Dealing with Narcissistic Triangulation

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  • Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024

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  • @jesusitrustinyou6900
    @jesusitrustinyou6900 7 месяцев назад +83

    I was triangulated. IT WAS VERY HURTFUL. If a narcissist does that to you, please run🏃‍♂️ and don't look back or take them back. They are deliberately out to hurt you.😢

    • @Meemo44
      @Meemo44 7 месяцев назад +12

      I feel your hurt 😔. My husband triangulated me with his emotional affair partner…I felt completely devastated, the emotional abuse and distress was pure evil.
      I can never forgive him, he left me unable to look after our children properly 😔♥️

    • @Flips44
      @Flips44 7 месяцев назад +5

      It happened to me as well it hurts

    • @jonathanbaum6867
      @jonathanbaum6867 5 месяцев назад +1

      It’s the ultimate in deceptive hurtful behavior.

    • @Girlwithapurse03
      @Girlwithapurse03 Месяц назад +2

      This happened to me.. it’s painful… it feels a little bit like the cool kids gang up to pick on you in school… except the bully is the person you love… and they are laughing at you together while you trip and break down trying to walk away.

  • @JulesB93
    @JulesB93 7 месяцев назад +59

    Triangulation was my last straw. It hurts at first. When you later reflect on it, you realize that they are so insecure and broken that they will do anything to bring everyone else to the level of their misery. He was using the third party just as much as he was using me. What worked for me is mirroring how he treated me. He ignored me, so I ignored him and moved on.

    • @deb2319
      @deb2319 7 месяцев назад +9

      I did the same and found out how dull and boring their mind-games are... Great Comment Well Articulated. Happy 2024
      🌻

    • @JulesB93
      @JulesB93 7 месяцев назад +7

      @deb2319 yeah it's a waste of time. I'd get further talking to a wall haha. A happy 2024 to you too!

    • @susanmcmahon4733
      @susanmcmahon4733 7 месяцев назад +9

      Did EXACTLY the same, when he was telling me all about new supply and BUILDING her up and left him off and then turned around to him and said 'Will you pass on my CONDOLENCES to her' their was steam coming out of him from every direction, didn't go down to well 😅

    • @samscarletta7433
      @samscarletta7433 7 месяцев назад +1

      Hahaha!🤣🥂

  • @DogGroomer-hd1oj
    @DogGroomer-hd1oj 7 месяцев назад +39

    It's always a triangulation.
    Parents
    Friends
    Options of sexual interests
    Children
    Friends.
    Literally...a triangulation is always happening with the Narcissist.
    It's very toxic.

  • @SagittariusBabe87
    @SagittariusBabe87 7 месяцев назад +31

    My Story-Triangulation is THE WORST thing these creatures do, besides the devaluation, in my opinion. They want you to work harder for the relationship. Some narcissists & other cluster B's are so bad, they will triangulate you w/ anyone in any way possible, in the intimate relationship in particular. It's unbelievable how & who they can triangulate you with. It comes from so many angles too, constantly. There's never stability, peace, happiness, tranquility, reciprocity, calmness or real Love. Just a bunch of b.s., manipulation tactics, hurt, confusion, chaos & drama. Just how they like it! 🙄
    Triangulation really confused me. I wasn't playing a game, I truly cared 😔 He was playing a game & always trying to One-Up Me, I see that now. Always in competition with Me. I'm a genuine, kind, loving, empath ❤✨ My soul reflects everything about me. I had no idea what was going on. Thought we were headed in the same direction. Constantly being triangulated & not understanding any of it. But, after the discard & coming out the fog 🌫️ I realize EXACTLY wtf was going on. It's quite devastating, all the delayed realizations & 💡 moments that happened. The cognitive dissonance, CONSTANT rumination, sadness, hurt & stages of grief make it so so hard there after. You really MUST heal after Narcissistic Abuse AND learn about YOURSELF & about Narcissism. Don't stay trapped & never get the wisdom! Don't get the wisdom & stay trapped! Don't end your life over this parasite, either! Many people don't make it out! 😔🙏
    New to NPD & other Cluster B's at the time & unaware of the cycle & manipulations. Now, I've educated myself and have a HUGE amount of knowledge, wisdom, & experience, first-hand. What a joke it was & really sad that someone will really do this & manipulate the other. But, that's how a narcissist gets their needs met. That's just one way I remember him as. It hurts that I cared abt him & he was like that. He just not for Me and Life will go on.
    He'll never find someone quite as unique & special as I am 😌🌺 Discarded a precious & loving person.
    You don't find a lot empaths in today's world🌎 I'll have true, real, reciprocated Love ❤ one day w/ a healthy individual...not a Narcissist or Cluster B.
    Life has been drama & triangulation-free!🎉 Loving & finding myself & enjoying being alone!!! When I look back, I'm healing, thankful & grateful I'm out of it 9mos. and going🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 💪😌🙏❣️✨🌼🎇🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

    • @petertosh6341
      @petertosh6341 7 месяцев назад +4

      Yeah that's true is not many empaths left on this planet we're like 2% of population.. note that... We're very rare human beings.. and that's the best lesson after narcissist discarded you.. learn about yourself and knowing that you can't be replaced 🤷😅 simply as that... That's their karma cause they always looking for new supplies but after relationship with empath they slowly realise they just can't find it.. and from there the injury and wounds starting rotten instead healing 😂... Took me a lot of time to understand processes but because of them I started learn psychology and now I know very well what was going on... They know you know 🤷😅... Remember for them that was just a game.. but if turn back and stop playing.. what do you think is going to happen? They will play with themselves 😂😂😂

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 7 месяцев назад

      @@petertosh6341 💯 I love❤️ your comment! I like your username, reminds me of the Rasta, ska/reggae artist😁 I believe in time, they realize what they did & they keep trying to replace us or, try to hoover us. They can never secure anyone even close to us & we can never be replaced! And, try to hoover us because they know they screwed up and want us back! This was my case. They messed up a good thing! We were unique, genuine, caring & loving. You don't find that nowadays, forreal. More & more people see their toxicity over time & want nothing to do with the Narcississt! Even their own parents want nothing to do with them! So many relationships they've blown up and will continue to do so! That's their karma and also, losing an Empath!

    • @MarkusSteiner-x3l
      @MarkusSteiner-x3l Месяц назад

      And when you stop participating they often straight betray you.

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 Месяц назад

      @@MarkusSteiner-x3l what u mean? They were betraying us the whole time! Not just after or when we stop playing. We weren't playing cause we didn't know it was a game. To them, it's a game and getting their needs met! They betray the whole time, NEVER faithful or forthright. 💯 They get played too, by other toxic individuals/narcissist. Bet that!

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 7 месяцев назад +17

    It backfired on him, he can have them, triangulation is cruelty.

  • @tommyburley5860
    @tommyburley5860 4 месяца назад +5

    It’s so evil..I could never hurt somebody like that.

  • @latchkeykid5529
    @latchkeykid5529 7 месяцев назад +21

    The only solace I get is knowing they are in a downward spiralling doom loop while we evolve and ultimately transcend in the end, I can live with that.

  • @Mjones4949
    @Mjones4949 4 месяца назад +4

    Worst is knowing that they are triangulating you with the new supply just to make them jealous.

  • @klyn9619
    @klyn9619 7 месяцев назад +14

    Knowledge IS power..
    Ty 🕊️✨💪🪽🫶

  • @beautifulstrandz5524
    @beautifulstrandz5524 7 месяцев назад +10

    I was no contact for 2 years and boom they popped up out of nowhere. I can only imagine how that smear went.

  • @oisinroche6464
    @oisinroche6464 7 месяцев назад +15

    I was triangulated after i responded to the hoover, it was the most acutely painful experience of my life.

    • @deb2319
      @deb2319 7 месяцев назад +3

      its the #1tool to peeve off others especially after the first discard they just keep doing it and its so gross...glad i do not have to hear that crap no more.

  • @hindwidad2723
    @hindwidad2723 7 месяцев назад +22

    He hoovered me a few weeks before the discard then tried to triangulate me with his new supply. He had her tell me that he’s in a whole relationship and to not text him anymore. He’s in a whole relationship but yet was texting me a few weeks before. He was triangulating me when we’re still together by painting a bad picture of me to his friends and family. After he had his new supply tell me to not message him anymore, I did just that because I knew then for sure that he wasn’t worth it. He couldn’t even tell me himself. He had to get his new supply to do it like the coward he is. Good riddance

    • @user56gghtf
      @user56gghtf 4 месяца назад +1

      I hope you're doing well now

    • @hindwidad2723
      @hindwidad2723 4 месяца назад +1

      @@user56gghtf I have my moments here andthere when I remember the abuse and get angry but other than that I know I made the right choice by leaving and I am looking forward to the future.

    • @user56gghtf
      @user56gghtf 4 месяца назад +2

      @@hindwidad2723 Glad to hear you are doing well. God can heal al wounds. Thank you for responding.

  • @beemonroe4330
    @beemonroe4330 7 месяцев назад +20

    Cowards… 😂 not to be taken seriously. I absolutely cannot with folks who can’t stand alone… 😷

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 7 месяцев назад +9

    this was a constant thing that i noticed they loved doing-it was their easiest punch on the daily to bring up a new name and I just had to stop and go no contact because it was ridiculous and disgusting talk most of the time, or the innuendos to say- this is my new supply's name....narcs. are idiots and are blind sided and deaf to healthy things. Peace Out. Peace 2024.

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 7 месяцев назад +5

    WOW !!! Three videos for us today😯 !!! Joe were in the mood today 😊! and we are welcome every your video, they are fantastic and we love it !!! Triangulation is definitely not about love, it's is about cruelty , but this is what evil narcs do, something nasty. When you noticed just once that it looks like triangulation it's time to run. Thank you Joe for nice surprise !!! 🤗❤

  • @MCharlerySmith
    @MCharlerySmith 7 месяцев назад +8

    Seeing a video on this specific narcisstic tactic at this time is particularly and personally significant for me. I feel God is giving confirmation that the right and wrong choices have been made by those who follow His voice...and those who don't! Thanks for the video, Joe B. House.
    God bless and happy new year, everyone.

  • @justlookalittledeeper9953
    @justlookalittledeeper9953 7 месяцев назад +10

    With family, triangulation was the worst kind of hurt for me, but eventually I realized it was another power play. Its purpose was to make me feel that I wasn't good enough, and I should try harder in order to feel like I belong, and to know exactly who to please.
    It feels like us against the individual. Group dynamics to make you feel isolated. The narcissist often rolls in a lie or devaluation as justification for it. Now when I run into the npd sibling, I notice how she keeps pressing that button, that I'm the outsider. So I observe it, see it as a pattern, and sorta roll my eyes. It took a long time to get there.
    As for a parent doing this, it was like them setting up a competition to see who can serve them the most. I figured someone has to come in last, and I knew I was already picked for the role, so when they would brag about how much their favourites were doing for them, I would just say, "aw, that's great."
    When the now-departed parent would take it up a notch and say, "now you can get out of doing so much work," as if that's what I was all about, I would tell myself, "you've painted me as lazy and incompetent to egg me on, to offer more services." Once you see their agenda, it's not quite the same punch in the gut, more like disappointment. But yeah, no contact is best.

    • @robertblum4342
      @robertblum4342 7 месяцев назад +1

      I identify with you most of all In comparison to all the other people stories I’ve read. I am exactly like you in the male form. I am still hurting and still crying and still confused and still asking why why why why why!? I gave her my heart I was with her for one solid year. She duped me she crushed me! She twisted everything I said and did and everything I did came from my heart and soul all the love I could give I gave it to her! It meant nothing to her! I saw her in the supermarket about a month after she threw me away, and I said I love you I love you so much Emily! She replied, I’m sorry I don’t share the same feelings with you and she looked down when she said it never gave me eye contact when she said that. Then I said I miss you so much don’t you miss me? She replied I don’t miss you at all looking down again no eye contact. I went home and I actually had a heart attack! I had to go in for heart surgery and I told her but she never even asked me how I am how my surgery went. Nine months have passed since she threw me away like garbage and I still miss her and I do love her but my feelings I just right now anger and I hate to be angry I just want you to adore her as my loving friend. She triangulated me with people in her gym, telling me how different guys would tell her how beautiful she is and could she work out in front of them so they could look at her ass! I said why are you telling me this you’re hurting me you’re making me jealous and so she said oh I’m sorry I will tell you these kind of stories anymore. But she triangulated me with other people too. I don’t know when the pain is supposed to end I listen to all the videos by this man and other people too it gives me some comfort but I’m still stuck inside my head 24 seven thinking and dreaming of her and I don’t know why because she doesn’t still deserve me anymore

    • @justlookalittledeeper9953
      @justlookalittledeeper9953 7 месяцев назад

      She had to triangulate you, but it’s such a low blow and way too easy. Its purpose is to make you believe you don’t measure up and to create insecurity. That’s exactly how she feels about herself, but she has to transfer her feelings of being insignificant and insecure onto you. That does not excuse what she was doing. You have a right to feel angry.

  • @ritapeters1330
    @ritapeters1330 День назад

    Good advice Joe ❤ thank you for helping us to cope witzbthose cruel personalities

  • @debbiegalica2992
    @debbiegalica2992 7 месяцев назад +9

    My Mom always did this with my older sister. She couldn't do anything wrong.. I used to beg my mom to take my side just once but it never happened. My older sister is a Narcissist. I can't stand her.

  • @minnieg.4835
    @minnieg.4835 7 месяцев назад +7

    It doesn't have to be PEOPLE that they use to try to make you jealous and react. It could be something that you both wanted and they got, or at at least try to make it look like they got it.

  • @TawnaTV
    @TawnaTV 7 месяцев назад +10

    I am barely able to hear this information and stay calm .. very triggering. I hold off on hatred of these people.. I know they are broken miserable people but 😡🤬

    • @modeconfusion6161
      @modeconfusion6161 7 месяцев назад +3

      give time time.. and do good things for yourself, especially as you break the trauma bond.

    • @TawnaTV
      @TawnaTV 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@modeconfusion6161Thank you ❤ time passing is the key.. we count the days since we got clear/clean.. like it was an addiction we’ve broken..which in a way it was..the trauma bond.

  • @enolapentecost4685
    @enolapentecost4685 7 месяцев назад +5

    Thank good advice and video.

  • @nicselectronics81
    @nicselectronics81 7 месяцев назад +9

    Ego is a losers game.

  • @TawnaTV
    @TawnaTV 7 месяцев назад +4

    I never realized that triangulation was a huge part of the golden child (my older malignant narc sister) and the scapegoat (me) dynamic that my covert narcissist mother powered my whole life..to this day. I’m 59 😮

  • @focusnotfearcoaching
    @focusnotfearcoaching 7 месяцев назад +2

    Can you do or do you have a video about lack of accountability. Why when they’re caught lying they run away and discard instead of apologizing.

  • @fooled_twice4668
    @fooled_twice4668 7 месяцев назад +2

    It’s sad cuz it wasn’t until the discard that i was able to look back and see all the triangulation every crappy boyfriend (and husband) i ever ever had , had done to me. They toy with us. They are usually setting u up to be jealous or curious or hurt by mentioning other women or past girlfriends…. They are lame , craving our reaction . I suspected he was a dick when he said his last girlfriend was stalking him and gave him some tequila …. I ignored it the best I could and told him he should tell her that his new girlfriend likes gin or Kahlúa instead. He actually laughed, knowing i was on to him. I also look back and think probably most of the stories or comments he made were complete BS, just to see my reaction. Not giving them the satisfaction of a reaction, feels so good.

  • @karenangel8922
    @karenangel8922 7 месяцев назад +1

    Mine used to talk about his ex’s when he was in bed with me, about things they did in bed. Made me cry one night, he flew into rage and got up and left, lol did my head in completely.

  • @cuteworldaa2018
    @cuteworldaa2018 7 месяцев назад +1

    I saw they gang up covertly for triangulation game and wanted my inappropriate responses. It hurt just because I love him.

  • @beautifulstrandz5524
    @beautifulstrandz5524 7 месяцев назад +3

    I believe I was triangulated 2years post discard when the narc had his NS drive him by my house.

  • @Ms_SexxyDiva504
    @Ms_SexxyDiva504 5 месяцев назад

    💫 I was put through toxicl past experience triangulations with demon ex narcs other slew of many women he dealt with trying to make me jealous. The disrespect and lies and arrogance and nastiness he did to me with the very last discard and triangulation , Narc will always be non-existent to me and let his KARMA deal. Nola9Ward ⚜️💃🏽

  • @MarkusSteiner-x3l
    @MarkusSteiner-x3l Месяц назад

    Most woman do this to a greater or lesser extent.

  • @raanfo
    @raanfo Месяц назад

    posturing

  • @tinac6114
    @tinac6114 7 месяцев назад +2

    Mine came back after 2 mnths saying he loves me & his gf both & he wants us both! I fell for it & was going to go with it. Well guess what this is his weekend with his gf & I'm blocked!!! I'm an idiot! I just wonder if he does the same thing to her?

    • @carolineaitchison838
      @carolineaitchison838 7 месяцев назад +3

      omg go no contact stay away from him and get a health check they are sexually transmitted demons. He doesnt love you he needs his supply by having his cake and eat it. There is someone who will love you wholeheartedly and no sharing allowed my heart goes out to you stay strong 💪 you are worth more ❤than

    • @ritapeters1330
      @ritapeters1330 День назад

      ​@@carolineaitchison838 very good advice

    • @ritapeters1330
      @ritapeters1330 День назад

      I feel you, how very sad, did you move on ?

  • @jaitee1808
    @jaitee1808 7 месяцев назад +1

    On target with the video and comments.

  • @144cia
    @144cia 7 месяцев назад +7

    They too slow

  • @juliechurch1799
    @juliechurch1799 7 месяцев назад +1

    They can triangulate you with complete strangers then the stranger give you dirty look like you have said something bad about the stranger ! It's evil behaviour

  • @SoniaProteau-cj6tk
    @SoniaProteau-cj6tk 7 месяцев назад

    I can only control by behaviour , nobody else s lol 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @SilverGoblin
    @SilverGoblin 7 месяцев назад +3

    Hi Joe
    I have a question i have wondered over some time now.
    I know it is off topic but need to hear what you or others think about it
    Why is a Narcissist NOT Cruel to their pets, but everybody else ????
    My X girlfreind is very good and loving to her dog

    • @nopereradicator
      @nopereradicator 7 месяцев назад +1

      You don’t know that for a fact.

    • @SilverGoblin
      @SilverGoblin 7 месяцев назад

      @@nopereradicator No but it makes me sad to think she is hurting the dog too. I would prefer she took it out on me instead. I know how to deal with the madness

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 7 месяцев назад +2

      The Narcississt I know, his dog bit him. Animals can sense these types of people & don't like Narcissists. Animals can tell & sense so much with a person. Yes toxic, Narcissistic people can be cruel to animals! ABSOLUETLY! A couple toxic people I known in my past are terrible with pets 😔

    • @stephburns9847
      @stephburns9847 7 месяцев назад +2

      Because they can exercise full control over their pets without any consequences, and make themselves look loving and caring towards animals at the same time, therefore maintaining their false persona, according to something I listened to on Les Carter's channel the other night x

    • @nopereradicator
      @nopereradicator 7 месяцев назад

      @@stephburns9847 Agreed. They think because the four legged members can’t talk they won’t talk. My ex narc used to roll around on the floor with his fur babies to make it seem like he was a good father but I found blood in one of the bathrooms where he beat the poor dog till it bled.

  • @yosrasaeed366
    @yosrasaeed366 7 месяцев назад

    Why would a narcissist triangulate his grade A supply with a lower grade supply, when this would turn them off and make them want to leave instead of working harder for the relationship?