INFJ Compatibility | INFJ and ESFJ Relationship | INFJ Best Match | INFJ Relationships 2019 Revival
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I’m an INFJ and my wife is an ESFJ. We get along great. Married 20+ years!
Wow
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I’m a INFJ and I just started dating a ESFJ . She’s amazing but I do see a difference on thinking. Any advice?
Infj man with esfj wife, I can second that. Though, my web like thought process and visual mind drive her nuts. Especially at bed time. I want to talk about quantum physics and she wants to sleep.
If you want it to work, you have to learn to think more simply and explain yourself clearly. That’s the biggest thing between my wife and me, the communication barrier is tough to overcome. Use your feelings to help her understand your logic. If that makes sense. Also try to dismiss the intrusive thoughts that make you want to pick at her mind. Esfj women are awesome though.
I am an INFJ and my husband is an ESFJ. It was not an easy sailing, and we are totally 2 different personalities. But being married for 18 years with all turbulences, we accept each other, even it is not perfect, but we compromise. I must have all rational explanations for all action I do, or he will misunderstand me. It is tiring, but I get through it. He is so hungry of recognition and compliment, that I cannot follow. The key is just compromise, and commitment, and see our commonalities, not differences.
I’m with an esfj and I’m an infj. We hit it off right away but I cannot lie there are tons of miscommunication and when I try to talk it out it just turns into an argument. In fact I find that so much turns into an argument. It can get a little ridiculous. Other than that we are great and it’s the only relationship I’ve had that I’m not the one taking care of everything. I finally feel like I have a real partner in life who I can trust and laugh with. How can we get over our petty bickering? It’s like he’s always looking for a fight even though I know it’s miscommunication. The sex is great and he makes me feel like a woman, but he doesn’t seem to grasp my non-combative and uncompetitive nature. We’ll learn how to communicate on a verbal level we can communicate non verbally just fine.
Exactly what we are going through. Do you have any advice? Like anything at all!! I just don’t want to fight any more! But don’t want to lose him!
damn just like my parents
Been with my ESFJ for almost 9 years and I relate so much as a fellow INFJ. They can get mean when their best efforts (which they’re always giving but as INFJ it’s sometimes a bit different than we need) feels unappreciated. They also really sensitive and can be insecure because their self worth is usually directly related to what their loved ones feel about them. Biggest tip is, take a step back, give each other like an hour to cool down, and when you come back, let them know above all that you love and appreciate them. ❤️
@@oliviamartin6963 This is the best advice because once everyone cools down things usually gets better. ESFJ are not fast hunkier sand they take a while to understand what we said
Esfj was the best relationship I've ever had romantically but also taking care of each other. Also funny that was the only relationship where I didn't take on the care take care role because his was so pronounced.
Me an infj imagining myself with leeknow from stray kids 😭😭😭😭
@@SamSam-ce2br lol fellow stay XD
Im infj and my mom is also esfj. This was creepily so similar to our relationship 😂. If I don't express myself when I'm with my mom she pushes her fe to create the emotional atmosphere that she wants and yes.. it is so draining. For a long time I struggled with this but through trial and error I realized I also had to push my fe in order to not get drained. For awhile, I would be so drained after spending time with her that I didnt want to be around her anymore but overtime I realized I had to push my energy and my boundaries to feel like I was benefiting from the relationship. I felt like my mom didnt know who I truly was because I was staying in my introverted mode with her but I realize now it's up to me for her to know the real me. Very similar situation and it feels good that I'm not the only one who felt like this!
I’m an INFJ. My dad is ESFJ & mom ISFJ. Miscommunication is like our routine 🤪 anyway, Wenzes you rockin it!
Same
@being human - Blast! ESFJ dad and ISFJ mom here, too! I'm INFJ. I dunno about your parents, but mine always undermined my emotions, opinions and aspirations. They wanted to force me to be like them, and it always shocked them that I was so different. I was so glad I had left home when I was 19, I was overwhelmed also by my own idea that they were a pair of hypocrites who only cared about materialism and social status. (Now that I'm 30, I understand them better, I love them and our relationship is healthy.)
@@vlandorrackhum5420 every word you write resonates with me. Finally someone share the same experience 🥲.. i’m 30 too btw. Haha. And which country you in?
@@hellohello8321 cool man, I sent you a message on your "Discussion" panel. :D
@@vlandorrackhum5420 sorry I don’t get , which discussion panel bro 😅
I am an infj and my mom was an esfj as well and I took care of her as well. I think the combo is great thou. Infj and esfj both put the needs of others first and care for others. To take care of the caregiver is so needed. And knowing what she feels is great cause you don't have to read her that much or walk on egg shells (like with the estj). But when the infj is too strict on themselves or worries too much about others....she would tell me to be more in the moment. Our relationship was pacts with the love languages.
As an infj I tend to have my guard up in the outside world. But with my mom I can focus on my Fe and be more in the moment.
girl. My mom is ESFJ, i am INFJ, and my dad INTP. You just narrated my life
It’s so funny cause my mom is an ESFJ. And it’s emotionally draining to be around her. She always seems sad or melancholy. Now I I have more insight about this. Growing up when my mom had time off from work every day the house was clean and we had a hot meal to eat when we got home from school. I loved that feeling! Felt so homey and nurturing! Thanks Wenzes for sharing 😊
My experience with ESFJ in a dating context was a struggle. Some parts maturity level, some parts boundary issues. I saw a lot of positive qualities like what's mentioned in the video, but looking back I would not do it again. Once was enough lol!
Were u INFJ?
@@arai_tube Yes, I identify as INFJ.
ESFJs Always try to pick fights with me lol and it is so draining that I snap at them. They really push my buttons. I sometimes have to avoid some of them completely because they don't like it when i am my authentic self. I agree with whatever you said here. Another great video, can't wait for more😇 and yeah when I showed them that this is who I am and I need to follow my own path as you said and stopped being a part of their movie things were amazing but they got real angry lol😂
Thank you so much for sharing! I'm an INFJ and my mom is an ESFJ. It is such a difficult relationship and I know that I definitely need to cut some cords.
I am an INFJ and my mom is an ESFJ as well. I can relate so much. Thank you for your video. My mom is so negative.
Been waiting for this video for a while now. Thank you Wenzes!
Your sweater matches your eyes!
Good on you Wenzes, I've always pointed the same things out to people, at the same time, you'll often be mis-understood for expressing strong boundaries & pointing out their weak boundaries, especially when you have the intention of expressing your boundaries, which enable them to understand that their poor boundaries & narcissistic negative traits, have them stuck in a loop, which their oblivious to... 🤗🙏🏿
I find the boundary issues between the two are awful for the infj lol. I'm an infj and my grandma is an esfj and she doesn't give me my personal space without barging into my room without knocking
Well that Could just be because every grandma is like that ahahah
My mother was an ENFJ as well, and I identity with what you're saying.
you mean ESFJ, right?!😉
@@Wenzes yes. ESFJ. Typo Tillie struck again.
I’m an INFJ with an ENTJ mother. Although she doesn’t show her feelings that much, I read her emotion like an open book and feel very obliged to make her happy when she isn’t. I feel I would be super Fi blinded if my parents were Fe-dominant.
This was really helpful..I always struggle with my ESFJ when it comes to him understanding me...and then I have to remind myself of his Ni function.. it isn't always easy but I keep in mind that every relationship needs some work to it.
This is so great! Thank you so much. I seem to get sucked into the Fe storm so fast before I even realize it.
It depends which variety of infj
Only the more gentle INFJ would be suitable.
All infj are melancholy dominant and sanguine secondarily
Since we all have all four base temperaments as outlined by Hippocrates, all infj will also have phlegmatic and choleric as tertiary and least.
If the infj has the gentle phlegmatic in third (tertiary) dominant then this may be compatible to ESFJ
All ESFJ are choleric dominant ( physically tough and must lead in the relationship)
The phlegmatic is very non physical and meek therefore admires the choleric who will carry them through life as phlegmatic are prone to sloth,fear and indecision) The choleric is quite the opposite of this and admire the phlegmatic who are most likely to be content to sit back and let the Choleric run the show. No one has more influence over a choleric dominant than a phlegmatic (ah the silent control of the phlegmatic)
Now, if the INFJ has choleric in tertiary position and phlegmatic fourth, this infj is much more confident and independent than the meeker INFJ. This tougher INFJ is sure to butt heads with the near total total control required of the choleric dominant ESFJ
In politics ,it is the meek phlegmatic who because they want to be carried through life and free from decision and the responsibilities there making, the phlegmatic the most vulnerable or complicit towards adopting leftist communism.
Work on your Fe by being assertive not aggressive. They can't read minds❤ Be less leached on.
Please make one with ISFJ😍
Very interesting and helpful. Thank you for all your insights!
I love this women so much! God !!!!
very helpful! Thank you !
Im an infj and one of esfj coworkers likes me. And i dont want to be with somebody of that type because i feel like thats not what i need. And it seems like shes trying to get my attention thru every way possible but directly talking to me etc.
I've been taking the time to read up on socionics and it's helping me build an understanding of everything. Is there anything you would recommend when learning about socionics?
What I loved to read up on are dichotomies on the soociowiki page 😉
I rejected human to human relationships because I'm too red pilled to trust wemon in relationships
I'm having trouble understanding how to apply the cognitive functions the way they are being expressed.
This is true my wife is an esfj
What’s happened when you as INFJ have Relationship with ESFJ who is negative and toxic through childhood negative toxic mother. On top I’m western and she is Asian? When she around me I feel she suck all my energy, when she is not I’m blooming and my intuition tell me stay away
I am INFJ and my ex is a ESFJ. We clicked and flirted. But we got in so much petty fights and the relationship got really toxic. But there were a lot of good times. Google says a good match for me would ENTP or ENFP? 🤔
I'm INFJ and my boyfriend is an esfj
Same.. I'm INFJ and him ESFJ.. Give and take
Same
How to discuss problems with esfj and i am infj
Hello everyone, I want to ask you a question how to discuss problems with esfj without making them angry? I have been with him for 2 years already. Every time we fight even over the little things and he could not accept the fact. We are engaged, and in a few months we will be married. We are in trouble right now, i'm in delima, should i continue our relationship because of esfj hot temper or should we break up for the good of both of us? please give your explanation/opinion please.
Just learning; I am INFJ; what is Fe? And why is this important?
Me too I’m an infj and my mom is esfj and my dad entp
I refute. I saw the esfj infj relationship and esfj got tired of it and it was very hard. esfj infj is a supervisory relationship and a bad relationship. You don't know this. I am completely opposed to your theory and will continue to refute and condemn it. It will continue unless logically understood.
Worst type to pair to .. as an unfj
Generalization and excessive exaggeration, totally false!
She is talking about her experience with her Mom. That’s all.