this will be the best birth control for you" and she was Right 💀 I've changed enough diapers tbh
Hahaha tbf I wouldn’t hate having a kid these days, or at least the idea no longer repulses me like it did in my early/mid twenties (probs because I’ve met someone who would be a dope asf dad lol) but even so, I’ll need more of my life in order before I can cope with the screaming 😂 god he was a sweet wee guy but one day with him sick and me tired as hell taught me pretty quick that I was NOT ready for a kid hahaha (and I’m sure you’ve had your fill, growing up with much younger siblings sounds like a trip!!)
54:54 lmaoo never a pregnant teen, but this was my reaction when I learned several Christian women who I looked up to never practiced abstinence until marriage 😭 I was only shocked because of how VISCIOULY they advocated for abstinence.
I am VERY VERY thankful for even the minimal sex ed my school provided. I dated a 21 year old at 16 and he had a pregnancy fetish and claimed the condom "broke" (it was dark and im pretty sure he faked putting it on). That scare fucked me up for months because I was so anxious and worried. A year after we broke up he was 22 and got a 15 year old pregnant. My mom didn't have a sex talk with me until I was 17 or 18 and by then I'd already had multiple partners. My family and community was also very religious so there was a lot of misinformation. The only reason I knew to demand condoms during sex was because of my school's education. It is VITAL that schools teach these things.
a lot of girls during when i went to highschool would get pregnant at age 15-16 by SENIORS. ADULTS. who would literally get them drunk at parties and then convince them to have sex. we had somewhat of a proper sex ed class too but there was also a permission slip needed. it was only taken once during whatever year they decided to put it on your schedule. i strongly believe a proper sex ed class that would show the birth process (ours did) and all the risks of having unprotected sex would have helped a lot of teen pregnancy prevention if it was required every year. it bothered me how much it was focused on girls not getting pregnant but never ever addressing the fact that men should ALWAYS wear condoms. also none of the blame never went to the fathers who were literally adults getting teens pregnant. it was abhorrent. i really feel for all the girls who were taken advantage of. 😢
@@insomniacraccoon Yes! i’m not sure if she found an educational video cause she was a health teacher or found one on youtube but it was a quick clip of the baby being born and then she would stop the video. probably like 30 or 60 seconds we just saw the birth basically
im from gloucester, everyone in the boston area still talks about the scandal and makes gloucester out to be a teenage pregnancy cesspool. other schools in the area had it worse but the media forever tainted my hometown
Two movies about pregnant teenagers that I actually like (then again, it's been years since I've seen them) are "For Keeps" with Molly Ringwald and "Fifteen and Pregnant" with Kirsten Dunst.
I remember watching "Fifteen and Pregnant" when I was a kid and I loved it! I thought it was so realistic even though I knew nothing about actual pregnancy and teen pregnancy issues; I just liked the fact that it wasn't a purely happy film.
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I thought you did this movie already but realized I got it confused with the Lifetime cyber bully movie 😅
I live in a low-mid income neighborhood that's 2mi from a project.During the shutdown kids, usually boys, were buying out all the Plan Bs because they didn't like wearing condoms. The girls aren't on birth control b/c of their relationship with their parents. So the boys have the girls take one after each session, which is destroying these female teens' hormones. Plan B isn't the same as Birth Control
OMG, me and your editor have the same name!
Boston native here… People in Gloucester still talk about this and how the rumors of a pregnancy pact is a black eye on the town. Personally I think 18 girls getting pregnant in 1 school year due to lack of proper sex ed and access to condoms is far worse than girls making a pact to be pregnant together.
As someone who lives on Cape Cod: both the real life story and film feels like punchlines to the types of jokes people make about New Englanders.
Massachusetts girl here - went to a private Catholic school. We never had sex ed but we did have someone drop out of school when they got pregnant
i’m from gloucester! it wasn’t 18 high school girls it was 18 positive pregnancy tests at the clinic run out of the high school. the clinic was open to the public so not all positive tests were from students and not all of them carried through with the pregnancies. i think there were actually 6 or 7 students that actually had the babies.
@@jade.2222 whether they went through with the pregnancy or not is irrelevant. The fact 18 underage girls got pregnant (ie had a positive pregnancy test) in the course of 9 months due to lack of access to proper education and/or condoms is still far worse than 5 girls making a pact. They may not have all been students at the local public high school, but they were all under 18.
@@mweed7194 I went to private Catholic school, too. (Holy Name in West Roxbury.) My older sister, who is only 1 grade ahead of me, had sex ed in 5th grade and then they didn’t do it for my grade the following year. It was like one and done. But we did have like 7 priests (that I knew personally as an alter server) associated with the school and Holy Name church get charged during the mass pedo scandal, so the school clearly had it’s priorities right…. 💀
I also love how highschool girls are Shamed and blamed for becoming pregnant, they are labeled as "sluts" and told they have "thrown their lives away." But for teenage boys it's like "she has trapped him" or "wow she ruined his life."🤦♀️
yeah, as if her pussy is a mousetrap 🙄 he chose to take that risk too, and statistically (sadly) he probably pressured her into it.
They act like it’s a horrible thing to get pregnant then ban abortion so people that really don’t want a baby are forced to keep it…
When in reality the boys are usually the ones pushing the girls to have sex with them or whenever the girls try to get them to wear a condom and they hear all the stupid excuses as to why they "cant" wear one but then later it's all on her as if the boy had no idea of the outcome
doesn't change as you grow up either. im a completely solo parent and all i hear is how i should've 'chose better' instead of, 'hey maybe the man shouldn't have been such a piece of shit or totally leave his responsibilities!' maybe one day women will stop getting all the blame for mens' choices.
I got pregnant at 17. Before I got pregnant, I felt like having a child was the end all of life. But after, I was like, it’s not that big of a deal. Lol
There's also the disgusting statistics that a good portion of the fathers are over 21. Truly, grown men taking advantage of "age of consent" loopholes and the whole 'young and dumb' manipulation of these poor teens. I remember college kids hanging around us, and we thought we were so cool for having their attention. We didn't even have the brain capacity to understand how wrong this was.
Argdgdhshsjakkaka years ago at a public library I overheard this conversation, this 20 something guy was just lying to this group of high school girls and I knew the vibe instantly. I wish I had said something.....
Not all men, yet somehow, always a man
How is the age of consent a loophole?
@@DavidKen878 Because predators and apologists feel legally justified that they didn't do anything wrong, and absolved of it. When in actuality they are messing up kids for the rest of their lives. Morally defunct. Kids are kids and they're still learning, maybe in high school, and they're called underage and called minors. They can't drink, can't vote, no cigarettes, no R-rated movies, maybe driving - until someone wants to sleep with them, and suddenly they're grown? Also people can buy cards with the legal ages per US state printed on them; that's some messed up stuff on its own. Young girls are exploited, then blamed for being victims of adults who should know better. Also sometimes the predators know how to groom them just right to make them feel like they weren't victims.
@@DavidKen878 If you have to ask, you're part of the problem
My entire highschool experience involved boys pressuring girls into all kinds of gross sexual situations, and yet never have I seen a teen boy sex-related movie that treats boys having sex like something risky and scary, the way they do girls. Boy teen sex movies encourage boys to have sex, whereas teen girl sex movies are all about the shame and responsibility. Seems a little skewed.
That's because the boys usually dip out on the girl they impregnated and refuse responsibility. This is either their decision or they're pressured heavily by their parents. So for boys it's just a night of fun and for girls it's a lifetime of shame and regret.
It's the sexism
Watch K.I.D.S
There is also a Lifetime movie about teenage boy addicted to porn. It's mostly ridicilous but still something?
Girls are just as freaky. They just keep it on the DL
I just loooove how this perpetuates the idea that young women entrap young men by getting pregnant & the young men are just victims of their seduction.
I mean by her saying "Now you can stay here and not go to college" that takes it from blaming the woman for getting pregnant and moves it more into the realm of reproductive coercion which is a type of coercive IPV seeking to control behavior.
And while it's not only something a woman can do to a man (men can lie or sabotage contraceptives too), in this case it's a young woman doing it to a young man.
I mean, it does happen irl
@adeer87 In fact, the power-dynamics were the opposite from the movie, which IRL is just men taking advantage of teenage-girls.
"I'll just stay home and play with the baby." That line alone makes pregnancy seem glamorous, as if it's a one year holiday, rather than a life long commitment.
Yeah like that baby over ~18 years becomes a full person
I've never been pregnant but I've taken care of my nieces when they were babies and babies are hard to take care of so I imagine it's even harder for a full time mom and it makes me laugh when these girls act like having a baby will be so fun and you can dress them up. Honey, that's a doll just get a doll, it's less expensive and less hassle.
@@Lucifersfursona i'd say even less, tweens already have a full personality developed. Minus maturity, ofc
@@Lucifersfursona fellow MOT, your screen name is just goals.
@@mysticloverfairy1 I was injured by my pregnancy and birth of my son and had lots of complications. Dressing my baby up was one of the only things that got me through the rough first year of his life! 😂 Getting to dress babies up is one joy of having a crotch goblin lol. He was a sweet, giggly baby and he’s now 15 and almost taller than me!
personally i always feel the simple switch from "got pregnant" to "was impregnated" would make a world of difference
amen sister well said
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I’m definitely saying this now
Honestly the word impregnate grosses me out more, personally. That's my "moist".
@@audreytwo "recently fertilized"
just realized the "who wants to be a grandma at 31?" means the mom was also a teen when she got pregnant.
When I heard that line I did the math and she would've been 16 when she got pregnant, only a year older than her daughter
right??? and nevermind telling *that* story where the mom talks to her daughter about how tough it was, that's why she can barely manage to financially care for the two of them because she had to focus on raising her instead of a career, etc. nope, those slutty slut sluts fault! 🙄
She could be a great-great-grandma at 62!
iT WaS A DifFeReNt tImE lmao
Wtf
this reminds me of the time I brought some benadryl with me to middle school in my pocket because of an allergic reaction I'd been having and I accidentally dropped one in the locker room, and a couple days later I heard that the local news aired a segment about a possible drug dealing situation at my school after someone else found the single pill I dropped on the floor. the level of imagination these news stations have to have to completely fabricate things to be outraged about is unbelievable
Its hilarious that not one adult recognized that it was benadryl 😂😂😂
BREAKING NEWS: TEENS ARE ALSO HUMANS AND KINDA NEED MEDICATION AT TIMES more on the story as it develops
Benadryl is like small and pink (at least as far as I know), I know of no recreational drug that is looking like that. Lmao
REALLY bold of the mom at 26:39 to chastise her daughter for having a teen pregnancy when, if we do simple math, we can figure out that the mom also went through a teenage pregnancy (31 - 15 = 16). The nerve! Also not this movie showcasing the issues revolving around teenage pregnancy, gender expectations when raising a child, social-economic issues, and STILL failing to do anything but say "aBoRtIoN bAd" lol.
Exactly. That's why when you're a teen mom it's important to teach your kids to do better than you did and let them know all the negatives and positives alike of you becoming a teen parent yourself. But they don't. They plead ignorance and then act surprised when their kids follow in their footsteps, or worse encourage it.
It was also pretty bold of the main girl's mother to chastise Sidney (the blogger) for "judging the girls" when that's pretty much all she, her husband, and all the other adults in the movie do.
I wouldn’t say bold, it makes sense. A lot of mothers who were pregnant teens tell their kids all the time to not get pregnant… Sometimes they are harsher then older parents because they are adamant about their kids not repeating a pattern.
Yeah like how my mom gave birth to me around 18-19 but refused to give me access to birth control because "I shouldn't be having sex anyway." Jump to me being pregnant at 17 and giving birth a few months after turning 18. 🙃
Tbh if the movie was just about them, then it would be a way more interesting character drama
I heard that Teen Mom actually led to a decrease in teen pregnancies because it scared the shit out of kids
I watched 16 and Pregnant when it first came out and I have no idea how anyone could watch that show and be like "Wow *I* want to be a teenaged mother!" Every episode would end up with depressing monologue from the girl about how her life is changed forever and even if she loves the baby she still wishes she'd used a condom. And seeing all the drama all of them went through even before Teen Mom was a show... Farrah fighting with her mom, Maci dealing with that sack of shit Ryan, Amber being a piece of shit in general and continuing to be so 14 years later... like oh yeah, sounds great.
And then just the dumbass adults being like "oh these tv shows are the problem, we need to stop airing these tv shows rather than improve sex ed in schools."
That is true. There is a steep decline in teen pregnancies after that show came out. It also correlates with the time frame when teens had better access to sex education and protection, but still great news!
MTV claimed this, but that's bull.
@@truth6383 literally statistics out there on this.
I thought Teen Mom was irresponsible when it was coming out. But after watching it, it was totally depressing. The girls all looked depressed, all the baby daddy's left them, and they were living in semi-squalor with shit jobs. Who wants that?
My favorite part is the mom shaming her daughter for being a teen mom, and says “who wants to be a grandma at 32?” And like ma’am, that means YOU were a teen mom!!!
Exactly! Who wants their child to make the same mistakes they did when they were younger?
My family would constantly tell me not to get pregnant and are now upset that I don’t want children 😂
Typical family 🙄 Can’t win can ya?😮
THIS 😭
Yes! Such conflicting messages!
SAAAME
Two actresses in the in the credits have worked with two of the biggest creeps on the planet. Nancy Travis was in "Air America" with Mel Gibson. There Birch was in "American Beauty" with.. you know.
Watching this movie as a teenager around 2012 helped contribute to a intense fear of teen pregnancy that I still have not gotten over at even though I haven’t been a teenager in almost 6 years
Agreed, I was also a teenager when I first watched the film, and it definitely scared me straight, even to this very day.
weirdly enough mine was the movie alien... it gave me a phobia of ANYTHING growing inside me
@@fireflybutton1939 also valid! That movie didn’t help me either.
@@abigirl98 messed up part my mum wasnt even trying to get me to avoid teen pregnancy she just was showing me a cool movie because i love horror. while watching it my brain just whent: *new phobia unlocked*
Well, at least it worked..? 😂😂
My cousin is one of the real Glauchester pregnancy girls 👋 She did NOT want to get pregnant. The boys of the school however DID find it hilarious to make up a bunch of cruel rumors about all the girls and how they got pregnant. Yes this made me terrified of high school relationships lmao
That makes a lot more sense. I remember watching it on youtube back in the day and I just could not believe that any of it could possibly have happened like it was told in the movie. Sure one girl in a High school might be troubled (in lack of a better word) enough to try and become pregnant, but two? three? Nah, i don't buy it.I'd sooner believe a bunch of teen boys made a game out of removing the condom during sex or talking their girlfriends into not using one.
Yeah, I totally believe you.
Just so you know, it's *Gloucester.
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she's making a joke of how us Massholes talk. Relax.@@KerReeeee
I knew a girl in high school who didn't get pregnant, but she sent sexy pictures to her boyfriend who then shared those pictures with all his stupid teenage friends. And so they all spread rumors about how they had sex with her and she got a rep for being a "slut" when in reality she was a very sweet girl. Teenage boys are garbage. This also made me afraid of high school relationships
@@KerReeeee girl your pfp looks like someone in their late 30s and you're subbed to a roblox channel. you've got some figuring out to do.
My mom was impregnated with my sister at 14, had her at 15, because she got literally no sex-ed growing up because her parents were of that whole "if they don't know what sex is, they won't do it" mindset (thanks Mormonism). She had minimal knowledge of what her and her boyfriend were doing while they were doing it, so honestly, I feel like he DID actually take advantage of her. Ruined her whole life. They made her drop out and marry the guy, only for him to get hooked on drugs and cheat on her with her best friend. Then at 18, she found out that, even if she had been on birth control, it probably wouldn't have helped because she has some weird super human resistance to pretty much any form of medication (seriously, it surprised the docs just how much anesthesia she needed for her c-section) and she ended up pregnant with my brother and was, once again, force to marry the guy, who turned out to be a drunken asshole who abused her. She wanted to graduate high-school, she wanted to be a welder, but her parents' backward ideology ruined that for her. She never blamed my sister or my brother though, which is good.
I distinctly remember people blaming 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom, saying they glamorized teen pregnancy and motherhood but like we watched those shows.... They didn't really make the teen parenthood look fun or glamorous
Also the teen pregnancy rate has continued to fall since those shows started airing.
People still do. I watched a RUclips channel with a guy who still says this. I don’t watch him anymore
Cuz it's easier than changing society.
I remember more than half of those girls looked soo beyond depressing, yet again society chastising girls for navigating the world
@@Mama_Bear524 who' the guy who said that?
hi! gloucester native here! it wasn’t 18 high school girls it was 18 positive pregnancy tests at the clinic run out of the high school. the clinic was open to the public so not all positive tests were from students and not all of them carried through with the pregnancies. i think there were actually 6 or 7 students that actually had the babies. and yes no pact they just wanted to help each other out because they were all in the same difficult situation. also, when i was in high school 10 years later kids from other schools would chirp us and ask us “when’s the baby due?!” at games and meets haha
Interesting. Did most or half of the students abort the babies?
@@caitlingill
Some of the positive tests weren't even from students
I always LOVE the "16 & pregnant" caused teen pregnancy rates to rise "argument" because the actual science has shown it did the opposite. NO ONE wanted to end up like the girls on that show! They had hard times and MTV exploited that
yea, people act like we want to be like them as if most of those girls don't have addicts or just neglectful parents. It's not their fault, but nobody wants that.
Most of those girls ended up with criminal records and all of it was put on TV for the world to see and judge which just made them spiral even harder 🤦🏼♀️
Even the girls that kept their 💩 together went through some traumatic times while the world acted like it was all their faults.
I used to be so embarrassed as a teen because my mom was really adamant she would always be there if I needed her and was like big on making sure I knew I had options. But god was I lucky. I will never forget we were driving to the store once and I think we heard something about this on the radio because she just turned to me in the car and told me she would always be ready to pay for me get an abortion if I needed one. I was like 17 or 18 at the time and thought it super embarrassing now as an adult I am so grateful that I had a mom who cared that much about me that she wanted to make sure no matter what I knew my body would always be mine and my choices no matter what would be respected.
My mom said the same thing and I got really insecure for a bit because I interpreted "I'll be there for you if you need to talk to me about topics like sex" as "It's normal for teens to get laid, so why aren't you?"
Oh, teenage leaps in logic...
@@deen7530 LMAO well at least it wasn't your dad aggressively asking you
"ARE YOU HAVING SEX"
"ARE YOU GAY"
"ARE YOU DOING DRUGS"
the day before prom 💀
My parents were similar! Once I started high school they asked me if I wanted to start birth control and once I started dating they were basically like "we don't care if you have sex but y'all should use protection. At the end of the day, it's your choice, but be smart". I think they would have been pissed if I got pregnant in high school or college but they definitely would have been there for me no matter what and I've always felt very lucky
Both of my parents sex shamed me rlly young, and I was even taken to get a physical exam to ‘prove’ I was a virgin at 15 (like that’s a thing a Dr would do lmao) and meanwhile, both parents were teen parents (of me) and then remarried 3x each and I had stepparents/siblings who abused me. The talk around sex & pregnancy was always based in a lack of personal choice & freedom, which left me open to more dangerous situations.
my mom also said the same thing :) we are very lucky and i plan to do the same if i have children one day
I watched this movie for the first time yesterday and it was such a ride. I love how nonsensical the progression of the pregnancies were.
Also the fact that they claim this was a true story when it was based on an essentially made up situation.
lolll i knowww!
journalists like the one in the beginning snidely comparing a pregnant sixteen year old girl to hillary clinton are absolutely the same type of people who made monica lewinsky jokes over and over
My mom had me at 18. She always told my sister and I to wait. 37 years later, we're both happily child free and mom is not sweating grandkids
I admire you both for listening to your mom
My mom had me at 40 and i feel like it’s made such a difference in my own views and while she wasn’t perfect i think she did a lot better than quite a few
That's great! Glad y'all are living your best life!
I had my oldest when I was 23 and my parents still gave me shit for it.
my mom had my oldest brother when she was young. she always told me that she didn't regret it, but was honest abt how it made things harder for her. sometimes i've noticed other kids of teen moms (a few of my friends were) almost getting guilted by their parents for being born, so i've always appreciated that my mom was honest abt it yet didn't fearmonger us
My parents just had the rule that if we did have a boyfriend and wanted to do the deed to do it safely, they even put me and my sister on birth control at 14 because teens will be teens, they told us to never be afraid to talk to them if something happened. They never really had to worry about us anyway because I was a lesbian and my sister's boyfriend was a closeted gay 😂
Love how that works out
My parents always had condoms and a box of plan b in the closet that they made me away of
Yep. 15-year-olds are old enough to be forced to have a child, but not old enough to learn that drag queens exist.
I am from Gloucester and the high school learned absolutely nothing about the importance of sex ed from this whole media circus- the current health teacher just told us “you’re not going to have sex for a long long long long long long long long long long time”, threw a packet about STIs at us, and then spent the next two classes showing us an hours long documentary about how taking huge doses of vitamin C will cure cancer ❤
That's all the teacher told the students? Were those words supposed to be some type of barrier method to prevent intercourse? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I remember taking a screenwriting class where the professor made an off hand comment about how Juno was well-written but glorified teen pregnancy and I, a 16 year old, was just sitting there like... Juno does not have a great time being pregnant in that movie lmao
Seriously. And hell she _tries_ to have the pregnancy terminated but is traumatized by a fellow classmate and can’t do it.
"I haven't taken a dump since.... Tuesday!!!"
We watched that movie in our sex ed portion of health class. Never made me think "pregnancy looks cool".
A lot of kneejerk reactions to media about disenfranchised people is called "glamorisation" when really it's "humanisation".
Thank you for touching on the racial factor of this situation. There so many racial stereotypes of black women and other WOC that overwhelmingly leaks into the perception of us when we choose to be parents.
I remember people discussing this on Twitter when it first aired and A LOT of people pointing out how it depicted the media as only interested in reporting on teen pregnancy among middle class white girls
Not to mention how black women are waaayy more likely to die during childbirth thanks to those stereotypes and prejudices
@@Mila-Rosa and how pregnancy among us happens the most due to parentification and subtle slut shaming from childhood, but then turn around to blame only us when it happens
@@Mila-Rosa wdym poc die more in childbirth? Or do you mean they die more frequently by trying to terminate it themselves? I'm confused lol
@BridgeplusT medical bias typically. Doctors and nurses are taught through outdated information that says stuff like "black people are 5× more resistant to pain than white people" That translates into not giving poc help when they say they're in pain
The thing I dislike about shows/movies like this is they never have the guts to let the characters get an abortion... like they'll mention it as an option but they never go through with it and like, I get it if the movie/show is about the pregnancy since they can't really be like "welp she got an abortion so this whole plotline is resolved!" But in something like this, it could have been about Sarah journeying from thinking she wants to be a teen mom to realizing that she's not ready yet and deciding to terminate the pregnancy. Like obviously this movie was always going to be kind of garbage since it's based on a fake, sensationalized scenario, but it could have been interesting showing the girls all making different choices with their pregnancies and how it impacted them
If you want to watch a movie on the subject, "If These Walls Could Talk" is pretty good. I saw it when I was waaaaay too young, and got emotional. But it's a movie that tackles the abortion debate in different views.
Shout out to BoJack Horseman, for covering abortion with more humanity in an episode about a dolphin pop star.
The fact I kinda understand Barnessa's retort to her mother is... something.
My mom has always bugged me and my little sister to have children because she wants to be a grandma, but preached abstinence to us. I can very well see myself saying "I would expect you to be happy about this. Don't you want to be a grandma?" to her because I'm a petty son of a bitch.
She's still hinted at both of us about having kids, she got super sad when I came out as trans because she thought it meant I wouldn't want to get pregnant anymore (she wants bio grandkids) and I mean she's right but not because I'm trans I'm just not fit to be a dad.
idk if she's as annoying to my sister but she recently came out as a lesbian so
You know if your sister chooses to have kids her wife will probably carry, too 🤣 karma at its finest
Was really anti children my whole life. Turns out im a trans man. Sometimes the stars align like that
Suddenly remembering my best friend in HS who repeatedly told me if she ever got teen pregnant she was gonna name it Pikachu 💀
circa ~2010-2012 lmao
I laughed way too hard at this. Well done.
let’s hope for the sake of that hypothetical child that she changed her mind, i can’t imagine the amount of bullying that poor kid would have to endure if that were their name
Baby Pikachu 💀
This is my son, Stunky
The uncontrollable eyeroll that just came over me when she said "They're gifts from god"
I find it really strange that the main character girl had to get pregnant just to keep her boyfriend from going to college like girl skype exists in 2010 like that was a lot of extra unnecessary steps to keep a boyfriend
Nick you were absolutely outrageous in this one, I love it.
I had my son at 26 and there was SO MUCH I didn't know regarding pregnancy and birth until my midwife taught me. My midwife. Not my family, not my school. We need to normalize full sexual education for both genders. It's so important.
Ok, as an adopted person who’s birthmother originally had an open adoption with me for the first decade of my life but then cut off contact with no warning, I appreciate Vlog Lady for remaining consistent and not getting in contact if she didn’t think she would be able to maintain it.
One thing I will say on behalf of that fictional child is that I hope she keeps her medical records up to date with the adoption agency, because mine hasn’t and I had to contact a biological cousin on ancestry to find out if there’s a history of anything I should let my doctor know about. So far there isn’t, thankfully. But the not knowing sucked.
I remember SVU did an episode with a teen pregnancy pact. Bizarre that teen pregnancy is demonised and then dramatized for entertainment by the same media 😵💫
“How dare these children not understand this would cause a pregnancy”
“We should tell them sex leads to pregnancy then-“
“WHAT THE FUCK IS A SEX”
CSI also had one! I remember the episode ending with the mc telling a guy that now he will have to work and give money to all the babies he made 💀
The law and order episode was bonkers. Literally has an odd jump cut of the pregnant teen rubbing her stomach and saying tick tock to Benson and saying she just mad she’s old and can’t get pregnant 💀
I remember that episode vividly!
at least they included the horrifically true fact that most of the fathers are adult men
I almost spit out my dinner when the girl said “I have a vlog… a video blog” and then Nick said “oh I also have a vlog. A vagina monologue”
I’m from Canada and I’m grade 8 we actually went to sex education camp. It was a 2 day, 1 night sleepover at a camp where we learned in depth about a variety of things relating to sex. Among things covered were: talks from nurses about STDs and proper hygiene for both men and women, 2 former prostitutes came in and discussed what it’s like a to be a sex worker as well as their struggles with addiction, a teen mom came in and talked to us about the realties of being a teen mom, drug and addictions counsellors came and talked to us about drugs and sex, we learned about various types of birth control, we learned about what actually happens during sex, we learned about consent and how to say/accept no, and a lot more.
Where the heck was this when I needed it?! (Apparently in Canada) but seriously everyone not just 8th graders should go through this because this is exactly what people need
Can I take that class? I'm an adult and I know I need it
@@icarv9073 this was a small town in Alberta Canada. It was organized through a partnership with our school and staff from several organizations within our town’s public health system. The same people also did a very good presentation on drunk driving and the importance of wearing seatbelts when we were in grade 9.
@@thekatvita my husband went to public school in Calgary and apparently they talked about what STDs are and what they do to you as well as what happens when you have sex like in terms of what goes where and what happens when males and females get turned on. They also talked about proper hygiene for after sex and stuff.
Damn at my school we just learned what an STI is, what parts of the badly xeroxed diagram of a vulva was what, and how condoms are important.
Ok i felt attacked from the “highschooler that graduates but goes back to school” lmao. As soon as i graduated I became a substitute teacher since cuz I get paid $200 to do my homework and tell high schoolers they can use the restroom
Man; purity culture REALLY did a number on me as a teen and even adulthood. While I managed to avoid this video, I could not escape Pam Stenzel yelling at me through a T.V. screen about "sex is bad m'kay?". I gotta wonder just how many teens and adults (especially women) were traumatized by films like this and promoted abstinence-only education.
Its hilarious to me that since all of that made me terrified of being attracted to dudes I ended up being exclusvely into girls during hs (im bisexual)
✋Me
I spent my youth confused as hell about purity culture as an asexual. I was told just about every day that I'd eventually have "impure thoughts" about boys and the only effective way to stay pure was "a quarter between my legs". Yeah those impure thoughts never seemed to make it my way
@@rowanquynn9964 Same here. I honestly think that my asexuality shielded me from the worst of purity culture, but it still messed with my perception of my body (seriously if I had a dollar for every time we were told not to be a "stumbling block for our brothers in Christ" I could actually pay for my therapy).
@Rachel Rentschler agreed. I may not have experienced the same struggles as some people, but it really skewed my view of myself, my body, and my rights. And ultimately it made me a prime target for grooming as I had no sex education
Fun fact: Home pregnancy tests have a removable cap that covers the end you pee on, so grabbing both ends isn't quite as bad as you'd think. However, she should be wearing gloves regardless.
Why?
@@DavidKen878 Just to be safe, pee is a biohazard.
@@DavidKen878 i think so she doesnt contaminate the thing with anything she might have on her hands already
edit: sorry i forgot it was about the nurse. she should be wearing gloves because it's unsanitary and then wash her hands immediately, before touching anything in her office. germs and stuff
It's still gross. I've taken pregnancy tests for peace of mind because I have an irregular period and even though it's MY pee and the test has been capped, I still don't touch that end. Why would you when you can easily just...not?
@@adios-bitchachos Fair enough.
Same with the Erin Brockovich movie. The true story is shocking: the lawyers weren't heroes, the cancer patients didn't get more than a few thousand, and the degree to which the toxin was present was embellished. And to think that movie got Oscar nominations! Erin Brockovich herself is not the heroine she appears to be - she almost got people killed in a drunk boating incident. The town is now an impoverished ghost town, because no one wanted to visit or buy a house in "the cancer town".
The sad part about teen pregnancy is that 40% of the fathers are between the ages of 20-29.
This came out when I was almost done with college and I’d been trying, and failing, to get pregnant for a while.
It was incredibly frustrating to me because I was married, my husband had a decent job, I was about to graduate and have a decent job, and even with medical intervention I was having trouble getting pregnant, but the top story on the news was about a high school that had _so many_ pregnant teenagers that people were assuming they were getting pregnant on purpose.
Now my kid is in middle school and district he’s in had the genius idea to cancel literally _all_ sex ed.
Not even abstinence only sex ed, just no sex ed at all.
So, I’m sure by the time my kid is in high school, the pregnancy rate and the STI rates are going to be sky high.
And I can’t do anything about it except teach my own kid comprehensive sex ed myself and hope I don’t forget anything.
I hope some teachers band together and make a comprehensive online resource for parents like you (the ones trying to rectify the nightmare of a forcibly religious educational system)
@@breetoldyouso That would be amazing if someone did.
I bought a couple sex ed books to help me, but neither is 100% comprehensive. But at least they mention sex between two people of the same gender (which is illegal for teachers to do in my state), intersex people, and the difference between sex and gender.
But I’m at still worried I’m going to forget something.
It was like that when I went to high school, there used to be a very comprehensive and productive greasier program at my high school, but it wasn’t considered appropriate by abstinence only proponents, and the district just cut our sex ed entirely. We had not one sex es class throughout the entirety of high school lol
I'm so confused , isn’t this your job anyway? the last sentence make it seems like it shouldn't be on you to teach your kid about safe sex...maybe I misinterpreted it but thats weird. school should teach about safe sex but it's the parent's job first
I've had sex Ed classes since 6th grade (I still know nothing, lol), but I actually remember a teacher really trying to teach us how to be safe and use contraceptives. Did the whole condom on a cucumber thing to show us who to put them on correctly. We'll, she got in trouble for it because it was "inappropriate and vulgar". Well, jokes on the school, we had several pregnant middle schoolers, and we knew where everyone was screwing.
I never took part in any of the activities, but every kid in the school knew these things, and the facility still thought not teaching us to be safe was the better option.
There was a girl in the class below me actively trying to get pregnant. She had some sort of gynecological issue that meant she wasn't going to be able to get pregnant later or at least that's what she said (heard her say it firsthand). The rumor mill around her was all sorts of negative. Kinda felt bad for her.
That is really sad.. I can understand how someone who wants a biological family and might not be able to have one might swing to the extreme of pushing very hard to become pregnant young. I hope she had a healthy pregnancy, healthy baby, and strong support system.
She was probably from a religious family and shamed for her condition most teen girls would see not being able to get pregnant as a positive it may suck later but to each their own
“You can have support from your own bra, and that’s it lady, get out.” LMAO. 😂😭
Wait wait wait
So the dad went to the boyfriend's house to confront him and tell him to "be a man" but then doesn't want to ask his family to financially contribute to the baby?! 😂
"Who wants to be a grandma at 31?" Guess her mom didn't ask that question when she had her daughter at 16 😅
"How could you decide to bring another mouth to feed into this house when I can barely feed you" it's almost like this is why available contraception and sex ed are good ideas for teens; because kids are stupid and they make bad choices due to not knowing better yet and having underdeveloped brains.
"That's not our jizzness", let's turn that into a running gag, I love it.
Co-signed lol
If the mom is 31, then she also got pregnant at 15/16....
I was thinking this too
I was expecting her say "didn't I teach you better/learn from my mistakes" and the daughter saying "so I'm just a mistake to you" and running off
“Someone told me to meditate so i literally smoked crack for the first time” 😂 you never fail to make me full belly laugh
This movie didn’t work because when I was a teen this movie made me want to get pregnant lol
hahaha seems fun
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I can't tell if this is a joke because this girl in my high school wanted to get pregnant soooooo baaaaaad after she watched this and also Juno (I live in Florida)
@@mtwall5933 I’m 100% serious lol the only reason why I changed my mind(also I wasn’t planning on actually getting pregnant the movie just made me want to be) is because I watch 16 and pregnant and it looked like a nightmare so I was like “fuck no”
i genuinely can’t imagine what part of this movie could make you even consider wanting to get pregnant. the part where they talk about tearing during childbirth alone was enough for me to be like “yeah im never getting pregnant”
Yes the 31 year old mother was also a Teen Mom. In another scene she tells Carissa (Barnessa) that she should know better after seeing how much struggle their life was.
“Sorry mom…. I just felt like I couldn’t come to you to talk about sex at all because you always said you never did anything at my age and people who do are bad”
“Well honey I actually had so much unprotected teen sex and was very worried about the risks the whole time so I thought the best thing for you would be to lie my purity while constantly shaming and guilting you for having any sexual urges at all and make it impossible for you to access information about the realities of sex and safe sex practices in hopes that deters you from any sort of experimentation.”
Maybe just start an open dialogue with your child
Love how real life principal of the school where the true story happened was like "let me make up a story about my teen students wanting to create a cult around them becoming moms at 14 to spread panic and get clout 💅".
I would tell that principal to "get a job", but he evidently has one.
It was very very difficult to swallow my mouthful of tea during the “I’m a carrot and broccoli .. biter” solo
I remember this news story and Jamie spears getting pregnant so well because I was secretly pregnant at 16 at the time. I remember my dad watching the news and saw me and said "watch next thing you know Megan is going to be pregnant!" The cold chill that went down my spine! It was a funny joke he made because I had my first boyfriend at the time but was always really shy..... Oh my if he only knew! 😅
Did you keep the baby? Did he ever find out?
@@thesheetshow1087 no I fortunately got an abortion. The man who got me pregnant was incredibly abusive. He would closed fist punch my face and strangle me a lot. Along with many other things. That and being 16 I couldn't keep the baby or we both would have died. And no my dad never found out.
@@grantmegan91 wow. I’m really glad you’re okay
@@breetoldyouso thank you 💖
Terrifying situation... all too common, and unfortunatley ends badly more often than good. I'm glad you were able to make it out.
I'm so afraid of what kids in similar situations have to face with abortion being banned (in the US) and nearly every state actively fighting against any sex ed at all because they're scared of pronouns. Hope the crusty old fucks forcing people to go through pregnancy go extinct soon. They're barely holding their saggy skin to their dusty bones at this point so hope it's soon so we can gain back just a little sanity.
Oh you sweet summer child. There's a brand new film out called "The Pregnancy Promise," and in terms of regressive messaging it makes "The Pregnancy Pact" look like "Do The Right Thing." I was asked to audition for it, and they sent me the script... despite my being thirsty AF for lead roles, I gave it a hard pass. (There's a trailer for it on YT, and whomever cut it together does not know what the word "spoilers" means! Also, comments are turned off) 😆
Oh no, oh nononononono ( ﾟДﾟ) Am panicked
Wow, you're right. The whole story including the main mystery is right there 😕 They need to get a better editor.
@@Mels0103 😹ikr?
Omg
Talking about a time where us trans weren’t used for fear mongering and political distraction feels like Sam and Frodo talking about remembering the taste of strawberries on the side of mount doom
Just as a heads up (coming from someone that is adopted), it is normally better to say “placed for adoption” instead of “gave up for adoption.” I don’t think it is a big deal, but I know my other adopted friends and some of the community prefer it being said/explained that way. Just wanted to put that out there for future reference. Anywho…this video is pure comedic gold per usual 😂
That’s really good to know! Do you mind if I ask why it’s a preferred term?
@@breetoldyouso Oh ya of course! There is a lot of care and time spent in the adoption process, and saying “placed” instead of “gave up” really puts emphasis on the actual placement process. Saying “give up” implies a different meaning and intent. My family (who took adoption classes) was told that you give up toys or clothing, so saying that about a child can be damaging to them. If you’re interested, there are a decent amount articles about the differences and how it effects the children that are placed. Saying “gave up” is super common though, so I’m sure no one would be offended if they hear it, I just figured since Nick is so socially conscious it might be a good thing to mention for the future. Hope that helped explain it!
That's a really good distinction. "Gave up" implies abandonment. "Placed" takes into account the difficulty of the decision and the love and care that goes into the whole adoption process.
The doctor actually threw the pregnancy test in the trash can next to the filing cabinet but she then proceeded to touch everything and go about her day. **gags**
My grandfather worked on the audio engineering for this movie. I remember my grandmother got weirdly afraid of me becoming a pregnant teen during this time lol
“Says thank you by smearing poo on them the next day” is a more accurate statement than you’ll ever know 😂😂
Regarding the whole Sydney pregnancy situation; I absolutely agree that it's her body, her choice. However, I think it's kind of fucked up that she chose to carry the baby to term and put them up for adoption without telling the father. She didn't want to be a parent and that's ok, but he obviously did want kids and didn't get to raise his son.
Fun fact: no one was burned at the stake in the Salem witch trials. They were hanged instead. Giles Corey was crushed under a bunch of rocks, but that was for refusing to enter a plea rather than for being guilty of witchcraft. Apparently if he didn't plead, they technically couldn't find him guilty and his land would go to his family rather than be confiscated by the state.
Have had a pretty miserable last few days in cancer treatment and I just wanted to say thank you for posting about this movie and making my entire day ❤️
Omg I always watched Nick’s vids during my treatment too! Always cheered me up. You’ve got this 💪🏻
i went to a nerd highschool, basically all type A overachievers, and this movie came out in my junior year. i remember how much my friends and i laughed about it. yeah, sure, lets get pregnant - in between debate, robotics, 4 AP classes, extracurricular clubs, and a 2 hour commute. OKAY 🤣 nevermind our tiger mom ass parents. we literally thought it was the stupidest shit bc our schedules were too packed to slot in a baby.
Well, im sure it didn't stop the activities lol
26:47 hold up. HOLD up. "who wants to be a grandmother at 31?" if her daughter is 15-16 and pregnant and she's 31, then mom here must've also gotten pregnant at that age...??
Well yes, I think that’s not a secret. More reason for her to be disappointed in her daughter, for not getting out of the cycle of poverty
@@83croissant i get that she is sad because her daughter make the same mistake she did, but to be honest, i think that the mother also being a teen mom herself and still insisting in only teaching her daughter abstinense and refusing to teach her any other form of protection only makes her look worse. A kid can't break the cycle is you don't teach them how to do it.
@@despinasgarden.4100 oh no yeah I see that. In this case though I don’t think the failure was that the mother taught her to be abstinent… we didn’t see this mother really parent her at all , I think she , at best, just expected that school would teach her daughter whatever she needed. She was a single mom and didn’t have time for it
@@83croissant are you sure she was a single mom? Because the girl has a father in the movie, is he her stepfather? Also, the mother is religious and didn't want the nurse teaching about sex education in the school, so i doubt that she expected the school to teach her daughter, she actually has a debate with the nurse about giving protection is school and the mom is in favor of "abstinense only programs".
@@despinasgarden.4100 we’re not talking about the main girl .
Teen pregnancy shows terrified me so much that when I had my daughter at 27 I felt like a teen mom and I’m married 😅
Christianity got me so scared that I'm 36 and a lesbian and haven't had sex since 2018 but every time my period is late I'm like OH GOD IT'S JESUS
Nick, let me say thanks to you for always talking about social issues in your videos! I appreciate that you take the time to fill us in not only on social issues relevant to the era whatever you're clipping is from, but you also bring up urgent and current issues that can always use more voices! As part of the LGBTQIA+ community myself, I'm so so so thankful a creator like you is broadcasting the issues facing marginalized and underserved communities to a wider audience ❤
The three girl's story actually sounds somewhat wholesome in the face of the fear and uncertainty they must've been going through. I hope that they managed to get some relief from the news cycle haunting them.
"To [you] skanks my heart remains fervent" is going into my Christmas card this year. Do you have a public mailing address, Nick? 😂
Time to grab a bowl of popcorn, get all my squishmallows arranged on my couch and throw on my weighted blanket 😌 looking forward to laughing and also learning from Nic 😊
That sounds so cozy
Why does the arranged snacks and weighted blanket sound like what my autistic self would do😂 It does sound delightful ❤
35:15 I'm gonna have to push back on that claim about them all being middle-class with devoted parents in the most privileged circumstances for teen pregnancy. Like at this point you've already explicitly shown that one girl's mom is struggling for money to the point of hardly being able to feed the family (and she herself was a teen mom), and the blonde girl's mom is an alcoholic. Surely these aren't ideal privileged situations?
Not to mention the girl living with her elderly grandmother and smoking while her boyfriend slacks.
52:40 I never noticed the empty cup thing until you pointed it out and now I see it everywhere. I genuinely think you might be the first person with a platform on the internet to draw attention to it.
They definitely aren't but haha it bothers me too!
Random comment, but I was watching your ad break and had a thought that you’re the only creator whose ads I don’t skip- it’s evident the work and time you put in to making your sponsored segments fun and visually engaging, and I just thought I’d say it’s not unnoticed!
I don’t skip either!
Same here!
I don’t skip either! And I love the bar that shows you how far through the ad you are
I was always fascinated with this movie from a distance. Never once watched it, but was so confused by the subject matter. Babies were for adults, and why a teenager would purposely want one was absolutely alien to preteen me.
Unfortunately bad parents will look for any excuse to blame their children for everything as long as it means that they don’t actually have to parent them 🙃🙄
To be fair, if all the actors in this Gloucester school sounded like actual Gloucester kids, nobody in the rest of the country would believe it was anything but a junior college production of "Mystic River." I do love how the whole town has to be nothing but boats and endless seagull sounds and being trapped by the one road that leads in and out, when in reality, it's about 11 minutes away from two malls.
(MA resident offended by old Lifetime movie here.)
What is the real Gloucester like?
@@kbeats5289 Gloucester resident and I will say that it is all seagulls and boats and there’s the greasy pole but that’s it
The malls aren’t in Gloucester and it’s a half hour away
Yeaaahhh I had a Mormon friend in high school (in Utah) who had a real pregnancy pact with her friends. They weren't allowed to date until 16, and supposed to get married by 18, go on a mission at 19 and have 4 kids by 24. But if one of them deviated from that, they had agreed to *all* do it. This was over a decade ago and I'm still shook they took that seriously.
My thought through the whole movie is like . . . ? It takes two to tango? Especially with Jesse he said Sara ruined his life and how it was her fault but like. Don't do the actions to make a baby if you're not gonna take responsibility for the baby? The guys all got off with no judgement really
As a teen parent (I am 23 now, they/them) myself, shows and movies like this do nothing to actually bring empathy and compassion for the experience. The worst parts of being a teen mom are the stigma, the sexism, the invasion of privacy and the lack of options (for birth control, education and family planning options) that I dealt with.
(I am Very Pro-Choice, and even if I didn't want my child, it wasn't even legal in my state to not have them when I found out.)
We're a cautionary tale, nasty props to "the downfall of society" never seen as people. In the political sense, we are just a pawn in the Pro- Life/Pro choice debate, *rarely* actually treated like people. Straight up, screw this movie and thanks for talking about it
Genuine question, did you know you were a "they/them" since birth? Like a lot of trans men or women say that they felt horrible anxiety ever since childhood that they were born in the wrong body. But I've never heard a "they's" experience. What is the difference from dressing androgynous and being a "them"? I genuinely would like to know to better understand.
@Avacado Toast In my experience, I never felt like I fit in with either gender. I always felt uncomfortable when people split up boys and girls in PE, and the idea of the gender binary seemed wrong to me. I do feel some dysphoria, but not as bad as it would be for a trans woman pr trans man.
Love that you're reviewing this one! I watched it with friends when I was in middle school and it's definitely one of Lifetime's classic, funny because it's so bad movies.
truly one of the greats! thank you for being hyere!
@@NickDiRamioTV Thank you for great content! :)
Perfect as usual, I’m cracking up. You need to do a compilation of empty cup scenes like Jamie French with girls falling lmao
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 One of the highlights of a Jaime French video! ❤
Yes!!
As a teen it seemed very obvious that getting pregnant could possibly ruin my life, as in becoming poor, derailing my education etc. I was super terrified of it and used protection religiously. I’m always completely baffled by teens that want to get pregnant,
That's because they grow up around baby momma culture.
I just lost my job to a store closure and I’ve already been struggling lately. I know this will help me forget about it for awhile!
so sorry about your loss of employment, hope youre taking care while seeking the next EVEN BETTER opportunity!
I'm sorry Baby. That sucks.
I’m finishing up my aircraft maintenance license….it’s time.
My friends saw the movie and then WANTED to enter a pregnancy pact with me and a few others. They took the story as "oh this will be so fun!" yeah, turned out not to be fun after all.
I loved seeing the editor do the pizza dance I’m so glad you put that in 😂
Feelin’ real rough today, so a dose of your humor is exactly what I needed! 💜
hope you have a relaxing peaceful rest of your day, thanks for spending some time with me!!
@@NickDiRamioTV Thank you so much🙏🏻🥰 I often rewatch your videos for a good mood lifter, but there’s nothing like a fresh vid - and this one did just the trick!
Godddddd my friend insisted we watch this movie together when she got pregnant at the end of hs, pretty sure she was trying to get me to decide I wanted to join her in teen pregnancy-land lol, good thing I was exposed to a crying pooping newborn shortly afterwards 😂
LMAO seeing a newborn is the best birth control. I watched my stepmom go into labor when I was 13, she said "this will be the best birth control for you" and she was Right 💀
I've changed enough diapers tbh
Hahaha tbf I wouldn’t hate having a kid these days, or at least the idea no longer repulses me like it did in my early/mid twenties (probs because I’ve met someone who would be a dope asf dad lol) but even so, I’ll need more of my life in order before I can cope with the screaming 😂 god he was a sweet wee guy but one day with him sick and me tired as hell taught me pretty quick that I was NOT ready for a kid hahaha (and I’m sure you’ve had your fill, growing up with much younger siblings sounds like a trip!!)
54:54 lmaoo never a pregnant teen, but this was my reaction when I learned several Christian women who I looked up to never practiced abstinence until marriage 😭 I was only shocked because of how VISCIOULY they advocated for abstinence.
"Rule for thee but not for me"
Yes!!!! I remember that I recommended this one like months ago. I'm so glad Nick is tackling it!
such a good idea tysm!!
PLEASE THE MIKAYLA REFERENCE 😭😭 I died lol. I remember watching this movie years ago i’m so happy you covered it, great vid as always nick!
I am VERY VERY thankful for even the minimal sex ed my school provided. I dated a 21 year old at 16 and he had a pregnancy fetish and claimed the condom "broke" (it was dark and im pretty sure he faked putting it on). That scare fucked me up for months because I was so anxious and worried. A year after we broke up he was 22 and got a 15 year old pregnant. My mom didn't have a sex talk with me until I was 17 or 18 and by then I'd already had multiple partners. My family and community was also very religious so there was a lot of misinformation. The only reason I knew to demand condoms during sex was because of my school's education. It is VITAL that schools teach these things.
a lot of girls during when i went to highschool would get pregnant at age 15-16 by SENIORS. ADULTS. who would literally get them drunk at parties and then convince them to have sex. we had somewhat of a proper sex ed class too but there was also a permission slip needed. it was only taken once during whatever year they decided to put it on your schedule. i strongly believe a proper sex ed class that would show the birth process (ours did) and all the risks of having unprotected sex would have helped a lot of teen pregnancy prevention if it was required every year. it bothered me how much it was focused on girls not getting pregnant but never ever addressing the fact that men should ALWAYS wear condoms. also none of the blame never went to the fathers who were literally adults getting teens pregnant. it was abhorrent. i really feel for all the girls who were taken advantage of. 😢
Question. When you say they would show the birth process... did you actually have to watch someone give birth??? (on a video or something)
@@insomniacraccoon Yes! i’m not sure if she found an educational video cause she was a health teacher or found one on youtube but it was a quick clip of the baby being born and then she would stop the video. probably like 30 or 60 seconds we just saw the birth basically
im from gloucester, everyone in the boston area still talks about the scandal and makes gloucester out to be a teenage pregnancy cesspool. other schools in the area had it worse but the media forever tainted my hometown
The longer Nick’s videos get the more I feel like life’s worth living.
Two movies about pregnant teenagers that I actually like (then again, it's been years since I've seen them) are "For Keeps" with Molly Ringwald and "Fifteen and Pregnant" with Kirsten Dunst.
I remember watching "Fifteen and Pregnant" when I was a kid and I loved it! I thought it was so realistic even though I knew nothing about actual pregnancy and teen pregnancy issues; I just liked the fact that it wasn't a purely happy film.
And “18 and life” no wait..that’s a skid row song about prison…yeah “18 and life” would work 😂
Yaaaaaaaas
Where The Heart Is has a,ways been my favorite teen pregnancy movie!