I have interviewed many survivors and even women recruiters and pimps in other countries. NO ONE has ever really explained the psychological enticement and then domination so clearly as you have, Karly! Bravo for the courage and dedication, the humility and pride that you have the knowledge and the POWER to pull back the curtain and help all of us end our delusions. You are right, it ain't the movies. But you have painted an even more vivid and clear picture. Since no has said it in the comments below, let me say this now from the bottom of my heart. "I AM PROUD OF YOU and the power-house visionary of a woman you have become." Keep speaking up to free up others. You are called to do great things and are already well on your way.
This is nonsense anyway, trafficker butters them up endlessly? Yeah or they just drag them off at gun point, beat them and chain them up somewhere. I wish I heard stories of all this buttering up going on! That's why I told, doesn't exist in the West. This is the first time I heard about the buttering them up! Getting their hair done and their nails done? What? What are you guys talking about and what am I talking about?
@Susan Dane Setin, your comment brought me to tears! I too am so proud of this brave and intelligent young woman! This horrific practice needs to stop. A loved, valued, and empowered child will be difficult to traffick.
People like her are the real heroes. Not some spoiled celebrity or overpaid, whiny athlete. Support people like her with your time and money instead of those fake "heroes."
Mangaran... no one wants his own daughter to experience this particular aspect of life. I ask myself however another question: what were the underlying causes for her to be so vulnerable? Let us treat the causes. It's easy to see but people go to these Ted talks to be entertained and some will stop at the local massage parlor on their way back home to complete a nice evening. You see, in Europe most of the prostitutes come from Romania. Everybody knows. Why? Is there a natural propensity for prostitution if you happen to be born Romanian? Or are we talking about a destitute country endemically oppressed from the times of count Dracula to thos of Čausescu? People at the bottom of an unjust social pyramid turn to prostitution because their body and mental callousness is all they are left with... let's cut the bs! Oppression and poverty are the culprits.
@@paulcolburn3855 Sadly, a lot of runaways genuinely need to escape a dangerous situation at home. Rather than saying "don't run away" we need to be giving these kids a place to go which is actually safe where they won't be judged or punished, where they will be treated well and have ongoing support (sadly not true for many shelters or government programs). More often than not it's the kids who are already traumatised and feel like they have no safe place to turn, who end up running into the arms of a trafficker, the first person in their life who's ever treated them 'kindly'.
Thank you for speaking out. As someone who suffers from PTSD, I can only imagine that every time you do a talk about this, you are brought back there all over again. The sacrifice you make every time you tell your story to spread awareness should not be taken lightly. Thank you. You are a hero
A minority of people shouldn't be breathing air. I'm astonished by the spirit of this woman, aware, unafraid, and brave. Her ability to with-stand her abusers to return a strong centered woman testifies to her brilliance. Godspeed Karly.
Very powerful speech and very informative. I sat there the whole time thinking "how could a beautiful, smart woman like this be a victim of trafficking?" and then she laid it out. These men (people) who do this to our children should be dealt with severely. I can only hope that she has found a healthy relationship in her own life beyond her work in helping those other victims.
Such an incredible woman! I don't even know you but I am proud of you. You have come a long. Thank you for sharing your story and teaching us about domestic trafficking.
This is how you empower women. She's right: education is power. Karly's story is a lesson, and one you don't want to learn twice. Let's stop trafficking everywhere. Help women, help girls.
What I found heartbreaking was the sound of her voice that betrayed her. She is hanging on by a thread to who she is now. You can hear the fear in her voice that she could get sucked back into that life. I want to tell her it’s going to be ok that she doesn’t have to be afraid anymore and that we are all very proud of her for taking a stand against what happened to her. I will be sharing this video with everyone I know especially people who have children. It’s not the stranger in the white mini van they need to worry about. It’s that 20 something guy showing interest in your 14-17 year old daughter that you need to worry about. It’s people in your town or city that are the threat not some gang from an east european country.
That’s not vulnerability. She knows who she is and what she knows. That’s her heart breaking for herself remembering when she didn’t. She clearly has a ton of knowledge and compassion and that’s why she helps others now.
Under "what you can do to ignite change" I would add "surround young women with the genuine love of a healthy, supportive community." To live with that aching void that opens up like a wound when no one cares enough to ask you about your life and then really listen when you trust someone enough to confide in him or her is unbearable. Obviously, it leaves one vulnerable to exploitation. The basis of our self-esteem and self-worth is genuine love.
You are comparing apples to pears, making yourselve sad. What I mean by apples and pears is: one is entertainment/relaxation and this is education. You are basically stating that pears are just apples that are "sad" and it reflects on all pears and all pears should be ashamed of themselves for not looking like an apple. That's a great way to get yourself down. It doesn't help the apples, or the pears. The reason that relaxation and entertainment is so populair, is because people keep making themselves sad or panicky, like we see today with the global "crises". Not denying challenging things exist, but pointing toward the human nature to classify these neutral events as "bad" or "good", point the finger and shame.. spreading more anxiety and challenge. It pays to see things as neutral, accept that you don't see these things as neutral and identify the reason, why this is bothering you within yourself in stead of outside yourself. Then accept that and have compassion with yourself. This is one of the hardest things to do and most rewarding :)
My thoughts exactly. The truely important things in life get no attention. The frivolous minor things of the world seem to get all the focus. It's very sad but true.
This is an amazing explanation and while I have never been a victim of human trafficking, I've been a repeat victim of narcissistic abuse. It sounded like you were telling my story. There are so many parallels.
This was one of the most straight forward talks on Human Trafficking. It was concise, bold, and to the point. I will pass on to my grandchildren; both girls and boys. Every school needs to hear this. Every parent needs to hear this.
most realistic explanation i have heard - great talk... thanks. I tried to speak up but wasn't strong enough. I know how the haters come after you when you speak up... how strong you need to be to publish this. Good for you for doing this. I was 'away' for 7 years.. 3 years out now and still working on my personal recovery and stability and strength. People don't understand and can't believe things like this happen to 'someone like me' - but they do.. thanks so much again for doing this talk!
You yourself are a testimony to strength and power to rise above the situation. Ignore the haters. They are a drop in a bucket of people who are grateful of listening to you.
You are my hero, you put into words what had been in my heart. They treated me better than anyone had ever treated me before. Somebody was finally proud. of me
Things have never been made more clear or more horrifying than after watching this. I am sending this to everybody I care about... EVERYONE should know this. Karly, as a fellow woman, I am proud of your perseverance and the unbelievable strength you must have had, to reach this far. Godspeed Karly!
Near my house, we have a pathway that’s parallel to the sea, its about 20kms long and a very popular walking spot. On regular intervals, there are benches facing the ocean and plants and trees...my point being, its a lovely place. I used to jog there for a while and sit on a bench near the exit (the same bench every time, since it was the closest to the exit and i could directly leave). One day, a man (prettty muscular, had tattoos but wasn’t covered in them, blonde, wearing casual clothes) sat beside me. He started a conversation by saying “I’ve been seeing you sitting here for a couple days”. That should’ve been a straight red flag but i couldn’t find it in myself to just ignore him and leave, even though i’ve had multiple encounters with people with bad intentions. I think i was comforted by the fact that it was a crowded place, so i indulged myself. The conversation started off normally, then turned into things like “are you waiting for someone?”, “are you alone?”, “how regularly do you come here?”. I thought i was safe considering, again, it was a crowded place so I just gave my default answers to the questions “Are you waiting for someone?” Yeah, my dad will be back in a few minutes, I took a break cuz i was tired. “Where do you live?” Oh, behind that building “Do you come here regularly?” No, not really. My dad just loves dragging me to his favorite places Most of the people i’ve dealt with are pretty straight forward. Asking me to get in their car so they can ‘drop me off’. Asking me for my address or phone number. Calling me beautiful, all that stuff. But i have to admit he was really good at making the conversation natural sounding. And then he said “you look really sad, are you okay?” And i was surprised because 1. People don’t ever ask me that 2. I was actually not okay, a family member had recently been diagnosed with cancer and a lot of others were dying. I’d also recently changed schools and wasn’t dealing with it very well, suddenly without friends (because its IMPOSSIBLE to make friends online) and with my parents busy all the time. He was so good at it, that at one point i handed him my phone so he could save his number. (Though i still refused to give him mine). At some point he took a picture with me, encouraged my to come again tomorrow so ‘we can talk again, its amazing talking to you’ AND I CONSIDERED ACTUALLY DOING IT. When i made an excuse to leave and ‘check up on my dad’ he lowkey hugged me. I never told my parents about it since i didn’t want to worry them. I got home and thought about it long and hard and decided there were far too many red flags and deleted his number. I haven’t gone there since. I’m 14 years old, I might have been wrong to assume anything but after watching this video, I highly doubt he wasn’t trying to traffic me’ The incident hasn’t affected me much, but i still think about it from time to time.
@Qin: I'm so glad you had time to think about this and listen to your "gut" feelings. Always heed that little voice telling you to "get out" or "run" or any "gut" feelings you have; I believe these feelings to be a leftover instinct from our ancient ancestors who lived in even far more dangerous life situations. Tell your friends what happened and what you think was going on, as well to help educate them. Love and light to you!
This is the classic Narcissist scheme. Only that handler person commercially uses their victim, while otherwise the Narcissist discards the person and enjoys the agony they cause and the power they have over their victim. The grooming period is the same. We regular soft people go into their trap, because we believe what is not really true. For victims of narcissistic abuse it is usually very difficult to understand that the person they loved does not really exist. It is a projection of her longing that the smart predator imitates. Knowing all along that there is no love involved...
This person is in a very small minority. Regular people are exploited in more regular ways such as financially and via social media. This woman was hard programmed from a young age and her brain created a near inescapable mental prison which led to her being taken advantage of. This is why we need to pay more attention to our kids instead of leaving them to fend for themselves. Education starts in the household.
I’ve heard Karly before here on YT. This woman has explained her experience in the most articulate way I’ve ever heard. It proves how monumentally important it is to have supportive loving parents which she obviously never experienced. I’m so glad she survived and is here to articulate what this is and to empower ur children.
This is hER experience of what it looks like. It looks like other ways, too. Some ARE kidnapped, beaten, locked in a room and killed. I appreciated how she dissected the steps.
DJ jazzy josie, i would also add that its the same definition of more abusive churches and cults. scientology for example works just like traffickers. collecting information to use against someone, limiting the victims options(friends, education, internet etc), producing fear of outsiders etc etc
@@lowlowseesee I agree with your all of your points. I meant "the obvious" is the end result in trafficking would be selling/ getting tricked into selling yourself against your will. (not to say this can't also happen in an abusive relationship)
This presentation should be a part of academic curriculum... Irrespective of national boundaries.... Trafficking is real, and spread beyond boundaries...
Long before anyone commits this crime there has to be a society so indifferent to its young people to create the conditions for exploration. It is easy to blame parent/s for not being there but so many are working longer and longer hours (being exploited in a different way) not by choice but by dire need while kids are left to fend for themselves. It is easy to focus on the trafficker’s crime while ignoring a collective responsibility in creating the ideal conditions for it.
True. A child growing up in that situation has no one there for them, no sense of belonging, no sense or reality of safety. Social, spiritual and systemic change is required, so that we truly value and protect our children, creating an environment at home and in the world which provides safety and care. This would eventually address this awful problem at 'all ends' (those that exploit, by pimping or paying for the service and those that are used) and making for more balanced, aware, caring and strong individuals who value and respect themselves and all life.
I don't know if this will ever reach her, but I'm proud of you, Karly! Your strength and value are beyond words, and the job you're doing is so amazing and inspiring that it will have something to teach to anyone that watches it. If not about human trafficking, then about hope, attitude, power and change. I think you can tell by the other comments how much a 17 minutes long talk can impact a complete stranger. I'm proud of you, and I hope you always remind yourself you should be proud of yourself too! Thank you 😊
Wow. As a future physician, this video has enlightened me so greatly on how to approach future patients that may be at risk / be in the depths of trafficking already. Thank you for sharing your story and for teaching us about this concealed reality.
Thank you, Karly, for sharing your story and for explaining this so powerfully and clearly. You've opened my eyes. Every parent and teen should hear this message.
I was recruited in Houston outside of a job fair by a women & she offered me a modeling contract. She had a dark look in her eyes & couldn’t smile. She turned over my number to her “manager” aka pimp named Taz who eventually blewwww my phone up with texts, calls & voicemails. Scary. Thank you Jesus that the Holy Spirit warned me & gave me that gut check that they did not plan on helping me become a model but traffic me.
I bet Karly was lured in Eaton Centre in downtown Toronto. According to local news, most of the run away girls hangout there. City of Toronto should open an office there to help these girls.
Wow, powerful presentation! Tell this story to teens,in schools, where they hang out, in shelters. You go! Congratulations on finding your balance and stepping out of the grind they put you in. You're very strong and yes, I am very proud of you, as you should be. Xx
Karly, thank you for being so brave! thank you for teaching how the deceit becomes the drug. There will be those who will not ever understand how vulnerable a young girl can be but that is exactly what turns them on. And we all know how our shadow side eludes us.
It's very sad & scary that parents aren't building their kids up to not be susceptible to this on many levels. Not everyone should be a parent. The world is not easy.
Thank you Karly you are a saviour to many young girls. You are right they should have you talk in the schools to help prevent trafficking. Thank you for your strength you are a very intelligent young woman! Thanks for spreading such critical information!
God Bless you Karley. I've worked with Victims of HT and have shared all that I have learned with my kids and others that I worked with. Keep sharing and spreading the word.
Thanks for addressing this in the manner you did. Most people don't understand that this can go on right underneath their noses. Nor do they know what to look for.
Karly you are amazing !!! I did picture a cape behind your back while i was watching you. Your breaking down of the psychological trap is magnificent. Your strenght and bravery is astonishing. Congratulations for pulling yourself out of this nightmare with clarity. You are brilliant !!!!
Thank you Karly for posting. I've learned so much. I plan on passing this video on to friends and family. Karly, you have come a long way. I think you're brave and strong. Wishing you the best!
What a brave, empowered, intelligent person this lady is! This TedTalk is one of the best ones yet and should be shared in school among young kids because this information could save a lot of people
Beautiful speech. It seems that the root cause is us, our society. If everyone is well taken care off, there is no issues at all. Our society is not well. We're not a just society. Those that fall thru the crack, those that got left behind, they will have issues.
Karly, you are AMAZING. Thank you for telling the world of your experiences, and for helping us understand what such a horrific crime actually looks like. You are a HERO.
Karly, I am so proud of you for speaking out and sharing your traumatising experience with us. This is relatable in so many different ways because we have all been there, abused and not being able to identify or walk out because how systematically we were trained to not trust our own instincts. I hope you find peace and live the life you always dreamt of living. More power to you.
You are an amaizing speaker. Your smart, extremely sharp whitted, COURAGEOUS! Thank you for sharing your story. Your what Heroes are made of! Keep up the good fight.
Karly, you explained this perfectly and I understood every word of it. You are amazing! For me, your explanation was also about how any toxic/abusive relationship works as I was in one.
Karly, we are all proud of you. Such clarity in explanation. I want to mention that the traffickers' methods she describes are very similar to narcissistic abuse.
Powerful. I recently saw the red flags while watching a grandchild. I am so grateful I recognized them before it was too late. I agree this information does need to be presented in high school and junior high. These people are expert at what they do. It doesn’t take very long to break a person.
The last words she spoke about young people being empowered: empowered by having a level independence that doesn't need what the traffickers have to offer. Jobs, skills, scholarships, earning potential, and education about the importance of freedom and independence.
Bless her heart....wake up world as she's telling it like it really is! Hug your children appropriately & they won't fall for the 'game' that uses their lives/weaknesses against them. 💔💔
OMG how simple and vulnerable are we... She is talking about young people but I , knowing myself, can confirm that these manipulations are working also in case of adultes. Thank you for the speach
Wow, fantastic talk, it Illustrates that there’s actually a science to all of this, and the presenter has it all down in an amazing easy to understand way. This should definitely be taught to young people.
My wife has been through abuse from her mothers husband. I’ve noticed how when she doesn’t get what she wants she does this to me. She had become accustomed to that treatment being done to her and she tries to do that to me . She has tried constantly alienate me from my family and friends, as well as using our children to hurt my parents by not letting them see them. She claimed she told her mother and her mother either didn’t believe her or did do anything because she was scared to leave the man or because where would she go what would she do. She claimed all of that but yet still seeks her mothers love and approval. I’m trying to get her into therapy. Heck , I would even go with her but she refuses to go thinking they would make her look crazy . We’ve been married 4 years and still nothing has changed because she stays in contact with people she claimed didn’t love her before but wants their love and attention so bad. I’m not rich so I can’t afford to have lawyers and doctors at my becoming call unfortunately. She finally agreed to take the arm implant birth control out in hopes of leveling out any hormonal imbalance to see if that added to what she had been going through .
This taught me a lot, its helped me understand my own past. You making things so clear and wanting to help people makes me want to help other people too. Thank you for being so brave and strong and focused ❤❤❤❤.
A well spoken message. Good for her for making others aware of how this system works to exploit women. More women need to come forward and give their testimony.
Wow karly, your story broke my heart and made me proud of the strength you have at the same time. God bless you. God will use you in mighty ways. Much love 💜💜💜
Thank you so much for your time. The content was informative, heartfelt, wise and precise. Bless you for being so strong, being yourself and wanting to help others.
I have interviewed many survivors and even women recruiters and pimps in other countries. NO ONE has ever really explained the psychological enticement and then domination so clearly as you have, Karly! Bravo for the courage and dedication, the humility and pride that you have the knowledge and the POWER to pull back the curtain and help all of us end our delusions. You are right, it ain't the movies. But you have painted an even more vivid and clear picture. Since no has said it in the comments below, let me say this now from the bottom of my heart. "I AM PROUD OF YOU and the power-house visionary of a woman you have become." Keep speaking up to free up others. You are called to do great things and are already well on your way.
This is nonsense anyway, trafficker butters them up endlessly? Yeah or they just drag them off at gun point, beat them and chain them up somewhere. I wish I heard stories of all this buttering up going on! That's why I told, doesn't exist in the West. This is the first time I heard about the buttering them up! Getting their hair done and their nails done? What? What are you guys talking about and what am I talking about?
@Susan Dane Setin, your comment brought me to tears! I too am so proud of this brave and intelligent young woman! This horrific practice needs to stop. A loved, valued, and empowered child will be difficult to traffick.
Is there anymore help out there cos alot of this is getting ignored in England
That is EXACTLY what I thought!!! This was truly profound.
I almost get kidnapped to England ... Watching this helps. Thanks.
All high schools should have her talk to students - amazing and deeply moving yet heart breaking at the same time
you would hope but the conservative parents will try to burn down the school if they do.
Or every PE teacher could show this video to her students
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She is ferociously articulate and intelligent. Powerful
No one believes me
She is! An amazing person!
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What do you mean?
Ferocious!!!
And, she is beautiful too! Great talk and presentation.
People like her are the real heroes. Not some spoiled celebrity or overpaid, whiny athlete. Support people like her with your time and money instead of those fake "heroes."
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I 100% agree!!
Very well said & right to the point.....
U, yes, let's bring someone down, just because of their job! Yes, yes! We need more maliciousness in this world! Good job, mate...
This has to be tought at highschools from age 12-13 and up.
Mangaran... no one wants his own daughter to experience this particular aspect of life. I ask myself however another question: what were the underlying causes for her to be so vulnerable?
Let us treat the causes.
It's easy to see but people go to these Ted talks to be entertained and some will stop at the local massage parlor on their way back home to complete a nice evening.
You see, in Europe most of the prostitutes come from Romania. Everybody knows. Why?
Is there a natural propensity for prostitution if you happen to be born Romanian? Or are we talking about a destitute country endemically oppressed from the times of count Dracula to thos of Čausescu? People at the bottom of an unjust social pyramid turn to prostitution because their body and mental callousness is all they are left with... let's cut the bs! Oppression and poverty are the culprits.
Actually as soon as children know.
@@nigel4776 you are right, time to catch up on my english again.
You mean middle school or even before that!
@@benzonex Wow. Very eloquent. I appreciate your observations.
This is the best talk I've seen on human trafficking. Very well explained
The "prey" upon the runaways. The most important part of her speech was the part about "giving you a place to stay." Don't runaway.
@@paulcolburn3855 exactly
@@paulcolburn3855 Sadly, a lot of runaways genuinely need to escape a dangerous situation at home. Rather than saying "don't run away" we need to be giving these kids a place to go which is actually safe where they won't be judged or punished, where they will be treated well and have ongoing support (sadly not true for many shelters or government programs). More often than not it's the kids who are already traumatised and feel like they have no safe place to turn, who end up running into the arms of a trafficker, the first person in their life who's ever treated them 'kindly'.
💙🙏🙏🙏💙 GBU Amen 💙🙏🙏🙏💙
Thank you for speaking out. As someone who suffers from PTSD, I can only imagine that every time you do a talk about this, you are brought back there all over again. The sacrifice you make every time you tell your story to spread awareness should not be taken lightly. Thank you. You are a hero
The “luring stage” sounds like a typical narcissistic relationship.
All of this does... I saw a close friend enter, struggle and leave a narcissistic, abusive relationship and everything makes even more sense now.
Exactly this !!! Every stage
Because a lot of these men - are narcissistic. They use people - why not like this?
Yes it is
A minority of people shouldn't be breathing air. I'm astonished by the spirit of this woman, aware, unafraid, and brave. Her ability to with-stand her abusers to return a strong centered woman testifies to her brilliance. Godspeed Karly.
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Very powerful speech and very informative. I sat there the whole time thinking "how could a beautiful, smart woman like this be a victim of trafficking?" and then she laid it out. These men (people) who do this to our children should be dealt with severely. I can only hope that she has found a healthy relationship in her own life beyond her work in helping those other victims.
Such an incredible woman! I don't even know you but I am proud of you. You have come a long. Thank you for sharing your story and teaching us about domestic trafficking.
You have an incredible ability to speak in front of an audience. Your story is also incredible.
This is how you empower women. She's right: education is power. Karly's story is a lesson, and one you don't want to learn twice. Let's stop trafficking everywhere. Help women, help girls.
The most powerful and eye opening detailed account of what really happens. Whoa!
I have a new level of compassion to these victims.
What I found heartbreaking was the sound of her voice that betrayed her. She is hanging on by a thread to who she is now. You can hear the fear in her voice that she could get sucked back into that life. I want to tell her it’s going to be ok that she doesn’t have to be afraid anymore and that we are all very proud of her for taking a stand against what happened to her.
I will be sharing this video with everyone I know especially people who have children. It’s not the stranger in the white mini van they need to worry about. It’s that 20 something guy showing interest in your 14-17 year old daughter that you need to worry about. It’s people in your town or city that are the threat not some gang from an east european country.
EXACTLY.
I also thought the same.
Instead of the vulnerability you hear, I hear the voice of a champion determined to make a difference
That’s not vulnerability. She knows who she is and what she knows. That’s her heart breaking for herself remembering when she didn’t. She clearly has a ton of knowledge and compassion and that’s why she helps others now.
I don't think she can get sucked back in. I think she's emotional because she went through SO MUCH and talking about it is hard.
The random knabbers exist too I have been followed a number of times & there are cars that cruise around looking for people
Under "what you can do to ignite change" I would add "surround young women with the genuine love of a healthy, supportive community." To live with that aching void that opens up like a wound when no one cares enough to ask you about your life and then really listen when you trust someone enough to confide in him or her is unbearable. Obviously, it leaves one vulnerable to exploitation. The basis of our self-esteem and self-worth is genuine love.
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It's really sad that videos from Vogue channel gets more views than these type of videos. Reflection of our society.
Amen...so true...people are wacked!
You are comparing apples to pears, making yourselve sad. What I mean by apples and pears is: one is entertainment/relaxation and this is education. You are basically stating that pears are just apples that are "sad" and it reflects on all pears and all pears should be ashamed of themselves for not looking like an apple. That's a great way to get yourself down. It doesn't help the apples, or the pears.
The reason that relaxation and entertainment is so populair, is because people keep making themselves sad or panicky, like we see today with the global "crises". Not denying challenging things exist, but pointing toward the human nature to classify these neutral events as "bad" or "good", point the finger and shame.. spreading more anxiety and challenge.
It pays to see things as neutral, accept that you don't see these things as neutral and identify the reason, why this is bothering you within yourself in stead of outside yourself. Then accept that and have compassion with yourself. This is one of the hardest things to do and most rewarding :)
Stop watching them, how else are they gonna keep millions in a sleep mode without distraction!
My thoughts exactly. The truely important things in life get no attention. The frivolous minor things of the world seem to get all the focus. It's very sad but true.
Thank you. Until now, i only had a Hollywood understanding of what's going on. Now I get it.
They need to have this discussion in EVERY middle and high school! Education is key!
This is an amazing explanation and while I have never been a victim of human trafficking, I've been a repeat victim of narcissistic abuse. It sounded like you were telling my story. There are so many parallels.
This was one of the most straight forward talks on Human Trafficking. It was concise, bold, and to the point. I will pass on to my grandchildren; both girls and boys. Every school needs to hear this. Every parent needs to hear this.
most realistic explanation i have heard - great talk... thanks. I tried to speak up but wasn't strong enough. I know how the haters come after you when you speak up... how strong you need to be to publish this. Good for you for doing this. I was 'away' for 7 years.. 3 years out now and still working on my personal recovery and stability and strength. People don't understand and can't believe things like this happen to 'someone like me' - but they do.. thanks so much again for doing this talk!
Keep going. You will get there in your own time. You have accomplished so much all ready.
Just by Your courageous comment You have contributed a lot ! Be proud of Yourself and go on loving Yourself
You yourself are a testimony to strength and power to rise above the situation. Ignore the haters. They are a drop in a bucket of people who are grateful of listening to you.
You are my hero, you put into words what had been in my heart. They treated me better than anyone had ever treated me before. Somebody was finally proud. of me
You should be very proud of yourself now Karly, in what you are doing now Karly, I hope you feel that self-respect and pride you craved as a child.
Thank you for your testimony! Every single middle school and high school need your speech.
Things have never been made more clear or more horrifying than after watching this.
I am sending this to everybody I care about...
EVERYONE should know this.
Karly, as a fellow woman, I am proud of your perseverance and the unbelievable strength you must have had, to reach this far.
Godspeed Karly!
Near my house, we have a pathway that’s parallel to the sea, its about 20kms long and a very popular walking spot. On regular intervals, there are benches facing the ocean and plants and trees...my point being, its a lovely place. I used to jog there for a while and sit on a bench near the exit (the same bench every time, since it was the closest to the exit and i could directly leave). One day, a man (prettty muscular, had tattoos but wasn’t covered in them, blonde, wearing casual clothes) sat beside me.
He started a conversation by saying “I’ve been seeing you sitting here for a couple days”. That should’ve been a straight red flag but i couldn’t find it in myself to just ignore him and leave, even though i’ve had multiple encounters with people with bad intentions. I think i was comforted by the fact that it was a crowded place, so i indulged myself. The conversation started off normally, then turned into things like “are you waiting for someone?”, “are you alone?”, “how regularly do you come here?”. I thought i was safe considering, again, it was a crowded place so I just gave my default answers to the questions
“Are you waiting for someone?” Yeah, my dad will be back in a few minutes, I took a break cuz i was tired.
“Where do you live?” Oh, behind that building
“Do you come here regularly?” No, not really. My dad just loves dragging me to his favorite places
Most of the people i’ve dealt with are pretty straight forward. Asking me to get in their car so they can ‘drop me off’. Asking me for my address or phone number. Calling me beautiful, all that stuff. But i have to admit he was really good at making the conversation natural sounding.
And then he said “you look really sad, are you okay?” And i was surprised because 1. People don’t ever ask me that 2. I was actually not okay, a family member had recently been diagnosed with cancer and a lot of others were dying. I’d also recently changed schools and wasn’t dealing with it very well, suddenly without friends (because its IMPOSSIBLE to make friends online) and with my parents busy all the time.
He was so good at it, that at one point i handed him my phone so he could save his number. (Though i still refused to give him mine). At some point he took a picture with me, encouraged my to come again tomorrow so ‘we can talk again, its amazing talking to you’ AND I CONSIDERED ACTUALLY DOING IT. When i made an excuse to leave and ‘check up on my dad’ he lowkey hugged me. I never told my parents about it since i didn’t want to worry them. I got home and thought about it long and hard and decided there were far too many red flags and deleted his number. I haven’t gone there since.
I’m 14 years old, I might have been wrong to assume anything but after watching this video, I highly doubt he wasn’t trying to traffic me’
The incident hasn’t affected me much, but i still think about it from time to time.
Qin, you’re obviously smart! Well handled and I’m so glad you didn’t contact him or go there again!
@@wjohnson9233 thank you, glad you think so :)
@Qin: I'm so glad you had time to think about this and listen to your "gut" feelings. Always heed that little voice telling you to "get out" or "run" or any "gut" feelings you have; I believe these feelings to be a leftover instinct from our ancient ancestors who lived in even far more dangerous life situations. Tell your friends what happened and what you think was going on, as well to help educate them. Love and light to you!
This is the classic Narcissist scheme.
Only that handler person commercially uses their victim, while otherwise the Narcissist discards the person and enjoys the agony they cause and the power they have over their victim.
The grooming period is the same.
We regular soft people go into their trap, because we believe what is not really true.
For victims of narcissistic abuse it is usually very difficult to understand that the person they loved does not really exist. It is a projection of her longing that the smart predator imitates. Knowing all along that there is no love involved...
This person is in a very small minority. Regular people are exploited in more regular ways such as financially and via social media. This woman was hard programmed from a young age and her brain created a near inescapable mental prison which led to her being taken advantage of. This is why we need to pay more attention to our kids instead of leaving them to fend for themselves. Education starts in the household.
Well said. "The person they loved does not really exist." Yes. Thank you.
I’ve heard Karly before here on YT. This woman has explained her experience in the most articulate way I’ve ever heard. It proves how monumentally important it is to have supportive loving parents which she obviously never experienced. I’m so glad she survived and is here to articulate what this is and to empower ur children.
This is hER experience of what it looks like. It looks like other ways, too. Some ARE kidnapped, beaten, locked in a room and killed. I appreciated how she dissected the steps.
I am the survivor that was kidnapped @14 this doesn’t represent the whole picture
Wow! This is also the definition of an abusive relationship. Amazing to see the similarities.
@@angelvictoria6920 theres no obvious here
DJ jazzy josie, i would also add that its the same definition of more abusive churches and cults. scientology for example works just like traffickers. collecting information to use against someone, limiting the victims options(friends, education, internet etc), producing fear of outsiders etc etc
@@lowlowseesee I agree with your all of your points. I meant "the obvious" is the end result in trafficking would be selling/ getting tricked into selling yourself against your will. (not to say this can't also happen in an abusive relationship)
Most Traumatic and Horrific experience I have ever encountered. Traumatized.
This presentation should be a part of academic curriculum... Irrespective of national boundaries.... Trafficking is real, and spread beyond boundaries...
That is the most informative talk I’ve ever heard. People need to hear this. We live in a broken world. Thank you for being so brave
Long before anyone commits this crime there has to be a society so indifferent to its young people to create the conditions for exploration. It is easy to blame parent/s for not being there but so many are working longer and longer hours (being exploited in a different way) not by choice but by dire need while kids are left to fend for themselves. It is easy to focus on the trafficker’s crime while ignoring a collective responsibility in creating the ideal conditions for it.
True. A child growing up in that situation has no one there for them, no sense of belonging, no sense or reality of safety. Social, spiritual and systemic change is required, so that we truly value and protect our children, creating an environment at home and in the world which provides safety and care. This would eventually address this awful problem at 'all ends' (those that exploit, by pimping or paying for the service and those that are used) and making for more balanced, aware, caring and strong individuals who value and respect themselves and all life.
I don't know if this will ever reach her, but I'm proud of you, Karly! Your strength and value are beyond words, and the job you're doing is so amazing and inspiring that it will have something to teach to anyone that watches it. If not about human trafficking, then about hope, attitude, power and change. I think you can tell by the other comments how much a 17 minutes long talk can impact a complete stranger. I'm proud of you, and I hope you always remind yourself you should be proud of yourself too! Thank you 😊
You don't need anyone to tell you they are proud of you. You can be proud of yourself for what you are doing now to help others. God bless you Karly.
Wow. As a future physician, this video has enlightened me so greatly on how to approach future patients that may be at risk / be in the depths of trafficking already. Thank you for sharing your story and for teaching us about this concealed reality.
Karly, you are bright and articulate and so courageous. I admire you for your work that can help so many. God bless you.
Thank you, Karly, for sharing your story and for explaining this so powerfully and clearly. You've opened my eyes. Every parent and teen should hear this message.
I was recruited in Houston outside of a job fair by a women & she offered me a modeling contract. She had a dark look in her eyes & couldn’t smile. She turned over my number to her “manager” aka pimp named Taz who eventually blewwww my phone up with texts, calls & voicemails. Scary. Thank you Jesus that the Holy Spirit warned me & gave me that gut check that they did not plan on helping me become a model but traffic me.
Amen prayers of protection 🙏May God protect you always😇
I bet Karly was lured in Eaton Centre in downtown Toronto. According to local news, most of the run away girls hangout there. City of Toronto should open an office there to help these girls.
Wow, powerful presentation! Tell this story to teens,in schools, where they hang out, in shelters. You go! Congratulations on finding your balance and stepping out of the grind they put you in. You're very strong and yes, I am very proud of you, as you should be. Xx
Karly, thank you for being so brave! thank you for teaching how the deceit becomes the drug. There will be those who will not ever understand how vulnerable a young girl can be but that is exactly what turns them on. And we all know how our shadow side eludes us.
It's very sad & scary that parents aren't building their kids up to not be susceptible to this on many levels. Not everyone should be a parent. The world is not easy.
You are simply amazing Karly, great job, let that burning passion keep fueling you on!
Thank you Karly you are a saviour to many young girls. You are right they should have you talk in the schools to help prevent trafficking. Thank you for your strength you are a very intelligent young woman! Thanks for spreading such critical information!
Her delivery was incredible. I don't think I looked away once. I hope she spreads her message far.
God Bless you Karley. I've worked with Victims of HT and have shared all that I have learned with my kids and others that I worked with. Keep sharing and spreading the word.
Thanks for addressing this in the manner you did. Most people don't understand that this can go on right underneath their noses. Nor do they know what to look for.
I am so proud of you Karly! Please stay safe! I hope you have a beautiful family one day!
I don’t like people that ask too many questions. I’m so grateful my family versed me well.
Karly you are amazing !!!
I did picture a cape behind your back while i was watching you.
Your breaking down of the psychological trap is magnificent.
Your strenght and bravery is astonishing.
Congratulations for pulling yourself out of this nightmare with clarity.
You are brilliant !!!!
Powerful! I shared this with my daughter. I hope high schools and middle schools share this message.
This video should be shown in high schools. As long as teens still think human trafficking is what you see in movies, they won't see it coming...
Thank you Karly for posting. I've learned so much. I plan on passing this video on to friends and family. Karly, you have come a long way. I think you're brave and strong. Wishing you the best!
What a brave, empowered, intelligent person this lady is! This TedTalk is one of the best ones yet and should be shared in school among young kids because this information could save a lot of people
Beautiful speech. It seems that the root cause is us, our society. If everyone is well taken care off, there is no issues at all. Our society is not well. We're not a just society. Those that fall thru the crack, those that got left behind, they will have issues.
Wow. She is an amazing woman. 💯👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
When she was describing the process it reminded me of how Narcissists treat their victims.
Karly, you are AMAZING. Thank you for telling the world of your experiences, and for helping us understand what such a horrific crime actually looks like. You are a HERO.
Every parent in AMERICA needs to show videos like this to teach their children
Karly, I am so proud of you for speaking out and sharing your traumatising experience with us. This is relatable in so many different ways because we have all been there, abused and not being able to identify or walk out because how systematically we were trained to not trust our own instincts. I hope you find peace and live the life you always dreamt of living. More power to you.
This is heartbreaking. There are distinct parallels with relationships between narcissists and their victims.
You are an amaizing speaker. Your smart, extremely sharp whitted, COURAGEOUS! Thank you for sharing your story. Your what Heroes are made of! Keep up the good fight.
as a parent, this presentation is so helpful for me. God Bless you Karly, thank you for this.
Karly, you explained this perfectly and I understood every word of it. You are amazing! For me, your explanation was also about how any toxic/abusive relationship works as I was in one.
Karly, we are all proud of you. Such clarity in explanation. I want to mention that the traffickers' methods she describes are very similar to narcissistic abuse.
WOW she is breaking this down!!! Tell the game, yes...let us know the game so we can shut it down.
Powerful. I recently saw the red flags while watching a grandchild. I am so grateful I recognized them before it was too late. I agree this information does need to be presented in high school and junior high. These people are expert at what they do. It doesn’t take very long to break a person.
The last words she spoke about young people being empowered: empowered by having a level independence that doesn't need what the traffickers have to offer.
Jobs, skills, scholarships, earning potential, and education about the importance of freedom and independence.
Excellent video. I hope every young girl watches this!
Yes - boys too! Many forget young boys are used just as often. These traffickers are manipulative to all they see vulnerable ):
Your honesty, enthusiasm, and commitment are truly a gift to the trafficked boys, girls, men, and women. God bless, protect and guide you.
I’ve lived this! I’ve never seen this so well spoken to- keep sharing! Keep speaking!
This is the best Ted talk on human trafficking i have seen.
Bless her heart....wake up world as she's telling it like it really is! Hug your children appropriately & they won't fall for the 'game' that uses their lives/weaknesses against them. 💔💔
Very informative video. I learned a lot and shed some tears. I felt her pain.
What a great speaker. So clear, so organized and so in command of her material.
Maybe play this for every single young woman?
Wow very powerful. She is using her experience so appropriately. Education is the key to change.
OMG how simple and vulnerable are we... She is talking about young people but I , knowing myself, can confirm that these manipulations are working also in case of adultes. Thank you for the speach
Thank you Karly ---a really excellent talk. Thank you for really and specifically laying it out-and having the courage to do so
Thank you Karly for a heroic talk!
Karly, you did a great job in this presentation. Best explanation I ever heard.
Wow, fantastic talk, it Illustrates that there’s actually a science to all of this, and the presenter has it all down in an amazing easy to understand way. This should definitely be taught to young people.
This is almost exactly like being a domestic survivor 😳🙏❤️
I'm sure the audience present were genuinely proud of her, just as her entire community is as well as every single honest person who has viewed this.
That is the most direct and satisfying talk I ever heard.
love hearing her talk
I wish these men would work so hard to have real relationships and heal the world instead. What a waste
My wife has been through abuse from her mothers husband. I’ve noticed how when she doesn’t get what she wants she does this to me. She had become accustomed to that treatment being done to her and she tries to do that to me . She has tried constantly alienate me from my family and friends, as well as using our children to hurt my parents by not letting them see them. She claimed she told her mother and her mother either didn’t believe her or did do anything because she was scared to leave the man or because where would she go what would she do. She claimed all of that but yet still seeks her mothers love and approval. I’m trying to get her into therapy. Heck , I would even go with her but she refuses to go thinking they would make her look crazy . We’ve been married 4 years and still nothing has changed because she stays in contact with people she claimed didn’t love her before but wants their love and attention so bad. I’m not rich so I can’t afford to have lawyers and doctors at my becoming call unfortunately. She finally agreed to take the arm implant birth control out in hopes of leveling out any hormonal imbalance to see if that added to what she had been going through .
Narcissists many time are victims of narcissists. Yes break the chain.
I am so moved & touched. With the light of truth & love.
This taught me a lot, its helped me understand my own past. You making things so clear and wanting to help people makes me want to help other people too. Thank you for being so brave and strong and focused ❤❤❤❤.
A well spoken message. Good for her for making others aware of how this system works to exploit women. More women need to come forward and give their testimony.
Wow! Amazing young woman. Excellent explanation .Should be played in schools for kids to learn. So glad you are safe helping others. Gods work.
Wow karly, your story broke my heart and made me proud of the strength you have at the same time. God bless you. God will use you in mighty ways. Much love 💜💜💜
One of the best Ted talks I've heard. Thank you Karly for being informative and leveraging your experience to empower and protect others
Thank you so much for your time. The content was informative, heartfelt, wise and precise. Bless you for being so strong, being yourself and wanting to help others.
I went through this, exactly, but my parents saved me before I went too far gone
Your message is powerful and informative. Thank you. Stay strong.
Stay strong Karly...we're all proud of you!
I just shared this video to all my friends....so they can inform themselves and their kids