@@youawesome2068 what do you mean, no? STOP being disrespectful! The first amendment does NOT give you a free pass to shame people you don't understand, simply because they are different, and to cross boundaries. No, means no. 😠
@@victoriasegall3404 you're absolutely right, 1st amendment protects you from gov retaliation or persecution. It doesnt mean you won't face social consequences
Some people don’t understand that having children requires a lot of maturity, strength, patience, financial stability, mental stability, selflessness, commitment, responsibility, the list goes on. I think if most people understood what it REALLY takes to raise a child, they’d choose to be to be child free too.
Almost no one already has those things by the time they have kids. Whether they want to have them or not. I'd even argue that children are the ones who teach you to have those things that you listed. I've watched multiple age-difference couples have kids (the father usually being the older one) and it's usually the younger one that handles becoming a parent better. It honestly just takes being flexible and just paying attention to what each child specifically needs and that's pretty much it. Maybe pick up a couple of parenting books to read and then let instinct take over. All humans are born with the capability to have children, it's handling that responsibility that people sometimes struggle with. And like, I get that. I struggled with my "freedom" being taken away but later discovered that it was me who wasn't allowing my freedom, not my kid. Now I make sure to listen to both what my kid needs AND what I need and there are rare times that there needs to be a compromise. It's not an every day requirement. But that can also depend on the kid.
@@flowersmakemehappy834It's more selfish to have kids than not. Most parents shouldn't be parents. This is the reason why the world if currently fukked up now!!
@@alphamail8974 Kells and windmills and dumdum gomez doorknobs and shay mccay dark wood cabinets while there's oil and grease on the high school chemistry lab table while there's lots some complaints from classmates about that all in the different room across the hall you go in and sit down one day. Next, Andover trip in 2 days but then when you're on the bus and when it's a bit dark at six in the morning on the bus you hear the noise while going fast, it reminds you of compounds of the oil and orangish red grease
I think women are realizing that they don't have to have children. We don't have to follow the path that society has laid down as the purpose for us the moment we are born.
And the men and mombies are MAD. Motherhood has been used by men to hold women back. A man doesn’t sacrifice his body and can walk away from his family, a woman cannot. It’s easy for them to keep a hold on a woman if she’s raising his kids and unable to work. There’s more risks and men aren’t worth the risks, I’ve seen too many women go through this.
@Sh Z Most Black babies are born to unmarried mothers. The BM doesn't want either the woman or the child. Your assertion that men use babies to hold women back is absurd. After all, women decide to give up to a man that ain't hers. Then she lets him in without protection. Then she decided to have a child. But, men are using babies to hold women back. Your thinking is the reason why black single motherhood is a community crisis.
That's just not true. A woman without kids cannot be as happy as one with. Y'all use society as a scale for your happiness and that's why women's depression is off the scale. Basically biology is a thing, your entire reason for being and your only reason for being is to carry the next generation. You have literally no other purpose ((same applies to men)) we're here to breed, that's it. Everything else we have was only added in the last 2-300 years. Y'all going to be so sad on your death beds
Me too. I have a 26 y.o., and she sings that song of not having kids, and she has not heard not one objection from me. I’m proud of women who don’t want kids…kids are a lot.
People who dont want kids should not be shamed to have kids. kids are not objects that can be returned. They should only be had by people who truly love and want them.
"You'll never know true love until you have a baby". I love my non-existing children enough to not give them my chronic illness genes, or a mother who can't give them the childhood they deserve. That's also love.
I agree. Her friend who grabbed her hand and admired her admired her ring was probably jealous of her. And said such a passive aggressive catty remark to make herself feel better.
Oh I agree if you think you not strong enough emotionally, genetically, or physically to provide for you own child then your not qualified to have kids. All the unfit people should stick to there pets 100%
The ultimate true love comes from loving yourself and absolutely nothing else. If you do not love yourself. You’ll never be healthy enough to receive and or give healthy love. You won’t be able to teach your so called children how to love and respect themselves. The lady who said that sounds pathetic and miserable. As the saying goes: misery loves company.
As someone who was raised by a mom who didn’t love herself, I had so much learning and growth to do as an adult to love myself, and still struggle to this day.
I love my boyfriend to much to destroy everything that makes our relationship beautiful with pregnancy = no sex for months io years and a baby that screams all night every night. I look at parents and all I see isduty and misery. NOPE!
Can you imagine how much easier life would’ve been for abandoned, abused neglected children if their parents had of been honest about having children in the first place. I can only respect this woman, for knowing she did not want children, and she never had any.
Most neglected children are born through poor or lack of contraception practices. I knew a lady who had two children with two different men solely so she would have a man take care of her. The second time she claimed that she “didn't know” she was still fertile. Knowing her the way I do, she lied about her fertility just so she could have a license to sit on her butt with a cigarette in one hand and a drink in the other. She was one of the most self-absorbed, lazy, manipulative people I've ever met in my life. She never cared one way or the other about either of her children and then went all shocked Pikachu face when they moved out of their earliest convenience, cut contact with her and eventually barred her from seeing her grandchildren.
@@jnmc-vx4fw Bullshit. I'd go into a burning bldg to save my animals and if your kid was in there and I couldn't save him too, I'd make sure MY babies came out and unfortunately your kid dies. Sorry but that's the reality. THAT'S love. My animals are my children and they matter every bit as much to me. Same as if you went into that bldg to get your child and couldn't manage to grab your neighbor's kid. You'd save your own and leave their kid. Human parents have NO monopoly on love. Btw, shared DNA isn't required to be a parent or necessary for emotional connection. Most parents would enter that bldg to brave that fire even if their kid was adopted and not blood related. Point is, love is love. So you can''t tell me it's a biological bond thing. An interspecies bond for some of us is every bit as strong. If not stronger. Think about it. Human parents murder their children and human children murder their parents. Nobody murders their beloved animals and it's rare for animals to attack their humans. Parents love to be sanctimonious about the parent-child relationship but the truth is, probably 75% of it or more is aggravation, stress, heartache & disappointment. Sorry but that's another reality but very fre wish to admit it. If you enjoy a wonderful bond with your child that's great. Happy for you. Wish all did. But you do NOT love differently or more deeply than others because of. That's simply arrogance talking. If I'd wanted human kids I'd have had them. I didnt. I wanted animals. Perhaps that's something WE can't explain to those who can't get it. But love is love, either way.
@@sakitoby1581 take a step back and breath and your still wrong. If you don’t have kids you’ll never know and I can’t explain it to you nor do I want to.
My daughters are 27 and 30 yrs old,they have both decided for various reasons of their own that they do not want to have children. I didnt feel sad for them or for me ( no grandkids) , l just want the them to have the right to feel happy in any way that fits they choose...nobody should tell you or pressure you to live a life that they feel is "right" . Im not saying l regret having my girls, but seriously if l was a young woman today l probably wouldnt want to have kids in this crazy world either.
@@angelakosmas3218 That does not answer my question because him wanting of then to (not) have children does not remove your daughters' agency. As in, regardless of them "having the right to (not) have children," would their father want of them to have children of their own or not?
I truly believe that most people who choose to have kids are ignorant. They don't research, don't know what it takes to raise a kid, end up raising kids poorly, and then wonder why their kids hate them and their family fell apart. Choosing not to have kids means you are mature enough to know how much of a financial, emotional, and physical responsibility children are. Yes, good parents exist. But they are few and far between. It's easy to tell most parents were not prepared.
I have struggled with infertility and have done years of infertility treatments and miscarriages. Does this mean I will never know true love? Or is this harsh judgement just reserved for women who choose a different path? Imagine saying that to someone like me- no one works. We shouldn’t be saying it to anyone, period.
No, you chose a better life. A stress free life, a fun life, a life with sleep, and money, and doing what you w want when you want. Not arguing with a disrespectful kid. Not having a kid be brainwashed by other people and being something you do be want it to be. Get a dog. Be happy.
Kind of ironic that a lot of kid free parents who claim they have made the best choice end up getting a dog and then treat them like a surrogate child 😂
Now, I don't know if they edited the video to make it short but it sounds like the reason she gave for not wanting kids was because she'd prefer not to "struggle financially." But like, even not having kids doesn't guarantee that you won't ever struggle. It doesn't mean you can't lose your job or your standing and that you'll always have stability. Accidents can happen that take away the ability to work, the economy can dip leaving you jobless, and so much more. If being financially stable is required for her happiness, I really hope she'll be okay if that were to ever change for any reason. It just sounds like an unstable foundation to place our happiness in.
girl. ...live your best life kids are not as çracked up to be. you love yourself enough to know that's not what you want. your not being selfish. some people have kids for all the wrong reasons and are horrible parents
Same girl..same here. I decided when I was a teenager to have a child free life forever and never changed my mind, but was told up to my early 40's that I would change my mind and received a ton of pushback. I like my life, I like the choices and decisions I get to make by not having kids. I just never wanted responsibility for anyone other than myself.🤷
Honestly I got my parents to stop pushing their grandchild agenda on me. I said "I don't want kids but If I did have kids and I got sick of them annoying me I can just drop them off at your place for a month right?" They stopped asking. My parents want the ability to give grandchildren back. I want the role of an auntie where I can give gifts and give the kids back after a few hours. I don't want a 24/7 job that requires diapers and math homework. I hate math.
True love doesn’t only come from romantic love. I’m a mother and it’s hard raising children. I don’t knock anyone for their choices. I’m pretty sure plenty of moms would love to be in her shoes
True love comes from within. You have to love yourself. You cannot use your children to fill that void. If having a kid = automatic love; there would never be a single case of abuse.
I don't know why people assume that you need to have kids to know true love I don't have neither kids nor a romantic partner but I know what true love is and what loving someone unconditionally feels like .
"My self love is more than enough for me but you will never know what true freedom, peace and self care will feel like, sweety :(" would be my answer ;)
I'd ask her friend why she decided to have kids and 9 times out of 10 her answer is going to start with the words "I/we want/wanted....' That says something doesn't it?
being honest about what you want is less “selfish” than doing something you don’t want to do, making another human dependent on you, and blaming them for all your problems all while being a shitty parent. take responsibility for what you want
@@Thesnowymanthat's not the problem, the problem is that they are having kids bcs THEY WANT that, that and that for their kid to do. They satisfy their needs but when something different happens from their expectations half of them act shocked and whine.
I would be a lot more happier if I never became a mom, it hurts to say that because I would never want to wish my child away, but that is my truth. A lot of women feels this way, but won’t admit it for fear of somebody saying we don’t love our children, love is the only thing keeping me being the best mom I know how
When you raise your siblings bc your mom was sick and your dad was always at work and no one understands why you don't want to have kids. Because I already was a mom, the absolute worst parts of being a mom without even being a mom. So just, no, and stop telling me I'll change my mind.
I grew up poor and suffered because my parents chose to have children that they couldn’t afford. That was unfair. If she chooses not to have children, that’s nobody’s business.
I really wanted kids and so I had two. But that's simply what I wanted. Other ppl get to want different things. Humans are individuals, we each have different dreams and needs from life. Do you best to really love yourself and live your best life for you.
While we should probably expect people who have or want children to question what it means to be a good parent and really take that responsibility Choosing to be without children should be guilt free, who are you hurting? The trillions of sperm cells that end up in condoms, or the dozen egg cells that go unused?
No childfree person has any quilt from not having kids. The guilt is a projection from people who have kids and if they had chosen a CF life. Children doesn't bring all the love as people claim it to be. I know many kids who hate their parents wholeheartedly. But let's also talk about those kids in foster care, left in a box, or abandoned in the woods. How about those parents?
Your family doesn't have to be pregnant with your kids, YOU do. Your family doesn't have to give birth to those kids, YOU do. Your family doesn't have to raise those kids, YOU do. Don't let your family pressure you into a major life decision that YOU have to deal with.
I'm 41 years old, single, childfree, and living my life like it's golden. I'm writing a book about my journey. People need to chill and do what works best for them.
As a mother to other childless women you can definitely still have true love without children. My little sister doesn’t have children and she’s happy she also considers my boys her babies so she can pick and drop off as she please and still love her life ❤❤ love starts within yourself first
I’m one and done lol. Children are a piece of work frfr. I completely understand. I have my 1 bestie who is my daughter and I have no regrets but once you have kids there’s no more “free time” for yourself.
They say that you don’t know true love until you have a child, but what they leave out is that you’re expected to love them unconditionally, one way. Be expected to be told “I don’t owe you anything“ after giving up nearly 2 decades of your life to make a life for someone that came out of your body.
Exactly. And no matter what you do, you can't really change that reality. All humans are unpredictable. Can't predict what pisses someone off about you!
Most of the people who tell you, you’ll never know true love until you become a mother, are just saying what they think they’re supposed to say, and are pretending to feel how they think they’re supposed to feel. But as a 24 year nanny, I can tell you a lot of women don’t even like their children, and if they had to do it again, wouldn’t have them. And then occasionally I stumble upon some who don’t even love them… and some can’t or won’t even pretend. I’ve had families schedule me from the time the child wakes to the time they go down for bed to avoid having to deal with them at all during the week, and will still call me in on the weekends. You made the right choice for you and stuck to it, when your peers were having children because they thought that they were supposed to after marriage. Good for you sis.
I am a mom. Yes, the love you have for a child is absolutely special, but you absolutely can know true love without having children. I did when I met my husband. That woman was trying to bring her down because she was jealous and wanted to be mean. People who are secure in their choices don’t act like that. I am secure and happy that I have my son, and I honestly think because of that is why I completely support people being child free. Not everyone wants to be a parent and THAT’S OKAY! You don’t have to tolerate people being rude about you making that choice!
You don't see a problem, but the single parents who struggle to pay bills and buy food and clothes do. Today, shelters for women and children are full. Guess who is filling them up. Teenage gang violence is exploding. Those kids in the caskets are not coming from suburban communities. The black kids who can't read but can say every gangsta rap lyric do not live in rural- white- two family homes. Listen up. The ghetto gangsta rappers tell us where they come from.
If you refuse to have kids, then I know the perfect place for you The east coast of the US in those urban cities living in high-cost gentrified apartments
@@freedommatters7677 lmao I am not in other people's business You put ME into your business by responding to my comment Thus I live in your head rent free
If having a baby is true love, why are there so many children being abvs3d by their parents? Why do over 90% of all people have childhood trauma? If I love something or someone, I would do anything not to cause it trauma even if that means not having them (children) Isnt that true love?
I’m a mom, but dang I am floored every time men or women tell women what they should or shouldn’t do with their life and bodies. I chose to have a child, but I would never dream of scorning my fellow women for making the decision to stay child free. Good for you, ladies! We need to build each other up and stop tearing each other down, it’s ridiculous. On the flip side, I have actually been on the receiving end of scorn for having a child. Can you imagine being a new mom and a child free lady laughing in your face and waving her thick wallet in front of you, saying: “Say good bye to all that sweet cash now that you have a crotch goblin.” You can imagine it took every ounce of my being now to throw this woman on the ground. I’m not a violent person, but I was very close that day to throw hands.
Live your best life! I only had one and people got on me for that. We aren't living our lives for others but ourselves. If you're happy keep on living that life!
What an inspiration to young women! You can choose to not have children and that doesn’t make you less do a woman! Bravo to you for leasing the way! Your life is your own not anyone else’s! ❤
If everyone stopped having kids there won't be any humans. It is normal, and to replace yourself you must have 2 children 1 to replace yourself and another your husband. You do know population is in decline if japan goes on the same way they are going now they will be extinct in the year 2100
@@freedommatters7677 We are created in image of God. So we were set on earth to multiply. And all the advancements human kind made would go to waste if there is no humans.
As a person who has kids I 100% support you! I was a preschool teacher through college and you could absolutely tell the parents that had kids because they were pressured or thought they had too. You always knew you didn’t want kids I always knew I did. There’s nothing wrong with either. If more people just admitted that and weren’t shamed there would be a lot less child abuse in this world. Thank you for standing in your truth!
Aww bless You & ur Hubby.. Not every family looks the same !! Enjoy life on ur own terms!! As a mom of 2, I luv child free ppl.. iEven told my daughters that they don’t have to become mommies if they don’t want to!! I really miss the days when it was just me and my hubby..
My daughter is 41 and due to be married for the first time next year, from the age of 17 she new she never wanted children and we all said you will change your mind later in life but no, she deffo knows true love and she's an amazing daughter, sister and auntie.
People stopped harrissing me about being child free when I decided I would be just as rude back to them. If you twll me "you won't know love until you have a baby" I may ask how many "true loves" your baby daddy has. Don't start none, won't be none😂!
Its horrible that women try to make another woman feel like they are not complete until they have a child. I couldn't have children and often people will ask me how many kids i have, when i say none, they feel sorry for me as if it's a women's main purpose in life! One woman said, oh your lucky your husband still wanted you!!! She actually said that! Unbelievable!
They really are. I work at a high school with teenagers, and they are extremely selfish. I’d rather be selfish and spend all my money and resources on myself. 😂😂
Kids aren't ungrateful. They are hurting. They are all in the rat race. Will probably need them to come to 50 or 60 to realize that life's not all about the rat race. But looking at the economy, might not even be then!
Listen, how many women get engaged at 25, live happily (regardless if they have kids or not), and stay married until they're 42 or more? Not many...we need to stop harassing folks for their life choices because it's not our business.
It's crazy how my whole life I just thought that having a family is the dream. My mom would always say "When you have kids, you'll understand the struggle your dad and I are facing". That always stuck to me. I said to myself, "Actually... I probably won't know that struggle, Mom.."
I never thought I'd have children. As fate would have it, I met someone who was not the right type for me. He passed away two years ago, and my children no longer have a father. It's difficult raising them alone.😢 (kids are 13 and 10)
I didn't choose anything. I just had a kid and it's incredibly hard. You obviously love them more than life itself, but it's the hardest thing I could have ever imagined. It ends up being worth it because you would do anything for them. but I don't understand why people CHOOSE this.
People who say stuff like "you will never know true love, or unconditional love" really need a reality check. Because there are plenty of parents who do not love their children, there are also parents who have condition's for their love if they are gonna give it to their children. We have parents who disown theie children for being gay, or for not wanting to live life giw the parents would like. We have parent's who give their children away or physically & emotionally abuse their children. We have children who disown & cut off all contact with their parents, we have children who love only comes with the condition that their parents support them financially or otherwise whenever they ask or need. Being a parent does not come with the guarantee of having love for your child or receiving love from your children & vice versa being a child doesn't come with love. It be nice to believe all parents love their children or all children love their parents but thats sadly not the case. Its a terrible mistake going into parenting because you think it will guarantee love, happiness or life long relationships because nothing is promised to us or entitled to us.
Having parents that made a mess of their marriage and my childhood made me realise motherhood wasnt for me. I wish people will respect others choices the same way i respect theirs
People, stop harassing folks that chose a different life than YOU!
In general
No. We have the 1st amendment
If you don't like hate speech being free doeech, thrn leave the country
@@youawesome2068 what do you mean, no? STOP being disrespectful! The first amendment does NOT give you a free pass to shame people you don't understand, simply because they are different, and to cross boundaries. No, means no. 😠
@@victoriasegall3404 you're absolutely right, 1st amendment protects you from gov retaliation or persecution. It doesnt mean you won't face social consequences
I am 57 and have never regretted it. We should normalize just choosing what works for you.
Yes we should! Most people aren’t meant to be parents anyway.
Sounds good 😊
For the life of me I just can't understand why there's a problem with each woman just choosing what works for her life.
@@janedo-re-mi2738 The.. chemicals... 😨😨😨😨
@@Melly16yr10 The.. chemicals... 😨😨😨😨
Some people don’t understand that having children requires a lot of maturity, strength, patience, financial stability, mental stability, selflessness, commitment, responsibility, the list goes on. I think if most people understood what it REALLY takes to raise a child, they’d choose to be to be child free too.
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Not me, I am really loving my children.
Almost no one already has those things by the time they have kids. Whether they want to have them or not. I'd even argue that children are the ones who teach you to have those things that you listed.
I've watched multiple age-difference couples have kids (the father usually being the older one) and it's usually the younger one that handles becoming a parent better. It honestly just takes being flexible and just paying attention to what each child specifically needs and that's pretty much it. Maybe pick up a couple of parenting books to read and then let instinct take over. All humans are born with the capability to have children, it's handling that responsibility that people sometimes struggle with.
And like, I get that. I struggled with my "freedom" being taken away but later discovered that it was me who wasn't allowing my freedom, not my kid. Now I make sure to listen to both what my kid needs AND what I need and there are rare times that there needs to be a compromise. It's not an every day requirement. But that can also depend on the kid.
Who doesn't think about these things before having them though wtf 😂🏆
@@CT-hz6mz a lot of people honestly!
Not having kids is a completely valid life decision that more people should choose.
Not it's not
@@flowersmakemehappy834It's more selfish to have kids than not. Most parents shouldn't be parents. This is the reason why the world if currently fukked up now!!
@@geminiots2121This world is not fucked up in the way you think it is
If you disagree, then go back to living in your urbanized apartment
@@flowersmakemehappy834ok breeder. You do you. Still not having any kids!
@@alphamail8974 Kells and windmills and dumdum gomez doorknobs and shay mccay dark wood cabinets while there's oil and grease on the high school chemistry lab table while there's lots some complaints from classmates about that all in the different room across the hall you go in and sit down one day.
Next, Andover trip in 2 days but then when you're on the bus and when it's a bit dark at six in the morning on the bus you hear the noise while going fast, it reminds you of compounds of the oil and orangish red grease
I think women are realizing that they don't have to have children. We don't have to follow the path that society has laid down as the purpose for us the moment we are born.
Exactly
A segment of society is trying to pressure women without husbands to stop having kids. That message is being rejected, too.
And the men and mombies are MAD. Motherhood has been used by men to hold women back. A man doesn’t sacrifice his body and can walk away from his family, a woman cannot. It’s easy for them to keep a hold on a woman if she’s raising his kids and unable to work. There’s more risks and men aren’t worth the risks, I’ve seen too many women go through this.
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@Sh Z Most Black babies are born to unmarried mothers. The BM doesn't want either the woman or the child. Your assertion that men use babies to hold women back is absurd. After all, women decide to give up to a man that ain't hers. Then she lets him in without protection. Then she decided to have a child. But, men are using babies to hold women back. Your thinking is the reason why black single motherhood is a community crisis.
I have lots of friends without kids who are just as happy and fulfilled as those with kids. There’s no one way for everyone.
Totally agree, I chose to have a family.
That's just not true.
A woman without kids cannot be as happy as one with.
Y'all use society as a scale for your happiness and that's why women's depression is off the scale.
Basically biology is a thing, your entire reason for being and your only reason for being is to carry the next generation.
You have literally no other purpose ((same applies to men)) we're here to breed, that's it. Everything else we have was only added in the last 2-300 years.
Y'all going to be so sad on your death beds
@@JamieR1988if they choose to "not have a purpose" then it's their choice.
@@freedommatters7677pathetic
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That’s why I’m only looking for CHILDFREE friends 😂
Same
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I'm right here, bestie!😊😊
2 of my 3 kids do not want kids. I support them 💯%
Bravo! 👌🌻
Mom of 4 adult kids. Not one of them wants kids. I’m okay with that (not that my opinion matters). Love watching them live their lives ❤
@@MercuryQueenCa same here
Well done for being a good mum/dad
Me too. I have a 26 y.o., and she sings that song of not having kids, and she has not heard not one objection from me. I’m proud of women who don’t want kids…kids are a lot.
People who dont want kids should not be shamed to have kids. kids are not objects that can be returned. They should only be had by people who truly love and want them.
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You forgot parenting skills and emotional maturity AND having enough money.
Kids are exhausting and draining and expensive.
"You'll never know true love until you have a baby".
I love my non-existing children enough to not give them my chronic illness genes, or a mother who can't give them the childhood they deserve. That's also love.
I agree. Her friend who grabbed her hand and admired her admired her ring was probably jealous of her. And said such a passive aggressive catty remark to make herself feel better.
Oh I agree if you think you not strong enough emotionally, genetically, or physically to provide for you own child then your not qualified to have kids. All the unfit people should stick to there pets 100%
Yes!
Exactly, at this point I’d be the very selfish one for bringing a kid into this awful economy and it ain’t gonna get better!
Exactly. All this Autoimmune disease that I have will be past on to them plus most days I can't even take care of myself . I'm not that selfish.
Childfree people are heros, as they don't bring a kid into this horrible world
vaccine RISKS the 20th booster coming out!!
If this world is that bad why you still here?
@@salosegura711 life is worth continuing, but it's not worth starting
@@freedommatters7677That's what br33d3rs are here for. Since they like to be on their backs anyways. Let them go ahead and have them.
@@salosegura711So because the world is bad, we should be forced to commit suicide????
Its always obvious who the bully is, & and no one likes bullies.
Live your life girl
Exactly! 😊👍
Based bullies
@@youawesome2068 why are you commenting on everything? Crack?
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The ultimate true love comes from loving yourself and absolutely nothing else.
If you do not love yourself. You’ll never be healthy enough to receive and or give healthy love.
You won’t be able to teach your so called children how to love and respect themselves.
The lady who said that sounds pathetic and miserable. As the saying goes: misery loves company.
Well said! Thank you! 😊
Exactl! You don't have children so you can feel love. They aren't there to make you feel good about yourself.
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As someone who was raised by a mom who didn’t love herself, I had so much learning and growth to do as an adult to love myself, and still struggle to this day.
So where does narcissism comes from?
I don’t see anything wrong with a couple not wanting kids. Parenting is not for everyone…simple as that.
I love my boyfriend to much to destroy everything that makes our relationship beautiful with pregnancy = no sex for months io years and a baby that screams all night every night.
I look at parents and all I see isduty and misery. NOPE!
Can you imagine how much easier life would’ve been for abandoned, abused neglected children if their parents had of been honest about having children in the first place. I can only respect this woman, for knowing she did not want children, and she never had any.
Truth
@@godofdeath8785 laundry room with big round light on the ceiling
Most neglected children are born through poor or lack of contraception practices. I knew a lady who had two children with two different men solely so she would have a man take care of her. The second time she claimed that she “didn't know” she was still fertile. Knowing her the way I do, she lied about her fertility just so she could have a license to sit on her butt with a cigarette in one hand and a drink in the other. She was one of the most self-absorbed, lazy, manipulative people I've ever met in my life. She never cared one way or the other about either of her children and then went all shocked Pikachu face when they moved out of their earliest convenience, cut contact with her and eventually barred her from seeing her grandchildren.
yeah, they wouldn’t exist
42 child free and married.
Slay girl 💅🏾✨
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Yes girll🥂
Almost 35. Married 7 years, no kids. But we’re happy and fulfilled. And we have a dog.
@@tbc9096 yessir, live the life you want! 🥂
The arrogance of some parents who think they have a monopoly on experiencing love! Give me a break.
Right
Obviously from someone without kids. It’s absolutely true . You can’t explain it
@@jnmc-vx4fw Bullshit. I'd go into a burning bldg to save my animals and if your kid was in there and I couldn't save him too, I'd make sure MY babies came out and unfortunately your kid dies. Sorry but that's the reality. THAT'S love. My animals are my children and they matter every bit as much to me. Same as if you went into that bldg to get your child and couldn't manage to grab your neighbor's kid. You'd save your own and leave their kid. Human parents have NO monopoly on love. Btw, shared DNA isn't required to be a parent or necessary for emotional connection. Most parents would enter that bldg to brave that fire even if their kid was adopted and not blood related. Point is, love is love. So you can''t tell me it's a biological bond thing. An interspecies bond for some of us is every bit as strong. If not stronger. Think about it. Human parents murder their children and human children murder their parents. Nobody murders their beloved animals and it's rare for animals to attack their humans. Parents love to be sanctimonious about the parent-child relationship but the truth is, probably 75% of it or more is aggravation, stress, heartache & disappointment. Sorry but that's another reality but very fre wish to admit it. If you enjoy a wonderful bond with your child that's great. Happy for you. Wish all did. But you do NOT love differently or more deeply than others because of. That's simply arrogance talking. If I'd wanted human kids I'd have had them. I didnt. I wanted animals. Perhaps that's something WE can't explain to those who can't get it. But love is love, either way.
@@jnmc-vx4fw Imagine the level of selfishness you need to have to be able to experience true love only towards something that YOU generated.
@@sakitoby1581 take a step back and breath and your still wrong. If you don’t have kids you’ll never know and I can’t explain it to you nor do I want to.
You have one life to live. Live it on your terms..
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Two lives*. This life and the one that really matters, the afterlife.
Yes exactly right!!
She seems very content in her life, it's her choice to not have kids, nobody else's.
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I feel bad for people who think they need another person in their lives to be happy.
Her and her partner are doing well. Thats all thats required.
She’s gorgeous and obviously happy. I’m happy she chose that life for herself because that’s what they truly wanted.
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My daughters are 27 and 30 yrs old,they have both decided for various reasons of their own that they do not want to have children. I didnt feel sad for them or for me ( no grandkids) , l just want the them to have the right to feel happy in any way that fits they choose...nobody should tell you or pressure you to live a life that they feel is "right" .
Im not saying l regret having my girls, but seriously if l was a young woman today l probably wouldnt want to have kids in this crazy world either.
And what does their father say about them not wanting children?
@@anaximanderofapollonia9842
The feelings of their father doesn't matter. He doesn't have to raise their children.
@@glencora6340
And the OP does?
Their father also feels that they should have the right to decide what they want to do with their lives.
@@angelakosmas3218
That does not answer my question because him wanting of then to (not) have children does not remove your daughters' agency.
As in, regardless of them "having the right to (not) have children," would their father want of them to have children of their own or not?
I like people who make healthy choices.
I truly believe that most people who choose to have kids are ignorant. They don't research, don't know what it takes to raise a kid, end up raising kids poorly, and then wonder why their kids hate them and their family fell apart. Choosing not to have kids means you are mature enough to know how much of a financial, emotional, and physical responsibility children are. Yes, good parents exist. But they are few and far between. It's easy to tell most parents were not prepared.
I have struggled with infertility and have done years of infertility treatments and miscarriages. Does this mean I will never know true love? Or is this harsh judgement just reserved for women who choose a different path? Imagine saying that to someone like me- no one works. We shouldn’t be saying it to anyone, period.
Would love to give you a big hug. Miscarried last year at 32 and I am terrified to be honest.
@@krislatoya7556 TRIANGLE TRIANGLE.. JAIL CHARLES..
this
"You'll never know happiness until you get married and have children."
**laughs in asexual**
Asexual being .001 % of population. Nice
@@salosegura711And? In a world of 7 billion plus .001% is a lot of people.
What the fu k is asexual?
@@DualPippa it's actually 0.0% of the population because it's not real
@@cranker7754lol you’re just mad bc you have an innate desire to be loved by someone and you secretly wish you were asexual.
No, you chose a better life. A stress free life, a fun life, a life with sleep, and money, and doing what you w want when you want. Not arguing with a disrespectful kid. Not having a kid be brainwashed by other people and being something you do be want it to be. Get a dog. Be happy.
LOVE THIS THANK YOU
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I have cat but I’m happy too 😊👍
Kind of ironic that a lot of kid free parents who claim they have made the best choice end up getting a dog and then treat them like a surrogate child 😂
@@theworldsmost pets are usually easier to take care of than freakin children
That sounds like sentence from someone who regrets having kids and wants you to be as miserable as them.
Honestly
You're right! 💟
Yes! Misery loves company.
Totally agree, otherwise should not be embarrassed.
Now, I don't know if they edited the video to make it short but it sounds like the reason she gave for not wanting kids was because she'd prefer not to "struggle financially." But like, even not having kids doesn't guarantee that you won't ever struggle. It doesn't mean you can't lose your job or your standing and that you'll always have stability. Accidents can happen that take away the ability to work, the economy can dip leaving you jobless, and so much more. If being financially stable is required for her happiness, I really hope she'll be okay if that were to ever change for any reason. It just sounds like an unstable foundation to place our happiness in.
My 3 daughters 20,17,13 told me they don't want no kids 😂😂 I told them to please stay that way ❤❤❤❤
girl. ...live your best life kids are not as çracked up to be. you love yourself enough to know that's not what you want. your not being selfish. some people have kids for all the wrong reasons and are horrible parents
Yes!!!
As a whole, I don’t think we utilize the phrase “mind ya f#%$ing business” enough.
Same girl..same here. I decided when I was a teenager to have a child free life forever and never changed my mind, but was told up to my early 40's that I would change my mind and received a ton of pushback. I like my life, I like the choices and decisions I get to make by not having kids. I just never wanted responsibility for anyone other than myself.🤷
Honestly I got my parents to stop pushing their grandchild agenda on me. I said "I don't want kids but If I did have kids and I got sick of them annoying me I can just drop them off at your place for a month right?" They stopped asking.
My parents want the ability to give grandchildren back. I want the role of an auntie where I can give gifts and give the kids back after a few hours. I don't want a 24/7 job that requires diapers and math homework. I hate math.
Brilliant, I love it. 😁
I want to be the aunt too! Well I am one, and I hope it stays that way! 😊
True love doesn’t only come from romantic love. I’m a mother and it’s hard raising children. I don’t knock anyone for their choices. I’m pretty sure plenty of moms would love to be in her shoes
True love comes from within. You have to love yourself. You cannot use your children to fill that void. If having a kid = automatic love; there would never be a single case of abuse.
I don't know why people assume that you need to have kids to know true love
I don't have neither kids nor a romantic partner but I know what true love is and what loving someone unconditionally feels like .
I feel sorry for people that say "you won't know true love until you have a child." Because it must be a sad life you lead.
"My self love is more than enough for me but you will never know what true freedom, peace and self care will feel like, sweety :(" would be my answer ;)
Do you think that she was born pregnant?
I love her tone of voice, so calming and classy. Beautiful lady.
Life is a struggle, with or without children.
I'd ask her friend why she decided to have kids and 9 times out of 10 her answer is going to start with the words "I/we want/wanted....' That says something doesn't it?
Ask anyone who wants kids and they say "I want/we want" also
What else would they start the sentence with? You ask why she wanted to do something...
being honest about what you want is less “selfish” than doing something you don’t want to do, making another human dependent on you, and blaming them for all your problems all while being a shitty parent. take responsibility for what you want
Well how should they start the sentence?
@@Thesnowymanthat's not the problem, the problem is that they are having kids bcs THEY WANT that, that and that for their kid to do. They satisfy their needs but when something different happens from their expectations half of them act shocked and whine.
I would be a lot more happier if I never became a mom, it hurts to say that because I would never want to wish my child away, but that is my truth. A lot of women feels this way, but won’t admit it for fear of somebody saying we don’t love our children, love is the only thing keeping me being the best mom I know how
Your honesty is beautiful.. if I had to do it again. I would think 2x or maybe more. But I love my lil babies. Kids are not for everyone
So why did you become a mother?
@@lady813 I love that child of mine. 💜 the only way I’ve learned what unconditional love is
@@anaximanderofapollonia9842 I had sex and didn’t want to abort
Thank you for your honesty.
People should turn that dislike onto abusive and deadbeat parents instead of people who are childfree just trying to live their lives.
I always loved her and her vibes! Stay child free especially if you know parenting doesn't fit you
She is so cute
When you raise your siblings bc your mom was sick and your dad was always at work and no one understands why you don't want to have kids. Because I already was a mom, the absolute worst parts of being a mom without even being a mom. So just, no, and stop telling me I'll change my mind.
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@@youawesome2068 okay mom go to bed
@@moodybassist Being childfree RISKS humans going extinct. -
@@moodybassist adults using bounce houses RISKS not telling the ages apart
@@moodybassist Banning hate speech RISKS banning nearly all speech..
She is so pretty and glowing. She just radiates luxury, gentleness , elegance and joy❤
I am choosing the childfree life and I’m so glad more women are doing it too!!! Bravo to this woman, you are not alone ❤
It’s perfectly fine to make choices that are best for you. Don’t let anybody mess with you.
I grew up poor and suffered because my parents chose to have children that they couldn’t afford. That was unfair. If she chooses not to have children, that’s nobody’s business.
I really wanted kids and so I had two. But that's simply what I wanted. Other ppl get to want different things.
Humans are individuals, we each have different dreams and needs from life.
Do you best to really love yourself and live your best life for you.
Her life her choice
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While we should probably expect people who have or want children to question what it means to be a good parent and really take that responsibility
Choosing to be without children should be guilt free, who are you hurting? The trillions of sperm cells that end up in condoms, or the dozen egg cells that go unused?
Well said. 👌🌻
No childfree person has any quilt from not having kids. The guilt is a projection from people who have kids and if they had chosen a CF life.
Children doesn't bring all the love as people claim it to be. I know many kids who hate their parents wholeheartedly.
But let's also talk about those kids in foster care, left in a box, or abandoned in the woods.
How about those parents?
@@geminiots2121 🎯💯💟
@geminiots2121 plenty of parents also killing their offspring. I see at least 3 of these stories a day
2 words: population collapse.
Look that up.
Im.39 and kinda going through this now,
Family Pressuring me to have kids.
Your family doesn't have to be pregnant with your kids, YOU do. Your family doesn't have to give birth to those kids, YOU do. Your family doesn't have to raise those kids, YOU do. Don't let your family pressure you into a major life decision that YOU have to deal with.
RESIST the pressure and thank me later ❤
Based family. They should disown you for being childfree
@@youawesome2068 sounds like bitterness
@You Awesome based? You're def a dude. Prolly one of no color.
I'm 41 years old, single, childfree, and living my life like it's golden. I'm writing a book about my journey. People need to chill and do what works best for them.
No one cares, you're going to be old and alone soon.
@@smellypatel5272clearly you care. Why are you so obsessed with my old age?
As a mother to other childless women you can definitely still have true love without children. My little sister doesn’t have children and she’s happy she also considers my boys her babies so she can pick and drop off as she please and still love her life ❤❤ love starts within yourself first
The.. chemicals... 😨😨😨😨
Child free vs childless. Childless means you want them but can't have them. Therefore you are missing something.
I’m one and done lol. Children are a piece of work frfr. I completely understand. I have my 1 bestie who is my daughter and I have no regrets but once you have kids there’s no more “free time” for yourself.
Thanks for being honest.
I’m 42 and never regret it. We are part of a unique group that gets it. ❤
They say that you don’t know true love until you have a child, but what they leave out is that you’re expected to love them unconditionally, one way.
Be expected to be told “I don’t owe you anything“ after giving up nearly 2 decades of your life to make a life for someone that came out of your body.
Exactly. And no matter what you do, you can't really change that reality. All humans are unpredictable. Can't predict what pisses someone off about you!
Everyone is entitled to however they feel, with no explanation needed.
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I am 62 with no children i am great,i enjoy my life
True love is loving you and knowing what YOU want out of life...
Most of the people who tell you, you’ll never know true love until you become a mother, are just saying what they think they’re supposed to say, and are pretending to feel how they think they’re supposed to feel. But as a 24 year nanny, I can tell you a lot of women don’t even like their children, and if they had to do it again, wouldn’t have them. And then occasionally I stumble upon some who don’t even love them… and some can’t or won’t even pretend. I’ve had families schedule me from the time the child wakes to the time they go down for bed to avoid having to deal with them at all during the week, and will still call me in on the weekends. You made the right choice for you and stuck to it, when your peers were having children because they thought that they were supposed to after marriage. Good for you sis.
BECAUSE THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL IS HAPPENING TO MEEEEE🥰
This. That "you'll never know true love" bit took me out. Like bish, SELF love is true love.
I am a mom. Yes, the love you have for a child is absolutely special, but you absolutely can know true love without having children. I did when I met my husband. That woman was trying to bring her down because she was jealous and wanted to be mean. People who are secure in their choices don’t act like that. I am secure and happy that I have my son, and I honestly think because of that is why I completely support people being child free. Not everyone wants to be a parent and THAT’S OKAY! You don’t have to tolerate people being rude about you making that choice!
I don't see a problem.
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You don't see a problem, but the single parents who struggle to pay bills and buy food and clothes do. Today, shelters for women and children are full. Guess who is filling them up. Teenage gang violence is exploding. Those kids in the caskets are not coming from suburban communities. The black kids who can't read but can say every gangsta rap lyric do not live in rural- white- two family homes. Listen up. The ghetto gangsta rappers tell us where they come from.
It's everyone's personal choice .......It's NOT mandatory to have kids.....thank fook
If you refuse to have kids, then I know the perfect place for you
The east coast of the US in those urban cities living in high-cost gentrified apartments
@@monsterstackwizard9313you're not in your perfect place because your nose is in other's business 😂
@@freedommatters7677 lmao I am not in other people's business
You put ME into your business by responding to my comment
Thus I live in your head rent free
she’s so elegant and well spoken
If having a baby is true love, why are there so many children being abvs3d by their parents? Why do over 90% of all people have childhood trauma? If I love something or someone, I would do anything not to cause it trauma even if that means not having them (children) Isnt that true love?
"I know what true love looks like" ❤ beautiful 💐
I’m a mom, but dang I am floored every time men or women tell women what they should or shouldn’t do with their life and bodies. I chose to have a child, but I would never dream of scorning my fellow women for making the decision to stay child free. Good for you, ladies! We need to build each other up and stop tearing each other down, it’s ridiculous.
On the flip side, I have actually been on the receiving end of scorn for having a child. Can you imagine being a new mom and a child free lady laughing in your face and waving her thick wallet in front of you, saying: “Say good bye to all that sweet cash now that you have a crotch goblin.”
You can imagine it took every ounce of my being now to throw this woman on the ground. I’m not a violent person, but I was very close that day to throw hands.
Live your best life! I only had one and people got on me for that. We aren't living our lives for others but ourselves. If you're happy keep on living that life!
Good for you girl. Childfree life is amazing
What an inspiration to young women! You can choose to not have children and that doesn’t make you less do a woman! Bravo to you for leasing the way! Your life is your own not anyone else’s! ❤
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Society always dictates what a woman should be do or look like ....i say do u and what ever makes u happy and gives u peace
Society or biology?
If everyone stopped having kids there won't be any humans.
It is normal,
and to replace yourself you must have 2 children 1 to replace yourself and another your husband.
You do know population is in decline if japan goes on the same way they are going now they will be extinct in the year 2100
@@plaasboer1568"if everyone did this, that would be the outcome, so anyone doing this is bad" 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
@@plaasboer1568if everyone didn't want to create anymore humans then what would be the problem with no more humans?
@@freedommatters7677 We are created in image of God. So we were set on earth to multiply. And all the advancements human kind made would go to waste if there is no humans.
As a person who has kids I 100% support you! I was a preschool teacher through college and you could absolutely tell the parents that had kids because they were pressured or thought they had too. You always knew you didn’t want kids I always knew I did. There’s nothing wrong with either. If more people just admitted that and weren’t shamed there would be a lot less child abuse in this world.
Thank you for standing in your truth!
Being child-free is top tier… I highly recommend it. ❤️
Aww bless You & ur Hubby.. Not every family looks the same !! Enjoy life on ur own terms!! As a mom of 2, I luv child free ppl.. iEven told my daughters that they don’t have to become mommies if they don’t want to!! I really miss the days when it was just me and my hubby..
I’m a mom to 1 child. That’s enough for me. If you choose to have zero children that’s not my business.
People need to mind their business it’s very simple
And yet the majority is unable to do it.
My daughter is 41 and due to be married for the first time next year, from the age of 17 she new she never wanted children and we all said you will change your mind later in life but no, she deffo knows true love and she's an amazing daughter, sister and auntie.
People stopped harrissing me about being child free when I decided I would be just as rude back to them. If you twll me "you won't know love until you have a baby" I may ask how many "true loves" your baby daddy has. Don't start none, won't be none😂!
The woman in the audience looked SHOOK when she said she didn't want kiss
Wow she’s glowing can’t wait to feel like that
Its horrible that women try to make another woman feel like they are not complete until they have a child. I couldn't have children and often people will ask me how many kids i have, when i say none, they feel sorry for me as if it's a women's main purpose in life! One woman said, oh your lucky your husband still wanted you!!! She actually said that! Unbelievable!
She has THE BEST LIFE STRESS FREE LIFE not only that kids are VERY UNGRATEFUL 😩
They really are. I work at a high school with teenagers, and they are extremely selfish. I’d rather be selfish and spend all my money and resources on myself. 😂😂
Kids aren't ungrateful. They are hurting. They are all in the rat race. Will probably need them to come to 50 or 60 to realize that life's not all about the rat race. But looking at the economy, might not even be then!
58 woman childfree by choice, my social life is great
I fully support child-free women ❤
Listen, how many women get engaged at 25, live happily (regardless if they have kids or not), and stay married until they're 42 or more? Not many...we need to stop harassing folks for their life choices because it's not our business.
It's crazy how my whole life I just thought that having a family is the dream. My mom would always say "When you have kids, you'll understand the struggle your dad and I are facing". That always stuck to me. I said to myself, "Actually... I probably won't know that struggle, Mom.."
This is 💯 better than people having kids and not being responsible for them
I never thought I'd have children. As fate would have it, I met someone who was not the right type for me. He passed away two years ago, and my children no longer have a father. It's difficult raising them alone.😢 (kids are 13 and 10)
Omg 😂 these comments are literally who she’s telling “stfu” and y’all never do
She is fabulous ❤
I’m glad she knows herself enough that’s not something she wants and stuck to her guns.
She was just jealous of your ring and your joy 💅
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I didn't choose anything. I just had a kid and it's incredibly hard. You obviously love them more than life itself, but it's the hardest thing I could have ever imagined. It ends up being worth it because you would do anything for them. but I don't understand why people CHOOSE this.
People who say stuff like "you will never know true love, or unconditional love" really need a reality check. Because there are plenty of parents who do not love their children, there are also parents who have condition's for their love if they are gonna give it to their children. We have parents who disown theie children for being gay, or for not wanting to live life giw the parents would like. We have parent's who give their children away or physically & emotionally abuse their children.
We have children who disown & cut off all contact with their parents, we have children who love only comes with the condition that their parents support them financially or otherwise whenever they ask or need.
Being a parent does not come with the guarantee of having love for your child or receiving love from your children & vice versa being a child doesn't come with love.
It be nice to believe all parents love their children or all children love their parents but thats sadly not the case.
Its a terrible mistake going into parenting because you think it will guarantee love, happiness or life long relationships because nothing is promised to us or entitled to us.
She is very pretty & I love her voice. 💜💙💜
She’s absolutely stunning 😍
I’m childfree too, I would never bring an innocent being into this insane world!
damn she’s really pretty
Having parents that made a mess of their marriage and my childhood made me realise motherhood wasnt for me. I wish people will respect others choices the same way i respect theirs