To all the men who are deeply offended by this (because it’s only men who are commenting), please watch the whole video. I explain that of course you should compromise and want to do so in a relationship, but you should not lower your standards so much that you are no longer the whole person you wish to be just for the sake of having a bf/gf/ husband/wife; relationships should push you to be better in every way. Ultimately my point is: we should always have a love for ourselves so strong that we thrive in or outside a relationship.
Woman: "I don't need no man." "Relationships do not equal success." "I can do it by myself." "I won't endure hardships with you." "I am more valuable than you." "Eligable Man": "Cool... bye." "Ineligable Man": "Pick you up at 8?"
Hey, I just wanted to give you a heads up that I did choose to stay single despite having the opportunity of entering relationships with eligible guys, but that's not what this video is about. She's stating that there is no longer a reason for women to have to settle for men who would not give to the relationship as much as they would because women in today's society can be financially independent from men.
Tobes I will be 100% honest with you as a 31 y/o black male. You are right, women have definately progress and are doing better now. The answer you are looking for lies in culture, marriage unfortunately is no longer in fashion. The redpill movement is in full swing and a certain population of males are being marginalized.
Marriage is "not in fashion" because it literally doesn't provide a man with any positives, only consequences. Divorce court and family court have become so ridiculously one sided that having to go through them is a death sentence for a man's emotional and financial well being.
I'm going to have to disagree with your point stating that women are better communicators. I'm a young guy, and when I was even younger, girls were always horrible with communication. In fact, I was the one being straight forward, initiating things, talking about how I feel, and even opening up for her to communicate her needs, but she just wouldn't comply openly at all, but instead, she'd just ignore the fact that she needs to communicate how she feels, and instead would just expect me to read her mind. If I wanted to end the relationship, she'd call me controlling or beg me to stay saying she'll go to sleep forever if I leave, or come up with some excuse that I'm being controlling or needy for wanting to know why she's acting strange or distant for no reason. Honestly, the amount of entitlement I've seen my generation has made a lot of guys my age actually turn out to be better communicators than their female counterparts. If anything, y'all need to learn to communicate better, and chase actual relationships where you communicate, instead of these social media driven fantasies and bank accounts. Women (also men) especially need to learn to keep their legs closed from other people when in a dedicated relationship.
If this is true, you’re the exception to the rule. And you’re lying if you think this isn’t true. The reason why there is a male loneliness epidemic while simultaneously there NOT being a female loneliness epidemic is because of the throughly-studied and well-known fact that women are better communicators - and that has everything to do with women having deeper and more fulfilling friendships. Men’s poor communication and superficial friendships has been just as thoroughly-studied and is well-known. Men struggle to even look each other in the eyes when communicating about anything, let alone bothering to reach a deeper level of emotional intimacy with anyone at all. Stop lying.
You can earn the same as a man now. The problem is the central banks have deflated the currency so much that the purchasing power of a modern man + woman now is the same as a single man from the 60s. Many other things going on here as you point out, but the gradual theft of purchasing power is often overlooked (by design)
I'm happy to have stumbled on to this channel. My on POV. I've never built a house with my own hands but I bought one after working hard for the last 15 years. Women sort want everything up front. My wife thanks me every day or often for providing a roof and security for her. But it only came about after we've been together for close to 20 years now. We were broke.. I remember not having enough money to pay for weed and a philly so I spent some actual silver coins that my mother left me. but that was in my 20s and now in my 40s.. My take away is if you're young you'll need to be prepared to put in the time it takes to get all that stuff.. like higher paying jobs, houses beautiful children. You can just do it all by your self but don't blame men and call them trash.. Getting in shape takes time, builting carreers takes time, saving up happens over time.. Not sure about you being the goal.. but definately should love your self. Ask your self a practical question.. not a hypothetical, conceptual or philosophical question.. Am I worth it. If you're someone that's prepared to endure (respctufully of ofcourse..), Will I be adding to the overall quality of this mans life or will his life be simpler if you werent around. He should also of course be asking himself that intandem with you. Good luck. Also this isnt an angry comment. I do agree with most of your self loving advise.. it's important.
Beloved, how did you get that from this video? 😭 That’s literally the opposite of what I’m talking about. I’m talking about dating someone who you love and can make you better as a person not how they can fly you out and buy you a new bag.
@@exiege exactly women are full of it all going for the top % of guys but those guys only want them for sex nothing serious plenty of good guys out there sure might not be the best looking but are good husbands/boyfriends but women don’t want them he has to be making 150 k 500k they out price themselves but everytime I mention this I get called a incest or some shaming tatic word but it’s just the truth go for that top guy but be willing to share him or be single and miserable or another option like you said is be with the guy in the friend zone bro dating used to be cool after 2019 I can’t even get a fucking date and it’s only getting worse wtf but now I’ve got used to being alone single I don’t take women’s bs I’ve bin good alone so come correct or leave me alone
@@tobes_x But you said "I don't need a man for money" & "If I'm working, what do I need you for"? I am so confused about the 10minute rant, the last 30 seconds you said you should just love yourself and greatness will come, which I agree. but the rest of the video just comes off as you searching for a unicorn, everyone will be flawed and no one will meet all of your criteria(something guys find out very young) and the most important thing is if you enjoy their company. not their social/financial status. I think a lot of woman aren't dating because there are terrifying men out there and it's not worth the risk.
Men in this generation seem to lack emotional intelligence and maturity. They’ve managed to get into relationships under the guise of being the “provider” for many generations, so didn’t need to do the emotional work. Nowadays woman don’t necessarily need a man financially to survive , so we’re looking for much more than how much he is earning .. the majority of men just don’t have the capacity to meet us at our emotional needs. Women are refusing to settle. Also millennials (the men) don’t seem too keen on marriage.. they’re getting all the benefits of having a woman in their life without having to propose, so they’re less likely to commit/settle down.
Both states of being....single or relationship has its pros and cons. I literally have my own money and I date myself and have a therapist as well. When I do decide to date a guy it's not out of necessity, but because I want him and I choose him. He quirks pros and cons are for me and mines for him. We should make a conscious decision to show up for each other. In the past I took cheating because I was afraid of loneliness. Now I have gotten over that fear and welcome solitude at 43. I love me and have found great things to do. I meet all of my own needs. I have learned so much about me in solitude and didn't know that libraries are such fun 😊. I know what I will stand for and will not. Top of the list of I don't cheat, please don't, communicate, have your basic needs in order and don't be abusive. You don't have to be a baller with six figures. Just make your income legally and be financially smart. These are also traits that I exhibit. Oh and be a considerate human being. Tootles
I just ADORE this comment! It’s everything I had in mind when making this video. I agree there are pros and cons in both tbh but the most important is to be happy with yourself and love yourself; it’s required in and out of a relationship. Wishing you success and even more happiness xxx
Interesting assessment. However, what I did not hear is what is going on. You have made some observations about a "man" problem, but you did not look at why the problem happened, and made no projections about where the problem is going to go. Men are falling behind in many different facets of life, but there must be a root cause of the issue. You never said "what is going on with men and what can we do to fix this problem". Don't you think this would be worth investigating? Alex Clarke did a really good podcast on this and actually looked at what is going on and made some recommendations, but you did not. I think that we are well beyond the "girl power" narrative. As a fan of Jane Austin myself, I also wonder why they (both men and women) seem to be living a better life than we are living today. Could we do a differential analysis to determine why their society was working and why ours is not?
Jesus said that when iniquity abounds the love of many waxes cold (Matthew 24:12). Iniquity is one going their own selfish way instead of regarding God or others. Selfish men do not have any real love to offer. Selfish women do not have any real love to offer. A life without love is pretty much a lonely and miserable life. If you really want to find love, repent before God of going your own way and start going the ways He has for you to follow.
The circular logic within this clip is nauseating. Show me a woman who refuses to sacrifice and I'll show you a woman who shouldn't be a mother. "You are the most valuable", even more valuable than your kids? Perhaps reflect on why this statement makes you "ineligible". Of course it's true that you can do without men, but equally, they can do without you.
For a moment I thought this rant was a parody of what a stereotypical woman who hit the wall sounds like. The men that build houses with their hands are taken out early from the dating pool. Nobody cares about how intelligent you are the only 3 things men seek in a woman is fit, feminine, and friendly. So, your value in the eyes of men drops exponential as you grow older as every year, a younger more beautiful woman joins the dating pool. If you don't humble yourself and stop chasing the fairy tale guy you think exists, you will be single and bitter till you die. If you think you are the prize, then what's the point of chasing a man and give away your prize? I will pray for you, so that you are able to experience motherhood and what life is truly about.
To all the men who are deeply offended by this (because it’s only men who are commenting), please watch the whole video. I explain that of course you should compromise and want to do so in a relationship, but you should not lower your standards so much that you are no longer the whole person you wish to be just for the sake of having a bf/gf/ husband/wife; relationships should push you to be better in every way.
Ultimately my point is: we should always have a love for ourselves so strong that we thrive in or outside a relationship.
Woman: "I don't need no man." "Relationships do not equal success." "I can do it by myself." "I won't endure hardships with you." "I am more valuable than you."
"Eligable Man": "Cool... bye."
"Ineligable Man": "Pick you up at 8?"
They are extremely delusional.
Hey, I just wanted to give you a heads up that I did choose to stay single despite having the opportunity of entering relationships with eligible guys, but that's not what this video is about. She's stating that there is no longer a reason for women to have to settle for men who would not give to the relationship as much as they would because women in today's society can be financially independent from men.
Tobes I will be 100% honest with you as a 31 y/o black male. You are right, women have definately progress and are doing better now. The answer you are looking for lies in culture, marriage unfortunately is no longer in fashion. The redpill movement is in full swing and a certain population of males are being marginalized.
Marriage is "not in fashion" because it literally doesn't provide a man with any positives, only consequences. Divorce court and family court have become so ridiculously one sided that having to go through them is a death sentence for a man's emotional and financial well being.
I'm going to have to disagree with your point stating that women are better communicators. I'm a young guy, and when I was even younger, girls were always horrible with communication. In fact, I was the one being straight forward, initiating things, talking about how I feel, and even opening up for her to communicate her needs, but she just wouldn't comply openly at all, but instead, she'd just ignore the fact that she needs to communicate how she feels, and instead would just expect me to read her mind. If I wanted to end the relationship, she'd call me controlling or beg me to stay saying she'll go to sleep forever if I leave, or come up with some excuse that I'm being controlling or needy for wanting to know why she's acting strange or distant for no reason. Honestly, the amount of entitlement I've seen my generation has made a lot of guys my age actually turn out to be better communicators than their female counterparts. If anything, y'all need to learn to communicate better, and chase actual relationships where you communicate, instead of these social media driven fantasies and bank accounts. Women (also men) especially need to learn to keep their legs closed from other people when in a dedicated relationship.
If this is true, you’re the exception to the rule. And you’re lying if you think this isn’t true. The reason why there is a male loneliness epidemic while simultaneously there NOT being a female loneliness epidemic is because of the throughly-studied and well-known fact that women are better communicators - and that has everything to do with women having deeper and more fulfilling friendships. Men’s poor communication and superficial friendships has been just as thoroughly-studied and is well-known. Men struggle to even look each other in the eyes when communicating about anything, let alone bothering to reach a deeper level of emotional intimacy with anyone at all.
Stop lying.
Great job! this is true, love yourself first and I might stay single just because this is the most peaceful I've ever felt, why change it?
You can earn the same as a man now. The problem is the central banks have deflated the currency so much that the purchasing power of a modern man + woman now is the same as a single man from the 60s. Many other things going on here as you point out, but the gradual theft of purchasing power is often overlooked (by design)
please keep this Energy till 50
I'm happy to have stumbled on to this channel. My on POV. I've never built a house with my own hands but I bought one after working hard for the last 15 years. Women sort want everything up front. My wife thanks me every day or often for providing a roof and security for her. But it only came about after we've been together for close to 20 years now. We were broke.. I remember not having enough money to pay for weed and a philly so I spent some actual silver coins that my mother left me. but that was in my 20s and now in my 40s.. My take away is if you're young you'll need to be prepared to put in the time it takes to get all that stuff.. like higher paying jobs, houses beautiful children. You can just do it all by your self but don't blame men and call them trash.. Getting in shape takes time, builting carreers takes time, saving up happens over time.. Not sure about you being the goal.. but definately should love your self. Ask your self a practical question.. not a hypothetical, conceptual or philosophical question.. Am I worth it. If you're someone that's prepared to endure (respctufully of ofcourse..), Will I be adding to the overall quality of this mans life or will his life be simpler if you werent around. He should also of course be asking himself that intandem with you. Good luck. Also this isnt an angry comment. I do agree with most of your self loving advise.. it's important.
It’s no longer what are women bringing to the table! WE ARE THE DAMN TABLE! Never settle for less independent queens 🙌🏽💖✨
Yessss!!🙏🏾🙏🏾💕💕
nah
@@exiege this logic will have them 60 years old and surrounded by cats
"we are the table" is another way of saying you have no flaws and no need for accountability.
I choose to take my damn chair and sit in the corner (independent guys)
enjoy your cats :)
Cats are amazing........cats are so intelligent....
You act like ending up alone is a bad thing lol!
Lol, "choosing to be single". Good one.
yall are dating for a bag, or how he looks instead of dating to get married. its very simple.
Beloved, how did you get that from this video? 😭 That’s literally the opposite of what I’m talking about. I’m talking about dating someone who you love and can make you better as a person not how they can fly you out and buy you a new bag.
@@tobes_xdate the boy in your friendzone
@@exiege exactly women are full of it all going for the top % of guys but those guys only want them for sex nothing serious plenty of good guys out there sure might not be the best looking but are good husbands/boyfriends but women don’t want them he has to be making 150 k 500k they out price themselves but everytime I mention this I get called a incest or some shaming tatic word but it’s just the truth go for that top guy but be willing to share him or be single and miserable or another option like you said is be with the guy in the friend zone bro dating used to be cool after 2019 I can’t even get a fucking date and it’s only getting worse wtf but now I’ve got used to being alone single I don’t take women’s bs I’ve bin good alone so come correct or leave me alone
@@tobes_x But you said "I don't need a man for money" & "If I'm working, what do I need you for"?
I am so confused about the 10minute rant, the last 30 seconds you said you should just love yourself and greatness will come, which I agree. but the rest of the video just comes off as you searching for a unicorn, everyone will be flawed and no one will meet all of your criteria(something guys find out very young) and the most important thing is if you enjoy their company. not their social/financial status.
I think a lot of woman aren't dating because there are terrifying men out there and it's not worth the risk.
Men in this generation seem to lack emotional intelligence and maturity. They’ve managed to get into relationships under the guise of being the “provider” for many generations, so didn’t need to do the emotional work. Nowadays woman don’t necessarily need a man financially to survive , so we’re looking for much more than how much he is earning .. the majority of men just don’t have the capacity to meet us at our emotional needs. Women are refusing to settle. Also millennials (the men) don’t seem too keen on marriage.. they’re getting all the benefits of having a woman in their life without having to propose, so they’re less likely to commit/settle down.
55, Happily Single Sovereign & Celabite here 🙋🏾♀️
Both states of being....single or relationship has its pros and cons. I literally have my own money and I date myself and have a therapist as well. When I do decide to date a guy it's not out of necessity, but because I want him and I choose him. He quirks pros and cons are for me and mines for him. We should make a conscious decision to show up for each other. In the past I took cheating because I was afraid of loneliness. Now I have gotten over that fear and welcome solitude at 43. I love me and have found great things to do. I meet all of my own needs. I have learned so much about me in solitude and didn't know that libraries are such fun 😊. I know what I will stand for and will not. Top of the list of I don't cheat, please don't, communicate, have your basic needs in order and don't be abusive. You don't have to be a baller with six figures. Just make your income legally and be financially smart. These are also traits that I exhibit. Oh and be a considerate human being. Tootles
I just ADORE this comment! It’s everything I had in mind when making this video. I agree there are pros and cons in both tbh but the most important is to be happy with yourself and love yourself; it’s required in and out of a relationship. Wishing you success and even more happiness xxx
😂😂❤❤ Its important have nice 😊 women educated with smiles 😂
Interesting assessment. However, what I did not hear is what is going on. You have made some observations about a "man" problem, but you did not look at why the problem happened, and made no projections about where the problem is going to go. Men are falling behind in many different facets of life, but there must be a root cause of the issue. You never said "what is going on with men and what can we do to fix this problem". Don't you think this would be worth investigating? Alex Clarke did a really good podcast on this and actually looked at what is going on and made some recommendations, but you did not. I think that we are well beyond the "girl power" narrative.
As a fan of Jane Austin myself, I also wonder why they (both men and women) seem to be living a better life than we are living today. Could we do a differential analysis to determine why their society was working and why ours is not?
Jesus said that when iniquity abounds the love of many waxes cold (Matthew 24:12). Iniquity is one going their own selfish way instead of regarding God or others. Selfish men do not have any real love to offer. Selfish women do not have any real love to offer.
A life without love is pretty much a lonely and miserable life. If you really want to find love, repent before God of going your own way and start going the ways He has for you to follow.
The circular logic within this clip is nauseating. Show me a woman who refuses to sacrifice and I'll show you a woman who shouldn't be a mother. "You are the most valuable", even more valuable than your kids? Perhaps reflect on why this statement makes you "ineligible". Of course it's true that you can do without men, but equally, they can do without you.
For a moment I thought this rant was a parody of what a stereotypical woman who hit the wall sounds like. The men that build houses with their hands are taken out early from the dating pool. Nobody cares about how intelligent you are the only 3 things men seek in a woman is fit, feminine, and friendly. So, your value in the eyes of men drops exponential as you grow older as every year, a younger more beautiful woman joins the dating pool. If you don't humble yourself and stop chasing the fairy tale guy you think exists, you will be single and bitter till you die. If you think you are the prize, then what's the point of chasing a man and give away your prize? I will pray for you, so that you are able to experience motherhood and what life is truly about.